I knew the woman at Chipotle was into me. She asks me all sorts of questions every time I go there. What will you have today? Black beans or brown beans? What kind of meat do you want? ...The questions never end.
Typical situation: 1. See pretty girl at the beach, pretty girl sees you. 2. Make eye contact a couple of times last one a bit longer than the rest. 3. Dont do anything and contemplate what would have happened if you approached her. 4. Find yourself on flirting type videos. As if you were going to do something we newly gained knowledge, go back to step 1.
Nah bro, I just found out 132 people liked my throwaway self deprecating joke from 2 months ago, so today's a pretty good day for me. What did YOU accomplish today?
RexiousX it's normal for women to flirt with ppl they like, heck, even guys flirt with multiple girls. It's pretty common in today's world anyway. So stay single
Girl: *Smiles and looks at you with loving eyes* Me: *Crosses eyes together and make a silly face* Girl: *Brushes hand over my shoulders slowly* Me: *Raises hand to give a high five* Girl" You're cute and funny, and i really like spending time with you. We should do this again soon!" Me: "Awesome! Will do friend!" Me to all my guy friends: "Yeah I will die alone"
For fun and for reassuring themselves with feedback that men might also be interested in them... some women seem to have an incredible need to keep their ego high all the time!
Abdulai Bah exactly. At my job they love playing games, I try to keep everything business related. The shit is so childish it makes me despise some women.
Good advise, shall think about it............. But considered to my past experiences in which it always went wrong... But this particular woman shows way different sighns to me (found some of those in the vid at the touchy part, GEE I WONDER), eventhough she´s in a relashionship.. a broken one but she´s not free... decisions, decisions...
@@KateSpring At my work I have tried to flirt with women and nothing... they do not flirt back.. they ignore me.. act uninterested... don't even talk to me... like I'm not there. NO woman ever flirts with me at all. I guess no woman finds me attractive at all.
@@clowncat8464 well ARE YOU UGLY? you need to ask yourself that question. If you are the simply use motivation from being denied as a purpose for bettering yourself as a whole and once a woman sees you are bettering yourself and caring for yourself she will care for you. I know I’m 2 years late but here it is
Kate what's about that answer? Why only tell her after having figured out ...? Dafuq? When I tell her beforehand, she gets an opportunity to consider me for the first time as posssibly becoming part of her reality in a way I haven't been before/to date. Getting an immediate "oh no f**k off, skinny looser!" is an answer, too, and does spare time for both of us, but getting a "wait a minute - me? ... seriously?" might turn out as a good start for something worth the effort.
I had a girl I grew up with literally love me and not tell me; she waited until I made a move (which I never did, because I didn't know she was into me) and when I didn't make a move she up and threw me out of her life forever with no word ever again. What does that mean? Does she hate me for making her love me and want me to suffer? We flirted for years and years and I did whatever I could to let her know without straight up telling her how I felt to see if she felt the same way; I, being a guy, figured if she liked me she would say so, ask me how I felt, or just make a move. Instead, she wrote me off forever.
I won a 10 million dollar lottery and I had women who I never met in my life coming out of the woodworks claiming that they knew me and if I remember them. Some were befriending my sister just to get to me. I never had women ever approach me in my Life. I actually moved myself and sister and Mom out of the State. The money has not changed me, I am still the same, and nobody knows who I really am and love it. Women still don't approach me. But I am interested in one from my church but she's not really into me. I personally believe it's because I'm short balding and overweight. I don't flaunt anything out of the ordinary. Oh well, who ever said that money truly buys happiness is wrong. I want happiness first then I will slowly let them in on the money. Mr anonymous at church.
You need to invest in yourself (looks) and increase your social skills to seduce women, otherwise, you will be forever alone. That is how it works today. You can't get a woman by doing anything or just talking to her.
Sometimes you can't even trust cues that aren't so subtle. I took a friend out to dinner, during dinner she had us take a selfie and asked if I minded that if she tagged me, I said no, and she asked "What if I put that I'm out with my boyfriend?" and I laughed as if a joke and told her that maybe it was a little too early for that, but maybe in the future. After dinner on our way out the door she grabbed my shoulder, leaned over and kissed my cheek. She asked if we could take a walk together in the downtown area we were at, and just talked about things we should go out and do together. At the end of the night, when I dropped her off, we kissed. We went out a few more times, and sometimes when we were stopped she would just come over to hug me, and would hold me during the hug. This last week, Valentine's came around and I asked if she'd be my Valentine... to which she responded "I will, but only if you understand that it's platonic. I don't want you to think I'm leading you on." Which shocked me because of her actions up to this point, but I told her "That's fine, not a problem." but in my head I was thinking "What the hell is going on? Did I wake up in an alternate reality from the one I've been living in with you?" and we've been slowly just losing contact, because I feel she started playing games. We'd have plans like we did in the past month, and she wouldn't respond on the day we had something planned, and I decided I would stop contacting her because I wasn't going to play that game. So again, even if the flirtation is not so subtle and she acts like she's into you, both physically and emotionally, chances could still be high that she's not interested in anything serious. At least in my current experience.
Yeah it's sad that there are women out there like that........That girl was probably trying to reel you in and once she thought she had you hooked, she used you, luck you got out of there.
ImBreakingThe4thWall Not really, it’s pretty common. You seemed like it blew your mind, so I commented. No offense, but you’re the one who wrote 3 long paragraphs about the ‘story’. You prob bored the shit out of her lol.
Take nothing for granted even if you think it's a done deal and it feels like the woman is really into you. Ultimately you will only know 100% her intentions when she actually communicates this to you.
Yep that was me, I would always interpret her being friendly for flirting, picking up on all the wrong signals....and boy would I find out I was wrong quick. It's no longer a problem now since I interpret anything she does and/or says as just being nice, no more being metaphorically being slapped in the face with truths
This is where it gets tough. If a woman is into me or at least open to the idea of me, then I know it. Likewise, if she is obviously not interested in me by acting closed off, then I know it. However, it's when she's obviously comfortable enough to converse with me and be around me and respond to my messages but not initiate messages of her own that I can't tell what she's thinking. I assume that if she's not acting obviously interested that she's just being polite.
