Pursue Her!
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- How do women actually want to be pursued?
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Ladies, how do you want to be pursued?
What if a man is on the autism spectrum? seems a little unfair doesn’t it?
@Jerry Grauert - Yeah, those awful "autistic" people need to be punished . . . .
Being of high social status and bank account. And a mind reader. Without that forget it.
Don’t listen to this, men..Pursue health, career, and happiness, not women...If you’re healthy, wealthy, and happy. Women will flock to you
Pursue her? I want to be celibate! I'm with the Apostle Paul on this one!!
"You don't ask fish how to catch fish . You ask a fisherman.”
**Sees the thumbnail**
Me: “Nah I’m cool.”
The difference between "hanging out" and a "proper date" isn't the intent, it's the cost. You want men to pay for it and not only risk rejection but also risk wasting money.
dandre3K I wanna like your comment a million times over.
@34 Roy Not all women put a price on it, they put themselves up for auction then inevitably feel dissatisfied with their resulting sale price. By omitting an explicit price tag these women attempt to maximize their sexual leverage in any interaction with a man because without tangible economic indicators a man's gynocentric bias, libido, scarcity mindset etc may cause him to greatly exaggerate the value of sex. However leverage increases potential risk and reward. To utilize this increased leverage a woman must be promiscuous, without a price she cannot be overtly selective based on wealth and must cast a wider net with stronger bait. Not all prospects will turn a profit. Ultimately this increases the supply of sex, there's no price on most women to reflect that fact but men still determine the demand. The men that catch on take cartoonish advantage of thr inflated supply. The men who bid the most get exhausted or ignored, because if these women wanted to profit they would be actual prostitutes. If they wanted a husband they would be suitable wives and make tangible offers to men. Instead they want the benefits of both but achieve neither... unless you're Kim Kardashian but she's a witch.
@34 Roy Overthinking is meaningless, either I'm right or wrong.
@34 Roy Wrong how?
@34 Roy All you've said is men can walk away, and not all women are exactly the same. Now tell me how I'm wrong.
that's how you get arrested these days.
Worse thing you can do is take dating advise from a women :)
34 R - I did not get a chance to see the dating advice given by Paul Zee . . . .
Paul Zee sooooooO True. Learned that the hard way!!
I have realized the true meaning of this while watching this video.. The color of the pill she wants us to consume is what she's wearing..
Why not take all the risk out of it completely ? I read a magazine articles that claimed a woman should say "If you asked me out, I'd definitely say 'Yes' !" . If a woman likes a man, she should help him out !
A woman asking 'what are your intentions' is the scariest question ever but it calls the man (or lack thereof) out of you real quick. Love the video!
It can be scary, but I'll remember to ask this of any man who asks to "hang out" or even properly asks me out.
Unless he had autism.
I havent dated in a decade and i find myself unsure of myself
I think it's a no-win question for men
@@paulcolin9071 Elaborate?
Some women will get startled and reject you instantly.
Nah, I'm good. But if anybody wants to ask ME out go right ahead. I'll just be over here working, exercising, eating, and sleeping.
Bingo.. Also, it is women who ask men out who say things like "Let's hang out" or "meet up" 😁
"a date"? you mean the guy taking enprmous risk including expelled, fired, arrested for the privilege of paying for everything while you look at your phone all night withh no intention of taking things any further? hard pass.
I don't think you should give up just because you had 1 bad date. Also, not sure why you'd get on trouble for it unless it's illegal.
@@Lexagmorwe have all heard seen the horror stories of falsely accused- any woman can do it and are encouraged to do so by the system
@@Lexagmor it's a sin to remain ignorant in this age of information
@@jeanpaulgartier3404 not sure what you're referring to. Ignorant about what?
@@josiahmick1175 There are women and men who make accusations of various kinds for financial gain. However it should never be assumed that if a woman, man, or child ever makes an accusation that they are not being truthful simply because there are many false accusations out there.
