I did this no contact after he break up on me. No contact for only 4 days he message me and want to get together after two weeks didn’t see each other. After 3 weeks he proposed to me 🥰. Now, we are happily engaged 😇. Just be patient and wait for it to turn in your table. Because if they really love you they will come back😍.
Sweet! I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ua-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/v-deo.html All the best! :-)
Yes please update here, Matea. I am currently in 14 days NC. But most likely no high hope, as my ex is in USA while i am in Asia.. i can only hope for the best
@@mateagalic1378 I was NC 3 days post break up 1 week. Things are back to normal. I'm still tryna take it slowly but I felt he just needed a break after the argument to calm down. I don't look at it as a real break up. It was an argument, things got heated. Let the heat simmer down.
@@martisimeonov Hung out with my friends. Smoked weed (if that's your thing) worked out at home with my weight bench, I walked a LOT! Try walking like in the woods while high on marijuana, it was FANTASTIC !! I also have a child who I hung out with and brought everywhere and just basically chilled (my child is not with the girl we are talking about)... I wouldn't try to get another girl right away because your heart is with the girl who left you. I tried that and let me tell you it was awful. Only hang out with other girls in the beginning just as friends is fine. Basically you just got to keep busy, if your mind is busy all the time you don't have time to think about her (easier said than done but you need to do it) Feel free to ask me any questions about anything. I hope I have helped. GOOD luck to you sir. Ps. If none of this works, you can always picture her in the toilet with smelly diahreah 🚽🤣🤣😂 Remember, woman are just humans like the rest of us.
Did she left you or was the opposite? My girlfriend recently left me because she wasn't feeling the same things for me as before, she told me she loves me, but not the way I love her
I thought it would take a month or more but she actually called me after a week of no contact and said to meet her Then she hugged me and cried . Thank you so much ,😊😊😊
Yep - the person will expect you to contact them within 1-2 weeks. If you don't, two things wil start happening in their mind. They will 1) start wondering whether or not you've moved on or forgotten about them triggering an emotional ego reaction. And 2) they will start to have positive recall - i.e they will start to forget about the reasons they lost attraction and instead start to remember the good times you had together and the initimacy you shared. After 3/4 weeks they will usually snap and reach out to find out what's been going on with you. The key is don't reply straight away and don't accept the first invitation to meet up! The first time they ask to meet up say that youre busy and will have a think about another time. then leave them in suspense for a couple days and then offer to have dinner or smething.
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ua-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/v-deo.html All the best! :-)
It was for barely 2 weeks.... All you have to do is break all contact with the person and the harder it seems the worthier it is... You should know that begging won't help... Break contact completely and your sudden absence from the person's life will make them come back to you.
@@jamieparsons3546 She might be mad at you. Just let the things cool down because if you keep begging her and trying to make her love you just after the breakup then you are not doing yourself any good. The first few days will be a really hard without her but dont let it crumble you and maintain no contact
Wxyys hey, ummm I broke up with my ex last week for a stupid reason, the reason is because one day she went out with her friends 3 boys and i saw her snaps recording other mans and I got jealous and angry. And I was acting dry for 2 days I wasn’t acting normal so she’s like what’s wrong with you? I told her that I don’t like seeing you around other mans you know it makes me jealous. I told her how would you feel if you saw me around girls? She’s like I trust you but I don’t trust the girls around you. I said I feel the same she’s like my bad I didn’t think how would you feel. We were cool that day then the second days she’s like I can’t handle this anymore something it’s bothering me I’m like what is it? She’s like I wanna break up I need some space and I’m distracted with school and family stuff. I’m like we can work on these things we can fix them she’s like I can’t be with you I lost feels towards you why? Because I was acting different like wtf that’s stupid reason you can’t just lose feels to someone just because how they were acting. And now she blocked me everywhere, she said I don’t wanna see your name anywhere. And now I don’t know what to do we were dating for a month only... please help!!!
I worked with Brad one and one. Everything he told me to do i followed, the no contact rule was so effective she contacted me in the 30th day 😃 Brad has taught me some great life lessons and not to make the same mistakes again, the x factor programme is also worth purchasing so you use the techniques effectively.
I wish I hac enough money to get that program. For now, just keep watching Brad video compilation as a guide. I am now on my 4th week of No Contact and hes sending short message sometimes. Just open and not responding to it. After this 30-45 days of No contact I don’tknow what to do, and what will happen. Since we are on LDR I still love him.
I used no contact properly in 1 month after we break up. So that my ex chat me 😂 i win 😁 and i ignored him in 1 week before i reply his message. Thank you brad browning ☺
73 days of no contact 🤷🏻♀️I don’t really think 30 days is enough. Because the breakup is still fresh. 🤷🏻♀️mine will probably not contact me but it’s ok Bc I’m never going to contact them
But you do gotta contact him now or he'll think you have moved on and will try accepting and moving on too if he's a stubborn and proud even if he wants you.
If you want your ex back, why wait for your ex to run back to you? :-) I never said the "no contact" rule is supposed to go for weeks or months on end. I only said it's for 30 days in about 80% of my videos, didn't I? :-) Anyway getting an ex back, just like anything that's worth having, takes work, so make sure he's/she's worth it. Anyway the "no contact" rule is just the first phase. There are two more phases to getting an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and to initiate communicate, this is the vid: ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is. Best of luck! :-)
Sounds like a plan! As what I always say, the decision to get an ex back is totally up to you. You know your ex's worth to you as well as your relationship. So you decide whether this is someone you want to go back to or not. All the best!
Hi Brad - you are a genius! - thank you! After watching many of your videos for advice, I decided to try no conact carefully and just reply politely to some texts without being rude. I concentrated on my life, hung out with some other girls and friends, of which she was aware, and generally got on with things. After 2 weeks she sent me a text saying 'I miss you', I really miss you. I check my phone constantly. I was waiting or you to write to me with something, but always nothing came to me'. I still kept communication to a minimum. Now we are talking again and she says she wants to build something new between us. Your advice really worked. Thank you so much!
By acknowledging a break up everyday you give it existence and credibility. A break up is often made worse when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. Remember, you choose to let things bother you, if you waste time and energy on your ex, it is your own fault. For the time being, you must turn your back on what you want, this response is a very good move. It leads to change, and change is good when good. The pros and cons of changing doesn't matter, what matters is becoming a better person.
Day 2 of NC and it’s already hard! But love the fact that yes it is a great time to focus on myself and find other hobbies I like to do and do it for myself and not for her! I genuinely think she is the one for me. I just feel like I became boring and too predictable like I had no life outside of her which was the reason for the breakup. So I’m going to start going to the gym and possibly get into meditation!
BRO THIS IS ME RIGHT NOW. i was a huge gym rat. I had an amazong physique and she loved that about me. As months went by, we started to get a little chunky, especially for me. I gained so much and stopped doing what i loved. She noticed that and when we moved out of our expensive apartment, she told me that she wanted to seperate but stay friends to focus on ourselves again. Im still in love with her and she already accepted it. I told her i wanted to stay friends but eventually in the future get back together and she seemed to doubt me because only actions speak louder. I guess now i have to do the no contact rule and get back in my prime so she misses me again and doing back what i used to do. Fishing, hiking and becoming a bodybuilder again. MUCH LUCK TO YOU BROTHER. WE CAN BOTH DO THIS MAN
3 days no contact she unblocked me from all social media and stalking me, lol. Our mutual friend told me not jump into any relationship now that made me think she asked her to do so. Now am going on 2 to 4 weeks vacation on an island. Am soooo exited.
I just broke up with my bf of 4.5 years 2 days ago cuz of some unsolved problems that are piling up. I always believed not contacting them would help them think about the relationship and me--same goes with me. So even though I get so tempted to talk and chat him up, I dont; today is day 2 of our breakup. I was crying moments before I saw this video. Now Im fired up to make a 30-day plan to do fun, new stuff for myself. Whether he and I are meant to be together in the end, only time will tell. Right now, it's all about me. 💕 Lots of love for y'all! We can do this!
Be open-minded about the outcome and yes, crying helps release those emotions as you heal, so it's good, do what you can to heal. I recommend you to employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Does the no contact rule also apply when I was the one who broke up with my bf? I broke up with him because he was not treating me right and he did not appreciate me enough ..
Hi brad Thank you for your guidance. I m grateful n thankful to u. I got my boyfriend back with this no contact rule in just 25 days. N we r very happy to gather at the same time we hv stronger bonding now. I followed ur each n every advice n i trust you n ur psychology a lot. Keep up ur good work. Stay blessed with happy n healthy life always. Regards: Binita from india.💖
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ua-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/v-deo.html All the best! :-)
We were together for a year and he left me 10 days ago. I haven’t contacted him since cause I want him to miss me first. Praying the no contact rule works out so we can talk things out in the end
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Day 8 into the NC rule. One of the hardest things is to suppress the incessant memories and anxiety about what she's doing, where she is, who she's with, looking at my phone, all the while still trying to bring back control of my life and not go back to the desperation that I constantly feel bubbling under the surface . She's incredibly stubborn, so my hopes are low, but it's worth a try. Anyone had any success?
