Dear Late Bloomers...
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- Опубліковано 1 жов 2024
- Are you a late bloomer? Do you feel "behind" your peers in terms of success or experiences?
Think of this video as a reminder to yourself that where you are in life is enough. Life isn't a race, and it certainly isn't a competition.
Are you being too hard on yourself because you haven't "bloomed" yet?
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Are you a late bloomer? Do you feel "behind" your peers in terms of success or experiences?
Think of this video as a reminder to yourself that where you are in life is enough. Life isn't a race, and it certainly isn't a competition.
Are you being too hard on yourself because you haven't "bloomed" yet?
Yus
Psych2Go yuppppppppppp! Definitely.
I am sadly when it comes to dating it doesn't help im bi in a homophobic place
Well I don't have any social media...
Im a late bloomer but idc bc i still can Become wht i want until im pushing up daises
I might be a seed and not a flower yet but my heart is already a flower though i dont look like it. I believe that i van achieve anything
"Turn off your phone"
Well, I'm watching on a phone, so....
Same
Do not disturb is an option
They should of turned off the comments on the video too cause I'm watching while reading the comments 😂
@@Kyle-ok8vp Lol I always do that
@@Kyle-ok8vp well that's what they mean, you're not focused. Being in an unfocused state of mind is useless in the long term, because you don't train your focus.
What if you’re a never bloomer? 😭
Keep working and prepare yourself, someday you will thank yourself for never giving up...
Yeah that's a nice thought, but what about the depression and loneliness one feels when they've never bloomed? I have yet to bloom and I'm 34 years old...
Welcome to the NEET life.
@@Cassiepaya39 I guess that depends on your definition of "blooming"!
Did you watch the video? The only deadline is the _dead_ -line, as in death. Unless you have already died (in which case you have more important things to be doing like telling the world what the afterlife is like), then you aren't a _never_ -bloomer, you're a haven't-bloomed-yet-er.
I feel like I'll never bloom. I'm 30. Still a virgin. I never kissed anyone, I never went to college or kept a good job. Just working dead end jobs and being left out and ignored.
RoyalKingA73 jeez
Try branching out and starting new hobbies or looking for new interests. As you do that you're bound to meet new people. Sometimes all you need to do is get out of your comfort zone
Find what gives you joy. A trade skill? Working with your hands? Arts? Animal care? Etc etc. You're not alone. I'm also a 30 yr old virgin with no kisses or college to my name. I preoccupied myself with art instead XD
@Josh Colon I'm 23 too haven't finished college, I feel like I don't have friends, I'm depressed crying every night then I went to therapist and turn out I got anxiety disorder 😭
find a hobby something that brings you joy
I am 23 years old. I still live with my parents, am a virgin, single, didn't go to collage and don't have my divers license. Yet despite all these things, I have a loving family, a good social life, a thriving job from a soon to be billion dollar aerospace industry who wants me to become a corporate consultant. Point of this story is there is no social norm. The term norm only implies what most aspire to be like, not what you are or will become.
Wow I'm so happy for you. 😎 I'm almost 23 single virgin girl who lives with parents but I want to get a job to seek Independence. I've completed college this year looking forward to my future. I'm not sad that I'm a late bloomer because often late bloomers achieve more than the rest because they know how to be patient. 😊
Totally hahaahhaah! I’ll be rooting for you two
Do you need a drivers license? Are you from the US BTW? They have the most cars and affect badly the environment. Don't be like those selfish people. Use public transportation.
Did you post a similar comment under s video before? Because the deja vu has me spinning lol
I’m very curious 🤔 Where do you work? And also, that’s fantastic!
I dont know why being virgin is a bad thing. Whether you're a virgin or not, whether you've been kissed or not, it doesn't matter. What matters is you. Just do things that make you a better person and make your life a good story. You might miss the train or bus but does that matter when you've got wings to fly?
I was kind of having a rough day, and this made me feel a lot better! I tend to worry a lot, especially about failing and the future. I'm also kind of a late bloomer in most social experiences (I didn't get my first friends until fifth grade and I've never been asked out on a date) so this gave me solace about all the worries in the world. So thank you for making this charming video. (P.S. I love the handwriting, it's so elegant).
RougeArcana ikr thats me!
I can Relate Lol.
At 28 I was driving ubers and living at my parent's place. By complete chance I drove someone who referred me to her employer for a writing position. I decided to interview and got it, they liked me a bunch and kept promoting me at a crazy fast speed. In one year I was an account executive doing a job most people get MBA's to do. Now I'm 31 and have my first house (granted I don't live there, just rent it), I make excellent money and am happier than I've been for a long time.
"Late bloomer" in the States is "way too fast" in most othrr countries. People don't leave their house until their 30s in Italy or China, after marriage. There are 30+ year old virgin males in muslim countries due to religion. I find this message weird. Having your first bf in your early twenties is not being "late" outside of North America and a few western European countries. On a global scale it's normal to even early :/
Isn’t the average age of losing your virginity around 16 years old in the UK?
@@openingshift7070 Don't know but probably. It's western Europe.
@@openingshift7070 she meant countries that are located closer to russia i think. More like eastern europe? Or middle eastern countries etc
Me: *sees title*
Me: better watch this right now
Like if you can relate
TeaUniverse that's me XD
I watch videos.
Like if you can relate.
*breathing
Like if you can relate
I'm definitely a late bloomer. 32 years old, never had a girlfriend in my life, living with parents, working only part-time... For much time after graduating university I was unemployed and had psychological issues with searching for a job...
But hey! Now I know were I came from (emotionally disfunctional family, being bullied at school), so I told myself: I need to give myself a second chance in life. I went again to university, and now I also teach :) I also went to another college which belongs to my Church (I was raised a Catholic, but I became a Protestant), with a possible goal of working for the Church.
So my appeal to all the late bloomers: if you struggle with your "unsuccessful" life, give yourself a second chance :) Choose your path wisely!
oof then awww
good for you man! keep doing what makes you happy!
