The more we just let things go and understand that people like to act superior to boost their self esteem. They like to criticize and belittle and laugh at people to feel better about themselves. Mature respectful and sympathetic people are more in tune with people's feelings and treat people with respect. I have noticed that self obsessed people dont like things they cant tolerate and like the power trip of demeaning people and putting them in their place. That's why its best not to take it personally if people are inconsiderate because they are not thinking about people's feelings. If people show disrespect they lack respect. Everyone is too interested in themselves and have less time for people they don't admire and respect.
Offering them your silence is the best solution. They can’t say anything in response to a person that’s literally not talking to them. When you try talking to a fool no one knows the difference between you and them. Thank you for the advice.
my sister is always so rude and negative about everything and this really helped change my mind set on how to handle this kind of situation. Thank you so much
This was really helpful. I’m 13 and my mother is VERY TOXIC. She is so mean and rude, it’s not even funny. I would get called all type of names and get yelled at for things I didn’t even do! And this isn’t like a one time thing, it’s every single day. Sometimes I just start crying because I can’t get away from the name calling and the yelling. But this video helped me find ways to stay calm and not blame myself.
I send you love and am in awe of your response for someone your age. Sometimes other people's pain spills over and onto us, and it's so important to always tell yourself loving things, to empower yourself and to know it's not your fault when others treat you that way. 💗
There are toxic mothers. I'm sorry you have one. Be sure to love yourself and care for yourself. You will find that love you have for yourself will come back to you from unexpected people 🧡
Just avoid toxic people! When you feel their weird negative vibes just walk away! As someone who goes out of my way to always be nice and caring it is not worth your time to even deal with or acknowledge these people!
Ignoring rude people doesn't work . If they cared about your feelings they would be polite. Say let's keep it polite . Or say let's be nice mature adults . If you tell them to be polite in front of people it really shocks them and most of the time they will be polite. They probably are stressed or too into their egos. Narcissistic people or people with snobby arrogant attitudes need to Ego trip to feel important. Don't show a weakness . Or give your power away to these people. Always be nice to polite and dignified around these people.
I have to agree because in some ways it's like dealing with road rage. It can escalate to a tragedy. Don't think for one second, these people will ever change. The only change will be in their manipulation tactics. If at all possible, completely remove them from your life and never look back.
I just hate how we have to do 500% of the work when talking to a rude & toxic person. They really should do work themselves to make this situation better. It's so draining.
I agree with everything in this video. Lately the way I've been dealing with toxic people is by minimizing contact with them and keeping the brief interactions positive.
Thank you for this helpful insight into the "whys" and not the "hows" of toxic people. They have some work ahead of them, and so do I. I pray that I am not their toxic person feeding them toxicity.
The east coast US is the epicenter of rude and impatient people. The one positive thing about this is that people tend to let you know their feelings in a very direct manner = !
Youssef Mhanna im sorry but to deal with rude people you NEED to be rude back and insult back BUT do not do it in a way that it seems they got under your skin, do nit show anger or you lose, you need to show as if their insult had ZERO impact on you and laugh it off even agree and amplify their joke towards you and JOKINGLY try your best to insult them back in a funny manner and socially intelligent way for others to laugh at him, he will NOT like this and WILL stop otherwise you will get no respect and others WILL join in on teasing you if you dont defend yourself , the whole "mirror thier emotions and show empathy" haha no expect to get bullied doing that
This video is definitely a ten out of ten for me lol! Whenever anyone’s rude to me, I just break down and cry with a mentality that they’re old enough to know better.
The whole region of Andalucia is awesome. Great vibes. The small coastal towns near Cadiz are lovely, this was in Conil de la Frontera, nearby Verde is a sweet town. So many places to see and fun things to do!
Thanks for the help. I have a brother and he doesn’t allow anybody else’s opinion. It’s always about himself. He’s done nasty stuff to my family in the past that he got kicked out. if you ask him something, he’ll reply back sarcastically and talk to other people about false information about yourself. I find it so funny that I trust my friends,sister and parents but not my own brother. Everything he says is a lie.Sadly, my sister is falling into his tricks because she’s afraid to stand up for herself because she knows all of the horrible memories of things that he done to her.