Sorry to hear. Everyone who's been dumped can relate to what you're saying since that's really how it is and feeling like the pain will have no end, but I promise you there is! Just focus on yourself first and do what you can to not focus on your ex. Most, if not all of my tips are designed to help you feel better about yourself first and your own life, which is a key element in getting an ex back. So yes, technically it's bound to work one way or another. Here are signs the no contact rule is starting to do what its supposed to do: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning During these 30 days of no contact, should I disappear on the social media for a while? Like, really disappear, for at least 2 weeks or so, so she will be missing me and also being super curious about what I'm doing, or should I post a lot of cool stuff? (she still follows me)
@@imissme8313 I persevered with NC for about three months. I caved afterwards, and I sent her a couple of letters/messages but never heard from her ever again. Until, a month ago she reached out to me asking if we could meet because she was going back to her country and not coming back. The absurd selfishness of her reason was that she 'didn't want to regret' not seeing me again and for us to have a proper send off. I was beside myself with disbelief. Not one peep from her until then. I politely declined and now I'll never see her again, but I'm much, much happier than back then.
Hey brad i just love u, Everything u said is happening,even tho we were dating each for just 3 months and we broke(luckily i found u) and after 30 days no contact,i texted her earlier today and she replied within 15 min and there was when she was not even seeing my text,i believe in yu dawg🌹
Haha that’s great, and thanks for the kind words! Next just play it cool bro, don’t seem to eager to text her back or ask her to hang out too soon. No Contact worked partly because you didn’t appear needy and clingy by chasing your ex... stick to the same strategy and don’t turn her off by being overeager. Good luck boss 👊🏼
That's one strong soul right there! Keep it up because at this time, you really need to take care of you first. So I recommend you to employ the 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw AND y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Now once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel: y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do, sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Hey I recently broke up with my girlfriend but regretted it immediately and she didn't want to get back as there had been building tensions. We still "love each other" and saw each other yesterday but today I blew it by pressuring her into being with me or not. We dated for a year and 3 months and I surely want her back and have made positive changes. Will the 30 days work?
Yep, if someone youre seeing says they think you should have some space, assume no contact for 12 weeks. usually it wont be this long. but even so, if they haven't contacted you by 12 weeks and seems they unlikely will, then by that point you should have moved on enough to not be as hurt by it anyway.
I broke up with my ex 4months ago and I started apply no contact after like 1 month. No result, as I would reply to his texts like 2 weeks later. The real no contact started like 2 months ago, after I said "happy bday" to him. He texted me one week ago out of the blue and we talked for 2 days. The next day, he texted me in the afternoon and we talked non senses, as the days before. Again, we've talked for like 3 days, when yesterday he replied with an emoji and this was when I "seen" him. Today he texted me again and he asked me out. We've spent like 3h talking about uni, his passions and what we've been doing lately. He hugged me when we left and now I'm waiting for the next meet up :). Thank you, Brad!
You're welcome! Looks like you're all set, yeah? :-) My other videos should help out a bit, too but if you still need my help further on this, however, then you and I both ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis. Please check on availability first because I only have a limited number of clients I can realistically manage before I go into spontaneous combustion. Here’s the link: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad thanks a ton. I followed the no contact strategy. After a week I am getting calls from her. I am not responding but not sure she will be back or not. But this works.
Yep. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
Day 6 .. She disrespected me last week Thursday then on Sunday I decided to mute 🔇 😒 all her status she was starting to play the jealous game , posting her pictures at restaurants.. It was Killin me to see her happy but I had to avoid contact then I muted all her whatsapp status updates
Awesome! Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. Our relationship have actually been on and off. On January I went back home to Medan and left him in Jakarta. (Which is 2 hours faraway by plane) Now that I’m back to Jakarta, he told me that he met someone and he picked her over me. But he told me that if this new girl isn’t for him, then he’ll be back to me. Before that I actually have told him that I want to focus on my career that’s why he started looking for other people. So yesterday we were officially break up. And this morning he texted me a “good morning” and asked me what am I doing. I don’t to whether to text him back or to ignore it.
Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
Just remember, once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
I did three days of no contact before I texted her. She finally responded. First time in a long time that she responded to my message. She let me come up to her work and see her for about a half hour and we hugged the whole time and even kissed. We had a good conversation, a healthy conversation. We both agreed that we still have a lot of feelings for each other. She thinks right now is not a good time to get back together but she did say if we let some time pass and see where we are then she’s open to that. She even agreed to come over to my apartment soon and spend some time with me. So even though it’s a lot less than I want, I’m making some progress. I just have to keep it up and I hope I can win her back eventually.
Three days of no contact is such a short time, though. I more often than not recommend the 30-day rule. There's a possibility of confusing messages from your ex most likely, unless the breakup was temporary and she asks for you back !
My only regret is that why I didn't get your videos a month back!! I feel so lost and stupid because of it. But still I'll use your advice in the future for sure. Thank you Brad!
You're welcome! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! 🙂
She broke up with me a little under a month ago, but our relationship was only around 3.5 months long. I haven't contacted her since we broke up. Should I make the first move and reach out?
NO!! Don't you dare 😵 be strong. Go hang out with friends, do things like hitting the gym .. keep busy. They always come back. Sometimes on time sometimes when it's too late. When someone dumps you they're literally telling you they don't want you. So show that you're okay with it until they come back.. and even when they do don't just jump right back into it. Let her work her way to getting you back. You're not a thing that can be thrown and taken back just like that. Whether you were together for two months or two years, know your worth!!! All in all, I hope she didn't break up with you because you cheated or you did something that can't be overlooked
Yes, assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
hay brad,been watching some of your videos about winning ex's back , thanks for all your advice,you really saved my life with these kinda videos,hope you're always making content about relationship and deal with ex's like this in the future to help other people too
Day 11 of No Contact...I'm still constantly filled with anxiety and confusion..these videos definitely help me feel like there's hope. I hope that the loss of my presence in her life is enough to get her to reconsider!
We're going through it at the same time, brother. It's pretty much hell doing this but I think common experiences between us helps to encourage our venture. Let's get our girls back.
The important thing to remember is to not wait on that to happen. Make sure you live your life without your ex and you'd be surprise to see how much you'll start to feel better. This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html
My ex says he wants to be friends but when I message him he doesn't reply, I messaged him this morning he didn't reply. I will try the no contact rule from tomorrow.
When a breakup happens, most of the time this means he has lost attraction for you, hence, it's a bad move to be friends with him. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
What should I do when no contact period is over but I already told her beforehand that "I don't want to be friends, so you contact me when you change your mind"?
Less talk, less mistakes. Let's just hope the time and space you give her will offset what you said and then give it a try once you're done with the first phase.
The first path towards moving on and getting an ex back follows the same route. It's always best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Hey Brad! Question: A lot of the other break-up coaches I've found claim that the 30 day no contact rule is B.S. and that a little more time is beneficial i.e. 45 or 55 days. Now I'm not sure what to believe. What are your thoughts on this? If I go over the 30 day mark, will this have any negative consequences, and if so, what would they be?
This is why I say AT LEAST 30 days of "no contact" with your ex. Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html
Two years dating my girlfriend, she finally got more power to control the relationship. I was irritated by this after so much fight, begging & pleading I decided to break up with her... Its almost 3 weeks & I'm slowly getting back my life, I'm doing this for my own peace of mind not to get her back.....
My ex is an egoist ! Like super ego!! . If I don't contact him ,or show him the clues of me wanting him back ,he might take it in an opposite way and never come back ! What do i do ?
Decide if you really want to be with someone who has that kind of ego? Look out for other red flags. Oftentimes, it's associated by a behaviour where nothing is ever their fault...which can be tiring for you in the long run.
Hi brad, i completed 35 days no contact..still did't contact her. she is did't unblocked me in social media. what to do next ,,,its second time she blocked me in 6 months..last time she came back on my birthday she called me...so now i dont know what to do.
If you have no other means to contact her, then it could be game over. Otherwise, the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
You're absolutely right with no contact. I followed your advice and it was rough doing no contact and talking to other people and she called me back 3 weeks later trying to go back to what we had
Great! I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ua-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/v-deo.html or from this advice here as well: ua-cam.com/video/-OqYy_DqNJc/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/8gc53SzHrac/v-deo.html All the best! :-)
Brad, what if my ex reacted to my status on Whatsapp during no contact? What should I do? Should I just ignore it till no contact period is over? Its just 3 days going on no contact by the way
Just ignore. Just try to make sure you maximize what you can within this 30-day period such as healing yourself, enjoying your own company, as well as spending time to see where it all went wrong, but only when you start to feel better, so be sure to take time to grieve first and feel the loss and cry all you want but then make an effort to pick yourself up first. Remember, you can't pick someone up (to be back in a relationship with you) if you're also feeling down yourself. Now is the time for self love. So give yourself the time and attention you need to heal first, all right? Good luck!
