Since I quit drinking, I no longer wake up the next day full of regret and embarrassment about my actions the night before. For me that's the best part.
@@nav1pi983 hope you are working your way back to being sober it’s been hard for me and I’m going crazy thinking about drinking but these videos literally help me hold off today from drinking because I really wanted that drink but hearing people talk about the struggle makes me feel that I can do this. As long as you feel that you want to quit and work on it a day at a time that’s all you can do.
I can never trust myself once i start drinking. I started doing coke with my friend who found a good connection about a year ago. So every weekend we would go through countless beers and drinking alcohol straight while going through bag after bag of cocaine. I would wake up wishing i was dead! The depression and heaviness was almost too much to bear. If i was sober and you put a line in front of my face i would be like Hell No! Alcohol makes me think i could drive my car when i am completely out of my mind drunk! Every bad thing that has ever happened to me happened to me because i was drinking! Every one!!!
Tim, I’ve only been sober for 3 days but this evening I went out and was offered alcohol several times and I never gave in. I heard you in my head saying I don’t need it. I feel so good and I am so proud of myself. Thank you for your videos. I appreciate you.
Day 9 sober after a "relapse" of drinking 4 beers, at lunch with my dad. I wanted to prove to myself that I can drink moderately. I think I can but what's the point? I would've had a great time with my dad even if I drank iced tea. It just further proved that total sobriety is possible for me, and that's what's up. I like revisiting these videos to reignite my passion to stay on course. Thanks Tim
I spent my youth being a clown, being the 'crazy guy' but it was always me self-deprecating my true self for the entertainment of others. And in the end no one cares, no one remembers you or respects you anymore. At best they remember me for being a joke or a clown. Fu*k that right off. Time to have some self-respect.
I watched another UA-cam sobriety video of another creator and he mentioned the boredom, the apathy, the lack of finding joy in things you used to; those are actually attributed to brain chemical changes that occurred drinking alcohol. And since the alcohol isn’t there anymore, our brain hasn’t yet adjusted to creating those chemicals itself, but it does eventually, which is why the apathy lifts 🙏🏻
It's crazy how we dont realize that. It seems like drinking is doing so much for us while we are drinking. But when you reflect back on it, its really the exact opposite lol
Hey man, I'm 495 days sober. My name on here used to be thatsoberdude and I made videos...In early sobriety I got super in my head and deleted My channel but I'm starting it back up soon. I used to watch your vids and live streams. I just found you again and so glad I did. Miss watching your vids!!! So glad you talk more about sobriety now more than you did. You taught me a lot about minimalism and now I love hearing a lot about your journey!!!
Introvert. Exactly. Love every one of your videos. So much more helpful than AA meetings. So insightful, articulately-executed material. It's just so helpful listening to someone who has been there and accepts that IT'S A PROCESS. The reason I left meetings, etc is because they kept telling me I'll never change. I found that stifling and redundant. It felt old and stale. I could watch your videos every day and I get SO MUCH more inspiration to continue my sobriety journey because they give me hope and reassurance that, even when I stumble, I am going to get back up and be alright. Freedom...
AA can feel like a cult and then you have to deal with the people that can't articulate a thought and ramble on and on. I personally can't stand them most of the time, but a good speaker's meeting can be awesome. Best of luck to you.
Love the tangent about being “that you”! So often I feel like sobriety communities shame the carefree fun self - but you can still be that guy while sober!
My battle for sobriety wasn't as much as an issue for some, thankfully. I already do so many things sober that I didn't have big fights with sobriety. In fact I save way more money. I don't disrespecting myself and my body. I'm way more alert, cautious, aware, vigilant. I don't look like an idiot when I socialize. I avoid negative situations..like stated in the video, being trashed just leads to negative actions. Very rarely does it lead to anything positive. It can be annoying be the only sober person, in that too many people try to pressure me into drinking. They think it's not a big deal, when in fact, it is. Are you going to be responsible for me when I get trashed? I can't stand when people try to pressure me into drinking. I don't like to sound holier than thou as a sober person; but I really think if you have a drinking problem or even drink more than you should, consider getting sober. It's absolutely possible to get high off of life, having control of yourself and respecting your body.
