Lost In Transition: a Detrans Story | with Sarah Elizhar

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  • Опубліковано 29 сер 2024
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 209

  • @karenjhine
    @karenjhine Рік тому +148

    Mastectomy at 16. These doctors deserve punishment

    • @NinjaKittyBonks
      @NinjaKittyBonks Рік тому +24

      @Karen Hine ... Criminal... absolutely CRIMINAL! I am hoping the GOP push for legislation to go after the "gender affirmation" people.

    • @user-et6xw6fu1q
      @user-et6xw6fu1q Рік тому +25

      Weird. I was told quite vociferously that these things never happen. 🤷‍♀️

    • @mht5875
      @mht5875 Рік тому +14

      @@user-et6xw6fu1q Me too. For some reason the activists do not want the real information to get out.

    • @realMaverickBuckley
      @realMaverickBuckley Рік тому +11

      They should be imprisoned and stripped of their medical qualifications at the very least.

    • @infinitestare
      @infinitestare Рік тому

      we should cut something off a doctor that does this to kids, one finger for each underage mastectomy, then move onto toes.

  • @camsonnenberg4399
    @camsonnenberg4399 Рік тому +47

    If a physician is required to affirm transition under penalty of law, then the law/politicians are practicing medicine without a license by proxy.

  • @SydneyBristow0788
    @SydneyBristow0788 Рік тому +32

    I remember watching my mom beat down (physically and verbally) my older brother and father, and I remember I never saw my dad cry. When my mom turned her wrath on me, I was left with no examples of how to be a strong woman. I remember adopting the name Jonathan in my head to cope. Pretending I was a boy helped me cope and get through the abuse (pretend I was like my dad). When I started my monthly (of all places at Church camp), and my mother didn't even explain that, and I knew very little from school. Playing as a boy also let me hold on to my innocence in a way, and to ignore having a period and blossoming bosom. I am 100% a woman, but had the wrong people got ahold of me - who knows where I'd be today.

  • @Poecilia1963
    @Poecilia1963 Рік тому +123

    Every time I see one of these I'm so grateful I grew up before social media. While one can never know for sure, as a tomboy, troubled only child, I'm pretty sure I know what would have happened.

    • @reneekelly2911
      @reneekelly2911 Рік тому +8

      I say the same thing too. Because I was a tomboy growing up and if I had this sort of messaging something tells me I could’ve easily fallen down the same path. In Canada it’s especially crazy with his ideology. I live in western Canada just like her.

    • @AdrictoTDT-Twitch
      @AdrictoTDT-Twitch Рік тому +15

      Me too, I am actually a transgender but I transitioned until I was 29. When I was a teenager with so many problems I would've thought of transition in a horrible way. Transition has been seen in a romantic way and it's everything but something beautiful. Yes it helped me but I was an adult and I spent more than a decade in therapy to understand what was best for me. So yeah I agree with you

    • @KarmasAbutch
      @KarmasAbutch Рік тому +8

      Same - I’m 50 and it was very lonely growing up unable to fit into the binary - there wasn’t even a name for us and the only word available was androgynous and the only female representation of that word was Annie Lennox (briefly, in 1983 lol) - if this had been Available at the time I would have thought the only choice or solution was to transition. I would have been wrong.
      The real issue (for me) was the incredibly oppressive definition of gender roles and a glaring lack of ability to fit into either.
      As long as we continue to shrink woman down to feminine / ladylike a large portion of folks are going to be deemed “incorrectly female” and wonder what they actually are then. This is a terrible thing to have to navigate as a child and I still have visible scars on my face from being attacked while trying to.

    • @env0x
      @env0x Рік тому +2

      glad to know there are still tomboys around, i miss them. they are my favorite type of women.

    • @reneekelly2911
      @reneekelly2911 Рік тому +4

      @@KarmasAbutch I guess I was just lucky maybe. I never got any criticism or even conversation about needing to be more girly by family or externally. I didn’t think much about stereotypes and I just did activities and wore things I liked. People overthink this stuff.

  • @windsongshf
    @windsongshf Рік тому +45

    When she said "fifteen", that just gutted me. My gods. Gotta say, I really can't blame Matt Walsh for going off on people pushing and celebrating this ideology. Parents are scared to death for their kids right now.

    • @baconsarny-geddon8298
      @baconsarny-geddon8298 Рік тому +8

      I agree, on both counts (hearing "15" hit me hard, too. And Walsh's approach is 100% warranted. MORE of us need to be like that). I'm a lifelong atheist, and always considered myself "left wing" (altho I'm leaning more centrist/conservative, lately), and have plenty of OTHER topics where I disagree with Walsh. But on the "gender" stuff (and "woke culture" generally), I think he's saying EXACTLY what society needs to hear.
      This stuff is the WORST kind of abuse of children, indoctrination and thought-control, denial of simple, evidence-based truth, and the health of children being sacrificed for adult political agendas (or worse, sexual fetishes...)
      Its IMPOSSIBLE to be "too agressive"/"too impolite", on an issue like this...

