We Went Shopping For Our New Sizes
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
- "The journey to accepting yourself isn't going to be solved by getting rid of pieces of clothing... but it's a step."
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clothes are supposed to fit us, we’re not supposed to fit into clothes
That's excactly it!! :)
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!!
Always remember, ladies; though mens' sizes are based on actual measurements, womens' clothes are the wild west. At one point womens' clothing was actually regulated over brands. However, now, there is none of that. Brands, generally now, size their clothes based on who buys their clothes.
Try to seperate that number from you, yourself, if you can. Like she said, just think of it like a shoe size. Don't let the conceit of others, and of these brands take your self-love away from you. You deserve more than what that number makes you feel.
Its ridiculous. I was bridesmaids dress shopping in a regular clothing department, not a dress shop, with the bride, and she found a dress she liked and it was 3 sizes smaller than what I normally wear and I swore to her it would never fit, and it did. Clearly a vanity size b/c there was no way, and yet in other brands, I need two sizes up.
This is so inspiring - as someone who holds on to a lot of guilt over clothes not fitting the same as I’ve gotten older the thought about letting them go because they don’t serve my body anymore makes so much sense. Thanks to the both of you for your story and taking us on this journey. I’m definitely going to give it a go myself!
Mei is so brave, sharing her mental health struggles even though it's hard for her.
This video is so important: it shows that anyone, no matter what size, can be insecure about their bodies/how clothes fit on their bodies. Finding clothes that fit how you want them to fit, and that make you feel comfortable and confident is sooo important.
So happy to see modest dressing represented! I don't have a religious reason for dressing modest, I just feel more comfortable and it is so nice to see modest styling represented.
Yes. I like dressing modestly and I feel like it's harder now a days to find good looking clothes that's full coverage. A ton of shirts now a days are cropped or super open in the chest area.
Word and also not look as stiff or prissy, but also a way some people chooses to express themselves!
I switch my modesty levels all the time but everything everywhere is cropped! Normal shirts that aren’t oversized are a rarity
Same. I hate showing too much, it makes me uncomfortable
@@GuzmanLaBelica Right, I'll find the perfect dress and then see the back is cutout. So many cutouts! I shop secondhand online. It's good for the environment and you can narrow down your choices.
These two, along with Jazz and Lindsay, are gonna be the saviours of BuzzFeed
and Joyce too
And Vivian
I think a white collared shirt would look very cute with the purple top.
exactly my thoughts!
Or maybe a different shade of purple.
I wouldve said a cream colored turtleneck
This really hit home for me, after I got married I gained a bit of weight. There were a lot of pants I had that didn’t fit me anymore and it really broke me, but 4 years later I’ve learned to embrace my body for what it is. Videos like this are truly so important and uplifting so thank you for this 💕
I feel you sister... I also gained weight when I got married and at first I was devastaded and started using overzised clothes to the point I looked like a walking potatoe T.T
But honestly now I feel confident and beautiful and loved ❤️
If that’s u in the pfp ur absolutely gorgeous!
Queens!!! This takes a lot, and they are so brave! You rock!
Tahirah LITERALLY spoke everything I have ever felt as a plus-sized hijabi and I am glad to see this representation!! 🙌
❤️
%100
I think Mei should do a Marie Kondo-style cleanout of her space/wardrobe! She's been through a lot, and she needs to be surrounded by things that empower her and make her feel joy.
love this idea… might have to take you up on that!
@@arianaginspired I was in a similar situation as you a few years ago and it was life-changing for me! I'd definitely read into it if you can! :)
Friendly Reminder for young women: The numbers you see on your jeans are quite literally that, just a number. Women's sizing is so incredibly arbitrary, like if you can internalize that the numbers on your pants are nonsense that aren't even standardized from store to store you can just see as your starting point that's easy to grab when finding pants you look hot in
Thank you! Like my sizes changes from brand to brand, so yes, so true! ❤️
as someone who has gained around 35-40 pounds in the past year, i resonate with this. it hurts knowing that a lot of my jeans and skirts and shirts dont fit anymore, but it's empowering to embrace what my body looks like today.
Lol me since the pandemic. I definitely had to buy a lot of new pants.
