Ask a Psychopath - Why did you decide to get treatment?

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  • Why did you decide to get treatment?
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    Confessions of a Sociopath: A Life Spent Hiding in Plain Sight
    by M.E. Thomas
    Available in Paperback and Kindle
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  • @cececooke7684
    @cececooke7684 2 місяці тому +89

    It’s nice seeing a Psychopath interviewed outside of a prison.

    • @RyuKyu.77
      @RyuKyu.77 Місяць тому +4

      They roam everywhere in society, they're probably your politician, doctor or teacher! That is scary but at the time, if they understand their condition and actively try to police their own behaviour, I think it's fine

    • @Solar.Geoengineering.Advocate
      @Solar.Geoengineering.Advocate 26 днів тому +1

      @@RyuKyu.77 they dont. the second they can exploit they will.

    • @RyuKyu.77
      @RyuKyu.77 26 днів тому

      @@Solar.Geoengineering.Advocate I'm just saying it'd be nice if they did, most don't, that's kinda why we're in a mess

  • @user-jd1dz7vb8g
    @user-jd1dz7vb8g 4 місяці тому +145

    I love the psychopath soundtrack. So upbeat.

  • @a4ewald
    @a4ewald 4 місяці тому +272

    I love how we have zero empathy for people with zero empathy.

    • @bigbug04
      @bigbug04 4 місяці тому +64

      After watching "What things you have done" video a part of me said screw this coldhearted person. But another voice said, she is missing empathy because she is a psychopath, she didnt choose to be this way, why would you hate her for this condition? Turns out, its pretty confusing and hard not to dislike someone who is missing empathy and acts accordingly.

    • @swiftbeatrice776
      @swiftbeatrice776 4 місяці тому +12

      @@bigbug04 But, is hating soemthing that is so void of depth that bad? I mean, if you hate a reptile, would the reptile even be aware? Would the reptile appreciate it if you did care? The reptile will never care about you, so is it foolish to be concerned about such a thing? Does a doorstop care what you think of it?

    • @missasyan
      @missasyan 4 місяці тому +28

      ​@@swiftbeatrice776 I mean, she's still human. The wiring in her brain has made her act this way, unavoidably so. Let's be grateful her environment wasn't so hostile that the psychopathy could've led to worse things. Now it's less about nurture and more about nature. I think it's wild and just kind of sad she doesn't understand empathy that much. Still, I would never want to help her myself after hearing the opossum story. Therapists are crazy bro I could never talk to someone so...off. She's not really void of depth, or a snake, or a reptile, I think she's still capable of learning empathy. It's just that empathy is a very important part of being human, or of humanity, and the absence of it makes us want to treat her like how she treats us: with indifference, like they're incomprehensible machines, or something.

    • @ybanzen
      @ybanzen 4 місяці тому +1

      oh no, this is so so so sad for me. i cant believe how screwed up the brain structures must be for it to be this bad....

    • @uggggggghhhhh
      @uggggggghhhhh 4 місяці тому +7

      ​@@bigbug04she can certainly understand what causes pain in others and can therefore choose not to do that

  • @smee596
    @smee596 5 місяців тому +326

    i found it quite fascinating when she said the main factor that caused her to get help was because as her relationships in her life began to dissolve, which limited her 'career' options. such an unusual take on how her gain was being threatened and thus led her to seek help and alternate ways to approach her manipulation, rather than the loss of friends around her.

    • @jordanchen23
      @jordanchen23 5 місяців тому +28

      I mean it's good that she's taking steps towards treatment and personal management for her own benefit and by extension ours. But what's concerning is the way in which she pursues treatment entirely for her own ends until the outcomes approximate something the rest of us would deem "acceptable" even if only in terms of superficial appearance.

    • @lf1977
      @lf1977 5 місяців тому +19

      ​@jordanchen23 Probably, the only thing that can be hoped for if the clinical definitions of psychopathy are correct.

    • @desvega5849
      @desvega5849 5 місяців тому +25

      Most of the research on treating psychopaths that I ever read in university, and since, point to there being almost no other viable endpoint than the psychopath learning to adopt what one's society seems as more "acceptable" behavior, but it'll never change their nature. This disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder are incredibly difficult to treat not only because those afflicted are seldom convinced there's anything "wrong" with them but also because the nature of their personalities involves underdeveloped areas in their brains and it's nigh impossible at this point in time to radically alter (or perhaps repair) brain structure in such a way as to further develop said areas.

    • @jakezarbrezhoneg4110
      @jakezarbrezhoneg4110 4 місяці тому +2

      @@desvega5849 That's why I don't think she's a psychopath.

    • @WardenOfTerra
      @WardenOfTerra 4 місяці тому +3

      @@jakezarbrezhoneg4110 - She's a sociopath, which is a form of psychopathy.

  • @milicamorgan1
    @milicamorgan1 4 місяці тому +93

    When she was talking about feeling like a gas it reminded me of Patrick Bateman’s monologue in American Psycho where he talked about not being “there”

    • @swiftbeatrice776
      @swiftbeatrice776 4 місяці тому +16

      Very accurate. This entire interview reminds me of how no one actually knew patrick bateman, he was just an "idea" but not a person. Patrick Bateman cant relate to, or empathize with, other people.
      He can't make a "connection" with others, he can only use them for company; the company gives him some kind of comfort but not real friendship.

    • @heusker
      @heusker 3 місяці тому +1

      I thought of that too.

    • @IloveJesus777j77
      @IloveJesus777j77 Місяць тому +1

      ​@@swiftbeatrice776Jesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.

    • @IloveJesus777j77
      @IloveJesus777j77 Місяць тому +1

      ​@@heuskerJesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.

    • @dentkort2046
      @dentkort2046 Місяць тому +4

      ​@swiftbeatrice776 That's how you know they're not "predators", but actually handicapped by brain damage.

  • @thisusedtobemyrealname7876
    @thisusedtobemyrealname7876 4 місяці тому +41

    The sad thing about this is that even though I have some empathy for her because her condition is not altogether her fault, I would still not interact with her beyond very surface level interactions because it would absolutely be not safe for me to trust her knowing the way she is. I'm glad that she is gaining insight into herself yet I do not think that how she is and acts can altogether be cured no matter how much she herself thinks that she is getting better.

