your description of how jealousy feels resonated SO much with me. its like your stomach drops. i never really picked up on it before. i think ive mistaken it as inspiration, i want to emulate someone so badly that i get this surge of urgency and anxiety and this almost.. vengeful? desire to “outdo” them. and get to smirk about it. but that energy always burns out so fast and often turns to self deprecation, even when i do achieve the thing i wanted to emulate i think part of what makes turning jealousy into inspiration is that it feels like a blow to the ego. it feels like admitting that you are not as successful as another person, when you really wish you were or feel like you should be. but i think it comes down to knowing the insecurity youre conflicting with, as you said
i really do believe that jealousy is the worst emotion one can feel (if not dealt with properly ofc). Its not anger, not sadness...like i remember when i had some phases where i genuinely struggled with jealousy, and it really was the worst time in my life.
feel you, it's just such a disgusting emotion. You know, at least you can work with other emotions like anxiety, anger, or frustration, but jealousy is just so fucking useless and a pain to transform/ work with. I've learned it's best to avoid it and the most effective cure for it is focusing on yourself and what you can do, and just appreciate the hell out of that. Often jealousy is very illogical anyway
in my first long time relationship (when I was still quite young to be fair), I found myself feeling really jealous of their ex. it like, consumed me. but also because part of it was that there was a lot of things we had in common, but it felt like they were just doing it better. and part of it felt like privilege that I lacked too. and this is rare, but I just woke up one day and was like, “why??” this person had shown me nothing but kindness in all my interactions with them, and what felt like comparisons coming from my ex were mostly encouragements to befriend them because of our overlapping interests. and I was just kind of like, “okay, let’s try and look at this person for who they are not look at them with scorn for what I feel I am lacking”. and I truly felt like my world changed. but I mean, it’s an ongoing thing that I feel we have to work on too. I still get those moments of jealousy of course. one thing that has helped in recent years, is just framing it like “wow, i’m so happy for them. how cool that they can do that!” (or insert any topic of what i’m feeling envy toward). the world feels a lot less lonely when you don’t feel like everyone is purposely trying to “one up” you, and you’re putting yourself down as a result.
@@elantris-2002I feel Ike the more we avoid it, the more likely it may linger and make us resent them more. Jealous is an ugly feeling but nonetheless it’s a feeling. And it’s a normal feeling as well. Best we can do is acknowledge it, and change into something different
And about other feelings we can deal with it we can turn anger/sadness into lesson and put work into ourselves but jealousy is such a loser feeling you can't turn it into smth it's such a worse feeling.
my boyfriend cheated last year, and while he promised to change and did change his life around, i have never felt the same and i genuinely cannot look at pretty much ANY other woman without the gross emotion that she would be attractive in his eyes... and there's a lot of woman out there who like to show themselves off, which is fine but I don't believe I am amazingly beautiful, just kind of normal with good days and bad days, yet to me these girls are extraordinary and something ill never be that he might want, I am really good at staying positive and seeing the brighter side of things, but this is something that entirely consumes me and it is my only thought process when out in public with or without him, i just keep getting more and more insecure and i have no idea why i still think this way when i practice self love and really try to control the thoughts i have that come with this emotion pls someone give me answers
00:00 🌱 Shift jealousy into inspiration by adopting an abundant mindset instead of a scarcity mindset. 03:46 🔄 Jealousy can perpetuate negative emotions like resentment and discontent, leading to poisonous success. 06:18 🎯 Success without contentment and satisfaction is hollow and perpetuates jealousy and envy. 09:47 🚗 We can't replicate someone else's success story exactly, but we can draw inspiration from it to create our own path. 12:33 💡 Retrain your brain from jealousy to inspiration by acknowledging abundance and potential for personal growth. 15:04 🌟 Creating from a place of inspiration attracts positivity and genuine support, leading to authentic success. 16:56 🔍 Identifying and addressing personal insecurities underlying jealousy is crucial for personal growth and fulfillment. 19:03 💡 Understanding why you feel jealous can help you build a stronger foundation for personal growth. 20:53 🌱 Being genuinely happy for others' achievements can signal to yourself and the world that you are worthy of success too. 22:29 💬 Redirecting jealousy into curiosity and admiration can lead to personal growth and relief from negative emotions. 25:27 🔍 Deconstructing jealousy can reveal insecurities, allowing for personal growth and inspiration. 28:49 🚀 Training your brain to feel excited instead of jealous can lead to inspiration, action, and achievement.
Life is seriously crazy. I was listening to this on my way to school. When I got into first period, my friend told me class ranks were out. When I checked mine, it was lower than my friend’s. I was instantly filled with envy forgetting all that I listened to in this video. Then something in me snapped, I felt so stupid for being jealous of my own friend. I then thought of what you said and made it my goal to not surpass my friend, but to do better because I now know my goal is attainable. I literally turned jealousy into inspiration. Thank you for opening my eyes.
I understand. It is a lot of hard work and can be an intense process to change what we say about ourselves but I promise we are all on this learning journey together. I am sending you love and am proud of you regardless
I think a lot of the time jealousy comes from the mindset that "I feel like I am worthy to the success that the other person is having, but the reality is I just cant achieve that right now, and i dont want to admit the fact that maybe I am just not as worthy as that person"
watched your confidence is uncomfortable really brought a new perspective into my life, I've been insecure about my actions towards people I love and care about i always tend to keep it to myself, and understanding that its okay to speak how i feel towards them, its been a burden of mine to keep my thoughts to myself. Honestly thank you inayah
Wow, I was actually in a therapy session two weeks ago and jealousy - or feeling unworthy - spontaneously came up. I’m in my 30s but it’s crazy how jealousy and envy can creep up in so many areas of my life, and it shows that one never grows out of it entirely, but it *can* be managed. It definitely takes discipline for me to recognize it when I begin to feel it (like a dark looming storm cloud) and navigate through it.
so underrated … your advice is incredible and honestly been struggling with social media addiction that’s made my body dysmorphia worse and I appreciate your energy and videos 🥹💗💐 you’re beautiful please keep making these.
