One of the most beautiful things I've ever experienced as a woman with a man was being in the kitchen cooking up a meal, doing what I like to do which would ultimately bless him because he loved home-cooked meals & him being in another room with an electric saw cutting wood to fix a window frame that would ultimately bless me. He was totally in his element doing what he loved to do and it was beautiful 🙂
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm wtf? Yes it does! Has everything to do with it. She's pointing out how she is with a wonderful man and how they both play their parts and that's part of marriage.
@@DavidZ4-gg3dmOh but it has everything to do with showing the respect Mr Shapiro is referring to when a man is able to "do" for and to be relied upon by a woman. Lighten up David Z - try not to take things so seriously.. you'll be a much happier guy 🙂
@@GummySlayer Really what I'm pointing out is that Mr Shapiro states it's a show of respect for a woman to "rely" on a man which is what I was doing when he fixed the window sill...I just so happened to be cooking a meal at that time which on the flip side was something I was doing that would bless him.
I'm a grown man but my wife is so nurturing, when I get sick all I want is for her to take care of me because her presence is so comforting.it really goes both ways.
My husband is not a Mr. Fix it naturally but he has a Helpers heart and always helps especially when he sees I’m burnt out or can’t get things done. If I say I’m struggling he goes “behind my back” & researches what can help my issue. It makes me feel so loved and makes me want to reciprocate so our marriage flourishes. This is how God made us & intended it 🥰❤
I needed to hear this. I lost my husband in February. He was my whole world and I trusted him with everything and I relied on him for everything. Little did I know that this is something that he found endearing and wanted to do. Thank you for this post.❤😢
A higher percentage of women would love to have a marriage like this. But unfortunately, experience has thought us that men mostly treat women like that with disrespect and abuse. Look at the high rate of domestic abuse in the world that has existed for ages. We watched our mothers, aunties, grandmothers go through the worse of abuse, with no way out and eventually die just for being a house wife and relying on their husbands. Making fun of "feminists" saying "you want me to rely on you? You hate women". Well, Ben, have you asked why they say that? Why they think men hate women? You really think they were just born having that kind of thought? Instead of making videos that actually teaches men to do better and right by their wives and children, so many Videos like this just put the blame on women, or make mockery of feminism which was created to empower women, making it seem like it's something st*pid & bad.
@@immatey8899I disagree with you. I’ve never witnessed any domestic abuse of any women in my family. It’s not the norm don’t try to insinuate it is. Also, realise men and women are different creatures. Men don’t exchange in petty squabbles. When a man loses his temper it’s often because he has a complete vow of a wife who has been constantly criticising everything he does. Women like to put everything on the man including the blame. When did women become so horrible. I’m a mother to threes sons and I worry about what they will get involved with.
That’s my favorite thing. I’m a pretty sure woman but I got in a hit and run a month ago. I was rattled someone hit my car and left so I pulled over and called up my husband. He was at work calmed me down and told me step by step what I needed to do.
I know how to do a lot of things a man can do. Change a tire, change a battery, use a saw, lawnmower, drive a tractor etc.. but the other day my car needed a new battery and I was stuck in front of a grocery store. I called my husband right away. Even though I know how to do those things doesn’t mean I want too. My husband finds such JOY In helping me and doing these things for me so I called him. Made my day seeing him so happy. He never complained, just said “ babe I’ll be right there.” We have our roles and I’m proud to be his wife and a stay at home mom of 4 ❤❤❤
This sounds like my husband and me ❤ just because I can change the oil in our car doesn't mean I want to. I'll take the kids to the park so he can work in peace.
My dad always said, "You need to know how to do these things, but you should never have to." And I married a man who will drive my car to the gas station, so I don't have to stand out in the cold!
I learned just how much my hunny loves me recently when I fell and got a compound fracture. He walked into my hospital room and said, "I've got this, I've got you. You're gonna be fine." And he proceeded to take care of me in ways I never thought about. He used to be a Lifeguard on The Strip (we live in Vegas) and took care of his grandmother and aunt when they were dying from cancer. He knew his stuff. And though now things are back to normal, it brought us closer. I'm proud to say I can rely on him. And that doesn't make me less independent or less of a woman for it.
@@awatson8832 I'd say right here in Las Vegas, but to be honest it was a one in a million thing. But I came from an area of really decent and caring guys... Northern Arizona. It helped me to see when a genuine man was in front of me.
I'm tiny, and I changed TWO tires for an ex boyfriend. I CAN do it, but d*mn I love knowing that if I call my husband, he'll come and take care of me. ❤ Likewise, I know he appreciates being able to rely on me too.
I'm similar, I CAN change tires/oil/etc (funny history lesson, my grandfather only had girls so he taught them all he knew and Mom taught me) and then I married a man that grew up on a small farm that you had to fix/maintain everything, and I agree that it's nice not to have to do those things knowing that he will and vice versa. I also firmly believe something my mother used to tell me, she said no relationship is exactly a 50-50 partnershipall the time, some days it'll be 70-30 or 20-80 and as long as you both understand this and put forth the effort it'll all work out... And so far she's right, yesterday we celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary and still going strong 😁
@@alexandriakelley6105nah he's full of crap. He says this kind of thing before every album. Every single one is about how much he's growing up. But it never happens. He's a sleaze bag.
