How to appear more confident and attractive | Professional communication training online
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Communication skills coach Dan O'Connor teaches you how to appear more confident and attractive in this professional communication training online. You'll learn how to use body language, tone, and your words to help you appear more confident and attractive to others. So, if you're looking for tips on how to appear more confident (even when you're not feeling it) or how to appear more attractive, or maybe how to appear more mature and confident--put these tips in your communication skills toolkit.
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I've broken down this video for your quick reference as follows:
0:00 Intro
1:29 Verbal Cues PLUS
7:58 Visual Cues PLUS
12:30 Vocal Strategies PLUS
17:20 The most important message in this video
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It certainly seems you have found your calling Dan! I gain something beneficial from each video of yours that I watch. You're awesome 🙌
Thanks Birdie; please like and share!
Dan
Ur so nice I just wanna hang out and drink a chai tea. ☺️
The whole section about saying yes and being gracious/accepting offers really hit me. I realize I spend too much time making myself small. I turn down things left and right because I don’t want to trouble anyone and for so long, I thought that was the stronger choice because it showed I cared about the other person’s comfort. But I can completely see the difference. And also how it can be problematic to do that. Thank you!
I agree to an extent- after experiencing some people in my life who offered me something only to use it against me later on: it has me more vigilant and discerning to the motivation of the person who's offering me something. I suppose it's a form of "love-bombing."
Now when EVERYDAY my coworkers offer to get me and everyone else something from the local corner store on their break, it wouldn't help me in the long run in my weight loss goal as I see them returning with loads of carbs and sugar. (When we have free coffee, water, and snacks...) So not only do I not want to be indebted to them, I certainly don't want to allow them to sabotage my personal growth and health goals. Neither is good for my wallet nor waistline.
But of course, when I'm a guest, client, or customer somewhere else: I most certainly gladly accept a kind gesture! 😊
I am so pleased for you. I know a woman who is a ray of light and crazy (good) humor and she always used to say to me: 'We should meet for coffee sometime.....But only if you want. No pressure. Only if you want.' Me? Want coffee and her company? At the same time? Hell yes! I often wondered where she got the message that anyone wouldn't want this. As I git to know her, I learned more about some hard experiences she had. But I made it clear: I always want your company, especially if there is coffee.
If people are asking you, they want you there! You are a part of the festivity even if it's just a coffee. It shows you are a person of light that people want to have around them.
Say yes and go enjoy your self as much as others do!
"There's no reason you should be under your chair unless you want to inspect the gum...", man, I love the way you teach it, unfortunately most of us never got "polished" on this stuff. I remember once long ago I worked at a bank and they video-taped their professional people in a sample conference so they could see themselves in the meeting. It is important stuff that influences so many aspects of our lives and understanding this makes a huge difference. Thank you for your videos!
It makes so much sense to accept the offering. I am definitely the "first" candidate in life! I just don't want to bother the other person to get lil old me a coffee so I think I'm helping not waste their time. Didn't realize it was slightly rude.
I feel the same. Made this error repeatedly!
The one thing I love about Dan is that he doesn't teach superficial communication skills... he also teaches the character we should possess or the attitude we should have behind the words... Btw, Dan I like the last part where you taught about the voice (I'm one of your customers who ordered your flagship course some time ago and asked you how you trained your voice ;) Just wondering do you now have a dedicated course about "voice"?
Thank you Carlo. In re "voice" I don't have a course Carlo, though as you know from watching my course I do talk about finding your power tone by speaking from the diaphragm. You know--pick up the end of a table and try to speak, :) I would recommend googling videos about finding your power tone, and I'm sure you'll discover in depth techniques and when you do--share them here with all of us. Please. :)
That is very well expressed. He is an excellent teacher.
Wow!!! I did not realize that by saying no is a rejecting act, thinking not creating problem or trouble to other. Taking note!!! Thanks Dan. You are master!!!
You are so welcome, Van Tra.
When you come across people who are soft spoken, be mindful that they may be traumatized. This is how I've been around most people for most of my life. It was the result of severe childhood abuse. I am 43 years old and this is the first time I have found this type of advice that is tactical, not just words in black and white without any guidance on the body language and tone to accompany it.