@@catfreestyleof course!! again thank you for sharing I feel so seen it’s so lovely to know I’m not alone❣️I’m sending you so so much love and healing energy your way as well 🌱
i am so glad that anything i have said resonates with you. i have struggled with similar things and i appreciate you being here, we are on this journey together xx
One more thing I just realised watching this is that Jealousy comes from this need/desperation for the thing and that if we dont have the exact thing, maybe our life isnt worth it. But what I never realised, especially since I've realised I'm struggling with this now, is that the nuances of me and my life and experiences needs something different for me to flourish. If you shed the certainity that this is exactly what my life needs, then you will become open to experiences that are more moulded to your path automatically. Believing that a conventional path is necessary for life to be good is the root of jealousy. I think my life needs a relationship and being wanted by everyone, but honestly the exact desperation for it is why I shouldn't get it now. Because desperation stems from insecurity and even if I get it, I wont feel the same way the friend I'm jealous of will and im stemming my growth by forcing myself to follow this path that on a deeper level might not give me what I actually need in life
Jealousy comes down to the feeling that someone else's mother or father loved them when we were not loved. But, this "love" is just attachment. True love is without attachment, it's basically freedom. When I detached myself from the conditional love of my father/mother and set boundaries my heart was set free. In doing this, my jealousy left me as well.
After my first girlfriend broke up with me I've been struggling with feelings of jealousy and insecurity for over 2 years now, longer than we were together. This video is a new perspective on jealousy, and I think it will help me recover. So thank you
I planned to watch this video on the same day, but I got busy and things happened. Not knowing this wasn’t the right time to do so, and I will watch it when I need it. I just ended a friendship because of jealousy, me and that friend we’re very similar to each other, and over time I got attached to them and when I started to be serious about us being closer than friends I found out they have a crush on another person. It triggered something in me and I’m not the same person anymore. I cried, but then I realized I might not have loved them for real. They were the only resource of love and comfort and not because we did have a special connection, by talking to them I found out that “comfort” is just their casual personality, and they do the same to all of their friends. I just want to be loved, I don’t want them. I kept being sad and mad but the second they talked to me everything looked pink with ribbons on it. I had a lot of split episodes on them, but they knew about none. When I realized I was grinding over the bare minimum, I knew I wasn’t in my right mind, there was something wrong with me, so I knew this friendship if I kept it continuing I would regret it so bad and it will ruin my life, I blocked them for OUR own good. Not just me.
You understand how to live and move through the whole of your life. I started a similar path a few months ago, and I've never been so at peace. It's also interesting to see how things manifest but also bring the challenges that come with them. As long as you practice your art form consistently, everything else falls into place.
I started running about 2,5 years ago and my pace/progress stagnated for about a year. Then my GF started running too about 7 months ago and quickly caught up to about my level, i got slightly jealous in a non toxic way and it pushed me to change my workouts and finally improve. I'm not letting her beat me 😄
I'm from Brazil and I found your channel through the trust video, and I thought you were an "improved" version of me, we even look alike physically, and then today you posted the video about jealousy, a lot of synchronicity! thanks!
I find myself feeling jealousy towards people for having things I can fundamentally never change about myself. Things like being born privileged and rich, which leads them to so many opportunities I would have to work twice as hard for. Just the idea of, the unfairness of it all makes me immediately give up. Instead of trying twice as hard I try twice as less, settling for less because my all consuming thoughts of it being so incredibly easy for them make me unable to put in any effort for myself, because what’s the point? I grow a thick air of venomous jealousy inside me and pretend it is enough for me. But I’m also like a self aware NPC, like even as I spiral into self destruction, I can’t help but be incredibly excruciatingly aware of what I am doing and still being unable to or rather unwilling to stop it. Like mitski saying “I am a forest fire And I am the fire and I am the forest And I am a witness watching it.” It’s like a twister form of vouyerism at your own self inflicted demise. So every time I see someone not just doing better than me, but being born with the privilege to do so, I don’t really see them at all, all I see is the catastrophe of my own life. All their successes are reminders of my inaction. I just don’t know how to not notice it. It’s everywhere.
I feel the same way as you, but seeing it from someone elses comment gave me a thought. This is YOUR life, not theirs. Sure, they may seem like they have it so easy and everything is going perfect for them, but in reality, every single one of us deals with issues and bad things. Not one of us is going to go through this life without problems. This is just your journey in life, to provide for yourself and your loved ones despite others being “handed” it. Trust me, they’re struggling in their own ways. I think being born into a poor environment is a gift and we tend to appreciate the little things more imo. You cannot compare yourself and expect to gain something from it, you’re only giving your energy and time to it.
i think this is what is meant by the subtle sense of “i am worthy of doing this, but in my own way… i can use whoever i’m feeling jealousy towards as a roadmap and not a direct guide so i can make my success my own” without putting all of their success down to what they were born into.
i never knew that i was a jealous person until i watch this video, the way she explains the feeling of jealousy reminds me of moments where i felt jealousy and wished to be them. I just realized how jealous I am, because i didn't know the way jealousy is toxic for me i think i understand it but i hope i could get done of it. i can say that im jealous of the people because i always compare myself to others then i got jeaouls of them i always try to stop myself cuz i know how i'd cry about it later but i end up saying even worst staff about myself. thats why im trying to heal...
I’ve been overthinking so much lately and it makes my thoughts and goals become super cloudy. Ur videos helps me so much to digest and manage my thought process. I’m so grateful I found your channel, please keep posting ❤️
finished your last video yesterday after receiving news that I'm fired from my job. now THIS. the universe truly works in mysterious ways. ur videos are helping me be anchored and to not spiral into unemployment depression. thank you!