    • @windsongshf
      @windsongshf Рік тому

      @@baconsarny-geddon8298 Also wasn't it always a liberal position to be skeptical of Big Pharma? They now have people entering lifelong medical and pharmaceutical dependency for the rest of their life! Cha-ching! $$

    • @goodgrief888
      @goodgrief888 Рік тому

      Totally! It’s unfathomable. And yet people *still* try to claim that there’s no agenda. That there was never an agenda. It seems very obvious to me that schools are fully involved in pushing a certain ideology or they’re afraid they’ll all be in the news for being phobic.

  • @Somegirl51
    @Somegirl51 Рік тому +22

    My heart breaks for these children.

  • @chaucerianfraud6767
    @chaucerianfraud6767 Рік тому +150

    I have watched many of these videos and have come to the conclusion that most trans people are trying to escape the human condition of negative emotions and suffering. Like if they take some drugs and surgery it will fix everything. I think they underestimate the depth of the human condition.

    • @quesadilla9569
      @quesadilla9569 Рік тому +15

      100% agreed. Life is hard - we have lost the plot!

    • @AdrictoTDT-Twitch
      @AdrictoTDT-Twitch Рік тому +16

      Not all, and I'm speaking based in my experience. Gender dysphoria has been seen in the last years as something special. It's not it's actually something horrible to live with.
      I tried actually everything to be able to cope with dysphoria, everything not to be trans. Everything to keep it away but I got better until I accept it. However I agree with you. I've seen that many people have seen transition like something that's gonna help them be happier and solve their problems. That's really dangerous because people are out telling kids that transition saved their life's (in my case it did) but it was actually the last resource I had and I did it when I was about to be 30. A kid doesn't even know what's gonna want tomorrow, a kid can't know what their "gender" as the say is. And overall a kid shouldn't transitioning. I'd even say that a person should be able to decide until they are 25.

    • @calmon-ground962
      @calmon-ground962 Рік тому +15

      Hmm... chasing the dragon that never appears in all its promised glory. At least heroin addicts have the memory of that first high. Ugh. I'm glad this was not "all the rage" when I was coming of age.

    • @y2ksurvivor
      @y2ksurvivor Рік тому +2

      I concur.

    • @chelseapoet3664
      @chelseapoet3664 Рік тому +2

      Wise words.

  • @YigalWeinstein
    @YigalWeinstein Рік тому +33

    Thank you Sarah for displaying such honesty, bravery, and such a commitment to make life good, despite the challenges you've had to face. Ripping people away from their biology in such an inhumane manner must be stopped, and while this brutality is existentially awful to witness, it gives me great hope that you were able to rise above it.

  • @thesebone5
    @thesebone5 Рік тому +11

    What a lovely human being. Her calmness, acceptance and gratitude is infectious and inspiring.

  • @stacypastry2440
    @stacypastry2440 Рік тому +10

    How many times are we told, emphatically, that this isn't happening, no one is fast tracked? Thank goodness for the people that are brave enough to speak the truth

  • @vixlogic7954
    @vixlogic7954 Рік тому +25

    For the first time this has made me tear up 😥 This poor beautiful woman 💔😪

  • @dgh5760
    @dgh5760 Рік тому +25

    The compulsion to be seen as open, accepting and inclusive has gone too far and we have stopped thinking critically. Forcing healthcare providers to follow rules instead of treating individuals as individuals who are all different has led to mass malpractice and detrimental treatment of youth in Canada. It won't change until the detransition stories become more well-known to the public and in mainstream media. Thank you Benjamin for your dedication in bringing these stories to our attention. It is clear how deeply you are affected personally by the tragic circumstances your guests have experienced I wish your channel would grow faster so more Canadians would have access to this information and support change.

    • @marymitchell4617
      @marymitchell4617 Рік тому

      I'm afraid it's about the money. Perhaps they're overwhelmed by the politics around this. You would think that, at the very least, the cost of malpractice insurance would deter these doctors from lopping off perfectly healthy body parts. Absolutely inconceivable.

  • @OneLove51000
    @OneLove51000 Рік тому +11

    What a fine, funny and lovable human being. I hope you continue to use your voice to help others, and become comfortable being you.

  • @HughEMC
    @HughEMC Рік тому +10

    Man I want to hug these people every time I see & hear them speak their stories. Like I just wanna say we love you & I'm sorry our society has not only failed you but has actively harmed you.

  • @NinjaKittyBonks
    @NinjaKittyBonks Рік тому +52

    I saw Sarah's conversation with Lauren Southern. I feel this is going to be a heavy one, Mr. Benjamin and I wish to thank Sarah for telling her story. These stories can be hard to hear, but we need to listen 😿

    • @spiritmatter1553
      @spiritmatter1553 Рік тому +4

      Was this the person who was a family friend of hers?

