MY FATHER TAUGHT MY EX HUSBAND HOW TO BEAT ME

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  • @yvonneodul8291
    @yvonneodul8291 Місяць тому +441

    I like the way Pastor is allowing her to speak without interfering

    • @suwakukoyi5765
      @suwakukoyi5765 Місяць тому +4

      It's better this way, so it. An flow.

    • @SamuelAgnes-di4rl
      @SamuelAgnes-di4rl Місяць тому +2

      Same here

    • @charlenerich9239
      @charlenerich9239 10 годин тому

      um he did interfere I wanted to know what happened to the brother after he stood up to his dad for her for the first time. There was more to the story.

  • @EkeminiDOVM11
    @EkeminiDOVM11 Місяць тому +310

    This is why we need an effective Child protective system in Nigeria cos this doesn’t make sense at all! The bruises on a child and no one is held accountable?! Wow! Thanks for sharing this story Ma gives me more fuel to fight for innocent children 🙏🏾

    • @ijeomaiheanachor6780
      @ijeomaiheanachor6780 Місяць тому +1

      I relate your comment are you a social worker

    • @EvaOreva
      @EvaOreva 14 днів тому +3

      Yes ooo
      It’s important
      Cos too many parents are terrible at parenting

    • @julianaivyagyekwena6969
      @julianaivyagyekwena6969 13 днів тому

      I pray God's complete healing of your soul and family. Amen

  • @lilacsweet16
    @lilacsweet16 28 днів тому +35

    Apostle Femi your ministry is distinct and I pray for more grace. I pray for the protection of your heart against vicarious trauma as people offload their toxic situations on you. Stay strong in the Lord ❤❤❤❤

  • @sandraphilip5149
    @sandraphilip5149 Місяць тому +249

    This woman needs a deep healing. Allowing her to talk without interruption was also a start process of healing

  • @bekkyamanda4646
    @bekkyamanda4646 Місяць тому +486

    This story is the worst I've ever heard of. I have said it, and I'd continue to say it over and again, Children are gifts from God, but you must not have them. Parents are the first god that these children will ever know. Please, in the name of God Almighty. Young people, if you know you have not already laid out plans to do better, please do not have children. Stay single and focus on your God. For you to have a child, you must have the capacity to invest your time, finance, love, and patience in that child/children.
    Children are not furniture, they are flesh and blood, they are God's own. You have no business having children if you are not ready to invest in them physically, mentally, spiritually, socially, emotionally, and all.
    Every time I hear of how parents fail their children (this being the worst), my heart keels over.
    You can marry and choose to have no child, nobody will kill you. But I pray the wrath of God on anyone who only desires to have children and torment them in the name of being their father or mother.
    In all this, thank you God for being a Father, Friend, Comforter, Healer and all we ever need when we need You; because who can take this kind of pain and not curse their existence and lose it all together.
    Abba, My Good Father, thank you.
    Thank you because Tina's story is still being written, and it only gets better. I pray that her joy and laughter will multiply. I pray her business flourishes and that you give her all that it takes to raise David as a wholesome man (Your standard). From now on, Abba, let her be known for Joy, Peace, and Love.

    • @blessingshugaba5050
      @blessingshugaba5050 Місяць тому +18

      More reason why my husband and I have decided to have kids at least 4 to 6 years after our wedding. Its been three years now and still counting. I will not forgive myself if I allow my child pass through the preventable hardship I passed through as a child. It affected my education and now,my husband is the one sponsoring my education.
      Though my siblings and I experienced Love growing up.

    • @MrsGiant
      @MrsGiant Місяць тому

      Amen!

    • @9icegirl555
      @9icegirl555 Місяць тому

      Amen!

    • @narkiethemidwife
      @narkiethemidwife Місяць тому +4

      @@blessingshugaba5050 i thought am the only one who has thought about this…I would rather not have a child than bring a child into this world to suffer the way I did. Hmmmm

    • @sazaberg
      @sazaberg Місяць тому +1

      You said it all

  • @ChaanaEjoga
    @ChaanaEjoga Місяць тому +274

    The way she laughs saying her ordeal is a sign of trauma. One can see from her gentleness that she's a loving person despite all she's been through

    • @giftowhor283
      @giftowhor283 Місяць тому +27

      She’s traumatized already. The way she smiles helps in relieving the stress. That’s a coping mechanism

    • @KennethNgedo
      @KennethNgedo 18 днів тому +6

      It could also be the peace and joy of the lord. I believed she is indeed healed

    • @mayoressoflife
      @mayoressoflife 18 днів тому +3

      It's the smile and laughter of victory

    • @lollypop8632
      @lollypop8632 11 днів тому

      100 percent!

    • @dorcasalabi4430
      @dorcasalabi4430 5 днів тому

      Honestly, she is really sad. I pray she heals soonest.

  • @hetty_dips
    @hetty_dips Місяць тому +247

    Your story is just like mine.. That man is not your dad. I later knew that mine wasn't. Even till date, they have not told me officially that he is not mine. He caused the distance between myself and my siblings... Till date I don't know my dad's family 😢 I wished my story was different. I wanted love affection from my family. But thank God for Jesus and the holy Spirit.. it's sooooo sweet to trust in Jesus.

    • @Adebowaleeyyarts
      @Adebowaleeyyarts Місяць тому +15

      Yes, I understand what are talking about, I watch many of such stories from paternity court. The mother and supposed father have a secret to keep. Check well you will find out more.

    • @priscillaamaka1527
      @priscillaamaka1527 Місяць тому +6

      Hmmmm...I am glad you are fine now. Thanks to the Holy Spirit

    • @Araplenty
      @Araplenty 27 днів тому +6

      I know a father who will readily tell her daughthers husband to divorce her if she misbehaves
      Even at a slightest misunderstanding

    • @super_buchi
      @super_buchi 20 днів тому

      Stay strong and Glory to God

    • @Pearlyn-gy3hy
      @Pearlyn-gy3hy 20 днів тому +3

      My sentiment exactly. I think he's not her biological child.
      Sis, I pray for continued blessings for you and your son.