  • @naelpontes8444
    @naelpontes8444 7 місяців тому +105

    "If there's nobody around me, then I'm nothing". This is such an interesting dilemma for people with NPD and ASPD. Because at the same time people mean nothing to you, they mean the world to you, because they're those who validate your ego and your accomplishments. A life without people for those with ASPD or NPD is a dull life.

    • @kikithepupper6774
      @kikithepupper6774 7 місяців тому

      They're leeches. They don't care crap about human being enough to not feel guilty for causing them pain, but they can't live without them because humans are their energy source

    • @chelseachyannejessyyork
      @chelseachyannejessyyork 7 місяців тому +1

      This woman isnt a psychopath shes a sociopath 🤦🏻‍♀️i cant stand people who think their the same as me especially when its people in the medical field saying it ☠️

    • @JDdr86
      @JDdr86 7 місяців тому

      ​@chelseachyannejessyyork Check the explanation given by Dr Abigail Marsh and Dr Kent Kiehl on the subject. The valid and accurate scientific term is psychopathy. Sociopathy is not used in any psychometric measure, it is a pop psychology term for the most part. Just type their names in the youtube search bar, they'll explain.

    • @chelseachyannejessyyork
      @chelseachyannejessyyork 7 місяців тому

      @DavidMayTheII 😑haha.. 😂eh im alot like deku from My Hero Academia when i was a kid if someone yelled at me id start balling my eyes out 😅so we are normal some of us might get nervous i do about things were just fundamentalists 🤷🏻‍♀️ were born this way and those who are made are actually Chess players😅 which the military scouts for just like nasa scouts at science fairs they tried getting my mom in with bioengineering

    • @SRBOMBONICA86
      @SRBOMBONICA86 7 місяців тому +7

      ​@@davidd836I guarantee Chelsea is not psychopath lol ,the woman in the video however absolutely is

  • @uggggggghhhhh
    @uggggggghhhhh 9 місяців тому +169

    This really made me appreciate therapists. I dont think I could do what they do because I see this woman and hear her answers and I think that if I were actually there, I would have zero idea on how to interact with her, much less how to help her. Now I know why good therapists get paid so well.

    • @dashkinblacksmith3998
      @dashkinblacksmith3998 5 місяців тому +8

      she has probably constructed these other emotions to feel like the therapy is working.

    • @corrina1963
      @corrina1963 4 місяці тому +7

      she expresses herself well, it probably wouldn't be that hard to give her therapy.

    • @johnbeans2000
      @johnbeans2000 4 місяці тому +1

      You do know therapists get paid right? It's like any other job and sitting there listening to a psychopath babble sounds really easy.

    • @uggggggghhhhh
      @uggggggghhhhh 4 місяці тому

      @@johnbeans2000 Did you read my comment? I said I know why they're paid well so obviously I know they get money. Are you a therapist? They do more than listen. They help people but its almost impossible with psychopaths because they don't see anything wrong with their behavior and don't want to change. Have you ever tried giving people advice? Its not easy because they all have different ways of thinking, of doing, of growing, of being, etc. "Just be happy" isnt going to work on someone in therapy for depression. Now consider schizophrenia, bipolar, borderline, anxiety, ptsd, etc. They dont just sit there. They change they way you think about your feelings.
      I doubt you could gget someone from being clinically depressed to mentally healthy all on your own by "listening", with zero education or experience.
      They need to understand their disorder and them as people and how do you understand someone that suffers with some disorder you have never had?
      Advice I give you could work for you but not on another person.
      I genuinely think therapy and being able to befriend people of all walks of life go hand-in-hand; that's not something anyone can do.
      Consider social, cultural, religious, political, gender, etc limitations too. All of that plays in to how a person thinks and acts.

    • @johnbeans2000
      @johnbeans2000 4 місяці тому

      @@uggggggghhhhh i tried reading this then i remembered i dont care.

  • @laurahejdukova481
    @laurahejdukova481 2 роки тому +359

    So very interesting. Love to see an actual person with psychopathy to explain us what it is all about. Thank you so much for this interview

    • @user-mo2sg8mf5k
      @user-mo2sg8mf5k 3 місяці тому +2

      how to know whether I am a psychopath or not?

    • @8180634
      @8180634 3 місяці тому

      @@user-mo2sg8mf5k Start studying on the topic to understand the characteristics of a psychopath and then try to determine if your behavior matches the definitions. Possibly also visit and mental healthcare office and ask their opinion.

    • @jhxcczs
      @jhxcczs 2 місяці тому

      @@user-mo2sg8mf5k read about the symptoms of psychopathy and if you think you might have some of them, look for help and talk to a therapist, they will know how to guide you. Best of luck 💙

    • @VeNuS2910
      @VeNuS2910 Місяць тому +2

      you will not want to be around one. i met someone like this, i am so glad i went far away. you will have to keep the distance for your own safety and sanity.

    • @user-mo2sg8mf5k
      @user-mo2sg8mf5k Місяць тому +2

      @@VeNuS2910 how you know it was a psychopath?

  • @esthermirandalima
    @esthermirandalima 2 роки тому +236

    This is one of my favorite videos on the internet now. I find psychopathy so interesting and hard to understand at the same time. I loved when she said it’s hard to have feelings!

  • @doris2793
    @doris2793 2 місяці тому +11

    I once worked under a psychopath and had to request another manager. It is very telling because you knew he was pretending emotions and feelings. Behind his eyes was dead space.

  • @secondstarllc
    @secondstarllc 2 роки тому +564

    Its almost like this is her first incarnation as a human. Like her past lives were animals or inanimate objects the way she describes hungry as a feeling.

    • @KatrinaDancer
      @KatrinaDancer 2 роки тому +18

      Don't insult other animals. My dog has way more emotional intelligence than this homo sapien 😝

    • @user-ol5bj4dm2v
      @user-ol5bj4dm2v 2 роки тому +33

      @@KatrinaDancer actually, you're probably right.

