Sometimes a sibling is not your soft, supportive "shoulder". Quite the opposite, in fact. A childhood friend or devoted husband who has been there through thick and thin becomes that "soft place".
7 years for me now where my sister disappeared with my fathers ashes and failed to include me in any plans for a christian burial of my dads ashes. With no grave to visit, all I have is a lantern and a candle at the bottom of the garden to remember dad with all my attempts to show kindness to my sister have been met with silence. I no longer regard her as my sister but rather as a stranger with absolutely no consideration of my feelings what so ever. But yet the pain never goes away. - But listening to your story makes me realise I’m not alone where now I have to find a way to find closure and move on.
Great message! When you’re able to say. “We’re not cool, and I’m ok with that”, it shows real growth. You do lose people as you grow spiritually. It’s a painful part of this journey. The beautiful thing though is that you can choose family. It’s not always the blood that binds. Sometimes people you meet along your travels can become the family that your soul has been looking for.
Having come to terms with sibling estrangement, I realize that it comes from parents lack of knowledge, that it is important for parents to demand sibling loyalty. It is be normal for siblings to be competitive, but learning loyalty to each other, will foster a lifetime of helpfulness to each other. I demanded of my own 4 children that they be each others best friends and so far it has worked. In a way, I have broken the cycle of estrangement that has happened in my birth family. I am the eldest of 4. My mother, a timid, sickly woman with an alcoholic husband, welcomed my help with my younger siblings. My siblings viewed me as a second mother and became very demanding of me if I didn't give them what they wanted. I was too young to understand what was going on. They were a unit and would decide not to talk to me for months. I was sad, but was happy when their mood changed and when decided to like me again. As I grew older, and their moodines increased, and the length of their not tallking to me became longer, I learned how to close my heart to their manipulation of me. Now I know that it was practiced by them from childhood, and was not their fault. It was because my parents did not notice or understand what they were doing. I cant do anything about it now. I am at peace with the situation but I remind my children almost daily, that it is very easy to fall out with family by taking them for granted. Loyalty to family is the most important trait a parent can instill in their children. Be there to help each other. Each sibling's success is every sibling's success and each sibling's stumble is every sibling's stumble. This is the lesson that I learned from my estranged siblings. Loyalty is a practised art and an act of service. Loyalty means that you decide to stand by your family members or whomever, through thick and thin and be there to help them no matter what the situation. Loyalty is an adult approach and will get you beyond petty grievances developed in childhood. You may have come out of the same womb, but it takes alot of practice and appreciation and loyalty to be able to stay in the same room with them, together forever.
Sometimes, even family can't come with us on this healing journey. A lot of ppl don't want to do that shadow work and ascend to their higher selves. Breaking that karmic loop is hard, but you got this.
I am going through a grieving process of recognizing I have no relationship with either of my sisters, as an adoptee it feels extremely painful. Your words and perspective feel so powerful and are helping me to accept that I do not have relationship with them and that it will be okay.
I prayed to God for answers and guidance about surviving the emotional abuse by my three sisters. I prayed and your videos came into my feed. Your words were meant for me to hear. I felt your message deep inside. Thank you.
My Oldest sister blew me off a year ago, because her 40 yr old son does not want to talk to her. Which I had nothing to do with, it was because of a disagreement between them. Since then her husband died from Covid 12/23, which I found out from looking on her fb page by chance. After his passing she sold her house and moved, of course not giving me her address. So her youngest sibling and only sister that she has known for 58 years, was easy to blow off because of her sons decision to disown her. I just don’t get that all the kind things I did for her for years has no meaning to her,and I am discarded from her life. My heart hurts, but I am not trying anymore. But why can’t I get her out of my mind… Oh and my two brothers could care less about me to. So I have to go on with no family, I feel so cheated out of a normal family, and people in my life. 💔
I definitely relate to what you’ve said. It’s taken me 6 years to get to the understandings you’ve come to. It’s been a long road, and I’m realizing my level of responsibility within relationships. Being catapulted into my own healing journey forced me into many realizations. I’ve also come to know that I’m capable of creating my own family, and that may include others that I bring into my circle who are not blood related. A new tribe. Thank you; you are not alone.
I had to come to accept that some of my family NEVER want to go there. My dad died being belligerent towards me and mocking me. My brother is an alcoholic and would prefer to be black out drunk and die in the gutter rather than not scapegoat all his problems on to me. My mom would rather live in a superficial facade and die there rather than connect with me. That is my immediate family. Extended family is even worse.
Thank you, for your truths about your siblings, I have been struggle as a out cast in my family, since my mother died in 1996. I'm 9th child and was very supportive of my siblings. There is only 4 siblings left and i have no connection with them, especally since their kids are adults that I help raised some thier kids. I glad ran across your channel.😢
Thanks, my sister shunned me and it really hurt, but st the same time, what I want most of all for my sister is that she would be happy and healthy walking with the Lord. It seems to me that she needs to walk her walk right now. Because I do love her, I need to let go and let God. He is good and can and will guide her on HER journey.
