"Don't Be Fake!" 15 Communication Skills For More Meaningful Conversations
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Learn how to improve communication skills and have a conversation with anyone about anything--for introverts and others. Personal communication skills coach Dan O'Connor gives you secrets for making small talk, and if you're on the spectrum or an introvert, or just plain shy--these secrets are going to make your life so much easier.
With just a few new interpersonal communication skills you will be able to make small talk and hold a conversation with skill and finesse. The following outline tells you what you'll learn in today's free effective communication skills training course online from Dan O'Connor. You'll notice they include starting conversations, and how to keep the conversation going--and how to keep things positive--for starters!
0:00 Intro
03:09 Pt.1: Starting Conversations
03:10 Lead-in Lines
21:19 Using Names
24:09 Body Language
27:18 Pt 2: Keeping it Going
27:22 Navigational Phrases
31:01 Establishing Common Ground
34:58 Practicing Goat-Hiding
37:32 Pt 3: Reading and Responding to Body Language
37:55 The Neck Scratch
38:47 Crossed Arms
39:52 The Inviting Touch
41:11 Pt 4: Stalling for Time
41:52 The Feel-Felt-Found
49:00 Piggybacking
53:42 Pt 5: The Rules of Communication
53:47 Keeping it Positive
54:55 Avoiding the Taboo
55:57 Bringing others In
57:39 Pt 6: Making Your Exit
57:40 Transitional Phrases
59:43 Exit Lines
01:01:52 The Surprise P-E-C
01:03:23 Review
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Being a big believer in listening to what the world is telling you to do rather than telling the world what you’d like to do, once he received enough suggestions to get into teaching, Dan started teaching on the elementary level at Harland Johnson Del Bosque before becoming a professor at Autonoma University Guadalajara, and ultimately taking his unique teaching style to the world with Dan O’Connor Training.
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Just found you today! I'm hooked, and bingeing. Love your videos!
Teachers in school should show videos like this regularly. Young people don’t get the help they need in this area.
Agreed.
😮🤔👏👏👍
Communication stuff 😊❤❤
I need this. As a stay at home mom. I have forgotten how to talk to adults and how to be somewhat " polished". 😆 this is great. Thank you Dan. Always look forward to your videos.
You're welcome Jeanne Marie (which is my mother's name, btw). Her actual name is Jean Marie, but she took French in high school and went by Jeanne for a few years :) :)
I forgotten how to talk to people too the pandemic isn't helping
I can understand how you feel, I know lots of us stay at home moms that feel that way. I’ve found that by practicing, even if only in the comments section on youtube, that I’m able to better hide the fact that I only talk to toddlers for 80% of my day 😆💛
Yes I needed this one too
I remember being isolated for a number of years. Wow it is a strange feeling to not be sure how to simply have a conversation and engage and transition small talk into something more meaningful. It gets better with practice and being self merciful.
I have low confidence, lost contact with people for three years, and struggle at work fitting in with others. I'm always left out of the conversation at work. Thank you for the advice 🙂
You bet; you are welcome, Meaghen.
I'm in the same boat. How is it going for you, Meaghen? I would appreciate if you got any advices.
I empathize Meaghen. I felt that way all of my 40 years on Earth. I feel like an alien 😂 I'm finally trying to learn and practice, it will take a lot of work for me! I hope you are seeing positive results!
Me too..being the alien where ever I am, never bothered me before. I was even proud of it. But now since my late 20's, being an alien bothers me soo badly. I don't know how I have become this person.
Me too. I feel like such a misfit. I said good morning to my neighbor coworker only for her to make sarcastic good morning remarks to everyone around us and threatening me that that was her being nice. I haven't spoken to her since but the other ladies have also kept their distance from me. I don't know what to do.
As an introvert who went into sales, I appreciate what you are presenting here and will add that introverts and those on the spectrum can develop good ability to listen, which is an important feature of conversation that many forget.
Right on, Ruth. My mother and father owned a real estate firm and two of their best associates were introverts who weren't much for conversation, but they were GREAT listeners and qualifiers and producers! I would venture to say that the ability to listen is one of the most important features of a good salesperson. It's not about convincing a person to buy what he/she doesn't need. It's about LISTENING and discovering the needs of the buyer, and then producing the appropriate product that answers those needs. Notice I said "good" salesperson :)
"sometimes you gotta fake it til' you make it", must remember that!
Yes, for sure!
As a woman on the spectrum who is looking to branch out professionally into social work (after almost 10 years of being a STAHM), this is invaluable to me, thank you so much for your time and energy 🙏💜
I am so grateful that I could help sumgrrrl. You go onto the next stage of your life with confidence and joy!
