He really F*CKED HER UP!! POOR MOM 😱😳
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you did not just marry the wrong person, you married an evil one
1.5k likes and no comments lemme fix that
@@emmabunnypotterheadthis is not a good reply to say to this comment, they are talking about a negative relationship and talking about how the husband is terrible, you shouldn’t be talking about the likes. Yes this comment deserves more likes but this is not the situation to write this
@@Rachell20116 though I do understand it's not the situation to write a comment like this it's still a comment with no comments but so many likes 😢
Absolutely
@@morlies1137 …who cares?
He didnt care about her depression and then even used it against her in court, what kind of a sicko is he???
It is called a narcissist they have the devil with them when they brainstorm 😢
...or a psychopath.
My husband tried that on me when I filed for Full Parental Responsibility.. he said I had PPD. BUT because of a protection order on our daughter because of his behaviour.. we both had to go for assessments.. and meetings every month. For 18months I religiously attended. He never came to one. And I went for my assessment..I didn't have PPD or anything wrong with me. He never went for his assessment either. I had AL that paperwork and more from socially workers,police and care workers I instantly got full custody and he can't visit unsupervised. Bit he'd been ignoring us for 4 years after I left and then suddenly wants shared parental responsibility. When he pays nothing. All of this showed the judges and worker that actions speak louder than words. He even said that I'd changed my number.. I hadn't.. and proved I had the same number for 15 years. Still do. He has changed his about 6 weeks after we ran for our lives.
@@24wallachianNot really psychopathy, but absolutely narcissism. This is coming from someone who has ASPD (developed from trauma as a kid).
She tried stealing his kids and screwing him in court, that is not a psycho and the courts found her a threat meaning there is something there.
Im really sorry for her. Unfortunately sleeping in the same bed for 12 years with someone isn’t enough to have some mercy in your heart towards the mother of your children. Horrible world
Unfortunately it's so common nowadays...
It really is mine went for 11yrs😢😢
@@Fingerscrossedout it has always been common. You just have social media now so it's easy to find. Don't forget this happened 19 years ago with someone she was married with for over 12 years so not nowadays
Chances are that his mummy dearest raised the kids.
Yeah I'm sure everything was fine and just one day he became super selfish and entitled was definitely never like that before they got married
the world is against her, and she birthed and raised those kids
The world is against everyone. The only thing that can be is to rebuild and recover.
She did not raise her kids.
@lindagabriel3419 she raised them until the father literally stole them from her.
@@ItsJustFlowerwhat do you mean stole them from her. They both share the same amount of DNA and he had the same right as her. And at the time he was the more fit guardian.
@@Topaz_The_First_Gemyou’re crazy if you think that he would raise those kids better than her. He used her ppd against her when she was sane and she was still raising those kids.
And those kids were ABSOLUTELY neglected by their father afterwards.
I'm sorry WHAT
I'm with the other commenter you might need to give evidence to that just because it's a likelihood doesn't mean it actually happened
@@lilyrose1581 It's anecdotal, but my sister and I were products of a divorce where my father maliciously took full custody of us to punish our mother. He threatened her with revealing her past to her daughters, which she desperately wanted to hide. When full custody is taken maliciously, and not as a means to genuinely protect kids, you can guarantee that dads aren't remotely as nurturing to their children as their mothers would be. He did make some attempts at being a good father, but the reality is that we suffered years of emotional and physical neglect. Kids are better off with their mothers, it's just inherent human nature.
@@intpleb4206Nah. Just because your experiences were like that doesn’t mean that mothers are the better choice every time.
@@intpleb4206 I was with you until that last sentence.
Just so you know it my mother got diagnosed with Schizophrenia 20 years back and my dad took the whole responsibility of the house to himself from then on, he retired from work and started looking after us kids and mom 24/7 with mom's rantings , hallucinations and everything. He never devorced mum but looked after us and sent two kids to university, my mother sometimes gets violent but even then he knows how to control her and I have never seen him look at another woman. That is love . The man in the video is a jerk.
