also keep in mind that adults can be groomed but not exactly in same way as children, more so as in gaining trust for letting their children be in their hands and diverting them from abusive behavior under the guise of it not being harmful basically. idk if that makes exact sense
A grown adult who calls themselves a "loser" because they think their self-deprecation will minimize and excuse their bad behavior is a different kind of messed up.
it reminds me of when Shane was exposed for getting that 12 year old to perform a lap dance for him and kept falling back on this "uwu I'm trash" thing to help him out.
Yes. As soon as she was trying to say she was just a "loser" and a "weird aunt". Like, losers don't have PR teams. Weird Aunts don't send their nephews lacy bras.
Exactly. She is 36 but her behaviour screams 16. She has been communicating with kids for so long that is seems like it somehow stunted her emotional growth. Her song is all about blaming others and never taking any accountability
I love that you pointed out that regardless of intent what she's been doing is inapropiate, and her failing to show compassion towards the victims that suffered at her hands, be it maliciously or not, in itself puts her in the wrong here. Many people speaking on the topic focus on the actions, specific texts, events, trying to prove that they were 'that bad', but the overarching motif here is her not caring and refusing to learn to care about people around her and how she affects them. No, it does not make her a crazed pedophile, but it does betray her lack of empathy towards others, which is, as the kids put it, 'just not a good look'. (edit) to clarify, read the comment below 👇🏻
@@savadel1912 no, obviously I don't deny that what she's been doing is bad, but at the same time it is true (seemingly) that her grooming did not have a specific goal of sexually exploiting minors, nor that she is in fact a pedophile. You don't have to be one to treat children badly or to be inappropriate or to traumatise them. When every inappropriate interaction with minors is labeled as pedophilia it is easy for those who do not see anything wrong with that behaviour to dismiss the allegation all together. Not that we should ponder in our analysis to people with such views, but it does seem to be a generalisation that does not help eliviate their ignorance. And same goes for victims of such grooming - if you tell a fan of somebody like that, who are still under their spell, that they were groomed and that their idol is a pedophile - they will say no, they are not, they did non sexually assault me nor tried to, so what she says is true and it's all drama and false accusations. Not because it is so, but because they do not know better, and they are being told something that does not ring true to their experience.
If someone bullied a person when they were kids, and then met that person later and was like "but does it matter - I just didn't know any better, haha, let's sing a song about it!". It would be 100% clear they were taking 0% accountability. It's the same thing here... except she's NOT a kid, and people in their 30's normally know damn well what they're doing!
Meanwhile a literal pedophile, James Charles, manages to get away because he just ignored the problem. I don’t know how his situation wasn’t as big as Colleen’s. I mean people still do call him out, but his impressional fans far outweighs the logical ones.
@@lollsazz "know damn well what they're doing" You're missing a "should" before that. You have to remember that common sense is a rare these days, and so is taking responsibility for anything.
Unfortunately, i've known about Colleen for a long time. I've always hated her Miranda character, but i really like Rachel Ballinger and how she interacts with JoJo Siwa, so i've watched a decent number of Colleen's videos.
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle same, it's a bit sad that she took this route instead of... weirdly apologizing again? I still can't wrap my head, what can she do, she did apologized, she did stop doing all the grooming and stuffs, she stopped being a "bad" person and focuses on her vlog and her tour although as Miranda, she clearly did thinking about to stop doing Miranda at all because we all know all the joke the original youtuber make are all bad now. And I'm still thinking about Jenna, the point is different, but it feels like all of the young fans of the original youtuber, are now "coming out" of how shitty the joke that made them laugh and now in therapy wants to cancel them because the joke originates from them, as if the same joke weren't told by some of their own parents, by some people living in the same time as the original youtuber... and I love Anna, but man, is she even safe from any accusation too, does anybody? We don't really need to be an innocent being to judge others, but when would it be the time to reflect about our past mistakes and how to make an amend for it. I know if I'm in her shoes, I would never make a ukulele song, but she did apologized and try to be better, but if that is still not enough and that make my mind breaks, perhaps I should just be the villain everybody portrays me to be. It made one thing clear, I would never put myself my whole person in the internet, but rather make a mask so it's easier to discard. People beg content creator to be open, real, and vulnerable, and use those all as a tool to cancel them when they got big. What a shitshow, I miss Jenna
@@kittehgo Yeaa I heard about that and I can admit it’s possible someone is yet again abusing the copyright system on YT but I wouldn’t put it past Colleen. Also a thing to note is that after her team put out that statement, Ethan Klein revealed that his podcast episode on her is still being claimed. All in all sussy behavior, Colleen’s just gonna excuse her actions again by saying how much of a loser she is
@BuffAmogus Thankfully I have barely any clue about whom she is, I just came across the news on you tube via Philip Defranco. So for all i know you could be right, that she or someone on her team did the copyright.
Once again, Anna showing up and telling people how to be safe, take responsibility, and giving a ton of context without making us have to give this other person the searches and view... this whole channel is always perfection.
I managed to stay unaware….until today. And I’m deeply grateful for you to bring this forward to have it called out. How many people have been harmed by this type of dynamic at home? Too many “moms” have harmed kids with these inappropriate venting. The grooming is just icky and absolutely clear with the evidence shown. People being held accountable for their behaviors are what we are being asked to do as a collective now. Evidence, thanks to screen shots, are what victims have been told we needed. For her to ignore that “being a bestie with a minor” is the most telling of a mentally unwell for an adult.
@@UnbrokenHope yes!! Thank you for bringing it up! I had experienced that myself growing up, and it's easy to forget the term. I worked diligently so that my kids didn't have to deal with me in that fashion. That is a term to definitely work on healing from-and one that's is part of my journey as well.
I only recently learned about parentification -- and I've been a psych nerd and med nerd for over 30 years, so I can only imagine that a lot of people out there aren't getting exposed to the concept and it isn't talked about enough! Learning about it absolutely CHANGED MY LIFE. I was already doing tons of great valuable self-work, but understanding my own parentification and its myriad impacts caused me to connect SOOOOOOO MANY DOTS about my mind/behavior that I'd never connected before. I really hope more people spread awareness of this topic, because many people who've been emotionally and/or instrumentally parentified would gain a ton of insight from it, and also loads of very well-meaning parents do it and have no idea that it's harmful and would stop if they knew more about it. (In my case a lot of it was out of legitimate survival necessity, and I have no resentment -- but we can still learn a lot from embracing that mistakes happen without necessarily blaming the person who did or is doing them, even if that person is ourselves. Hugs to anyone out there who's about to dive into this topic and see themselves in it, and also hugs to any parents out there who are about to google this and experience guilt. Everyone's doing the best we can at any given time with the information we have.)