WHAT A EDUCATIONAL AND UP UPLIFTING MESSAGE DARLING. VERY PROUD OF YOUR GROWTH AND PEACE. YOUR DEFINITELY VALUABLE AND WORTHY. MAY YOUR JOURNEY CONTINUE TO REVEAL AND GUIDE YOU CLEARLY THROUGH YOUR PATH IN THIS LIFE. BLESSING AND PROSPERITY TO YOU FOEVER ✨
Thank you... Your message really hit home. Thank you for talking about this heartbreaking subject. It helps to share and know we aren't alone. You expressed your thoughts beautifully and gave me hope that there is light at the end of this long, dark tunnel... PEACE TO ALL... 🙏
I have had that reconciliation talk with my sister 3 times over the years. Each time she said she would meet up at least monthly to try to rebuild. Each tome she has done no such thing. I have reached out again and again. I no longer want a relationship beyond surface politeness with her she just doesn't care or see any value in me. She never did and never will
Such a good message, been going through a rough time with estrangement and broken trust with my family and total breakdown with 1 particular sister over 2 years since my mums death and it’s absolutely the same. I’m the different one, the spiritual one and the one that does the work, my family are totally different and there’s so much toxicity by me trying to maintain a link which is broken. It’s heart breaking but I’m on my journey of separation and it’s a rocky road but I gotta keep walking and I pray it’ll get easier.
Yes, the black sheep or the scapegoat is often the one who is most likely to break the ancestral trauma that leads to all the chaos...they go on to have healthier more emotionally whole children ...keep doing the work x
It’s important to remember that the dysfunctional family roles can change depending on different situations. For example, more than one sibling may feel that they were the scapegoat and each may be right to feel that way.
Thank you for the update. Yes, I have gotten the same response. Thank you for validating my awareness, strength, and desire to be a complete me...not who they wanted me to be. I have read this over and over when I feel like " their doing it to me again" You can only try to make peace so many times and now they don't even understand they're doing anything wrong because they've done it sooo many times. Please continue this message and to be an inspiration to us all ❤ 😊
I’m going through the same thing right now. I sent her letters, and I got nothing, on our last conversation she told me to leave her and her kids alone, so I can’t be the cool uncle to my nephews, it hurts, it’s sad, but I’m walking away in peace. I tried to make amends but I know shes cold hearted as was our Toxic Father.. woooo hoooo Family, aren’t they “supposed” to stick around through thick and thin…???????
I’m going through this now. I have two sisters and one of them I am not close to . Never have been. Even when we see little she would jump on my ribs , make fun of me all the time , tell me to get away from her etc. as we got older we never hung out. We have different friends. Very different personalities. We went on one vacation together and we argued. I think we tolerate each other bc we have such a small family etc but I don’t think she would care less if she never seen me again. We just do not get along . I plan on moving out of state so we will grow more apart I’m sure and not even miss each other
@@tiagonthegoI don’t blame my mom. I blame my sister. To this day I have no idea why she would always tell me to get away from her when I was little and as we got older I would call her to see what she was up to and she acted as if I was the last person on earth she wanted you talk to. There was a lot of awkward silence. We have different friends , life styles , views on life and we never have anything ti talk about when we see each other. We have absolutely nothing in common except same parents. She doesn’t acknowledge my birthdays. I seen my Xmas gift I gave to her next to the litterbox. None of my friends like her. Our other sis told me she tolerates her bc we have such a small family and she sees her like I distant cousin. I went very LC with her one year ago and I recently made the decision no contact. I’m done trying. I don’t deserve her nasty behaviors and the silent treatments she gives me. I could write a book on the nasty things she has done. I’m over it. Right now I feel like I have one sister now. That’s what I’m going to tell anyone who asks me.
Hello! I am a fairly new subscriber and that video was what I needed to see and hear at the time I found your channel. Like you i was going through the same exact situation and like you felt all those feelings emotions you talked about I really related to it. The crazy part is spirit put this on my mind recently and I too wondered if you and your family worked things out. I didn't request a follow-up video but in this last week I thought to ask you. I was totally shocked when I saw this tonight it's as if universe sent my message. I can relate and I was once too that woman that suffered tremendously from lack of having a "normal" and united loving family. Sadly my family suffers from the very same , a generational curse that has created jealousy, strife and division. Like you getting deep into my spirituality has helped me too to heal and move past it. Thank you so much for this video you were definitely an inspiration to get past that hurt just by being you. Many many blessings hopefully one day things will be right and if not it's ok.
Hello !!! Aw yes the Universe has a way of communicating our wants and needs through each other. I’m so glad you were able to catch the update. I had to free myself !!! Thank you so much for being a kind soul ! Hopefully we can meet up in the Astral world 🖤🌎
I am grateful for the content 🤗❤❤. It is courageous of you to explain your reasoning for breaking curses. 5:27 Is where your experiences are relatable and instructive! The Most High answers prayers!