  • @Anita-d3z
    @Anita-d3z Місяць тому +83

    How is she sharing such pains of her life and still keeping up with smiles...........
    God's mercies will not cease from you sis

  • @emmanuelvictoria5039
    @emmanuelvictoria5039 Місяць тому +223

    No matter what the world say
    No matter the imperfections in the church
    Church is my place of rest.
    I will never leave the church of Christ

    • @lyfteen01
      @lyfteen01 22 дні тому +10

      Remember that church is not the physical thing but we are the church. I will rather say "Christ is my place of rest" not church. You will be surprised at what some pastors/ churches will do to you. I pray no one gets trampled by the church, talking from experience.

    • @sandraolufemi6568
      @sandraolufemi6568 21 день тому +3

      ​@@lyfteen01but shebi it's still the human beings that make up the church that hurt u? Like u rightly said, church is only a building so you're contradicting yourself.

    • @reneechery9903
      @reneechery9903 18 днів тому

      Good choice, but don't forget you are the church !

    • @thresholdofhonours
      @thresholdofhonours Годину тому

      ​@@sandraolufemi6568 the church is the people. Not the building.

  • @ewenedeojevwe2316
    @ewenedeojevwe2316 Місяць тому +42

    God bless your uncle, he will never lack help❤

  • @johnpaulifeanyi5172
    @johnpaulifeanyi5172 29 днів тому +83

    Just watch out, you see that your son David, he will be your evening blankets, the world will hear his success stories

    • @tinaocheni2684
      @tinaocheni2684 23 дні тому

      @@johnpaulifeanyi5172 Amen🫂🫂🫂🫂

  • @ewaoluwadamilolabello6885
    @ewaoluwadamilolabello6885 15 днів тому +8

    One of the reason why I detached from my father till date. Even now, he knows nothing about me, and with this story now, I'm happy I made the decision to stay far away from him. Some fathers are "fillers", and deserve to be "filtered" for life. This story seems to be relatable - in my case, my dad never wanted me to go for my tertiary education, burnt all my clothes, and so much more. Melo melo la fé so🤷🏾‍♀️
    Thank you, Tina for sharing your story! Thank you, Pastor Femi Lazarus for this platform of people sharing their journey of life and living🙏🏾

  • @Misst211
    @Misst211 15 днів тому +10

    Her demeanour is that of a brave but fed up woman. how is she even smiling after everything? God of marriage please help us to not have to go throw this. may God give u strength Ma'am

  • @temconstance1245
    @temconstance1245 20 днів тому +39

    See how she hides her tears with laughter and smile 😢😢😢😢

    • @Flo4Keeps
      @Flo4Keeps 8 днів тому +1

      Coping mechanism...it's so heartbreaking 💔 mannn😢

    • @bridgetetu5521
      @bridgetetu5521 7 днів тому

      exactly!

    • @VeraQuartey
      @VeraQuartey 6 днів тому

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Joy-yt7ek
    @Joy-yt7ek Місяць тому +187

    This lady is strength personified! See how calm, articulate, and logical she's analysing and recounting her experience without much emotions. Nah woman you be abeg!

    • @tinaocheni2684
      @tinaocheni2684 Місяць тому +3

      @@Joy-yt7ek God bless you 🥰🥰

    • @godlydabara7060
      @godlydabara7060 Місяць тому +9

      If she broke down, would it change the fact that na woman she be?

    • @Geneka617
      @Geneka617 Місяць тому

      ⁠​⁠​⁠@@godlydabara7060They are talking A you are talking Z.
      Honestly God really gave her strength to withstand it all. She’s amazing

    • @onyedikaokonkwo6357
      @onyedikaokonkwo6357 Місяць тому +8

      Yes, she is a woman, but this have damaged her, i can see it in her eyes, she exhausted I wonder what gave her strength

    • @MaguiM263
      @MaguiM263 Місяць тому +6

      This is not strength.....this is someone who is deeply wounded...

  • @traditionalhomecooking8284
    @traditionalhomecooking8284 14 днів тому +10

    Wow I was thinking my family was the worst family ever until I started watching this channel. OMG I cry 😭 i Laugh 🤣 I screamed 😮 may the Lord restore and heal our brokenness 🙏🏿🙏🏿

  • @adewunmiadebayo6775
    @adewunmiadebayo6775 Місяць тому +81

    Thank God for this platform. It’s an eye opener and you know why some people behave a type of way. Abuse and pain is so deep in Nigeria. Now, I understand why a lot of people act a type of way.

  • @g1stconsult
    @g1stconsult Місяць тому +137

    Apostle femi Lazarus, please help us follow the lady for mentorship till she get a loving home. She deserves to be loved

    • @tinaocheni2684
      @tinaocheni2684 Місяць тому +65

      Apostle Femi Lazarus and his wife Pastor Mimie are the best parents that any one could ever ask for 🙌🙌🙌🙌 God used them to help me heal...they have done so much and still doing a lot more behind the scenes.

    • @juliette7776
      @juliette7776 Місяць тому

      @@tinaocheni2684God bless you sister

    • @adeyemiadenusi2105
      @adeyemiadenusi2105 Місяць тому

      ​@@tinaocheni2684Our prayers and thoughts are with you..Thank God for healing. He will also perfect that which He has started. What the devil planned to use to break you, God will use it to make you. Thank you for hanging on❤❤❤

    • @Seun4Jesus
      @Seun4Jesus Місяць тому

      Hallelujah ​@@tinaocheni2684

    • @dival9605
      @dival9605 Місяць тому

      ​@@tinaocheni2684❤❤ God bless you and continue to keep you.❤❤❤

  • @precious5596
    @precious5596 Місяць тому +41

    Goodness! I remember when she gave her testimony and how she said Pastor's message 'Breathe' prevented her from committing suicide. Then Pastor asked the congregation to contribute for her if they felt led to. Thank God for the gift of God's servants oo. Omo. This story be like Nollywood movie. The trauma is too much. Only God can mend and heal from this.

