“It's like everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time. That story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story.” ― Patrick Rothfuss
Like that scene in the 1966 movie "Fahrenheit 451" when Juie Christie tells Montag about people who used to sit on their front porches and swing back and forth talking to the neighbors walking by. Even back then, Ray Bradburry saw the importance of people telling their stories - and that it might go away. Don't ban books!!!
It's beautiful how she describes the experience of really listening to someone as a kind of love. In a world that feels so divided, we could all use more of that kind of openhearted connection.
The way stories are personal makes a real impact. How many times do we share or hear ‘Oh, that happened to me/my friend/my friend’s friend’. Real life connection give weight to experience.
My best memories are also from my childhood summers spent at my grandparents'. They would tell so many unbelievable stories. I wish I had written them down.
Community builds narrative and a sharing of casual conversation. I think these moments impact us so deeply in a way that reverberates across out whole lifetime.
I love the idea of stories creating a "living memory" that we carry in our hearts and can pull out for strength when times get tough. It reminds me of how people say "we read to know we're not alone."
I love how Bobette emphasized the power of storytelling and how it connects people from different backgrounds. It's so true that we are hardwired to recognize a great story, and it's fascinating how storytelling has the ability to transcend time and space.
I believe this to be of the upmost importance right now - we are losing our sense of community, perhaps it is even lost in some places... We need to be able to hear and actually listen to each other's stories to have any sense of understanding. What a fabulous talk. I shall be sharing this!!
that line about how "everybody in the room got it" really jumped out at me. when we share our stories, it helps us see that we're all human and relate to experiences that are different from our own.
The concept of 'living memory' really struck a chord with me. Our stories, our histories, are a part of our conscious being, and we must actively remember and share them.
Such a beautiful reminder that storytelling is the essence of humanity. We are all drawn to great stories, whether they are funny, thoughtful, or profound. It's amazing how a simple conversation on a front porch can bring a community together and create lasting memories
I love how she makes a safe space in her workshops for people to share stories they've never told anyone. Giving someone the experience of really being heard is an incredible gift.
I never thought about the instinctive reactions to stories that she talks about but it's so true, especially in children. 'Tell me a story' is probably one of the most universal things a child says.
I never thought about how sharing stories face-to-face can create a sense of wonder because we're "climbing into someone else's skin," as she puts it, and seeing the world through their eyes. That's an incredible way to build empathy and understanding.
I love how this talk emphasizes that each of us possesses the power to tell a story. It's a reminder that our individual narratives contribute to the collective tapestry of human experience.
she totally nailed it when she talked about how destructive untold stories can be. Keeping quiet and hiding the truth only lets the bad stuff keep happening.
I didn't realize the depth of living history until now! I can't stop thinking about the impact of those untold stories and the importance of listening and encouraging our elders to tell their stories.
her point about how fast living memory can disappear, within just one generation, is a wake-up call. it shows why the hard work of storytelling has to keep going.
The emphasis on listenning really struck a chord with me. The world we live in is so full of noise, taking the time to truly hear each others stories is a powerful way of building understand and empathy.
Dang, this talk hit me right in the feels. Stories aren't just tales; they're like a superpower, connecting us all in this crazy adventure called life.
Hearing about the "front porch society" reminded me of my own family's tradition of sharing stories. It’s amazing how storytelling can bridge generations and foster community.
I'm glad she also spoke about the power of listening and that quote towards the end really sums it up to. No point in stories without people who want to hear them
Her workshop approach is genius. Creating a safe space for people to share their stories would be such a catalyst for personal growth and understanding
She does really well at articulating how stories can transform lives and societies, like her passion for it so palpable you feel compelled to listen to her insights.
The closing words on storytelling's role in flourishing democracy hit home. It's a reminder that our individual stories contribute to the collective narrative that shapes the future of our societies. Inspiring and thought-provoking!
"being heard is so close to being loved that it's almost the same thing." This line stood out for me, it shows how deep the human need for storytelling and listening goes.
never really thought about storytelling as a national treasure, but after listening to this presentation, I can see why it's important to preserve our oral history. It's amazing how much we can learn from our grandparents' generation and the stories they have to tell.
Love the emphasise on the power of storytelling and how it connects people from different backgrounds. It's so true that we are hardwired to recognize a great story, and it's fascinating how storytelling has the ability to transcend time and space.
I keep thinking about the image of Tom sitting by the radiator, waiting and watching the sunset on the day he decided to get sober. There's so much power in the little details of stories... I think that's actually where we find the most relatable parts
This talk is _everthing_ Bobette! People really underestimate the importance of storytelling as an art form and the power it has to shape and define culture.