Midday blessing my love- dont give energy to ANYBODY WHO IS NOT WORTHY- MEANING FUCK'EM.People especially family will hate u for the most stupid reason- KEEP IT MOVING
Thank you so much for sharing ❤ Watching both of your videos, truly gave me hope. Grieving an alive person, is the hardest thing one can go through. I’m definitely at the stage of your first video (crying about it). However, this one gave me hope that maybe in four years it won’t matter all that much, or not at all 🤍 peace upon your soul sister.
Thanks for your wisdom. I am dealing with the disappointment of not having sibling cohesion, or even kindness, after my dads recent death. Its not realistic to want it, and i grieve that impossibility, in addition to the loss of my brother, dad and a great friend within a few months of eachother. Time and truth are healing.
I really needed to hear this. I myself are going through something with my sister. We have the same dad but different moms. We have had our time but nothing like this before. And I needed to hear this. I have told her that my mind is in a different place in my life. And she isn't understanding me. I am the older one and she disrespect me and thinks that she is right . She had my second nephew , i texted her and asked for a picture of my nephew, and she never responded , i gave her a few weeks because she had her son and i was not ready for her response which was her telling me that my conversations were meaningless and that she will see me when she sees me , but like you said i am good. I never responded I just leave it in God's hands. I needed this ..thank you so much
I’m not trying to offend you when I say this. Your comment seems like you feel entitled to some things. You and your sister don’t have a relationship but you still felt she should have sent a picture of her child just because you wanted her to. Put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if your estranged sibling was upset that you didn’t send a picture of their newborn? You have to respect people’s boundaries when it comes to their child (as long as it’s not harmful)
Heres my story…. Im 28 about to be 29 in July and im the middle child of 3 brothers. My oldest is my half brother older than me by 10 years (we have different dads) and my youngest is my Irish twin born a year apart the same month with both the same parents. Growing up my oldest was a problem child, selling drugs, getting locked up, gang life etc. my youngest was always around me we were close (until our early 20s) long story short my older brother became real jealous of me when i was a senior in high school. Him and his girlfriend at the time (who was 7 years younger than him and white) used to make fun of me for being a virgin, basically bullying me that whole school year until one day my older brother beat me up in front of his girlfriend for disrespecting my mom he was really showing off in front of his gf. I had to go to school the next day with a fucked up face and got made fun of. I ended developing mental health issues from bullying and starting using drugs recreationally. My younger brother then lost all respect for me starting yelling at me. Treating me like he was the oldest. I recently went 4 years without talking to my oldest brother and he came to my house for Christmas and apologized months later he got disrespectful with me and I blocked his number PERMANENTLY. He was a big cause of my trauma between ages 17 - 22. From 22 to now my youngest brother has also turned on me getting me kicked out of places, talking about me behind my back, living with me and not paying his way. I let him stay with me for 2 years in my first apartment and all he did was eat up my food barely worked and play video games. I had to fight him to get him our my house and my mom came to pick him up. Hes been in a rescue mission since then. He called me earlier this month after i wasn’t speaking to him to apologize. Today he asked if he could come back and i told him no. So he cussed me out through text. I blocked him. I could never see myself talking to them two ever again.
I think it was big of you to actually sit down with your sister and have a mature adult conversation about your differences. I have not done that with her yet but she makes me so angry that I can’t have that conversation yet. I have learned we are just two different. If we weren’t sisters we would not be friends. We have absolutely nothing in common. What I find so strange is how different my other sis is. My other sis is kind. She doesn’t judge me and we can hang out and have a good time. Like you said we all have our own path in life. Well my path is one without her now bc I’m done trying
I’m the youngest (by a decade)of three daughters. I looked up to my sisters until I had to accept that unless they feel they can control me then they will try and punish me🤷♀️. They taught me not to stay in that energy. I miss them every day but, like you, I have me. It’s a new day🌿.
You cant bond with traumatized people that need a punching bag ..they cant self regulate( handle negative emotions) if you werent related will you still have a relationship with them?
When they become aware of their trauma and start dealing with it, you can begin to have a relationship. But it’s sad when they don’t see it and all their people are gone.
I also agree about criticism! Negative comments are so valuable because they make you reflect. For instance my sister called me a liar. I don't lie but guess what? I DO mask. I was pretending things were okay and not being myself. So in a way I was lying, I was masking and not giving people a chance to see the real me and maybe even like me for all my flaws and peculiarities and eccentricities.
