10 Things You Should Avoid Revealing In A Job Interview - Interview Tips

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  • @ALifeAfterLayoff
    @ALifeAfterLayoff  7 місяців тому +53

    Learn how to interview with strategy to actually land the job: www.alifeafterlayoff.com/career-resume-training-courses/

    • @hopeseeker97
      @hopeseeker97 6 місяців тому +6

      What happens when you are applying for an entry level position, you use a template for a resume via a resume helper, only to discover that the computer program had a glitch and doubled a skill set when listing? Resume is turned in, but states you are detail oriented...

    • @spicydragonroll88-wd2jl
      @spicydragonroll88-wd2jl 6 місяців тому

      Pregnant and looking for a job... Everyone is turning me away .. any advice?

    • @mariaxesfyngi
      @mariaxesfyngi 5 місяців тому

      What about the hiring managers who don't like authority?

    • @Grandmasplace
      @Grandmasplace 5 місяців тому

      It is amazing that I have had over 1OO job offers over the course of my life without using slang like hit it out of the ark or any other buzz words through the decades 1986 to 2O24.

    • @757caz
      @757caz 5 місяців тому

      @@hopeseeker97 You should always proof read your resume. If you had duplicated information then you are not detail oriented.

  • @TheBigdog868
    @TheBigdog868 Рік тому +3345

    INTERVIEWER- "Why do you want this position?"
    ME-"Well, I've always been passionate about not starving to death.

    • @michellew4637
      @michellew4637 Рік тому +55

      😂😂😂😂

    • @amandameyer6470
      @amandameyer6470 Рік тому +138

      That's oversharing. 😂

    • @InMyBrz
      @InMyBrz Рік тому +60

      Yeah, I'd rather not come to work with a fork and knife planning to eat a fellow employee !

    • @Snuggle-Up-Tales
      @Snuggle-Up-Tales Рік тому +19

      😂😂😂😂

    • @MuseSunflower
      @MuseSunflower 10 місяців тому +66

      Right 😆 because I need money, duh

  • @duellingdescartes7950
    @duellingdescartes7950 Рік тому +1245

    The real problem is not the interviewee, it is that so many interviewers think they are hiring for Google, or Mircrosoft, or the CIA. Get over it, they ought to be grateful that anyone even applies for their positions.

    • @nobody7817
      @nobody7817 8 місяців тому +32

      LOL we contract to an alphabet agency and we ARE lucky people apply. THEN getting them to where we are...that's a whole new ball-game. We lose some during that waiting period.

    • @dacksonflux
      @dacksonflux 8 місяців тому +3

      I'm saying

    • @al-manasama8370
      @al-manasama8370 7 місяців тому +105

      For real. The amount of companies (who I never heard of before the recruiter reached out to me) that made me do 5 round interviews for an entry level job. Absolute joke. If I wanted that kind of stress I would apply for Google.

    • @notsomuchhere1387
      @notsomuchhere1387 7 місяців тому +19

      LOL so true, such nonsense

    • @MajorMushroom-u7x
      @MajorMushroom-u7x 6 місяців тому +40

      Especially with the starting wages and benefits they usually offer.

  • @us5freaak
    @us5freaak 8 місяців тому +2162

    To sum up: don’t be yourself, wear a mask, don’t be honest, lie, spin the truth and be a sociopath. Interview NAILED!

    • @noobplayz6798
      @noobplayz6798 7 місяців тому +193

      I have autism and yeah-telling the truth is bad. Go figure smh

    • @teaguejelinek4038
      @teaguejelinek4038 7 місяців тому

      ​@@noobplayz6798
      Where you tryna work where they ask you if you got autism

    • @bassw1758
      @bassw1758 7 місяців тому +135

      Lol, sometimes it's better to be somebody else, best to approach it like you're an actor playing a character.

    • @amoghars
      @amoghars 7 місяців тому

      The entire process of hiring and getting hired is a scam. This is why conflict starts at workplace because everyone lied. 😂

    • @saphire_flame
      @saphire_flame 6 місяців тому +115

      Welcome to the job market unfortunately

  • @kappc2014
    @kappc2014 Рік тому +5126

    Recruiters are a joke, during covid I got laid off. I applied at probably 100 jobs all construction management related. Went through plenty of interviews, talked to many recruiters. One day I got interviewed by an engineer and he was a real person who genuinely wanted to know about me and my plans and goals. He knew I was nervous and my interview probably sucked but he didn’t judge my character or work ethic by my interview skills. I found out later he is also the owner of the company, he hired me, he is the best boss I could dreamed for. He is growing the company and he’s helping me move up more and more with pay being compensated as well. To wrap this up, boooo to recruiters.
    Edit: I did not expect such a huge response. I am sure not all recruiters are bad but the system is flawed. I feel very blessed with the situation I ended up in. Small update, still love my job and still growing in my career.

    • @Vizaru
      @Vizaru Рік тому +293

      big W, glad for you, William. engineers are often better than HR in so many ways. they rarely play stupid social games, and they care about details that matter rather petty shit.

    • @mcmerry2846
      @mcmerry2846 Рік тому +68

      Yeah, those 🤡 are slow af

    • @jackcarraway4707
      @jackcarraway4707 Рік тому +197

      Honestly, I treat having to deal with recruiters as a red flag. I can't stand dealing with middlemen and It's a sign the company has a convoluted communication process.

    • @frankcorrea8691
      @frankcorrea8691 Рік тому +8

      You are one of the lucky KY ones!😊

    • @dragonclaws9367
      @dragonclaws9367 Рік тому +90

      Congratulations on having a human interaction. I remember the days of asking for a manager for future openings, having a chat. Now you can't talk to a person at all it stinks.

  • @miccal99
    @miccal99 Рік тому +984

    I understand how these videos help explain the system, but they sure show how depressing and soul-crushing that system is

    • @helenarichard
      @helenarichard 8 місяців тому +71

      I never feel more crippled than after an interview. I need multiple days to recover from the stress, depressing questions that trigger my low self esteem, and remind me I need money, even doubting whether the job was even a fit for me, anticipating a rejection. Knowing I need to drag my ass back through the rain to continue job searching. Considering becoming a cleaning lady instead of a lawyer... All that stuff. I dont know what is more ghetto, having a job or not having a job. Wish I was just a house wife but my bf wants me to have an income.

    • @bperez8656
      @bperez8656 8 місяців тому +27

      And how judgmental overworked corporate overlord hiring managers are
      They are extremely biased against anyone who shows any flaws and might make their life harder

    • @bperez8656
      @bperez8656 8 місяців тому +8

      @@helenarichardomg that’s depressing
      I have the opposite experience
      I love interviewing
      No one can sell you better than you!

    • @KatM272
      @KatM272 8 місяців тому

      Facts

    • @bcx1138
      @bcx1138 7 місяців тому

      totally!

  • @n2rj
    @n2rj 9 місяців тому +189

    I've stopped disclosing that I have a disability in my applications and the number of interviews I've gotten have gone way up. I just say "I prefer not to disclose" which is a truthful and totally fine answer. Sadly there is discrimination in the hiring process. I also do disclose that I was laid off, but I make it clear that it was a *mass* layoff.

    • @NutsNBerries
      @NutsNBerries 4 місяці тому +7

      Say they sold the company

    • @juangalton999
      @juangalton999 2 місяці тому +6

      I've done that too. My disability doesn't even disqualify me from any jobs. But the discrimination still exists.

    • @hopeseekr
      @hopeseekr 2 місяці тому

      But they say it's confidential.

    • @huntersmith674
      @huntersmith674 Місяць тому

      Insane some of the stories I’m hearing lately about getting hired. Sheesh!

    • @dannyolortegui3776
      @dannyolortegui3776 6 днів тому

      Just say that you don't have a disability and don't put dates on your jobs. In fact, take out the BS jobs and stretch out the good jobs so it doesn't look like you have a large gap between jobs

  • @myheartbelong2oi
    @myheartbelong2oi Рік тому +2311

    Interviews are not intended to qualify an applicant. They are intended to disqualify an applicant. It's a fundamentally adversarial process, and your job is to bend the truth as much as possible without over-promising what you can deliver.

    • @RandomFandomDragon
      @RandomFandomDragon Рік тому +135

      Never thought about it in quite those terms, but feels accurate

    • @sanjaybarnes5717
      @sanjaybarnes5717 Рік тому +171

      This is such a factual statement. Many people want to be honest, but the system forces people to be liars. I would rather have problem solving interviews and also ask questions like, "What makes you happy at work?" Questions like these allow you to get to know someone to keep them productive and not what you assume will keep them productive. Most people just want a trusting and comfortable work environment. I say it all the time. A trusting environment and a trusting leader creates comfort in the workplace and increases productivity. Go ask any employee this.

    • @SportsIncorporated
      @SportsIncorporated Рік тому +14

      @@sanjaybarnes5717 How about a contract position, so both employee and employer can see if they mesh.

    • @acctsys
      @acctsys Рік тому +39

      I would ride the flow and let them get adversarial as they wish. Unless you're desperate, I think it's better to get to the truth earlier rather than later.
      I would go adversarial as well, and ask questions about things that are deal breakers for me.

    • @DJcyberslash
      @DJcyberslash Рік тому +65

      So basically it's the male experience dating women

  • @LetsGoChaseThatTrain
    @LetsGoChaseThatTrain Рік тому +1766

    Age discrimation is a very real issue. Even at roughly age 40 now.

    • @brightspacebabe
      @brightspacebabe Рік тому +217

      Which is idiotic because people live longer and retiring later than past generations.

    • @merlokiii
      @merlokiii Рік тому +211

      They discriminate young people, believe me 😅 Then ask us to be experts when, actually, we are young professionals

    • @LetsGoChaseThatTrain
      @LetsGoChaseThatTrain Рік тому +135

      @@merlokiii I don't disagree with that, although they do that to applicants/emplpyees of all ages now. They expect (not want, expect) a wide array of skills and experience not found in the skill set of any individual. And they want it all for a bargain basement price, on an as-needed basis.

    • @picklerix6162
      @picklerix6162 Рік тому +226

      When I was young, employers said that I didn’t have enough experience. Now, they don’t want to hire anybody older than 50 either.

    • @saulcutter
      @saulcutter Рік тому +46

      And it gets harder closer to 50 with millennials thinking you don't need to know anything about where we came from. These people I've recently heard have a harder time than gen xers learning techniques...

  • @georgekrause5661
    @georgekrause5661 Рік тому +420

    I was asked once during an interview whether I was married or in a relationship, which I confirmed. The interviewer replied that they prefer people who do not have any other commitments in life.
    I happily skipped that one.

    • @potapotapotapotapotapota
      @potapotapotapotapotapota 8 місяців тому

      garbage recruiter

    • @DJSherinee
      @DJSherinee 7 місяців тому +85

      It’s not legal to ask if married or have kids, but ppl are asking me that all the time on interviews. Tell them they can’t legally ask. They shut up really quick.

    • @benjaminsorenson
      @benjaminsorenson 6 місяців тому +41

      That company just wants their employees to eat, sleep, and work and repeat the cycle only for the company and nothing else. Yikes!