But I can understand why it has made men fearful of approaching women. It does not help that we have not been given good examples of proper behavior in the media. For example, we have been taught that a man who pursues a woman after she says no by continuing to pressure her to say yes (looking at you Noah Calhoun of The Notebook), following her around and finding out everything he can about her is somehow considered romantic and sweet when these should all be viewed as major red flags.
Men should not just wash their hands and say they won't ask women out for fear of harassment (unless you're okay with being single and not be bitter about it). Inform yourself- what constitutes harrassment? Do you have any unhealthy or potentially toxic views of women (i.e., feeling violent against them if they refuse an offer)?
And please consider the very legitimate reasons why women have to be on guard against harrassment and assault on a practically daily basis.
Maybe if we men weren't judged so harshly on our level of confidence, we'd be more confident! How the hell am I suppose to be confident in what the reaction will be of someone I just met will be?
It’s called courage. Act despite fear.
@@storyaboutmosquitoes9441 Fine. You try it.
The confidence isnt in the result. That would be closer to certainty. The confidence is in your ability to deal with whatever the reaction is.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR REMINDING ME THAT IM A NORMAL MAN! I just pursued a girl exactly like what you’re talking about... I was brave and took a huge risk, basically made a fool of myself,... The rejection hurt like hell... But it was worse when I started watching these videos suggesting I play all these mind games and don’t do what my DNA is telling me to do...
It’s ok with me striking out... It’s not ok with me, trying to be what I’m not and striking out.
I’d rather be bold and go down in flames than try to act all douchee and aloof and wait for her to chase me... not my style... Again, thanks... I most definitely always seek virtue! And I seek a virtuous woman too!
H G M - Hey, a LOT of really good, well-adjusted guys have tried all that. Best Wishes!
@Johnny Rage - Saw it a few days ago. Thanks for the heads up!
Keep it up man! That's one less rejection till you find the right one!
"Am I not worth a greater risk? "
Says it all
the pursuit that result in life sentence vs just walk pass and never look back, i think the latter is safer
The story sounds fishy.
Stranger walks up to her and says:
"Hey, I think you're amazing and I would love to take you out on a date"
No introduction, no ice breaker.
Her being "amazing" was based on nothing but looks.
She could have been a lesbian or in a relationship....the whole thing seems like bs.
I think its 50/50 and a lot of women seem to be completely blind to this. You say that theres something exciting about a man risking rejection and asking a woman out...........it cuts the same way for men. We would feel that exact same excitement if a girl asked us out, if she risked rejection. And I think this is the crux of the matter: Most women are terrified of being rejected. From what I've seen, women will do everything they can not to face this. But this is why they often dont get what they want, in romance but also in life in general. Everyone has to risk, your gender does not give you a free pass in this regard. Everyone should go after what they want and risk rejection, whether you be a man or a woman.
Nothing as sexy as an eager woman for me 😁
It depends though on the worldview you got.
The speaker makes a very good point, in that you should be direct in asking a woman out. No beating around the bush about wanting to hang out - tell her you find her attractive and want to take her out for coffee. If it's a yes, great. If it's a "maybe" or a no, then great, she won't friendzone you and waste your time as you move on to the next.
Yes we men should all be brave giving women free validation.
E E L - But don't you want the women to feel loved. protected and cherished ?
@Johnny Rage - That was my sarcastic (?) point.The double standard does not care a damn about YOUR protection . . . .
More and more women need to hear this. So many of my friends say, "You ask him out," or "Guys won't be interested unless you ask them out first." I pray for a husband who will ask me out, state his intentions from the beginning, and make me feel cherished, loved, and protected.
Addie-Eileen Paige Amen. The world is confused gender roles... Be a woman, a real man will recognize and pursue you.
A-EP - I think these commenters are trying to tell you that they have been punished for trying to do that . . . .
Men hold the cards when it comes to marriage. If women don't want to end up alone, then they better start changing really quickly. Because dating in 2022 isnt it. If women want to be pursued, they need to knock off the sluttyness, narcissism, ridiculous picky standards, and start acting like classy women who are serious about getting to know a regular guy.
