10 Signs Someone is Repulsed by You
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- Опубліковано 14 тра 2024
- This video answers the questions: What are the signs that someone is repulsed by another person? How can you tell when someone is emoting disgust? How can signs of disgust be interpreted?
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Buddhist advice: the moment you notice avoidance disappear. Life is hard enough without forced interactions.
Great advice!
Why force something that isn't there? And won't ever be there?
But if it is your new boss/supervisor
do lots of emails or just look for another job!
You could use a comma there lol l was confused at first
Exactly, that’s perfect, and let people come to you. You don’t need to chase or pursue anyone.
Agree, why chase and beg
Yes
If they repeatedly state explicitly that they see you as disgusting. That could be a clue.
Oh. Wish I had known that sooner. lol
LOL, Vivian that is not just a "clue" that is proof. I had a son in law who told me he did not respect me, but would never tell me why. He is generally a brat, selfish and resistant to correction. When I calmly and kindly told him once I disagreed with him, he raged and attempted to keep my daughter and our grandchildren away from me.
@@gwendolynwehage6336 I'm sure there is no alternative communication strategy to build respect in your relationship.
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This was an interesting one that seems obvious but maybe not always if your clueless - and who among is is never clueless? Well I was for many years because I loved my ex-husband but He did not return the favor!💔
I've never felt more proud of the fact that nobody has ever vomited as I approached them.
a sure sign of adoration yup
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No one likes a braggart.
But when you walked away…
I have psoriatic arthritis and before starting a biologic, I had psoriasis every where including my face. People would look and I would give them my best smile. But my daughter would give them a disgusted look until they looked away. She is my champion.
I have an adult daughter with this horrible disease. I’m sorry you have this.
Me too Stephanie... much love, I geddit. ❤️ your daughter rocks!
SAME ! Omgosh it was on my face also ! a nightmare before injection’s. Best wishes in your skin journey…. And the joints .
Me too! At least we can quickly see who the shallow A holes are!
Very helpful. When I was young I tried to be good looking. During middle age, I wanted to be somewhat attractive. Now that I am old, not being disgusting is my goal.
Gary Simmons I’m old too & I doubt you are disgusting 😂
In my fifties and I can see myself becoming a little old bag lady with rolled up stockings by the age of 80...
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@DESIGN AND ENTERTAINING Well you are utterly delightful, thank you.
@DESIGN AND ENTERTAINING I dunno, there are a hell of a lot of cranky old pensioners lol. I hate to be the guy pointing a cane at a youngster and yelling at them to get off my lawn.
"Recommended for you." -- Wow, what is UA-cam trying to tell me? :O
lmao!!!!
I know right 🤣🤣🤣🥴
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Funny!
I thought I was the only one thinking about that 🤣🤣🤣
When I started telling myself that what others think of me is none of my business, I found much of my social anxiety alleviated. Obviously you still want to be conscientious of others and how your behavior affects the world around you but many of us are too worried about how others perceive us to live a normal healthy life.
Yes, we spend too much of our lives worrying about other people's opinions of us instead of learning to love ourselves and be our best.
Cameron F., What a very mature sensible statement thank you it is a positive trigger statement when you try to manipulate or control the outcome of a situation favorably and you are trying to break that habit…that statement is a very good reminder yea, what other people think of me is none of my business people are fickle selfish hypocritical creatures in general my job is just to work on myself to be the opposite of those qualities as much as possible within reason. But thanks again for sharing that thought now I gotta write that down!!
Therapists would be out of business if we all weren't convinced how awful we are..🙄
I also realized that people can change their minds, or think better of how they've acted. Maybe when we first met I was turned off, but later I realized you were a nice guy after all. Maybe you just reminded me of someone I didn't like, but that's not your fault, it's mine.
Yes! What a good thing to keep in mind.
I once worked with a group of younger women, all of whom were part of a clique, and years later ran into one of this group at a hair salon. I had hair color in my hair, and the hair stylist had placed me in a corner of the salon to sit until it was time to wash the color out of my hair... in walked this woman. She checked in, sat, and saw me in the corner ( we had not seen each other for 7 years). She made a face at me with her eyes as if she were looking at poo on the wall, but also as if she were trying to remember where she knew me from (when I worked with this group of women for many years, I was well known in my profession for my hard work and many accomplishments, so I don’t think she would have forgotten me that easily-but I did have dark color all over my hair ). She quickly recognized me however, and saw me looking at her and smiling at her, so she immediately smiled back with both lips together...a tight, quick smile that did not involve her eyes. A second or two later, she looked away and picked up a magazine. Guilt... from the way she and her friends/clique had treated me when I worked with them? Or repulsion, since they had convinced themselves that I was a horrible person in order to justify their evil acts? In any case, I thanked my stars that I did not ever have to work with them/her again. I had a great time at the salon that day talking and laughing with the owner and hair stylist. Great afternoon. Sometimes when you get snubbed by one of these types of people, it can be a good thing.
you narcicistic demential
People in cliques are horrible.
Love it! Way to go!
You have no idea what she was thinking. You are not in her brain. Let it go.
