Want More From Someone? DON'T CHASE & Do This Instead... | Matthew Hussey
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On Today's Episode:
Ladies, we are the boss at creating a story about a person before we even have the first date. This leads us to drama, disappointments and feeling totally blindsided often for situations we could’ve avoided had we done this one thing.
Matthew Hussey is masterful in how he delivered massive truth bombs about men and dating to help women better manage expectations and avoid heartbreak. His UA-cam channel is clearly a fan favorite with close to 3 million subscribers and almost half a BILLION views on his content.
This bite sized nugget is packed with all the truth some of us really needed to hear today. Matthew lists the 4 Stages of Importance in starting a potential relationship, and highlights our special skill for creating stories when we’re dating and the trouble that really causes.
Let’s stop creating stories and jumping to conclusions and start doing this instead.
“If the reaction is hysterical, it’s historical” -Unknown
QUOTES:
“Instead of watching a story unfold, we’ve created the story before it’s happened .”
“Instead of going in with a curiosity, we go in with a conclusion.”
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I know a man that still wants to marry a "woman" that cheated on him with 3 different guys. I dont understand anything.
girl ever heard of cultural appropriation?
Don't worry Lisa. We can hide in plain sight anywhere - just kidding xx;-)
Exactly!
@@BunnyOfThrones 😢 bless him
If someone ghosts you, respect the dead and move on
Sounds simple but hits deeper 🤗
😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤👏👏👏👏Short and deep
life is not personal m took years to get it
Ppl just do what is good for them
Its always about them
Let it go
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@@allenie5910your so beautiful
it's crazy how much power a man you didn't even know 3 weeks ago can have over your emotions and mental health.... I was fine before I met him, I'll be fine without him.
It's crazy.
Don't be like me. I let it slide for 14 years, until one day in 2021 he made it clear he will not marry me. I was so heart broken, I cried for 2 years. Only now, getting back to dating scene, I am learning knowledge on relationship I could find now. Trying to do it the right way this time.
But still emotionally I have mini heart break here and there. This kind of video, make me not stray from the right path.
If there is one thing I learned from 2 years of crying, is that I don't die from heart break. I will be fine.
I have been with my 18 years. I marriage it sucks
Exactly the situation I'm in now and same thinking..😂😊😢
I want divorce
Men are simple. Men go after women they want with true intention. If a woman is confused about where she stands with a man that’s all she needs to know. Confusion means he’s not interested….period! Men do not need help pursing women they ACTUALLY want. Take heed!
take into account the love bombers. they make you think that they're so into you and love you but when they get you and you've fallen for them, it all changes. it needs to be consistent.
You don’t know a single thing about human psychology do you.
Problem is, the confusion is really a sign within the woman that she has issues she needs to look at and be honest about. Sometimes we create our own outcomes in relationships by being jealous, confused, overthinking, reading too much into a man's actions - but the first question a woman must ask is: why do I feel this way? ... If she looks deeper into that question and sees that the man's actions are inconsistent or questionable, that's one thing. But what if she's actually acting from her own subconscious fears, doubts, and past relationship trauma and putting that interpretation on the man's actions?
@@TheConsummateArtist very valid points here!! Thanks for sharing.
I needed to hear this as painful as it may be. Thank u
If he wants you, he’ll make sure you know. If he’s playing around and making you feel confused, he isn’t serious with you.
wrong he is testing you
Explain. Please.
@@nimfall explain
@@Thriftyabundance
if woman are chasing rich and handsome man then they will not take you seriously
@@nimfall and why should a woman deal with being tested? Who has time for games?
Heavens!! Ladies, all we need to remember is: if a man likes, you will know it. If he doesn't, you will be confused. It is that simple.
As a man I am telling you it isn't. There are many reasons why a guy can struggle to be clear with his feelings and telling you directly what he wants.
@@jendabekCZgood to know 🙏! Thank you !
you are stupid in your thoughts.
@@jendabekCZwhat are some of the reasons?
