How to know if you should leave your new job
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2019
- Evaluating a new job can be tricky. And being in a state of constant confusion about staying or going will exhaust you. Here's the best way to get clarity on staying or going. Grab my free guide on how to stop feeling so insecure in your new job @ ErinMFoley.com
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Two weeks in. I cleared my desk. I will be resigning. I typically work very long periods of time at a place, but two weeks is all I needed to see how toxic it was.
We cannot ignore Red Flags. My mistake within a week was ignoring major red flags because I needed the Paycheck.
1. Employer lied about benefits
2. Misrepresented job description
3. Training was misrepresented
4. Nepotism
Same here!!! I hate my new job!
I hate my new job too. Not at all what they trained me for and not at all what my experience is but am yelled at and expected to be a rockstar within two weeks!
I hate my job I hate my life and was hoping this could drastically help my life but it's made my mental health way worse, I'm okay just having thoughts.
Hate my job after 7 months - boss is terrible - toxic environment to the point where there is not going be that clarity …
This is really good advice and spot on! That said. I also think the anxiousness can be a tell tale sign of it not being the right fit for you. I’m a month in to a new role and most days I hate it, which is not the norm for me in past jobs. I am on a 3-month probation period for the company to see if I’m a good fit, and I think I’ll give the company the same time to determine if they are a good fit for me.
My biggest fear is that I’m a recent graduate with only internship experience in my field. It’s been tough finding a entry level position. But within the first week I realized that this job wasn’t/isn’t for me but I’m hesitant to resign because of my financial instability.
Hope you're hanging in there. Your situation is exactly the same as mine, I'm considering of leaving after only 2 months
Same
Thank you! I started a new job and did so while working from home due to the lockdown. I am questioning my choice now and have lots of doubt. I have lots of anxiety and feel incompetence. Like you said I don’t have a clarity bc it’s clouded w anxiety. You might have just saved my career, so thank you for encouraging me not to quit.
I'm so glad you found the video! Yes--work on getting confident and calm before you evaluate the job. Best of luck Israel!
I feel the same
Hi, appreciate if you can update your career progress for now haha. Are you still in the position?
My boss has no time to train me. At all! I’m in the shock phase. He goes days without saying, “hello” to me. He doesn’t ask how I’m doing. I just sit in my office and he doesn’t come in at all to check in with me. I’ve literally had 20 minutes of training with him in 4 weeks. My time is me watching videos and learning their intranet and taking quizzes. I need a new task to learn each day. I know I need to say something, but how and what. Why hire me if you have NO time to say hello to me or train me. Put me in a corner and leave me.
I really needed this video today. Thank you so much. I am new, making silly mistakes, beat myself up, then I want to give up. The role matches me. I remember when I first saw the role posted and was like “Wow, that sounds like me” Interview process was terrific. It is an amazing, supportive team. I will hang in there!
I got my first job ever, and I’ve been panicking about quitting. I truly don’t have a good reason to nor do I want to, but, thinking about it freaks me out and I’m also super anxious about it as well. Your advice very much helped and thank you so much!!! 💞✨✨✨
What if there is constant harassment, micro management, little to no training, and unrealistic expectations. The job is annoying but what if this is the culture of the company. And even employee engagement surveys are being manipulated.
