That is the truth, I couldn't understand why would anyone push the only person that is caring and giving them love . Had problems of my own self worth cause of it. Now I am seeing as I dive into narcissistic behaviors.
Definitely. The one I knows mother was in jail when he was growing up and he spent his childhood bouncing from different family members. Sad childhood but doesn’t excuse treating everyone else like garbage.
They have multiple partners all the time. One person is never good enough. Go no contact if possible. Much love and light sent to all you good quality souls❤️🙏🏻
Facts! My ex and I were in a relationship for a year before I found out I was quite possibly the "other woman". (For context, he lived with me in my apartment, at that time in life I had been working and going to college, I was gone from 5am to 11pm most days at school and then work. He met me when I was an expiring 17 year old and he was 26 years old at the time, yes I know .... Pedophile.... And yes that shit was confirmed after what I had found on his computer.... Still fucking horrifies me. I ended up looking at his phone after he got me pregnant and told me to have the baby, another red flag, especially when he said before he never wanted kids. I saved this other lady's number that I noticed he didn't save and was texting back and forth a lot. I called her after confronting him about it and she didn't know about me or that he had a baby with me, she didn't know we lived together, she was also about ready to finish her BA so she's older than me at the time. She was quite nice too, it was just insane having to experience that.)
💯 facts. The narcissist said he didn't want me to be alone. When truthfully it was he that could not stand to be alone so he couldn't leave me alone until I threatened to call the police on him. They all are insecure bags of hot air and nothingness. SMH. Thank you for this message.
There already dead inside. They don't feel anything they just use people for whatever they want and need to get ahead or to try to make themselves feel like they are someone.
This is so true, they hate being alone & being discarded unexpectedly, it literally kills them emotionally, mentally, and physically. They are real parasites that feeds off supply on a daily basis..
No he’s so wrong it’s sad… I love being alone but being abandoned is my biggest fear cuz I was done so by my dr and family when I broke my neck- never have multiples.. this is one person thoughts that’s it he’s full of crap
@@livelife5890 I’m just saying what you say is terrible and I blocking and reported you I didn’t ask for my neck to be broke the laws to change I don’t blame anyone it is what it is you seem like you don’t like being called on anything 🤷🏼
@@livelife5890 😂😂😂 I see outta so many you only pic the one that doesn’t agree with you.. imo that’s a pretty unempathetic thing to write and narcissist thing to reply only to who doesn’t agree with how you worded it? You don’t know what or when I’ve been through yet I don’t hurt others I know what it feels like. What you said was hurtful I attract these people like a magnet so when it’s all you’ve had done, and you still keep loving like you ain’t been hurt- in pain you couldn’t imagine 25 yrs with no breaks yet I still smile and I don’t complain to anyone just call out what doesn’t make sense? I learned to do so. Good luck
@@Oneofthechose Sorry for your neck injuries. I was only replying to your comment based on what I interpret from it. Not triyng to hurt you. Dont hurt others or hate others. Life deals us whatever it does. God is making all things new. Believe in that.
This makes so much sense! I have a sister who can be so cruel and rude to myself and others. I cut her off last November and it feels so good to be rid of her.
They're not afraid of being exposed, because they'll change that narrative into how they're a victim as well. "I'm so broken and I'm working on myself, so I need your support." Just another form of emotional supply.
Yes, it's verry true, my mother is a pure narcissistic looser Always has been, she treat me like shitt, then she calls me days later and act like nothing happened, I'm sick and tired of it.
You're very own mother and it's pitiful that parents can treat you this way. Forget the title parents just think about evil is evil. An evil does unfortunately produce children. You turned out to be great. The best thing to do is love them from a far distance and live your life.
I really hate when a narcissist does this. I've experienced this from a female. I actually waited 20 minutes after calling and leaving msgs that I arrived at her place to pick her up to go to the museum. When I told her of my wait and why didn't she answer the damn phone! Her response was "oh, my phone was charging and I didn't hear it ring". I was royally pissed. Never went out with her again. Friendship over.
I’ve had to ‘disengage’ permanently from my surviving elderly parent especially after witnessing and being subjected to first hand a revival of his verbal tirade of abuse I grew up with and finally threats when I stood up to his abuse of myself and my dying mother. I feel relief knowing he can never physically or psychologically hurt my mother again. He’s still disrespecting her dying wish just to spite all the females in our family but that is no surprise.
He abandoned me for months to travel to focused on his health only to come back. Nothing changed but got worst! While in all, the people around them are confused from the radical behavior. The faithful wife who waited and had put up with the cruel treatment get emotional ignored and neglected. I am free now. The best thing to do is leave them. I had enough the emotional abused drained pain.
@@HonestyIsAVirtue7o. You’re both wrong. This is absolutely not true. I exposed mine and called him a narcissist and was immediately discarded. He told me he can’t allow someone in his life who sees him that way (the way I do). They absolutely know what they are and that they are fake and know exactly what they are doing. Many are far more self aware than you realize. With all the information out there today, they are absolutely self aware just like us. My ex is terrified of me and avoiding me like the plague
I can see that. The going from one supply source to the next is common. They don't do well on their own, even though they're unbearable when they're paired up.
Thank you! I'm obviously not a narcissist! I've been living alone, cooking my meals, washing my clothes, grocery shopping and generally living life reasonably happy and quite alone for the last 20 years!
Never any stress from arguments, never having to capitulate or negotiate on anything, ALL your space is YOUR space to do with as you please, You go where you want, do what you want, buy what you want, eat what you want whenever you want....Living alone is the life for those who most want an argument free, stress free, self determining, quiet, serene, peaceful, life...For me too...it is a life style I could never give up now..I love it..It makes me so happy...I am closer to God without distractions...I generally LOVE people...I like to talk to them ...when it's comfortable...but I DO NOT WANT TO LIVE WITH ANYONE. FOR ME SHARING MY LIFE ON A DAILY BASIS WOULD BE LIKE CUTTING MY LIFE IN HALF...I love having my life be wholely my own...However I do have two sweet, cute, affectionate, well behaved, adoreable, funny little dogs for all the hugs, cuddles, and constant signs of affection they give me and I give back...ITS GREAT !!!! I'm glad for you that you enjoy living alone too...God bless.