We're in the world have you've been all my struggling years !!! Amazing teaching ! How u learn this stuff about humans ?? Man U are so good !!! Thank you !!!
A couple of communication skills I've naturally developed and used are: 1) Empathy. I express a similar or exact experience wherein the opposing party can learn, perhaps, knowledge of their conflict and apply this new knowledge to their situation, and 2) Repeat back to them what problem they just expressed to you. Example: "A" says, "I had a terrible day today taking public transportation", "B" says, "Oh, public transportation was pretty awful today, huh? I've found these to be really helpful to stir away negative energy.
This is good advice for random rudeness but not repeated rudeness which = bullying which = abuse = evil and requires avoidance, removal from interaction or relationship, separation, and a generally different strategy.
This is a good video. I have a friend who I like but she is problematic. She can be pushy, rude and try to be domineering. But there are also good qualities about her. So I am trying to develop a way of dealing with her. I limit the time that I spent with her but do not want to dump her as a friend. Thanks again. Separate yourself and hold your own, that is the key.
I agree with you, but, what if lots of people are directing their nastyness and horrible behaviour towards you it dosen work just to pray for them or try to understand the poor souls, why cant these peope just dissapear up their own fundaments never to be seen again!
Learn the gray rock technique which means you stop "reacting" to toxic people. Abusive people like to "push your buttons" to get a reaction out of you. Then they use your reactions against you!! Your abuser has no empathy for you and feeling sorry for them or praying for them will not fix the situation. Distance yourself from toxic people and learn how to set firm boundaries. Boundaries help to keep toxic people out. Also, work on your "self-esteem" because toxic people prey on people with low self-esteem.
I can never think of bringing in a new idea cause these ppl traumatize me. I go back to being tht abused little girl and I feel attacked and like I have no power. I cannot do this it seems. I get blocked.
Thank you so much! I have a friend just like this, this REALLY helped. I can tell you are a professional because your expression is highly eloquent and perceptive. Thank you.
Just found your site. Your last suggestion was the TOPS. Excellent way to face the situation, of having to deal with toxic people. For myself, I do my best to remove myself from the toxic situation. Keep up the go work.
God bless your soul, I seem to be going through another phase once again in life with rude people that is unavoidable... Another test, first good advice video I've found on UA-cam today and I've been searching desperately... Thank you so much God bless you. Positive reenforcement, some of what you said I already know but felt is not helping and was considering abandoning because it doesn't help with the pain of enduring, but it is good advice, its the best advice 🌹
Thank you for your wisdom.. ..Now I understand that, thers unconscious mind create cry of fear or pain , which is pushed at me..and wishing them well is the key..
And what about those who never been through a traumatizing, had a good life, stable support system and still act like this? So many people are rude and toxic because of things like being better than others in terms of social status, wealth..etc, and never had a traumatizing past that makes them the way they are. Also I agree with trying to understand them and help them, but it can only go so far if they refuse to get better and heal, and still continue to act the way they are. Honestly many of the rude/toxic folks/bigots just need to go from this world.
Thank you very much for this brilliant and level-headed information. I am a partner in a family business situation, and at the quarterly meetings, my older cousin (who oversees the business) TOTALLY ignores me. He focuses solely on the others there, and does not even make eye contact with me. Although we are cousins, I have never known him very well, so talking to him about his obvious hostility toward me really isnt an option for me. I have decided I will no longer attend these meetings as I refuse to allow him to dismiss me and overlook me as if I am a non-entity. It is very hurtful, and not warranted, as I KNOW I have never done anything to him but treat him with respect. I feel better now, knowing I will no longer be in his toxic presence. Self-care is very important, and I believe if we are in an untenable situation that makes us feel badly about ourselves, truly the ONLY thing to do is to remove ourselves from any future interactions with the offending party, and move on with our chins up, and our heads held high. Again, thank you very much for your work, and your wanting to help people feel better about themselves, and their lives. It is very much appreciated.