@@lifewithjesseneemachase5404 Low self-esteem, shyness, fear of rejection, the presumption that he will impress with disinterest, insecurities, phobias...
2:30 "Instead of watching the story unfold, we've created the story before it's happened." That's fire right there.
Ain’t that the truth?? I’ve had these conversations go through my head when a guy cancelled on me, I held it in and lo and behold he reached out later that evening (it was prime time and he was talking to me). So yeah the conversations you have going into hyperdrive in your head can drive you nuts!! His reason for cancelling was real and we’re planning to make up for that date this weekend. But like Matthew suggested I’m leaning into the building we’re building not the narrative in my head and we’re getting closer!!
@@sassenachdragon that's great to hear! Always trying to get better about that myself. Good luck to you on building your building together!
True
Young people have the luxury of coming to such conclusions as "watch the story unfold"...because they have time to watch the story unfold.
Then when the young who have "watched the story" unsuccessfully unfold several times already have become older, they experience less and less the sense of "watch the story" unfold, and more and more some sense of a biological imperative to "get this done".
Yesssss! 🔥
How about instead of "reading into things" or overthinking and worrying about what the other person is thinking or doing or feeling, we just be honest with each other. Jesus christ, the games people play.
Thing is.. most men promise a lot but lie.
And you couldn't say that without cursing God, hmmm
in theory. I've tried all the ways. Was honest and open and the truth is.. old and simple as that: if he's into you he is, and he will find the way to be be with you. If he isn't, you can find million of reasons, and that's not gonna change the fact he's not into you.
Also most of the ppl are not ready for being super open. I think as adults we've developed more subtle ways of telling ppl things, and it doesn't have to in the verbal ways.
@@Jegebruikersnaam then they’re not the right man for you 🤷🏻♀️
People want to have someone on the side while they wait for someone better. When playing the field you must keep your guard strong.
When I met my husband I literally "interviewed" him to see if we were compatible. Values, beliefs, moral standards are what keeps you together through all of life's difficult moments.
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May I have a copy of ‘said interview’?😅
We all need to do this , why waste time not having these important conversations . See it’s her husband now, Months later you realize you guys are not a match. Need to know before proceeding if you are compatible. I’m trying now to ask more questions. ❤
If a man wants you,you'll know.....period if not you're not the one!😮😢 Don't chase people who are going away have some respect for yourself. It hurts but chasing isn't the answer
all my romantic relationships have been built on stories, fantasies of what I want the other person to be and not reality and its taken me 40-years to realize this. This was a great video to show me the process that relationships need to go through to become something real. Thank you!
Mee TOO I'm not writing the story anymore....come and hunt me c%$#@
Exactly
O my goddddddd exactly!!!!😢
Hahaha, I have the same issue.
I find as a woman that often guys give mixed messages because they throw u enough attention to get u into bed, but then not enough for pursuing a relationship, which becomes clearer as it unfolds but gives one hope initially.
No change there then!
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Yeah
It's not about the man here in this case it's about women knowing what they want and not tolerating mixed messaging the clearer you are with yourself the better and healthier it will be
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I let my ex leave and live his life and I went on to live mine. I learned to accept that I may be alone for ever and became ok with that. 2-3 yrs later, he came back and showed tremendous changes in behavior from the way he was treating me before. Turns out he went and dated someone much worse than me and realized how good he had it with me. Now he’s doing everything right.
How are things now? Still good?
I wish you all the best! Does he still carry on with his good behavior or was it just hoovering? Please let me know!
Oh hell no! He went around sticking his Thing in other women and he’s probably not a good man so nobody wants him and he decided to come crawling back to the sucker that would only take him. Now he’s Doing everything right?? After he is done having his fun, that will not last. Don’t be so pathetic
This is wild... 2-3 years is a long time. How did you feel about that? I'm so intrigued..
Most people / general advice I find lean on saying you should never take people back and there's all this weirdness and shame about it. But I'm such a romantic and dunno how to feel about this.