You comment made me feel better and think more wisely. I'm in a situation similar to yours and I have been struggling with the idea of failing in life. I also was bullied in school and suffered from severe depression and social anxiety, I think I must be kinder with myself by giving myself a second chance and pursue my real dream.
“Forget about.... (in-depth, detailed, heart crushing, bone crippling description.)”
I used to always look like a kid compared to my peers and had to show an ID even after being 24. It was annoying then, now I kinda miss it sometimes 😊
I can relate alot. I'm short af....:/
I have to show my ID often. They complain i have to show my ID anyway when im below 25 because they cant see when im 18 or higher.. that all before they read and realize im 30.
@@autumnmay-pl2hr same... i'm 27 years old and 1.50m (4'11") and some people think i'm 15 at first glance. :/
Youth is precious
Yeah I look little as well and some peopke made fun of that but you know what I like how I look and when they are older I will look younger ;)
I'm 21, still living with my parents with no job and no drivers license. I've stopped telling people I don't have a license because I'm instantly judged, especially by 15/16 year olds who already have them. As if its completely unacceptable to not have a license. -_-*
I don’t have one either so I feel the same anxiety. Doesn’t help that I have a fear of driving. Btw. Who gets their license at 15? Isn’t 16 the earliest age you can get one in most states?
tell me why I clicked on this notif faster than any others
lets parchment it up yo mabey cuz your meme profial looks good😂
Because you care more about being *FIRST* than anyone else?
Maybe because the video speaks to your heart :P
I'm a late bloomer! I'm still unable to graduate from college and i have never been in a relationship (I'm in my 20s). I have long accepted my situation but it can't be helped that i would be jealous of others who have achieved those things.
Also, u cant take your time if money is involved. My parents have been struggling financially to pay the college tuition fees. And they don't earn that much money to provide for us too. So they want me to finish college to help provide for our family. My parents want me to graduate sooner, so as annoying as it is, they keep telling me
"Hey, X got a job already"
"Hey, Y has recently graduated"
And to add they keep pressuring me to stop taking my time because we don't know if we will run out of money. So yeah, i wish i had the luxury to take my time...
Stop comparing you to others! Follow your own path
Remember:
The ones who bloom late are the most beautiful ones.
There's no meaning to a flower if it doesn't bloom but when it does, it will be beautiful.
I came to this video because I'm in my late 20s and have been feeling behind due to struggles in my life. However, I somehow feel worse because so many of the "late bloomers" in these comments are teens or people in their early 20s...I understand everything is relative but there's a problem in our society when teenagers are saying they are late bloomers...I feel like things just go too fast and now everyone believes they should have it all together by the time they're 18. It's as if these goal posts society has set up for us are becoming younger and younger and that's quite concerning.
I'm an 18 year old senior in high school, and still haven't had a job and haven't got my driver's license while a bunch of people my age and 1 year younger got one. My mom threatens that I will join the military if she keeps on fully supporting me in 19, which I don't blame her because even I hate it when she has to fully support me.
I'm definitely a late bloomer never kissed a girl, never been in a relationship, virgin, dont have a car, don't know what I want to do with my life, still live with my parents, and I hate being myself, I've just gotten use to disappointing myself and my family, i try to put on a face everyday and distract myself, but it just get so hard sometimes because I realize I can't do anything right and I'm very useless and I breakdown and cry sometimes. But this video makes puts my mind at ease, got to realize I'm not the only one. 23 years old
Follow your dreams and do you
No, you’re not the only one 😇
It could be worse, I mean, you could be homeless
I just read my comment and cringed. But am leaving and hoping for the best. Sorry for the spelling and grammar mistakes.
@@Zoe-oc1fe thank you for your comment I read the whole thing I feel like someone actually cares which Is all I want, make sure you and your family keep fighting to.
I'm a 23 year old guy, and I haven't kissed or dated anyone yet.
Thank you, I needed this
Same! In 4 months. My culture also frowns upon dating before career, but I was also born in the US, so my interests are conflicted with my culture. And if I go against my culture, I will lose the respect of my family...
I’m 28 and I haven’t kissed or dated anyone because it’s just a waste of my time, my money and my energy. I still watch cartoons and do some things kids do, like have plushies and have action figures; and I’m not afraid of saying this, even in public, because I’m not a normie.
I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I'm the same. However, as a person who absolutely needs to have that someone in their life, it's really devastating not being able to do that, and for such a long time I've been wanting it.
@@militantpacifist4087 hi and have a same hobby and 23 and can we go for a date???
@@militantpacifist4087 30 in a few months over here, so I know the feeling. Never kissed a girl or dated. I watch stuff like cartoons and anime. Even play games that not many would. I never considered myself normal to be honest
😍😍😍 You guys are changing lives with your videos! Thanks!!
Thank you so much. I'm a late bloomer in many things and low self esteem has made it worse for me. I've actually felt like nobody understood me, and I sometimes still do. But this video has opened up my mind and made me think, "Is it really bad to not be ahead or right on time?" This video helped me understand that I'm perfect the way I am, and I thank you for that.
You might be introverted. Also, look up stoicism.
We follow our own paths.
Now I feel better. :)
I'm 31, a virgin (I'm saving myself for someone special), never had a serious relationship (and I don't think that I even need one), never traveled to see the rest of the world (but I'm already saving most of my earned money for it) etc.
And I always thought I'm late with everything in life while everyone around me already has achieved the things I seem to miss out.
But now, after seeing this video I don't feel so pressured anymore.
Such a relief! ❤
So, when the time comes, certain things will happen, and I don't have to force anything. Maybe the best things in life are happening when we least expect them to happen.
😀
:)
This video has probably saved my life.
We are happy to hear. You life is precious
Lyciant Gaming you ok?
