HOW I SURVIVED THE TRAUMA OF A TOXIC BACKGROUND AND AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

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  • @BumafrikFashion
    @BumafrikFashion 3 місяці тому +613

    Many interviewer needs to learn from pastor Lazarus
    Listen more and let your guests talk
    God bless you sir

    • @ifyuwakwe8343
      @ifyuwakwe8343 3 місяці тому +5

      Exactly

    • @RealMoneyBaddie
      @RealMoneyBaddie 3 місяці тому +9

      I agree especially Nedu Wazobia

    • @rachealodey9318
      @rachealodey9318 3 місяці тому +7

      Lots of improvement from the first interview 😊

    • @adaugodafalcon
      @adaugodafalcon 2 місяці тому

      😂​@@RealMoneyBaddie

    • @kiniudokang1809
      @kiniudokang1809 2 місяці тому +2

      Exactly what I was just saying!!! They interrupt too often.

  • @bbjames5904
    @bbjames5904 3 місяці тому +740

    There is something unique about this lady, she doesn’t even look like what she’s been through. She has a lot to offer, I pray it unfolds faster than she imagine. Thank God for your healing.

  • @DiamondChillah-zu6sn
    @DiamondChillah-zu6sn 3 місяці тому +1334

    If you come from a godly home you honestly do not know what God did to you. That's your first great blessing.

    • @EbereBenedicta
      @EbereBenedicta 3 місяці тому +16

      Honestly

    • @mukoroelo6796
      @mukoroelo6796 3 місяці тому +76

      It's depends on what you refer to godly, some parents love God but don't give attention to their children.

    • @adebolaifeoluwa-h1x
      @adebolaifeoluwa-h1x 3 місяці тому +2

      Yes ooo
      That's the first blessing they are enjoying

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 3 місяці тому +10

      And we owe it to perpuate the godly cycle and also to be emotionally available to our children.

    • @andrewoluwayemi7591
      @andrewoluwayemi7591 3 місяці тому +2

      So true 🎉

  • @uzone247
    @uzone247 3 місяці тому +252

    In this life, you need Jesus, a good church, a good pastor and good relationships.

  • @josephayodele4615
    @josephayodele4615 2 місяці тому +101

    Her husband was the therapy God sent to her😢.

  • @offiongekpenyongTHP
    @offiongekpenyongTHP 3 місяці тому +770

    The kind of podcast we need in this generation

  • @mustieeykurfieey5730
    @mustieeykurfieey5730 3 місяці тому +936

    Had to watched d full video all d way from tictok. I’m a muslim but this pastor is really wat all people want as their spiritual guidance

  • @renablaze548
    @renablaze548 3 місяці тому +377

    My God!back in lokoja(phase 1) I knew her as a kid, I’m friends with her elder brother.
    Even at a very tender age she showed strong signs of being a very very strong woman one that is full of potentials❤ I pray you completely heal.

  • @uzone247
    @uzone247 3 місяці тому +172

    Truly, we need to meet her fiance and shake or hug him. The guy is amazing. He needs to be studied. Let him come and teach us.

  • @temitopeoke728
    @temitopeoke728 3 місяці тому +62

    Apiostle pleaase, if you can see this comment, this woman is an asset, a deliverer to help a certain group of voiceless and helpless people. Please teach her , so that she can heal and develop capacity.

  • @charityijeoma
    @charityijeoma 3 місяці тому +623

    She's literally telling my story. Thank God for growth and healing. No more wanting to revenge. My healing will be perfected IN Jesus name amen

  • @motivational.university01
    @motivational.university01 3 місяці тому +910

    Don't pretend like you don't see this, may your mom live more than 80 years ❤️

  • @IfeoluwaJoyAdewumi
    @IfeoluwaJoyAdewumi 3 місяці тому +635

    She mentioned earlier that she will tell her story without repeating lines. Guyyys, she was right! She didn’t repeat any. This woman saw a lot 😢

  • @stellahaanongon950
    @stellahaanongon950 3 місяці тому +87

    I'm surprised she didn't cry saying this. She has really shedded a lot of tears.
    I love you Ufedo. May God continue to help you through your husband to be.
    Now I know I didn't see half of what you went through.

  • @bayosalakoakapbeeakapastor263
    @bayosalakoakapbeeakapastor263 3 місяці тому +158

    Her mystery has become her ministry. Her ministry is birthed through her trials and temptation. Watch out for this lady. God is going to use her to liberate many from the confinement of the devil.