Somehow his jazz hands & weirdly erotic besties friendship with pervy “Housewives” guy (Andy Cohen) give me “Houseguys” vibe. 👎John. Megan Markle sounds more convincing
@@DavidZ4-gg3dmThis was philosophy for a long time. A man can form a career and build a good life, but juxtapose this theory against the touch and feel of a woman I love, there is little comparison. Although I agree marriage isn’t pertinent, love really is.
I am still single, but hope one day I too will be relied on just like that! I’m working on my life though, so I’m not just sitting around and doing nothing. Wish me luck!!
Exactly, when it goes both ways in a relationship, things are much more balanced, and both people can share the load together rather than it just being one person.
@@DavidZ4-gg3dmYou're right. I was stuck in a marriage that Wasn't like that. Eventually it breaks you down and causes your heart to harden. In my case it also caused hate. It was the gate that opened my eyes to the reality that if I was going to do it all alone, I might as well be alone. Now, life is great!!
Totally agree, BUT you definitely need to prove first that you are a reliable person/husband. In the beginning we definitely sit back and watch for these instincts. If we dont see it then we call it out to try and help with bettering our partner, which is then confused with us trying to contrtol him or not trusting him and so on.
My daughter sent me this! She said I think I found the man for you! She knows me so so well! John, I’m here, babe. My daughters first concert was a John Mayer concert! I need a real man… leader!❤
Me too, I'm divorced over 20 years, and the last bloke I went out with for a while, was a liar and scrounger, others I've met have either been married or tossers. So I don't bother anymore, I've plenty of great friends.
This was exactly how I felt about my late husband. Even now, 10 years after his passing, I still say to our kids, "If only Dad was here..." He was a REAL MAN. R.I.P., my Michael. ❤
Having that security in life of knowing that the person you’re with can absolutely help you with almost any problem is so comforting. The men feel that way in the relationship too.. just having your person that will be there and calmly help any stressful thing and be his peace that’s all he really wants. Be faithful, be loving, be there and be respectful. That’s exactly what every person really wants. He wants to know that you do value him and that he’s not replaceable. That having him in your life has greatly improved your life. That’s really not asking for much. 🖤 it’s a beautiful thing to have a healthy mature relationship with a good man.
I 100 percent feel this way about my husband. If I'm in any situation that I can't figure out or just can't handle, my husband is the first thing that pops in my mind. It's a beautiful thing to have that kind of trust in someone, so much security. 🥰 I feed him, clean everything, do all the laundry, take care of the kiddos, and love him more than I can put into words. In return I get security in all ways and he unconditionally loves me. If some women don't want that, that's fine, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting it.
It would be beautiful to both have that feeling, sharing everything including our pain sometimes. John's future wife will "know what to do" sometimes, as he will "Know what to do" for her sometimes too. Good luck on your journey John, you deserve a precious soul mate for your GOOD heart.
I've been married 12 years, and this is exactly how I view my husband. He is so level-headed and so rational that I know I can take my emotions to him, and he will help me sort out the problem. Even if it is by him not really thinking it is a big deal, it grounds me a lot and helps me see past my emotions and overthinking tendencies.
I have never been married, but I know one person I can actually rely on for anything and everything. He is an amazing friend, I only hope I can reciprocate the same in any way 🙏🏼🤗
The truth is that I’m a true healthy balanced relationship, it goes both ways. My husband will also call me for advice and guidance or just for my opinion whether he follows it or not but what he’s longing for is a woman who is reliable but also is valuable bc you want to know what she thinks.
I lost for example: my ex cut a board 24 inches, attached hooks, nailed to the wall for hanging jackets. My attitude was yeah its a board on a wall wth hooks. We needed it. He wanted awe and praise which he didn't get. He is an ex ladies.
@@janet1744 sorry about the ex, I'm wasn't that lucky at first. I have an ex out there and my husband has two. LOL it was a long road to finally find each other and have exactly what we're looking for; and we also learned some hard lessons along with some massive heartaches along the way. Good luck out there!
The best thing in the world is knowing my husband will be there taking care of me no matter what. I dont always need that but there are times I definitely need that. And knowing he is ready and able at any moment is wonderful. I couldnt do what I do with raising our 6 children without him being the rock he is. Theres nothing wrong with needing a man. He also needs me and would tell anyone the same. 🥰
In home depot yesterday, a lady w/ a great dane on a leash came by where my children and I were waiting for my husband. My 2yr and 1yr old girls squealed in delight at the doggy, so the lady brought her over to greet them. The dog was as tall as my girls in the cart! I fleetingly thought "this breed isnt known for being good w/kids," when my husband appeared. I was so relieved to see him! The dog was very sweet and there was no problem, but I knew if anything went down my husband could and would protect us ❤
I used to be very independent and want to do everything myself, but now that I'm married, I find myself naturally wanting my husband to make more decisions for us and I want to naturally rely on him more to take charge.