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ua-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/v-deo.html All the best! :-)
I'm scared to do this. My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago because he said he needed space to heal from past traumas. He said we need a break and probably wont talk as much. Well, he talks to me everyday. Its like nothing has changed and I'm scared I'm just his emotional dumping ground and I'm afraid if I initiate no contact that I will lose him forever.
You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
She said she is just texting me back to help me get out of it... as i called and video texted her crying for few times... I got too abusive, I hurt her big time. During the break up she said she loves me, wants me to shine and suceed, wants to keep good memories, asked me to say sorry to my mom and also said I love you too.... but she said she can't be in relationship ever with me as she wants peace and wants to focus on herself .... Will she come back ever?
Hey man, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but it's time to move on. The relationship has become toxic due to this abuse. Just learn what you can from this relationship and try to change the traits you know you need to change first, before delving into another relationship. So in time, you will be a better, more improved version of yourself. Understand that relationships help us grow and oftentimes it's through separate ways that we all learn the most. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/k1myDIp0gSc/v-deo.html Take care!
Hi Brad. You really help me a lot and I am very grateful! My ex broke up with me a month ago and we agreed being friends, but he kept sending mixed signals. Yesterday he called me to go out and I confronted him about everything because it seems he thinks he didn't have any mistakes in relationship, only me. He was with tears in his eyes, but said he stand behind his words and he loves me, but it's done. I said he doesn't deserve me in his life after he threw it all away and I won't be his friend. This was really the hardest decision and I want him to understand he is wrong, but he doesn't listen to his family either. I won't contact him, but I am afraid he won't come back... I will listen to you and work on myself, but I am scared we lost our love forever.
It's all part of the process when one goes through a breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed signals. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/v-deo.html This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
I am dating a vet. He has been someone that I like but with for 3 months. I have stopped contact. The thing he has PTSD has an angry issue as well as controlling issues.. Really like him but think I may need to getaway. Please give me advice?
Those are some pretty serious red flags there. Are you sure you want to get back together? I suggest you really give it time. You can't help him with his issues, he has to seek therapy for those.
Soooo we’re on day 3. Wish me luck y’all. I’m keepin myself busy with making music and working on my body. After three days she already tried to FaceTime me at night. I can’t wait to see how far I get with my goals while we’re on a break :) One little hangup I’ve had is: “What is the difference between no contact and ghosting?” I don’t wanna be a jerk and leave calls and messages untouched, I just wanna show that I’m not gonna serve as a backup plan, and that I’m busy and happy. I’d love to hear your thoughts if any of you guys have experience in this particular area.
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
I did the 30 days no contact and then reached out, build it up with all my courage, teasing, flirting on the phone, only to be rejected the second time and be told that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me. And he can see through if I pretend to be ‘friends’ in order to get him back... Should I leave it be and let fate decide? Or trying hanging on as friends? He is very adamant on not going for me again, even though he said he is insanely attracted and misses me. He said he will be okay with a real platonic friendship and he hasn’t ever reached out.
Perhaps you pushed way too soon? You should've let the good times roll and not push to get back together right away. Also, subtlety is key. If you've been way too obvious, all exes would really push back. Watch/review the tips here to help you out: ua-cam.com/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/v-deo.html
A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
I messed it up. Achieved no contact of about 7 days. Now sent mixed smses which are a big NO. I am back on square 1! But it's worth the try. Thanks for the advice Brad.
Always give it enough time and space first. At least 30 days should be good enough but don't keep worrying about the breakup. Try to process it instead and heal, all right? You're welcome!
If you've been with him for a significant amount of time, he will remember you if you employ the no contact rule. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, after all!
After 30 days no contact. I wrote my ex. He answered that I did ignore he thought I would write him. But I didn't. And it seems like he is offended at me because of that. He doesn't answer me anymore. 🙈🙈i can't understand him , he has a new girlfriend but he is offended at me because I didn't write. I don't know what to do now. 🤷
Tell your ex you've been busy... and it really helps if you are. So take steps to rebuild your life first. Hang out with friends, family, get a new hobby, join a club, etc. to keep your mind off of things and to process the breakup accordingly and heal. It's all about balance! Take care!
Will it work if he says he is not ready for relationship. Wants to stay single and work on himself mentally, after dating you for 4 months and asking you leave, forgive n forget the relationship we had.
Yes, cut off contact for your own sake. But also keep in mind that it may be unrequited and he simply does not feel "it" for you. Free yourself so that you can have someone who truly loves and appreciates you.
Based upon your previous videos, I implemented the no contact rule properly. But after 45 days of NC when my ex reached out to me, he scolded, blamed me falsely for his loss and broke up once again. I don't know why he did that.
He's bitter and if you haven't done anything, a tad immature, really if he's letting you take all the blame for the breakup. You sure you wanna be with someone like that?
my wife leaving me beacuse i dont have a job and she said she's tired of me and she didn't like me anymore beacuse i cant su🅿️🅿️ort her, i never cheated on her even ones in our ten year relationshi🅿️, and i ask her do you stiLL love me? and she didnt answer and then i ask her again are you cheated on me? and she didnt answer again, i kee🅿️ asking her why did you do this and shes not answering me, so 🅿️lease hel🅿️ me what should i do? the reason that i dont have a job because I resigned on my job beacuse im sick i have vertigo i cant work 🅿️ro🅿️erly but now i fell better.
How long have you been out of work? It's possible your finances have taken its toll in your marriage. Just give her time to miss you first and accept her decision. Fighting it won't help. Work on yourself first and on rebuilding yourself and your life, yeah? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/HHkwa5tbNC0/v-deo.html
What should we do when she will call after no contact period coz You never gave this explanation that if she calls after no contact, then what answer do we give and how to talk?
Ignore it. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. If not, and your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses his/her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
You're not alone as some,if not most people do flunk the 30-day rule. It's what you do next that determines whether you succeed or not, though, so play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/v-deo.html and this is the principle you ought to follow: ua-cam.com/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/v-deo.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
I am at 40 days no contact. Should I try and say something to her? I haven’t heard from her nor reached out. At the breakup I cried and begged. Then I went a week no contact. I broke that and ran into her. I told her I would work on myself. Now it’s been 40 days. I miss her. Do I reach out now?
Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
Hey I’m 17 and my girl was 15 we broke up only because of consistency of arguments that causes no trust in a relationship because insecurities but we we’re together for 8 months and we just broke up we both respectfully agreed for a break up on face time she showed me signs that our break up is temporary she let me know it was be fair the arguments and communication and she said if we weren’t meant to be we will get back together
You two especially your ex, has got a lot of things to learn about relationships. Life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
What if during no contact you start getting text messages asking why you've been out of touch, asking if everything's ok, or asking why you've been so "quiet"? Or I start getting asked how I've been? Do I just keep it short, sweet, and emotionally detatched?
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ua-cam.com/video/tev2-lrJq7o/v-deo.html
I started to do the no contact rule yesterday I hope it goes well and I hope I can make it because this videos of your's helps me a lot and make mw feel better. But as I wake up in the morning I cant help myself but miss him so much! 😭 He told that he wanteed to rest because he's tired of my jealousy and too much protectiveness. Im over thinking most times and super duper get jealous. I admit it! I'm in the stage where I admit all of those mistakes of mine and try to be a better girlfriend but its too late. So September 12 is the day when we fought and we broke up. I did it because he told me "Go break up with me" and I said "Okay fine then break" I thought we will be okay as he came back in their home but its already evening and he's still not talkin to me. So I approached him and that's it. That's the moment hw told me He's tired already of everything. I wish I can make it please give me some advice Mr. @Brad. I wanted to be coached But I don't have money yet 😭 Please help me.
I started yesterday too, her friend told me she asked them if am doing well and if she heard anything from me. Because of my business, her friends are my customers so am in contact with them. I didn’t ask them about her. And I will keep it like that. Today is my day 2.
Hello brad! I have started the no contact since 2 weeks now . And since then i am working on myself more and more ( she looks sad as she is liking to many sad posts and she did some stuff to make jealous) . Next week i will be travelling to her city where we will be introducing our research ( she is with me in it) in a conferance , i don't know if to break the no contact rule and act upbeat and cool or keep up with it . I really need your advice as it maybe my only chance to see her cause after that i will be back home to my city and i don't know when i will go back to hers.
Keep it civil. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
So my ex broke up with me. A week later sent me a message on my birthday. Then my sad depressed self messaged her about three times after. No response. So now it’s definitely no contact.
Hello Coach, Thank you for the ex factor! I was in a short term relationship of less than three months but we've been seeing each other almost everyday.. I didn't chase her after the breakup which was 6 days ago.. Is 30 days nc too much in my case?