Drinking stopped being fun...stopped getting a buzz. Went straight from first sip warm fuzzy feeling to sleepy. Just started being a way call myself "relaxing" and to go to sleep. Bottle of wine a night. Easy. Just an expensive habit that I was not even enjoying. The pandemic made me REALLY see how much I was drinking, with grocery shopping every three weeks and the calculations I would be making in the wine aisle (how many bottles do I need to cover three weeks? Woah, HOW MUCH IS THAT GONNA COST??? - Cuz I liked NICE wine, LOL) So, i stopped. I called myself stopping for a while. Then my birthday passed sober. Then it was 30 days, then it was 60 days, then it was 90 days...and i'mma just keep going and see. I don't miss it and am thankful. #ODAT ~Peace
I needed to hear this. You broke this down with all the reasons why this takes so long. I am in the building new experiences and this is weird stage. But, the other night, I was cooking and I had the onions chopped and I realized, oh, I didn't think about a drink ...and I don't want it. Thank you Timothy for reminding me I'm getting closer. Here's to building new experiences.
New sub here. Thanks Tim for making these videos. You are so on point, and I have checked out at least 10 youtubers since I put down the bottle 5 weeks ago. Some think they're gurus, others want to sell you a course. Some are kids that had a problem for a year or two, etc. I have watched 5 of your videos so far, and I catch myself nodding my head the whole time you are talking. Everything you say is so true, so I know you must have been a " Professional Drunk" before you quit. I don't even want to say how much and how long I have been drinking EVERY DAY, but I would say my "Check Liver" Light has been on for a long time. Keep making them videos man. You have a Real Gift for telling it like it is!
Thanks Jason! Welcome to the channel! And congrats on the 5 weeks of sobriety. I definitely try to be open and honest whenever I talk about drinking and sobriety so people know I've been there and am not just trying to get views or make money off people's misery.
Same here, I am an "undercover drunk", meaning I do all of my drinking at home by myself lol! I realized I cannot drink in moderation, and I made the commitment to live sober last Monday
I'm getting close to try this again, I'm so tired of throwing up every morning and being dizzy and anxious at work everyday. How I've managed to keep my job this long I have no idea. Day 2 without drinking though and I even came into work 2 hours early.
Your video resonates with me. I have been sober for 1 year & 7 months, but have been miserable, lonely and life has been beyond boring. I'm an introvert when sober and the life of the party 🥳 when I'm not. 2020 was an eye opener 😳 and have been sober since, but I refuse to continue to stay miserable. I've got to get back to living and enjoying life! Keep up the great work because your videos really help!
Thank you Tim for your shared experience with alcohol use. I am currently in withdrawals and reaching for help from the universe. For real pain, shakes, panic, sweating profusely. Even went to ER last night. Again, thank you for your positive posts from one alcoholic to another. It takes one to know one.
I was never the type of person to go out and get drunk, so I'm sober all the time from the beginning, with the exception of trying it once as a teen. Wasn't into it, and am not a people person. Though when I do get comfortable enough with someone/a group, I can get goofy and fun to be around, never need nor use alcohol or anything to do it, but socializing is draining. .
Yeh exactly, Alcohol makes socializing less of an energy drain. I have genuenly spent like 2-3 times in the past 14 years chillin with people sober. I am currently trying to sort that out but god knows how I am going to do it just cos I cba with people if I am not drunk.
Great video Timothy. It was a joy to see you make such strong and encouraging statements. May you continue on this better path and I hope many will be encouraged by you.
Pops! Thanks for taking the time out to watch my video and comment. I appreciate it, especially a video on this topic. My main goal is definitely to help others so maybe they won't have to go through some of the things I had to while drinking controlled my life.
KNOWING THAT I CANT DRINK N SMOKE REALLY HAS ME THINKING HOW AM GONNA HAVE FUN HANG OUT WITH MY FRIENDS GET THAT FEELIN WHEN IM STRESSED TO BE ABLE DRINK TO TAKE THE EDGE OFF BUT I KNOW I HAVE TO BUT PART OF ME DOESNT WANT TO STOP
Thanks , the difficult days at work for me are still little tough. 6 months in , I have not faced vacation yet , but your take on it thinking like a when I was a kid is a winner ! Appreciate it sir!