Also had on and off relationship drama
All the best to you!
@@user0m170 if your okay with knowing he felt like you were not good enough for him in the first place and went around with other women and sleeping with them and Then came back to you? Low self esteem. Have some respect for yourself. Also he will do it again guaranteed. I would never even take back an ex unless it was a shorter period with no body else involved.
Good points and so true! Have to keep these stages in mind. 1. Admiration 2. Mutual connection/ chemistry 3. Commitment/ both saying yes 4. Compatibility ❤
I agree with his steps, but I would rearrange it a little. I see no reason to commit and then assess compatibility. I need to check for that EARLY. Admire, compatible, then connect, then commit, for me.
Most people have problems with commitment and compatibility because they have a hard time committing and they want to do their own thing so they are not compatible.
We had it all but not commitment from his side.
@@cindys2995me too! But sometimes you don’t have the entire picture of compatibility before commitment
@@Enjoycapetownbysara True
I am seeing this guy and we have a amazing connection that we both have noted. I've been celibate for a few years we did the "dance" amazing. After I felt a little confused on what "this" was and I might have traded in my celibacy for uncertainty. Well without me even mentioning anything( as it's my problems) he told me how he felt, he made his feeling completely clear for me. We now know what it is❤❤. When a man wants something with you he will make his feelings, plans and desires very clear.
Wow, that’s exactly what I’m dealing with as well. I am seeing a guy, I have also been celibate for a few years. We have an amazing connection and have a lot in common. Then we did the deed on the second date and I also feel confused and I also feel like I should have waited and that the ball is really now in his court since I gave it up. Now I feel as if he is not talking to me as he used to, there are really no “good mornings” anymore. So it feels like he is distancing himself from me.
How is it now?
O@@catharinamariatheresia1626
I learned the hard way that if a man is
Going back and fourth with you. One day he’s interested and the next day it’s like your invisible the reason behind that is because the person who he really wants has now become available and your on the sidelines. When he was available for me it’s because the girl who he was actually truly pursuing had rejected him for that moment and I was “available” men are simple. They go for what they want and use the one (if you allow it) who is craving there attention. Not all are users but that confusion and complicated situation I found myself in the answer was truly crystal clear. Guys don’t offer confusion to the woman they truly want to be with.
Love this, "if my reaction is hysterical, then it is historical".
Stay present, let the real story unfold, without filling in the details. Simple truths can change everything!!! Love this!
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Come from nothing with no expectations. Dance in actual face to face conversations you have with them, (not on the phone or on social media). Expect nothing and enjoy being present in the moment. Leave your fantasies behind. If you both truly appreciate and enjoy the present interaction with one another, you may very well become platonic friends which is so much more rewarding than sexual relationships in general
I'm going to wait on who God has for me. It will happen the way God wants it to. I will stay in my place as a woman, a child of God. He directs ALL of my paths. Our paths will cross when God wants them to.
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I did that. It took me 20+ years to find him, but all good things in God's time.
@@charlottebruce979 I know!! 27 years for me!! I know who he is. In God's PERFECT timing!!
My friends tell me, I have to do my part, God s not going to put your future husband right on front of you, you have to act as well. But I know God can make him happen just like that! Nothing is imposible when we believe in his power .❤️
@ElizabethReyes-np1kq yeah, your friends are directing their own path. Making decisions for themselves. Walking with God and allowing him to direct your paths doesn't involve making decisions for yourself. Listen to your spirit.
5:02 slow down the story happening inside the brain by valuing the work that has been done in real life, don't value the potential.
5:38 4 stages of importance in potential relationship.
1) Admiration- not important,
2) Mutual Connection/ Chemistry- not important,
3) Commitment, saying yes to be in a relationship- not important,
4) Compatibility- important
Actually he said stage 3 is important
All true - untill you meet a borderliner.
They are all important surely. Because for example if you have compatibility only without chemistry (sexual compatibility) that's just a friendship. That's guaranteed hurt down the line.
