Some sort of divine intervention in viewing your video just now. At 71 I am losing my health and fight every day just to endure the hours. I have gone from an outgoing fun person to a recluse. My mind and spirit cry out to be who I am inside myself but the bod won't cooperate. Thus I live vicariously watching your video thru my tears for some needed solace...😢😢❤
At age 69 I'm still working full-time because I have to, but I work at an elementary school which gives me more than a paycheck. Every day I hear from children who just say hi Miss Judy or ask me to help them with schoolwork. So every day I know how much they value my presence in their school and that brings so much happiness to my life! Thank you Susan for the reminder that even though we may be older in years we are always young at heart and just want to be loved!
I'm in the position you were in and I'm hoping all goes well and I get my happiness and peace after the divorce. Can't wait to be away from all the anger and toxic vibes. I'm happy for you.
Anxiety is a big problem for seniors. I believe it’s from loneliness. Your kids have their own lives and hardly call you . Sometimes I go days without a phone call. I go to town sometimes just to be around people and it makes me feel better.
I am 75 and I understand what you're feeling... I have family all around me children and grandchildren and they are busy with their lives just as I was at their age.... Sitting here waiting for them to call me or come to see me is really unreasonable.... So I get out a couple of times a week, and I stopped by to see one of my grandchildren, or one of my children.... Maybe I will get a cup of coffee or tea and some light conversation.... After all we love to talk about ourselves so that's how I find out what's going on in their lives.... I feel good and they feel good.... Then once every month or two we all get together for a barbecue or dinner or lunch... You see they don't visit me because they are busy with their, and I'm not busy so I go to see them❤
Mentally preparing myself for the day when my kids are too busy for me! I 🙏 they lead full and happy lives. We live together for a relatively short period, and comes a time to let them live their own lives. I really have no desire for them to ever feel guilty. ❤
@@jayemowrey1416 So very true. I think we forget when we were younger, working and raising our children our lives were very busy and now it's their turn and their lives are very busy. As a mother and grandmother we should be the ones reaching out to spend time with our families and appreciating and enjoying anytime we spend with them. 👪💜
Susan, I make a scrap book about my life and I realized that I had a great life; even I lost my husband at the age of 28. I was a widow with 4 kids, but now at 67 if I feel lonely I look at my scrap book and those memories bring me joy and satisfaction. So, I put on my makeup like you show us, put an smile and go shopping. 🙂 A kiss for Desy ❤ Thank you!
Hi Raquel, I am a widow since 2018. Married 41 years. I am 73. I am a therapist for over 35 years. I am a part of my church’s Widow’s ministry. It is filled with widows of all ages. I don’t mean to ask a personal question. You were such a young widow. My heart goes out to young widows with children. That had to be hard. I hope you had a good support system. I was just wondering if you ever married again? I have noticed some widows never marry again.
I'm a retired educator, so I focus on my children's education, I did have a relationship and got pregnant and have another son, but I realized that my children didn't need a negative role model so No I didn't get married, I'm still single and happy. My reward is that all my five children completed collage and they are having a great life. Praise the Lord.
Thank you Susan. I am 69 and have lived alone for years now. I used to look forward to getting out even for a short shopping trip. Now I seem to put these tasks off for as long as I can. I like being home. However I do find that being home too much is depressing no matter how much you love your place. I always feel better after walking the dog or sitting by the lake I live near. But there is something about being around people even strangers that makes us feel part of the community I think. We need contact with others. It doesn't need to be a long or meaningful interaction, just a few words will lift us up.
I love to watch your videos. My oldest daughter died 8 years ago at age 42.She had breast cancer. Two years later, my Mother died. My dogs have kept me going. I talk to them just as you talk to Desi.
Barbara you have had such loss. Please know that I am in Michigan thinking of you. I think those of us that follow Susan are sisters of the soul. We just don't get to meet. I too love my furkid/dog. She brings me such joy. Sending you love and keeping you in my heart. -Sue in Michigan
Although I don't know you, I am thinking of you at this minute and how it may feel to lose a child. May your heart heal and be filled with peace and tranquility. Lots of best wishes sent to you from the other side of the world.
Important to remember that a lot of us who are seniors don't have family left. That is grief and sadness in and of itself. As a solo senior it is an extra challenge.
Ok I am convinced you are looking in my windows! Absolutely relatable. I turn 60 in a month. I used to "own the room" and now I am the worn wallper. So please know that by your content and insight, you are helping many people! I never feel lonely when you are singing my song!✌🏼💛😊
I'm going to be 70 in a few days. The greatest thing I have learned in life is: Find something to be truly thankful for, even if it's the air that you breathe. Being thankful drives away every negative that is possible. It brings positivity and more things to be thankful for.❤❤ Try it.
@@jenniestacy1466 I’ll be 70 on the 12th. So many health issues and immobility past 3 years but will try to be thankful and have a gratitude attitude. Happy Birthday to you.
There will come a time, for me very soon, when all the people who knew me when I was young, will be gone. No one will remember me when I was little. What I was like. How I looked when I was young and pretty. They will only know the old lady who can barely stand before them. I am almost there. It is very sad.
My mom is 82 and lonely, shes alone. She refuses to move in with her kids so she stays alone at home with no working car. Im driving 900 miles to visit her next weekend. Thank you Susan and Desi for always being there for all of us💕🙏
I too am struggling like many others. I am 71 and filled with grief because my husband has Alzheimers. We only have each other- no children. I'm so lonely while I'm sitting by his side because he isn't who I've known for 50 years. I hope that I will find a way to feel more hope in my life. I miss my family, friends that have now moved away and most of all my husband. Thanks for listening.
So sorry for what you are dealing with. I have learned that "alone" is actually ALL ONE when broken apart or one with God so you are never alone! Prayers for your husband and for you. Sending you a huge hug and so much love! xoxo Debbie
I'm so sorry you are going through this, Iris. I am your age, 71--and live alone. I wish I was your neighbor, and could visit with you and become friends. One day your husband will be restored to fullness, it's a comfort for the future--but I know it doesn't help you now. Stay strong sister...better days are ahead. Blessings to you and your husband. ♥
I'm 73, and the only time in my life that I've been lonely was from age 24 to 32, when I was married. So many people told me I would be lonely if I didn't remarry, but I only dated a few times after I divorced. My son is 43, so I've lived by myself for 25 years. I love my life. I still teach school.
💕Thank you for this, Susan. Can I say, for me, I live alone (divorced after 35 years five years ago) aged 67. First thing I learned - it’s a “couples” world out there. During the divorce my neighbors quit inviting me to functions, and I haven’t been to a movie or out to lunch since moving here to be close to my grandchildren. They have their own lives, and it’s nice when they invite me along, but they aren’t my age. I left my previous home and state and thought I could ‘start over’- but I also learned old people have their “clicks” just like we did in high school!! Do any of your viewers experience the same type of being lonely - being single and excluded from couples’ activities. Makes for a lonely, isolation. God bless you all🦋🌸💗
Oh I feel this so much, the Cliches! It simply never ends. I have now given up on trying to make friends. We attended a pig roast tonight at the resort we live at, we sat at a table, by ourselves. Eventually several people asked to join us and it was nice. Much younger. But as I looked around, it was the usual cliches, all together. Never inviting new folks, never reaching out. I’m so over it.
Yes, I also divorced after 35 years and late sixties a few years ago. Everyone disappeared. I make attempts and reach out yet it is very clear I am not wanted. I accept that now and focus on myself and learning, classes, reading, etc. I feel very alone and isolated , I have no children. It is very difficult. I took care of my elderly mother and enjoyed doing that yet I have no one at this time in my life. 🌺 We will keep moving forward and discover what there is for us now.
@@wildhorses6817 I’m sorry. Your doing a lot of good things to ease the loneliness. I do have children, 5 adults, their partners and 9 grandchildren. It is a real blessing, but and I say this carefully, it dosnt replace what we women seem to need. Adult female companionship. I cannot talk to my children about many things.
Hi, ur right it is a couple's world. I experienced some of these same things. My suggestion is( I mean this in a kind way) you make the first move. Invite a friend or two over for coffee, movie night, play cards, volunteer, take a class, etc. Hope this helps❤
Yes, I agree. It does feel like a "couples" world. It actually upsets me as "couples" are still treated like the "norm" ... yet there are so many people living as a single person. If you're not a couple then somehow you're looked upon as lacking. It's that feeling of experiencing exclusion that can be so hurtful. But I'm determined to make my life special and meaningful!! Although it is challenging, (I live in an "over 50's" housing complex) I try to make the first effort of inviting someone over or out for coffee and then chatting and getting to know them. This can lead to wonderful friendships - it does seem that we, ourselves, have to make the effort to reach out though, but I have found this sometimes so wonderfully surprising as to the lovely, understanding friendships this can lead to. ❤ There is the opportunity to have a few different and special types of friendships at this time of our lives ...if we can just scrape the energy together to do the reaching out! 😊
My eighty year old mother complains bitterly of being lonely. But she has several friends and is on the phone with all the others every single day. She goes to lunch, to movies, to activities. She is far more social than any woman over fifty that I know. It’s sad that loneliness surrounds her in spite of having all kinds of people in her life. That’s when I knew I couldn’t fix her loneliness. If we visit her twice a week, she says it should be three. If it’s five, it should be six. I say all this because I want people to know other people’s loneliness sometimes is not fixable, and to not feel burdened by it. Some just live in that place mentally and somehow use it to their advantage. Odd but true.
What you stated is very true and I'm glad that you did more people need to understand this...... I am 75 and I know a lot of women that are just like your mother... You see their cup is half empty not half full.... It's the poor me syndrome, and most that have it have had it for many many years.... No you cannot fix it! Just remind her you love her and you're glad to see her... I know her negative comments are an attempt to bring you down but you keep your smile and your sunshine❤
I am wondering if your mom always wanted more time, more attention, so forth when she was young. If so, it’s a personality disorder. I mean no disrespect, but hoping to help you with the feeling of never being able to do or give enough. Praying for you.
Thanks for sharing ❤ I love your style. I have to make people smile. Tools love it. ❤️ yes embrace ❤ Live the moment as your last. ❤ Safe and a warrior. ❤ strong ❤️ Thank you dear one. Never felt strong but I'm starting to do now ❤😊
Hi from NC love your comments. I’m 75 still working taliking to coworkers & mu hubby daily. Very blessed but I have a 51 yr old son that had a stroke right before Christmas last year. I miss the old person he was now he can’t remember the last time I talked to him. Live can be sad at any age. We should all remember to be thankful for each minute! God Bless! Ann Holt
I don’t isolated myself… I did for a little bit when my husband died in 2014, but I have a huge family and wonderful grandchildren who check in on me to make sure I am ok.. I lost my friend and neighbor of 20 years…she did pass on Wednesday night and I am very sad but as my daughter pointed out to me, I was the first one that she called and the last phone call she made and that did make me feel better.. I had been feeling guilty about missing her phone call that morning she had her massive stroke ..today I spent the day over my granddaughters boyfriends mothers house on the lake. It was wonderful. I never met her before, but she included me which I thought that was great. Long day. I am tired. I had to take Otis out, and there he was waiting on the chair for me❤❤ and tomorrow I have church, and I will be with my extended church family, who treat me like one of their own❤
Hi Susan, I had two good examples of how to age. Both my Grandmothers were widows at an early age and lived into their nineties. One Grandmother lost an eye and was almost blind. She walked and went out every day. Her life was so full. My other Grandmother has arthritis very bad, but did gardening almost every day and canned fruit. I am in my seventies and stay very active. My Grandmothers showed me how to age when I was very young and I live the example they set.