A lot of ppl especially the annoying AA people think their drinking days were more exciteing,The drug yes I said DRUG just dumbs you down to trick your mind into thinking your having more fun than you really are ,I get bored sober but I don't try to run away from the boredom with alchohol like i use to it's a Fake short buzz you never wake up the next day saying oh good thing I drank last night. You make good points it does eliminate shyness but real confidence is sober.
I started drinking less at extended family event and o got invited out again at 28 . My drinking at home was my biggest problem . Since I don’t drink durning the wk much anymore . Not going to bp when I ran out and drinking durning week days now at home I’ve seen a change mentally and physically .
I know this is a very serious topic but you are a comedian and I can't stop laughing. "Your kids watching you pee in the corner " 🤣🤣🤣. But yes quality time with friends is great.
I thought ab it,i miss before the time i Drank, because life was fun without it. The perception was different , now i feel like i have an addict mindset searching for the next high. which i want to get rid off
I hit one year (for the second time , first year was June 2018 then I relapsed) on march 25th. What’s different this time ? I finally got beat up enough by booze , and just decided to take the hard way and just figure out a different way to lice
Great video. So true. I just have to think about what I did during my last drink. I also drank alone a lot- so it’s hard the rare times I’m all alone. Almost to 90 days.
I always knew as of a child that I will never touch alcohol and I never . Am a natural in all I do no need for alcohol. Congratulations to you. No offence but I think that you are funny and kinda cute . I enjoy your company.
@@TimothyWard ...Am indeed a blessed woman . Thank You and now you are blessed also but am jealous of how you live your life . A greater blessing has been bestowed upon you . God bless you greatly. 😊
Yes, I was scheduled to be on their podcast last October but I got really sick the day before. I'm hoping to be able to reschedule sometime in the future, since going on that podcast would be a huge honor to me.
@@TimothyWard Nice. Josh recommended your channel. I been watching ever since. I like your outlook on alot, similar to my own. Hope to see youi on there someday.
Since I quit drinking, I no longer wake up the next day full of regret and embarrassment about my actions the night before. For me that's the best part.
I know exactly what you mean lol, it feels great!
I fell off the wagon. I'm drinking again pretty damn hard. I lost the day because of a hangover.
@@nav1pi983 .......crickets....
@@nav1pi983 hope you are working your way back to being sober it’s been hard for me and I’m going crazy thinking about drinking but these videos literally help me hold off today from drinking because I really wanted that drink but hearing people talk about the struggle makes me feel that I can do this. As long as you feel that you want to quit and work on it a day at a time that’s all you can do.
I completely can relate
I can never trust myself once i start drinking. I started doing coke with my friend who found a good connection about a year ago. So every weekend we would go through countless beers and drinking alcohol straight while going through bag after bag of cocaine. I would wake up wishing i was dead! The depression and heaviness was almost too much to bear. If i was sober and you put a line in front of my face i would be like Hell No! Alcohol makes me think i could drive my car when i am completely out of my mind drunk! Every bad thing that has ever happened to me happened to me because i was drinking! Every one!!!
Tim, I’ve only been sober for 3 days but this evening I went out and was offered alcohol several times and I never gave in. I heard you in my head saying I don’t need it. I feel so good and I am so proud of myself. Thank you for your videos. I appreciate you.
Thank you...90 days in for me! It gets a little easier day by day. I tell myself everyday I DON'T DRINK and I find something to do to pass time.
I am 2 months and 12 days Tim... you know where I came from.
Day 9 sober after a "relapse" of drinking 4 beers, at lunch with my dad. I wanted to prove to myself that I can drink moderately. I think I can but what's the point? I would've had a great time with my dad even if I drank iced tea. It just further proved that total sobriety is possible for me, and that's what's up. I like revisiting these videos to reignite my passion to stay on course. Thanks Tim
For me it’s like why drink a few beers. That sucks. Might as well quit.
@@union03g So true. I get more of a high drinking coffee then working out
I spent my youth being a clown, being the 'crazy guy' but it was always me self-deprecating my true self for the entertainment of others. And in the end no one cares, no one remembers you or respects you anymore. At best they remember me for being a joke or a clown. Fu*k that right off. Time to have some self-respect.