Thank you for this eye-opening video:) when you finished arranging I just gasped at how pretty it looked, and jealousy is a plague that I've been trying to get rid of for a long time. Now it's not something I need to get rid of, but rather something I need to convert. Tysm:)
Thank you inayah for your videos. You are an inspiration for me and so many other people. It's so wonderful you have created this safe space where people can stay and learn to live better with themselves
Dont mind me im just venting😭I was never the jealous type but i hate to admit that im jealous of my ex’s new gf, his best friend (sadly i was betrayed. Long story short i told her about our breakup and she was upset that he cheated but she later forgave him). Her tiktok page was on my suggested and i noticed that we have so much in common but she just does everything better. I like to paint for fun knowing i aint no artist but she on the other hand paints like shes picasso. I workout at home and wish to go to the gym but with work and school i dont have enough time to go to one. She on the other has SO much on her plate i dont understand how she can still manage to squeeze hitting the gym in her schedule. Her videos are so inspiring and shes so sweet and fun but i just hate being reminded of my ex when i see her.
I RELATE SM!! and the fact that i don’t know her on a personal level really makes is that much harder to overcome the jealousy bc sometimes its like yea ik where my jealousy is coming from but what now? yk? like i don’t really have the guideline for improvement bc its the relationship they have that im jealous of and i cant base anything off of something that i dont know the true reality of. anyway hopefully i made sense and u can relate bc if u cants thats embarrassing for me😭
Even if no one relates to you (unlikely), it doesn't make your experience embarassing. Sounds like you're trying to process & grow from this -- keep it up!
This video couldn't have arrived in my recommended at a more perfect time. Literally, right as I was slightly simmering in my own failures as an upcoming adult while others around me seem to have it all figured out, boom this video comes up. And while I will admit how hard it is to shift your mindset while you're in it, the result is amazing. Even just, replying to someone else's goals with admiration, even if you don't feel it yet, is a good step and, in this moment, was the step I needed to prevent my jealousy from reaching a boiling point. Thank you
23:02 It is amazing to see you finding the true beauty in appreciating everything and be more peaceful and Satisfied. I also admire the passion with which you make these videos this is really touching ...really mashallah
Lovely flowers. 🌹 low self-esteem and inferiority complex blocks the ability to Love. Attraction to drama and toxic environments and complaining and poor me me they owe me a living attitude. Jealousy is a spirit. What is success? Good relationships and communications. Name the pain and be free to it. A good Quote I came across. "Resistance comes from a lack of Clarity. It is about Giving, not receiving. Being the light not the cold beem in a dark place.
oh god i needed to hear this so much .. i've been feeling like a big black hole of anxiety and jealousy and envy lately and it's just a really disgusting feeling LIKE A PARASITE !! that i can't help feeling but i also can't solve. i couldn't even talk about it to anyone because it's an era of being a "girls' girl" and wish i am one i hope i am one and i love everyone else so much and i am so proud of them but i am just so jealous and resentful. thank you for this, i never thought of thinking about that feeling of mine because i was so scared it would just get darker and powerful thus i was avoiding acknowledging it...
Your content is just what I was looking for and the universe knew. So happy to see someone with such a genuine and authentic spirit on here sharing so unapologetically. Keep doing your thing girl! And the flower arrangements always look beautiful!
I consider myself to be successful , i have achieved a lot but i have insecurities that i think some of my jelousy arise from there . I came across your channel by accident and i loved the content and the big mindset you have . You earned my subscription immediately. Thanks
if i could meet you i think i would hug you and never want to let you go, your words have helped me so much in just a few days i actually just started listening to your words closly and intently and i feel myself understanding myself clearing my mind and heart as one may clean mucky gross thick water into flowy shiny cleaning life breathing water. THANK YOU SO MUCH i think i can actually start loving the world like even going to the mall brought me so much stress and sadness but i feel better I SHOULD BE HAPPY im actually understanding why i feel things and why i have those reactions than you sincerely thank you, you should always be proud of yourself you words have litterally brought me so much joy thank you, you are doning something so unbelievable your the best thank you
OMG! I just saw your other video talking about how confidence is uncomfortable two days ago and I really love it. I visited your account in hopes of seeing more videos similar to that and wished that you'll upload more.
Inayah, I love your videos. They satisfy my need to consume aesthetic visuals and also fill up my soul/mind with wisdom. Thank you for making these. Just subscribed!
Thank you so much for your light your messages will help many! They're full of value and we can see that you "GET IT"! keep up the fantastic work! Edit: you're doing a WONDERFUL work with these flowers! Take care!
Great video, your confidence video was inspiring and really resonated with me I like your point about how jealousy is ingrained in women from a very young age, and is very similar with how anger is ingrained in men. Like anger, it’s a cocktail of other emotions, and is more the result of social pressure and personal expectations than anything else
omg i really, i really need this because i became insecure, jealous, and more competitive to one of my classmates and im aware of it, what i want is to appreciate what's mine, but it's hard for me so im watching this video !!
Thank you. I think I needed to hear this right now in my life. I also appreciate a very female perspective on jealousy which got me to consider some cultural things in ways I otherwise probably wouldn't have.
So happy to see another video so soon, just stumbled upon your other video about confidence the other day - this topic is also so relevant, keep up the amazing work!
I read the artist’s way by Julia Cameron last year and she says the exact same things. I recommend everyone this gem of a book. Feeling negative emotions like jealousy and anger is actually a good thing you just have to decipher what it means and it’s so fun and educating to get to know yourself like that.
to me, jealousy feels like illness that forms in the stomach and eats at you from the inside like maggots. I thought I could use that anger and outdo other people out of pure spite. But spite, however powerful in the moment, fizzles out SO fast. It always just becomes depression or self-hatred, it has no substance.