Good attitude 👏
When person B gets a restraining order against you , that might be a sign
Ya think lmao 😜
There might still be hope lol
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or not, I had a friend that constantly would call the police on her man and then he would get arrested and then she would bail him out and he would come over despite her restraining order and this cycle would continue over and over . they had this strange magnetic drive to each other but were so toxic.
Sometimes that is not enough to send the message that you are not interested. I have never had to go that far, but I pretended to be too busy to go out with a guy. When he caught me lying, instead of saying, "she is so desperate to avoid me, she lied to get out of dating me,:" his attitude was that since I was not really busy, I was free to go out with him. It was at that point that I became disgusted.
People with social anxiety might exhibit some of these too. They don't feel repulsed by the person, they feel repulsed by the situation and themselves. The irony is that when you are afraid of other people being repulsed by you, you give out signals other people translate in a way that they think you are repulsed by them.
Yes. They wear this mask wanting to protect themselves....people sometimes come up with crazy stuff to deal with frustrations.
Strukle D if you are referring to people with social anxiety it isn’t crazy, it’s the brain and the body trying to protect it self. Anxiety can trigger a flight or fight (such as if you’re in a dangerous situation) response in the body.
I know..... the stuff people do out of being in a fear it's frightening in itself !!
I didn't mean literally mentally ill! :)
"Afraid" is the wrong term, as a starting point. It is more about being "over sensitive". Simply because it is not like you'd want to interact with the ppl you avoid (out of 'fear'), anyways.
You do sense something not being right about them.
Feeling anxious you might go all Defcon 1 when a specific individual approaches. Feeling calm you might jus tell them to go away.
Repusle-ception
Also known as "Ten signs your crush sees you as a stalker"
The Doc should def do that vid 👏
He says it's distinct from fear-based detachment. But lol
Exactly 💯
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Bc you never know!! Like- why are you asking about my kids.. ? Lol...
I love Dr. Grande's subtle sense of humor. Something like "If someone turns away from you to vomit, that might be a good indicator they're disgusted. It's supported in the literature."
So dry....love it.
This one wasn't so subtle!
LMAO
Worthy of Saturday night live!! Original cast.
There's a difference between a subtle sense of humor and an overall flat affect. Red flag. lol
this is hilarious. his last sentence kills me: "if you walk up to someone at a party and they refuse to make eye contact with you or refuse to say anything to you, as they pull out their cell phone and pretend to make an appointment, all the while scrunching their nose walking away from you only to vomit a moment later, you may want to consider the possibility that that person is repulsed by you." lol!
You might want to CONSIDER the person might be repulsed after doing all that? I DON'T SEE WHY!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
It is hilarious
Dan cilley would follow her to the corner saying "i'm a nice guy, i'm a nice guy, I haven't done anything, i'm not a pedophile"
Classic Dr. Grande!
Fun reading here. Seems most of the writers couldn't give a fig whether others are repulsed by them or not. I surely don't. 😅😅😅
The vomiting part; "That could be a good indicator of disgust". Dr Grande never fails to make me laugh at least once :D
Omg i busted out laughing! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Stomach issues or Intoxication.
haha yah the synopsis at the end got me!
Many vomit when confronted with a homicide they committed.
Melordorous!
I seriously love you. Here I am laughing loudly at just about everything you’re saying whilst you’re maintaining a completely neutral voice and serious tone. You’re such a gem. Thanks for being you :)
I know, funny...Dr is so composed
He's very professional. I trust everything this man says as well educated fact.
If I was loved , why am I suffering so much and why have I been left here to suffer so much longer , I've asked , I've more or less begged and nothing , I've prayed to God and nothing, why, why , why 🥲 when I do most of the things I do it is to repulse people because they are evil fake people, I only have love and kindness for honest people .
It's cruel to make me suffer like this
On the Netflix doc about Ted Bundy, one of the detectives that had interviewed him said sometimes he would vomit after talking to Bundy.
Imagine the negative energy coming off Bundy. Couldnt imagine being near the guy!
Whatever demonic negative energy was attached to Ted Bundy is enough to make somebody vomit for sure. Physical signs of nausea can be a sign that someone has demonic spiritual forces in or upon them.
@@aratneerg1375 I doubt he really “gave off negative energy” considering he was able to convince so many young girls he didn’t know to put themselves in vulnerable positions.
Although once he was caught I’d assume he’d be more “himself” and may not have cared as much about how people perceived him. I’m assuming the detective got to see the real side of Bundy; the sadistic psychopathic narcissist who enjoyed the discomfort of others... so yea, I wouldn’t say Bundy gave off negative vibes, at least not until he was caught.
idk, sometimes I hear those stories and I think they're exaggerating, who knows though he may have
@@aratneerg1375 Agreed-it’s probably more than the energy. The demonic forces of evil controlling him. A lot of us have physical signs when we are around people that have those evil attachments we may experience physical symptoms i.e. nausea.
“Do you have kids?” “I don’t know.” “You don’t know if you have kids?” “You can never be sure of these things!” 😂😂😂😂
I was talking to a guy from a dating site and he asked me (a woman) if I "was sure" that I didnt have any kids 😂😭😂😭😂😭 yah pretty sure I think I would remember being pregnant and giving birth.. like wut?!??!?!?! Lol 😂😂😂
I actually hate answering that one because people are trying to type-cast with 20-questions, and frankly, it's none of their business. If people have kids and want to talk about them, they usually do so quite readily. Just let people reveal what they want to about themselves.