I'd start applying elsewhere
This is what im struggling with too
Get out
Thank you sooo much for your wise words. Right now i am super overwhelmed in my new job. Been doing this for 2 months and i am anxious everytime because i am learning new things and processes and terminologies and learning the business/industry too. I was made redundant over 3 months ago from a company i worked 6 years for (which is a very long time) and i still have a lot of unprocessed emotions thats stemmed from my redundancy that could be playing a huge factor in why im anxious all the time. Youre right, i am unable to see things from a calm perspective because im anxious all the time and therefore my version of reality is skewed. There are days where i feel fine and truly enjoy what i do, and then when i get new projects from my boss, i get anxious and start to overthink even questioning my abilities and confidence; i even had a thought of leaving. Thank you. You may have just saved me from quitting! ❤
i recently started a job (my first job) and i physically became ill after the first day because of how stressed i was - granted, it was my first day and they placed me at the drive thru window of a coffee shop and i was only taught how to accept payments - no training just thrown there - i thought maybe thats just how they run things there but it was very hard for me to begin something like that - everyone also keeps to themselves at the area and it doesnt help me any more that it seems like no one wants to interact with me ( itry to make conversation and i feel so shut down)
im very much considering quitting but I want to give it at least 2-3 weeks before i just leave - i just feel very out of place and think id be a better worker somewhere else
hope these videos can help me
Not my 1st job and I'm in my mid 30s, I feel the exact same way at my new job and I've been doing it for 7 years in the past. Very poorly trained and yelled at. Never have I actually been yelled at in my line of work. I tell myself it's not the work it's self but the employer.
Great video :) I'm 7 years into my career as a paramedic and it feels like it has run its course. It's a love hate relationship due to the chaotic nature of healthcare so I waited 1 year, but my feelings haven't changed. I'm confident that changing careers is the right decision and I'm so excited to do so!
I have 10 years experience in private practice as an Attorney... I just hate the culture in lawfirms, it is a toxic work environment, people pretend to be pious but your coworkers are just envious snakes waiting for you to fail or to see how far they can push you to exploit your potential for their own gain.
Hello, I’m a recently college graduate. I feel like when I started my new job, I feel inadequate, a lot of imposter syndrome, only been there for two months. I constantly comparing myself to my colleagues who been there longer than I have. It’s a definitely a learning curve. I’m so used to being a good student in college, now I feel like starting over. It’s making me having anxiety and sleepless nights.
I was there. The only solution is to understand your JD and ask people who are 5 year senior to you to guide you
@@harshagarwal3995what if you got no clear job description? I work in a law firm and the designation is so poorly demarcated. People are told to run their own little small practices in the big practice/business, but we are all called subordinates on the website. Wtf
Thanks - I recently started a new job and I really needed to hear this. It’s been tough as I left a very comfortable position of over 20 years and I am feeling a bit lost and anxious trying to deal with all new systems and people. I hope time will assuage these feelings.
You are going to do great!! 20 years at one position is an amazing achievement.
20 years at one company is a long time! Kudos to you for stretching yourself .
What if you were just poorly trained?
Yep!
THIS!
Exactly
Most jobs offer no training at all. It's the baptism of fire where the only feedback you get is the cattle prod when you're wrong.
I’m in this position right now. I had very little training, much of what i had to learn everything from a handbook on my own, which is hard to put to practice once i need to apply those things i just learnt. And it’s so overwhelmingly stressful for me because they literally expect me to be as competent as those who have worked there longer than me. I’m trying so hard to just be positive that maybe i’m just new and i am in this imposter syndrome phase. But idk, i really hate working in this company.
This is very wise advice. I I actually love my new job. But at times I find myself feeling like I want to quit or it’s too much for me. But honestly I think I’m just still new and anxious. Thank you!
Oh my gosh, I sooo needed to hear this today. I just started a new job and am feeling like right now. That is exactly what I needed to hear, to wait it out until I'm more comfortable with the job and I know the job. Rather than jump ship due to fear/anxiety of the unknown. Thank you for sharing
This was so helpful! I recently started a new job and been feeling this way! This gave me so much clarity!
oimg this is so helpful for me. i really want to learn but its so fast paced. its definatally a confidence thing for me. i feel and worry people are tired of having to help me, I went from a direct care worker to a mental health technition which is more clerical work than I've ever done. I'm so shy and afraid to bother people and I am scared everyone thinks I am so stupid
Thank you for the advice, think I will try to reassess whether to leave or not after a while when I’m not as overwhelmed and anxious..