Consider moving on from this, especially if it was just a fling to either you or your short-term ex. My program is all about regaining that lost attraction. However, there may not be anything to rebuild here if that's the case because there wasn't any long term bonding or attraction that naturally develops in long term relationships. On the brighter side, here's how the "no contact" rule will work for you, though: ua-cam.com/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/v-deo.html However, you may want to improve your dating skills and Amy North may has a ton of tips on what to do about that, so check out her channel, too. Take care!
@@BradBrowning hey um i'm in a similar situation as that guy...but he contacted me a lot (my ex) i replied his massages tho ik big mistake but if it was just a fling is there any possible way that i could get him back and build a real relationship?
We just broke up aur 7 years relationship. The reason she provided me was by saying she just got into her professional career and her job is too hectic, financial condition not too good, she doesn't want anyone who should ask her what is she doing or where is she heading towards and with whom. She said she want break time and space....... What should i do in this case please help me😭😭😭😭😭
@@aaryagupta1290 no she didn't block me infact we talk daily in chat and once in a day in a call as a friend.... But we don't talk as we used to.....i took her for granted in relationship which i shouldn't have done.... Please let me know what should i do.... I regret for my mistake 😔
Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
Breakups, especially one that isn't initiated by you and more so if it was a long term relationship, will often cause a WAVE of emotions, so up and down emotions are to be expected her. Take your time to heal and ride the waves. :-)
Hey Brad ! Just wanna let you know that my boyfriend is a type of guy who doesn't care even if we break up. I wanna follow your " No contact " rule for straight 30 days , but have the sense that he won't care at all even if I didn't text him or call him. I'm worried what if he forgets me and fall for someone new. Please help me, thanks!
As tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. You doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. So it boils down to two options, really. 1. Employ no contact and keep your dignity while respecting your ex's decision to breakup (why push yourself to someone who doesn't want you?) or Option 2: Do not do no contact and be pathetic. I always advise people to choose option 1 but really, which option you choose is ultimately up to you.
Hi Brad, my boyfriend broke up with me the day before yesterday and he says we can't be together that he doesn't need a girl for now. I just can't stop texting him😭. I really need him. We've had so many things together. Its hard
Brad I have been in a relationship for 5 months. We both love each other enjoy being together, have amazing chemistry but are struggling to deal with resolving disagreements effectively. We have not seen each other for 2 weeks after a recent row and are about to meet today to discuss what we need from each other to make things work. What is the best way to move forward Take things slow and see each other once a week? Before we spent Wednesday to Sunday together. Or plan to go no contact? Do you still think 30 days no contact is the correct time frame?
You both need that clarity first and calm down. Bickering won't help so yes, cut off contact first as necessary. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, I hope you would reply. My ex is now in another country. We were together for almost a year. Then he broke up after more than a month there. It has been 3 weeks since last day. I went so emotional and already threw at him my texts/yelling, he replied all tho. Now I deleted everything and starting this no contact before knowing you. What should I do now? I know I have broken lots of rules there. :(( Should I send him a sorry text and start no contact? Or just keep going like this?
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning Hi Brad. Thanks a lot. After commenting up there, I sent him that msg. Today marks 1 month sharp since that day. He did reply to me with a sorry and that was it. I didn't reply as well and nothing until now. I think I will let it be. I was thinking of sending a msg saying I forgave him, but now I am in a better place mentally and thankful for this breakup for giving me chance to get back to myself. I don't care now if he is back or not. I either have him back or have me back with a better one. In either way, I always earn something. For all of the dumpees out there, I know you will get through this. We don't have to own someone to love them (if he is indeed a great person).
She's left me 3 months before, and i get dippressed but then i try to improve myself so, first thing i did that, i stop chasing girls and trust me she's come back to me today but she is not deserve it, so i said just go and play with someone else
Nothing significant, really. He may not be as active on Instagram or plainly just didn't bother to remove it. It doesn't have any underlying meaning though. If you're looking for signs, here's what to watch out for: ua-cam.com/video/CsVR7yV4X8k/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Thanks for your response! The ex is a she, and she's very active on instagram, much more since we broke up. Also, everything she does is pretty much planned, deliberate and throught through. Does this change your opinion?
You're putting too much emphasis on social media and it means you need to stop looking, especially reaching a point of obsession, at any of your ex's pages, and especially if you're still on the 30-day "no contact" phase. Doing so will not only make you overanalzye and/or worry over the most inconsequential stuff, but you'd also be consumed about thoughts of your ex when this time is supposed to be about YOU. Makes sense? Discussed that unhealthy tendency here: ua-cam.com/video/sJg4udwCS90/v-deo.html
It's actually one of the things I've already discussed here: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 You're not breaking any rules if you greet an ex on their birthday as long as you do it right. So yes, can send your ex a birthday greeting on his/her birthday, just make it quick and direct to the point, end the conversation first too because you're busy (and I'm sure your ex is, too) -- it helps if you really are, so hang out with friends, learn a new skill, etc. Also avoid drama like the plague and don’t get into an argument with your ex at any cost. Be sure to check out my other videos in order not to miss any important tips on the steps to take to get an ex back. Here's a quick infograph to help you out: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
I did this no contact after he break up on me. No contact for only 4 days he message me and want to get together after two weeks didn’t see each other. After 3 weeks he proposed to me 🥰. Now, we are happily engaged 😇. Just be patient and wait for it to turn in your table. Because if they really love you they will come back😍.
Sweet! I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ua-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/v-deo.html All the best! :-)
@@BradBrowning actually it is day 45-60.
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What was the reason he broke up with you?
Wow amazing!
2nd time doing NC rule.
I’m on day 6, wish me luck people.
I’ll keep y’all updated
Best of luck!
Brad Browning thank you!!
Stay strong! I'm on day 1
Yes please update here, Matea. I am currently in 14 days NC. But most likely no high hope, as my ex is in USA while i am in Asia.. i can only hope for the best
@@mateagalic1378 I was NC 3 days post break up 1 week. Things are back to normal. I'm still tryna take it slowly but I felt he just needed a break after the argument to calm down. I don't look at it as a real break up. It was an argument, things got heated. Let the heat simmer down.
I started no contact as soon as she left. 17 days later she was begging for me back.
This would have never happened if I was constantly calling her
during no contact, what did you do :)
@@martisimeonov
Hung out with my friends. Smoked weed (if that's your thing) worked out at home with my weight bench, I walked a LOT! Try walking like in the woods while high on marijuana, it was FANTASTIC !! I also have a child who I hung out with and brought everywhere and just basically chilled (my child is not with the girl we are talking about)...
I wouldn't try to get another girl right away because your heart is with the girl who left you. I tried that and let me tell you it was awful. Only hang out with other girls in the beginning just as friends is fine.
Basically you just got to keep busy, if your mind is busy all the time you don't have time to think about her (easier said than done but you need to do it) Feel free to ask me any questions about anything. I hope I have helped.
GOOD luck to you sir.
Ps. If none of this works, you can always picture her in the toilet with smelly diahreah 🚽🤣🤣😂
Remember, woman are just humans like the rest of us.
True that!
@@BradBrowning
You are a legend Brad, you have taught me so many valuable life lessons about women more than my father has!
I owe you brother✊
Did she left you or was the opposite? My girlfriend recently left me because she wasn't feeling the same things for me as before, she told me she loves me, but not the way I love her
I thought it would take a month or more but she actually called me after a week of no contact and said to meet her
Then she hugged me and cried .
Thank you so much ,😊😊😊
Looks like she regretted the breakup. Good job and congrats! :-)
I HOPE ALL! 😭
@@bebikeyk3692 be strong and trust me it works .
Avi_Praz Gaming sana all!
Any update?
Just listen to this man. No contact rule is the key 👍🏻
Yep - the person will expect you to contact them within 1-2 weeks. If you don't, two things wil start happening in their mind. They will 1) start wondering whether or not you've moved on or forgotten about them triggering an emotional ego reaction. And 2) they will start to have positive recall - i.e they will start to forget about the reasons they lost attraction and instead start to remember the good times you had together and the initimacy you shared. After 3/4 weeks they will usually snap and reach out to find out what's been going on with you. The key is don't reply straight away and don't accept the first invitation to meet up! The first time they ask to meet up say that youre busy and will have a think about another time. then leave them in suspense for a couple days and then offer to have dinner or smething.
@@anikm111maybe she started no contacting. Thinking u move on😁
I probably wouldn’t say “another time”, i would stick with saying im busy that day. How about next week or something
I took a screenshot of this to remind myself everyday!
It really works.
Trust me
There was no hope and ny ex said that we can't get back together but no contact made her come back to me🙂
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ua-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/v-deo.html All the best! :-)
It was for barely 2 weeks....
All you have to do is break all contact with the person and the harder it seems the worthier it is...
You should know that begging won't help...
Break contact completely and your sudden absence from the person's life will make them come back to you.
@@jamieparsons3546 Just do as I mentioned 🙂
@@jamieparsons3546 She might be mad at you.