Rusty Shackleford So Angelina Jolie has no chance with you.
Only guys can never be absolutely sure if they have kids. Neither am I for that matter.
If this applied to women as well, all of a sudden all those birth giving pain stories sound much more made belief.
@@shoshanna8475
Half the dates I've been on felt like job interviews. That's standard with women, but they sure don't like it when the tables turn and the man has his own list of qualifications and deal breakers!😂
Your dry delivery is pure gold 💛
I'm sorry you've been hurt, @Rosiered Betta 😢
It’s how to unmask a narcissist
@Taylor, dry humor unmasks narcissists? That would be interesting - please elaborate.
That’s why I luv Dr Grande, the dry delivery method cracks me up! Especially when he gets the ever so sly smirk...
I'm 1) an introvert-bigtime 2) a night owl
I can tolerate people for a very narrow amount of time. I actually prefer my own company- when i get repulsed by myself....I'm in trouble lol
Dr Grande-so serious-yet while he's talking I see eye movement. like when he said he actually witnessed the "B" person getting busted when a nearby shit stirrer rang her phone....I could see him recalling that incident. HaHa...
As an empath I have disgust for an acquaintance who is extremely narsisstic and a pathological liar.
It is disgusting to listen or be around narcissist and pathological lying.
@@jacquelinefroehle3583 , hi sister.... I appreciate your response. I don't know how the narcissists don't disgust each other... I can't tolerate them anymore. I see right through them now. 🕊️🤍
Narcissists are persons too. Have you ever lied
Self proclaimed "empaths" are, interestingly, some of the biggest narcissists on the planet.
That is a very narcissistic view to take on your fellow human being. Public smearing, even when given anonymity, is not a trait of an empath. More the behavior of a lower or mid range narcissist. A True Empath would feel pity and sorrow for someone with such a fragile self view, knowing that there is a traumatized child being held captive by what it thought was it's protector. Yet, you spent the time and energy to express your superiority over such obvious scum. Anyone who feels the need to announce themselves as an Empath, usually lacks the empathic trait they wish to portray. Knowing that I've created a level of cognitive dissonance within you gives me, "as a Narcissist" much needed and well deserved "joy". (Before you reply in disgusted disagreement, maybe take that time for a bit of introspection and change. Only an unaware narcissist would take that bait). Thank you for your time and consideration.
Growing up with a malignant narcissist mother and older sister who had disdain for me was painful and very confusing. It resulted in me having Stockholm Syndrome and severe physical and mental health issues. Now I'm 5.5 years no contact and struggling to identify and heal the damages done. Especially difficult is the negative learned self identity issues, and the negative reactive social issues. This video explains much about what I experienced from not only the abusers but also those people they slandered me to and triangulated their hate towards me. People believe lies as though facts and go along with mob mentality too easily.
You describe my experience exactly! ☮️
Same. Nice to know I'm not alone...I guess. Also sad to know I'm not alone. Wishing you peace and healing.
Still dealing with “why?” I was treated like a piece of trash from the mother and her two favorites. I developed a fear of people , resulting in reclusive life. Good luck to all who suffered this injustice.
@@jkgrosley735 I spent many years in therapy on the why of my own situation. I think the mom / sibling narcs are scared creatures unable to deal with the brutality of life. So they make you deal with their brutality. They have the maturity of insecure children who want the world to be a safe, predictable place that will care for them. But the world is not like that, and they know it. Somehow that translates to callous, cruel behavior. My mother twisted reality to keep me in a disassociation with my own emotions. I had to come to terms with that. You are not the problem. You are more healthy than them. Stronger.They know it, but will never act like it. They believe love is scarce. If people start to love you, there may not be enough love left over for them. You haven't suffered enough to deserve love. Not like they have suffered. They have to work hard to keep up illusions. You only have to be yourself. You can't be allowed to be cherished, lest they lose. And that is an injustice, just like you said.
My mom is dead but the damage she did lives on
If I pick up on these types of signs from another person, i just do myself a favor and basically forget about them with no delay. They don't exist anymore. There's absolutely no reason for me to be around someone who is giving me these signs.
Thanks for freeing me
Yeah don’t waste your time or energy on these. People they mean nothing .also people who never say hi first I have. A neighbor like that she always waits for me to
SAy hello hot and cold people one day they like you next day they always talk about them selves
@@kennethhall9202 Some people don't know how to break the ice, as long they aren't hostile it wants to hurt to say hi. Remember there are countless people who suffer from social anxiety.
Sounds like Thanksgiving with the relatives.
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Barry
Lol I can't
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LMAO! I second that! Thanks I needed that!
Now it's called social distancing.
Ahem. Social distancing has made me comfortable in the world. Shhhhh don't tell anyone. I hid it so well 😳
Never liked that term. Physical distancing is a healthy term because it's accurate. Canada seems to like the term 'social' because that place became very insular after the smartphone-social media revolution.
I love social distancing, we needed that.
@@CatalinaFOIA YOU needed it; not 'we'.
