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  • @hayaq9991
    @hayaq9991 5 місяців тому +110

    I heard an elderly women said this week out loud in a salon “never put a child before a man” that was my que to go

    • @sxybrn79
      @sxybrn79 5 місяців тому +1

      Wow. What a perverse old woman.

    • @anonymousa-uy1hk
      @anonymousa-uy1hk 5 місяців тому +21

      🤮🤮🤮So gross!!!

    • @marissa._
      @marissa._ 5 місяців тому +20

      Shouldn't it be the other way around?!
      Never put a man above a child!

    • @jrmetmoi
      @jrmetmoi 4 місяці тому +5

      @@marissa._exactly

  • @ReneeRates
    @ReneeRates 5 місяців тому +106

    I feel so sorry and disgusted for the first woman’s experience. Can you imagine a mother basically pimping her daughter out for a relationship with a perverse man? Absolutely heartbreaking!

    • @jrmetmoi
      @jrmetmoi 4 місяці тому

      I’m disgusted with all of the so called mothers of these women and the demonic criminals their mothers placed over their own children

  • @h3tur
    @h3tur 5 місяців тому +35

    8:18 terrifying :( it seems many moms see their daughters as competition

  • @D.I.V.A.Journey3758
    @D.I.V.A.Journey3758 5 місяців тому +45

    This makes me sick to my stomach, LITERALLY!!!! As a mother, I CANNOT imagine this!!!! It's never just about the predator, they ALWAYS have enablers. And ANYONE who helps to hide, cover up, ignore these A$$HOLES should get locked up WITH the predators!!!!! WTF??!!!🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬💔💔💔💔💔😪😪😪😪

  • @KennyRonnie
    @KennyRonnie 5 місяців тому +25

    These so call mother's need to be held accountable and put under the jail right along with there beloved predators.

  • @AndyyWithAY
    @AndyyWithAY 5 місяців тому +153

    That man was probably just with her mom because she had young children. A lot of predators seek out single moms for just that reason. Easy access to victims and no support for the victim. Some single mothers do everything to support their kids, so I'm not saying it's all of them. But, that's the stereotype as far as these men are concerned

    • @evaphillips2102
      @evaphillips2102 5 місяців тому +12

      It’s not just a stereotype. Single moms who do everything to support their kids stay single for this reason- or leave their kids with the dad. He can better protect his kids from a predatory date.

    • @ufuvjviufugigib7692
      @ufuvjviufugigib7692 5 місяців тому +1

      Step fathers AND fathers are the majority of the Predators.

    • @biblethumper8088
      @biblethumper8088 5 місяців тому

      How is it easy access for them?

    • @biblethumper8088
      @biblethumper8088 5 місяців тому +6

      @@evaphillips2102 how can the father better protect the child from predators when they are the predators? If by chance he isn't, how will he protect them when he isn't around the child 100% of the time. Please explain the difference.

    • @Loaf0fBread
      @Loaf0fBread 5 місяців тому +1

      @@biblethumper8088 he can’t, that’s why as a mom I was afraid that I was doing too much when I first spoke to my son about stranger danger at 3 years old (he’s a very smart kid) he doesn’t even let his grandma wipe him, but at least he knows, when he’s with his dad and his side of the family to be alert.

  • @mumlikeme5806
    @mumlikeme5806 5 місяців тому +57

    This was not easy to watch. I can't even begin to imagine the hurt, fear, trauma that all these women and boys, men who get SAd. It's awful 😢

  • @ebonywatson9939
    @ebonywatson9939 5 місяців тому +40

    If my daughter’s dad did anything to her I would have his unalived body buried in prison. My daughter wasn’t even allowed to stay nights anywhere until she was like 10 and that was her grandmother. Even if my child is lying you gotta go because there’s a reason she’s even making that up. Please. So sorry you went through that. Your mothers should be locked up. So pissed for you

  • @dreadfulrai
    @dreadfulrai 5 місяців тому +111

    Yea let’s talk more about how predators and pedophiles will seek out a single mom because he wants access to her children. This demonic activity is more likely to occur when the bio dad is not around, which makes the child more vulnerable and at risk... And the black woman’s story almost had me crying.

    • @_Renee2
      @_Renee2 5 місяців тому +29

      And it's not always outsiders. Sometimes it's uncles and cousins who see the father is no longer present to protect the child. The mother never believes the child because it’s her brother and he would never be capable of committing such acts. Predators lurk within the family too.

    • @AlexisMitchell87
      @AlexisMitchell87 5 місяців тому +14

      Bio fathers aren't exempt. One thing that's common in most of these situations is the abuser never faces consequences. Justice isn't on the victims' side.