Your beautiful! God will put “replacement “ people in your life. He’s always there to lean on. You value your family and it hurts when you feel rejected. But boy are they missing out! Sometimes issues only come out years down the line. It may not be you they reject, but they don’t want you to see their dark lives. I have been through all of this, and at the end I can truly say, I tried. And yes they are missing out, because I’m a loving , kind person who was always trying to reconcile.🙏🏻
The his video was very helpful. Keyword; WHY? I have since questioned myself and I know have an answer. Thank you! Fuck em all which always been my motto as the black sheep but I was angry and my energy was negative but in had time to grow and now 15 yrs later I have a mature fuck you 😂 with peace. Thanks sister keep rising
I was blessed with a wonderful family. But I have had to learn that there are toxic people out there. In my 20s and early 30s, I would believe anyone who said anything bad about me. I would always self reflect to see how I could improve myself. But there were some people that I could do no right. I was always walking on egg shells. This has happened at work and in a relationship. But along the way, I started to understand the difference between toxic and constructive criticism. I never yell at people, but I will stand up for myself. My last relationship was with someone who increasingly was correcting me about little things. I never once corrected her about anything. I was willing to work on things, but finally I let her know that it bothered me. Talk to me like an adult. The next day, she broke up with me! Looking back, I realized that she wanted someone she could control. Not a loving relationship.
People who call you a crybaby are mean and insensitive. You are entitled to vent. You’ve got to tell us how you really feel. I can relate to you and I am many decades older than you. Please don’t hold back just because some people might be in denial of their true feelings. Just tell it like it is for you. ❤
I made it a point to say I HAVE ME ! YOU HAVE YOU ! When you die your alone when you come into this world your alone - we have to learn to love and be with ourselves that’s all I’m saying
Plus I just looked qt your video and the views said 777. So I'll have to look up that what number means. Thanks for caring. No one else does, but I can't be mad at you for being unique. It's like being complaining about being hungry and finally get food and then throwing it away bec your mad you don't have more
Thank you for both your videos. I can certainly relate to it as I was on this same journey for more than 30 years. Looking back, I realize that most of my siblings were simply using me to run errands for them, period. I hv finally found the courage to let them go. It was painful but there was no other way. I hv to go no contact with them in order to preserve my sanity. Yes, you are right in saying that there are other people out there who will love us. Sadly, the term 'sibling' has become just a word with no attachment whatsoever.
I have one brother only . Actually hes the middle child . I had an older sister who passed away . My relationship with my brother has always been inexistent he has a great job a good salary had a masters degree . I am just a simple person . My brother likes to control everything like he likes to dictate you dont do this dont eat this eat this etc etc he wants to control you even at my age . Everytime u try to say i dont agree with he gets angry after that big argument . Anyone has a sister brother like this .
My brother, sister, and I have not been in the same room for 30 years. The oldest sibling, my brother took off for the military when my sister was 8 and I was 16. Even though he knew we were being abused by my mother, he did nothing to ensure we were okay. When I saw him at my father’s funeral, my extended family was shocked at his lack of involvement.When questioned, He lied and said we treated him like the black sheep. This in turn ruined my relationship with my extended family. My sister, on the other hand says she just wants nothing to do with us. Doesn’t say what we did wrong, just threw us away like trash.
I believe the one sister I talked to now and then is a covert narcissist. She brings up past memories to define who I am, we can only talk about food. She is so liberal and spiritually not a Christian and there's really nothing we can talk about. She's so into her views and life experiences. We get angry and she talks more about herself and if I interject she gets mad. She's accused us of having too much time off so I can't even talk about vacations. She believed in masks and vaxes and I didn't. I just don't see a way forward.
Sometimes a sibling is not your soft, supportive "shoulder". Quite the opposite, in fact. A childhood friend or devoted husband who has been there through thick and thin becomes that "soft place".
This is so true
What happens when you have no one? I feel myself giving up.
I’m not extending olive branches anymore but I respect your tenacity
7 years for me now where my sister disappeared with my fathers ashes and failed to include me in any plans for a christian burial of my dads ashes. With no grave to visit, all I have is a lantern and a candle at the bottom of the garden to remember dad with all my attempts to show kindness to my sister have been met with silence. I no longer regard her as my sister but rather as a stranger with absolutely no consideration of my feelings what so ever. But yet the pain never goes away. - But listening to your story makes me realise I’m not alone where now I have to find a way to find closure and move on.
Very powerful words. Thank you for sharing your story in short and I wish you healing and comfort in this lifetime
Great message! When you’re able to say. “We’re not cool, and I’m ok with that”, it shows real growth. You do lose people as you grow spiritually. It’s a painful part of this journey. The beautiful thing though is that you can choose family. It’s not always the blood that binds. Sometimes people you meet along your travels can become the family that your soul has been looking for.
