When I was younger, I had two friends who I considered the closest people in the world. We spent time together, visited each other's homes, had fun together and I thought it would be like that forever. However, our paths diverged, we went to different schools and our contact ended. I remember how much I suffered at that time, I couldn't understand why it happened, I felt frustrated and betrayed. Later, I didn't look for new friends anymore, in high school I kept to myself, I didn't make new friends and that's probably why I was called a weirdo, but it didn't bother me, I felt good in my own company. However, when I was hospitalized and when I got out, the loneliness started to bother me a lot and I wanted to have someone close to me again. Despite this, I am tormented by fears, whether I will be able to establish such a close relationship as when I was younger, what if I invest my time and emotions in such a relationship and get betrayed again?
i'm not a very social person, so i ended up lowering my standards bc i don't want to be considered a total loser at school, but i'm 3 months away from finishing highschool so i've been feeling anxious because what if is the same thing at collegue? ik it's just abt me having to be willing to be more social, actually talking to people... all that stuff. improving yourself. just keep reminding to yourself that now that i'm just some months away from being considered an adult i have to take total care of myself. Back to the point, i feel so disconnected to these people that i'm even considering not going to prom although i feel that i could regret it later bc it's supossed to be an unique ocasion. sorry for venting so much lolllll
You should go to prom. Be uncomfortable in that decision, that’s what I did. Maybe someone will be attracted to you (friend or other) or maybe not. I think you’ll have a good time regardless :)
Speaking from experience having been in your place, there’s a day that’ll come when you will have the friends you’ve always hoped for. They’ll see you for the best in you and stick around during your worst; wanting nothing more than to see you be uplifted and your best self again. I don’t know how it happens, but it does. I hope the best for you man, thanks for posting this and being vunerable in a difficult time of your life. You speak for more than just yourself here and it’s greatly appreciated 🙏🏼
i get ya :) i feel like i grew up being an introvert but forced myself to be an extrovert, now i realize that i do genuinely enjoy the extroverted side of myself but i still love being still & alone. my standards for friends is so high so i only have a couple.. but thankfully God is my best friend so i don’t have to worry about Him leaving me. ❤you’re not alone dude :)
I get what you mean, it’s become more difficult to find people to connect with. As social media rises, people’s standards also increase, and the connections we try to build become less meaningful. I do disagree with you on one thing. Friendships will never be a waste of time, they will always be learning experiences, ways we find the TRUE people we want in our lives, some friendships might hurt and others might last but we never know until we try. It just so happens that at the moment you seem to be anxiously overthinking these experiences and relationships you might have, and what we have to do is focus on the moment not the what ifs, not the what will they think but what will you learn from them. What other people think doesn’t matter if they don’t see the good in you, and why should we care what others think, it’s our lives, its who we are and if they don’t accept you or like you for you, then their opinion shouldn’t matter. I understand where these emotions you’re feeling come from, but we have to appreciate the friendships we do have, appreciate the person we are becoming. This sounds sappy but honestly we only have so much time left, why not enjoy what we have, I feel like only then can we grow and find those who care about us and vice versa.
Hey brother, I appreciate you baring your soul here. I feel as though you're arriving where you need to by the end of this. As someone who has spent the majority of their life neglected and alone, you have to keep trying. I don't have many connections but the ones still present after all this time mean everything to me. It's not going to be easy but you must take the journey in order to learn. I'm sure there's people who do deeply care about you but isolation will warp your mind. No one has the answers you need except yourself, but you dont have to search for these alone. Good luck my friend, I'm rooting for your success in life
Hey, you seem like a really nice guy. You have to make friends a priority not something you do when you have time. If you have hobbies join some clubs and meet people organically. Also, college classes are a good place to meet people. Volunteer in your community. Get out and help those in need and meet other young people that way. You can do this, just put yourself out there.
I've been having similar thoughts about the idea of friends lately, it led me loneliness. I think one should know themselfs first to get to know others bec people effect eachother and at one point you feel disgusted bye yourself or feel an outsider. At least from my experience...