    • @heraldo623
      @heraldo623 6 місяців тому +9

      If you are not married always say you are single (even if you have girlfriend)

    • @RaquellePhillips
      @RaquellePhillips 5 місяців тому +9

      Asked if you are married or single? The correct answer is yes! If there's anything else asked about that then the answer is 'irrelevant'. Any further push in this area is a cue to leave

  • @jstnrgrs
    @jstnrgrs Рік тому +1771

    "One wrong step can end you up in the no pile, and we certainly want to avoid that". Not necessarily, sometimes a "wrong step" will save you from working for an awful company. If you can exclude or be excluded from bad companies, you'll do much better than having to quit and find yet another new job.

    • @uacbpa
      @uacbpa Рік тому +30

      Not necessarily, sometimes a "wrong step" gets your rear end rejected from a great employer with good salaries and good benefits. And just because you said the wrong thing, you can be missing a great opportunity for your career advancement. If you can exclude or be excluded from good companies, you'll do much worse than getting laid of and being unemployed.

    • @benc6503
      @benc6503 Рік тому

      @ghost mall That's a very good point and something everyone should keep in mind. However, to be fair, that may very well describe the situation for a lot of his viewers. They got laid off, fired, had to quit, etc. Whatever the reason, there's insufficient or even no income. If these people are facing being late on bills, eviction worries, and/or climbing credit card balances to keep up on bills, they know eventually, there will be a day of reckoning if they don't get some sort of income before then. That day of reckoning is homelessness. Homelessness, especially if without a car, an active phone number, some sort of Internet access, and an unexpired driver's license/ID card, if allowed to get this bad, is almost impossible to get out of.
      Sure, unemployment compensation can help, even immensely. But typically, it's a fraction of your previous income, and there's a time limit on it so it doesn't last forever, at least in America. So it only delays the day of reckoning.
      What you say is very good advice for someone who's in a decent or even tolerable job, and is looking for something better. Unless you think your job might get eliminated or something, you want to do what you can to make sure the next job is better than the previous one.

    • @jstnrgrs
      @jstnrgrs Рік тому +93

      This is true, but companies that easily exclude people for silly reasons are much less likely to be good companies to work for.

    • @Sephiroth144
      @Sephiroth144 Рік тому +23

      Disagree; you should be making that decision, not "slipping up" and having the interviewer make the decision for you.

    • @wsol80
      @wsol80 Рік тому +24

      @@jstnrgrs I think you may have it backwards. It is much more likely that a bad company will overlook potential issues because they expect high turnover and just need employees now. A good company will have more candidates, higher expectations, and putting in extra effort to polish your presentation will help your chances.

  • @TonklinFallen
    @TonklinFallen Рік тому +1201

    I have a daughter with extreme autism, whenever I have let potential employers know about this, their attitudes noticably changes in a heart beat. This always happens. The first time I was dishonest and didn't reveal this, I landed the job.

    • @MissJ970
      @MissJ970 Рік тому +283

      none of their business anyway...and congrats!

    • @ragingphoinix9144
      @ragingphoinix9144 Рік тому +163

      @@MissJ970 Exactly. They don't need to know any of that.

    • @GasPipeJimmy
      @GasPipeJimmy Рік тому +166

      Dishonest?
      It’s none of their business and likely an illegal question if they asked it directly

    • @InMyBrz
      @InMyBrz Рік тому +91

      YOUR PERSONAL LIFE is NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS
      WHAT they did was ILLEGAL to discriminate against you ! Go to the EEOC and make a complaint

    • @DustyTeachesArt
      @DustyTeachesArt Рік тому +39

      It's none of their business, I never tell my jobs about my ICD (pacemaker). Only time they find out is when I have to go to the hosiptial to get it checked out or replaced.

  • @createthiscom
    @createthiscom 9 місяців тому +50

    I’m at 8:12 and most of what I’ve heard so far is “lie often and lie well”. I feel like everyone on both sides of the table need to sit down and have a deep introspective think about that.

  • @syenite
    @syenite Рік тому +449

    Re: previous salary. I made that mistake and if cost me about $50,000/year. I'd been working at a non-profit, which are notorious for underpaying. I had told the recruiter "it was $xx,xxx but it was a tiny non-profit with only a dozen employees."
    They came back with an offer that was $20,000 more. Still in the 5 digits range. Found out two years later, the person w less experience then me and hired for the position that reported to me was hired in the 6 digit range. Went to HR, they basically said "you accepted it. We offered more than your last job."
    Never ever ever reveal your salary!

    • @dvictory8750
      @dvictory8750 Рік тому +76

      If they can't reveal how much their own employees make then my previous salary is also confidential. Just saying

    • @Last_Resort991
      @Last_Resort991 Рік тому +27

      And you still didnt learn your lesson. The lesson you should have learned is to find out what that job is worth.

    • @i2rtw
      @i2rtw Рік тому +36

      “That’s a really interesting question. If you were to offer the position to me, what is the best you could offer?”

    • @devicetablet9305
      @devicetablet9305 9 місяців тому +9

      Lol in India you must share you payslips 😂

    • @davidclark9619
      @davidclark9619 9 місяців тому +6

      I googled the salary range for the job and used the median.

  • @grcxb6
    @grcxb6 Рік тому +568

    While I think your advice has merit, I focus on being myself in interviews. I am not going to hide my hobbies, personality, and identity for a potential employer. If they don't want to hire me for those reasons, then that's not a place I would be comfortable working anyway.

    • @cuivre2004
      @cuivre2004 Рік тому +59

      I tend to be the same way. I've worked with way too many people that turned out to be counterfeits and posers after they got the job.

    • @vigglarodz
      @vigglarodz Рік тому +45

      I am the same way. I don't want a job under false pretenses. Yes, I'm awkward & arrogant, but if you don't want to deal with that then you're doing me the favour. I do agree that not being honest about your previous jobs and salaries helps (especially the looking for another job thing because nowadays its a stupid question), but odds are they don't need any of that information to make up their minds.

    • @dilsiam
      @dilsiam Рік тому +10

      I'm like that too, I don't like to pose

    • @kevinmach730
      @kevinmach730 Рік тому +71

      I completely agree about being yourself. However, the one thing I will add- a lot of times your preliminary screening is be done by someone with a low skill set or has very little idea about the position they're screening for. This is especially prevalent in tech, and I'm sure other fields as well. In other words, you may never see this person again once you're hired, and it may be a good fit for you in the long term. Why should you be denied an opportunity because of their biases when it's just one of the hoops you have to jump through in any interview process? All Brian is saying is put yourself in the drivers seat. Don't tell them things they don't need to know.

    • @novadhd
      @novadhd Рік тому +27

      You dont necessarily need to hide them but keep in understated and related to the role at hand.

  • @ayzc4164
    @ayzc4164 10 місяців тому +42

    I got turned away from a job, everything was going good until they mentioned all employees go on a yearly camping thing. I told them I was a city girl, next thing you know I wasn’t hired. Everything was fine until that question then they all frowned. I’m not there to make friends so it was a blessing in disguise

  • @deannevictor536
    @deannevictor536 Рік тому +1068

    I made the mistake of disclosing my autism during an interview, for two reasons:
    1. The manager disclosed that his son was on the spectrum first, and that he was often lost on how to interact with him.
    2. It was a data entry job that required painstaking attention to detail, repetitive tasks, and a strict routine. He was worried that I wouldn't be up for it because two people had already quit the position. Autistic people like me thrive in these environments, and when he saw my enthusiasm, he directly asked if I'd prefer to work outside with everyone else, or if I'd prefer to have my own office so I could have some quiet. It seemed too good to be true, and it was, in fact, a fucking trap.
    When he learned that I was autistic, I felt the energy in the room change. He rushed me out and left a half-hearted rejection message on my voicemail the next day.
    Allistic people never say what they mean; don't let them lure you into a false sense of security, keep masking.

    • @MrKarlozz
      @MrKarlozz Рік тому +77

      Oh damn sorry to hear. But don't worry, there's plenty of jobs for you out there 😊

    • @candysmith3457
      @candysmith3457 Рік тому

      Im really sorry this happened to you. Autistic people are awesome and worth the time investment. You probably dodged a bullet with this employer.

    • @shadowdancer909
      @shadowdancer909 Рік тому

      The mention of his son was a red flag. All autistic people are different but he probably wrongly assumed you would be similar to his son. If he has trouble communicating with his son, he thinks he will have trouble communicating with you. If the only autistic people he knows are children, it could also make him think of you as childlike rather than a competent professional. I’m sorry this happened to you, it’s unfair discrimination. It’s really unfortunate that we live in a society where people have to hide stuff like this.

    • @johnwalker1058
      @johnwalker1058 Рік тому +161

      Damn, what an as*hole. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.

    • @snail415
      @snail415 Рік тому +42

      Great post. I’m sorry for what you went-through.

  • @terri348
    @terri348 Рік тому +312

    Also I interviewed for a job where the boss had fired 3 secretaries and expected their new hire to do all 3 jobs within an 8 hour period. This meant, according to the jobs of the other 3 before, you would have to be 3 different places, doing 3 different things, at the same time. I politely ended the interview. When asked why, I replied, " I cannot give my best to the individual job if I am not there 2/3 of the time."

    • @johnnycarson67
      @johnnycarson67 5 місяців тому +13

      No one should take that job. They would do the same thing to you that they did to the previous ones that left

    • @evandrea
      @evandrea 2 місяці тому

      I'm sorry but why is the interviewer boasting about firing his employees? 😭

    • @Impaled_Onion-thatsmine
      @Impaled_Onion-thatsmine 11 днів тому

      I had one of those at a print shop where they ought to have at least 3 people creating work orders and other processes, i also have a degree thats practically a commerce crossover bachelor of arts we almost broke the digital printer they had to terminate me, when I worked at Amazon it got so busy we had like pallets and pallets of oversized, people were walking out.... when I stock shelves at the grocery store they start quadding all purchases.. the funny part is people thinking it's not mine when my name is Cleary printed on it and I clearly completed all the credits.

  • @potapotapotapotapotapota
    @potapotapotapotapotapota 8 місяців тому +111

    I don't want to work at a company where I have to play these stupid mind games. I'd rather be authentic and if they don't want my talent then that's their fault.

    • @CharlieD-gf1ny
      @CharlieD-gf1ny 6 місяців тому +2

      Well said.

    • @kmmediafactory
      @kmmediafactory Місяць тому +7

      I'd like to agree, but in this modern market, even for more technical positions there are some hoops you have to jump through. At least for more specialized positions you can get it easy with the technical guys as long as you know your stuff but from what I've seen the first stage is usually HR and those ridiculous psychological games.
      Maybe my knowledge is limited, that's just my two cents

    • @Cyberspine
      @Cyberspine Місяць тому +5

      ​@@kmmediafactoryYeah, you are absolutely right. You want to pull every trick in the book when dealing with recruiters with a non-technical background. They only act as gatekeepers to the technical people who you will most likely actually be working with, and who are much easier to click with in an interview.

  • @vk4742
    @vk4742 Рік тому +469

    9 years ago. Had an interview.
    They asked me were I see myself in 5 years. Explained that I wanted to get my license and start a similar business.
    They hired me. When I got my license 4 years later I got fired for competing, stealing company info, and poaching employees.
    I filed for unemployment, it got rejected, I appealed, explained case to the appeals judge. Unemployment granted.
    Went in a small vacation and went back to doing what I originally was doing for twice the pay and 2x less work in hours but still make more than I did before working 50-60 hour weeks.