Also side note: people do judge women for their shoe sizes 😬
that's crazy , people need to understand that we are born like that it's not like we choose which shoe size we want to be
Yes!! A friend’s mum loudly exclaimed about how big my feet were when I was 12 and I STILL find it difficult to say my shoe size out loud (even though now my feet are standard sized)
True! My mom got super judgy comments when she asked a store employee if they carried EU size 43... Like, it's not her fault?? However, I do think that in general it's easier to accept your shoe size for what it is, because it's completely out of your control. And the myth we keep telling each other is that your clothes size is in your own control. Even though clothing size depends on a great number of factors, of which body weight is just one (and definitely not the most influential one). And our body weight isn't even entirely in your control.
I've always been teased over my shoe size & it's just not fair when it's entirely about your bone structure??
Yep, I’ve been judged for my feet size, which is stupid because I’m tall, so yes I do have bigger feet. I’ve also been judged for my body size as well, I’ve always been slim except after giving birth and now that I’m older. As a side note, I don’t get judged for my body shape now that I’m older, at least not out loud. I’m my own worst critic, at 60 I don’t think it’ll change. 🤷♀️
I always just want to hug Mei, she is so stunning and her journey has really touched my heart. Thank you for being so candid, you're changing lives
Tahirah putting on her prayer clothes to easily cover-up, just to film herself shopping at home, is some of the most relatable content I've ever seen on UA-cam as a hijabi (she's also so stunning and I'm so happy to see her in this video)
tehehe jilbabs are every hijabis bestfriend. tysm beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
11:57 omfg tahirah that outfit is genuinely AMAZING, so good. so proud of both of you. i think 90% of my wardrobe doesnt fit anymore so this was helpful for me.
thank you so much my love!! 🥰
The ladies both rocked this challenge. This year I started using the affirmation "my body is well, able, and beautiful." And for the first time bought myself crop tops and high waisted jeans even though my body has changed and I feel so cute in those fits!
LOVE this affirmation!
Love Tahirah's outfits and interpretation of her modest style, I feel like I haven't seen such a cool version of that before. All power to Mei too, hope she feels as gorgeous as she looks in her new outfits.
As a person who has most of the eating disorders, I really do understand their feelings and the reason for every tear they shed.
You guys really don't know how much it's a blessing to live without having an eating disorder, without hating yourself and judging it harshly for eating one spoon more, without even depriving yourselves from water because it will change the number on the scale....
That's really bad, you're in deep. Drink lots of water, talk to a therapist, get help.
Tahirah’s “gothy” outfit with the hairclips was sooo gorgeous she looked so good!
This video explains that confidence and happiness is actually Beauty, you queens are gorgeous inside and out ❤️👑
"And I also found myself not really feeling like my body deserved to be dressed up." If I had a dollar for every time I told myself that I didn't deserve something, I would be a billionaire. It's amazing how quickly our minds can turn against us.
Omg Tahira the way you have styled your Hijabs in all your looks is so freaking unique. Your 2nd dress the overall look was my favourite. Absolutely stunning 😍😍
Me currently looking for a summer wardrobe because WE OUTSIDE. I have to keep telling myself that the clothes are supposed to fit me, I’m not supposed to fit the clothes. I can’t get rid of stuff because most of my clothes are gifts 😞
Yes you can. Just make sure to give them away to someone else or to charity so it will have a new home. If you don't fit into clothes anymore and it isn't realistic that you will fit into them anytime soon, then why keep them? They will only make you feel bad and will serve no purpose to you. I am sure the people who gave those clothes to you will understand ❤!
Finally buzzfeed starts catering to Hijabi’s, it’s about damnn time!👍🏻
I love Mei. She is so strong and I appreciate how open she has been with her eating disorder. It has helped me so much with my own eating disorder and self esteem.
I asked for more Tahirah and u gave me more Tahirah. So now i ask again!
Love her nyc energy and love to see a black hijabi represented
Reminds me of the fact I have been planning to get into a new style (the academy aesthetic one)
Dark, light or romantic academia?
I love all of the academia aesthetics so much!! :)
@@_fireplayz56_d54 i love all of three idk t.t
I like the sweater vest and plaided short skirts style
The half comfy with sweaters or cardigans look and either skirt, short or skinny jeans bellow
Whats the main difference between all 3 of them apart than the tonality of colors?
@@pauline1-1 the academia aesthetic is so pretty xD
I study in the UK and my uni happen to be castle as well
I guess I kinda grew fond of it because it is something i kinda see around in a way(?)
What a great way to frame it - clothing size doesn't need to mean anything different than a shoe size... something I'll need to keep telling myself!
Ngl it’s a little hard to watch someone mei's size complain about her size. I know everyone is different but if that’s fat then what am i
Mei showing the dress she replaced her oversized sweater with had me sobbing. I hope i can be brave enough to do that one day :)
You're both much braver than me.