That is a wonderful man, he must love with his whole heart.❤️
@@Ozziecatsmomor he’s trapped in an abusive relationship
@@Topaz_The_First_Gem yep, you’re definitely the kind of person who sees the glass half empty instead of half full
@@honeybee-xp2so Would you say that if they switched the sexes though or would you have said it isnt' her responsibility to take care of him when that's so much to handle?
Please oh please always remember this love when searching for your own one day as its out there. ❤
Bro, istg if those kids keep ignoring her and saying she’s crazy, she’s gonna die thinking her children didn’t love her. That man is a terrible person. Would go back to court to testify at the fact that depression isn’t a big enough danger to children and it doesn’t equal being crazy, as well as the fact that he said it “doesn’t exist” and he doesn’t care about mental health.
He’s a dick but how is fighting for your kids making you a terrible person. If OP had a sure fire way to keep the kids then I bet she woulda taken it and no one would care
@@Topaz_The_First_Gemhe wasn’t fighting for his kids. He didn’t care one bit about them. He used them as a weapon
@@vismattress5760Exactly! And she was a stay at home mom she didn't have the money to hire a good lawyer.
@@Topaz_The_First_Gemif he cared for his kids he would have gotten their mother - who was their primary caregiver - help for her PPD and helped take care of them in the first place.
@@Topaz_The_First_Gem using meterial depression to call them "crazy", and "a danger to the kids" is not "fighting for your kids" it's literally takijng them away from they mother. Do I need to remind you that the father had absolutly no emphaty towards the mother?
If the genders were reversed you would cry about how "the court is ageinst fathers" "feminisum was a mistake". I know your kind.
Separating her from her children makes her depression even worse 😢
And family that wasn’t on her side.
For girls got a narcissist family and then married a narcissist and they all work together to ruin her
My in laws and husband are also this way... hence even when I am 34 and I want children, I am not having them otherwise my husband and in laws do the same to me
@@ekta987please get help and a divorce, if they’re narcissists they WILL find a way to do this to you even without kids
This is one thing I am terrified of. I have narc and flying monkey family and relatives. 😨
I was about to write this.
@@ekta987Why not leave your husband? You shouldn't give up the life you want to stay in an unhappy and abusive or at minimum dysfunctional marriage.
Father's do this more often than people think. Courts do give children to the "stable" parent.
This! Considering how many men want a SAHM and she has no separate income of her own and gets screwed in court.
In my situation they favored the mother bc she was a woman, and their bias was that there are more failing dads than mothers. My mom was the abusive one and I had to write myself out of her home. I was 14 thankfully they listened to me
Yup. Exactly! I know women who will not divorce their husbands who treated them (and the kids) terribly because they can just take the kids away from the mom and it would put the kids in jeopardy. It is what it is. Sorry...reality.
My heart aches for her ... She gave birth to 4 kids , took care of them on the other hand he lived his luxury life , got grossed out of the pregnancy. Even used her postpartum depression against her ..oh Lord! How cruel someone can be .... he's a monster. I just hope he gets payed for what he did to others.
When karma strikes him, he won’t be recovering from it.
I hope he goes to hell for all the evil he has committed against her
So all those men out there complaining about how your baby mama won’t let you see your kids should be supporting her too. Post pardon depression is absolutely treatable and should never be the reason for not seeing your kids. What happened here was wrong and her family turned on her too. I hope she gets a good lawyer to sue and get her kids back.
Also she hasn’t seen them in 19 years. They obviously don’t want her
@@Topaz_The_First_Gemofc she wouldn’t be able to see them.. there father got custody
The youngest kid is at least 19 now so I’d assume it would be up to the kids at that point and not the dad.
19 years of alienation does a whole lot on there developing brain. And tbh sounds like she gave up in the end, which is sad I'd be at doctors appointments weekly to prove myself@@gabbycraft7035
@@gabbycraft7035 wouldn't they believe what the dad and other people are saying about her?
So he denied that depression exists but then used her depression against her in the court.... Pure devil.
Your husband was a jerk. I'm glad that you guys are divorced. I'm upset that he basically stole the kids from you by using your illness. Which was depression as a weapon against you in court.