Marriage is incredibly triggering for me. Most of my ex’s have cheated their way to the people they’re married too. And it really sucks seeing people who have caused you nothing but pain and suffering seemingly get a happiness they do NOT deserve.
If you say that most of your ex’s have cheated then maybe whatever route you use to find people for relationships is not the right route and you’re meeting the same type of people. Maybe change it up and find other ways of meeting women that is more healthy and maybe even out of your comfort zone.
They’re probably not as “happy” as you think they are, if a relationship starts off with lying, deception, cheating, etc. even to another person, there’s definitely going to be trust issues, and without complete trust, there’s no real peace in a relationship. So don’t fall for it 😅
My husband has been gone 7 years now.We were never blessed with children not by our choice.We depended on each other. I loved cooking,cleaning,and anything that would he needed.He was the same way.I never had to worry about anything. I never realized how much deeper our love and respect for each other till after his passing. I dont think i could love that deep for someone now.Life is harder by myself. He was always there.Marriage is the greatest thing that you can be blessed with.
I didn't meet my husband until I was in my 30's and we married when I was 35. I had been independent for some time, and I knew I could take care of myself. That being said, I was honored that my husband cherished my wellbeing. I realize that one of the ways he shows his love is by doing things for me like filling my car with gas and making sure I'm OK when we are apart. I am blessed.
40 years together, and i still call and ask my husband. Not because I need permission, but because we're partners in life. It's also about mutual respect and trust. ❤
My husband and I have learned this very lesson over the years. Nothing feels better than him saying he'll take care of it, and then actually doing it. It's the same for him with me.
Got a little misty over here thinking that this is exactly how I perceive my husband. We haven't gone through many crises together, but for those we have, I am glad I had him to take care and be the strength of our family.
I know, for sure, 💯% that I can count on my husband for anything & everything. He is absolutely unshakable. And we have been thru some things that would have shook a lesser shakable man. Ex: my horrific car accident (car flipped & totaled/ I'm fine, my many many un-car crash related surgeries over the years, my turbulent family background that loves to whip into the foreground aka... my mother, and lastly my passion for animal rescue which has never left us short on pets or short on love ❣️🐾. I can count on my husband and I take care of him as best as I can. Thank God I'm an excellent cook! ❤️🤗😅
I don't have to do anything for My husband, he's totally capable of doing everything himself. But I want to Cook for him and make him happy, i want to be his peace when he's home. He gets 1 Day off a week. I spoil him rotten on his Days off. We call them Micah Mondays. 😊 He gets massages and gets to do whatever he wants to. Which is usually just relaxing. But I work less hours a week then him, so I have more time to take care of the kids and house. Which if needed he'd step up to help with if I'm sick. Knowing someone has your back is the best! Knowing your wanted and not needed is an amazing feeling.
There is something so comforting when you have another adult to lean on and take direction from. It’s scary and exhausting to always be the one making critical decisions…it’s not for me, and I’m thankful for my husbands leadership ❤
When I got married 46 years ago I wondered if something bad were to ever happen would he protect me and save me? Two years later someone broke into our home, he heard them and immediately pounced on him! The man ran out the door and he stayed on his heels and I ran to the window to scream for help which turned into a blood curdling scream because two more men were about to come in the window! At the sound of my scream he turned and saw the truck with men on top and somehow in a split moment of rushing back to me he looked at the license! They jumped down and drove off and when the police arrived he was able to give full descriptions of the men, the truck and license number. The men were arrested within 20 minutes! That is when I knew I could trust him with everything in our marriage, he always knows what is best! But I had asked God to send me the man who would care for me all my life and he did! John will make a wonderful husband, he should also ask God to send his perfect wife 😇
This is actually super refreshing.. if I am in a relationship i do firmly believe it should be 50/50 if females are bring certain qualities to the table the men should too.. Also it's not about relying on someone it's valuing their opinion and trusting they will not harm you. There is a big difference between valuing your husbands/wifes opinion and looking to them guidance vs. Asking for permission.. that is the difference people over look and it causes blow ups.
True story: My husband and I sold our home and bought a Class A RV. I followed the RV in my car so we could have time apart so as to not get sick of each other.🤭Start out on the open road to winter in coastal bend Texas. We were headed to Walmart for a phone for him and tires for me. I get a flat and he doesn’t see me even though I honked and flashed my lights. I pull in restaurant parking lot. And proceed to get flat off and put the doughnut spare on. I get to Walmart tire center and my husband had just left to save me. He was so bummed that it surprised me. Here I was thinking he was going to be proud of me for getting my semi-old bum out there and doing it myself. And although he was happy I was safe he was bummed I didn’t need him. Since then the strangest thing happened, I can’t get certain jar lids open, I’m unable to reach certain things and ask questions in his field of expertise. 32 yrs married and a flat tire made a huge difference in our relationship.
Met him at a party in NYC - he was an a** to so many of the guests. He ended up standing alone for a few minutes and then stormed out. No one was imprressed by him or his attitude. Fairly well adjusted...no.