Don't forget men, make sure you're handsome first otherwise you're just a creep hitting on her.
In this day and age you'd better make damn sure she wants you to pursue her or it could get really bad really quick for you. And no you cannot ask her. Just going to have to pick up on things she says and does. And any sign she's backing away you'd better do the same
desiring 50's men, but remaining '20's women, Isaiah 4:1, "...take away our disgrace. "
The More You Pursuit a Women The More She Runs Away .
But Being Direct Isn’t Pursuing !!!
Hey man, I get what you're saying. We actually talked about this topic in one of our podcast episodes. Feel free to take a listen and let me know if it helps! apple.co/2u2nhdJ
Which episode? The link just leads to the podcast page.
This is misleading. Most women nowadays play coy when asked like that, then they get angry when guys stop pursuing them. Guys have more important things to do nowadays than waste time pursuing women. You weren't pursued by that guy. He stated his intention already, it means he has no time for BS. Pursuing one's future is more important than pursuing women....
This sounds so simple, but I don't think women realize how painful it is to guys when we get rejected! Why should all of the burden be on men?
And that's how women get addicted to free meals and attention...she never mentioned in the clip that they went on to becoming partners or got married. U wanna feed some 1 plz donate for the homeless, they will be thankful
AMEN AMEN AMEN
Patiently Waiting in the MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST AMEN 🙌
No, don't be a simp
Men, asking someone out is not harassment. Catcalling is. Talking to/about her in a lustful/objectifying way is. Refusing to take no for an answer is. Acting entitled to a yes just because you made an effort is not the way to go. Good men don't insult, humiliate, coerce, hurt, or get embittered towards women who aren't reciprocating their interest.
That said, I do believe women should ask men out without the man getting bent out of shape because he'd rather do the asking. And I know some women could be much kinder in turning down a guy they aren't interested in.
This works if she likes you more than a friend. I asked her respectfully and clearly. She is now avoiding me. Oh well.
So if a man do sent go after the women nothing happens. Also women please dont expect it to be some great gesture. I wish women would stop watching romantic movies and expect it to be some perfect moment and line. This is real life not a movie. Also if a guy asks you out to drink and you say i dont drink. The guy might get nervous and go bye instead of taking it further, In his mind he taking that as im not interested and move on. When in reality you are interested but also remember we are taking that risk.If you can help but going i dont drink but we can get coffee. Just that small change might mean the guy you like takes you out on a date.
Thank you a very insightful video. There’s a lot to be said for taking a rare initiative, and telling someone the truth about how you feel about them and declaring an intention. Refreshing! Thanks.
How could you feel safe and "secure" before you even go on a date? Talk about getting ahead of things...
No I don't want to catch a case.
Lmao!!! Hell no!
She's rationalizing after the fact! Women are in there emotions
Why is it still on men to bear this burden if we’re all equal now? If you know you’re worth it, you’re just able to seek it out for yourself not waiting for it to be handed to you by some fairy tale.
Dm - They LOVE to keep that double standard going . . . .
There are women who ask men out. But there are men who prefer to do the asking and are turned off by women asking them out. So both men & women risk rejection.
I agree with what your saying completely normally speaking. But if a guy feels a call to marriage and has autism or a diagnosed form of anxiety then this is completely unfair. Not trying to be rude but just drawing attention to it.
Quite right. Not all of us have the capacity to simply walk up to a girl we are interested in and confidently ask her out on a date.
What do you mean man? Don't you know, that you've got to treat your conditions and THEN ask her out? 😁😁
That's Entitlement
My question is, how can I continue pursuing my girlfriend while being long distance? I send flowers, buy her coffee, etc. but I want to do more. God has my heart set on this woman.
Depending on where you are in the relationship, have you thought about having a conversation regarding moving closer to each other?
I'm in the process of moving to her. But it might take a few weeks.