    • @ssebasgoo
      @ssebasgoo Рік тому +60

      You really can't trust anyone, I've read similar stories everywhere. This is fucking crazy.

    • @InMyBrz
      @InMyBrz Рік тому

      GOOD, SCREW THEM ! TELL everyone you know their name and how shitty they are !

    • @l.w.paradis2108
      @l.w.paradis2108 10 місяців тому +20

      This is a GOOD story. Many people in your situation don't have a positive outcome. Love to hear it! Brilliant work!!

    • @CoercedJab
      @CoercedJab 9 місяців тому +4

      Taxpayer funded vacation is your success story?

    • @l.w.paradis2108
      @l.w.paradis2108 9 місяців тому +17

      @@CoercedJab Employer pays for unemployment in my state.

  • @emteiks
    @emteiks Рік тому +87

    So basically never say about your goals but always "package" your message to what your employer wants to hear.
    In 5 years you want to excel in the same position at the same salary working your ass off, no hobbies no medical issues, nothing unrelated to the job role you're applying. And that's just the beginning of amazing relationship with your employer :))

  • @karlbryant5706
    @karlbryant5706 9 місяців тому +119

    I like the old fashion way of applying for jobs, direct to employers

  • @JUMALATION1
    @JUMALATION1 Рік тому +669

    About disabilities: I got lucky at my latest job. I didn't mention my severe IBS during the interview and during my first few months there, but at one point I had to take sick leave for it, it got so bad. I had a really compassionate boss that sort of understood what was going on without me outright telling her, and she revealed that she had IBS too. The employee-boss dynamic got a lot better between us after that.

    • @MargoCheri
      @MargoCheri Рік тому +77

      Chronic conditions can actually be a disability. It’s a case by case analysis. Further the accommodations are specific to the disability. A person with IBS won’t have the same accommodations as a person with a vision-impairment.

    • @snowwhitecupcakes272
      @snowwhitecupcakes272 Рік тому +69

      @ghost mall my husband has ulcerative colitis and it is certainly a disability. He was hospitalized at Mayo Clinic for ten days and almost lost his colon. He goes to the restroom over 30 times a day and another 9-10 times at night. Who would hire someone like that? Who? Imagine not being able to control your bowel movements. Stool coming out your pants….it’s awful. It absolutely is a disability.

    • @draneym2003
      @draneym2003 Рік тому

      @ghost mall Does autism qualify in your judgmental world? Talk about a hurdle. Worse than being amputated or blind that's for sure.

    • @Laz3rCat95
      @Laz3rCat95 Рік тому +50

      @ghost mall Any sort of long term medical condition that interferes with your day to day activities and requires accommodations is a disability. It's a broad label and no one is saying the type or amount of accommodations would be the same with IBS vs. blindness. If you need any accommodations at all to do your day to day activities effectively, even if it's minor, it counts.

    • @JUMALATION1
      @JUMALATION1 Рік тому +22

      I had no idea this would blow up like this. Of course there are people that have it wayyy worse than me. I just thought I would share my story that I struggle working in a normal office because of my IBS. I am in no way belittling disabilities by any means.
      I also never technically mentioned that this was a disability... so some people *coughghostmallcough* apparently needed to react in some way. I feel for you though.

  • @mikoto7693
    @mikoto7693 Рік тому +202

    Gosh, being employed is a lot of unnecessary emotional work even after the interviewing process. But I really must say that I absolutely despise being asked why I want to work with this particular company because wereh expected to lie. The simple truth is that I want the job so that I can earn some money so that I may eat, have shelter and possibly get a bit of enjoyment out of my existence. That’s it. Anything else is just a lie.
    Why bother?

    • @Sephiroth144
      @Sephiroth144 Рік тому +12

      You forgot (possible) benefits ala medical insurance.

    • @elibennett6168
      @elibennett6168 Рік тому +5

      Wow. Sounds totally mercenary with no motivation other than material gain.

    • @skyranger1366
      @skyranger1366 Рік тому +49

      ​@@elibennett6168 And the executives that lay people off for increased stock prices are any different

    • @stevewalsh1935
      @stevewalsh1935 Рік тому +38

      @@elibennett6168 Why would you be anything else when you're utterly disposable to the company no matter how important you think you are?

    • @elibennett6168
      @elibennett6168 Рік тому

      @@stevewalsh1935 Professionals are invested in their work beyond just getting a paycheck.

  • @ethanhunt6422
    @ethanhunt6422 5 місяців тому +25

    I believe that the best mindset to have when going into an interview is that of “negotiation mode”. The absolute best negotiators are those that know how to create the illusion that they have nothing to lose if they do not get what they want. It is like showing that you want the job, but are not desperate for it. This helps you to feel more relaxed (of course, being currently employed helps to support this approach).

    • @johnnycarson67
      @johnnycarson67 5 місяців тому

      It's really weird because it's almost like dating period a lot of girls will date you if they think you are attached to someone else and not as easily if you aren't. Very strange but true

    • @delilahjones6496
      @delilahjones6496 3 місяці тому

      Words of wisdom.

  • @scootergirl3662
    @scootergirl3662 Рік тому +402

    The fact that this is a discussion we have to keep having is proof we need major change
    I personally have gone against many recruiters advice and just be honest, without being cynical. It has worked for me. Maybe I am just worse at acting than most, but I found I prefer the risks that come with being too honest rather than not honest enough.
    I have had a lot of people give me a hard time for it, but I remind them I have to deal with the consequences, not them

    • @catpig7679
      @catpig7679 Рік тому +37

      Go off, but don't forget that allot of people literally can not AFFORD to prefer that risk.

    • @DeMoraJS
      @DeMoraJS Рік тому +24

      I've always seen my honesty as my biggest fault.

    • @HisameArtwork
      @HisameArtwork Рік тому +27

      yeah, being hired based on vibes instead of capability is idiotic.
      the age and gender things is also ridiculous ...as if employers won't find out what your body is like. you'll just be rejected later after wasting time on interview meetings.

    • @cfri9332
      @cfri9332 Рік тому +15

      @@FaQUE-hg5tl Slavery in America. Can you imagine that?

    • @jimba6486
      @jimba6486 Рік тому +16

      Amen brother. I am the same way. I won’t self censor myself to conform. Being honest does not mean we have to be unprofessional or rude.

  • @Crazywaffle5150
    @Crazywaffle5150 Рік тому +88

    I still watch this guys even though I'm no longer laid off. I was here when he first started the channel. It's crazy he has grown so much. Solid advice.

    • @ALifeAfterLayoff
      @ALifeAfterLayoff  Рік тому +12

      Appreciate the continued support!

    • @lanas8066
      @lanas8066 Рік тому

      I'm not laid off but have been laid off before and had multiple layoffs at my company so just a possibility on my mind and preparing for the future. But I think great advice in general.

    • @AverageJillM
      @AverageJillM Рік тому

      Would it be okay to reveal that the reason you left your last job was to wait out the pandemic in safety?

    • @Crazywaffle5150
      @Crazywaffle5150 Рік тому

      @@AverageJillM I work aircraft. They lay off allot. It was after the 737 max went down.

  • @Unacceptable.
    @Unacceptable. 2 місяці тому +11

    I had an internal interview last week for a position just one level above mine due to the person who was doing that work left. During the interview, HR asked why I believed I was suitable for the role. I explained that for the past five years, I’ve been covering the responsibilities whenever the person in that position was on vacation or absent. Additionally, since that person left the company two months ago, I’ve been handling his work full-time.
    Despite this, I was not selected for the role. Instead, they hired someone from outside the company. Now, I’m being asked to train that person until they are able to do the job themselves.
    I just want to cry...

    • @Fkhalfblood
      @Fkhalfblood 2 місяці тому +4

      @@Unacceptable. I would resign. It's clear they don't value you.

    • @Unacceptable.
      @Unacceptable. 2 місяці тому +1

      @@Fkhalfblood Yes, I gave resignation letter, now the HR is saying that i and the new person can both be working in the same position, HR also offered me a massive salary hike.
      I don't know what to do now, stick here until i get a job or leave as soon as possible.
      I know that they only want me to stay here to teach the new person.

    • @Fkhalfblood
      @Fkhalfblood 2 місяці тому +2

      @@Unacceptable. The fact that you've been covering the role for the past 5 years and HR went with hiring someone outside seems like a huge red flag within the company personally.
      Stick to your current role while you start looking elsewhere. Job market is competitive atm.

    • @StormyTuesday5108
      @StormyTuesday5108 3 дні тому +2

      Take the raise then find a new job

    • @Unacceptable.
      @Unacceptable. 3 дні тому

      ​@@StormyTuesday5108I decided to leave my previous company despite being offered a raise, I felt insulted and dehumanized. It didn't feel right to accept their offer. Fortunately, I was able to get a new position through reference of a former colleague.

  • @heroldjaras9909
    @heroldjaras9909 Рік тому +351

    thats what i hate about job interviews, but sadly you cant be honest towards companies, because they dont care about you

    • @ALifeAfterLayoff
      @ALifeAfterLayoff  Рік тому +75

      There's a game that needs to be played.

    • @mementomori29231
      @mementomori29231 Рік тому +52

      Never assume a company cares about you. It’s a business relationship and has to be treated as such. There is no such thing as having strangers caring about you. It’s human nature.

    • @CA999
      @CA999 Рік тому +6

      It's subliminal that what you know you are obedient and disciplined.

    • @CA999
      @CA999 Рік тому +11

      Also it's as much about interviewing them. Are they asking the right questions? Are they just tick-boxing? Do they understand the position they are advertising, especially if it is a new role?

    • @americanflyer4126
      @americanflyer4126 Рік тому +27

      A few years ago I interviewed for a job I was well-qualified for. I went into the interview brimming with confidence. For some reason I decided to be completely honest in all my answers. I was polite and professional but also very candid. Well, you can guess that it didn't go over well. I've vowed never to do that again.

  • @adamd9166
    @adamd9166 Рік тому +353

    The problem is, you never know that the interviewer wants or expects for the role, so you're going in blind. They may want someone who isn't ambitious because they want them to stay in the role. Show any hint of wanting to advance, and you're out.
    The same could be equally true, that they want someone who will grow into a leadership position, but if you show too much contentment with the current position as it is, they'll decide you're not ambitious enough and you're out.
    The best strategy would be to be likeable, and sniff out what they envision for the role, and feed it back to them.

    • @elmateo77
      @elmateo77 Рік тому +37

      When unsure I'd say show a willingness to advance without seeming overly aggressive, that's the right answer more often than not, and generally the positions with advancement potential will be higher paying since they want to attract the more skilled candidates.

    • @randyjackson7584
      @randyjackson7584 Рік тому +7

      better advice than anything said in this video

    • @lormaeris
      @lormaeris Рік тому +16

      Some level of honesty is necessary. If you fake everything you'll be found out eventually anyway. I'm not saying you should not paint yourself in the best light, but faking things you don't have is never a good strategy anywhere.