I don't think I've left a comment before. I call your channel my "Little Corner Of Joy." You cheer me up. The topic of Loneliness is something I suffer from. I am 68, though everyone thinks I'm maybe 50. That's nice, I suppose, but people don't see the "Inside" of me, which is a very lonely 68 year old woman. I don't have family and though I'm a friendly person, I haven't been able to make friends here. Nevertheless, I always smile at people. I am very polite and kind. I act this way because my motto is: "be the Light you'd like to see in the World." I think that one day I will move to a more charming little town where I can sit in a coffee shop or browse in a cute store (these don't exist here) and on that day I'll be reminded fondly of you and Desi. Warmest regards. Rachel
I take a look at all the positive things that come with being alone. Staying in the present and looking forward to the new learning experiences of tomorrow. @@kcampbell867
Aunt Susan you are not alone . All of us need you as spiritual mother , wise friend , monitor. If need to be happy we will be your smiles because you go out of your way to make our lives beautiful. You taught us not to lose hope even when life seems bleak and hopeless so that you are not alone .
I moved to FL from up North and am always moved by how patient Publix is with seniors. Whether it’s counting money or coupons or walking them to their car with an umbrella and raincoat when a surprise rainstorm happened. I’m a little younger and was usually in a hurry there, but now I see how important the interaction is and am moved to tears sometimes.
Hello, I, too, am in Florida. I also find Publix to be kind. isn't Susan just wonderful! I came upon her video about 4 months ago. And that little Dezi is the cutest with his under bite!.
I’m 65 now. I’ve travelled, I’ve gone, I’ve done for years and years. Now I want to stay home. I’m fine as I am. 😊 Hi Susan. 💕 Hi Desi! You sweet boy you never fail to make me smile.
We have so much in common ! I too am 68 years old, live alone and just bought an almost tiny house , 8 hours from where I used to live. Where I moved to is not a very pretty town, but I have family here, and it makes all the difference ! When I get lonely, I go thrifting too, read a book, take myself out for lunch or even dinner...smile at the cashier and make THEM smile, because they may be lonely too. Oh and for sure, I watch inspiring videos, and that's how I met you ! You are now my friend, even though you never met me. Take care, and see you again soon 😊❤
I am a retired cashier at Walmart. I'm handicapped and lonely, probably not as lonely as others, because I do have my husband. Your little story about the cashier brought back so many memories of what I used to call " holy moments". Connecting with my customers with a sometimes very deep conversation fed my soul and theirs too. Thanks for reminding me of those wonderful moments years ago.
Also in addition to your dialogue....there is a division due to the long term effects of the plandemic for people when deciding to socialize or not. Many lonely people abound even more so now. . I would rather be alone than be with toxic individuals. The world has changed. I try to consciously exude kindness and love wherever I am no matter what. Desi is so adorable. I need to get a little doggie ,they are such good company.
I love the way your home is decorated ,it reflex your kindness ,your love of beauty Honestly spending time with you is like sitting in Sunshine ,,you can’t help but feel peaceful and refreshed Thank you Susan 🙋♀️🫶🏻💕
I loved it when you said that aging is a burden and a responsibility to be the voice of those who didn't make it to this age. I think of this all the time. I am a 3-time cancer survivor and every day is a new day to be grateful for my life and for women like you, Susan.
I think older people are experiencing what I am calling pandemic fallout. The pandemic isolated the entire world but the older people were even more isolated because many of them were dealing with higher risks due to compromised immune systems from other health issues and could not risk going anywhere, having family in their home, go to see family, anything. So the fallout occurs when a habit was formed by the older people themselves, by their family and by their friends. We were all forced into no physical contact and it became a way of life, a habit. This is a habit that needs to be broken because people, specifically for this comment, older people are suffering. And are still afraid, for their health, the isolation, not seeing anybody, not seeing family. We need to break this habit, get over the fear and proceed with our lives as it was before 2020. There are people I know who are ill that do not have these options but time to think outside of the box to help them as well. I would encourage everybody to call your loved ones, call a friend you know is alone, ask if you can stop by and have a cup of coffee. Go see your grandparents if you are lucky enough to still have them. Make PLANS….Break that habit. Thanks Susan! T ✌🏻 💗
I'm going through so much of this struggle with loneliness....I keep my current schedule and responsibilities because I fear if I don't, I will be home with nothing to do really alone as my Daughter is so very busy with her family and no time for me... I fear I would go mad....Thank you for discussing this so important topic!!! Many blessings to you and your beautiful doggie..I swear he keeps getting 🥰 cuter!!
Today, I finally made a decision that I would go out and walk at craft fair with my daughter and granddaughter. It gave me a break for my sanity. No thinking of terminally ill husband. I understand why people tell me to go shopping or to the library by myself. I learned how to get the oil changed on our car at 63 yrs. old! I’m not helpless, I just never had a chance to learn. Still have not learned how to get car washed, but it’s on my list to learn. All I can say I’m doing the best I can. I was disabled by fibromyalgia at 50 years old. That was heartbreaking losing a job I loved………one day at a time now……
I understand how you feel...I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia at the age of 56. Its not easy but learning the right diet and exercises to do...each year got better. Little trips out can give a person a different outlook. 😊💖
I guarantee when you walk into a room you have alot of swag. You have a presence that fills the room and you are an exceedingly good looking woman with a great personality. You are a show stopper, YES NOW TODAY AT 68! KEEP ROCKIN IT OUT.
Thank you for addressing this subject. I saw a video on youtube called "Single Creek". It's Christian based. From it I realized that though we are single we can still be a blessing to other's. I think that's key. We sit around wanting the blessings when we should be "Being the Blessing". So, to that end I decided to start a single lady's group at church. Not to find a man but to be a blessing to our community and each other. And I got such great feedback. I was kind of shocked. But very pleased at the same time. You know, when your busy it's kind of hard to be lonely. The other thing is we need physical touch. Part of my group thing is going to be hugs. Why not. Any way just thought I'd put my two cents in...
I'm a 66 year-old, certified shiatsu therapist, & learned through a Q'i Gong master/energy healer that eight hugs a day can help your immune system stay healthy, so when you invite the people in your group to hug, if they will share "hugs-on-both-sides," with four people, then they will have hugged eight times that day! Best wishes with gathering members of your support group. What a great idea! Oh, and -- here's one more thought -- if you live in a locale that offers community education classes, it might be helpful for your group to take a course in self-shiatsu together! There are lots of ways that we each can nurture & balance our energetic bodies, & self-shiatsu, as well as simple shiatsu techniques shared between friends, can be a kind & pleasant gift of time together!
Dezi is so stinking ute!!!! You are so blessed to have a man in your life as a friend. I guess they give us security. Ya you owned it girl! I owned it. Dancing and winning skate contest in the 70s, disco skating and hip hugger bell bottoms I lived the disco life, and I fed on the craziness. Now though, I have lost all that "party" mania. I'm 65 and I am alone after 48 years, and yes I have that 16 year old within me, Bee Gees Yes.!!!! I love you Susan. Thank you for all you implant in my life.
@cat2ish~oh my gosh ur comment hit so close to my feelings! I was on the dance floor every Saturday night at the clubs when electro music was just getting popular! I felt like “ I owned it” many a night. My “club” is now my home! I dance and have lights that pulse to the music’s beat! I miss the feeling of being on the dance floor having the time of my life! But I have great memories 🎶🎼🎵💃🤗🙏
I’m thinking about the wonderful Walmart cashier and what you shared in regards to her comment. She’s a rare treasure especially with automation replacing so many opportunities for human connection whether it’s in person or on the phone. I have a dear friend in her mid 70’s with her 16 yr old heart still living big in her. She makes a point to compliment women in her age range and older (stranger or friend) on their outfits or hairstyle, etc… She told me she does this because older women get looked past, overlooked or flat out ignored. She helps them “own the room”again even if just for a moment. Thank you for this chat today that has reinforced in me the need to follow in my dear friend’s foot prints and help someone own the room in a small way. ❤
This was a beautiful video this week. Your little Desi is so adorable! Loneliness is taking over my life. I recently turned 70 and I have no one my age to relate to. My son and his family live 3 hours away. He only calls 4 times a year. I have no transportation so I am pretty much a recluse. Your weekly videos bring such joy and I love the thrifting you do.Thrifting use to be a passion of mine. Thank you for the joy you bring. I feel like you visit every week just to bring that joy to me.
Please don't lock yourself away in your home. Please check out senior centers, churches or other local organizations for ways to volunteer. Many churches have volunteers that will drive you places or provide outings with transportation. Each city/county is required to have public transportation or have some type of voucher program for taxis. if you truly can't leave the house, then volunteer to be a daily caller to a senior/disabled person. Again, churches are a great resource for finding opportunities without having to be an actual member of the church. It does take some effort to find these programs, but it can be done.
I am 77,and lost my husband of 56 years,last year,I often feel sad ,I miss him so much,I’m sad for what he is missing out on too,he would have loved to see his precious granddaughter ,looking so proud ,starting high school last week.but I find the very best way to cope with loneliness,is to keep extra busy,I keep in touch with my family,enjoy each other,laugh about little things,show love to each other,help out in any way I can .make cakes ,for family etc.I’ve joined a choir ,and now I do all the gardening,which was my husbands beloved hobby.I keep surprising myself all the time now by what I’m able to achieve.I tell myself I’m lucky to still be here still able to be a little bit..I am more than blessed to be growing older,with reasonable health.I am going to make the most of my good fortune.
You reminded me that we who are still here are lucky because like Pasty Cline there are many who don’t have that privilege of growing old. It makes me want to do better and be better❤️
To paraphrase Carl Jung: Loneliness isn’t the physical absence of other people, it’s the sense that you’re not sharing anything that matters with anyone else. And that’s it for me. I miss being #1 in somebody’s life. I miss being able to run home and share something funny or sad. I miss that connection.
I agree totally with you Susan.. I find myself retreating lately, a bit of lack of confidence as you mentioned. No more! I'm getting back out there and meet some like-minded people. Thanks for your words, just what I needed. 🥰
Hi Susan and Desi. I'm 72 years old and yes, I feel lonely. This year I started gardening, so I wouldn't think about it. Last year I had cancer. Even if I feel lonely, I feel blessed to be here. I love Desi bow tie (I love New York ). Very cute.
Hello Susan, you make me feel not so lonely. I am so glad I found your channel, I feel more valued now after your talks about so many topics. It is so hard to feel loved when you don’t love yourself!!!!! I realize that to get love I have to start loving me at 72. I can’t depend on my 2 children to find time to call me or come over to see me even if we live only 20 minutes away. Thank you so much❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I feel your pain as my son live about 2 minutes away and he don't have time to see us or call. It's the new generation they just have no time . One day they will be old too.
@@anneboucher509 it is so sad, thank goodness I called my parents and later my Mom after Dad passed away and visited once a week. I have all the memories of them that my children will not have.
I agree that you cannot ever kill love. My husband died when he was 48. I have never remarried and not a day goes by that I don't think of him in some way. I also agree I am still that 16 year old girl inside. I'll always be! Susan, you always say things that make me truly think deeply. Thank you and my love to Desi, also. I am in my 70's now and I still see the world thorough those 16 year old eyes a lot of times. I love being my age now, and I am so appreciated for each day! My summer petunias are almost gone now and I am already thinking of Christmas! We have a great big window in our home and we call it our Macey's window. Each year we decorate it so delightfully and fun, and people come by just to look at it. Have a wonderful week!
@deannabollo170 I just took some vit.C Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️ 💙 💜. Wish me luck. Got to finish my yard for winter today. Lots of work for one old lady. But I keep telling myself we can do this...bigggg HUGGGGS!!! Thanks again deannabollo!!!
My kids are grown and married they have their own lives At 63 and working part time to supplement my income. I do feel lonely I try to keep busy or put some music on and dance to it. I still have my mom she’s 98 and I love to listen to her stories I try to videotape them and I usually post them on fb she loves for me to read the comments . It makes her feel special .
Well Susan thanks for the tears this week. You really hit home. I hate to ask for help. I’ve always been a strong and independent woman but now I’m 70 and recovering from a knee replacement. It’s been horrible not being independent due to knee pain! My husband is still alive but has Alzheimer’s and lives in a home. However, I have booked a cruise at the end of October and another one at the end of January for my birthday. My sister has replaced my husband as my cruise partner. I’m going to go and get dressed up nice and drink a few drinks and talk to anybody that looks lonely. I might limp a bit but I’m going to try to spread some joy to someone lonely looking. Thanks you Susan and Desi.
