Harmful Cultural Practices ; A Victim's Story Feat. Kelly Kosi | The Honest Bunch Podcast S05EP19
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She’s so traumatized because she’s still defending the people who did her a lot of wrongs. The friend who made her have sex for accommodation,her ex husband,foster mother,etc. May God heal her. She was so innocent and people abused her. Such a beautiful person.
She is defending them because she is hiding some details. If she answered all the questions about how it started, you would discover that she made some mistake and she is not ready to take responsibility for those mistakes
She is traumatized sincerely. Jezzzz how are you defending him
@@Emeka_ApalaFor someone that was probably SA,women are going through a lot in this part of the world
@@Emeka_Apalayou are so insensitive
Even jesus defended us 😂
This is a typical example of why you shouldn't judge anyone no matter the kind of life they live, choose to help,show love and bring them closer. People are really going through a lot.
I totally agree 🤝🏽
Who else among u love her the more she speaks in igbo language.. .. ❤. Her English is uniq
Me I Soo much love her.
I want to believe this platform provides psych support to people like this because the amount of trauma they offload is heavy. Nobody remains the same after such. As much as viewers learn from their experiences: I hope this girl (especially) finds genuine peace.
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😢 Amen
Amen
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Who else wasn't expecting this section to be emotional? i come jejely to come do aproko, ended up emotional
is really emotional 😭
Yes it was emotional
I'm telling you
Very heavy to listen n watch it was😢
Hmm it's well 😢
This lady has Stockholm Syndrome and a truck load of trauma. Her story just makes you realise how much we have failed each other as humans, as a people and as a society. Toun was very correct- Therapy and healing is needed.
Husband Material- Thank you so much for your diplomacy and wit in asking the right questions.
The young lady needs counselling. Our youths should be educated as to where they can go if they have problems. I was a school counsellor. I went the extra mile for my children. They could tell me anything. What I would like to say is that our young sister should not generalise.
If you close your eyes so that the wicked walk past, you may miss the good ones because you will not know when they walk past
Not this is Stockholm syndrome, It has to do with the same ignorance and mental/emotional processes that led them to fall victim in such a way in the first place. Therapy will educates the person on the subject and help them gain understanding of those inner workings and a perspective on things that is right for them
Stop using we speak for ursef ah
This isn't Stockholm syndrome...she has clinical depression and needs help, Stockholm syndrome is when someone is in love with their abuser and she has shown no signs of that...kindly try and educate yourself before misdiagnosing
Oh, my goodness, she is the same age with my last child. I am crying. Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy. It's not too late for everyone involved to be arrested. I am so proud of her.
Thank you for saying this. It is not too late to get justice for all she went through as a child, but because she is in Nigeria
How can we get them arrested
Omo this is almost every girls story in Bayelsa Yenegoa.. every fine girl in Ph.. Omo I'm more shocked by the comments.. thought every Nigerian knew this how girls survive.. it was made by our leaders that No other economic value is attached to our young females.. so they can have their way with them
Hmmm.. Things are happening
Same story 😢😭poverty & illiteracy 😢
Chukwudi is the conscience of this show. Always bringing everyone back to the subject matter and asking relevant questions.
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Hence the name Bunch
You spak my mind 😅😅
Chukwudi na d engine of Honest Bunch
Others also gud 👍 but he guides everyone bak to main point..
My only concerne is her children one day watching this podcast,,, the effect it might have on them?
There is more to this that she herself doesn’t understand
For the first time, Edu and co sounded so ignorant in their line of questioning. Poor girl told you she was 16yrs old when she was groomed, manipulated and abused because of poverty and you are questioning her like she is 30yrs then. How many of us are able to make decisions even on our 20s without an external influence especially in Africa.
They are so trauma uninformed, did not understand the basics of co-regulation. They. have no idea what vicarious trauma is, they just do content
@@brezzyslide the questions asked feel like they don’t know what trauma is!!!! From facial expressions to the questions themselves … it’s giving judgement.
Really ignorant with their questions.
Birds of feathers. She's behind it already and healing in fact of which I think you three don't understand yet.
The conversation although with a lot of fun Is well understood by the interviewee herself. Stop mongering bullshits please
In line with their curation style and ethics, the Honest Bunch Podcast makes the conversation go the distance with fun. Mind you professors, they are not psychologists and this programe is not a therapy session
From TikTok 😂😂😂 Anyone?