    • @andresandres1666
      @andresandres1666 10 місяців тому +13

      ​@@user-ol5bj4dm2vactually probably the exact opposite, psychopaths have destroyed their souls in some human incarnation, so she at least has some human backround

    • @richardjulien3345
      @richardjulien3345 10 місяців тому +87

      ​@@andresandres1666why are you people dragging some weird pseudoscience into this?

    • @andresandres1666
      @andresandres1666 10 місяців тому +20

      @@richardjulien3345 because we can

  • @bradydeangelo284
    @bradydeangelo284 2 місяці тому +25

    I'd love to be a fly on the wall listening to 2 psychopaths interview each other.

  • @m900l4
    @m900l4 Місяць тому +9

    The trouble is with these people is that , ( i know from experience , i am 99% sure someone i dated in the past was a psychopath or sociopath rather ) is that they DON'T GIVE A DAMN about you or about themselves deep down.
    They will say such kind words to you one minute and sounds genuine then when they hear something they don't like , they will say something cruel or be cruel.
    Everything is superficial. They literally only care about what food they are gunna eat that day, they have a home to go to and how they can manipulate others for their gains. They don't even CONSIDER others because they don't have empathy so if they wanna socialise with you it is because they want something or it fills a gap in their day but they don't care about you.

  • @_xeere
    @_xeere 2 роки тому +96

    I find it interesting that someone without empathy would define themselves in terms of other people.

    • @holotrout
      @holotrout 10 місяців тому +1

      Yeah, it’s pretty cool tbh

    • @tjfSIM
      @tjfSIM 7 місяців тому +20

      Yeh, such a strange paradox. I think this is true with narcissists as well. They need other people to make themselves feel complete, and give them a sense of purpose and identity. But they use people for that - they don't ever feel anything for the people they use, except a fear of being abandoned by them.

    • @jenniferweed2552
      @jenniferweed2552 4 місяці тому

      hmmm. good point. We had a president like that
      @@tjfSIM

    • @uggggggghhhhh
      @uggggggghhhhh 3 місяці тому +3

      Yes, I thought that was interesting. Especially because psychopaths do not care Imo, I think its because psychopaths are narcissistic (though not all narcissists are psychopaths) and they dont emotionally care if their egos are threatened, they care because they understand that having a bad reputation will not help them get what they want. People are more susceptible to manipulation if they like or respect the person manipulating them.

  • @misterhair66
    @misterhair66 3 місяці тому +44

    Imagine the curse of being so disconnected with humanity...

    • @Profmillar
      @Profmillar 23 дні тому +6

      They don't mind. It's all a front. It's a lot less stressful being a psychopath.

    • @SaLeMI997
      @SaLeMI997 13 днів тому

      @@Profmillar they mind care and feel the pain when they are forsaken but they have no other option

    • @etherealmoonlight67
      @etherealmoonlight67 12 днів тому

      Sad.

    • @maxranierus3574
      @maxranierus3574 11 днів тому

      @@Profmillar they will still pay the consequences...life doesn't care about your emotions

  • @VeNuS2910
    @VeNuS2910 Місяць тому +6

    to normal humans it is called "being considerate of others". to psychos it is just called "emotions". it is wonderful to know that "emotions" could be taught to them at least.

  • @Wild8Cat
    @Wild8Cat Місяць тому +3

    It's chilling to think the only reason they even begin to consider changing is if their actions start affecting their own life negatively, never because they realize what they're doing is hurting others. It's all 100% just about themselves, through and through. I feel bad for the people who end up in a relationship with psychopaths because it must feel really lonely, disconnected, and empty.

  • @jujubees711
    @jujubees711 5 місяців тому +20

    That's wonderful that she recognized that she wanted a change for herself.

  • @Initium1000
    @Initium1000 8 місяців тому +67

    I have borderline personality disorder and I see some parallels with relationships here. I have the same problems with employment, friends so on etc - everything is ruined and I start again over and over.
    BUT when I watched her other videos, she doesn’t care about animals, people - anything.
    It’s like she got therapy not to feel better but to see how she can create a template to get a better life but not be a better person.

    • @kikithepupper6774
      @kikithepupper6774 7 місяців тому +14

      at least people with BPD like us actually truly have empathy and care for another and can love. Just that it's so unstable sometimes because of our shaky sense of self

    • @chelseachyannejessyyork
      @chelseachyannejessyyork 7 місяців тому +5

      Im a psychopath the woman in the video is a sociopath with a narcissist ego

    • @spookeymo
      @spookeymo 7 місяців тому +1

      @@chelseachyannejessyyork hey i have bpd and im studying psychology because im fascinated with personality disorders especially, do you mind me asking if you've always felt this way and how you remember your childhood? to clarify, diagnostically there's only aspd and the terms sociopath and psychopath are used more colloquially, but they're both thought to be some forms of aspd

    • @chelseachyannejessyyork
      @chelseachyannejessyyork 7 місяців тому

      @spookeymo ill prolly reply in parts so..

    • @chelseachyannejessyyork
      @chelseachyannejessyyork 7 місяців тому +2

      @spookeymo for me and my childhood i wasnt antisocial i just sort of became that i was more intelligent then other toddlers by 4 or 5 i started to not care to talk to others for the lack of their ability to understand that "im not a child im smarter then you think" 😅i gave up on kids my age and tried to talk to adults to have intelligent conversations 🥲which they just told me to go away🤷🏻‍♀️ at 7 i had a severe traumatic brain injury so i dont have all my memories but i was a very social kid i liked making other smile being a psychopath knowing how the world is i always it was better to be happy then sad all the time so why put worse out there its very confusing not being able to understand why others care for ppl they dont know but im a empath so i can still feel some form of their emotions ect* like that . My entire existence is a head injury none of it makes sense but like i said we have emotions but it takes different things to get to the same place

  • @timpierpont7402
    @timpierpont7402 4 місяці тому +9

    Imagine writing a book about being a terrible person and thinking that’s an accomplishment

  • @yrgarcon
    @yrgarcon 23 дні тому +2

    ”If there is nobody around me then I am nothing”, such an interesting insight to how she felt. ”The chameleon dissapears when there is no one around”. Wow, isn’t this quantum physics, the particle that is only visible when we look at it… My brain is on overdrive intellectualizing this.