I watched another UA-cam sobriety video of another creator and he mentioned the boredom, the apathy, the lack of finding joy in things you used to; those are actually attributed to brain chemical changes that occurred drinking alcohol. And since the alcohol isn’t there anymore, our brain hasn’t yet adjusted to creating those chemicals itself, but it does eventually, which is why the apathy lifts 🙏🏻
Woo 6:17 hit me like a ton of bricks. Nothing great has ever happened to me while I was drunk, but so many bad things have.
It's crazy how we dont realize that. It seems like drinking is doing so much for us while we are drinking. But when you reflect back on it, its really the exact opposite lol
You are such an inspiration for newly sober people like myself. Thanks so much.
No problem Belle! I'm humbled that my story and my videos are being used to help others who share the same struggle.
Hey man, I'm 495 days sober. My name on here used to be thatsoberdude and I made videos...In early sobriety I got super in my head and deleted My channel but I'm starting it back up soon. I used to watch your vids and live streams. I just found you again and so glad I did. Miss watching your vids!!! So glad you talk more about sobriety now more than you did. You taught me a lot about minimalism and now I love hearing a lot about your journey!!!
Not an alcoholic but these videos really do help with my addiction
Glad to hear that! Good luck with your fight!
I have scares on my face from getting drunk and falling over, they will never leave me 😢
Here it is, 6:03: "Very rarely does a night of drinking change your life positively"
A night of drinking got me laid 🤣
I totally agree Alcohol does not usually change your life positively.
Introvert. Exactly. Love every one of your videos. So much more helpful than AA meetings. So insightful, articulately-executed material. It's just so helpful listening to someone who has been there and accepts that IT'S A PROCESS. The reason I left meetings, etc is because they kept telling me I'll never change. I found that stifling and redundant. It felt old and stale. I could watch your videos every day and I get SO MUCH more inspiration to continue my sobriety journey because they give me hope and reassurance that, even when I stumble, I am going to get back up and be alright. Freedom...
AA can feel like a cult and then you have to deal with the people that can't articulate a thought and ramble on and on. I personally can't stand them most of the time, but a good speaker's meeting can be awesome. Best of luck to you.
Love the tangent about being “that you”! So often I feel like sobriety communities shame the carefree fun self - but you can still be that guy while sober!
After my DWI I slowed down my drinking and now I drink once on the weekend’s, drinking was my getaway and now I don’t miss it.
Now that you'd stop drinking... how or what do you do to "getaway"?
@@hotsauce7362 bike trail
My battle for sobriety wasn't as much as an issue for some, thankfully. I already do so many things sober that I didn't have big fights with sobriety.
In fact I save way more money.
I don't disrespecting myself and my body.
I'm way more alert, cautious, aware, vigilant.
I don't look like an idiot when I socialize.
I avoid negative situations..like stated in the video, being trashed just leads to negative actions. Very rarely does it lead to anything positive.
It can be annoying be the only sober person, in that too many people try to pressure me into drinking. They think it's not a big deal, when in fact, it is. Are you going to be responsible for me when I get trashed? I can't stand when people try to pressure me into drinking.
I don't like to sound holier than thou as a sober person; but I really think if you have a drinking problem or even drink more than you should, consider getting sober. It's absolutely possible to get high off of life, having control of yourself and respecting your body.
Drinking stopped being fun...stopped getting a buzz. Went straight from first sip warm fuzzy feeling to sleepy. Just started being a way call myself "relaxing" and to go to sleep. Bottle of wine a night. Easy. Just an expensive habit that I was not even enjoying. The pandemic made me REALLY see how much I was drinking, with grocery shopping every three weeks and the calculations I would be making in the wine aisle (how many bottles do I need to cover three weeks? Woah, HOW MUCH IS THAT GONNA COST??? - Cuz I liked NICE wine, LOL) So, i stopped. I called myself stopping for a while. Then my birthday passed sober. Then it was 30 days, then it was 60 days, then it was 90 days...and i'mma just keep going and see. I don't miss it and am thankful. #ODAT ~Peace
I needed to hear this. You broke this down with all the reasons why this takes so long. I am in the building new experiences and this is weird stage. But, the other night, I was cooking and I had the onions chopped and I realized, oh, I didn't think about a drink ...and I don't want it. Thank you Timothy for reminding me I'm getting closer. Here's to building new experiences.