  • @aralolaakinyemi2723
    @aralolaakinyemi2723 3 місяці тому +281

    Dear Pastor Femi Lazarus, Thank you, sir for saying YES to the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ.

  • @bunmiebun
    @bunmiebun 3 місяці тому +538

    Her husband should be appreciated.

  • @el-zino4292
    @el-zino4292 3 місяці тому +141

    Truly the devil is in trouble!!! This woman is emerging and there's nothing that loser can do! Thank you Jesus ❤

  • @TanyaMackay-b3r
    @TanyaMackay-b3r Місяць тому +7

    Thank you. I’m a Jamaican living in the UK. I have been trying to understand me for a while. God has been healing me and this is another layer of wisdom I didn’t understand. Thanks you both. I am so proud of your honesty.

  • @ajasaadeola6581
    @ajasaadeola6581 3 місяці тому +36

    Despite that I came from a home where my parents did not practice the same religion, I still experienced love and there was peace no contradiction. I give God the glory. And I pray for my sister who just shared her story, that the lord will heal you completely because you have conquered the devil. Shalom!

  • @israeldeborah-xy9qu
    @israeldeborah-xy9qu 3 місяці тому +357

    When I tell people that I've never heard my parents raise their voices at eachother, they tell me it's not possible.
    People need healing 😢

    • @adesinafelicia3566
      @adesinafelicia3566 3 місяці тому

      Hmmmm

    • @amarachinwachukwu6028
      @amarachinwachukwu6028 3 місяці тому +14

      When i tell people this too, they don’t believe me. Until my mum passed away, i never saw her and my father raise voices at each other.

    • @israeldeborah-xy9qu
      @israeldeborah-xy9qu 3 місяці тому

      @@amarachinwachukwu6028 so sorry for your loss dear

    • @salomechukwu4825
      @salomechukwu4825 3 місяці тому

      @@amarachinwachukwu6028same here

    • @rachaelobasi1890
      @rachaelobasi1890 3 місяці тому +13

      Dear God, I pray for a marriage void of quarrels and troubles.
      I pray for a peaceful and happy home

  • @Godzymediastudios
    @Godzymediastudios 3 місяці тому +1626

    If you’re coming from instagram gather here

  • @mekeruche
    @mekeruche 3 місяці тому +222

    This young woman is obviously gifted and talented and the devil tried to take her out early . I see her wining multitudes and to Christ

  • @cynthiaohabuiro3869
    @cynthiaohabuiro3869 Місяць тому +6

    She's so beautiful.
    A happy life looks good on you. You're full of life and beauty 🥰

  • @faithnkirote955
    @faithnkirote955 2 місяці тому +14

    I listened to this,had a family fellowship shortly after and as we sang There's healing in the blood of Jesus such power gushed through the phone call...20 minutes we couldn't talk.Jesus really came to heal us.I know I am healed ..I have been healing and I know today for sure desolations of many generations have been restored in my life and my family.
    God bless you Apostle Femi Lazarus and Ufe..
    Thanks galore

  • @tosinodede2794
    @tosinodede2794 3 місяці тому +103

    The fact that she shared all of these without shedding tears amazed me. She has cried alot in the past truly.

    • @augustinaoluchi1902
      @augustinaoluchi1902 3 місяці тому +12

      She has been healed,that is the sign.Crying and shedding of tears is a sign that the pain is still there.

    • @ellianadimond3656
      @ellianadimond3656 3 місяці тому +9

      My dear, I am here doing the crying. My thoughts too

    • @tosinodede2794
      @tosinodede2794 3 місяці тому +3

      @@augustinaoluchi1902 Hmmmm that might be true.

    • @tosinodede2794
      @tosinodede2794 3 місяці тому +15

      @@augustinaoluchi1902 You know sometimes we cry not Because we are not yet healed, we cry because we remember what we passed through even though we have been healed.