  • @colorado841
    @colorado841 5 місяців тому +11

    She seems like the kind of person who could step on a Lego and say "oh I think I just had an emotion." She is probably the same way in her relationships.

  • @Ya_mum_Suk_Mi_Dik
    @Ya_mum_Suk_Mi_Dik 8 місяців тому +28

    This is actually more common than people think. A lot of them are untreated.
    I have worked with psychopaths/narcissists in almost every job.

    • @kiaraishere2723
      @kiaraishere2723 8 місяців тому

      What jobs are they? And also how has it affected you, working with them?

    • @gris_charnel
      @gris_charnel 7 місяців тому +8

      When you think about the percantage, 1% of population has psychopathy, 2% have sociopathy, up to 3% struggles with BPD and even 5% is narcissistic. A company hiring 100 is bound to employ someone with a disorder - yeah, I absolutely agree that personality disorders are much more common than we think (as long as we don't call every other human who has done us wrong a deeply disturbed individual).
      I met all of the above, actually really liked most folks with BPD, Antisocials were surprisingly thoughtful. Both hardworking towards bettering themselves. Narcs and psychopaths were a total disaster 😂

    • @sabaidee5587
      @sabaidee5587 5 місяців тому

      Agree, they are everywhere in any age. I know at least 3-4 grandiose and covert narcs, 1 psyhophat, 2 histrionics. I just want they leave me alone. 🤷‍♀️

    • @lauraindira8421
      @lauraindira8421 12 днів тому

      I agree. They r everywhere. I think my mom is.

  • @Umbrellagasm
    @Umbrellagasm 11 місяців тому +17

    I wouldn't want to be her friend, but i would be fascinated to chat with her

  • @freza980
    @freza980 9 місяців тому +43

    The only thing that makes me think she's psichopatic is that she's smiling even when she's saying the messed up things

    • @glorytoukraine5524
      @glorytoukraine5524 8 місяців тому +8

      There's more to psychopathy than Joker edits on tik tok

    • @freza980
      @freza980 8 місяців тому +3

      @@glorytoukraine5524 Did I say that all psychopaths are like Joker?

    • @isv1759
      @isv1759 8 місяців тому +3

      You should watch the other episodes where she talks about manipulating people and torturing animals while smiling

    • @naelpontes8444
      @naelpontes8444 7 місяців тому +6

      I get what you're saying because it sure is creepy, however, laughing or smiling when saying uncomfortable things can be a pretty common mechanism, it just means you don't know how to express it in another way. It's pretty common in many other people, like autistic people.

    • @freza980
      @freza980 7 місяців тому +3

      @@naelpontes8444 I know but they obviously don't do that for this reason, but they certainly want us to believe it like this because they are really good at miming emotions they don't actually have to appear "normal"

  • @irw4350
    @irw4350 4 місяці тому +8

    its great to listen to someone who is obviously very intelligent describe their own condition in this way & she is very perceptive - even though she cant feel the emotions & feelings she discusses, she can still see them at work in others and is able to recognise that her own behaviours are deficient - for example the drowning opossum - that these actions are not "normal" -
    (on a human average scale).
    I lived with a diagnosed schizophrenic psychopath for 2yrs - and it really was a roller coaster ride ! She was sectioned and
    I could bore everyone with stories about it, about suicide attempts etc, but lets just say that I am very relieved that
    it ended over 20yrs ago - and yet she seemed very nice, was Very attractive - but like they say - the lights are on but there's nobody home.

  • @MarmaladeINFP
    @MarmaladeINFP 8 місяців тому +45

    That is fascinating, assuming what she says is accurate. The defining feature of psychopathy is deficient or entirely lacking affective empathy. But it sounds like, in therapy, she may have actually learned to develop some affective empathy. So, the potential was there, if it had never been previously expressed and developed.
    I wonder if that is true or if she has merely figured out how to better mimic emotional behavior. High functioning psychopaths can have high levels of cognitive empathy, and so maybe she is just compensating better now. How would we know if she really was feeling more nuanced and subtle emotions now?

    • @SOak145
      @SOak145 7 місяців тому +3

      She said she's been diagnosed as a Sociopath though. That is different to a Psychopath. Sociopath's have both cognitive and affective empathy, but it's just that it's significantly reduced. Whereas Psychopath's have no capacity for affective empathy. Perhaps in her case the existing but nonetheless still reduced capacity for affective empathy, was simply expanded or re-awakened after therapy etc. ?

    • @salvadoran_uwu
      @salvadoran_uwu 4 місяці тому +1

      Again, it's wrong saying "high functioning" since psychopathy is a spectrum.

    • @waynepolo6193
      @waynepolo6193 2 місяці тому

      @@SOak145 Both are under the clinical umbrella of ASPD diagnosis. This is because the diagnostic criteria are fundamentally the same for both, but they manifest in opposite or contrasting ways.

  • @Vusha100
    @Vusha100 4 місяці тому +53

    Thank you for confirming exactly what I thought. Psychopaths have 1 thing in common: their teeth are always expressing a smile uselessly while they are talking constantly betraying the way they really feel while expressing themselves to others. This is happening in every video with this person. I have a friend which acts just like this psychopath.

    • @benmoreau3736
      @benmoreau3736 4 місяці тому +5

      The 'chewing on something else' expression.

    • @cosmiclounge
      @cosmiclounge 4 місяці тому +8

      N=1 is hardly a dataset.

    • @ashookamanuela1901
      @ashookamanuela1901 3 місяці тому +8

      so you have 1 psychopath as an example and thats why you think your friend is a psychopath?

    • @dmgsoultogetherness6667
      @dmgsoultogetherness6667 3 місяці тому

      lololol 😁

  • @AJ-tx6vf
    @AJ-tx6vf 9 місяців тому +38

    Good for you for seeking out treatment once see a pattern, definitely an inspiration for others!

  • @Nobiemon
    @Nobiemon 2 роки тому +180

    So, what kind of treatment is she undergoing? I always thought that psychopathy was untreatable.

    • @chainbenwa2713
      @chainbenwa2713 11 місяців тому

      It is untreatable. They teach you how to fake emotions to better fit into society.

