Finding Hope After Losing a Child
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- Опубліковано 20 гру 2017
- Bryan’s daughter Holland had just turned 3 years old when doctors discovered a tumor the size of a golf ball in her brain. The events that followed challenged Bryan’s faith in God like nothing before.
“Why is this happening to us,” he wondered. “We’re good people. We’ve done everything God’s asked us to do and yet this is still happening. I tried to pray. I tried reading the scriptures. I tried doing all these things to try to find peace and I couldn’t. I needed to resolve this. I either needed to come to peace with God, or I needed to say, ‘God doesn’t exist because if God existed, He wouldn’t do this to me.’”
After searching for peace, Bryan found it. He felt sure that his daughter would survive. Doctors removed the tumor. Only a few months later, though, the tumor returned. The third time the tumor returned, it grew down Holland’s spine. Bryan’s sense of peace didn’t diminish, but his understanding of what the future held changed then.
“I said a prayer and the Lord immediately said she’s going to die,” he recalls.
He and his wife lay on either side of Holland when she passed away.
“That was pain and grief,” Bryan states. “That was the worst feeling I’ve ever had in my life. I felt hopeless. I felt angry toward God. A part of me was ripped out and gone.”
Bryan describes why the experience of witnessing someone’s first breath and last breath gives him hope that God’s plan includes so much more than what happens between first breath and last breath. Hear his testimony in this raw episode of His Grace.
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I can't say I know what it's like to lose a child, but I do know that a trial such as that could easily cause one to leave their faith, and it's so strengthening to see this story, and how it strengthened your testimony in Christ. Thank you, for sharing your story
I am so thankful for this beautiful message:) Sending My Prayers💕
I haven't cried in over 5 years. I weeped at this because I too have a daughter! God is kind to us all, we just needed to see his kindness.
Thank you for sharing your wonderful testimony with us. We in our family have lost young ones and the pain is very real but Heavenly Father Love helps us through.
Sorry for your loss, never lose faith in the Lord! For his plan is always in our favor. Whether we see that or not, the Lord truly works in mysterious ways.
😇 Helou. Auuja
I’m so sorry you lost your daughter. I lost my son in 2005 to a severe heart defect. I can totally relate to this story. I had a blessing given to me and I wasn’t told by the Spirit “Your son will live.” Instead I had this overwhelming feeling of comfort that no matter what happened my son would be okay, and that I would be okay. Now he’s in Heaven waiting for me. And I can’t wait to meet him there. Bless you and your family.
Monique Shorten thank you for these wonderful words , I lost my son when he was 9 week and 5 days old over 30 yr ago , reading your words has helped me , once again thanks
Aw bless you honey x
Thanks for your testimony. I'm so sorry for your temporary loss. Man's search for happiness helps me. Though old the Spirit and message really help me. I too have felt that Comfort. Thanks for reminding me of that. God bless you
I’m sorry for ur loss I was born that year Bless you and your family and sharing ur loss
Monique Shorten message from 14 old young men me Rest In Peace you’re son
Sending love to all who lost a loved one❤️
Losing someone you love can be painful. It can challenge your faith. But, I know that our family and loved ones who have passed on can be close by. They are with us. We can see them again and be with them again. Just as this man expressed. Death is not the end. Seek The Lord. Stay close to Him. He will send peace.
losing your child is extremely painful. so painful that i now doubt
ressurrection is part of our lives
This video is so amazing. Everything happens for a reason 💖 thank you for sharing
Our daughter had seizures all her life and was special needs. She passed away at 4 years. Our bishop told us Heavenly Father sent this special spirit for you to love and care for. He has taken her now and your test as parents in caring for her is over. My final father’s priesthood blessing to her was thanking Heavenly Father for sending her to us. Krisene, I’ll see you again someday.
I just sobbed and felt such peace and healing watching this. I appreciate your vulnerability in sharing this sacred experience and your testimony. I was 2 months old when my 3 year old sister tragically passed away. My father said he had a similar experience before, knowing she was going to die. I love knowing I have an angel sister. I have felt her watching and protecting me from the other side. It doesn't change the past but it makes the present bearable. Truly sorry for the loss of your little girls life and her fight with cancer. Her story continues to inspire and motivate others to find peace and come unto Jesus.