    • @lingeries_nightwear
      @lingeries_nightwear 3 місяці тому

      Honestly she tried...I was literally crying while watching

  • @triumphantakobi3485
    @triumphantakobi3485 3 місяці тому +59

    She's literally literally telling my story!
    Almost lost my husband due to trauma.
    Kai! This lady is saying how healing story!
    I just don't even have words.
    Thank you Jesus for healing, thank you Apostle for teaching on this

  • @AVfittings
    @AVfittings 3 місяці тому +137

    This lady said if she start talking she will go on and won’t repeat herself, truly she has been through a lot I hope she finds the healing she deserves

  • @peace-n7h
    @peace-n7h 2 місяці тому +12

    Wowwww, if u have a lovely family, no quarrelling no fighting, just be grateful to God... Thank God for your life... Your life is indeed a testimony❤❤❤

  • @atatadaleyvivian2370
    @atatadaleyvivian2370 Місяць тому +5

    God in himself has made me to discover this channel this day.
    This episode is what am truly going through, am in an abusive marriage which have produced 3 beautiful daughters, but God has helped me today to believe in myself and know that thjs relationship is wrong and pray God to smoothly pull me out and keep me and my children.
    Thank you for sharing

  • @Evang.Mike_Onyebuchi
    @Evang.Mike_Onyebuchi 3 місяці тому +578

    The battle you have faced is because of the grace you carry. It's a dangerous grace, it scares the kingdom of darkness. But your light has come! They've thrown their best punch, but now is your turn: SCATTER EVERYTHING, MAKE THE DEVIL CRY! SHINE FOR GOD'S GLORY!!!

    • @UfedojoyYahaya
      @UfedojoyYahaya 3 місяці тому +21

      Ohhh thank you!!! I receive it in Jesus name 😢

    • @EberechiFavour-do2gl
      @EberechiFavour-do2gl 3 місяці тому +3

      I shine for God's glory

    • @cospacdtutor4824
      @cospacdtutor4824 3 місяці тому +9

      Best comment. Pls like, I must come back for this revelation

    • @dikrojoseph5886
      @dikrojoseph5886 3 місяці тому +3

    • @bibbiehitarget3447
      @bibbiehitarget3447 3 місяці тому +4

      I was going to learn n I changed on this video and it's almost like my life story for the past 23yrs of loose my parents as a pupil,and I know there's an end to it because healing has come to the glory of God,thank u Bishop for being a good Man of God.

  • @uzohovictoria4693
    @uzohovictoria4693 3 місяці тому +73

    I literally cried watching her speak. This is a lot, coming from a functional loving home is a big win. May the Lord help us to be better and be the best for our kids. Amen

  • @victoryotuya10
    @victoryotuya10 3 місяці тому +219

    He picks the broken, mends it lovely and use it for His Glory.

  • @Inyeneobong_CPU
    @Inyeneobong_CPU 3 місяці тому +17

    OMG, listening to all you went through brought tears from my eyes 😢
    I'm like, "you mean someone actually went through all these, and she's still living?"
    You're indeed a strong and destined Woman.
    And a woman of purpose.
    God bless your Husband. And may your love for each other continue to grow. Thank God for coming through and pulling strong from all those things. Thank God for your permanent healing.

  • @janezipporah4949
    @janezipporah4949 3 місяці тому +6

    This is the first time i watch a podcast from beginning to end. My heart goes out to everyone facing this challenge.

  • @kenifad2466
    @kenifad2466 3 місяці тому +56

    Thank you for allowing her to tell her story without punctuating it with questions. Your questions on this video were well timed and it gave her the opportunity to pour her heart out. Thank you for making the change from the other woman Evangelist video. God bless you brother for what you are doing.

  • @ronnycrown
    @ronnycrown 3 місяці тому +55

    Healing is a vital part of a dysfunctional life. This story made me realise that I also need to heal from my dysfunctional background. Now, mine is not as worse as hers, but I thank God for helping her heal at the end of the day.
    Thank you Apostle Femi Lazarus. You are indeed a blessing to this generation.

    • @AwoyemiOmolara
      @AwoyemiOmolara 2 місяці тому

      Check apostle’s page he has a message on dysfunctional background it will really bless you

  • @preceyshow6803
    @preceyshow6803 3 місяці тому +42

    She had cried so much that she no longer has any tears left in her eyes. I mean how could you not shed a single drop of tears, narrating this story? Thanks to God for His healing power.

    • @ehirimgoodness824
      @ehirimgoodness824 3 місяці тому +2

      Likee..i myself was crying listening to her story😢

    • @preceyshow6803
      @preceyshow6803 3 місяці тому

      ​@@ehirimgoodness824I couldn't describe the way I felt listening to her story.

