I helped someone out who was standing in front of Walmart asking for food and we went in and got him a rotisserie chicken!! I felt so happy to be able to help him out!! ❤ also glad to have you back T.K!
Best podcast ever. Thank you. As someone going through a difficult break-up, death of both parents, and cancer treatment, this touched me on so many levels. It felt like it was meant for me to hear. ❤
Ryan when you mentioned about the friend who tells you, you have something in your teeth. That’s a friend. Brought a memory back 10 years or so. I was at a retail store. First walked into a women’s restroom. As, I was washing my hands this lady was drying her hands and just gave me this look and said nothing. I walked out pulled a shopping cart. This lady walking in ran to me as if she knew me. And whisper in my ear. ( you have a seat cover hanging). I felt embarrassed and grateful. If only the First Lady inside the restroom would have said something.
" The real privilege of friendship is that the context of our already established love makes it possible for me to challenge you and get away with that in ways other people can't - a friend is someone who can play devil's advocate because the two of you can talk things out and away without the love being questioned so support isn't always about congratulations is about challenging one another." That just changed my perception of friendship, TK - and you nailed the 60s that Josh given you, welcome to have you back again - you balance out the views of Josh and Ryan. We love you TK.
As a person who has OCD, I am frequently "bothered" when it comes to politics, consumerism / greedy companies, and hypocritical organized religion. How can you not be in todays society. I often hear people talk about taking a break from the media and I have tried this myself but I've become so addicted to it that it's hard not to find out recent happenings to be bothered by. I wonder if this is why so many people are on drugs, prescribed or illicit. Thankfully I was able to wean myself from relying on Xanax to maintain my sanity.
I love how Joshua says you can find wisdom in any ancient wisdom tradition. As a Muslim, I found a ready home in minimalism because Islam has a very minimalistic faith structure. There are no props or objects required to worship, all of it is within the mind of the worshipper. Our places of prayer are mostly unadorned, and the beauty of the prayer spaces turn inward. We are not allowed to waste resources like food and water and are encouraged to live a simple life. Our burials are green burials without expensive caskets and headstones. Not every Muslim lives like that, of course, but the traditions are there.
A quote I can't cite "Do for one what you wish you could do for all." So, I may not be able to "fix" the problems, meet all the needs... but I can do one thing for one person at a time. Thanks for all the helpful insights.
T.K. at 10:50 is sooo my struggle. I help others but not for them....for my own feelings of lack. Letting others go do their journeys and own the consequences of their decisions is the highest form of "humanness" we can enact. ❤ P.S. This also totally frees up my mind for myself..and I then need to face my own demons. Freely giving to others may actually be avoidance of my own issues.
This whole episode has been truly powerful. You touched on so many things. The quotes were really profound. The bravoury of the listeners who shared today and the advice given. The last caller regarding bereavement, I too am going through my late father's stuff but hearing your words has pushed me to think differently and look at these items differently. Thank you All. ❤
I have so much respect for TK and his words to caller Christie... I also wanted to add that recovery programs like UA and DA, all free and on line as well as in person deal with money, emotions, compulsive e shopping recovery would be great support for her... those12 step programs are miraculous. Praying for Christie... she is so brave. I have had to walk away from a lot of family to heal from extreme abuse and all it brought .... it was not easy but I am grateful I am not living like that anymore. The Air B and b thing is real... unless you have had to deal with a revolving door of strangers next to your living space, it may be hard to grasp how upsetting that is... it is an actual problem. I think it's a bit self righteous to dismiss someone being upset about that.
I've had a UA-cam break on and off recent weeks. I got to a point where I was like right I've listened to everything and I've learnt everything I need to know so I can move on in my life without the help from others but if something like your show is helpful why do I need to move on from it?? Funny how our minds work. I'm back and enjoying the wisdom and advice and how I can apply parts of it in to my life. Thank you all
Guilt is good when it leads us to be better. But never despair. It's a wonderful thing to see something negative about oneself and then actually work on changing those things. But also, distance yourself from family who selfishly use you. You can keep your distance while still praying for the people you love.
Recreational outrage is a great phrase and sums up a lot of posts on Twitter and Facebook. It feels like a good way of expressing how you feel but instead of using that energy to do something (and perhaps we feel we can't), our energy is used up arguing or agreeing with others. I try to direct my energy into more action that might do something more concrete.
We all have a story to tell. Our life is like a book. There is something even one word TK spoked that touched our heart and mind. Amen! TK. Welcome back. Blessings!
Sorry if you’ve answered this before, but why is Malabama not on camera? It's kind of odd especially since she's the only female voice but maybe there's a good reason.