Just let the things cool down because if you keep begging her and trying to make her love you just after the breakup then you are not doing yourself any good.
The first few days will be a really hard without her but dont let it crumble you and maintain no contact
Wxyys hey, ummm I broke up with my ex last week for a stupid reason, the reason is because one day she went out with her friends 3 boys and i saw her snaps recording other mans and I got jealous and angry. And I was acting dry for 2 days I wasn’t acting normal so she’s like what’s wrong with you? I told her that I don’t like seeing you around other mans you know it makes me jealous. I told her how would you feel if you saw me around girls? She’s like I trust you but I don’t trust the girls around you. I said I feel the same she’s like my bad I didn’t think how would you feel. We were cool that day then the second days she’s like I can’t handle this anymore something it’s bothering me I’m like what is it? She’s like I wanna break up I need some space and I’m distracted with school and family stuff. I’m like we can work on these things we can fix them she’s like I can’t be with you I lost feels towards you why? Because I was acting different like wtf that’s stupid reason you can’t just lose feels to someone just because how they were acting. And now she blocked me everywhere, she said I don’t wanna see your name anywhere. And now I don’t know what to do we were dating for a month only... please help!!!
I worked with Brad one and one. Everything he told me to do i followed, the no contact rule was so effective she contacted me in the 30th day 😃 Brad has taught me some great life lessons and not to make the same mistakes again, the x factor programme is also worth purchasing so you use the techniques effectively.
So ehstx happened in the last year , I just need to know.
I wish I hac enough money to get that program. For now, just keep watching Brad video compilation as a guide. I am now on my 4th week of No Contact and hes sending short message sometimes. Just open and not responding to it. After this 30-45 days of No contact I don’tknow what to do, and what will happen. Since we are on LDR I still love him.
I used no contact properly in 1 month after we break up. So that my ex chat me 😂 i win 😁 and i ignored him in 1 week before i reply his message. Thank you brad browning ☺
73 days of no contact 🤷🏻♀️I don’t really think 30 days is enough. Because the breakup is still fresh. 🤷🏻♀️mine will probably not contact me but it’s ok Bc I’m never going to contact them
But you do gotta contact him now or he'll think you have moved on and will try accepting and moving on too if he's a stubborn and proud even if he wants you.
If you want your ex back, why wait for your ex to run back to you? :-) I never said the "no contact" rule is supposed to go for weeks or months on end. I only said it's for 30 days in about 80% of my videos, didn't I? :-) Anyway getting an ex back, just like anything that's worth having, takes work, so make sure he's/she's worth it. Anyway the "no contact" rule is just the first phase. There are two more phases to getting an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and to initiate communicate, this is the vid: ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html
Completed 14 days of no contact , now I dnt want him anymore. I dnt want same stress and anxiety again 🙂
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is. Best of luck! :-)
Only thing I'm determined to do is live my life not caring whether she comes back or not😂
Opabinia regalis Im dying💀💀💀
what advice can u give me? (im the guy who sent two comments above explaining my situation)
@Opabinia regalis
Sounds like a plan! As what I always say, the decision to get an ex back is totally up to you. You know your ex's worth to you as well as your relationship. So you decide whether this is someone you want to go back to or not. All the best!
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Hi Brad - you are a genius! - thank you! After watching many of your videos for advice, I decided to try no conact carefully and just reply politely to some texts without being rude. I concentrated on my life, hung out with some other girls and friends, of which she was aware, and generally got on with things. After 2 weeks she sent me a text saying 'I miss you', I really miss you. I check my phone constantly. I was waiting or you to write to me with something, but always nothing came to me'. I still kept communication to a minimum. Now we are talking again and she says she wants to build something new between us. Your advice really worked. Thank you so much!
how is it going?
Awesome! You're welcome. Continue to play your cards right and you'll get her back in no time, man! :-)
Trying to do this in a Corona lockdown is going to be horrendous. Wish me luck folks.
Same here
Oh my lord right as the quarantine began my girlfriend broke up with me so I have felt heart broken this entire time
Me too 🙋🏼♀️ it’s hard to keep distracted and motivated when you’re stuck inside and can’t stop thinking about them 😂🤦♀️
Yeaa exactly
@@jamesMdlk break up happened start of January but things have happened since then so not so clear cut.
By acknowledging a break up everyday you give it existence and credibility. A break up is often made worse when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. Remember, you choose to let things bother you, if you waste time and energy on your ex, it is your own fault. For the time being, you must turn your back on what you want, this response is a very good move. It leads to change, and change is good when good. The pros and cons of changing doesn't matter, what matters is becoming a better person.
Yes, thus the need for the "no contact" period to be employed asap instead of trying to push it. Anyway that's a good way of looking at it! Thanks!
And the hard part about this break up now is because it's quarantine :( we're basically home all day
Use your time productively. Here's my stance on the matter: bit.ly/3bn8bPN
Day 2 of NC and it’s already hard! But love the fact that yes it is a great time to focus on myself and find other hobbies I like to do and do it for myself and not for her! I genuinely think she is the one for me. I just feel like I became boring and too predictable like I had no life outside of her which was the reason for the breakup. So I’m going to start going to the gym and possibly get into meditation!
BRO THIS IS ME RIGHT NOW. i was a huge gym rat. I had an amazong physique and she loved that about me. As months went by, we started to get a little chunky, especially for me. I gained so much and stopped doing what i loved. She noticed that and when we moved out of our expensive apartment, she told me that she wanted to seperate but stay friends to focus on ourselves again. Im still in love with her and she already accepted it. I told her i wanted to stay friends but eventually in the future get back together and she seemed to doubt me because only actions speak louder. I guess now i have to do the no contact rule and get back in my prime so she misses me again and doing back what i used to do. Fishing, hiking and becoming a bodybuilder again. MUCH LUCK TO YOU BROTHER. WE CAN BOTH DO THIS MAN
3 days no contact she unblocked me from all social media and stalking me, lol. Our mutual friend told me not jump into any relationship now that made me think she asked her to do so. Now am going on 2 to 4 weeks vacation on an island. Am soooo exited.
Awesome. Have fun!
Updates?
I just broke up with my bf of 4.5 years 2 days ago cuz of some unsolved problems that are piling up. I always believed not contacting them would help them think about the relationship and me--same goes with me. So even though I get so tempted to talk and chat him up, I dont; today is day 2 of our breakup. I was crying moments before I saw this video. Now Im fired up to make a 30-day plan to do fun, new stuff for myself. Whether he and I are meant to be together in the end, only time will tell. Right now, it's all about me. 💕 Lots of love for y'all! We can do this!
Be open-minded about the outcome and yes, crying helps release those emotions as you heal, so it's good, do what you can to heal. I recommend you to employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw
So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Does the no contact rule also apply when I was the one who broke up with my bf? I broke up with him because he was not treating me right and he did not appreciate me enough ..
Yes, but watch this first so you'll know what to expect: ua-cam.com/video/8wq6u-esNOY/v-deo.html
Hi brad
Thank you for your guidance.
I m grateful n thankful to u.
I got my boyfriend back with this no contact rule in just 25 days.
N we r very happy to gather at the same time we hv stronger bonding now.
I followed ur each n every advice n i trust you n ur psychology a lot.
Keep up ur good work.
Stay blessed with happy n healthy life always.
Regards: Binita from india.💖
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ua-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/v-deo.html All the best! :-)
Hey can u tell me.. in no contact, did u post pictures of urself with ur friends to show him or not ?
@bradbrowning today I started no contact rule
Should I block her from all social account??
Staying single is the best. All time for loving oneself and personal development - career, physical fitness, self love.. 😊👌
We were together for a year and he left me 10 days ago. I haven’t contacted him since cause I want him to miss me first. Praying the no contact rule works out so we can talk things out in the end
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw
So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Day 8 into the NC rule. One of the hardest things is to suppress the incessant memories and anxiety about what she's doing, where she is, who she's with, looking at my phone, all the while still trying to bring back control of my life and not go back to the desperation that I constantly feel bubbling under the surface . She's incredibly stubborn, so my hopes are low, but it's worth a try. Anyone had any success?
Sorry to hear. Everyone who's been dumped can relate to what you're saying since that's really how it is and feeling like the pain will have no end, but I promise you there is! Just focus on yourself first and do what you can to not focus on your ex. Most, if not all of my tips are designed to help you feel better about yourself first and your own life, which is a key element in getting an ex back. So yes, technically it's bound to work one way or another. Here are signs the no contact rule is starting to do what its supposed to do: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning During these 30 days of no contact, should I disappear on the social media for a while? Like, really disappear, for at least 2 weeks or so, so she will be missing me and also being super curious about what I'm doing, or should I post a lot of cool stuff? (she still follows me)
Update
@@imissme8313 I persevered with NC for about three months. I caved afterwards, and I sent her a couple of letters/messages but never heard from her ever again. Until, a month ago she reached out to me asking if we could meet because she was going back to her country and not coming back. The absurd selfishness of her reason was that she 'didn't want to regret' not seeing me again and for us to have a proper send off. I was beside myself with disbelief. Not one peep from her until then. I politely declined and now I'll never see her again, but I'm much, much happier than back then.