There is NEVER a certainty. There are so many factors and things to consider like environment, facial expressions, body language as well as vocality, tone and much more. To gain interest is a spark, to keep it is a challenge. Those who don't come out of scarcity will gain their interest through uncertainty on your part. She won't dare to play games because she is too afraid to lose you or your interest in you. If she does, use your abundance and keep on going for the next one. She will (eventually) come back but you don't care as you move on. You can take her with a grain of salt. Never forget, the man is the prize, she's just an addition to his life, never a necessity.
Ahhhh, the great debate, flirting or friendly? I always just assume that a woman isn't flirting with me and is merely being friendly. Hasn't steered me wrong yet. Seriously, flirting is a lot more rare than people tend think it is. The waitress is not flirting with you and "what do you want" is not an invitation to ask for her number. Chill out fellas.
I really enjoy the information Kate has to offer. She definitely knows what she is talking about. She is very easy to listen to and helps you learn again how to actually pay attention to signs women are into you.
Girl you have this all nailed down ! this is great info , I passed down to my daughter .. It was cool that it came from a women's point of view instead of her Dad . Again good job and keep up the good work .
SketchUP türkiye She is clearly reading from a screen, there are differences between people who read in a video or being spontaneous. But for me there is no problem if I can learn something from her videos.
The amount of times I've dodged an embarrassing situation is hilarious. My overly cautious, social anxiety having ass will never assume anything due to a relentless fear of making a fool out of myself
You will always have to start with getting over yourself. It's perfectly normal feel anxious or afraid, so take it one small step at a time. I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but as long as you're making progress, you'll get over it eventually. 🙂
Thanks for actually pinpointing things and giving real advice that doesn't state that you have to be false or fake. A lot of advice channels devolve into "do these 6 things and women will be falling all over you" territory. Understanding someone you are attracted to and their thought process is difficult. Thank you for your video.
You're welcome! Understanding how women think isn't for everybody, and surely not all men can understand how women think, but it doesn't hurt to have these kind of knowledge handy. Better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it right? ;)
@@KateSpring The problem is just as much women thinking that all men are stereotypically simple and that they can read their minds , even when it's true men are way more straight up ( an actual quality) They can't. (especially not with the smarter, more interesting ones ) How than can women expect us to be able to read theirs , when they're eternally vague and wishy washy ?
I always think they are flirting when they are just being friendly and when I think they are jsut being friendly, I end up learning later that they had been flirting all along....
She is always more comfortable with her other friends and talks more to them, but she is definitely quieter when she talks to me. Not sure if this is a good sign, any opinions?
I held my crushes hand by challenging her in arm wrestling😅,and it worked. Btw i didn't want to beat her so i tried my best to keep it in the middle as long as possible (I'm a guy)
Kate Spring i don't know what goes through girls minds but i don't think she figured anything, but it worked out for me. And after we finnished arm wrestling we kept talking and she didn't realise we were still holding hands😂😂
Your microexpression game is legendary. So is you flirty/friendly game, makes sense though, people are soooo much nicer to you, if they think they can get a piece of that. You really do know what you're talking about. Great videos, they helped me a lot to get over my shyness with women and people in general. Keep up the good work, it surely is what many people need to see.
And that's why men are doing the mgtow thing. Women tend to 'appear' to flirt with most men, period. They probably aren't, but it looks that way a majority of the time, because women use flirting like a tool, and it becomes habit. Not knocking anyone for it,...it's just the facts. Oh, and don't confuse those guys who mgtow with the incels/etc....most dudes who decide the going their own way gig (mgtow),...harbor no anger/resentment for women. There's a kind of peace that begins to settle into a man once he no longer is burdened with proving himself to anyone.
The number 1 way you can tell if a girl is attracted to you is she acts different with you than she does with everyone else. Example she may be comfortable starting a conversation with everyone else but doesn't start a conversation with you. She seems nervous and shy with you but not everyone else. So look out for that. If she's comfortable talking with you like she is with everyone else she's just being friendly. Even if a girl touches you don't assume it's because she's interested see if she does it to everybody , if so she's just being friendly. But sometimes a girl may not so any interest in you at all. This happened with me she actually asked me out on a date , I was completely caught off guard because there was nothing coming from her to suggest she liked me. So just take the risk and ask her out because even though she may not be showing any interest she may well be. By the way I had to reject her because I was already with someone. I felt so bad about it , but she was OK thank god , she took it really well.
I found this so interesting! Are you basing these tips on your own/friends behaviour and experiences or is this fairly well accepted? I only ask because I wondered if it changes with something like age :) Excellent video!
Sounds great! Here's a video about a couple more signs to watch out for and to know if she's into you. Check it out here: ua-cam.com/video/n7-09X9aKg8/v-deo.html
I've seen a few of these channels, yours stands out so I've actually subscribed 😊 , based on how u articulate yourself, being likeable and you provide sage like advice. Keep these excellent videos coming
Thanks again Kate this is probably one of my biggest problems! I play Texas hold ‘em and I’m pretty good! But forget it when it comes to girls I really like. It’s going to sound shady...but I can only tell when girls I’m NOT attracted to are hitting or flirting with me.
Don't sweat it David. Emotions play a huge part in how we think and behave. You'd be surprised to find out how common this actually is! Most people would just lose focus when they're in front of someone they're attracted to. Nothing a good practice can't fix! 😉
@@KateSpring thanks Kate! I’ll keep you posted on my progress. Going out with the guys to a popular country bar tomorrow. I have my work cut out for me because I don’t drink or know how to dance to country music 😅
I’ve been talking to this girl for two weeks now and we have class with each other. Our texting is pretty good and we’re getting to know each other. We usually talk about our day, school, or whatever comes to mind like TV, holiday, family, going out, etc. We literally text each other paragraphs, which make my friends think she is super interested, but sometimes when I try to flirt by saying she’s smart, or we should hangout or something she sort of ignores it. However, she did invite me to watch a basketball game with her friends where I got to meet them, but we talked for most of time away from them just getting to know each other more. She touched her hair a lot and confirmed to me she doesn’t have a boyfriend. I’m just honestly confused because she hasn’t really flirted with me at all, and I’m unsure of whether she just texts me to make sure class together isn’t awkward. I’m probably overthinking, but anything helps. Thx!
Yeah, you are Clay. Just go with the flow and be natural. You don't need to rush this one. Once she gets comfortable enough with you, I'm pretty sure you'll know just when to give it a go ;) Good luck!