Being gracious and saying "yes thank you" is so very Irish Mr. O' Connor 🤣🤣🤣, when l was a young l didn't drink tea, but for heavens sake if people visit Ireland, drink the tea, you are exactly right, you will be accepted as one of them if you say "yes". My granny would say "cupán tae?".... I hated tea, but in every house it's gracious and respectful, so you drank the tea.
That is applicable for everything in life. People treat you better if you are gracious and open, not negative.
Loved this episode.
I love the look on Dans face when he talks about his brother
Oh you mean Marty the SCENE STEALER? My 10-month older brother who is ALWAYS STEALING MY THUNDER? THAT BROTHER????
@@TheWizardOfWords Hahaha We are so friends in my head Dan.
@@miranda951 me too!
@@miranda951 I know right!!! You just know he is the absolute BEST to have cocktails and dinner with!
Well, OK to all of you, but YOU ALL HAVE TO PAY for those cocktails. In THAT CASE--let's go!
A lady rescued me from the surf at Laguna Beach.
I was so grateful I didn’t know what to do.
I had an unopened bag of treats I’d brought from Hawaii ( they are very big on the offering and, the receiving)
The woman refused to accept the treats as my way of thanking her.
And as you said Dan, it really affects the social flow.
In my mind, I would have accepted the treats and if I didn’t want them, I would have tossed them.
I flipped from feeling immensely grateful to a bit sad and rejected.
With this story, I never recall the rescue, without equally remembering the refusal of the treats.
Brilliant content! Your personality is very witty, savy and inviting! I am always left with a big warm smile and an uplifted spirit after every video!
Olympia, thanks for telling me that. If I have made you smile and uplifted your spirit--I'm uber-pleased.
I love ur brothers dancing videos but ur my fav!!! I got 2 weeks to polish up my communication skills before we have to go back and physically work in the office !!!! Yikes love these videos and the skills are priceless
I need a link to his brother's video! His dancing is so sexy. 🥰
I do struggle with social interactions because I am shy. I have often been asked to speak up when I talk to others. This video is incredibly helpful.
Happy to help, Artst2010.
Hi! I just found you about a week ago so I’ve been catching up on all your wonderful videos. Today was a special one because I was feeling sort of down.
I’m a small woman but evidently I have a contagious loud laugh. I was at a restaurant with friends yesterday and we had a great time and I was laughing a lot which is good because I had open heart surgery four weeks ago. It was my first time out of the house.
When we got back in the car, because we all drove together, one of the women said did you see how that other table was looking at us because you laughed so loud?
I haven’t listened to enough of your videos to know how I should have replied. But, today I was thinking about what she said and felt badly. This video made me think I didn’t do anything wrong, because honestly, I don’t know any other way to laugh.
So thank you very much.♥️
I'd forget about your friend's comment, and continue to laugh as often and as loudly as you wish. You just survived open heart surgery, so you will probably always keep it in perspective :) :)
@@TheWizardOfWords Thank you for taking the time to respond. I so enjoy your videos and your open heart.♥️
Dan, you're a genius, I can't tell you how glad and grateful I am for finding your channel. I've looked at many other similar channels but this is by far the best one. I will share your channel for sure.
Many many thanks Campervan!
Thank you! I learned some things from you today that I never thought about. Accepting what is offered and taking up space has been a challenge for me, the way you framed it here really clicked for me. I naturally have a voice that carries, and I can speak to group without a mic with no problem. I was recently asked to officiate at a wedding and when the microphone didn’t work the wedding planner was worried but I said, “It’s fine, I’ve got this,” and projected to the back of the room! LOL my reason for commenting is to tell you this, all my life I’ve been called too loud, motor mouth, been told to keep it down by the same people who wondered why I seemed to lack confidence. When you said it’s ok to be loud and be heard, and that it’s preferred, I just felt so validated, so thank you! I’m going to work on your other things you suggested this week, taking up space in my own life. How can we get what we want in life if we say no more often than yes with our voice and actions? You rock!