I agree 100%. I finally was able to see this in my own mother. She has severe abandonment issues. She kept this hidden. I was only able to see it because I had to educate myself on this entire phenomenon. It's not easy to spot. Because I now know this I am able to forgive my mother. I do have to continue to be vigilant not to be hurt. But for the first time in my life I feel a sense of liberation being able to forgive and love my mother. I don't take it personally anymore and I have more control of my own life. I completely appreciate the term a mutated codependency.
@@emilykirkman8468 I have very limited contact. I gray rock. I have no contact at all with my brothers and sisters. They are the flying monkeys. A few of them I believe are narcissistic. I give absolutely no information about myself to my mother. Thanks for the question. 💜
@@emilykirkman8468 my best guess using the grey rock method, being smarter and vigilant than the mother, answering short and simple and not letting the manipulation and gas lighting get to this person. Being mentally and physically strong overall.
I thought being strong was allowing my children a grandmother. She always hated me. Had to destroy me. A public spectical to my father. To build up my sister. She was 300 lbs,, child polio, braces, wheelchair, but her handicap was all her personality hate, insults, and the lies. Now my children are grown, and just like her. Disrespectful, ungrateful, I'm always being punished but no why. There is no why. So they insult. My mother is gone, and left angry, unhappy alienated grandchildren. How to get over narc mother sabotaging all your life, behind my back, when she left two more in charge. Get over, no where to go.
It s diff. And take time to process and For give coz they know what they are doing, and do it anyway. They do bad dids if u want they are not good parents, and deep inside they know they re e... . They dont want to change.
This actually explains a lot. I packed all my stuff and left my narcissistic ex after the second time he assaulted me. 2 days later I’m in the airport about to get a flight home and reply to his texts telling him what’s happening and that it’s over. He called me repeatedly. I finally pick up and fucking hell I have NEVER heard someone that upset. Literally wailing, sobbing down the phone apologising profusely, begging me not to leave and promising he wouldn’t beat me again. Didn’t believe the tears this time and got on the plane. Stayed low contact, text only, purely so I could keep an eye on where he was as I was terrified he’d just show up to my house one day. He constantly apologised for assaulting me but after 3 weeks his tone changed and he starts berating me and blaming me for how lonely he is. Strange since he was cheating on me with multiple other girls who I’m sure would unknowingly pander to his bullshit. I thought “if I was in the same room as you right now you’d start beating me again”. Blocked him on everything and haven’t spoken to him in 12 years. NEVER believe the tears of a narcissist. They’re never sorry. They’re upset because they can’t manipulate you anymore.
100% TRUE! My r@pist narc ex still texts me from random phone numbers from time to time and I keep blocking him, but also miss on some other important calls and texts sometimes cuz of that :(
YES!! This makes so much sense because my partner has always said he hates feeling rejected, can’t ever be alone so if we divorce(which we are working on now) he’ll jump straight into another relationship cause he just can’t be alone. Always said he needs someone to make him feel good but could never explain why that is. We been together 18 years and he can move onto someone else before he even moves out the house it’s insane
That seems to be a common trait that I'm crossing. They have so many partners/supplies hidden around and kept out of the loop because they give the narc individual supply because I'm pretty sure if folks found out someone they were in love with has multiple "friends" that turned out to be closer than just being an acquaintance, they'd leave and that alone will set them off.
Your dad sounds just like my ex husband who was a womanizer to the tenth power he was very vain and mean as hell and expected his shit to be excepted because he felt he paid the cost to be the boss to mistreat you cause he paid the bills!!!
@@carolynaddison5179 Carolin you hit the the nail on the head big time !!!!!!!!!! My ex was hateful, mean ,nasty, stingy and everything else related to being a real jack azzzzzzed demon. Always wanted to be in charge because he said he " paid the cost to be the boss" let's see what karma says when he receives that priceless bill and a receipt to boot for those rotten services he dished out. Let go and let GOD !
Funny how ex-best friend said I was the one who couldn't handle things alone that I wouldn't survive. Nah. Im ok being alone if it meant to not be treated like trash.
I find this to be absolutely true. Thank you Sir for saying this. They are incapable of being alone with their own thoughts in my experience and have absolutely no self -awareness. As a very little girl, my Dad told me to learn the enjoy my own company by reading, listening to music, paying music, or simply thinking. Probably one of the absolute best pieces of advice I've ever received. They're empty vessels. Blessings.
You are absolutely right!! My NM now only tries her crap on me when she's alone. I still ignore it and her. Once I learned to stop letting the lies bother me and just tell people "oh, that's so sad". It confuses them and they don't understand why I'm not trying to defend myself anymore. I've decided this, if you know me then you already know it's a lie then why should I get upset and become defensive? If you believe her lies then why would I want you in my life, you're just as bad as she is. Either way, I'm happier now.
This is so true. My wicked narcissist ex once told me that he cannot stay in his house by himself. I asked him why and he said that he gets scared & doesn't like silence. So he used to work crazy long hours such that by the time he got home, he was too exhausted and slept right away. I remembered he mentioned something like being scared something will attack him lol.
This man has called me literally every hour all night long!!!! He got no sleep thank God my phone was on silent nut job 🤦🏾♀️ He is the biggest liar that's why I refuse to take his calls ...🤨😤
Good for you! It seems my partner has a lot of narcissist behaviors and/or a severe personality disorder. I didn't know this until years later. Now I know it's not me. He has no reasoning/forgiveness/empathy. Our talks ALWAYS end in arguements.. I'm tired of apologizing.
Your interpretation makes sense to me because they do not know how to face their emotions. So because of their fear of facing their own demons it is better to ignore that part of themselves. I've really got to decide to "kick" him to the curb.
Isn't that strange,evil people afraid of being by themselves,but you are right,they need people to agree with their foolishness and evil ways so that they can continue aggrevating innocent and good hearted people.
You saying this just made me realize the day I left really was a huge mental gut punch. I didn't believe the reaction I witnessed was real & legit until now.
Some of my last words to him was how he was always going to be alone and no one was ever going to be able to truly love him because he acts like a different person around everyone he knows depending on what he needs from them. I hope he lies awake every night terrified of when his new supply figures out he isn't who they think he is.