  • @Handmadevixen
    @Handmadevixen Місяць тому +31

    Honestly i wish this lady could hear or read this, take your child from that family, they are using him to hold you hostage. Keep your child close to you before they teach him malice, take care of you first before you worry about others that do not give a damn about you. Because whether you like it or not, they wouldn’t care about you once they’re back on their feet. You can love them from afar o, but abeg try and build yourself biko

  • @imolearemilekun1472
    @imolearemilekun1472 Місяць тому +190

    Parental favouritism is a big pandemic we’re not ready to talk about

    • @Empressblessing
      @Empressblessing 20 днів тому +1

      Like very annoying nonsense
      How can a parent have a favorite child, dem for just born na

    • @WinifredOdenigb
      @WinifredOdenigb 16 днів тому +2

      Fact na why I no blame Joseph’s brothers in the Bible because why papa go love only 2 children out of 12 but then again it is well

    • @TheOfficialCounsellorAbby
      @TheOfficialCounsellorAbby 15 днів тому +2

      Ha!!!!! If we start this topic, we won't close sha😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @ovilifavour1869
      @ovilifavour1869 12 днів тому +1

      Honestly true
      I have been a victim of this for years but I just learn to look away from them

  • @NiaXai
    @NiaXai Місяць тому +16

    Jaw dropping testimony, thanks Pst Femi for creating a safe place for people to share, learn and be encouraged.

  • @toluoyelakin7694
    @toluoyelakin7694 25 днів тому +16

    The way the Apostle was able to sit down and listen to her is amazing. I dey vex for the father as I dey hear her story

  • @sandylove7713
    @sandylove7713 Місяць тому +22

    She needs to watch Dr. Ramani on narcissistic abuse, she is an empath, so if she doesn’t learn skills on how to set boundaries etc, she will continue to fall victim to narcissist. She really needs to put her mental health first. She should not leave her child to anyone.

    • @lindaforetia8624
      @lindaforetia8624 28 днів тому +2

      True!!! She has to watch Dr.Ramani on narcissism.
      She needs psychotherapy to heal,set boundaries, and protect her mental health.

  • @lovenwanna6018
    @lovenwanna6018 Місяць тому +34

    She is so beautiful…may God continue to strengthen you. You will excel and your story will bring hope to people.

  • @agadamary3841
    @agadamary3841 Місяць тому +187

    Her Dad must be an Igala Man. Igala Men will not change. They are the same. They have good women( Their women can submit to any length) but their Men??? They are hostile, not loving, very proud people. My Father has that hostile spirit with pride too. The funniest part is that, they go to church more than pastors! Till now, I can't do full 48hours under my parent roof because fight will break out on the 3rd day between my Dad and I. Infact, I blocked her on my phone and my husband's phone because he will cause a fight between us. He's always happy when you're sad. I blocked him straight. Since 3years plus (after my wedding day) i haven't gone to visit them because there's no reason to do that. I thank God i didn't marry from them. Affliction will not rise the second time and God compensated me with a good Husband (Yoruba guy in whom I found a father and husband in him. He's Godsent). I celebrate you my sister, you're a warrior. You have won.

    • @tinaocheni2684
      @tinaocheni2684 Місяць тому +28

      It's true about most Igala men..
      But we can change narrative by raising our kids differently....

    • @sarahekundayo9421
      @sarahekundayo9421 Місяць тому +7

      @tina, the love of Christ flows through you

    • @grace2.026
      @grace2.026 Місяць тому +5

      @@tinaocheni2684The cycle can only change if the men also change. Unless it’s a 1 parent household the father has great influence on his children

    • @angelaenyo4303
      @angelaenyo4303 Місяць тому +3

      My dad was good but my mom had Favorite and wish my immediate kid sis was the first daughter and I’m the first daughter I’m also igala also my siblings checked my glory and have been after my life spiritually hmm it’s a long story I receive spiritual attacks every day and my mom is telling me to come to the village that’s their plot o so they’ll finish me

    • @happinessogbuinya5194
      @happinessogbuinya5194 Місяць тому

      ​@@angelaenyo4303are you for real

  • @tinaocheni2684
    @tinaocheni2684 Місяць тому +939

    What have i don to deserve so much love

    • @olufunmiqueenaarinola1766
      @olufunmiqueenaarinola1766 Місяць тому +34

      My prayers are with you sis
      oh Lord!

    • @prettyozoza8608
      @prettyozoza8608 Місяць тому +23

      God will heal you in Jesus name

    • @Being.Benedicta
      @Being.Benedicta Місяць тому +32

      You are loved darling, always remember that you are precious in Abba's eyes...May the Almighty perfect his healing upon your life. Stay blessed and I wish you loads of happiness henceforth...I love you ❤ Isaiah 43:1-7

    • @TheRefinersVesselsNetwork
      @TheRefinersVesselsNetwork Місяць тому +10

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
      We love you 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

    • @victoryagara6146
      @victoryagara6146 Місяць тому +12

      You deserve all the love sis 🥰

  • @tolulopegideons4724
    @tolulopegideons4724 12 днів тому +14

    If she says she is healed, I agree sir.
    She laugh at the issues and not break down and Love sustains her - She is an epitome of Genuiene Love!