    • @kerriganm
      @kerriganm Рік тому +26

      I finally came up with what was (I thought at least) a fairly brilliant question in an interview. I would prepare little résumé stories before an interview. Not just “I did this” but “here’s a story that shows initiative”, “here’s a story that shows teamwork”, “here’s a story of turning around a liability”, “here’s a story that shows I added to the company’s bottom line”. Instead of just waiting for an appropriate question to share my little stories or guessing what they want and what they mean by the opaque corporate speak, I asked, “Who is the perfect person for this position?” They actually seemed delighted or relieved to be asked and when they listed talents and characteristics, I pulled out my batch of resume stories and picked out the ones that fit the criteria. Interviews suck, but that seemed to make things go better. Good luck everyone!!

    • @lormaeris
      @lormaeris Рік тому +8

      @@kerriganm Communicating with stories is a great advice! I'll prepare few in advance as well, thanks for the idea!

  • @Johndean023
    @Johndean023 9 місяців тому +8

    My favorite line I got from the only job I was let go from was “This is an at will position. We can fire you at will without reason.”
    I’ve taken that logic when interviewed. I do what interviewers do and make note of what they are selling me about the company and when the narrative changes, as it almost always will, to protect their best interest I start the job seeking process all over again. Believe it or not business is just that , business. Don’t take it personally and move on

  • @cocoman6923
    @cocoman6923 Рік тому +72

    Just wanted to say I've been watching your channel for the last 6 months and interviewing like crazy trying to get a better job. Just landed a new job and doubled my income(wasn't making much before) and have healthcare I can afford. Thanks for all the help!

  • @randyriegel8553
    @randyriegel8553 Рік тому +197

    Love the previous/current salary question. If asked I always say 10-15K more than I'm actually making. Pretty much only way to get a good raise these days. My first job out of college as a Software Developer back in 1998 I was making around 25K/yr. I was at the company for about 4 years with out a raise. I got job offer at another company for around 37K. When I went to my boss to give my two weeks notice he asked me how much other company was offering. I said 45K. They offered me 50K to stay there. I've learned a lot from that and use same technic today. Even if I switch jobs I give them higher salary rate. It's all about playing the game to increase you salary.

    • @beatrixbrennan1545
      @beatrixbrennan1545 Рік тому +7

      That's awesome! Good for you.

    • @manictiger
      @manictiger Рік тому +5

      I will say, that was a more lucrative time-period, a couple years before the crash. Right now, jobs are scarce because the rates are high, so instead of hiring people, companies are down-sizing and paying back debt. The Fed is starting to cave in to that pressure, but that'll just cause more inflation when the effects of the BTFP kick in.
      We're reaching the end of the line with this system.

    • @demoniack81
      @demoniack81 Рік тому +14

      @@manictiger Jobs are scarce? Here in Italy as a senior software engineer I get constantly hounded by recruiters on LinkedIn and I have an offer for +45% of my salary sitting in my inbox right now. Market has been crazy the last year or so.

    • @manictiger
      @manictiger Рік тому +19

      @@demoniack81
      I'm not in Italy.

    • @rsr789
      @rsr789 Рік тому +4

      @@spankyspork5808 Yup. This is why I'm VERY wary of recruiting / HR companies: they send emails with roles, you send back your resume and then you never hear back from them, even if you follow up a few times.

  • @thedagon7826
    @thedagon7826 2 місяці тому +2

    All the things aside, I just love how this man just not telling us what not to do, but we get a sneak-peak of the interviewers POV and make it make sense!! Thank you.

  • @nwatson2773
    @nwatson2773 Рік тому +1006

    There are only two reasons people work.. money and or benefits. I’m not sure why we all need to pretend. So basically just LIE!

    • @td4611
      @td4611 Рік тому +40

      Not true - why do multi-millionaires and billionaires still work. Money and benefits are absolutely essential, but there are many people who absolutely love what they do.

    • @justshady
      @justshady Рік тому +208

      @@td4611 millionaires just want to get richer, the 99% just need money.

    • @niggaflies
      @niggaflies Рік тому +115

      @@td4611 They still work for money! He is right! Money is the primary reason!

    • @AYKAY88
      @AYKAY88 Рік тому +16

      Facts

    • @ashleyjung8609
      @ashleyjung8609 Рік тому +52

      Many businesses owners and managers have huge egos that need to be stroked by ppl telling them how inspiring their company is over their competitors even though the applicant has probably said the same thing to all the other competitors

  • @fullness123
    @fullness123 Рік тому +239

    Genius correct answer: "I don't have a personality or a life, so I am at your service." "As for salary, I've always thought slave wages suited my life as a robot."

    • @fayecoldren-sallee5864
      @fayecoldren-sallee5864 6 місяців тому +13

      🚌🏍️🚦🚍🚏🚎 If you're a robot, which one of these pictures have buses?

    • @fionastube2011
      @fionastube2011 5 місяців тому +3

      🤣

    • @wendywen24
      @wendywen24 4 місяці тому +5

      😂😂 sound like me in my last job. Feel like a robot. Work paid by hours not outcomes. I quit

    • @julia4393
      @julia4393 4 місяці тому +2

      Well said!

    • @ozarkrefugee
      @ozarkrefugee 4 місяці тому +3

      I have given similar answers, the interviewer gets less friendly after that.

  • @rayhage3971
    @rayhage3971 Рік тому +7

    As a former employee and now a business owner, I am extremely thankful. I was sad in reading some of these comments honestly. The employee and prospective employee almost always gets treated like crap or just a cost rather than an asset to the company. It's hard to stay motivated in that kind of environment. This is why I always tell me, "Figure out your own business! If you have to take a job for a while, take it and learn a lot...and then get the hell out!"

  • @jackcarraway4707
    @jackcarraway4707 Рік тому +158

    Even after you accept a job offer and start working, keep your personal life a secret to everyone. Don't put pictures of your family on your cubicle or say you need time off for your wedding. If they find out you have mouths to feed, you can bet your sweet ass they'll start bullying you. Oh, you're single? They'll try to give you the most work or your boss might start creeping on you.

    • @althunder4269
      @althunder4269 Рік тому +35

      They love wage slaves with big mortgages because the slave is trapped.

    • @warrenlewis3977
      @warrenlewis3977 Рік тому +8

      As far as pictures go...if ur in an interacial relationship DEFINITELY NO PICTURES!!

    • @warrenlewis3977
      @warrenlewis3977 Рік тому +3

      @@althunder4269 don't tell them about your new truck either.

    • @donnamaco1
      @donnamaco1 Рік тому +3

      @@althunder4269 500,000 thumbs up.

    • @donnamaco1
      @donnamaco1 Рік тому +16

      I once told an employer about a non-elective, desperately needed surgery; they then turned off my health insurance and terminated me. I found out when I was being wheeled into surgery. The hospital came very close to not performing the surgery. I presented a credit card to make the surgery happen, but be aware, be afraid. The employment situation is just an illusion, so is your health insurance.

  • @SupremeAtheist
    @SupremeAtheist Рік тому +34

    In brief, workplace is always a dangerous environment, where they say they accept your particularities but it’s just rhetoric. I appreciate what you bring on your video.

  • @Stiffdistantandweird
    @Stiffdistantandweird Рік тому +49

    This is why I hated being a recruiter. He said “ok so now you’re 55 years old”. As a recruiter, I honestly believed that it was my job to work with the company about the realities of the employment market, to challenge their biases and open their minds to the value of applicants that they wouldn’t normally interview. It worked well, but the problem I had were colleagues who constantly undermined this to steal my candidates and clients so they could reach their targets and maximise bonuses. It’s a brutal industry

    • @silversilk8438
      @silversilk8438 7 місяців тому

      How did you survive, and what are you up to these days?

  • @picklerix6162
    @picklerix6162 Рік тому +217

    I remember a large computer company was coming to our college to interview prospective employees after I interviewed and was offered a position. One of my classmates always talked about his back injury. I told him not to bring up the back injury in the interview because he wouldn’t be lifting anything heavier than a circuit board. When he interviewed, he immediately told them about his back and he was rejected.

    • @BusinessWolf1
      @BusinessWolf1 Рік тому +41

      Some people just like to run themselves into walls. Don't try and stop them, just continue forward. There's too many of them and life is too short.

    • @pieflies
      @pieflies Рік тому +10

      Another thing to consider is that he was undesirable for other reasons.
      Often people will make assumptions about some reason why they weren’t chosen when maybe it’s just that they weren’t perceived as being qualified as the other candidates.
      This can happen even if you are qualified but are unlucky that the other candidates at the specific time you applied are more qualified.

    • @birdie4263
      @birdie4263 Рік тому +1

      what a fucking dumbass!🤦‍♂🤦‍♀some people just don't realise how valuable tips are from friends. we obviously want the best for them and to see them succeed!
      I remember when I told my friend not to mention her spinal injury on her job application at all and to only mention it VAGUELY if it was brought up why she had a gap year and she listened and got the job!
      she told me I was right and they didn't even mention it. I was so happy for her🥰.

    • @lightlayagajoie5739
      @lightlayagajoie5739 Рік тому +8

      part of it may be not that he has a back problem. but him not understanding that deception was the best strategy in this situation is what makes him not a good fir for the team. For example if he were to work there and someone where to ask him is the company making a contribution to society he have to immediately say yes depite the knowledge of the opposite. You have to be a good lair to work for a corporation and it has to come natural to you. you have to lie with every breath you take. as easely as breathing. So thats why they didnt hire him.

    • @russellseilhamer4552
      @russellseilhamer4552 Рік тому +14

      One of the biggest rules of interviewing- Say nothing negative or at the very least downplay the negative. Keep everything positive

  • @Lavabug
    @Lavabug Рік тому +159

    The one at 3:48 is absolutely insane. If you're bored at your previous job and you seek out a new opportunity, then you're not a go-getter because you didn't find more interesting work at your current job? Forever moving goalposts.

    • @mosca3289
      @mosca3289 Рік тому +29

      It's about looking positive, constructive, self reliant. If you complain that you were bored you look negative, critical, needy. And the interviewer's going to think "I don't want that attitude directed at me!"

    • @adamd9166
      @adamd9166 Рік тому +22

      I agree, but I suppose it is all in the phrasing. I worked in a factory, so I would usually mention that while the work was alright, I felt I was ready for new challenges and there wasn't too much opportunity to expand my skill set, given the nature of the work (doing the same thing, day out). As well as limited opportunity for advancement.
      The truth is, if a recruiter really wants to twist your answer to something negative, they will. ANY reason for leaving could be twisted to something negative... but then, if everything was perfect, no one would be interviewing.

    • @novadhd
      @novadhd Рік тому +5

      yep thats kind of ridiculous

    • @custos3249
      @custos3249 Рік тому +6

      Almost like there's a reason no recruiter or hiring manager will ever be accused of genius

    • @elmateo77
      @elmateo77 Рік тому +4

      Just always tell them you're "looking for new growth opportunities".

  • @rickjohnson3215
    @rickjohnson3215 Рік тому +11

    Here is a little advice for retired folks looking for a part time job. When I interviewed with a large grocery store chain, my resume showed a lot of experience in the field and they jumped at asking me if I was interested in management. I let them know that I was retired, explaining that I had the department managers job, I had the store managers job, I even had the owners job but I was retired. I quickly followed that up with that I enjoyed working with people and that I would be very happy being their gunnery sergeant and help train their new people in that store’s practices which I happen to have been familiar with as a customer. They jumped at the prospect and I worked for them for five years until we moved out of the area.

