I Came Out As Trans To My Family

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  • @andrea7mares
    @andrea7mares 3 роки тому +387

    Y'all!!! I am beyond honored by all the love and support. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
    This video was especially meaningful to share because I know that a lot of people don't have the same blessing of a supportive family and we wanted to celebrate that they exist! If you don't find the same support in your family, then please remember that your chosen family is just as important! You don't have to do anything alone.
    I am so happy that we were able to highlight the abundance of love and stability that I had in my life at the time; it made my decision and first year of transitioning much more smooth. Love you all!

    • @nocomment7151
      @nocomment7151 3 роки тому +4

      you are amazing!

    • @ellieflutser1477
      @ellieflutser1477 3 роки тому +4

      You are an amazing human being and being trans doesn't change that! Take pride in who you are and rejoice in yourself! Loads of love from the bottom of my heart, Andrea!

    • @Howficklemyheart
      @Howficklemyheart 3 роки тому +3

      Andrea, I have always felt such a calming energy from you and I’m happy that you get to feel calm within yourself. I am so proud of you and sharing your story. I am honored to be able to watch you grow into yourself. Lots of love 💖💖💖

    • @scottjohnstontheii9287
      @scottjohnstontheii9287 3 роки тому +2

      Whos denying you exist ? most normal people just dont want to pretend that this guy is a women 🤦‍♂️😂

    • @nocomment7151
      @nocomment7151 3 роки тому +5

      @@scottjohnstontheii9287 don't be hateful

  • @Lara-SM
    @Lara-SM 3 роки тому +473

    When she said: "Then you don't really love all of me. You really only love what you want to love". I felt that. It's one issue I think many parents have and do not realize.

    • @nocomment7151
      @nocomment7151 3 роки тому +4

      same

    • @crumblemuffin1257
      @crumblemuffin1257 3 роки тому +5

      It hit home strongly because it can be so relatable,regardless of sexuality and gender

    • @LaDominicana33
      @LaDominicana33 3 роки тому +4

      Broke my heart because those are my parents with me and my sexuality. I vow to not do that with my own daughter.

    • @Lara-SM
      @Lara-SM 3 роки тому +2

      @@LaDominicana33 It's a hard situation, any relationship is a bidirectional path. Both have to walk towards the other. No matter how much you put into it, you cannot make it count for the other person. If they don't want to put the work that creates toxicity. Parents take for granted our relationship, and instead of educating themselves and growing together they expect us to just deal w/ it. Even if it hurts we must fight for us. Our health and happiness. I hope parents like this, see past their pride but most don't. And we have to make peace with that, because as long as they behave like that, they are not parents.

    • @f4rhan_179
      @f4rhan_179 3 роки тому

      Find someone that asked

  • @ruthiglesias1563
    @ruthiglesias1563 3 роки тому +134

    I love Andrea's sister. She is so well spoken on women's expectations.

    • @attheincline
      @attheincline 3 роки тому +11

      Thank you! I wish I had been a little more exact with my words, but I was so nervous about being on camera!!! 🙈

    • @ruthiglesias1563
      @ruthiglesias1563 3 роки тому +5

      You were wonderful out was so eloquent. It's a great perspective on Andrea's opportunity to see both sides.

  • @FlotsamCarnage
    @FlotsamCarnage 3 роки тому +60

    I love the realness of your conversation with her mother, she stumbled on your pronouns and expressed that she feared for your safety, but when she started talking about being your authentic self, and going to women’s events together, I saw so much love for you in her expression.