I'm in the same boat. I appreciate these videos
May I ask, how are you doing?
What's a STAHM?
@@1986Martinez Stay at home mom.
Dan I became obsessed with all of your vids yesterday…THIS IS PERFECT TIMING
Happy to be there at the right time, Dion.
Lead in lines are memorable. Personal experience. Many years ago I was at a party filled with a certain Industry type people. I was not part of the industry, therefore many found an exit soon after they learned I was an “outsider”, except for one person. After he learned about my job, he said “ Tell me more about that.” He made me feel comfortable and hence after almost 15 years later, I’m talking about that memorable experience. Excellent advice Dan.
Thanks for the personal story Monk n' Cook. And thanks for the reinforcement. :) Dan
Mmmm I would of made the most of this 10 years ago however these days I just want to avoid as many people as possible . Get my job done go home and enjoy the quite of my own company
I get it.
You have such great advice for everybody at any age. Thank you for sharing and empowering us!
Your videos are really hitting home lately. Thank you!
You are a true gem. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.
Dan, thank you for this amusing, yet very informative and inspirational teaching! I loved your ideas!
I loooved this class, great practical advice, thanks a lot 👌
The common ground piece is gold! I often find in conversation that others often feel the need to posture or bring in this weird competitive energy into the mix needing to prove they know or experienced something too. It’s weird and I often freeze.
This is GENIUS! Have to fully study this haha. Thanks!
This is good stuff. Thank you. They should be teaching this in schools x
You’re the best Dan! Thank you very much.
I’m so glad I found you… going into the new field of healthcare I know I’m going to need these for patients co workers managers Dr etc … really glad I found your channel and resources. Thank you
Happy to help, especially in the field of healthcare. Kudos to you for your career choice, purple00k.
Thanks for sharing these succinct tips! Practicing for power, Dan!
Dan O`Connor you are blessing my life in a very profound way. Thank You!
Thank you so much, Faye.
I cried of laughter when you were doing your conversations exits with help of “mouth farts” 😂 thank you for that. You are so talented and I am so happy I found you here on youtube. Being 38yy mom of two who is only now learning how to agree to disagree, how to exit conversations and how to communicate in general. Priceless, thank you
the first two advices are so good for introverts thank you so much
You're so welcome, Youssef.
This was perfect!! Thank you so much for posting this video 💜💜💜
You're so welcome, Monique!
Dan, this is GOLD! I love your videos and all of the entertaining examples you give. You have a great teaching style.
I appreciate your comment, Debbie.
Thank you, Dan!
Hey Dan, thanks for this seminar. Appreciate your generosity !
My pleasure, D.B. Law Associates.
I loved your video!! (Especially your “guest” appearances …..fur babies)
I, too, was blessed with a father that taught me communication and importantly listening skills. People would come and talk to my dad for hours, and I would barely hear him say a word. I think he just used some of your leading questions then just sat and listened. So many people just don’t have anyone to listen….I mean REALLY listen. I learned early that it is a skill. Sometimes it’s very hard to stay focused on someone else’s problems or other ramblings. Lol
But Dad could always do it. I’m sure he could have really benefited from your exit strategies lol
Thank you for your very informative videos. I’m new subscriber but looking forward to binging your videos!!
Listening skills really have to be honed and practiced. And isn't it wonderful to have a father who was aware of that!
Loved this, thank you. I hope you'll do more tactical tips for people on the spectrum.
I was stuck with the shyness to approach people for years until you explained in this video that there's no reason to worry about approaching and forgetting (embarrassed) because we practice the simple skill of "repeating their name" as we interact for the first 15 seconds😃. Now I know how to initiate and REMEMBER 👍(😄as long as they have listening skills)
Happy to help, Janet.
Excellent help, thank you.
You’re amazing, Dan!! Thank you 😊😊
As a super awkward person (possibly on the spectrum), I appreciate this content. Thanks
You are welcome, Carol.
The examples you provide are awesome and helpful
I have learned such valuable skills in this one video that are going to change the way I communicate! I love all your videos and all your accountant. Thank you so much!
Loved this Dan.
You are the best ever! Love your work and the way you present your knowledge! ❤️🔥
I appreciate that!
Thank you for all of your videos! So much appreciated and feel understood too! Appreciate your wonderful work!
You are so welcome!
Thanks for this Dan. Much appreciated
You're welcome, David.
This guy is really good. I've always seen videos about small talk and that we should be a good listener and ask question, but the way this man structures his questions is incredible.
I appreciate your comment, Leo. I try to keep it simple, real, and most importantly--useable.
This is pure gold! And yes I'm binge watching your videos again😅
GOOD FOR YOU. Meanwhile, I'm binge watching . . . .