Great insights on transforming jealousy into a catalyst for personal growth! Embracing an abundance mindset and using others' achievements as inspiration rather than a source of envy can lead to profound self-improvement and genuine success. 🌟
I like your outfit. Soft, feminine and fitting for your presentation. I have had sisters envious of me, my appearance and clarity. I was always confused why I felt picked on.I loved my sisters and never felt better than. I recently learned about scapegoating and how disappointing to realize this is what was going on towards me. I'm healing that now and can see now how long I had been trying to prove to them that I'm a good person. However, their envy didnt allow them to support me. I also held myself back feeling unworthy. May we people please be kinder and find our own wonderful qualities rather than being envious . Parents need to help children with this. As adults we can help each other now. Good message today. ❤ Thank you for acknowledging the healing power of the beauty of 💐 flowers.
Jealousy is toxic. You can feel envious but you should never allow yourself to go into jealousy. A lot of people wishes I will get jealous of what they were themselves considered as "better than me". If you feel good in your own skin you should not feel jealousy. I saw it on others, it is destroying them. We are all walking through our own personal path. Compare yourself to yourself only. You looks like Charlotte Gainsbourgh. It doesn't mean you will have the same life. It's a very good thing that we have our own experience as human beings. Don't copy others. Don't become someone else. You can't!
Saw your other vid it’s always cool rooting for someone doing something wholesome that’s what I see through your videos good luck hope your channel continues to grow!
Great video. I am learning a lot from you. I think it is also helpful to recognize that jealousy has (or rather had) an adaptive function for human beings. Jealousy might have helped our ancestors survive, by driving them to take resources from others that they themselves needed. It sounds a bit twisted to me, but I do not want to demonize this feeling even though it is ugly and painful.
for those last weeks there ıs a girl in my school and we are not that close but we know each other. ı always see her study and ı just cant stop thinking that she is better than me even ı am the top student in the school. saw this video thankfully before ı was obsessed with her. maybe ı was but ı am better now
i'm back. i think it was the same day as today (12th?) when i commented this, i'm surprised that it's already been three months since the last time i came back here. i still do feel that ~jealousy~ every month, around this day, toward the same girl. i would say that it became a cycle lol. but today i reflected about this (again) and navigated my feelings, and i think it's settled now finally. i will always be grateful because i do feel this certain way. i'm hoping that this cycle ends today ❤️
I was actually jealous of the way you are living because it literally similar to my idea of living but i still can’t achieve it , but its good jealousy as the one u talking about inspirational😅
your description of how jealousy feels resonated SO much with me. its like your stomach drops. i never really picked up on it before. i think ive mistaken it as inspiration, i want to emulate someone so badly that i get this surge of urgency and anxiety and this almost.. vengeful? desire to “outdo” them. and get to smirk about it. but that energy always burns out so fast and often turns to self deprecation, even when i do achieve the thing i wanted to emulate
i think part of what makes turning jealousy into inspiration is that it feels like a blow to the ego. it feels like admitting that you are not as successful as another person, when you really wish you were or feel like you should be. but i think it comes down to knowing the insecurity youre conflicting with, as you said
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I really resonate with this and feel so understood , thank you for sharing ⭐️
You are so right. For me, it really does feel like a blow to my ego. Like a why not me? Thank you for describing it so clearly.
this!!!!
thank you for this comment...the stomach dropping. 1000%. It's almost like I go into fight, flight, freeze, fawn mode.
In a lot of cases, jealousy is admiration turned sour
Yes, a distorted/perverted by ego admiration.
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i really do believe that jealousy is the worst emotion one can feel (if not dealt with properly ofc). Its not anger, not sadness...like i remember when i had some phases where i genuinely struggled with jealousy, and it really was the worst time in my life.
feel you, it's just such a disgusting emotion. You know, at least you can work with other emotions like anxiety, anger, or frustration, but jealousy is just so fucking useless and a pain to transform/ work with. I've learned it's best to avoid it and the most effective cure for it is focusing on yourself and what you can do, and just appreciate the hell out of that. Often jealousy is very illogical anyway
in my first long time relationship (when I was still quite young to be fair), I found myself feeling really jealous of their ex. it like, consumed me. but also because part of it was that there was a lot of things we had in common, but it felt like they were just doing it better. and part of it felt like privilege that I lacked too.
and this is rare, but I just woke up one day and was like, “why??”
this person had shown me nothing but kindness in all my interactions with them, and what felt like comparisons coming from my ex were mostly encouragements to befriend them because of our overlapping interests.
and I was just kind of like, “okay, let’s try and look at this person for who they are not look at them with scorn for what I feel I am lacking”. and I truly felt like my world changed.
but I mean, it’s an ongoing thing that I feel we have to work on too. I still get those moments of jealousy of course.
one thing that has helped in recent years, is just framing it like “wow, i’m so happy for them. how cool that they can do that!” (or insert any topic of what i’m feeling envy toward).
the world feels a lot less lonely when you don’t feel like everyone is purposely trying to “one up” you, and you’re putting yourself down as a result.
@@elantris-2002I feel Ike the more we avoid it, the more likely it may linger and make us resent them more. Jealous is an ugly feeling but nonetheless it’s a feeling. And it’s a normal feeling as well. Best we can do is acknowledge it, and change into something different
And about other feelings we can deal with it we can turn anger/sadness into lesson and put work into ourselves but jealousy is such a loser feeling you can't turn it into smth it's such a worse feeling.
my boyfriend cheated last year, and while he promised to change and did change his life around, i have never felt the same and i genuinely cannot look at pretty much ANY other woman without the gross emotion that she would be attractive in his eyes... and there's a lot of woman out there who like to show themselves off, which is fine but I don't believe I am amazingly beautiful, just kind of normal with good days and bad days, yet to me these girls are extraordinary and something ill never be that he might want, I am really good at staying positive and seeing the brighter side of things, but this is something that entirely consumes me and it is my only thought process when out in public with or without him, i just keep getting more and more insecure and i have no idea why i still think this way when i practice self love and really try to control the thoughts i have that come with this emotion pls someone give me answers
I love this niche of "being your best self" chats while doing floral arrangements!