@@RideAcrossTheRiver We did, though.
Thank you for letting me know that there's a more accurate technical term for the emotions I feel towards several of the bosses at my job - it's not hatred, it's moral disgust. Great!
If this ever happened to you be glad.
It is better to know a person’s true feelings about you, right from the start, instead of investing in the wrong people.
Yeesss indeed! Gone & get it out the way! And be on your way! Outta here wit da nonsense!
YellowPaint100
Wow!
So you are disgusted by me!!???
I have the right to be here, just like you do.
I have the right to be educated and informed.
Sorry if my presence disgusts you
@@user-gy7bg1rv6o 😱 OH NOooo! I was agreeing with you! I meant the ppl showing disgust can get outta here.
YellowPaint100
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Good one!
Bless you
Just stay away from people.
People are so unpredictable.
Cats are better , so are birds.
When you get older you just don't give a s___ when someone snubs you
zero fs given...just give me my damn meds!
Yeah in fact I changed my middle name to snubs
Just wondering when that kicks in? Asking for a friend..
@@Chefgrlangel For me, it kicked in at around 50 years of age. I just don't give a crap anymore. If some repulses me, I say nothing and walk away...just walk away...because who gives a sh.t. I can also be repulsed by a person, at times, and not walk away, instead I'll come out and ask them WTF is your problem. I feel if I can get these things out in the open, perhaps, that person won't be so repulsing and I won't be so repulsed. Also, there is the option of saying F..k OFF. That usually sends a clear message, although, I wouldn't use that option in the place of employment, Instead I would employ my other method....just say nothing and walk away.
Jim
Same!
Women are taught to “be nice” our whole lives so sometimes it’s hard to just be direct! It’s something I’m constantly working on..
Could you please not express that so aggressively? It’s painful to listen to your bossy & belligerent tone…
@@j_freed Nah, if you are repulsed by someone just beat him
Shit not me! I’m very verbally direct and also you can see disgust in my face.
It’s hard for men to be direct or hurt others feelings as well.
Maybe 50 years ago thats the case.
“I don't know what's worse: to not know what you are and be happy, or to become what you've always wanted to be, and feel alone.”
Profound. Me too.
. knowledge is power.. it is better to know the truth...
if im gonna get hurt or upset.. hurt me with the truth, dont comfort me with a lie.
.. we are all human, ... so, in a way ... we are never really alone.. x
Sometimes it’s Best to go Lone Wolf and get to know the Real You!! Once you do this, you won’t feel alone, you will actually enjoy being alone!! And not putting up with anybody’s Bullshit on the outside world will bring you Great ☮️
Here's a thought, if someone is DISGUSTED BY YOU, simply WALK AWAY!!!!
no need because they already walk away from you
you rather move closer to them to annoy them and drive them further LOL
@@deltaxcd that will makw you even more pathetic. Listwn to thia "When you gotta go, you gotta go"
@@milovanmilovanov2598
You will only be pathetic if you will be trying to change that person's opinion.
And if someone is disgusted by you they are very likely your enemy
they would have to watch this video first to get WOKE tho
(because a lot of people don't really read those signs all that well. Which is partly why this video exists I think)
What if the person in question keeps seeking you out and trying to engage? People are strange lol.
Kurt Kobain a Pisces quote="Better to be Hated for who we are than loved for who we are not!"
Sooo true!...unless you have a narcissistic personality disorder.
however sometimes it gets to be painful for being hated for that reason...
That wasn't Cobain's quote. It was Andre Gide from Autumn Leaves.
I thought it was Rudy Ray Moore...
meli - if you can bear the pain of being disliked for some fault, you can grow.
Pain aversion is a big barrier to growth; It also seems to occur with pathological narcissism. NPs can't bear a second of disagreement or criticism, it's really ridiculous to be around that.
This is good to know as a person with Asperger's because I don't always understand the underlying emotions behind others' behaviour. I might have a good idea, but I have made quite a few mistakes through the years.
Joanne Entwistle I can relate to that. Im on the autism spectrum too
Thats their fault for not communicating clearly. Guessing games read between the lines are forms of manipulation or taught as an innocent norm. Its a real time waster if only they knew.
@@annetteblack9573 I've always believed that guessing games involving non verbal communication that is not clear and transparent is a form of manipulation. Some might think I'm nuts for saying that but if they do, I don't care.
Some people are repulsed by you (your skin color, your job, your appearance, your manners, etc) but still try to hide it... often because they want to use you for their own selfish motives.
So, yes, recognising such situations is the BEST way to avoid being abused in the first place.
The more I get older the more I see these signs
I think there’s more truth in total Lack of engagement from others. If you re ignored and overlooked most probably you repulse others.
refusing to acknowledge the potential existence of your own children had me in tears :) ty
FuzZFace hahahaha!
POTENTIAL existence? Do you not have any?
Your bland ending was absolutely hysterical.
My beautiful baby girl had an eczema outbreak (about the size of a quarter) around her mouth when she was a toddler.
When we would go anywhere mothers would appear repulsed and hurry their children into a different area.