YOU make me cry! You are beautiful and paying your life forward give me so much inspiration to do better!!! Love to you always, Susan & Desi ( do they allow dogs on a cruise?_
I always look forward to your videos on Saturday evening! I am in a season of my life that involves being a caregiver. My husband has lost his vision. It is hard to be so tied down. I have a little dog that I walk and it is so nice just to wave to neighbors and have a quick chat! Dogs are so much company. Love little Desi! So glad he is out of that closet and in the sunshine with someone who loves him!❤️
Wonder if your husband ever goes out on these walks, he must feel depressed at times. Perhaps doing some things together could help you both emotionally. I know it is very rough being a caregiver, God bless you both.
@@karendegraaf1146As nice as that sounds, taking an elderly blind man who has a history of falls for a walk in a neighborhood with no sidewalks is not recommended. We do sit outside when it is cool enough and we enjoy that. He does feel depressed at times, we both do. We are together 24/7, we enjoy our days as best we can. As a caregiver, my only outlet for myself is a 15 minute walk. I don’t think that’s asking too much.
I am 75 and have lived alone since my husband passed when I was 51. It’s been 24 years. My boys live in another state but I am blessed that I see them a lot. I do still get lonely. I try to leave something off my list to do the next day so I will get out. I realize at my age I am very blessed to be able to still do things. I love your channel.
Hi Susan and Desi, For me, I keep busy. My neighbor and I are helping another neighbor in need. He’s truly turned his life around. Also, after a month of losing my dog, my friend and I went to shelters, Thursday. I found a dog who needs me,like I need her. I’m excited. I’m trying to teach her to tolerate my cats. But then, she loves cat food. But Maggie is loved.💖I’ve got to go now,as there’s a storm coming. Finally, some rain! See you next week, Susan and Desi.
Susan, you are just beautiful inside and out! And Desi is just the most handsome pup! I look so forward to your video every Saturday! You have brought all of us together.
Susan, this community here has really grown over the past few years. We women have so much in common! That alone, makes me feel better! Hello 👋 to everyone out there! We aren't crazy, we have so much wisdom from just living a full life of ups, downs and many experiences. Now as a widow, i need this type of a community more and more! Thanks Susan!
I totally agree! You and others make me feel part of something...I am not alone with my feelings and fears...I am so much stronger because we are all together here sharing!!!! Happy new week!!!!
Love the fall colors you modeled. ❤ Some people are very lonely even in a crowded room. We all have a story, life's changes, and challenges. Sometimes you don't even know you had a good thing till it's gone. All my friends & family that have passed on wish they could still be here, they fought till the last moment of their life. Have a good cry, yell, be sad, complain, sleep in, write a poem, learn something new, pray, just do the best you can & carry on. Enjoy the beauty of another day to watch the sun rise, the sunset, all the planets creations, and to be the best you can be. Desi is always happy 😊 🌈🌹
I am 68 now. I retired about 6 months ago. Those I saw daily, I don’t now. I realized I would have to adjust by finding other groups to join, but there still is a lot of time to manage. Then, I lost a very good friend to cancer last month. I lost another girlfriend in the summer of 2022. The knowledge of their loss has changed me. I am a fighter... I decided to be healthier and have lost 40 pounds. I have more to lose. I have joined two church groups, I have renewed interests, began a hobby or two, I am trying to change my hair and make up that is suitable now, and have purged my house. I probably need to purge more items, too. Regardless of moving forward and finding a new way, I get stuck. There will be a day or two that I grieve. Grieve for my friends and coworkers. I will then try to realize it, accept the changes, and then try to find more... a walk, maybe? Or organize a time to go for coffee with a friend. Or start to read a new book. It's up to me. It's in my power.
I always get it so much out of your videos when you talk to us. Yep! I related to losing my parents, losing an adult child to suicide, beginning to have real health issues, etc. Thank you for your encouragement and your zest for living. I appreciate your words more than you can know. I am a single 69 year-old woman, and I want to make the last chapters of my life the best. I’m going to give it my best. ❤
The comment about taking the time to share a smile and conversation with another older person resonated with me. I recently started working again after being retired, I am now a community librarian. It is a wonderful change from the corporate world of my previous career. The opportunity to talk to people of all ages, but especially retirees and seniors who love to read, has enriched my life and I truly enjoy hearing their book “reviews” and all about their lives. I do hope, that by remembering their names, the stories they’ve shared about their previous careers and families, and taking the time to just chat, helps make their days a little richer too.
You are a blessing everytime I watch your. Video. Thank you, I can always relate to your message. Did I hear recently that you found love and got married. Desi is a sweetie, sure she is enjoying her new home.
Susan- how timely this video on loneliness is! I have been wondering why seemingly 'random' people come up to me and start talking; it happens all the time! Then today I stopped at a yard sale on my way back home in hopes that the person might want to take a bedroom dresser mirror that I wasn't able to leave at the donation center; it would have gone to the dump. I was given a Cherokee acknowledgement and drove off in tears pondering what had just taken place. May we always be mindful to show kindness to strangers; because as scripture tells us, we might just be entertaining angels!😇
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Hi Susan and Desi...hey I just wanted to say I was watching your video's and commenting about last Nov. if not before but in Nov. my husband was diagnosed with cancer and is terminal. So we are fighting cancer on the daily. Many times I have watched your videos and wanted to say something but either a sad mood or no energy kept me from that. Just know I watch you when I can, always enjoy you and LOVE that little Desi...take care my friend.~Jodi
I’m 70 years young and I so love your channel. Sometimes I just don’t want to go out and I don’t feel guilty about that. We have to focus on ourselves first before going through the motions of what we don’t feel comfortable doing. I just relocated to KY from a big house to a 2 bedroom apartment. I love it! We have a lot in common and I think we are soul sisters! Lol. Keep up the amazing work and God bless. Marilyn is my name. ❤
I’m 55 lost my husband in October we were separated for a few years but remained best friends and saw each other or spoke daily! I miss him so much sometimes the loneliness is overwhelming. This video is very relatable I love that Your Chanel reads like a great magazine with a poetic rhythm. Thank you 🙏 ❤😊
What a lovely thing to say to me about my work here....I know how hard it is to lose a husband...my ex-husband Bill used to say to me " just because we are divorced doesn't mean we are not still married" ...after he died 2 years ago I realized what he meant...my love ot you, Susan
I am grateful now not to make a splash when I enter a room or need to feel seen by others. At 77, I am the tall, reedy, old hippie woman with long gray hair and simple, comfortable, hand made clothes who lives quietly, happily, creatively on my own after many beautiful years partnered. I “content myself” and find great pleasure in simple joys and speak cheerfully, playfully, kindly to every person I meet, happy to wear a smile and extend a greeting. Life is full of stages and phases, embracing them often takes grace and courage but the reward is feeling you have brightened some souls along the way.
Hi Susan:). Every Saturday night I look forward to ur chat and to see Desi.! Ur videos are so colorful and interesting! I always feel so happy listening to you and seeing Desi snuggled up on the top of the couch. Your home just keeps getting more beautiful each week. I love that tray and it was meant for you:). Have a great week ahead😊🤗💛🙏🎶💃🍂🍁
Hi Susan & Desi, I'm also 68 living in Nebraska. I really appreciated the comments you mentioned in this video. I try to speak to people whereever I go. I saw a sweet lil petite lady with makeup and a cute outfit sitting on a bench new the checkout. As I passed her I quietly whispered that she looked so pretty. At first she frowned a bit...but I glanced back at her and she seemed to sit straighter and had a smile on her face. We just never know the power we possess when we are kind. I still remember small acts of kindness from kindnesess of years ago. I know people don't always speak of their faith, however as one of Jehovah's Witnesses for nearly yrs. I have never regretted reaching out to those who look like the weight of the world is upon them. Thank you for your thoughtful videos that touch many. ⚘🌿
Hi sweet Susan and adorable Desi. I just turned 67 and I have a Shitzu named.CoCo Chanel. I enjoy hearing about your adventures and your shopping experience and I love the design choices you make. That’s living your best life at 68. I struggle through many days ,but I do my best to keep my mind focused on what I’m able to do, compared to others who don’t have the ability to do anything, due to health problems, etc. I live alone with my two cats and my dog. I talk to them all the time. Sometimes I think about how we should be friends because we have a lot in common. So, across the miles, I send you hugs and smiles from my heart to yours 🤗🩵💜🩷
It is hard at times. I am 69, a widow, no children, and so I can get down at times and get a bit lonely. I think of my childhood and the great memories, and you just wonder where did the time go? At this age it seems it flew by. I do try to get out and do things. I have family, a brother and SIL not too far, and a couple of nephews here in my county, but the nephews work and have busy family lives, and one works out of town. My brother's wife has health problems, and I don't visit a lot because I feel like I might be imposing, but we text daily. I know they both have odd sleeping habits and she often does not feel well. I do crafts of different kinds, sometimes go to thrift stores, etc. It's hard with the high inflation now because things are so darn expensive! I am sure a lot of older people, especially single ones, struggle with this problem. Even on YT there are some that video and they live in their vehicles because rent is just too high. I can fully understand! Love Desi laying his little paw in your hand. How sweet! I have two cats who are company to me!!
Sometimes your relatives are your worst enemies, that's why you dont see them. I went to the medical clinic today Sunday, feeling alone, and they were so nice to me it was what I needed to feel less alone while having strep throat. Really I was reluctant to ask for help but losing my voice was frightening.
I am alone again now. I can relate to you talking about how you think people perceive you. One of my friends sometimes makes me feel inferior. But, I need to make calls to my friends and meet them for lunch or dinner. Becoming a hermit is very doable when you are older and alone. Thanks Susan.
I can't be lonely now. I sleep at night to the sound of Sunny and Tippy (my cats) snoring up a symphony. My days are about providing meals, snacks and caring for my beloved cats, birds and turtles. In the day l go out dressed to the nines to shop often garnering compliments from strangers. Raised as a lonely only with older parents who spoke in Hungarian l knew loneliness. We had no TV. I cried when my radio died. Now l have a TV and a tablet and smart phone. It's great.
You have hit a nerve with all of us. You took on a topic that so many people over 60 deal with, kept it real, and offered a safe place for community and offered hope. I am always encouraged when I watch your videos and appreciate the time and effort you put in each week. Your filming of nature, sharing your home and yard, and your precious little Desi. YOU, have yourself a good, safe week…and I’ll be back to watch you again next week. ❤ PS: dump the naysayer….life is too short for that. My Mom used to say…”If you haven’t got anything nice today…the don’t say anything at all.” And my Grandma used to say, “Don’t let the door hit you on the *** on the way out.” BYE. 🌷💥☮️
You are such a beautiful woman, inside and out. Thank you for all that you share so openly and honestly on your channel. I forwarded this video to my friend just now - we are both 57, recently empty nesters. She lives about 3 hours away now, and called today to tell me she didn't go to a luncheon pool party she'd been invited to by a new woman acquaintance because she felt too self-conscious about her crepey skin, then was beating herself up afterward for not going Aging is a lot harder than either of us thought it would be. When you mentioned the part about in your younger days walking in a room and feeling like you owned it, and now you don't, and how you miss that sensation, it so resonated with me. Not because I'm an attention seeker, but more that it's like a feel invisible now in a way that is painful and not going to end. When we're young, we take it all for granted, without realizing we will choose to isolate ourselves out of pride, especially women, but also men. It's so sad, but it's happening all around us. Your channel and others like you are making a dent in that situation.
I think at a certain age we all have or will have crepey skin. I am 79 and it comes with the territory. I wear shorts and tank tops and one-piece bathing suits all summer. I figure if someone doesn’t like my crepey skin they don’t need to look at it!
