Terry Crews Breaks Down About His Sexual Abuse & Beating Up His Dad!
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- Опубліковано 1 тра 2024
- This episode is part of our USA series, over the coming weeks you will get to see some incredible conversations with guests the likes of which we’ve never seen before. Bringing more value, more incredible stories, and more world-beating expertise.
Terry Crews is a NFL player turned film and TV star, featuring in a wide range of hugely successful shows like Brooklyn Nine-Nine, White Chicks, Everybody Hates Chris and Idiocracy. Escaping his abusive father, and spending decades cultivating his bodybuilder physique and mentality, Terry then broke into the Hollywood scene.
00:00 Intro
01:24 What made you the person you are today?
07:43 Domestic violence in your family
12:36 Where did your dad's pain come from?
16:48 My pornography addiction
22:43 How did porn impact your marriage?
26:14 Cheating on my wife
30:39 Opening up to my wife and its consequences
34:52 Why do men avoid intimacy and vulnerability?
45:30 What was your lowest moment?
47:32 Your dad being aggressive in front of your children
55:33 How and why did you change?
01:03:23 How would your life be if you wouldn't have changed?
01:05:22 I was sexually assaulted by a Hollywood executive
01:14:17 How my dark and bright side came from the same place
01:23:28 Our last guest's question
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Before this conversation started I was expecting to meet Terry Crews, the hilarious comedian and actor who I've admired for so long. But what I got was so much more, thank you Terry 🙏🏻
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Half an hour in and this is shaping up to be one of my all time favourites 🙌🏽
I agree, without a doubt the most vulnerable person that's been on this podcast, which ultimately makes it the most inspiring and incredible one so far, what an amazing man 💙
yeah bro i already knew his openess and honesty would blow u away. his hotboxin podcast was really emotional.
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I was saved by my high school 5:35 It was a special school which allowed u to be there if u had skills.
From 7th grade to senior year, I had art ability.
In my household, we cannot do a lot, as mum was too religious.
My schoolmates told me the films they saw. I could not see any.
So I would draw these films!
I wanted to watch, to be there so bad! My mum allowed comic books.
I found out in therapy 6:24 my desire to be strong is that one day I may have to kill my father.
He was that type of person.
It was a very intense upbringing.
I just wanted to be a person to keep the peace- I became a pleaser.
My mum 11:18 loved entertainment.
We’d watch the Carol Burnett show. Every Sat Night.
I look for ways to make her laugh.
In all this pain, I saw this ability to make her laugh.
This is a power. This will cool things out.
This was most of my existence when I was a little boy.
My wife looked at me 59:00 Rebecca: ‘Terry u are different! [Terry is in tears.]
After all we have been through, Terry I am with you. Thank goodness I stuck with you.’
Thank you for this lecture!
I love that Steven allows his guest to just talk, doesn’t interrupt them and lets them speak their truth with plenty of time to get their full explanation across to the audience.
This ❤️
Yes!
I was completely lost in Terry’s story telling
This is central principle to The Diary Of A CEO and something our team always talk about behind the scenes…. Let the guest talk! Especially when they’re flowing and opening up like Terry was.
ABSOLUTE TRUTH❤️❤️❤️🏆🙌
It’s so true! I noticed that too, he really allows the time for his guests’ genuine emotions. How can a 29 year old show so much emotional maturity is beyond!
Terry just gave us a master class on how to be a real man. Wow. I was blown away. God bless him.
And everyone is giving him the run around - imagine how much more difficult to those w/o the financial power and the level of success, even the level of influence. Such a shame.
1:12:41 he is so real that he lies about the will smith slap inspiring him to sue. He sued in 2017. The slap was 2022. What a fucking blatant and ridiculous lie. He’s a manipulative narcissist.
totally!
This feedback you gave is phenomenal. !!!
I feel the same. As a female, hearing a man be so vulnerable and completely transparent is such a gift~ a blessing, as I'm sure it is for men!
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I totally agree !!!
It would be wonderful to see this kind of transparency brought to "our" high school kids !!!