I'm blessed to be free emotionally and mentally and giving them healthy smirk from the other side of the table because I'll already know they script 😌 💯
Short and sweet. It reminds me of losing your mouthpiece when scuba diving, without a backup. They need to grab another one out of someone else's mouth at any cost or they're going to be engulfed
abandonment. exactly what i thought. my ex/son’s father will literally do anything as long as he can have some form of contact with me. i left him 34 months ago, and he won’t stop even for a day. it’s utterly exhausting.
You have nailed the real reason of these kinds of people living amongst us social butterflies & freewill thinkers 👍 these negative people are leeches sucking life out of living thing's 100%! 🤐 Don't let anyone take your happiness 🦋🌝👍
And this is why exposure IS their biggest fear because if everyone knew the truth, everyone would abandon them otherwise it would just be one person leaving them and they have dozens more on the back burner ready to take your place. The thought of being exposed for who they really are is unbearable to them. There isn’t anything that they wouldn’t do to prevent being exposed. Nothing is off limits because their life depends on never getting exposed.
I agree. My ex-best friend pretty much sent me to the slaughter by exposing our business and my personal trauma to our mutual friend group. He also told me they had a right to know when it was none of their business nor his to tell them. A man of his word he said and he'd do more. Later on to find out that he told people he had to be mean to get me out of his life. His excuse was because he wanted to date locally and I made others uncomfortable (which both were lies). I never did anything vile to him, and it was apparent he had no issue doxxing, all to ensure he was on top. Oh but we can still be friends (after he had people block me because he was protecting his new supply/gf). No thanks! I didn't want to abandon him but he pushed me to.
That is true as well. But I've always thought it was that fear of being alone because they always with somebody. And some flying monkeys no matter what the f*** you tell him they still going to believe the Narc.
@@mostHigh23 Oh, it really is. Those final days were very jagged. But in the end, they chose who they wanted to believe. Whether it'll bite em back or not, I have no influence on the matter, and I like to keep it that way ^^
Lets have compassion ,they are the result of trauma ,we have diffrent temparaments,diff lives,diff challengs,but,at the end of the day we are all broken in diffrent ways.And we now ,we see the scary deadly wepons that this ppl carry but we never see they are protecting their deep wounds.so ,lets be understanding from far ,as we know how dangerious they can be 🤕😓
This guy is right on! Was previously married to a Narcissistic, borderline personality disorder, habitual liar and drug addicted psychopathic wife. When I couldn't take the emotional and physical abuse anymore and tried to leave, she tried to destroy my life and left me in ruined. If I hadn't come back to the Lord I never would've made it out alive. If anyone suspects they are dealing with this type of individual, I highly recommend getting lost as fast as they found you! God bless.
Also, I recommend reading about Legion in the Bible. I believe this is what these individuals are dealing with and why they are so toxic and dangerous....Legion, for they are many.
I agree, that's why even after 40 yrs this monster continued to contact me. I finally got into a relationship with him again after many years. He did his best to destroy me and for 6 years I did not realize what Narcissism was. I educated myself and left him. I am still healing but moving forward to a normal life again. They are true monsters and yes, EVIL!
Yep bc as soon as they behavior causes you to exit, they will fight tooth and nail to keep you around. They get irritated and fight. And that list of people they claim they have starts to get very short.
You are so right because if they get called out all they do is gaslight and shift the blame for their satisfaction but if they are left they wallow in their shame and pretend to care and become all dramatic. If you fall for them and forgive then and take them back they return to their same behavior for more strategic and worse.
I've always said that. That was mine's biggest fear. Never have I ever seen him by himself or on his own if he wasn't living with me he's living with someone else always.
I'm a big believer of spiritual ties, soul ties, spiritual chords and I literally broke that tie with the narcissist who decided to give me the silent treatment for a very long time but the moment I broke that spiritual tie they came to me as if they were starving for any scene I gave them it's amazing
@JACALYN Taylor you have to realize that they only see you as an object to be used and manipulated for their pleasure. They don’t see you as an actual person with feelings and that’s why they’re able to move on so quickly. We never mattered to them in the first place. That’s also why they say they have “abandonment issues”.
They also convince themselves that you and everyone else is the problem not them. So they’ll never make a change in their behavior and stop running people off because in their mind they’re not the cause of of people leaving.
So all we are to them is a distraction? We are entertainment to forget everything they are suppressing? They mastered art of destroying peoples lives to simply entertain themselves? Maybe to see in people the pain they feel? So it’s the if am miserable, you also have to be miserable. I say give them silence 😢
Mine did! But after I caught him, he would text and call all the time wanting me back for “fun” not a relationship. It was more to save face with his family and kids who adored me. He just introduced the new supply to his parents and they don’t like her as she is a downgrade. She’s looking for him to support her and her 2 kids as she has no job, no car, no license, and lived with her mom and 3 brothers. She’s 40 with nothing to show for herself. Can’t wait to see how long this lasts! 😂
My ex was estranged from his ex wife but still living together. Upon leaving and en route to a flat he owned, he rang asking me to move in. (His portrayal of the situation at the time wasn’t true). I was naive & never imagined a person would or could lie straight to your face, about such important things. He presents himself ‘convincingly’ as a victim, as a person with morals & integrity, cleverly demeaning and discrediting the ‘real’ victims! I wish society would ‘wake up’ and get educated on these ‘wolves in sheep’s clothing’. It’s been and continues to be a painful lesson for my children and I.
Thanks for keeping it 💯 !!!! "Jumping into another relationship when their ALREADY in one. " Your comment was ABSOLUTELY perfect !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you !!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you very very much with your handsome self I agree I love your authenticity and everything about this video it’s faces them to look at their own shit and none of us really including myself like to do that because then we have to admit we were wrong and self check and do better narcissist don’t do better they gaslight deflect blame and shame thank you
Yes! Yes! I think this nails it. Thank you… The person in my life shows fewer NPD behavior, when secure. Ever since we’ve gotten to this topic things have improved. But getting here was very painful! Best to approach, how can I be secure for you….then eventually talk about how they can find security in their own… go slow, don’t expect much, and… honestly this can lead to breakup anyways.
