WHAT YOU INVESTED IN THE RELATIONSHIP
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- What you invested in the narcissistic relationship. You invested so much your time your money, your effort your love, your empathy. The narcissist invested very little after the bomb stage. The narcissist took everything that possibly could from you. The narcissist had very little invested in the relationship other than to keep you strong along as much as they possibly could. The narcissist doesn’t care about anybody but themselves. The path is to go out contact and block these people. Sending positive positive energy and abundance. Namaste
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Can't thank you enough Andrew. So many things hit home. I broke up with the Narc in 2008 because i sensed something was wrong. I changed jobs in 2011 and she got back into my life. Tried dating her for another 6 months and sensed something very wrong so i broke up with her again. Very next words out of her mouth were "i'm pregnant". I married her because i wanted my child to have a two-parent household. Was discarded last year, and get this!-She tells me she HATED me since 2008 because i broke up with her, and she only came back into my life in 2011 to get revenge! Evil Demon. With your help i am clawing my way out of the pit and hope the divorce is final very soon. Thank you again. Your work helps Many people like me.
Welcome..🙏💜😌🙌
@michaelbosi8104 that is shocking you poor soul, isn't it sickening how kids are used to manipulate they have no shame
I find myself still trying to make"sense" of it, but now in a different way. You've painted a picture of a Narcissist, so empty
and hollow, they can play the "long haul game" and go through life, never examining their morality one iota.Thanks for the
share of one cold, soulless Narcissist and the damage they can do to a person's life. They don't grow, but get worse.
You're in the right place, bro
❤When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥ He is coming to avenge!
👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥🥳
As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations.
Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤😊
Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥
😍
Trust in what He did on the cross for you! He died for our sins and defeated the death by rising 3 days later!
🙌❤🥹
👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌
👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now!
👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers!
Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins.
He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse).
You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤
Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤🥹
What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it!
🙌❤🥹
When you meet a man that is kind and normal, you won’t know what to do, it flows so easily, no pain, no drama and all respect
Your videos are the friend I need when I'm struggling in the bad days.
Me too.
Same!
Andrew is lighting up the Earth!❤
❤When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥ He is coming to avenge!
👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥🥳
As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations.
Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤😊
Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥
😍
Trust in what He did on the cross for you! He died for our sins and defeated the death by rising 3 days later!
🙌❤🥹
👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌
👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now!
👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers!
Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins.
He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse).
You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤
Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤🥹
What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it!
🙌❤🥹
Absolutely ❤
The amount of life draining energy it took to “ not make him angry…or else” for decades is indescribable. Nearly 8 years out now- the freedom is beautiful.
The same for me .
I totally can relate to this I am 8 years out too, videos help so much I am catching up with all of them, I felt my soul was drained out of me now my soul is being restored thanks to Andrew and all supports from the tribe
@@paulineEirefairygirl5067 I am .... (have to use my fingers) 1 year out. I have "silly" money again. I bought a Dozer - I am remodeling my house - I am fixing my Lakehouse - Got my savings back up - talk to old friends and join them for Parties again. This is so much better.
❤When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥ He is coming to avenge!
👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥🥳
As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations.
Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤😊
Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥
😍
Trust in what He did on the cross for you! He died for our sins and defeated the death by rising 3 days later!
🙌❤🥹
👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌
👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now!
👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers!
Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins.
He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse).
You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤
Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤🥹
What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it!
🙌❤🥹
Keep it up, little brother. Never stop teaching others how to release themselves from the quicksand.🎉
Congratulations on 200,000 subscribers, Andrew!! 🎉 🥳 🎊. Namaste 🙏
Congrats for the 200k, Andrew.
You saved us.