I've gained weight and bought new clothes but can't bare to get rid of the jeans that don't fit.
I'm such a hoarder...
Girrrrrlll Tahirah I love your style😍 Honestly, every time you showed your outfits I was stunned. You inspire me and so many others, keep doing you!!
Both of y’all are so incredible, beautiful, and courageous! Your bodies are lovely and amazing just as they are, and I’m glad this is an experience that helped lift your spirits and hopefully start some positive transformations!
I recently gained a small amount of weight after like 5+ years of being the same weight that was already "overweight" according to doctors and such.. I just feel so bad about myself because nothing happened to me that made me gain it. I've been lucky enough to not really have a drastic eating disorder or getting injured.. I just gained weight I don't even know what from and I feel disgusting.. especially trying on old shorts for summer and all of them being really tight🙁
Aging most likely.
@@LethalLemonLime I'm not sure thats it cuz im only 21
@@zanapetek408 oh sorry i assumed you were older. then it's probably you moving less than usual. it might not be noticable to you but it adds up
@@zanapetek408 It does have to do with ageing, The average person stops growing once they hit 21-22 years old. The energy your body took to pump out them growth hormones is no longer a thing or is at the very least slowing down. It is also the reason why we see mental disorders start to 'suddenly' appear in the 20 to 24 age range.
Working out will make you feel better
My health took a dive back in May and lost 40lbs. People tells me I look good but I’m not this weight because I wanted to but because of my health. It’s a yo-yo with emotions, I’m sometimes happy and feel comfortable, those hot damn days. Then there’s those day where I’m, I can see my ribs and feel sick skinny. I still have my old clothes and wear it on those dark days. I’m very attached to things and seeing them clean their closet just, power to you ladies!
Thank u for this! I lost a lot of weight due to chronic illness, which made me feel very insecure, and I’m just starting to gain it back. I’m glad to see representation of people whose sizes have varied so much
"Nobody juges someone for their shoe size" Me as a woman wearing size 12-13 shoes... 🙄
I have n Ed n I’m pregnant Rn I’m struggling so bad but this helped so much 🥺🥺
Ok, tearing up, this is so powerful.
I LOVE this video! Please do this type of video with those that have a different body as a result of quarantine. So many people are having to revisit their pre-covid wardrobe with a new body and it's been difficult.
So proud of the both of you. Doing this is really challenging. We love y’all!!!
I usually hate square necklines because I don't like all that skin, but the way she styled them make me want to try and style them the same way. It looks so good.
Ive started to do this this year too. Have been struggling with body dismorphia since forever really, and its just very encouraging to see that not only I have problems with clothing. Thank you so much for being so brave and putting this on youtube
I have been really struggling with my body image lately and this video was what I needed. It made me feel so inspired and heard. I am the biggest I have ever been, although I am still "skinny." Everyone has different standards of what their body "should" look like, and it is important to hype everyone up no matter their size because ALL BODIES ARE BEAUTIFUL!
I have dealt with the same kind of thing recently in life, & I love to know others do too and that it is possible but it’s still a journey ❤️💕
@7:40 Ahem, size 12 shoe here, sometimes 12W. I have definitely been made fun of and laughed at by others, even store employees, since at least 8th grade
Kuddos for showcasing styling a hijab! So cool to see different cultures and how they werk it 🤙
Also kudos to you for talking about your eating disorder. I know that you must run into so much skinny shaming out there and that topics of inclusiveness might make you feel left out, so mad respect to you for choosing health despite all that crap. I pray that your healthiness will turn into happiness as well with time.
Unfortunately we are judged by our feet too 😅 I’m thicc asf 5’7 and wear a size 10. I can not count on one hand how many ppl have been surprised or gave off judgy energy but I’ll thrive regardless 💁🏽♀️
I love Tahirah's style omg, its soo good
“Wore this to bookcon” my attention has never snapped back so fast 😂😅
Personally I think Tahirah took the challenge as a fun thing to do, but it meant a lot more than that to Mei. Their frequencies are too different to keep in a single video. If it was 3 people doing it even on different frequencies, the video wouldn't feel imbalanced.