00:00 🌱 Shift jealousy into inspiration by adopting an abundant mindset instead of a scarcity mindset.
03:46 🔄 Jealousy can perpetuate negative emotions like resentment and discontent, leading to poisonous success.
06:18 🎯 Success without contentment and satisfaction is hollow and perpetuates jealousy and envy.
09:47 🚗 We can't replicate someone else's success story exactly, but we can draw inspiration from it to create our own path.
12:33 💡 Retrain your brain from jealousy to inspiration by acknowledging abundance and potential for personal growth.
15:04 🌟 Creating from a place of inspiration attracts positivity and genuine support, leading to authentic success.
16:56 🔍 Identifying and addressing personal insecurities underlying jealousy is crucial for personal growth and fulfillment.
19:03 💡 Understanding why you feel jealous can help you build a stronger foundation for personal growth.
20:53 🌱 Being genuinely happy for others' achievements can signal to yourself and the world that you are worthy of success too.
22:29 💬 Redirecting jealousy into curiosity and admiration can lead to personal growth and relief from negative emotions.
25:27 🔍 Deconstructing jealousy can reveal insecurities, allowing for personal growth and inspiration.
28:49 🚀 Training your brain to feel excited instead of jealous can lead to inspiration, action, and achievement.
Thank you
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Life is seriously crazy. I was listening to this on my way to school. When I got into first period, my friend told me class ranks were out. When I checked mine, it was lower than my friend’s. I was instantly filled with envy forgetting all that I listened to in this video. Then something in me snapped, I felt so stupid for being jealous of my own friend. I then thought of what you said and made it my goal to not surpass my friend, but to do better because I now know my goal is attainable. I literally turned jealousy into inspiration. Thank you for opening my eyes.
i just love your vibe sm ! the background, the flowers, the font, the outfit ??everything is so pretty what😭💗binge watching ur channel rn
Thank you 💐💞 So happy you’re here! 💗
@@inayah0 of course🫶🏾
ikr her energy>>>
Agreed.
I feel like it’s so hard to change when my mind and it’s thoughts are so used to saying negative hurtful things about myself
I understand. It is a lot of hard work and can be an intense process to change what we say about ourselves but I promise we are all on this learning journey together. I am sending you love and am proud of you regardless
@@ruckboger Lmaoo
@@inayah0 yes it is a lot of work 😅thank you for the love🙂
@@deezenutz18 hehe glad that was taken the right way! sometimes my snarky comments backfire
@@ruckboger I feel you brother
I think a lot of the time jealousy comes from the mindset that "I feel like I am worthy to the success that the other person is having, but the reality is I just cant achieve that right now, and i dont want to admit the fact that maybe I am just not as worthy as that person"
Reminds me of the idea of thumos
watched your confidence is uncomfortable really brought a new perspective into my life, I've been insecure about my actions towards people I love and care about i always tend to keep it to myself, and understanding that its okay to speak how i feel towards them, its been a burden of mine to keep my thoughts to myself. Honestly thank you inayah
we are on this journey together. proud of you. thank YOU
Wow, I was actually in a therapy session two weeks ago and jealousy - or feeling unworthy - spontaneously came up. I’m in my 30s but it’s crazy how jealousy and envy can creep up in so many areas of my life, and it shows that one never grows out of it entirely, but it *can* be managed. It definitely takes discipline for me to recognize it when I begin to feel it (like a dark looming storm cloud) and navigate through it.
so underrated … your advice is incredible and honestly been struggling with social media addiction that’s made my body dysmorphia worse and I appreciate your energy and videos 🥹💗💐 you’re beautiful please keep making these.
I really relate to this I’m going through the same thing, you’re awesome ⭐️🪷
@@tealt333 thank you for replying and understanding me 😭💗 it’s not easy but we can conquer it, sending positive energy to you!!
@@catfreestyleof course!! again thank you for sharing I feel so seen it’s so lovely to know I’m not alone❣️I’m sending you so so much love and healing energy your way as well 🌱
i am so glad that anything i have said resonates with you. i have struggled with similar things and i appreciate you being here, we are on this journey together xx
key points:
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9:27 inspiration
10:18 what’s triggering the envy?
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Thank you for this!! There are specific bits I want to come back to again 😅💞
@@Lotuaoki you’re welcome ☺️
One more thing I just realised watching this is that Jealousy comes from this need/desperation for the thing and that if we dont have the exact thing, maybe our life isnt worth it. But what I never realised, especially since I've realised I'm struggling with this now, is that the nuances of me and my life and experiences needs something different for me to flourish. If you shed the certainity that this is exactly what my life needs, then you will become open to experiences that are more moulded to your path automatically. Believing that a conventional path is necessary for life to be good is the root of jealousy. I think my life needs a relationship and being wanted by everyone, but honestly the exact desperation for it is why I shouldn't get it now. Because desperation stems from insecurity and even if I get it, I wont feel the same way the friend I'm jealous of will and im stemming my growth by forcing myself to follow this path that on a deeper level might not give me what I actually need in life
Jealousy comes down to the feeling that someone else's mother or father loved them when we were not loved. But, this "love" is just attachment. True love is without attachment, it's basically freedom.
When I detached myself from the conditional love of my father/mother and set boundaries my heart was set free. In doing this, my jealousy left me as well.
im so happy when u mentioned about islamic culture
When did she talking about islamic culture? Which min?