And I'm sure there are many avenues that our cities/states could get speakers, etc to men in therapy with a very low cost. I have like a million idea's in my head & heart right now that would be easily accessible to help people with little to no cost.
You brought up some excellent ideas and your absolutely right!!
I actually did not expect such vulnerability . This has shifted my view of him. Thank you for giving him the space to be so open. Great interview as always.
i mean it feels like he was him self in broylin 99
Terry feels so authentic. So expressive with his whole self, I love it!
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What a giant person. By him sharing his story, I was able to share my story with my husband of 50 yrs. Thank you Terry for loving your wife and your children. You have triumphed.
What was that thing that your husband of 50 y didn't know about you ? Thank you and take care 🤗
Wow that’s huge, I bet you feel like a huge weight is lifted off your shoulders not carrying your story alone anymore ❤
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@@Lolipop59 Most likely sexual abuse, read between the lines
Also congratulations and it's never too late to start your healing journey as a victim and survivor. I know how it feels. Terry is such an inspiration.
Terry’s willingness to openly share his flaws and his struggles along his journey made this a wonderful interview!
So true. He actually owned up to his past...clearly he's a healed and changed man!
I'm a 27 year old man with a history of anger, porn addition etc. This is the most relatable interviews on this pod so far for me. I literally teared up when he did. Its crazy. Hats off to Terry Crews for showing us its ok to be open about your life.
I believe in you sir. Keep striving to be the best you. Slow progress is still progress
@@pol7708 Thank you 🙏
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You're not alone! You'll definitely get better by being aware of the problems. That's the first step
You don’t get interviews like this unless your guest feels incredibly comfortable and at ease. Terry is able to be this authentic because that’s what Stephen calls forth in people. What an incredible gift Stephen is to the world, very few people can hold a safe space allowing people to be this vulnerable. It’s a testament to something Stephen brings of himself to these interviews that calls forth truth, quite possibly because Stephen has done his own work, resulting in the most heartfelt interviews I’ve ever heard. These interviews will save lives. Thank you so much. Just incredible and yes I’m in tears. 😊 X
Apologies. Steven not Stephen.
I think it’s more that Terry’s been through a lot of therapy. You learn to accept yourself there. Not to take anything away from Stephen.
It's so beautiful to see a handsome, talented black man that knows himself so so well. Much peace and prosperity to he and his family.
As a Mental Health Practitioner of 23 years, the Terry Crews interview was 'the best' introspection of the Male psyche I have 'ever' witnessed. Well done to you Steven and Kudos to Mr Terry Crews. 'Outstanding'!👌🏾
Couldn't agree more
Exactly. This is gold.
Not the best. He just did it in a way that only Terry Crews can;)
Never thought I'd be sitting here on a Wednesday morning crying along with Terry Crews but here I am 🤷♀️
I’m so impressed with terry. He worked so hard on himself and it shows.
Wow, thank you for having Terry on. His courage to be vulnerable will help so many men.
This is one of the great interviews of all time. I am not even exaggerating. It was a throwback to interviews where the interviewee would answer & the interviewer allowed them to breathe. Such immense emotion, honesty, vulnerability & contrition. Terry Crews GETS IT. We were with him EVERY STEP of the way. Bravo Steven for getting him on! ☀️💕
Thanks Raj! Glad you enjoyed this 🙏🏽
@@TheDiaryOfACEO This is your true calling my friend 💕
This level of vulnerability is unparalleled. So much respect for Terry Crews and he is honestly a role model for young men about how you can be masculine and in touch with your emotions.
I absolutely loved this. I’m a therapist and I could see the real him and it was beautiful to watch. He was not hiding behind his success, not putting on a facade. The real us are much more compelling. I love his evolution and seeing the raw him.
Man, he’s a real one. This honesty was extremely mind blowing and respectful.