Yo bro, I watched your whole video through. 1st things first thank you for making this video, and you’re not a loser, I understand your frustration and that longing for a deeper connection with other people. I am the same way, I was never popular in school and always doing my own thing. I guess you could say I never “fit” in. And I used to look at this as a bad thing to the point where I started to resent the things I liked because girls didn’t like me or people would overlook me and it was very lonely. I didn’t make a lot of friends but the ones I did make loved me for exactly who I am, I didn’t have to try to fit in or be someone else. And I definitely took that for granted. I ended up moving two hours away to pursue my dreams but I left my friends behind and other left and now I am here again without friends. It’s hard for me to make friends because I am very self reflective and I like to have deep and meaningful conversations with people rather than what’s typically associated as “fun” I do like to make memories but some things to me just aren’t fun and seem like they don’t matter and I would have to force myself to like those things to gain that friendship which ultimately would not be fulfilling. I know this is a lot but my point being, the job I’m working now I am forced to talk to people each and every day, and as an introvert at first I was horrible and scared and people couldn’t and didn’t understand me. But as time went on I got better and better and I can handle myself better socially and because I went through that I can relate to how you feel, I have no friends right now other than my girlfriend who I am very very lucky to have, but it’s very isolating not having friends for two years, we just talked about looking for some communities which cater to our personal interests and just being around similar people we will get better socially and friendships will develop, I’m telling you it will not happen on its own, I’ve waited two years and I am still missing friends. If you need someone bro I’m here for you. I understand how hard this cycle is and can be, much love bro
I felt like that for a while, but after I started to do what I actually enjoy (hobbies, music etc) and actively involved myself in these communities, it became easy. As your friendship will be connected through passion and love for the same thing. Of course you need to find something you really like to do. But that’s a way
When I saw the title of the video, I was very surprised "I'm sorry if my words became incomprehensible because I use a translator" but why do you make the subject difficult ، On the contrary, the subject is very easy. Finding friends is not to exhaust your energy. On the contrary, finding friends means to recharge your energy, so you must find people who suit you. People are social. Perhaps there are people who like solitude, but excessive solitude is not good. In Arabic, we say that if something goes beyond its limit, it turns against it. "اذا الشي زاد عن حده انقلب ضده" Apply it to your life. Do not overdo your energy. Do not trust the person too much, and do not think too much about the subject of making friends because the subject is easy.
you're talking about quality and depth of a friendship, rather than superficiality. That's going to take time and work, with the right people; easier said than done. You seem to be above average intelligence, which'll make it harder still. Hold on to your own priorities, enjoy the people you do have in your life and learn to enjoy your own company. There are intelligent, deep folks put there, but they're hard to find, and maybe getting harder to find. Keep posting; reply if you want to .
This week I'm starting high school and I've always had a really easy time making friends and stuff but after leaving middle school I'm realizing how much more nervous I am than I used to be and I'm starting to accept the fact I won't have many friends because I know I won't act as extroverted and loud as I used to be. but it kind of makes me sad idk
it depends on how deeply the both of you want to connect. it works best when both of you seek the same depth of connection. those who seek very deep connections find it harder to make friends because probing deep is harder to do and people don't like being probed so much. i remember my best friend in high school. it took about 3-4 years for the friendship to find its depth. and now i seek online friends which is an all new kind of difficulty, especially when limited to a public comments section.
Making friends isn’t hard, maintaining them is! Also it all boils down to our surroundings, I live in a small island where people my age are small in number and there’s a huge lack of activities that is making people abandon their town and go somewhere else.
I think I can understand what you're feeling cuz I have the same thoughts it’s okay not to have best friend maybe you didn't meet that friend yet maybe you will find that friend later don’t think a lot about it I hope all of us find a real friends
Find a live music scene , nearest City . Find a few bands that you enjoy , and keep attending their shows . In Time you will recognize many faces , with a shared interest . Also , you're a handsome fellow and would do well at band shows to find a Mate . { don't get dragged down with Drugs !!!! }
Find a community that shares the same interests as you and be present. Eventually, you will build your own friend group. And if you don’t and it was all ‘a waste of time’, no it wasn’t. You invested in yourself and you did something for yourself while trying to collect people around you that could relate to possibly the same loneliness you speak of. Making friends IS hard. Put down that wall of pride. Rejection is redirection. If someone doesn’t give you the response you expected, at least you know what’s not for you. You got this :)
i can make a friend but i cant find one that would actually accept me for who i am or would actually want to be around me in a setting that isnt school
Introverts seem to be more emotionally intelligent to me.
nah
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It depends
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@@felixramsberg1346 expound on that thought.
Maintaining friends is hard. Relationships are hard.
Thats what you think
When I was younger, I had two friends who I considered the closest people in the world. We spent time together, visited each other's homes, had fun together and I thought it would be like that forever. However, our paths diverged, we went to different schools and our contact ended. I remember how much I suffered at that time, I couldn't understand why it happened, I felt frustrated and betrayed. Later, I didn't look for new friends anymore, in high school I kept to myself, I didn't make new friends and that's probably why I was called a weirdo, but it didn't bother me, I felt good in my own company. However, when I was hospitalized and when I got out, the loneliness started to bother me a lot and I wanted to have someone close to me again. Despite this, I am tormented by fears, whether I will be able to establish such a close relationship as when I was younger, what if I invest my time and emotions in such a relationship and get betrayed again?