Having come to terms with sibling estrangement, I realize that it comes from parents lack of knowledge, that it is important for parents to demand sibling loyalty. It is be normal for siblings to be competitive, but learning loyalty to each other, will foster a lifetime of helpfulness to each other. I demanded of my own 4 children that they be each others best friends and so far it has worked. In a way, I have broken the cycle of estrangement that has happened in my birth family. I am the eldest of 4. My mother, a timid, sickly woman with an alcoholic husband, welcomed my help with my younger siblings. My siblings viewed me as a second mother and became very demanding of me if I didn't give them what they wanted. I was too young to understand what was going on. They were a unit and would decide not to talk to me for months. I was sad, but was happy when their mood changed and when decided to like me again. As I grew older, and their moodines increased, and the length of their not tallking to me became longer, I learned how to close my heart to their manipulation of me.
Now I know that it was practiced by them from childhood, and was not their fault. It was because my parents did not notice or understand what they were doing. I cant do anything about it now. I am at peace with the situation but I remind my children almost daily, that it is very easy to fall out with family by taking them for granted. Loyalty to family is the most important trait a parent can instill in their children. Be there to help each other. Each sibling's success is every sibling's success and each sibling's stumble is every sibling's stumble. This is the lesson that I learned from my estranged siblings. Loyalty is a practised art and an act of service. Loyalty means that you decide to stand by your family members or whomever, through thick and thin and be there to help them no matter what the situation. Loyalty is an adult approach and will get you beyond petty grievances developed in childhood. You may have come out of the same womb, but it takes alot of practice and appreciation and loyalty to be able to stay in the same room with them, together forever.
Sometimes, even family can't come with us on this healing journey. A lot of ppl don't want to do that shadow work and ascend to their higher selves. Breaking that karmic loop is hard, but you got this.
I am going through a grieving process of recognizing I have no relationship with either of my sisters, as an adoptee it feels extremely painful. Your words and perspective feel so powerful and are helping me to accept that I do not have relationship with them and that it will be okay.
I prayed to God for answers and guidance about surviving the emotional abuse by my three sisters. I prayed and your videos came into my feed. Your words were meant for me to hear. I felt your message deep inside. Thank you.
Me too
Is it possible for parents to teach their children how to be each others’ best friends? It needs to start very, very early in life.
I'm doing that with mine because of my own personal experience
🎯🎯🎯
My Oldest sister blew me off a year ago, because her 40 yr old son does not want to talk to her. Which I had nothing to do with, it was because of a disagreement between them. Since then her husband died from Covid 12/23, which I found out from looking on her fb page by chance. After his passing she sold her house and moved, of course not giving me her address. So her youngest sibling and only sister that she has known for 58 years, was easy to blow off because of her sons decision to disown her. I just don’t get that all the kind things I did for her for years has no meaning to her,and I am discarded from her life. My heart hurts, but I am not trying anymore. But why can’t I get her out of my mind… Oh and my two brothers could care less about me to. So I have to go on with no family, I feel so cheated out of a normal family, and people in my life. 💔
I definitely relate to what you’ve said. It’s taken me 6 years to get to the understandings you’ve come to. It’s been a long road, and I’m realizing my level of responsibility within relationships. Being catapulted into my own healing journey forced me into many realizations. I’ve also come to know that I’m capable of creating my own family, and that may include others that I bring into my circle who are not blood related. A new tribe. Thank you; you are not alone.
I had to come to accept that some of my family NEVER want to go there. My dad died being belligerent towards me and mocking me. My brother is an alcoholic and would prefer to be black out drunk and die in the gutter rather than not scapegoat all his problems on to me. My mom would rather live in a superficial facade and die there rather than connect with me. That is my immediate family. Extended family is even worse.
Thank you, for your truths about your siblings, I have been struggle as a out cast in my family, since my mother died in 1996. I'm 9th child and was very supportive of my siblings. There is only 4 siblings left and i have no connection with them, especally since their kids are adults that I help raised some thier kids. I glad ran across your channel.😢
Thanks, my sister shunned me and it really hurt, but st the same time, what I want most of all for my sister is that she would be happy and healthy walking with the Lord. It seems to me that she needs to walk her walk right now. Because I do love her, I need to let go and let God. He is good and can and will guide her on HER journey.
WHAT A EDUCATIONAL AND UP UPLIFTING MESSAGE DARLING. VERY PROUD OF YOUR GROWTH AND PEACE. YOUR DEFINITELY VALUABLE AND WORTHY. MAY YOUR JOURNEY CONTINUE TO REVEAL AND GUIDE YOU CLEARLY THROUGH YOUR PATH IN THIS LIFE. BLESSING AND PROSPERITY TO YOU FOEVER ✨
I'm at peace too Sis. Family is good when it's good, but when it's not good we have no obligation to hold onto it!
"I am enough"❤ Thank you.
Thank you... Your message really hit home. Thank you for talking about this heartbreaking subject. It helps to share and know we aren't alone. You expressed your thoughts beautifully and gave me hope that there is light at the end of this long, dark tunnel... PEACE TO ALL... 🙏
I have had that reconciliation talk with my sister 3 times over the years. Each time she said she would meet up at least monthly to try to rebuild. Each tome she has done no such thing. I have reached out again and again. I no longer want a relationship beyond surface politeness with her she just doesn't care or see any value in me. She never did and never will
Grand Rising,
You are enough.