Married then widowed after 39 yrs. Thought I had the answer to all the questions and would be ok. Problem was, 9 outa 10 the answer was” Call James.” Frankly, it’s been tough without him.
I was raised by a single mom with three daughters. I was taught to never rely on anyone but yourself or your Mama. 33 years ago I’m met my husband and now if I didn’t rely on him I don’t know where I would be today or if I would be today so I say let the men be men.
I would love to have that! As well as be that! I spent too much time only being able to rely on myself. Not bc I wanted to but rather bc to find that is not easy! Honesty and integrity are qualities VERY few have but everyone believes they are and have
My husband and I both have different strengths, we recognize this and it really does give us an amazing advantage. We can count on each other, we need each other and we are not afraid to admit it or offended by discussing and acknowledging it. People nowadays are so strange in the way they think of relationships.
A few months ago, I was in a head-on collision with an elderly man who ran a red light. I was bloody and shaking like crazy. My first thought was to call my husband so he could think for me. After giving my statement to the police, my husband's stayed at the scene to wait for and deal with the tow truck so I could leave. Relying on someone else is not weak.
It's nice to see that we still have young gentlemen. Anyway, if you show a woman that you can handle her stuff, she won't need to be told. The problem is that some of us have been raised to be independent and we handle everything for ourselves.😂🤣 I believe this is what is causing the disconnect in modern marriages. It could take a while for me to rely on a man to handle my business, but I sure can get there if I see that he really can and wants to do it for me. 😊
Legitimately I’m rather lost without my husband. Not saying I can’t figure it out should something happen to him but he just handles everything so well. I’m happy to follow his lead, I definitely need him.
It's not about "having" to rely on someone. Being able to is the key.
Absolutely
Absolutely agree
Yes. That’s it exactly.
100%
Yes
One of the most beautiful things I've ever experienced as a woman with a man was being in the kitchen cooking up a meal, doing what I like to do which would ultimately bless him because he loved home-cooked meals & him being in another room with an electric saw cutting wood to fix a window frame that would ultimately bless me. He was totally in his element doing what he loved to do and it was beautiful 🙂
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm wtf? Yes it does! Has everything to do with it. She's pointing out how she is with a wonderful man and how they both play their parts and that's part of marriage.
The food of a loving woman tastes so good on so many levels. We bond with a woman who loves us enough to feed us. Its the most wonderful thing.
@@DavidZ4-gg3dmOh but it has everything to do with showing the respect Mr Shapiro is referring to when a man is able to "do" for and to be relied upon by a woman. Lighten up David Z - try not to take things so seriously.. you'll be a much happier guy 🙂
@@jerryjerry3045For some men there's nothing like a home cooked meal after a hard day's work - beats the Country Club any day 🙂
@@GummySlayer Really what I'm pointing out is that Mr Shapiro states it's a show of respect for a woman to "rely" on a man which is what I was doing when he fixed the window sill...I just so happened to be cooking a meal at that time which on the flip side was something I was doing that would bless him.
I'm a grown man but my wife is so nurturing, when I get sick all I want is for her to take care of me because her presence is so comforting.it really goes both ways.
That was my late husband. I miss him, and am so lost without him.
I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband passed three years ago today. I miss having him to lean on.
I’m so sorry for your loss
I am so sorry. I know the pain. I miss my husband, dearly. And always will. ❤️
🙏🏻
I’m so very sorry ❤
My husband is not a Mr. Fix it naturally but he has a Helpers heart and always helps especially when he sees I’m burnt out or can’t get things done. If I say I’m struggling he goes “behind my back” & researches what can help my issue. It makes me feel so loved and makes me want to reciprocate so our marriage flourishes. This is how God made us & intended it 🥰❤
Do you guys have kids?
I needed to hear this. I lost my husband in February. He was my whole world and I trusted him with everything and I relied on him for everything. Little did I know that this is something that he found endearing and wanted to do. Thank you for this post.❤😢
I'm sorry for your loss 😢
I am also a widow (nearly 10 years now) and I totally empathise with you...I am so sorry. You and your late husband will be in my prayers. ❤
I would love to have a marriage like this.
@mrs2tired1962
By your moniker it appears you ARE married.
@@nonyab3843 twice divorced
@@nonyab3843 not happily, i guess
A higher percentage of women would love to have a marriage like this. But unfortunately, experience has thought us that men mostly treat women like that with disrespect and abuse. Look at the high rate of domestic abuse in the world that has existed for ages. We watched our mothers, aunties, grandmothers go through the worse of abuse, with no way out and eventually die just for being a house wife and relying on their husbands.
Making fun of "feminists" saying "you want me to rely on you? You hate women". Well, Ben, have you asked why they say that? Why they think men hate women? You really think they were just born having that kind of thought? Instead of making videos that actually teaches men to do better and right by their wives and children, so many Videos like this just put the blame on women, or make mockery of feminism which was created to empower women, making it seem like it's something st*pid & bad.