    • @Umbrellagasm
      @Umbrellagasm 11 місяців тому +45

      Symptoms can be managed

    • @user-xt7pp5yy9w
      @user-xt7pp5yy9w 10 місяців тому +10

      There's always exceptions to rules and outliars in science plus we only know so much we know about the brain
      . Nothing is set in stone in my opinion just current knowledge. I see it unhealthy for people to say this is the science anyone else is wrong cus science can always change improve and realise they are wrong.
      I. Think socio and psychopathy is way more complex than we realise and i think its a spectrum but i could be wrong

    • @TuberoseKisser
      @TuberoseKisser 10 місяців тому +4

      Most likely therapy....like she said.

    • @marcuspatwell
      @marcuspatwell 10 місяців тому +13

      to be a psychopath is to suffer from the symptoms of psychopathy. To not be a psychopath is to not suffer from the symptoms of psychopathy. Psychopathy is curable as the disease is fundamentally symptomatic.
      Psychopathy is a combination of behavioral conduct disorder(s) that fall under a common impulse, i.e: manipulation. You can resolve your worldview and associated conduct disorders with therapy and psychoanalysis, therefor psychopathy is objectively "curable". However, people usually aren't identified as psychopaths until their behavioral conduct creates serious problems in their lives- the resentment may have built up to a degree by this time that, while possible, it is highly unlikely the individual will rehabilitate themselves during their lifetime. We in society punish psychopaths, as normal people learn from punishment, but psychopaths feel punishment is just another obstacle to overcome in their objective. It is also subjective. If you were trading mortgage securities, you would be rewarded for "psychopathic" behavior, as you would present very strongly in negotiations, and would likely never accept a deal that puts you on the under hand. Try doing that to customers at taco bell, and see how far you get before you're wearing an ankle bracelet.
      TL;DR: psychopathy is fundamentally curable, but the psychopath must want to be rehabilitated, which means they must have done considerable work internally before seeking treatment. As such, the treatment rate is low, but most individuals who reach for help end up finding it in a meaningful way.

  • @flies9244
    @flies9244 2 дні тому +1

    Interviewer: "Why did you decide to get treatment?"
    Psychopath: "Because. I want. To fit. In."
    Que Simply Irresistible by Robert Palmer

  • @Sirianta
    @Sirianta 4 місяці тому +1

    Amazing interviews! Thanks

  • @thedaily2206
    @thedaily2206 10 місяців тому +40

    They get treated once they realize everybody hates them

    • @nikobitan7294
      @nikobitan7294 10 місяців тому +27

      Moreso once they realise that everyone hating them is making life more difficult for them than it has to be. They don't actually care what people think about them.

    • @thedaily2206
      @thedaily2206 10 місяців тому +1

      @@nikobitan7294 if that's true I think I've been dealing with malignant narcissists then instead of physcopaths

    • @SRBOMBONICA86
      @SRBOMBONICA86 10 місяців тому

      ​@@thedaily2206absolutely, psychopath don't have ability to care

  • @stephanieczekanski3175
    @stephanieczekanski3175 13 днів тому

    What I hear her saying is "I struggle to have relationships and I want them but I don't know how to make them functional and reciprical so I got help" which seems like a very healthy thing to do. I'm highly empathetic and I'm dating someone with very low empathy so I have to "teach" him what my emotions are and how I feel. He isn't a bad person at all- he's actually amazing and very giving it just doesn't come naturally to him. The flip side is he is incredibly stable and doesn't react emotionally where I tend to over react. He has so many positive traits. I think we need to stop waging wars on people and looking for "good and bad" and focus on connecting and understanding. When he hurts me its not intentional and its not malicious or abusive he just hasn't learned that emotion yet. Its taken time but he has slowly come around. Don't throw people out so quickly. There's always room for connection and growth.

  • @ricdavid7476
    @ricdavid7476 23 години тому

    i am 70 and definitely a psychopath and she describes what i have felt all my life, nothing , no treatment or self medication has helped

  • @kellywade8275
    @kellywade8275 2 місяці тому +1

    I can always deal with people who recognize, acknowledge, express to others and seek help regarding their issues.

  • @zerosoma33
    @zerosoma33 24 дні тому +1

    “I decided to get help with my manipulation because people were onto me and I needed to become a better manipulator so they wouldn’t think I was manipulating them.”

  • @Kallaste.
    @Kallaste. 4 місяці тому +23

    I genuinely wonder how much of her claimed "response" to therapy is genuine, and how much is just standard psychopathic manipulation. This disorder is based in brain structure, and while I certainly hope we can achieve some changes there through therapeutic action, I have serious doubts that therapy alone could create improvements of the caliber this woman is discussing.

    • @bulkzkk5925
      @bulkzkk5925 4 місяці тому +1

      Your guess is as good as anyone's. Now as a Christian I don't believe that anyone is beyond redemption, that said I have my doubts about these kinds of people. Then again even serial killers have been known to find Christ and nothing is beyond God's power. But in the end I really don't know. All I can say is that I can occasionally feel empathy but at times I'm like stone cold and don't care about others at all. I don't want to be this way and I feel the Lord is changing that slowly too but you know... Not many people are like this by choice, it's a consequence of trauma, damage to the hypothalamus and the like

  • @SRBOMBONICA86
    @SRBOMBONICA86 10 місяців тому +15

    I envy you on your lack of anxiety lol ,Weak sense of self is CRAZY,I swear I always felt that ,like I am a hologram

  • @annak4273
    @annak4273 Місяць тому

    you are awesome for being so honest, do you always smile so much whilst talking?

  • @user-rw6xr9kf8o
    @user-rw6xr9kf8o 3 місяці тому +3

    Teach psychopath - how to feel guilty, how to feel empathy, how to fear, how to love, how to feel lonely, how to feel sadness; looks like training an AI robot.

  • @rachv6764
    @rachv6764 2 роки тому +68

    I’m confused…. I thought psychopaths wouldn’t seek out treatment, because they don’t think there is anything wrong with their behaviour?