I think those who presume of "success" in "achieving" things like a stable job, marriage or kids are just stupid people who do what everyone expects from them. They are doing everything to fit in society instead of what they really want and that is just sad.
In their eyes I'm a late bloomer, but in my eyes they are premature grey people. I'm really happy to be who I am and to have the life I live.
I'm grateful of have a family that cares about me, to have food, a house, water, electricty, internet, a bed, a room, a hot shower, my cats, my friends, MYSELF.
And, what if you are 48 and just now finding out what you want to be when you grow up? Is that a late bloomer, too? I did everything society told me to do (without social media). Things did not work out, at all. Now I am back in school and in an entry level job. At 48. While I love what I am in school for, and have started the job path toward that, I feel so far behind. I did teach my kids to find something to do, not necessarily a career, and not necessarily degree related, but I still worry I have not done enough to guide them.
47. Feel the same.
You are not alone, I am 49 and thinking of starting on a new career path. My late Dad always said if you are still alive there is always hope 😊
This is much needed since everyone is making me feel like a loser since i haven't done what most 18years are doing right after high school. This video makes feel a little better about myself.
You are a winner! We are rooting for you!
You don't have to be like everyone else! I haven't even been on a date/done anything romantic ever and i am at uni, still at home and without an actual job (though i work volunterily on occasions) but i am happy being me and i am lucky to have my life, just because your experience is different does not make it less valuable :)
I'm right there to, just don't care about it, it really is that easy, if I can do it, you can too
I feel you
Same here. I'm turning 18 in 4 days and never dated or kissed anyone. I'm still childish in many regards and I don't know what I want to do with my future. Am taking a year off right now figuring things out, but it's hard.
Man japanese writers are really amazing in any topics, you know.
I'm a late bloomer mostly driven by circumstance. I want to embrace the better things life has to offer, however... The adults in my life seem to think that the linear progression in life is the only way to live. It's also very rigid since you absolutely cannot let some things come naturally, you have to wait until the right time.
That's because people over 30 grew up in a very different world where the classic progression shown in the video was the norm. Things are different now and not every adult recognizes that.
Same
- I understand that, their(the adults that I know) goals were revolved around building a better life and escaping poverty. There's just a lot of complications I'm trying to work through.
Right with you here
This video came at the perfect time for me. I’m currently pushing on 23 living with my parents and working in a part-time job out of pure necessity to cover for my studies. I have to admit that I never been in a relationship before. It was hard to keep that secret in a small college where everyone was “expected” to get engaged and married following college, especially in my social circle. I was even made fun of just for that alone. After dealing with unrequited love in the latter half of my time in college, I just fell into a downward spiral mentally. I ended up checking out of social media and actual social life. It was not to long ago before I ended up in psychiatric care to aid my Asperger’s, MDD, and anxiety. Late bloomers was a topic that my therapist went over with me recently and that resonated with me today. On the bright side, I finished my first semester in my MBA and started playing in a professional jazz band playing shows within this month. Bottom line is that life is not determined by social norms of success or petty competition. It’s no doubt that life is hard as it is. The best thing we can do is count our blessings and work to be the best versions of ourselves. Once again, thank you Psych2Go for all the help this year.
I am sorry you went through this. We are glad it helped you.
I feel this is what's happening to me. 18 years old, no job, no skills, and no friends. It all just really sucks, can anyone else relate to my predicament?
Der Metzgermeister me lol
Eyyyy
17 but I'm almost there :(
Can i get a heart?
Yeyyy!❤🔥 thankkk youuuuuuuuuuuuuuu😍
Thank you very much for this video! It really helped me understand the bigger picture and embrace my situation. I'm a 21 year old guy who's only 5 foot 2 and barely 100 pounds, so insecurity is very frequent with me. People even have a hard time taking me seriously because of how I looks, behave, and the decisions I've made in my life. Thank you very much for this message Psych2Go! I greatly appreciate it! 😊
You are not the only one going through this. We have your back!
I feel like life is like running on a hamster wheel.
Would you mind elaborating? :)
@@Psych2go Sure! When going through the motions of life and having a 9 to 5 job it feels like everyday you are stuck in the same routine and getting nowhere. But I have been learning that I don't have to feel stuck or feel like I'm trapped in the same cycle. I have control and can make a change.
As a late Boomer I'm 23 just started school at the beginning of this year working on becoming a Social Worker!
But yes. I do fell behind. But I'll move on.
Hol' up. I am also doing this and just turned 22. Are you me but 1 year older or something?
@@niels1t1if damn, how time flys by. I'm two years in and only have about 1 and a half before I finished with school. Currently just turned 25. Lol
@@Origami_River how did everything turn out? I also will be starting uni at 23.
@@ws7009 I have one year left until I finish man. I’ve been struggling to get into a good program. But after volunteering and taking more classes. I start the program this summer. I refuse to give up after all this time. 27 now. All my other aspects of life have moved forward. I think it’s more about finishing school then anything else at this point. Never give up!
@@Origami_River Hope all is well :)
I've needed this- thank you. Thank you for all of your videos, they help a lot
Fnafiplier same here 🤗
We are glad to hear this :) Thank you!
I am an extremely late bloomer in terms of relationships. I didn't have a relationship or sex until I was 29. It was a good relationship that lasted for a year, but it ended when we were about to move in together when I suddenly realized I wasn't ready for that and backed out. I had doubts about the future of the relationship and was afraid to sign a lease. She decided there was no reason to be together in light of this, so she broke up with me.
It's been four months since the breakup. It still hurts. I have often felt like she didn't understand me or my feelings, and didn't want to work through this struggle to make the relationship work again. As time passes I'm starting to realize that the way it ended had more to do with her own problems than mine (she put pressure on me to move in with her to get her away from a toxic relationship with her mother, with whom she was living). I am slowly learning to appreciate my instincts and that I made the right decision by not moving in with her. I have talked to many people and have gotten a new therapist since the breakup and they all say I didn't do anything wrong and was just being honest with myself.