I have ptsd , mostly due to horrible bullying from older people when i was younger. commonly , most older people use their wisdom to hurt others instead of encourage and inspire. I've learned this much , and whenever I am reflecting on someone's rudeness I counter the thought so i can break the pattern. you literally have to stop yourself and say " hold on, im not going to think about this person right now" ... because if you let them , you will think about them during times when you are trying to enjoy yourself . the best way to get back at them is to complain to their superior . as those complaints grow on their reord they will be closer to getting fired, especially if they work in customer services. if the rude person is your supervisor you have to find a new job or change your behavior so they will approve of you.
Yes you'd think it's easier to be kind. But when you have pain inside, sometimes it's actually not that easy. Pain is such a strong energy and often times people don't know how to cope with it. It comes blurting out! :)
I had no choice but to deal with toxic ppl from being a child and this was my grand father even after 8 years of no contact it still affects me. And they don't listen when I'm supportive or expressed my concern so that's why I think I should never deal with them again for my own mental health even though they send me cards saying "thinking of you" but you don't even wanna know what horrible and wrong things my grandfather said it still haunts me to this day. I don't understand.
This video is so on point. I encounter some many people's that are not aware of their negative patterns. And how rude and nasty they are. It will be challenging but I will try theses techniques for me.
Your words are fantastic. Executing the techniques ? Are so difficult for me. I am dealing with your example #2. OBNOXIOUSLY arrogant, impatient, self centered, zero self control. Zero emotional intelligence, with emotional immaturity being through the roof.
I hear you. It can be so testing to deal with all of that! I have a playlist on dealing with difficult people on subtopics and related topics like communication so check those out if you're looking for extra angles and tips. Love, B
Thanks for these strategy's... hmmm just affirms I'm on the right road but... 43 yrs married...still struggling..., done them all but nothing not a single behaviour has changed....only gets worse with time but hmmm now trying the last strategy of prayers and God's devine intervention 🙏
Aha!! Yes it is always good to look at things from both angles, of how to deal with difficult people but also how to not be difficult ourselves. Let me know what most triggers you, and we'll see if we have resources already available to support you. We have loads of vids and audios, as well as articles/blogs/free classes (on www.pinchmeliving.com) etc for helping you to be peaceful, compassionate, respond to difficult environments, deal with stress, get through overwhelm, start the day with positive energy, manage your mindset etc So let me know what your issue is that causes you to be rude to others at work - be as specific as you can, and I'll refer you to the right resources, or if it's something new we haven't addressed before we can look at scheduling the topic in for future vids. Thanks Joseph! B :)
Thx for the vid. Though it's mostly for very mild and unvolontary toxic people. I've done these tips years before hearing them, here, and it's always nice to know that there are people out there who have the same position concerning these people. I do have to say though, after years of experience day in day out with extreemly toxic or covert narcissistic people, these things do not help. ALAS! I'm very sorry to have to state that when a person is extreemly rude etc., to you, the best thing is to give them their poison back!! Really. (Afcourse, just very briefly, but concise and firmly) . They suddenly wake up! They are in shock, and say or show so. And often walk away after. Sad, but true. I hate having to do that, but it's very effective.
Thank you. People give what they have.its my decision if a received....I rejected.everything. It's confirmation from my GOD.yesterday.my LORD. Told me that. GOD BLESS YOU
Honestly you should not wish them health and happiness - you’re just focusing on them even more Best thing is to cut them out and realize it’s their fault that they are being themselves and has nothing do to with you even if they try to convince you it’s your fault. Stop being so concerned with how they are doing and appeasing them because they will never be happy anyway. And you can’t change that- It’s more internal than external.
I need to cut him off and say Don’t talk to me that way And then go away because It’s too painful But I end up pleading because I can’t stand the rejection
Hi Rosa, there are other videos that might be helpful for you on the channel. Including about how to deal with feeling rejected, and people criticizing, being judged, feeling good enough in oneself, standing up for oneself and more. I hope those may be useful. Love, B
Cut out toxic people. Period!
Yay yay yay, I so don't see the point of those people trying to stick to them.