    • @NinjaKittyBonks
      @NinjaKittyBonks Рік тому +1

      @@spiritmatter1553 ... Might be, but I do not know. Lauren Southern with Sarah: ua-cam.com/video/bBCF2u-up6w/v-deo.html

    • @NinjaKittyBonks
      @NinjaKittyBonks Рік тому +1

      @@psychette8846 .. Agreed. I just wish people would spend a lot more energy evaluating the psychological state, before any step toward affirmation. We can argue that some will suffer longer as a result, but many more will be spared, because the number of TRUE trans people is far, far below those who claim to be. In the end, had we a really good emotional / psychological support for those with gender confusion issues, we could not only help to psychologically prepare someone to transition, but would also, in a huge amount of cases, discover the reasons why people like Sarah here, were never actually trans. There is a risk either way, but for those who REALLY are trans, they would get emotional / psychological support to ease suffering and we would spare countless others from thinking trans will make them happy, only to find out they are miserable.
      .
      This would not only help the trans community, but would help to ease off those who may see these detrans stories and just say... "trans is always bad". We know this is not the case, but as we all know from earliest age, one bad apple can ruin the whole bunch.

    • @NinjaKittyBonks
      @NinjaKittyBonks Рік тому

      @@psychette8846 ... Silly-Billy... I have been getting at that all along ❤

    • @NinjaKittyBonks
      @NinjaKittyBonks Рік тому

      @@psychette8846 .... Yup 😿
      PS> Don't worry your pretty little head. I made up for it on a comment about Universal Healthcare 😸

  • @Snwman_
    @Snwman_ Рік тому +12

    It's unbelievable and a disgrace that parents risk jail by trying to protect their children from insane people and ideas.

  • @conniehare8215
    @conniehare8215 Рік тому +19

    You are such an engaging, self-aware, intelligent and wonderfully unique woman, Sarah. You've been through so much, and it NEVER should have happened. God bless you, and wishing you all the best for the future. X

  • @mariapaulaart1311
    @mariapaulaart1311 Рік тому +16

    15 years old getting testosterone 29:48
    16 years old getting a double mastectomy 31:42

    • @baconsarny-geddon8298
      @baconsarny-geddon8298 Рік тому +6

      Add them to the ever-growing list of "Things That NEVER Happen..."

    • @monicaperez2843
      @monicaperez2843 Рік тому +4

      Maria, I, too, was stunned she had testosterone at 15 and a double mastectomy at 16. I think she was rushed. She's a minor! I thought they couldn't do this to minors!!

  • @TxMyTx
    @TxMyTx Рік тому +18

    I just feel so hard for this. How can this not be engineered. Oh lord of God l have mercy on us

  • @inosuke4708
    @inosuke4708 Рік тому +13

    @36:00 I’m a nurse and we actually don’t go along with delusions or hallucinations. You Nicely tell the patient that what they’re seeing or hearing is not real and is due to there illness. You don’t encourage them to be out of touch with reality. We should be doing the same for those who think they’re another gender and we have problems like this because we aren’t.

  • @sydneykendall7125
    @sydneykendall7125 Рік тому +11

    Sarah mentioned something about how playing along with a schizophrenia sufferer could be right, in order to prevent that person from feeling everyone is against them.
    That made me think of a documentary about a group of people in a high security psychiatric hospital where violent psychotic people are kept. They did not go along with these patients' delusions. When a patient was hearing voices and seeing people who weren't there, they were told firmly but kindly that they were hallucinating, and often the patient took their carer's word for it. Most understood they had schizophrenia, and while they kept lapsing into believing the voices and visions were real, they were often tuned in to advice to the contrary. Sometimes a person would even ask if what they were hearing or seeing was real.
    Playing along with delusions and hallucinations usually doesn't help. You only entrench the person further in their detachment from reality by confirming what isn't true.
    I'm not saying that no one with gender dysphoria should transition. But the person should be mature enough and grounded enough to understand that transition will not literally make them into the opposite sex, that it is a treatment of last resort, when gender dysphoria persists into adulthood and when thorough therapy does not remove the torment. The purpose of transition for a mature person is to get relief from a psychologically painful condition that nothing else can ease and that has taken too much energy and joy from their lives already. Transition helps these people to move on and have a life.
    I listen to a few trans UA-camrs who have this mature, realistic view of their situation. These are people who respect objectivity and who are apparently happy with their lives after transition, even though there are medical hassles and expenses and potential health problems. For them it is better than not having transitioned.
    The standard of caution and care has become lax to the point where, apparently, transition is treated as close to the first resort. Young people and adults with other psychological disorders that may appear to be dysphoria are being fast-tracked into that medicalized life. That is disaster.