@@ItsAsparageese absolutely all of this! And thank you for verifying how recent and challenging. It is to connect these dots. However, once they are connected, it absolutely shifts everything. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Let’s be real, she CAN’T apologize or acknowledge what’s she’s done because she’s actually committed crimes, and they can be taken as admission of guilt. I feel like she thought it wouldn’t get this far ever (especially with the explicit photos of Trish)
If I were in her shoes I would have kept my mouth SHUT like her legal team advised... The internet is crazy, why would she want more heat on her when she has three young children? She could have apologized to Trisha privately for the whale joke though. Saying it was 'out of context' instead of just sorry is pathetic and the final nail in her coffin.
@@jbond4186 By all accounts, didn’t seem like people believed Adam. Colleen would not be able to sue Adam civilly, she’d clearly loose. Adam probably had no thoughts of sue Colleen. One of the things I’ve heard criminally is def sending nude pics to minors but that was this year.
Now Anna covering it...oh this lady managed to touch every corner of UA-cam. Everything that I also know and seen have been due to curiousity because I remember seeing her around and against my will. Im with you there Anna!
Man, when someone who usually stays above the fray of UA-cam controversies like AA jumps from the top rope to deliver a comprehensive smackdown like this, you *know* this is messed up.
I mostly agree about if the genders were reversed, except for when it comes to celebrities. Drake has been inappropriate with multiple underaged girls, and neither James Charles nor Shane Dawson saw any major, lasting consequences for their inappropriate interactions with minors either.
@@breastsleepingmuse9446 I’m not disagreeing, I’m just saying I think in this case it has more to do with celebrity than with gender. Even though society at large doesn’t seem to take accounts of female predators as seriously males, it does seem like in terms of criminal charges the amount of people convicted is pretty similar regardless of gender (which is to say, conviction is abysmally low no matter what).
I love the introspect of Colleen's process when making and uploading her song. When you put it into that perspective, it makes it all that more crazy. Glad that you talked about this!
Oh my god, you are completely right. It’s the exact same vibe and you’ve made me have some weird revelations about how inappropriate some of my drama teachers were… why the hell did I know so much about their personal lives?
@@quadling3521 I think its ok to get to know your students as long as you're doing it in a sort of mentor way. once it turns into you gossiping with them or venting to them about your personal life, its inappropriate. You should treat them more like a parent, not like a peer friend.
I'm so sad you're right. Fully found out after highschool that a fellow student had been 'in a relationship with' / *preyed on* by an employee in his 30s
"I do think we can live in a space where we alnowledge people's mistakes and give them room to grow, while still holding them accountable for their unacceptable actions." This.
This is for real the craziest vid I’ve seen in a while that touches on a messed up, serious subject. Glad you made this, really helped me understand all the insanity of the situation.
Thank you so much for talking about this Anna and making more people aware. Parasocial relationships and power dynamics aren’t talked about enough to be honest! People need to realise the true meaning behind ‘with great power comes great responsibility’ in all senses. ❤
tysm, im a minor and couldn’t fully grasp this situation properly . you made it so succinct and made it so understandable for me to sense the severity of these events. love your videos anna
What's hilarious is that the ukulele song is that it's such a good song that her train wreck of a story and response will be in the minds of most people on social media for a long long time. It's so catchy, but that serves Colleen so so badly.
The catchiness means we'll never forget her ickiness and she'll have to either regret writing it soon or regress into severe denial of reality. Toxic Gossip Train...
Thats why her response is a song, so she can manipulate children in to thinking all those things are not that bad, because" look! The song is so catchy and stuff" It's a manipulation. It's gross. She has a mental illness
You are the first person to respond to this and hit every mark and you did it in less than 15 minutes. Especially explaining the official definition of “grooming”. I was groomed in a non-sexual way, I’ve had to explain to a lot of people that it’s not always about that. Also pointing out that intended or not, it doesn’t change what happened. A lot of people think it’s ok to not say sorry because they didn’t “meant to”. You are sincerely my favorite UA-camr Anna, thank you for being so dang wise ❤️
Whether it’s proven she did this or not isn’t the most infuriating part about this (and with all the evidence backing the accusation; yeah… it happened), but that she’s being so nonchalant about it. Like “oh yeah, I’m telling youngin’s about this stuff, no biggie.”
To be fair, I do think there's a space for adult and minors (platonic obviously) relationships where they discuss that kind of stuff. Having an adult you trust and feel comfortable asking about stuff that's kinda taboo to talk about and often involve a lot of confusion and personal feeling, that can be invaluable. It's certainly healthier than just learning about it all from the internet. But the key is that it has to come from the minor, go at their own pace and only be what they're comfortable with. Which is very clearly not what Colleen did. It seems like she treated the kids as fellow adults, which is very much not right.
@@lilowhitney8614It should only come from a trusted adult, with checks and balances. Such as a teacher, school advisor, counselor or safe family member. I would not have these kinds of conversations with my children's friends, even if they came to me. That would be beyond inappropriate. I would lead them to safe materials and/or spaces to learn about what they are curious about. It's not okay. Not even if the child 'asks' for it. And it I'd up to the adults around that child to protect them and not overstep boundries they might not understand.
people keep calling this a parasocial relationship, it is not. a parasocial relationship is unreciprocal and one sided, whereas she was *actively* engaging with fans, blurring the lines between fan and friend.
This is the best response to the whole Colleen situation in my opinion, it recognises that grooming can happen in a non s*xual way and she was still weird af for having friendships with these kids. But I like that you don’t use the word p*dophile at all because I think that is such a serious allegation to make when we don’t know if she gets any s*xual gratification from any of this. People need to be so careful with what they say in my opinion.
Thanks for this, I have watched a couple of videos on this Colleen situation and they way you have put it actually has a lot more context that I don't have to sit through 45 minutes of Colleen content for. You've summed it up nicely and hopefully she watches it and figures out a way to get help.