  • @karoogoro
    @karoogoro Місяць тому +84

    This has made me realize dat marriage is not just about love but indeed background check is a must. I felt really broken hearing her story may God heal her completely 👍🙏

  • @mahershalalbaz
    @mahershalalbaz Місяць тому +43

    That part about patriarchy and owning your children and lacking accountability is so true about Africa..thank you Apostle Femi for daring to dig into an area we don't talk about in Africa and thank you lady for being so brave. You deserve love..respect, care and safety from people you love. I know it will take a long time to get through the trauma.. may God help you in your journey.

  • @eseosaabbe3251
    @eseosaabbe3251 Місяць тому +128

    How does one heal from all of these? Please Lord heal her completely 🙏🏾

  • @tofunmiayoola5455
    @tofunmiayoola5455 10 днів тому +3

    God bless Apostle Femi Lazarus in Jesus precious name

  • @justinaoruekpeti7727
    @justinaoruekpeti7727 29 днів тому +7

    This story makes one emotional. It shows the power of God's grace and love.
    It's well with you my sister

  • @Eoet_2027
    @Eoet_2027 Місяць тому +211

    I just noticed that she has a UA-cam channel, where she advertised her business.
    The name of the channel is Tina Ocheni.

  • @janetinnocent870
    @janetinnocent870 Місяць тому +120

    The man isn’t her biological father and her mother had to agree to whatever he asked her to do before he married her. He’s a monster and her mother is an accomplice in the evils done to her. I salute her courage and tenacity not to be broken by the trauma she went through. I pray for complete healing and recovery for her in Jesus name.

    • @tamiausten873
      @tamiausten873 Місяць тому +25

      Even biological father's can be like this. My father casually says my husband will beat me over food, I've never even dated before. It just shows that if I get beat up in a relationship, my dad will not side me. This year, he beat with the curtain rod and gave me a scar on my right shoulder for no good reason. I'm 23, you'd think I'd be allowed to make my decisions. I just said I didn't want to make my hair where he wanted me to and he thought I meant something else, he proceeded to beat me with that rod. Last week he said he regrets sending me to school; the only thing I can point to that he did well as a dad. The reason for this was he came back late at night and asked me to carry some that is quite heavy, I'm a lady of course it would be challenging. I was even shocked, I had to ask "where to"? He got offended by my question, even as I carried it. I almost fell down due to the weight. That night I decided I won't let him say his usual unprovoked nonsense and I defended myself. He asked if I was offered a job, that's how I will say no 😂😂😂 gaslighting is his go to (I've already done the thing he asked me to do😮😮😮). I told him I'll only say no if I can't do the job 🤷🏾‍♀️. He got angry that he was abusing me and I had the guts to respond. I had to pause because he acts different in private and it was too late for me to escape. He has also accused me of prostitution because I don't like cooking 😂😂 (I was like 16/17 then, no make up, deeper life dressing, what was the reason 🤦🏾‍♀️). He also said it's because I don't always sleep at night 😮, so insomnia is due to promiscuity? He told my cousin that I joined a cult (I was in Jss2 then, I allegedly joined in jss1 in my previous school). After this, I was possessed and needed deliverance (all this while I was 9-11). Meanwhile, I've made a lot of money for him as a Chess youth champion. Now as an adult, I realize that the crumbs he gave me, including the job he got for me are my right and not just because he's my dad. I went to public school, I did well in school, I made money for him, I didn't have good clothes (my mom was managing to buy), he asked me to return the one I bought and criticized the ones my mom got. I've suffered self esteem because of the necessities I lacked growing up, so the phone he bought for me last year is just a repayment of dept he's owing. I've just realized for real that my father doesn't like me and has just been using me, he wakes me up at midnight to type letters for him like a PA, but I get no payment. I don't think he can stand when I look good, never heard a compliment from him about my looks, just him castigating me for wearing random items or polishing my nails. He gets so triggered over me making certain styles of hair and I noticed I looked my best then.

    • @adeyemiadenusi2105
      @adeyemiadenusi2105 Місяць тому

      ​@@tamiausten873I had a very hard time reading through this. I pray that God will continue to strengthen you to be strong and to succeed in life. What was meant to break you, God will use it to make you ❤❤

    • @zizibelle2753
      @zizibelle2753 Місяць тому +5

      @@tamiausten873omo! This is a lot to take in. Praying to God for your strength and your success in life. Ensure you never end up with the same man coz sometimes the patter continues. You must be different from your mother who allows abuse of her innocent child. This is terrible

    • @joannaikhanoba4165
      @joannaikhanoba4165 Місяць тому +2

      ​@@tamiausten873 It's so surreal that people like this really exist and carry this mindset.

    • @bukolaakinde7811
      @bukolaakinde7811 17 днів тому +1

      Honestly, that man is not her biological father. There is more to it that her parents didn't want to open up to her..

  • @gracepeter6592
    @gracepeter6592 Місяць тому +11

    Abuse and pain is so deep... To think that I was in the same class with Tina all through secondary school and had no clue.. She's one very strong and resilient lady i know...and always keeps up with the smile.. I celebrate your courage and the love of God flows through your heart sis.. Much love❤

    • @tinaocheni2684
      @tinaocheni2684 23 дні тому

      @@gracepeter6592 Amen love 🫂🫂🫂🫂

  • @olufemiadebayo2954
    @olufemiadebayo2954 Місяць тому +48

    My Jesus is still changing lives.
    Attending regularly a church where the word of God is being taught through the Holy Spirit is so vital.

  • @onyinyechukwu7830
    @onyinyechukwu7830 2 дні тому +1

    See decent lady passing through lots of pains, her only crime was to be born through a man that is meant to love her but turned into her enemy.
    May the Lord deliver every male or female child passing through this situation in Jesus name amen

  • @TheDinma1
    @TheDinma1 Місяць тому +187

    Everyone involved in this should be arrested!!!!!