I was needing to hear those words today.
Stop chasing and be the chased.
Thank you ♡
Yeah, hard pass. That’s a time waster. Get out there and chase ladies!
One will want your company eventually.
Dont want to chase and dont wish to be chased. Learn and Practice self love is most important for women I feel..❤
If men were just honest and up front with how they feel then women wouldn’t have to wonder all this! Lol
But they are! If they want you you will know and feel it in security and stability. If they don't you will feel confusion. That's it.
@@sallybella8824If they play games with you, love bomb you, then you won't necessarily know. It's only something that's revealed with time.
Yes, this is true
I feel a weight lifted.. by this message.. I want a man.. but he does not want me... I have been building my and driving my self nuts story.. . thank you for this message
This interview was amazing. He’s spot on. I’m definitely the one that overthinks or catches feelings from great chemistry & conversation bc I don’t connect with too many men. It’s rare for me.
Same for me.
I feel weird sometimes around other people because I can’t move on easily as I can’t see many people. It’s so overwhelming for me.
Same for me. It’s hard to connect so I get attached so easily when it happens.
@@gumaber_ You just described me. I’m picky af when it comes to men but when I find someone I’m actually attracted to on all levels I become head over heels bc it rarely happens. In the end I always get played or love bombed. Now I’m currently dating men I’m not attracted to or don’t like bc I always benefit in the end. 🤦🏽♀️😐 I hate dating bc it never works out for me long term. The feelings are never mutual. Most mehn I’m attracted to only Lust for me they don’t genuinely like me.
@@tinyking11 i was a victim of love bombing too. I hope you find the right guy for you so you can be with someone you really like.
@@gumaber_ Thanks so much for the positivity I receive it. I wish the same for you as well. 🙏🏽❤️
I am SO tired of hearing people say that if something hurts your feelings, it is because you must have unresolved trauma in your childhood.
How about being ghosted by someone you are consistently talking to, dating, and possibly sleeping with, at any point in a relationship, is traumatic and horrible!
Stop invalidating the feelings, experiences, and expectations of women!
Well said
Th3 other day i was thinking, These idiotic sitcoms like Himym and friends has destroyed the idea of GRIEF, these mofos are laughing among their friends, hopping in bed with someone in the next episode. Real life sucks! In real life being apart from someone hurts like shit, as if someone has punched you in the guts, you cry, cant think or work properly... idiotic hollywood dramas. Fck em
Invalidating the expectations is logical and reasonable when the expectations are based on pure fantasy. It's called grow up.
Both of those things can be true. Being attracted to someone who isn't confident about how they feel with you can be a trauma response. It's not invalidating to say that - it still matters and it's still important wherever it comes from
You are saying that someone who already was invested in building suddenly left. Being upset about that isn’t hysterical, it is understandable and valid.
Hysterical would be if someone you’d never met ghosted you in the first date, and you were upset for weeks mourning what could have been. That’s what he’s talking about.
He’s answering illogical questions logically . This is truth. ❤
Better than any therapy. Listen on repeat!
I’m just glad I’m not the only who does everything he described. I thought I was so crazy. I’ve done this all my life and I would feel so ridiculous.
I know, right?! 😅
Even some men do this
Same
Me too❤
Don't feel ridiculous. And you're not crazy. When you know better, you do better. It's called growth with what you go through.
Four stages of a relationship (around 5:20):
1. Admiration.
2. Connection/Chemistry (mutual admiration).
3. Commitment (Saying yes to each other).
4. Compatibility.
-> This was a revelation to me. I guess, I am at maybe stage 2 - now we need to see if it is worth moving forward. And it would not be a DRAMA to decide if that is not. Basically, my take from this: Don't write the story before it happens by forbidding things to develop without pressure. THANK YOU, Matthew. There's clearly wisdom in what you are saying about this topic. Appreciate it.
Shouldn't stages 3 and 4 be switched ? I think compatibility should come before committment.