Yes I think we all get used to being the “most important person” to either parents or partner/husband. When they all leave our lives we lose the feeling of the safety net and confidence that they provided and they were always on our side. I lost my husband of 47 years 8days ago and this is how I feel. However with the support of good friends and my small family I will get through and hopefully never become a “victim” . Susan has hit the nail on the head xx
I'm a widow and have outlived all but two of my dearest friends. Grief, anxiety, illness and fatigue keep me from the things I'd love to do. I moved near to my oldest son and his family, which is nice, but they are all very busy and I'm very unfamiliar with the area. No matter what, I haven't lost my laughter, or my hope. God bless us all.
Hi Susan and Desi. Thank you for this excellent video. I agree with everything you talked about. I don't feel so lonely when I watch your videos, no matter the topics.
Susan:Everything you said today meant so much to me..I can relate to all of it! As I've said before I'm really having trouble dealing with having turned 70! I feel like my life is just getting closer to ending and so many things I wish I had done differently..I keep going over so much of it in my mind..I love to read so I read alot and that helps and I text my friends each day and try to help them if they need me with advice or just an ear to listen! I feel if you have made a difference in just one person's life you have done well. My husband and I just celebrated our 32nd wedding anniversary and had a nice day..he's still working and when he came home we had Chinese takeout and we haven't done that for a long time! We also have a wonderful kitty named Joy who right now is meowing at me for attention! Besides how wonderful and happy you loo..Desi looks so happy! The two of you just make me smile!😊 Thank you for your wise words and your videos really make me think and help me alot! Keep them coming! Sending love to you and Desi!
Thank you for this beautiful video My Mother died this past, August 29. I turned 64 just a few days later. Her memorial is tomorrow.. I really needed this. Much love and respect.
I’m so sorry that your mom has died. It may take a long time to heal, which doesn’t mean you won’t wish you were with you. But I do believe she will be with you forever, and your memory and your heart.
The loneliness hits me particularly after a show... All the excitement...... The energy of singing.... The energy of the audience..... Now I have to get in my car and drive home alone to an emptiness awaiting me. No one to share with me the happiness of the show. Anti climax. It floors me. My home is my shelter and solace, but sometimes, also my challenge.
Your videos are like therapy. Especially this one. I am 66, retired, married to a great man who is limited with COPD, with children and grandchildren. In my retirement I have become the family caretaker- my 89 year old father, my alcoholic much younger sister, and full time babysitter to my 2 year old granddaughters, whom I adore, and are my brightest lights. Life gets harder when you get older, for sure. The responsibilities increase, money is tight, and you try to make it all work with trying to find solace in the blessings.
Hello Susan and adorable Desi, I can relate to loneliness being alone for 10 years. I look on the mirror and think how different I look now that I'm 66 but I need to be grateful I have my health and strength. I have learnt to trust a very kind man that has entered my life. We are close companions and it has eased the loneliness dramatically. My pets help me through the hardest times and bring me laughter. Thank you so much for talking to all your followers.
Enjoyed your video Yes; I know the feeling At 4am when I wake up For a while feel lonely But then I pull myself Together And am grateful for Just simply being alive💖
When you dont have family, friends dont call anymore, you care for an aging husband who is depressed and ill. I haven’t been out for a meal or anything but twice in 3 years. I try and keep my chin up but cleaning and hard work is my life. My husband and I never had a good relationshio. He likes to watch tv, play on the computer and rarely speaks to me. I am very social. Love to laugh. Go places. He never did. Now he has an even better reason than all the others to isolate me. I am stuck in another country and alone. There is no lady at Walmart. I live in a small town on the sea. My life is at a dead end. There is no way to fix it now. I have two little doogies Thank you for a great video. Your channel helps me with my lonliness Susan. Thank you. ❤
Love your videos. You touch on real life issues and try to find solutions and share. Desi seems to listen to everything you say. Such a beautiful little dog. Yes, isolation, loneliness, etc.seem to be rampant. All of us have different kinds of relationships as we go through life. People move away, families go different ways, people pass away, etc so nothing stays the same. We each have to figure out ways to make life interesting as we age. I have a 95 year old neighbor who makes a list of things to do each day. She refuses to get caught up in negative news stories so rarely watches tv. She walks all the time, goes to concerts in the park, goes to church, sings in a choir and is into social issues. She shops for her meals every day. This lady is full of life and rarely gets ill. She totally believes in keeping the mind healthy by not allowing negative thoughts to spoil her day. She radiates sunshine. Blessings galore.
A beautiful video. It spoke to my heart and made me realize how lonely we all can be at times. One has to force themselves to get out and try new things. Always uplifting listening to you and seeing your affections towards Desi. Hugs from Nova Scotia, Canada ❤
I’m just a bit older than you and just retired about a year ago. Worked in retail but the pandemic took its toll on my customers who treated us in retail like we were the fault of everything that didn’t go their way. I left last year because them beat me down, took my spark away, dumping their bad attitudes with such meanness and near hatred because they were inconvenienced by not getting things when “we promised” it would be there. Believe me, every order was prefaced with this is an expected date but it is not set in stone due to the state of the world during that time! I fought with not wanting to go to work, knowing in my heart, that other workers would not show up and someone (me) needed to be there to help answer or take the burden off the management team who were abused on a regular basis. I miss the contact with people and I’m that lady who says hello to people in the restroom sometimes. I want so much more for friendship but it is so hard to find those friendships without self confidence that has been lost…..
It is terrible when one’s takes on responsibility and tries one’s utmost to help - only to be met by rudeness. Wishing you a much more peaceful time ahead…🤗🤗
Susan you hit the nail on the head.We need to live our lives with vigor for those that didn't get that chance!Live life like Desi,he knew he was in heaven when you found him!Great subject,we need to bring ourselves back to reality!
this really touched home with me. I have been a widow for 2 years now. It feels so strange to go places and not be able to share my stories with him. when I do go out with a friend I find myself chatting on and on. Even the cashiers rinigng up my groceries, and I have had some good laughes with some. sometimes I feel lonlier when I am out and it seems like everything reminds me of my guy. I start to feel old and run down I just want to go home and snuggle under my fleece blanket with my 2 cats and watch some movies. Lots of changes are going on for me, I remind myself to think of it as a new adventure. kind of scary but I have met some great people. Watching these posts have really helped, Gets me thinking and planning for the future and that's a good thing.
Thank you Susan for bringing this topic to better light. We have to remember that we may be the only person that listens to the other person who needs just a bit of our time. We live in a rushed society, but once in awhile you will find a little town that moves slowly. Thank you for sharing Desi. He’s so cute; I just love him.
I was just thinking that it’s not always chatting to people that magically takes away feelings of being lonely - it’s lacking purpose for the day and often trying to find someone who thinks like one does oneself a little bit - kind of meeting if the minds - the great gift you have Susan, for making us feel part of your life so much! For older people ( my mom at 95) it was the fact that in the end there weren’t that many people left, who shared the same or similar memories- enjoying one’s grandchildren is simply lovely, but not the same as a laugh about the past with your sister . And some children live on different continents and it’s just very expensive and not always possible ( health reasons) to visit them. Such a complicated affair- aging and loneliness. I am your age, Susan, and go to aqua 6 times a week, where we really have a lot of laughs with our coach, but I do worry about a future with less mobility etc. I have family in Europe and think I’ll see them this Christmas because I don’t know how they will be next year- and whether I’ll be ok too? Love ❤to everyone on this channel and thank you for a thoughtful, beautifully done broadcast…❤️🐕❤️🐈❤️🦋🎶
Thanks for this video content Susan. ❤ I have aging parents that I'm blessed to have received so much love from. Both my mom and dad have lost all their siblings, so their lives have changed very much. I do my best to remember that my family (husband and 2 young adult children) are the only real family they have left. Thankfully they have each other and they live right down the road from us . We consider each day we have with them as a gift. We try to remember that many seniors don't have family members anymore so a smile goes a long way! Faith in God and the blessing of family is our biggest treasure in life. Sending you and Desi hugs and congratulations on your new chapter of life. 🎉❤
Hello dear Susan!! I so relate to everything you said in this video!! I do have visual issues which make getting out difficult, but I do try to get out and be present. I have other issues that tend to make me feel anxious and at times quite lonely, but I do know how blessed I am!! I consciously work hard at staying positive and reaching out for help when needed. I hope and pray that anyone who feels alone will reach out!! Though we’ve never met, I consider you a great friend!! Your videos are always a great inspiration and comfort to me- and others who tune in!! Thank you Susan!! Much love and blessings to you, Desi and your family!! 😍😍😍🙏🙏🙏
Interesting that you picked up a Patsy Cline book, did you know it was her birthday yesterday (September 8th) , I know this because I’m a huge fan of hers and it also happens to be my birthday too. I loved her spunky attitude and her powerful voice.
Years ago I worked at a salon in assisted living. Every Wednesday I had a sweet lady come in for her hair. She was always quiet but I talked and chatted about what my young family and I and what we did in that week and she would listen and have a faint smile. I'd tell her I took my boys to the park; ate lunch out ; planted flowers; went to thrifts stores and etc! One Wednesday she came in to inform me it would be her last time in because her cancer had advanced. I told her she never told me and I had no idea. She said " why do you suppose I came in every week? I told her it was to get her hair done ofcourse! She said " Wrong!! She explained how lonely she was and feared dying but she looked forward to Wednesday to hear all the little details about my week and how simple things made me happy! Shed tell herself " Just. A few more days and I will get to hear my hairdresser rattle on about her week and what her kids did!! She explained getting her hair done was secondary. I cried because I was so moved by the blessing to visit her.
Some sort of divine intervention in viewing your video just now. At 71 I am losing my health and fight every day just to endure the hours. I have gone from an outgoing fun person to a recluse. My mind and spirit cry out to be who I am inside myself but the bod won't cooperate. Thus I live vicariously watching your video thru my tears for some needed solace...😢😢❤
Happy weekend end sweet Marlyn! How about a group hug? xxoo sending lots of love and hugs....Susan & Desi
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I totally get it and will be praying for you.
At age 69 I'm still working full-time because I have to, but I work at an elementary school which gives me more than a paycheck. Every day I hear from children who just say hi Miss Judy or ask me to help them with schoolwork. So every day I know how much they value my presence in their school and that brings so much happiness to my life! Thank you Susan for the reminder that even though we may be older in years we are always young at heart and just want to be loved!
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After a very abusive marriage, I love being alone . I do get lonely but I'm finding my beautiful, fun loving spirit again.
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I wish you the best in your healing. Keep on shining!
That’s amazing -I know this feeling and it’s a feeling of freedom ❤❤
I'm in the position you were in and I'm hoping all goes well and I get my happiness and peace after the divorce. Can't wait to be away from all the anger and toxic vibes. I'm happy for you.
Anxiety is a big problem for seniors. I believe it’s from loneliness. Your kids have their own lives and hardly call you . Sometimes I go days without a phone call. I go to town sometimes just to be around people and it makes me feel better.
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I am 75 and I understand what you're feeling... I have family all around me children and grandchildren and they are busy with their lives just as I was at their age.... Sitting here waiting for them to call me or come to see me is really unreasonable.... So I get out a couple of times a week, and I stopped by to see one of my grandchildren, or one of my children.... Maybe I will get a cup of coffee or tea and some light conversation.... After all we love to talk about ourselves so that's how I find out what's going on in their lives.... I feel good and they feel good.... Then once every month or two we all get together for a barbecue or dinner or lunch... You see they don't visit me because they are busy with their, and I'm not busy so I go to see them❤
Mentally preparing myself for the day when my kids are too busy for me! I 🙏 they lead full and happy lives. We live together for a relatively short period, and comes a time to let them live their own lives. I really have no desire for them to ever feel guilty. ❤
@@jayemowrey1416 So very true. I think we forget when we were younger, working and raising our children our lives were very busy and now it's their turn and their lives are very busy. As a mother and grandmother we should be the ones reaching out to spend time with our families and appreciating and enjoying anytime we spend with them. 👪💜
Susan, I make a scrap book about my life and I realized that I had a great life; even I lost my husband at the age of 28. I was a widow with 4 kids, but now at 67 if I feel lonely I look at my scrap book and those memories bring me joy and satisfaction. So, I put on my makeup like you show us, put an smile and go shopping. 🙂 A kiss for Desy ❤ Thank you!