@@NGMlol23:02
Happy i'm not the only one here🤝
you might not even realize how much this video changed my life. thank u eternally
Thank YOU ❤️❤️❤️
After my first girlfriend broke up with me I've been struggling with feelings of jealousy and insecurity for over 2 years now, longer than we were together. This video is a new perspective on jealousy, and I think it will help me recover. So thank you
It's terrible to be envied by people. It's like being hunted down
Because people don't manage it and turn it into hate
Frfr
fr. it just rips away your pride, replacing it with shame and anxiety
I planned to watch this video on the same day, but I got busy and things happened. Not knowing this wasn’t the right time to do so, and I will watch it when I need it.
I just ended a friendship because of jealousy, me and that friend we’re very similar to each other, and over time I got attached to them and when I started to be serious about us being closer than friends I found out they have a crush on another person. It triggered something in me and I’m not the same person anymore. I cried, but then I realized I might not have loved them for real. They were the only resource of love and comfort and not because we did have a special connection, by talking to them I found out that “comfort” is just their casual personality, and they do the same to all of their friends. I just want to be loved, I don’t want them.
I kept being sad and mad but the second they talked to me everything looked pink with ribbons on it. I had a lot of split episodes on them, but they knew about none.
When I realized I was grinding over the bare minimum, I knew I wasn’t in my right mind, there was something wrong with me, so I knew this friendship if I kept it continuing I would regret it so bad and it will ruin my life, I blocked them for OUR own good. Not just me.
You understand how to live and move through the whole of your life. I started a similar path a few months ago, and I've never been so at peace. It's also interesting to see how things manifest but also bring the challenges that come with them. As long as you practice your art form consistently, everything else falls into place.
I could not agree more. Proud of you and glad we’re on this journey together!
I started running about 2,5 years ago and my pace/progress stagnated for about a year. Then my GF started running too about 7 months ago and quickly caught up to about my level, i got slightly jealous in a non toxic way and it pushed me to change my workouts and finally improve. I'm not letting her beat me 😄
I'm from Brazil and I found your channel through the trust video, and I thought you were an "improved" version of me, we even look alike physically, and then today you posted the video about jealousy, a lot of synchronicity! thanks!
Hi😊
off topic but you look like a fairy princess, your skin, face and hair is sooo beautiful and your room and flowers just adds to the vibe
Fr. Envy is a hard feeling to accept. Once you’re like, you know what- yeah I want that , isss coo
I like how you said we don’t want to lose jealousy! Just change our reaction to it ❤
I find myself feeling jealousy towards people for having things I can fundamentally never change about myself. Things like being born privileged and rich, which leads them to so many opportunities I would have to work twice as hard for. Just the idea of, the unfairness of it all makes me immediately give up. Instead of trying twice as hard I try twice as less, settling for less because my all consuming thoughts of it being so incredibly easy for them make me unable to put in any effort for myself, because what’s the point? I grow a thick air of venomous jealousy inside me and pretend it is enough for me. But I’m also like a self aware NPC, like even as I spiral into self destruction, I can’t help but be incredibly excruciatingly aware of what I am doing and still being unable to or rather unwilling to stop it. Like mitski saying “I am a forest fire
And I am the fire and I am the forest
And I am a witness watching it.” It’s like a twister form of vouyerism at your own self inflicted demise. So every time I see someone not just doing better than me, but being born with the privilege to do so, I don’t really see them at all, all I see is the catastrophe of my own life. All their successes are reminders of my inaction. I just don’t know how to not notice it. It’s everywhere.
I feel the same way as you, but seeing it from someone elses comment gave me a thought. This is YOUR life, not theirs. Sure, they may seem like they have it so easy and everything is going perfect for them, but in reality, every single one of us deals with issues and bad things. Not one of us is going to go through this life without problems. This is just your journey in life, to provide for yourself and your loved ones despite others being “handed” it. Trust me, they’re struggling in their own ways. I think being born into a poor environment is a gift and we tend to appreciate the little things more imo. You cannot compare yourself and expect to gain something from it, you’re only giving your energy and time to it.
i think this is what is meant by the subtle sense of “i am worthy of doing this, but in my own way… i can use whoever i’m feeling jealousy towards as a roadmap and not a direct guide so i can make my success my own” without putting all of their success down to what they were born into.
i never knew that i was a jealous person until i watch this video, the way she explains the feeling of jealousy reminds me of moments where i felt jealousy and wished to be them. I just realized how jealous I am, because i didn't know the way jealousy is toxic for me i think i understand it but i hope i could get done of it. i can say that im jealous of the people because i always compare myself to others then i got jeaouls of them i always try to stop myself cuz i know how i'd cry about it later but i end up saying even worst staff about myself. thats why im trying to heal...
I’ve been overthinking so much lately and it makes my thoughts and goals become super cloudy. Ur videos helps me so much to digest and manage my thought process. I’m so grateful I found your channel, please keep posting ❤️
finished your last video yesterday after receiving news that I'm fired from my job. now THIS. the universe truly works in mysterious ways. ur videos are helping me be anchored and to not spiral into unemployment depression. thank you!
omg for real i fully got rejected from a school i really wanted to go to and watched this and it helped sm
sending you love! an abundance of opportunity is coming your way. i am proud of you and glad you're here x
Thank you for this eye-opening video:) when you finished arranging I just gasped at how pretty it looked, and jealousy is a plague that I've been trying to get rid of for a long time. Now it's not something I need to get rid of, but rather something I need to convert. Tysm:)
Thank you inayah for your videos. You are an inspiration for me and so many other people. It's so wonderful you have created this safe space where people can stay and learn to live better with themselves
Dont mind me im just venting😭I was never the jealous type but i hate to admit that im jealous of my ex’s new gf, his best friend (sadly i was betrayed. Long story short i told her about our breakup and she was upset that he cheated but she later forgave him). Her tiktok page was on my suggested and i noticed that we have so much in common but she just does everything better. I like to paint for fun knowing i aint no artist but she on the other hand paints like shes picasso. I workout at home and wish to go to the gym but with work and school i dont have enough time to go to one. She on the other has SO much on her plate i dont understand how she can still manage to squeeze hitting the gym in her schedule. Her videos are so inspiring and shes so sweet and fun but i just hate being reminded of my ex when i see her.