@@immatey8899I disagree with you. I’ve never witnessed any domestic abuse of any women in my family. It’s not the norm don’t try to insinuate it is. Also, realise men and women are different creatures. Men don’t exchange in petty squabbles. When a man loses his temper it’s often because he has a complete vow of a wife who has been constantly criticising everything he does. Women like to put everything on the man including the blame. When did women become so horrible. I’m a mother to threes sons and I worry about what they will get involved with.
The best thing about my husband is he is as steady as a rock. I love how dependable he is, and I appreciate all that he does for our family ❤
Yep. Always said sexiest thing a man can ever do is protect his woman/family.
It truly is.
Indeed! 🫶🏾
I love hearing this, especially from John Mayor... I feel like God layed him on my heart the other day to pray for him....
That’s my favorite thing. I’m a pretty sure woman but I got in a hit and run a month ago. I was rattled someone hit my car and left so I pulled over and called up my husband. He was at work calmed me down and told me step by step what I needed to do.
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You didn't know what to do?
@@cmhardin37It's called "shock", dude.
I know how to do a lot of things a man can do. Change a tire, change a battery, use a saw, lawnmower, drive a tractor etc.. but the other day my car needed a new battery and I was stuck in front of a grocery store. I called my husband right away. Even though I know how to do those things doesn’t mean I want too. My husband finds such JOY In helping me and doing these things for me so I called him. Made my day seeing him so happy. He never complained, just said “ babe I’ll be right there.”
We have our roles and I’m proud to be his wife and a stay at home mom of 4 ❤❤❤
This sounds like my husband and me ❤ just because I can change the oil in our car doesn't mean I want to. I'll take the kids to the park so he can work in peace.
My dad always said, "You need to know how to do these things, but you should never have to." And I married a man who will drive my car to the gas station, so I don't have to stand out in the cold!
It's like men holding a door open for women. We can all open a door on our own but the simple gesture means so much.
I learned just how much my hunny loves me recently when I fell and got a compound fracture. He walked into my hospital room and said, "I've got this, I've got you. You're gonna be fine." And he proceeded to take care of me in ways I never thought about. He used to be a Lifeguard on The Strip (we live in Vegas) and took care of his grandmother and aunt when they were dying from cancer. He knew his stuff. And though now things are back to normal, it brought us closer. I'm proud to say I can rely on him. And that doesn't make me less independent or less of a woman for it.
Where is a man like him?
Beautiful!
@@awatson8832 I'd say right here in Las Vegas, but to be honest it was a one in a million thing. But I came from an area of really decent and caring guys... Northern Arizona. It helped me to see when a genuine man was in front of me.
Awwww….it sounds like he is definitely a keeper! ❤️🥰
🎉🎉congrats!!😊😊
I'm tiny, and I changed TWO tires for an ex boyfriend. I CAN do it, but d*mn I love knowing that if I call my husband, he'll come and take care of me. ❤
Likewise, I know he appreciates being able to rely on me too.
No wonder why he's and ex
I'm similar, I CAN change tires/oil/etc (funny history lesson, my grandfather only had girls so he taught them all he knew and Mom taught me) and then I married a man that grew up on a small farm that you had to fix/maintain everything, and I agree that it's nice not to have to do those things knowing that he will and vice versa. I also firmly believe something my mother used to tell me, she said no relationship is exactly a 50-50 partnershipall the time, some days it'll be 70-30 or 20-80 and as long as you both understand this and put forth the effort it'll all work out... And so far she's right, yesterday we celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary and still going strong 😁
@llkg9 What does you being tiny have to do with anything in this conversation?
@@NikkiNicole-qy2nn Exactly 💯..
@@nonyab3843because she’s so dAiNtY! 🙄😂
We need to be needed. A good, thoughtful woman recognizes that and will want to be taken care of.
I've listened to this guy's music for years and this is a recent event. He did not think this way when he wrote all those songs
People grow up. People are always changing
What changed his perspective, do you think?
@@alexandriakelley6105nah he's full of crap. He says this kind of thing before every album. Every single one is about how much he's growing up. But it never happens. He's a sleaze bag.
Somehow his jazz hands & weirdly erotic besties friendship with pervy “Housewives” guy (Andy Cohen) give me “Houseguys” vibe. 👎John. Megan Markle sounds more convincing
@@MrJes3141The fickle winds of fame
Yes he is describing a real man
You can be a real man without marrying.
@@DavidZ4-gg3dmGosh David, you sound really insecure.
@@patriciaoldfather6377
And you sound like a feminist
@@DavidZ4-gg3dmThis was philosophy for a long time.
A man can form a career and build a good life, but juxtapose this theory against the touch and feel of a woman I love, there is little comparison.
Although I agree marriage isn’t pertinent, love really is.
@@patriciaoldfather6377 How so? For not wanting to marry?
John Mayer for the win!
I am still single, but hope one day I too will be relied on just like that!
I’m working on my life though, so I’m not just sitting around and doing nothing. Wish me luck!!
John mayer is my GOAT 🐐
His songs are absolutely beautiful.
I love that I can rely on my husband. God provides.