As always, great advice. I’ve noticed all the things you’ve mentioned, and almost always (almost!), is correct every time. Subscribe to this wonderful lady guys! When she makes her way to Toronto, I’ve got first date though! 😁👍🏼
Sure, you can... quit dreaming of all her qualities you like, and flip it in your mind... Only think of the bad things, and why hooking up with her wouldn't fit into your life. What you only wanna be friends with ugly girls??
I must disagree trey I was never interested or thought about dating then this girl shows up I'm constantly listening to Sam hunt songs I got it bad for her and if I grow a few and ask her out and get rejected .... I won't even want to c her again
That's not true you can be friends I do it all the time the way I do it is there is something far more important to me and no girl I like will stop me from enlisting
For all the thirsty dudes giving comment to Kate you need to show some respect shes helping some of you to realize on how to get a girl you've been thinking or even dreaming about, yes she is beautiful but show some respect damn hahaa, also kate thats very good too know because I was hangin out with a couple girls in a group an they all had diffrent ways to be around me an my friend, 3 were flirty but in a friendly way and the other 2 were always touching me an licking their lips, you know best part about being around a group of woman is that you learn faster unless you can't learn fast enough hahah, but as to what you said most of it is true an im glad im watching your videos it gets me smarter on improvising alot more then what i though i could do :)
Hi Andrei! You're in a good spot so don't keep her waiting too long. She may lose interest or think you're not interested but don't appear a little too desperate to take her out as well. Just keep it cool, and be confident. Remember you're in control, so ask away! :-)
I have a coworker who always smiled a lot. She did not seem unhappy with me, but in my interactions with her, she didn't seem too nice, either. Yesterday while at work, we worked right next to eachother, for the first time. She smiled a lot. She was nice, and she saw my reading glasses that i had left in the area, and asked me if they were mine. I said "yes. thank you!" I will try to talk to her monday and see if she reacts in a positive way. She might have been acting nice, JUST because i was working right next to her. I have terrible luck with women, and never know the signs of flirting.
I got another video about how to tell if she's if she's into you, and I think it's really gonna be a big help for your situation. Check it out with this link: ua-cam.com/video/n7-09X9aKg8/v-deo.html
I have a date Monday with a girl who I work with at a part time job with (we work separate full time jobs) took 4 months but I did it. Very confused with her signals tho. Ugh
Hi BostonBruinsOWN I am in a similar situation with a girl I liked at work. Still don't know if she is being friendly or I like her. How you made her accept your invitation for a date? Any strategy or advice? What not to do? Thanks
Kate, would love to hear your opinions on how this "flirting just for fun" or to "amuse themselves" might play into some of the allegations we hear coming out daily from Hollywood etc..thanks!
Germany is a great place. But the idea of moving from one place to another is not an easy decision. Just give her time, and don't give up on trying to convince her. Trust me, I'm from Canada too, so I know ;)
kenneth otterson I can understand you, we also don't like moslms, but your coverment also took a lot of moslems. What is the name of minster of Refugee of Canada ??? We all made a huge mistake to let moslms to our countries.
I do have one question if you inviter her to church with you would that be s good way to give a reason to go out with her but yet not put off completely that you like her thanks your a big help
Nice idea! Just be confident and observe the signs/behavior to see if she's already figured you out. Check out my other video which will be very helpful with your situation. Good luck! :-) ua-cam.com/video/eQVTBNr5tYY/v-deo.html
It wouldn't work if she's the type that doesn't like to go to church, such as myself. Even if I was interested in a guy I wouldn't go to church with him.
Hey, Kate thanks for the video I like it a lot I also have a question, it happened to me long time ago, but she was a selfish and needy bad friend to me, had me confused and bitter. Would it be a sign if a girl just being friendly by include her guy friend to her other friends if we just friends?
Ok, just want to build on the playing with objects bit, if a woman is playing with a ring, or rings shes wearing while shes talking to you and is smiling in a genuine way, would that also be flirting, or if shes spoken for just trying to get attention to being married if it's her wedding ring?
@@KateSpring Indeed! Most youtubers either try to impress you by showing their "discoveries" or by using all kinds of fake means to get you to like them. Not you, you are just yourself and that makes you likable. Also, the way you organize your ideas is very flexible, insightful and original. Thanks and keep it going!
Its so shit when you cant tell if they are or not, this girl did do some things that could be regarded as flirting but at the same time she’s so stunning so dont kno why she would like me ahah
I know the feeling. But hey, just because she's very attractive doesn't mean she wouldn't like you. Don't be too hard on yourself and just go give it a shot!
Kate, just subscribed and great video but please make the transition to not using a script! You are plenty intelligent enough to talk on the fly and the added facial expressions and energy will get you subscribers wayyy more quickly! Thanks for the awesome vid, I'll be watching more... PS you inspire me to go out and GET THAT ASS! (Maybe make a video on how not to be creepy ;)
Kate Spring you're welcome ma'am, I do have a a few questions, I watched some of your other videos, a majority of the signs are there, but I think I messed things up with my best friend, please help Kate
I went to the dentist office and the doctor was very friendly, which is normal, but then she asked me twice what am i doing after i get out of there, i was like i don't know.
She could've been just trying to initiate small talk but if she pulls the same trick the next time you go, I think you should seriously consider asking her out 😉
Thanks for a reply, she also introduced me to her sister, they work at the same place, while i was seating in the chair, is that normal? I am all kinds of confused lol.
OK, what if you were in a relationship with her for about a couple weeks you guys broke it off and then she still gives you those cues but still says i see you as a brother or a friend or whatever
She's keeping you in the friend zone! It's a convenient way to still get your affection without having to commit to a relationship. I suggest you watch this video instead: ua-cam.com/video/juo5zwRe3mk/v-deo.html
Ugh, that sounds tough. Have you seen my video about escaping the friend zone yet? If not, I suggest you watch it ASAP! Here's the link: ua-cam.com/video/juo5zwRe3mk/v-deo.html
I knew the woman at Chipotle was into me. She asks me all sorts of questions every time I go there. What will you have today? Black beans or brown beans? What kind of meat do you want? ...The questions never end.
Go for it!
😂😂😂 no sir I think your confused she was taking your order
DEAD 😂😂😂😂😂
A1 Style
Joke
You’re head->👦
Did she ask at the end of your order if you would be paying with a Gold card😅
Can't tell if Kate is flirting or being friendly with me through her videos
Jijo Jacob haha
She's Canadian. As far as I'm concerned she could hate each and everyone of us and just be polite.