It broke my heart because she just wanted to say hi and be friendly. She has always been clean/well dressed so they definitely thought she was contagious with something 😭
Amygdala tells us not to mate with others that have any signs of health issues, don’t put it on her, I suffered terribly with excema on my hands I know the feeling. It is what it is!
@Ashley Peterson
That's horrible. I'm sorry you and your baby went through that. We wonder why kids have no apathy, their parents don't teach it
It is a normal, human instinct (animals too) to be repulsed and avoid anything that looks, smells or sounds "out of the ordinary".
I had eczema as a kid and my niece has it. For both of us, it got better as we aged
Why would you bring her in public like that? Pay a rat a quarter to knaw that thing off her face
Your description is very accurate. That is how I react to employees who conspired to have me fired, but failed. I avoid eye contact,put distance when they approach & see past them as not there. I feel disdain, disgust & repulsed . Most of all distrust. I know its obvious & blatant. Don't care if it hurts them. They betrayed me. I am indifferent to them & they are irrelevant. It's the price of being a hater.
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Completely agree people who live their lives to destroy other people deserve karma and plenty of it ,nasty vindictive idiot's deserve to be in hell not heaven, unfortunately I can't help but defend the bullied individuals who should not have to tolerate such sick childish,immature evil individuals and I feel strongly about the fact that even if I was putting myself in danger I would still intervene if I was in the company of any person being bullied and harassed or blatantly ill treated ,it disgusts me to the core that particular such individuals seem to think this is ok ,I think if it was them experiencing this it would soon have a serious effect on them and their every day life , I believe in KARMA.
You, Dr Grande, are the opposite of repulsive in every way. 😘
I find narcissists to to show signs of repulsion very frequently.
Wow! I am so glad to hear you say that, because that is what came to mind when I tried to identify someone I knew as reacting to me that way. I remembered a narcissistic tenant I have who looks disgusted every time I come for the rent, anytime I try to say anything at all, and any time he's not talking non-stop. Since he's not got anything good to say about anyone, I imagine he is disgusted with life in general. He's a real drag to be around for even a minute. Narcissism. You got it!
My ex boss was like that
mikebalko misanthropist is a strong word but it fits some better than others and people that are disgusted and think that they are perfect are more
Likely Narcissistic
It means they hate people in
General right so how do you know that this person is a
Misanthrope as opposed to feeling love for themselves all
Encompassingly here you’ve got a point is narcissistic personality a kind of
Misanthropic personality type?
@mikebalko a narcissist cannot really be a misanthrope because they NEED people to feed off of. They do not avoid human society, they need to be around people to blame shift, to gaslight, to project their own feelings upon, and other narcissistic practices from their playbook. If they are left alone for too long, they become depressed because their own feelings are too much to bare. They still won't self-reflect though, unless they are in the process of changing for good... which is unlikely.
This was enlightening to me in that I realized for the first time that my adult daughter was repulsed by me.
9 out of 10 for my wife. But one can never be sure. Thank you, Dr. Grande, for bringing hope to my marriage.
Hahahahah
Ahahahahaah this made me laugh
I have to ask if she does the vomiting.
Lol you don’t hold back Dr. Grande. I was on a “date” a few weeks ago and the man said why are you looking like that? I said looking like what? He said like you’re disgusted LMAO that was the first time someone has ever said that to me, but I was disgusted
Pretty perceptive and blunt
Ooo please tell us more! Why were you disgusted? Did you stay or did you go?
Why were you disgusted? DONT LEAVE US HANGING
My ex-husband is from another country. And a total narcissist. Since he lacked the ability to read expressions, whenever he wanted to know what I was feeling he would say, “Why do you have that face?”. After awhile I understood what he meant by his question, but my answer was always, “Because this is the face God gave me!”
MaryAnne Brown brilliant! Good on you !
Sees title: “Awwwwwwwww.... :( 😢😢😢”
Pretty sure Dr. Grande would make an awesome stand up comedian. He has this way of talking about serious topics and then finishing them with a joke without letting the straight face slide.
But these signs could also be signs of social anxiety. So a person tries different ways to get out of a conversation because it makes them anxious.
That's me 💯
Me too!
Yes, and do you notice when someone strikes up a conversation with you, and you find you have EXACTLY the same esoteric interests, there is no anxiety & it's like you've known them all your life? We can't all be the same, and we wouldn't want to be.
When they squish their face tight like they bit into a lemon... red flag.
Lol
Haha what about if you do this in a photo. Are you repulsed by yourself.
@@andreasleonlandgren3092 i am
Tight lip smile!!
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That is called resting bitch face. I know a few women who have that look all the time and behave like they Are superior to everyone else. Also they all try to find flaws with others all the time. I call them fault finders and accusers. The other part is that anything always offends them. They are the always offended class. I work with these people. One was an HR director and she had a baby girl voice. One is a clerk and she literally stomps around the office. One is a supervisor and she dressed very bizarre like she wears costumes not clothes and her volume in her speech is also exaggerated. The last one is a manager and she is like Lilith from Frazier. She is cold and distant, she behaves as she is superior to an insane degree and her interactions are always as if she is an authority, like everyone around her is a child.
Just imagine watching this and suddenly realising that someone is repulsed by you - brutal
I'm realizing that the person that I work with repulsed me. I squinch up my nose, and flare my nostrils. Hahaha.