Hi Raquel, I am a widow since 2018. Married 41 years. I am 73. I am a therapist for over 35 years. I am a part of my church’s Widow’s ministry. It is filled with widows of all ages. I don’t mean to ask a personal question. You were such a young widow. My heart goes out to young widows with children. That had to be hard. I hope you had a good support system. I was just wondering if you ever married again? I have noticed some widows never marry again.
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I'm a retired educator, so I focus on my children's education, I did have a relationship and got pregnant and have another son, but I realized that my children didn't need a negative role model so No I didn't get married, I'm still single and happy. My reward is that all my five children completed collage and they are having a great life. Praise the Lord.
Thank you Susan. I am 69 and have lived alone for years now. I used to look forward to getting out even for a short shopping trip. Now I seem to put these tasks off for as long as I can. I like being home. However I do find that being home too much is depressing no matter how much you love your place. I always feel better after walking the dog or sitting by the lake I live near. But there is something about being around people even strangers that makes us feel part of the community I think. We need contact with others. It doesn't need to be a long or meaningful interaction, just a few words will lift us up.
I love to watch your videos. My oldest daughter died 8 years ago at age 42.She had breast cancer. Two years later, my Mother died. My dogs have kept me going. I talk to them just as you talk to Desi.
I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter and mother ❤sending you love. xoxo Fur-babies are amazing.
Barbara you have had such loss. Please know that I am in Michigan thinking of you. I think those of us that follow Susan are sisters of the soul. We just don't get to meet. I too love my furkid/dog. She brings me such joy. Sending you love and keeping you in my heart. -Sue in Michigan
Love my puppies. Bought an rv to travel and glamp with them.
Although I don't know you, I am thinking of you at this minute and how it may feel to lose a child. May your heart heal and be filled with peace and tranquility. Lots of best wishes sent to you from the other side of the world.
my sincere condolances for your loss and yes pets can bring so much love.❤❤❤😊
Important to remember that a lot of us who are seniors don't have family left. That is grief and sadness in and of itself. As a solo senior it is an extra challenge.
Ok I am convinced you are looking in my windows! Absolutely relatable. I turn 60 in a month. I used to "own the room" and now I am the worn wallper. So please know that by your content and insight, you are helping many people! I never feel lonely when you are singing my song!✌🏼💛😊
I'm going to be 70 in a few days. The greatest thing I have learned in life is: Find something to be truly thankful for, even if it's the air that you breathe. Being thankful drives away every negative that is possible. It brings positivity and more things to be thankful for.❤❤ Try it.
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@@jenniestacy1466 I’ll be 70 on the 12th. So many health issues and immobility past 3 years but will try to be thankful and have a gratitude attitude. Happy Birthday to you.
I agree. I turn 70 in less than two wks. Today was more than ever hearing a dear friend speak to each of us with love. Thank you Susan.
There will come a time, for me very soon, when all the people who knew me when I was young, will be gone. No one will remember me when I was little. What I was like. How I looked when I was young and pretty. They will only know the old lady who can barely stand before them. I am almost there. It is very sad.
My mom is 82 and lonely, shes alone. She refuses to move in with her kids so she stays alone at home with no working car. Im driving 900 miles to visit her next weekend. Thank you Susan and Desi for always being there for all of us💕🙏
I too am struggling like many others. I am 71 and filled with grief because my husband has Alzheimers. We only have each other- no children. I'm so lonely while I'm sitting by his side because he isn't who I've known for 50 years. I hope that I will find a way to feel more hope in my life. I miss my family, friends that have now moved away and most of all my husband. Thanks for listening.
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So sorry for what you are dealing with. I have learned that "alone" is actually ALL ONE when broken apart or one with God so you are never alone! Prayers for your husband and for you. Sending you a huge hug and so much love! xoxo Debbie
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I'm so sorry you are going through this, Iris. I am your age, 71--and live alone. I wish I was your neighbor, and could visit with you and become friends. One day your husband will be restored to fullness, it's a comfort for the future--but I know it doesn't help you now. Stay strong sister...better days are ahead. Blessings to you and your husband. ♥
I'm 73, and the only time in my life that I've been lonely was from age 24 to 32, when I was married. So many people told me I would be lonely if I didn't remarry, but I only dated a few times after I divorced. My son is 43, so I've lived by myself for 25 years. I love my life. I still teach school.
💕Thank you for this, Susan. Can I say, for me, I live alone (divorced after 35 years five years ago) aged 67. First thing I learned - it’s a “couples” world out there. During the divorce my neighbors quit inviting me to functions, and I haven’t been to a movie or out to lunch since moving here to be close to my grandchildren. They have their own lives, and it’s nice when they invite me along, but they aren’t my age. I left my previous home and state and thought I could ‘start over’- but I also learned old people have their “clicks” just like we did in high school!! Do any of your viewers experience the same type of being lonely - being single and excluded from couples’ activities. Makes for a lonely, isolation. God bless you all🦋🌸💗
Oh I feel this so much, the Cliches! It simply never ends. I have now given up on trying to make friends. We attended a pig roast tonight at the resort we live at, we sat at a table, by ourselves. Eventually several people asked to join us and it was nice. Much younger. But as I looked around, it was the usual cliches, all together. Never inviting new folks, never reaching out. I’m so over it.
Yes, I also divorced after 35 years and late sixties a few years ago. Everyone disappeared. I make attempts and reach out yet it is very clear I am not wanted. I accept that now and focus on myself and learning, classes, reading, etc. I feel very alone and isolated , I have no children. It is very difficult. I took care of my elderly mother and enjoyed doing that yet I have no one at this time in my life. 🌺 We will keep moving forward and discover what there is for us now.
@@wildhorses6817 I’m sorry. Your doing a lot of good things to ease the loneliness. I do have children, 5 adults, their partners and 9 grandchildren. It is a real blessing, but and I say this carefully, it dosnt replace what we women seem to need. Adult female companionship. I cannot talk to my children about many things.
Hi, ur right it is a couple's world. I experienced some of these same things. My suggestion is( I mean this in a kind way) you make the first move. Invite a friend or two over for coffee, movie night, play cards, volunteer, take a class, etc. Hope this helps❤
Yes, I agree. It does feel like a "couples" world. It actually upsets me as "couples" are still treated like the "norm" ... yet there are so many people living as a single person. If you're not a couple then somehow you're looked upon as lacking. It's that feeling of experiencing exclusion that can be so hurtful. But I'm determined to make my life special and meaningful!!
Although it is challenging, (I live in an "over 50's" housing complex) I try to make the first effort of inviting someone over or out for coffee and then chatting and getting to know them. This can lead to wonderful friendships - it does seem that we, ourselves, have to make the effort to reach out though, but I have found this sometimes so wonderfully surprising as to the lovely, understanding friendships this can lead to. ❤ There is the opportunity to have a few different and special types of friendships at this time of our lives ...if we can just scrape the energy together to do the reaching out! 😊
My eighty year old mother complains bitterly of being lonely. But she has several friends and is on the phone with all the others every single day. She goes to lunch, to movies, to activities. She is far more social than any woman over fifty that I know. It’s sad that loneliness surrounds her in spite of having all kinds of people in her life. That’s when I knew I couldn’t fix her loneliness. If we visit her twice a week, she says it should be three. If it’s five, it should be six. I say all this because I want people to know other people’s loneliness sometimes is not fixable, and to not feel burdened by it. Some just live in that place mentally and somehow use it to their advantage. Odd but true.
I’m guessing she just misses her old self. She may have a lot of friends, but I think she probably just wants to be needed.
What you stated is very true and I'm glad that you did more people need to understand this...... I am 75 and I know a lot of women that are just like your mother... You see their cup is half empty not half full.... It's the poor me syndrome, and most that have it have had it for many many years.... No you cannot fix it! Just remind her you love her and you're glad to see her... I know her negative comments are an attempt to bring you down but you keep your smile and your sunshine❤
I am wondering if your mom always wanted more time, more attention, so forth when she was young. If so, it’s a personality disorder. I mean no disrespect, but hoping to help you with the feeling of never being able to do or give enough. Praying for you.
Thanks for sharing ❤ I love your style. I have to make people smile.
Tools love it. ❤️ yes embrace ❤
Live the moment as your last. ❤
Safe and a warrior. ❤ strong ❤️
Thank you dear one. Never felt strong but I'm starting to do now ❤😊
She's lonely for you.
"It is both a blessing and a burden to live a long life"... sooo true! ❤
Love the lady who is extra nice to seniors . She is an angel
Hi from NC love your comments. I’m 75 still working taliking to coworkers & mu hubby daily. Very blessed but I have a 51 yr old son that had a stroke right before Christmas last year. I miss the old person he was now he can’t remember the last time I talked to him. Live can be sad at any age. We should all remember to be thankful for each minute! God Bless!
Ann Holt
I don’t isolated myself… I did for a little bit when my husband died in 2014, but I have a huge family and wonderful grandchildren who check in on me to make sure I am ok.. I lost my friend and neighbor of 20 years…she did pass on Wednesday night and I am very sad but as my daughter pointed out to me, I was the first one that she called and the last phone call she made and that did make me feel better.. I had been feeling guilty about missing her phone call that morning she had her massive stroke ..today I spent the day over my granddaughters boyfriends mothers house on the lake. It was wonderful. I never met her before, but she included me which I thought that was great. Long day. I am tired. I had to take Otis out, and there he was waiting on the chair for me❤❤ and tomorrow I have church, and I will be with my extended church family, who treat me like one of their own❤
@@lindafrazier8092 thank you Linda. Have a blessed day.
Hi Susan, I had two good examples of how to age. Both my Grandmothers were widows at an early age and lived into their nineties. One Grandmother lost an eye and was almost blind. She walked and went out every day. Her life was so full. My other Grandmother has arthritis very bad, but did gardening almost every day and canned fruit. I am in my seventies and stay very active. My Grandmothers showed me how to age when I was very young and I live the example they set.
Wonderful!
I don't think I've left a comment before. I call your channel my "Little Corner Of Joy." You cheer me up. The topic of Loneliness is something I suffer from. I am 68, though everyone thinks I'm maybe 50. That's nice, I suppose, but people don't see the "Inside" of me, which is a very lonely 68 year old woman. I don't have family and though I'm a friendly person, I haven't been able to make friends here. Nevertheless, I always smile at people. I am very polite and kind. I act this way because my motto is: "be the Light you'd like to see in the World." I think that one day I will move to a more charming little town where I can sit in a coffee shop or browse in a cute store (these don't exist here) and on that day I'll be reminded fondly of you and Desi. Warmest regards. Rachel
Hi Little Poet. I have learned to embrace my quiet life. It is a blessing from God. I was impressed with the lady from Walmart.
Thank you for helping me see that being alone “quiet time” can be a blessing after a more hectic life.
How did you learn to embrace it?
I take a look at all the positive things that come with being alone. Staying in the present and looking forward to the new learning experiences of tomorrow. @@kcampbell867
Aunt Susan you are not alone . All of us need you as spiritual mother , wise friend , monitor. If need to be happy we will be your smiles because you go out of your way to make our lives beautiful. You taught us not to lose hope even when life seems bleak and hopeless so that you are not alone .
I moved to FL from up North and am always moved by how patient Publix is with seniors. Whether it’s counting money or coupons or walking them to their car with an umbrella and raincoat when a surprise rainstorm happened. I’m a little younger and was usually in a hurry there, but now I see how important the interaction is and am moved to tears sometimes.
Hello, I, too, am in Florida. I also find Publix to be kind. isn't Susan just wonderful! I came upon her video about 4 months ago. And that little Dezi is the cutest with his under bite!.
I am loving being almost 84 ,sit outside and enjoy my flowers,fresh air,clouds,sunshine,you are so nice to listen to. Thank you for your videos.🥰
Great attitude !
I’m 65 now. I’ve travelled, I’ve gone, I’ve done for years and years. Now I want to stay home. I’m fine as I am. 😊
Hi Susan. 💕
Hi Desi! You sweet boy you never fail to make me smile.