Such a huge achievement!!!🎉🎉❤❤
Here, here!! 🤘🤘
Andrew you are the bomb, you are super clear.. thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Congratulations on reaching 200k. Your hard work is greatly appreciated. Thank you for helping me and so many of us. All the best to you Andrew, always. 🙌💜🎉✨️
Always love your scenery.💚🌿🌳🌲💚🌲🌳🌿💚
I never knew one second that another person can be so evil, tormentic acid and exploitative... my God I have learned a hard lesson, but I am on top again..I have the power..narcs are just small kids and teenagers in their mind..get away from narcs as soon as you can..my daughter is staying in my house with her narc mother..I am glad my daughter has a roof over her head even being with a narc monster with four mobiles doing her smoke show trying to catch new fish... narcs are puffer fish, a very toxic fish...the more you invest in a narc the more you will lose...the narc story has no end and no ending of abuse, even kids they will abuse full speed..keep up your good work Andrew and get richer day by day
ANDREW SAVED ME I LOVE YOU
I remember the awful feeling of trying my hardest to build a life with a man who did not want stability. I finally got a lightbulb moment and realized my ex-narc wanted it that way.
He thrived in the crushing chaos. It just about ripped me apart......
Hey Andrew . Love your passion. They are crazy individuals
Continuing to put up with the Narc is like touching a redhot burner knowing it hurt the first time and is going to always hurt
This is totally me. I was earning more, i put in so much more financially and emotionally. I was insanely lovebombed looking back.
I was married and had a child.
One thing you said just hit me. She wanted to be a friend, to have someone to go shopping with.
Not a parent. Astonishing.
Oh and then she practised parental alienation. The most cruelest form of abuse. To poison the one thing in this world i loved and valued beyond anything. That is gone now.
They really are evil people. That is accurate. They are evil corrupt malignant entities.
However, i am free of her and indifferent. I have no reason to have any communication at all and that suits me.
Congratulations on the viewer's
I had alienation too very cruel
@@paulineEirefairygirl5067 God bless you
Horrible memories so much like all the comments.Very well said. I can look back now that I left & live in peace for the most part. That's very important to go no contact then you can find yourself & grow..
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He took away most of my life; happiness, confidence, energy, money, just to name a few. It has been a year since I freed myself from him. I did not know what happiness was for two decades. I am now very happy. Never again!
Good you for .🫶
I've gone through the same process for years . Decades in fact . Going to get out soon thanks to andrew giving me a reailty check. 😢
The narcissist likes everything you like while planning to destroy everyone and everything around you. The worst kind of toxicity.
Yes the more invested...the more they disappointed & thought of me as a possession to control, because that's what a narc does.... RUN!!!
Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
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"To Control" is how they roll and we'll roll right over them with a bigger steam roller
( Not the ones for Hair, the ones for asphalt) !
@jhavajoe3792
Yeah...on a very hot day & they can melt into the ground just like the wicked witch in the Wizard of OZ.
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@@marieeakin8534 Hahha! 😆 That melting Wicked Witch image is a universal relief to children, carried over
to adults. All it means is evil spells have no effect on Karma.
The more you invest in the narcissist..... the more you lose.
The super power you have is the ability to get the things you lost back.
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Know that it's a cliche, but I truly believe that if you don't learn to love yourself that you will be forever stuck in the muck and mire that you have lived.❤
Yes, I invested so much...
Acceptance is the harshest lesson and the most important to learn. letting go of the illusion and accept things as they are.
Release your gaps within, know your values, retain your boundaries so that there is no more neediness and emptiness driving your choices.
Thank you for this video in the beautiful green forest, Andrew.
Stay safe everyone! 🌲🍃❤🍃🌲
Yes!congratulations for reaching 200k.so glad for you and everyone who is getting the wisdom.you are a blessing 🙏🏻❤️
I’m 66 years old and I have no relationship with my children or my grandchildren because of my ex-husband. I’ve never met three out of my seven grandchildren. And four of them have been taken away from me by their parents who are also narcissists. I feel the pain, but I realize I have to keep living❤
Same here, to a degree. But I'm working on it. Keep reaching out to them. At least you'll know you tried.
If you have tried and they haven't responded just keep away and let it run it's cause....its bloody hard work but your coming worse off
Either way if they spoke and got in touch you would have to be very careful because they would be watching your every move...tbh stay away and have your decent friends and no talking to the wrong people
So heartbreaking but you have think of yourself my friend and look after you because your no1
These people come to a full stop at some point and never ever blame yourself
Becky 🇬🇧 🇬🇧 XX
@@lindawalters1836❤
@@markallen5764❤
Same, my narcissistic husband discarded me, then got my narcissistic son to withhold my 2 year old grandson from me. It’s extra shocking when you have a narcissist child as well 😢
It is so true. Any relationship with a narcissist is a huge loss. On all possible levels which is why we should cut off all the people that we discern as narcisistic. Have nothing to do with evil, it destroys everything.