Love it, thank you Dan 🎉
This is helping me bc I literally don’t even want to talk to anyone anymore.
As an introvert with ADHD this is an essential tool to practice for improved communications in my role with groups and workshops. 😅feeling a little overwhelmed by the extroverted energies around me but can only change my own communications! Thanks for the tools!
Very very happy to provide you with tools, Lunarae, and I sincerely hope they make a difference in your life.
Yes!, relateable!!
Thank you! When I tell you this video just helped me get my life allllll the way together, I'm not kidding! Just used these tools and conversated more now with a co-worker than I have with any of them in the past 5 months! DAN, YOU ROCK!!!!
I am more than delighted to have helped you. If you want a full program such as this one, go to www.danoconnortraining.com/store. and check out what's there, Familyfirst :)
So so helpful, thanks much, Dan! As a previous commenter said, this is GOLD.
Glad it was helpful! And thanks for the comment, Kelley.
This is the most helpful thing I came by about communicating so far, thank you so much for putting so much efforts on formulating this great content!!
Glad it was helpful, User1ku
Hi Dan, my niece and I are about to do this course. Thank you for your services. We are looking forward to this new chapter in our lives. Sending you many blessings.
And many blessings right back at you and your niece, infinitedestiny!
I had to subscribe (first time watching) I needed all of these steps as a reminder as I grow in life thank you❣️
Thank you Lady, and please check out my other videos and be sure and share.
Thanks. This is so needed in the world and really good.
WHAT AN ANGEL YOU ARE !
Thank you for this
I did not expect to be taught better thinking by someone so young as you. You are a real gem.
Thank you Michael--especially for the "someone so young as you" part. I thought it was only my mother who still sees me as young :)
As someone on the Spectrum, I sincerily thank you! This is gold! Wow. Can't wait to practice my precious new knowledge!! Such a perfect timing!
Welcome aboard, Foxee.
You are wonderful. Thank you for these videos.
Great video and very informative.
You really are a talented communicator and impressive teacher 🙏🏻👍🏼💖
Thank you for the video. I would love to learn how to be more assertive in my communications.
I hope this helps you, Katherine.
I'm so glad you opened with being a great conversationalist isn't related to being an introvert or extrovert. I'm so tired of hearing that introverts are shy. Those are two different attributes.
Absolutely. My mother is an introvert and a great conversationalist. Just ask her :) :)
Wow. This is gold, great for someone like me. I wish someone taught me this earlier.
T Lang, I hope you can use it going forward. Beats looking backward, right?
I found this to be empowering. The presentation is succinct and a great balance of theory and examples.
Many thanks.
I’m on the spectrum and this helped me so much thank you!!! ☺️👏🏻✨✨✨
Glad I could help, Caitlin!!!
Thanks sooo very much! 😁
These Techniques are useful to build Trust between the person and helps alot
I wish I had watched this before Easter, but no matter-I’ve watched it now 🎉🎉🎉 Dan O’Connor is the man! Thank you, Dan 🙏🏼
You are most welcome, Brain4Five :)
I just love and appreciate your effotless communication skill, humor, honesty, personability, pizzazz, kindness and offerings of real communication nuggets that can positively impact, not only my life experiences and interactions, but those of whom I'm communicating with. Potentially creating a positive memory while cultivating positive future interaction possibilities?! - Which you make look and sound so easy!!
Listening to you speak is like watching fantastic practiced and accomplished ice dancer, coast and flow, jump and spin on the ice in such an effortless practiced flawless delivery that make it look so easy.
Thank you for being your fabulous self!! 🙌🙏🌻
Stay Blessed!!🪔🦋🌟
Shelly Johnston, you have given me a great deal to live up to--and I thank you for that. I should steal it for my next book cover! I'll do my best to be that person you described. And you stay blessed, too!
As an introverted professional, I've utilize these skills previously, but these tips are super helpful and will enhance my communication and networking skills! Awesome and engaging presentation.
Glad it was helpful, Vanessa.
Thank you!
massive value, I really appreciate the video! Incredible
Thanks, Michael. I have a few other videos for introverts and I hope you check them out.
This really helped a lot ❤ thanks Dan! May you do a video about table touching as a GM.
Im so grateful to have found your channel. Wow !
Welcome! And I hope you subscribed, Mr C.
Dan every time excited for your new video's
Great! Please keep that excitement and share at will!