I think their big fear is losing control. They have to be controlling somebody. Fear of abandonment is a symptom of borderline personality disorder, but the behavior is very similar to narcissism.
I think it can tie together in some cases. I think my boss is a covert narc (or very passive aggressive) and she's terrified certain employees "pets" won't prop her up anymore if they knew about her manipulative behavior. So yes abandonment but exposure as well too in this case.
Thank God for the internet because now they can troll women online and get plenty of nark supply there! LOL 😂 I'm neighbors with my ex narcissist. He latched on to me when I first moved to the rural country community. I was willing to give him a shot because I had been single for 7 years. As time went on I realized he didn't give two shits about me. He just didn't want to be alone. He was being a typical narcissist and I got bored with his bullshit and left. Now I live in my own place and I don't associate with him. He's just someone I used to know. But lucky him he got another female neighbor that moved within walking distance from his place. I'm sure he's hooking up with her now. They're like little fleas they just jump from one house to another. I told him a warm body is better than nobody. It was very evident and obvious once I learned his history he's not picky at all. He has to take whatever he can get.
When you identify a narcissist and watch their behavior, you will notice how incompetent they are in many life skills, how useless they are to themselves, and how dependent they are upon others.
Absolutely true. My father was a violent, sexually predatory narcissist, and being alone was intolerable to him. When I was raised in the 50s & 60s, a lot of narcissistic behavior was considered acceptable in men. I watch tv shows from that time, and cringe at what I thought was normal. I got involved with narcissistic men, and left them for their meanness. These tough guys take constant tending, and constant reassurance, even as they’re deliberately hurting you. Then, they cry like babies when you leave, and are so furious, they launch character defamation campaigns against you.
So true. I know someone who has Narcissistic traits and he purposely create situations for people that he know will piss them off cos seeing them upset he finds funny, it makes him happy. So being on his own hel be very unhappy. Thats why he's very clingy.
Truth! On my wedding day, the first thing my "husband" said was now he didn't have to be alone for the rest of his life. I learned the hard way that he was such a narcissist! I was his 4th wife. He's now on his 5th wife and is likely heading toward his 6th. True story!
My ex narcissist had three Ex-Wives under his belt. I told him I was not willing to be ex-wife number four! Especially when he acted clueless about why they divorced him.
They should be afraid of themselves because they're evil.
Yes nightmare, devil. They can go to he'll. My Ex definitely his one of this. 🦀
Yes they should. All my family members are evil narcissists and I don’t wanna be with or talk.
Yes they are afraid of God's judgment too.
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Perfectly said
So sad…. They self sabotage by PUSHING the very people that WANT to love them.
They don't care.
That is the truth, I couldn't understand why would anyone push the only person that is caring and giving them love . Had problems of my own self worth cause of it. Now I am seeing as I dive into narcissistic behaviors.
It is very sad, but not as sad as allowing yourself to be destroyed by them.
@@Richard-vq7ud : I agree with you there!
@@Richard-vq7ud good point thank you.
“All of man's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”
-Blaise Pascal
lol
fr tho
Yup
I can do that. She can't. 😂 I'm really not the weaker one.
Amen to that,exactly
Interesting observation!
Yes, narcissists cannot stand being ignored!
Ignore one in their face and you’ll get the RAGE 😡
They always have to be the center of attention or they'll die. Sick bunch of needy dependants. Run
Less of an observation and more the stone cold truth.
Yah, Absolutely
@@Tyndalic I did. I discarded. I left on my terms. My aunt was a demon. I saw it.
The soul wound at which the demon entered them was from abandonment.
This a deep underrated comment
Why did they turn narcissist and not empath?
Wow
Definitely. The one I knows mother was in jail when he was growing up and he spent his childhood bouncing from different family members. Sad childhood but doesn’t excuse treating everyone else like garbage.
You know, I think you might be right. Really! Yep.
They have multiple partners all the time. One person is never good enough. Go no contact if possible. Much love and light sent to all you good quality souls❤️🙏🏻
I learned this the hard way. Like man, let GO of these women from 25 years ago.....pathetic. Most of his others were from the past...
Facts! My ex and I were in a relationship for a year before I found out I was quite possibly the "other woman". (For context, he lived with me in my apartment, at that time in life I had been working and going to college, I was gone from 5am to 11pm most days at school and then work. He met me when I was an expiring 17 year old and he was 26 years old at the time, yes I know .... Pedophile.... And yes that shit was confirmed after what I had found on his computer.... Still fucking horrifies me. I ended up looking at his phone after he got me pregnant and told me to have the baby, another red flag, especially when he said before he never wanted kids. I saved this other lady's number that I noticed he didn't save and was texting back and forth a lot. I called her after confronting him about it and she didn't know about me or that he had a baby with me, she didn't know we lived together, she was also about ready to finish her BA so she's older than me at the time. She was quite nice too, it was just insane having to experience that.)
why this statement all so true?
Do also a woman Narsist has many partners t ?
@@מלי-ש4ג yes
Full blown tears begging to come back just to do it again
Girllllllll be begging and pleading and the more chances you give them the worst they get
Been there. Crazy.. but I've been no contact for almost 2 years. Life is good.
Yes and YES!
Yes! The crocodile tears. They act much worse if you let them back in.
Dereck Egbuniwe. Absolutely senseless.
💯 facts. The narcissist said he didn't want me to be alone. When truthfully it was he that could not stand to be alone so he couldn't leave me alone until I threatened to call the police on him. They all are insecure bags of hot air and nothingness. SMH. Thank you for this message.
There already dead inside. They don't feel anything they just use people for whatever they want and need to get ahead or to try to make themselves feel like they are someone.
Very well said! I have a sister who fits this description and I had to cut her off for about the 5th time and I feel so free now!
Total parasites.
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Exactly!
Phyllis Garcia exactly!
Yes ! I totally agree with you 💯percent! It’s too bad they screw everything up with the ones that really love them.
Yeah counterproductive and moronic!
Yup ...this is very true
They do not love anyone but themselves. More like they need them and cannot be aline but they never love anyone but themselves
This is so true, they hate being alone & being discarded unexpectedly, it literally kills them emotionally, mentally, and physically. They are real parasites that feeds off supply on a daily basis..
