Tips on how to pursue a christian girl \\
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Tips on how to pursue a christian girl \\ #SSSVEDA Day #12
In this video, I talk about how guys can pursue a girl. There is a lot of nerves and fear for many people in general (not just guys asking girls out) when it comes to this area. However, if you how for your relationship to work, someone has to take the first step and initiate. Traditionally, this is the guy (though nothing wrong for girls to do it too). So, in this video, I give a few tips on how to pursue a christian woman.
When I first expressed my feelings to my wife-to-be, I wasn't sure how to say it. Do I say "I like you", "I love you", "I'm crazy about you"? By the end of the conversation I had said all those things! (Thank God it worked out 😂)
But I would say, before you have that conversation with any woman, you ought to have prayed and made sure God is in it. Otherwise, you're just inviting heartache. I actually disagree with just going out, taking risks, and making mistakes when it comes to choosing your life partner. God knows best, and He'll show you who He has for you, if you ask in faith. -A
Glad things worked out for you!
I appreciate you sharing your perspective too!
Soooo when did she leave you?
the Q&A thanks for the help Glory to God
You have to go out and take risks.
I have respect for anyone who has the courage to ask someone out. Great video! thanks so much for making it
kilrqween off it takes allot but it's worth the shot
I'm natrually shy. But I feel like God is telling me to be bold and ask women out.
I did. :D
Seems you disrespect me
A girls' perspective for guys: Do NOT lead a girl on, aka, do NOT play this "your brother in Christ" game. If you are genuine to your "sisters in Christ", be honest and true to them with clear boundaries. If you are in the "I'm not sure (whether I'm gonna have a serious relationship)" stage(if this stage can actually exist), then stop and re-establish the boundary, be clear and genuine with your intention. Last but most importantly, re-evaluate your relationship with God, if you truly think you are ready and your relationship with God is steady and with the sturdy foundation, then give it a shot. If you are not very satisfied with your current relationship with God, then you know this is your priority to work on or even ask for prayers/help from the ppl u trust: your pastors, mentors etc. Hope these suggestions help.
Absolutely!!!
Bonnie Niu lol
Bonnie Niu I've been single for a long time. And I've been trying to find the right person to myself I figured this video would be for myself because I've been trying to find the right person close to my age. at the age of 22 and I still don't have a girlfriend
Dear Skank,
Don’t give a guy YOU LIKE the “No Spark” BULLSHIT because he didn’t flirt or even try to get into your pants.
“Sparks” aren’t real. The girl that believes they are is a spoiled CHILD, leading HIM on.
See how REALITY works?
Peter Nygren Are you a Christ follower? I'm very curious.
Hey I really enjoyed your tips on over how to do date the right way. I got healed from the bondage of Autism 8 years ago and today I feel better then ever! I’ve put my trust in God and He sent his word and healed my thoughts. I’m 27 years old and live more abundantly to serve Him. Thanks for putting up videos like this. 😎💯😃🤓 Keep it up!
Its amazing, I was consistently on the street evangelizing to people during seminary, but had to really fight nervousness to ask my future wife out on a date.... Now she adores me haha! Great job on these vlogs bro!
haha, so relatable!
I feel
i would like to see videos on long term christian relationships, how much to text/ call, when to let go, how to talk about boundaries, how to spend time so that this long term relationship may results in a succesfull marriage.
I'm definitely guilty of focusing on more than one girl. Thanks for the video Justin. Can you make a video detailing how couples stay Jesus oriented while courting each other?
No dude. He’s teaching you falsehoods to “have fun” with a girl you don’t know, rather than loving someone FIRST.
Jeff Simon pray for it jeff😊
Hey Justin! could you make a video on how to evangelize? i am 18 years old and i have friends from all different religious backgrounds and i want to tell them about jesus but sometimes it can seem so intimidating and uncomfortable. Any tips on how to get over that fear and what to say to them? thank you in advance!
I do have a video or two on that subject already, check out the archives!