I am slowly learning to love myself more about where I am in life and not compare myself to other people. It's a challenge, but I'm making progress. My recovery from the breakup has hardly been linear. As this video reflects, few satisfying things in life rarely are.
Another thing she did that was very weird and invalidating was she called my actions "disrespectful," as though expressing these doubts at the last minute was disrespectful of her time and feelings and as though I didn't know how to communicate. I did communicate, my timing just wasn't the best because my feelings didn't make themselves apparent until we were applying for a house.
Thanks for this video. I'm a late bloomer too. At 28 trying to start a new career, having many worries and doubts about it in my head.
Reading comments I realize that feeling "late" may come at any age. Here are people from 18 to 30+. This proves how much common social standards press and push us making feel horrible.
I'm not a bloomer. I'd describe myself more as a *DOOMER*
never had the first job and never went on a date.. 😭 i feel like trash.
I’m 22 and basically a grown manchild. Didn’t start my college career until winter of 2022, and I’m still a sophomore. Spent my early adult life at a community college. I have never had a job. Barely went out to party with friends and became a total recluse. I had a girlfriend during that time but I was so immature, cowardly, and stupid. I didn’t fully understand how much work a relationship was. We broke up last September. I’m in college right now but I really just want the full college experience but I’m too old for it now. Everyone my age is already about to graduate and move on with there lives. I still think like a child and I’m not sure how to think like an adult. My social skills also suck but they’re getting slightly better. It’s just taking so damn long for me to get my life where I want it.
I'm a late bloomer in puberty, and I'm a seventeen year old male. Due to not having a deep voice and not having huge, tall masculine features, there's a rumor going on in my highschool where people are saying that I'm transgender. This generation is actually screwed up beyond belief. Nobody can tell what a boy or girl is anymore. I know that's not the type of late bloomer this video is talking about, I just needed to vent real quickly.
Dude... I am so sorry... that has to suck so much and tbh with you I am a late bloomer as well.
As a fellow late bloomer, I can attest to how much this rings true. While I did waste a lot of time, I also took time to discover myself and my own path, and am the happier for it.
I don't know whether this sounds wrong or not, but seeing all the stuff in the comment section makes me sort of relieved that I'm not the only one who feels the same way.
I'm currently 19, having moved out of my parents house a few months ago to start studying at uni, but I've pretty much realized at this point in time that the course I'm currently studying isn't the one I thought it would be, but the staff there are really nice and are helping me to get reorientated towards a course that's much better suited for me, and while I still enjoyed my time there, I really felt like that I had screwed up big time because I hadn't made sure the course was for me, and that'd I'm pretty much half a semester behind everyone else whom I've met here.
I'm a really shy and introverted person IRL, and I have a lot of trouble connecting with people or trying to find stuff to talk about; I very much just hang around on the edge, wanting to be able to communicate and open up more. I'm single and have yet to be in a relationship, but I can't help but feel envious to want to be whenever I see all my friends, both IRL and online, in healthy and loving relationships with their SO. I want to be wanted, if that makes sense.
I also like to make digital art and play video games in competitions and tournaments, and while i enjoy it, I have this constant overarcing fear of 'not being good enough' or 'not being the best' or 'not being good as this person' and so on. The reason for this is because while I do these things because I enjoy them and want to go somewhere with them, I also feel like that I need to be noticed and approved of, so I can know for myself that what I'm doing is good and I should keep it up... I feel like I need to be noticed in a good way, if that makes sense, but seeing everyone around me do that first makes me feel rotten because I feel like I'm going too slow or I'm not up to the required standards or something. I know it's not a race, but I just feel that way, and I can't seem to put my finger on what's causing me to feel like this.
Anyways, that concludes my little rant. This sounds wierd, but seeing everyone in the kind of same position that I am gives me some peace of mind that I'm not the only one, and that there are others just like me.
You're all wonderful in your own ways. You all keep being you.
Dude dont worry you have a long life ahead of you. You are barely 19 with many great experiences ahead of you. Most college students change their carrier courses after discovering that it wasnt meant for them. I have many graduates who are working in totally different fields, trade jobs and such even though they possess a bachelors. I am one of them, i got my bachelors and after trying jobs related to that field i changed my mind. Now , I am leaning towards the medical field. I am 26, huge debt and still living with parents but let me tell you, as long as you preserve and work on yourself all things will fall into place . After graduating i had no idea on what to do with my degree but like i said, focus on yourself and then all the things you want will come into place. Explore the world and just dont give a fuck. Girls and guys love that confidence. Try things out , you don't lose anything at tying things out. If you fail, then learn from it. Trust me you are in a good place my friend:). Sorry for the long paragraph lol
You are not alone. Sometimes life is full of ups and downs, full of surprises. But that's okay. We learn from it :) Keep it up
Omg I'm about to turn 19 this month of December and you've just described everything i felt since I turned 18, it felt so awful because you think that time is so short and our youth is running out and you feel like everyone is up on their own game and already building their own legacy even at their early age while we're still here trying to figure out what we're really good at and being stuck and thinking we're not as good as them, we're not that special or talented like them, honestly it seems childish to anyone to look it that way but I really can't just help it and it also frustrates me so much.
Friend: when are going to find a girlfriend?
Me: uhh... 25?
I seriously can’t watch this…people in their 20’s calling themselves late bloomers…it’s depressing for anyone over 35 who is told by society/media that they are old
I am waiting for more video on MBTI personality types
same
Me tooo.. I am an ISFJ
@@tishamae6546 Ayy! I either get ISTJ or ISFJ since my T and F are around 50%. I hate my MBTI :)
@@WLOfails why thou? Didn't you get the result that really match to you? Well try it again.
@@tishamae6546 That's what's been consistent with myself for the last 5 years. I don't appreciate my own nature, so i've been striving to be more outgoing, a better conversationalist, and more open-minded.