  • @urai9438
    @urai9438 Рік тому +66

    For the "why are you looking to leave the company you're at now?" my answer is usually (honestly) I'm not really, I am happy where I am, and I am just seeing what else is out there. I know that [company I am interviewing with] is a good company, and I like them, so I applied for the position.

  • @jimzielinski946
    @jimzielinski946 Рік тому +257

    I was raised by my parents and religious teachings to be absolutely honest and always tell the truth. Throughout my whole career (I'm retired now), I typically found it very hard to compete against my peers who typically talked up everything on their resume. I also never rose in the ranks, not for being humble, but for being perceived as less able, so I usually earned about 60% of what my peers made, but usually did the same work (sometimes more, and admittedly sometimes less, though more than the requirements of my pay grade). Lier's, braggarts, and aggressive types almost always go to the top. I think I was always able to keep whatever job I had because I always performed above expectations. I guess I'd be bitter if I didn't recognize, understand, and accept my own self imposed limitations. Ultimately I was always able to sleep good at night knowing I was honest, regardless if my boss appreciated it or not. I guess I'm saying "know thyself".

    • @joriankell1983
      @joriankell1983 Рік тому +18

      So much for slaying serpents. Just because you were raised to be better than a human doesn't mean you let these evil monkeys step over you. Cowardice is a sin.

    • @Snowfireblues
      @Snowfireblues Рік тому +25

      In most workplaces it's not WHAT you do, what's important for promotions and things of the sort is to be SEEN doing something and constantly bringing it to their attention. A silent workhorse is rarely if ever noticed. They do work, but that's their job; the one's that constantly market themselves to the higher ups get the attention and therefore a persistent association of them and enthusiastic work

    • @jimzielinski946
      @jimzielinski946 Рік тому +14

      @@Snowfireblues based on your description I can say you have to be right - most of my coworkers who promoted their work were the ones who got promoted or at least got raises. I did get noticed once by a very high level exec for my work. It felt great. He Retired 2weeks later! So much for a lasting effect.

    • @Snowfireblues
      @Snowfireblues Рік тому +13

      @@jimzielinski946 I am in no way justifying it. I'm as outraged as you are. It is utter bullshit and even they know it. I'm simply stating that, even in a 'data driven' world, it is not those who work hard who get noticed, it is those who shout the most asinine things the loudest who get noticed. Sadly thanks to prejudice and conformity, a good number of people choose to hear the crap corporate perpetuates as opposed to the people who ask for a right to exist without shame or prejudice.

    • @TragoudistrosMPH
      @TragoudistrosMPH Рік тому +13

      I worked with people like you. I hated lying, but was always ambitious and not too bad at climbing.
      I always sought people like you as allies to take down the awful ambitious liars.
      I'm not particularly competitive minded, but I can't stand outright indecent people.

  • @MikearoniGrill
    @MikearoniGrill 2 місяці тому +2

    These are fantastic tips, thank you.
    I catch myself revealing my age, my true hobbies, my previous salary, and "not knowing my 5 year plan" in these tests. It's so easy to do, and I over share about my personal life. Thanks for posting this video.

  • @BitwiseMobile
    @BitwiseMobile Рік тому +53

    I contracted for over 15 years and, as a result, I changed jobs often. In the tech industry that's not such a bad thing for your career, but it does bring with it the challenge that every couple of years (sometimes sooner depending on contract length) you have to hit the bricks and look for the next gig. Contracting isn't a slam deal and requires the same kind of interviewing techniques you would use for an FTE position. The one thing I took away after at least 20 interviews in my career is that at the end of the day it's a sales pitch. You are a salesman and the product you are trying to sell is your skillset. Just like with any sales technique you want to always keep it on topic. If your pitch starts to wander you need to bring it back and tie it to the goal of making the sale. If they ask you soft questions like, what are your hobbies, or describe a typical day, try to always tie that to your skillset and how those activities can ultimately benefit the organization. It's a sales pitch all the way.

    • @deanowexford7021
      @deanowexford7021 11 місяців тому +2

      Me too, many years contracting. "I" end up steering the interview 75% of the time when they are a weak interviewer. Stay on my sales pitch and I ask them targeted questions to find out what the work environment is like.

  • @VivaToddVegas
    @VivaToddVegas Рік тому +415

    Last week I had an employer ask me what year I graduated college. His face visibly jerked when I told him the answer. I did not get the job. It’s illegal to ask how old you are, but it’s not illegal to ask your college grad date… Which basically tells them your age. Also, what are you going to do if they straight up ask you? There’s no winning that situation.

    • @tvdavis
      @tvdavis Рік тому +137

      Exactly! I’m over 50 & female. For my entire adult work life, interviewers have been finding ways to ask questions they’re not LEGALLY allowed to ask. When I don’t need the job, it’s easy to say “I fail to see how that’s relevant to the position” in response to many of the questions. But when you finally get an interview, your skills are a good match, and you need a job, when the interviewer starts asking questions under the guise of being social, but you know it’s just a trap to get info out of you, such as marital status, child status, age, religious beliefs, etc., it’s hard when you want to just reply “It’s none of your damned business. Do you need someone to do the job or not?!”

    • @Kittiesinclair5
      @Kittiesinclair5 Рік тому +9

      Why did you answer?

    • @snicksabea
      @snicksabea Рік тому +39

      @@tvdaviswe’re women we’re seen and treated as less than.

    • @althunder4269
      @althunder4269 Рік тому +10

      Lie.

    • @aman68931
      @aman68931 Рік тому +22

      is it really illegal to ask how old you are....??...bcoz here in India they ask your birth of birth, religion, in which Indian state I was born and my caste

  • @JatericaLatrice
    @JatericaLatrice 8 місяців тому +1

    I work in corporate yet you are absolutely CORRECT! Sometimes you will need to filter things. Love this!

  • @donnamaco1
    @donnamaco1 Рік тому +89

    I once told an employer about a non-elective, desperately needed surgery; they then turned off my health insurance and terminated me. I found out when I was being wheeled into surgery. The hospital came very close to not performing the surgery. I presented a credit card to make the surgery happen, but be aware, be afraid. The employment situation is just an illusion, so is your health insurance.

    • @Darth_Insidious
      @Darth_Insidious Рік тому +21

      I would hope that sort of thing is illegal.

    • @triv4555
      @triv4555 Рік тому +13

      Funny enough a similar thing happened to me earlier this year; I told my manager I was getting my wisdom teeth pulled and they cut me a week later...lesson learned I guess lol

    • @donnamaco1
      @donnamaco1 Рік тому +7

      @@triv4555 Land of the free. Home of the brave. Well, the brave part is correct. USA!

    • @Druze_Tito
      @Druze_Tito 9 місяців тому +3

      @@triv4555 well, who wants an employee that is not 'wise' anymore? :)

    • @esense9602
      @esense9602 9 місяців тому +1

      @@donnamaco1 it was a free vacation though, permanent one 😅

  • @lluewhyn
    @lluewhyn Рік тому +125

    Speaking of age discrimination: I was interviewing for a position four years ago, but only had a dozen years on my resume. I had only been working professionally since I was 29, and I didn't figure that an accounting job wanted to hear about the time I waited tables, delivered pizzas, or worked in a bar. I had a potential employer actually ask me "So, uh, what did you do before all of these jobs?", like 12 years of experience in increasingly larger roles wasn't enough. It sounds like they saw my resume and saw "College degree + 12 years" = ~34 years old.

    • @MrLeonightis
      @MrLeonightis Рік тому +35

      you should have said excuse me that not pertinent , as soon as the energy changes to adversarial , I say thank you and move on

    • @joywebster2678
      @joywebster2678 Рік тому +10

      A career and resume advisor helped me redo my resume. In my first years of my career, my husband was transferred work locations 3 x, far enough I had to move too. So the tip the resume writer suggested, I added a line, prior to this year, required to relocate frequently due to n3eds of otherscin the household. Held a variety of entry level general duty RN jobs. So that accounted for tne first 8yrs of my professional career, and didn't look like I was a job hopper, nor now i was at a higher job level that entry level stuff was summarized. So for you, a statement saying a variety of held to support my educational process or whatever. Shows you were working and building skills.

    • @skincarejerk6040
      @skincarejerk6040 Рік тому +3

      Couldn’t you just say “middle school student” or something lol

  • @Jasminestealth1
    @Jasminestealth1 7 місяців тому +25

    as an older person... what i learned through the years.... be you... if a company judges you, as a non fit for them... they are probably not a fit for you.. I think you should go into an interview, interviewing them.... ask the questions that are important to you... bonus.. labor.. what are the things they are looking for

    • @freedomdude5420
      @freedomdude5420 6 місяців тому +1

      You not wrong, the hard part, I get paid the water bill, all jokes aside, there questionable job. High turnover in a low turnover job is a massive red flag. Trust me it is a bad business practice.

  • @RayoAtra
    @RayoAtra Рік тому +39

    Solid advice all around. I left a long term technical director position two months ago, and just started looking. I hate all this shit so much, I don't think I ever want to rejoin the business world. Shaping myself to suit someone else's goals may be the most self damning thing I've ever done. The idea that you should be deriving some kind of self worth and sense of accomplishment from your employment / career is complete cancer.

  • @bhuwin6186
    @bhuwin6186 Рік тому +390

    Imagine your entire livelihood depending on being a good BSer lol

    • @mizzmy929
      @mizzmy929 Рік тому +15

      Trump has done his whole life

    • @tubalcain6874
      @tubalcain6874 Рік тому +18

      @@mizzmy929 And Hillary has missed the mark.

    • @mizzmy929
      @mizzmy929 Рік тому

      @AlifeAfterLayoff._ I don't know how to use it. P.s. Are you speaking to me directly or every 1?

    • @sexymary
      @sexymary Рік тому +14

      It's necessary cuz most people are livin' in illusion anyway.. so just play the game well.

    • @Ghostshark83
      @Ghostshark83 Рік тому +8

      Lawyers and politicians?

  • @hamzakaabaoui7552
    @hamzakaabaoui7552 Місяць тому +2

    i had an interview yesterday with a super nice lady she was very understanding when she asks me why do you wanna work here and i was like I'm unemployed and need a job and most of recruiters don't like to hear that than she told me I'm not one of those recruiters i totally understand because I've been there once she wasn't trying to disqualify me at all and eventually I got the job offer today

  • @Tyrell_Corp2019
    @Tyrell_Corp2019 Рік тому +118

    Smile going in. Create a good vibe. Have some laughter going out. Leave with a great impression. Make sure you have some point of leverage that creates value. Everything in the middle will be forgotten.

    • @omgwat
      @omgwat Рік тому +19

      100% this. This is quite possibly the best advice in this comment section. But alas, everyone here is fucking miserable. That’s why they’re here.

    • @ontheroadfromnowtilyou
      @ontheroadfromnowtilyou 9 місяців тому +4

      Nice. Thank you.