And I'm sorry that your own family didn't back you up. What your husband did was wrong because he had the majority of the wealth because he was working, so he had a good attorney, and even though he won this case just remember there is a heaven in the hell and there's a special place for people like him in Hill stealing kids away from a mom there will. Be a judgment day. That person sounds mentally abusive as well. If he is remarried I can only imagine how he's How is treating his new wife and I'm sorry that he poisoned the kid's minds against you. But have faith in God. He is the restorer of all things and can make all things now with God. Nothing is impossible. I don't know how long ago this happened to you. But I'll still pray for you.
Not a jerk, correction, an a🕳️
Is.
She's not going to read this man, this is just for us to read and agree with.
Damn I didn't know that you could misspell/ use a lot words out of context so many times in one paragraph
Whoever you think you’re talking to, can’t read this. This is a repost.
Thats seriously fcked up
How. The ex husband said something really mean. Seriously that’s messed. But fighting for his kids? That’s something I think we can all relate too.
@@Topaz_The_First_GemHe didn’t care about those kids :/
F er
@@Topaz_The_First_Gem fighting for his kids? Ok, fair enough. But using the wife's ppd AGAINST her in court to gain FULL custody of their kids? No comment.
@@Topaz_The_First_Gemno... he doesnt care about the wife ppd, what makes you think he cares about them, he literally antagonize her kids to be scared of her 💀
How uneducated was that judge to give custody to dad just because of PPD? Mindblowing.
Right Judge should be fired.
This man is a narcissist! That's the perfect script of a narc! He used her to get the job done, he goes with his own life and leave her in the middle of the struggle plus he calls her crazy or delulu when she ends up depressed and after he sucked all the life out of her 🤮
Then when she tries to get out of hell, he will take the kids and accuse her of being depressed and dangerous 😮
These people are soooooo evil that no law is enough to get anyone safe from them 😭
With these demons a relationship can only goes their way otherwise you will loose eveything and everyone.
Him: you don't have depression, depression doesn't exist
Him in court: She has depression, she's a threat to the children
WTF?
i hope she has a happy life and moves on
Have you ever had kids?
@@bryn1063 it's not just hard it's almost impossible for mothers to give up on their children.
@@vincentknwsI know but if all her kids are against her even if she goes to court and gets partial custody it'll be hard to mend the relationship 😢.
@@jclyntoledo even children that have been adopted still want to meet their parents.
ok so i could very well be wrong as im not a health professional, but from my understanding postpartum depression is worsened when the mother is separated from her kids. the pain she went through must've been awful during all of that
"You look like a puppy mill mom." Hes gone. Hes gone bye.
the way my jaw shot open when i heard that. he gotta go 💀
Yup, any history of mental illness that is proven with any attempts of seeking help and bettering yourself is seen as a risk to your children. It’s a lose lose situation. You can either seek help and find improvement but lose custody of your kids due to the stigma or you can refuse help and hope you don’t deteriorate the quality of life for your kids long enough to gain custody from your abusive ex.
It is never said ex was abusive. And the kids are 19 atleast so we can assume that they are content with ex
@@Topaz_The_First_Gem Bro are you the ex defending himself here ?
@@ayda4908fr I’ve seen this guy in multiple comments defending the husband
The more I see and hear about the U.S. the more happy I am that I am not an American 😔 In Australia having a diagnosis and proving that you are being treated and following a care plan to get help actually works in your favour. They wouldn't take the kids off you just on a say so of someone else. There would have to be a psych eval done first and pending the results of that the judge would make a decision.
It's unfortunate that in the U.S. it very much seems that money rather than justice makes a lot of the decisions in these types of cases.
@Topaz_The_First_Gem
The kids are under 8 and the mom carried them for 9 month and gave birth to them she's their mom it's her kids why would the ex take the whole custody it's not Fair just think about your mom
I can only imagine losing the kids would make her depression worse :( I'm disgusted at how horrible the husband and family treated her
This made me cry that’s so sad
When he yelled at my toddler daughter to shut the F up when she tried to talk to him. Also when I found out from his friend that he had booked himself a wee trip abroad to watch a football match and hadn’t even told me about it. Then when I asked him about it he said “it’s my money I can do whatever I want with it”. Well yes, he can, but couldn’t even let me know he was heading abroad with his friends in a weeks time? Damn dude. Divorced within a year 🤦🏻♀️
She she raised them from the beginning of their lives without help and now he gon snatch em up ???