I needed this. Thank you Prayers for your family and sorry.
Thank you for sharing the story brought tears to my eyes
Chris A me too
The amount of strength you have to share this story is amazing! God bless you
Wow, this video is too close to home. It's very well done video.
Thank U soooo very very much 4 sharing your story. I promise U god is alive & he listens & answers our prayers! I am sending prayers 2 U & your precious family. God bless U 💕💕💕
So sorry for your loss! It’s so true! Christ is there for us during our trials and when someone dies, it isn’t over. ❤️
May Heavenly Father Guard, Guide, Bless & Protect You and Your Family Always Until You Are Reunited In His Presence.
Trinsica Tolman I know poor people I hope who ever haves it gets better
People who disliked the video they don't have soul and their life.I cried because of this story. ;( This is so sad and it's all true ;( I wish if there was chance for her ;( Thanks for showing us this story.
Me to, but remember there is hope! She is now with her heavenly father! :D
Thanks for sharing this
Your testimony brought tears and pain to my heart, I am sorry for the loss of your gorgeous little girl, I can't imagine the pain and sorrow this has caused you, God bless you and your wife. Its comforting to know the Savior has her in his tender loving care.
This touches my heart in a special way cause I myself have had a brain tumor that caused me to have seizures and then I still have another tumor on my brainstem that still needs to be removed and I live in constant fear of another tumor growing that will end up being in a fatal place. I have a genetic disorder that causes tumors to grow anywhere on my body they can be inside or outside of my body. (Neurofibromatosis)
praying for you Sami and let me tell you that I just felt that it was the most beautiful pray I have ever felt, my eyes were closed but I had a extraordinary vision and feeling peace, I felt Love, the most and great love ever, and I have a big and hot testimony of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I love to be called mormon I love to read the Book of Mormon I Love my brother Jesus Christ I hope to do more even though I know I cannot, but it is just that He had done too much, that is why I want to pray for you, and I am sorry if you think that I am crazy or if I am corny but I know you are my sister because we both are daughters of Our Heavenly Father and I love my sisters and brothers, and this is weird for me but I am feeling so happy because I have the Gospel of Christ and I have no doubt it is real in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
D&C 121:7-9 " My son, peace be unto thy soul; thine adversity and thine afflictions shall be but a small moment;
8 And then, if thou endure it well, God shall exalt thee on high; thou shalt triumph over all thy foes.
9 Thy friends do stand by thee, and they shall hail thee again with warm hearts and friendly hands.".
This is one of my favorite scriptures ever. I have a family member who has nerofiberomatosis type 2. I know that you must be really really strong even if you don't see it because God gave you this challenge because he knows only you CAN DO IT the way he wants it to be done.
thanks for sharing glory to God
The book Bryan wrote about this story, Meant for Heaven, is absolutely beautiful.
I'm an Atheist. But I could feel the love sparkling in our heart. No offense. Spread love immensely ❤.
❤😢 Powerful story
I'm so sorry for your loss. There really is nothing compared to losing a child! After my 8 year-old son was killed in a hunting accident, I found comfort in the stories of other bereaved parents. Knowing you are not alone is so helpful. Thank you for your video.
Thank you for teaching us this.
I thank you for your willingness to make and share. Just know this fact you will not ever get over it but you will get use to it. From my own loss of my much loved child I have learned there is those two silent and holy nights. That beautiful first breath. That final heartbroking breath. To outlive a child is almost sorrow unbelievable. LAMENTATION. peace. AGONY. JOY. i wish you the parent abd child reunion. That comforts me. You too i hope
Thank you for sharing your story. My second son lived 10 days. It is hard. God is helping me continue with my life and be there for my family.
so sorry for your loss but that message was so inspiring and helpful because my mom actually has breast cancer and it has been very hard lately but now i know she will be ok ;)
Beautiful words of wisdom spoken from you my brother and it comes from your heart to comfort each and everyone of us who has witness a precise child taking there first breath oh what joy it gives each and everyone of us that it fills our hearts with love joy happiness and sunshine but it saddens me to know that there is a child I won't have that privilege to see take that first breath and it gives me great pain Amen
I lost my oldest son 4 weeks ago. Luckily I had 39 wonderful years with him. I miss him everyday and I grieve for him. If it wasn't for the knowledge of knowing that I will not only see him again but be with him for eternity I would be truly lost! Thanks to our faith we have that knowledge so this is only a temporary set back. That's the way I have to look at it. This is only temporary. Our heavenly father knows best.