Oliver Müller how is your story going? I'm attempting to move to California for a girl and I'm super nervous. Maybe we can bounce ideas off each other.
Johnny Rage you're a loser
You will probably learn this too late but, get a new girlfriend! "God has your heart set on this woman"? So God wants you to go after what you can't have? You've been brainwashed into stupidity.
This is complete BS, everytime you tell a girl your intention from the begining then "the mystery is over" and they lose attraction. Women are always more attracted to uncertainty, because it keeps them thinking about it. It keeps them wondering, and therefore chasing men.
@34 Roy Never said try harder if she says no. If a girl says no, you walk away and never look back...
@34 Roy When did I say that acting creepy works? Sorry, but you are just misinterpreting everything I'm saying.
@34 Roy Well, that depends on how you are intepreting the concept of uncertainty. What I mean with it, is that a girl will feel more attraction if it is not very clear for her what is her position with you, that your feelings are not very clear and you are a bit of a challenge for her to find out. If you don't understand this, I'm guessing you don't have much experience with women.
@D D fact. The only way you’ll ever catch me pursuing a woman is if she makes it clear she’s interested in me first...
@D D same to you!
Not every woman wants this. Some woman LOVE the game.
Children play games. More times than not being unclear and "mysterious" is going to backfire. Respect someone enough to be honest with them.
Good women dont love games. Im not sure how good I am but if I feel like I’m being played with I immediately lose interest. It speaks of immense immaturity.
What the heck ? I was just studying English and wanted to know the meaning of pursue 😂
BRAVO!
Ummmm...no. I'm done chasing. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. I look at women and see liability. Besides...they don't need us anyway.
Great video! A message that needs to be shared.
Thanks, Anne Marie!
Most women I've interacted with over my life have confessed that "clarity" is the absolute LAST thing they want or even respect.
I'm over 50, btw.
No thanks princess, not going to bow down and debase myself. Rather have my self dignity.
N N - Hey, they are entirely devoted to get more guys to think that way. They try to make it sound better and better.
Finally, someone who gets it
If a guy really thinks a girl is the right one, he'll pursue her. It's that simple! If he's gone in the middle or not following up then he's just not into her..
I have to disagree with the part where you suggest man to be intentional (in a verbal way) from the very start. Let's imagine a guy does that, and then a few meetings afterwards, he realizes the girl isn't the one he's looking for. Now what? Verbally apologize to the girl and then back out? That would be super awkward, wouldn't it?
I think a good relationship should be started of a good friendship. It'd be more pure, true, and less sugar-coated. Spouse is a friend for life, after all. If one doesn't bother building pure friendship to begin with, why bother?
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SERIUOSLY ....
THANK YOU!!!
Now I'm about to go ask those girls out!!
She just gave me a PAIR
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You women literally don't have to do anything when it comes to dating so stop complaining
It's cause as men we are the ones who in our nature are more courageous and able to initiate. We are go-getters. If you want your pansy fear to stop you from getting what you want then stay with your stubborn outlook.
@34 Roy what?
@34 Roy Okay apart from looking good what things are you expected to do? Explain this shit to me.
@34 Roy How many men have you approched this year?
@@justinitsthatguyme010 Women are strong and independent in 2020 so you make no sense.
I'm pretty sure if you are physically attractive and/or have some sort of financial freedom, today's woman would appreciate being asked out in person.
But that's just me and my uneducated opinion.
Why should I bother to pursue a woman that I am unfortunately attracted to?
Sister, you've spoken well. However, I need to say that not many women think the way you do. Not many have a healthy and honest view of themselves as you do.
Majority is that this only works after they're done with their promiscuous Years and now facing midlife crisis.
I'm not so sure men are afraid of rejection. I think men are cautious to spend time and money on someone they don't know. Women can be unappreciative and overvalue themselves. A woman needs to prove herself to have integrity and character before I invest in her. Is she kind? Is she respectful? Is she a giver or taker? What are her values? I wouldn't buy a car based on looks. I need a test drive and some research before it get's my money.