I was in a position for over two years that I liked and was settled into. HR made a decision, out if need, to mandatory transfer me. I’ve been there about two months now and I hate it anxiety every day nerves every day sick to my stomach every day cry once or twice a week no more and all I wanna do is go back to my other job part of the reason why I hate it is overwhelming and there’s a lot to learn but a great deal of it is my supervisor. She doesn’t want to really train me. She doesn’t want me to ask questions. She’ll say things you’re already asked that question I’m not answering that question, I was thrown into. I didn’t want to flea.
This was extremely helpful! Thank you!
If you have anxiety and fear after a year, leave. Don’t let anyone lead you to believe your perception is somehow skewed because you’ve developed anxiety and fear from a toxic work environment. Bad advice
Thanks - I needed this advice.
This was extremely helpful, thank you. I'm 3 days into my new job and feeling anxious because I'm not used to how fast this company moves, compared to my previous stone-age job at the City & County. You reminding me to evaluate whether the job is a good fit based on strengths and values is reassuring, because I know I have a lot to offer in this role and may even find the work fulfilling. Just gotta get out of this mindset shitstorm 😅 Alright, done rambling for now.
What if the anxiety never lifts? I was with a company for over a year and was promoted and I have been in my new position, at a new location (also with massive company changes occurring so those growing pains as well) but it’s been 6 months. And I’m just so overwhelmed with the workload. My boss has already told me if they do not see improvement I will potentially be terminated entirely. That in itself promotes even more anxiety of potential job loss while I’m already struggling financially.
I am at the same situation. Started new job a year ago and I have constant anxiety that I never felt before. My boss is a bit psycho and scream and criticize all the time and that’s so demotivating which I think affect my performance as well. She said she will dismiss me if in 3 months I don’t start doing better. And I am literally killing my ass off 12 h per day.
Same here but not getting screwed at daily - but still fear it and life is tough feeling this way. If i were you, I’d find something else asap
How do we go about if we feel this way after 5 year in a job? Like, lack of confidence and lots of anxiety and just desire to leave without clarity about the future
I like ur videos n appreciate your advice. Thank you...I have a new job I started 10 days ago n I feel what you are describing. In my case, my training is live, n that is very difficult. I hope this gets better!!
Thank you for this 😢
I want to leave because I was poorly trained. I was also lied to about the role. I was told it was a leave specialist but it turns out it’s more of a payroll position. I’m only handling leaves 50% of the time and I haven’t received any training on leaves. I’m supposed to be on my own today and I’ve already had a mental breakdown. I tried a new career because I wasn’t able to find a job in my field after my unemployment ended from being laid off. I want to go back to my old field that I love. I want to leave so badly I just can’t afford it. This is hell. I hope I can get through this.
Also try chatting with others because I tend to criticize myself and think I'm the one who is overreacting. I recently realized that my assessment of the current situation is valid. I loved my job until the seniors left because of the management changes lol. I was pretty positive about it at first and they placed me in a team leader role as a fill in. However I now know that I really am not at the experience or the pay level that's required for the job. Now that it's been a few months I see that the current management is disorganized and toxi...which is big because I don't really like using the word. Furthermore they just don't care about the development program that my team is part of.
Thank-you this was awesome and very helpful
Glad it was helpful!
I have been a postpartum Doula for 20 years. And the only reason I left was it wasn’t very consistent as a single mother I need consistent pay. I took on a full-time job working with the elderly but honestly I’m just not feeling the passion that I feel as a Postpartum Doula when I look at the other employees where I work, they have a passion.
There is more to consider if you want to leave the job such as continuous harassment.
or covert narcissistic abuse... your boss thinks you are stupid because you appear gullible and don't make any waves...so he thinks you won't wake up to how he is actually undermining your career... I have 10 years experience as an Attorney. I stepped into a job a year ago, believing I will be treated with respect, now I am placed on the same level as newly admitted attorneys relating to targets to reach and salary basis. I feel so fkn stupid right now, I was desperate to get a new job....I feel like I am being covertly humiliated and undermined...and the biggest thing of all that riles me up is that my boss does not give me work to reach the billables...he says I must go and search for my own clients. WTF..I am an employee but I must have my own client base causing extra pressure and stress on me to reach billables?!!!
