Why Do I Keep Failing?
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- Опубліковано 21 жов 2022
- Failure, it's not a great word. However in this video reflection i talk about how the last few months have been riddled with outside stress influences, vulnerability and my eventual relapse. The bottom line is, i have no choice, i MUST change and i WILL.
اتمنى لك الهداية والتوفيق والسعادة يا اخي انا من متابعيك الاسلام دين منطقي وعقلاني وبسيط ومفهوم بدون تعقيدات
أشكركم على الكلمات اللطيفة ، وأنا أقدر دعمكم ، لقد كان هناك الكثير مما يحدث ، والكثير من التوتر ، لكنني آمل أن يرشدني الإيمان إلى الحق.
Just know nobody's perfect and everyone is going through some kind of struggle, even if you fall just keep picking yourself up, a trick of shaytan is to make you think you have failed forever, life is a struggle and don't give up my friend. Also, have someone you trust in complete control of your finances and have all your work cheques go to their bank not yours
Hey A H, you're right, Shaytan loves seeing us at our lowest point, whereas Allah wants us to succeed and be in a good place. I am trying so so hard to trust myself with my finances and be able to take control, otherwise yes i will need to take the help that i need.
Hey Ramio, I have also been going through a difficult time and sounds like it might be similar to yours. My grandmother and best friend both died in 2020, that led to my addiction with marijuana which lasted for over a year. I had gone off and on with it, but I finally stopped one day because I hated who I was becoming. A lazy angry emotionally unstable couch potato. I wanted to feel the joy in living again and to have a purpose in life. The fact is I had been avoiding my feelings of grief through substance abuse but I really needed to have a clear image of who I wanted to be and to remember how much I hated myself when I was allowing myself to fail at life. I recommend getting into philosophy or finding something productive that you find meaningful to fill the void. I started learning piano as a hobby, reading books to help shape my thinking into something more positive(The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life; The Little Book of Stoicism: Timeless Wisdom to Gain Resilience, Confidence, and Calmness). But most importantly I started working out everyday, getting my dopamine up without having to use substances. I sincerely hope you will be able to feel control in your life again, one small step at a time.
Hey Daniel, absolutely, i make these videos just so others can relate too, both the good and the bad. I am so glad you managed to help yourself with substance abuse, i could imagine
that was a difficult journey for you too, but it's true that self hate cannot be imitated, it's a feeling that is unique and really triggers fight or flight mode. I hate who i have become and realize my own potential, i definitely don't belong here Man, thanks for the tips with good books and working out- great remedies i believe.
Ramio, sometimes taking a time away from the net, people and social stuff is a therapeutic detox. You’ve inspired many with your honesty in fighting your battles. We believe in you that you will harness the courage to dominate whatever comes your way. You inspire people who pretend not to see you. All the best brother and healing blessings are heading your way
Hey George, thanks for the comment Man. Yeah, i am in full isolation mode, it is good, but i also feel my network shrink and i do feel pretty alone at the moment. I always have people tell me to keep all this to myself, but at the end of the day i love being true to my nature, both good and bad. A lot of people on social media lie and pretend their life is a fairytale, i am blessed but have made terrible decisions and find myself and the lowest point- part of the human experience i guess. Thanks for the support and good words man, they really matter.
Going through the same thing. Thank you for your honesty.
You are a positive light and Allah gives us tests. One thing that has helped me is praying to Allah and asking for His guidance. I started focusing inward and there’s no shame in being vulnerable. You may want to talk to a Therapist and help you navigate you through this. I am praying for you and that Allah makes you mentally and physically and emotionally stronger. You are human and what you are processing is normal. Sending you positive vibes and prayers. Find your zen and it could be just sitting on the lawn and grounding yourself. Allah is with you, just prostrate towards Him and He will carry you through this. ❤
Thanks so much for that wonderful advice and those really encouraging words, it really means a lot, i think God is literally the only one that can and WILL save me from this mess, Inshallah.