What a family of messed up people. Poor mom.
The husband caused her depression. She was misdiagnosed 😢
For the longest time, I assumed I had untreated PPD, but I realized it wasn’t really my kids who indirectly caused it, it’s their father. Still struggling immensely today. My heart breaks for women like OP. I really wish she went back to court to fight and also sue her ex for emotional damage. He was abusive to her.
he’s not even a human being
If you have ANY mental health condition a narcissist WILL use it against you in court and the court WILL listen to them. Mine even used my being a wheelchair user as "proof" I'm incapable. The best you can do is provide proof of therapy, progress etc and be able to have medical professionals vouch for you. I retained custody but not after years of battling
Well half the reason your kids are scared probably isn’t because they think she’s crazy it’s probably because they go from NEVER seeing their father to him raising them everyday and not being able to see the person who raised them up all their lives
That’s actually really sad. I’m disgusted. Imagine carrying four children and going through hell alone just to have it thrown back in your face and all that taken away. That damage cannot be undone.
That is a terrible father anyone who keeps their kids away from their parent for no reason, especially for that long is terrible and don’t deserve kids
Plenty of woman have done the same thing
When he tried to unalive me
Omg???? I hope you’re okay now
something is 100% not being told. Courts clearly know about post partum depression since most mothers get it after birth. Courts also are more likely to side with the mother, even if mom might have a few quirks.
Her parents not siding with her is also a clue.
Most courts look at post partum as a mental illness which to them is a reasonable excuse to then say somebody is not fit to raise children
This happened many years back according to what I've seen online. So there was no proper mental health awareness.
@@khristiec6863 That would definitely fill in more gaps then
I totally want an update on this
Samee
I cant find it anywhere
That’s horrible! He is a terrible person!! I haven’t gone through postpartum personally but people I’m close to have and seeing it from the outside looking in is scary enough..I can’t even imagine going through it and having your spouse tell you it’s not real..I’m so sorry to this woman.
Golf should have been the first red flag
19 years… omg, this poor lady. I just wanna give her a hug.
This is what CAS did to me, instead of helping me they used my PPD against me and stole my babies
How terrifying 😢 I'd literally unalive my ex after 19 years of this torture.
They don't take away custody just because of the word depression. There's definitely something not being shared here.
He is probably wealthy. He plays “golf”. Her parents must be conservatives who will always side with the man. That’s what it sounds like to me. He probably replaced her with a much younger woman and made her parent the kids and had more kids with her. Guys like these are why women fought so hard for rights.
I knew right in the beginning but i didn't have an escape plan. Took me 19years to get away.
That's so hard and so sad. I am deeply sorry for you. Are you doing better now ?
@ayda4908 yes we got our on place in July and everything is going well now. Thank you.
@@mammabear379 I'm sincerely happy for you. No one deserves to live with these people. The Professor Sam Vaknin explained that it is the most traumatic human experience. Sending you lots of love ❤❤ take care 🙏🏼🙏🏼
"None of my family supported me"... And thats my friend... HUGE RED FLAG. 😂
Red flags for who? That the family was wrong?
And this is a good example of why you should be damned careful with getting mental health diagnoses.
The best revenge is to be happy and live a good life. Leave them and live on your own. Dump all of the toxic people in your life. Denounce them. They don't deserve to be in your presence. Fall in love again with someone who will support you with all his heart and just be happy.
100%:against you means you obviously lack self-reflection.
Funny how depression didn't exist till it was convenient to him.
Any man or woman who uses depression to get custody is evil.
There is a special place in hell for people like that wow I'm so sorry
Here’s the thing…if you’re going to call me crazy…to the point you’re taking my kids…I’m gonna give you crazy…run!
I remember seeing someone post on tiktok that one of the big red flags are men who go out golfing all the time, because it gives them the perfect excuse to be out the house, away from the kids for an INDEFINITE time. No one ever says they will finish golf at a set time, there’s always one more round to go, etc. This guy went golfing on weekends when he had kids under 8
My ex attempted to use my depression against me but I argued that not only was it incited by him but I was seeking professional help during and after the relationship and had all documents to back up my argument and to show the court I was doing something about it, the court gave me sole custody, I am truly sorry the court sided with your ex, hopefully when your kids grow up they realise you are not crazy and reconnect ❤
Counter sue & get a REALLY savage lawyer😡
ANYONE who denies PPD has NEVER had any direct experience.