Who betrayed you ? Life ?
i'm not a very social person, so i ended up lowering my standards bc i don't want to be considered a total loser at school, but i'm 3 months away from finishing highschool so i've been feeling anxious because what if is the same thing at collegue? ik it's just abt me having to be willing to be more social, actually talking to people... all that stuff. improving yourself. just keep reminding to yourself that now that i'm just some months away from being considered an adult i have to take total care of myself. Back to the point, i feel so disconnected to these people that i'm even considering not going to prom although i feel that i could regret it later bc it's supossed to be an unique ocasion. sorry for venting so much lolllll
You should go to prom. Be uncomfortable in that decision, that’s what I did. Maybe someone will be attracted to you (friend or other) or maybe not. I think you’ll have a good time regardless :)
youre pretty pathetic. do shrooms
you sound like my journal entries
Speaking from experience having been in your place, there’s a day that’ll come when you will have the friends you’ve always hoped for. They’ll see you for the best in you and stick around during your worst; wanting nothing more than to see you be uplifted and your best self again.
I don’t know how it happens, but it does. I hope the best for you man, thanks for posting this and being vunerable in a difficult time of your life. You speak for more than just yourself here and it’s greatly appreciated 🙏🏼
i get ya :) i feel like i grew up being an introvert but forced myself to be an extrovert, now i realize that i do genuinely enjoy the extroverted side of myself but i still love being still & alone. my standards for friends is so high so i only have a couple.. but thankfully God is my best friend so i don’t have to
worry about Him leaving me. ❤you’re not alone dude :)
I get what you mean, it’s become more difficult to find people to connect with. As social media rises, people’s standards also increase, and the connections we try to build become less meaningful. I do disagree with you on one thing. Friendships will never be a waste of time, they will always be learning experiences, ways we find the TRUE people we want in our lives, some friendships might hurt and others might last but we never know until we try. It just so happens that at the moment you seem to be anxiously overthinking these experiences and relationships you might have, and what we have to do is focus on the moment not the what ifs, not the what will they think but what will you learn from them. What other people think doesn’t matter if they don’t see the good in you, and why should we care what others think, it’s our lives, its who we are and if they don’t accept you or like you for you, then their opinion shouldn’t matter. I understand where these emotions you’re feeling come from, but we have to appreciate the friendships we do have, appreciate the person we are becoming. This sounds sappy but honestly we only have so much time left, why not enjoy what we have, I feel like only then can we grow and find those who care about us and vice versa.
Hey brother, I appreciate you baring your soul here. I feel as though you're arriving where you need to by the end of this. As someone who has spent the majority of their life neglected and alone, you have to keep trying. I don't have many connections but the ones still present after all this time mean everything to me. It's not going to be easy but you must take the journey in order to learn. I'm sure there's people who do deeply care about you but isolation will warp your mind. No one has the answers you need except yourself, but you dont have to search for these alone. Good luck my friend, I'm rooting for your success in life
Hey, you seem like a really nice guy. You have to make friends a priority not something you do when you have time. If you have hobbies join some clubs and meet people organically. Also, college classes are a good place to meet people. Volunteer in your community. Get out and help those in need and meet other young people that way. You can do this, just put yourself out there.
I've been having similar thoughts about the idea of friends lately, it led me loneliness. I think one should know themselfs first to get to know others bec people effect eachother and at one point you feel disgusted bye yourself or feel an outsider. At least from my experience...