Thank You Dan O’Conner! By the way, Good Training Tonight! 👏🏼👍🏼A Vegan Butcher was a perfect touch. 🌱🥩Be Well All🙏🏼
I just admire you and your work so much, you are an excellent communicator. I would love if you could make a video about how you improved your communication or who taught you and inspired you to improve? I used to be so shy and barely ever talked to anyone all my childhood. But I wanted to improve and I found that reading and writing about my thoughts of what i read helped immensely to improve my communication as well, thank you so much for making such helpful videos
I love your idea of writing about what you read. I need to do this!
Thank you so much for sharing.
Thanks for watching :)
love the flash cards!!!!! so helpful🙏🙏❤❤
Glad you like them!
Thank you so much 💕💕💕
You are so welcome, Mary
What a great topic, thank you :)
Glad you enjoyed it!
Wow this was entertaining and like I am taking an actual class. Wow so informative.
Glad you enjoyed it, Jesus4ever.
Thank you so much for doing this stuff... truly hopefully I can practice this stuff cause guosh
Yes, remember to practice so that you're ready when a challenge comes your way.
Tysm your are good. And it makes perfect since.
Another fantastic video by Dan
You are a staple in my youtube viewing diet - keep up the amazing work!
That is great Sean. I hope someday you click the "join" button and become a member.
Yay so excited for a new video 😁
I'm going to try to put up videos more regularly, K. Some things (such as creating new products for my store or coaching) occasionally knock me off my UA-cam schedule.
Just brilliant delivery. Holy moly so frickn funny - invaluable tips & insights
Thank you WickedGood :)
Thank you.
Very good info ❤️
Yes to your question about butterflies lol it feels AWKWARD!! Lol I have such a hard time with this
:)
You have activated both sides of my brain. 🤔 Thank you!
You’re welcome 😊
Such good advice Thank you ❤🙏
Glad it was helpful!
I’ve just found your channel and watched so many videos, thank you! So helpful and valuable!
One thing I did want to ask, I’m not sure if you have any content on this already.. some of these tactics I’ve tried actually backfired on me historically. They gave people a confidence boost in speaking with me and inflated their egos rather than respecting me and seeing me as conscientious or an effective communicator, more like I was interested in them/enamoured by them. Where do you think I’ve gone amiss? Asking for their thoughts etc seems in my situations to pass the power to them in the dynamic and people love talking about themselves so much they don’t usually stop to ask you the same in return!
bassist, maybe you went overboard in receiving their comments--especially the suggestions that weren't helpful? Perhaps when they weren't getting the message that you were being respectful, but not implementing their suggestions, you should have engaged as little as possible after that. When you suggest that some people thought you were enamored with them, it tells me you went past "thank you; I'll consider that."
@@TheWizardOfWords thanks so much for your reply! Sorry I was vague, I’d meant in social situations and friendships I usually find that taking interest backfires on me and I sort of become the cheerleader for everybody else. In work scenarios you’re absolutely right, I drop my engagement and seem to manage work relationships better. I find social interactions so daunting because there’s no exchange like work (service for salary) it’s based almost purely on whether people like you or not (or can use you in some way including for attention). Would love a video on this topic!
Great video🦋
Thanks!
Thank YOU Michael.
Omg this is my struggle!!!
I hope this video can help with your struggle, Lu Bu.
Wow, this is brilliant! ❤ I love how you organized everything and gave us a few practical examples for each subject. Where can we find the flash cards you mentioned? 🤔
I don't have flash cards with this video any longer, but you'll find them associated with my books ona Amazon--Say This Not That and Energy Vampire Slaying: 101.
@@TheWizardOfWords Thank you! 🙏🏻
Thanks bunches
Thank you for the video! I am an introvert with ADHD, and I often struggle in social situations specifically when I there is no obvious goal in the conversation. However, that tip about acknowledging the person who had an idea while still getting the last word on it (and therefore taking ownership) actually made me feel angry, because other people have done this to me 100 times. It doesn’t really seem right, and I wonder whether they were doing it consciously. Part of the reason I get anxiety about conversations is because of these sort of duplicitous, backstabbing tactics- I find it very upsetting. It’s good to be aware that people are doing this though, it’ll help me protect myself going forward. I definitely will try to use the advice you’ve given to serve as a starting point to make connections with others, and I really appreciate that you’ve taken the time to help people by putting this information out there.
Thanks for sharing your story, Jcatyoon. I know the challenges of introversion and am more than familiar with those of ADHD.
Just thank that person for validating your idea and take it back
I used your raise video techniques for my job. I asked for 18, 22, and 25.
They gave me $26! Thank you for your advicr
Way to go, Daru and thanks for letting us know.
I have a problem talking too much in a conversation. This helps me control my tendency to ramble and put the focus back on the person of importance.
Happy to help, Jane.
👏🏻 you’re the best 👏🏻
Many thanks, Stephanie. Be sure and share these videos. More coming.