Continue to be well and be safe.
Peace and blessings
May the Peace of the Lord shine through you and envelope you. ☺️❤️
Such a good message, been going through a rough time with estrangement and broken trust with my family and total breakdown with 1 particular sister over 2 years since my mums death and it’s absolutely the same. I’m the different one, the spiritual one and the one that does the work, my family are totally different and there’s so much toxicity by me trying to maintain a link which is broken. It’s heart breaking but I’m on my journey of separation and it’s a rocky road but I gotta keep walking and I pray it’ll get easier.
Yes, the black sheep or the scapegoat is often the one who is most likely to break the ancestral trauma that leads to all the chaos...they go on to have healthier more emotionally whole children ...keep doing the work x
It’s important to remember that the dysfunctional family roles can change depending on different situations. For example, more than one sibling may feel that they were the scapegoat and each may be right to feel that way.
Thank you for your courage. This is very helpful for me right now.
So glad to hear that - if you need anyone to talk to I'm here
Thank you for the update. Yes, I have gotten the same response. Thank you for validating my awareness, strength, and desire to be a complete me...not who they wanted me to be. I have read this over and over when I feel like " their doing it to me again" You can only try to make peace so many times and now they don't even understand they're doing anything wrong because they've done it sooo many times. Please continue this message and to be an inspiration to us all ❤ 😊
I’m going through the same thing right now. I sent her letters, and I got nothing, on our last conversation she told me to leave her and her kids alone, so I can’t be the cool uncle to my nephews, it hurts, it’s sad, but I’m walking away in peace. I tried to make amends but I know shes cold hearted as was our Toxic Father.. woooo hoooo Family, aren’t they “supposed” to stick around through thick and thin…???????
Thank you, thank you, thank you! You are making our lives better. Much appreciated!
I’m going through this now. I have two sisters and one of them I am not close to . Never have been. Even when we see little she would jump on my ribs , make fun of me all the time , tell me to get away from her etc. as we got older we never hung out. We have different friends. Very different personalities. We went on one vacation together and we argued. I think we tolerate each other bc we have such a small family etc but I don’t think she would care less if she never seen me again. We just do not get along . I plan on moving out of state so we will grow more apart I’m sure and not even miss each other
It’s the parents fault.
I totally get where you are coming from
@@tiagonthegoI don’t blame my mom. I blame my sister. To this day I have no idea why she would always tell me to get away from her when I was little and as we got older I would call her to see what she was up to and she acted as if I was the last person on earth she wanted you talk to. There was a lot of awkward silence. We have different friends , life styles , views on life and we never have anything ti talk about when we see each other. We have absolutely nothing in common except same parents. She doesn’t acknowledge my birthdays. I seen my Xmas gift I gave to her next to the litterbox. None of my friends like her. Our other sis told me she tolerates her bc we have such a small family and she sees her like I distant cousin. I went very LC with her one year ago and I recently made the decision no contact. I’m done trying. I don’t deserve her nasty behaviors and the silent treatments she gives me. I could write a book on the nasty things she has done. I’m over it. Right now I feel like I have one sister now. That’s what I’m going to tell anyone who asks me.
Hello! I am a fairly new subscriber and that video was what I needed to see and hear at the time I found your channel. Like you i was going through the same exact situation and like you felt all those feelings emotions you talked about I really related to it. The crazy part is spirit put this on my mind recently and I too wondered if you and your family worked things out. I didn't request a follow-up video but in this last week I thought to ask you. I was totally shocked when I saw this tonight it's as if universe sent my message. I can relate and I was once too that woman that suffered tremendously from lack of having a "normal" and united loving family. Sadly my family suffers from the very same , a generational curse that has created jealousy, strife and division. Like you getting deep into my spirituality has helped me too to heal and move past it. Thank you so much for this video you were definitely an inspiration to get past that hurt just by being you. Many many blessings hopefully one day things will be right and if not it's ok.
Hello !!! Aw yes the Universe has a way of communicating our wants and needs through each other. I’m so glad you were able to catch the update. I had to free myself !!!
Thank you so much for being a kind soul ! Hopefully we can meet up in the Astral world 🖤🌎
@@WilddmotherI’m sorry
Thanks for sharing your story
Don't change a thing about your self your out here to help your awesome iowa lady
I needed this video... I appreciate u
I am grateful for the content 🤗❤❤. It is courageous of you to explain your reasoning for breaking curses. 5:27 Is where your experiences are relatable and instructive! The Most High answers prayers!