Thank you for this message... You are very strong as your father and daughter 👣
This is giving me hope as I go through the loss of our angel Kei-Mahli last month. The hole is a gaping hole that seems like it is consuming you. I have gone through so many emotions with God and now it's like there is no more left but gratitude.
Thanks for sharing your experience, Krystal. We are so sorry for your loss.
This story made me tear up so much. God does understand us unlike anyone else and I know that our spirits are eternal. We are so blessed. God doesn't give us perfect lives which is a common misconception but he promises to always be there for us. :)
I am so sorry for your loss. To me that has been the greatest trial, tragedy and heartache is losing ones child. I look forward to the day that I will see them again. So grateful for the Lord's tender mercies. So thankful for the gospel plan!
Losing a child is the worst. the pain will be with us parents, until our last day here on earth💔 I lost my baby daughter too grief is my constant companion but I believed in God's promises I know I will be with my baby again👼🙏💙
Thank you for sharing. Lighting the world with your beautiful story.
Thanks for sharing, sorry for your loss. I know the pain you go through my son died at 9 weeks 5 days, since I joined the church 11 yr ago I now know I will see have a chance to bring him up , we be together as a family, remember the good times , really on the atonement, and the love our Heavenly Father has for us
Amazing strength from amazing people. Love to you and your family Bryan! Grateful for your example of faith.
Sharing your experience is good and will help others going through this. Lost only baby I conceived so I know how hard this can be but continue to pray and know you will see your little daughter again and you will have a joyous reunion later
Sorry for all of the pain man
Normally i wouldn't cry so easily but when i was watching this video, i got an ad. It was about this and i just forgot about the video i was watching. Other bad-hearted people would've skipped this but this ACTUALLY brought tears to my eyes. I can Imagine losing a close family member...Her spirit will rise to god.. Im so sorry about what happened
I have 3 daughters, ages 4-2-6 months. I think I died inside watching this video. But the brother made a good point, our peace does ebb and flow. And all it takes is turning back to Him. Great point. Very true. We are all appointed to die, as it says in the scriptures. We have to trust that.
God after losing grandma I feel so scared and alone, I can't feel u anywhere with me .please don't abandon me at this trying moment of my life. I pray you show ur presence in my life and tell me hope exsists.
@shrishti bhattacharya, we're so sorry to hear of the passing of your dear grandma. Grief is a heavy burden. Seek God's help, and seek help from friends and family, from your brothers and sisters in the gospel, and from professionals. We know Jesus Christ loves and is aware of you. While we mourn for loved ones we've lost, we do believe there is hope-- death is not the end, and we can be reunited with those we love because of the Savior, Jesus Christ and His resurrection. Besides the promises of life after death, faith in Jesus Christ brings great meaning, purpose and joy to our lives now. You can learn more by visiting www.comeuntochrist.org/beliefs/purpose-of-life Take care!
@@churchofjesuschrist thank u so much for ur kind reply......
Thank you for your story! I’m struggling with the recent loss of my 21yr old son to suicide. Although they passed in very different ways the pain is still real. I too have hope n feel connected!! Soooo true about turning back to Christ!! He gives me the peace I need n daily He blesses me with special gifts... today this was my gift! May the Lord continue to bless n keep you!
Suliana, thanks for your comment and for sharing your faith. We're so sorry for the passing of your son. Continue to rely on Jesus Christ and we know comfort and healing can come. He loves you and can mend your heart and give you peace. Take care! www.lds.org/topics/grief
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints thanks so much may the savior continue to bless you with the knowledge to guide n direct His children
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing that. May you continue to be surrounded by the peace of Christ.
She is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing your growth through your trials. Tears, tears, tears.
So sorry I hope God be with her she needs to live a wonderful life in heaven. Listen we will all ways be by your side.
Love you guys, Bryan. I will never forget experiencing this unfold in our ward.
Thank you for your up lifting testimony blessed your heart for being so strong ❤️
I’m sorry for your loss!