Completely agree Bobette, oral history is so important! Especially in a family setting, knowing your lineage and all of that stuff can be incredibly empowering
I'm inspired by Bobette's call to create a common space for sharing stories face to face. It's a way to develop courage and cultivate wonder and I think it would make for a nice little community as well.
the idea of neighbors just chillin' on the front porch, swapping stories, sounds so awesome to me. we could definitely use more of that community vibe these days.
The concept of storytelling as a means of connection and understanding really resonated with me. In a world filled with noise and division, it's important to take the time to listen to each other's stories. By doing so, we can find common ground and bridge the gaps between us. This presentation is a reminder of the power of empathy and the need to foster genuine human connections.
I'm left with such a sense of wonder and gratitude after listening to this. It's a wonderful reminder of the importance of listening to others and the impact of stories. Thank you.
The mention of historical events and their impact on today's storytelling practices was enlightening. It’s crucial to remember and share these stories to prevent history from repeating its darkest chapters.
The closing words about creating a better world through storytelling are powerful. It's a call to action for each of us to play a part in shaping a more empathetic and connected society. Thank you for the inspiration!
That’s a truly influential talk! Thank you. We may think that our stories are ordinary and mundane, but give them a chance to be heard, maybe they will change someone’s life.
I appreciate the dedication to creating a workshop for storytelling. It's a very practical way of empowering individuals to share their stories, which could lead to fostering a culture of openness and understanding rather than fearfulness and prejudice.
I found it so interesting that as people tell and re-tell their story - more and more truths come out. Even for the story-teller, it's like these realisations and epiphanies happen and the learning and the growth that comes from that is just so beautiful.
The mention of the Iynching flag at the US Library of Congress is a powerful reminder of the untold stories that shaped our history. It's crucial to bring such stories to light.
I had no idea how powerful living memory could be until I heard about her journey collecting stories from elders. That must have been an unbelievable experience.
Oh wow I really love this... was not expecting to get so emotional about Toms story but when she said "he needed to tell the story" I choked up quite a bit. I think there are so many stories we each have that need to be told and sometimes when they can't be it just eats us up
Bobette is so on the mark here. It's through the sharing of stories that we can gain perspective and understand experiences. I had never thought about the way people had been taught to repress emotions and stories and how important it was to ensure for their own health and for that of our society, that we make sure that their are opportunities to talk and be open... Sounds like it was a very healing project for many.
Her personal journey adds so much depth to her message on storytelling... this is a woman who has had many experiences with this topic at its core and can recognize the power of what it brings. That's pretty amazing to me.
"but the third story is always profound" It really can take a lot of back and forth to get people to open up but when they do it is really so incredible how we connect with one another when vulnerability is presented.
This is a whole new take on story-telling that I'm really glad to have found. I've loved writing since I was little but never thought about it in such a nuanced way
I really enjoyed her insights into storytelling as a tool for healing and change. I think we all have a narrative that we've shaped to help make sense of our experiences and sometimes it just needs to be told, and heard
The link between the MeToo movement and the power of storytelling is brilliant. Stories become the megaphone for those who've been silenced for too long.
I have done exercises where we were put in pairs and one person had to talk for 2 minutes and the other person was only allowed to listen and show that they were listening. 2 minutes is a long time to talk uninterrupted and I shared so much more than I expected to- I can only imagine what can happen in 5 minutes.
You know, I've seen my fair share of stories in my time, but this presentation really hit the nostalgia button. It reminded me of those long summers at my grandparents' place, where the front porch was the stage for epic storytelling sessions. Good times, man!
What she talks about at the 2:44 mark is so important, when you tell a story it gives other people an opportunity to tell THEIR story or fill in some blanks in yours and it can be a really wonderful thing to experience, especially if you're a young one listening to your elders.
The truth tends to upset everyone, but at least then we face ourselves and grow. Healing is so paramount right now. Thoroughly enjoyed everything about this talk.
Drawing parallels between storytelling in different cultures and communities shows a deep understanding of its universal significance. It's an eye-opener on the unifying power of narratives.
I remember my childhood and our trips to my mom's relatives. That was the most memorable events ever. They always had a great dinner, the table groaned with food, and they all told stories. It was always a long night but I always wanted to stay up all night and listen.. I miss that time, the time of family storytelling. Of course, they are not a national treasure, but they are a treasure for me. It's pity that a lot of relatives died, and that tradition with all the untold stories died with them:(
“It's like everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time. That story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story.”
― Patrick Rothfuss
Thanks!
We can learn to tell a new story. Thanks for your response.