What do you think? *twirls hair* ;)
Kate Spring 😂😂
she is friendly
Typical situation:
1. See pretty girl at the beach, pretty girl sees you.
2. Make eye contact a couple of times last one a bit longer than the rest.
3. Dont do anything and contemplate what would have happened if you approached her.
4. Find yourself on flirting type videos. As if you were going to do something we newly gained knowledge, go back to step 1.
Well you gotta leave your comfort zone to break that loop
Lmaooo happened to me before
😂😂😂
Hahahha. U Just describe my life. Have se net? Hahaha
I feel attacked
I think kates flirting with me in the video. Should i go talk to her?
Yes
She friendzoned you like the rest of them lol
Shoot your shot! You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take
You wish.. LOL
Yes always try but you gotta race me.
I don't know why I'm watching this. I've never even had a woman be friendly with me.
After this video, you just might have one ;)
cuz you’re watching these videos.
Bad day?
Nah bro, I just found out 132 people liked my throwaway self deprecating joke from 2 months ago, so today's a pretty good day for me. What did YOU accomplish today?
theTYTAN3 i wiped my ass after taking a shit
Nobody should flirt with anyone unless they have serious intent, otherwise it can play with the feelings of others
well lifes not fair so cry all you want baby, lmfao
That would require women to stop being narcissists. Not gonna happen.
RexiousX Well spoken man, thats the spirit of smart people!
FenderSchonJPX, damn man!
RexiousX it's normal for women to flirt with ppl they like, heck, even guys flirt with multiple girls. It's pretty common in today's world anyway. So stay single
Girl: *Smiles and looks at you with loving eyes*
Me: *Crosses eyes together and make a silly face*
Girl: *Brushes hand over my shoulders slowly*
Me: *Raises hand to give a high five*
Girl" You're cute and funny, and i really like spending time with you. We should do this again soon!"
Me: "Awesome! Will do friend!"
Me to all my guy friends: "Yeah I will die alone"
h2opoloplyr lol
So true
You’re me!
You got rejected cause you Aren't being masculine
Im always the last one to know im being hit on
My head hurts Kate. This is legit harder than Science class.
There's a couple more "legit" videos on my channel that would definitely help you(and make your head hurt) so go check them out! ;)
Kate Spring lets cut to the chase though we shall soon cross paths and have a coffee sometime. Its on me Ms. Springs x
Lol science lmao
Science is easy man
a10 for realll!!! Why can’t things be so simple right? Haha
Women flirt for fun, quite annoying
I know! Annoying right? But who knows, she just might be really into you ;)
of course they flirt for fun, because that way they get everything for free, makes it easier to manipulate men at will
Zinematic's got the right idea..it also allows them to make big allegations against expensive people easier...be careful these days fellas!
For fun and for reassuring themselves with feedback that men might also be interested in them... some women seem to have an incredible need to keep their ego high all the time!
Oteko Otieno that’s why I do it back to them muahahajah 🤨😏
Big Warning: Be very careful if she is a coworker. Could be a trap. One move you are gone.
That's why you need to know how to balance your work-life relationships better to avoid situations like this ;)
Abdulai Bah exactly. At my job they love playing games, I try to keep everything business related. The shit is so childish it makes me despise some women.
A good way to tell if a girl is just be friendly or flirty is make a move.
Good advise, shall think about it............. But considered to my past experiences in which it always went wrong... But this particular woman shows way different sighns to me (found some of those in the vid at the touchy part, GEE I WONDER), eventhough she´s in a relashionship.. a broken one but she´s not free... decisions, decisions...
Andreas Grünebaum lol move on. Too much baggage
That's the mentality of Harvey Weinstein though
@@KateSpring At my work I have tried to flirt with women and nothing... they do not flirt back.. they ignore me.. act uninterested... don't even talk to me... like I'm not there. NO woman ever flirts with me at all. I guess no woman finds me attractive at all.
@@clowncat8464 well ARE YOU UGLY? you need to ask yourself that question. If you are the simply use motivation from being denied as a purpose for bettering yourself as a whole and once a woman sees you are bettering yourself and caring for yourself she will care for you. I know I’m 2 years late but here it is
Man up and say to her if you don't wanna be friends, if she is down she is down if not, move on..
Marko Bozovic ne seri
Confidence in a man is always an attractive trait. Hopefully you've already figured out if she likes you too by the time you tell her :)
Kate what's about that answer?
Why only tell her after having figured out ...? Dafuq?
When I tell her beforehand, she gets an opportunity to consider me for the first time as posssibly becoming part of her reality in a way I haven't been before/to date. Getting an immediate "oh no f**k off, skinny looser!" is an answer, too, and does spare time for both of us, but getting a "wait a minute - me? ... seriously?" might turn out as a good start for something worth the effort.
I had a girl I grew up with literally love me and not tell me; she waited until I made a move (which I never did, because I didn't know she was into me) and when I didn't make a move she up and threw me out of her life forever with no word ever again. What does that mean? Does she hate me for making her love me and want me to suffer? We flirted for years and years and I did whatever I could to let her know without straight up telling her how I felt to see if she felt the same way; I, being a guy, figured if she liked me she would say so, ask me how I felt, or just make a move. Instead, she wrote me off forever.
Hans Ollo she found another guy bro.
I won a 10 million dollar lottery and I had women who I never met in my life coming out of the woodworks claiming that they knew me and if I remember them. Some were befriending my sister just to get to me. I never had women ever approach me in my Life. I actually moved myself and sister and Mom out of the State. The money has not changed me, I am still the same, and nobody knows who I really am and love it. Women still don't approach me. But I am interested in one from my church but she's not really into me. I personally believe it's because I'm short balding and overweight. I don't flaunt anything out of the ordinary. Oh well, who ever said that money truly buys happiness is wrong. I want happiness first then I will slowly let them in on the money. Mr anonymous at church.
Mathew Eso hey its me your long lost brother
Aye pull up in the yellow Lambo and that church girl will get freaky I can promise you that
Yo man you remember me from school I bailed you out that time remember man?
If Money doesn't buy hapiness then give it to me lol
You need to invest in yourself (looks) and increase your social skills to seduce women, otherwise, you will be forever alone. That is how it works today. You can't get a woman by doing anything or just talking to her.
I can’t be bothered with all that. I just find somebody who likes me!