  • @ussahdaniel942
    @ussahdaniel942 12 днів тому +1

    I cannot say how many times my heart broke, listening to this story. E come be like somebody beat me, or bullied me. I cannot explain. Lord thank you for saving her

  • @motolani.0924
    @motolani.0924 Місяць тому +93

    I thank God for churches like this and Pastors like Pst Femi Lazarus. I can imagine if she was in church that day ad aall the pastor was preaching was give give give, people like this will not mind pouring out their pockets and still going home to execute their suicidal plan. May our pastors be true shepherds that will be sensitive and genuinely concerned for their flocks. God bless Ms Tina and heal her completely in JESUS NAME. Thank you sir, Pst Femi for being a true leader

  • @mrnatha
    @mrnatha Місяць тому +194

    At this point we need a website or page dedicated to evil families to avoid!
    May God keep us safe and guide us right,
    May we be led by The Holy spirit and full of discernmet

  • @ogarjoshua6433
    @ogarjoshua6433 Місяць тому +56

    Kai😢 God will completely heal you my sister , telling this story without been emotional you are a strong woman, you went through a lot

  • @ImooaRoseline
    @ImooaRoseline 16 днів тому +10

    watching this with tears in my eyes, I pray that the lord whom you believe in comes through for you big time.

  • @hannahaluko6131
    @hannahaluko6131 Місяць тому +7

    This is wow, I couldn't just hold back tears
    Thank you so much Apostle for what you are doing for this generation
    I love you Sir

  • @GraceMagaji-zl9or
    @GraceMagaji-zl9or Місяць тому +10

    Glory be to God for what he has done🙌for apostle to preach that sermon that got you, your healings it means our GOD IS A GOOD FATHER 🙌 though our earthly fathers may fail but GOD NEVER FAILS 🙌🙌. Thank God for your life apostle, God continually keep You Amen🙌

  • @JesusIsKing2677
    @JesusIsKing2677 Місяць тому +30

    May these people watch this and see the pain they’ve caused someone. 😢

    • @45media85
      @45media85 Місяць тому +10

      They are narcissists. Narcissists have no empathy. Her mum is a victim of psychopathic abuse. The abuser being her dad. This is why I fault the unbalanced "submission" message. When it comes to marriage, I really avoid most Nigerian preachers, bar a few. I listen to men/women of God with a marriage where there's a healthy balance not foolish submission. Like apostle said in this message, the patriarchy in Nigeria has no accountability and l don't understand how women submit to a man who has no accountability in his life, abuse will be inevitable. So many women submitting to abuse, which is sad. It is not biblical but the Nigerian church has made it sound okay.

  • @olasumboalakaadam629
    @olasumboalakaadam629 28 днів тому +15

    In a sane country, even now, the man will be picked up and locked up

  • @theMoney-Hub
    @theMoney-Hub 28 днів тому +28

    This made me cry a lot. There are many girls and boys going through abuse right now, Lord please help them o...

  • @igabonny
    @igabonny 5 днів тому

    These stories teach me one thing in life, as long as i am still alive i will always be grateful to God no matter what situation

  • @FaithOtokhile
    @FaithOtokhile Місяць тому +12

    Thank God for the gift of Apostle Femi Lazarus to this generation. God heals and mends broken hearts

  • @divinahkemunto9148
    @divinahkemunto9148 10 днів тому +4

    My mum did the same to me too and she's my biological mum... healing is the hardest journey for me 🙏 God heals the heart 🇰🇪🇰🇪

  • @omoboyelabake9480
    @omoboyelabake9480 20 днів тому +4

    Wow
    I'm in awe of this God 😭😭
    He is LOVE, He cares, He heals the broken hearted. What an intentional God.
    Thank God for placing his servants in the church for the healing of his people.
    The church is indeed a hospital where people who are hurting find refuge.
    May anyone going through any similar trauma find healing in you God, please grant them victory in Jesus name 🙏

  • @enitanagbeke8280
    @enitanagbeke8280 22 дні тому +21

    I am more pained about a woman that bore you and gave birth to you watch a monster hurt you out of his own madness.your mum is worse.If you dad does not understand the pain of childbirth,what about your mum.what kind of submission is that.He will be held accountable for the way he treated you.Just stay strong and prove him wrong.

    • @lilianoha3553
      @lilianoha3553 6 днів тому +1

      omo, the same thing i kept asking, what sort of submission was she submitting that she couldn't protect her own child from the mad man? how can she call herself a mother?

    • @mutshidzimulelu2991
      @mutshidzimulelu2991 6 днів тому +1

      The mother is worst seriously

  • @esthermoundi3057
    @esthermoundi3057 Місяць тому +46

    Be strong sister. Your smile is a strength. You will never lack, David your son will never lack, be healed , remain healed and continue healed in Jesus name! Please an advise, from this moment, be far from what you call your family. They are not at all. Be strong daughter of the most high!

  • @smartkidsandlearningacadem5662
    @smartkidsandlearningacadem5662 Місяць тому +11

    I cried watching your story 😭
    May you find true healing in Jesus mighty name 🙏

  • @Oge2.0
    @Oge2.0 27 днів тому +117

    This woman has truly suffered. See how tired she sounds 🥺

    • @michaelkwasimensah
      @michaelkwasimensah 26 днів тому +2

      She's really suffered

    • @BennethChidinma
      @BennethChidinma 21 день тому

      She is a weak story teller.