Oh.....& document all of your experience in a journal so that in the future your children have a balanced perspective.
What sin did she do in the past as a youngster that made her have horrible fate like this??
I pray for that woman to be okay 💔😢
It's so sad that our legal system still does stuff like this to us. Also I've been in nasty custody battles so I'm ordering why she couldn't get visitation and take him back to court later
I think she is downplaying her personal emotional problems. How do you not see ANY of your 4 children? All of them would be adults by that point. And your ENTIRE family turned against you in the divorce courts? My manic mother got partial custody and she didn't even SHOW UP to the custody hearing. It was only after years and years of seeing HER personal actions towards my family that I did not want to see her, what my family told me alone was not enough to separate the bond.
Husband probably wouldn't let her see them. Narcissist do that she should of refined for custody every six months with proof he wouldn't let her see her kid and that she's not depressed she had postpartum and it's gone.
Your absolutely right. It’s been 19 YEARS. And everyone was against her. I think there is a missing side.
@@karinaashmonThey are all adults. If they wanted to see her then ex literally couldn’t have stopped her.
Because you know.. Parental alienation isn't a thing. 🙄
@@Topaz_The_First_GemUm in case you didn’t hear the video it said that the kids were to scared to see their crazy mother as kids so why would they want to now???
At least he is the one who had to take care of his children.
Thankfully I realised before I said "I do"...that was after I had experienced a miscarriage and his total lack of empathy or support during that time, was the biggest sign the universe gave me, and I got it.. thank god.
My ex did the same. I managed to keep custody of my kids only because i paid 3500 for a professional psych evaluation to dismiss his claims.
this is so heartbreaking.
What’s crazy is that most postpartum depression is the body’s response to a lack of support.
That's incredibly sad.
Men will always say: "women always get the custody of children" which is so wrong. Women get the children most of the time, because fathers don't want that responsibility and don't even apply for joint or sole custody.
And if fathers do apply - then even if the mother wants the kids as well the courts will favour the father, just like in this situation.
For the whole of your family to turn against you you’re missing some massive things out here
Yeah, I'm getting the impression that OP is leaving some things out because they don't fit her narrative. Something is up
My thoughts exactly. 19 years and hasn't seen her kids? Even if she lost custody, she would still have visitation rights. That's on her if she never saw them. Dads almost always get the shaft in custody battles, so I suspect the court got this one right.
You'd be surprised
Women get raised in abusive homes and go on to have abusive relationships
My mom's family didn't think her husband was abusive because he never hit her
They wouldn't take us in and we had to go to a shelter
He used my mom's mental illness and the fact that she was on disability against her and got custody of my younger sibling
If she was such an unfit mother why was I still in her custody?
My sibling had severe emotional disturbance after the divorce and each time our mom tried to get them help she was blocked from seeing them even though the courts said it was her custody time
@@desireeloveros1055exactly.
It's sad because this is the same thing that happened to me when my mother ended up being diagnosed with schizophrenia and depression and my family thought she would be a huge threat to me and my brother so they ended up taking her to court and took custody for me and not my brother and would always tell me how she was dangerous and the type of things she could do to me due to her mental health problems and everytime I asked to visit her they'd always say no and everytime she'd visit me they would call the police on her
He really is the wrong person for every woman.
This made me sad. I was my dads hospice aide. My mother couldn't be bothered. I moved home and cared for him. One of our conversations were how he married the wrong one. I met and became close with his ex. He confided in her i was the only thing in life that wasn't a mistake. He really was a great man and taught me so much
That is so unfair postpartum depression is brutal, but it can be fixed with medication and therapy and it doesn’t mean you’re crazy! if every person with a form of depression was labeled as crazy then 70% of the world would be in a mental hospital.
My God poor lady. She deserved so much better. I can only hope life smiles to her again.
Guy spends 0 seconds raising his own kids and thinks he's the better parent?