    • @william_chidube
      @william_chidube 9 місяців тому +7

      Easier said than done

  • @mashakalinkina7207
    @mashakalinkina7207 Рік тому +45

    So much of this has Nothing to do with the work, which is actually crazy. I think most people can do most jobs with appropriate training. No job is unskilled, many are underpaid, most are misunderstood.
    Helpful video! I genuinely get excited to interview now in order to work on that skill itself. That has helped a Lot with past anxiety. Now I genuinely really enjoy them. :)

    • @ChonnyD
      @ChonnyD Рік тому

      College courses and the schooling that is supposed to “train you for the workforce” are so much harder than the actual work that you do when you join the “workforce”. What makes it all BS is the politics, nepotism, ageism, etc that goes into hiring decisions.
      I hate modern capitalism. It’s all a stupid game that benefits the few at the top.

    • @NeoZeta
      @NeoZeta Рік тому +2

      Well, I'd not say NO job is unskilled. But it is true that the majority can be done with appropriate training given the limited time to do so. Of course, there are other certain types of jobs where you actually need to have gone through it throughout the years (academically and/or in-job) to be able to do it. As no company would give you entire years to learn everything you need to do.

    • @aRandomFox00
      @aRandomFox00 Рік тому +1

      Well yeah. You already advertised your skills in your resume. The interview is about you as a person.

  • @RossGoneRogue
    @RossGoneRogue 9 місяців тому +5

    The personal info one is tricky. At least in engineering, employers usually like to hear that you have hobbies that are related. I got my current job because they needed someone that could draft and do R&D, but also build motor prototypes and write work instructions and when I told them that I work on cars and motorcycles as a hobby and that the first thing I always buy is a service manual, they loved that. My boss (who has another job in the company now) told me they hired me mainly because I liked working with my hands and the other guy they considered had one hobby and it was video games and he had never said he wanted to learn how to use tools or work on the shop floor. Turned out to be the best job I've ever had so far.

  • @Bobby-fj8mk
    @Bobby-fj8mk Рік тому +198

    Remember that employers will always bend the truth at interviews about their company.
    They won' tell you why the previous person left -
    they will often prevent you from even seeing the workplace you'd work in
    or telling the truth about the gigantic workload they'd expect from you which could
    be 6 months or even years behind in deliveries.
    I've never been to a job where an honest appraisal of their situation was given.
    You are dealing with sharks.

    • @Harregarre
      @Harregarre 9 місяців тому +6

      Couldn't agree more. Current job is only my second job so I had little experience with interviewing, and they were quite vague about the state of their codebase. Now that I've been there for about three months it's clear that there's much more technical debt than disclosed, the business is much more fragmented, and the coworker on my team who's there the longest has been there for 6 months straight out of college. Stress levels are through the roof since I was hired to basically "solve" their technical debt.

    • @watchinvidzwatchinvidz7691
      @watchinvidzwatchinvidz7691 8 місяців тому +4

      Exactly bc they don't even know what they are doing nor do they care they just want you to come in & "fix" it. No thanks that is a managers job not mine. Fix it yourself Mr. Money bags.

    • @Bobby-fj8mk
      @Bobby-fj8mk 8 місяців тому

      @@watchinvidzwatchinvidz7691-
      with my previous job I only found out 6 months later that the first 2 employees they hired for my job each
      walked out in less than a week.
      Within 2 years i was doing the job of 5 people and being paid for one person.
      They extracted every last drop of blood out of me.

    • @occasionalfeelgood23
      @occasionalfeelgood23 7 місяців тому +3

      Absolutely. I've experienced a lot of this in the past decade, where employers don't disclose what the job really is until you're about a week or two into the job itself. And the stuff they don't disclose is NEVER good stuff.

    • @Bobby-fj8mk
      @Bobby-fj8mk 7 місяців тому

      @@occasionalfeelgood23 - and that's not all -
      they will slowly takes human resources away from you -
      sacking people around you -
      expecting you to do their jobs as well and they won't even tell you.
      example - you'll find out one day that the person who organised international shipments
      is no longer there and you have to do it yourself or
      the secretary that used to do one day of work for you per week
      was taken away by the manager to do all his work.
      You're already 6 months behind in your workload and they make
      it even harder to catch up - in fact you never do -
      you're always stuck behind the 8 ball -
      always under stress -
      always juggling 5 to 10 jobs at once.
      If you don't like it and complain they will fire you and hire another sucker.
      I'm fed up with it - I will never work for any company again -
      that's how angry I am about it.

  • @terri348
    @terri348 Рік тому +17

    One interview I had asked me about my computer skills. After telling what I was good at, I said I was terrible at power point. Surprisingly, my interviewer responded with "me too". Got the job.

  • @Simlescloset
    @Simlescloset Рік тому +2

    If an employer isn’t hiring you based on your age whether it be to old or to young then you shouldn’t bother with that company because they aren’t a good company to be begin with. So many people have issues interviewing but it doesn’t mean you aren’t a good worker. Why ask what salary are you looking for if the company doesn’t want to hear it? I’m worth more than most companies offer but I also know starting at the bottom doesn’t mean I’ll stay there. Great video! Thanks for this.

  • @pointnIaugh
    @pointnIaugh Рік тому +99

    An interviewer knows the second that they meet you weather they're gonna hire you are not. Old people are among the hardest working, dependable, experienced employees. Unfortunately, they're often overlooked.

    • @johnnycarson67
      @johnnycarson67 5 місяців тому +14

      Discriminated against. Ageism is a very common thing now.

    • @evanb4189
      @evanb4189 3 місяці тому +2

      I have never worked a job where old people are the best. The opposite is true, actually.

  • @Gyfrctgtdbhf
    @Gyfrctgtdbhf Рік тому +71

    A former neighbor who was someone you would definitely not want to hire yet had few problems getting a job(after job after job): “I simply tell them what they want to hear”.

    • @turtleanton6539
      @turtleanton6539 9 місяців тому +4

      Indeed😊

    • @johnnycarson67
      @johnnycarson67 5 місяців тому +8

      Believe it or not.They want you to give them their christmas wish list even if they know for the most part there's no way you can fulfill it all. Someone more honest would tell them exactly.The truth and they wouldn't hire them. It's like they want to be lied to or something

    • @claudiamanta1943
      @claudiamanta1943 4 місяці тому

      And this passes for social intelligence and social skills…

  • @recruitcrm
    @recruitcrm Рік тому +6

    The dos and don'ts of interviews are something many struggle with. The points about not oversharing personal facts or real reasons for leaving are particularly very useful 👍

    • @julija5564
      @julija5564 Рік тому

      what to answer about the reason of living so not not say real reasons?

  • @kinilas
    @kinilas Рік тому +55

    So I had a job in a medical lab that treated it's workers horribly, and when I left I had a few interviewers ask me why I left and I mulled over it for a long time trying to find a nice way to say it, but finally decided to just be honest. I found that if you talk about the work abuse honestly and don't get angry about it people tend to actually believe it was them and not you. Interviewers often seemed to actually understand and they never marked it against me.
    What they do often mark against me is that I have my own business and, like you mentioned in this video, nobody wants to hire someone who might leave to pursue their own goals.

    • @philipmcniel4908
      @philipmcniel4908 Рік тому +1

      I feel like in a career like that with a lot of demand relative to supply, it's a lot more of a "seller's market," if you will--if one employer won't treat you right, there's always someone else who will.

    • @lightlayagajoie5739
      @lightlayagajoie5739 Рік тому +2

      they want you to say that you want to keep for 10 years not because they will actually give you the chance to stay there (neccesarily). Mostly they just want you to try your best even harder hoping for that promotion thats unlikely to ever come.

    • @marvelmusic4566
      @marvelmusic4566 Рік тому +1

      And they certainly don't want someone who views 'employed at will' to see that as a two way street. They want you reliant on that paycheck so they can abuse you at will and you'll just suck it up because they have you under their thumb. I just resigned from a job of 10years because they didn't know I view employed at will as a two way street. Self respect, dignity and personal integrity above money. Can't go wrong with that.

  • @misteroz
    @misteroz 7 місяців тому +2

    4:57 This was something I only learned when I was well into my 40s - that people could have a genuine passion for their work was completely beyond me. I’d always just relied on conveying competence and willing.

  • @mementomori29231
    @mementomori29231 Рік тому +33

    My partner got laid off and found your videos really useful. Thank you for sharing this information!

  • @heistrawberry7578
    @heistrawberry7578 Рік тому +58

    I had a interview once way back, where I knew more about the company and position I was looking at than the person interviewing me. I was feeling really good about the whole thing until I didn't get the job. I was very curious about it as I did a lot of right things, sat down second, handshake, smiled and gave a positive energy about the whole process, while giving intelligent answers. Still don't know why, but I would guess they saved me from being miserable since everyone looked like they hated being there.

    • @BigBenAdv
      @BigBenAdv 9 місяців тому +14

      Because " where I knew more.... than the person interviewing me." Someone there is obviously very insecure about their job.

    • @johnnycarson67
      @johnnycarson67 5 місяців тому

      I made the mistake of talking
      Over the head of one of the new programmers because I was an experienced database. Programmer and it came across as being arrogant and looking down on them. As a ignorant programmer. This was in front of some of the senior people.And apparently they really liked that guy and didn't want his feelings hurt.So of course I did not get the job. But I didn't know how ignorant he was.So I didn't think I was doing that but it didn't matter

    • @tarantasaurus4177
      @tarantasaurus4177 4 місяці тому

      You probably dodged a bullet there - I've found that being honest is the best policy. If they say something like - we expect our salaried employees to regularly work overtime - thanks but no thanks. Be honest with yourself if they're really someone you want to work for / with.

  • @ich-nuta
    @ich-nuta 10 місяців тому +1

    I love the fact that you talk fast, clearly and in an engaging manner 👏

  • @jujubrigis
    @jujubrigis Рік тому +156

    Your videos are great, but they always make me sad or angry. The interviews are getting harder each day and we have to look perfect, it's all one big show for me. Everybody knows that people work because they need money, but nobody can look like they need money. Also, we have to hide our flaws all the time, as if we are not human beings. I am really tired of trying so hard, as if the company is doing me a favor and I am not just selling my labor force.

    • @aRandomFox00
      @aRandomFox00 Рік тому

      That's because they *don't* see us as human beings. We are just human resources, faceless names and numbers on a spreadsheet, to be used and thrown away once no longer useful. Life fucking sucks.

    • @eleh1337
      @eleh1337 Рік тому +15

      Welcome to capitalism

    • @stevenschnepp576
      @stevenschnepp576 Рік тому +1

      They really aren't, unless you're going for higher positions.

    • @stevenschnepp576
      @stevenschnepp576 Рік тому +6

      ​@@eleh1337 Spoken like someone whose life experience has all the depth of an ephemeral puddle.

    • @eleh1337
      @eleh1337 Рік тому +9

      @@stevenschnepp576 Don't project yourself onto me.

  • @hejiranyc
    @hejiranyc Рік тому +66

    I just interviewed a candidate who went really deep into why she left her last position; it was a mutually toxic situation. I was a bit turned off at first, but over the course of the interview, I really enjoyed/appreciated her brutal honesty. Rather than being a negative, I found it to be an indication of high integrity and transparency. It's still probably not a good idea to go deeply into this in an interview, but if it goes there, honesty is the best policy.

    • @catpig7679
      @catpig7679 Рік тому +16

      And while it's great that you find these human traits to be admirable and something to look for in a potential employee, there are more hiring managers who probably have the opposite opinion.