Unfortunately it’s not that clear cut ,could be your boss a partner
The more we just let things go and understand that people like to act superior to boost their self esteem. They like to criticize and belittle and laugh at people to feel better about themselves. Mature respectful and sympathetic people are more in tune with people's feelings and treat people with respect. I have noticed that self obsessed people dont like things they cant tolerate and like the power trip of demeaning people and putting them in their place. That's why its best not to take it personally if people are inconsiderate because they are not thinking about people's feelings. If people show disrespect they lack respect. Everyone is too interested in themselves and have less time for people they don't admire and respect.
Wise advice
100%.
Offering them your silence is the best solution. They can’t say anything in response to a person that’s literally not talking to them. When you try talking to a fool no one knows the difference between you and them.
Thank you for the advice.
my sister is always so rude and negative about everything and this really helped change my mind set on how to handle this kind of situation. Thank you so much
Glad this was helpful Morgan. :)
“What's comes out of people as just what's within the people”, so true!!
This was really helpful. I’m 13 and my mother is VERY TOXIC. She is so mean and rude, it’s not even funny. I would get called all type of names and get yelled at for things I didn’t even do! And this isn’t like a one time thing, it’s every single day. Sometimes I just start crying because I can’t get away from the name calling and the yelling. But this video helped me find ways to stay calm and not blame myself.
I send you love and am in awe of your response for someone your age. Sometimes other people's pain spills over and onto us, and it's so important to always tell yourself loving things, to empower yourself and to know it's not your fault when others treat you that way. 💗
There are toxic mothers. I'm sorry you have one. Be sure to love yourself and care for yourself. You will find that love you have for yourself will come back to you from unexpected people 🧡
Just avoid toxic people! When you feel their weird negative vibes just walk away! As someone who goes out of my way to always be nice and caring it is not worth your time to even deal with or acknowledge these people!
Most Toxic people Are. Crying. Out for attention,..being angry at the universe doesnt help.
Ignoring rude people doesn't work . If they cared about your feelings they would be polite. Say let's keep it polite . Or say let's be nice mature adults . If you tell them to be polite in front of people it really shocks them and most of the time they will be polite. They probably are stressed or too into their egos. Narcissistic people or people with snobby arrogant attitudes need to Ego trip to feel important. Don't show a weakness . Or give your power away to these people. Always be nice to polite and dignified around these people.
I have to agree because in some ways it's like dealing with road rage. It can escalate to a tragedy. Don't think for one second, these people will ever change. The only change will be in their manipulation tactics. If at all possible, completely remove them from your life and never look back.
I just hate how we have to do 500% of the work when talking to a rude & toxic person. They really should do work themselves to make this situation better. It's so draining.
I can see your point, but I know as we can not change others, so we have to control our own though process for our own peace of mind.
They really need to go to therapy I wish they'd put their pride to the side.
I agree with everything in this video. Lately the way I've been dealing with toxic people is by minimizing contact with them and keeping the brief interactions positive.
Nice work! Thanks for sharing that Troy. Wishing you well for the week ahead. B
Thank you for this compassionate and simple advice. Rude family members probably do feel not heard and just lash out.
:) Thanks Mercy (ps. Love your name!)
Pinch Me Living thank you 😊
So... no punching them in the throat, then? Dang... hahaha. God bless you, dear.
LOL. Yeah, not so much! 😄
I pull out a loaded gun, taking charge of the situation immediately. I've done it hundreds of time. It never fails. (She can rabbit that lady.)
@@tipple58 That makes you a toxic person as well so you know.
Thank you for this helpful insight into the "whys" and not the "hows" of toxic people. They have some work ahead of them, and so do I. I pray that I am not their toxic person feeding them toxicity.
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So true, wise words. Thank you!
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Thanks, this is very useful for me living in America right now with the anger and division in our people over the election
Glad this helped! B :)
The east coast US is the epicenter of rude and impatient people. The one positive thing about this is that people tend to let you know their feelings in a very direct manner = !
The North is the same. Impatient, and shit mannerisms. (Not all people, but they're rather consistent). Lol.
the video was really beneficial.....i wish someone has told me so long before ...thank you so much.