  • @Somegirl51
    @Somegirl51 Рік тому +5

    Thank you for your courage, Sara

  • @marieparker3822
    @marieparker3822 Рік тому +7

    Sarah is such a nice, lovely person. She is beginning to have great insight, and I hope she will be enabled to develop this further by having a *proper* psychotherapist or psychoanalyst to help her.

    • @Disgruntled_Canadian
      @Disgruntled_Canadian 5 місяців тому

      If you do proper psychotherapy in Canada you lose your liscense.

  • @christianbolt5761
    @christianbolt5761 Рік тому +7

    I have great optimism for Sarah. The strength and thoughtfulness she has displayed is very impressive.

  • @marieparker3822
    @marieparker3822 Рік тому +4

    Fifteen-year-olds are all, by definition, mad. This is normal. These medics should be struck off the medical register and prosecuted.
    The legal situation in Canada - criminalising parents who try to protect their children - is a nightmare.

  • @emmas4336
    @emmas4336 Рік тому +6

    It's so difficult to watch these videos, not only because of the struggles they've been though, but thinking about all the people who are still on a journey they will one day regret. Unfortunately we are going to see more and more of this as time goes by.

  • @susieq2653
    @susieq2653 Рік тому +7

    Benjamin @ 1:00:00 was making me laugh/cry. He was like “wtf is wrong with her doctors”, but trying not to freak out. Way to remain calm there. Thank you for being brave, Sarah.

  • @carolynbrightfield8911
    @carolynbrightfield8911 Рік тому +12

    Thankyou Sarah. I relate to so much of your experiences growing up. You are brilliant. A very shiny star. Life can be hard, the journey is worth it. Age 70.

    • @Woodman-Spare-that-tree
      @Woodman-Spare-that-tree Рік тому +1

      I don’t know about that conclusion. Life has been very difficult and at 66 it’s too late to put anything right now.

  • @sarahbartlett4945
    @sarahbartlett4945 Рік тому +26

    Another great interview, only deepening my conviction that 'transing' children is utterly abusive and horrifying. This surely will become the medical scandal of our time. I have been researching this subject daily from every angle for four years and heard and seen so many terrible stories and yet I still feel intense horror, anger and utter heartbreak that adults can mutilate a child's body with no real checks, with so little insight into childhood. Worse, that the parents should have to fear state intervention if they attempt to protect their child from this. I cried listening to this lovely girl, the same age as my daughter, talking about how she was hurried into having her breasts removed at 16 years old. We have to fight back. Kellie Jay is holding the line as are so many others, Helen Joyce, JK Rowling Abigail Shrier, you Benjamin, Graham Linehan etc etc etc. Many of the people I listen to have many differing views but they all agree on this. It is still the case, that many of the wider public, have no conception of the reach and influence within our institutions this deconstructing of our thinking, language and experience led understanding all ready has. The information is there if you are awake and interested, but many still think it's a civil rights movement rather than a full scale assault of cult like activity. It seems really imperative to me to realise the implications and present harms resulting from the cult of transactivism as it is manifesting now. I celebrate difference absolutely. I love the myriad forms of human expression and being, have been left wing all my life, have many friends and acquaintances of so many different social, sexual and cultural persuasions, but I am an adult human female, a mother, a grandmother and have the lived experience of a woman. That has real meaning to me and whilst I may have little in common on many levels with another woman, we share the reality and many similar experiences that are only such as a result of our biological sex. Sometimes sex matters very much I find the extremes of transactivism have become a serious threat and that threat needs to be understood and discussed as much as possible from every possible angle for us all Thanks to you both x

  • @AlyseNicoleO
    @AlyseNicoleO Рік тому +3

    You could've been a therapist. Breaks my heart to see these young women cut up and left picking up the pieces.

  • @Amber24426
    @Amber24426 Рік тому +3

    I really enjoyed this interview, Sarah is awesome and so wonderfully articulate about the intricacies of her experience.

  • @jwhite5396
    @jwhite5396 Рік тому +5

    Trauma informed therapy- A trauma-informed approach seeks an awareness of the widespread impact of trauma on life experience and relationships. It recognizes trauma's role in the outlook, emotions and behavior of a person with a trauma history.

  • @edge4265
    @edge4265 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for sharing your story. This will no doubt help someone in a similar situation. 🥰

  • @le77erem
    @le77erem Рік тому +9

    Regarding girls feeling like protectors, it put me in mind of the Massive Attack song 'Protection' - sung by a woman, a few of the lyrics:
    "I stand in front of you
    I'll take the force of the blow
    Protection
    I stand in front of you
    I'll take the force of the blow
    Protection
    You're a boy and I'm a girl
    But you know you can lean on me
    And I don't have no fear
    I'll take on any man here
    Who says that's not the way it should be
    I stand in front of you
    I'll take the force of the blow
    Protection
    I stand in front of you
    I'll take the force of the blow
    Protection
    She's a girl and you're a boy
    Sometimes you look so small, you look so small
    I've got a baby of your own
    When your baby's grown, she'll be the one
    To catch you when you fall
    I stand in front of you
    I'll take the force of the blow
    Protection
    I stand in front of you
    I'll take the force of the blow
    Protection
    You're a girl and I'm a boy
    You're a girl and I'm a boy, yeah
    You're a girl and I'm a boy
    You're a girl and I'm a boy, hey"

  • @marieparker3822
    @marieparker3822 Рік тому +3

    Benjamin Boyce is such a brilliant interviewer because he is such a brilliant listener.