I love this video so much it's taking about Jesus Christ
I am dumbfounded by your testimony, and crying as you tell your story. Thank you for being faithful to God.
Thank you for your video. In searching for answers as to why my son died I found your video. My son died 14 weeks after being diagnosed with glioblastoma on December 9th. I know how what I need to do. Thank you!
I am so sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace now. 🙏🕊
Thank u for sharing. It's so comforting hearing people's strong testimony of the Lord's love.
Amazing Story. RIL little Angel. ❤
Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey with us, I am so sorry for your loss, God bless you and your beautiful family ❤️
So sorry for your loss. Praying for your family.
Im so so sorry for your loss
I am soooo sorry for your loss god is not dead her spirit is always with you
I’m so sorry about this. This video made me cry and I never cry over videos. When you lose a child it must feel awful but it’s good your staying strong and she is in a better place now.
You can always find hope in the Lord. Even if the thing that you want to go away gets worse like in this video but trust in Lord, he will do the right thing for you even if you think its not the right thing.
So sorry for your loss, I know time can't heal grief, I have now lost my two sons, May their souls rest in peace. Amen
My heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you.🙏 My only child passed 1-2-21 💙
We went to church for 12 years and one day after school we came home and everyone was crying because my 67 year old granny had died. It was the worst thing that has ever happened to me.
I'm so sorry for your loss I know how it feels I'm so so sorry😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭☹☹☹☹
I know what it's like to lose a child. Mine wasn't born yet, but it still hurts a lot! 😢😢😢 I, like you, kept in close communication with Heavenly Father. Most of it initially was just weeping with Him being there with me holding my shoulders. He didn't take the grief from me, but He comforted me through it and never left me. He was just there with me, upholding me. I will be forever grateful for the power of prayer, the Holy ghost, and ultimately my knowledge of the plan of salvation. It's the sorest trials that teach us the most!
We're sorry for the loss and pain you experienced, Bethany. Thank you for sharing how you felt God's love and support in such a difficult time. comeuntochrist.org
This video just answered a question I have had for 38 years. In 1984, twelve hours after giving birth to our 4th child my husband was diagnosed with cancer. He had no symptoms, so we were taken completely by surprise. Eight months of fasting praying and Priesthood blessings followed. Everything pointed us in the direction of a full recovery. One priesthood blessing promised him that he would live to see his children raised to adulthood.
He died 8 months later.
I have often wondered and been asked why we were told in a blessing that he would live yet he died. When you said that you would have grieved too soon if you had known 14 months before your daughter’s death, I instantly knew that he why myself and our families spent the last 8 months of his life believing he would live. Thank you for providing that insight.
I can't wait to get to Heaven to see them again. This world loses so much of its luster when you long for the next. Thank God for the next. Thank you Jesus, for dying so that we all may be reunited.
Thanks for sharing this , it has helped me , my son died age 9 weeks 6 days I was not a member then only over the last 11 years , it's over 33 yr so ago , knowing that I be with him again one day is a big help , once again thanks am so sorry for your loss, keep holding on to the iron rod , remember you will all be together one day
I'M CRYING! I'm sorry for you! * Crying like crazy *
This toached me becuase when I was5 I lost my mom. My dad lost hope. The lord is my friend thanks so much. I cried while watching this
Never quit!!!
Bryan, you're so strong and I'm truly sorry about your loss. Holland's story will help bring light to people's soul, where currently there is darkness. Her story gives hope of an afterlife for those who may at times doubt. Thank you.
This made me cry I give you hope her spirit will come back and talk to you like my great grandad tucker did to my mother xxxx I send my love
My daughter died six years ago. I think of every day every single day. I wish I could’ve died before she did. I won’t know why heavenly father took her until I get to heaven myself.
Our Heavenly Father sent His own first-born to Earth, knowing that he would be rejected, suffer, and die. I do not mean to minimize your loss, only echo what you shared, that God himself knows and grieves with us in difficult times.
good video, beautifull story.. prayers sending and bless you
Amen God is good for He gives eternal ones to the ones who seek Him thank God!