Beautiful response from John
I love John Mayer ☝️💯
In a good marriage it positively goes both ways instead being onesided or codependent or spitefully independent.
Exactly, when it goes both ways in a relationship, things are much more balanced, and both people can share the load together rather than it just being one person.
@@sincerelynotme3522 But in millions of marriages it isn't.
@DavidZ4-gg3dm And in millions of marriages it is.
@@sincerelynotme3522absolutely. 50% of marriages fail but that other 50% doesn’t get talked about enough. Some of us are doing great 😆
@@DavidZ4-gg3dmYou're right. I was stuck in a marriage that Wasn't like that. Eventually it breaks you down and causes your heart to harden. In my case it also caused hate. It was the gate that opened my eyes to the reality that if I was going to do it all alone, I might as well be alone. Now, life is great!!
That is the most attractive thing. To be able to 100 percent rely on your husband❤
Totally agree, BUT you definitely need to prove first that you are a reliable person/husband. In the beginning we definitely sit back and watch for these instincts. If we dont see it then we call it out to try and help with bettering our partner, which is then confused with us trying to contrtol him or not trusting him and so on.
Exactly, and this is John Mayer we're talking about. He doesn't respect women. He sleeps around as well.
I agree with this but I wanna get back to the point where I don't care to leavem better than I foundem lol
@@Stormy_Cloud Do you know him personally? If not then you can't say that at all. Even if he did in the past, people can change
My daughter sent me this! She said I think I found the man for you! She knows me so so well! John, I’m here, babe. My daughters first concert was a John Mayer concert! I need a real man… leader!❤
I wish that were true of more Men
It is. Society discourages it so we gatekeep it harder.
@@dylanzrim3635sick dude thanks 👌
Me too, I'm divorced over 20 years, and the last bloke I went out with for a while, was a liar and scrounger, others I've met have either been married or tossers. So I don't bother anymore, I've plenty of great friends.
@@bernadettekavanagh9984Sadly, I totally get where you’re coming from.
This was exactly how I felt about my late husband. Even now, 10 years after his passing, I still say to our kids, "If only Dad was here..." He was a REAL MAN. R.I.P., my Michael. ❤
Having that security in life of knowing that the person you’re with can absolutely help you with almost any problem is so comforting. The men feel that way in the relationship too.. just having your person that will be there and calmly help any stressful thing and be his peace that’s all he really wants. Be faithful, be loving, be there and be respectful. That’s exactly what every person really wants. He wants to know that you do value him and that he’s not replaceable. That having him in your life has greatly improved your life. That’s really not asking for much. 🖤 it’s a beautiful thing to have a healthy mature relationship with a good man.
John you are beautiful!♥️🎸
He is so right. My husband and I both thought that way of eachother.
Very special young man
He was born in 1977
I 100 percent feel this way about my husband. If I'm in any situation that I can't figure out or just can't handle, my husband is the first thing that pops in my mind. It's a beautiful thing to have that kind of trust in someone, so much security. 🥰 I feed him, clean everything, do all the laundry, take care of the kiddos, and love him more than I can put into words. In return I get security in all ways and he unconditionally loves me. If some women don't want that, that's fine, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting it.
John Mayer is one of the greatest guitar players of my generation and he's also just a super humble guy
It would be beautiful to both have that feeling, sharing everything including our pain sometimes.
John's future wife will "know what to do" sometimes, as he will "Know what to do" for her sometimes too.
Good luck on your journey John, you deserve a precious soul mate for your GOOD heart.
I've been married 12 years, and this is exactly how I view my husband. He is so level-headed and so rational that I know I can take my emotions to him, and he will help me sort out the problem. Even if it is by him not really thinking it is a big deal, it grounds me a lot and helps me see past my emotions and overthinking tendencies.
I love John. I’ve always wanted to see him settle down and have a family. And he’s 100% right.
John Mayer, I volunteer to rely on you the rest of my life 🙋🏻♀️
I have never been married, but I know one person I can actually rely on for anything and everything. He is an amazing friend, I only hope I can reciprocate the same in any way 🙏🏼🤗
Beautiful thing is, that this works both ways - depending on the situation ❤
The truth is that I’m a true healthy balanced relationship, it goes both ways. My husband will also call me for advice and guidance or just for my opinion whether he follows it or not but what he’s longing for is a woman who is reliable but also is valuable bc you want to know what she thinks.
I lost for example: my ex cut a board 24 inches, attached hooks, nailed to the wall for hanging jackets. My attitude was yeah its a board on a wall wth hooks. We needed it.
He wanted awe and praise which he didn't get. He is an ex ladies.
@@janet1744 sorry about the ex, I'm wasn't that lucky at first. I have an ex out there and my husband has two. LOL it was a long road to finally find each other and have exactly what we're looking for; and we also learned some hard lessons along with some massive heartaches along the way. Good luck out there!