Me😂
Me ooo
Me😊😊
Me😂
We plenty
The lady on shades just drank 3 cans of beer in one sitting, contribute na 😂😂😂
If u be girl u come from rich home or u get good relationship with ur parents u don't know wat God has done for you cos life a woman is hard
Yeah God try for u
Walahi.
Exactly
My sister even if u have a Relationship with ur parents as a girl we are vulnerable,one can get molested under ur parents roof if there are not sensitive😢😢😢😢
@@ichadopriscilla9289 chai na Dem go molest us, abuse us, rape us still come dey insult us. But if u hv money to some extent u won't go through so much
Nedu saying she enjoyed the sex with the man for 3 days, when she clearly slept with him out of desperation was disgusting. But I’m glad she corrected him and he apologised
Nedu na mumu nah
Very insensitive! Highly
@@ibrahimolamilekan604I nor know why them dey put am for the podcast
u watch the program to spot the wrong of Nedu and broadcast them? What other lesson did you get from the show?
Nedu no Sabi talk, even his questions 🤦🏿♂️
That is why I don't judge people...
If I can't help you I will leave but if can help and I helping without sentiment
This is a bruised, wounded and brave woman. Mixed feelings
Husband material they ask questions sha... He is a deep thinker
Swrs men!
He thinks outside the box
The only sensible host in that podcast.
Lol, be calming down@@phreshp926
Yes. True.
You are in my mind bro.
Ndu please try and take courses on communication, and personal center practice. Maybe all the team should also. The channel is getting bigger and i believe you guys should get more upgrades. Honestly u guys are trying
Wow young lady we are proud of you. Get a lawyer and get custody for your kids. You are a great woman. Stay strong.
Humans aren't property. Knowledge is power
Same thing my aunty is facing, the husband collected her children
She's not saying the truth ...
Get custody? Someone that’s still struggling, will you help?
@@emmanuelchidozie9004what you sow you reap😢
Someday I must gather d courage to tell my story. Her story is really similar to mine. May God heal u fockelly u a very strong lady😭😭😭😭😭😭😭.... pls my people never mock d pain u never experienced I beg u😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Na wey you get problem you no know say men and friends are useless
I swear, one day I will gather that courage to tell my story..
You are very right, may God heal you and her
You are a strong lady....only Christ can heal you...trust me
So after telling the story, where are you expecting the solution? 😮😮😮
Her story has molded her to become the strong woman she is now. May God give her a lasting Joy by bringing her children to her one day
What is strong woman?
Nothing fit shake this girl for this life again,she is now a very very strong woman
A messed up woman
@@amaechiwilliams1345get, she could be fluent ooo buh then😢
hmmm...I might not agree with you totally
This interview would shake her. She would watch again and it would have impacts. She needs counseling
What the mother told her about her Dad driving two cars means "If the Madam is a female boss, then you have the answer, He will drive the tipper and also the Madam but i am sure the meaning is not far from that. but she is a strong woman and God be with her
This is my first time commenting but i have to say this, Nedu you have been asking silly and irresponsible questions. What do mean by "do you squirt"? Asking so many stupid questions.
Kelly, you have been through a lot man. This episode is full of life lessons😢😢😢.
I came all the way from tiktok❤.
I'm watching From Liberia 🇱🇷 am I'm really touched by her story 😍 in a nutshell I'm grateful to the organizers of this podcast. Kelly you're indeed a strong woman 👊 May the good Lord continue to bless you 🙏
Quality hair is your natural hair ❤
She’s so beautiful, even her heart is beautiful because she still speak good about the people that hurt her….I just wish she’ll see a therapist 😌
White people don deceive this one with English.
All this things started from the family,the family you come out from us very very very important
When someone that is/was abused start defending his/her abuser, then the person needs huge help…
He is not Nice but a manipulative man... He created the nice image he created just to make sure you depends on him
I keep saying it that people should not judge others until u are put in there shoes 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Fr
Poverty makes parents lost their grip on children, her story is a lack of parental care.
I don't understand igbo language, but I love the way she spilled in small igbo language to expressed her self. This life no balance at all
A mummy G.O at 17😂....crazy things dey sup bruh
I swear
mummy g.o were no know God oo
Dear fathers, protect your daughters, be present in their lives and let them experience the love of a father.
i love you said this, cause the person i blame is her father
If given the right mentorship, she will be a good mentor and also a guide to today's girl child.