Absolutely true .
Andrew, you described my husband (now deceased from cancer) perfectly. I didnt even realize what was wrong with my husband was narcissism until after he passed. He used to tell me "he knew everything". One thing most people dont realize is the narcassist makes it impossible to leave them alot of the times. (threats you know they are capable of carrying out). Hes been gone 10 yrs & I'm still trying to undo the damage he did between me & my kids.
Sorry... But he most likely died of cancer because he was a narcissist... Bless your heart.❤❤❤
Honestly that's the problem nobody cares except they day why don't you leave. A system built on it's a man's world is falling apart. Weak people.
Sometimes the victim has no where to go... With teams of people sent to false exclude... Terrible sons a hitches
Yes, I did not know that my sister I loved so much was a narcissist, until she passed away almost 1.5 years ago..I came across ANDREW'S videos after dealing with an x narc friend of 35 years. and one of 5 years.,it's then I realized how many narcissist I had as so called friends..
Same here. My narc died and it took 3 years till I found Andrew (by chance) to figure out what the heck happened. I'm still mystified by some past behaviors because my mind doesn't work that way. I will never understand why they throw away happiness with both hands!
God bless and thankyou..you help us so much.🙏🏻❤️
Congrats 200K 💜
I needed this today brother, thank you
What amazes me, is just how true every word, every statement is. My experience 100%. Thanks for sharing. Im doing so much better away from the narc. I am thriving!
Welcome..😌😌💯💜
These lovely NaRcs. Beg for a mommy/wifey straight from the other side of the GaLaxy. It is never enough…our attempts to help are never overlooked. God is on My side from DAY 1. Acceptance that your own family are scattered Narcs. So be it. Run…walk…integrity and self-compassion are KeY. Life Myself more and can see through everything and everyone when I sLOW down and accept TRUTH. New chapter begins TODAY. Mistakes are lessons learned! ❤😂.
P.S. Counter-parenting, counter-partnering means we DO EVERYTHING! We are mightier for IT ALL. MAY WE ALL EVOLVE EVER SWIFTER. It is ok as God helps to rebuild financial thanks to LifETIME of RESILIENCE…🎉🎉🎉
Romance meant errand/GAL FRIDAy every minute when in their company. Stay a distant so you can breathe ON YOUR OWN AGAIN. They FABRICATE…we CREATE from LOvE. 💕.
Promises, promises..all talk, no action.. and I invested so much.. tried too long.. and 💯 on the doors of abundance opening.. it’s truly an experience! Great video and beautiful area!
Thank you Andrew for holding my hand thru this. U are truly a blessing to me and a beautiful kind soul ❤❤❤
Investment of time…it’s like sitting at slot machine, depositing money in hopes of winning, getting nothing back…..then walking away and then next person puts in a quarter and hits the jackpot…..
That’s like what it feels like being the only child dealing with narcissistic parents….reaching the pinnacle ( as you’ve mentioned) and walking away….then your sibling is the sympathetic ear, the golden child to the narcissistic parents….and offers support after having done nothing for the elderly sick narcissistic parent, and gets the whole inheritance….
This happened to me and my husband with his family and now we’re experiencing it with mine….
The narcissist holds inheritance over your head….
It's not your stuff,remember that,no one owes you anything, and why do you want anything from cursed people, demons,how did they get that stuff?, did they lie,cheat,rob others. think about it..
Thank you for your encouraging videos and words.
I love how you repeat things. I realized as I'm healing that each thing starts to make sense, that didn't in the beginning. I still have a long road to travel yet, but I'm always amazed at how many people are affected by this thing I had never heard of and each story is so similar..how are these people able to get by for so long undetected?
Like all of you, I gave and gave and got little to nothing in return except for constantly churning stomach, frayed nerves, headaches, stress rash etc. So happy I left on my terms, using the powerful no contact and silence for my answer.