What an incredibly inspiring man - so open and honest. The world needs more of this.
yes well thats up to all of us to be more open and honest..isn't it.It starts with each and everyone one of us and then the world"might change
Completely agree
So inspiring, all men need to see this . What a gift ❤
Man my respect for Terry Crews increased tenfold
The things he has overcome and his brutal honesty about his "demons" just made me question myself as a man and I wish more men were vulnerable like him and are in tune with their emotions like this
If anyone, be it a man or a woman or any gender for that matter, is going through things, please be vulnerable and talk to someone and know that you aren't alone and you too can overcome your demons ❤
Every married man should hear this ! I have greater respect for him now ❤
It’s inspiring to hear someone talk vulnerably enough explaining how they worked through generations of abuse.
I don't think I have ever watched an interview and just feel healed. Thank you so much for this, both to Terry and the interviewer 🙌
Captivated doesn’t even cut it. This interview is the definition of never knowing what someone has or is going through. Always loved Terry Cruz but how self aware he has become is outstanding, his journey is an inspiration to all men.
Man, I was not ready for this. It got me off guard. It was, at the same time, painful and beautiful to listen to.
I ordered 2 of your books Terry for my 31 yo son (abusive dad and abandoned 😢). Hang onto hope FAMILY. Good is always triumphant over diabolical ppl, places and things. Amen❤❤❤🎉
Terry Crews... A true gentleman & shining example of a great human. One of my favourites.
What incredible honesty.
Crews could have had a normal conversation, cracked a few jokes, and I would have respected him as I always did. But this level of honesty and introspection is remarkable and truly admirable. This is the sort of dialogue that we need.
I cannot stress on how relatable, true, pure, therapeutic and simply inspirational this podcast was! My level of respect and admiration for Terry Crews has skyrocketed while listening to this. It isn't easy to be this blunt and true about yourself when you're a public figure like he is, and I'm so happy he is living his truth and telling his story out to the world like this. The world really needs more people like him
I think this has shot straight to the top of my favourite episodes of this podcast. I could listen to Terry opening up and talking about his life all day. What a humble, honest and inspirational man with a deep, impactful story to tell. Excellent work Steven in bringing out the best of this great man!
He was brilliant 🙌🏽Thanks for listening!
Big respect for Terry for sharing and being vulnerable
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What an incredible, emotional look into life and relationships. Proof that it doesn't matter where you came from but how you changed to become the best human you can be.
1. That was a really good interview.
2. I kinda want to hear Terry’s voice used in audiobooks. It’s really engaging.
This is one of the most stunning conversations - a complete testimony of his heart told with such intelligence, vulnerability, pain, and great love. Great man.
Mr. Terry Crews, this was the most impactful interview have ever heard. The anger, shame, the need to prove myself, infidelity, revenge, wisdom, turning point, healing, life. So much respect for you. Your testimony is absolute gold n 🔥 thank you so much for your vulnerability and love. My life is changed forever from this day forward.
Woooooooooooow. I cried my self out… to see a real man and listen to Every word, gives me hope. As a therapist, mom and human being. Thank yot terry
This was the single most relatable talk I’ve ever seen from any human. I didn’t think it would be from Terry Crews. I am immensely thankful to you both for doing this Terry and Steven 🙌🏽Terry has truly awakened and opened his heart. It is amazing to see
I teared up when Terry did; I told my younger self that everything was going to be alright. I too and still am suffering from porn addiction/anger and trying to overcome it. What a man Terry is, thank you Steven for allowing this discussion to be held on your platform.
Hey man just to let you know if you need someone to open up to still comment back and I'll give u contact details to reach me, this episode proper got me as a person who is mentally unstable and declared unfit to work. So don't suffer man
Men are vulnerable to porn and it is soul destroying- relationship killer. Trust killer. Marriage killer. Love killer. Family killer.
What a legend, a lot of people talk about letting go of trauma, being vulnerable etc because it's the cool thing to say...
But you can tell Terry is someone who is ACTUALLY doing the uncomfortable work to make those things a reality
Another great interview 🙌
Exactly
Wow two years later and I’m just blown away. Thank you for your transparency Terry, we love you brother. Thank you Stephen, amazing as usual, we love you brother 🙏🏾
Terry really drew me in there. The detail, the way he articulates and explains - he took me on a journey and hooked me in.