The worst is when it's the person who you have to live with (stuck with), who repulses you!! YES, of course they are A Narcissist!!🤮🤮👹👹
THIS IS ME RIGHT NOW
it's killing me!!!!
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@@lindat9083 he was on his best behaviour with you when you met ...what you're witnessing is the REAL him . Now that he's got you - he just lets it all hang out !😩
I was married to one of those too.He would lay on the couch for 4 days and not take a bath.God did he smell bad.I never smelled such horrible body oder.
The island in my kitchen has served as an effective barrier between me and certain repulsive persons.. I can use it to maneuver myself out of the room as they move deeper into the kitchen, limiting interaction with them. I definitely struggle living with people who say they love and care about me but then shut me down anytime I try to share my thoughts or feelings because they're old and emotionally immature. It tells me they only want relationship on their shallow terms, so I keep my distance.
Kick em out of your kitchen
You're right! I always wondered why people who are abusive toward you still want you around!? It's because they want to have relationships with people they can control.
Island in my kitchen i need to get one of those!
Yh unfortunately I find this happens repeatedly,only for what they want ,other than that they aren't interested in anything you say and try to intimidate you and reduce your self worth so that you feel like your a nothing or have anything valuable to offer ,yh unfortunately I don't believe that crock load of rubbish, they are not worth my time
Why do you have offensive people in your house?
Appreciative of the great variety of your content Dr. Grande, this keeps your channel so very interesting and that keeps me tuned in as one of my favorite channels 🙂❤️
I'm sooo grateful, that you mentioned that looking at the baseline of someones behaviour is important, Dr. Grande. Interpreting too much into nonverbal behaviour puts even more pressure on people like me who habitually feel strong discomfort in every day communication, and aren't fully capable of masking this.
I'm the type of person that hides on bad days in corners and closets, if necessary and almost always tries to escape from certain types of communicating with others, as this is hard work for me. Saying "Hi" must be enough sometimes. Genetically predisposed hypersensitivity to interpersonal akwardness. That's all.
Dr. Grande, everything would be so much easier for me, if you were a bit repulsive, too. Or in short: ❤
Dr. Grande, I have discovered while watching several of your analysis videos that you have a very dry sense of humor having a straight face or a slight smile. It's funny and refreshing😉
Omg! This is hysterical! I’ve felt (and displayed) disgust for some people but I truly can’t remember if anyone is/was repulsed by me. Probably because I don’t care 😂🤣
When Dr. Grande's stifling a chuckle multiple times throughout a video, it's going to be an intriguing and maybe unusual topic. Thanks for another insightful analysis!
"There's no way to be certain about these things"
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Lol but how?? 🤣🤣
@@martianprince3299 If so and if you dont like this person's YT platform/style then by all means go start your own YT channel.
John Seven right now I’m feeling repulsion
@@martianprince3299 Yeah.. and you know shit
bruh
Someone once wrote that if a person avoids you don't try to interact with them at all ever again. You have your answer.
totally agree
Someone has been talking to my boss, best friend, mom, wife, and mother in law.
I knew from the title this was gonna be gold, did not disappoint. 😹😹
I love how you can put your professional viewpoint on a video with a topic like this.
@J.L.W Well, now we have the Corona virus, sooo...
Some people only interact with you if you have something they want. If they think they can use you or manipulate you. It may be a positive thing to repulse a predator.
I agree with this as I have experienced this. If you can benefit them they will tolerate you, otherwise they will make a disparging comment, grimmace, or give you the looks that you are a villian. Usery at it best.
Your delivery is always so precise & intelligently explained! Thank you for sharing & for your effort!
I love this channel more and more every day.
Thank you for the variety of topics. It's always interesting and rewarding. I love your channel Dr Grande!
This is probably my favorite video of yours! It was extremely detailed & hysterical!
Dr. Grande, Thanks for your wide variety of topics. Your channel is never boring. 👍
I really enjoy the variety of subject matter on this channel. I didn’t expect this topic but it’s useful and fascinating. Thanks again, Dr. Grande 🙏
Me too!
Me three
Narcissistic Abuse Rehab I agree...have never thought of this topic being discussed at all.... really interesting video
@@renep7008 Hey there 💛
Narcissistic Abuse Rehab
Hey M.
Great to see you!
How have you been? And can’t wait to see your next creation.
Made even funnier by your straight face. Loved the last bit
Dr. Grande's dry delivery is the best!
This was hilarious! Thank God I'm not alone in this - was starting to worry about myself here lol!
1. Physical proximity, continous distance
2. Failure to engage in meaningful interaction
3. Rapid unnecessary disengagement
4. Lying about availability
5. Pretending to be on cell phone or other technology
6. Never sharing personal information
7. Fascial expression (scrunched/closed or open)
8. Perception of transgression or having committed something morally wrong
9. Negative body image for ownself translates to others
10. Nausea and vomiting
BONUS:
May include pretending, deception in order to remove oneself from other
A college psych prof. once told me that pursuing an advanced degree in psych was evidence of a severely flawed human.....I don't think he was joking.....