You're so welcome Joseph, I'm very happy to share this with you. Best wishes! B
Youssef Mhanna im sorry but to deal with rude people you NEED to be rude back and insult back BUT do not do it in a way that it seems they got under your skin, do nit show anger or you lose, you need to show as if their insult had ZERO impact on you and laugh it off even agree and amplify their joke towards you and JOKINGLY try your best to insult them back in a funny manner and socially intelligent way for others to laugh at him, he will NOT like this and WILL stop otherwise you will get no respect and others WILL join in on teasing you if you dont defend yourself , the whole "mirror thier emotions and show empathy" haha no expect to get bullied doing that
goog mail but then that makes you the toxic person and the wound do it back and it's a loop and there is 2 toxic people
This video is definitely a ten out of ten for me lol!
Whenever anyone’s rude to me, I just break down and cry with a mentality that they’re old enough to know better.
Beautiful scenery and a strong message. Thank you! 🤗
🤗 such a pretty town and beach!
@@Bernadette_Logue It looks like Spain 🇪🇸. Our world is so precious... Thank you for your support. In these days it's even more helpful!
Yes this was during a stay in Cadiz region. 😊👍
@@Bernadette_Logue How great is this, I'm visiting Andalucia soon, Cadiz will be on the itinerary then. 😊
The whole region of Andalucia is awesome. Great vibes. The small coastal towns near Cadiz are lovely, this was in Conil de la Frontera, nearby Verde is a sweet town. So many places to see and fun things to do!
Thanks for the help. I have a brother and he doesn’t allow anybody else’s opinion. It’s always about himself. He’s done nasty stuff to my family in the past that he got kicked out. if you ask him something, he’ll reply back sarcastically and talk to other people about false information about yourself. I find it so funny that I trust my friends,sister and parents but not my own brother. Everything he says is a lie.Sadly, my sister is falling into his tricks because she’s afraid to stand up for herself because she knows all of the horrible memories of things that he done to her.
I needed to hear this so much
Have watched a few of your vids. Really finding your perspective helpful, and clarifying! Great concise appropriate and kind advice - thanks!
:) Great to hear, thanks Jennifer! Best wishes, B
Great Mam
Thank you for your guidance
I am surrounded with toxic family members
Hey Priyanka, I have another vid you might find useful, on dealing with difficult family members. 💛 B
We're in the world have you've been all my struggling years !!! Amazing teaching ! How u learn this stuff about humans ?? Man U are so good !!! Thank you !!!
Glad to share the learning with you Crystal! B :)
A couple of communication skills I've naturally developed and used are: 1) Empathy. I express a similar or exact experience wherein the opposing party can learn, perhaps, knowledge of their conflict and apply this new knowledge to their situation, and 2) Repeat back to them what problem they just expressed to you. Example: "A" says, "I had a terrible day today taking public transportation", "B" says, "Oh, public transportation was pretty awful today, huh? I've found these to be really helpful to stir away negative energy.
Awesome :)
This is good advice for random rudeness but not repeated rudeness which = bullying which = abuse = evil and requires avoidance, removal from interaction or relationship, separation, and a generally different strategy.
Yes, situations of repeated toxicity, beyond someone being rude, eg bullying, abuse, require mechanisms to keep oneself safe, boundaries, leaving a relationship, conflict management. Thank you. 😊
This is a good video. I have a friend who I like but she is problematic. She can be pushy, rude and try to be domineering. But there are also good qualities about her. So I am trying to develop a way of dealing with her. I limit the time that I spent with her but do not want to dump her as a friend. Thanks again. Separate yourself and hold your own, that is the key.
:) Pleased to share this with you. Wishing you well with your friend.
You make my day Bea. Thank you - I'm so grateful for your wisdom. It's working.
Awesome Ramona!! I'm so pleased to share this with you, and to be connected. Thanks for being a part of our Pinch Me Living community. Love, B
I agree with you, but, what if lots of people are directing their nastyness and horrible behaviour towards you it dosen work just to pray for them or try to understand the poor souls, why cant these peope just dissapear up their own fundaments never to be seen again!