She's strong and beautiful, she's sound and i respect her a lot.
Bruhhh, this lady is a strong woman, she's seen shege, i hope she gets therapy and heal no joke...
I don’t know her personally but she is a full vibes I feel bad that she went through all the by herself
Fact💯
Nedu go use question finish you but no panic 😂
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Maintain steeze
😂😂😂😂😂😂
i so much missed NEDU in the last episode,🥱
I’m not in support of what happened to her but. Let talk about Regina Daniels who her husband is 40years older than her and you guys still glorify her Nigerians are not serious and don’t care about humanity at all . Let try and put humanity first before anything.
I love how nedu seek for clarity with questions 🎉
Same here
All the way from facebook, anyone?????
Yes oh,
Right here
Am here
This girl accent sef sweet. Even with the igbo language chaiii true true you be star girl.
If you are watching from Cameroon 🇨🇲 react with a heart
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I just want to give her a hug 🥺
Me tooooo😢
Needy pls be very very measured about the questions you ask you proved to be very insensitive and I have noticed it
Just an advise
Honestly we shouldn't judge anyone before we walk their shoes. Also, we can't condemn until we've heard from both party.
I tell you 😢
What do u mean by both party, an adult getting married to a minor , making her go through abortion and depriving her from seeing her children. Pls what do u want to hear from the party
Are you serious right now 😮
@@chikaodiliruth yes very serious. Honestly you can't judge a story by hearing from one part. In that way you have a proper view
@UA-camCommentter You know you could really state your valid points of any without cursing?
How can you be objective by hearing from one side and conditioning the other?
She’s sounding so relaxed and making it look normal. I don’t think she even knows that she was raped and abused as minor.
She needs help. Like therapy. She is not okay like that no matter how she is talking about her situation
Rape trauma never really goes away, no matter the therapy, @@jennifereguakunossai8629
@@jennifereguakunossai8629This ☝️
That’s what happens when you’ve become too strong for too long. Traumas like this that are hidden are the most heartbreaking when shared.
It's a sign of a broken woman.....she needs serious therapy.
How true is this story?
Did the organizers of the podcast get evidence and facts, especially about her age. It's very easy to drag men, especially men of God, but have we heard from the man?
It was easy to call out the man and his church, but time to drag the politician, you guys decided to keep his name a secret. That's by the way, is this lady saying the truth??? Let's find out, before jumping into conclusions.
This is my story this lady is narrating
Every month I go through a mental breakdown but God is so faithful to us that have been in sure situations not to give up in life.
I was born on May 27, 1999, the same as this lady the only difference in my case is I didn't get pregnant in the process of abusive teenage marriage 😢
Everyday I cried and till now haven’t gotten heal from this trauma
I lived with both of my parents before I started living with my ex but none of my family members fought for me to remain this guy that I was only a kid.
It’s hard to come out sure situation when you’re from a poor family to make a right decision.
I’m so hurt and unhappy for all the horrible experiences I had while I was teenager 😭😭
I pray God come into my situation and heal me from my brokenness.
Hang in there..
You are STRONG 💪..
I'm so sorry for all what you went through..
May God heal you. Amen
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@@adesholaadebambo9016 I’m trusting God for a new day and thank you so much
@@chiomavictoria1172 🙏
I am a young person that the responsibilities of leadership really forced to be matured at a very tender age, so i have learnt in a very hard way at the past, never to pass judgement until I hear from all the parties involved in a case. That's how I can get a balanced judgement..
In issues like this, i step aside so that i won't be caught in the trap of one sided emotional blackmail.
In a case like this, emotional blackmail can make you to goof as a judge and you will never see things from the right perspective, because emotion has been involved.
If you must be a great leader in any sphere of influence, pls learn this uncommon life principle 🤔..
This my above statement is meant for matured minds, and not for biased individuals. I arrest my case..
y=You are truely matured. This is one comment I 100% resonate and agree with. Yet I sympathize with her.
Even Oga Nedu became emotional..he had to excuse himself for a while,..