    • @marissa._
      @marissa._ 5 місяців тому +12

      ​@@AlexisMitchell87
      This! 💯
      I was gonna say the same thing.
      Biological fathers do vile acts to their kids just like a stranger would! As someone who was abused by the paternal p.o.s. sperm donor, I know what it feels like to be abused! NOT sexually (*thankfully!*) but physically, verbally, emotionally, mentally, financially, you name it!
      I just saw a news story about a biological father who murdered his 2 year old daughter! Apparently, he was Baker Acted multiple times and was diagnosed as disturbed, paranoid, schizophrenic, anxious, etc. Where the mom was, I don't know. Why TF did the judge release that girl back into his care? I don't know. The judge needs to be held accountable and serve time too! Nobody protected that little girl. 😢

    • @ufuvjviufugigib7692
      @ufuvjviufugigib7692 5 місяців тому

      Step fathers AND FATHERS are The majority of pedos

    • @ufuvjviufugigib7692
      @ufuvjviufugigib7692 5 місяців тому

      Its more common for the dad be the pedo than the uncle

  • @anonymousa-uy1hk
    @anonymousa-uy1hk 5 місяців тому +35

    THIS is why I DESPISE pickmes!!!

  • @biblethumper8088
    @biblethumper8088 5 місяців тому +40

    These women need to press charges. Enough is enough.

    • @anonymousa-uy1hk
      @anonymousa-uy1hk 5 місяців тому +1

      Unfortunately, no one will believe them.

    • @biblethumper8088
      @biblethumper8088 5 місяців тому +2

      @@anonymousa-uy1hk that's not true. You sound like a predator. There are plenty of cases where kids as adults pressed charges and won. You are trying to deter them from speaking out.

    • @ksis86
      @ksis86 5 місяців тому

      @@biblethumper8088why are you calling them a predator when thats just how it is? Authorities dont take SA victims seriously, thats common knowledge. People have the right not to press charges if they dont think anything will come from it anyway

    • @biblethumper8088
      @biblethumper8088 5 місяців тому +1

      @@ksis86 because that is exactly what a predator says to their victim. " if you tell, no one will believe you". This is not true because there are people who have been convicted precisely because the victim reported it. These women are allowing this to happen to other children by not reporting it. Them telling their parents is not the same as reporting it to authorities.

  • @ksis86
    @ksis86 5 місяців тому +6

    Any parent that knows someone has SA’d or is actively molesting their kid and says/does nothing is ALSO a predator. No one can change my mind. Your one job as a parent is to protect your babies.

  • @HappyHealthyHair
    @HappyHealthyHair 5 місяців тому +34

    Reaeson number 1 of/ 5, 467,042
    to remain childless😒
    So sad!
    #ENDHUMANITYNOW #TEAMNOCHILDREN

    • @BABYDOLL87LOVELY
      @BABYDOLL87LOVELY 5 місяців тому +1

      I WAS JUST THINKING THIS. THERE ARE WAY TOO MANY F****** PERVERTS IN THIS 🌍

  • @Vanyro0
    @Vanyro0 5 місяців тому +47

    I wish all those women support, healing, retribution and the greatest of lives. The second woman's story.... 😔💔💔💔

  • @carolynj6144
    @carolynj6144 5 місяців тому +37

    These women are so brave for sharing their stories. I wish them healing and peace ❤

  • @karlagonzalvez4703
    @karlagonzalvez4703 5 місяців тому +32

    The woman's story who was in black and red was fckn HORRIFIC. I started crying. I just wanted to hug her. I was hoping he didn't get that far but when she said it, UT really felt like a gut punch. It makes me sooo angry that this happens. How can you not be suspicious or believe your kids? Protect them!!

  • @realbrat40
    @realbrat40 5 місяців тому +6

    I wish these women healing. All of their stories were sickening and the mothers who turned a blind eye should have those eyes removed and put in jail for the rest of their lives.

  • @OfJournalandJourney
    @OfJournalandJourney 5 місяців тому +22

    I’m sorry I gagged after that first story. Her mama is a certified catch u next Tuesday

  • @Loaf0fBread
    @Loaf0fBread 5 місяців тому +12

    It’s so sad that I recently got a call from CPS about an accused predator in my family, I was called to be notified that my son was possibly exposed to this person. I had to answer a lot of invasive questions but didn’t get many answers as to the identity of this person, the agent said the identity of the perpetrator was protected and he couldn’t give me that information. I was so mad that this person had more protection from investigators than the innocent people involved. That’s how a** backwards things are in this world.

  • @jahvonnad1738
    @jahvonnad1738 5 місяців тому +26

    These are the perfect examples of just because you can do not meanyou should. Ridiculous pick me behavior. Putting your needs before your dependents does not make a good parent.

  • @DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables
    @DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables 5 місяців тому +28

    Some people's very first ops are their own parents... This whole video is just one example of why... I never experienced this, and I wish nothing but healing to the folks who did...

    • @BABYDOLL87LOVELY
      @BABYDOLL87LOVELY 5 місяців тому

      MY MOTHER IS DEFINITELY 1. WITH HER EVL ASS! smfh

  • @Emasue
    @Emasue 5 місяців тому +15

    Child predators actively search out single mothers and children with no father or weak fathers. 💯

  • @fnagirl2338
    @fnagirl2338 5 місяців тому +16

    The fact non of these abusers never got punished or held accountable for their actions disgusts and scares me
    My heart goes out to the women and men that were abused ❤

  • @FancyFallon
    @FancyFallon 5 місяців тому +1

    This hurts to watch. My heart goes out to these women.