Learn the gray rock technique which means you stop "reacting" to toxic people. Abusive people like to "push your buttons" to get a reaction out of you. Then they use your reactions against you!! Your abuser has no empathy for you and feeling sorry for them or praying for them will not fix the situation. Distance yourself from toxic people and learn how to set firm boundaries. Boundaries help to keep toxic people out. Also, work on your "self-esteem" because toxic people prey on people with low self-esteem.
jon callum agreed, I kinda get tired of the sullotions are all about them. Mental hospital is the answer.
stand your ground
I can never think of bringing in a new idea cause these ppl traumatize me. I go back to being tht abused little girl and I feel attacked and like I have no power. I cannot do this it seems. I get blocked.
You have to let people know how you feel... in a polite way
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Thank you so much! I have a friend just like this, this REALLY helped. I can tell you are a professional because your expression is highly eloquent and perceptive. Thank you.
Glad this was useful and resonated. Thanks for your kind words 😊💜 B
Leave them, and never go back!
As I listen to this video I learn something new each time, awesome! Practicing the meditation part and I feel empowered! Thanks again!
YAY, go you!! Empowerment all the way :)
You are adorable! Great view. Have a lovely day, B. 😃
Aw, thanks Kaitlynn! Appreciate your sweet message and positive energy. Have an awesome weekend. Love, B (Ps. yes that view is beautiful right?!)
Awesome advice B, Thanks!
You're welcome! Have a great weekend. B
Wow! This was a great video, abundant with so many tips. We need more videos like this, spreading positivity to everyone. Thank you!
Thanks for tuning in Jason, and for your positive words. 💛 Wishing you the best! B
Thanks for the awesome advice. I need to keep this in mind. 👍👍
You're so welcome Marcus. Thanks for your message.
This is a fantastic video. So accurate and it works. Thank you
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Just found your site.
Your last suggestion was the TOPS. Excellent way to face the situation, of having to deal with toxic people. For myself, I do my best to remove myself from the toxic situation.
Keep up the go work.
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God bless your soul, I seem to be going through another phase once again in life with rude people that is unavoidable... Another test, first good advice video I've found on UA-cam today and I've been searching desperately... Thank you so much God bless you. Positive reenforcement, some of what you said I already know but felt is not helping and was considering abandoning because it doesn't help with the pain of enduring, but it is good advice, its the best advice 🌹
Wishing you well. Peace, B 💛
Thank you for your wisdom..
..Now I understand that, thers unconscious mind create cry of fear or pain , which is pushed at me..and wishing them well is the key..
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I went trough a divorce already and I don’t want another it’s too painful
I am going to say the mantra
I wish you health and happiness and peace
Great video. Will help many. Thanks for sharing your gifts "for the greater good". Looking forward to more watch all of your videos.
Awesome, glad to share it with you!
And what about those who never been through a traumatizing, had a good life, stable support system and still act like this? So many people are rude and toxic because of things like being better than others in terms of social status, wealth..etc, and never had a traumatizing past that makes them the way they are. Also I agree with trying to understand them and help them, but it can only go so far if they refuse to get better and heal, and still continue to act the way they are. Honestly many of the rude/toxic folks/bigots just need to go from this world.
Really glad I saw this but wish I saw this earlier due to a housemate issue. Thank you 🙏
Glad this was helpful and wishing you well. B 💖
There is a lot of rude and fake people in the world! This video really helps! Thank you!
Glad this was helpful Ashley 😊
Love this video, it's really helpful! Thank you!
A pleasure! Have a great week ahead.
Thank you very much for this brilliant and level-headed information.
I am a partner in a family business situation, and at the quarterly meetings, my older cousin (who oversees the business) TOTALLY ignores me. He focuses solely on the others there, and does not even make eye contact with me. Although we are cousins, I have never known him very well, so talking to him about his obvious hostility toward me really isnt an option for me.
I have decided I will no longer attend these meetings as I refuse to allow him to dismiss me and overlook me as if I am a non-entity. It is very hurtful, and not warranted, as I KNOW I have never done anything to him but treat him with respect.
