You'll Never Find Peace Until You Get Sober (and that's a good thing)
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- Опубліковано 26 сер 2024
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The only way to truly put all the struggling behind us is to get sober and quit drinking for good. It's not easy, but the peace is worth it!
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Having had a DWI that ruined my life & made me hit rock bottom when Tim said " leaving a restaurant & a cop is behind you dont have to worry cuz your not drunk" I felt that deep in my soul! I've been sober almost 2 yrs now & it's such a relief
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Being raised in chaos, I have finally been able to enjoy peace & freedom. "I will take boredom all day everyday for peace, to be able to just breathe and live." Me too. 💛
I stopped drinking and you are keeping me motivated to continue to never go back. Thanks 😊
My sober journey has been the hardest and most rewarding chapter in my life
I can totally relate to that John.
@@TimothyWard Tim when you used to drink did you drink ALOT of the days? Like basically everyday?
The point you made about waking up and not having to worry about how hungover you are rings so true. For me, the freedom from alcohol is better than any high I've ever experienced. It's much more peaceful.
Yeah, really looking back at how peaceful mornings could be in sober healthier childhood, waking up before everyone and truly appreciating the entire experience.
@@JimmyJaxJellyStaxyeah for sure! I was wasting entire days in bed due to hangovers (last year) then I'd have a second day of feeling rough - it was so depressing and miserable - I'm still trying to find my 'purpose' but at least I'm trying and that's all you can do I guess
I love being boring! The other thing we never talk about about being sober is hygiene. I now have the time to really take care of my body and it’s crazy. I never fall asleep after getting so drunk and not brushing my teeth. I can take great care of every part of my body because I’m not exhausted or passed out or hung over.
The boredom is definitely something at the beginning but the reorientation of your life brings the excitement back. Think back, the fun we had as children without alcohol, tons of intrigue and excitement! I’m finding that joy again. You just replace the passive excitement of drinking with active engagement in other activities while sober.
One day at a time.... One minute at a time.. A simple plan for complicated people.
Dangit, Tim! I'm on day 5 of an angry relapse, and UA-cam shoved this video in my face. I'm not giving up, and I'm grateful for you.
Stopped drinking 4 years ago and definitely agree with what your sayin... But at first the peace does show itself as boredom sometimes. You gotta get through that part and realize how much inner drama it creates. Only thing I wish is I did it earlier.
Good video. Highly functioning boozehound and weedhead for decades, I called it quits as a gift for my 59th birthday. Everything else has fallen in line. Dr. said I'm in remarkable shape, earning good money and been saving a lot, so I just had to put icing on the cake. Tried it many times before and was miserable, but now it's like a new beginning and very peaceful. It still puzzles me a bit and I strangely haven't had a single desire to imbibe. I wish this for everyone who wants it.
Thanks for this.....at 38 days sober, it is good to remind myself why I am doing all of this. The peace is priceless.
Very true words. The anxiety came from knowing I wasn't doing what I knew I should be doing.
81 days since my last drink
I feel like your videos actually answer the questions I'm having. Everyone else is a click bait thumbnail about "I quit for 30 days and THIS happened!" and "This is what happens to your body when you quit drinking!". And I'm just sitting here like, "It's day 4 and I'm bored what do I do?" and your video is just like "Well, just do what you normally would do without drinking and wait it out."
Chaos and substance use go hand in hand. I struggle with this reality.
Your words of wisdom are appreciated
I see many people citing “boredom” as a reason they can’t remain sober. For me, I realized that boredom was a reflection of a character defect…I didn’t feel comfortable in my own skin. After I learned to find peace in being by myself, I eventually looked forward to it. It’s a way to regroup, relax, recharge. I consider it a skill, and like any skill, it takes practice to get better at it.
It’s hard to say how much I appreciate you,
You are helping me with life
I agree. What your saying is true. I accomplished freedom only by Jesus Christ.
i respect few people in this world, you are one of them :). Im glad i found ur channel, its rare to find realness in this shallow world nowadays
Thank you! That's an amazing compliment! I really appreciate your words. Stay blessed!
The comment section under your videos is one of the best. Conspicuous absence of trolls. Congratulations to everyone!
I have been sober two weeks today. I am having cravings but I'm using the carvings as a reminder of the problem I have. Most social drinkers don't have cravings so using the cravings as a reminder of my problem seems to be helping.