100% agree with you. Like you said, the most important aspect about this whole situation is how the victims have been affected. Many people have come out to say that they've experienced trauma and shame from this event. The fact that she hasn't shown any concern about this, to me, is a huge issue. Regardless of her intentions or what she thought she was doing, she negatively impacted people's (minors') lives and she needs to take accountability for that. Only then is there room for growth
The term "narcissist" is getting so overused these days that it's getting diluted to the point of meaninglessness. It's not okay to use diagnoses as adjectives. I propose we normalize using the suffix -oid (meaning "in the shape of") when we're trying to describe something in an adjectival way, so that we can use the most fitting-seeming words without actually overstepping into medical conjecture/armchair diagnosing. There are a LOT of possible clinical explanations for her behavior. Being a narcissist or having NPD are arguably among them, but it's not ANYONE'S place to declare that either diagnosis fits besides a clinician she consults with in-depth herself. But I think it's totally fine to describe her behavior as "narcissistoid". I just don't think it's okay to declare her a narcissist. Just like how it's not cool to say "Oh I'm like so OCD" as an adjective, it's also not cool to say "narcissist" or "NPD" as an adjective. These terms have specific concrete real meanings, and diluting those meanings is harmful to those who suffer with the disorders and those who are in turn harmed by those individuals.
@@ItsAsparageesethis! using a diagnosis loosely in these kinds of situations online makes it so much harder for people who have the diagnosis or might need to be diagnosed to get actual help because of the extreme stigma around it. it is possible that she has some narcissistic traits or behaviors but the actual diagnosis is so much more complex. it's impossible and damaging to diagnose from afar
@@user-vn9sh6hv8r "Narcissistic" is just an adjectival form referring to specifically narcissists. If we're being vaguer/more approximate than that, we need a different term. There's a difference between saying someone "has the traits of a narcissist" (narcissistic) versus "has traits LIKE that of a narcissist" (narcissistoid). That's my stance anyway
This articulated my thoughts so well. It’s clear she does not understand the concept of boundaries or parasocial relationships. Using her following as a source of validation and adoration and deleting or blocking those who disagree. Hoping she gets help, realizes the severity of the situation, and can maybe, eventually, validate the victims and help them get closure.
Very VERY important topic, thank you so much for addressing! In my middle school years I absolutely adored her and hearing why she’s resurfacing on the internet is actually sick and devastating.
I'm in my late 20's and I work as a teacher in a private school where every class is 1:1. There are students that I've become very close with and that's exactly why it's so important to hold firm boundaries to keep each student (and yourself) safe! As an adult, you can have meaningful and even personal conversations with teens, but context is everything! Teacher/mentor and student relationships are also very different from celebrity and fan relationships. Colleen is absolutely someone that is refusing to take accountability for grooming kids. Disgusting.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on this Anna. I agree with many of the points you mentioned, especially the dismissal of these minors experiences. We have no idea what these children are internally experiencing OR what their personal lives are like that they were ok with interacting with a 30yr old "loser" in these ways. Colleen definitely has overlooked her position as THE ADULT in this situation. There's some deep inner work she needs to do before continuing her content or performances. These types of interactions stay with ppl in their childhood and ripple until THEY have to address them bcz of the issues that arise. *Big breath* Sending everyone involved love. Colleen too. 🙌🏿💕
You are AMAZING, Anna. Educating us and bringing into light this serious issue, I am now an even bigger admirer of yours. The world is better with people like you. Thank you for always putting out such informative and helpful content. Wishing you more success!
I think it's important that many celebrities (whether if it's UA-cam stars, social media influencers, Hollywood celebrities, etc) should be wary of their fan base, especially to young fans. You can get along well with young fans but do not engage into a personal friendship/relationship. Sooner or later, it will turn out something traumatizing and can lead you to become the villain of the cause. There are some flaws when it comes to parasocial relationships so be mindful when it comes to interacting with your favorite celebrity
thank you so so much for talking about it. So many drama channels are just in it for the news but not actually for what the effect this woman it doing to kids ?? like yeah there’s drama but this is horrible ??? don’t talk about this like it’s UA-cam beef
I’m surprised Anna wasn’t friends with Colleen, or at least knew who she was, considered at one point Anna used to collab with Grace, Mamrie and Hannah, and Lily Singh during the peak of youtube
Bravo Anna!!! This truly is important to talk about! Thank you so sooo much! I wasn't aware of her but I know-all-too well what it feels like to be subjected to these power dynamics and "apologies" (EYE ROLL). I wish this were broadcast everywhere as a PSA
This conversation is more important than ever. The illusion of intimacy we have with entertainers can be so confusing now that they’re on the same social media we use to connect with our close family and friends. The boundary lines get blurred. It gets so dangerous. We have to be careful.
Just teach your kids about internet safety and that if they see something sketchy to tell you. I'm amazed that none of these kids went and told their parents when they saw the first inappropriate thing in the chat. There's no way that all of them were so in awe that they just glossed over it for years.
@@jbond4186 as a grooming survivor myself, that is a thought that pops up a lot and we use when feeling guilty. When children get groomed, they usually do not have good relationships with other people, which is why they stay and get stuck. You saying this is literally shifting the blame on the children, when the adult in the situation should have not have acted like that in the first place. So please do not say something like that, because it supports the abuser whether you meant it that way or not; additionally it could also hurt someone who recently just got out of grooming. Thank you.
@@hellohi-c2j I'm not blaming the kids, I'm blaming their parents for not teaching them to be safe. And I'm not saying this makes Colleen completely innocent (if the allegations are even 100% true). If even one of these kids had told their parents and done something about it we wouldn't be having this conversation right now. I wasn't groomed, but I was SA'd in the 7th grade. Not one adult who saw it or knew about it did anything. 100% those adults are to blame for letting it go on as long as it did, not me and not the kid doing it to me.
Watching this in the ER. Colleen started and so did a vitals monitors alarm. This is reminding me of a drama class in year 10 where the new teacher was running an icebreaker game. The game was she asked a question and if the answer was "yes" then we jumped into the middle of the circle. The teacher asks "Who's no longer a virgin?" My 16yo 5' self who had just transferred in that year immediately shouts "NOBODY ANSWER THAT QUESTION!" and then proceeds to lecture the teacher about the many reasons that was none of her business, none of our business, and did she consider the implications for CSA survivors. The other students looked rather shocked. I was small, new, and rather shy. In an amazing coincidence, we ended up with a new drama teacher shortly after
THANK YOU for talking about how grooming is not ONLY about the end result!! It’s the process. This is such a thorough response and review of everything recently.
I like how you broke it down. Her cries of toxic gossip confuse the main issues, and the way you clearly state it make it so easy to see why we are all hurt and upset. We have all experienced some level of power imbalance, and to hear the person responsible be so callous brings all of that back to the surface. Not to mention the gaslighting!