Honestly I'm in my 2nd year of highschool (well 3rd year for me because where I live you go to highschool straight after primary school) and unlike everyone around me I'm not at all certain of what I wanna do in the future, I've always thought that this was a bad thing but this video has really lifted my spirits and made me stop worrying about it and take things at the pace that I want to take them!
Enjoy your years in highschool, im in my 2nd year of college now and i wished i had just lived in the moment instead of being desperate to get old. Live in the moment, learn about yourself and everything will fall in place in due time.
@@princedior9154 don't worry I'm making sure to do that! I don't really wanna grow up anyway XD
I though you where talking about puberty
NOTIFICATION SQUAD WHERE YA AT 👏👏
This is such a touching topic that needs to be discussed thank you 🙏
FiGhT Me here!!
Dear Late Bloomers,
Sometimes you feel left out,
Sometimes you feel different,
But don't worry, your time will come.
Very often I'm considering myself as "black sheep" among my friends, because they have long, healthy relationships (perhaps lost their virginity, but are too shy to speak it), and are living in their apartments, having jobs. While I as 26yrs old never had a chance to have a date with anybody, still virgin, still living with parents and without job, still dreaming to have my own breathing space. I often also have a thought that my friends (earned them some years after school) consider me as trash human being because of being way too inexperienced in relationships and having only Nice Guys(tm) in my experience.
And so I needed this video. I suddenly don't feel alone in this comment section. Thank you.
I’m a 21 year old social late bloomer. It has been affecting me for a while now. I never drink,smoke, party or been in a relationship and I’m starting college again. Throughout high school I isolated myself, due to my own personal issues. I really want to go back in time and be that rebellious teenager i never got to be. And as time moves forward, the less time I have to experience those things.
All my best friends going to school while i take a gap year... I can just feel the social norms/pressure of: you gotta have a degree too
Even tho my friends dont really mind, society has a funny way of letting you know
As someone who will be turning 25 in November and has never had a job or finished college, this video makes me feel a little better about myself. I still feel like I'm stuck, though, mostly for the fact that I feel zero motivation to do much for myself in the way of finding work or going to college. The thought of either of those things makes me feel both miserable and stressed, but I also know if I want to move to Scotland to be with my boyfriend, it'd be unfair of me to expect he'll do everything to bring us together and not do anything myself to help make it happen. That, unfortunately, doesn't change the fact that I still don't know exactly what I want to do. I have some ideas of where my strengths and passions are, but my motivation to actually go after them has been shot for several years now.
@Prophetic Prose Hey! Is all ok now?
@@raveeshtewary2505 it’s so sweet of you to check on them 🫶🏻
Update?
Lmfao I’m 13 and I’ve never even held hands with a boy, yet children half my age are dressing like they’re 21 and they’re dating like tf 💀
hey as long as your not an introvert your good your barely 13 your so young, I'v still single and been single all my life and I'm a 24 year old, I've been depressed after my father's death for years and that did not help me in any bit, now I'm barely recovering from depression and finally realizing that I don't want to be alone in the world
Y’know, I thought I had my whole high school career laid out with all of my classes and everything. Suddenly, after 4 years of thinking that I would be a music major, I realized that it wasn’t meant to be and my plans just went down the drain. I thought I was way behind of everyone else, who I thought had their career choices in mind and are writing out college applications. But maybe I’ll find my career path in due time and try to embrace what I have for now in order to figure out my future. So far, I have no idea what my passion is, but if I embrace the present and keep looking I’ll find it.
...As long as my stupid depression gets out of the way. 😐
Sorry for the essay, but your comment resonated deeply with me. I know you posted this two years ago, and I hope that you are in a better place.
I had a similar experience. At one point, music was becoming the source of anxiety and grief (kind of like a bad relationship), and I felt like my whole world was crumbling. It hurt so much, especially considering how I used to credit music for pretty much saving my life and was my only motivation. After studying for 5 years, then dropping out and feeling like a failure, I wandered for 4 years, wallowing in depression and not really sure what to do with my life. I thought music was the only thing I was good at and I was useless at anything else. I'd hit rock bottom, and I just got tired of doing nothing about it. It didn't do anything for me other than just constantly loop how sad I was. I started doing other things that interested me, did some soul searching and re-evaluated what mattered most to me. Being alive, loving the arts, being fascinated by nature and history, standing up for social justice and people. I'm 27 starting from scratch and am working towards getting a degree in Sociology and Chicano Studies, and while I'm still not sure what exactly I'm going to do, I'm loving the journey.
I hope that you find what you're looking for, but most importantly, that you work towards your happiness that you deserve.
33 years here. Going to university next year to study creative writing. My career choice is to be a professor/lecturer in the same subject. Also, I wish to become a published author. I have always wanted to become the latter since childhood. I decided on the former this year. Thanks a bunch for this video!
I really appreciate this video. I’m 26, and I still live with my parents. I have my associates degree and they want me to get my bachelors so I’m working on that for them so I can just be out of their hair. Although I want the freedom and I want the significant other who would appreciate me for me, I do comprehend that as a man I’d have to have my own place and car in order to be seen as a suitable dating prospect
@Sadia Sharmeen yea I’m working on that
I know I’m a teen but my peers are all dating and I feel like I need a boyfriend to kind of fill the empty void, but i know I’m not getting one any time soon, because well....I’m also a late bloomer in puberty😕 and thanks to society I feel like I need to look the same as all the other girls to be able to do things easier.
I've been coping with being "behind" by trying to work my ass off. It's something to dedicate my time to, but sometimes I don't even know what I'm working towards. My social life is limited to like 2 close friends and I haven't dated in 6 months. This video made me realize maybe I don't have to race to get to the life dream I have. Maybe I don't have to get into my dream school and get a degree. Maybe I'll set up in a park and paint people for a living. Maybe I'll start a clothing line. IDFK. So thanks for the video.