You don’t.
@@nestosauce ua-cam.com/video/94EmmdlcIkI/v-deo.html // Look up his name + evangelism
I'd like to see tips on pursuing a Christian guy. I'm all for Sadie Hawkins dances.
existential +
existential 🤣🤣🤣
Just a suggestion, if she'd be okay with it, maybe have Emily do this video idea solo. I mean, since Justin did his solo. Even though Justin's the youtuber, it might be nice for the girls.
If Emily says yes, perhaps we can do a video on this!
I was always turned off by women who pursued me.
I'm glad i've found your channel there feels to be a since of community here!
+dewberry150 glad to have you here!
Automatic Like and comment just for using my question. ;)
haha, thanks!
@@JustinKhoe can Christian man marry older woman than him?
This was actually really cool man. Really enjoying your content!
Thanks so much! Glad to have you here!
I think honesty is the best policy! I asked this single lady to go out with me from church! She said why are you asking me? I said, " Because you got big watermelons! She said, when did you see inside my refrigerator? LOL🤣😂
Get it?
I don't know what to do after I ask her out haha. If we're having a conversation, I ask her out to dinner, and then she says yes. What do I do from there? Just hang around and try to make more conversation? I feel like I'll be awkward afterward and I wouldn't want to mess it up
cheers bro, really appreciated this!
Everyone wants a new version Of Christianity, what we really need is an Old demonstration of Christianity.
Thank you Brother for all that you are doing for the body of Christ. God bless you.
Love in America is lost. This advice is great but it is all fantasy. "We've lost the war, you just don't know it yet"(Flashpoint Batman, DC). September 19, 2021, Sunday. USA Texas.
This was great since I am a teenager but I do have my eye on this one girl but she lives far away and I don't see much other girls that much but thanks for the video man it makes you think A lot and it's good stuff
Glad to help!
Great video with amazing advice also
Thanks bro :)
You found your queen, bro?
Good tips but how do you ask a real girl desendent of sarah whos been fearfull of God saving her virginity going to church not watching facebook or instagram or eny social media a girl a not from the world that dreses decent in work and also in church who's not noisy with other women . Because there's a lot tips here for women that are lukewarm but I haven't find eny for a real (christian) who knows there's only one marriage unless the husband dies or fornicates . Who knows that going out to know each other more is not a joke or a past time but because they ready to be together forever . Tips enyone with experience ? Please i need help . I my self server god and follow his commandments
Can you give some advice on desiring success? For example financial success, many christian guys wants to be able to afford nice things but sometimes they get confuse with what the bible are saying about being prosperous.
YOUNG AND BLESS Well its not about material things cuz u can be rich at heart. Dont consumed by worldly things but its okay to have nice things just dont be comsumed by them. If u want nice things than u are going have to get a nice paying job which hard to get these days unless u have a degree.
JUDAH RISE Thx.
Jelicia Norwood Thx for the advice.
Meditate on the Word of God daily. Allow the Holy Spirit to guide you in how to do well without getting the big head. Focus on living holy and not be mean to others. Proverbs 11:27 says do good to others especially those in need and you get favor from God. Proverbs 28:27, James 1:27, Matthew 6:19-20 are good verses I read. Of course don't do these things because you expect God to give things but be sold out to God and care for those who are down and out and He takes care of everything
I am not these christians you are referring. I didn't know I have to spell it out to this man. The Holy Spirit can teach him far better than anyone else. Holy living to this man and anyone else is to not fornicate, steal, being a drunkard, being greedy, a swindler, effeminate. Also I already told him to read and believe the Bible and not pay attention to these false teachers who preach only prosperity
Well I've got question. What if I really like a girl (like a lot) but neither of us are in a position to start a serious relationship? Also I've prayed about it and talked to leaders in my life and it all points to me having to wait for the both of us to grow. (I've already told how I fell) How can I get to know her (pursue) while im in this place of have to wait?