I’ve a lot of respect for him - he comes across humble and kind. What a lovely guy and another great episode.
Me too. Great comment
You have to be extremely: confident, intelligent & humble to understand how to ask a question and just let people talk for that long.. I really appreciate it!
Another great, honest and open conversation. This podcast has been such an inspiration for me hearing so many different life stories so thank you Steven, keep these coming ❤
Do you think he’s honest when he claimed that the 2022 will smith slap inspired him to sue his agent in 2017…? @1:09:45
This interview has been by far the best I've ever seen, watching a man speaking about his flaws, his childhood wounds its just breathtaking, his emotional intelligence is something to look up for
Terry thank you so much for sharing your process of moving from the adult destructive behaviours of child trauma victim through the phases of awareness and taking responsibility and healing. Authentic compassion shines through you toward yourself and your family. Wonderful healing for us all.
Blown away by his courageous honesty and transparency! So much respect to you both
Really like this guy. such a great honest guy, it’s a shame he’s been attacked by his own community when he speaks out about his community in order to help them out but gets attacked for it.
Wow Terry!!.....I sat with my partner and watched this interview. I laughed, I cried with and for you but most of all I thank you for being your true and only you. I'll glide through the rest of my day feeling blessed for having listened and heard your story. Power, strength and well-being to you and your family. You are a top bloke and men like you not only change yourself but you change the world for all around you. Much respect.
Mary Dreger 🇦🇺
A top interview alround.
What an inspiration. To see him be so open about his struggles and vulnerabilities is admirable. He is a hero to many.
This one hit hard. Credit to you Steven for getting Terry on here. And credit to Terry for being so insightful and real. Such a talented guy Terry is, comedian, actor, sportsperson, magnetic personality. But human like most. Amazing podcast... Honestly my number one. Your style of having individuals speak and be open is truly amazing. Each podcast you do makes the world wiser and more learned
I had to share this podcast with friends. As a woman it is so refreshing to see a man tell the truth. It really helps us see the side, the real side of a man and how he thinks and feels. This was an amazing interview. Thank you.
I now realize Terry is not only a great actor but an incredible person🤍 very nice interview!
What an amazing and transparent guest Terry Crews is! Absolutely loving the variety of guests on the show 🙌🙌
Thank you 🙏🏽
Terry is such a great story teller. I think so many men can relate to all he has been through and I thank you for sharing such an inspiring message.
Had no idea,he had gone through so much..look how well he turned out
Despite coming from such horrible background...we love and adore you young man!!❤❤
I could write a big paragraph on how important this was for me to hear, but all I’ll say is this was one of the most powerful pieces of content I’ve ever seen on UA-cam. Thank you Steven❤️
I watch podcasts most of my life and i can honestly say that this is one of the best podcasts I've ever seen. Crews' honesty and Steven's listening skills are exceptional.
What an extraordinary man he has become. GOD Bless Him!
This was by far my most favourite episode of Diary of a CEO. The wisdom just pours out of Terry because he’s done the inner work and learnt the lessons. Thank you for allowing Terry to share these life changing lessons with the world ❤️❤️❤️
This book should be mandatory reading in schools… such wisdom. Fabulous interviewer.
Very powerful. Lots of respect to Terry for opening up like that, I can imagine that’s helped him develop as a person SO much
This podcast will do so much for tough men with egos to finally loosen up, be vulnerable and release their pain.
Don't judge someone by their cover. Before this interview I would run away if I saw Terry in an alley way. Now I would give home a massive hugf.
Why would you have previously run away if you saw Terry Crews in an alley way?
@@rudebwoy8 Human nature, fight or flight... I'm 5ft 6in, no muscles.
He's the hulk, what's the worst outcome if you didn't know him. Want to take the risk?
@@navmohindra579 simply seeing a person with muscles evokes fight or flight reaction? An average height, slender built person, or indeed anyone, could be a danger. Therefore, I was trying to ascertain why you say that someone that looked like Terry Crews evoked fear in you.