    • @user-ed4yv8ue4l
      @user-ed4yv8ue4l 11 місяців тому +19

      They know in most cases, about everything that’s wrong with them. They just don’t care because of lack of empathy.
      To put it differently, they acknowledge clearly that they’re doing wrong from an intellectual point of view but they don’t feel they are doing wrong from an emotional point of view. That’s because the parts of their brain responsible for shame, guilt and fear are switched of, with activating only in rare occasions and for a short time. If they get to the point of intellectually understanding that manipulating and hurting people goes against their best interest( as she said every three years her life would crumble) they may change their ways. That being said, is not gonna be a change from an emotional point of view, they will still not feel empathy as they are incapable of it, but they will mend their ways to benefit themselves.
      If you want to benefit yourself, you’ll need to be truthful, trustworthy, nice and polite, do no harm and the average person will not harm the psychopath.
      As much as to most psychopath it gives a sense of superiority and satisfaction to either harm others or manipulate them, and they find pleasure from it, to others it gives a sense of superiority and satisfaction knowing what they’re capable of but being so strong and mighty to not do it.
      One more thing, is not that they have no feelings, is that they have no empathy, shame, guilt or fear, or any feelings towards others. That do care about they’re image though, that’s why they won’t tolerate people calling them out and putting them on a shameful spot.

    • @leonfa259
      @leonfa259 11 місяців тому +23

      She noticed that she was self destructive and wanted to stop it.

    • @nikobitan7294
      @nikobitan7294 10 місяців тому +30

      The reason she sought out treatment isn't because she understood that her behaviour is bad, but rather because of the destructive consequences for her resulting from her behaviour. The only way you can teach psychopaths empathy is by relating it to their personal benefit.

    • @SRBOMBONICA86
      @SRBOMBONICA86 10 місяців тому +4

      ​@@nikobitan7294absolutely,they do it to preserve themselves in society

    • @ednaisabel4741
      @ednaisabel4741 10 місяців тому +7

      They love the attention and talking about themselves. You can see it in her how she can’t clear that stinking smirk.

  • @mattolson12
    @mattolson12 2 роки тому +19

    I think she just described my personality

  • @brianban110
    @brianban110 2 роки тому +80

    I'm not trying to make fun of her but she kind of reminds me of a robot. like those A.I. robots that you see sometimes on the news. I hope she does well in life

    • @pmlking
      @pmlking 11 місяців тому +11

      Thats the uncanny valley effect. You can tell something is off because something is off

    • @TheOmniMic
      @TheOmniMic 10 місяців тому +1

      She'll be fine. She's amongst friends in this world!

    • @ParmyJan
      @ParmyJan 10 місяців тому

      ​@@pmlkingwhat's uncanny valley effect?

  • @Lepsaeus
    @Lepsaeus 8 місяців тому +7

    I hope people finally grasp the fact that individuals with personality disorders --cluster B especially-- *do not have an ego or sense of self,* despite their apparent egoism and self-centeredness. 2:10

    • @mavisedwards
      @mavisedwards 4 місяці тому +4

      Yeah, it's interesting. She can't see the self in other people or her own self. Maybe it's hard to understand your own feelings when you cannot get the emotional feedback from others. Or she is just missing something that directly effects both.

  • @matthewmark7224
    @matthewmark7224 10 місяців тому +12

    she is successful because her destructive cycles occur every three years. more compulsive psychopaths would probably have shorter destructive cycles.

  • @sameermunshi1615
    @sameermunshi1615 Місяць тому +1

    Considering that humans for at least 10+ years have to rely ENTIRELY on empathy to survive makes us irrationally afraid or unnerved by those who lack it.
    Empathy, alongside communication, is the barest foundation of a society; people who try to be edgy and say that society doesn't have empathy or need it are forgetting the 1 absolute reason why they've survived to adulthood; someone cared enough to feed, clean, and shelter you as a newborn and toddler.

  • @brandybrown6574
    @brandybrown6574 9 місяців тому +15

    People with psychopathy make less eye contact than people without it. Between that and the constant big wide smile it kinda creeps me out.

    • @celty5858
      @celty5858 9 місяців тому

      Do you know why that is?

    • @celty5858
      @celty5858 9 місяців тому +2

      Yeah, the false smile unsettles me too.

    • @Omar-kl3xp
      @Omar-kl3xp 9 місяців тому +7

      @@celty5858yh that’s the first thing I noticed is her fake smile and how she doesn’t when to smile ,it is very creepy lol

    • @m900l4
      @m900l4 Місяць тому +1

      Sometimes my eye contact isn't very good , like if I get shy or if I'm doing something and focusing on that, i can't look at the person much 😂
      I would actually say lack of eye contact is not a usual physchopathic trait , usually their eye contact is intense / stares more like 😂

  • @andrewptraining
    @andrewptraining 9 місяців тому +5

    This makes me feel less alone or weird

  • @produccionesdebajosrecurso7451
    @produccionesdebajosrecurso7451 4 місяці тому +3

    I think a saw a real emotion, of deception, when she saidshe had to start all over again every three years. She is really interesting and I wish her healing. I understand mood disorders. I have depression myself, but personality disorders are really hard for me to grasp.

  • @regfordca
    @regfordca 4 місяці тому +4

    I find her completely adorable, so I wonder what that says about me.

    • @maxim3830
      @maxim3830 4 місяці тому +4

      It says that you're able of relating to other people, which is a normal human trait.

  • @andrewellard7254
    @andrewellard7254 4 місяці тому +8

    Her eye contact speaks volumes.

    • @JuMow_
      @JuMow_ 3 місяці тому +1

      Eye contact is sparse with other conditions aswell though

  • @HollyScarlett_
    @HollyScarlett_ 6 місяців тому +1

    My little sister said she only sees me have three emotions as well 😂 yeah I’m always hungry. You know what I have to accept myself first to heal

  • @ConnorParker-qc9qj
    @ConnorParker-qc9qj 4 місяці тому +2

    Her grin scares the hell out of me , kinda like the courage the cowardly dog episode with the barber .... Nauuughtyyyyy

  • @hayleyhawn
    @hayleyhawn 5 місяців тому +4

    she wrote a book about being a sociopath, she refers to herself as having a personality disorder (psychopathy isn't a personality disorder but sociopathy is), and refers to herself as a sociopath-why is she on a psychopathy video it seems like she is a sociopath?

  • @itr6540
    @itr6540 2 місяці тому

    I know people exactly like her… I didn’t know they would be psychopaths, I have accepted them with their shortcomings.