I know your mother would be proud of you for this vid.❤
this video was way better than drinking. thank you
Glad it helped!
This video is on point bro. Been sober ( from drinking lol) one month and it's awesome. You're right. I'm missing out...on a lot of bullsh#t.
👏👏
New sub here. Thanks Tim for making these videos. You are so on point, and I have checked out at least 10 youtubers since I put down the bottle 5 weeks ago. Some think they're gurus, others want to sell you a course. Some are kids that had a problem for a year or two, etc. I have watched 5 of your videos so far, and I catch myself nodding my head the whole time you are talking. Everything you say is so true, so I know you must have been a " Professional Drunk" before you quit. I don't even want to say how much and how long I have been drinking EVERY DAY, but I would say my "Check Liver" Light has been on for a long time. Keep making them videos man. You have a Real Gift for telling it like it is!
Thanks Jason! Welcome to the channel! And congrats on the 5 weeks of sobriety.
I definitely try to be open and honest whenever I talk about drinking and sobriety so people know I've been there and am not just trying to get views or make money off people's misery.
Same here, I am an "undercover drunk", meaning I do all of my drinking at home by myself lol! I realized I cannot drink in moderation, and I made the commitment to live sober last Monday
I'm getting close to try this again, I'm so tired of throwing up every morning and being dizzy and anxious at work everyday. How I've managed to keep my job this long I have no idea. Day 2 without drinking though and I even came into work 2 hours early.
Your video resonates with me. I have been sober for 1 year & 7 months, but have been miserable, lonely and life has been beyond boring. I'm an introvert when sober and the life of the party 🥳 when I'm not. 2020 was an eye opener 😳 and have been sober since, but I refuse to continue to stay miserable. I've got to get back to living and enjoying life!
Keep up the great work because your videos really help!
Tim- This hit home hard... my exact case/situation...relatable. Very well articulated... much appreciated!
Thank you Tim for your shared experience with alcohol use. I am currently in withdrawals and reaching for help from the universe. For real pain, shakes, panic, sweating profusely. Even went to ER last night. Again, thank you for your positive posts from one alcoholic to another. It takes one to know one.
Get some vitamins. Magnesium and taurine should help. If you can find those places they give IV therapy try it.
Everything you said relates to my experience quitting smoking, which I did 5 years ago. Same process. I just started my sobriety journey last Monday.
Just about every bad thing that has happened to me, and there were many of them, some causing major trauma, there was alcohol involved
Tim, you are such an inspiration. You are extremely relatable and I’m so grateful for your videos. God bless and thank you soo much for these.
This is exactly what I needed to hear to motivate me to become sober. I am very excited to feel that pure joy sober fun! Thank you so much!
I was never the type of person to go out and get drunk, so I'm sober all the time from the beginning, with the exception of trying it once as a teen. Wasn't into it, and am not a people person. Though when I do get comfortable enough with someone/a group, I can get goofy and fun to be around, never need nor use alcohol or anything to do it, but socializing is draining.
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Yeh exactly, Alcohol makes socializing less of an energy drain. I have genuenly spent like 2-3 times in the past 14 years chillin with people sober. I am currently trying to sort that out but god knows how I am going to do it just cos I cba with people if I am not drunk.
Why you here then to gloat?
Thank you Timothy and God bless you. Thank you for being so candid.
You're welcome Debbie! Blessings to you too!
Great video Timothy. It was a joy to see you make such strong and encouraging statements. May you continue on this better path and I hope many will be encouraged by you.
Pops! Thanks for taking the time out to watch my video and comment. I appreciate it, especially a video on this topic. My main goal is definitely to help others so maybe they won't have to go through some of the things I had to while drinking controlled my life.
Tim “I dont know much, but I talk a lot about it” Ward
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❤🙏🏻😊✨
Being sober has its cost...But not nearly as much as drinking too much too many years.
It reminds me of that saying, nothings as expensive as free.
Love your videos man, and really enjoyed speaking with you. You’ve helped me so much thank you
KNOWING THAT I CANT DRINK N SMOKE REALLY HAS ME THINKING HOW AM GONNA HAVE FUN HANG OUT WITH MY FRIENDS GET THAT FEELIN WHEN IM STRESSED TO BE ABLE DRINK TO TAKE THE EDGE OFF BUT I KNOW I HAVE TO BUT PART OF ME DOESNT WANT TO STOP
Thank you brother. Keepin me going.