    • @ememebong9191
      @ememebong9191 3 місяці тому

      I tell u😢😢😢

  • @lenn7714
    @lenn7714 Місяць тому +3

    I am so in love with this lady. She’s born with a purpose. She is a message to this generation

  • @gracefaithjanet2673
    @gracefaithjanet2673 2 місяці тому +3

    What a testimony! My friend came from an abusive background she married a good man. She was so grateful and fit right in although she struggled she never became abusive or had hatred to this level. She was blessed to have such a man full of kindness and love

  • @OlaJulien
    @OlaJulien 3 місяці тому +57

    And one thing I really love about this lady is that she is so real in everything she says. She does not try to hide some aspects of her in the past. That is a thing to congratulate

    • @AnaChukwu
      @AnaChukwu 18 днів тому

      Honestly 🥹🥹🥹

  • @Ladydecency11.
    @Ladydecency11. 3 місяці тому +39

    You're really a conqueror
    You will never know pain again
    God bless you, Pastor Lazarus

  • @gkimbi706
    @gkimbi706 3 місяці тому +31

    Her beauty is something else like there is this aura❤ around her. Feels like everyone have got to know her. You are blessed my dear. May God heal you and heal your relatives too

  • @Hoppeyhub
    @Hoppeyhub 16 днів тому +1

    Her story touched me so bad😢I pray one day , I'm going to tell my story to the word.people are going through alot,but they keep smiling and all.how can I meet this man of God.i just love everything he does and the way he brought people to share their story to the world 🌍.

  • @SobechiRachael
    @SobechiRachael 3 місяці тому +15

    Pastor femi God bless you sir, i can relate with this lady omo pain is heavy oh, mine came with asthma effects like i had an inhaler for almost 5 years and i could enter mini coma like pass out for two to three days under oxygen tanks as a result of groaning.. i gradually started hallucinating too and survived suicide in 2023 but thank God for saving me before my parents understood how severe i needed help, i have had 2 therapy sessions in the last 3 years and to be honest it didn't work for me till i started listening to persons like APOSTLE JOSHUA SELMAN, PASTOR FEMI LAZARUS and i also joined NSPPD Prayers . i know that i will still tell my story one day but till then thank you sir for all you do God bless

  • @bernicejoy3038
    @bernicejoy3038 3 місяці тому +106

    I saw a piece of this on Instagram and came right here ❤ ... This is so deep and to hear the girl put all these things into the right words takes tons of healing. Glad she made it .. Thanks to the pastor who brought this out in a beautiful 🎉 way with healing 😍..

  • @Osia.M.M
    @Osia.M.M 3 місяці тому +13

    How broken pastor Femi is just shows how his heart is full of love..
    ❤❤ ,🇿🇲🇿🇲

  • @kyautaezekiel9526
    @kyautaezekiel9526 3 місяці тому +16

    How she did not drop a tear😢😢😢while sharing her story 🥺🥺hmmmmm
    Such a strong woman…God will continue to heal you ma🙏🏾🙏🏾🥹

  • @jagboroadvertreviewtv1030
    @jagboroadvertreviewtv1030 2 місяці тому +4

    I respect your fiancee. A really big thank you to him

  • @ezeesther7334
    @ezeesther7334 3 місяці тому +40

    This is one reason I don't judge people who don't behave the way an adult is ought to behave because I don't know how their childhood experiences are or their life experiences is... Thank God for the healing process, you are a testimony Ma

  • @bimpedaniel3706
    @bimpedaniel3706 3 місяці тому +80

    Dear Lord let me and my husband be there for our children.

  • @AKANJEMIMAH
    @AKANJEMIMAH 3 місяці тому +76

    Please o as you're watching, remember to like!!!
    It helps the video spread faster.
    I know you're blessed by it, bless another too.
    Thank you and God bless you

  • @That-Benue-Chef
    @That-Benue-Chef 3 місяці тому +43

    I didn't know when I started crying. I could relate with many of the things this lady talked about.
    Imagine getting to the point of simply accepting ill treatment and abuse from people as part of life, just because those who were supposed to protect and set the standards failed us.
    A man once told me that I am too masculine and defensive to be a lady😂😂. I laughed it off because I know he would not understand if I told him that being like that is the only way I know how to protect and defend myself. Unfortunately, not ever on is emotionally intelligent enough to identify or understand trauma and the effect it has on an individual.
    Thank you pastor 🙏. May God bless and you because this generation needs you.
    God bless you my sister, I have learnt so much from your story today and I pray that someday, I will have the courage like you, to share mine with others.