Midday blessing my love- dont give energy to ANYBODY WHO IS NOT WORTHY- MEANING FUCK'EM.People especially family will hate u for the most stupid reason- KEEP IT MOVING
Thank you so much for sharing ❤ Watching both of your videos, truly gave me hope. Grieving an alive person, is the hardest thing one can go through. I’m definitely at the stage of your first video (crying about it). However, this one gave me hope that maybe in four years it won’t matter all that much, or not at all 🤍 peace upon your soul sister.
Thanks for your wisdom. I am dealing with the disappointment of not having sibling cohesion, or even kindness, after my dads recent death. Its not realistic to want it, and i grieve that impossibility, in addition to the loss of my brother, dad and a great friend within a few months of eachother. Time and truth are healing.
Thank you Please keep doing updates for all the people who need it 🙋🏾♀️theres really not enough videos about this
Black sheep here too 😢I understand 🙏
I won't extend the olive branch again. It's like self-harm at this point.
Decided to go no contact with my older sister and this has helped me so much. ❤️
I really needed to hear this. I myself are going through something with my sister. We have the same dad but different moms. We have had our time but nothing like this before. And I needed to hear this. I have told her that my mind is in a different place in my life. And she isn't understanding me. I am the older one and she disrespect me and thinks that she is right . She had my second nephew , i texted her and asked for a picture of my nephew, and she never responded , i gave her a few weeks because she had her son and i was not ready for her response which was her telling me that my conversations were meaningless and that she will see me when she sees me , but like you said i am good. I never responded I just leave it in God's hands. I needed this ..thank you so much
I’m not trying to offend you when I say this. Your comment seems like you feel entitled to some things. You and your sister don’t have a relationship but you still felt she should have sent a picture of her child just because you wanted her to. Put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if your estranged sibling was upset that you didn’t send a picture of their newborn? You have to respect people’s boundaries when it comes to their child (as long as it’s not harmful)
Heres my story…. Im 28 about to be 29 in July and im the middle child of 3 brothers. My oldest is my half brother older than me by 10 years (we have different dads) and my youngest is my Irish twin born a year apart the same month with both the same parents. Growing up my oldest was a problem child, selling drugs, getting locked up, gang life etc. my youngest was always around me we were close (until our early 20s) long story short my older brother became real jealous of me when i was a senior in high school. Him and his girlfriend at the time (who was 7 years younger than him and white) used to make fun of me for being a virgin, basically bullying me that whole school year until one day my older brother beat me up in front of his girlfriend for disrespecting my mom he was really showing off in front of his gf. I had to go to school the next day with a fucked up face and got made fun of. I ended developing mental health issues from bullying and starting using drugs recreationally. My younger brother then lost all respect for me starting yelling at me. Treating me like he was the oldest. I recently went 4 years without talking to my oldest brother and he came to my house for Christmas and apologized months later he got disrespectful with me and I blocked his number PERMANENTLY. He was a big cause of my trauma between ages 17 - 22. From 22 to now my youngest brother has also turned on me getting me kicked out of places, talking about me behind my back, living with me and not paying his way. I let him stay with me for 2 years in my first apartment and all he did was eat up my food barely worked and play video games. I had to fight him to get him our my house and my mom came to pick him up. Hes been in a rescue mission since then. He called me earlier this month after i wasn’t speaking to him to apologize. Today he asked if he could come back and i told him no. So he cussed me out through text. I blocked him. I could never see myself talking to them two ever again.
I think it was big of you to actually sit down with your sister and have a mature adult conversation about your differences. I have not done that with her yet but she makes me so angry that I can’t have that conversation yet. I have learned we are just two different. If we weren’t sisters we would not be friends. We have absolutely nothing in common. What I find so strange is how different my other sis is. My other sis is kind. She doesn’t judge me and we can hang out and have a good time. Like you said we all have our own path in life. Well my path is one without her now bc I’m done trying
I’m the youngest (by a decade)of three daughters. I looked up to my sisters until I had to accept that unless they feel they can control me then they will try and punish me🤷♀️. They taught me not to stay in that energy. I miss them every day but, like you, I have me. It’s a new day🌿.
You cant bond with traumatized people that need a punching bag ..they cant self regulate( handle negative emotions) if you werent related will you still have a relationship with them?
That’s a good question. My answer to that ( about my mom and older sister ….. is no )
@@ccalexander1924 it's sad trauma over rides their personality
When they become aware of their trauma and start dealing with it, you can begin to have a relationship. But it’s sad when they don’t see it and all their people are gone.
I also agree about criticism! Negative comments are so valuable because they make you reflect. For instance my sister called me a liar. I don't lie but guess what? I DO mask. I was pretending things were okay and not being myself. So in a way I was lying, I was masking and not giving people a chance to see the real me and maybe even like me for all my flaws and peculiarities and eccentricities.