haha thanks for this video! I need to not be afraid and ask the girls #. Then when i go out on a date with them..then i can get to know them! My problem is i get afraid and i try to get them to know me better before i even ask for their #! I need to tighten up lol!
yeah im getting mixed signals from a guy i was interested in, so now im feeling hurt and second-guessing everything... time to move on!! 🙄
Great video thank you 😊
I am 15 and there's a girl in my church i've liked from 12. I don't know if she likes me and i'm scared of not only her rejecting me but her dad cause he's a youth minister. I wanna ask her out at N.A.Y.C. this year but i am sooooo scared. Any advise please comment?
Pray first, and just do it, and be confident, don't try to hard just be yourself
Go for it bro.. life is too short, be fruitful and multiply
What is your ex was sending you a snapchat and tells you not to look at it bc he needs to tell you what it said in person
question, do we need to have evil in the world to appreciate the good?
Depends on your definition of good and evil
Justin, I laid down my intentions after 3 meetings although we started online. She just told me she wanted us to be friends for now and updated me that she has a previous boyfriend she wanted to get away from. Now, she told me she has to fix herself first. I told her I will give her space. But it's killing me, I feel her loneliness. I don't want to be a rebound but should I consider it a no? As a rejection? 😐😑😮
EDIT: Should I move on? But to be honest, I am not tied down to anyone else and I am not actually actively looking for someone else. I want to wait for her, but I wonder if I am crazy and intentionally hurting myself?
EDIT: We're just online chatmates 5 years ago but this year she allowed me to visit her
Thanks!
Sing Song of Solomon to her.
Coming from a guy who has been constantly rejected by girls, it’s not worth it. We sadly still live in a time where culture says we will not be happy until we have someone by our side. OK..So what happens when that person leaves you? Do we just click the new game button? I am by no means pointing fingers, As I have been guilty in the past of having Worldly thoughts on that. But how far does someone go in order to fulfill that void? At the end of the day all we are doing is making short term gains to extinguish some aching desire.
i have a crush on my classmate, and i ask her friend "what is her religion?" and her friend says that she is Jehovas witness, :( but i am a Born again Christian, :(
Yeah! If you like a girl, don't ask her out. Send her messages with your body language, indicating that you like her, but don't creep her out in the process. Women read body language, and she will quickly pick up on it, and find it flattering. Then she will have time to process her feelings, and evaluate you until she reaches a point where she will fall for you. It works every time.
it really hard for some men to do that because they are introverted and very logical. It why I feel broken when comes to doing whole pursuit thing.
6:25 But be mysterious, if she knows everything she'll lose interest.
Hi! Do you have a video (or want to make one) about how/when you knew she was the one?
The point about men pursuing more than one woman before deciding who to commit to is definitely true! There's nothing wrong with it in theory, but it always disappointed me when I found out and it ended up being a turn off. There's something special about being the only woman a man is pursuing.
Positivity guys have to do that cuz if we focus on one and get rejected it gonna hurt like a bitch
Men are not that emotionally strong on average. Its basically a defense mechanism.
I have liked one girl at a time and it only worked with non Christians. I have become used to rejection so I get over romance easily :).
But I am happy single and open to dating and having appropriate fun.
1. MEN are not supposed give pursue.
2. Most women are REPULSED by men who make one woman a priority before she is ready to commit to him. Most women want to feel like they won a man away from other women.
Peter Nygren actually most women are repulsed by "needy" men. There is nothing wrong with flirting but when a guy pursues and he does not get the non-verbal indicators then its repulsive.
I feel good when I know women find me attractive. But if she were obsessive that would be creepy.
On your 2nd point all people want what they can't have, it coveting which is lust. Not sexually but its true mean which is to covet.
So that's why women like it when they take you off the market.
Oh for crying out loud, HERETIC, I don’t “hate” women. I hate their BEHAVIOR. Their behavior is sickening and ugly.
There is NO SUCH THING as a godly, virtuous, CHRISTIAN woman anymore.