The best thing in the world is knowing my husband will be there taking care of me no matter what. I dont always need that but there are times I definitely need that. And knowing he is ready and able at any moment is wonderful. I couldnt do what I do with raising our 6 children without him being the rock he is. Theres nothing wrong with needing a man. He also needs me and would tell anyone the same. 🥰
This! Women do want this. I ❤John Mayer
In home depot yesterday, a lady w/ a great dane on a leash came by where my children and I were waiting for my husband. My 2yr and 1yr old girls squealed in delight at the doggy, so the lady brought her over to greet them. The dog was as tall as my girls in the cart! I fleetingly thought "this breed isnt known for being good w/kids," when my husband appeared. I was so relieved to see him! The dog was very sweet and there was no problem, but I knew if anything went down my husband could and would protect us ❤
I used to be very independent and want to do everything myself, but now that I'm married, I find myself naturally wanting my husband to make more decisions for us and I want to naturally rely on him more to take charge.
Had that AND true love for 29 years 7 months, 3 weeks and 4 days .... and then she passed .... this past October 11th ❤❤❤
Glad you have those positive memories. With your attitude, when you’re ready, it won’t be long before you’re adding to those beautiful memories❤
Marriage is incredibly triggering for me. Most of my ex’s have cheated their way to the people they’re married too. And it really sucks seeing people who have caused you nothing but pain and suffering seemingly get a happiness they do NOT deserve.
If you say that most of your ex’s have cheated then maybe whatever route you use to find people for relationships is not the right route and you’re meeting the same type of people. Maybe change it up and find other ways of meeting women that is more healthy and maybe even out of your comfort zone.
@@paulmartin6209that's funny!
You assume op is a man and I thought it was a woman.
Literally no clues either way! 🤭
@@sweetmissypetuniawilson9206 I look at the persons subscriptions. I assume its a guy. If its not, is my comment still wrong?
@@paulmartin6209
I didn't bother.
Just thought it was funny.
Wasn't about right or wrong, but you do make a good point!
They’re probably not as “happy” as you think they are, if a relationship starts off with lying, deception, cheating, etc. even to another person, there’s definitely going to be trust issues, and without complete trust, there’s no real peace in a relationship. So don’t fall for it 😅
I'm learning these!! I was not well raised. And my husband it's so patient. He deserves all my love and respect
So true. Woman love it.
My husband has been gone 7 years now.We were never blessed with children not by our choice.We depended on each other. I loved cooking,cleaning,and anything that would he needed.He was the same way.I never had to worry about anything.
I never realized how much deeper our love and respect for each other till after his passing. I dont think i could love that deep for someone
now.Life is harder by myself.
He was always there.Marriage
is the greatest thing that you can be blessed with.
So seeking this in a potential husband; it’s not that you have to, it’s that you can relax into knowing you can. 🧡🙏
I didn't meet my husband until I was in my 30's and we married when I was 35. I had been independent for some time, and I knew I could take care of myself. That being said, I was honored that my husband cherished my wellbeing. I realize that one of the ways he shows his love is by doing things for me like filling my car with gas and making sure I'm OK when we are apart. I am blessed.
First and only person I call when anything goes wrong is my husband and just hearing his voice brings me immediate peace ❤❤even after 24 years
Love everything he said. 👍🏻👍🏻
40 years together, and i still call and ask my husband. Not because I need permission, but because we're partners in life. It's also about mutual respect and trust. ❤
Same for me after 50 years.
My husband and I have learned this very lesson over the years. Nothing feels better than him saying he'll take care of it, and then actually doing it. It's the same for him with me.
Exactly. As a 53+ years old white woman mother of 6, I am still waiting for my 54 years old husband to realize this. 😢😢😢 Pray for us.
I hear you. Had 10 good yrs w/ my husband. Now 35 yrs later every day is fresh horror.
💯
John Mayer is awesome
Smart dude
Got a little misty over here thinking that this is exactly how I perceive my husband. We haven't gone through many crises together, but for those we have, I am glad I had him to take care and be the strength of our family.
Just now noticed the cap on your head love it 🔥
I never knew he was still single, there’s someone for everyone.
She will come❤❤❤
I know, for sure, 💯% that I can count on my husband for anything & everything. He is absolutely unshakable. And we have been thru some things that would have shook a lesser shakable man. Ex: my horrific car accident (car flipped & totaled/ I'm fine, my many many un-car crash related surgeries over the years, my turbulent family background that loves to whip into the foreground aka... my mother, and lastly my passion for animal rescue which has never left us short on pets or short on love ❣️🐾. I can count on my husband and I take care of him as best as I can. Thank God I'm an excellent cook! ❤️🤗😅
I don't have to do anything for My husband, he's totally capable of doing everything himself. But I want to Cook for him and make him happy, i want to be his peace when he's home. He gets 1 Day off a week. I spoil him rotten on his Days off. We call them Micah Mondays. 😊 He gets massages and gets to do whatever he wants to. Which is usually just relaxing. But I work less hours a week then him, so I have more time to take care of the kids and house. Which if needed he'd step up to help with if I'm sick. Knowing someone has your back is the best! Knowing your wanted and not needed is an amazing feeling.