تحياتي لحضرتك يا اخي الفاضل اتمنى لك التوفيق والسعادة
Hi Ramio, I can relate to all you’ve said. I feel like a failure too with my addiction. After a binge of gambling losses, I always say to myself “never again, i’m not going to ever gamble again and guess what happens. You guessed it, a few days later I’m back there again, it’s a vicious cycle. I hate that gambling is trying to control me. I want to control it as I’m also sick of losing. Even if we get a winning return, it just feeds the addiction to keep gambling more. We must pray for this horrendous addiction to leave us. Use sentences of power to talk ourselves out of spending another dollar towards it. God bless you 🙏❤️
Hey Ramio, it’s sad to see you struggling to battle your addiction. But there is a way to stop letting it take control of you. “Recite what has been revealed to you of the Book and establish prayer. Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing, and the remembrance of Allah is greater. And Allah knows that which you do.” 29:45
When ever you feel like doing it, just engage with the Quran or prayer. Allah will reward you making your ability to stop your addiction easier. I hope this helps.
My Brother do not get disheartened. Human beings were made weak. We are prone to fall for fitnah. I have watched many of your videos and find you to be of a beautiful heart inshaAllah. I've had similar problems for much of my life and alhamdulillah I've been guided so much by my Lord else surely I would be lying dead in some gutter by now. My brother do not lose heart. This is the akhiruzaman which full of deceptions and temptations and even the best of us are broken. I know so many beautiful people who are lost but just remember Allah guides all who are willing and sincere. Allah purify our hearts and make clear our vision and guide us on His path.
aameen
On a different note my brother, Islam is extremely practical and it is advised you get professional help such as therapy which could be very beneficial and which many people neglect to their own detriment and do not be shy of it. These people are trained to help us understand ourselves and our situation and help us plan for future and also be a shoulder to cry on which could be the thing which turns your life around. Ask for help and become what you aspire to be my brother.
Thanks so much my friend, i appreciate those words of support, i am aware God made me good hearted and i deserve to be happy in this life, but happiness is a choice, may God grant me the opportunity to take the opportunity by Gods grace, to be successful in this life and hereafter, likewise for you Man!
Ramio study the biography (or simply read The Sealed Nectar) of the Prophet Muhammad and it will give you the strength to change. The Prophet's companion Umar had an alcohol addiction before Islam, and Allah guided him to Islam and he "understood" the religion and stopped himself. You cannot stop until you do not "understand" this religion. Allah showed you the door and it's up to you to further explore. That further exploring comes by studying the biography. Trust me. This is your only way out.
And as for your age, guidance/change can come at any stage in life. Most prophets received their wisdom (prophethood) at the age of 40. Neither Age, nor loss of wealth is a barrier to change.
Take the first step and Allah will run towards you, but YOU need to take that first step!
It happens to me today, i relapse , we can beat this demon together hope we can sleep in peace again, inssyaAllah
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Soo at first I was going to write a short comment, but I found myself writing all this, I hadn't talked about this topic with anyone before I think that's why , I hope you understand what I'm trying to say , i hope you bear my weak English hhhh :::
I completely understand you, I have caused myself suffering for the last five years because of a bad habit. I used to pluck my eyelashes and eyebrows.I don't need to explain how someone can do this thing that only results in bad, I think after hearing what you said you understand me , I was also tired of many failures to quit this habit believe me over these years dozens of serious attempts, I no longer trust myself, every time I repeat it, I can't explain how I feel about myself, hate ,disappointment is hard to be your own enemy, but I will tell you the solution that helped me overcome ,I will not lie brlieve me, I am bored and over this
The only thing that prevented me from taking it off was when I was most inclined to do so ,when i really wanted to , It is the fear of God, how why and what does this have to do with a bad habit, I will tell you during these years I have not only acquired a bad habit but also a good habit, I wanted to know what the purpose of all this is, I mean existence, sometimes I used to say why I should not remove my eyelashes why I think That this is wrong. Aren't years from now I will become bones and it will decompose anyway, what makes this matter, how people look at me? And who they are so I care about their opinion,they will dir to, why is it wrong to do what I feel I want to do? Would I hate doing this if it had no consequences? Do I hate this bad habit or its consequences? Would I have kept doing this if it didn’t make me look ugly? (If it doesn't make you lose money in you case ), if this action results in all these bad things why would I want to