Yeah girls and men, dont get diagnosed for depression if you are planning a custody battle😢 its not right but gotta do what u gotta do in order to keep youre kids safe with you
How did Noone think that they would use her depression against her??? Thats literally the most basic of concepts in everything. If your enemy (the person who is trying to take your kids) has a weakness (depression) then you use that weakness to get ahead.
Thats so awful… depression should be taken seriously, but it also shouldn’t be treated as making someone go crazy.
Poor mother 😢 i can't imagine what that must be like. As a mother, myself, my son is my heart and if anyone or anything took him from me I would be as good as dead inside...
I don't have kids and therefore no postpartum depression. I have...normal :D depression. And people think that because of that I'm not a good partner and that I'm not suitable for any job... it does suck how society treats you. It just makes it all worse
Best thing to do is to stick it out and not tell your job because they do treat you differently and people are people so it may not be good for you to tell them or if you get another job. You should pray about your depression
Not to mention that because of this the kids are gonna grow up thinking depression is some sort of illness that makes you go insane and psyco. Which is not very good when you think of how many people get depression these days.
Every time I listen to such stories. I thank God for being single till now. Poor lady 😢
Parental alienation at its finest.
Why can't u see your kids ? Just 'cause he won costody doesn't mean you are not allowed to see them at all ? What happened ?
Im so so sorry. I can't even imagine what you're going through. It must be so painful.
Oh my God, I could not even imagine! The nasty, cruel husband… Then taking the kids and then her family taking his side my God that would’ve made me go into a complete tailspin
There is nothing like being that type of alone. That’s supposed to be your person and you have to live with them and their bull****. Truly heartbreaking
That's horrible. I'm so sorry that happened. 😢
Shocking that he was so heartless to make that statement...
I am so sorry you went through this and I can relate to this as I also went through the same, I had a long battle fighting for my kids. No one understands how you are coping mentally, physically and emotionally unfortunately there is no support and the legal system is a joke. They don't care how you have been treated and how the your partners behaviour has affected you such as coercive control. At the end we suffer because there is no justice. I wish you all the best and stay strong.
There’s actually a bunch left out of this… she did something
That’s is horrible and evil
You could easily sue him. Show that you are no longer depressed and that you should be able to tell your kids what actual happened.
That is one of the saddest things I’ve ever heard.
Despicable that her mom didn’t stand up for her
If not a single one of her own family was with her, perhaps they have a point and she is sugarcoating/misremembering what happened?
Courts, especially 20 years ago, do NOY give fathers custody without damn good cause.
I’d love to hear his perspective. If OPs family didn’t stand up for her it makes me think she might genuinely be the crazy one. It would be so interesting to get both sides of this. If OP wasn’t the crazy one I’m almost guaranteed HER family would’ve supported her. Not his family but HER family who loves HER and should in theory trust her. But they don’t trust her which makes me wonder how crazy is OP
Plus the fact her kids want nothing to do with her 19 years later when they are all adults and capable of complex thought? She probably was absolutely bonkers and still may be.
Something’s missing here.
This is absolutely heartbreaking
That's a lot of people that both know her intimately AND think she's not stable enough to raise those kids. Hell, even a jury thought so. Good lawyers make a difference in court, but to your own family?
Obviously, as an audience we can't know for sure, but that's pretty bleak. Good rhetoric would provide why these people think she's unfit, then attempt to show her change, reason, or at least some accountability.
Instead, we're told how to feel, then left in the dark the specifics. That's an awful look.
Well she was taking care of the kids while he wasn’t and 4 kids at that so that likely made her depressed as it seems like she wasn’t getting any help while the husband leisured away and bc he wanted to spite her for divorcing him. Everyone saw him more fit because he had money whereas she was a stay at home mom likely with none.
Karma for filing a divorce
That’s absolutely horrible. I can’t imagine what she’s been going through mentally…
I have so many ques. I'm sorry, but after the initial court order was given, why didn't she get another lawyer & contest this?? Why wasn't she given visitation? Even if it was supervised visitation at first. She could have gone to therapy & had her therapist/psychologist go to court on her behalf. If this was me, I'd fight to get my kids back until my last breath.
Thay lowkey reminds me sm of my mom’s parent’s situation except the part where the father didnt care for his childrens