I think it's better to pursue the degree and understand yourself and others rather than ramble about wrong stuff thinking you're a know it all, and of course the serious level of projection that happens once one of these grandiose people meets an actual expert and starts hurling insults about "how they don't understand anything and are arrogant".
Yes, that's how education works, it's arrogance. And getting the degree means "there's a problem with you".
Yeah, see, something about that tells me that those are just excuses ignorant people hurl at mental health professionals.
Maybe it's time for the second part of that statement to actually be vocalized. The perosn with the degree and experience has more knowledge now than you're average person, they probably have themselves and you figured out.
That's like saying you started working out because you were exceptionally physically weak, but now you're Mohammed Ali, so maybe that statement the professor made is one that's lacking an important bit.
I wish they would mention that, rather than cut their statements short.
Hostility to the resentment repulsive jell congealing to conform the solidarity polarized magnetism. Beaming a laser focused on condescension to devalue a worth . Row row away from me because your annoying irritation motion moves movements continual inertia. Compromised the harmony midpoint balance equilibrium sum that one should not be sensitive taken personally when hurtful meanspirited treatment is reflected reciprocated by the
@@samf.s8786 maybe if you academics stopped trying to create inflation of words and money you could actually solve issue rather chopping a lads balls off because he doesnt know who he is.
Or you know stop acting condescending and we'll make fun of you less
I've never heard of anyone being so repulsed by someone that they vomit. How horrid would you have to be?
well, a really bad case of body odor and having to sit in a car with that colleague can do that to someone ... you just cannot escape that smell, it becomes what you breathe and taste ... the secretions of a person you loathe ... I've been close
@@MegaTinni have to sit in the car with them? Nope. If it's their car, I'll call an uber to come get me! 😂
@@SouthernTeaIntuition yes, it was my boss at the time...returning from a team building activity...we were three in that car + a pink elephant (felt more like I swallowed it) ;-)
MegaTinni oh my god yes. A student from my school smells horrible. One time we had to work on a project at his place. The whole apartment smelled like him and he had clutter everywhere, on the floor as well as the couch. Then he went to smoke inside and all the smells together made me gag. I can still remember his smell. Disgusting lol
To elaborate, I was thinking more along the lines of vomiting when you see someone just because of who they are or how they are. Body odour wasn't what was in my mind at all... although I have been there - I've puked because someone smelled so badly.
I love Dr. Grandes analyses. It encourages me to actually engage my brain
Thank you for mentioning the connection between physical disgust and moral disgust. Now I understand someone who was paranoid about bacteria and always moralizing, too.
I so can appreciate your efforts in remaining professional and trying to keep straight face and get through the content.
I believe there are many reasons someone would want to stay or get away from someone, none of which would have anything do do with what we would consider "repulsed." Avoidance in and of itself is simply not wanting to be around that person as they make you uncomfortable. It may not be physical or moral. You just may not like them. Maybe they talk too fast, maybe they are mentally unbalanced, maybe they talk about things you have no interest in, or are someone you don't identify with on any level due to their profession, connections, status or control. None of these is moral or physical. Sometimes we just don't vibrate with their patterns.
Forgive me but I laughed so much, this sounded like the all time greatest comedy routine In the world
I started laughing at number 1! I know it's not really funny, but just some of the images...😂😂😂😂😂
Same. I was starting to worry about myself for laughing!!
@pinkmoon I was in TEARS of laughter at the end! 🤣🤣🤣
For the first time in my life I experienced the scrunched nose repulsed reaction.
I ran into the mother of my daughter's classmate. Her child knew me and said hi and asked about my daughter. I smiled and responded to her, I work in their classroom and knew her very well.
The mother then said "we should get together soon", with a fully scrunched nose and a very painfully fake smile.
I was taken aback since it was so unnecessary to even say that.
It still bothers me from time to time.
I learn much from you! Thank you for making and sharing these UA-cam videos 😊
Wooo! My fav youtuber is back! 🙆🏾♀️
You're an asset to YT! Thank you Doctor for all you do!
Most people feel like this about me. Thank you for explaining this so well!
Wishing you much self discovery, joy and growth along your journey!
When they've ghosted you for 5 consecutive years that might be a sign.
I feel moral disgust and physical disgust often.
The repellent. Awesome 😎
This video is hilarious.
4:54 is when he starts.Your Welcome
vgymgy subscrimchi thank you ☺️
All of his videos have long disclaimers
vgymgy subscrimchi thank you!
Lol
I love people like you.
I'm not sure I agree with you 100 percent on this one. There are a lot of people out there who don't respond well to being rejected upfront. Sometimes it's best to make up an excuse not to talk to a person rather than tell them you are not interested for your own safety. In a perfect world though honesty would be the best policy.
I agree. I was honest with a guy that asked me if I had any single girlfriends I could possibly set him up with. I told him no, because they wouldn't want to have anything to do with him. He was so upset with my response that he started beating up and throwing stuff around. Hey, I was just being honest, lol. Glad he didn't beat me up but wasn't expecting that reaction from him.
I agree 100%
From my own experience, the moment I showed these signs to some people, they continuously breach that boundary, by provocking conversation or action toward them.
That shows abnormal psychology.