What if you’re not sure because you feel guilty about the people that actually like you at the job, but the job itself is just something you took to get the bills paid and it’s not something you truly want to do (medical scheduler/call center)?
Thank you!
You are so welcome!!!!
Been at my new job 3 1/2 months and I feel I was lied to about what exactly my duties entailed, training took 6 weeks but much of what we "learned" doesn't even apply to my day to day responsibilities on my specific team.
I am also completely overwhelmed by the sheer number of inbound calls I have to manage along with my daily required case workload. I was lowballed with the pay and lunch breaks are only 30 minutes. Yeah I'm ready to bounce. This job isn't worth killing my mental health over.
I’m two weeks in and was really confident about my new position but I also have bipolar 2 and I’m in a constant battle with my anxiety and uncertainty about my performance so far, I don’t want to give up but I’m freaking out because I can’t go back to my last job and my options are bleak right now
My managers are miserable and feel like slaves literally I can tell by their attitudes like:Maggi do you like your job? Maggi says now that’s a stupid question no!
Truthfully I am in a mindset shit storm almost everyday that I’m here. I try to calm down but my coworker is a little micromanaging and it sets me back and I really really do not want to confront her and tell her anything because she’s 4 years younger than me. I like my other co workers and I loved my interview. It’s been a month… I was also applying to so many different kinds of jobs like working with animals and then working a desk job. Now that I got the desk job, I’m a month in and I am STRUGGLING so so hard, it’s my first desk job and their training videos mentioned if I don’t have it down by the 3rd week then the job isn’t for me. I probably cry once or twice a week because I’m so overwhelmed and I miss my baby. I really need advice because my boyfriend just keeps telling me not to give up and I’m really really trying but it’s hard.
I am considering going from private practice attorney to in-house counsel - because of MONEY. I thought I would be in a financially secure position with 10 years of experience. Now I need to ask my parents to support me financially because I do not make enough money to pay my own medical aid per month, I also have to ask them to help me pay rent. It is embarassing. My cousin who is a newly admitted attorney with 2 years experience gets a bigger salary than me at a different law firm. My current boss is comparing me with his newly admitted attorneys of PAs who did their internship with him and we practically get the same salary compared to those other attorneys who have more years of experience who worked there more than 3 or 5 years. I feel humiliated. I want to be in a financially stable position where I can support myself, but this new job made me realize how the profession tells lies about what you can make as a salary etc. I need to make a decision.
Started braums Friday. I quite Tuesday. They already trained me for three stations not even the one I apply for. They made me feel unwelcomed. But I decided do take off when they told me I needed to pay for my soda and cpuldnt get one until my lunch. I get 13 an hour and I cant have free drinks. Fml. Id rather quit three days in. Why prolong it
I was wondering if anyone could help, after a week this job put me off. The manager micro manages constantly, like you have to check in when your away for lunch or logged in. This just gives me anxiety, I’m not worried about the job more about the working culture. I just don’t do well with micro management and a strict working culture. What should I do? My last job was completely relaxed.
How long should I wait in the job to figure out if I should quit? Thanks.
Try it out for a few months. However I think if you're confident about the job but not the work environment then ultimately you may need to leave. In the meantime though try to manage your manager. Sometimes they could be micromanaging because they're not sure if you're able to get the work done. If you can figure out what makes them comfortable then it may get them off ur back (if they need a weekly check in..they want to be copied on ur email...etc) . If you don't mind me asking...what was your last job?