Congrats! How are you doing at the moment?
@@catherinelussier1559 I hit 30 days on the 22cond of this month.
Perhaps the worst part of being an alcoholic is having life just pass you by. Drunk or hungover, there's a great detachment from presence in both of these states.
The real challenge is how much ritualistic drinking is established by society - holidays, work events, celebrations. Studies show the world is drinking more today and perhaps there's a correlation with how we're more digitally detached as well. A lot more "observing" life today instead of engaging it. A lot of alcoholics might be missing a lot of wholeness in their inner deeper aspirations of life - fueling those things instead - creative or adventurous - something just as awesome if not more rewarding than drinking to replace it. Slower more gradual build of reward but ultimately a lot more powerful than drinking. Undeniably a spiritual journey and the deeper one is in drinking, the more spiritual work they seek. Not so much the religious use of that word, though it could be for many people, but more like that longterm life legacy and purpose, what truly fuels the spirit without the need of spirits.
Tim, you really do make some of the best content out there about sobriety, and it's because of how down to earth and just fun you are. Thank you!
Thanks Sara!
I stopped drinking for years and years, then Covid hit and things have never been the same........I take long breaks, but *BAM* i get hit with another craving.....
Hope to get that old life back......
I agree. 2 Months sober and all my shit is being confronted and falling away without my escape hatch of booze.
HI TIM REMEMBER ME ELIJAH TIM I AM STILL SOBER GOING ON 2 YEARS AND 7 MONTHS THIS OCTOBER 6-2022 TIM I JUST WANTED TO THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR SOBRIETY UA-camS THAT REALLY REALLY REALLY HELP ME LOVE YOU MY BROTHER I HOPE EVERYTHING IS GOOD IN YOUR LIFE THANKS AND STAY STRONG MY FRIEND AND BROTHER 🙏🏾❤️
You're welcome Elijah! I definitely remember you and I'm so glad you are still going strong with your sobriety!
Hey Tim,
I just wanted to say what a blessing you are to my life…on July 4th of this year I ended up practically blacking out and driving my car all throughout the city where I live not remembering and not even knowing what I was doing… I was followed and pursued by a few state troopers but supposedly never stopped until I got home then I was arrested for eluding, dui, and reckless driving… this has already significantly made such a negative impact on my life and it hasn’t even been a week… I should’ve known a few years ago when I woke up in harbor view trauma center with a broken jaw and had my jaw wired shut for 2 months…or when I blacked out and fought my best friend and almost crashed the car we were in when he was driving… I have had many many recent blackout nights driving home not even knowing how I even got there but no damage to my vehicle, myself, or others… it’s insane waking up to a completely terrified feeling of “what happened”
Thank you again for who you are and what you stand for. You are already changing my life in such a positive way. I have hope, and I thank you.
How are you doing since then?
It's totally totally worth it
Thank you for your videos. 50 days sober after drinking 33 years, have tried many times. I want this time to be The One. I am done with it! ☮️
Loved this message Tim. Peace to you brother. I am almost 7 months sober.
I am a codependent and sugar addict. I have childhood trauma and raised by narcissists. I am in 12 steps groups when I hit bottom. Adult children of alcoholic or dysfunction family 12 steps is good too. I don't know who I am and trying to figure it out. Meditation and lots of self love and self care. Thinking of doing Ayahuasca to heal from so much trauma. So many triggers.
You are BEYOND awesome Tim !!!!.......thankyou ❤
Thank you!
Please, *please* do more sobriety videos.
I will Elijah. I'm actually thinking about starting a channel totally dedicated to sobriety. I'll keep everyone posted when I do.
Remembering my ancestors who died from alcoholism, including my mother, grandfathers. I am glad that you found your way to quit drinking. I have quit drinking over a year ago, I was also in denial for years, saying I had it under control, and it was only a few beers a night, all alcoholic lies, I should have known better since I grew up in an alcoholic family. But I just downloaded the subconscious programming of the alcoholic. I had to just admit it, that it was problem, luckily I was not drinking so much that there were serious withdrawals. My mom would get DT's
100%. Got sober 2 months ago and literally everything seems better. It's amazing to feel again and have more energy and peace in life. I was always convinced the journey would be too difficult though, so never fully committed (tried cutting back a million times but always got back to a place of binging). Then I read a book called "This Naked Mind" and wow - quitting that shit was EASY. Like, oddly easy. I genuinely have no desire to ever drink again - life's too good without it. If you're familiar with Allen Carr's books, it's a similar principle (basically deprograms us to a lifetime of brainwashing). Figured you you could check it out, it might help you or your viewers ease the transition. You recommended a book called "Letting Go: Pathways of Surrender" a while back, and it's currently blowing my feakin mind, so just wanted to pay it forward :) Anyways, thanks for the great content and sharing your story!