There's another solution to getting bothered. Being thankful is good but also not giving a bleep is too. The older I get the less I give a bleep and the more at peace I become. ❤
I wonder if someone could look at the airbnb thing as an opportunity to meet new people from different places and different walks of life rather than a negative.
The best way to stop feeling guilty is to stop using the word SHOULD. Remove it from your vocabulary and you won't believe the difference. Yes, sure, "I wish I had done things differently," "I don't like what I did, but I'm going to learn from it and do better next time," but get rid of SHOULD!!!
Hmm, seemed like the biggest concern for Christie, or what she was struggling a lot with was her addiction more than what was happening with her family. Was looking forward to what they were going to say about that but nothing.
Sorry to hear that about your family but it's good to know what they value. There's much truth in the saying "when people show you who they are, we should believe them".
You really missed the mark with answering Laine's inquiry. You even mentioned Viktor Frankl and cognitive dissonance and yet used "gratitude" as your cognitive dissonance. Do you think the disenfranchised are content knowing those in better situations have gratitude and are not bothered? You said she was complaining, but she wasn't, she was asking you your position, which you answered by stating you worrying about these things doesn't serve you basically. You had the opportunity to answer her honestly and yet you went off on a tangent about her complaining when she was asking your position, which made it look as though you were triggered. The best we got was the one guy saying if he can help someone directly by buying them a sandwich he would and did. I've never watched this podcast before or are familiar with you guys to know if this is normal for this show. I am sure you are not bothered by my comment so no harm in leaving it, it is just here for Laine to know that this non answer was frustrating and revealing for someone who is not part of the echo chamber of comments.
I am disappointed, not bothered by your response to Elaine. How about some concrete advice like she can go to community meetings to express her concerns about the Airbnb’s in her neighborhood. She could become a community activist. You did not even answer her about how you square renting Airbnbs. I am sure you could come up with a reasonable response that would be true for yourself without worrying about how she would respond. There are so many ways to give back to vulnerable communities besides not complaining or lecturing or ranting. I thought you guys would be more thoughtful with your response. Instead, it seemed that you were being defensive. Too bad. You really missed an opportunity. I was looking forward to your response but instead I was not impressed. You completely missed the mark on Elaine’s question.
they did answer her question, you just didn't listen properly. I'll simply it for you: they said there are tradeoffs and you can't operate perfectly in a world, which means you have to accept that some (or even most) of our actions don't have perfectly positive impact because of the systems we operate in. therefore, because e.g., the sharing economy isn't also perfectly bad, they have accepted this trade-off, as we all have to in all aspects of our choices.
TK just always has a way of saying things! 🙏
Malabama's background laugh always brightens my day 😆
Glad to have T.K back. I always enjoy how he dives deeper on Ryan and Josh's comments and views.❤
T.K. grew on me; he has deep wisom that is easy to interpret
TK!!! I love the way you respond with passion and love when you disagree with people. I’m learning so much from you!
T.K is saving my life man, his wisdom, experiences in life , his way of speaking and his voice is out of this world !
I helped someone out who was standing in front of Walmart asking for food and we went in and got him a rotisserie chicken!! I felt so happy to be able to help him out!! ❤ also glad to have you back T.K!
Bravo T.K. you are a Rockstar. You are very wise and clear thinking. Love your insights into the team ❤
One of my favorite scripture, T.K., hallelujah! Thank you!
Wow, I'm always so impressed by TK's very human insights.
He has a way of going to the under pinnings of a problem that results in a win-win feeling .
Best podcast ever. Thank you. As someone going through a difficult break-up, death of both parents, and cancer treatment, this touched me on so many levels. It felt like it was meant for me to hear. ❤
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Much strength to you in getting through this challenging time
Ryan when you mentioned about the friend who tells you, you have something in your teeth. That’s a friend.
Brought a memory back 10 years or so.
I was at a retail store. First walked into a women’s restroom. As, I was washing my hands this lady was drying her hands and just gave me this look and said nothing.
I walked out pulled a shopping cart. This lady walking in ran to me as if she knew me. And whisper in my ear. ( you have a seat cover hanging). I felt embarrassed and grateful. If only the First Lady inside the restroom would have said something.
" The real privilege of friendship is that the context of our already established love makes it possible for me to challenge you and get away with that in ways other people can't - a friend is someone who can play devil's advocate because the two of you can talk things out and away without the love being questioned so support isn't always about congratulations is about challenging one another."
That just changed my perception of friendship, TK - and you nailed the 60s that Josh given you, welcome to have you back again - you balance out the views of Josh and Ryan. We love you TK.
Delony, I'm with you. You have people. And we get it. Don't ever stop sharing your stories and talking. We are listening.