Super glad I came across this chanel!
one suit doesn't fit all. be brave yes. but be smart. assess each situation individually. confidence does come from saying something without fear of rejection. confidence comes from being responsible acting properly and knowing when to approach and when to back down. some women are actually happily married or in a relationship. so show respect. and that's is what takes courage.
In today's world, no man in his right mind would directly address a woman to tell her that he likes her and ask to go on a date with her. In the best-case scenario, the man would be accused of being a stalker.
Yes, of course women are implying the weight of all intentionality should fall on the shoulders of men. Many erroneous interpretations of the Bible and the Gospels make the Catholic community falsely believe that man has the duty to be the initiator of love. This is totally wrong in today's world. That's why there are so many men and women who are involuntarily singles.
God created men and women as equal and complementary. Men and women are free to communicate to each other our true and genuine intentions.
Is the overt word "date" needed to convey the concept? Asking someone out to get to know them over coffee - is that clear or unclear?
Saying something like, "Hey, I'd like to take you out on a date sometime this week. I would love to get to know you a bit more." we believe is pretty clear.
There is no reason women should wait for a man to confess his attraction to her first if she wants a partner to eventually be married to. Women shouldn’t need to wait for a man to propose marriage. Women don’t need to risk losing the fulfillment of that desire more than men. Desire for that relationship is equally wanted by both genders. One gender should passionately want to pursue the other mutually or marital intimacy that sexual desire is made for will be difficult. Sexual desire is the most passionate feeling anyone can have for another person.
Not all women want to be pursued after they tell men no, and I want to remain single.
BE BAPTIZED IN JESUS NAME, BY WATER AND BY THE HOLY SPIRIT !!!!!!!!!
What do you advise for all the good guys caught up in the friendzone? Usually they come to their senses and stop liking bad boys but it takes them awhile lol
My advice would be to get out of the friend zone as soon as possible. Tell her how you feel and if she doesn't feel the same way you move on with your life. You can still be friends with girls but it's not good for you to be secretly suffering while you watch them date other guys. A true platonic friendship means you don't care if they are dating someone else. Hope that makes sense.
The friendzone is in your head man.
There exist no zones between people, there exist only emotions. Emotions are static electric fields. When you leave the girl she keeps the static that you left her with. That static will change when hours days and weeks pass, by her interaction between it and her other emotions, i.e. her other static electric fields. If you leave her for a while and she likes you as a friend the static you left her with will weaken and be displaced with a nice memory that she herself feeds her own imagined nice emotions.
Until next time you see her, dont be her friend be a stranger (in your head) and read up on how to be sexually attractive and how to pick up girls, and charge your own electrical field. The battery is your libido. Don't watch pictures of girls and don't masturbate and do physical things that you like, this will charge youe libido.
Dont use your thoughts for anything else than plan and solve problems.
When you see her next time you will just take her. The electric force of your emotions will blow her away like an electric storm.
If she is not attracted to you at all, this whole exercise will have changed you, and you will not care anymore because you will know you were honest with yourself, you will be fine with having her as just a friend and you will go look for other girls with no regrets.
The libido is that wave you feel that wants to be released by sex. But its actually your creative life force. Just keep the wave rolling around inside your body and focus on other things than sex and it will grow and grow until you meet her, and then you will say and do things that she cant refuse
If a woman is expecting gentlemanly, boyfriend-but-no-sex behavior from you, shun her.
I literally just saw a video yesterday discussing how being so forward is wrong. Lol. You women are never happy and guys are sick of playing the guessing game, playing your games, only to come out poorer of effort, emotion, and money every time.
RG 006 - Hey, there still are some guys out there trying to do this. My guess is that they have,over the years, been able to have SOME friends who happen to be female. I think that helps them.
34R - So men should NOT be approaching women ? All women are supposed to "owe" something ?
34R - Cannot say that I ever tried it, but I think that I would manage it without foul language . . . .
34R - Yes, it IS the internet, and this COULD have been a conversation, but all of your sarcastic "quips" are showing YOUR own attitude and prejudiced viewpoint. . . .