Little Poet, you have a God given gift in reaching people. Great therapy!!
We have so much in common ! I too am 68 years old, live alone and just bought an almost tiny house , 8 hours from where I used to live. Where I moved to is not a very pretty town, but I have family here, and it makes all the difference !
When I get lonely, I go thrifting too, read a book, take myself out for lunch or even dinner...smile at the cashier and make THEM smile, because they may be lonely too. Oh and for sure, I watch inspiring videos, and that's how I met you ! You are now my friend, even though you never met me. Take care, and see you again soon 😊❤
Sounds like you are living a fulfilled life.
I am a retired cashier at Walmart. I'm handicapped and lonely, probably not as lonely as others, because I do have my husband. Your little story about the cashier brought back so many memories of what I used to call " holy moments". Connecting with my customers with a sometimes very deep conversation fed my soul and theirs too. Thanks for reminding me of those wonderful moments years ago.
you are an angle!!!
Also in addition to your dialogue....there is a division due to the long term effects of the plandemic for people when deciding to socialize or not. Many lonely people abound even more so now. . I would rather be alone than be with toxic individuals. The world has changed. I try to consciously exude kindness and love wherever I am no matter what. Desi is so adorable. I need to get a little doggie ,they are such good company.
I love the way your home is decorated ,it reflex your kindness ,your love of beauty
Honestly spending time with you is like sitting in Sunshine ,,you can’t help but feel peaceful and refreshed
Thank you Susan 🙋♀️🫶🏻💕
I loved it when you said that aging is a burden and a responsibility to be the voice of those who didn't make it to this age. I think of this all the time. I am a 3-time cancer survivor and every day is a new day to be grateful for my life and for women like you, Susan.
I think older people are experiencing what I am calling pandemic fallout. The pandemic isolated the entire world but the older people were even more isolated because many of them were dealing with higher risks due to compromised immune systems from other health issues and could not risk going anywhere, having family in their home, go to see family, anything. So the fallout occurs when a habit was formed by the older people themselves, by their family and by their friends. We were all forced into no physical contact and it became a way of life, a habit. This is a habit that needs to be broken because people, specifically for this comment, older people are suffering. And are still afraid, for their health, the isolation, not seeing anybody, not seeing family. We need to break this habit, get over the fear and proceed with our lives as it was before 2020. There are people I know who are ill that do not have these options but time to think outside of the box to help them as well. I would encourage everybody to call your loved ones, call a friend you know is alone, ask if you can stop by and have a cup of coffee. Go see your grandparents if you are lucky enough to still have them. Make PLANS….Break that habit. Thanks Susan!
T ✌🏻 💗
I totally agree with you!!
Well said!! ❤
I'm going through so much of this struggle with loneliness....I keep my current schedule and responsibilities because I fear if I don't, I will be home with nothing to do really alone as my Daughter is so very busy with her family and no time for me... I fear I would go mad....Thank you for discussing this so important topic!!! Many blessings to you and your beautiful doggie..I swear he keeps getting 🥰 cuter!!
Love and light to you, janetp. 💗
You make womanhood feel special and empowering, Susan. Don’t worry, you still have your swag 😊
Today, I finally made a decision that I would go out and walk at craft fair with my daughter and granddaughter. It gave me a break for my sanity. No thinking of terminally ill husband. I understand why people tell me to go shopping or to the library by myself. I learned how to get the oil changed on our car at 63 yrs. old! I’m not helpless, I just never had a chance to learn. Still have not learned how to get car washed, but it’s on my list to learn. All I can say I’m doing the best I can. I was disabled by fibromyalgia at 50 years old. That was heartbreaking losing a job I loved………one day at a time now……
I understand how you feel...I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia at the age of 56. Its not easy but learning the right diet and exercises to do...each year got better. Little trips out can give a person a different outlook. 😊💖
I can also relate. Diet and supplements help and meditation. 🌺
I guarantee when you walk into a room you have alot of swag. You have a presence that fills the room and you are an exceedingly good looking woman with a great personality. You are a show stopper, YES NOW TODAY AT 68! KEEP ROCKIN IT OUT.
Oh dear, you made me cry!!! Happy weekend my sweet friend!!! xo Susan
Every word is true, lot of love Carmella x@@LittlePoet
Thank you for addressing this subject. I saw a video on youtube called "Single Creek". It's Christian based. From it I realized that though we are single we can still be a blessing to other's. I think that's key. We sit around wanting the blessings when we should be "Being the Blessing". So, to that end I decided to start a single lady's group at church. Not to find a man but to be a blessing to our community and each other. And I got such great feedback. I was kind of shocked. But very pleased at the same time. You know, when your busy it's kind of hard to be lonely. The other thing is we need physical touch. Part of my group thing is going to be hugs. Why not. Any way just thought I'd put my two cents in...
I'm a 66 year-old, certified shiatsu therapist, & learned through a Q'i Gong master/energy healer that eight hugs a day can help your immune system stay healthy, so when you invite the people in your group to hug, if they will share "hugs-on-both-sides," with four people, then they will have hugged eight times that day! Best wishes with gathering members of your support group. What a great idea!
Oh, and -- here's one more thought -- if you live in a locale that offers community education classes, it might be helpful for your group to take a course in self-shiatsu together! There are lots of ways that we each can nurture & balance our energetic bodies, & self-shiatsu, as well as simple shiatsu techniques shared between friends, can be a kind & pleasant gift of time together!
That's a great initiative ! 👏
I am 73 and have been a widow for 15 years. I have learned some of the same lessons as you. My prayer is “ let me be God’s grace to someone today.”
Dezi is so stinking ute!!!!
You are so blessed to have a man in your life as a friend. I guess they give us security. Ya you owned it girl! I owned it. Dancing and winning skate contest in the 70s, disco skating and hip hugger bell bottoms
I lived the disco life, and I fed on the craziness. Now though, I have lost all that "party" mania.
I'm 65 and I am alone after 48 years, and yes I have that 16 year old within me, Bee Gees Yes.!!!! I love you Susan. Thank you for all you implant in my life.
@cat2ish~oh my gosh ur comment hit so close to my feelings! I was on the dance floor every Saturday night at the clubs when electro music was just getting popular! I felt like “ I owned it” many a night. My “club” is now my home! I dance and have lights that pulse to the music’s beat! I miss the feeling of being on the dance floor having the time of my life! But I have great memories 🎶🎼🎵💃🤗🙏
I’m thinking about the wonderful Walmart cashier and what you shared in regards to her comment. She’s a rare treasure especially with automation replacing so many opportunities for human connection whether it’s in person or on the phone. I have a dear friend in her mid 70’s with her 16 yr old heart still living big in her. She makes a point to compliment women in her age range and older (stranger or friend) on their outfits or hairstyle, etc… She told me she does this because older women get looked past, overlooked or flat out ignored. She helps them “own the room”again even if just for a moment. Thank you for this chat today that has reinforced in me the need to follow in my dear friend’s foot prints and help someone own the room in a small way. ❤
This was a beautiful video this week. Your little Desi is so adorable! Loneliness is taking over my life. I recently turned 70 and I have no one my age to relate to. My son and his family live 3 hours away. He only calls 4 times a year. I have no transportation so I am pretty much a recluse. Your weekly videos bring such joy and I love the thrifting you do.Thrifting use to be a passion of mine. Thank you for the joy you bring. I feel like you visit every week just to bring that joy to me.
Hugs and prayers, dear one.
Please don't lock yourself away in your home. Please check out senior centers, churches or other local organizations for ways to volunteer. Many churches have volunteers that will drive you places or provide outings with transportation. Each city/county is required to have public transportation or have some type of voucher program for taxis.
if you truly can't leave the house, then volunteer to be a daily caller to a senior/disabled person. Again, churches are a great resource for finding opportunities without having to be an actual member of the church.
It does take some effort to find these programs, but it can be done.
Start a group of over 60’s ladies that get together once a month to go out and try different restaurants in your area. I did and it’s fun !
I am 77,and lost my husband of 56 years,last year,I often feel sad ,I miss him so much,I’m sad for what he is missing out on too,he would have loved to see his precious granddaughter ,looking so proud ,starting high school last week.but I find the very best way to cope with loneliness,is to keep extra busy,I keep in touch with my family,enjoy each other,laugh about little things,show love to each other,help out in any way I can .make cakes ,for family etc.I’ve joined a choir ,and now I do all the gardening,which was my husbands beloved hobby.I keep surprising myself all the time now by what I’m able to achieve.I tell myself I’m lucky to still be here still able to be a little bit..I am more than blessed to be growing older,with reasonable health.I am going to make the most of my good fortune.
You reminded me that we who are still here are lucky because like Pasty Cline there are many who don’t have that privilege of growing old. It makes me want to do better and be better❤️
The way Desi gave you his little paw just about broke my heart. Such a sweet and tender moment.
Oh that Desi!!!!! He is very very dramatic!!! I have no idea where the got it from!!! LOL....he is a great pup!!! ( GANGSTA!!!)
@@LittlePoet💜
To paraphrase Carl Jung: Loneliness isn’t the physical absence of other people, it’s the sense that you’re not sharing anything that matters with anyone else. And that’s it for me. I miss being #1 in somebody’s life. I miss being able to run home and share something funny or sad. I miss that connection.
Love and light to you, helenricotta. 💗
Exactly right xxxx
someone said we all need a witness to our lives, without it we are just existing
I agree totally with you Susan.. I find myself retreating lately, a bit of lack of confidence as you mentioned. No more! I'm getting back out there and meet some like-minded people. Thanks for your words, just what I needed. 🥰
Hi Susan and Desi. I'm 72 years old and yes, I feel lonely. This year I started gardening, so I wouldn't think about it. Last year I had cancer. Even if I feel lonely, I feel blessed to be here. I love Desi bow tie (I love New York ). Very cute.
Hello Susan, you make me feel not so lonely. I am so glad I found your channel, I feel more valued now after your talks about so many topics. It is so hard to feel loved when you don’t love yourself!!!!! I realize that to get love I have to start loving me at 72. I can’t depend on my 2 children to find time to call me or come over to see me even if we live only 20 minutes away. Thank you so much❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I feel your pain as my son live about 2 minutes away and he don't have time to see us or call. It's the new generation they just have no time . One day they will be old too.
@@anneboucher509 it is so sad, thank goodness I called my parents and later my Mom after Dad passed away and visited once a week. I have all the memories of them that my children will not have.
I have such a hard time loving myself
I agree that you cannot ever kill love. My husband died when he was 48. I have never remarried and not a day goes by that I don't think of him in some way. I also agree I am still that 16 year old girl inside. I'll always be! Susan, you always say things that make me truly think deeply. Thank you and my love to Desi, also. I am in my 70's now and I still see the world thorough those 16 year old eyes a lot of times. I love being my age now, and I am so appreciated for each day! My summer petunias are almost gone now and I am already thinking of Christmas! We have a great big window in our home and we call it our Macey's
window. Each year we decorate it so delightfully and fun, and people come by just to look at it. Have a wonderful week!
I would like to know how you deal with inflammation.
I have it bad.??????????
@@ireneturner2944 Did you try Vitamin C once daily? Great also for the brain. It makes a big difference. Pain is a bummer.
Good luck xx
@deannabollo170
I just took some vit.C Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️ 💙 💜. Wish me luck.
Got to finish my yard for winter today.
Lots of work for one old lady.
But I keep telling myself we can do this...bigggg HUGGGGS!!!
Thanks again deannabollo!!!
Oh boy! Yeah, asking for help is extremely hard for me. It's something I have struggled with my entire life.
My kids are grown and married they have their own lives
At 63 and working part time to supplement my income. I do feel lonely I try to keep busy or put some music on and dance to it.
I still have my mom she’s 98 and I love to listen to her stories I try to videotape them and I usually post them on fb she loves for me to read the comments . It makes her feel special .