There is something so comforting when you have another adult to lean on and take direction from. It’s scary and exhausting to always be the one making critical decisions…it’s not for me, and I’m thankful for my husbands leadership ❤
Very beautiful. Its so true.
Love this!!
That was very well put.
Aww good for you JM!! You will be a great husband. Love John Mayer❤
I am so happy I'm single!
I bet your right hand isn't.
I love hearing this…go John Mayer
I love John Mayer. Im lucky to have a good husband, found him and we got married pretty quick but I couldnt let this one go!
When I got married 46 years ago I wondered if something bad were to ever happen would he protect me and save me? Two years later someone broke into our home, he heard them and immediately pounced on him! The man ran out the door and he stayed on his heels and I ran to the window to scream for help which turned into a blood curdling scream because two more men were about to come in the window! At the sound of my scream he turned and saw the truck with men on top and somehow in a split moment of rushing back to me he looked at the license! They jumped down and drove off and when the police arrived he was able to give full descriptions of the men, the truck and license number. The men were arrested within 20 minutes! That is when I knew I could trust him with everything in our marriage, he always knows what is best! But I had asked God to send me the man who would care for me all my life and he did! John will make a wonderful husband, he should also ask God to send his perfect wife 😇
This is actually super refreshing.. if I am in a relationship i do firmly believe it should be 50/50 if females are bring certain qualities to the table the men should too.. Also it's not about relying on someone it's valuing their opinion and trusting they will not harm you. There is a big difference between valuing your husbands/wifes opinion and looking to them guidance vs. Asking for permission.. that is the difference people over look and it causes blow ups.
Well said Ben. 👍
True story: My husband and I sold our home and bought a Class A RV. I followed the RV in my car so we could have time apart so as to not get sick of each other.🤭Start out on the open road to winter in coastal bend Texas. We were headed to Walmart for a phone for him and tires for me. I get a flat and he doesn’t see me even though I honked and flashed my lights. I pull in restaurant parking lot. And proceed to get flat off and put the doughnut spare on. I get to Walmart tire center and my husband had just left to save me. He was so bummed that it surprised me. Here I was thinking he was going to be proud of me for getting my semi-old bum out there and doing it myself. And although he was happy I was safe he was bummed I didn’t need him. Since then the strangest thing happened, I can’t get certain jar lids open, I’m unable to reach certain things and ask questions in his field of expertise. 32 yrs married and a flat tire made a huge difference in our relationship.
Met him at a party in NYC - he was an a** to so many of the guests. He ended up standing alone for a few minutes and then stormed out. No one was imprressed by him or his attitude. Fairly well adjusted...no.
Married then widowed after 39 yrs. Thought I had the answer to all the questions and would be ok. Problem was, 9 outa 10 the answer was” Call James.” Frankly, it’s been tough without him.
I love relying on my husband. He makes me feel so safe. 🥰💞
I love this!
I was raised by a single mom with three daughters. I was taught to never rely on anyone but yourself or your Mama. 33 years ago I’m met my husband and now if I didn’t rely on him I don’t know where I would be today or if I would be today so I say let the men be men.
such a beautiful thing ......
I would love to have that! As well as be that! I spent too much time only being able to rely on myself. Not bc I wanted to but rather bc to find that is not easy! Honesty and integrity are qualities VERY few have but everyone believes they are and have
Still celebrating my feminity, and celebrating with in men, as a wife, and mother. Its a power unto itself, and I'm happy and blessed with my rile.
JOHN MEYER KNOWS AND GOD KNOWS TOO ❤❤❤ WAY TO GO
Love it!
This is how I am with my husband. I know that he can handle what needs to get done.
My husband and I both have different strengths, we recognize this and it really does give us an amazing advantage. We can count on each other, we need each other and we are not afraid to admit it or offended by discussing and acknowledging it. People nowadays are so strange in the way they think of relationships.
A few months ago, I was in a head-on collision with an elderly man who ran a red light. I was bloody and shaking like crazy. My first thought was to call my husband so he could think for me. After giving my statement to the police, my husband's stayed at the scene to wait for and deal with the tow truck so I could leave. Relying on someone else is not weak.
It's nice to see that we still have young gentlemen. Anyway, if you show a woman that you can handle her stuff, she won't need to be told. The problem is that some of us have been raised to be independent and we handle everything for ourselves.😂🤣 I believe this is what is causing the disconnect in modern marriages. It could take a while for me to rely on a man to handle my business, but I sure can get there if I see that he really can and wants to do it for me. 😊
John with goated takes along with goated music
Legitimately I’m rather lost without my husband. Not saying I can’t figure it out should something happen to him but he just handles everything so well. I’m happy to follow his lead, I definitely need him.
Beautiful
And that’s exactly how I feel
About my husband. I know he can come up with or figure a plan out. He understands the assignment fully.
To provide and protect.
i freaking LOVE JOHN MAYER
I love that. There are so many times where I wait for my husband because I know he will be able to figure this thing out that I can't.
Love this❤
Beautiful. That's what women need and want, it's security in a cruel world.
I absolutely trust and rely on my husband... and it is very romantic.