Wow …what a great conversation message for people struggling with alcohol and drug use. This was great and you do look at Peace in your Face and eyes. You’re blessing so many people struggling in that are of life❤️❤️❤️❤️
13 month sober i like it a lot
Thank you for this video my friend.
I’ve been struggling again..and o reiterate AGAIN with giving up booze for good. There’s no peace here with it.
I struggle every day with my drug addiction...every fu+king day!!!
Thank you Tim
I love this man ❤️🔥 so relatable and honest and real it’s the best
On July 15, I will be sober for four years. Everything Tim says is 100 percent true. Had I known how much better life would be without alcohol, I would have stopped decades ago.
Congratulations on the almost 4 years of sobriety!!!
For me, to quit something permanently you have to have a desire to quit. And a moral basis for abstaining, not as to look down on those who still partake, but as to treat the body right, and lead by example. Turning down temptations, and openly declaring when offered you refuse to consume or support a beverage which causes suffering for so many people, solidifies this morality.
Thanks Timothy, it’s boredom!
You're a good guy Tim. I love your channel and lives. God bless.
This is my life now and it feels great to wake up in the mornings without regret. Great content i can relate to everything
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You’re so bang on with this one!
Thanks for the great content Tim!
Thanks Tim
Yes! I love this! Initially I thought when I got sober I would be losing so much… friends, fun, an escape from dealing with pain. In reality sobriety has opened so many doors! And yes, I had to let some things go, but it was nothing compared to the peace and self respect I’ve gained. Awesome video! 💖
Always enjoy your videos
Another banger from Tim!! So well put together, you were really in tune, of course because that was a personal experience. I was really captivated during the whole video. Thank you again!!
Glad you enjoyed it Steven!
HI TIM I JUST WANTED TO BREAK THE WONDERFUL WONDERFUL WONDERFUL NEWS TO YOU MY BROTHER AND FRIEND YESTERDAY MARCH 6-2023 I HAVE BEEN SOBER FOR 3 YEARS I AM NOT GOING TO MAKE THIS LONG BUT TIM I AM IN TEARS TODAY BUT HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY TEARS I HOPE WITH MY MY 3 YEARS SOBER JOURNEY WILL HELP SOMEONE ELSE GET SOBER TIM THANKS AGAIN YOU WERE A BIG BIG BIG PART OF MY JOURNEY SORRY I WENT ON WITH MY JOURNEY BUT I AM SO PROUD OF MYSELF THANK AGAIN TIM I WILL KEEP ENJOYING YOUR VIDEOS ❤❤❤
That’s awesome Elijah!!!! Congrats on the 3 years brother!!!!
Thanks for the inspiration Tim. 😊
God Bless you, literally just started my sober journey UA-cam channel! Happy you’re preaching the truth.
HELLO Tim 🙌🏾 thank you for always sharing your story and reminding us there's a try and an ump in triumph 💥 🙌🏾
Yep, the genuine is it...I have almost made it 60 years, I feel like who I was not really who I was, failures, shame etc. Drank through that as well, but you have to drop the junk and throw down on tolerating it..
Everyone: I have an idea
Tim: I have an ideal
I’m my humble opinion I feel it takes more work to keep up the habit oppose to falling back and relaxing
Thank you for all of these videos!
My pleasure Luke! Glad you are enjoying them.
Nice one Tim. Top bloke
Thank you so much for your Videos. You are a wonderful Person and Help a lot.
My pleasure. Thank you.
Great talk man, thanks.
Can't find a suitable number to express the massive amount of respect I have for you. You're touching and changing lives, and that's a gift that not many people really have. Keep up the great work.
Listen to this guy.
Your so right Timothy Thank you for the video
Sobriety motivation is an awesome message. Prayers of gratitude for you, sir.
Btw, 'Sober Tim, the real me' is a great title.