No he’s so wrong it’s sad… I love being alone but being abandoned is my biggest fear cuz I was done so by my dr and family when I broke my neck- never have multiples.. this is one person thoughts that’s it he’s full of crap
@@Oneofthechose Face your issues like an adult. The world did nothing to you. Face your problems
@@livelife5890 I’m just saying what you say is terrible and I blocking and reported you I didn’t ask for my neck to be broke the laws to change I don’t blame anyone it is what it is you seem like you don’t like being called on anything 🤷🏼
@@livelife5890 😂😂😂 I see outta so many you only pic the one that doesn’t agree with you.. imo that’s a pretty unempathetic thing to write and narcissist thing to reply only to who doesn’t agree with how you worded it? You don’t know what or when I’ve been through yet I don’t hurt others I know what it feels like. What you said was hurtful I attract these people like a magnet so when it’s all you’ve had done, and you still keep loving like you ain’t been hurt- in pain you couldn’t imagine 25 yrs with no breaks yet I still smile and I don’t complain to anyone just call out what doesn’t make sense? I learned to do so.
Good luck
@@Oneofthechose Sorry for your neck injuries. I was only replying to your comment based on what I interpret from it. Not triyng to hurt you. Dont hurt others or hate others. Life deals us whatever it does. God is making all things new. Believe in that.
Nailed it. Their greatest fear is their victim finding that they are better off alone than with the narc.
They need ppl as a supply to abuse n mistreat
This makes so much sense! I have a sister who can be so cruel and rude to myself and others. I cut her off last November and it feels so good to be rid of her.
You said it perfectly
He said that he didn't want to be alone. And as I found out he was never alone. Now he doesn't have me because I don't want him.
They are doomed to be alone until the bitter end. Nobody will subject themselves to the evils that these monsters can create forever.
Oh they find their flying monkeys
Which is usually their family and/or someone who is usually only using them for something.
Curse on their head
That's why they jump into next relationship immidiately. They can't be alone
They're not afraid of being exposed, because they'll change that narrative into how they're a victim as well. "I'm so broken and I'm working on myself, so I need your support."
Just another form of emotional supply.
I agree not all of them are the same
Yes, it's verry true, my mother is a pure narcissistic looser
Always has been, she treat me like shitt, then she calls me days later and act like nothing happened, I'm sick and tired of it.
You're very own mother and it's pitiful that parents can treat you this way. Forget the title parents just think about evil is evil. An evil does unfortunately produce children. You turned out to be great. The best thing to do is love them from a far distance and live your life.
Me too i finally blocked her. I've had enough of her being mean
I really hate when a narcissist does this. I've experienced this from a female. I actually waited 20 minutes after calling and leaving msgs that I arrived at her place to pick her up to go to the museum. When I told her of my wait and why didn't she answer the damn phone! Her response was "oh, my phone was charging and I didn't hear it ring". I was royally pissed. Never went out with her again. Friendship over.
Don’t answer! That’s what I do. My mom isn’t necessarily mean but she takes over the entire conversation….
I’ve had to ‘disengage’ permanently from my surviving elderly parent especially after witnessing and being subjected to first hand a revival of his verbal tirade of abuse I grew up with and finally threats when I stood up to his abuse of myself and my dying mother. I feel relief knowing he can never physically or psychologically hurt my mother again. He’s still disrespecting her dying wish just to spite all the females in our family but that is no surprise.
He abandoned me for months to travel to focused on his health only to come back. Nothing changed but got worst! While in all, the people around them are confused from the radical behavior. The faithful wife who waited and had put up with the cruel treatment get emotional ignored and neglected. I am free now. The best thing to do is leave them. I had enough the emotional abused drained pain.
You are right. Being exposed doesn’t phase them because they can’t see their true selves
Exactly.. They can't be exposed because they won't allow it. Even with tons of evidence and proof, they deny all of it.
@@HonestyIsAVirtue7 typical gaslighting. One of the most common psychopathic tactics
@@HonestyIsAVirtue7o. You’re both wrong. This is absolutely not true. I exposed mine and called him a narcissist and was immediately discarded. He told me he can’t allow someone in his life who sees him that way (the way I do). They absolutely know what they are and that they are fake and know exactly what they are doing. Many are far more self aware than you realize. With all the information out there today, they are absolutely self aware just like us. My ex is terrified of me and avoiding me like the plague
I can see that. The going from one supply source to the next is common. They don't do well on their own, even though they're unbearable when they're paired up.
Makes sense, now you called it out.
Thank you! I'm obviously not a narcissist! I've been living alone, cooking my meals, washing my clothes, grocery shopping and generally living life reasonably happy and quite alone for the last 20 years!
Never any stress from arguments, never having to capitulate or negotiate on anything, ALL your space is YOUR space to do with as you please, You go where you want, do what you want, buy what you want, eat what you want whenever you want....Living alone is the life for those who most want an argument free, stress free, self determining, quiet, serene, peaceful, life...For me too...it is a life style I could never give up now..I love it..It makes me so happy...I am closer to God without distractions...I generally LOVE people...I like to talk to them ...when it's comfortable...but I DO NOT WANT TO LIVE WITH ANYONE. FOR ME SHARING MY LIFE ON A DAILY BASIS WOULD BE LIKE CUTTING MY LIFE IN HALF...I love having my life be wholely my own...However I do have two sweet, cute, affectionate, well behaved, adoreable, funny little dogs for all the hugs, cuddles, and constant signs of affection they give me and I give back...ITS GREAT !!!! I'm glad for you that you enjoy living alone too...God bless.
I agree 100%. I finally was able to see this in my own mother. She has severe abandonment issues. She kept this hidden. I was only able to see it because I had to educate myself on this entire phenomenon. It's not easy to spot.
Because I now know this I am able to forgive my mother. I do have to continue to be vigilant not to be hurt. But for the first time in my life I feel a sense of liberation being able to forgive and love my mother. I don't take it personally anymore and I have more control of my own life.
I completely appreciate the term a mutated codependency.
How do you handle her? Did you go no contact?
@@emilykirkman8468 I have very limited contact. I gray rock. I have no contact at all with my brothers and sisters. They are the flying monkeys. A few of them I believe are narcissistic. I give absolutely no information about myself to my mother.