I love your vibe 😍🥰
Your not alone ive been came to turmes that my family don't except me for me and im ok with that
Your beautiful! God will put “replacement “ people in your life. He’s always there to lean on. You value your family and it hurts when you feel rejected. But boy are they missing out! Sometimes issues only come out years down the line. It may not be you they reject, but they don’t want you to see their dark lives. I have been through all of this, and at the end I can truly say, I tried. And yes they are missing out, because I’m a loving , kind person who was always trying to reconcile.🙏🏻
The his video was very helpful. Keyword; WHY? I have since questioned myself and I know have an answer. Thank you! Fuck em all which always been my motto as the black sheep but I was angry and my energy was negative but in had time to grow and now 15 yrs later I have a mature fuck you 😂 with peace. Thanks sister keep rising
I was blessed with a wonderful family. But I have had to learn that there are toxic people out there. In my 20s and early 30s, I would believe anyone who said anything bad about me. I would always self reflect to see how I could improve myself. But there were some people that I could do no right. I was always walking on egg shells. This has happened at work and in a relationship.
But along the way, I started to understand the difference between toxic and constructive criticism. I never yell at people, but I will stand up for myself.
My last relationship was with someone who increasingly was correcting me about little things. I never once corrected her about anything. I was willing to work on things, but finally I let her know that it bothered me. Talk to me like an adult. The next day, she broke up with me! Looking back, I realized that she wanted someone she could control. Not a loving relationship.
i feel you seriously. :-)
You are amazing
So are you !!!
Thank you sweety sorry for the late response@@Wilddmother
Look just we had barbecues in the 80s doesn’t mean we do it in 2024
You call it Toxic I call it walcome to Adult hood.
I just stumbled on to your channel,if you have children and a husband that’s your family.
Hi. Thank you for sharing your story. The link leads to this video, and I can’t find the part 1 on your channel. Will you list the link, please?
Oh wow lol so sorry I updated the link !!!
@@Wilddmother it’s all good 😊
People who call you a crybaby are mean and insensitive. You are entitled to vent. You’ve got to tell us how you really feel. I can relate to you and I am many decades older than you. Please don’t hold back just because some people might be in denial of their true feelings. Just tell it like it is for you. ❤
facts stagnet and selfish they cant even think right
Awesome video!❤❤❤
Thank you!!
@@Wilddmother You're welcome!!💜💜💜
18 years no contact with brother!
Same
Thanks
I made it a point to say I HAVE ME !
YOU HAVE YOU ! When you die your alone when you come into this world your alone - we have to learn to love and be with ourselves that’s all I’m saying
@@Wilddmother I'm not mad at you. It's just soooooo hard
@@Wilddmother I can't hate on a rare person like you that actually replies to me! Lol!!!!! 🤣
Plus I just looked qt your video and the views said 777. So I'll have to look up that what number means. Thanks for caring. No one else does, but I can't be mad at you for being unique. It's like being complaining about being hungry and finally get food and then throwing it away bec your mad you don't have more
Thank you for both your videos. I can certainly relate to it as I was on this same journey for more than 30 years. Looking back, I realize that most of my siblings were simply using me to run errands for them, period. I hv finally found the courage to let them go. It was painful but there was no other way. I hv to go no contact with them in order to preserve my sanity. Yes, you are right in saying that there are other people out there who will love us. Sadly, the term 'sibling' has become just a word with no attachment whatsoever.
Thank you ❤
I have one brother only . Actually hes the middle child . I had an older sister who passed away . My relationship with my brother has always been inexistent he has a great job a good salary had a masters degree . I am just a simple person . My brother likes to control everything like he likes to dictate you dont do this dont eat this eat this etc etc he wants to control you even at my age . Everytime u try to say i dont agree with he gets angry after that big argument . Anyone has a sister brother like this .
My brother, sister, and I have not been in the same room for 30 years.
The oldest sibling, my brother took off for the military when my sister was 8 and I was 16. Even though he knew we were being abused by my mother, he did nothing to ensure we were okay.
When I saw him at my father’s funeral, my extended family was shocked at his lack of involvement.When questioned, He lied and said we treated him like the black sheep. This in turn ruined my relationship with my extended family.
My sister, on the other hand says she just wants nothing to do with us. Doesn’t say what we did wrong, just threw us away like trash.
I lost trust for mine.
Thank you!!!❤
Thank you.
I believe the one sister I talked to now and then is a covert narcissist. She brings up past memories to define who I am, we can only talk about food. She is so liberal and spiritually not a Christian and there's really nothing we can talk about. She's so into her views and life experiences. We get angry and she talks more about herself and if I interject she gets mad. She's accused us of having too much time off so I can't even talk about vacations. She believed in masks and vaxes and I didn't. I just don't see a way forward.
DON'T TALK ABOUT YOUR SISTER TO ME AT THE END OF THE DAY THAT'S YOUR SISTER AND NOT MINES YOU ARE MESSY
SOME FEMALE'S WILL SIT DOWN AND TALK ABOUT THEIR SISTER IF YOU TALK ABOUT HER I KNOW THAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT ME THAT'S JUST MESSY AND TOOTHFACEY
Shut up