  • @SoulRaag
    @SoulRaag 3 роки тому +72

    When Grandma asked her "are you happy?" i was gone, sobbing. That's all you need from the people around you - for them to love you for you and to look out for your own happiness

    • @f4rhan_179
      @f4rhan_179 3 роки тому

      Who asked

    • @aestheticxbluberry3967
      @aestheticxbluberry3967 3 роки тому +3

      @@f4rhan_179 SHUT UP YOU ARE PROBABLY A 10 YEAR OLD BOY SHE CAN DO WHAT SHE WANTS.......WHO ASKED FOR YOUR OPINION

  • @meercia
    @meercia 3 роки тому +181

    When the grandmother said "That's the only thing we want. That you are happy and that you find your path"
    Omg i teared up 🥺

    • @f4rhan_179
      @f4rhan_179 3 роки тому

      Who asked

    • @meercia
      @meercia 3 роки тому +1

      @@f4rhan_179 who cares about you, anime freak

    • @bearslovecoffee
      @bearslovecoffee 3 роки тому

      Bawling T_____________T

  • @daphne0123
    @daphne0123 3 роки тому +171

    There's no superpower like the love of a grandmother

  • @LaDominicana33
    @LaDominicana33 3 роки тому +38

    Your family home is absolutely gorgeous. Thank you for bringing us into such a private space for your family or for bringing us along for this extremely personal journey.

  • @Barbs_Collectibles
    @Barbs_Collectibles 3 роки тому +102

    I have an aunt that transitioned in the 70's I think. The reason I said I think is because I never knew that she was born a boy. No one would say anything about it. We loved her because she was cool. Lol. She was the only aunt I like to have babysit me. Lmbo.

    • @dfjulesful
      @dfjulesful 3 роки тому +6

      Wow that's so unusual for back then! Also props to your family for not outing her to you

  • @hollydee1171
    @hollydee1171 3 роки тому +78

    This is such a good series. Buzzfeed should feel so honored they have an employee who is willing to be so open and vulnerable about her experience.

  • @mistyautumnryvlin5791
    @mistyautumnryvlin5791 3 роки тому +127

    2 of my daughters just came out to me last month. They were so scared but I already knew, LOVE IS LOVE. Thank you for sharing your journey ❤️♥️❤️

    • @f4rhan_179
      @f4rhan_179 3 роки тому

      Find somebody that asked

    • @mistyautumnryvlin5791
      @mistyautumnryvlin5791 3 роки тому +2

      @@f4rhan_179 okay. Thank you for your input and Bless Your Heart darlin ❤️

    • @mistyautumnryvlin5791
      @mistyautumnryvlin5791 3 роки тому +1

      @Lemon Clock 🥰🥰🥰

    • @iliketogrowplants
      @iliketogrowplants 3 роки тому +1

      @@f4rhan_179 who asked for your response to the original comment?

    • @averystevens1606
      @averystevens1606 3 роки тому +1

      aww that made me soo happy. ❤️❤️😩😭 I wish i had the courage to tell my mom. She would literally eat me alive.

  • @kierraadele
    @kierraadele 3 роки тому +24

    Omg her family is so sweet and cute!!their home is absolutely beautiful...your awesome!!

  • @luqicharmz
    @luqicharmz 3 роки тому +18

    My son is a transman that just graduated high school. The greatest moment is when an estranged member of our extended family stopped by the party to congratulate him. I told her, “Actually, his name is Alex now. He’s a boy so uses he/him pronouns” She didn’t miss a beat just turned back to him and said, “It’s great to meet you, Alex”.

  • @juna8089
    @juna8089 3 роки тому +13

    God I love her family so much. That unconditional love and openness to accept her and love her while she is transitioning. This video made me feel fuzzy inside. Despite how hard the journey and the process is. Andrea, you have a family who will always love you and stand by your side no matter.

    • @juna8089
      @juna8089 3 роки тому +1

      Also I wrote my first comment before finishing the last 20 seconds, but you are already a woman you do not have to have breasts and less body hair. You are who you are which is a woman named Andrea who is living their best life despite how hard it is to navigate in a society that has a lot to learn still.

    • @f4rhan_179
      @f4rhan_179 3 роки тому

      Who asked

  • @dawnhopkins3085
    @dawnhopkins3085 3 роки тому +11

    IDK why but I started crying tears of joy when grandma was talking to her :) she has such a great family all in all

  • @gauzeeeee
    @gauzeeeee 3 роки тому +2

    This video is qualityyyyyyy. Hoping it blows up

  • @SimplyyLizzie
    @SimplyyLizzie 3 роки тому +6

    Proud of you Andrea. Love from Jerez, Zacatecas 💚❤️🇲🇽

  • @kaylaward9673
    @kaylaward9673 3 роки тому +2

    I’ve seen you at buzzfeed for years. I’m so glad you’re more comfortable in your skin! Love you❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @bakergeetee
    @bakergeetee 3 роки тому +23

    Andrea's family is so beautiful. Their love and support is everything, and that they've, showed up, are jumping in and doing the work makes my heart happy. Congratulations, Andrea!