As a person who has OCD, I am frequently "bothered" when it comes to politics, consumerism / greedy companies, and hypocritical organized religion. How can you not be in todays society. I often hear people talk about taking a break from the media and I have tried this myself but I've become so addicted to it that it's hard not to find out recent happenings to be bothered by. I wonder if this is why so many people are on drugs, prescribed or illicit. Thankfully I was able to wean myself from relying on Xanax to maintain my sanity.
I love TK’s compassion. Thank you.
I really love this conversation.
I love how Joshua says you can find wisdom in any ancient wisdom tradition. As a Muslim, I found a ready home in minimalism because Islam has a very minimalistic faith structure. There are no props or objects required to worship, all of it is within the mind of the worshipper. Our places of prayer are mostly unadorned, and the beauty of the prayer spaces turn inward. We are not allowed to waste resources like food and water and are encouraged to live a simple life. Our burials are green burials without expensive caskets and headstones. Not every Muslim lives like that, of course, but the traditions are there.
A quote I can't cite "Do for one what you wish you could do for all." So, I may not be able to "fix" the problems, meet all the needs... but I can do one thing for one person at a time. Thanks for all the helpful insights.
T.K. at 10:50 is sooo my struggle. I help others but not for them....for my own feelings of lack. Letting others go do their journeys and own the consequences of their decisions is the highest form of "humanness" we can enact. ❤ P.S. This also totally frees up my mind for myself..and I then need to face my own demons. Freely giving to others may actually be avoidance of my own issues.
I see this in my life too, thank you for your comment. It's hard for me to put some of the concepts in my mind into words.
This whole episode has been truly powerful. You touched on so many things. The quotes were really profound. The bravoury of the listeners who shared today and the advice given. The last caller regarding bereavement, I too am going through my late father's stuff but hearing your words has pushed me to think differently and look at these items differently. Thank you All. ❤
I have so much respect for TK and his words to caller Christie... I also wanted to add that recovery programs like UA and DA, all free and on line as well as in person deal with money, emotions, compulsive e shopping recovery would be great support for her... those12 step programs are miraculous. Praying for Christie... she is so brave. I have had to walk away from a lot of family to heal from extreme abuse and all it brought .... it was not easy but I am grateful I am not living like that anymore. The Air B and b thing is real... unless you have had to deal with a revolving door of strangers next to your living space, it may be hard to grasp how upsetting that is... it is an actual problem. I think it's a bit self righteous to dismiss someone being upset about that.
Regarding those who leave your life that are not healthy to have, I say it’s great when the trash takes itself out!
Amen.
I love you TK ! Words of wisdom for sure . Am thankful you stand for the right . Best to you my Christian brother.
Preach TK! Good Bible reference. Thank you.
I've had a UA-cam break on and off recent weeks. I got to a point where I was like right I've listened to everything and I've learnt everything I need to know so I can move on in my life without the help from others but if something like your show is helpful why do I need to move on from it?? Funny how our minds work. I'm back and enjoying the wisdom and advice and how I can apply parts of it in to my life. Thank you all
TK is exactly right. Your real friends will love you for yourself. I am 73. Tina, Al's wife
Guilt is good when it leads us to be better. But never despair. It's a wonderful thing to see something negative about oneself and then actually work on changing those things. But also, distance yourself from family who selfishly use you. You can keep your distance while still praying for the people you love.
As for the bothered listener, God bless the Amish for keeping the buggy whip makers in business.
Recreational outrage is a great phrase and sums up a lot of posts on Twitter and Facebook. It feels like a good way of expressing how you feel but instead of using that energy to do something (and perhaps we feel we can't), our energy is used up arguing or agreeing with others. I try to direct my energy into more action that might do something more concrete.
This episode is especially meaningful to me. Everything you said just hits one thing or another that's going on in my life. Thank you!
We all have a story to tell. Our life is like a book.
There is something even one word TK spoked that touched our heart and mind.
Amen! TK. Welcome back. Blessings!
I hope TK becomes a mainstay here
Welcome back TK! Your commentary is always valuable ❤
This episode was so powerful🙌 Thank you guys for your words of wisdom❤️
Beyond OUTSTANDING content here. Thanks to each of you.
I loved your writing Josh...very inspiring. Great day for self reflection :)
"You just gotta stick with it and give yourself time to grow into the person you're choosing to become." @11:57
17:05 Laine has absolutely no idea how Air BnBs work. They are not empty homes with sofa surfers 😄
Wonferful to have you back T.K.
Gratitude 🙏 is my peace and joy ☺️🌻💕
I just watched your movie on YT. It was AWESOME!!!