@rehemaparmena4714 Right. Or more accurately, compatibility (I), commitment, compatibility (II).
There are some things we cannot know without actually taking risk and being in a relationship with a person; however, many do-or-die questions regarding values, beliefs, lifestyle, past relationships, upbringing (attachment style), mutual future direction in life should be known before commitment is made. Then, go from there to see whether you're TRULY compatible.
When he got to stage 2 he said he feels too emotionally into me he wants less meeting time and less talking time to get clarity
Love is a choice to do everyday..it's not selfish or single minded..settle disputes quickly before the wrong outcome effects to the point of not continuing and growing..nurture each other..love all his or her insecurities and fears..please communicate!
I unfortunately just did this. I went on a trip to a different state and although the trip wasn't for this guy, I intended to hang out with him AND we planned to see each other, yeah well he completely ghosted me and it was our 2nd time hanging out (it legit was an amazing time and he was acting like I wanted as in it was a dream ) and its crazy bc I legit created this story in my head before even meeting him. I pursued him instantly and although everything went perfect both times we hung out, he only saw me one day out of the trip. I was so heartbroken but then when I got back home like this is our 2nd time hanging out and yes he was definitely going along with telling me he feels the same and blah blah, but I calmed down when I got back home after blaming myself for so much. moral of the story, just realized I shouldn't of romanticized so much on this person when we barely even know each other. my toxic trait is wanting these things so bad, so already creating a script of our lives and then get heartbroken when this person doesn't think the same, lol yes im insane but im a lover girl and when I feel the connection its like the thing to me. idk crazy/ Matthew soooo spot on, needed to vent this out.
I hear you! That's me too unfortunately. And even though I'm aware of it now I still fall in the same trap. I just claw myself out of it faster now.
No your not. I used to do this too. I learned my lesson though.
Did this as well lol
I'm like this too girl 😂 I realized I need to chill, and simply let the man lead.
This guy is just so WISE. Thank goodness for his existence!
Holy moly. This was terrifying to watch. Mind-blowingly accurate.
I began to value the friendship more than anything, and I’m so happy I did🌸
Experience has taught me that COMPATIBILITY is FIRST or SECOND. Why get involved before that? ASK tough questions and do that work EARLY! Once you're in, you'll be way more likely to ignore flags!
This is soo true . You’ll definitely ignore the red flags cuz you want to hold on to the relationship
Compatibility will never be first because in order to start talking to someone you have to have the initial attraction
@@emj850 I'm not talking about attraction. Obviously you have an initial interest. I said what life has taught ME about getting involved further.
This video will help us all to grow up and to stop hurting ourselves
Selflove is key!!!!!
Honestly I think if you feel desperate for a relationship this is what happens, you over think it
I strongly agree cos what more could make us victims of such unpleasantries...
Spot on ! This bloke is as super into m after 1 meet up .., he didn’t even ask me Q so he doesn’t really know me .. I would think I looked attractive to him without trying hard I mean . Then as the week progressed I felt uncomfortable as I couid tell in his communication he was sold / done thinking I’m all in ( even tho he didn’t actudlly check in with me) and he didn’t show any effort to plan ahead .. kept asking me to
Calll and drop in .. kept asking wjtnni finish woek wooah dude .. invest more !!!! I can be trim if to help too straightforward but he wasn’t reading my little signs . I was getting stressed . it ended up resolving unexpectedly easily when I did something important to me but usually wouidnt so early … I asked if he’d listen to a little something on health & wellness I was listening to that was fascinating and I’d like to share . I said in text that health is trying to be the most healthy and hsppy is important to me …. He said “ good luck to you “ and dropped communication 😮. Well clearly he wants to keep drinking and regularly visiting the pub snd run from any hint of health .., so not my guy !! I’m glad I was “me “upfront
What to do when no sign of a relationship comes to you though? You end up looking for it.
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
@@peterwilliams6361 its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
@@DailamiPuang this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.