Sometimes you can't even trust cues that aren't so subtle. I took a friend out to dinner, during dinner she had us take a selfie and asked if I minded that if she tagged me, I said no, and she asked "What if I put that I'm out with my boyfriend?" and I laughed as if a joke and told her that maybe it was a little too early for that, but maybe in the future. After dinner on our way out the door she grabbed my shoulder, leaned over and kissed my cheek. She asked if we could take a walk together in the downtown area we were at, and just talked about things we should go out and do together. At the end of the night, when I dropped her off, we kissed.
We went out a few more times, and sometimes when we were stopped she would just come over to hug me, and would hold me during the hug. This last week, Valentine's came around and I asked if she'd be my Valentine... to which she responded "I will, but only if you understand that it's platonic. I don't want you to think I'm leading you on." Which shocked me because of her actions up to this point, but I told her "That's fine, not a problem." but in my head I was thinking "What the hell is going on? Did I wake up in an alternate reality from the one I've been living in with you?" and we've been slowly just losing contact, because I feel she started playing games. We'd have plans like we did in the past month, and she wouldn't respond on the day we had something planned, and I decided I would stop contacting her because I wasn't going to play that game.
So again, even if the flirtation is not so subtle and she acts like she's into you, both physically and emotionally, chances could still be high that she's not interested in anything serious. At least in my current experience.
Yeah it's sad that there are women out there like that........That girl was probably trying to reel you in and once she thought she had you hooked, she used you, luck you got out of there.
She thought she liked you, then decided she didn’t. It’s not rocket science. People can change their minds, believe it or not.
@@EobardFerguson What a concept! She has her reasons and I still have my story. Odd how things work out that way, isn't it?
ImBreakingThe4thWall Not really, it’s pretty common. You seemed like it blew your mind, so I commented. No offense, but you’re the one who wrote 3 long paragraphs about the ‘story’. You prob bored the shit out of her lol.
@@EobardFerguson My guy your name is "Eobard", lmfaooooo, no girl is getting with u
women never flirt if they're not interested, but after we don't react properly they lose interest quickly
Oh yes they do, I have been fallen for this twice last year..
Remember to keep slow eye/mouth/eye contact, and not to act desperate.
Of course they do! What planet are you on my friend? HAHA
@Simon Edwards whatever you think it's right
🎉amen
Am I the only guy who flirts all the time without sexual intentions? It is just part of living.
Matthew Van Atta nope, you are a human just like everyone else...hope that answers your question.
It can be nice sometimes..just to remind yourself that you got it when you want to
@Analyzing Guy i like to flirt with my food
I do it because I know I’m not going to attract them ‘fully’
Nah, bruh, you're just being straight up, every person loves to flirt, it's just human nature. Probably a boost to our ego's.
shes lookin directly at my eyes
A good sign Sol! If you notice a couple more positive signs, then you're in a pretty good spot. :-)
I think he's joking cause you are looking directly into the camera
he got another sign when she replied to his comment and smiled at him
She replied dude reply she is trying to flirt with you and make a connection
c",) LoL
I can tell that Kate wants me.
48mastadon Lol so sad. I feel that too many men, think if a woman looks at them, they’re interested. LOL, so sad...
Kate wants you bro she is giving that look to you ,go for it dude
48mastadon are you sure I think she’s more into the camera.
2x3yQ78# it’s a joke fucking moron
@@E-99x r/whoosh
Take nothing for granted even if you think it's a done deal and it feels like the woman is really into you. Ultimately you will only know 100% her intentions when she actually communicates this to you.
Exactly. In other words, don't be complacent! ⚠
If I had any idea I would probably not be single!
The Adventures Of Beef i thought the exact same thing man
single is not so bad, its even better lots of time
Yep that was me, I would always interpret her being friendly for flirting, picking up on all the wrong signals....and boy would I find out I was wrong quick. It's no longer a problem now since I interpret anything she does and/or says as just being nice, no more being metaphorically being slapped in the face with truths
I like how she get's straight to point !!
I'm going to agree what she said at 3:19. If a girl is not attracted to you she wouldn't make conversation with you.
This is where it gets tough. If a woman is into me or at least open to the idea of me, then I know it. Likewise, if she is obviously not interested in me by acting closed off, then I know it. However, it's when she's obviously comfortable enough to converse with me and be around me and respond to my messages but not initiate messages of her own that I can't tell what she's thinking. I assume that if she's not acting obviously interested that she's just being polite.
There is NEVER a certainty. There are so many factors and things to consider like environment, facial expressions, body language as well as vocality, tone and much more. To gain interest is a spark, to keep it is a challenge. Those who don't come out of scarcity will gain their interest through uncertainty on your part. She won't dare to play games because she is too afraid to lose you or your interest in you. If she does, use your abundance and keep on going for the next one. She will (eventually) come back but you don't care as you move on. You can take her with a grain of salt. Never forget, the man is the prize, she's just an addition to his life, never a necessity.
Ahhhh, the great debate, flirting or friendly? I always just assume that a woman isn't flirting with me and is merely being friendly. Hasn't steered me wrong yet. Seriously, flirting is a lot more rare than people tend think it is. The waitress is not flirting with you and "what do you want" is not an invitation to ask for her number. Chill out fellas.
I really enjoy the information Kate has to offer. She definitely knows what she is talking about. She is very easy to listen to and helps you learn again how to actually pay attention to signs women are into you.
Thanks for your feedback Nic! I find it very encouraging :-)
Does this mean I have to go outside!
But the Sun, it burns us
Lakeland no I'll sit inside with you if you need to walk the moon The Wrong wrong with it
*"The Yellow Face! It hurts us, Precious!"*
Girl you have this all nailed down ! this is great info , I passed down to my daughter .. It was cool that it came from a women's point of view instead of her Dad . Again good job and keep up the good work .
Oh wow! Thanks! Great parenting there 😉
Is only me who thinks she is reading
SketchUP türkiye She is clearly reading from a screen, there are differences between people who read in a video or being spontaneous. But for me there is no problem if I can learn something from her videos.
The amount of times I've dodged an embarrassing situation is hilarious. My overly cautious, social anxiety having ass will never assume anything due to a relentless fear of making a fool out of myself
You will always have to start with getting over yourself. It's perfectly normal feel anxious or afraid, so take it one small step at a time. I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but as long as you're making progress, you'll get over it eventually. 🙂
Thanks for actually pinpointing things and giving real advice that doesn't state that you have to be false or fake. A lot of advice channels devolve into "do these 6 things and women will be falling all over you" territory. Understanding someone you are attracted to and their thought process is difficult. Thank you for your video.