  • @Hoppeyhub
    @Hoppeyhub 16 днів тому +2

    Her story is exactly like my own 😢 God heal me from what I'm going through and my Love ones too 🤗😢

  • @argent4361
    @argent4361 3 місяці тому +281

    Who else noticed;? that whenever she gets to a happy memory she smiles🥲

    • @chunadine7795
      @chunadine7795 2 місяці тому +6

      I noticed that too 😢😢who no like peace and beautiful memories

    • @kaysiechinere7285
      @kaysiechinere7285 Місяць тому +4

      It's a psychological thing. My therapist said I also did that in our first sessions

    • @argent4361
      @argent4361 Місяць тому

      ​@@kaysiechinere7285WOW

    • @argent4361
      @argent4361 Місяць тому

      ​@@chunadine7795 yeah

    • @mangacecilia1427
      @mangacecilia1427 Місяць тому +1

      I noticed that especially when she mentioned about her math's teacher ,how he paid her fees and later smiles saying "he is a good man".

  • @TemiloluwaAyoolaOso
    @TemiloluwaAyoolaOso 3 місяці тому +65

    The Ministry of Fatherhood is something we need to take serious

  • @princessnelson1998
    @princessnelson1998 3 місяці тому +68

    This just reminds me of the gracious Father we have🤭🥰
    People may look and say, "is this one a Christian? This one that curses at the slightest provocation or this one that is so bitter, bla bla bla", but that's not how our Father sees us, He's so loving, so patient, waiting for the perfect time to fix us 🥹
    When you think what you're going through is too much, and then you hear someone else's experience 😂😂😂 My God!! I have drawn strength from this 😌
    Thank you so much ma for sharing your experiences with us and thank you Apostle for hosting this❤️

    • @_adenike
      @_adenike 3 місяці тому +1

      I was going to just scroll by but I'm glad I didn't. You have no idea how this comment has touched something in me

  • @ujiyafavour
    @ujiyafavour 3 місяці тому +194

    Her maths teacher that paid for her weac, was my teacher too. He use to talk about her. Mr Okehi

    • @ebierekoroye2327
      @ebierekoroye2327 3 місяці тому +3

      Oh wow!

    • @OmotayoMaraiyesa
      @OmotayoMaraiyesa 2 місяці тому +16

      Mr. Okechi needs to be awarded

    • @amaogechux5185
      @amaogechux5185 2 місяці тому +11

      Please we need to give him something. I wish I can reach him

    • @DivinefavourIkechukwu
      @DivinefavourIkechukwu 2 місяці тому +8

      He needs to be rewarded ooo

    • @GenevieveChisom
      @GenevieveChisom 2 місяці тому +15

      If you have Mr okechi's, contact share it he needs to be encouraged and appreciated

  • @Godsfavoritechild100
    @Godsfavoritechild100 3 місяці тому +33

    In my life there has always been two narratives. For every small mistake, my mother would scream so loud and tell me that I am a disappointment. Another narrative was that I was smart and people around me always said I would do great things. I am an adult now trying to make something of myself but feeling like a failure because i believed my mother. The way parents treat us has such a huge impact on our lives and I pray that we all find a way to heal and to believe what God says about us above every lie of the enemy.❤

    • @adeolaolatunji862
      @adeolaolatunji862 3 місяці тому

      Same here, my mummy could shout at me, call me bad names, but five years ago she's trying to correct it, but am still trying to come around

    • @goladihappy5847
      @goladihappy5847 2 місяці тому

      Don't allow those words gets to you
      I'm a survivor of something similar from my mom

  • @hyskulexpo4262
    @hyskulexpo4262 Місяць тому +1

    Apostle Femi Lazarus is a blessing, a huge blessing to this generation. He has blessed me personally so so much . God bless you Sir

  • @ValleyOfBlessing
    @ValleyOfBlessing 3 місяці тому +338

    Since God delivered me from an abusive relationship 5years ago, I can say Jesus is still working on me, he's still healing me, ohhhh the trauma, anxiety is a lot, I'm from a loving family but a strict christian home, so I was scared to speak up because I'm not supposed to be "dating" in the first place, oh I suffered in silence for 4years, I almost ran mad, but Jesus is so good, the only part that is difficult is for me is to forget everything, I just want God to wipe the memories off.

    • @favouregbe7299
      @favouregbe7299 3 місяці тому +15

      I pray God surrounds you with His love 🎉🎉 Keep feeding your mind with God's word. And just believing He loves you.....the memory fades with time.