    • @vminhope3040
      @vminhope3040 Рік тому

      @@catpig7679 You are one of a kind.

    • @lightlayagajoie5739
      @lightlayagajoie5739 Рік тому +7

      employers have to make sure you put up with the same abuse as you did from your last employer because they have every intention to do the same and to not complain about it to anyone. You have to say that you enjoy it just like you enjoy working hard.

    • @Tecolote41
      @Tecolote41 Рік тому +11

      Honesty has gotten myself and many other people literally nowhere

    • @nikkimikk3353
      @nikkimikk3353 Рік тому

      I literally got called a faggot for talking with another collague on my break that the head chef didn't like

  • @JuanholoJohns
    @JuanholoJohns Рік тому +1

    I feel weird about how much truth and help is shown on this video. Great work man, really!
    But holy smurfs, is it hard to wrap my head around the idea of applying to a job, because I need the money as anybody else and I have to literally be a politician, create a campaign and swear on my mother's grave that I will make america great again.
    All of this, while the company I'm tried to get hired by, values honesty, courage and inclusion. As its core values. Marvelous.
    My dudes, this world just chews you up badly and we are its teeth.

  • @vasiliynkudryavtsev
    @vasiliynkudryavtsev Рік тому +43

    I fear that in future HR would just buy information package from the Google/FB about candidates to quickly sort out outsiders and reduce salary expectations.
    This is why privacy laws and measures are so much important. Everything you are advised to hide in this video can be digged online if you are not careful.

    • @TorsteinTheFallen
      @TorsteinTheFallen Рік тому

      they already do, Linkedin

    • @tvdavis
      @tvdavis Рік тому +2

      Exactly! Unless your name is something like “John Smith” & you’re not living in the same city/general area as the job for which you’re applying, they’ll have all of your demographics before you even get contacted for an interview.

  • @ivan200804
    @ivan200804 Рік тому +12

    I know i should be jumping from job to job, but the humiliation of constantly lying is just soul-crushing. I've learned to play the "game", but I don't enjoy it.

  • @chazb9164
    @chazb9164 8 місяців тому +1

    I've got my last 3 interviews today for a job in my field. Thank you for the information

  • @olencone4005
    @olencone4005 Рік тому +57

    It's hard not to reveal your age in some industries -- one of the first questions asked by almost every Graphic Design position is "how many years experience do you have with InDesign" (or Photoshop or Illustrator or After Effects or whatever other program is their key focus). If I answer honestly, then they can tell at a glance the rough ballpark of my age.
    Ageism is a hard one to avoid in a creative field like Design... a recruiter I very very briefly worked with not too long ago was amazed that "someone your [my] age" was able to do design work, and thought I should "like, go into management or something" because "younger people are sooooo much more creative!" The sad thing is, she was very excited to work with someone with my skillset at first... but I could immediately hear the change in her tone the very moment she realized how old I was. 😞

    • @chengshengway
      @chengshengway Рік тому +5

      That sucks and no one is putting the constant effort to stop this.

    • @floatingsara
      @floatingsara Рік тому +12

      Come to Italy, experience is much more valued in our country

    • @VAwitch
      @VAwitch Рік тому +1

      @@floatingsara I think most countries value experienced workers. Although part of the 'problem' with experience in the US is experience costs $$ and too many companies would rather hire 1-2 less-experienced, or put out lower-quality product/efforts, then pay for the 1 experienced person.

    • @NocturnePetals
      @NocturnePetals Рік тому +8

      "younger people are much more creative" like, woman, do you even know who Tolkien is? FFS.

    • @snicksabea
      @snicksabea Рік тому +3

      @@NocturnePetalsYoung ppl know how to mess stuff up too.

  • @WorldPowerLabs
    @WorldPowerLabs Рік тому +37

    Mentioning hobbies that are directly related to what I do for work has helped me get jobs, though I don't mention ones that are irrelevant.

    • @marshalldimperio7846
      @marshalldimperio7846 9 місяців тому +1

      I non-related hobbies can be good. Makes you seem more honest and might help people form a more positive opinion of you. At best it makes you seem more honest, at worse, it’s a nothing burger

  • @casscat7
    @casscat7 5 днів тому

    Interviews are super scary for me. I have to try very hard, and be as prepared as possible, and try to have notes and written-down questions since my mind often goes blank. I have to really try, so I have to keep in mind a lot of these things. Keeping it related to the job at hand, being careful and mindful so I can have my questions and answers more thought-out and clear, showing passion and knowledge, and really "selling" myself as a good candidate - i want to convince them that I am the right person for the job, etc. I have to really keep all these things, and more more useful things, in mind. And thank you for this

  • @kevinmach730
    @kevinmach730 Рік тому +85

    Another great list, Brian I love the dating analogy as it relates to the application process, I've used it many times. Another phrase that applies to me personally (and I think it applies to more people than it doesn't) is "anything you say can and will be used against you" during your interview. Yes, there is a chance that if you say too little, you might miss some key point they were looking for or on the extreme end, come off as less outgoing. But I am certain I have lost more opportunities trying to answering questions sincerely and trying to be open- and then saying too much/ not being clear about a comment that I didn't need to include. I find it usually best to error on the side of caution and give them exactly the information they ask for and nothing more.

    • @snicksabea
      @snicksabea Рік тому +2

      I don’t know anyone who would become homeless by going on a date w a jerk. That comparison is awful. And not a good correlation. Stretch got content.

  • @shuki1
    @shuki1 Рік тому +22

    So important to practice #2/#4 before the interviews, to be confident about the positive reason you are looking for a new job, to practice the body language and tone, and not the true negative reason if that exists.

  • @ontheroadfromnowtilyou
    @ontheroadfromnowtilyou 9 місяців тому +4

    This is truly one of the most generous useful things I have seen on the internet. Your skill as a presenter, and your compassion is unbelievable. We wish you a tremendous amount of fortune, and that your standards will remain high, such that many more messages like this will come here. Please help all the people. Thank you.

  • @SithCelia
    @SithCelia Рік тому +16

    I was recently advised by an employment specialist that I should make "I" statements instead of "we" in interviews. What's frustrating about this is that, if I'm a part of a team that's accomplished something, I give credit to all members of that team instead of just focusing on myself.

    • @memitim171
      @memitim171 Рік тому +2

      You don't want to make it sound like they carried you though, unless it's the question about how you work as part of a team you definitely want to make it all about you.

    • @aceofspades9503
      @aceofspades9503 8 місяців тому

      This has been interview advice for at least the last 30 years. And its absolutely true- its an interview, its about YOUR accomplishments, not your teams. When you talk about a team accomplishment, finish it off with something specific about your individual contributions to that accomplishment.

  • @randyeverson8296
    @randyeverson8296 3 місяці тому

    I always find it interesting that companies want you to have a plan to be with them forever, but they never promote from within or will lay you off in 6 months.
    Interviewing is really a poker game, and I appreciate your channel.

  • @llN3M3515ll
    @llN3M3515ll Рік тому +95

    Couldn't agree more on understanding your market value, and not letting them know how much you are currently getting paid. Was able to secure a 55% pay increase by understanding this principle.
    I originally got hit up by a recruiter for a language I didn't really want to develop in. Instead of turning it down I asked myself at what rate would I be happy to develop in that language, picked a fairly high number, and went with it. The interview went very well, but I didn't get the job. Fast forward a year later I get a call from the hiring manager and he said I didn't get the job because it was a entry to mid level, but he had a principle role and wanted to interview. I ended up getting a great offer and negotiated more vacation, really worked out great.

    • @uacbpa
      @uacbpa Рік тому +1

      I agree. Not to mention that you could have been performing a completely different job before. If you are the right candidate, you should get paid fairly as the industry pays, not what they want to. Not to mention that the type of employer that uses those stupid tactics are speaking volumes about how they will treat you if you get hired.

    • @ALifeAfterLayoff
      @ALifeAfterLayoff  Рік тому +6

      Love it. This is gold.

    • @dhenderson1810
      @dhenderson1810 Рік тому

      That's risky by them, as you may have found another job on the interim, so wouldn't be available any more.

    • @SportsIncorporated
      @SportsIncorporated Рік тому +3

      Here's another way to think about it. What are you worth to the company. What value do they place on the work you will be doing for them.

  • @mattreed59
    @mattreed59 Рік тому +20

    I can definitely agree with the "desperate" point. I once interviewed someone for a position at my company and he was clearly desperate. He mentioned how his current company was going under, paychecks were bouncing and he had a mortgage to pay. He meet every criteria and even excelled in several areas. I thought we should hire him, but none of the other interviewers agreed. They pointed out: he's so desperate that we can't be sure he isn't lying. Someone that desperate can't be trusted.

    • @deanowexford7021
      @deanowexford7021 11 місяців тому +1

      I once was unexpectedly asked to interview someone for a few mins (I guess the real interviewer was late or something, crappy management never told me) and I felt bad for the dude bc he was so nervous he kept bouncing his leg. I wanted to say "Stop doing that, no one will hire you because you look like you can't control yourself."

    • @CoercedJab
      @CoercedJab 9 місяців тому +11

      Yall f’d up tbh

    • @FlameUser64
      @FlameUser64 9 місяців тому +6

      But if he were going to lie about those skills then he wouldn't admit to being desperate in the first place???

    • @funguy398
      @funguy398 9 місяців тому +9

      I always thought its other way around, if you hire someone who is not desperate, he will just bounce off, and desperate person will be grateful. Imho

  • @LAAM619
    @LAAM619 Місяць тому

    Best piece of advice i ever got for job hunting, LIE and LEAVE. Lie your way in, leave when you get what you need (experience).

  • @dragonclaws9367
    @dragonclaws9367 Рік тому +5

    I had a panel ask me about my animals (who had passed away) in the interview. I started to tear up. I don't think they thought that question out thoroughly. I didn't get the job and I am kind of glad.

  • @justrusty
    @justrusty Рік тому +37

    Hmm.. I never hid my age and I was hired for my last job before retirement at age 60. I mentioned it when I got the offer and the TA person chuckled and said I was being hired for my "mature mentoring capability." I suppose if you're 60 and they see you in person, they're not going to think you're 30.

    • @lisarudd2868
      @lisarudd2868 Рік тому +3

      Yes, most people don't look 30 years younger than their actual age. So, there is only so much "hiding" you can do.

    • @frankcorrea8691
      @frankcorrea8691 Рік тому +2

      What happens when you are 73 but you really look 53, workout dark hair fit and tanned?🎉

  • @callarose9432
    @callarose9432 Рік тому +69

    I tend to over reveal things when nervous. I told the women working the panelist interview that I have ADHD. I was rambling and it slipped. Needless to say, they all looked unimpressed and I was turned down. Lol

    • @cuivre2004
      @cuivre2004 Рік тому +11

      I have had INTERVIEWERS who had ADHD- to the point that they literally commented on a squirrel outside their window!

    • @cuivre2004
      @cuivre2004 Рік тому +1

      @ghost mall Didn't matter to me if there was a bona fide diagnosis involved- the result was the same. The behavior displayed was what I saw.

    • @Sephiroth144
      @Sephiroth144 Рік тому +1

      @@cuivre2004 Now, what is your salary expeSQUIRREL! ... ... ...