Hey brad i just love u, Everything u said is happening,even tho we were dating each for just 3 months and we broke(luckily i found u) and after 30 days no contact,i texted her earlier today and she replied within 15 min and there was when she was not even seeing my text,i believe in yu dawg🌹
If you read this comment,just tell me what to do next in brief,pls
Haha that’s great, and thanks for the kind words! Next just play it cool bro, don’t seem to eager to text her back or ask her to hang out too soon. No Contact worked partly because you didn’t appear needy and clingy by chasing your ex... stick to the same strategy and don’t turn her off by being overeager. Good luck boss 👊🏼
@@BradBrowning brad,i asked her for meet up(givin solid) reasons but she said that she had her freshers party this weekend and said sorry,now what?
It’s day one I’m crying like hell... day 30 he will be crying and I’ll be happy
Be strong ✨
That's one strong soul right there! Keep it up because at this time, you really need to take care of you first. So I recommend you to employ the 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw AND y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM
Now once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel: y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do, sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Same here. Its day 4 of NCR. Day 30 she'll be crying and I'll be happy
update?
What do I do when my ex is at social events? Or even at the gym? Should I go to the gym at a different time?
This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Hey I recently broke up with my girlfriend but regretted it immediately and she didn't want to get back as there had been building tensions. We still "love each other" and saw each other yesterday but today I blew it by pressuring her into being with me or not. We dated for a year and 3 months and I surely want her back and have made positive changes. Will the 30 days work?
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Apply the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/8wq6u-esNOY/v-deo.html
As soon as I applied this rule she begged for me back and still is too this day thank you Brad
Good. Meet her halfway if you want her back. You're welcome!
It’s not always 30 days.. it can take longer and that’s what sucks 🤷🏼♀️
True. Patience and determination is needed.
Yep, if someone youre seeing says they think you should have some space, assume no contact for 12 weeks. usually it wont be this long. but even so, if they haven't contacted you by 12 weeks and seems they unlikely will, then by that point you should have moved on enough to not be as hurt by it anyway.
What to do if we meet at my friends place during no contact rule?
What can i do in 30 days locked down in covid? Please, please suggest.
I broke up with my ex 4months ago and I started apply no contact after like 1 month. No result, as I would reply to his texts like 2 weeks later. The real no contact started like 2 months ago, after I said "happy bday" to him. He texted me one week ago out of the blue and we talked for 2 days. The next day, he texted me in the afternoon and we talked non senses, as the days before. Again, we've talked for like 3 days, when yesterday he replied with an emoji and this was when I "seen" him. Today he texted me again and he asked me out. We've spent like 3h talking about uni, his passions and what we've been doing lately. He hugged me when we left and now I'm waiting for the next meet up :).
Thank you, Brad!
You're welcome! Looks like you're all set, yeah? :-) My other videos should help out a bit, too but if you still need my help further on this, however, then you and I both ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis. Please check on availability first because I only have a limited number of clients I can realistically manage before I go into spontaneous combustion. Here’s the link: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad thanks a ton. I followed the no contact strategy. After a week I am getting calls from her. I am not responding but not sure she will be back or not. But this works.
Yep. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
i’m at day 2, already trying to better myself. ready to get him back.
Day 6 ..
She disrespected me last week Thursday then on Sunday I decided to mute 🔇 😒 all her status she was starting to play the jealous game , posting her pictures at restaurants..
It was Killin me to see her happy but I had to avoid contact then I muted all her whatsapp status updates
Awesome! Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. Our relationship have actually been on and off. On January I went back home to Medan and left him in Jakarta. (Which is 2 hours faraway by plane)
Now that I’m back to Jakarta, he told me that he met someone and he picked her over me. But he told me that if this new girl isn’t for him, then he’ll be back to me.
Before that I actually have told him that I want to focus on my career that’s why he started looking for other people.
So yesterday we were officially break up. And this morning he texted me a “good morning” and asked me what am I doing.
I don’t to whether to text him back or to ignore it.
Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
I'm on day one, wish me luck! I'll update you.
Just remember, once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
I did three days of no contact before I texted her. She finally responded. First time in a long time that she responded to my message. She let me come up to her work and see her for about a half hour and we hugged the whole time and even kissed. We had a good conversation, a healthy conversation. We both agreed that we still have a lot of feelings for each other. She thinks right now is not a good time to get back together but she did say if we let some time pass and see where we are then she’s open to that. She even agreed to come over to my apartment soon and spend some time with me. So even though it’s a lot less than I want, I’m making some progress. I just have to keep it up and I hope I can win her back eventually.
Three days of no contact is such a short time, though. I more often than not recommend the 30-day rule. There's a possibility of confusing messages from your ex most likely, unless the breakup was temporary and she asks for you back !
My only regret is that why I didn't get your videos a month back!! I feel so lost and stupid because of it. But still I'll use your advice in the future for sure. Thank you Brad!
You're welcome! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! 🙂
She broke up with me a little under a month ago, but our relationship was only around 3.5 months long. I haven't contacted her since we broke up. Should I make the first move and reach out?
NO!! Don't you dare 😵 be strong. Go hang out with friends, do things like hitting the gym .. keep busy. They always come back. Sometimes on time sometimes when it's too late. When someone dumps you they're literally telling you they don't want you. So show that you're okay with it until they come back.. and even when they do don't just jump right back into it. Let her work her way to getting you back. You're not a thing that can be thrown and taken back just like that. Whether you were together for two months or two years, know your worth!!! All in all, I hope she didn't break up with you because you cheated or you did something that can't be overlooked
Yes, assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
I started doing no contact rule after 1 and half month of my breakup! Will it still work?
It's your best bet. Make sure you follow the tips here as well: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning it actually worked!!!! I cut all contacts and worked out well as expected!!! Thanks for the videos!
hay brad,been watching some of your videos about winning ex's back , thanks for all your advice,you really saved my life with these kinda videos,hope you're always making content about relationship and deal with ex's like this in the future to help other people too
Hey you're welcome! And yes, I've always been posting for many years now so stay tuned. Check out my other vids.
Day 11 of No Contact...I'm still constantly filled with anxiety and confusion..these videos definitely help me feel like there's hope. I hope that the loss of my presence in her life is enough to get her to reconsider!
We're going through it at the same time, brother. It's pretty much hell doing this but I think common experiences between us helps to encourage our venture. Let's get our girls back.
Same situation
Wish you good luck brother.
The important thing to remember is to not wait on that to happen. Make sure you live your life without your ex and you'd be surprise to see how much you'll start to feel better. This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html
My ex says he wants to be friends but when I message him he doesn't reply, I messaged him this morning he didn't reply. I will try the no contact rule from tomorrow.
When a breakup happens, most of the time this means he has lost attraction for you, hence, it's a bad move to be friends with him. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
What should I do when no contact period is over but I already told her beforehand that "I don't want to be friends, so you contact me when you change your mind"?
Less talk, less mistakes. Let's just hope the time and space you give her will offset what you said and then give it a try once you're done with the first phase.
I don’t want my ex anymore we’ve been going through this for three years is six or seven different times she’s changed her mind and fed up with it.
The first path towards moving on and getting an ex back follows the same route. It's always best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Hey Brad! Question: A lot of the other break-up coaches I've found claim that the 30 day no contact rule is B.S. and that a little more time is beneficial i.e. 45 or 55 days. Now I'm not sure what to believe. What are your thoughts on this? If I go over the 30 day mark, will this have any negative consequences, and if so, what would they be?
This is why I say AT LEAST 30 days of "no contact" with your ex. Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html
Two years dating my girlfriend, she finally got more power to control the relationship. I was irritated by this after so much fight, begging & pleading I decided to break up with her... Its almost 3 weeks & I'm slowly getting back my life, I'm doing this for my own peace of mind not to get her back.....
Awesome! Your self love and self worth should come first especially after you've done your best to try to fix things with her.
Two of my exes reach out to me after 10 years last week.😂😂😂😂
Seems like you've become some sort of ex-magnet now. lol
Law of attraction 🤣
see! NC worked 😂
My ex is an egoist ! Like super ego!! . If I don't contact him ,or show him the clues of me wanting him back ,he might take it in an opposite way and never come back ! What do i do ?
Decide if you really want to be with someone who has that kind of ego? Look out for other red flags. Oftentimes, it's associated by a behaviour where nothing is ever their fault...which can be tiring for you in the long run.
Again a huge Hello hope you are fine ! I wish you get lots of success.😊
Many thanks, black beauty! :-) Take care.
Hi brad, i completed 35 days no contact..still did't contact her. she is did't unblocked me in social media.
what to do next ,,,its second time she blocked me in 6 months..last time she came back on my birthday she called me...so now i dont know what to do.