@peterwilliams6361 , the best thing to do is work on yourself. Remember what attracted to you in the first place.
Wishing you and your wife the best❤!
Dudes smart. He knows exactly what’s up. Expectations are a killer. It’s really this simple… if they want you they make it happens.
Love is not what you say but what you do.
It is not "insane" to feel heartbreak after three weeks. Many people get engaged or married in three months!
On point we create a story line and when it doesn’t happen frustration follows and because we expected something.
😂❤ true indeed
That was me
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Expectations kill joy
Agree all this dating tips give me anxiety.. can't we just be real and honest. Is that too much to ask. We are all too broken anyways to hold meaningful relationships it's literally a lot out here when it comes to dating.
Exactly all these stupid games al the time
People are just mean, bleeding on those that didn't cut them. Cos why should mutual love be this complicated...
People who are truly are into you allows others to patiently let Devine timing to take over
How true is this ?
Well sometimes we do create stories before they occur by the help of our instincts. More often than not, whatever we envisaged wasn't so far from the truth. Some men can be really toxic!
My self confidence, independence, ease with myself and my sexuality are at nuclear levels. It took a lot of working on my independence, dreams and mental health, and I can tell you that looking at things from this side, men are used to being begged for, to play games feeling confident that they are the master manipulator in the game, and, ultimately, used to being this version of themselves that wastes their own time on b*s* and ego boost. I'm not drawing any quality comparison between sexes (I've never dated women nor will), I'm just describing what I observe from the bright side.
Thank you for your work, Matthew, it’s definitely been part of my journey! 🙏
I know its a long shot in the dark for anyone to read this or for him to come back to me, i had a rough childhood and never felt safe or seen neither from family nor friends, when i met and he hugged me for the first time in my 32 years or living i felt it, i felt safe and that i could let go and be who i want to be, and he treated me with utmost care and gave me all the hints he wants to be with me, but only to say lets end it before someone gets hurt, i get it.. but i wish i could feel it again, i wish i could be with him but i dont want to force it, i will be fine, just a little tired.
OMG, this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear and understand. Now I just need to put it into practice. Matthew Hussey is BRILLIANT! ❤
Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?
Imo, compatability must be identified before going into commitment. Yes, you need flexibility and leniency. Just dont compromise on compatability.
Some people say we fall in love fast with specific people because of our connections from past lives.
I believe this as well.
SO much gold here and understanding attachment styles to work alongside this is Platinum!!
One of the best videos of Matt! Thanks again! 😊
This is so good! The four stages is wonderfully clarifying. Thank you!
Douglas and Zeta-Jones were first introduced in 1998.”I had been told Michael Douglas wanted to meet me,” the Chicago actress told Larry King in 2001. “I was a little nervous because I didn’t quite know what he wanted to meet me about.” Douglas and Zeta-Jones were first introduced in 1998.”I had been told Michael Douglas wanted to meet me,” the Chicago actress told Larry King in 2001. “I was a little nervous because I didn’t quite know what he wanted to meet me about.”
Meanwhile, the Falling Down actor knew immediately that the duo would have a future together - but worried that a cheesy pickup line might have ruined his chances.
“I said to her after about half an hour [of hanging out], ‘You know, I’m going to be the father of your children,’” he revealed during a 2016 appearance on The Jonathan Ross Show. “It sounded good, and she said, ‘You know, I’ve heard a lot about you and I’ve seen a lot about you, and I think it’s time I say goodnight.'”
To correct his mistake, The Kominsky Method star sent her flowers and an apology, which seemed to work. He proposed to his love in 1999 and they said “I do” nearly one year later.
If I go after men, I’m about 50% successful. If I don’t do anything all I get is creeps or nothing at all. I prefer making my own choices 👍
Same! Or, technically you could say 0% successful.
If the reaction is hysterical then it is historical. That is brilliant, Matthew! ❤❤❤
This man gives amazing knowledge that doesn't just apply to romantic relationships but friendships as well
Best relationship analysis I ever heard.
