Red Flags and Green Lights: Keys to a Healthy Marriage Before You Say 'I Do' | Greg and Erin Smalley

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  • @kathleenwharton2139
    @kathleenwharton2139 2 місяці тому +5

    The key to happy marriage is..Do you Both Obey GODS Commandments? Not the commandments of men 😊❤

  • @isabellara6833
    @isabellara6833 2 місяці тому +1

    Please pray for me and my husband. Pray to God to give him a heart of flesh. May he be able to forgive for transgressions made against him. May he be a kind loving father and husband.

    • @focusonthefamilymarriage
      @focusonthefamilymarriage  2 місяці тому +1

      @isabellara6833 Please be assured we will be praying! God bless you! - Treasure H.

  • @mindfulheartproject
    @mindfulheartproject 2 місяці тому +3

    The night I met my husband an audible voice told me, in two separate instances, that “this is the man you are going to marry”. No butterflies, no passion, just matter of fact as if someone was telling me that the sky is blue. We started dating 6 months later, and married six years later. Unfortunately he is not a believer and we are unequally yoked. He’s also has many narcissistic traits and I am so broken in this marriage. I often wonder why God wanted me to marry this man. Why was he made a part of my life plan? All I can hope for is that my suffering is serving a greater purpose.

    • @journeyingthroughthelife
      @journeyingthroughthelife 2 місяці тому +2

      Live a Godly life before him and lead him to Christ by your lifestyle, behavior, speech pattern, and handling failures and successes in Godly ways. 1 Peter 3:1 In-Context
      Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

    • @focusonthefamilymarriage
      @focusonthefamilymarriage  2 місяці тому +1

      Thank you for reaching out @mindfulheartproject. We're sorry you're having a different time in your marriage. We understand how difficult it can be when you and your spouse have differing spiritual beliefs. Please know that we're praying and are here to come alongside you in any way that we can. Here's a broadcast that you may find encouraging- bit.ly/46m9RGZ. We hope this is helpful!
      -Luna H.

    • @propelthekingdom
      @propelthekingdom 2 місяці тому +2

      I have also heard the audible voice of God but I have also heard other audible voices that I later discovered was witchcraft. Gods voice led me out of sin and into purity and sancitifcation and extreme love for Christ and spiritual gifts. But the other audible voices that if I had not had the relationship I do with Holy Spirit I would have thought was God but those audible voices would have led me to destruction and confusion.
      We can match what is of God related to what scripture says. If the man was not a believer and we hear a voice telling us to marry them it is most likely not Gods voice. But still you have a covenant with him and you can rightfully interceed for him and God will honor your marriage covenant and He can work wonders and redeem it and your husband. ❣God is not the author of confusion and He would also want you to have had passion and love for the person when you met. God would not force us to marry someone you felt nothing for and if He ordained it He would have softened your heart first. I have heard many testimonies like that.

    • @mindfulheartproject
      @mindfulheartproject 2 місяці тому

      @@focusonthefamilymarriage Thank you! ❤️

    • @DwellinZion
      @DwellinZion Місяць тому

      @mindfulheartproject that was not God that was the enemy! The Lord will not yolk you to un unbeliever! But God honors your choice! The enemy sends the counterfeit right before the right one. You have to test the spirit which the Bible tells us. Pray fast and look at their fruit. But you being a believer there is hope for him. The church does a terrible job at warning of counterfeits. Makes me so sad

  • @agnesr.4664
    @agnesr.4664 2 місяці тому +4

    Tried dating. Really, there must be another way than the world is teaching. And it is not "just don't have sex before marriage". After my own hurtful and regretful experiences, I have come to the conclusion, the only way you get to have a successful marriage one day is twofold: Keep serving God with all you got and then see who is doing it with you plus sit under one spiritual roof and let Godly leaders speak into both of your lives and relationship. Everything else is secondary. I mean, the only clear biblical instruction given is: Both should be Christians. But honestly, why then are so many Christian marriages failing. It's because there's factually more to it then it being a mere statement.

    • @firstlastname84
      @firstlastname84 2 місяці тому

      Dating isn't in the bible. Only the relationship of marriage is. But, the man should lead you closer to Christ. If he's not in the word diligently, he's not going to be a very good leader for his family. Is this something he's willing to work on? If he's fighting mentorship, he may be the type who doesn't want accountability. It's hard to say your Christian and the avoid God and accountability. I've learned this the hard way and should've ended relationships much sooner before my heart became entangled and 2 years of time wasted.

  • @mikenziegest2410
    @mikenziegest2410 Місяць тому

    What to do when you’re married to someone who has the red flags you mentioned?

    • @focusonthefamilymarriage
      @focusonthefamilymarriage  Місяць тому

      @mikenziegest2410. Unfortunately, we’re not able to provide counseling by email, text messaging, or through social media channels. We’ve found that writing or texting isn’t an effective way of offering advice when complex or serious life issues are involved. As an alternative, we encourage you to speak about your situation with one of our counselors (at no cost to you). Just contact us at 1-855-771-HELP (4357) weekdays from 6:00 A.M. to 8:00 P.M. (MT). The Family Help Center staff member who answers the phone will arrange for a counselor to call you back. One of them will be in touch just as soon as they’re able. You may also request a callback by visiting our Counseling Consultation & Referrals page - bit.ly/3olAU3N. We hope this is helpful.
      -Luna H.

  • @susanadam443
    @susanadam443 Місяць тому +1

    I don’t agree when you say God is not a matchmaker. The bible says in Proverbs 19:14 “ Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is a gift and blessing from the LORD”.

  • @bereanist
    @bereanist 2 місяці тому +1

    Christian Counseling and NOT worldly counseling.