I've been doing my best to avoid this story, not because I don't care, but because _knowing_ things means _carrying_ them, and sometimes, I feel my strength is limited, so I try to pick the burdens I _need_ to carry now, and I'll come back for the rest later. Today was later. Anna packed this story up in a tidyish, fairly liftable package, and I think I know enough about the situation now. More than I had up 'til now, without doubt. Thanks, Anna.
It's not a parasocial relationship once you're engaging in real life meetings and friendships and day-to-day, private, offline, personal life conversations. That's now a social relationship. With an extreme power differential. Against an army of fans with parasocial relationships with their fave.
The nerve for UA-cam being a big enabler of this type of activity. One that takes down stuff less than what this monster did and still lets it still exist on the platform .
To be fair, ever since 2020, everything’s felt like a s#!t show. It’s been THREE YEARS, when will it end?!?! (the insanity, not the world, I want to live)
I'm personally a fan of the "it all started with Harambe" angle on our descent into a whack timeline (largely in a tongue-in-cheek way of course). Plenty was wrong since long before that, obviously, but that approximate time period felt like a major point of escalation into ... this.
My daughter really wanted to meet you back in 2018 (12) but rather than dropping in unannounced, we took a hard left and went to Sequoia/ Kings Canyon park instead of going to LA.
You stated everything so perfectly. Until she can fully and genuinely take accountability for her behavior and learn from this, her “apology” is trash. It all feels like a huge joke to her. She wants to be seen as the victim instead of the children she harmed and groomed. Thank you for including the definition of grooming because people seem to think it only takes the sexual act to consider it grooming.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_grooming That's because it is the definition of grooming. What Colleen did is child abuse, and in a way it's worse than grooming.
I dont even know what to say other than this woman and her behavior makes me feel ill. Thank you Anna for presenting this with tact and thoughtfulness.
Thanks for taking the time Anna. I know she did lots of therapy in the past few years, but surely, she needs to do more regarding all this, so she can self reflect and understand the harm she has done to these kids. I don't think she's a completely bad person but she definitely needs to learn and grow. I don't know if she'll ever come back to UA-cam, but I hope that if she does, it will be after a long break and that she will have done actual work on herself to take accountability. I think we are just starting to understand how deep the parasocial relationships problems can go, with UA-cam and other social medias, we have more access to celebrities than we ever did as children in the 90s- early 2000s, it's easy to feel connected to your favorite creator when it's not real connections. As a parent of young kids, it opens my eyes even more on how I need to monitor their presence online and make sure they stay safe on the internet.
Thank you for talking about and shedding light on this extremely pertinent issue. My heart goes out to victims of grooming and childhood sexual abuse🙏❤ you are not alone.
let's not forget Becky wore revealing clothes so she would be chosen on stage. The kids knew they had to dress a certain way to get Colleen's attention. Colleen groomed boys and girls.
This is one of the absolute best takes I have seen on this whole situation. Thank you so much for taking the time to open a more healthy version of this conversation.
I remember once she said mocked ppl for saying that they were bullied. She said she was bullied too and it wasn’t the end of the world. I remember thinking when she said this that she was probably the bully and is deflecting guilt.
I honestly didn’t know grooming didn’t have to be in a sexual context, so thank you for the education.
This. An eye-opener, Anna - thank you.
Me neither but it’s really good to know
also keep in mind that adults can be groomed but not exactly in same way as children, more so as in gaining trust for letting their children be in their hands and diverting them from abusive behavior under the guise of it not being harmful basically. idk if that makes exact sense
colleen is queen
@@palestinabaddie queen of grooming.
A grown adult who calls themselves a "loser" because they think their self-deprecation will minimize and excuse their bad behavior is a different kind of messed up.
it reminds me of when Shane was exposed for getting that 12 year old to perform a lap dance for him and kept falling back on this "uwu I'm trash" thing to help him out.
Yes. As soon as she was trying to say she was just a "loser" and a "weird aunt". Like, losers don't have PR teams. Weird Aunts don't send their nephews lacy bras.
Pulling the ol' BoJack Horseman routine
This 💯💯💯
Exactly. She is 36 but her behaviour screams 16. She has been communicating with kids for so long that is seems like it somehow stunted her emotional growth. Her song is all about blaming others and never taking any accountability
I love that you pointed out that regardless of intent what she's been doing is inapropiate, and her failing to show compassion towards the victims that suffered at her hands, be it maliciously or not, in itself puts her in the wrong here.
Many people speaking on the topic focus on the actions, specific texts, events, trying to prove that they were 'that bad', but the overarching motif here is her not caring and refusing to learn to care about people around her and how she affects them. No, it does not make her a crazed pedophile, but it does betray her lack of empathy towards others, which is, as the kids put it, 'just not a good look'.
(edit) to clarify, read the comment below 👇🏻
@@savadel1912 no, obviously I don't deny that what she's been doing is bad, but at the same time it is true (seemingly) that her grooming did not have a specific goal of sexually exploiting minors, nor that she is in fact a pedophile. You don't have to be one to treat children badly or to be inappropriate or to traumatise them.
When every inappropriate interaction with minors is labeled as pedophilia it is easy for those who do not see anything wrong with that behaviour to dismiss the allegation all together. Not that we should ponder in our analysis to people with such views, but it does seem to be a generalisation that does not help eliviate their ignorance.
And same goes for victims of such grooming - if you tell a fan of somebody like that, who are still under their spell, that they were groomed and that their idol is a pedophile - they will say no, they are not, they did non sexually assault me nor tried to, so what she says is true and it's all drama and false accusations. Not because it is so, but because they do not know better, and they are being told something that does not ring true to their experience.
child abusers are narcissistic and self absorbed, so none of this should come as a surprise
If someone bullied a person when they were kids, and then met that person later and was like "but does it matter - I just didn't know any better, haha, let's sing a song about it!". It would be 100% clear they were taking 0% accountability. It's the same thing here... except she's NOT a kid, and people in their 30's normally know damn well what they're doing!
Meanwhile a literal pedophile, James Charles, manages to get away because he just ignored the problem. I don’t know how his situation wasn’t as big as Colleen’s. I mean people still do call him out, but his impressional fans far outweighs the logical ones.
@@lollsazz "know damn well what they're doing"
You're missing a "should" before that.
You have to remember that common sense is a rare these days, and so is taking responsibility for anything.
"Everything I've learnt about this woman has been against my will..." Same, girl. Same!