Looking at the snippets on tiktok and twitter, one would think she had no message. We all have battles we are fighting. I hope she gets reunited with her kids
People are evil, my mom got married at the age of 12 years old give birth to 20 children
All the way from TikTok ✌️
The kind race wey I pick ehn, I go go pick my slippers later 😂
😂😂😂
Same here oo
What's her handle please
Na now I understand when tems said crazy things dey xup
I noticed some contradictions in Kelly's story. Initially, she said she lived with her ex-husband for 5 months but didn't get pregnant. subsequently, she said she got pregnant and had an abortion.
What she meant was she wasn’t pregnant while getting married
She said she wasn’t pregnant when she got married
Yeah cuz they aborted her pregnancy before the wedding
i love the way Nedu breaks things down... her story is not really clear from the beginning😅
So many unsaid stories and very complicated. I hope we all healed.
I am just seething at this point and I feel every bit of the trauma she has passed through having being on similar situation.
I hope a day would come when i will have a platform to tell my story.
I pray for her healing. But I urge her not to forget.
For my future based on my event I fully understand that revenge is a dish best served cold. In future
I'm so sorry for what you went through.
Nedu I love the way you ask her questions for clarity keep it up ❤
It is deeply concerning that a significant portion of the Nigerian population is facing numerous challenges. I have observed the struggles of many parents who are unaware of the daily experiences of their children. It is disheartening to witness young children, under the age of 10, unsupervised and roaming the streets at late hours. These observations indicate a systemic failure that has adversely affected a substantial number of individuals. It is imperative that we collectively identify and implement effective strategies to address these issues and improve the overall well-being of our society.
Did you guys hear from the so called foster mum to judging her ...later una go say don't judge people without knowing their story..the pastor story one side shall ...na only me feel she is still not wholistic matured too
I love you Kelly
Your challenges will strengthen a generation.
What her fbook page
Can't hold back my tears. May God heal your pains young woman. This episode got me really emotional.😢
This story is not clear 😂
I insist that this lady still needs a counselor or therapist. Even she will deny that. But is obvious she is holding a lot and needs to heal.
You're right, I can't agree less with all these I heard
That pastor has been taking girls to do abortion long before...
She needs an award this is a good life lesson kudos to her I pray God heals her heart
How is the life Good
I love her. She has a very beautiful heart. Imagine not being able to hold grudges after all this pain! Ill learn this nne. You are forever protected by the LOVE of the Universe, Kosi
Sharing children among family members to look after, after the demise of a parent is very true and it is the only way to help the children survive. My prayer is, may those who accept to train other people's children be good to those children.
God bless this guest for working hard to bring her siblings together. That is a selfless thing to do. My eldest brother did that for us and we value that. It made us close. May the good Lord continue to bless my brother. 🙏
My Elder sister died leaving 3 kids,I shared them among 3 family members and support them each my little way.God has blessed me w my own kids too and i still love them lots
What ever you are doing against poverty take it serious. 😢
Hahahahhaa! This your comment off me😂😂😂😂
SIR NEDU MY GUY, I RESPECT YOU, YOU ALWAYS ASK VALID QUESTIONS ❤❤, MUCH LOVE ❤❤❤❤ TO ALL THE CREW MEMBERS OF THE HONEST BONCH.
hmmmm this one tears go follow ohhh cause i am so emotional
Na only God go help us
Mr. Nedu, this lady needs serious support, especially on the kids
I swear
@@zoway therapy 😢😢
Pls this woman needs help...let get her a lawyer because of her child
@@ayodehindefalade9418 yes we can all contribute comment pannel gether here
Who told u she needs help. This lady just like sex. .no one took advantage of her
One of the best Episode if i am being Honest, i feel your story
Sorry to say ooooo. But she has a contradicting story line. I think she is nt seeing anything wrong in some of the things dat happened to her.
when you go through trauma, some bad things look ok to you
Seriously I love the way Nedu ask questions, for clarity purposes
U get...
Not all abeg
I felt like pouring salt on Nedu's tongue. Haba! Learn to listen kwanu.
Very annoying guy mouth just dey draw
I swear
Mumu guy
if every girl/woman who grew up in Nigeria( rich or poor homes) opens up about their molestation stories eh......families go divide, everywhere go divide.
the girl child is not safe at home,it's mostly safer outside for some.
IF ONLY YOU KNOW THE WAY I HAVE BEEN PROTECTING MY ONE AND ONLY GIRL CHILD SINCE HER BIRTH, WHO IS 16 NOW WITH EVERY BLOOD IN MY VEIN. ANY HUMAN BEING TRY ANY RUBBISH WITH HER BE READY......