I gave myself the gift of good bye. The churning stomach, stress rash and crazy making is gone replaced with peace. One of the beautiful things is, once the narc is gone, peace ensues. Close the door and don’t look back.
Gorgeous woodland setting, Andrew , thank you. Congratulations on 200k!
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The Lord says, “I will give you back what you lost…. ~ Joel 2:25
The tone of your comment, sounded like you resolved so much and are walking a peaceful path. Beautiful!👍
Again Andrew..... You hit the nail on the head.
ALCON: If you meet a Woman even just casually on the phone and you start talking and everything is going great..... then out of the blue clear sky.... she asks you to do something for her.... something like help her fix her car or landscape her back yard for her or help her paint her house or take care of her horse.......RUN !!!!!
And by NO MEANS let them clean your House or Office for you..... because they are going through all your stuff getting as much intel as they possibly can.
And they LOVE to take long expensive Trips and eat VERY expensive Breakfasts........as long as you're the one paying
And when you are on vacation....you get to not only carry your gear.... you get to carry all of hers while she is on the phone with her friends telling them what a great time she is having.
She's probably reading this right now because she had the password to my UA-cam Account.
Sometimes I wish I was that woman,,lol..just one time, in my life. nice vacation paid for,or an elegant dinnner, in an upscale restaurant,dressed to the T ,still waiting x 31 years..
It's so painful!😢
17:12 Run is right !
@@MattyNelson-rs3ik Won't happen. And if you see her reaching into her Purse to grab her wallet to pay...... YOU'RE DREAMING -WAKE UP !!!
@@emilywilson7308 Yes it is.
I know there are some really good and trustworthy Women on this Venue, but then there are those that will use a Man's God Given Wired Abilities against him.
Some Women will use his Hard Wired Skills to get what they want and then dump him (happened to me several times)
Sometimes they even marry the Man and get even more than they wanted.
Such evil Women
I always love the scenery.
Love being outside in the woods.
After I listen to you I feel good thank you Andrew
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YES, its time to Invest in ourselves and Those we Love,.we wasted our Time it Went into a Black Hole into nothingness thats what they Are,,,They Consume us ,Cause they're Envious of our Authenticity,,❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️Believe in Yourself and Your Core Beliefs Always,, 🤗💞💞
Finn
Ain't it the truth! 👍❤🌠
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Thank you, Flower!❤
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❤When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥ He is coming to avenge!
👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥🥳
As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations.
Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤😊
Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥
😍
Trust in what He did on the cross for you! He died for our sins and defeated the death by rising 3 days later!
🙌❤🥹
👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌
👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now!
👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers!
Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins.
He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse).
You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤
Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤🥹
What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it!
🙌❤🥹
“MANIPULATION IS WHEN THEY BLAME YOU FOR YOUR REACTION TO THEIR TOXIC BEHAVIOUR BUT NEVER DISCUSS THEIR DISRESPECT THAT TRIGGERED YOU.”
NAMASTE ANDREW THANK YOU✨
Welcome..😌😌💜🙏
Thanks, Andrew. 100-percent correct. The narcissist, when you thought he should have cared about something, didn't appear to care which way he was sending himself in eternity.
It still feels lonely when I have no one. 7 years I invested.
Don’t give up! Someone truly lovely is waiting for you. Sending love❤
Try hypnosis to forget someone, I like Steve g Jones but there are many to try, I think they have really helped me I'm just 4 1/2 months no contact
Lovely inspiring video,T.Y. Andrew,, Namaste,,✨❤️❤️🕺
BeaUUUtiful video Andrew !! 🤸🏼♥️😂
"Counter-parenting" should be the word of the year. Narc wanted ME to raise her daughter.. to prepare her for college. And I did. But narc wanted to be daughter's BFF, and when I said bedtime is 10PM, narc said 2am.. when I said wake up by 10am, narc said 2pm. How many times did I come home from work at 6PM, I would cook dinner, but Narc's daughter had just finished the "breakfast" narc prepared at 5PM?? Narc worked against me in trying to be a family and both she and her daughter resented me for doing the right thing. I hope this helps somebody out there. Step-parents.... don't take on this role. You'll never be appreciated, or respected, or given credit for being responsible. You will be ostracized as the "disciplinarian" for saying "No, you can't stay up all night and sleep all day."