I am 25.I know I am a late bloomer.i can't succeed my life for this reason.even I still virgin. in 25 years of my whole life I never kiss any Girl. Now a days I feel very upset. My father was dead when I was 19.Sometimes I feel very sad.But when I think it's reality then I accept this.
Saw the thumbnail yeah hi, and I'm a late bloomer with hight, development, but actually want to be single
How old are you?
@@whatglassessees3368 14 😥
Can you do a video on how to forgive yourself? I hurt someone I care about and now I'm feeling depression like things. I'm crying so often, listening to sad music to depress myself even more, not eating, and I only slept for 2 hours. It's been a week and I'm still feeling guilty for what I did. Really hope you see this psych 2 go. Because honestly, I've never felt worse in my life
Had a communications career for over a decade but got out of it due to over competition, cut throat and too much unnecessary stress. Was presented an opportunity to work with adults with developmental disabilities. Just got promoted to House Manager after working here for year. New environment, change and better opportunity!
So,
Haruki Murakami
Married, finished collage started a Jazz Bar, all of that before 29 and then he started writing?
What is Late blooming about that?
I was born 2 weeks late. I've also been the slowest in my class no matter what grade I was in. I felt stupid because I'm not as fast as others. It may seem lame, but I'm 25 and I'm still living with my mom and going back to college. I've been going for about 4 years now. I'm stuck between moving on my own or having her still live with me. I'm just glad I'm not the only one whose a late bloomer and that there are many others out there
Save up to move out and you will be glad you did independence is great and if you start saving now you could probably live near by enough to visit her a few times a week. Just make sure its a completely separate building and it teaches you how to live on a low budget while saving up for your goals
Ivana Floyde I am saving up actually. I'll be moving to another city and I will have a studio apartment
GD Sparky_01 I think you will be just fine. Its better to take things slow and do it the right way the first time than doing the same thing too fast and have to redo it
So as long I keep and open heart and mind, it´a okay if I had my first kiss at 27, my first relationship at 28, and after breakup. Still living with my parents on my thirties.
I am a pretty flower 🌼
So what if you find your career at 40 years old, and you are still living with your parents in law because you can't land a job 'cause everyone has more experience points than you and are higher on the list?
:-(
as a 15 year old ftm transgender, this helped me a lot. i'm constantly terrified of "what's next" and what I'm doing and how my future looks as bright as a secret room in an attic, but maybe one day the light will flicker on..
i just hope that one day is soon
Hey, I wish you the best, take care pal.
I'm sorry you are going through this. It must be hard. I wish you all the best. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. Have faith :)
I just recently turned 34. I still live with my dad. I haven’t gotten a no matter how hard i tried cuz my mental disabilities are unpredictably unsuited for a job. I don’t drive cuz I don’t trust myself behind the wheel and get anxiety attacks. As far as love life goes... im asexual and aromantic, so im plenty happy with just friends.
Thank you so much. I really needed this. I'm turning 20 in 2 months (which isn't that old tbh) but I'm already freaking out because I feel like all my friends and people my age are thriving and living their lives meanwhile I have to go through my second gap year before college because of many reasons. (I know that college isn't for everyone but it's something I really want but can't do at the moment) I feel like I'm behind in life, but really, I just need to stop comparing myself to other people.
Thank you
I'm 20, still live with my mother. I'm single, I only had a relationship that didn't go well and we barely kissed. There's been months and I still can get over that person.
I'm going to college, but my heart isn't on it. My dream is to be a writer, but my mother doesn't agree and expects me to choose a more stable career. Plus, I'm trying to write my first book (with the though that, if I can do that before finishing college, I won't feel the duty of finding another kjog that I don't want and that will take away my time to write). Plus, I don't feel confident in my writing skills, but I believe that getting to finish my first book will help on that too.
I recently started "dating". No one has ever truly wanted me until now. Now that there is a prospect, I have a hard time believing him. No one has ever really wanted me so why would someone want me now? Ya know?
Being a late bloomer is more mentally damaging than folks could imagine.
Facts smh I'm 21 n only had 1 girlfriend in my entire life n I'm joining the marine corps (currently a poolee waiting to ship out to bootcamp) to change my life around n compete in boxing and become champion n do mma training but if I tell most ppl I barely got experience with women they probably wont believe me because I look better physically than what I did 2 yrs ago
@@demetriusarmstrong5154 honestly I think what you’re doing is a great idea. You’re bettering yourself in the meantime so that when the times does come again, you’ll be a better you and probably meet a better girl for you.
Watching this video didn't help me at all. I mean, the intentions are good, but being a late bloomer is horrible and I don't think there's nothing to be proud of. I'm 23, I'm starting to find my passions (wich is nice), I had my firs job at 21 and my "real first" job at 22, started making money at 23, still don't have a drivers license, wen't through bullying my hole teenage years (4 years), still live with my parents (wich is normal in my country) but going to move out soon, still a virgin (I started to have "real" interest in women recently). All those things suck, but I guess I'm starting to fully live life now, at the age of 23, wich is not the best but is better than NOTHING, like before. I hope that by opening up with this I can help others who are going through this shit called late blooming.
Yeah, I kind of agree. It doesn’t really help much at all. I want it to but it just doesn’t. Despite everyone stating that there’s nothing wrong with being a late bloomer, I can’t help but think there is. I don’t think it’s anything to proud of, I think it’s something that should be addressed. My issue right now is that I’m trying to figure out how to get myself out of this rut. It sucks and it really shouldn’t be gassed up. It’s emotionally taxing if you ask me.