I RELATE SM!! and the fact that i don’t know her on a personal level really makes is that much harder to overcome the jealousy bc sometimes its like yea ik where my jealousy is coming from but what now? yk? like i don’t really have the guideline for improvement bc its the relationship they have that im jealous of and i cant base anything off of something that i dont know the true reality of. anyway hopefully i made sense and u can relate bc if u cants thats embarrassing for me😭
Even if no one relates to you (unlikely), it doesn't make your experience embarassing. Sounds like you're trying to process & grow from this -- keep it up!
Hey girl i hope you are doing alright
its okay girl! totally understandable, thats why they say "we have to start doing things strictly for ourselves, instead for others"
the thumbnail is so pretty like you look so unreal your skin is glowing ur so beautiful
Love the word "mashallah" thank you so much for mentioning it in this video
This video couldn't have arrived in my recommended at a more perfect time. Literally, right as I was slightly simmering in my own failures as an upcoming adult while others around me seem to have it all figured out, boom this video comes up. And while I will admit how hard it is to shift your mindset while you're in it, the result is amazing. Even just, replying to someone else's goals with admiration, even if you don't feel it yet, is a good step and, in this moment, was the step I needed to prevent my jealousy from reaching a boiling point.
Thank you
23:02 It is amazing to see you finding the true beauty in appreciating everything and be more peaceful and Satisfied. I also admire the passion with which you make these videos this is really touching ...really mashallah
so glad your videos randomly popped up in my feed! i'm only 2 videos deep but you're already inspiring me~ mashallah
that makes me so happy thank you
Sometimes you want something you literally cannot have, no matter how hard you work
This is what I needed. My jealousy often makes me feel anxious and afraid. After taking notes of your ideas I felt so much relief ❤
Lovely flowers. 🌹 low self-esteem and inferiority complex blocks the ability to Love. Attraction to drama and toxic environments and complaining and poor me me they owe me a living attitude. Jealousy is a spirit. What is success? Good relationships and communications. Name the pain and be free to it. A good Quote I came across. "Resistance comes from a lack of Clarity. It is about Giving, not receiving. Being the light not the cold beem in a dark place.
oh god i needed to hear this so much .. i've been feeling like a big black hole of anxiety and jealousy and envy lately and it's just a really disgusting feeling LIKE A PARASITE !! that i can't help feeling but i also can't solve. i couldn't even talk about it to anyone because it's an era of being a "girls' girl" and wish i am one i hope i am one and i love everyone else so much and i am so proud of them but i am just so jealous and resentful. thank you for this, i never thought of thinking about that feeling of mine because i was so scared it would just get darker and powerful thus i was avoiding acknowledging it...
Your content is just what I was looking for and the universe knew. So happy to see someone with such a genuine and authentic spirit on here sharing so unapologetically. Keep doing your thing girl! And the flower arrangements always look beautiful!
This means so much to me! Thank you for your kind words and support, it means more than you know!
I consider myself to be successful , i have achieved a lot but i have insecurities that i think some of my jelousy arise from there . I came across your channel by accident and i loved the content and the big mindset you have . You earned my subscription immediately. Thanks
I'm here at 11 seconds after posting omg 😭😭 cuz I really needed this and as soon as I saw the notification I clicked 💗💗💗 thank you for this 💋💗
That means so much to me! So happy you’re here 💞💞💞
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literally JUST finished watching your last video lol... love what you're doing, you're amazing
ooooo is that idv in ur pfp
@@floraetta BAHAHA yes 😭 doc is so cute, couldn’t pass the opportunity
@@ridonas she is!!
thank you so much love
if i could meet you i think i would hug you and never want to let you go, your words have helped me so much in just a few days i actually just started listening to your words closly and intently and i feel myself understanding myself clearing my mind and heart as one may clean mucky gross thick water into flowy shiny cleaning life breathing water. THANK YOU SO MUCH i think i can actually start loving the world like even going to the mall brought me so much stress and sadness but i feel better I SHOULD BE HAPPY im actually understanding why i feel things and why i have those reactions than you sincerely thank you, you should always be proud of yourself you words have litterally brought me so much joy thank you, you are doning something so unbelievable your the best thank you
OMG! I just saw your other video talking about how confidence is uncomfortable two days ago and I really love it. I visited your account in hopes of seeing more videos similar to that and wished that you'll upload more.
Love your videos in this format! Ur killing it, keep going ❤️
Inayah, I love your videos. They satisfy my need to consume aesthetic visuals and also fill up my soul/mind with wisdom. Thank you for making these. Just subscribed!
what a beautiful compliment! thank you so much for being here x
Thank you so much for your light your messages will help many! They're full of value and we can see that you "GET IT"! keep up the fantastic work!
Edit: you're doing a WONDERFUL work with these flowers!
Take care!
Great video, your confidence video was inspiring and really resonated with me
I like your point about how jealousy is ingrained in women from a very young age, and is very similar with how anger is ingrained in men. Like anger, it’s a cocktail of other emotions, and is more the result of social pressure and personal expectations than anything else
Your skin blooms like a flower so pretty !!!!
omg i really, i really need this because i became insecure, jealous, and more competitive to one of my classmates and im aware of it, what i want is to appreciate what's mine, but it's hard for me so im watching this video !!
Just genuinely curious how does appreciating what’s yours affect the jealousy? I think you phrased it very interesting.