You're welcome! Understanding how women think isn't for everybody, and surely not all men can understand how women think, but it doesn't hurt to have these kind of knowledge handy. Better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it right? ;)
@@KateSpring The problem is just as much women thinking that all men are stereotypically simple and that they can read their minds , even when it's true men are way more straight up ( an actual quality) They can't. (especially not with the smarter, more interesting ones ) How than can women expect us to be able to read theirs , when they're eternally vague and wishy washy ?
If you like her you’ll always convince yourself she’s into you.
Hello welcome to Arby’s
She loves me
😂 Exactly! It's so easy to fall into this trap, which is why it's very handy to know whether she's actually flirting with you or not!
I always think they are flirting when they are just being friendly and when I think they are jsut being friendly, I end up learning later that they had been flirting all along....
Talk about bad luck, but hey, at least you now know the difference! ;)
Well, in the future when you think they are friendly, go for it
She is always more comfortable with her other friends and talks more to them, but she is definitely quieter when she talks to me. Not sure if this is a good sign, any opinions?
No Is not
I held my crushes hand by challenging her in arm wrestling😅,and it worked. Btw i didn't want to beat her so i tried my best to keep it in the middle as long as possible (I'm a guy)
Nice going ace! 😂 Did she figure it out? Or did she really think you were having a hard time beating her? 😉
Kate Spring i don't know what goes through girls minds but i don't think she figured anything, but it worked out for me. And after we finnished arm wrestling we kept talking and she didn't realise we were still holding hands😂😂
Striker... ofc she did realise that.
@@100Creed i don't think she did tbh
Striker- ZQ she wanted it ya pussy
Your microexpression game is legendary. So is you flirty/friendly game, makes sense though, people are soooo much nicer to you, if they think they can get a piece of that. You really do know what you're talking about. Great videos, they helped me a lot to get over my shyness with women and people in general. Keep up the good work, it surely is what many people need to see.
Thank you for you kind words Philip! So glad to know the videos have been helping you. There will be more coming up! 😊
To tell you the truth it's mostly a guessing game sometimes you win other times you lose
Just ask are you flirting with me?
This isn't 1956 lol there are steps to take like sweet eyes and stuff
The first sane comment I've seen
A whole 7 min video resume to a simple question😂
I hate to this but my being friendly can look like flirting but I know when I'm being friendly and when I'm flirting.
Yea YOU know... Nuff sayed..
And that's why men are doing the mgtow thing. Women tend to 'appear' to flirt with most men, period. They probably aren't, but it looks that way a majority of the time, because women use flirting like a tool, and it becomes habit. Not knocking anyone for it,...it's just the facts. Oh, and don't confuse those guys who mgtow with the incels/etc....most dudes who decide the going their own way gig (mgtow),...harbor no anger/resentment for women. There's a kind of peace that begins to settle into a man once he no longer is burdened with proving himself to anyone.
Your cute queen
The number 1 way you can tell if a girl is attracted to you is she acts different with you than she does with everyone else. Example she may be comfortable starting a conversation with everyone else but doesn't start a conversation with you. She seems nervous and shy with you but not everyone else. So look out for that. If she's comfortable talking with you like she is with everyone else she's just being friendly. Even if a girl touches you don't assume it's because she's interested see if she does it to everybody , if so she's just being friendly. But sometimes a girl may not so any interest in you at all. This happened with me she actually asked me out on a date , I was completely caught off guard because there was nothing coming from her to suggest she liked me. So just take the risk and ask her out because even though she may not be showing any interest she may well be. By the way I had to reject her because I was already with someone. I felt so bad about it , but she was OK thank god , she took it really well.
Best pick up line : OH MY GOD.... UR GORGEOUS.. It works... Try it
The straightforward approach never goes out of style ;)
Kate Spring... I subbed 2day :D
Instigating conversation WITH eye contact.MOST IMPORTANT ONE. She is going out of her way, and making an effort.
thank you, I need all the help I can get :D
Girls keep buying me coffee at Starbucks! Is she flirting?
You tell me Fred ;)
Fred don't let them try to buy you that way!
yep
No she's just trying to poison you with the shite produced by this low tax paying company!
Are you a hipster? If you are then they may just think that you are a homeless person and need something to drink.
I love watching your videos! It's been awhile as I am still alive . Thank you Kate Spring it's much appreciated!
I found this so interesting! Are you basing these tips on your own/friends behaviour and experiences or is this fairly well accepted? I only ask because I wondered if it changes with something like age :)
Excellent video!
nop ...does not
That thing about fiddling/caressing objects is completely new to me. Definitely going to keep an eye open for that in the future.
Sounds great! Here's a video about a couple more signs to watch out for and to know if she's into you. Check it out here: ua-cam.com/video/n7-09X9aKg8/v-deo.html
This advise does work but in my opinion you should just go for it and see what happens instead of "wasting" your time trying to forsee her reaction.
It all boils down to that but there's always some who'd like to play it safe Haris 😉
Nice advice, women can be so deceptive (men too), but this clarifies what's real and what is not.
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So much good eye contact, I'm sure Kate is into me. That was definitely flirting.
Awesome and informative video.
I've seen a few of these channels, yours stands out so I've actually subscribed 😊 , based on how u articulate yourself, being likeable and you provide sage like advice. Keep these excellent videos coming
Thanks for subscribing Charlie! I'll do my best to keep all my videos consistent 🙂
Thanks again Kate this is probably one of my biggest problems! I play Texas hold ‘em and I’m pretty good! But forget it when it comes to girls I really like. It’s going to sound shady...but I can only tell when girls I’m NOT attracted to are hitting or flirting with me.