Thank you.
I need to listen to this everyday
such an important points discussed, great to listen and it really helps to understand certain behaviors and move on with life
great stuff!
I needed to watch this video 😂🤣🫶🏼 thank you for the content ❤
I find the most beautifulest relationship to ever come is when two people are just being together instead of always getting into that duality of the Mind and be actually just present and live the moment with no expectations no attachments and let the universe bring the Beautiful blessings instead of want do and have why don't we just be have and do life would be so much simpler without any questions doubts or answers we like to complicate things so much for no reason
Thank you for your advice, Matthew! I must confess that each time I watch a video of yours I then feel content because I know now that I am doing the right things because of your advice 😊. Plus I love your accent 👍🏼
Compatibility is so important! Couldn't agree more with Matt
Love it, great insight!!!
I love both of y’all! Glad y’all made this collab :)
Beautifully said in every way. I love your reactions Lisa you are just the cutest most authentic beautiful human. Thank you for loving us and sharing this with us ❤🙏🏻💖🥳🤗
Perfect timing 🙏
The magnificence of your clarity on this VERY IMPORTANT subject is PIVOTAL, educational and life changing. THANKYOU Matthew! And thank you, Lisa for hosting him.
This video is life changing, thank you!
Wow this was so enlightening 😊🙏🏽❤️
Awesome explanation
Wise Words❤
He is good. There is a reason he is top of his game.
Best thing l heard all day 🙌👏🏻
I like the way his advice MATTHEW HUSSEY. His really good
"If the reaction is hysterical then its historical" wow ❤
This guest is so on point...wisdom
Excellent!!!
I needed to hear this!
I love Matthew. He has real answers and he’s very genuine.
Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?
Lisa - this is a REALLY excellent question that includes important nuances! Thank you
Most people get caught up in a situation where they fall deeply in love with someone that gives them all they’ve been looking for in a relationship, they feel that comfort and security whereas the person does not actually love them. How can you get out of such situations?
@ConradKurtMorgan I know it’s very painful!
As Matthew says ‘whether or not this logic is true - because they are busy with work etc’ they are pulling away and the quicker we accept that the better.
I think what hasn’t been touched on here, is that in some cases, esp with narcisstic people - they literally fake the whole thing because they want the attention, they want the control..
It was a major step in my life, when I realised I am not a ‘needy’ person. I just tended to go for (just talking about friendships here even) with people who ‘love-bombed’ me and then breadcrumbed me.. once I figured that out, I was much more careful.
I’m so sorry you’ve been hurt. Some things I find helpful when that happens is I ask “did this person even respect me? Did this person want the best for me? Do I respect this person? Sometimes our emotions get so entangled it’s only years later we look back and think ‘Jeeze I’m not sure I even liked that person, let alone loved them’
I don’t know if that helps.. but that love you feel belongs to you, it’s who you are, that will go everywhere you go. Even if it’s painful to lose the person you were focusing it on. 🌸
Soooo spot on
Nice advice sir, Thank u so much sir, love u so much sir ❤❤❤
Thanks Lisa!❤I've learned so much from you!
Yes!!! Let the guy go, and see if he comes if after you. If he does, then maybe he deserves you.
This conversation alone is exhausting
Ooh my. Wow! I love the description of the castle. That just helped me to click everything into place.
Does spirituality goes a long way in a relationship?
Brilliant. Thank you.
This is a really good video
Wow, this is so true. I need to listen to this like 5 more times. I give so much. Andddd it kind of bites me.
That’s a fantastic short analysis. A situation a found myself in way too often. Thanks to both of you 🫶🏻
Amazing talk and most important an honest one ❤
I never comment on videos, but this video came at a timely manner for me. Literally read my mail. Thank you
Used his kids as an excuse and couldn’t leave his baby mama because he did want another man around his kids
This speaks to me so much
❤THANK YOU. Healing isn't really taught...Bandaid are the quick solution. GRATEFUL learning to Authentically heal