I dated someone who was disorganized and also bipolar…it was a roller coaster but he’s still a good person. I understand how his chaotic childhood lead to him being that way. Anyway who is disorganized, we see you, we know it’s hard to heal your wounds. Sending love to all of you ❤
As a recovering DA, it's great to finally see some compassion and understanding. I am tired of seeing all manner of dating experts vilifying DAs. We are human beings and want connection, too. Thank you for giving us some dignity.
This episode made me feel so seen and validated! Especially the way that Thais Gibson described her own experience, because that’s me to a T! I also loved the 5 stepping stones that were shared to heal your attachment wounds. I definitely took notes! Thank you Sabrina for continuing to create such meaningful content, I’ve already shared your podcast with so many people, and already sent this one to my friend 💜
I joke with my husband that he isn't rushing; he's Italian. I suspect he's dismissive-avoidant and I’m disorganized. He used to rush me a lot, which didn’t feel good, and I struggled to communicate my needs and boundaries. However, a few months ago, when he tried to rush me again, I told him I needed more time and suggested he go ahead and I’d meet him later. He was able to internalize that, apologized, and has since shown more patience. There have been a few instances like this, and he’s been learning to be more understanding.
Hi! I'm in a relationship with a disorganized woman. I love her her so much but it's difficult because she's often withdrawn from her own body. I've told her that her needs and boundaries are important to me because I want to be good to her and respect her. But she struggles to talk about it. Do you have any advice on how I can help her feel more safe in sharing those things? 😊
ericbjurling6626 Reaching the point where I could express my needs and boundaries came from doing the inner work. In the past, I might not have always believed they mattered, but I began to listen to my body when something felt off and started honoring that feeling. Change has to come from within, so she will need to be open to it herself. The best thing you can do is to be emotionally available and model that openness, creating a safe space for her to share. When she does, focus on listening rather than jumping to solutions.
Thanks for always making such great content! I'm currently dating a disorganized attached person and it's sometimes hard, but I love her so much and she's working really hard with a marriage and family therapist. All the advice is welcome 💚
Thank you for making this! My attachment is disorganized and it can feel frustrating & lonely when only anxious or avoidant attachments get talked about.
I recently got ghosted by an avoidant woman that i was talking to for a while but went on a few dates with. She ghosted me a couple weeks after i had took her out for her bday. We were coworkers for a bit, but when she promoted out, we dated a bit more. Its just weird to me she would do that because we were pretty close. Nothing was official between us though We still follow each other on Instagram but we dont talk to each other anymore. Its been 2 months. Watching Thaiss’ videos really helped me to understand avoidants more and brought me to realize that her ghosting is her own thing and not because of me. Gonna keep the no contact going and hopefully she realized what shes done.
Good luck. It's hard having any kind of relationship with them particularly if they are severely avoidant. I've got an avoidant man in my life right now that has ghosted me twice in 6 months. He knows he's got issues with intimacy. He knows it's not okay to ghost and he still does it because he goes into a spiral of shame and self-loathing. I'm not initiating contact, but I do respond when he reaches out. He said he started seeing a therapist as a result of my last text to him before he last disappeared. I'm wishing him the best 🤷🏽♀️ They have to work on themselves and if they're not actively doing that then you shouldn't stick around and deal with that kind of behavior. Truthfully, regardless of whether they're working on themselves or not, if your mental health is being negatively impacted then it's best to discontinue the relationship.
i love your podcast. your show has really shifted my perspective on how i approach dating and relationships in general. i really enjoy hearing from you during your solo’s but i’d love to hear even more from your guests when you do have them on the show. more of their thoughts and their fresh perspectives would be really great to hear! anyway, big fan of the show
Followed you for a while but just started listening to your podcasts yesterday with Kamie and it CHANGED my mindset like an instant 360 change. OMG I started to suddenly unlearn everything about dating, life, relationship and I unfollow all those content creators you mean because what they're teaching it's just really a limiting belief or as what you said black and white thinking which is so unreal and unrealistic leaving no room for people to be themselves
![Disorganized Attachment 101[ AKA Fearful Avoidance]](/img/n.gif)
Omg!!!! I LITERALLY was so happy when I saw the name Thais Gibson you guys are both my favorite and this collab is SO UNEXPECTEDDDD
I dated someone who was disorganized and also bipolar…it was a roller coaster but he’s still a good person. I understand how his chaotic childhood lead to him being that way. Anyway who is disorganized, we see you, we know it’s hard to heal your wounds. Sending love to all of you ❤
As a recovering DA, it's great to finally see some compassion and understanding. I am tired of seeing all manner of dating experts vilifying DAs. We are human beings and want connection, too. Thank you for giving us some dignity.