  • @t.b.4025
    @t.b.4025 Рік тому +7

    Sarah, you have a special heart. Not many people like you❤

  • @inosuke4708
    @inosuke4708 Рік тому +4

    God it is so wrong how parents are being punished or even having their kid taken away if they don’t affirm gender ideology 😢 I can’t imagine having my child manipulated and turned against me over that. Horrible. I’m glad this young lady knew her parents always loved her and wanted the best for her

  • @bcowtan6866
    @bcowtan6866 Рік тому +4

    Sarah, thank you so much for sharing your story, your courage and your strength. You are an inspiring young woman ❤

  • @alexanderlindsley5016
    @alexanderlindsley5016 Рік тому +7

    Keep the calmversations coming my man

  • @stickapot3623
    @stickapot3623 Рік тому +4

    she is a sweet angel

  • @js4740
    @js4740 Рік тому +5

    Benjamin, Jordan Peterson and others note that part of the current problem is focusing too much on one's self. Ruminating. I myself have found that helping others even with small chores that can be overwhelming to the elderly for instance, or just LISTENING to them because people with problems need that too, can give one a sense of purpose and put one's own problems/blessings in perspective. Hard work like your quest was doing... physical activity is also very good for people experiencing or healing trauma. It satisfies the fight or flight response which is VERY uncomfortable to just sit in. So I was thinking as your guest spoke that she was doing just that, and it had helped

  • @carolynbrightfield8911
    @carolynbrightfield8911 Рік тому +13

    At 16, it is truly unlikely that a young person has fully experienced the joys of physical sex. They have no idea what treats their body has in store for them. That takes years and years of interaction, and society now accepts sex before marriage, multiple sequential partners before choosing "the one". This change we were "sold on" so that we would enter into a long term monogamous relationship (marriage) knowing what the full physical experience was/is. This is unspeakable babaric cruelty, a signifier of a regressive human society. It seems that within human societies, there has always been a certain group of adults that need to excercise their power over the young in the area of sex. Male circumcision, FGM, castration (Italian castrati, Chinese eunuchs), breast binding, child sex abuse (ultimate power of adult). Over my lifetime, I saw many of these abuses fought against. We just eradicated those (or tried to) and now this ugly form of adult sex abuse of children / our young has reared its ugly head. The child abuse sex dragon has multiple heads, we tried to chop off the old heads, and each time it just grows new ones. There is something fundamentally wrong with how a small number of huans relate to sex.

    • @NinjaKittyBonks
      @NinjaKittyBonks Рік тому

      @Carolyn Brightfield ...Beautiful... and wise. Take a look, people.... THIS is what I mean when using the term "common sense" 🦘❤
      MARRY ME!
      ... or at least give me that linoleum slide you have promised 🐈head bonk

  • @shweefranglais7900
    @shweefranglais7900 Рік тому +6

    The doctors and the trans influencers did you wrong Sarah. Despite that ,you still have your beautiful generous spirit and amazing insight and wisdom ( and you are only 21 ) I really appreciated Benjamin A Boyce giving you some advice over what to do about your period cramps. It may take some time but it definately needs more investigation and there may be various ways of helping it along. Sending you nothing but love and light.

  • @enanden9025
    @enanden9025 Рік тому +7

    At 15 i wanted to be a pilot. I would necer have children and i wanted to travel the world. I have 4 kids now. I would have gone all the way if i was a kid today

  • @ponytales707
    @ponytales707 Рік тому +2

    35:07 So much manipulation in the system. Thank you for being brave and standing up for what is right for you and your parents. You are very brave!

  • @Somegirl51
    @Somegirl51 Рік тому +10

    Girls can be lumberjacks and swing saws!

  • @kathrineici9811
    @kathrineici9811 Рік тому +3

    I also had debilitatingly agonizing periods-I’ve had kidney stones that hurt less-I’m on the bc that gives you a period once every three months
    It made me gain a little weight and it’s carcinogenic but it’s better than dealing with that
    If it gets bad again, Sarah, I highly recommend that kind

  • @embraceyourfaith4688
    @embraceyourfaith4688 Рік тому

    We all went through the awkward phases in life especially after exposure to trauma. I'm thankful I wasn't born in a time where these surgeries was an option. I pray for our youth who are being manipulated into believing transitioning is the solution to happiness. Thank you sister for sharing your story❤❤

  • @johncastleberry3404
    @johncastleberry3404 Рік тому +8

    Thank you Sarah. You helped me. May God grant you peace and love.