@@rudebwoy8 Evolution my friend, instinctual to survive. John cena, the rock are all threatening body types in nature
@@navmohindra579 not by look alone, a person is only threatening by their actions. I wonder how you’ve survived in this world thus far chap.
I cried watching this. What an amazing interview. Terry is such a beautiful human being, kind caring full of wisdom, that friend sibling that you would love to have in your life.❤
absolutely! men and women have suffered as Terry ~ me included. His courage has meant so much to me. thank you both for your generous authenticity and love. best to you with your book Terry. ❤
I have been watching this podcast when there were less than 20,000 subscribers on UA-cam. This is one of the best interviews you have done. Terry is so vulnerable and strong all at the same time.
Terry Crews ....one of the most likeable, gifted ...down to earth in Hollywood.
So much respect for Terry being this honest and it can’t have been easy to do. This is the best interview I think I’ve ever listened to and it was nice to just sit and hear Terry’s story. Stephen did amazing in this interview!
I didn’t think I could like Terry more than I already did, but I do now!
Wow. The depth in this one has me speechless. Thank you for providing this medium for people to speak freely. These conversations change lives.
This was real, I was captivated the whole time. Favourite one so far.
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His definition of intimacy in a relationship is bang on
I appreciate him offering us his honesty and rawness
Drinking Saltwater is a great analogy
Both me and my lover learned something deep and long lasting from this man x
Wow, I had no idea how much Terry had been through, he was so open and honest which allowed for such a powerful interview. I appreciate how you took a back seat for him to talk about his life so freely. Great episode!
So brave to really open up. Porn addiction is something that isn't talked about enough and effects too many people. Great podcast as usual, really deep and authentic!!
It’s not even considered a thing by the DSM
Man, this guy has gone through it. Thanks to him for being so open and honest
Wow wow wow! This has given me a whole new look into Hollywood, actors and Terry Crews himself. He is the most humble, self aware and inspiring people I have ever listened too. His life story is full of trauma, love and revelations. There is no better platform that this for him to share his story! The way he was allowed to just speak and go with his own thoughts was truly awe inspiring. He is officially in my list of people I would love to just sit down with and talk. The best video I’ve seen in a while. Thank you for sharing everything with us!
Terrys such a real dude. His honesty about his struggles is awesome. A man who’s not afraid to dish his own dirt is to be admired.
It is amazing how open he is, props to Terry and Steven for letting the conversation flow and not interrupting 👏
This is real. This is the content I like to see rather than money making bullshxt. People suffering out there and this content is so important. Nothing but admiration and respect for Terry speaking.
That statement at the end "when i learned to be chris rock" wow - what an absolute legend terry is
I didn't know I needed this, but what an episode. Love hearing about how upbringing has such an effect on our lives, but more so what we can do with it. Awesome conversation.
Amazing interview!! Thank you Terry Crews for sharing your life and for being so open and not being scared to show vulnerability.
Also thank you Steven for treating your guests with such respect and allowing them to speak & not interrupting them; I'm so moved & touched. Bless you both
I'm not even done with the video yet, and I have so much respect for Terry already. It takes so much courage and strength to do all he has - I am so proud! Thank you so much again for another phenomenal video!
What an incredibly brave and honest man. This conversation will have helped so many people that can relate, good on you 😊❤
This was absolutely phenomenal. One of the best interview/podcasts. I just started seeing a therapist at the end of January and I've got a long road ahead of me. It's hard to feel okay when you live with the shame and guilt put on you by your abusive childhood. I am not okay and that's okay. It's wanting to eventually be okay and working towards waking up and *wanting* to still be here. I have a lot of mixed feelings about the Will Smith situation and Terry Crews having to witness so much abuse as a child is terrible and sad and not at all fair to him, as a child. As a victim of abuse from a parent, I cannot confirm it gets better. It made my life a lot harder and relationships even harder. I want to know when seeing a therapist starts to show results but I don't have those answers. I don't think Terry will see this comment but I really hope that if he does, he knows that he's an inspiration to me. I want to stop being so angry inside. So badly, I want to stop being so angry. But it's hard when you never feel like you're the one living in the shoes you're wearing. I loved this podcast. It was so well presented. Much love to Terry and his family as well as the host.