Thanks for the question. 💜
@@emilykirkman8468 my best guess using the grey rock method, being smarter and vigilant than the mother, answering short and simple and not letting the manipulation and gas lighting get to this person. Being mentally and physically strong overall.
I thought being strong was allowing my children a grandmother. She always hated me. Had to destroy me. A public spectical to my father. To build up my sister. She was 300 lbs,, child polio, braces, wheelchair, but her handicap was all her personality hate, insults, and the lies. Now my children are grown, and just like her.
Disrespectful, ungrateful, I'm always being punished but no why. There is no why. So they insult. My mother is gone, and left angry, unhappy alienated grandchildren. How to get over narc mother sabotaging all your life, behind my back, when she left two more in charge. Get over, no where to go.
It s diff. And take time to process and For give coz they know what they are doing, and do it anyway. They do bad dids if u want they are not good parents, and deep inside they know they re e... . They dont want to change.
This actually explains a lot. I packed all my stuff and left my narcissistic ex after the second time he assaulted me. 2 days later I’m in the airport about to get a flight home and reply to his texts telling him what’s happening and that it’s over. He called me repeatedly. I finally pick up and fucking hell I have NEVER heard someone that upset. Literally wailing, sobbing down the phone apologising profusely, begging me not to leave and promising he wouldn’t beat me again. Didn’t believe the tears this time and got on the plane.
Stayed low contact, text only, purely so I could keep an eye on where he was as I was terrified he’d just show up to my house one day. He constantly apologised for assaulting me but after 3 weeks his tone changed and he starts berating me and blaming me for how lonely he is. Strange since he was cheating on me with multiple other girls who I’m sure would unknowingly pander to his bullshit. I thought “if I was in the same room as you right now you’d start beating me again”.
Blocked him on everything and haven’t spoken to him in 12 years.
NEVER believe the tears of a narcissist. They’re never sorry. They’re upset because they can’t manipulate you anymore.
100% TRUE! My r@pist narc ex still texts me from random phone numbers from time to time and I keep blocking him, but also miss on some other important calls and texts sometimes cuz of that :(
@@nyamate4205 I’m glad you got out of there. He sounds quite unhinged
Makes so much sense. My ex has gotten darker each time I put more distance between us. Scary dark
I hope you are ok...keep safe... ( I see. It is a year since you posted).
@tinamarisia123 I am, and thank you so much for being concerned. I am not falling back into that disaster, ever. God bless you.
YES!! This makes so much sense because my partner has always said he hates feeling rejected, can’t ever be alone so if we divorce(which we are working on now) he’ll jump straight into another relationship cause he just can’t be alone. Always said he needs someone to make him feel good but could never explain why that is. We been together 18 years and he can move onto someone else before he even moves out the house it’s insane
A mutated co-dependent🤯 my mind has to be blown in order to be rebuilt. Thank you
Haha its the best term ibe ever heard
My dad is a huge narcissist and mostly a loner. He's also very vain and was a womanizer at one point.
That seems to be a common trait that I'm crossing. They have so many partners/supplies hidden around and kept out of the loop because they give the narc individual supply because I'm pretty sure if folks found out someone they were in love with has multiple "friends" that turned out to be closer than just being an acquaintance, they'd leave and that alone will set them off.
Your dad sounds just like my ex husband who was a womanizer to the tenth power he was very vain and mean as hell and expected his shit to be excepted because he felt he paid the cost to be the boss to mistreat you cause he paid the bills!!!
@@carolynaddison5179 Carolin you hit the the nail on the head big time !!!!!!!!!!
My ex was hateful, mean ,nasty, stingy and everything else related to being a real jack azzzzzzed demon.
Always wanted to be in charge because he said he " paid the cost to be the boss" let's see what karma says when he receives that priceless bill and a receipt to boot for those rotten services he dished out. Let go and let GOD !
I've known someone like that, it seems more rare but those loner types exist too.
@Abcmf YES INDEED ABCMF !!!!
Glad and Greatful !!!!!!!!!!!
Funny how ex-best friend said I was the one who couldn't handle things alone that I wouldn't survive. Nah. Im ok being alone if it meant to not be treated like trash.
I find this to be absolutely true. Thank you Sir for saying this. They are incapable of being alone with their own thoughts in my experience and have absolutely no self -awareness.
As a very little girl, my Dad told me to learn the enjoy my own company by reading, listening to music, paying music, or simply thinking. Probably one of the absolute best pieces of advice I've ever received.
They're empty vessels.
Blessings.
So true. Loneliness is their kryptonite
Why did this just give me more empathy for them 😅😭. It's so terrible. All of it. For everyone. Poor tortured souls... It's really heartbreaking...
You are absolutely right!! My NM now only tries her crap on me when she's alone. I still ignore it and her. Once I learned to stop letting the lies bother me and just tell people "oh, that's so sad". It confuses them and they don't understand why I'm not trying to defend myself anymore. I've decided this, if you know me then you already know it's a lie then why should I get upset and become defensive? If you believe her lies then why would I want you in my life, you're just as bad as she is. Either way, I'm happier now.
This is so true. My wicked narcissist ex once told me that he cannot stay in his house by himself. I asked him why and he said that he gets scared & doesn't like silence. So he used to work crazy long hours such that by the time he got home, he was too exhausted and slept right away. I remembered he mentioned something like being scared something will attack him lol.
Yeah the Demon inside him!! 👿
Uff good point!
@@sassi7966Exactly! 😂
This man has called me literally every hour all night long!!!! He got no sleep thank God my phone was on silent nut job 🤦🏾♀️ He is the biggest liar that's why I refuse to take his calls ...🤨😤
That was good that you shut the door, and closed the line ! Leave in their mess, you are not mama!
He’ll find a reason to victim blame and convince him self you were the problem all along and do a smear campaign…they are sick like that.
Block sis
Good for you! It seems my partner has a lot of narcissist behaviors and/or a severe personality disorder. I didn't know this until years later. Now I know it's not me. He has no reasoning/forgiveness/empathy. Our talks ALWAYS end in arguements.. I'm tired of apologizing.
That's all the Narcissist does..IS LIE ...!!! The lies are used to control manipulate you..