Yup. As back then, so it is now.
Unfortunately, i've known about Colleen for a long time. I've always hated her Miranda character, but i really like Rachel Ballinger and how she interacts with JoJo Siwa, so i've watched a decent number of Colleen's videos.
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle same, it's a bit sad that she took this route instead of... weirdly apologizing again? I still can't wrap my head, what can she do, she did apologized, she did stop doing all the grooming and stuffs, she stopped being a "bad" person and focuses on her vlog and her tour although as Miranda, she clearly did thinking about to stop doing Miranda at all because we all know all the joke the original youtuber make are all bad now. And I'm still thinking about Jenna, the point is different, but it feels like all of the young fans of the original youtuber, are now "coming out" of how shitty the joke that made them laugh and now in therapy wants to cancel them because the joke originates from them, as if the same joke weren't told by some of their own parents, by some people living in the same time as the original youtuber... and I love Anna, but man, is she even safe from any accusation too, does anybody? We don't really need to be an innocent being to judge others, but when would it be the time to reflect about our past mistakes and how to make an amend for it. I know if I'm in her shoes, I would never make a ukulele song, but she did apologized and try to be better, but if that is still not enough and that make my mind breaks, perhaps I should just be the villain everybody portrays me to be. It made one thing clear, I would never put myself my whole person in the internet, but rather make a mask so it's easier to discard. People beg content creator to be open, real, and vulnerable, and use those all as a tool to cancel them when they got big. What a shitshow, I miss Jenna
@@DumbestDumbFool What?
TLDR
Colleen is guilty of child abuse and needs to get punished for it, as in facing the so-called justice system.
Same, found out about her because of Trisha Paytas (who I also found out about against my will because of her relationship with Hila Klein's brother).
Careful, she’s on her evil villain arc and copyright claiming people who use her “song”
Allegedly that copyright thing was not done by her or her team, according to her lawyers..
@@kittehgo Yeaa I heard about that and I can admit it’s possible someone is yet again abusing the copyright system on YT but I wouldn’t put it past Colleen. Also a thing to note is that after her team put out that statement, Ethan Klein revealed that his podcast episode on her is still being claimed. All in all sussy behavior, Colleen’s just gonna excuse her actions again by saying how much of a loser she is
@BuffAmogus Thankfully I have barely any clue about whom she is, I just came across the news on you tube via Philip Defranco. So for all i know you could be right, that she or someone on her team did the copyright.
@@BuffAmogusI heard that the claim against him has been removed. My guess is she got Kory or one of her underage, unpaid “interns” to do it for her.
Everyone shut up already
Once again, Anna showing up and telling people how to be safe, take responsibility, and giving a ton of context without making us have to give this other person the searches and view... this whole channel is always perfection.
But first, it needs the Aba & Preach second outlook. I like to have another different perspective, ya know
@@PsychoSpiral exactly what I’m thinking
"Groomers can look like anyone" PERIOD! And this one was hiding in plain sight
Most interactions of Hollywood, politics, and corporate climbing is going to be grooming in some way.
I look back at the 1900s in a different light.
I managed to stay unaware….until today. And I’m deeply grateful for you to bring this forward to have it called out. How many people have been harmed by this type of dynamic at home? Too many “moms” have harmed kids with these inappropriate venting. The grooming is just icky and absolutely clear with the evidence shown.
People being held accountable for their behaviors are what we are being asked to do as a collective now.
Evidence, thanks to screen shots, are what victims have been told we needed.
For her to ignore that “being a bestie with a minor” is the most telling of a mentally unwell for an adult.
There's a term for the example you provided of a parent inappropriately venting to their children, it's "emotional parentification".
@@UnbrokenHope yes!! Thank you for bringing it up! I had experienced that myself growing up, and it's easy to forget the term. I worked diligently so that my kids didn't have to deal with me in that fashion. That is a term to definitely work on healing from-and one that's is part of my journey as well.
I only recently learned about parentification -- and I've been a psych nerd and med nerd for over 30 years, so I can only imagine that a lot of people out there aren't getting exposed to the concept and it isn't talked about enough! Learning about it absolutely CHANGED MY LIFE. I was already doing tons of great valuable self-work, but understanding my own parentification and its myriad impacts caused me to connect SOOOOOOO MANY DOTS about my mind/behavior that I'd never connected before. I really hope more people spread awareness of this topic, because many people who've been emotionally and/or instrumentally parentified would gain a ton of insight from it, and also loads of very well-meaning parents do it and have no idea that it's harmful and would stop if they knew more about it.
(In my case a lot of it was out of legitimate survival necessity, and I have no resentment -- but we can still learn a lot from embracing that mistakes happen without necessarily blaming the person who did or is doing them, even if that person is ourselves. Hugs to anyone out there who's about to dive into this topic and see themselves in it, and also hugs to any parents out there who are about to google this and experience guilt. Everyone's doing the best we can at any given time with the information we have.)
@@ItsAsparageese absolutely all of this! And thank you for verifying how recent and challenging. It is to connect these dots. However, once they are connected, it absolutely shifts everything. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@@UnbrokenHopethat's not a real thing lol
Let’s be real, she CAN’T apologize or acknowledge what’s she’s done because she’s actually committed crimes, and they can be taken as admission of guilt. I feel like she thought it wouldn’t get this far ever (especially with the explicit photos of Trish)
If I were in her shoes I would have kept my mouth SHUT like her legal team advised... The internet is crazy, why would she want more heat on her when she has three young children? She could have apologized to Trisha privately for the whale joke though. Saying it was 'out of context' instead of just sorry is pathetic and the final nail in her coffin.
@@LittleXmissXgrim Full on Looney Tunes don't follow logic.
If there were lawsuits coming against her, it would have happened in 2020 when Adam went after her back then.
@@jbond4186 By all accounts, didn’t seem like people believed Adam. Colleen would not be able to sue Adam civilly, she’d clearly loose. Adam probably had no thoughts of sue Colleen. One of the things I’ve heard criminally is def sending nude pics to minors but that was this year.
colleen is queen
Now Anna covering it...oh this lady managed to touch every corner of UA-cam. Everything that I also know and seen have been due to curiousity because I remember seeing her around and against my will. Im with you there Anna!
Don't forget she's also on mainstream media
Ikr!!!!!
@@jman1234533 TRUE! OH MY GOD!!
Damn you know it's bad when even Anna Akana is speaking about it.
I just said this to myself. Big yikes.
@@lynnrobi wait why?