@@Busterfilms1 great point
thanks for sending me this link Urs.
perfect quote!
Stories can no longer be untold, and silence is betrayal. I love how she puts it all together. And yes its radically accepted in my book.
Thanks so much for your radical acceptance.
how true Howie
I am with that statement too
she is such a beautiful storyteller
A swing on the porch brought us together in days gone by. Taking the time to come together. Love this talk.
Like that scene in the 1966 movie "Fahrenheit 451" when Juie Christie tells Montag about people who used to sit on their front porches and swing back and forth talking to the neighbors walking by. Even back then, Ray Bradburry saw the importance of people telling their stories - and that it might go away. Don't ban books!!!
There are so many things in here that are forgotten in todays world, what a well crafted reminder.
Thank you.
"no story lives unless someone wants to listen" - such a true and inspiring statement.
Love the way this woman tells the story about the story. Could listen to more for hours.
Thanks so much! I really appreciate it!
It's beautiful how she describes the experience of really listening to someone as a kind of love. In a world that feels so divided, we could all use more of that kind of openhearted connection.
So many things here we have forgotten, thank you for this talk Bobette!!!
wow thanks for sending this
Your welcome!
loved it too
Wasn't going to watch this, but really glad I did, amazing talk.
Thank you.
same same and glad I did too!
“After nourishment, shelter and companionship, stories are the thing we need most in the world.”
― Philip Pullman
The way stories are personal makes a real impact. How many times do we share or hear ‘Oh, that happened to me/my friend/my friend’s friend’. Real life connection give weight to experience.
We can only learn from our past mistakes if we make sure that they hard shared far and wide. Bobette is on top of it and I am loving this.
My best memories are also from my childhood summers spent at my grandparents'. They would tell so many unbelievable stories. I wish I had written them down.
Community builds narrative and a sharing of casual conversation. I think these moments impact us so deeply in a way that reverberates across out whole lifetime.
I love the idea of stories creating a "living memory" that we carry in our hearts and can pull out for strength when times get tough. It reminds me of how people say "we read to know we're not alone."
I love how Bobette emphasized the power of storytelling and how it connects people from different backgrounds. It's so true that we are hardwired to recognize a great story, and it's fascinating how storytelling has the ability to transcend time and space.
I believe this to be of the upmost importance right now - we are losing our sense of community, perhaps it is even lost in some places... We need to be able to hear and actually listen to each other's stories to have any sense of understanding. What a fabulous talk. I shall be sharing this!!
Loved it..
Thank you for sharing!
Bobette had always possessed a brilliant and creative mind that, with time, pushed the limits of those gifts. It is so great to see and hear it.
Thank you, Jerry.
I love when she mentioned about Cassius Clay reinventing his story, such a great example of taking control of your own narrative.
that line about how "everybody in the room got it" really jumped out at me. when we share our stories, it helps us see that we're all human and relate to experiences that are different from our own.
The concept of 'living memory' really struck a chord with me. Our stories, our histories, are a part of our conscious being, and we must actively remember and share them.
Such a beautiful reminder that storytelling is the essence of humanity. We are all drawn to great stories, whether they are funny, thoughtful, or profound. It's amazing how a simple conversation on a front porch can bring a community together and create lasting memories
I love how she makes a safe space in her workshops for people to share stories they've never told anyone. Giving someone the experience of really being heard is an incredible gift.
It's sad to think of how many great stories have been lost to time. It's important to keep this practice alive.
I never thought about the instinctive reactions to stories that she talks about but it's so true, especially in children. 'Tell me a story' is probably one of the most universal things a child says.
yes, my child says that evernight
I never thought about how sharing stories face-to-face can create a sense of wonder because we're "climbing into someone else's skin," as she puts it, and seeing the world through their eyes. That's an incredible way to build empathy and understanding.
The story about her grandparents made me nostalgic for a life I never lived. This is the true power of storytelling.
agreed
Maya Angelou is an absolute legend. Loved Bobette's talk, our stories lead to such empathy from the collective.
I love Maya!!
Thanks for shout out!
@@Busterfilms1 you are good, very good Bobette, keep speaking!!
I love how this talk emphasizes that each of us possesses the power to tell a story. It's a reminder that our individual narratives contribute to the collective tapestry of human experience.
she totally nailed it when she talked about how destructive untold stories can be. Keeping quiet and hiding the truth only lets the bad stuff keep happening.
I didn't realize the depth of living history until now! I can't stop thinking about the impact of those untold stories and the importance of listening and encouraging our elders to tell their stories.
her point about how fast living memory can disappear, within just one generation, is a wake-up call. it shows why the hard work of storytelling has to keep going.