Many thanks for your story, Mickie :)
I always speak loud but that’s the way I have always spoken. My husband thinks I speak to loud. I am so glad to hear you say this! I love your videos. I taught my grandson to speak and he speaks loud and people are so attracted to him because of his openness. I taught me daughter the same thing. She is a leader and a very confident young woman. Thank you again.
You're welcome, Reba.
I was always told that visitors shouldn't put things on people's desks because it's a disrespect of their space.
their space.
Love all your videos.I am vegan and I have to turn down all food but fruit and veggie bowls.Yes,I belong here.😊
I am learning so much from you. In all my years, I finally understand why my actions are not cool nor accepted! I thought I was being kind and gracious! Nope! I had no idea! I am so thankful to you for pointing all of this stuff out!! Thank you!!!!! :)
You are so welcome, Faith.
I was in he'll at work today and angry! BUT YOU made me laugh! Now I'm in a good mood and ready to carry on. That how great you are!
Well thank you, Dawn :)
I JUST stumbled upon you this morning, and I think you're awesome already. Will be tuning in to your other videos because I believe you have a lot to teach me that I need to hear at this point in my life. Thanks!!!!
So awesome!!
Love this video!💜
Wish I watched this a week ago I already rejected the cookie..smh
OH NO--well try not to do that again Jonae.
Love your content!!
Got side tracked buying a house for a few months, glad to be back getting alerts for these awesome vids!
You know every1readthis--It is possible to negotiate a house purchase, actually buy the house, move into the house, cook your first meal in the house, have your first good night's sleep in the house AND CONTINUE WATCHING MY VIDEOS.
I love your teaching. For the visual part, I find walking into a room slowly enhance confidence. A lot of us walk fast when we are nervous. Imagine everyone is scrambling entering the conference room for a meeting and there you are walking in slowly and scanning the room while doing it. There is a comedian that I love and he does exactly that. He walks on stage slowly and once he gets to the mic, he delivers his joke in precision. Love what you are teaching Dan I’m a fan.
Absolutely Monk n' Cook--I've mentioned that in other videos and totally agree with you. This was a recommendation I gave to women who wanted to be treated more seriously, but it equally applies to men.
Two kinds of people: Poor people walk fast. Rich people walk slow. What's the hurry.
Dan, you are amazing and oh so funny. I love your sense of humour and grateful for your gift, that you share so freely.
I am the 'first candidate' who really want to be the 'second candidate'. I seriously feel awkward when in a group and I always behave as if I am from some other planet when people approach me. :( I really want to change myself into a better version.
Thank you for the empowering lessons in effective communication,Dan.I came across your videos at the right moment. 👌
I have resolved myself to speak loudly, after being somewhat quiet and coming off as timid, which I am not. Now, my colleagues are telling me that I'm speaking too loudly when we're conversing about topics that should remain outside of the "office".
Thanks for the great content, Dan. I cannot absorb your superb and insightful information quick enough.
Well you can't please 'em all, TrueHero, so please yourself! Thank you for the compliment, and please share these videos liberally :)
Thank you so much for these videos they are super helpful!
You are so bad ass! Thank you so much for breaking this down. Thank you for saying its good to be loud and proud.
Thank you again for the amazing lessons
I love this!
Your training is amazing and entertaining!
Dan! I am so grateful for this life changing advices, I am introvert and it was it easy to deal with most people especially the part of Mark your territory how brilliant is it advice, I used to do it recently to let people know and also giving people the benefit and then what you want you say huge thank you Dan!
Loved this video! Thank you Dan!
Glad you enjoyed it Sweetlimitless :)
You are, really very good at what you do and your self confidence makes you glow.
Youare a great teacher and you seem very kind and generous as well. May God continue to bless you and enlarge your territory. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you so much, Dave. And may God bless you as well.
Dan
There you are!! The breath of fresh air I needed this morning! Thank you for another valuable video, Dan.
Well thank you Smoky Happy to bring that fresh air to you. Keep watching because there is more to come.
I love your work - such an interesting perspective and straight forward delivery. I'm just getting started!!