  • @mamashell2340
    @mamashell2340 3 роки тому +6

    As a mom of a trans young man I want you to know first thank you for sharing your story. Also from the parent stand point please know that no matter how open or ready (we knew for a long time but waited till he was ready to come out) it's a bit more difficult for us. We in a sense have to let go of a child and welcome another. Also habit is a huge part of it. When you have called someone a pronoun for legit their whole life it takes some time to change that habit. They will get there. I promise.

  • @aryakamali2418
    @aryakamali2418 3 роки тому +6

    I came out as trans to my mom when i was 14, I know how you are feeling right now, I love how your family supports you. I hope everything goes amazing for you queen

    • @f4rhan_179
      @f4rhan_179 3 роки тому +1

      Find somebody that asked

    • @aryakamali2418
      @aryakamali2418 3 роки тому +3

      @@f4rhan_179 you did that for what✋

  • @Notcoral89
    @Notcoral89 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you for sharing your journey Mares!! This is so beautiful

  • @leehannuel
    @leehannuel 3 роки тому +27

    i love that her family is so supportive, that's amazing.

  • @Bella24.
    @Bella24. 3 роки тому +4

    Never understood why people hate or attack on trans, gays.... let them be happy we all deserve to be happy. Be you be proud and live YOUR life. So happy for you beautiful.

    • @andresmcjr
      @andresmcjr 2 роки тому

      His choices make me unhappy, they make God unhappy, what now? Does his happiness matter more than mine? Or gods?

    • @andresmcjr
      @andresmcjr 2 роки тому

      Answer the question

  • @Chicabitty1
    @Chicabitty1 3 роки тому +4

    What would we do without grandmas!? They are the best gift

  • @demonicastar
    @demonicastar 3 роки тому +1

    I'm subscribing just to keep up with her journey. Andrea really seems like a beautiful soul, I don't know what it is about her that gives off that vibe but I wish her the best.

  • @mythdragia5866
    @mythdragia5866 3 роки тому +4

    Andrea you are so brave. And have many supportive family. I'm so proud for you. I'm not so brave as you💞

  • @itsmissy1884
    @itsmissy1884 3 роки тому +39

    Love the support that I’m seeing

  • @FallonFontaine
    @FallonFontaine 3 роки тому +41

    What some Trans people need to realize is while a family is trying to be supportive, it takes time to adjust to the new you. Don't be disappointed if they're actively trying to love you no matter who you choose to be. Give them room to grow just like you needed that room.

    • @laurenelizabeth1390
      @laurenelizabeth1390 3 роки тому +4

      I love how you put this! Both sides need to be understanding. This is a change but know you're blessed to have that support from your family as so many others do not.

    • @f4rhan_179
      @f4rhan_179 3 роки тому

      Who asked

  • @caitlinnance9431
    @caitlinnance9431 3 роки тому

    You are SO beautiful, inside and out

  • @abby78810
    @abby78810 3 роки тому +14

    This is such an enlightening and beautiful story. I'm so happy Andrea feels comfortable enough to share her story with the world and educate us. I'm learning so much

  • @elizabethconroy7665
    @elizabethconroy7665 3 роки тому +1

    Gorgeous
    As a Cis Woman must say I support you completely
    Your beautiful Mother loves you dearly
    They are proud of you
    God Bless you all
    Hugs

  • @Hannah-ug8gy
    @Hannah-ug8gy 3 роки тому +5

    Her hair looks so cute 😍😍

    • @f4rhan_179
      @f4rhan_179 3 роки тому

      🧢🧢

    • @Hannah-ug8gy
      @Hannah-ug8gy 3 роки тому

      @@f4rhan_179 don't worry,,your hair is questionable but cool too

  • @irvsyaoran
    @irvsyaoran 3 роки тому +2

    Okay but like which episode is this and where do I find the very first one? I just found this right now and I'm so happy I did, I want to watch all of it!!! I feel so identified in so many levels