The emphasis on listenning really struck a chord with me. The world we live in is so full of noise, taking the time to truly hear each others stories is a powerful way of building understand and empathy.
Yes, it's also not just about preserving living memory but also building deeper connections and connecting through the stories as well
Dang, this talk hit me right in the feels. Stories aren't just tales; they're like a superpower, connecting us all in this crazy adventure called life.
Absolutely true! Stories are the threads that weave the fabric of our lives.
Hearing about the "front porch society" reminded me of my own family's tradition of sharing stories. It’s amazing how storytelling can bridge generations and foster community.
This is the kind of approach to storytelling that not only enlightens but deeply inspires, thank you.
The power of silence being broken by stories is incredible. It ignites change. I've seen it happen.
I'm glad she also spoke about the power of listening and that quote towards the end really sums it up to. No point in stories without people who want to hear them
I love this talk, truth and honesty, she is a consummate storyteller.
Thank you. I really appreciate it.
@@Busterfilms1 😁😁😁
Great TED, yes I saw your email, took a while to click, well worth it
@@jasonopdebeeck4444 you did good... haha
What a great compliment! I'm humbled.
I love how she emphasized that everyone has a story worth telling. it's so true!
Her workshop approach is genius. Creating a safe space for people to share their stories would be such a catalyst for personal growth and understanding
the role of stories in creating a sense of community is so true, stories have the power to bring people together.
She does really well at articulating how stories can transform lives and societies, like her passion for it so palpable you feel compelled to listen to her insights.
Everyone has their own exceptional experience and everyone has to share it with others.
The closing words on storytelling's role in flourishing democracy hit home. It's a reminder that our individual stories contribute to the collective narrative that shapes the future of our societies. Inspiring and thought-provoking!
Memories become treasures when shared as stories, and that's a gift to generations.
"being heard is so close to being loved that it's almost the same thing." This line stood out for me, it shows how deep the human need for storytelling and listening goes.
never really thought about storytelling as a national treasure, but after listening to this presentation, I can see why it's important to preserve our oral history. It's amazing how much we can learn from our grandparents' generation and the stories they have to tell.
Bobette's talk made me appreciate the role of stories in expanding our imaginations. It's like creating 'muscle memory' for our hearts and minds.
Love the emphasise on the power of storytelling and how it connects people from different backgrounds. It's so true that we are hardwired to recognize a great story, and it's fascinating how storytelling has the ability to transcend time and space.
I keep thinking about the image of Tom sitting by the radiator, waiting and watching the sunset on the day he decided to get sober. There's so much power in the little details of stories... I think that's actually where we find the most relatable parts
This talk is _everthing_ Bobette! People really underestimate the importance of storytelling as an art form and the power it has to shape and define culture.
absolutely they do
I've read stories to my little ones every night when they were growing up and am thrilled to have grandchildren to read to as they grow up.
Listening isn't just hearing words; it's igniting change. By truly hearing each other's stories, we set the stage for a better world.
Completely agree Bobette, oral history is so important! Especially in a family setting, knowing your lineage and all of that stuff can be incredibly empowering
I'm inspired by Bobette's call to create a common space for sharing stories face to face. It's a way to develop courage and cultivate wonder and I think it would make for a nice little community as well.
the idea of neighbors just chillin' on the front porch, swapping stories, sounds so awesome to me. we could definitely use more of that community vibe these days.
Thank you Bobette. Everyone needs to really know but more so understand our history!
Thank you for watching!
The concept of storytelling as a means of connection and understanding really resonated with me. In a world filled with noise and division, it's important to take the time to listen to each other's stories. By doing so, we can find common ground and bridge the gaps between us. This presentation is a reminder of the power of empathy and the need to foster genuine human connections.
I'm left with such a sense of wonder and gratitude after listening to this. It's a wonderful reminder of the importance of listening to others and the impact of stories. Thank you.
The mention of historical events and their impact on today's storytelling practices was enlightening. It’s crucial to remember and share these stories to prevent history from repeating its darkest chapters.
The closing words about creating a better world through storytelling are powerful. It's a call to action for each of us to play a part in shaping a more empathetic and connected society. Thank you for the inspiration!
I love the cheeky title here. The content here is spot on and something future generations could learn a lot from
thanks for sending
storytelling is a beautiful way to build understanding and compassion!
Love the point she makes about shared narratives and their ability to propel movements forward
That’s a truly influential talk! Thank you. We may think that our stories are ordinary and mundane, but give them a chance to be heard, maybe they will change someone’s life.
Thank you for inviting us to contemplate these things Bobette. I agree the radicalism can be shared in this way.