    • @ValleyOfBlessing
      @ValleyOfBlessing 3 місяці тому

      ​@@favouregbe7299 Thank you so much

    • @Donmykeinterior
      @Donmykeinterior 3 місяці тому +5

      God will perfect your healing

    • @ValleyOfBlessing
      @ValleyOfBlessing 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Donmykeinterior Amen 🙏

    • @victoriaaniedo6437
      @victoriaaniedo6437 3 місяці тому +2

      I pray God comforts your heart and fill your heart with his love ❤❤

  • @chinenyenwankwor8761
    @chinenyenwankwor8761 3 місяці тому +46

    Kudos to the man who took to walking you through this healing. I wish there are more people like that.

  • @lifestyle-uncensored
    @lifestyle-uncensored 3 місяці тому +18

    This lady is still healing. I pray God makes her completely whole.

  • @chinenyeezeibe7868
    @chinenyeezeibe7868 3 місяці тому +26

    This lady is going to be a terror to the kingdom of darkness, the devil knows that, that is why he tried to destroy her, to God be the glory, your healing will be permanent and so many will be delivered through your experience

    • @thesexyfarmer4877
      @thesexyfarmer4877 2 місяці тому +2

      The devil didn’t do anything . She was not lucky to come out of the right people “ mother & father “ … Why do Christians always want to blame the devil for the wrong things human beings do to each other ???

  • @Abbyozie
    @Abbyozie 3 місяці тому +14

    I can't even work, I leave work to concentrate on this video. God!!

  • @stephaniechidiadi7149
    @stephaniechidiadi7149 3 місяці тому +123

    You'll never understand her pains if you've never been in this position... I vowed to never give birth outside marriage because I had a terrible childhood. Lord we thank you for healing. Thank you Apostle.

    • @ennytanempire
      @ennytanempire 3 місяці тому

      Right

    • @estyonyi8153
      @estyonyi8153 3 місяці тому

      Same here 😭

    • @deeoshun5258
      @deeoshun5258 3 місяці тому +3

      My dear, u will have a good marriage. U can give birth in marriage and still suffer but that's not ur portion. U will marry, and marry well.

    • @ogwuchemercy6761
      @ogwuchemercy6761 3 місяці тому +1

      God will honour your prayers in Jesus mighty name Amen

    • @rachealodey9318
      @rachealodey9318 3 місяці тому +3

      Same journey. I am 36 this year still trusting God for marriage in order not to repeat family pattern
      God will make a way for us

  • @faithikusemijupraises
    @faithikusemijupraises 3 місяці тому +137

    Please don't rush her to part Two. Help her heal before the wedding. So the guy will not suffer. The guy is her strong point. Thanks to you Pastor for being her Father. Please don't leave her.

    • @tinycoloredmiracle
      @tinycoloredmiracle 3 місяці тому +2

      I agreeeeee

    • @adejumojoy7821
      @adejumojoy7821 3 місяці тому +8

      Thank you, you said my mind.
      She needs more time to heal better. She has gone through to much for her age. God will completely heal her in Jesus name

  • @austinamokogwu3894
    @austinamokogwu3894 3 місяці тому +34

    I intentionally came to UA-cam to look for this video.
    The confidence that a person has after being able to successfully come out of of a dark place and face your demons is unmatched, you can feel the emotions as she talks about it. See ehh no matter how bad your situation is , God still performs wonders.

  • @adazzsthoughts
    @adazzsthoughts 3 місяці тому +8

    Her message is so profound!
    Thank you so much for putting it out there.
    Hearing her story will bring healing to a lot of people.
    God bless she and her fiancé!

  • @daoduomoluku6118
    @daoduomoluku6118 Місяць тому +2

    I see myself in her story - struggling with trauma, finding no solace in medication. Instead, I've learned to manage it. Even now, in my 40s, I still experience moments where trauma resurfaces, derailing my work, motivation, and inspiration. Vivid childhood memories flash before me, transporting me back to a painful past.
    My trauma has left an indelible mark. I recall every day of my life from age 6 to 21 with haunting clarity. University was particularly challenging; I was rendered speechless, unable to utter a word to anyone for two whole years. The label 'dumb' stuck, a painful reminder of my struggles.

  • @olushanuonasanya5276
    @olushanuonasanya5276 3 місяці тому +18

    Her story truly resonates. I suffered the same, but I am thankful for God's Grace and to the man I married who sees beyond all my flaws. I pray that God continues His healing in all of us.