34 R - You missed MY point completely. I do not know 'reddit" (so bring more insults ) , but I have managed to go back and forth here with men AND women, learning a lot from their responses even though we may be in total disagreement.
I get rejected when I ask women out on a date. I’m thinking about writing off dating and potentially getting married altogether. Inspiring video though.
Sorry if women do reject you. You do run that risk when you ask a woman out, but when you did that your actions said, "I'd rather risk getting rejected by you than never having had the chance to win you in the beginning."
@@addie-eileenpaige6460 Thanks for the positive feedback.
@@addie-eileenpaige6460 YESSS! Couldn't have said it better ourselves!
@@huntervolcan9218 Rejection is just another closed door, which means you can move on to the next door!
@@huntervolcan9218 You're welcome.
no way are you implying a man should have a burden on his shoulder? yes you are love! If you really mean equality than staep up to evenn. you find something "intriguing in a man stepping up and risking rejection" that is toxic really. please follow my thought. if you think getting an unwanted response is rejection and rejection is even possible (instead of just admitting that there can be unmatching interest without lowering the worth of the offer) and there is something nice about going about it, you imply the possibility of so called rejection is somehow playing a part in the pleasure of perceiving this process. this is a fantasy of chastising in the subconscious and if acted out freely absolutely toxic and destructive. exhibited openly in clarity and consensus this can be fine, like in a kink. if you like playing roll for your misfortune with a man and they consent to it - nice but if you want to have peace, harmony and equality in society this is not how real dating with serious intentions works.
Are you used to guys asking your priest for permission to take his spiritual child on a date?
Nice video
Men, never take dating advice from a woman. They don’t even know what they want
Mmmm idk man
That isn't pursuing ffs
That's just asking you out! Wtf??
Permission to call you, geezuz, its like asking the dutchess of Austria? LOL.
I've had far better success when I stopped chasing or persueing.... Just be yourself...she can persue too, it goes both ways.
She's adorable! I'm glad she's happy. :)
Women drop the hankerchief... the men pick it up if interested...
BS
No you pursue women they never give nothing in return it's in her favor you just get your money spent up and your time wasted
Guy advise: You have to ply hard to get or she will lose attention. Girls: Say it clear, be breve.( I am realy confused right now)
Oh gosh don't play hard to get. NO ONE should play hard to get (not even girls). I've had insanely good looking men do this and it is such a turn off!
Make conversation, confidently ask her out, but if she says no just move on (as in, do not keep trying to ask her).
@@Lexagmor lol, maybe they just weren't interested
@@jeanpaulgartier3404 hah I think with at least one of the guys who would do that he liked me well enough to stare and peacock on various occasions but never approached. Idk what he wanted me to do with that. But sure, in the end, the way I see it- he couldn't have liked me that much if he couldn't get over himself and asked me out. Not my prob
@@Lexagmor or maybe he was shy, i don't think men do that "hard to get" thing
Dear women pursue him??? yes man are pursueing too litte. women are pursueing even less. love a man for once
Dear girl in this video,
I think you’re absolutely right. Men need to pursue women directly without any ambiguity. Soooo... you ever been on a motorcycle?
No, thanks, but no thanks!
I'd your too afraid to ask a girl out then how are U even letting Christ conquor Satan in your life. How are U even confident to go up to people and preach the gospel? Be brave like David.
WTF
N N - I think they want us to send "David" in there . . . .
"A woman is made for pursuit! " , REALLY ?
Yes =)
I hear from many sources ( mostly male coaches ) say that you have to let a woman chase you , be the prize to her
@@fargeeks -Well, you better try to EXPLAIN that to The Culture Project. . .
@Johnny Rage - Nice try! The Culture Project goes in for those double standards . . . .
DID YOU LET HIM SMASH THO ?
are you transgender?
YES!!!
May God help all these confused commenters!
REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF GOD IS AT HAND !!!!!!!!!!!