P.s. Tahirah doesn't look plus size
I used to go shopping with my friends, and now husband, back in high school, and can remember switching out the the hangers on my clothes just so they wouldn't know what size I was..I did this too many times. I think about this every so often but a lot during this video. I am thankful to by on the journey to loving and accepting myself
As someone who has been struggling with my eating disorder for most of my life, it's really nice to see this being talked about more, especially about the struggles of recovery. I gained a lot of weight in the past year due to starting testosterone (I'm trans), and dealing with that has been really difficult and it definitely makes it more difficult to not relapse again. I'm slowly starting to accept that this is just where I need to be right now, and seeing Mei let go of the things that are connected to her past gives me hope for a future where maybe I can do the same. Thanks for this. 😊
Oh my gosh its Tahirah! I am so proud of the women you have become! Keep rocking and being such a positive role model for plus size girls of color!💜💜💜
The green top with tiny straps was so my favorite
I remember crying when I looked at myself in the mirror when I was wearing dresses. Really makes you think what eating disorders do to people.
I feel so identified with Mai like I’ve never been diagnosed with an eating disorder but my relationship with my body and clothes is very hard. I’ve always been “the thin girl” and through the pandemic and as I got older I started gaining weight. Not fitting in my clothes kills me so I started buying very oversized clothes to not feel that. This video is very inspirational
Okay, serious question. Are there like cooling undergarments or something to help modest dressing women in the summertime? I’m in Texas and I’m sweating thinking about it lol
Layering can actually help keep you cool, especially if you wear the right types of fabric so the fabric is breathable. I don't dress modest, but I do hike, and a lot of people who are active in the outdoors actually like to wear longer sleeves and pants to protect from the sun, instead of constantly having to apply sunscreen which you then sweat off again.
Uniqlo innerwears have excellent moisture wicking.
Use cotton dress
Watch if it's transparent if not only put a short and a dress then you'll not be sweating 😉 I'm an hijabi and yes it's hot sometime but choosing the fabric and color of your dress can help you feeling better and not to sweat
this is such a challenging thing to do, so much love and respect for you guys 💕
Tahirah! Girl that jumpsuit is made for you! You look bom!! Very beautiful.
And Mai! Girl you rock! And you are so right sizes are so off! I have different clothing in my closet varies from S to L. Stay strong you got this and you look amazing!
Loving yourself takes time - especially after you witness it change. It’s a marathon not a sprint. Be patient with yourself and more importantly, be kind to yourself ♥️
I love this video as a young girl I feel very self conscious about my body. This video helped me be more happy with my body. Thank you
I've been struggling with an eating disorder for three years and finally am going through treatment. Thank you both for sharing your journey and being so raw and authentic with your emotions. Thank you so much for making this video, and know it really helped soothe my clothing anxiety. Sending love to you both
i believe in you!! you can do this
I believe in you too 😁❤!
Loved all the new purchases! You were both looking so beautiful with your new looks. Tahirah, I do hope you also purchased that yellow dress, it will look amazing on you!
You both are so beautiful and thriving in your new clothes!!!!!! I'm so happy for you and your journeys!!!!!
You'll catch me in that green plaid dress.
Both of these women look STUNNING✨✨ I’m so happy for both of these ladies for going on this journey for themselves 💛💛
All the outfits were amazing. I love the conversation and the message. I am a Plus Size Hispanic Guy. I was to love shopping for clothes but I hate. So I wear all black and I wear my goth makeup LOL and that’s the way I express myself. Love you guys
The purple top IS STUNNING!!!
Love all the new looks! You both were so brave to share everything you did, and I’m so proud of both of you! Continued love and kindness on your journeys ❤️❤️
I am in complete awe of the vulnerability of these women. We are so fortunate to have people like this who are willing to share their stories. It lets us know that we're not alone, and I imagine it's cathartic for these ladies as well. I'm completely blown away by how candid they were willing to be. Thank you to you both!!
thank you so much angel 🤍
Me having been judged for my shoe size too. 🤭🤭🤭
Mei just said everything I’m struggling with rn. My dad inflicted an ED on me and I got scary skinny. Then I started eating for my body and gained a lot. Doubled in pants size and it’s been awful feeling like I’m not myself anymore. Learning to love yourself takes so much work.
I wasn't expecting to feel so emotional watching this video, about people I don't really know replacing their wardrobes, but the emotion is actually super heavy! Big shout out for being so vulnerable.
“Lie to my mom to go to Warped Tour” hahahahahaha yesss!
⚠️ This video needs a eating disorder trigger warning ⚠️ ♡
Mei is stunning ! So pretty I can’t
Both of you are ICONIC. Thank you for so openly and honestly sharing your journeys with clothing and your bodies. Love to see it!
Tahirah's room is so cute!
omg thank you!!