Oh, I KNOW. 6 months in, leadership is horrible. sending late-night emails without notifying me of their executive decisions, that I have to explain or defend the next day. I'm just waiting for my next interview offer - but thought I'd watch this video again lol
Today was my third shift. I’ve been on the verge of tears all day because I was so excited (completely different industry to my old job) but now I realise i’m very underqualified and have no idea what i’m doing. The current owner & graphic designers’ last days are next Friday so in total i’ll only have 8 days training, even still there’s been barely anything so far unless I specifically ask. There’s only the one guy who even knows how to train me and he’s leaving in a week. I’m so scared because once they leave there will be no one to train me, the new boss is currently being trained but my role is completely different and so she has absolutely 0 clue how to do my role (same with the old owner). I genuinely don’t believe i’m capable of this role but then if I leave, they’ll have absolutely NO ONE to do my role and NO ONE to train them. Idk what to do maybe i’ll just jump off a cliff
Also can sense fear on the current owner’s part about my abilities and she’s been really passive aggressive even to the new owners so pretty sure she hates me and can already see I have no idea what i’m doing
And made a few comments like ‘ohh so did they not teach you this at uni??’ As if they’ve expected me to know all of this stuff when I never claimed I did ):
Is anyone feeling the OCD to untie the knot in the earphone’s left cord😬
I started a new job 4 months ago. What initially drew me to it was the company culture, the schedule, and the flexibility. The hiring manager and I instantly connected, and he and I had a clear idea of where I wanted to be down the road with the company. Looking back, he really sold me on the company, my future there, and not the job I was going to be doing. The role was never truly defined, and has changed 4 times already since I started. It has basically morphed into cold call, self-starter sales. This is not at all what I thought I was signing up for. To boot, we've already changed management. The guy who hired me is gone, and me and the new boss are not on the same page. I find myself struggling daily now trying to meet "sales goals" I never thought I'd have to deal with. What would you do? I'm thinking I'm going to leave.
omg I felt this even though your situation does sound super sketch and I don't blame you if you do end up deciding to part ways cause that's very fishy. how are you doing?
@@crazykaitlyn Hey, thank you for asking! I actually approached my boss and presented my case a few weeks ago. She was actually very supportive and receptive. She approved me for an internal transfer, which I have been looking for. I just found something that looks really interesting, so I’m hoping to get it. If not, I will look externally. We have an external hiring freeze right now, so that’s a little challenging. Hoping for the best!
Same here
woww you really fucking help!!! ❤️ you’re amazing
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I get job first time im my life not on my field and i found chance the same salary less work days and in my field and what i want idn what to decide right know
What if my onboarding is horror, People in the organization doesn't respond to the email and colleague doesn't respond to your questions, and your expertise are not going to be utilized in new work culture? People are unbelievable rude , I'm.very sad and I just joined new office 2 weeks now, I'm kind of disappointed with over all thing 😢😢😢😢
My manager has stopped trainging me after 2 months and she has removed a lot of my system access. She claims its because she doesnt have time to train me right now. Please comment below what you think will happen next 😢
Hi just read your comment. How did you get on?
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So, these feelings and advice only apply to women?
Can men benefit from your channel or is the help with anxiety only relevant or focused to women?
i assume so! hope you're doing okay
Apply the advice I say. It's not gender specific.
Not hating the girl power angle, but it seems like sound advice for anybody
i think i really need professional help. 😔
I feel the same
I feel the same. I feel totally overwhelmed and unhappy.
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I probably do too but have tried for 13 yrs and kinda gave up when they dont act like they care or believe me either. Im running out of a support system so when i get super low I get scared bc i get depressed and irrational and intrusive thoughts kick in. If the mental health pol dont care, friends family and drs and coworkers dont care and the coaches youve dealt w betray u.... Where is a safe space to go to and get this help?!
You’re not alone - me too. Feel desperate and sick inside from the fear and anxiety. Need the $ and nobody understands. Feels lonely .
What if it's not about the work and feeling incompetent. What if you feel capable but the job just sucks? Lol
me: 4:33
Great videos Erin.I dropped you a message on Instagram regarding starting a new job and me going back to my old one which I didnt want to leave.Just wanted your view