Thank you, Dan!!! So valuable and affirming and applicable! I cheered when you described your feelings about quiet talkers!!! Countless times a week I have to ask my coworkers to repeat themselves and exhort them to communicate at an audible volume. Clear communication is crucial, unavoidable, paramount in all things but in our space it is absolutely essential!!
Thanks for coaching us in how to communicate more kindly and wisely.
You’re so fun to learn from, Dan! You make it so friendly and funny. Thank you.
Wow. ❤️ I really needed to hear this right now. 👏🏻
I just love you!! Thanks for all you do!
You are so welcome Shanell; please like and share
Fantastic information!
Thank you.
Great content Dan! Thank you!!
Many thanks, Antoinette. Please like and share. :)
I love your videos and this is especially important to me. I learned a lot from it. Thank you so much Dan and I also love your sense of humor it’s wonderful.
You are so welcome! I appreciate you taking the time to write and tell me that, Jan! I look forward to hearing more from you! Thank you for your support!🌹
Dan
Thank you!!
Loudly is proudly. Ty
Great as always Daniel 👍
Well thank you Jorge. I think I may know you. :)
Very helpful. God bless you!👌 ❤
Golden! Thank you Dan, such great explicit directions.
Gypsy
so glad i found your channel! you are teaching invaluable skills!
Thanks, Jenna. Please like and share whatever you find of value.
Loving words rule! Ty DC 🙂
Your videos really do help 😂 proud subscriber here !!
I've recently discovered this channel. I'm learning a lot from you and totally enjoy that you emphasise communicating in a loving way, in a world full of contempt and passive aggressiveness.🔥💪
So true and well expressed!
The first tip about accepting stuff is really informative 💯
Glad it was helpful!
I was just speaking to a friend about ‘not gaslighting others’ I really appreciate your UA-cam Channel! Thank you,👍🏼 Keep them coming🤗
Thank you 😊
These videos are always so well done Dan, I find I can put them in action right away. Your content has helped tremendously!
Thank you Susan G. Please like and share. More of these are coming soon. :)
I learned so much from this! Thank you for all your wonderful advice. ❤
Another great vídeo!! So many times, I "was" the first candidate on social interactions. Thank you so much for your wisdom, Mr. Dan O'Connor!
You're very welcome Rita, and please like and share this video!
The content u offer is astoundingly helpful!! I feel so grateful to have discovered u. Thank u so much.
You are welcome, Persephone.
Loving this video! Sharing it too!
Thanks for the comment and the share, dRuth. Dan
Thank you sooooo much... For years, I’ve been self conscious about communicating. You are truly a master at this.
Very happy to help, Nicole!
👏🙏💝Dan you’re a gift!
Invaluable & now I don’t have to worry about always being too loud✊
Right :) :) :)
Thank you Dan!
You're welcome, Kathleen!
such valuable information! thank you
Glad it was helpful!
Just stumbled across your videos. Im so excited about the content and the Tools you give to better communicate with others under any circumstances. Thank you for sharing this vital information. ❤
Welcome aboard, Diana.
Don a can't stop watching your videos. Thank you so much. 💓
Thanks for letting me know, Robert, and I hope you share these. You've seen the trailers. Now if you ever want to watch the movies--go to my website danoconnortraining.com. and check out the courses :)
It’s great 👍
Great ideas and info Dan. Many thanks for posting this video.
You're welcome and please share these videos, Amira.
Make yourself belong to the place, graciously accept your place and the things offered to you. These insights change my perspective and make my life a lot easier easier at work. Dan THANKS THANKS so much from the bottom of my life. 💃💃💃
Wow I have done this for years and I was really comfortable, I have always done well in my career with being confident but I always end up with some type of hater or bully calling me loud , acting like they can’t understand me, and trying to minimize my intelligence, or trying to talk down to me I actually recently started thinking I need to work on becoming the first candidate. Are you going to have new classes soon I definitely need to learn how to maintain my confidence when people are trying to tear it down
Always useful, thanks👌❤️
Thanks, Gena.