Thank you for this. I don't know if I'm a late bloomer as I'm still 17 but I felt as if my life crumbled a bit when O-level results came and I didn't get enough grades to immediately get enrolled into a school while my friends did. I got so sad and was lost. I was scared that I was wasting my life away. Yet, this whole year of break gave me the opportunity to grow as a human being. I did what I've dreamt on doing, learnt a new langauge, challenged myself, got new friends and even went on stage to perform my very own work. All in all, even though this year was rocky, I'm thankful and glad. So to those who are feeling bad about not being able to start something immediately like others are, don't worry. Live in the present and just do your best now. It's not the end of the world. We fall and fall, and the only option is to stand up again and go on. So cheer up. I am rooting for you. It'll all make sense in the end. Once again, thank you for this video! All the best to us late bloomers!💕
thank you for this. I wish you all the best✨
@@princedior9154 no need to thank me, just wanted to give a strand of hope. Thank you☺☺☺
@UCT1IZlW7UU0noT_6RRW67tg I wish that was so, but I may start University when I'm 20 or 23 :") thats why I get a bit worried at times because I'm using way too much time. yet, I can't dwell on it too much. At least I'm doing something, right? :)
I feel like i am a late bloomer . most of my friends have married and some other have SO , while i never even date before .. i know life have its own way to surprise us .. maybe i'm just not ready yet , or maybe its the way life telling me to graduate from college first and get a better paying job .
Tbh i dont mind being alone in my room as long as i'm happy .
I’m 27 I’ve been on dates but never had a girlfriend but one day I will
I consider myself a late-bloomer, because I'm a single man and a virgin who's been single since 2009. Being single for 12 years, the last I had a girlfriend was when I was 16 in high school. I'm always working all the time at my job or doing side jobs, never had any time to go to bar, clubs, or on a date to be honest. I'm mainly doing my side job sometimes based on my hobby to keep me busy in many ways.
I quit following my dreams at 23. I'm now 29 and I realize... wow I have a lot of life left (possibly, of course). Do I want to accept defeat and just live out my days working for minimum wage in a Bakery? or do i want to DO what i love? It's truly not about "making it big" at this point. It's about spending my time on what i love as much as i can. I had this epiphany that living your dream does not require you to "make it", living your dream is literally something you can do NOW, TODAY. Embrace the grind. Embrace the work before you make it, and embrace the fact you might never make it. I know what it's like to quit.... you still have to wake up the next day. Another way to put it is this: It is scary to truly go for it and put yourself out there. But accepting that you aren't even going to try and therefore definitely won't make it SHOULD be 1000x scarier. Anyways, I'm just sharing this because im inspired. Choose to live your dream NOW. LETS GOOOOOO!!!!
Remember the kids who made fun of you for being a late bloomer.
You have more time to change yourself than these meanies.
Thank you for post this video. It does put things in better prospect. Even though I am 45 yr old person, have not gotten married, but enjoyed being a flight attendant....my life is ok.☺
Sometimes I couldn´t sleep because I kept thinking about how I should´ve done certain things by now, which I simply couldn´t do because I´m behind in terms of emotional development.
I didn´t have many emotions until I was 10-12 years old, so I never learned to properly express these emotions. I got confused, people expected me to know the answer to my problem, and I got stressed because of this.
I had massive anger issues, as well as anxiety that my anger issues would hurt the people I love. For about 5-7 years, I felt a lot like the Hulk. A brilliant man with a rampaging and uncontrollable beast inside, just waiting to tear down everything I´ve worked on and setting me back to square one. This fear only made my anger issues more difficult to handle, and every time I had a breakdown, people started blaming me for something I had no control over, so the time between these breakdowns got shorter and shorter because people kept expecting me to blow up, and treated me miserable because of it.
About 3 years ago, I started psychologically analyzing the characters in my fantasy novels and my fanfictions, and I finally realized something about myself. This interest in psychology was born from various UA-cam channels, such as this one, and I´m incredibly grateful for everything you do. Mental illnesses are really fascinating, especially for me as an author, but they also got me interested in psychology, and I hope that more people can learn as much from this channel as I have.
I learned about myself that I hate taking the blame for things. This goes so far that I avoid situations where I tell others what to do, because if they mess up, they might blame me for giving poor instructions. And this shows in how my characters are designed, and what roles they play in their respective story. Here are a few:
- Stealth (My Little Pony OC): He grew up in an orphanage, and his name is actually just a nickname. He got it because he was so good at sneaking that he would sometimes even fade out of the field of view of the ones he was talking to. He worked as master thief for a while, spent a voluntary year in prison to plan his revenge after being betrayed by his adopted family, and now works as secret agent for the ruler of the land. Well, until recently. His soul merged with an ageless demonic entity and he went insane for two-ish years, until he and the entity struck a mutually beneficial deal. He then escaped from Limbo, from which there is supposed to be no escaping, and continued his work to serve the magic that keeps the land alive.
- Zak (Pokémon OC): A Zoroark who hates humans ever since he found out they use the life force of Pokémon to power all their devices. He has a secret agenda to launch mankind back into the medieval ages, or at least make them stop using Pokémon life force for their own gain, and he uses his powerful illusions to pull it off. Well, his illusions, his stealth skills, his connections and groups of wild Pokémon, whom he can easily sway because he knows how they think. He even pitches mankind against itself at some point.
- Sirena Blue (RWBY OC): The queen of an entire under water kingdom called Soraklia. This may seem to not fit the established pattern of spies, secret agents and other covertly operating people, until you realize that she´s the sole ruler and highest possible authority in her society. If she gives an order, it´s a good idea. She also is a masterful strategist, and was even able to predict and control global events with only a month´s worth of planning. Sure, she made one small mistake, but that only proves how good she is. In three years, everything, on a global scale, went according to a plan she came up with in little under a month. Sure, she gets blamed for what´s happening even when it´s not her fault, but that´s just because the one person who does blame her for stuff is one of only 6 people who knows that these things could potentially be her fault. You can´t trace anything back to her. If she wants to ruin a company so she could buy it, she would have the company do something so terrible that they have to sell to someone, then the new owner falls ill, his son takes over, he goes through a rushed marriage and divorce, signs the wrong papers, the woman gets the company, the man sues her for making him sign the wrong papers, the man´s lawyer gets the company because the man keeps signing the wrong papers, and the lawyer sells it to Sirena for a huge profit. Each step would take at least 2 years to complete, and by the end of it all, you can´t even prove that Sirena was the reason the new owner fell ill, because his surveillance cameras have already deleted every trace of the footage of that day. Yeah, if Sirena left any indicator that his accident wasn´t an accident, one could have figured it out, but he was in a coma, and all signs pointed at a fall down the stairs with no outside influence, so why bother?