    • @scholaroftheworldalternatehist
      @scholaroftheworldalternatehist Рік тому +2

      @@cuivre2004 ADHD is not even a real disorder it just is because people have short attention spans due to Internet

    • @LIV2500
      @LIV2500 Рік тому +15

      @@scholaroftheworldalternatehist
      Dude... ADHD has been a recognized thing since the late 1700s... Well before screen time. And there are genetic markers, brain structure differences you can see with fmri, etc.
      Please go educate yourself even the tiniest amount. ADHD isn't just short attention span, it can also be sensory issues and emotional regulation issues like you'd normally associate with autism, tics like in tourettes, etc. ADHD can be a special hell for those affected (like me).

  • @carthoughtswithdan
    @carthoughtswithdan Рік тому +25

    As a person with autism and adhd, articulating sentences has always been my biggest struggle. Would really hate if my articulation skills are being judged when its part of my disbility.

  • @suzywilson
    @suzywilson 2 місяці тому

    Good Sir, a massive thank you to you! I have never put some of these things on my CV and not ever said any of these things. However, I have spotted 3 mistakes that I do make. Thank you for your hard work on this video.

  • @jiritichy7967
    @jiritichy7967 Рік тому +6

    You have given a list of thing not to disclose, but advice is needed to know what to to say when it comes to those points.

  • @CaesarInVa
    @CaesarInVa Рік тому +5

    I'm at the tail end of my career (I still have 4 or 5 years left, but I'm well into the "on approach" phase of retirement with the threshold in sight) and intend to work in some kind of part-time capacity just for mental and physical purposes (I came along late in my parent's life and so I've seen with their friends and neighbors in the community that they retired to that, in some cases, retirement can actually be a bad thing on a person's mental acuity, physical fitness, lifestyle, etc). So several years ago, I lined-up a part-time teaching gig at a local college. Although I teach IT, I'm also supposed to be preparing my students for the reality of today's work environment. At some point during every semester I spend some time talking about the interview process. A couple things I talk about is 1) Don't share too much personal information and 2) No matter how friendly the interviewer is, he or she is NOT your friend, so be on guard. In re point 1, I've actually sat in on interviews where the candidate shared information that the hiring manager used to the former's disadvantage. Case in point, we had a mid-career candidate for an engineering position with an ISP confide during the interview process that one of her children had some kind of serious illness (I can't recall the actual malady at the moment). She was a very strong candidate who merited every dollar she was asking in compensation, but in our deliberations, the hiring manger felt that we could get her for even less.....because she needed an insurance plan for her child. That was a really awakening moment for me. It was if I had regained consciousness from a long coma, looked around and saw that everyone was wearing Nazi uniforms and suddenly realized that I was fighting for the wrong side Regarding point 2), always remember that no matter how friendly the interviewer is, they are NOT your friend. Interviewers want you to feel relaxed, but the reason why isn't completely attributable to their wanting to make you feel comfortable, make the interview as non-threatening or unintimidating as possible, etc. Rather, its because the more relaxed a person is, the more comfortable their surroundings are, the more likely that person is to speak candidly.....and truthfully...and trust me when I tell you that the truth is not always a candidate's best friend. So I tell my students to be on-guard when interviewing and to be especially aware of not sharing too much personal information, and to be wary of being led through seemingly harmless getting-to-know-you banter into revealing too much about yourself. Be polite, be professional and be wary.

  • @ookovincent4840
    @ookovincent4840 9 місяців тому +4

    I always wonder how recruiters get all the say when hiring, I feel if you are an engineer just get interviewed by an engineer and not some HR guy who went to business school and all he wants to do is puzzle you with some questions while in their head they have the answers, like if they wanted no deviations in how you should respond they should just make a recording and play it, the hiring process sometimes is just a joke.

  • @everyone2975
    @everyone2975 Рік тому +12

    Right after a raise and a promotion I was fired for getting pregnant, in the 1990's. Was completely shocked because it would not have affected my job (property manager) performance at all.

    • @InMyBrz
      @InMyBrz Рік тому +2

      Time to call the EEOC and file a formal complaint, THAT IS ILLEGAL

    • @gracelivingstone191
      @gracelivingstone191 9 місяців тому +1

      Me too. They fired me at 6 moths when I was starting to really show. Who was going to hire me now at 6 moths pregnant? No one. So I sued for discrimination with the department of health and human services who said I had a good case. But they took so long when they finally got to me they said the new owners weren’t liable for what the previous owners did and closed my case. ABC news just reported that of all single family households in the US 80% are headed by single moms. This country was raised on the backs of single woman most of whom get no child support and who have little or no protections at the work place and they get paid less than men.

    • @CA1567-v8p
      @CA1567-v8p 5 місяців тому

      How are you going to raise a newborn and work? You women want it all

    • @_Tea01
      @_Tea01 Місяць тому

      @CA1567-v8p Women want respect. That is not asking too much and it will never be too much. Women are the reason you have fingers to type. A woman grew you. Find your respect. Maybe if the government/country supported mothers like how they SHOULD be supported, working while pregnant would not even be a thing. Theyd have money coming in without stepping a toe into the office. Thats what I call fair.

  • @D4no00
    @D4no00 Рік тому +69

    I had a struggle recently to find a job for about half a year. My main specialisation is software development and architecture. I did a lot of interviews and learnt myself about some of these mistakes. The problem that I tend to have is passing the recruiter interview. The problem is that because of job shortages now, I applied to positions that didn't required the expertise level that I have and maybe some slightly different technologies, however I did not change my resume accordingly and boy, that was one of my biggest mistakes, there is no way you can pass these interviews without making a custom resume for that company and lie as much as you can to fit their description for the role. Quite a sad story.

    • @ganymedehedgehog371
      @ganymedehedgehog371 Рік тому +7

      Yeah no matter how qualified you are honesty is not your friend.

    • @timbus2
      @timbus2 Рік тому +3

      I’ve wondered about this too. I have an amazing resume for a human hiring manager to read… but I think a lot of recruiters reject it because I didn’t jam in the name of every damn technology I’ve worked with in 20 years so they think I don’t qualify.

    • @LillyJeanne
      @LillyJeanne Рік тому +9

      Can confirm that. I have now been asked several times by recruiters to re-write my resume so that it includes every single technology or skill mentioned in the job description. And unless I match 100% of the employers wishes I'm no longer considered for the role...

    • @KittenBowl1
      @KittenBowl1 Рік тому

      @@LillyJeannesay good bye to the recruiter. It’s not the truth that the JD and the resume need to match 100%. If you can offer 75%+ then it’s a pretty good match since a JD is a list of wishful wants of hiring managers. No one can match 100%. If you can’t offer the core needs of the role like they are asking for certain knowledge in certain technologies then you aren’t the fit. But that’s far from 100% match. Ask yourself top 5 things they want out of the role. You can’t satisfy the top 5 then you aren’t the fit as that’s a must match for most roles.

  • @satms6808
    @satms6808 3 місяці тому

    Thank you for creating this.
    My sincere suggestion to whoever is watching this is also to learn and practice meditation. Start with slow breathing techniques which is the basis for learning meditation.
    Being calm is essential at all times. Off the job, on the job, all the time.
    Typically, after you weak up and before you go to bed are two good times to meditate.
    Meditation does a lot of wonders.

  • @roxyskittens
    @roxyskittens Рік тому +51

    I don't think there are any ways to truly hide your age when applying for jobs, at least not in Europe. You are required to state when you graduated from college (and I graduated 16 years ago, hence I'm almost 40). Some jobs require the Europass CV where you provide such data, others actually require you to state your birth date (irrespective of the resume format). There are also job websites in various countries where you can't fill in your resume without your birth date, which also appears on the application you send. I've been a freelancer all my life, but in the past 5 years unfortunately I've never been contacted for a job I'd applied for even if I was a perfect fit and and I assume it's because of my age. A friend who has worked for a large company for the past twenty years was also recently laid off (he's 47) and he said the company prefers to work with younger people now because they accept lower salaries...

    • @Vascodagam333
      @Vascodagam333 Рік тому +3

      You're absolutely right about that-even in United States. Unless recruiters/hiring managers pretend as though the years you listed for your education aren't relevant would they not know approximately how old you are

    • @jonsimmons4150
      @jonsimmons4150 Рік тому +7

      Thats 100% france. I did 18 years there. No age on cv?- bin! they are old.

    • @Gnostic_Way_of_Life
      @Gnostic_Way_of_Life Рік тому +3

      Just lie about your age. You have nothing to lose.

    • @HosCreates
      @HosCreates Рік тому

      Can you just put 00-00-0000 for the date of birth ?

    • @roxyskittens
      @roxyskittens Рік тому

      @@HosCreates not really. You have to select your date of birth from a calendar app when you apply on jobs platforms or the companies' websites... But it's an interesting idea, I'll see if I can implement it somehow, maybe when I send word-format resumes...

  • @phil562
    @phil562 Рік тому +645

    The part about salary at the end. I've seen that a lot. How do you avoid answering it when it's asked?

    • @ALifeAfterLayoff
      @ALifeAfterLayoff  Рік тому +122

      You shouldn't avoid it, but have a strategy. See this video. ua-cam.com/video/7Jv-DQasAAE/v-deo.html

    • @Rosk03
      @Rosk03 Рік тому +119

      You lie basically. However u do need to know what other employers are willing to paying for a job like the one you are applying for. To know that you should sign up for weekly email alerts from jobs sites that will email u that information for free. And keep those job email alerts active even when u are employed to keep an eye on the market. It can move up real fast....

    • @Mspad91939
      @Mspad91939 Рік тому +239

      Personally, when I’m asked that I just say I make whatever I want to make at the new job. I was making $15/hr but said in an interview that I made $17/hr so they offered me $17/hr. Is it dishonest? Yes. But they’re only asking what you made so they can try to lock you in at the lowest rate possible.

    • @Shishizurui
      @Shishizurui Рік тому +58

      now i'm kinda early career, but i've always just sidestepped the salary because I tell them I'll worry about that when I have the job, right now lets worry about how I can help you. I'm the kinda guy that usually messes up and under values myself, but i BS confidence and make it seem like its their choice so they usually go in high. they are usually won over on my commitment to help them before helping myself

    • @TulaneAve
      @TulaneAve Рік тому +65

      I'm applying for city and/or state jobs in Maryland and they always require you provide dates of employment and education (which betrays ones age) and salary and then they post the position salary as huge range (so you really dont know what to ask for or expect) and they often ask "What is you minimum you will accept?" which kills your negotiating ability. They also ask for ethnicity and gender which disadvantages you if you aren't in one of their quota catagories.

  • @sherylclements2846
    @sherylclements2846 9 місяців тому +1

    First time watching. Great channel!! Am a March 2020 COVID layoff. Had planned on being there until age 70 (more than a decade left to go), however, out of the 85 plus people they let go (and 325 plus furloughs), MOST were older, nearing retirement age, and made more. Company had 1,500 employees in total nationwide. In trying to find new employment, the hiring market for 2 years was next to nil for what I do, due to pandemic. Then, being 2 years older, ageism may not be legal, but it is a HUGE factor in the hiring process, IF they know your age. I even had a job offer, only to have it rescinded. Will be viewing your other videos for advice.