@@ritaevergreen7234 showing gratitude for what you already have
Thank you. I think I needed to hear this right now in my life. I also appreciate a very female perspective on jealousy which got me to consider some cultural things in ways I otherwise probably wouldn't have.
Thank you Thank you❤! I looove how dark it gets to focus on the flowers at the end❤
So happy to see another video so soon, just stumbled upon your other video about confidence the other day - this topic is also so relevant, keep up the amazing work!
yay! thank you for being here :)
I read the artist’s way by Julia Cameron last year and she says the exact same things. I recommend everyone this gem of a book. Feeling negative emotions like jealousy and anger is actually a good thing you just have to decipher what it means and it’s so fun and educating to get to know yourself like that.
Love the Artist's Way! Couldn't agree more x
@@inayah0 ❤️❤️ also you’re so pretty
You're a very beautiful human being. Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts with us, your words have helped me a lot lately.
You are already inspiring me in the first 3 mins
This is the second video I watch from your channel. I really appreciate your unique perspective. Thank you so much for sharing your messages love ❤
I love these videos where u sit down and talk about self improvement topics ,u truly inspire me❤
Wow this is so good, you are so well spoken and just so refreshing bruh. Thank you
Liz also says this that jealousy is not a bad thing it's inner you pointing that I can and I want it
to me, jealousy feels like illness that forms in the stomach and eats at you from the inside like maggots. I thought I could use that anger and outdo other people out of pure spite. But spite, however powerful in the moment, fizzles out SO fast. It always just becomes depression or self-hatred, it has no substance.
This channel is becoming my comfort place in toxic world. Thank you so much
that means the world to me
Great insights on transforming jealousy into a catalyst for personal growth! Embracing an abundance mindset and using others' achievements as inspiration rather than a source of envy can lead to profound self-improvement and genuine success. 🌟
she's so beautiful
More video like this please! I love ur aesthetic it so calm 💕
I like your outfit. Soft, feminine and fitting for your presentation. I have had sisters envious of me, my appearance and clarity. I was always confused why I felt picked on.I loved my sisters and never felt better than. I recently learned about scapegoating and how disappointing to realize this is what was going on towards me. I'm healing that now and can see now how long I had been trying to prove to them that I'm a good person. However, their envy didnt allow them to support me. I also held myself back feeling unworthy. May we people please be kinder and find our own wonderful qualities rather than being envious . Parents need to help children with this. As adults we can help each other now. Good message today. ❤
Thank you for acknowledging the healing power of the beauty of 💐 flowers.
I love your videos, you’re helping me become a better version of myself and I’m so grateful. Thank you
thank you for being here
Jealousy is toxic. You can feel envious but you should never allow yourself to go into jealousy. A lot of people wishes I will get jealous of what they were themselves considered as "better than me". If you feel good in your own skin you should not feel jealousy. I saw it on others, it is destroying them. We are all walking through our own personal path. Compare yourself to yourself only. You looks like Charlotte Gainsbourgh. It doesn't mean you will have the same life. It's a very good thing that we have our own experience as human beings. Don't copy others. Don't become someone else. You can't!
Saw your other vid it’s always cool rooting for someone doing something wholesome that’s what I see through your videos good luck hope your channel continues to grow!
Thank you!!!
the cat in the background, aww
Jealousy is twisted admiration
jealousy is not wanting others to have something, envy is to want what others have.
i love you so much please never stop filming these videos 💗💗💗💗
I love YOU💗
This video is so clarifying and important for me!! Thank you :)
I needed this! Thank you 🙏😊
You’re so gorgeous . Thank you for talking about jealousy ❤
Great video. I am learning a lot from you. I think it is also helpful to recognize that jealousy has (or rather had) an adaptive function for human beings. Jealousy might have helped our ancestors survive, by driving them to take resources from others that they themselves needed. It sounds a bit twisted to me, but I do not want to demonize this feeling even though it is ugly and painful.
thank you so much for making this video :') it's really help me overcome my feeling
I think it’s better not to force feelings but to let them be and just step back and think about them.. everything has a reason for happening
we are not trying force feelings. we just trying to alternate them to not negatively effect ourselves
i love hearing you talk
You remind me of Taylor Swift 🌷 Your voice tone, your look, your movement. I love your contents, thank you so much 💝
what about jealousy about things out of someone's control? like being born with it? such as physical features?
i thought about that too. I guess acceptance or self love
i trust you more than i trust my self. God bless u.
So beautifully inspiring the whole video and just the idea of how easy a perspective change can go a long way❤
yeah ... you're absolutely my new favorite UA-camr
You’re absolutely my new favorite subscriber
for those last weeks there ıs a girl in my school and we are not that close but we know each other. ı always see her study and ı just cant stop thinking that she is better than me even ı am the top student in the school. saw this video thankfully before ı was obsessed with her. maybe ı was but ı am better now
i always come back to this everytime i feel jealous of someone ;-;
i'm back. i think it was the same day as today (12th?) when i commented this, i'm surprised that it's already been three months since the last time i came back here. i still do feel that ~jealousy~ every month, around this day, toward the same girl. i would say that it became a cycle lol.
but today i reflected about this (again) and navigated my feelings, and i think it's settled now finally. i will always be grateful because i do feel this certain way. i'm hoping that this cycle ends today ❤️
you're literally the coolest person
i really needed this😭 thank you
I was actually jealous of the way you are living because it literally similar to my idea of living but i still can’t achieve it , but its good jealousy as the one u talking about inspirational😅
You go to my vision board as inspiration 💗 I have so much hope and motivation now thanks to you. 💗Greetings from Poland
You remind me of sighswoon quite a bit and I love it. Thank you for your vision and thoughts of inspiration 💫
This video really resonated with me.
Hi😊
This is so true. I turned one into my inspiration (my boyfriend)
Thank you so much for this!! I needed this seriously!!! ❤️