The Narc will triangulate or form wedges any way with whomever they can. You stayed the responsible one, did the right thing ...
for you to take on a step-parent role was a loving, empathic thing in your character. You don't need those other 2 to validate your
character. Nah- their loss. Let them find some other person to vilify. Chances are-- they are going to have it explode in their faces one day.
SO TRUE! But You can't even be 'the nice parent' they will still sabotage you. I married a guy with 3 daughters who had lost their mother young. I was determined to be the mother they didn't have. So I basically became their BFF. I brought my 3 kids with me. What happened was even tho I drove his 14yo to school every day, and picked her up, and taught her how to drive the next year, 40+hours, I never once tried to parent her. We had agreed we would each discipline our own kids. But what I didn't know, is she was very jealous of me taking away her daddy's time. She didn't like sharing her house with us, but I didn't know this for awhile. And she was probably a budding narcissist as she targeted my little girl and said she was annoying. So I told my daughter not to ask to go in her room. But I kept finding out my husband was upset because of this or that, and I never could figure out why he was upset about it.
Finally one day he let it slip that she had told him that my daughter was bragging or left a mess out that I knew she hadn't touched and had seen his daughter doing it. She was lying and setting my daughter up. She was sweet and shy and tried to stay out of their way. It was heartbreaking. And when I finally figured out that so the things he was upset about were lies or made up problems that she cried on his shoulder about. She was a seemingly sweet girl, she was gorgeous, and I did not see the wolf.
It all came crumbling down when I asked her to please plunge the toilet next time it gets clogged instead of blaming my daughter. My voice was slightly raised for the first time.
She said FU to me
And her dad told me to get my kids and get out of his house.
What a nightmare.
I'm sorry you went through it too.
Maybe you can use what I realized today. I didn't lose a relationship I got rid of a problem. If I must say this was very releasing for me.
That’s an awesome insight for all of us who have been abused by narcissists. Thank you. ❤
Bravo!!! 👍💥
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I can say same here!!! Since i got rid of the problem which was the ex narc wife who left because she saw that I was too tough and that her tactics were failing miserably and not working at all, my life has gotten Soo much better!!! Now I can do whatever I want without someone trying to control where I go, where I work, etc
Yes❤
It blows me away that I can now realize what's going on. If I told my son, he'd give me the side eye.
💚💙💜That Background💯❣️❣️❣️
Thank you so much Andrew for detailing every aspect of what a narc abused me financially, psychologically and greatly affected my health to the point where I am seeing specialist. He never ever wanted a relationship because he finally lost everything in his life and he's hurting now. I told him that it was finally over though he doesn't want me moving on. After 4.5-yrs I'm trying to rebuild my life.
When they are all your siblings, you are walking through the valley of death.
I love the woodland 🌲great dodge too ☺️. A relationship like no other, the level of toxicity and abuse is beyond belief. I'm out and enlightened...I'm living....thank you 🙏💜😊
❤❤❤ thankful sweet soul
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I'm ready for abundance. Now that I have removed so many narcissists from my life, I am striving for self-sufficiency, security and success. When I achieve it, I won't have to worry about them coming around to collect what they think they deserve. 🙌
:::Listening to "Sun in Your Eyes" by Grizzly Bear:::
Holy Cow, you just explained my "friendship"!
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Thank you for sharing Andrew, love and blessings to you and community ❤🙏✨️
The narcissist is a taker. You invest in the relationship & then they disappear in the snap of a finger. Years you can't get back.
When you are healed, you will no longer think about what you invested in the relationship. Something for everyone healing to look forward too.
Awesome video Andrew 🙌. Thank you. Love your background & the dirt path 🌲🌿💧 God bless ☀️ 🪰🪰 🙃
Stay strong everyone
Andrew.... I apologize in advance but I have one more comment and I will stop......BUT ......
And this is in my Case .... dunno if you experienced this.
My Narcissist left me with a GIFT. Funny as that sounds. I can "almost" thank her for it.