Well Susan thanks for the tears this week. You really hit home. I hate to ask for help. I’ve always been a strong and independent woman but now I’m 70 and recovering from a knee replacement. It’s been horrible not being independent due to knee pain! My husband is still alive but has Alzheimer’s and lives in a home. However, I have booked a cruise at the end of October and another one at the end of January for my birthday. My sister has replaced my husband as my cruise partner. I’m going to go and get dressed up nice and drink a few drinks and talk to anybody that looks lonely. I might limp a bit but I’m going to try to spread some joy to someone lonely looking. Thanks you Susan and Desi.
YOU make me cry! You are beautiful and paying your life forward give me so much inspiration to do better!!! Love to you always, Susan & Desi ( do they allow dogs on a cruise?_
I think that , although your world is different now, your sister and you will have a grand old time! ❤
I always look forward to your videos on Saturday evening! I am in a season of my life that involves being a caregiver. My husband has lost his vision. It is hard to be so tied down. I have a little dog that I walk and it is so nice just to wave to neighbors and have a quick chat! Dogs are so much company. Love little Desi! So glad he is out of that closet and in the sunshine with someone who loves him!❤️
Wonder if your husband ever goes out on these walks, he must feel depressed at times. Perhaps doing some things together could help you both emotionally. I know it is very rough being a caregiver, God bless you both.
@@karendegraaf1146As nice as that sounds, taking an elderly blind man who has a history of falls for a walk in a neighborhood with no sidewalks is not recommended. We do sit outside when it is cool enough and we enjoy that. He does feel depressed at times, we both do. We are together 24/7, we enjoy our days as best we can. As a caregiver, my only outlet for myself is a 15 minute walk. I don’t think that’s asking too much.
I am 75 and have lived alone since my husband passed when I was 51. It’s been 24 years. My boys live in another state but I am blessed that I see them a lot. I do still get lonely. I try to leave something off my list to do the next day so I will get out. I realize at my age I am very blessed to be able to still do things. I love your channel.
Hi Susan and Desi, For me, I keep busy. My neighbor and I are helping another neighbor in need. He’s truly turned his life around. Also, after a month of losing my dog, my friend and I went to shelters, Thursday. I found a dog who needs me,like I need her. I’m excited. I’m trying to teach her to tolerate my cats. But then, she loves cat food. But Maggie is loved.💖I’ve got to go now,as there’s a storm coming. Finally, some rain! See you next week, Susan and Desi.
Susan, you are just beautiful inside and out! And Desi is just the most handsome pup! I look so forward to your video every Saturday! You have brought all of us together.
Susan, this community here has really grown over the past few years. We women have so much in common! That alone, makes me feel better! Hello 👋 to everyone out there! We aren't crazy, we have so much wisdom from just living a full life of ups, downs and many experiences. Now as a widow, i need this type of a community more and more! Thanks Susan!
I totally agree! You and others make me feel part of something...I am not alone with my feelings and fears...I am so much stronger because we are all together here sharing!!!! Happy new week!!!!
Yes , yes and yes!❤️
Love the fall colors you modeled. ❤
Some people are very lonely even in a crowded room.
We all have a story, life's changes, and challenges. Sometimes you don't even know you had a good thing till it's gone. All my friends & family that have passed on wish they could still be here, they fought till the last moment of their life. Have a good cry, yell, be sad, complain, sleep in, write a poem, learn something new, pray, just do the best you can & carry on. Enjoy the beauty of another day to watch the sun rise, the sunset, all the planets creations, and to be the best you can be.
Desi is always happy 😊 🌈🌹
Profound words.
I am 68 now. I retired about 6 months ago. Those I saw daily, I don’t now. I realized I would have to adjust by finding other groups to join, but there still is a lot of time to manage. Then, I lost a very good friend to cancer last month. I lost another girlfriend in the summer of 2022. The knowledge of their loss has changed me. I am a fighter... I decided to be healthier and have lost 40 pounds. I have more to lose. I have joined two church groups, I have renewed interests, began a hobby or two, I am trying to change my hair and make up that is suitable now, and have purged my house. I probably need to purge more items, too. Regardless of moving forward and finding a new way, I get stuck. There will be a day or two that I grieve. Grieve for my friends and coworkers. I will then try to realize it, accept the changes, and then try to find more... a walk, maybe? Or organize a time to go for coffee with a friend. Or start to read a new book. It's up to me. It's in my power.
I so relate to your journey! And a journey it is!! 😊 Good luck with continuing with building your new "retirement" life!! ❤
I always get it so much out of your videos when you talk to us. Yep! I related to losing my parents, losing an adult child to suicide, beginning to have real health issues, etc. Thank you for your encouragement and your zest for living. I appreciate your words more than you can know. I am a single 69 year-old woman, and I want to make the last chapters of my life the best. I’m going to give it my best. ❤
Well said. Go for it
I've been thinking the same thing
The comment about taking the time to share a smile and conversation with another older person resonated with me. I recently started working again after being retired, I am now a community librarian. It is a wonderful change from the corporate world of my previous career. The opportunity to talk to people of all ages, but especially retirees and seniors who love to read, has enriched my life and I truly enjoy hearing their book “reviews” and all about their lives. I do hope, that by remembering their names, the stories they’ve shared about their previous careers and families, and taking the time to just chat, helps make their days a little richer too.
To see the world , even for a few short minutes, while sharing it with your eyes…this is a gift given freely and received greatly. God bless us all.
You are a blessing everytime I watch your. Video. Thank you, I can always relate to your message. Did I hear recently that you found love and got married. Desi is a sweetie, sure she is enjoying her new home.
That was beautiful I agree
Susan- how timely this video on loneliness is! I have been wondering why seemingly 'random' people come up to me and start talking; it happens all the time! Then today I stopped at a yard sale on my way back home in hopes that the person might want to take a bedroom dresser mirror that I wasn't able to leave at the donation center; it would have gone to the dump. I was given a Cherokee acknowledgement and drove off in tears pondering what had just taken place. May we always be mindful to show kindness to strangers; because as scripture tells us, we might just be entertaining angels!😇
What is a Cherokee acknowledgment?
@@madeleineduxbury9877 It was a right-hand shake with a pull towards the other person's left shoulder. I've never had this happen before, so hopefully this explanation helps. 😀😀😀
Hi Susan and Desi...hey I just wanted to say I was watching your video's and commenting about last Nov. if not before but in Nov. my husband was diagnosed with cancer and is terminal. So we are fighting cancer on the daily. Many times I have watched your videos and wanted to say something but either a sad mood or no energy kept me from that. Just know I watch you when I can, always enjoy you and LOVE that little Desi...take care my friend.~Jodi
So sorry to hear that, Jodi. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts. ❤
@@susannovak8263 Thank you soo much!!
🙏🏻 for you and your husband.
Sending love from UK. Sue xxx
@@sueprice4082 Tysm!
I’m 70 years young and I so love your channel. Sometimes I just don’t want to go out and I don’t feel guilty about that. We have to focus on ourselves first before going through the motions of what we don’t feel comfortable doing. I just relocated to KY from a big house to a 2 bedroom apartment. I love it! We have a lot in common and I think we are soul sisters! Lol. Keep up the amazing work and God bless. Marilyn is my name. ❤
Welcome to Kentucky Marilyn 😊
@@cindyscanlan7826 thank you 🙏!
I’m 55 lost my husband in October we were separated for a few years but remained best friends and saw each other or spoke daily! I miss him so much sometimes the loneliness is overwhelming. This video is very relatable I love that Your Chanel reads like a great magazine with a poetic rhythm. Thank you 🙏 ❤😊
What a lovely thing to say to me about my work here....I know how hard it is to lose a husband...my ex-husband Bill used to say to me " just because we are divorced doesn't mean we are not still married" ...after he died 2 years ago I realized what he meant...my love ot you, Susan
@@LittlePoet 🥰 Thank you for such a sweet and lovely response!
I am grateful now not to make a splash when I enter a room or need to feel seen by others. At 77, I am the tall, reedy, old hippie woman with long gray hair and simple, comfortable, hand made clothes who lives quietly, happily, creatively on my own after many beautiful years partnered. I “content myself” and find great pleasure in simple joys and speak cheerfully, playfully, kindly to every person I meet, happy to wear a smile and extend a greeting. Life is full of stages and phases, embracing them often takes grace and courage but the reward is feeling you have brightened some souls along the way.
Oh my goodness, kaitlinmeadows, what a wise, kind and inspiring comment! 💗
Hi Susan:). Every Saturday night I look forward to ur chat and to see Desi.! Ur videos are so colorful and interesting! I always feel so happy listening to you and seeing Desi snuggled up on the top of the couch. Your home just keeps getting more beautiful each week. I love that tray and it was meant for you:). Have a great week ahead😊🤗💛🙏🎶💃🍂🍁
Hi Susan & Desi, I'm also 68 living in Nebraska. I really appreciated the comments you mentioned in this video. I try to speak to people whereever I go. I saw a sweet lil petite lady with makeup and a cute outfit sitting on a bench new the checkout. As I passed her I quietly whispered that she looked so pretty. At first she frowned a bit...but I glanced back at her and she seemed to sit straighter and had a smile on her face. We just never know the power we possess when we are kind. I still remember small acts of kindness from kindnesess of years ago. I know people don't always speak of their faith, however as one of Jehovah's Witnesses for nearly yrs. I have never regretted reaching out to those who look like the weight of the world is upon them. Thank you for your thoughtful videos that touch many. ⚘🌿
For nearly 40 yrs....that is lol !
Hi sweet Susan and adorable Desi. I just turned 67 and I have a Shitzu named.CoCo Chanel. I enjoy hearing about your adventures and your shopping experience and I love the design choices you make. That’s living your best life at 68. I struggle through many days ,but I do my best to keep my mind focused on what I’m able to do, compared to others who don’t have the ability to do anything, due to health problems, etc. I live alone with my two cats and my dog. I talk to them all the time. Sometimes I think about how we should be friends because we have a lot in common. So, across the miles, I send you hugs and smiles from my heart to yours 🤗🩵💜🩷
It is hard at times. I am 69, a widow, no children, and so I can get down at times and get a bit lonely. I think of my childhood and the great memories, and you just wonder where did the time go? At this age it seems it flew by. I do try to get out and do things. I have family, a brother and SIL not too far, and a couple of nephews here in my county, but the nephews work and have busy family lives, and one works out of town. My brother's wife has health problems, and I don't visit a lot because I feel like I might be imposing, but we text daily. I know they both have odd sleeping habits and she often does not feel well. I do crafts of different kinds, sometimes go to thrift stores, etc. It's hard with the high inflation now because things are so darn expensive! I am sure a lot of older people, especially single ones, struggle with this problem. Even on YT there are some that video and they live in their vehicles because rent is just too high. I can fully understand! Love Desi laying his little paw in your hand. How sweet! I have two cats who are company to me!!
Sometimes your relatives are your worst enemies, that's why you dont see them. I went to the medical clinic today Sunday, feeling alone, and they were so nice to me it was what I needed to feel less alone while having strep throat. Really I was reluctant to ask for help but losing my voice was frightening.
I am alone again now. I can relate to you talking about how you think people perceive you. One of my friends sometimes makes me feel inferior. But, I need to make calls to my friends and meet them for lunch or dinner. Becoming a hermit is very doable when you are older and alone. Thanks Susan.
I can't be lonely now. I sleep at night to the sound of Sunny and Tippy (my cats) snoring up a symphony. My days are about providing meals, snacks and caring for my beloved cats, birds and turtles. In the day l go out dressed to the nines to shop often garnering compliments from strangers. Raised as a lonely only with older parents who spoke in Hungarian l knew loneliness. We had no TV. I cried when my radio died. Now l have a TV and a tablet and smart phone. It's great.