    • @dianarose6126
      @dianarose6126 20 днів тому +7

      I realized, she’s too tired, exhausted and has no emotions even tears , nothing, 😢she cant even look Apostle in the eye! Low self esteem
      God help her to overcome

    • @Blessing.I-df1pf
      @Blessing.I-df1pf 20 днів тому

      @@dianarose6126honestly 😢

    • @Kr8tiva
      @Kr8tiva 19 днів тому +2

      Yeahhh!!! She sounds tired. 😭😭😭

  • @edithigbinovie8008
    @edithigbinovie8008 25 днів тому +8

    My daughter may God wiped away all you went through and give you a new heart to forgive everyone that hurts you. The God that shows up to rescue you will never live you or forsake you, He will put an end to everything that will cause you sorrow in Jesus mighty name Amen.. Please stay alive for your son and the purpose of God for your life. It was the devil that engineer all that you went through so he can have your soul, but God is wiser than him I am a grandmother your story touched me to my bone and God have reasons for keeping you alive till this day, so that you can share your story for others to stay alive. God bless you, He is your helper that will also locate you with desperate and destiny helpers. Thank you Apostle may your grace be multiply and the oil of God upon you head will never run dry thank you so much Man of God to God be the glory ❤❤❤

    • @tinaocheni2684
      @tinaocheni2684 23 дні тому

      @@edithigbinovie8008 Amen... thanks Momma 🥰🫂🫂🫂

  • @dumoprincewill3912
    @dumoprincewill3912 Місяць тому +22

    Grown man like me de watch this thing de cry omo thank god say i de alone me way be strong man.

  • @diskood6123
    @diskood6123 Місяць тому +7

    Thank you Apostle for this interview. Tina, you are a beautiful soul and I wish you all the best in life! Super proud of you girl, you’ve got this👏🏾 God bless you both.

  • @chikanzevinepath6606
    @chikanzevinepath6606 Місяць тому +7

    6mins in I was already in tears, nobody should ever suffer like this not from your family 😢. I thank Abba for your healing sis, this is just the beginning of happiness in your life. Thank you Apostle for obeying every instruction of God.

  • @obinewuifunanya5935
    @obinewuifunanya5935 Місяць тому +21

    Do not leave your child for a second with anyone that hates you. They will poison his or her heart against you one way or the other.

  • @girlmellaceus
    @girlmellaceus 27 днів тому +3

    Thank you dear Tina for an AMAZING testimony. You're right about healing showing by not breaking down when telling your story.
    Tina you're a survivor and with Christ in your heart you've totally frustrated the devil. Glory! Keep going forward with healing!!

  • @priscillaidio
    @priscillaidio 7 днів тому +5

    That guy is wicked, its not just what her dad told him.
    If it wasn't in his nature to hit a woman or maltreat one, he couldn't just possibly have changed because of a small talk

  • @olorunfemijoshua7753
    @olorunfemijoshua7753 Місяць тому +146

    I don't want to say this, but i need to say this, her father must and her husband must be jailed.

    • @Kizzybassey
      @Kizzybassey 26 днів тому +5

      Honestly the father is the weapon formed against her

    • @bluebrown5566
      @bluebrown5566 23 дні тому +3

      Africa is not yet ready for this kind of truth. Just like we have people that are wicked in the society those people can be someone parents and no one should judge the children especially if they have gone through trauma.

    • @GinaOnaghise
      @GinaOnaghise 21 день тому +6

      Jailed for life !!!!

    • @EstherLipenga
      @EstherLipenga 13 днів тому

      Must be jailed yes yes

    • @NomsLoots
      @NomsLoots 12 днів тому

      Absolutely.

  • @agbabiakaruth5259
    @agbabiakaruth5259 3 дні тому

    This made me tear up and connect back to the past...God is truly in the event of our lives

  • @TheRefinersVesselsNetwork
    @TheRefinersVesselsNetwork Місяць тому +210

    Excerpt she is currently married, could you kindly remove that MRS from her name, so a good husband can find her.❤❤❤ She deserves spousal LOVE again 😍😍😍

    • @45media85
      @45media85 Місяць тому +10

      She does and she's a beautiful lady.

    • @jjabb
      @jjabb Місяць тому +3

      He said Ms Tina.

    • @TheRefinersVesselsNetwork
      @TheRefinersVesselsNetwork Місяць тому +6

      @jjabb - Thank you for noting that. However, what I was referring to is What is Written on the Name Slide shown intermittently before, during and after the interview.
      People are carried away by the story that they may not hear the 'Ms' in the conversation but stick to the MRS they saw. SEEING IS POWERFUL.

    • @mich8999
      @mich8999 18 днів тому

      Once you are or were married you are still officially MRS.

    • @TheRefinersVesselsNetwork
      @TheRefinersVesselsNetwork 18 днів тому +3

      @mich8999 - Even after a Divorce? Mrs who, then?

  • @NGWESENNGAAJEJR
    @NGWESENNGAAJEJR Місяць тому +6

    Just finished listening from Cameroon 🇨🇲🇨🇲.
    I believe i am encouraged 🙏, going through life isn't easy especially when your background is faulty but through your story and testimony i KNOW God is still faithful...

  • @adebimpeadetunji9732
    @adebimpeadetunji9732 Місяць тому +113

    Hmmmmmm, I can tell you most Nigerians are going through a lot, especially when it come to the issue of LOVE trust me. You can not give what you don't have.

    • @theprintperfect
      @theprintperfect Місяць тому +1

      Very right!

    • @funkeoloko4892
      @funkeoloko4892 Місяць тому +1

      YES!!!!

    • @NgiforSandra
      @NgiforSandra 21 день тому +1

      It's not only Nigerians ohh. Come to my country and here or see what people are going through too😢.

  • @modupeahmida3252
    @modupeahmida3252 Місяць тому +10

    God bless pastore Femi, the 1st time a friend talked about the hatred her dad had towards her, i thought it was a lie, until the father did some things, bringing these stories here is really good for people to know things happen, and people that experienced this, to know they are not alone.

  • @leonaugbo4396
    @leonaugbo4396 Місяць тому +54

    I thought I have seen life ooo but this one is beyond crazy. Thank God she is alive, so painful to watch.