    • @AwoyemiOmolara
      @AwoyemiOmolara 2 місяці тому +1

      That’s the most important thing ooo
      May god bless us with a good man to make us have the love we never had while growing up

  • @lucretialikulungwa8404
    @lucretialikulungwa8404 3 місяці тому +9

    I cried and cried, I thank God for the message of healing from dysfunctional background, even though I haven't healed fully but I see a great change in my life

  • @blessingemaye
    @blessingemaye 3 місяці тому +70

    To people with similar stories, I pray we heal completely ❤❤

  • @Kuhle980
    @Kuhle980 2 місяці тому +5

    She is so respectful, meek and gentle. The things she went through are painful. God sent her the right man and forced her into her healing. I think if healing doesn't happen, you will exhibit the patterns of trauma you experienced.

  • @INIMISCOLLECTION
    @INIMISCOLLECTION 3 місяці тому +10

    Hmmmm, I congratulate you for someone holding your hand into your healing. I am holding myself by myself, but I am determined to heal somehow, trusting God to help me.
    I hope that someday I will be able to use my story to help the world (I mean my kind in the world)
    I pray for total healing for you, and I wish myself the same.

  • @perryrand876
    @perryrand876 3 місяці тому +10

    It’s the way she smiled through this … sweet sweet girl. May God heal your heart and your pain dear one. ❤️

  • @rhemarhodahchukudimma3020
    @rhemarhodahchukudimma3020 3 місяці тому +29

    This babe has cried all the tears in her, she has none again to shed. That is why she can say all these without a tear, while i the listen is filled with tears

  • @TaiwoAdetola-pn7yg
    @TaiwoAdetola-pn7yg 3 місяці тому +7

    I was so engrossed watching this story and what amaze me is she didn’t look like what she go through. Grace has found you and God will expand you. Thank you PASTOR FEMI LAZARUS

  • @rispha
    @rispha 3 місяці тому +13

    I could tell she faced alot like a whole lot that if many had experienced they would have died and not survived it but she was really preserved and strengthened....
    She is really strong and has such a powerful grace...
    The most beautiful part of this story that fascinates me is her husband ... Not many men I mean believers and MOG's can ever accept to stay through with such women, even knowing she is still in process and being worked on....instead If you ask them they'll always say they want the good submissive ones from a good or pastoral background that will give them peace of mind.
    I would really love to hear from him his own part and how he accepted her to be his wife... because he is such a great hero and a real MOG. He did what many can never do...
    Many of us feel undeserving of good men like him because of what we had gone through... Lord please renew and transform our mind 🙏
    I really celebrate her and her story this is so miraculous of God. And may God bless us with good spouses beyond our imagination by his mercies and grace.

  • @ekwejuliet9376
    @ekwejuliet9376 3 місяці тому +73

    " every single person I ever trusted have brought me pain". This hit me real bad😢.
    I wish to heal

    • @oliveiris6193
      @oliveiris6193 Місяць тому

      U will ok just believe

    • @alliebeading
      @alliebeading Місяць тому

      I pray that heal in the name of Jesus Christ amen ❤

  • @Etuajie
    @Etuajie 3 місяці тому +13

    Dear Pastor Femi Lazarus sir, Thank you for pick your call to ministry.
    God bless you sir.❤

  • @deborahrobert307
    @deborahrobert307 3 місяці тому +19

    Alot to learn from her story. Watch out for patterns in families. She said her sister is currently experiencing mental issues. But thank God for the blood of JESUS who blots out every ordinance written against us.

  • @Earnflair_official
    @Earnflair_official 3 місяці тому +10

    One of the reasons Apostle will always be my favourite. Always digging to the root, rather than just judge blindly. Thank you so much for such an amazing time. Thank you for bringing us this opportunity, thank you so much for sharing, my beautiful sister. May God perfect your healing. God bless you, ma and sir❤

  • @ANGELASUNDAYCOSMASAMULEmefgi
    @ANGELASUNDAYCOSMASAMULEmefgi 3 місяці тому +20

    This is literally 60% of my life story 😭😩but then we have a GREAT GOD that never forsakes or abandons us 🙌😇Grateful that he was working behind the scenes 😩❤️🤲

    • @munshepmaxceline3672
      @munshepmaxceline3672 3 місяці тому

      40% of what I went through. The only way is to fine Jesus. Thank for God...