Hi Sunny & Tippy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow, your story is an inspiration, heidibee. 💗
You have hit a nerve with all of us. You took on a topic that so many people over 60 deal with, kept it real, and offered a safe place for community and offered hope. I am always encouraged when I watch your videos and appreciate the time and effort you put in each week. Your filming of nature, sharing your home and yard, and your precious little Desi. YOU, have yourself a good, safe week…and I’ll be back to watch you again next week. ❤
PS: dump the naysayer….life is too short for that. My Mom used to say…”If you haven’t got anything nice today…the don’t say anything at all.” And my Grandma used to say, “Don’t let the door hit you on the *** on the way out.” BYE. 🌷💥☮️
You are such a beautiful woman, inside and out. Thank you for all that you share so openly and honestly on your channel. I forwarded this video to my friend just now - we are both 57, recently empty nesters. She lives about 3 hours away now, and called today to tell me she didn't go to a luncheon pool party she'd been invited to by a new woman acquaintance because she felt too self-conscious about her crepey skin, then was beating herself up afterward for not going Aging is a lot harder than either of us thought it would be. When you mentioned the part about in your younger days walking in a room and feeling like you owned it, and now you don't, and how you miss that sensation, it so resonated with me. Not because I'm an attention seeker, but more that it's like a feel invisible now in a way that is painful and not going to end. When we're young, we take it all for granted, without realizing we will choose to isolate ourselves out of pride, especially women, but also men. It's so sad, but it's happening all around us. Your channel and others like you are making a dent in that situation.
I think at a certain age we all have or will have crepey skin. I am 79 and it comes with the territory. I wear shorts and tank tops and one-piece bathing suits all summer. I figure if someone doesn’t like my crepey skin they don’t need to look at it!
@@buffycat4641 - So true!
@@buffycat4641yay Buffy me too!
Yes I think we all get used to being the “most important person” to either parents or partner/husband. When they all leave our lives we lose the feeling of the safety net and confidence that they provided and they were always on our side. I lost my husband of 47 years 8days ago and this is how I feel. However with the support of good friends and my small family I will get through and hopefully never become a “victim” . Susan has hit the nail on the head xx
I'm so sorry to hear you lost your husband. May your memories, family and friends bring you comfort and future joys.@@sueprice4082
I'm a widow and have outlived all but two of my dearest friends. Grief, anxiety, illness and fatigue keep me from the things I'd love to do. I moved near to my oldest son and his family, which is nice, but they are all very busy and I'm very unfamiliar with the area. No matter what, I haven't lost my laughter, or my hope. God bless us all.
Hi Susan and Desi. Thank you for this excellent video. I agree with everything you talked about. I don't feel so lonely when I watch your videos, no matter the topics.
Susan:Everything you said today meant so much to me..I can relate to all of it! As I've said before I'm really having trouble dealing with having turned 70! I feel like my life is just getting closer to ending and so many things I wish I had done differently..I keep going over so much of it in my mind..I love to read so I read alot and that helps and I text my friends each day and try to help them if they need me with advice or just an ear to listen! I feel if you have made a difference in just one person's life you have done well. My husband and I just celebrated our 32nd wedding anniversary and had a nice day..he's still working and when he came home we had Chinese takeout and we haven't done that for a long time! We also have a wonderful kitty named Joy who right now is meowing at me for attention! Besides how wonderful and happy you loo..Desi looks so happy! The two of you just make me smile!😊 Thank you for your wise words and your videos really make me think and help me alot! Keep them coming! Sending love to you and Desi!
Thank you for this beautiful video
My Mother died this past, August 29. I turned 64 just a few days later. Her memorial is tomorrow..
I really needed this. Much love and respect.
I’m so sorry that your mom has died. It may take a long time to heal, which doesn’t mean you won’t wish you were with you. But I do believe she will be with you forever, and your memory and your heart.
Sending hugs your way...❤
I’m very sorry, losing a mother is so hard.
@lindaguthrie8238
I am so deeply sorry for the most recent loss of your mother. Sending prayers and hugs, now, and in the days to come.
The loneliness hits me particularly after a show... All the excitement...... The energy of singing.... The energy of the audience.....
Now I have to get in my car and drive home alone to an emptiness awaiting me. No one to share with me the happiness of the show. Anti climax. It floors me. My home is my shelter and solace, but sometimes, also my challenge.
Oh you have to tell me! Are you a singer?
@@LittlePoet yes. I'm an alto in a chamber choir and we perform quite regularly. We practise every week. It keeps me connected...
Your videos are like therapy. Especially this one. I am 66, retired, married to a great man who is limited with COPD, with children and grandchildren. In my retirement I have become the family caretaker- my 89 year old father, my alcoholic much younger sister, and full time babysitter to my 2 year old granddaughters, whom I adore, and are my brightest lights. Life gets harder when you get older, for sure. The responsibilities increase, money is tight, and you try to make it all work with trying to find solace in the blessings.
Hello Susan and adorable Desi, I can relate to loneliness being alone for 10 years. I look on the mirror and think how different I look now that I'm 66 but I need to be grateful I have my health and strength.
I have learnt to trust a very kind man that has entered my life. We are close companions and it has eased the loneliness dramatically.
My pets help me through the hardest times and bring me laughter.
Thank you so much for talking to all your followers.
Enjoyed your video
Yes; I know the feeling
At 4am when I wake up
For a while feel lonely
But then I pull myself
Together
And am grateful for
Just simply being alive💖
When you dont have family, friends dont call anymore, you care for an aging husband who is depressed and ill. I haven’t been out for a meal or anything but twice in 3 years. I try and keep my chin up but cleaning and hard work is my life. My husband and I never had a good relationshio. He likes to watch tv, play on the computer and rarely speaks to me. I am very social. Love to laugh. Go places. He never did. Now he has an even better reason than all the others to isolate me. I am stuck in another country and alone. There is no lady at Walmart. I live in a small town on the sea. My life is at a dead end. There is no way to fix it now. I have two little doogies
Thank you for a great video. Your channel helps me with my lonliness Susan. Thank you. ❤
I so wish there was something i could do to ease your burden.....where are you from? Could you just hop on a plane and get away???
Love your videos. You touch on real life issues and try to find solutions and share. Desi seems to listen to everything you say. Such a beautiful little dog. Yes, isolation, loneliness, etc.seem to be rampant. All of us have different kinds of relationships as we go through life. People move away, families go different ways, people pass away, etc so nothing stays the same. We each have to figure out ways to make life interesting as we age. I have a 95 year old neighbor who makes a list of things to do each day. She refuses to get caught up in negative news stories so rarely watches tv. She walks all the time, goes to concerts in the park, goes to church, sings in a choir and is into social issues. She shops for her meals every day. This lady is full of life and rarely gets ill. She totally believes in keeping the mind healthy by not allowing negative thoughts to spoil her day. She radiates sunshine. Blessings galore.
Susan, this seems to have hit home with so many of us! I know it did for me!!
Thank you!
A beautiful video. It spoke to my heart and made me realize how lonely we all can be at times. One has to force themselves to get out and try new things.
Always uplifting listening to you and seeing your affections towards Desi.
Hugs from Nova Scotia, Canada ❤
I’m just a bit older than you and just retired about a year ago. Worked in retail but the pandemic took its toll on my customers who treated us in retail like we were the fault of everything that didn’t go their way. I left last year because them beat me down, took my spark away, dumping their bad attitudes with such meanness and near hatred because they were inconvenienced by not getting things when “we promised” it would be there. Believe me, every order was prefaced with this is an expected date but it is not set in stone due to the state of the world during that time! I fought with not wanting to go to work, knowing in my heart, that other workers would not show up and someone (me) needed to be there to help answer or take the burden off the management team who were abused on a regular basis. I miss the contact with people and I’m that lady who says hello to people in the restroom sometimes. I want so much more for friendship but it is so hard to find those friendships without self confidence that has been lost…..
It is terrible when one’s takes on responsibility and tries one’s utmost to help - only to be met by rudeness. Wishing you a much more peaceful time ahead…🤗🤗
@@sabinekoch3448 Thank you❣️
Susan you hit the nail on the head.We need to live our lives with vigor for those that didn't get that chance!Live life like Desi,he knew he was in heaven when you found him!Great subject,we need to bring ourselves back to reality!
this really touched home with me. I have been a widow for 2 years now. It feels so strange to go places and not be able to share my stories with him. when I do go out with a friend I find myself chatting on and on. Even the cashiers rinigng up my groceries, and I have had some good laughes with some. sometimes I feel lonlier when I am out and it seems like everything reminds me of my guy. I start to feel old and run down I just want to go home and snuggle under my fleece blanket with my 2 cats and watch some movies. Lots of changes are going on for me, I remind myself to think of it as a new adventure. kind of scary but I have met some great people. Watching these posts have really helped, Gets me thinking and planning for the future and that's a good thing.
Thank you Susan for bringing this topic to better light. We have to remember that we may be the only person that listens to the other person who needs just a bit of our time. We live in a rushed society, but once in awhile you will find a little town that moves slowly. Thank you for sharing Desi. He’s so cute; I just love him.
I was just thinking that it’s not always chatting to people that magically takes away feelings of being lonely - it’s lacking purpose for the day and often trying to find someone who thinks like one does oneself a little bit - kind of meeting if the minds - the great gift you have Susan, for making us feel part of your life so much! For older people ( my mom at 95) it was the fact that in the end there weren’t that many people left, who shared the same or similar memories- enjoying one’s grandchildren is simply lovely, but not the same as a laugh about the past with your sister . And some children live on different continents and it’s just very expensive and not always possible ( health reasons) to visit them. Such a complicated affair- aging and loneliness. I am your age, Susan, and go to aqua 6 times a week, where we really have a lot of laughs with our coach, but I do worry about a future with less mobility etc. I have family in Europe and think I’ll see them this Christmas because I don’t know how they will be next year- and whether I’ll be ok too? Love ❤to everyone on this channel and thank you for a thoughtful, beautifully done broadcast…❤️🐕❤️🐈❤️🦋🎶
The way Desi put his paw in your hands was so touching.
Thanks for this video content Susan. ❤ I have aging parents that I'm blessed to have received so much love from. Both my mom and dad have lost all their siblings, so their lives have changed very much. I do my best to remember that my family (husband and 2 young adult children) are the only real family they have left. Thankfully they have each other and they live right down the road from us . We consider each day we have with them as a gift. We try to remember that many seniors don't have family members anymore so a smile goes a long way! Faith in God and the blessing of family is our biggest treasure in life. Sending you and Desi hugs and congratulations on your new chapter of life. 🎉❤
Hello dear Susan!! I so relate to everything you said in this video!! I do have visual issues which make getting out difficult, but I do try to get out and be present. I have other issues that tend to make me feel anxious and at times quite lonely, but I do know how blessed I am!! I consciously work hard at staying positive and reaching out for help when needed. I hope and pray that anyone who feels alone will reach out!! Though we’ve never met, I consider you a great friend!! Your videos are always a great inspiration and comfort to me- and others who tune in!! Thank you Susan!! Much love and blessings to you, Desi and your family!! 😍😍😍🙏🙏🙏
Interesting that you picked up a Patsy Cline book, did you know it was her birthday yesterday (September 8th) , I know this because I’m a huge fan of hers and it also happens to be my birthday too. I loved her spunky attitude and her powerful voice.
wow!!! Happy birthday to Patsy!!!! Thank you for telling me!!!
Happy Belated Birthday! 🎉
Happy belated Birthday!
Desi is the cutest boy. He makes me happy. ❤🐾 We're still 16 year old girls....
Years ago I worked at a salon in assisted living. Every Wednesday I had a sweet lady come in for her hair. She was always quiet but I talked and chatted about what my young family and I and what we did in that week and she would listen and have a faint smile. I'd tell her I took my boys to the park; ate lunch out ; planted flowers; went to thrifts stores and etc! One Wednesday she came in to inform me it would be her last time in because her cancer had advanced. I told her she never told me and I had no idea. She said " why do you suppose I came in every week? I told her it was to get her hair done ofcourse! She said " Wrong!! She explained how lonely she was and feared dying but she looked forward to Wednesday to hear all the little details about my week and how simple things made me happy! Shed tell herself " Just. A few more days and I will get to hear my hairdresser rattle on about her week and what her kids did!! She explained getting her hair done was secondary. I cried because I was so moved by the blessing to visit her.
Oh I am crying Susan...how beautiful you were her angel....
Love and light to you, susanblanche. 💗