Man, when someone who usually stays above the fray of UA-cam controversies like AA jumps from the top rope to deliver a comprehensive smackdown like this, you *know* this is messed up.
I mostly agree about if the genders were reversed, except for when it comes to celebrities. Drake has been inappropriate with multiple underaged girls, and neither James Charles nor Shane Dawson saw any major, lasting consequences for their inappropriate interactions with minors either.
I think women in a powerful influencing position need to be judged as a man would be because that is usually not the case usually
@@breastsleepingmuse9446 I’m not disagreeing, I’m just saying I think in this case it has more to do with celebrity than with gender. Even though society at large doesn’t seem to take accounts of female predators as seriously males, it does seem like in terms of criminal charges the amount of people convicted is pretty similar regardless of gender (which is to say, conviction is abysmally low no matter what).
I love the introspect of Colleen's process when making and uploading her song. When you put it into that perspective, it makes it all that more crazy. Glad that you talked about this!
Honestly, colleen acts like every high school theater program teacher. She is a reflection of the industry
I think it is and that it needs to change. Now
Oh my god, you are completely right. It’s the exact same vibe and you’ve made me have some weird revelations about how inappropriate some of my drama teachers were… why the hell did I know so much about their personal lives?
I had a music theatre teacher who gave a student a lap dance "as a joke". The student was 16 and the teacher 40-something.
@@quadling3521 I think its ok to get to know your students as long as you're doing it in a sort of mentor way. once it turns into you gossiping with them or venting to them about your personal life, its inappropriate. You should treat them more like a parent, not like a peer friend.
I'm so sad you're right. Fully found out after highschool that a fellow student had been 'in a relationship with' / *preyed on* by an employee in his 30s
"I do think we can live in a space where we alnowledge people's mistakes and give them room to grow, while still holding them accountable for their unacceptable actions."
This.
This is for real the craziest vid I’ve seen in a while that touches on a messed up, serious subject. Glad you made this, really helped me understand all the insanity of the situation.
This is one of the best videos I’ve seen summarizing this situation and directly explaining what grooming is. Well done !! 👏🏽
Thank you so much for talking about this Anna and making more people aware. Parasocial relationships and power dynamics aren’t talked about enough to be honest! People need to realise the true meaning behind ‘with great power comes great responsibility’ in all senses. ❤
Not sponsored because it was important enough to put up and I’m here for it.
Oh wow. I am proud of you for speaking up about this stuff.
tysm, im a minor and couldn’t fully grasp this situation properly . you made it so succinct and made it so understandable for me to sense the severity of these events. love your videos anna
What's hilarious is that the ukulele song is that it's such a good song that her train wreck of a story and response will be in the minds of most people on social media for a long long time. It's so catchy, but that serves Colleen so so badly.
it's a bop but the context makes me feel icky!
As a uke player myself, I’m mad that she took a fun and cheery instrument for her really messed up message
No kidding, it's no wonder why it's being memed on and getting so many parodies
The catchiness means we'll never forget her ickiness and she'll have to either regret writing it soon or regress into severe denial of reality. Toxic Gossip Train...
Thats why her response is a song, so she can manipulate children in to thinking all those things are not that bad, because" look! The song is so catchy and stuff"
It's a manipulation. It's gross. She has a mental illness
You are the first person to respond to this and hit every mark and you did it in less than 15 minutes. Especially explaining the official definition of “grooming”. I was groomed in a non-sexual way, I’ve had to explain to a lot of people that it’s not always about that. Also pointing out that intended or not, it doesn’t change what happened. A lot of people think it’s ok to not say sorry because they didn’t “meant to”.
You are sincerely my favorite UA-camr Anna, thank you for being so dang wise ❤️
Whether it’s proven she did this or not isn’t the most infuriating part about this (and with all the evidence backing the accusation; yeah… it happened), but that she’s being so nonchalant about it. Like “oh yeah, I’m telling youngin’s about this stuff, no biggie.”
To be fair, I do think there's a space for adult and minors (platonic obviously) relationships where they discuss that kind of stuff. Having an adult you trust and feel comfortable asking about stuff that's kinda taboo to talk about and often involve a lot of confusion and personal feeling, that can be invaluable. It's certainly healthier than just learning about it all from the internet.
But the key is that it has to come from the minor, go at their own pace and only be what they're comfortable with. Which is very clearly not what Colleen did. It seems like she treated the kids as fellow adults, which is very much not right.
@@lilowhitney8614It should only come from a trusted adult, with checks and balances. Such as a teacher, school advisor, counselor or safe family member.
I would not have these kinds of conversations with my children's friends, even if they came to me. That would be beyond inappropriate. I would lead them to safe materials and/or spaces to learn about what they are curious about.
It's not okay. Not even if the child 'asks' for it. And it I'd up to the adults around that child to protect them and not overstep boundries they might not understand.
This is why Anna Akana will always be a favourite UA-camr of mine. Just the ability to talk plainly
people keep calling this a parasocial relationship, it is not. a parasocial relationship is unreciprocal and one sided, whereas she was *actively* engaging with fans, blurring the lines between fan and friend.
Agree, this was beyond parasocial. All the victims have met Colleen in person.
Fair call. Perhaps "parasitic" would be better
This is the best response to the whole Colleen situation in my opinion, it recognises that grooming can happen in a non s*xual way and she was still weird af for having friendships with these kids. But I like that you don’t use the word p*dophile at all because I think that is such a serious allegation to make when we don’t know if she gets any s*xual gratification from any of this. People need to be so careful with what they say in my opinion.
Anna, this was the best summary of this situation that I’ve ever heard.
Thanks for this, I have watched a couple of videos on this Colleen situation and they way you have put it actually has a lot more context that I don't have to sit through 45 minutes of Colleen content for. You've summed it up nicely and hopefully she watches it and figures out a way to get help.
Thank you so much for talking about the imbalance of power here. I am wishing these children the best healing journey.
Thank you for lighting up for this issue. I know that you're one of the best person to talk about this around YT. Thanks for that.
That was a very sober and reasoned accounting of this absolute train wreck of a situation Anna. Thank you.
100% agree with you. Like you said, the most important aspect about this whole situation is how the victims have been affected. Many people have come out to say that they've experienced trauma and shame from this event. The fact that she hasn't shown any concern about this, to me, is a huge issue. Regardless of her intentions or what she thought she was doing, she negatively impacted people's (minors') lives and she needs to take accountability for that. Only then is there room for growth
Colleen is such a perfect example of a narcissist showing their true personality without their masks on.