  • @Jamiey-
    @Jamiey- 9 днів тому

    The more videos I see of her the more she's awesome 😂

  • @AF-ge4pe
    @AF-ge4pe 4 місяці тому +7

    She basically said her way of acting as a psychopath is destroying her life and success because it badly affects people around her. So she doesn't care about people around her , she is going to therapy for herself and in that way helping her environment. Very interesting to see. Maybe this kind of humans would be useful in a dystopia setting. I wonder where this version of homo sapiens sapiens would thrive if mother nature made them

  • @solar2473
    @solar2473 2 місяці тому +1

    You can tell there is something unusual with her in facial movements. It’s pretty typical then you get that occasional ominous smile

  • @shashi3072
    @shashi3072 Місяць тому +3

    That creepy smile😮

  • @ihateandreykrasnokutsky
    @ihateandreykrasnokutsky 4 місяці тому +2

    Interesting, I also can't stick to my career for a long time, and other people are not able to tolerate me in their company for a long time. So I also have thoughts about running out of enterprises where I can work. I can create a good impression for a short time, but in the long run it becomes very complicated and almost impossible, and people probably look through me and see something... wrong may be, I don't know what they don't like.

  • @naelpontes8444
    @naelpontes8444 7 місяців тому +10

    The gas metaphor got to me, sometimes I don't even feel like I'm human. Like a complete disconnection of self. But has nothing to do with psychopathy, as I would probably describe myself as a hyperempath (I'm a psychology student after all...).

    • @SRBOMBONICA86
      @SRBOMBONICA86 7 місяців тому

      I don't believe in hyperempaths ,your empathy is mostly shallow and shortlived,I don't think hyperempaths care about anyone truly ,it's all ego driven hipper emotional bullshit

  • @maxs3724
    @maxs3724 3 місяці тому +7

    Everyone in the comment section is like “don’t think you can fool me I know your evil” it’s funny how empathy only matters to a human when they get it in return

  • @thomsboys77
    @thomsboys77 8 місяців тому +4

    Based Queen 👸

  • @govindagovindaji4662
    @govindagovindaji4662 Місяць тому

    It's be fun to hang out with you~!!

  • @jessickalush3305
    @jessickalush3305 10 місяців тому +22

    She probably got treatment to manipulate a partner into believing she's gotten better, as she refines her tactics.

    • @mealovesyu
      @mealovesyu 10 місяців тому +4

      Probably, that can and does happen. I don’t see why people would do that though, I can’t stand therapy. My new therapist gives me sweets for doing well; the one I see face to face at least

    • @jamjox9922
      @jamjox9922 8 місяців тому +2

      Well...yes? But as another psychopath said, he does nice things for his wife, but he does it as a social currency. He even asked her one time, "You know I didn't feel like doing that out of kindness, right? I just do it because I feel it benefits me in the long run, like you'll return the favor."
      His wife explained to him that you can't really ever know why anyone is motivated to do anything for anyone else. Which is not wrong.
      So, yes, some psychopaths will actually become more manipulative, but others will get better and play the role of being a better member of society, while actually not feeling genuine motivations for nice social exchanges, but they'll still attempt to integrate.
      You can only manipulate someone so far before they throw you away; and psychopaths are aware that consequences exist, as the speaker in the video explained, so it's not like they're just going to keep manipulating someone they see as a beneficial bond--because they understand you can't keep starting over as a long term strategy, it's unsustainable.

    • @Polina-ji4fe
      @Polina-ji4fe 6 місяців тому +2

      Gosh, that would be 80th master level of manipulation!
      From what she said, it doesn't look like this at all. She is self-focused and reflective. And I'm someone who was in therapy as well, that's how I know. She genuinely said she benifited from therapy, and the nuances and insight like this are difficult to make up. Her primary focus on this was self benifit and it's great!

  • @Sonieta03.
    @Sonieta03. 9 годин тому

    Interestingly, she smiles even when she says things that are pretty disturbing as psychopaths do. But there are so many psychopaths in our society, they are destroying others people life's just for no reason

  • @anaromello
    @anaromello 7 місяців тому +9

    I believe that a true psychopath can no more feel emotions than a blind person can see. There are spectrums to everything but wherever you are on that spectrum isn't going to be changed by therapy, however you can train yourself into better habits which will get better results.

    • @chelseachyannejessyyork
      @chelseachyannejessyyork 7 місяців тому +2

      True psychopath 🖐🏻 we feel emotions it just goes through a different route the difference is that we dont just care for everyone/strangers we have to know the people in order to care essentially were fundamentalists "do they deserve to be cared about" "i dont know them so i cant say" 🤷🏻‍♀️ i recently saw a tiktok comment about something else that helps describe it better "the opposite of love isnt hate its indifference you feel nothing torwards them" sort of like Sam in Supernatural when he lost his soul we know and understand what we should care about but physically we cant sometimes

    • @B-fq7ff
      @B-fq7ff 5 місяців тому +1

      plenty of legally blind people have some vision capabilities. FYI.

  • @Apollo-333
    @Apollo-333 13 днів тому

    Love her

  • @slicktheslickster
    @slicktheslickster 3 місяці тому +1

    Sounds like there are definitely some real advantages to being a sociopath.

  • @jhoodied4861
    @jhoodied4861 4 місяці тому +5

    3:32 That joker smile is terrifying.

  • @Acoustic-Rabbit-Hole
    @Acoustic-Rabbit-Hole 10 днів тому

    I used to cry that may hands were in pain...
    Until I saw a man with no hands.
    Then I saw a woman who had no feelings.
    And locked my door with my own hands.
    And cried all over again...

  • @krisovcov
    @krisovcov 6 місяців тому +6

    People like her end up I high positions in politics

    • @lebumjames1373
      @lebumjames1373 5 місяців тому +1

      you pretty much have to be lol, no normal person can willingly engage/succeed in politics long term if you aren't socio/psychopathic.

  • @ccc-hk6gz
    @ccc-hk6gz 8 місяців тому +1

    also the self identity part.

  • @ccc-hk6gz
    @ccc-hk6gz 8 місяців тому +1

    We all think alike. We can't find moral why's its always the logical best decision that is desirable that is our why. Int

  • @danielebrparish4271
    @danielebrparish4271 Місяць тому

    Anyone know the title of the book she wrote or her pseudonym?