1000%!! I hold space for everyone who’s going through it, we can’t use it as an excuse but an explanation im here all day 🫶🏼
This episode made me feel so seen and validated! Especially the way that Thais Gibson described her own experience, because that’s me to a T! I also loved the 5 stepping stones that were shared to heal your attachment wounds. I definitely took notes! Thank you Sabrina for continuing to create such meaningful content, I’ve already shared your podcast with so many people, and already sent this one to my friend 💜
So so happy to help babes!!!! Loved the convo and love Thais so much, thank you for being part of the family!!!
Hi Sabrina 😁. I’m glad that you two met up! Thais is amazing!
She’s the best!! Love her!!
I loved this conversation! I do wish that the focus was more on disorganized attachment instead of the usual anxious-avoidant mix.
Exactly! I came to leave this comment, I'm glad someone noticed it as well.
Loved your podcast, I had disorganized attachment style and I am working with my therapist on that, your podcast really helped me.
So so happy to help 🥹🫶🏼🫶🏼
I joke with my husband that he isn't rushing; he's Italian. I suspect he's dismissive-avoidant and I’m disorganized. He used to rush me a lot, which didn’t feel good, and I struggled to communicate my needs and boundaries. However, a few months ago, when he tried to rush me again, I told him I needed more time and suggested he go ahead and I’d meet him later. He was able to internalize that, apologized, and has since shown more patience. There have been a few instances like this, and he’s been learning to be more understanding.
Hi! I'm in a relationship with a disorganized woman. I love her her so much but it's difficult because she's often withdrawn from her own body. I've told her that her needs and boundaries are important to me because I want to be good to her and respect her. But she struggles to talk about it. Do you have any advice on how I can help her feel more safe in sharing those things? 😊
ericbjurling6626 Reaching the point where I could express my needs and boundaries came from doing the inner work. In the past, I might not have always believed they mattered, but I began to listen to my body when something felt off and started honoring that feeling. Change has to come from within, so she will need to be open to it herself. The best thing you can do is to be emotionally available and model that openness, creating a safe space for her to share. When she does, focus on listening rather than jumping to solutions.
Thanks for always making such great content! I'm currently dating a disorganized attached person and it's sometimes hard, but I love her so much and she's working really hard with a marriage and family therapist. All the advice is welcome 💚
Thank you. I hope for more content to help disorganized. It helps me with my lovely girlfriend ❤
SO HAPPY TO SEE THAIS!!!! ❤️
She truly is the best!!!
@@Sabrina_zohar loved this episode babe grateful for u💫
Thank you for making this! My attachment is disorganized and it can feel frustrating & lonely when only anxious or avoidant attachments get talked about.
Love both you ladies. Gonna enjoy this one! Thanks for consistently helping me get a grip.
Thais Gibson is excellent.
I love your podcast. It has changed my idea of dating.
I recently got ghosted by an avoidant woman that i was talking to for a while but went on a few dates with. She ghosted me a couple weeks after i had took her out for her bday. We were coworkers for a bit, but when she promoted out, we dated a bit more.
Its just weird to me she would do that because we were pretty close. Nothing was official between us though
We still follow each other on Instagram but we dont talk to each other anymore. Its been 2 months.
Watching Thaiss’ videos really helped me to understand avoidants more and brought me to realize that her ghosting is her own thing and not because of me.
Gonna keep the no contact going and hopefully she realized what shes done.
Good luck. It's hard having any kind of relationship with them particularly if they are severely avoidant. I've got an avoidant man in my life right now that has ghosted me twice in 6 months. He knows he's got issues with intimacy. He knows it's not okay to ghost and he still does it because he goes into a spiral of shame and self-loathing. I'm not initiating contact, but I do respond when he reaches out. He said he started seeing a therapist as a result of my last text to him before he last disappeared. I'm wishing him the best 🤷🏽♀️ They have to work on themselves and if they're not actively doing that then you shouldn't stick around and deal with that kind of behavior. Truthfully, regardless of whether they're working on themselves or not, if your mental health is being negatively impacted then it's best to discontinue the relationship.
i love your podcast. your show has really shifted my perspective on how i approach dating and relationships in general. i really enjoy hearing from you during your solo’s but i’d love to hear even more from your guests when you do have them on the show. more of their thoughts and their fresh perspectives would be really great to hear! anyway, big fan of the show
Great podcast, thank you both so much !!❤
Followed you for a while but just started listening to your podcasts yesterday with Kamie and it CHANGED my mindset like an instant 360 change. OMG I started to suddenly unlearn everything about dating, life, relationship and I unfollow all those content creators you mean because what they're teaching it's just really a limiting belief or as what you said black and white thinking which is so unreal and unrealistic leaving no room for people to be themselves
It IS f..king hell. I think I am a FA, and it perfectly describes the shit I went through all my life
I totally get it babes, here for you!