  • @NanaEsiAmporful
    @NanaEsiAmporful 2 місяці тому +9

    I love how she's able to tell her story so confidently
    And people who are mostly abused for some reason I am yet to delve into, are emotionally attached to their abusers
    So it's very understandable
    And thank you Apostle Lazarus for helping this woman
    God bless you too for sharing your story Woman of God

  • @umohhannah2481
    @umohhannah2481 2 місяці тому +4

    This speaks so much about me, being raised from a toxic home, being in a toxic where I was abused. One thing about trauma is that you will end up bleeding on people who never cause you pain. Thank God for this podcast, and I thank God for my healing journey. I am still trusting the process, and I can't wait to be whole again

  • @aralolaakinyemi2723
    @aralolaakinyemi2723 3 місяці тому +269

    She's seen a whoooooole lot! I mean, she's not even tearing up. I'm all teary just watching this.

  • @French_with_Pia
    @French_with_Pia 3 місяці тому +12

    Apostole Femi Lazarus, God is going to bless you for this platform. I cried so hard watching this. One day I’ll tell my story and heal completely.

  • @philipsolive9863
    @philipsolive9863 Місяць тому +2

    This podcast is amazing. I learnt a lot from your story ma. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us... It's a blessing to see how much God's healing and love can remodel us

  • @mogenstv6682
    @mogenstv6682 3 місяці тому +37

    This drove me to tears. A lot of African parents have stifled more dreams than they've nurtured.

    • @estyonyi8153
      @estyonyi8153 3 місяці тому

      Honestly, this is my story 😢😢

    • @NENEsLibrary
      @NENEsLibrary 2 місяці тому

      My sister they can only give what they had. They to went through trauma

  • @gbemisolaobayemi
    @gbemisolaobayemi 3 місяці тому +5

    Thank God she was willing to accept healing. So many don't want the healing even when they know they need it. I pray God helps all of us who have gone through similar situations😢

  • @Blemoskyy
    @Blemoskyy 3 місяці тому +18

    This lady really went through alot 😢, from a shattered family down to an abusive boyfriend 🥺. God Abeg ooo

    • @adeolaoke4165
      @adeolaoke4165 3 місяці тому +1

      ….. that’s very likely except by God’s mercies. Low self esteem etc.

  • @joshuadamilolamercy
    @joshuadamilolamercy 2 місяці тому +4

    Hmmm
    You can never bring healing to people when you are yet to get healed.
    You must get healed first before healing can flow from you to others no matter how much you wish or desire to see people healed, healing must start with you.
    Thank you so much sir and ma.
    You will never be short if wisdom in Jesus name.

  • @oyeronkeojo4085
    @oyeronkeojo4085 2 місяці тому +3

    Pastor Lazarus: of a truth a generation has risen. Thanks for yielding to this call of healing. I believe many souls and homes will be blessed

  • @Brightokwy
    @Brightokwy Місяць тому +2

    GOD abegggggg!
    Mrs Ufedo May God preserve you and your fiancee with longife and every good thing from above and bless you with a loving home

  • @samueldyaji001
    @samueldyaji001 3 місяці тому +34

    I just discovered weeks ago that a lot of people didn't have a "normal" upbringing and it plays a major part on how they turn out as adults. Lord have mercy 🙏.....I honestly pray that people get to heal from all this experiences.

  • @go-to-Maria-Goretti
    @go-to-Maria-Goretti 3 місяці тому +23

    Joy has always been a strong girl and I’m happy she is an overcomer. God bless you ❤

  • @AdaKitchen-z5x
    @AdaKitchen-z5x 3 місяці тому +50

    An abuser is not only beating but a man who thrown insults at you is also an abuser

    • @edomwonyicynthia216
      @edomwonyicynthia216 3 місяці тому +1

      A lot of people don't know the power and effect of words.

    • @ndarubelinda3397
      @ndarubelinda3397 2 місяці тому +1

      Some don't even throw insults, people don't know what one goes through when they're muted or ghosted for what you don't know they did. It's worse than the beatings, you can easily run mad 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @beckytym
    @beckytym Місяць тому

    I'm in tears as I watch this... Having an opportunity to talk about your experience is a blessing. Most of us can't talk and don't have anyone to talk to.

  • @peteroluwadare1826
    @peteroluwadare1826 Місяць тому +1

    Waaoooohhh! Electrifying words right there. God be praised for the healing Ufedo has gotten. I can't wait for the TIME i will tell my own story... Cos kaii! you see, my own story ehnnn, it's in another level entirely ni faa, hmmmm. Gather here! if you come from a home where you have a seriously toxic, abusive & alcohol addicted father with a combo of a Mother in Israel who loves the Lord and really wants to serve him. Although he's late for about 20yrs+ ago but i can still remember clearly how he abused my mum and we the children.