Grateful you help me see what's true in life xx
I watched the film on UA-cam - SO POWERFUL! 🙏👌👊
Who knew I could value 3 men that I have never met, this much...thank you
Amen TK 🙌🏼
This one of your best podcast
Welcome back, TK. 💛
Outstanding episode. Thank you for sharing, I learned a lot today 💞
I really needed to hear this.
Welcome back TK! ❤❤❤
My fav episode u guys ... Love you all ty
So many nuggets of wisdom here! Thanks so much 🤍 God bless
I am training my mind to make no opinion. You feel free n better.
Thank you! ❤💟
Great episode, guys! 👍
Aaaaah tk is back ❤❤❤ glad to see it hope you are well now on. Love this video.❤❤
Oh no for tk! Welcome back!
Whew!!! TK!! Preach!!❤🙏🙏
Did you know Beyonce also started the packing party? “to the left, to the left”
Sorry if you’ve answered this before, but why is Malabama not on camera? It's kind of odd especially since she's the only female voice but maybe there's a good reason.
Maybe she’s not a fan of the camera. 🤷🏼♀️
There's another solution to getting bothered. Being thankful is good but also not giving a bleep is too. The older I get the less I give a bleep and the more at peace I become. ❤
Wonderful
Thank you for sharing ✌️💞🤟
Amazing
Glad you’re back, TK!!! My response to Laine would be my favorite saying, “It is, what it is!”
Now that our Netflix documentary MINIMALISM (directed by @MattDAvella) is finally on UA-cam, when did you first watch it?
When it first came out on Netflix. I was already a fan. I watched it again on UA-cam yesterday.
Yesterday
This morning
I watched it yesterday. It was great!
T.K. So thankful you are a Christian and quote the Bible 🙏🏻
I wonder if someone could look at the airbnb thing as an opportunity to meet new people from different places and different walks of life rather than a negative.
Amen! T.K!!😇
Is this on Spotify? I can’t find it
Laine: don't rent an Airbnb, and don't take an Uber.
The best way to stop feeling guilty is to stop using the word SHOULD. Remove it from your vocabulary and you won't believe the difference. Yes, sure, "I wish I had done things differently," "I don't like what I did, but I'm going to learn from it and do better next time," but get rid of SHOULD!!!
Hmm, seemed like the biggest concern for Christie, or what she was struggling a lot with was her addiction more than what was happening with her family. Was looking forward to what they were going to say about that but nothing.
Proverbs 19:19
Do you still recommend dog wood coffee ☕?
How can Smart people still be religous. 😢
When I was making more income family was closer. Now retired no one has the time for me.
Sorry to hear that about your family but it's good to know what they value. There's much truth in the saying "when people show you who they are, we should believe them".
If children are going to choose a parent post-divorce, it'll be the one with larger assets. Sad if that's the only qualifier.
Shut that whole negative conversation down👌👊
You really missed the mark with answering Laine's inquiry. You even mentioned Viktor Frankl and cognitive dissonance and yet used "gratitude" as your cognitive dissonance. Do you think the disenfranchised are content knowing those in better situations have gratitude and are not bothered? You said she was complaining, but she wasn't, she was asking you your position, which you answered by stating you worrying about these things doesn't serve you basically. You had the opportunity to answer her honestly and yet you went off on a tangent about her complaining when she was asking your position, which made it look as though you were triggered. The best we got was the one guy saying if he can help someone directly by buying them a sandwich he would and did. I've never watched this podcast before or are familiar with you guys to know if this is normal for this show. I am sure you are not bothered by my comment so no harm in leaving it, it is just here for Laine to know that this non answer was frustrating and revealing for someone who is not part of the echo chamber of comments.
I am disappointed, not bothered by your response to Elaine. How about some concrete advice like she can go to community meetings to express her concerns about the Airbnb’s in her neighborhood. She could become a community activist. You did not even answer her about how you square renting Airbnbs. I am sure you could come up with a reasonable response that would be true for yourself without worrying about how she would respond. There are so many ways to give back to vulnerable communities besides not complaining or lecturing or ranting. I thought you guys would be more thoughtful with your response. Instead, it seemed that you were being defensive. Too bad. You really missed an opportunity. I was looking forward to your response but instead I was not impressed. You completely missed the mark on Elaine’s question.
they did answer her question, you just didn't listen properly. I'll simply it for you: they said there are tradeoffs and you can't operate perfectly in a world, which means you have to accept that some (or even most) of our actions don't have perfectly positive impact because of the systems we operate in. therefore, because e.g., the sharing economy isn't also perfectly bad, they have accepted this trade-off, as we all have to in all aspects of our choices.
I disagree with Lane on everything.