I died emotionally because of silent treatment, ghosting and discard.
I’m going through this, I so desperately wish he could see it and would want to change.
Silent,ghosting and discard,this behaviors are use people when want to manipulate off you!!!!
@@maustin950I'm sorry to tell you this, but he's never going to change if he is a narcissist.
@@marshamartin7666 I know.
Your interpretation makes sense to me because they do not know how to face their emotions. So because of their fear of facing their own demons it is better to ignore that part of themselves. I've really got to decide to "kick" him to the curb.
Isn't that strange,evil people afraid of being by themselves,but you are right,they need people to agree with their foolishness and evil ways so that they can continue aggrevating innocent and good hearted people.
You saying this just made me realize the day I left really was a huge mental gut punch. I didn't believe the reaction I witnessed was real & legit until now.
They are afraid of behaving like honest adults too.
Some of my last words to him was how he was always going to be alone and no one was ever going to be able to truly love him because he acts like a different person around everyone he knows depending on what he needs from them. I hope he lies awake every night terrified of when his new supply figures out he isn't who they think he is.
I'm blessed to be free emotionally and mentally and giving them healthy smirk from the other side of the table because I'll already know they script 😌 💯
Short and sweet. It reminds me of losing your mouthpiece when scuba diving, without a backup. They need to grab another one out of someone else's mouth at any cost or they're going to be engulfed
PERFECT EXAMPLE !!!!!!!!
The next mouthpiece could be ragged,nasty,dirty, and contaminated and they'll still steal it by any means necessary.
This is one of the best descriptions of a narcissist. I have observed this too.
abandonment. exactly what i thought. my ex/son’s father will literally do anything as long as he can have some form of contact with me. i left him 34 months ago, and he won’t stop even for a day. it’s utterly exhausting.
You have nailed the real reason of these kinds of people living amongst us social butterflies & freewill thinkers 👍 these negative people are leeches sucking life out of living thing's 100%! 🤐 Don't let anyone take your happiness 🦋🌝👍
And this is why exposure IS their biggest fear because if everyone knew the truth, everyone would abandon them otherwise it would just be one person leaving them and they have dozens more on the back burner ready to take your place. The thought of being exposed for who they really are is unbearable to them. There isn’t anything that they wouldn’t do to prevent being exposed. Nothing is off limits because their life depends on never getting exposed.
I agree. My ex-best friend pretty much sent me to the slaughter by exposing our business and my personal trauma to our mutual friend group. He also told me they had a right to know when it was none of their business nor his to tell them. A man of his word he said and he'd do more. Later on to find out that he told people he had to be mean to get me out of his life. His excuse was because he wanted to date locally and I made others uncomfortable (which both were lies). I never did anything vile to him, and it was apparent he had no issue doxxing, all to ensure he was on top. Oh but we can still be friends (after he had people block me because he was protecting his new supply/gf). No thanks! I didn't want to abandon him but he pushed me to.
That is true as well. But I've always thought it was that fear of being alone because they always with somebody. And some flying monkeys no matter what the f*** you tell him they still going to believe the Narc.
@@blix_xo damn the smear campaign is real.
@@mostHigh23 Oh, it really is. Those final days were very jagged. But in the end, they chose who they wanted to believe. Whether it'll bite em back or not, I have no influence on the matter, and I like to keep it that way ^^
This so true. I couldn't agree more 👍🏻. They fear abandonment because they are toddlers in adults bodies...
I love your expression and transparency of the the utter truth ✨✨✨
They're not afraid of losing YOU, they're afraid of being alone. Let that sink in.
Lets have compassion ,they are the result of trauma ,we have diffrent temparaments,diff lives,diff challengs,but,at the end of the day we are all broken in diffrent ways.And we now ,we see the scary deadly wepons that this ppl carry but we never see they are protecting their deep wounds.so ,lets be understanding from far ,as we know how dangerious they can be 🤕😓
This guy is right on! Was previously married to a Narcissistic, borderline personality disorder, habitual liar and drug addicted psychopathic wife. When I couldn't take the emotional and physical abuse anymore and tried to leave, she tried to destroy my life and left me in ruined. If I hadn't come back to the Lord I never would've made it out alive. If anyone suspects they are dealing with this type of individual, I highly recommend getting lost as fast as they found you! God bless.
Also, I recommend reading about Legion in the Bible. I believe this is what these individuals are dealing with and why they are so toxic and dangerous....Legion, for they are many.
I agree, that's why even after 40 yrs this monster continued to contact me. I finally got into a relationship with him again after many years. He did his best to destroy me and for 6 years I did not realize what Narcissism was. I educated myself and left him. I am still healing but moving forward to a normal life again. They are true monsters and yes, EVIL!
Wow-thus is so deeply true! I just heard that a narcissist’s goal is happiness, so loneliness as their biggest fear makes total sense! Thanks!!!
Yep bc as soon as they behavior causes you to exit, they will fight tooth and nail to keep you around. They get irritated and fight. And that list of people they claim they have starts to get very short.
You are so right because if they get called out all they do is gaslight and shift the blame for their satisfaction but if they are left they wallow in their shame and pretend to care and become all dramatic. If you fall for them and forgive then and take them back they return to their same behavior for more strategic and worse.
I've always said that. That was mine's biggest fear. Never have I ever seen him by himself or on his own if he wasn't living with me he's living with someone else always.
I'm a big believer of spiritual ties, soul ties, spiritual chords and I literally broke that tie with the narcissist who decided to give me the silent treatment for a very long time but the moment I broke that spiritual tie they came to me as if they were starving for any scene I gave them it's amazing
Why do they drive people away and treat them so bad then ??? 😕
They are certifiable lunatics. They pretend to be normal, but it's all fake plus they're evil.
@JACALYN Taylor you have to realize that they only see you as an object to be used and manipulated for their pleasure. They don’t see you as an actual person with feelings and that’s why they’re able to move on so quickly. We never mattered to them in the first place. That’s also why they say they have “abandonment issues”.
They also convince themselves that you and everyone else is the problem not them. So they’ll never make a change in their behavior and stop running people off because in their mind they’re not the cause of of people leaving.
@@pocahontas4583 great point!!