Thank you Terry Crews for part of your life story.
This is outstanding....I don’t usually watch the podcasts throughout as I usually get distracted. But this pulled me in.....and I have not been able to stop....and I have taken so much from it. The honesty, openness, vulnerability is incredible. I have never really been a fan but seriously I respect this man.
Powerful testimony Terry. More power to you and your family man. Really appreciate guests who show that they are human. Inspirational stuff.
This podcast is a life-changing show. I hope Steven is aware of that.
Thank you so much🙏🏽
I love Terry Crews, and I appreciate Steven's ability to interview without interruptions. It's an art to direct the conversation without interference. Terry, you are unique, and your emotional responses are in all your venues. It's what brings me back to see you again and again! Thank you, Terry!
Wow I wasn't expecting such depth and honesty! So many parts are relatable and I really hope this will help men to be more vulnerable.
I've ordered Terry's book and I can't wait to read it and then pay it forward. Thank you
I am really enjoying this series Steven. I am five minutes in and I get a feeling you are going to get the best out of Terry! Keep up the great work.
Thanks Lorin!
The honesty from Terry is heart breaking and beautiful.
I never even paused or took my eyes off of this video. Absolutely incredible and vulnerable and packed with growth and goodness. As he said necessary. Just necessary. I pray for healing of this world. Our roots run deeper than just now. Cycles work, until they don't. Break your cycle, even if all your doing is carrying someone else's trauma as your own.
My second time watching this all the way through. Incredibly inspiring, even having almost ZERO life events, experiences, or circumstances anywhere nearly as traumatic or interesting as Terry’s. Thank you Terry. I love you man.
Omg, Mr Bartlett and your team, thank you so much for this podcast, truly incredible 🙌
Mr Crews, thank you so much for sharing your life journey & being so open, honest & genuine. I wish you all the best health, wealth and happiness.🙌🌟
I love the transparency of the guests on your show. compliments to you as a host, you ask great questions and create an environment for the guests to be open and vulnerable which is great to see, especially for the male guests which is uncommon to see. Thank you for this platform Steven 😊
One of the most captivating interviews I've ever watched and listened too. I was a fan of Terry before the interview, now I am so much more. Mad respect to him for opening up in such a way and not holding back. And mad respect to Steven for having Terry on and giving him the freedom and room to speak his full piece. Wicked interview. Truley awesome!
Wow. An emotional punch of an interview. What bravery from Terry and tact from the interviewer to give him space to be vulnerable. Outstanding 🏆
Another great podcast! As you keep growing Steven and there will be another level up don't forget how clear the interviews are, how comfortable the settings are for your guest to tell their stories. There's so much peace and clarity that gives so much attention to the conversations your having. It's amazing work your doing keep it going if you can.
I can relate to Terry on so many levels. Born in 86 and not much was changed back then. My mother did the same thing with the public hair and demanded to see my body and touch my body to see if it was growing (in puberty). I loved White Chicks - it was one of my fav movies as a teen and loved Terry in it - and then Brooklyn 99 was one of my favs - I love seeing happy and fun Terry - but I love and appreciate even more the raw and truthful Terry who tells it how it is and is making changes for other men and people to be better and do better.
Another amazing conversation. This one was very heartfelt, raw, genuine and very insightful. Thank you Terry for opening your life, lessons, experiences and for being YOU! Very inspirational.
Many blessings and gratitude for these life changing conversations Steve 🙌🏼
Just speechless watching this interview. So powerful, my deepest respect for this man.
One of the best interviews I’ve ever watched. He has such wisdom to share and I found his insights very interesting and thought provoking. I’m so pleased he has found happiness and acceptance. Thank you for sharing your story Terry.