    • @teeluh1
      @teeluh1 3 роки тому +1

      ua-cam.com/play/PLsnn3y6A28HEui1uhVXHPQnw4Rt1LwsrI.html this is the playlist of all of them if you are still looking. If not maybe someone else will need it :3

    • @irvsyaoran
      @irvsyaoran 3 роки тому +1

      @@teeluh1 thank you, I already watched the whole thing. I wish it was longer though :(

  • @Saxophrenic25
    @Saxophrenic25 3 роки тому +27

    I remember a trans friend of mine talking about the first time she got an estrogen shot. She said she felt this sense of calm and peace because she was finally on the path to living as her authentic self. I'd like to think that's why you couldn't stop smiling
    You mentioned being worried that you're not feminine enough. You are. I know passing can be important to trans people, especially for safety reasons, but I hope as your journey continues, you realize there's no one correct way to feminine and womanly. As long as you identify as a woman, then you'll always be woman enough at every step of your transition

    • @LochNessy13
      @LochNessy13 3 роки тому +3

      As a cis woman, this is something I worry about to, I can only imagine what it is like for transgender women. We're all women enough.

    • @f4rhan_179
      @f4rhan_179 3 роки тому

      Nobody asked

    • @LochNessy13
      @LochNessy13 3 роки тому +2

      @@f4rhan_179 damn Naruto, who hurt you?

    • @f4rhan_179
      @f4rhan_179 3 роки тому

      @@LochNessy13 Naruto doesn't support pride month 😹🙏

    • @LochNessy13
      @LochNessy13 3 роки тому +1

      @@f4rhan_179 well the LEAST you could do is not comment stupid comments

  • @maximumdinosaur
    @maximumdinosaur 3 роки тому +4

    Aw Andrea and her grandma are so cute

  • @LullabiesofAlaura
    @LullabiesofAlaura 3 роки тому +2

    Shes really pretty, I couldn’t tell she was trans right away.

  • @jvrdvn
    @jvrdvn 3 роки тому +3

    I love how Adrian said "and now your a sister, and nothing's changed." :,D

  • @xixi__gg
    @xixi__gg 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing 💕 you have a beautiful family! What a powerful group of women.

  • @lavane26
    @lavane26 3 роки тому

    so happy for Andrea for how this turned out. can't wait to see more of her journey, whatever she decides to share with us.

  • @KCUARISMA
    @KCUARISMA 3 роки тому

    I cannot wait to see her transition completely. Im so happy for you!!!

  • @dancingdiva90950
    @dancingdiva90950 3 роки тому +1

    Her hair is fabulous! So jelly of those curls

  • @tlightsylvan
    @tlightsylvan 3 роки тому +2

    relatable! love this! 🤍🤍🤍

  • @salaltschul3604
    @salaltschul3604 3 роки тому +3

    She's so beautiful.

  • @dsanchez0913
    @dsanchez0913 9 місяців тому

    I am in tears. I am so happy for you Andrea. ❤

  • @irenemee
    @irenemee 3 роки тому +8

    Tbh my mom would never be that supportive. It would devastate her if I’d ask her to acknowledge me with a different pronounce. She doesn’t even believe in transgender people, she believes folks just “have way more free time”. I am so sincerely happy and relieved Andrea has this thoughtful loving family by her side. I’m wishing you only love, Andrea. You are a beautiful woman.

  • @samsey____
    @samsey____ 3 роки тому +12

    the love in this video, i'm BAWLING THE WHOLE WAY THROUGH

    • @f4rhan_179
      @f4rhan_179 3 роки тому +1

      Who asked

    • @samsey____
      @samsey____ 3 роки тому +2

      @@f4rhan_179 who asked you for your response

  • @lunav.1428
    @lunav.1428 3 роки тому +8

    She's so kind. I saw her in so many videos 💗 she's always so sweet to other girls and lifts them up. Such an amazing spirit💞

  • @vai2930
    @vai2930 3 роки тому +18

    I'm so proud of her for coming out! She's beautiful!