  • @marieparker3822
    @marieparker3822 Рік тому +4

    I find it extraordinary that anyone should have to endure such painful menstruation. In this day and age there are medical and, if necessary, surgical remedies to alleviate this. It is appalling that apparently none of these medics enquired about the regularity, volume and experience of Sarah's menstrual cycle. In my experience (in Britain) this was always the first question a General Practitioner would ask me if I consulted them.

  • @middleofnowhere1313
    @middleofnowhere1313 Рік тому +6

    She reminds me of myself. I operate the same way minus any transition stuff. Be strong, do physical work outdoors, be the rock of your household, male friends. Though somehow i still always made sure to *look* feminine because it seemed natural no matter what my role is.

  • @tanyafrancis1639
    @tanyafrancis1639 9 місяців тому

    Im sorry I only just saw this. Thank you Sarah for sharing and helping others through this. Im so sorry you went through this and didnt get the help youvreally needed. I saw one of your first interview videos and my heart broke because you reminded me of my son who is going through this too. Im trying to maintain the tenuous relationship we have and I want to be able to say things to help him but I dont feel hes ready to listen. Im grieving but I have a faith in Jesus like you and my husband and I pray everyday for him and others like you. Thank you again, really dear, beautiful girl ❤

  • @onepartyroule
    @onepartyroule Рік тому +7

    Menstrual pain is no joke. The only thing that eleviates it at all for me is mefenamic acid. It isn't hyperbole to say it feels like youre being stabbed in the pelvis. I've had pain so bad I dry heave. When I first got it I thought I was dying, like something had ruptured or something. It can be so intense and overwhelming that the only thing I can do is lie down and make a very low pitched groaning noise.

    • @teresapeet7146
      @teresapeet7146 Рік тому

      Chronic, severe, lifelong menstrual pain sufferer. Painkillers brought little relief. Menopause is the best gift, antidote and saviour.

  • @mariaradjevic4187
    @mariaradjevic4187 Рік тому +1

    I have no words…. Just sadness.

  • @njoolong
    @njoolong Рік тому

    She is incredibly mature, insightful and articulate in explaining where she came from and how she untangled herself from the web of lies spun aound her. Amazing interview.

  • @goodgrief888
    @goodgrief888 Рік тому

    Keep supporting these people and sharing their stories. I’m interested in how the historians are going to play off this period in the future. Will they pretend like nobody could ever have seen how horrific this was? That this was all wonderful? We are watching an atrocity play out before us

  • @suemcglone2151
    @suemcglone2151 Рік тому +2

    Sarah, if your periods become very painful again, please go to your dr and ask to be referred to an endometriosis specialist. Best to rule endometriosis in or out as soon as possible. Your symptoms do sound very like those of endo - although obviously there could be other factors at play. Ensure that whoever you are referred to is a specialist in laparoscopic excision of endo - I can't impress upon you how important that word is; 'excision.' Good luck.

  • @aerondanann8683
    @aerondanann8683 Рік тому

    A really good and very real interview.
    A remarkable young person who struggles with personal identity and with choices having been made against choices yet to make. A marvelous portrayal of the internal human struggle that we all experience in various degrees throughout our lives.
    Thank You Sarah

  • @bee-eu6cg
    @bee-eu6cg Рік тому +1

    After watching a lot of your videos my heart breaks that these young adults. I hope they can come to terms with it all.

  • @jtalbainWSA
    @jtalbainWSA Рік тому +3

    It's fairly common for tech guys to be into woodworking.

  • @zappa-happy
    @zappa-happy Рік тому +3

    Ahhh Bless! 🥰 Yr So Amazing! Full of Love, Forgiveness, Compassion & Empathy 4 Others! Pls Allow Some 4 Yrself Too! B’cos U Deserve it SO Much! Yr An Amazing & Beautiful Person! I’m sending U All my Love & Support! ❤️❤️ From the UK! 💙💙💜💜☮️

  • @liannebenn2097
    @liannebenn2097 Рік тому +4

    I really wanted to be a boy because I was jealous of my brother who was allowed to light the bonfire whilst I had to help make everyone's bed. Luckily I was born too early to think I could have an easy fix.
    I never liked 'girly' things but that means nothing except that lots of girls are't stereotype girly.

  • @michaelweber5702
    @michaelweber5702 Рік тому +5

    THIS is a GOOD person ! May God bless him or her ...

  • @trouper206
    @trouper206 Рік тому +1

    15:55 See that just boggles my mind. All this talk about "Men are protectors. Men help ease burdens." but then they try to protect/help and you recoil.