I love love love love both stories and the outfits they chose. Such beautiful, kind, radiant individuals. Thank you for sharing!!
YES MEI!! Both these women did amazing in challenging themselves. But I have personally felt so much like Mei at points, and I FELT how hard that was for her. You go girl! 💚💚💚
LOVE this ladies. So brave of you all to share and honestly very inspiring 💕
i literally have no words that can express my emotions rn. all I can say is, thank you. thank you so much for this.
I am so here for this open dialogue. kudos to BOTH OF these beautiful amazing women on sharing their journeys with us
The muslim girl has the coolest style 🔥
This video is incredible! Thank you so much for filming this and providing a safe and nurturing space for me ♥️♥️♥️
Mei I relate to you a few years ago I struggled with anorexia and the last few months I’ve struggled with binge eating it’s such an emotional toll but I was so glad to see you proud of your body in some of the clips. I believe in you girl!
This is literally such an inspiring video, what a soul Ute QUEENS! 👑🙌💗✨
Loved this episode!
I related to both women. I don't dress immodestly now, but I have dressed with extreme modesty in the past. I was a pastor/pastor's wife in a conservative, fundamentalist denomination. I didn't wear pants or shorts. She dresses beautifully.
I relate deeply to the young woman who has struggled with eating disorders. I am fighting not to relapse into AN. I would probably be diagnosed with AA, which is to say even doctors are idiots about this. My potassium was critically low recently. This doesn't mean purging, as I have a tendency toward low potassium. I TOLD MY (now former) DOCTOR (of 22 years!!) I hav e been struggling with my EDs. He then said he couldn't understand why my labs were so awful, and complimented my weight loss. I went back having lost even more weight, and more compliments!! although this time he felt for bones/muscle/fat. I found a new doctor. He should have been replaced well over a decade ago. Soooo AAs slide under the radar and will often be praised for their weight loss. I had to go buy a pair of shorts recently. As an adult I have been under 100 pounds and up to 255 pounds. I have worn impossibly small sizes to a 20 or 22. Last year I got rid of the last bits of clothing in my closet in the single digits, basically speaking.
I am trying to challenge myself with these same issues. The health ramifications of having been in and out of EDs the majority of my life would shock most people. If you read this, YOU. ARE. WORTH. MORE. THAN. NUMBERS. Whether that is the ones on a scale or a clothing tag. I have other numbers that could enter your life.
-# of teeth lost (ALL)
-#of inches lost, IN HEIGHT (osteoporosis)
-# of years lost to obsessing over #s, too many
-I also have permanent nerve damage and pain from malnutrition in my lower legs and lower arms.
-Poor circulation with permanently "stained" skin on my lower legs. They are ruddy and alligator textured, a permanent change.
-Kidney, stomach (!!! Ulcers that ate straight through my stomach and part of my intestines TWICE. Pain all the time. Can no longer sing, scream or project my voice.)
-Fertility issues.
-On soft food for the remainder of my years; it's already been at least 13.
All for what?! What?!
Well, don't beat yourself up, anyone. Please just get the help you need and deserve. It's a mental disorder. There are no people undeserving of treatment. You ARE sick enough. Wanting to be realllly low to seek treatment, this just means more weight to restore...
Gorgeous!! 😍The lilac top would look better with a white turtleneck underneath though to bring in some summer vibes❤️
I am feeling with you Mei! SO proud of you! Love these videos and following y'all on your journeys! Stay Strong!
Love this video, watching this video help me understand the changes in my body, especially since I got sick. This is really helpful in a way for us women to accept changes in our bodies by trying different styles out of our convert zone.
Hey I want some suggestions! I m 14 and have gained a lot of weight during 2020 and now I almost have a eating disorder I like starving myself like it will do good to me and I thrown half of my closet away cuz nothing fits anymore but we took a trip a few months ago before the second covid wave hit so we went shopping and my mom picked clothes for me but she picks things that aren't my style like I am more indie but she picks floral things for me and I don't know what to do and I still have some pieces that would fit me 3 yrs ago I tried to throw them and my mom says oh naa it will fit you don't worry. And then when we go to shop she tells me how fat i m that I should lose weight.... I cry everyday thinking about it. Pls help me by giving suggestions.......
As/is has my full respect for showing two very different kinds of women, as I for some reason feel inspired by both of them.. I feel like a huge amount of people feel represented by this ( including me )❤
You both look incredible ! So proud and happy for you two 💜
Rlly digging Tahirahs whole energy btw