The term "narcissist" is getting so overused these days that it's getting diluted to the point of meaninglessness. It's not okay to use diagnoses as adjectives. I propose we normalize using the suffix -oid (meaning "in the shape of") when we're trying to describe something in an adjectival way, so that we can use the most fitting-seeming words without actually overstepping into medical conjecture/armchair diagnosing. There are a LOT of possible clinical explanations for her behavior. Being a narcissist or having NPD are arguably among them, but it's not ANYONE'S place to declare that either diagnosis fits besides a clinician she consults with in-depth herself.
But I think it's totally fine to describe her behavior as "narcissistoid". I just don't think it's okay to declare her a narcissist. Just like how it's not cool to say "Oh I'm like so OCD" as an adjective, it's also not cool to say "narcissist" or "NPD" as an adjective. These terms have specific concrete real meanings, and diluting those meanings is harmful to those who suffer with the disorders and those who are in turn harmed by those individuals.
@@ItsAsparageese I think "narcissistic" would suffice, and it is much easier to say. No need to reinvent the wheel.
@@ItsAsparageesethis! using a diagnosis loosely in these kinds of situations online makes it so much harder for people who have the diagnosis or might need to be diagnosed to get actual help because of the extreme stigma around it. it is possible that she has some narcissistic traits or behaviors but the actual diagnosis is so much more complex. it's impossible and damaging to diagnose from afar
@@user-vn9sh6hv8r "Narcissistic" is just an adjectival form referring to specifically narcissists. If we're being vaguer/more approximate than that, we need a different term. There's a difference between saying someone "has the traits of a narcissist" (narcissistic) versus "has traits LIKE that of a narcissist" (narcissistoid). That's my stance anyway
@@ari-cu6ql Thanks, I totally agree :)
Anna deserves a humanitarian award. The amount of education and eye openers she provides is...beyond amazing.
This articulated my thoughts so well. It’s clear she does not understand the concept of boundaries or parasocial relationships. Using her following as a source of validation and adoration and deleting or blocking those who disagree. Hoping she gets help, realizes the severity of the situation, and can maybe, eventually, validate the victims and help them get closure.
Very VERY important topic, thank you so much for addressing! In my middle school years I absolutely adored her and hearing why she’s resurfacing on the internet is actually sick and devastating.
Thank you for the subtitles, Anna
I'm in my late 20's and I work as a teacher in a private school where every class is 1:1. There are students that I've become very close with and that's exactly why it's so important to hold firm boundaries to keep each student (and yourself) safe! As an adult, you can have meaningful and even personal conversations with teens, but context is everything! Teacher/mentor and student relationships are also very different from celebrity and fan relationships.
Colleen is absolutely someone that is refusing to take accountability for grooming kids. Disgusting.
I watched a therapist talk about the difference between intention and impact. I think Colleen forgets these are *not* the same thing.
I have been following you for years. I recognize you as an OG UA-camr, around before Coleens Netflix show. Thank you for speaking up so clearly🌸
You explained the situation so well
Thank you, Anna, for covering such topics. You are the hero Gotham needs.
Thank you for talking on this. I know everyone is but its so important to make sure this doesn't get overlooked.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on this Anna. I agree with many of the points you mentioned, especially the dismissal of these minors experiences. We have no idea what these children are internally experiencing OR what their personal lives are like that they were ok with interacting with a 30yr old "loser" in these ways. Colleen definitely has overlooked her position as THE ADULT in this situation. There's some deep inner work she needs to do before continuing her content or performances. These types of interactions stay with ppl in their childhood and ripple until THEY have to address them bcz of the issues that arise. *Big breath*
Sending everyone involved love. Colleen too. 🙌🏿💕
You are AMAZING, Anna. Educating us and bringing into light this serious issue, I am now an even bigger admirer of yours. The world is better with people like you. Thank you for always putting out such informative and helpful content. Wishing you more success!
I think it's important that many celebrities (whether if it's UA-cam stars, social media influencers, Hollywood celebrities, etc) should be wary of their fan base, especially to young fans. You can get along well with young fans but do not engage into a personal friendship/relationship. Sooner or later, it will turn out something traumatizing and can lead you to become the villain of the cause. There are some flaws when it comes to parasocial relationships so be mindful when it comes to interacting with your favorite celebrity
This is very important. Thank you, Anna, for stepping up and bringing it to public discussion.
thank you so so much for talking about it. So many drama channels are just in it for the news but not actually for what the effect this woman it doing to kids ?? like yeah there’s drama but this is horrible ??? don’t talk about this like it’s UA-cam beef
Thank you for being an major youtuber and addressing this.
I was not expecting you to response to this situation, but I am so glad you did. Could not say it better myself.
I’m surprised Anna wasn’t friends with Colleen, or at least knew who she was, considered at one point Anna used to collab with Grace, Mamrie and Hannah, and Lily Singh during the peak of youtube
Thank you, Anna. As always - this was very eloquent, educational and very VERY important. ❤
Mahalo nui for pronouncing ‘ukulele correctly!! Ke aloha nō.
This is an excellent summary and explanation of the whole thing.
top 5 Anna Akana videos
Bravo Anna!!! This truly is important to talk about! Thank you so sooo much! I wasn't aware of her but I know-all-too well what it feels like to be subjected to these power dynamics and "apologies" (EYE ROLL). I wish this were broadcast everywhere as a PSA
This conversation is more important than ever. The illusion of intimacy we have with entertainers can be so confusing now that they’re on the same social media we use to connect with our close family and friends. The boundary lines get blurred. It gets so dangerous. We have to be careful.
THANK YOU for explaining it so thoroughly to the internets 🙌🏼
As a mom of a 13 year old, this is very 🤮 to me
Just teach your kids about internet safety and that if they see something sketchy to tell you. I'm amazed that none of these kids went and told their parents when they saw the first inappropriate thing in the chat. There's no way that all of them were so in awe that they just glossed over it for years.
@@jbond4186 as a grooming survivor myself, that is a thought that pops up a lot and we use when feeling guilty. When children get groomed, they usually do not have good relationships with other people, which is why they stay and get stuck. You saying this is literally shifting the blame on the children, when the adult in the situation should have not have acted like that in the first place. So please do not say something like that, because it supports the abuser whether you meant it that way or not; additionally it could also hurt someone who recently just got out of grooming. Thank you.