  • @aynatt
    @aynatt Рік тому +3

    Fluoxetine is generic Prozac, FYI.

  • @onepartyroule
    @onepartyroule Рік тому +2

    p.s I also had very irregular periods to begin with, but going on the pill for 6 months sorted that out.

  • @jessicamartinez3613
    @jessicamartinez3613 Рік тому

    I was a tomboy and it was primarily because my brother got to do whatever he wanted and had all the fun. I was raised witha very strict mother who had very traditional ideas of what a girl should do. I am glad I was able to grow out of it without someone telling me that I was in the wrong body.

  • @petiadavis5122
    @petiadavis5122 Рік тому +1

    Dear young person, don't feel you have to 'love' 'this people', you can forgive them and accept that you can't change them but I don't think that you have to "love' them. Your love is too good and pure for them. Don't give pearls to pigs.

  • @henningeide8355
    @henningeide8355 Рік тому

    The guy asking "do this kid need a job?;" notised your work ethic and skill. He didn't care if you were a "strange kid." Solid bloke. People at a blue collar jobs might joke around and push your buttons, but hopefully they got your back when it counts. Best wishes to you Sarah!

  • @pce12345
    @pce12345 Рік тому +2

    Feeling disgusting in your body ain't good 😢

  • @andrewclarke9978
    @andrewclarke9978 Рік тому +2

    Benjamin Boyce at about 6:30 you were curious about a girl taking on a masculine role to assist family. Have a look into `Balkan sworn virgins' in particular from Albania this may interest you.

  • @chrisv6375
    @chrisv6375 Рік тому +2

    The amount of ads is getting out of control!

  • @Somegirl51
    @Somegirl51 Рік тому +5

    I'd be curious how many detrans stories you have had on your channel, Benjamin.

  • @HalfB
    @HalfB Рік тому

    I send my prayers and big sister hugs to all going through this!
    My God this gender transition Therapy is criminal. My heart goes out to all the children right now as they are ALL vulnerable to this horrific path.
    I pray for the children and parents and hope more state laws can be passed to protect minors.
    The more I learn about it the more I’m convinced this is a sterilization of this generation and the next until we ban it across the board for minors.

  • @NM-dc9pk
    @NM-dc9pk Рік тому +1

    The Depro shot takes your period eventually by basically putting you into pre menopause. But there is a steady flow for about 6 months. These are the parts that come with being a woman we don't pubically broad cast it and suffer consistently in silence, and suck it up don't complain and get it together cause the show does not stop. Sending you Peace and the Love of God always.....We use heating pads and make sure to track the cycle to be aware and ready for stuff but keep notes.

  • @Ekergaard
    @Ekergaard Рік тому +4

    I like that she starts with mention some hard parts of being a man. As said that must be almost unique.

  • @pumpkab00
    @pumpkab00 6 місяців тому

    The fact that a full grown trained doctor is asking an UNTRAINED CHILD about THEIR OWN MENTAL HEALTH THEORIES is insane to me 😢

  • @annarboriter
    @annarboriter Рік тому +2

    Gay activism: It gets better; Trans activism: It gets better only after medical interventions

  • @colleenbillings8522
    @colleenbillings8522 Рік тому +1

    Poor kid had endometriosis. Long painful periods. The mysogyny of the trans movement is mind blowing.

  • @stacypastry2440
    @stacypastry2440 Рік тому +1

    Benjamin, there was a short lived tv show called Whiskey Wars. Very reality TV but it was a guilty pleasure. Maybe we can bring it back 🥰

  • @moyracarlyle1446
    @moyracarlyle1446 Рік тому +1

    "Benefits of male attention" - Boyce not getting it that male pestering is not a 'benefit'.

    • @BenjaminABoyce
      @BenjaminABoyce  Рік тому

      Hello Moyra.
      Male attention is not singularly based on harassment.
      If you will notice, my channel is build out of my male attention, half of which is spent on giving women a comfortable place to speak, which I have been told is ver beneficial.

    • @moyracarlyle1446
      @moyracarlyle1446 Рік тому +2

      The attention that Sarah was talking about was pestering and she clearly didn't like it.
      Not a benefit.

  • @MNRAZORBACK
    @MNRAZORBACK Рік тому +4

    Wait, Jehovah's witness pledge allegiance to the Pope? That doesn't seem right. The hope is Catholic. Unless the JW's have a title of Pope and they have their own. Does anybody know?

    • @sydneykendall7125
      @sydneykendall7125 Рік тому +1

      I have read an article in "The Watchtower" that rejects the idea that any disciple, including Peter, was supposed to be a supreme leader of the Church, or infallible. It looks to me that the JWs reject the idea of a pope, of any person taking a superior position in the Church, whether it be the Catholic church or the JW church.
      There's a big difference between the JWs and Catholics. Catholics are Trinitarian, but the JWs reject that conception of God. So there's no way they would pledge allegiance to the Catholic pope, even if they believed in having such a leader.
      That's what my reading has turned up. I'm no expert, though, and have no experience with the JW church.