  • @Gift-eo7hy
    @Gift-eo7hy Місяць тому +9

    Jesus only when i thought i have been through hell and carrying my tramua like bags only for me to listen to this and see that she has really been through a lot
    When she was smiling and telling the story i was almost tearing
    She is strong, beautiful and great
    God will bless her with a better husband
    Jesus!!!
    At least i know my both parent love me so much even though they failed in many ways

  • @Debbiebunmi73
    @Debbiebunmi73 16 днів тому +4

    God will surely grant you eternal peace and joy. David will give you all the joy your parents failed to give you. Keep being strong. You are indeed a warrior ❤️ 💙

  • @utahbrushes176
    @utahbrushes176 22 дні тому +4

    Awww the way you kept cool narrating your story is heartwarming 🥰Thank you sir for this show….
    The first video I felt led by the HolySpirit to watch was”None of our family’s were at our wedding “ And I was blessed to subscribed

    • @NgomeKeddyeduke-zr4xt
      @NgomeKeddyeduke-zr4xt 22 дні тому +1

      That’s the same video that led me here and I can relate to both stories because it’s my reality too ..
      But I thank God I’m holding on his love ❤️

  • @onifadebolajesutito4519
    @onifadebolajesutito4519 Місяць тому +5

    Thank God Jesus, who heals us from all hurts. Church is a place of Restoration.
    Apostle Lazarus, more impact and relevance. I love and celebrate you dearly.
    This is another dimension in the Body of Christ that find healing to the Soul of men. Thank you sir.

  • @theroyalcheffromfoodmatter2331
    @theroyalcheffromfoodmatter2331 21 день тому +2

    Tina's story looks like mine just that I was loved by my father before his sudden death that year...... I wish I can have the courage to share my story publicly for the first time. I thank God for his love. What a good program Apostle Femi Lazarus, I have always loved your preaching. Thank you.

  • @eseosasarahosahon7506
    @eseosasarahosahon7506 Місяць тому +5

    I must say the truth, you are a strong 💪 woman. I went through a similar story. Just that, I had a good, and strong family who backed me up. Today, God has remembered me, and I'm outside the country teaching. Most of the time I come across Pastor Femi's teachings online, it boasts my faith in Christ, and it has also helped me to discover myself, and I'm still discovering myself. Thank you, sir, and God bless you for your good works.
    To Lady Tina, women like you, go through storms, because you have a whole lot in you that the devil 👹 doesn't want to come to reality. Keep Being Strong 💪 the Lord will see you through.

  • @adefarayolaoluwabunmi8070
    @adefarayolaoluwabunmi8070 11 днів тому +1

    Pastor Femi Lazarus, I thank God for your life. God will bless you. Your teachings and platforms have been so therapeutic and relatable. Thank you for spearheading a different dimension of the gospel. I pray that God will keep you blameless, without spot or blemish until the appearing of our God. Amen

  • @agbadamashiomolara7705
    @agbadamashiomolara7705 23 дні тому +3

    This so touching😭😭😭, you are truly a strong woman. I pray that God will continuously bless and protect you sis. Thank you pastor femi for this platform, God bless you sir.

  • @ngozijessyca9921
    @ngozijessyca9921 Місяць тому +71

    She provided for them and fixed things, as she unconsciously sought their acceptance and hoped for them to finally like her. Just like any toxic relationship, they will still remind you that they didn't ask you to do all those things

    • @ruthuwa2470
      @ruthuwa2470 Місяць тому +6

      She wasn't really giving for them to like her, she is naturally a good person......she have a good heart n a giver.

    • @mariaclement5964
      @mariaclement5964 Місяць тому

      She does not owe them anything

    • @priscillaamaka1527
      @priscillaamaka1527 Місяць тому +2

      She needs to priorities herself. Self love is very crucial. They can never love her even if she dies for them. They are evil. She needs to focus on God. Her true healing comes from Him and also take care of herself and boy.

    • @Whoisthatgirl2121
      @Whoisthatgirl2121 Місяць тому +1

      Sounds like a narcissist
      She sounds like the family scapegoat

    • @ngozieze5819
      @ngozieze5819 24 дні тому +2

      @@ruthuwa2470 She is actually trying to buy their love and acceptance unconsciously. As Jessyca said, that is typical of what people in toxic relationships do - try to make themselves small to not offend their oppressors and being overly good/nice to their own detriment.

  • @dianeadewole217
    @dianeadewole217 28 днів тому +11

    Church is not a scam. Thank You, Lord, for the Cross.

  • @lindaschreuers1700
    @lindaschreuers1700 Місяць тому +38

    From the moment she started talking I could hear the secret tears pouring from her inner spirit. It’s the baddest of all when the heart begins to shed tears because it’s invisible. I feel your pain Tina ! But please see the bigger picture that God has destined you for greatness and even the demonic altar from your household knows this!!! Gods hands will uphold you!! His eyes will continue to watch over you and David! You are a conqueror!!!! Pray and forgive ur family 0:10 but keep ur distance until Jesus says so❤
    Just did a transfer to your account, pls accept our token. Love you ❤

  • @Ola44006
    @Ola44006 18 днів тому +3

    Your story is similar to mine, thanks for sharing. I promise to keep thriving😢 I won’t give up💯

  • @omawumirunsewe792
    @omawumirunsewe792 29 днів тому +2

    This program is mind blowing Sir. God will continually support you, preserve you and give you the strength and wisdom to win more souls to God's kingdom. Amen

  • @ChidinmaNwamara
    @ChidinmaNwamara Місяць тому +16

    Sister Tina, im happy for the salvation of your soul which is most important
    Is so unfortunate we cant choose our families but we can always choose our outcomes ..
    Please focus on yourself and child for now till you heal completely
    May God strengthen you 🙏

  • @asenathogallo2154
    @asenathogallo2154 5 годин тому

    I'm lost of words. Powerful testimony!

  • @nkechianyaoha4146
    @nkechianyaoha4146 Місяць тому +3

    Jez I still have goose pimples hearing this story. I am in for the last part. You truly deserve it. A super Woman indeed

  • @azunnaebubechi4969
    @azunnaebubechi4969 Місяць тому +57

    No apology, your younger brothers ARE DAMAGED. Future apologies to the women who will be their wives. Sisters you both are in for a big war.