Fabulous content Mr. O’ Connor!! 🎉
Many thanks.
This video may have changed the way I communicate. Thank you! 🙌🏻
Thanks Mike. I hope I've made a positive difference. :)
Your videos are very interesting and engaging. Thank you so much for the helpful information! ❤️
You're welcome, Megan.
Love this ☝️ one Dan!
Many thanks Zanny. BTW, we might be related. My name is Danny Bananny.
You are the man Dan. Great video.
I appreciate that, Rickie! Thank you. I hope you find it useful in your new endeavor :)
@@TheWizardOfWords I will. I reference your videos all the time with my Aikido friends. I told my neighbor just today to subscribe to your channel, because your strategies work to bring about a better communication environment. Thanks Again!
I got a lot out of this. Thank you
You're welcome, Vanessa. I hope you liked and shared.
This video with your brother dancing 🕺 bright my day! ☀️☀️☀️
Yes, he just put out a new FB video of himself dancing around in the workout room he just built in his basement. He thinks he's SOOOOOO cool.
You are amazing! Your brother has nothing on you! I love your videos!!! 😊
Thank u for ur videos. U have helped me so much! I’ve used communication techniques I have learned from you to step into my personal power. ESP with some very toxic coworkers. It’s amazing and I mean amazing how the dynamic is changing! And u know what? As my confidence is rising I am attracting quality people into my inner circle!! It’s nothing short of life changing and I’m not exaggerating one bit. Thank u soooo much :)
Christine, expect to see your name in lights. You have accomplished exactly what I'm hoping for as I help you as best I can with the words I think will help.
Dan
Great advice ! Thank you , just found your Channel and I have learned so much and enjoy your personality 💕💕🙏🏽💕💕💕💕💕
Welcome!!
Gee. Now I know why I get annoyed with my neighbour. She comes over. She wont sit down. She paces. And NEVER accepts anything. I just want to say to her 'SIT THE F*CK DOWN AND HAVE A PIECE OF CAKE'...Im going to ways accept offers now. Great video Dan. I really love your videos. Greetings from Downunder x
Love ❤️ it very informative
Glad it was helpful, ourlives.
I love your videos! Everything offered is so very helpful to me. Plus, I share your info to others, because I think you are fabulous!
Thank you for the encouragement and for the shares, Kathy.
Your brother's dancing cracks me up!
Yeah, me too :)
Hello Dan, I have been sitting on the edge of my chair while looking at you and listening very closely. You gave enlightening , amazing answers to questions I have not even considered to ask. I am so glad that I found a true gem in your channel. Thank you very much. Your charisma is infinite. You are just golden. Greetings from Germany.
Many many thanks Riku, and greetings from both Ajijic Mx and Fargo, North Dakota!
I’ve learned so much by watching your videos and am excelling at work with a never-had-before confidence. Through hard work and being way out of my comfort zone, I don’t need anyone else’s opinion to make a decision and I don’t need to be validated either.
A new challenge has presented itself in the form of a jealous, insecure coworker as a result. I no longer seek her permission or approval and she’s become passive-aggressive, negative and difficult to be around. She’s told me that she believes I’m out to get her job, I belittle her and don’t respect her and it’s all all about me.
I just love being more confident at work and it’s not my job to coddle her and reassure her that she’s the most important person at work. I’m just going to keep being me and not let her bring me down.
Yes, definitely be the best version of YOU. Perhaps knowing your coworker is insecure will help you be mindful when you deal with her. I'm happy to have helped you with your confidence, and I hope along the way I've encouraged your kindness as well. Reassuring your coworker that you don't want her job, you just want to be the best at yours is not an act of weakness. It's an act of kindness that will help both you and your coworker in the long run.
BRAVO!!!!
Thank you, Patricia!
You are awesome!
Many thanks, Anne.
Just found your channel yesterday, watched a few - So far, easy to follow, entertaining and VERY helpful. Looking forward to viewing more! Thanks! One question though, why not post your brothers link?
Love the video
Thanks, R. Please share and spread the word.
I learn something new with each video. It'll come in handy for entering a new work environment.
Great to hear!