    • @MNRAZORBACK
      @MNRAZORBACK Рік тому

      @@sydneykendall7125 which makes me wonder why the guest said something about the Pope....

    • @sydneykendall7125
      @sydneykendall7125 Рік тому

      @@MNRAZORBACK Yes, that confused and bothered me, too.

    • @sarahelizhar4068
      @sarahelizhar4068 Рік тому +2

      Apologies for that, I just got a little mixed up (which I'd kinda hoped to be like corrected!). What I'd meant to say was the governing body, not the Pope, that was my bad.

    • @MNRAZORBACK
      @MNRAZORBACK Рік тому +1

      @@sarahelizhar4068 I appreciate the clarification. We can all misspeak, I just find it ironic when people try to ignore or double down when they make a mistatement.
      Plus it's just kind of fun to see what the limits of people's knowledge is are on different religious sects

  • @TxMyTx
    @TxMyTx Рік тому +11

    I feel so fucking bad for detrans. I honestly feel like they would have fought so hard in Iraq with us. Just cause or not I feel that misplaced purpose which I cannot articulate but I feel it hardcore

    • @BuJammy
      @BuJammy Рік тому +3

      It's surprising how many people who trans are ex-military.

    • @spiritmatter1553
      @spiritmatter1553 Рік тому +5

      Does anyone here follow Shape Shifter 👽🦎? His story is tragic…detransed after having the FULL surgery!

    • @env0x
      @env0x Рік тому +1

      You should hear about the Kurdish PUK Peshmerga women who are voluntarily deployed in the front lines and actively engaged in combat against ISIS and al-Qaeda. They are badass!

  • @simonskinner1450
    @simonskinner1450 Рік тому +1

    All the good stories are where parents remove kids from Internet and lock them up away from influence. They still attempt suicide but gradually the dysphoria subsides.

  • @weeb3277
    @weeb3277 Рік тому +2

    Would she say she is completely invisible now since she decided to transition?
    I bet she thought trans people are invisible until she decided to detransition.

  • @barb9696
    @barb9696 Рік тому +1

    It seems everyone of these stories start from some sadness from childhood that has a link to gender. It's sad. She has never had the true knowledge of being a full or mature woman and will never be a full man.

  • @krissyk9767
    @krissyk9767 Рік тому

    This is terrible that Drs were encouraging her to get "top surgery" at 16. Such a big decision should have to wait till over 21 and should be the patients decision, not something they're pressured into by the Dr

  • @hobokelajackson1947
    @hobokelajackson1947 Рік тому

    I think it will come a time when the social media will flooded with such stories. Just wait
    I don’t know why government is allowing such agony to continue.

  • @opiumcopium
    @opiumcopium Рік тому

    00:29 min That wood chipper joke flew right over her head lol

  • @dollylove3430
    @dollylove3430 Рік тому +2

    💕

  • @Riley095
    @Riley095 Рік тому +1

    If your a cis dude try to call yourself a women. That’s dsyphoria…

  • @Irunwithscissors63
    @Irunwithscissors63 6 місяців тому

    Every adult let this girl down. Even those that ‘accepted’ her decisions. She was a child. She was in no position to make major decisions like this.
    Maybe she needed someone to say no to her. To wait til she was older.

  • @pxlmvr7
    @pxlmvr7 Рік тому

    So the *school* had a female ‘transman’ come and speak and that’s what lead to this mess.

  • @helenablavatsky9136
    @helenablavatsky9136 Рік тому +3

    😢

  • @stephaniephouotrides2435
    @stephaniephouotrides2435 Рік тому

    FOR THE HORDE!!!!!🎉😂

  • @goodgrief888
    @goodgrief888 Рік тому

    It would be nice if as many resources and attention would be into helping young people be emotionally, mentally, and physically prepared for, and supported in, puberty as is put into positively affirming their decisions to trans themselves instead. It seems clear that many people trans due to being uncomfortable with their new bodies. For good reason. Puberty is truly terrifying when you’ve never had any positive role models for the process.

  • @CrakenFlux
    @CrakenFlux Рік тому

    all you have to do is open your mouth and tell them. Always remember, 95 % of people are wicked. anchoring your being to others is ALWAYS a mistake.

  • @opiumcopium
    @opiumcopium Рік тому

    When I saw the thumbnail I thought this was the before and after 💀

  • @Knuck_Knucks
    @Knuck_Knucks Рік тому +2

    But I want an Oompa Loompa now!
    Not @ 12oo pm on Thursday... 😡

  • @dionnepatrick2431
    @dionnepatrick2431 Рік тому

    It's obviously more Profitable to give kids hormone brlokers & other meda than therapy 😔.