@@hellohi-c2j I'm not blaming the kids, I'm blaming their parents for not teaching them to be safe. And I'm not saying this makes Colleen completely innocent (if the allegations are even 100% true). If even one of these kids had told their parents and done something about it we wouldn't be having this conversation right now. I wasn't groomed, but I was SA'd in the 7th grade. Not one adult who saw it or knew about it did anything. 100% those adults are to blame for letting it go on as long as it did, not me and not the kid doing it to me.
Watching this in the ER.
Colleen started and so did a vitals monitors alarm.
This is reminding me of a drama class in year 10 where the new teacher was running an icebreaker game. The game was she asked a question and if the answer was "yes" then we jumped into the middle of the circle.
The teacher asks "Who's no longer a virgin?" My 16yo 5' self who had just transferred in that year immediately shouts "NOBODY ANSWER THAT QUESTION!"
and then proceeds to lecture the teacher about the many reasons that was none of her business, none of our business, and did she consider the implications for CSA survivors.
The other students looked rather shocked. I was small, new, and rather shy.
In an amazing coincidence, we ended up with a new drama teacher shortly after
I already love you Anna but the fact that you pronounce ukulele correctly makes me love you even more
I'm happy you are talking about how women can be abusers and men can be victims, that type of situation exist and *its not rare.*
Thank you so much for covering this, Anna. I think we all really appreciate it.
THANK YOU for talking about how grooming is not ONLY about the end result!! It’s the process. This is such a thorough response and review of everything recently.
Love how real you are! Thank you for being a piece of light on the internet 💕
I love when you talk about yourself and help us understand ourselves and not through other people
Anna you basically summarized this in the best way possible, love your videos!
I like how you broke it down. Her cries of toxic gossip confuse the main issues, and the way you clearly state it make it so easy to see why we are all hurt and upset. We have all experienced some level of power imbalance, and to hear the person responsible be so callous brings all of that back to the surface. Not to mention the gaslighting!
The "flip the genders" point-uh, her brother literally did this to a fan!!!
Can we just talk about how lovely Anna's new hair cut is! It reminds me of a fairy 🧚♀️
I've been doing my best to avoid this story, not because I don't care, but because _knowing_ things means _carrying_ them, and sometimes, I feel my strength is limited, so I try to pick the burdens I _need_ to carry now, and I'll come back for the rest later.
Today was later. Anna packed this story up in a tidyish, fairly liftable package, and I think I know enough about the situation now. More than I had up 'til now, without doubt.
Thanks, Anna.
This is the best reaction to this I've seen. Filled with compassion for everyone involved and calling out everything that needed to be called out.
And this is why I've been watching Anna for years. She says what needs to be said, even if it's not sponsored.
Very interesting format!! Please, more of this
It's not a parasocial relationship once you're engaging in real life meetings and friendships and day-to-day, private, offline, personal life conversations. That's now a social relationship. With an extreme power differential. Against an army of fans with parasocial relationships with their fave.
The nerve for UA-cam being a big enabler of this type of activity. One that takes down stuff less than what this monster did and still lets it still exist on the platform .
Thanks for talking about this
Thank you for talking about this, Anna.
Awe Anna looks so cute with the bangs 😊
This is one of the best responses and thoughtful breakdowns of Colleen’s behavior. Respect to Anna! 👏🏼
One of the most clear and comprehensive videos I've seen on this topic 👏👏👏
To be fair, ever since 2020, everything’s felt like a s#!t show. It’s been THREE YEARS, when will it end?!?! (the insanity, not the world, I want to live)
Ever since 2020 lmfaoooooo how about since the dawn of time
I'm personally a fan of the "it all started with Harambe" angle on our descent into a whack timeline (largely in a tongue-in-cheek way of course). Plenty was wrong since long before that, obviously, but that approximate time period felt like a major point of escalation into ... this.
The world (for humans) is more likely to end than the insanity.
Anna Akana one of the smartest most insightful UA-camrs.
My daughter really wanted to meet you back in 2018 (12) but rather than dropping in unannounced, we took a hard left and went to Sequoia/ Kings Canyon park instead of going to LA.
i'm really glad that i grew up with your videos. ive been following you since 2015, and i've learned a lot from you. love you anna!
You stated everything so perfectly. Until she can fully and genuinely take accountability for her behavior and learn from this, her “apology” is trash. It all feels like a huge joke to her. She wants to be seen as the victim instead of the children she harmed and groomed. Thank you for including the definition of grooming because people seem to think it only takes the sexual act to consider it grooming.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_grooming
That's because it is the definition of grooming.
What Colleen did is child abuse, and in a way it's worse than grooming.
I'll give her this, she's smart making it music to make it easier to copyright strike people responding to it.
I dont even know what to say other than this woman and her behavior makes me feel ill. Thank you Anna for presenting this with tact and thoughtfulness.
Thanks for taking the time Anna. I know she did lots of therapy in the past few years, but surely, she needs to do more regarding all this, so she can self reflect and understand the harm she has done to these kids. I don't think she's a completely bad person but she definitely needs to learn and grow. I don't know if she'll ever come back to UA-cam, but I hope that if she does, it will be after a long break and that she will have done actual work on herself to take accountability. I think we are just starting to understand how deep the parasocial relationships problems can go, with UA-cam and other social medias, we have more access to celebrities than we ever did as children in the 90s- early 2000s, it's easy to feel connected to your favorite creator when it's not real connections. As a parent of young kids, it opens my eyes even more on how I need to monitor their presence online and make sure they stay safe on the internet.
Thank you for talking about this issue
I just wanna say your sets are so beautiful and I want my house to be like yours
Great breakdown. Thank you for bringing additional awareness around a very serious situation.
Thank you for talking about and shedding light on this extremely pertinent issue. My heart goes out to victims of grooming and childhood sexual abuse🙏❤ you are not alone.
let's not forget Becky wore revealing clothes so she would be chosen on stage. The kids knew they had to dress a certain way to get Colleen's attention. Colleen groomed boys and girls.
Once again I’ve learned something from a post of yours…. even if I didn’t want to. Thanks.
Well said!! Also love your singing voice 💗 very beautiful
This is one of the absolute best takes I have seen on this whole situation. Thank you so much for taking the time to open a more healthy version of this conversation.
I remember once she said mocked ppl for saying that they were bullied. She said she was bullied too and it wasn’t the end of the world. I remember thinking when she said this that she was probably the bully and is deflecting guilt.
I never liked Colleen but didn't saw this coming.. love these kind of videos! Good one Anna!