  • @tccostello
    @tccostello 2 місяці тому +1

    It's interesting that see was a music major but said she never expressed herself.

  • @joh569
    @joh569 5 місяців тому

    Eyes never lie. ..

  • @SocialismForAll
    @SocialismForAll 2 місяці тому +6

    "Smarter than most people" but can't figure out basic friendships and relationships

  • @bigmoose7
    @bigmoose7 2 роки тому +48

    How do we know she isnt lying about being a psychopath

    • @wragabrr
      @wragabrr 11 місяців тому +21

      because she does not get a benefit from it.

    • @alexejrak3176
      @alexejrak3176 11 місяців тому +10

      ​@@wragabrrwhy would a Psychopath do something that doesnt benefit them?

    • @idgafidiot
      @idgafidiot 10 місяців тому +6

      A psychopath lying about being something is what a psychopath does

    • @mealovesyu
      @mealovesyu 10 місяців тому +4

      @@idgafidiotif she was lying then the whole interview would be redundant

    • @B-fq7ff
      @B-fq7ff 5 місяців тому +1

      how do you know everyone isn't lying about everything?? Get a grip

  • @TheSweepman24-nc8dg
    @TheSweepman24-nc8dg Місяць тому

    That's all my g

  • @ManicMindTrick
    @ManicMindTrick 4 місяці тому

    2:06 That's straight up the beginning of American Psycho, just said in a different manner.

  • @Poodle_Gun
    @Poodle_Gun 19 днів тому

    I was guessing at the beginning that therapy probably helped her develop a vocabulary to express herself, and I was right! I'm not cluster b, but I struggle with knowing what my emotions and needs are, and am also hyper rational. I tend to like psychopaths and sociopaths a lot more than narcissists and histrionics, because their reasoning makes a lot more sense and they don't experience jealousy. I'm very different than them, but I understand the way their brains work. I tend to be pretty good at telling when they're lying or telling the truth when I watch the videos, and a lot of the time, the lie will actually be for a good reason, like misleading people into doing the right thing. These, of course, are only the folks who've had therapy.

  • @neznamkaj
    @neznamkaj 5 місяців тому +2

    I was watching a lot of Serial Killers documentaries and about Ted Bundy that scored 39/40 on psychopathy test. Is it really true if you see for example decapitated body "sitting" in the park that it wouldn't effect you or your primary thought would be: Is it save for me to still be here?

  • @TheFriendlyPsychopath
    @TheFriendlyPsychopath 6 місяців тому +5

    I don’t know what she’s talking about in the end, for me these emotions can’t all the sudden turn on, they just aren’t there as never will be.

  • @Lepsaeus
    @Lepsaeus 8 місяців тому +6

    She is getting better starting to feel her range of emotions. The lack of ego structure was her problem.

    • @xarthhb
      @xarthhb 6 місяців тому +4

      She can't start to feel her range of emotions she doesn't have emotions

    • @benjaminwiner6220
      @benjaminwiner6220 5 місяців тому

      Psychopaths have feelings and emotions and sensations

    • @benjaminwiner6220
      @benjaminwiner6220 5 місяців тому +4

      They LACK or have DIMINISHED negative emotions such as sadness and they have difficulty with guilt and empathy and remorse and shame

  • @denestone9534
    @denestone9534 4 місяці тому

    This Is Scary.

  • @sosadagod6963
    @sosadagod6963 2 роки тому +2

    Thank u

  • @Poppy-yx8js
    @Poppy-yx8js 2 місяці тому

    I’m tired of being gaslighted. Irrational.

  • @memyself4431
    @memyself4431 10 місяців тому +3

    JODI ARIAS VIBES

  • @silverriver7866
    @silverriver7866 Місяць тому +1

    It’s so strange how she doesn’t look at the camera much.

    • @eggheadusa9900
      @eggheadusa9900 Місяць тому

      She probably just isn’t informed how be on camera.
      Psychopaths aren’t shy, they don’t care what people think (as long as it doesn’t effect them)

  • @andreasplosky8516
    @andreasplosky8516 4 місяці тому

    Oh my god, this sounds like me.

  • @brightbite
    @brightbite 4 місяці тому +1

    Yeah, "establishing a sense of self" sure did not help her grow a conscience!

  • @JanBee1122
    @JanBee1122 4 місяці тому +1

    I am questioning whether this woman is a textbook psychopath. Most pychopaths do not self-reflect. They act on instinct to bether their situation via manipulation, no matter the consequences to those around them. If they use a relationship to further their aims, they don't pontificate on the ones they leave behind because they focus on the fact they have achieved their goal of a better position. Their lives don't fall apart, those of the ones they interact with do. She may be on the scale, but if we're really honest, we can relate to much of what she says. Maybe this series is a ruse to get us all to see ourselves as psychopaths. This woman is no Ted Bundy, aside from the same smile maybe.

    • @ian7033-qj9wg
      @ian7033-qj9wg 4 місяці тому

      Its a myth that all psychopaths are serial killers or capable of being so. No such thing as "textbook" psychopath which is why it takes trained medical professionals to diagnose one.

  • @jakeg6280
    @jakeg6280 Місяць тому

    I wonder if she is Athena Walker on Quora

  • @Fan_Of_Film96
    @Fan_Of_Film96 4 місяці тому +2

    I would never trust her.

  • @outstanding-xj5ve
    @outstanding-xj5ve 9 годин тому

    I'm curious if you would start a family and have kids? How would it feel to have a baby that is so craving and attention needing. Would you go all in and go through all changes and do what is needed of you? Or is that not appealing at all? Thank you for your videos ❤

  • @AndreeaCe
    @AndreeaCe 7 днів тому

    Some end up to settle their psychopath ways, truly psychopaths because they weren't beaten by their parents when they should had been. Some whom know know in what conditions...not just like that...wait until they get also delusional, lie compulsively and end up machiavelians.
    Like for real, whom rewards and praises their kids after not only freely bullying other kids? I know cases...

  • @fatimajaved3694
    @fatimajaved3694 2 місяці тому

    2:05