  • @auberrymariee
    @auberrymariee 3 роки тому +2

    This family is so beautiful 💖

  • @jesshigginbottom3866
    @jesshigginbottom3866 3 роки тому +5

    I am so proud of you! My heart is so full knowing you are owning your truth. You are gorgeous inside and out! Life is too short to be anything but happy. 💪♥️

  • @kateluxe
    @kateluxe 3 роки тому +3

    she’s beautiful , brave & powerful 🥺 im so proud 🤎

  • @justbrae07
    @justbrae07 3 роки тому +17

    I’m proud of you ❤️

  • @tinaarabia825
    @tinaarabia825 3 роки тому +6

    It's a beautiful, classy family! all of them are educated and behave in a classy and civilized manner. I am very happy that she has a family that loves her and supports her in her decisions!

  • @rezelchan280
    @rezelchan280 3 роки тому +2

    She is really gorgeous inside out.😍😍

  • @r.rosaaa24
    @r.rosaaa24 3 роки тому +2

    You don’t even look trans yk 😐! You look like a girl and all the vids I have seen of you I always thought you was a girl omfggggg wow I support you ! You got this ! Girl power 🤞🏼🤍. You got this we here for you !!! You don’t look like a man !!! You look Bella !!! 😘

  • @kali5821
    @kali5821 3 роки тому +1

    So proud of you!

  • @chustar2620
    @chustar2620 3 роки тому +9

    The natives call them two spirit people. Ever sense then I fully understood. And appreciate trans people even more.

  • @krysfjorgyn9494
    @krysfjorgyn9494 3 роки тому +6

    I love this series! Seeing her family be supportive and putting in effort to embrace Andrea is so heartwarming! You go girl!!

  • @helenalovelock1030
    @helenalovelock1030 Рік тому

    Awww what an amazing family 💕💕💕

  • @bebeflamand1
    @bebeflamand1 3 роки тому +7

    Andrea, you're beautiful! Your family is so wonderful and supportive (and the hacienda is absolutely stunning)
    Much love to you on your journey, to living like your true self

  • @Rupani_Mansi56
    @Rupani_Mansi56 3 роки тому +2

    I swear I'm not crying

  • @siewitnessnews
    @siewitnessnews 3 роки тому +1

    Totally unrelated to the video, but can Andrea do some sort of eyeliner tutorial, 'cause sis' looks bomb and I need assistance! 😭

  • @teejay8910
    @teejay8910 3 роки тому +10

    Hello Andrea🤗 ... thanking you for sharing your story..
    It's greatly appreciated ❤️
    Stay blessed always

  • @evazandinga3414
    @evazandinga3414 3 роки тому +1

    I just love her videos so much!!

  • @beatricebozza4674
    @beatricebozza4674 3 роки тому +1

    Your hair is fabulous 🤩

  • @bea6059
    @bea6059 3 роки тому +1

    that long striped dress that she wears in one of the clips looks so good on her omg

  • @icedcashewmilklatte
    @icedcashewmilklatte 3 роки тому +2

    i love her curls

  • @Brooklyn-xb8fm
    @Brooklyn-xb8fm 3 роки тому +10

    I’m so happy she has a family that is supporting and happy for her❤️because so many trans men and women dream of having a family like that

  • @froggyfriggys1741
    @froggyfriggys1741 3 роки тому +1

    this is so amazing!!

  • @keren.icehand
    @keren.icehand 3 роки тому +2

    Awww🤗what a nice family💜👍

  • @YoYoSkye
    @YoYoSkye 3 роки тому +6

    The mother is a beautiful person. Like what an amazing woman. The way she speaks is pure love. ❤️ I cried LOL.