Everyone has their own story and we can honour them by listening with our entire being.
I appreciate the dedication to creating a workshop for storytelling. It's a very practical way of empowering individuals to share their stories, which could lead to fostering a culture of openness and understanding rather than fearfulness and prejudice.
I found it so interesting that as people tell and re-tell their story - more and more truths come out. Even for the story-teller, it's like these realisations and epiphanies happen and the learning and the growth that comes from that is just so beautiful.
Bobette you're so right we ALL love a story, it's like a fundamental part of being human.
The mention of the Iynching flag at the US Library of Congress is a powerful reminder of the untold stories that shaped our history. It's crucial to bring such stories to light.
I had no idea how powerful living memory could be until I heard about her journey collecting stories from elders. That must have been an unbelievable experience.
Oh wow I really love this... was not expecting to get so emotional about Toms story but when she said "he needed to tell the story" I choked up quite a bit. I think there are so many stories we each have that need to be told and sometimes when they can't be it just eats us up
When my children were young they would love going to the library and listening to the story lady.
The part about living memory and how stories shape our consciousness resonated with me. We must remember and learn from history.
Bobette is so on the mark here. It's through the sharing of stories that we can gain perspective and understand experiences. I had never thought about the way people had been taught to repress emotions and stories and how important it was to ensure for their own health and for that of our society, that we make sure that their are opportunities to talk and be open... Sounds like it was a very healing project for many.
Yes Sep very true.
Thank you!
@@Busterfilms1 you are welcome too
This talk just makes me think of all the stories and knowledge we've already lost
Her personal journey adds so much depth to her message on storytelling... this is a woman who has had many experiences with this topic at its core and can recognize the power of what it brings. That's pretty amazing to me.
"but the third story is always profound" It really can take a lot of back and forth to get people to open up but when they do it is really so incredible how we connect with one another when vulnerability is presented.
And it is hard for some people to accept truths.
Makes sense, building rapport helps people to open up
Bobette's talk reminded me that storytelling is not just an art; it's a vital tool for social change and building stronger communities.
It's incredible how storytelling can preserve history and foster empathy.
This is a whole new take on story-telling that I'm really glad to have found. I've loved writing since I was little but never thought about it in such a nuanced way
I really enjoyed her insights into storytelling as a tool for healing and change. I think we all have a narrative that we've shaped to help make sense of our experiences and sometimes it just needs to be told, and heard
To find the power and courage to tell your story, that's what important is.
The workshop anecdote was very touching and shows the impact of sharing personal stories.
I really enjoyed your talk Bobette. It revived memories of camp fires and my grandparents.
The link between the MeToo movement and the power of storytelling is brilliant. Stories become the megaphone for those who've been silenced for too long.
I have done exercises where we were put in pairs and one person had to talk for 2 minutes and the other person was only allowed to listen and show that they were listening. 2 minutes is a long time to talk uninterrupted and I shared so much more than I expected to- I can only imagine what can happen in 5 minutes.
You know, I've seen my fair share of stories in my time, but this presentation really hit the nostalgia button. It reminded me of those long summers at my grandparents' place, where the front porch was the stage for epic storytelling sessions. Good times, man!
Oh I just love that opening quote, so whimsical to think of every star as a story.
Loved her insights into Toms story, it was a really compelling example of the impact a story can have on the other people around them
I love how this presentation emphasizes the power of storytelling and how it connects people from different generations and backgrounds.
What she talks about at the 2:44 mark is so important, when you tell a story it gives other people an opportunity to tell THEIR story or fill in some blanks in yours and it can be a really wonderful thing to experience, especially if you're a young one listening to your elders.
The truth tends to upset everyone, but at least then we face ourselves and grow. Healing is so paramount right now. Thoroughly enjoyed everything about this talk.
We have definitely reached a point where healing is the only option. As painful as it might be!
Drawing parallels between storytelling in different cultures and communities shows a deep understanding of its universal significance. It's an eye-opener on the unifying power of narratives.
I remember my childhood and our trips to my mom's relatives. That was the most memorable events ever. They always had a great dinner, the table groaned with food, and they all told stories. It was always a long night but I always wanted to stay up all night and listen.. I miss that time, the time of family storytelling. Of course, they are not a national treasure, but they are a treasure for me. It's pity that a lot of relatives died, and that tradition with all the untold stories died with them:(
That sounds like an ideal childhood to me
Yes, what you've described was just like my childhood. I hope we can inspire this generation to care about storytelling. Thank you for your response.
I had this as well and I miss it so much.
They are all a national treasure.
I saw the times story too, and it made me realize the stories from my peoples past which have been forgotten too.