Thank you for walking in your TRUE purpose
I feel so blessed that I finally discovered it Don!
Tim...amazing as always! Thank you!
this channel is keeping me grounded i love it.
Love your podcasts just wish I had seen them sooner but still not too late
Haven’t been hang over so far on vacation
Thanks , the difficult days at work for me are still little tough. 6 months in , I have not faced vacation yet , but your take on it thinking like a when I was a kid is a winner ! Appreciate it sir!
A lot of ppl especially the annoying AA people think their drinking days were more exciteing,The drug yes I said DRUG just dumbs you down to trick your mind into thinking your having more fun than you really are ,I get bored sober but I don't try to run away from the boredom with alchohol like i use to it's a Fake short buzz you never wake up the next day saying oh good thing I drank last night. You make good points it does eliminate shyness but real confidence is sober.
I’m glad that I came across your video.
Such a wise man
You become your true 'YOU' and if you shy then you can work on that in reality not hidding it behind substances
Oh loooooved this and loooooved your ending comment 🤦🏽♀️🤣....."I don't know much but I talk alot about it" 🤣
The no negative is everything! Thank you Tim!
Thank you Tim! I'm just binging on your videos.
yes king been hard but i did it! thank Jesus
Nothing ti do with 'Jesus' lol
Wow this video...your perspective gets through so well and is so unique. Thus is such an amazing video 👍👍👍
I started drinking less at extended family event and o got invited out again at 28 . My drinking at home was my biggest problem . Since I don’t drink durning the wk much anymore . Not going to bp when I ran out and drinking durning week days now at home I’ve seen a change mentally and physically .
Thanks Tim. Needed this man.
No problem!
Thanks Tim!!!!
good topic....important-thanks for doing this!
Day 2..'Sick amd tired of being sick and tired..'
Appreciate the video.
Needed this
Life is better off alcohol
Facts!
I know this is a very serious topic but you are a comedian and I can't stop laughing. "Your kids watching you pee in the corner " 🤣🤣🤣. But yes quality time with friends is great.
I thought ab it,i miss before the time i Drank, because life was fun without it. The perception was different , now i feel like i have an addict mindset searching for the next high. which i want to get rid off
So true🌟
I hit one year (for the second time , first year was June 2018 then I relapsed) on march 25th. What’s different this time ? I finally got beat up enough by booze , and just decided to take the hard way and just figure out a different way to lice
Hey tim just getting sober today in the hospital detoxing
Good luck Kade!!!
Wasn't able to do it on my own
@@boytusok9197 lol damn!! was it that bad?
Yeah man was hard as hell to detox and get better but its fine now
@@oscarmosca1234it's dangerous like can kill you if do it wrong
Netflix sober sucks 😂😂
Great video. So true. I just have to think about what I did during my last drink. I also drank alone a lot- so it’s hard the rare times I’m all alone. Almost to 90 days.
Congrats on almost being at 3 months! That's a big milestone!
I always knew as of a child that I will never touch alcohol and I never . Am a natural in all I do no need for alcohol. Congratulations to you. No offence but I think that you are funny and kinda cute . I enjoy your company.
That's a real blessing that you have never had to drink alcohol. I'm jealous lol.
@@TimothyWard ...Am indeed a blessed woman . Thank You and now you are blessed also but am jealous of how you live your life . A greater blessing has been bestowed upon you . God bless you greatly. 😊
Nice job bro
Recently sober here..... Went from shooting heroin to boofing air duster..... It's called "cold holing"
Started drinking at 6 bc my life sucked
Amen
If you are counting sober days then you are still addicted to alcohol.
How so ?
Tim, are you ever going to get on the minimalists podcast? I know they had you scheduled correct?
Yes, I was scheduled to be on their podcast last October but I got really sick the day before. I'm hoping to be able to reschedule sometime in the future, since going on that podcast would be a huge honor to me.
@@TimothyWard Nice. Josh recommended your channel. I been watching ever since. I like your outlook on alot, similar to my own. Hope to see youi on there someday.
You can still hit on chicks sober Tim
hello dude
Thank you brother. Keepin me going.
you're the man! thanks for posting this gems