WHERE are the women saving themselves for marriage?!?!?!
WHERE are the women who reciprocate and don’t hide their sexuality from men?!?!?
WHERE are the women who respect a man who is “slow” to “make a move”?!?!
They DO NOT EXIST!!!
I haven’t used Scripture??? Dude, read RUTH!!! The ONLY example of relationship beginning in the Bible instincts WOMEN to pursue!
David and Abigail FURTHER prove ME right! Abigail was a VIRTUOUS and TRUE woman who did right by God. She also conveyed her interest in David (while married). DING DING DING!!!
David didn’t “pursue” Abigail, you nut.
And you don’t pursue women either, if it is to be believed that you have had “offer after offer after offer.”
You merely RECIPROCATED the affection that a woman SHOWED YOU FIRST.
That IS NOT pursuing!!!!!!!!!!
If you have a general misunderstanding of what it means to pursue, then fine. As you have already indicated that you agree that it is a woman’s JOB to show a man that she is interested so as to put her ball in his court.
BUT THEY DON’T DO IT ANYMORE. Feminism has scolded them from doing it.
If you really want to know my history with women, I am “obvious”. I am Jim Halpert. Women are “so obviously” interested in me that NOBODY will point it out to me, and I find out YEARS after the fact that they were interested, but they said and did NOTHING to get the ball rolling.
Which is THEIR JOB.
You know why that makes me angry? People like you. Limp-wristed, liberal “Christians” who distort Scripture to fit your own worldview.
Society AND the church have abandoned men. Your words make you COMPLICIT in the death of the family. The church that my great-great grandfather built is DYING because their are no young people getting married, and because asshole Baby Boomers FORCE young people to work Sunday mornings.
Instead of blaming the work force, the Boomer generation, and feminism for the death of the family, you and your ilk instead attack men.
You tell us to “man up” by telling us to ACT LIKE WOMEN and pursue.
You scold Christian men for being “too picky” in their discernment to being EQUALLY YOKED. Sorry, a virgin bride is CRUCIAL. Tattoos are an OBVIOUS red flag. And her demanding 6 figures from a man so that she can stay home IN SLOTH to “raise children” makes her neither conservative, nor remotely “traditional”. If she is to be a HELPER to a husband in this world of inflation, then she needs a JOB.
You tell men that “hard work isn’t everything” and “what’s the point of all that overtime without a good woman to share life with?” ...
You SCOLD real, hard-working men who work 60+ hours a week for “not getting out there” and spending every waking second not at work bar hopping for vagina.
You condemn the Millennial male’s MASCULINE energy to be focused more on career and financial success than on getting sex by rationalizing that we have “low testosterone” or “video games” or “porn and masturbation” - because if it wasn’t for porn, men would be soooooooo horny that we would absolutely trade in our RARE and PRECIOUS free time to chase after sex ... right?
If a CHRISTIAN man tries to dismiss the subject entirely by pretending that he has the “Gift of Celebacy” just to get people off of his back, those same people SHAME him and tell him that his life should be devoted to the mission fields if he has no burden nor desire for a wife.
Dude. It’s one thing for the world to condemn single men when virtuous, godly women are aplenty. It is totally another when you condemn those same men for not accepting what just simply isn’t there.
I go literally MONTHS on end without ever even SEEING a woman. They do not go to church. They are stuck working like I am. And because we are now ADULTS, we clock out an GO HOME each day.
There is no serendipitous random meeting in the grocery store like Hollywood pretends.
Only LOSERS use public transit, of which, none exist in the SUBURBS.
Bars and clubs SUCK ASS if you don’t drink - oh, and women find men who don’t drink to be “boring” and “creepers”.
AGE MATTERS. This generation of Millennials REFUSE men their own damn age and demand AT LEAST 5-10 years older. I just turned 29 on Thursday. Which means that I can go NO YOUNGER than 27 before it becomes inappropriate. How many “Christian” women do you know that are still virgins at 27?!?!? HA!