Yo bro, I watched your whole video through. 1st things first thank you for making this video, and you’re not a loser, I understand your frustration and that longing for a deeper connection with other people. I am the same way, I was never popular in school and always doing my own thing. I guess you could say I never “fit” in. And I used to look at this as a bad thing to the point where I started to resent the things I liked because girls didn’t like me or people would overlook me and it was very lonely. I didn’t make a lot of friends but the ones I did make loved me for exactly who I am, I didn’t have to try to fit in or be someone else. And I definitely took that for granted. I ended up moving two hours away to pursue my dreams but I left my friends behind and other left and now I am here again without friends. It’s hard for me to make friends because I am very self reflective and I like to have deep and meaningful conversations with people rather than what’s typically associated as “fun” I do like to make memories but some things to me just aren’t fun and seem like they don’t matter and I would have to force myself to like those things to gain that friendship which ultimately would not be fulfilling. I know this is a lot but my point being, the job I’m working now I am forced to talk to people each and every day, and as an introvert at first I was horrible and scared and people couldn’t and didn’t understand me. But as time went on I got better and better and I can handle myself better socially and because I went through that I can relate to how you feel, I have no friends right now other than my girlfriend who I am very very lucky to have, but it’s very isolating not having friends for two years, we just talked about looking for some communities which cater to our personal interests and just being around similar people we will get better socially and friendships will develop, I’m telling you it will not happen on its own, I’ve waited two years and I am still missing friends. If you need someone bro I’m here for you. I understand how hard this cycle is and can be, much love bro
I felt like that for a while, but after I started to do what I actually enjoy (hobbies, music etc) and actively involved myself in these communities, it became easy. As your friendship will be connected through passion and love for the same thing.
Of course you need to find something you really like to do.
But that’s a way
the older you get the harder it is ... I used to have hundreds of friends and once I turned 25 I stopped making new friends
Hey Winston, I resonate with you a lot.
When I saw the title of the video, I was very surprised "I'm sorry if my words became incomprehensible because I use a translator" but why do you make the subject difficult ، On the contrary, the subject is very easy. Finding friends is not to exhaust your energy. On the contrary, finding friends means to recharge your energy, so you must find people who suit you. People are social. Perhaps there are people who like solitude, but excessive solitude is not good. In Arabic, we say that if something goes beyond its limit, it turns against it.
"اذا الشي زاد عن حده انقلب ضده"
Apply it to your life. Do not overdo your energy. Do not trust the person too much, and do not think too much about the subject of making friends because the subject is easy.
you're talking about quality and depth of a friendship, rather than superficiality. That's going to take time and work, with the right people; easier said than done. You seem to be above average intelligence, which'll make it harder still. Hold on to your own priorities, enjoy the people you do have in your life and learn to enjoy your own company. There are intelligent, deep folks put there, but they're hard to find, and maybe getting harder to find. Keep posting; reply if you want to .
This week I'm starting high school and I've always had a really easy time making friends and stuff but after leaving middle school I'm realizing how much more nervous I am than I used to be and I'm starting to accept the fact I won't have many friends because I know I won't act as extroverted and loud as I used to be. but it kind of makes me sad idk
Find comfortable spaces to express yourself. Shout it, shout it, shout it out loud.
it depends on how deeply the both of you want to connect. it works best when both of you seek the same depth of connection. those who seek very deep connections find it harder to make friends because probing deep is harder to do and people don't like being probed so much. i remember my best friend in high school. it took about 3-4 years for the friendship to find its depth. and now i seek online friends which is an all new kind of difficulty, especially when limited to a public comments section.
Making friends isn’t hard, maintaining them is! Also it all boils down to our surroundings, I live in a small island where people my age are small in number and there’s a huge lack of activities that is making people abandon their town and go somewhere else.
I can relate to this video I subbed to you by the way dude you seem cool
Everyone will wanna be your friend now! You’re on UA-cam! 🤩😍
I think I can understand what you're feeling cuz I have the same thoughts it’s okay not to have best friend maybe you didn't meet that friend yet maybe you will find that friend later don’t think a lot about it I hope all of us find a real friends
Find a live music scene , nearest City . Find a few bands that you enjoy , and keep attending their shows . In Time you will recognize many faces , with a shared interest . Also , you're a handsome fellow and would do well at band shows to find a Mate . { don't get dragged down with Drugs !!!! }
"Lonely are the free" -Steve Earle
find freedom in being alone
Making friends may be hard but diamonds are harder! STAY HARD!
saw a his video and immediately subscribed bc ur cute and very intelligent 🫶🏽
Find a community that shares the same interests as you and be present. Eventually, you will build your own friend group. And if you don’t and it was all ‘a waste of time’, no it wasn’t. You invested in yourself and you did something for yourself while trying to collect people around you that could relate to possibly the same loneliness you speak of. Making friends IS hard. Put down that wall of pride. Rejection is redirection. If someone doesn’t give you the response you expected, at least you know what’s not for you. You got this :)
I sent you an email the other day, I didn’t receive a response!
5:24 yep. make sure you charge your social battery.
most of my existence was so lonely… sigh…
thank you for this videotape…
But girl srsly I totally get you lmao, dw I’ll be your friend, need some too 💀
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i can make a friend but i cant find one that would actually accept me for who i am or would actually want to be around me in a setting that isnt school
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