do it ،I do not understand myself if my mind tells me no for logical reasons and my heart says no to me because it hates the emotionally harmful results, what is the third feeling tool other than my heart and mind that pushes me to want it why I love to do it, I did not find an answer to these questions and many more except in Islam , Who I am, what I am, why all beings work for a purpose, why everything seems to know its purpose (I study biology etc.) My body does all this work, cells, organs, calibration, does its work precisely and then dies repeatedly, all cells do the same, all cooperate to achieve the same goal, so that I may live, why, here I live now What, all this greatness and precision and work , then when it comes to me, I do not know what to do neither i am made for what , someone tell me why everything seems to know but me !, other people don't care , They only live to satisfy their bodily lusts, why isn't taking my eyelashes a lust like it, I know it's not, I know it's wrong, but why do I know, how do I know, what is the standard that defines the difference between what to do and what not to do Why do cells generally agree on that and people don't, who taught cells and beings and didn't teach us, oh (me years ago) he did, how did I forget something like that, I learned that since childhood, worshiping God, obeying God, doing what God commands, is that it ، is this what everything does, acting by God's command, well, I'm sure that all this is directed by someone, (trarted looking for inswear for my question ) ,I was shocked when I learned that allah says : and let not your own hands throw you into destruction ..., with time I wrote a list of why I should stop this habit after making sure that the Qur’an is from God and that Muhammad, may God bless him and grant him peace, is truly the Messenger of God (this is another journey, too long to mention) : this is my list , i will translate it : Fear God -Do not make God the least of those who look at you- I did swear to God not to repeat it, and swearing to God a great responsibility- How can I be ashamed of people and not ashamed of their Creator, who is dearer, more important, and greater than them?- Doing this saddens my parents and angers them, and this is one of the biggest sins in Islam- God created me for a higher purpose and doing this is not befitting a person with such dignity-This act and its psychological consequences make me a burden on my community and my brothers in Islam, so instead of being useful and helpful as God commanded me, I get busy with myself and even need help-Patience with committing this sin is easier than patience in the fire of Hell-Who do you love more, this act, or God-allah says in the Quran different translation to approximate the meaning: God does not burden any human being with more than he is well able to bear/Allah charges no soul except to its capacity/Allah does not impose upon any soul a duty but to the extent of its ability ,,,,, so you are able to stop it -It prevents and makes it difficult what God has permitted for us to enjoy in this life
So to summarize my advice to you is to ask the right questions and look for the right answers, follow your heart and obey God and you will make your own list because trying to stop for any other reason will not work and if it did its not the right solution , its not the truth , all other reasons will finish , die , leave , not be a reason any more , you may get used to it and forget but forgetting about the truth is you enemie because the truth will always come and some times without a second chance to try again , Everyone perishes except God, every reward runs out except the reward of God, every love dies or separates except the love of God
Nice to hear from you , thanks for reading , hope for me and you to succeed in our attempts
could be a generational curse. I am under one.
I agree with what you say very well said I am in a similar situation I am keeping my fingers crossed for you you must make it if not you then who else
I am on 56th day without gambling
Congrats on 56 gamble free days! I am super happy for you!! Thanks for the well wishes, only i can help myself, along with God. Peace.
Accept failure, but never stop trying.
Be a strong believer, trust in allah and do not pay attention to the whispers of Satan and negative thoughts.
💯 percent agree with you @Ahmad 👏 👏 👏 👏
Ahmad, truly wise words thank you so much for the G-UP and support man to be better, it means a lot to me.
Un abrazo afectuoso Para ti y Para tu familia Mucha Fortaleza fe y confianza en nuestro dios que todo lo puede y lluvia de Bendiciones
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Gracias por ese abrazo virtual Marilouz, es muy apreciado, sinceramente estoy agradecido por tu apoyo :)
Ok Ramio
Whats up Shawn! 🤩
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I'm guessing you're under a harsh astrological dasha or period.
If you study Vedic astrology, people go under different astrological periods in their lives. One minute, a person can flourish in life, the next, it seems like life is a complete nightmare to that same person.
People write off astrology. It's their loss because the ancient cultures all took it very seriously.
I watch some vidéos of you .
Are you converted toi Islam
Hello Samira more videos coming soon,tnx for watching.
Maybe Allah makes us always lose cause He wanr to wake us up, its wrong and haram