I feel better now, knowing I will no longer be in his toxic presence. Self-care is very important, and I believe if we are in an untenable situation that makes us feel badly about ourselves, truly the ONLY thing to do is to remove ourselves from any future interactions with the offending party, and move on with our chins up, and our heads held high.
Again, thank you very much for your work, and your wanting to help people feel better about themselves, and their lives. It is very much appreciated.
Thanks for sharing your situation and insights. 😊👍
Thanks a lot, its really nice and practical approach. I have tried this today and managed not to loose my temper. 🙏
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I have ptsd , mostly due to horrible bullying from older people when i was younger. commonly , most older people use their wisdom to hurt others instead of encourage and inspire. I've learned this much , and whenever I am reflecting on someone's rudeness I counter the thought so i can break the pattern. you literally have to stop yourself and say " hold on, im not going to think about this person right now" ... because if you let them , you will think about them during times when you are trying to enjoy yourself . the best way to get back at them is to complain to their superior . as those complaints grow on their reord they will be closer to getting fired, especially if they work in customer services. if the rude person is your supervisor you have to find a new job or change your behavior so they will approve of you.
Great video.. thank you for sharing. So helpful. You are so inspirational. Bless your soul
Blessings back to you! B
Thanks for your kind reply B!
I still wonder how some people can be rude to others. It makes me sad...isn't it easier to be kind and compassionate?
Yes you'd think it's easier to be kind. But when you have pain inside, sometimes it's actually not that easy. Pain is such a strong energy and often times people don't know how to cope with it. It comes blurting out! :)
I am mostly just amused that they think they actually matter in some way.
wow that was amazing it made my day really, this is how to behave like a legit adult! thank you so much wish you happiness.
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God, how much I love your advices. Thank you. You save our lives
Glad this was helpful! 😊
This is such a helpful video! I'm so glad that I found this video.🌷
Glad to share this with you :)
Wow my mom is like that toxic as hell trying to always set me off on basic necessities family in general are toxic
Thanks my cousin made me feel depressed but now I'll ask him
Great stuff, thanks. I will try it!
Great! Let me know how you get on!
You are my favourite youtuber ever! I am so happy I've found you!
Awww, you're so sweet. Welcome!! Delighted you're here. 💕
I had no choice but to deal with toxic ppl from being a child and this was my grand father even after 8 years of no contact it still affects me. And they don't listen when I'm supportive or expressed my concern so that's why I think I should never deal with them again for my own mental health even though they send me cards saying "thinking of you" but you don't even wanna know what horrible and wrong things my grandfather said it still haunts me to this day. I don't understand.
Sending love your way for peace and healing 💕
how to avoid rude people ? simple , leave the netherlands ....
I always thought people were nice people from holland but ive always just been a tourist passing through. Alot of rude pple there?
I did. Tense.
It's everywhere now, the world has lost its manners 💔💔💔 those who still try are perceived as weak
Very helpful! love your video
Hey Malou, glad this was helpful. Best wishes, B
This video is so on point. I encounter some many people's that are not aware of their negative patterns. And how rude and nasty they are. It will be challenging but I will try theses techniques for me.
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I love that you brought up the course in miracles, its rare to hear it mentioned
💗 love ACIM!
Welcome, Bernadette! I enjoy your vids. Good stuff. Keep it up. Thx.
Glad to hear that! Thanks for being part of our community, B
Saying i am sorry you feel that way only makes people more angry as it is a non apology
Excellent, thank you!
You're welcome! :)
Your words are fantastic. Executing the techniques ? Are so difficult for me.
I am dealing with your example #2. OBNOXIOUSLY arrogant, impatient, self centered, zero self control.
Zero emotional intelligence, with emotional immaturity being through the roof.
I hear you. It can be so testing to deal with all of that! I have a playlist on dealing with difficult people on subtopics and related topics like communication so check those out if you're looking for extra angles and tips. Love, B
Thanks for these strategy's... hmmm just affirms I'm on the right road but...