Sorry for you loss♥️♥️👩❤️👨
I'm sorry for your lost god bless you
I’m so sorry for the loss 😢😭 she looked like a sweet loving little girl. The onions have officially been cut in my house 😭
First sorry for your loss
Absolutely, no doubt a great test of your faith.
i understand !! i lost my 10 year old son , my best friend my minni me to type 1 diabetes in april of 2017 it has shredded my soul and put my relationship with God and the afterlife at a halting chaos , i watch these videos to help me see how others handle the most devistating thing that can happen to a person , there are days i beg God to kill me so i can go wherever he went and others i search for why im here , Thank you for sharing your story i wish much peace and love for you and your family
I lost my 2 1/2 year old baby to brain cancer a rare aggressive one At/rt for short. She fought for 20 months she beat it once a long aggressive treatment. Surgeries, chemo, transplants, radiation. It came back and took her in a matter of few months. She passed in my home, in my arms, on September 14, 2019. I miss her every day. It hurts so bad but I do believe God helps ease my pain when I cry out that I can't anymore. It hurts so bad my heart could burst out my chest. I wish this wasn't true. Im so sorry for your little girls loss. My little girl has joined her. 💔🙏💛
Sending love to you and your family, Angelica. We're so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby. Thank you for sharing your faith in God despite this real challenge. www.lds.org/topics/grief
Thanks to all those who have had a hand in this video. It means so much to me in ways I can't fully express at this time.
Im sorry for your loss... :( i know it's hard but be comforted by the knowledge that we have by the seal power.
I love this family! The father has written a book about the story of his daughter. It's a good read!
I'm praying for your lost daughter and she's not gone she's there with you,right beside you.Im so sorry what happened. I loved you to the moon and back and we're all praying with you.
there was an ad of this and it brought me to tears
God bless everyone there mostly the child.😢❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💖💖💙💙💚💜💙💚💛💛💛💛💚💚💚💙💜💜
I can't imagine going through that without having the Savior to turn to. I've hadn't lost a child, but I have gone through my own trials, whether be divorce or addiction, and though it took time the Lord was always there for me. When I prayed, He sent me comfort and peace through the Holy Ghost. I love my Savior! He made it so we will all live again and we can be together forever.
My sister lost her first baby when young. We both are Seniors and we still she'd a tear talking about her sweet child. We are so thankful for him and the eight months we got to know him. He was called on a special mission and she is thankful for her celestial child.
Linda, thanks for your comment and for sharing your experience. We are sorry for your sister's loss, and hope you both feel comfort and peace from your faith in our Savior, Jesus Christ.
That little girl was so cute I love 💕 this video so much so sorry for your loss ❤️💙
I'm saddened for your loss and glad God enabled you to go through it,I love her laughter it make feel she now is with the Angels in heaven thank you for sharing it with me,it been 5 years my husband left me and i still miss him ,i wakeup now with tears in my eyes and i know i have to let him go ,sometimes i ask God why but i know he knew what's best for me,you see he had cancer and gave him one year and than 3 months and you help me to let go by hearing you talk about your daughter i thank you so much, may you be bless. Ethel love God and you .
Sometimes I look at my life and I think how did I ever survive all my ordeals? Then I hear a story like this and I feel like the world's biggest crybaby. I cannot even fathom that kind of pain. My heart breaks for that family. Whatever I have been through does not come close to losing your child. I am happy that they have found peace through Heavenly Father. They deserve that.
i'm so so sorry❤
I am crying After this 😭😭😭😭😭
So sorry for your loss. 12 years ago I lost my new born son at birth. 4 years later I had a daughter and I thanked God for her everyday. Now 6 months ago I had a second son. He lived for 9 weeks and past away on October 15th, 2019. I ask the same question.. why me? To live the pain all over again is so unbearably. I'm praying for better days. I don't know where i would be if I didn't have a daughter to go on for.
Jelisa, we're so sorry to hear of the tragic loss of your sons. We know comfort and healing can come through prayer and by relying on Jesus Christ at this difficult time. He loves you and can mend your heart and give you peace, and because of Him we will all be resurrected and can be reunited with our loved ones in the next life. www.comeuntochrist.org/beliefs/purpose-of-life/there-is-life-after-death
Thank you
Your story is so true i lost my brother 4 years ago due to lung disease and i always knoa he is always still there