And you are sooooo RIGHT.... You are STRONGER (in this way)
I now have the ABILITY to remove Toxic People from my Life with no effort at ALL. It has become so easy. Almost fun.
When she left..... after the healing.... even before the healing.... I removed a Friend that I knew since I was 8 years old.
This Friend was exhibiting all the traits of a Narcissist ...but this is an old Friend. (Old Friends are the Best Friends..right?)
But... I don't talk to that Friend any more. Good Riddance and they are asking all our mutual friends about me - HA !!!
Have weeded out 3 or 4 more in about a year. (this is almost fun - like finishing a final exam and knowing you passed)
And I am now Educated !!!! I now see and the hear the signs of the Narcissist.....BEFORE the relationship even STARTS. I am sensitive to their plans and I have he ability to THWART THEM.
Make no mistake, your harsh, skin peeling Pain is a Blessing in disguise.
Steve Harvey once said..... "For every Trial you endure - there is a Lesson and a Blessing"
Very beautiful view behind ya 🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲
Exactly why I feel nothing at all for my former friend, who I gave my heart and soul to her. When she didn’t heed my help anymore she discarded me. When her mask fell off , wow unbelievable horror of a person. I have so much anger.
Thank you so much! 3 months out and slowly recovering....
The love bomb stage. This has definately ruined me in any future relationship. Show me....I am no longer interested in words. Actions only. Ty my friend.
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Andrew, You have been a guiding✨light. Thank you. Namaste 🙏😌
I invested it all and then I divorced it all
I love you so mutch i was thinking it was done but it isnt❤
Love ❤️ you Andrew. You are a treasure. May God keep you always. Praying 🙏 for your continued healing ❤️🩹. Your videos have helped me so much. God bless you always.
It's only been 2 months since I found my strength to walk away. It feels so much longer. He moved on within a few days to a vulnerable single mum with her own house just like me. I feel set back after having a nightmare where he was shouting at me, he lived next door to me and I was running away in the rain with no shoes on.
Ah! The revealing dream! Running away or Walking away-- both Great moves, in the awake reality or Dreamland. 👍
Andrew is always spot on I didn’t have a honeymoon either. Thought I was the only one 😞
I didn't have a honeymoon either!!! The most we did was stayed the night at a fancy hotel the night of our wedding!!! Everytime my family tried to offer us money to go someplace for honeymoon and i would talk to her(the ex narc wife) about it, she would throw a rage fit and say "I don't want to go on a honeymoon, I don't want to feel like I would owe the place that we would go to anything"!!! It was so bizarre and confusing I couldn't believe it!!!! These people are psychosss and evil at the same time!!!!
That trail looks awesome!!! I need to start doing that and so many other things again, miss that..
Door of abundance opened now❤
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Beautiful background- look what the rain helped create 🌳 ❤
As far as the investments, it took awhile for me to come to understand (and accept) that those investments were what gained me the education I needed and it was very expensive- not just financially. We are all worth this investment and we are now stronger.
Wishing everyone a blessed evening🙏✨💖
I agree! No regrets!❤
Oh wow its sooo intense! I am so glad i am now over 4 months out with no contact
21 years with him I feel at times truly so confused
The entire time i thought it was me and if only i did this or did that it would eventually mean our family would become what i hoped for yet the whole time he was working against me
Spot on Andrew ❤
I have been watching your videos for a couple of days and I am 69 now and feel I have wasted 8 years,not money but everything else.Since Xmas I have been broken Hearted and on medication.When she told me I need my space I did show emotion 😂with some tears in my eyes and she said I don't like weak men,I'm not weak and I can see that now I was living wife a narcissist,I tried my best and thought I would be with har until I fell over.Thankyou Andrew,I lost my wife after 25years together on the 29/07/2007🎉to late to start again
There is some one who is kind out there waiting fir for you..take care of your health first...don't become a hospice husband..
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Any person uttering, "I don't like Weak ..." usually don't know what inner strength is. There are gentle, loving people that
that will surprise everyone when that empathic person's back is against the wall or leave you in the dust in an "endurance run." An insult is an insult. Give her "her space" hopefully in outer space. Mend well. 69yrs.? You're still a kid to a 106 yr. old!