@@christycatuncan3383 I'll bet you thought to yourself "aaaaand this is why neither me nor my friends want anything to do with you!" Dude sounds unhinged to say the least.
@@christycatuncan3383 He's not well, but just based on what you said here, I feel sorry for him. That just sounds mean - unnecessarily hurtful. He probably has a deep sense of inadequacy, and that just amplified it.
@@jaykay415, I think the guy should just have vomited and left it at that.
I first found one of your videos yesterday. I like that you speak clearly, and in language that is concise.
Very difficult to listen to. My step-mother showed all these signs towards me from the time she married my father when I was ten. Then there was the more obvious unquestionable stuff she did when there were no witnesses.....
Yeah I don't approve of treating kids like that. Relationships are a package job. Hang in there!
I'd probably give her something to be disgusted about!
This probably stems from when, if I cried as a child, my father would tell me to shut up or I'd get something to cry about. one-day i put that claim to the test. Guess what happened?
So sorry that happened to you. Hope you're ok now :(
I feel you!!!
You should have vomited on her shoes so she had a real reason to be disgusted
If somebody is holding 10 signs that say they are repulsed by me... I'm gonna take their word for.
But realise that their 10 signs are as much (probably more, actually) about them than it is about you!!!
Even if they are some esteemed person. It is as much about their selves as it is about who/what you are!
I've known more than a few Very Troubled 'mental health' workers!!! And many have risen to be the flavor of the day only to pass from favor in due coarse!
Once the curtain was pulled back and people realised there really wasn't much there after all.
Dr. G-- It's not always the person FEELING the disgust that is the problem. It can be the person TRIGGERING the disgust that is the problem. I'm going through this with someone right now. I don't want to be around this person, because I believe they are MEAN and that triggers bad memories of family for me . I try to avoid this person but he/she still tries to talk to me.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us ! I take notes and learning a lot, you’re enjoyable to listen to. Great job
Be well and God Bless
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Called the persons phone while they were pretending to be on a call?! 🤣🤣🤣 thats ice cold! ❄🧊
I would do that if they hurt the other person's feelings..
Also not taking a hint and needing to call out an avoidance tactic to get more attention on the issue. Way to embarrass and call themselves out tbh 😂
No, I think you missed the "punchline" of that particular "joke":
The FAKE phone call was what was ice cold, the REAL call was what could be considered WHITE HOT.
"Moral" of the story? If you're going to engage in such shenanigans, make sure the people you're repulsed by are as stupid as you might think they are.
LOL. Nasty person that person is.
The existence of children - Is that brilliant poetic licence being inserted there? - great writing and dead pan on delivery - the humorist in you just can't sit quiet
Thank you again for confirming interactions that I've experienced but lacked the correct word to describe the feeling 🤦🏾♀️. WOW! Now I know exactly how to respond.
When I was a little girl of 7, I was wall-eyed (one wandering eye). That bothered some people. We were preparing for our First Communion day, and I happened to be in the church at the same time as "Rosemary," another girl in my class. To practice for my First Communion, I extended my tongue for the bishop to put the host on my tongue. Suddenly I heard "Rosemary" make one of those holier-than-thou sounds, "Huuuuuuuuuu. I'm going to tell on you when we get back to school that you stuck your tongue out at Jesus." (It was Friday after school). I felt horrible all weekend & suffered in terror as to what was going to happen on Monday.
Monday came, and we were all back in the classroom. "Rosemary" stood up and very snot-ally announced in front of the entire class to the nun that I had stuck my tongue out at Jesus. Horrified, I stood up & told the nun that wasn't true -- that I had been practicing for my First Communion. To my surprise, the horrified nun ANGRILY chastised "Rosemary" in front of the entire class, clearly recognizing that I was a decent person & "Rosemary" was a trouble-making little snot.
I was only defending myself, not wishing anyone any harm, but I have to admit I did get some kind of satisfaction out of that exchange. I wonder whatever happened to that repulsive little snot, "Rosemary."
LOL!!! Loved the last example🤣🤣🤣 Best laugh I’ve had in quite a while, thanks😀
I have watched this video many times. I don’t know why but I really like this video. I find it funny, interesting and I love the ending remarks. I am happy to watch it again!😌❤️
great work here Doc... you possess an ability to explain certain, sometimes difficult, mental health issues in an easy to understand way by using
economical language which almost anyone is capable of
understanding....
Love your channel, people should just be kind to one another.
You are wonderful 😀
Loved the descriptions, with thanks!
I seriously got the giggles on this one! Thanks 😌 I so look forward to your vids. (I know it’s a serious subject , but the way you present it is the best)
@ kellyAnn Allen glad it was not just me. Person B going off to vomit, was my breaking point 😁😂
Doc I love how methodical u are with the explaining! So easy to follow your train of thought bcuz ur thorough AF! Lo’ you! 😂
I got "that look" from women I went to school with but after many years in the service I am not in that bad of shape for my age.I saw 2 of these women a short time ago and after realizing who they were I was the one repulsed. Yuck !
Cope
There were a few people I went to high school with whose pictures I saw years later--they were disgusted by me then, and they were physically attractive in the later pictures, but I was disgusted. It was powerful to let myself be disgusted years on. It helped me let go.