43 yrs married...still struggling..., done them all but nothing not a single behaviour has changed....only gets worse with time but hmmm now trying the last strategy of prayers and God's devine intervention 🙏
Thank you so much. Helped a lot!
You're welcome!! B 💖
for the next topic can you please reverse the equation and make a video on how to stop being toxic and rude to other colleagues at work
Aha!! Yes it is always good to look at things from both angles, of how to deal with difficult people but also how to not be difficult ourselves. Let me know what most triggers you, and we'll see if we have resources already available to support you. We have loads of vids and audios, as well as articles/blogs/free classes (on www.pinchmeliving.com) etc for helping you to be peaceful, compassionate, respond to difficult environments, deal with stress, get through overwhelm, start the day with positive energy, manage your mindset etc So let me know what your issue is that causes you to be rude to others at work - be as specific as you can, and I'll refer you to the right resources, or if it's something new we haven't addressed before we can look at scheduling the topic in for future vids. Thanks Joseph! B :)
Great advice thankyou 😊👍💕
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Thankyou good information and guidance.
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this was THE video & channel i’ve needed for a long time. much love x
Hi Chelsea, welcome to our community. Glad the resources resonate. 💛
Thankyou very much. Your talks are very clear. I like the way you arrange things in practical steps.
You're welcome Sarah! B 🤗
Thx for the vid. Though it's mostly for very mild and unvolontary toxic people. I've done these tips years before hearing them, here, and it's always nice to know that there are people out there who have the same position concerning these people. I do have to say though, after years of experience day in day out with extreemly toxic or covert narcissistic people, these things do not help. ALAS! I'm very sorry to have to state that when a person is extreemly rude etc., to you, the best thing is to give them their poison back!! Really. (Afcourse, just very briefly, but concise and firmly) . They suddenly wake up! They are in shock, and say or show so. And often walk away after. Sad, but true. I hate having to do that, but it's very effective.
Thanks for sharing your experience Ambriel. Sending you best wishes! Bernadette
There is some realism to that unfortunately, no contact is often best move. Office politics are tricky though.
Really good advise, thank you!!!
😊👍 wishing you well!
millions of love.thanx.
Love back to you! B
I just found your videos and I'm really digging them!
Welcome to our community! Glad to share the vids with you.
Loved your insights. I will be using these in my daily life. Thank you!😊
🤗 glad the tips were useful for you. 💫 B
Thank you. People give what they have.its my decision if a received....I rejected.everything. It's confirmation from my GOD.yesterday.my LORD. Told me that. GOD BLESS YOU
Just discovered your channel in search for answers on how to deal with a passive-agressive person/boss. I like the positivity you radiate.
Hi, lovely to connect. I'm from New Zealand :)
Fantastic content 🌞
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Thank you! I needed this! 😗😗
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Honestly you should not wish them health and happiness - you’re just focusing on them even more
Best thing is to cut them out and realize it’s their fault that they are being themselves and has nothing do to with you even if they try to convince you it’s your fault. Stop being so concerned with how they are doing and appeasing them because they will never be happy anyway. And you can’t change that- It’s more internal than external.
I really need to hear those words right now. Thank you
You're very welcome. Glad this was helpful. 💛
Some nice pieces of advice👏 I liked that part about trying to actually help our difficult interlocutors, any chance there's more on that, perhaps?
Very helpful thanks a lot👍
You're welcome Sonia! B :)
Thank you!
Awesome! Thank you
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I need to cut him off and say
Don’t talk to me that way
And then go away because
It’s too painful
But I end up pleading because I can’t stand the rejection
Hi Rosa, there are other videos that might be helpful for you on the channel. Including about how to deal with feeling rejected, and people criticizing, being judged, feeling good enough in oneself, standing up for oneself and more. I hope those may be useful. Love, B
Thank you so helpful
You're welcome! 😊 B
Your videos always make sense. Thanks for this one.💜
You're welcome!
very wise councel!!! thank you
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God Bless You !
Blessings back to you!
Thank you so very much 😊🙏💟
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Thank you I am dealing with 2 rude people don’t know how to get away know I know silent treatment
You're welcome. I hope the tips are helpful. 😊