He Will Restore
The LORD says, "I will give you back what you lost to the swarming locusts, the hopping locusts, the stripping locusts, and the cutting locusts." ~ JOEL 2:25 NLT
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Lord is my protector. Pray thee is doing OK today. I made it and can see clearly NOW. Congrats to all of YOU BEAUTIFUL SOUL FAMILY. Love indeed to ALL
I invested my heart and soul.
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Yes, that's the hardest part to comprehend .. For me It's totally broken me after investing decades . and him. Well, lets just say he is not affected because he tells me you didn't hurt me . 💔
I gave all.
Helpful..thankyou...cold truths but they can't take away the bond with nature...it freaks them out.. beautiful background.
I loved watching you at the beautiful Carolinas
Nailed it!!
Replay✋🏾
Awesome Video 👍😎
I always post a comment before your teaching. You just said quicksand, and now I'm going to replay what you said. I said quicksand in one of my posts tonight before today's teacubg.
I didn't just invest, I was re-traumatised, back to my childhood abuse. My Nex knew everything about me on the first evening we met, I didn't realise I knew nothing about him, except that he has a child with someone. Two months later he told me everything about it and I wanted to leave the train we sat on, to visit his sister for Christmas, immediately. He began the typical narcissistic tactics immediately and I stayed, unhappy (which I kinda was, from week one). Bit by bit, I found out more about the things he did while we were together and when asking him why he didn't tell me about his issues with addiction, etc, he said: "If I had told you, you wouldn't have wanted to be with me, in the first place." I didn't understand what was happening then and I didn't know he's a Narcissist, but about six months after leaving this 2 year relationship, totally depressed and suicidal, I learned about him being a covert Narcissist (like my mother) and that what he did to me all this time, was abuse.
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Oh I made the one cardinal mistake, no I didn’t engage with the narc. What I did was visit with some of my neighbors outside and I started to hear the lies that she was spreading from people she was focusing on now. I have been sooo goood about not saying anything about this person. When. I realized that she was playing another friend of mine I spoke up and clarified the lie with the truth. One of the other neighbors realized whom I was talking about and dared to say it better not be my little friend… as if I would then stop truth telling. I still told the truth. I stirred up a hornets nest. Fffffffff @@kkkkkk. Why do I allow myself to be drawn in? Now as you all know I will have to deal with this mess until it’s over. She finally got me to defend, explain ugh. We all know here this goes from her. I am so disappointed in myself.
Don't be disappointed in yourself. It was "damned if you clarified with the truth and damned if you didn't." I live where there are constantly new neighbors. This education has saved me. 2 days ago, I had a letter opened with a Narc neighbor scribbling "Sorry, it was placed in my mailbox by mistake." She opened the envelope and I know she read it. That neighbor already had raised red flags, trying to get personal info.When I saw her later, she started a conversation ( I cut it short ) without any mention of the letter. Why? Because, she knows she'd have to make an effort to lie. It put a damper on the day, but I have to shrug it off and go with "I'm glad I don't make excuses or doubt my instincts like I used to." Too many stupid people and they ( neighbors ) should know better ( Pardon the vulgarity ) : "Don't crap where you pitch your tent." --- Dig in. Stand your ground with solid Grey Rock. All the best!
I know the disappointment, you do so well for so long then get sucked in once and awhile. Thats how persistent the devil is, they don't sleep until they make someone stumble. However i bet there was a time when you didn't even know what a narc is and it would have been much much worse by getting sucked in much deeper? Gratitude my friend, Gratitude
@@jhavajoe3792 I agree with you that it is a no win situation. In hind sight, family, friends, and neighbors all make their choices no matter what we do to voice ourselves or to grey rock. Grey rock does empower us when we have nothing else we can do.
Years ago, my grandfather was in a care facility with Alzheimer's. He kept asking about my grandmother. Finally, I had to tell him that she had passed away. He burst into sobbing tears. I've weighed it in my mind over the years at times. Sometimes, the Truth is necessary to voice. We can't beat up on ourselves for voicing it when needed. Hornets nests would have swarmed in time. No, we don't go out and hit a nest with a stick. But angry nests will act up because others enrage them. Most of the time we grey rock. But at times the truth lets others show their true colors. Once we know who they really are, we become invisible. In this life, in this time period, the Truth does need to stand. Yes, it is rough to trigger a mess. That will fade in time. Just weigh your battles and your grey rocks. Best wishes.