@@pocahontas4583 reality in the face. 🎯👏🏼
EXACTLY! Many have "exposed" them. They can LIE their way out of exposure.
So all we are to them is a distraction? We are entertainment to forget everything they are suppressing? They mastered art of destroying peoples lives to simply entertain themselves? Maybe to see in people the pain they feel? So it’s the if am miserable, you also have to be miserable. I say give them silence 😢
Don't forget they use the person they are with as an emotional punching bag
That was the most simple explanation I have ever heard. The accuracy
Facts. I'm here living my best single life after 1 yr and he's been through 2 or 3 supplies already.
True. This described my female colleagues at work. Connive makes them survive.
All people are in a way afraid of being abandoned. People are social creatures.
Exactly. This is just an echo chamber to promote content in the masses.
“They will die within a couple of hours” WOW So true! 😂
Before they leave, they have a new supply!
Mine did! But after I caught him, he would text and call all the time wanting me back for “fun” not a relationship. It was more to save face with his family and kids who adored me. He just introduced the new supply to his parents and they don’t like her as she is a downgrade. She’s looking for him to support her and her 2 kids as she has no job, no car, no license, and lived with her mom and 3 brothers. She’s 40 with nothing to show for herself. Can’t wait to see how long this lasts! 😂
True that! And abandoning them is imperative to your mental health! Escape. It's not leaving, it's the greatest escape.
Thanks so Much for Sharing 💞
The Truth 💯 ❤️💙💜
This just made me light up inside. Thank you for reassuring my thoughts on the topic. This is a gem
Loved this👍☺️you said it soooo accurate with the emotional mutated vampire 🧛♂️ people get some garlic, a silver cross and run from them👍👍👍
My ex was estranged from his ex wife but still living together. Upon leaving and en route to a flat he owned, he rang asking me to move in. (His portrayal of the situation at the time wasn’t true). I was naive & never imagined a person would or could lie straight to your face, about such important things. He presents himself ‘convincingly’ as a victim, as a person with morals & integrity, cleverly demeaning and discrediting the ‘real’ victims!
I wish society would ‘wake up’ and get educated on these ‘wolves in sheep’s clothing’. It’s been and continues to be a painful lesson for my children and I.
That's why they jump into another relationship when there already in one. Over and over again.
Thanks for keeping it 💯 !!!!
"Jumping into another relationship when their ALREADY in one. "
Your comment was ABSOLUTELY perfect !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you !!!!!!!!!!!!
You are right. You understand narcissism well.
Thank you very very much with your handsome self I agree I love your authenticity and everything about this video it’s faces them to look at their own shit and none of us really including myself like to do that because then we have to admit we were wrong and self check and do better narcissist don’t do better they gaslight deflect blame and shame thank you
Yes! Yes! I think this nails it. Thank you…
The person in my life shows fewer NPD behavior, when secure. Ever since we’ve gotten to this topic things have improved. But getting here was very painful! Best to approach, how can I be secure for you….then eventually talk about how they can find security in their own… go slow, don’t expect much, and… honestly this can lead to breakup anyways.
Good! At least that way, they can feel something..
They are never abanded because they are always lining up other sources to feed their egos.
I agree so why push away their supply?
I think their big fear is losing control. They have to be controlling somebody. Fear of abandonment is a symptom of borderline personality disorder, but the behavior is very similar to narcissism.
I think it can tie together in some cases. I think my boss is a covert narc (or very passive aggressive) and she's terrified certain employees "pets" won't prop her up anymore if they knew about her manipulative behavior. So yes abandonment but exposure as well too in this case.
Because they are Scumbags 🗑
I believe this is true…they’d rather self sabotage for temporary attention than feel or experience isolation.
Thank God for the internet because now they can troll women online and get plenty of nark supply there! LOL 😂 I'm neighbors with my ex narcissist. He latched on to me when I first moved to the rural country community. I was willing to give him a shot because I had been single for 7 years. As time went on I realized he didn't give two shits about me. He just didn't want to be alone. He was being a typical narcissist and I got bored with his bullshit and left. Now I live in my own place and I don't associate with him. He's just someone I used to know. But lucky him he got another female neighbor that moved within walking distance from his place. I'm sure he's hooking up with her now. They're like little fleas they just jump from one house to another. I told him a warm body is better than nobody. It was very evident and obvious once I learned his history he's not picky at all. He has to take whatever he can get.
This is so true!! They run u off then get mad and play the victim…. They are pathetic soulless beings!!
When you identify a narcissist and watch their behavior, you will notice how incompetent they are in many life skills, how useless they are to themselves, and how dependent they are upon others.
This is definitely the best explanation of the narcissist I’ve heard.
They can't be helped until they give up their demons
Absolutely true. My father was a violent, sexually predatory narcissist, and being alone was intolerable to him. When I was raised in the 50s & 60s, a lot of narcissistic behavior was considered acceptable in men. I watch tv shows from that time, and cringe at what I thought was normal. I got involved with narcissistic men, and left them for their meanness. These tough guys take constant tending, and constant reassurance, even as they’re deliberately hurting you. Then, they cry like babies when you leave, and are so furious, they launch character defamation campaigns against you.
Bpd is actually what you described it's not about control it's about loneliness and inability to trust.
Most sensible video I have seen all day. It explained a lot in a few minutes. Thank you.
💯facts
Very good. Speak your truth. This is true. Wishing everyone much love and peace on your journey. 💖
Mu narcissist ex will never be alone even though I left him. He in prison now.
Brilliant. Thanks. Narc mom raised. This really resonates.
"Mutated codependent" That's everything, man. I'm done 👍
So true. I know someone who has Narcissistic traits and he purposely create situations for people that he know will piss them off cos seeing them upset he finds funny, it makes him happy. So being on his own hel be very unhappy. Thats why he's very clingy.
Truth! On my wedding day, the first thing my "husband" said was now he didn't have to be alone for the rest of his life. I learned the hard way that he was such a narcissist! I was his 4th wife. He's now on his 5th wife and is likely heading toward his 6th. True story!
My ex narcissist had three Ex-Wives under his belt. I told him I was not willing to be ex-wife number four! Especially when he acted clueless about why they divorced him.
No supplying here need my energy 4 work 😂
He hovers me usung my daughter