The women that throw themselves at me are CHILDREN! 18-22! Not good!
MAYBE you are genuine enough that this actually resonates with you and you finally get it.
But given this interaction, it is abundantly clear that I have a much better understanding of Christianity and Jesus than you do.
You want men to be women instead of men.
Go Lutherans!
Are there some things us girls can do to make this less scary for guys? I mean, practically speaking?
Nothing wrong with indicating your interest. Emily (my wife) was someone who made her feelings clear to me. It made the whole playing games thing much more simple
He slips clearly, always trying to make someone out to be a criminal... Having Fun!!!
My man, you a Genius
haha thanks? :)
After VEDA will you continue to post everyday?
I'm not sure we can sustain it. It's a lot of work!
Can you make a video on how to keep Jesus in the relationship
WOW just like the other video I commented on, I remember about 2 years ago I build up the courage to ask this one girl out and she told me how rude and disrespectful that was after that I gave up on ever finding a girlfriend. I have two female friends one I've known for a very long time and the other one just recently from my church my other friend that I've known for a very long time has a boyfriend but then turns around and say that she's jealous that she was my friend first and I'm like how can you be jealous if you have a boyfriend then she turns around and says all I was just saying that just to see what you would say it just confuses me. And why would a girl take special interest in me and buy me things more than any other guy friend of hers but say all we're just friends if we're just friends why don't you treat me like all your other friends it confuses me. I live in Columbus Ohio I go to The Potter's House Church of God on the Westside of Columbus Ohio
Hey bro. Shes wrong. Assuming you where normal and not actually rude then shes wrong. If you say. Hey I'm interested in you and would like to chat and get to know you better. They normally atleast respect how you did it even if there not interested. Dont say you like them before atleast getting to know them better
Thanks
I was wrong yesterday Justin. This question is not on my mind.
Because girls at my church just dont take the first step :D
lol, mercy!
Can Christian man marry older woman than him?
Why not?
i don't really see why it would matter. (as long as its not borderline illegal)
I just asked a woman out on Sunday and she didn't say no but she didn't say yes she said maybe. I think maybe this week that she is going to tell me if she wants to go out with me. She is planning on moving to Georgia for school, but God may other plans. I find it entirely unfair that men specially disabled men such as my self should have to settle for something horrible because women walk around with self entitlement and that they are God's gift to the world. I know that sounds horrible, but I do not read anything in the Bible telling women only to go out with guy that have resources. As a matter of fact there is nothing concerning dating in the Bible. I recall Jesus saying to esteem others more highly than yourself. I bet she didn't even think about how happy I would be just to date her. I didn't even want a date I wanted to get to know her because she seems to know her Bible pretty well and I am studied in the scriptures. What if God's plan for her is to stay here with me idk what God's plan is but I am leaving an open mind.
ryan derksen She doesnt owe you anything. Ive dated too many people I didnt truly like just because I wanted to appreciate the good parts of them. Then I ended up trapped in a relationship I didnt want to be in. She has a right to be happy too. Not just you
You are a horrendous person.
hi. :)
:D
So I like this girl at church
And I can feel the vibes , that she looks at me very often . I usually go up to girls and say "hey what's up girl"
But since its in church , i have to respect the house of the lord .
Im afraid to confront my feelings to her
Last Sunday she caught me talking to this random girl , I was about to leave because I cant talk to my crush , I hate getting rejected.
Before I was about to leave i heard her voice say "What was that about?"
I kept quiet & I just rolled my eyes and walked out the door.
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How can I overcome my shyness
How can i overcome being frozen
How can I be brave of myself
How can I make it up to her?
I feel that she got jealous
Do you think i should give her a single rose 🌹? On the 9th , Sunday service
Because i wont be able to see her on Valentine day (14) .
Lmao yes I want to be in a relationship with a woman who is more devoted to a 2000 year old book and nonexistent God than having a relationship.