If you have no other means to contact her, then it could be game over. Otherwise, the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
it works. I can't believe it omg
You're absolutely right with no contact. I followed your advice and it was rough doing no contact and talking to other people and she called me back 3 weeks later trying to go back to what we had
Great! I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ua-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/v-deo.html or from this advice here as well: ua-cam.com/video/-OqYy_DqNJc/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/8gc53SzHrac/v-deo.html All the best! :-)
Brad, what if my ex reacted to my status on Whatsapp during no contact? What should I do? Should I just ignore it till no contact period is over? Its just 3 days going on no contact by the way
Just ignore. Just try to make sure you maximize what you can within this 30-day period such as healing yourself, enjoying your own company, as well as spending time to see where it all went wrong, but only when you start to feel better, so be sure to take time to grieve first and feel the loss and cry all you want but then make an effort to pick yourself up first. Remember, you can't pick someone up (to be back in a relationship with you) if you're also feeling down yourself. Now is the time for self love. So give yourself the time and attention you need to heal first, all right? Good luck!
I use no contact now 2days now and this morning she contact me but i ignore her.. i hope after 30days she still love me.. coz ii love her so much
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
Braaad, I'm Soo glad, that my girl became mad . Ty's fr your tips it worked out,my ex is my present again 💓💓
I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. Now as what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ua-cam.com/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/v-deo.html All the best! :-)
Are you guys still together?
I'm scared to do this. My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago because he said he needed space to heal from past traumas. He said we need a break and probably wont talk as much. Well, he talks to me everyday. Its like nothing has changed and I'm scared I'm just his emotional dumping ground and I'm afraid if I initiate no contact that I will lose him forever.
You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Outstanding advice!
Thank you!
So this is where the legends were born lol 😂 Opus n Coach T
She said she is just texting me back to help me get out of it... as i called and video texted her crying for few times...
I got too abusive, I hurt her big time. During the break up she said she loves me, wants me to shine and suceed, wants to keep good memories, asked me to say sorry to my mom and also said I love you too.... but she said she can't be in relationship ever with me as she wants peace and wants to focus on herself .... Will she come back ever?
Hey man, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but it's time to move on. The relationship has become toxic due to this abuse. Just learn what you can from this relationship and try to change the traits you know you need to change first, before delving into another relationship. So in time, you will be a better, more improved version of yourself. Understand that relationships help us grow and oftentimes it's through separate ways that we all learn the most. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/k1myDIp0gSc/v-deo.html Take care!
Hi Brad. You really help me a lot and I am very grateful! My ex broke up with me a month ago and we agreed being friends, but he kept sending mixed signals. Yesterday he called me to go out and I confronted him about everything because it seems he thinks he didn't have any mistakes in relationship, only me. He was with tears in his eyes, but said he stand behind his words and he loves me, but it's done. I said he doesn't deserve me in his life after he threw it all away and I won't be his friend. This was really the hardest decision and I want him to understand he is wrong, but he doesn't listen to his family either. I won't contact him, but I am afraid he won't come back... I will listen to you and work on myself, but I am scared we lost our love forever.
It's all part of the process when one goes through a breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed signals. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/v-deo.html This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
Update?
I am dating a vet. He has been someone that I like but with for 3 months. I have stopped contact. The thing he has PTSD has an angry issue as well as controlling issues.. Really like him but think I may need to getaway. Please give me advice?
Those are some pretty serious red flags there. Are you sure you want to get back together? I suggest you really give it time. You can't help him with his issues, he has to seek therapy for those.
Soooo we’re on day 3. Wish me luck y’all. I’m keepin myself busy with making music and working on my body. After three days she already tried to FaceTime me at night. I can’t wait to see how far I get with my goals while we’re on a break :) One little hangup I’ve had is: “What is the difference between no contact and ghosting?” I don’t wanna be a jerk and leave calls and messages untouched, I just wanna show that I’m not gonna serve as a backup plan, and that I’m busy and happy. I’d love to hear your thoughts if any of you guys have experience in this particular area.
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
If they messaged me , can I leave them on seen ? Or should I not open their messages at all ? Thank you for amazing advices❤️
Brother no contact works so damn good.....🖤
I did the 30 days no contact and then reached out, build it up with all my courage, teasing, flirting on the phone, only to be rejected the second time and be told that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me. And he can see through if I pretend to be ‘friends’ in order to get him back... Should I leave it be and let fate decide? Or trying hanging on as friends? He is very adamant on not going for me again, even though he said he is insanely attracted and misses me. He said he will be okay with a real platonic friendship and he hasn’t ever reached out.
Perhaps you pushed way too soon? You should've let the good times roll and not push to get back together right away. Also, subtlety is key. If you've been way too obvious, all exes would really push back. Watch/review the tips here to help you out: ua-cam.com/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/v-deo.html
I’m on my 5th day! It’s so hard. I’m always tempted to reply or chat him. But I think, he is very happy that we broke up.
Update: We got back together lol 😂 Me is so marupok
A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
I messed it up. Achieved no contact of about 7 days. Now sent mixed smses which are a big NO. I am back on square 1! But it's worth the try. Thanks for the advice Brad.
Always give it enough time and space first. At least 30 days should be good enough but don't keep worrying about the breakup. Try to process it instead and heal, all right? You're welcome!
How do I start this... Like what do I say before I start this to make sure he remembers me?
If you've been with him for a significant amount of time, he will remember you if you employ the no contact rule. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, after all!
After 30 days no contact. I wrote my ex. He answered that I did ignore he thought I would write him. But I didn't. And it seems like he is offended at me because of that. He doesn't answer me anymore. 🙈🙈i can't understand him , he has a new girlfriend but he is offended at me because I didn't write. I don't know what to do now. 🤷
Tell your ex you've been busy... and it really helps if you are. So take steps to rebuild your life first. Hang out with friends, family, get a new hobby, join a club, etc. to keep your mind off of things and to process the breakup accordingly and heal. It's all about balance! Take care!
Great videos brad.
Ok so after 30 days, i contact her.
How long after that do i send a message to arrange meeting up for coffee or lunch ?
Thanks.
Try to get to this point first: ua-cam.com/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/v-deo.html
Will it work if he says he is not ready for relationship. Wants to stay single and work on himself mentally, after dating you for 4 months and asking you leave, forgive n forget the relationship we had.
I started on 23 Jun brad. I hope it will work 🙋 OTHERWISE i will get better person.
That's great thinking, yup! Stay strong! Know your worth and love yourself first, yeah? Best of luck!
Can I use no contact on a person who isn’t an ex? I got friend zoned and have kept contact as the “friend”. What do I do?
Yes, cut off contact for your own sake. But also keep in mind that it may be unrequited and he simply does not feel "it" for you. Free yourself so that you can have someone who truly loves and appreciates you.
Based upon your previous videos, I implemented the no contact rule properly. But after 45 days of NC when my ex reached out to me, he scolded, blamed me falsely for his loss and broke up once again. I don't know why he did that.
He's bitter and if you haven't done anything, a tad immature, really if he's letting you take all the blame for the breakup. You sure you wanna be with someone like that?
my wife leaving me beacuse i dont have a job and she said she's tired of me and she didn't like me anymore beacuse i cant su🅿️🅿️ort her, i never cheated on her even ones in our ten year relationshi🅿️, and i ask her do you stiLL love me? and she didnt answer and then i ask her again are you cheated on me? and she didnt answer again, i kee🅿️ asking her why did you do this and shes not answering me, so 🅿️lease hel🅿️ me what should i do? the reason that i dont have a job because I resigned on my job beacuse im sick i have vertigo i cant work 🅿️ro🅿️erly but now i fell better.
How long have you been out of work? It's possible your finances have taken its toll in your marriage. Just give her time to miss you first and accept her decision. Fighting it won't help. Work on yourself first and on rebuilding yourself and your life, yeah? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/HHkwa5tbNC0/v-deo.html
What should we do when she will call after no contact period coz You never gave this explanation that if she calls after no contact, then what answer do we give and how to talk?
Ignore it. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. If not, and your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses his/her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
Thank you so much brad sir
And lots of love from india🤗😘
anand bhai kesa chal rha ab sab?
My ex is sick and going to psicologo, should I ask her how she is doing and break the no contact rule?
Don't do that. In this case, you may want to wait for her to contact you.
@@BradBrowning thank u
Tomorrow will be my day 1 of no contact. I messed up today and tried to contact my ex. I feel so embarrassed 😩
Its ok because i did it too 😭
Judy Tregarthen hey, how is goin? I am starting NCR from now😭
You're not alone as some,if not most people do flunk the 30-day rule. It's what you do next that determines whether you succeed or not, though, so play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/v-deo.html and this is the principle you ought to follow: ua-cam.com/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/v-deo.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
I am at 40 days no contact. Should I try and say something to her? I haven’t heard from her nor reached out. At the breakup I cried and begged. Then I went a week no contact. I broke that and ran into her. I told her I would work on myself. Now it’s been 40 days. I miss her. Do I reach out now?
Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
What if she chatted me "Happy Birthday" should I respond and thank her? I'm on my 3weeks and 2days of no contact.
Yes, just a simple thanks will do if she took the time out to greet you.
Faharnniccah Castro No!
Hey I’m 17 and my girl was 15 we broke up only because of consistency of arguments that causes no trust in a relationship because insecurities but we we’re together for 8 months and we just broke up we both respectfully agreed for a break up on face time she showed me signs that our break up is temporary she let me know it was be fair the arguments and communication and she said if we weren’t meant to be we will get back together
You two especially your ex, has got a lot of things to learn about relationships. Life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
I was watching ur videos,and then a new one came😁😁
Thanks for watching! :-)
What if during no contact you start getting text messages asking why you've been out of touch, asking if everything's ok, or asking why you've been so "quiet"? Or I start getting asked how I've been? Do I just keep it short, sweet, and emotionally detatched?
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ua-cam.com/video/tev2-lrJq7o/v-deo.html
I started to do the no contact rule yesterday I hope it goes well and I hope I can make it because this videos of your's helps me a lot and make mw feel better. But as I wake up in the morning I cant help myself but miss him so much! 😭 He told that he wanteed to rest because he's tired of my jealousy and too much protectiveness. Im over thinking most times and super duper get jealous. I admit it! I'm in the stage where I admit all of those mistakes of mine and try to be a better girlfriend but its too late. So September 12 is the day when we fought and we broke up. I did it because he told me "Go break up with me" and I said "Okay fine then break" I thought we will be okay as he came back in their home but its already evening and he's still not talkin to me. So I approached him and that's it. That's the moment hw told me He's tired already of everything. I wish I can make it please give me some advice Mr. @Brad. I wanted to be coached But I don't have money yet 😭 Please help me.
I started yesterday too, her friend told me she asked them if am doing well and if she heard anything from me. Because of my business, her friends are my customers so am in contact with them. I didn’t ask them about her. And I will keep it like that. Today is my day 2.
Give him space and let him miss you. Also watch this to learn from your mistakes: ua-cam.com/video/qQu5YL5saDI/v-deo.html
Does watching a Snapchat/Instagram story still count as no contact? How about liking an Instagram post?
Hello brad! I have started the no contact since 2 weeks now . And since then i am working on myself more and more ( she looks sad as she is liking to many sad posts and she did some stuff to make jealous) . Next week i will be travelling to her city where we will be introducing our research ( she is with me in it) in a conferance , i don't know if to break the no contact rule and act upbeat and cool or keep up with it . I really need your advice as it maybe my only chance to see her cause after that i will be back home to my city and i don't know when i will go back to hers.
Keep it civil. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
So my ex broke up with me. A week later sent me a message on my birthday.
Then my sad depressed self messaged her about three times after. No response.
So now it’s definitely no contact.
Hello Coach,
Thank you for the ex factor!
I was in a short term relationship of less than three months but we've been seeing each other almost everyday.. I didn't chase her after the breakup which was 6 days ago.. Is 30 days nc too much in my case?
Consider moving on from this, especially if it was just a fling to either you or your short-term ex. My program is all about regaining that lost attraction. However, there may not be anything to rebuild here if that's the case because there wasn't any long term bonding or attraction that naturally develops in long term relationships. On the brighter side, here's how the "no contact" rule will work for you, though: ua-cam.com/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/v-deo.html However, you may want to improve your dating skills and Amy North may has a ton of tips on what to do about that, so check out her channel, too. Take care!
@@BradBrowning hey um i'm in a similar situation as that guy...but he contacted me a lot (my ex) i replied his massages tho ik big mistake but if it was just a fling is there any possible way that i could get him back and build a real relationship?
We just broke up aur 7 years relationship. The reason she provided me was by saying she just got into her professional career and her job is too hectic, financial condition not too good, she doesn't want anyone who should ask her what is she doing or where is she heading towards and with whom. She said she want break time and space....... What should i do in this case please help me😭😭😭😭😭
listen
did she block you?
@@aaryagupta1290 no she didn't block me infact we talk daily in chat and once in a day in a call as a friend.... But we don't talk as we used to.....i took her for granted in relationship which i shouldn't have done.... Please let me know what should i do.... I regret for my mistake 😔
Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
I just realized I'm only on day 8 😂😂😂 if I'm this happy by 30 days I'm sure I'll be over it lol
Breakups, especially one that isn't initiated by you and more so if it was a long term relationship, will often cause a WAVE of emotions, so up and down emotions are to be expected her. Take your time to heal and ride the waves. :-)
@@BradBrowning thank you!
How did you do?
Hey Brad ! Just wanna let you know that my boyfriend is a type of guy who doesn't care even if we break up. I wanna follow your " No contact " rule for straight 30 days , but have the sense that he won't care at all even if I didn't text him or call him. I'm worried what if he forgets me and fall for someone new. Please help me, thanks!
As tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. You doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. So it boils down to two options, really. 1. Employ no contact and keep your dignity while respecting your ex's decision to breakup (why push yourself to someone who doesn't want you?) or Option 2: Do not do no contact and be pathetic. I always advise people to choose option 1 but really, which option you choose is ultimately up to you.
Thank you Brad for another great video.
Thanks for watching!
Hi Brad, my boyfriend broke up with me the day before yesterday and he says we can't be together that he doesn't need a girl for now. I just can't stop texting him😭. I really need him. We've had so many things together. Its hard
It's not easy, but you should still do "no contact" if you want to salvage any chance of getting back with your ex, Nuruh.
Brad I have been in a relationship for 5 months.
We both love each other enjoy being together, have amazing chemistry but are struggling to deal with resolving disagreements effectively.
We have not seen each other for 2 weeks after a recent row and are about to meet today to discuss what we need from each other to make things work.
What is the best way to move forward
Take things slow and see each other once a week?
Before we spent Wednesday to Sunday together.
Or plan to go no contact?
Do you still think 30 days no contact is the correct time frame?
You both need that clarity first and calm down. Bickering won't help so yes, cut off contact first as necessary. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, I hope you would reply. My ex is now in another country. We were together for almost a year. Then he broke up after more than a month there. It has been 3 weeks since last day. I went so emotional and already threw at him my texts/yelling, he replied all tho. Now I deleted everything and starting this no contact before knowing you. What should I do now? I know I have broken lots of rules there. :(( Should I send him a sorry text and start no contact? Or just keep going like this?
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning Hi Brad. Thanks a lot. After commenting up there, I sent him that msg. Today marks 1 month sharp since that day. He did reply to me with a sorry and that was it. I didn't reply as well and nothing until now. I think I will let it be. I was thinking of sending a msg saying I forgave him, but now I am in a better place mentally and thankful for this breakup for giving me chance to get back to myself. I don't care now if he is back or not. I either have him back or have me back with a better one. In either way, I always earn something. For all of the dumpees out there, I know you will get through this. We don't have to own someone to love them (if he is indeed a great person).
hey brad ! just wanted to ask what does the period of no contact depend on exactly .. i watched all your videos and i didn’t understand that point tbh
I'm not sure I understand what you're trying to ask. The no contact rule doesn't depend on anything. Once a breakup happens, it's your best route!
It depends on human psychology.
She's left me 3 months before, and i get dippressed but then i try to improve myself so, first thing i did that, i stop chasing girls and trust me she's come back to me today but she is not deserve it, so i said just go and play with someone else
Hey Brad, question: what does it mean when your ex still has a photo up of you two together on instagram?
Nothing significant, really. He may not be as active on Instagram or plainly just didn't bother to remove it. It doesn't have any underlying meaning though. If you're looking for signs, here's what to watch out for: ua-cam.com/video/CsVR7yV4X8k/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Thanks for your response! The ex is a she, and she's very active on instagram, much more since we broke up. Also, everything she does is pretty much planned, deliberate and throught through. Does this change your opinion?
You're putting too much emphasis on social media and it means you need to stop looking, especially reaching a point of obsession, at any of your ex's pages, and especially if you're still on the 30-day "no contact" phase. Doing so will not only make you overanalzye and/or worry over the most inconsequential stuff, but you'd also be consumed about thoughts of your ex when this time is supposed to be about YOU. Makes sense? Discussed that unhealthy tendency here: ua-cam.com/video/sJg4udwCS90/v-deo.html
am in no contact situation but my EX her birthday is after 3 days what should I do
It's actually one of the things I've already discussed here: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 You're not breaking any rules if you greet an ex on their birthday as long as you do it right. So yes, can send your ex a birthday greeting on his/her birthday, just make it quick and direct to the point, end the conversation first too because you're busy (and I'm sure your ex is, too) -- it helps if you really are, so hang out with friends, learn a new skill, etc. Also avoid drama like the plague and don’t get into an argument with your ex at any cost. Be sure to check out my other videos in order not to miss any important tips on the steps to take to get an ex back. Here's a quick infograph to help you out: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html