Don't sweat it David. Emotions play a huge part in how we think and behave. You'd be surprised to find out how common this actually is! Most people would just lose focus when they're in front of someone they're attracted to. Nothing a good practice can't fix! 😉
@@KateSpring thanks Kate! I’ll keep you posted on my progress. Going out with the guys to a popular country bar tomorrow. I have my work cut out for me because I don’t drink or know how to dance to country music 😅
I’ve been talking to this girl for two weeks now and we have class with each other. Our texting is pretty good and we’re getting to know each other. We usually talk about our day, school, or whatever comes to mind like TV, holiday, family, going out, etc. We literally text each other paragraphs, which make my friends think she is super interested, but sometimes when I try to flirt by saying she’s smart, or we should hangout or something she sort of ignores it. However, she did invite me to watch a basketball game with her friends where I got to meet them, but we talked for most of time away from them just getting to know each other more. She touched her hair a lot and confirmed to me she doesn’t have a boyfriend. I’m just honestly confused because she hasn’t really flirted with me at all, and I’m unsure of whether she just texts me to make sure class together isn’t awkward. I’m probably overthinking, but anything helps.
Thx!
Yeah, you are Clay. Just go with the flow and be natural. You don't need to rush this one. Once she gets comfortable enough with you, I'm pretty sure you'll know just when to give it a go ;) Good luck!
Actually I am more likely to just always see her as being friendly.
This was a helpful video. I can never tell. Thank you for posting this.
You're welcome! Feel free to check out my other videos. There's more interesting topics you can find on my channel that you might find helpful.
I would take Kate out for a seafood dinner sometime.. and actually call her back.
Gee, thanks! Let me know the place and time. As long as there's free food, I'll be there! (You're paying, right?) 😉
Champ?
My place. I'll cook. Bring wine.
kn33lbeforezod It's a spin on a line from Anchorman..
Lol
As always, great advice. I’ve noticed all the things you’ve mentioned, and almost always (almost!), is correct every time.
Subscribe to this wonderful lady guys!
When she makes her way to Toronto, I’ve got first date though! 😁👍🏼
Hey Barry! Thank you for subscribing! :-)
Just tell them you don't wana be friends and move on fellas. You can't be friends with women you're attracted to
Sure, you can... quit dreaming of all her qualities you like, and flip it in your mind... Only think of the bad things, and why hooking up with her wouldn't fit into your life. What you only wanna be friends with ugly girls??
I must disagree trey I was never interested or thought about dating then this girl shows up I'm constantly listening to Sam hunt songs I got it bad for her and if I grow a few and ask her out and get rejected .... I won't even want to c her again
Not true.
That's not true you can be friends I do it all the time the way I do it is there is something far more important to me and no girl I like will stop me from enlisting
@@jordonturner9559 wait do you say you are going to enlist in the military and hope they say try and stop you?
I love your channel. Lots of good information!
Thank you! There's more coming up so make sure you won't miss 'em! ;)
For all the thirsty dudes giving comment to Kate you need to show some respect shes helping some of you to realize on how to get a girl you've been thinking or even dreaming about, yes she is beautiful but show some respect damn hahaa, also kate thats very good too know because I was hangin out with a couple girls in a group an they all had diffrent ways to be around me an my friend, 3 were flirty but in a friendly way and the other 2 were always touching me an licking their lips, you know best part about being around a group of woman is that you learn faster unless you can't learn fast enough hahah, but as to what you said most of it is true an im glad im watching your videos it gets me smarter on improvising alot more then what i though i could do :)
Thank you Doglas! Glad to know the videos are helping you. There's plenty more in my channel so go check them out! :-)
I will for sure and thank you :)
Holy shit, you are weak man.
am I weak though? or are you blind asf buddy.
Right.. make your move, lets see if kate will go for you, if she does then nice dude shes a preety girl an if not then yeah i expected it
Hey, Kate! Awesome video! I was wondering...if I am 75% sure there is some attraction between us...how and when should I take her out? Cheers :)
Hi Andrei! You're in a good spot so don't keep her waiting too long. She may lose interest or think you're not interested but don't appear a little too desperate to take her out as well. Just keep it cool, and be confident. Remember you're in control, so ask away! :-)
I always have this problem especially because i am a lesbian, it’s so hard to tell !!!
Update: it turned out she did like me and we are now dating !!!
Ah man you should really switch sides lol
Harry Louis I am fine as I am lol
Keep going Lesbians are fine with me gay men .... no and I'm a guy if I were a girl I'd likely be lesbian
It's so frustrating. I am currently talking to a girl and i can't honestly tell whether she likes me or is just being friendly lol
I have a coworker who always smiled a lot. She did not seem unhappy with me, but in my interactions with her, she didn't seem too nice, either. Yesterday while at work, we worked right next to eachother, for the first time. She smiled a lot. She was nice, and she saw my reading glasses that i had left in the area, and asked me if they were mine. I said "yes. thank you!" I will try to talk to her monday and see if she reacts in a positive way. She might have been acting nice, JUST because i was working right next to her. I have terrible luck with women, and never know the signs of flirting.
I got another video about how to tell if she's if she's into you, and I think it's really gonna be a big help for your situation. Check it out with this link: ua-cam.com/video/n7-09X9aKg8/v-deo.html
Kate Spring thank you! I will give it a view! :)
I have a date Monday with a girl who I work with at a part time job with (we work separate full time jobs) took 4 months but I did it. Very confused with her signals tho. Ugh
Great job! Hope this video helps you figure out if she's into you. Good luck on Monday! ;)
Kate Spring well at this time this video she’s probably being nice haha but it’s a weird thing
Must be a bad driver lol
Hi BostonBruinsOWN I am in a similar situation with a girl I liked at work. Still don't know if she is being friendly or I like her. How you made her accept your invitation for a date? Any strategy or advice? What not to do? Thanks
Kate, would love to hear your opinions on how this "flirting just for fun" or to "amuse themselves" might play into some of the allegations we hear coming out daily from Hollywood etc..thanks!
Kate will you please make a video on how to date a mature woman,understand and know what she thinks ! Please do help me out
Hey that's a great idea! Will definitely think about it! Thanks :)
Kate Spring thank you so much Kate. You’ve helped me before ✌️
Kate spring is so pretty,she reminds me of that one actor from the X files that has blonde hair and green eyes.
David Duchovny? 🧐
Kidding. How did I remember his name, when I never watched it?
"Find her personality and interactions" sounds like stalking 😒 👩
I wouldnt call it stalking if you do it to find out about her personality
I can't be friends with girl because some day I will gonna ask her to go out if she's nice to me
How can I get my Girlfriend to move from Canada to Germany 🇩🇪 where I live. She don't want to leave Canada 🇨🇦 what should I do???? Thanks
Germany is a great place. But the idea of moving from one place to another is not an easy decision. Just give her time, and don't give up on trying to convince her. Trust me, I'm from Canada too, so I know ;)
kenneth otterson what the fuck your talking about?? I am not moslem👈🍹🍹
kenneth otterson I can understand you, we also don't like moslms, but your coverment also took a lot of moslems. What is the name of minster of Refugee of Canada ??? We all made a huge mistake to let moslms to our countries.