Thanks for this video!! Last night I was driving back from watching the game by a friends house. Didn’t drink and on the way home saw a state trooper and thought I don’t have to worry about DWI. What a peaceful feeling.
Bless you my brother
Tim you’re an inspiration for lost souls in time of need. I needed this tonight. Thank you!
Glad my video could help Alec! Stay blessed brother!
You are right brother. Thank you
I've been trying to stay sober, I'm so tired of feeling like an idiot after a night of binge drinking. You're videos are great, you've really helped me get through the bad days.
Thanks for this Tim! Some of us really needed it.
You’re videos are so helpful and honest. Thank you Tim. ❤
Peace is like beauty but it's in the mind of the beholder...
amazing video! Its taken over a year but i'm finally at a point where I can't think of anything worse at this moment than having a drink (and i'm on holiday in Greece right now). I've been on a hike today, kayaking tomorrow, exploring caves the next day, swimming, reading, listening to the sound of the sea.... just feeling peaceful. I wouldn't trade this life for anything. Over 20 years of heavy drinking never gave me an ounce of peace. Life is good 😊
I'm dealing with a friend right now who has a drinking problem. It's tough. Don't know what else to say.
Thanks
Thank you so much for the support!!!
Looking very handsome Tim
Thank you Timothy
You are an inspiration
You won't put the struggle behind you sobering up, but you can't face it until you do. Keep working, you'll get there!
Thank you, Tim.
Your words heal. They speak right to the heart. Your words help me with my former addictions to weed and over - eating as well as alcohol. You are saving lives and families daily, straight up
Thank you, Tim.
One can be at peace in any state of euphoria. The stoic person, for example, may have basically "smiled" as they opened their new Nintendo system back in the day when that was a thing... Where the very emotional person, for example, may have basically "jumped up and down on the couch" as they opened up to Oprah about their relationship back in the day when that was a thing...
All in all the addiction to alcohol is secondary and is mostly a side effect that can easily be shifted to ANY OTHER ADDICTION when someone has not dealt with the thoughts that are preventing peace to begin with. From the perspective of an alcoholic, methamphetamines may not be as numbing or "socially acceptable" as perhaps having affairs, watching violent shows, etc.
All of what I am saying is the same as what you are saying AND it adds a level of consideration for the fact that many of us have not even begun to decide how we wanted to treat one another (i.e. ourselves). Priorities are the easiest ways to determine what an addiction is. Starting with coffee every day? Starting without greeting others in peace? Starting with a cold face reflecting in the mirror?
Anyway, yeah, some of us are still children and creative and are finding ways to cope with the negativity that IS out there in the real world... Which cannot be covered up by ANY entertainment value task. Congratulations to your sobriety Tim and on your journey of TRUTH! The truth will always set us free AND the truth might also make quite a few other people uncomfortable. Depends on the Spirit.
I love you Tim! You are so right. I’ve been an admin for an online peer support group for some years now and use your videos all the time. So grateful to you! ♥️ And glad you gave us the gift that is the authentic you!
It finally worked for me when I stopped any program and read Rational Recovery by Jack Trimpey. It all finally made sense.
"I don't drink alcohol, no matter what. And I'll never change my mind."--Jack Trimpey, author and founder of Rational Recovery
I’ll have to look into Jack Trimpey. Thanks for the recommendation!
Tim, what a fantastic video. So many people will relate to this message. I needed to watch this video!
So true, man...thats so true. sober for almost two months . feeling awesome.
That’s great!!
I'd like to meet you for a coffee one day Timothy.
If you get to the (Greek) Cyprus island (before Feb 2023) or the Philippines (from March 2023) you are always welcome to have a place to stay with us. We are hoping to buy a small farm to keep me busy when I am at home with a month of boredom with nothing to do but try to fight that demon drink. Amazing, I am away a month with no drink and it is no problem, I don't even think about it - even after a stressful day, but as soon as I get on that plane and home again it is a constant battle to stay away from it. Thanks for your videos.
Thanks so much, I really needed these words today.
ye gotta keep coming up for air
AAA+++Bedford, Texas
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What a great inspiration… you helped a lot of people
Thank you.
Tks. much.
I swear he's talking about the family get togethers where I'd get drunk and obnoxious as he// and he is so right about peace!
Straight Facts, on point!!
Righteous
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