    • @adedoyinbadejo679
      @adedoyinbadejo679 Місяць тому +20

      By God's grace, they will find Christ and become new creatures

    • @ogwuchemercy6761
      @ogwuchemercy6761 Місяць тому +5

      ​@@adedoyinbadejo679I pray so because of they are idoma, they will continue with the same character of their father. Am an idoma and I can tell this Lady is idoma from the way she's talking

    • @queenesther3059
      @queenesther3059 18 днів тому

      ​@@ogwuchemercy6761the lady is igala not idoma,but what does it even matter where she is from?

  • @AdeyinkaAdegbaju-o1g
    @AdeyinkaAdegbaju-o1g Місяць тому +9

    I’m grateful to God for reaching her with light. Her story is so intense, no one should pass through such. God be with her. Our government needs to do better to protect children and vulnerable people

  • @MyaniFashion
    @MyaniFashion 11 днів тому +1

    Thank you, Pastor Lazarus, for using your platform to inspire and uplift, bringing hope to those who need it most. Your commitment to changing lives is truly impactful.
    Sister Tina, your courage in sharing your story is deeply appreciated. Only God could have given you the strength to face such challenges and speak out. His unwavering support has kept you, ensuring that despair did not consume you, because you are a bearer of His glory and “nations are inside of you” as the Bible affirms. Watching your testimony moved me to tears; it was as if the trials of your past were meant to break you, but God’s grace sustained you. The hardships you endured could have led anyone to a place of darkness, but I thank the Lord that you have emerged stronger and are here to share your journey. I see you having your own platform by the special grace of God to give counsel and to uplift others. Amen. 🙏🏽💝
    To all those who sought to undermine your destiny, their plans have failed. God’s intervention proved victorious, and His light shone through. May you continue to move forward toward your promised land, with His glory evident in your life, in Jesus’ mighty name.
    May God continue to uphold you and enlarge your coast. Amen❤

  • @iyanuoluwaadeniran3280
    @iyanuoluwaadeniran3280 Місяць тому +7

    If it means anything sister, Happy New Year to you, i will say it a million times if you want. You are not alone, i also went through a similar case, but by the grace of God even though every day may be a struggle, we will hold on to the Hope of glory in Christ , that if He is for us everything will turn out good. Much love to you and to David

  • @LGMI9
    @LGMI9 15 днів тому

    The patience Pastor has to listen to these stories without interfering
    God bless you Sir
    People are going through stuff

  • @stellachinyere2170
    @stellachinyere2170 Місяць тому +34

    One man, destroying four children by himself plus his wife😢😢😢😢😢

  • @DanielAboagye-vk8dw
    @DanielAboagye-vk8dw 23 дні тому +2

    Ths is real life story is just so revealing and inciteful on what people have been through. God bless you sir.

  • @GraceDemi-kh9dp
    @GraceDemi-kh9dp Місяць тому +48

    I don't think the man is her biological dad. This is really cruel.

  • @jenniferbenstowe6805
    @jenniferbenstowe6805 28 днів тому +121

    I don't understand the level of submissiveness that would make a woman not shield her child from a monster😭😭😭😭😭

    • @edithigbinovie8008
      @edithigbinovie8008 25 днів тому +4

      You say my mind what kind of useless submissiveness is that God have mercy 😢

    • @mariaokoi7800
      @mariaokoi7800 22 дні тому

      I swear! Watching it made me angry with her. I felt deep sympathy at the beginning but towards the end, I was so angry with the way she was letting herself to be kicked down continuously. 😡

    • @adeidowu3573
      @adeidowu3573 21 день тому +1

      True. It’s sad that some women are just dogmatic. Why have a child you cannot protect? Very shameful.

    • @GinaOnaghise
      @GinaOnaghise 21 день тому +10

      @@mariaokoi7800when you grow up with constant intimidation you get used to it . I wanted to be angry at her too but it’s not her fault .. She doesn’t know anything else other than being shut out and intimidated

    • @whitecloudstravels8239
      @whitecloudstravels8239 15 днів тому

      It baffles me

  • @yaya4302
    @yaya4302 Місяць тому +11

    Such a beautiful woman..only God kept her indeed

  • @dreamyflowevents7029
    @dreamyflowevents7029 Місяць тому +8

    This is so disheartening to hear. I pray Tina that you will be completely healed and enjoy a beautiful life. You will live a full and fulfilled life. I don’t think I have ever heard parents especially a mother treat their own child like this. Even if your father hates you, how about your mother that carried you for 9 months? I’m speechless and short of words, it is well

  • @ijeomanwanosike6390
    @ijeomanwanosike6390 24 дні тому +3

    Oh myyyyy🥺🥺😭😭this is just too deep and emotional for me to handle!!! May my God comfort this woman on all sides and give her rest round about!!! Nobody deserves to go through all of these inhuman treatment, not even from your own family!! Tina, the joy of the Lord will continually be your strength in life and destiny and may all things work together for your good! You are a heroine and please don't ever forget that not all heroes wear capes!! I'm rooting for you hugely even though i don't know you personally but I'm sending you love, light, hugs and cuddles! God bless you siss! To AFL, you may not know the depth or gravity of healing , succour and restoration that this YT channel brings to those who watch it just yet but the facts will begin to speak for themselves in due time. May God continue to strengthen you as you spread the gospel of peace, comfort, emotional healing and grace through this platform. You're a rare gem in this generation and the Almighty Himself will keep you for us sir.

    • @tinaocheni2684
      @tinaocheni2684 23 дні тому

      @@ijeomanwanosike6390 Amen 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

  • @eseosagift91
    @eseosagift91 6 днів тому

    God bless you Apostle Femi Lazarus