German will stand up ans will wine theier country again like USA. We need just a right one and I am pretty sure. He is coming
ratio legis *cough cough* kidnap her
Your videos are excellent. So well presented and great integration of the academic references. I think I learned something new. Thanks
What if she runs her finger across your chest?
That's a very positive sign Andrew! But one good sign doesn't mean she's already flirting. Keep looking! ;)
Yea doesn't mean anything. Check for more signs
She's probably just checking to see if you have breast cancer or something. IDK, I'm no doctor
Just found your channel, these videos are GOLD.
Thank you! 🙂
I do have one question if you inviter her to church with you would that be s good way to give a reason to go out with her but yet not put off completely that you like her thanks your a big help
Nice idea! Just be confident and observe the signs/behavior to see if she's already figured you out. Check out my other video which will be very helpful with your situation. Good luck! :-) ua-cam.com/video/eQVTBNr5tYY/v-deo.html
Kinda hard to flirt in church plus if you do you may have to go to confession.
It wouldn't work if she's the type that doesn't like to go to church, such as myself. Even if I was interested in a guy I wouldn't go to church with him.
Emily Sweets yeah that’s why I was inviting idk but she said yes so
Truth Detector lol
Thanks a lot, first video of many on the subject that actually gave me some real advice.
I ignore girls that's flirting with me. It's so much fun lol
It's actually a good way to make them chase or want you even more 😉
Girls actually want you more when you ignore them. I know because it happened to me ( i am bi ) xD
Kate Spring Yeah I've noticed😉
I don't have that luck
Very enlightening video Kate. You are good, actually great, at this.
Very nice tips.
Thanks Ricardo! I'm glad you like the video :-)
Kate you are so professional , smart and very charismatic girl ! Love from Macedonia !
Thank you Nikolce! Greetings from the West Coast of Canada! ❤
@@KateSpring You're welcome Kate ! ❤
Thank you so much
You're welcome!
Hey, Kate thanks for the video I like it a lot I also have a question, it happened to me long time ago, but she was a selfish and needy bad friend to me, had me confused and bitter. Would it be a sign if a girl just being friendly by include her guy friend to her other friends if we just friends?
Beautiful eyes
Thank you Mojo! 😍
Kate you’re the only woman I listen to on these topics 😂 And I really like your face.
I like my face too 😉 Appreciate it, thanks! 😊
@@KateSpring You're welcome.
Why??
Why not? :-)
How come?
This has been insightful. Thank you, Kate Spring
You're welcome MJ! :-)
:)
You are to damn cute!
This reminds me of a certain meme 😂 Thanks Mike!
Very interesting. This is good for helping men look at their approach from a different angle. Thank you for time & research, Kate
You're welcome Dylan! Don't forget to hit that subscribe button! :-)
Well im a virgin for ever
Ptobably. You can`t even spell forever.
Didn't recognize you at first your hair looks nice,enjoyed the video very helpfull thank you Kate
Thank you Dennis! Appreciate it 🙂
Ok, just want to build on the playing with objects bit, if a woman is playing with a ring, or rings shes wearing while shes talking to you and is smiling in a genuine way, would that also be flirting, or if shes spoken for just trying to get attention to being married if it's her wedding ring?
Not bad. Your video inteds to be serious and you have a genuine vibe. Thanks!
You're welcome! I always try to keep it real so you can definitely look forward to more of my videos being this way :-)
@@KateSpring Indeed! Most youtubers either try to impress you by showing their "discoveries" or by using all kinds of fake means to get you to like them. Not you, you are just yourself and that makes you likable. Also, the way you organize your ideas is very flexible, insightful and original. Thanks and keep it going!
Its so shit when you cant tell if they are or not, this girl did do some things that could be regarded as flirting but at the same time she’s so stunning so dont kno why she would like me ahah
I know the feeling. But hey, just because she's very attractive doesn't mean she wouldn't like you. Don't be too hard on yourself and just go give it a shot!
Kate Spring is there any low key ways to shoot ur shot without it being obvious?
You can tell Kate is a 90's kid when she has clips of guys wearing cargo shorts 😄
😂
Kate, just subscribed and great video but please make the transition to not using a script! You are plenty intelligent enough to talk on the fly and the added facial expressions and energy will get you subscribers wayyy more quickly! Thanks for the awesome vid, I'll be watching more... PS you inspire me to go out and GET THAT ASS! (Maybe make a video on how not to be creepy ;)
Kate Kate Kate great info, new sub, you kinda blew me away at first looking the way you do, I was expecting an old lady more or less
Haha! Thank you ;)
Kate Spring you're welcome ma'am, I do have a a few questions, I watched some of your other videos, a majority of the signs are there, but I think I messed things up with my best friend, please help Kate
Thank you Kate for this video because it’s hard to tell sometimes.
You're welcome Will! There's many videos on my channel that would definitely help you a lot so be sure to check out the rest 😉
I went to the dentist office and the doctor was very friendly, which is normal, but then she asked me twice what am i doing after i get out of there, i was like i don't know.
She could've been just trying to initiate small talk but if she pulls the same trick the next time you go, I think you should seriously consider asking her out 😉
Thanks for a reply, she also introduced me to her sister, they work at the same place, while i was seating in the chair, is that normal? I am all kinds of confused lol.
OK, what if you were in a relationship with her for about a couple weeks you guys broke it off and then she still gives you those cues but still says i see you as a brother or a friend or whatever
She's keeping you in the friend zone! It's a convenient way to still get your affection without having to commit to a relationship. I suggest you watch this video instead: ua-cam.com/video/juo5zwRe3mk/v-deo.html
I love how the girl I liked did all these things , but she said " I feel like your rlly just a good friend " , im dead inside now
Ugh, that sounds tough. Have you seen my video about escaping the friend zone yet? If not, I suggest you watch it ASAP! Here's the link: ua-cam.com/video/juo5zwRe3mk/v-deo.html
Don't worry she'll come out after you in a couple of years when you'll be successfull. Reject her then. 🤔😎
@@davidbolha Yeah fr and I can't wait