  • @averystevens1606
    @averystevens1606 3 роки тому

    i am soooo proud of you❤️

  • @Only444perri
    @Only444perri 3 роки тому +11

    I’m happy that your finally comfortable with who you are happy pride month everyone

  • @leehannuel
    @leehannuel 3 роки тому +10

    she's so gorgeous 🥺

  • @Yuyu99000
    @Yuyu99000 3 роки тому +2

    Yes! You made it Andrea! Good luck hun and live your best life,you deserve it 🖤🖤

  • @gigihide6974
    @gigihide6974 3 роки тому +5

    You are a beautiful woman! Congratulations with your journey! Continue to be yourself and show who you want to be.

  • @blackqplaylists6751
    @blackqplaylists6751 3 роки тому +4

    Much respect to this channel thats why I am subscribed

  • @marieltaylor4252
    @marieltaylor4252 2 роки тому

    OMG she's beautiful ❤️

  • @ForensicDreamer
    @ForensicDreamer 3 роки тому +5

    Her journey has brought tears to my eyes and more love and understanding to my heart and mind.

  • @erint5153
    @erint5153 3 роки тому +5

    Andrea’s mom is so empathetic and compassionate, oh my goodness!

  • @victoriafain7396
    @victoriafain7396 3 роки тому +5

    I love that you are receiving so much support. Your mother has a beautiful heart. She means no disrespect using the wrong pronouns. For her, like you, this is a process. I am not using this word in a bad way, but give her time to grieve what she thought she knew. Once that process is done I think the support, love and pronouns will all fall in place.

    • @virginiamarquez-skaien2246
      @virginiamarquez-skaien2246 3 роки тому

      Thank you! I truly mean no disrespect and it does take time. I was nervous and when I was taking about him was when he was coming out as gay around 13 years old. Then the second time as she... I wist I could've been clearer. This is a truly transformative journey for us all.

  • @rumpleaj
    @rumpleaj 3 роки тому +3

    This is amazing
    Happy Pride Month!! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

  • @kaytlynhui7240
    @kaytlynhui7240 3 роки тому +10

    OMG she's gorgeous💕

  • @MichaelTrevinoFan101
    @MichaelTrevinoFan101 3 роки тому +7

    If my daughter wants to be a boy because her body isn't what her mind thinks it is, I still will love her and call her by the term she wants to be called. My love as a parent is the same like when you don't know the gender of your baby. Boy or girl or non my child is my child.

  • @violetedge83
    @violetedge83 3 роки тому +5

    This is so beautiful. I'm not crying 😭😭😭💜💜💜💜

  • @angelnketia247
    @angelnketia247 3 роки тому +3

    This hit home tooooo hard. Thanks for sharing your story

  • @Melissa-fp1kh
    @Melissa-fp1kh 3 роки тому +1

    Girl you need to make an ASMR channel 😂😂😂

  • @sheisveryfamous
    @sheisveryfamous 3 роки тому +4

    Congratulations to Andrea on her journey to herself ❤️

  • @josephmedina5882
    @josephmedina5882 3 роки тому +7

    congratulations!

  • @MyDearAngie1
    @MyDearAngie1 3 роки тому +5

    A beautiful story, I can’t wait to see more.

  • @mariab.8635
    @mariab.8635 3 роки тому +2

    This made me cry so much ,all the support ,love and happiness just explodes !!! It’s so sweet !

  • @aliarene
    @aliarene 3 роки тому +4

    congrats!!

  • @Anna_robloxXtoca
    @Anna_robloxXtoca 2 роки тому

    Yasss

  • @tacoparker6783
    @tacoparker6783 3 роки тому +4

    Congratulations keep going with your lovely self🎀💓💓💓🎀

  • @kzsh08
    @kzsh08 3 роки тому +4

    we're proud! 🏳️‍🌈💕

  • @thatnerdthing387
    @thatnerdthing387 3 роки тому +3

    I’m so proud of you, and we love you!

  • @Claireannette77
    @Claireannette77 3 роки тому +1

    Ahhhhh i have chilllsssss I love you so much baby 💕💕💕💕

  • @mariamelhawari
    @mariamelhawari 3 роки тому +4

    We love you💜💜💜

  • @KrystalPancakes
    @KrystalPancakes 3 роки тому +2

    There is so much love in this family. Beautiful! ♥