But yeah, it was a bit until I realized why I made my OCs in a way that they can rarely be blamed for their actions. But once I figured that out, I got a lot better, and I guess I have you to thank for that. Well, you know around how many corners I think of a lazy day (just look at Sirena´s planning again), so you´re definitely partially responsible for my success. Thanks. :)
I'm 20. I never kissed anyone. I've only been in Internet relationships if that counts, never dated in real life. I never had sex though I don't care for that due to being Asexual. I still don't have a job. I also still don't drive either. I also still live with my parents. I have been to college though. So thank you for this. :)
I almost cried... this is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!
Thank you for this video, I will start Medicine at 30 years old now. I can do this by the time Im 40 I’ll be a surgeon and my steady hands will save lives. lol just joking im doing Psychiatry. Wish me luck.
I don't feel like I will ever bloom because there's just no bud to grow from. I'm nobody and nothing. I don't know what else to say, I guess I just needed to vent, even though it's futile
Thank you so much for this video❤️ It's what makes my heart feel much better after a long time. I am 28 now and I do not have a boy friend and the one I dedicate myself to isn't really reachable on a normal way. A year ago I made my degree as a Master of Science in biologie, but didn't got a Job until now and work in a Supermarket in full time to finance my life. I always wanted to be a musician but feel like it would be too late and this is demotivating as hell. And everyone Puts me under pressure because they want to see me as a career woman. It feels really good to be remembered that it's okay to be late with everything and go my own way.
Maybe that's why.... I love Haruki Murakamis works, too♥️
Thank you for this. If I'm being honest, this whole "Late bloomer" thing is something that has really made me realize that my biggest insecurities where the ones that if I just acknowledged earlier in life I would have been able to improve better back then. Either way, thank you for this and I hope you have a great day.
25 years old, never dated or been in a relationship, and also have trouble making friends.Thank you for making this video 💙
I am 23. Still a virgin and never had friends or had parties. I went into gym and do what I like now. I'm going to make up for the lost years. I'm not going to date or settle down for this for at least 30 years. I will just go to hookers or have one night stands. Invest in myself cuz I am getting a bachelor degree and a good job soon and go to raves and party to make up for it. That is what I want.
Also thanks for this video this motivated me a lot.
This video is very comforting. I am a late bloomer myself, and I feel like a failure because up until the end of highschool I didn't have any problems navigating the system. But once I left and turned 18, everything crumbled. I am not ready to be an adult or get a job, and it's a source of a lot of stress for me. I dropped university and took a gap year inhope to find what I trully wanted to do, but it's been almost a year now and I still have no ideas. I am so isolated that I feel like I'll never move on.
be prepared for something that cant be prepared for
Pretty much you cant do that
just follow the way you want, and be ready for a god damn adventure!
We love you phych2Go keep up the good work!❤👏👍you help us understand how hard times can turn into good times!#LATEBLOOMERSQUAD
ALSO EVERYONE DONT FEEL BAD THAT YOU ARE A LATE BLOMMER. MEAN PEOPLE ;-; sucks it happens.. alot
THANK YOU FOR THIS.
I got my first kiss at 19, and ever since I hadn't date anyone. I'm 22 now, and I hate to feel the pressure on finding a boyfriend, and sometimes I even pressure myself to do so out of nowhere... or by comparing my non existent love life to others'. But that only hurts me and as this great video says, life surprises you and we will bloom, no matter if it's now or when we are thirty... It's very hard but I'm trying to embrace the fact that I'm a 22 year old virgin who lives with her parents and is seeking for an oportunity to become a profesional writer someday and who doesn't have a driver license yet.
And that's fine.
Fellow late bloomers, love yourselves, we are not broken, we are not late.
This video came in the correct moment... I'm like a late bloomer. I'm the only girl virgin of all my little group of friends and I'm 18... But now we've finished highschool and for now I won't see them more.
Also I have two sisters, one of them is 27 years old and the other is 29 years old. I'm the little sister.
They have sons and actually they have boyfriend. I'm the only of them that never have had a boyfriend.
At my age they were extrovert and they had more social life.
Well, the point is that compared to the rest and with my sisters I'm a late bloomer and many times I feel sad for that...
I think that I have to be more patient and I have to know that the life is different in all of us. 😅😅😅
Lucya D I feel you
21 almost 22 years old and still a virgin and (obviously) no girlfriend. Almost everyone around me had lost their virginity at the age of 17/18 and I feel like shit for this reason and it's hard for me to have a girlfriend or meet people because i have social anxiety and honestly i don't like being around people so much. It's like I want to loose my virginity because society says around 18 is the age for that and not because I really want to. I responded you to let you know that there are people in a worse situation than you, that maybe makes you feel a little bit better.
Too long xd
Well they are 27 and your 18 so that's 9 yrs diffent although I know what you mena
I'm 18 as well and gonna be 19 really soon. I also have a sister (she is 5 years older than me, which makes her 23 years old) that has a boyfriend and she had her first kiss while she was 16. And here I'm that never had a kiss and a boyfriend. I just want to say that I hope we all find the one for us. Good luck to all of us. 😊😊
"Forget about the pictures of the boy (girl) you've always had a crush on making silly faces with his (her) new girlfriend (boyfriend)."
That one hit really close.
I’m a late bloomer in puberty
common color me too-
Samezies
Same!
Same lmaooo
Iam 50 and a virgin,staying with my parents and living off their pension