@@Phumzy280please keep it up ma.
Not just the girl child, but also the boy child.
This!!!!
You are 100 percent right, families will definitely divide
She doesn’t need a therapist just by doing the content career she’s already healing from her past 😊😂
Far from it
U don carry movie line come here 😂
She actually needs a therapist. She doesn’t even know who wronged her or who she needs to avoid. She’s just living by the social media. God save our society.
This Nedu needs to learn how to talk mehn
She was young, naive, and probably stubborn. She was trying to escape poverty and met with a sweet-tongued prophet. Poverty played a major role in her experience. It is criminal for the Prophet to marry her that young, but he probably never thought about her age. All he saw was a full-blown, experienced lady, young enough for him to control.
I feel the exact same way. He probably even thought he met her at 17 that's why he got married to her a day after her birthday possibly thinking she was 18.
The pastor in question is by name Apostle Little - David Foc, General Overseer of Save the World Love Evangelical Ministry Asaba - Delta State..
.is that his real name
I don sha see the pastor profile for linked in na werey self
we could go get him arrested!!!!!
This pastor Sha go collect oo. One way or the other
Yes I have checked him on fb.... I don ask m question
Ezinne stop being Defensive.. Your 500k hair still cheap for some people.. Dem go still call am sponge.. Allow her buy land and build houses for her siblings
Omo similar to my life story 😢but thank God for today
May God continue to keep you
I pray that God consoles and heals you!
@@samuelicheku6535 Amen thank u 🥺
@@Oluwademiladeogore amen and u to
This is the best podcast I've watched so far on Nadu's page ❤
Baby girl, you need to see a therapist. You are traumatised and it is absolutely normal to be considering what you have been through! You do not know you need therapy because you have not experienced a life of absolute happiness and inner peace. You think you are kay but you are just existing. It's like craving something you have never had. It's not possible. Go see a therapist and you'll see what you have been missing!
Trauma! Trauma! Trauma!! I feel for her, may she find true healing.
See as I dey run form TikTok come UA-cam 😩😂😂😂
I don't care. This podcast has never invited a high caliber woman that everybody can be proud of. It's always sex workers
This story sha get as e be...too much up and down.
Familiar spirits give people visions, dreams, prophecies, and miracles. Be careful! Do not be exposed to demons and think it is God. The gifts of God are without repentance; once given, they are never taken back, but the fruits of the Spirit are the real deal!
Foc Kelly, you are loved!!!
Correct English: Pastor's ex wife
Incorrect English: Ex pastor wife
God bless u.
I can’t believe I waited for 6pm just to watch this particular episode 🙈
My dear nothing is happening here
Same here o
She disassociates 🥺 oh God bless her
Lots of ladies in this Nigeria are rape victims and the sad part is, they will never be brought to book.
Most girls I've met personally have one story or another to tell.
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Nedu, thanks for your podcast but pls create avenue for your viewers to contribute
Make i hear say bet 9ja no dey empower youth 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
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You dey active my bro👍
Lord 😂😂
Women dey suffer oh kia
I wish your mum was strong enough. I was 17 when an over 30 year old man wanted to marry me... I can remember vividly even my aunty already accepted but thank God for my mum. The kind craze my mum bin bring that day 😂... She said, them wan destroy her baby life.
Poverty is really a disease ooo... I'm 28 now and everyday I thank God for my life that I didn't make that careless mistake.
I pray for you, that you heal from whatsoever you're going through. God will see you through
Unrelated question,are you married now??
If not,do you feel any sort of pressure coz of the age?
@@estheramanda7529 If you're an Igbo girl you'll know that to get married, just stay in your village and your aunt or uncle will connect you to someone as long as you get good character as a girl.
I travel almost every year and I cannot count how many I got in my years.
But growing up, I always remember what my mum (may her soul rest in peace) said, and I quote; "Marriage is not for children, them no dey rush am. Just take your time and pray, be sure you're ready for it. Don't worry, God will give you a good man that'll take care of you!".
Based on your question, NO! I have never felt pressured and will never feel pressured. Anyone that feels like I'm getting old, should marry on my behalf.
@@estheramanda7529how is that ur business 👏👏
Nedu good you apologised for that insensitive question
Stupid questions the girl is still a child. The girl on bride is smart
Yes