How do people become such good friends with neighbors,,I'm 68 and I never could or did..
Totally right Andrew they want to be popular parent while alienating the other parent, manipulation on speed very damaging to relationships
Damn I've been watching you for years now and finally realized who you reminded me of with the hair back, Steven Segal haha.
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I'm trying to imagine that. Andrew would have to gain 130lbs. and squint a lot more ?? 🙄
@@jhavajoe3792 imagine harder
Been tough but I made it!
Keep going 🫶 .
Stay strong. I'm finding a way to do that also .
Thanks.
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I left him after 23 years and its been like waking up from a nightmare. He had normalised so much abuse, I was drained, sick, fighting for my sanity after being told I was crazy for YEARS.
Thank you, and bless you for your content. I am nearly 1 year out, and it's been hard, terrifying at times and very isolating, but I KNOW it's the best, bravest thing I've ever done. My kids are still having to deal with him, but I see them figuring out why I had to leave and how much calmer, peaceful, and reliable life is with me.
I would like more information about helping my kids deal with his tactics if you are able to speak on this 🕊🙌🙏🏻⚘️
Welcome..😌😌💜🙏
How in the world do you guys live with someone like that for so long?
I didnt invest much into that relationship because I saw the red flags but still chose to stay and the narc didn't give me much but problems so I decided not to invest too much of my time and energy into it. I just regret staying in a toxic relationship so long and letting everything escalate.
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It sucks, starting over. I'm in my old age - 64 in September - but there's that small, steady silver lining that helps me be more determined each day to fully recover.
Yes, it sucks being alone in my old age, barely scraping by, with a week-old fractured right arm. But, but, but, in identical circumstances with the narc everything is the same only without the unspeakable verbal abuse, the blame, the criticism, the narc's ever-joyful below the belt, in the sacred zone devaluation attacks. It was a bottomless pit of names that couldn't have come from any other place than hell.
I'm going to rise from the ashes where I find myself and fly like a phoenix(sp?). I'm going to produce good fruit from the soil I didn't choose to be in.
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Healthy relationship is not in the vocabulary of the narcissist.....leave when you can.... accept help and support from those you can trust. Rebuild....it is possible...there is a fulfilling life waiting for you, the one you deserve 💜🌟☺️
Yes I can remember they said after getting to know me more that all ex girlfriends left him because he didn't have much money then I ended up offerings him to pay his things lost few thousand dollars and he made stories endlessly to borrow more and after agreeing he's looking for life partner like I did at the beginning saying he liked all same he didn't was pretending then saying he's not financially prepared for family , but I found myself convincing him that it's fine, and I recognise that I was stupid then to give to a foolish person and that was my weakness definitely. Great video thank you 😊
Yes, i invested way too much and too many years . and feel utterly destroyed .. Loss of energy etc And him well lets just say he is not .
Don't be hard on yourself it was a lesson, and those were flying monkeys 💜
This was for DMAC
I was sucked dry by a vampire, but I am moving on after so many attempts she destroyed me financially, physically and emotionally. I wish I was strong enough to get it out sooner.
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that background is something😊
True story. Word salad.
Im staying here till you come get me, cuz the Carolinas is where I want to be 😀😄😁😆
My ex had the audacity to expect me as a single mother of 2 to invest more money in our daily life than he did as a multi millionaire. I didn't do that but it was a constant silent fight. In the end he invested more than me regarding money but still I invested way more love and care. Now focussing on myself. Heading to one year of freedom in august and looking forward to celebrate the day I showed him the door.
👍 Money is important in this life, but not as important as your health and sanity. The Multi Mill baby was a fool his vision
could not see the value in your love and care. It may not happen for him again in his lifetime.
Andrew please let us in the community know when you write a book or have a seminar about your life.
I really hate triangulation.. Really hurts me but at the same time it pisses me off whenever I was being compared or had competition. 😒
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The second I gave her the ring, the devaluation got way worse.