  • @youforget1000thingsaday
    @youforget1000thingsaday 5 місяців тому +19

    My granny raised me. I ain't have to worry about this. Once I was born, she was only focused on me. Men were never given a thought. These mothers could learn a thing or two.

  • @missevie432
    @missevie432 5 місяців тому +3

    Whoa!!! these really bad parents Ms.Destiny!!!
    How sickening n evil!!!

  • @mary6134
    @mary6134 5 місяців тому +2

    I hope that these ladies heal. there is no time limit on healing, each person is different. But you can recover from this.

  • @marissa._
    @marissa._ 5 місяців тому +29

    I'll NEVER laugh at these ladies stories because all of them were horrific but what I do find comical is how there's ACTUAL parents that act like dumbfounded victims when their kids go no-contact with them. Like, some of them have the actual AUDACITY to think going no-contact is a "trend!" Looks like they fumbled their retirement plan! 😂😂
    Now these same parents are gonna die lonely in a nursing home with no visitors!

    • @Jae-by3hf
      @Jae-by3hf 5 місяців тому +4

      I thought this too! These “parents” will abuse and neglect their children, love to play victim!

    • @PrettyDope
      @PrettyDope 4 місяці тому

      I wish I could share with you screenshots of the unhinged email my mom sent me after going no contact her. She goes, "Outside of the trauma endured your home life was not ratchet and filled with drama and hopelessness".. Ma'am... The trauma is the point. I was traumatized for YEARS by my bio father and atp I truly feel like she knew what was going on. I do feel like she didn't know RIGHT away but eventually felt like it and didn't act because I later found out she blamed me for it happening because I didn't speak up "like she taught me". I endured his abuse from 5-13 and then hers after i sent him to prison bc i felt like she resented me fore taking her comfort away. She loves my sister more bc that's the baby she planned for.

  • @moniquew3603
    @moniquew3603 5 місяців тому +12

    If my husband and I divorce. I will be a single mother that does NOT date. This is literally one of my biggest fears. I know so many girls/women who were SA by their moms boyfriend. I just wouldn't be able to live with that guilt. I was almost SA by my stepbrother. He was 12yo and I was 6yo, and I was very vocal. I ran away and I told on him.My dad did not leave that marriage after the fact, and we were all living in the same house. My stepbrother didnt ever try that mess again, but I remember my stepmom trying to play it off like I seduced him, and another family made a comment about, we had "something going." That shit is sickening! I was literally a small child. The following year my stepbrother and his friend also had to go court because they SA a 13yo in their grade. He had a problem. Almost all the women I know have been SA by grown men when they were little girls. Its a huge problem. Im a mother of 3... two daughgers, and nobody watches my kids. I talked to my oldest daughter about this stuff, so she's aware. These stories were so hard to listen to and I hope these women find peace.

  • @Tina_Bo_Binaaa
    @Tina_Bo_Binaaa 5 місяців тому +3

    This is true. Your own mother can be your worst enemy. I finally opened up after years to tell my mother I was date raped a few times and she literally victim blamed me. I felt so betrayed. I’d never do the same to my daughter, if I have any.

  • @yellowfuzz292
    @yellowfuzz292 5 місяців тому +2

    I think sleepover is a thing of the past for children💔 that last story was familiar in a very scary way. I hope that that every child who has even been hurt heals with time and can be happy.

  • @Kaiannag
    @Kaiannag 5 місяців тому +1

    I know so many woman that have gone through this. That not being believed by their parents seems to do more damage. 💔💔💔💔 praying for the healing of all the woman that have endured this kind of pain. I see how even years later it still affects them. 💔😫 I pray all these woman heal but the 2nd girl in particular I pray gets to heal truly as it seems to be something she’s still carrying heavily. 💔💔 God heal all their hearts and body of that trauma.
    Some woman truly are so desperate to keep a man they truly will abandon their children in every sense. 😡

  • @favourafinni
    @favourafinni 3 місяці тому +3

    This what happens when pickmes have kids. I’m glad we’re talking about this cuz it’s like people only talk about toxic men all day but no one is talking about the toxic women enabling these men.

  • @NatashaLettner
    @NatashaLettner 5 місяців тому +5

    These were very triggering to watch, ESPECIALLY #2. You can tell she is reliving as she is sharing.
    I pray she seeks out therapy. This is so sad.

  • @Redfern4
    @Redfern4 5 місяців тому +22

    Too many men get away with this stuff. I didn’t wanna go to my house with my girlfriend or any of my friends. Because I knew how my family was and my step dad. I would not let those girls even speak a word to them if they were going from my room to out the door. They never spoke a word to anybody in my house because I was so afraid that they will say something crude.

  • @moniquebrown4485
    @moniquebrown4485 5 місяців тому +8

    2:16 her mom was pimping her smh that's disgusting!!

  • @jrmetmoi
    @jrmetmoi 4 місяці тому +2

    Unconditional love from mothers is a lie that’s as big as support and protection coming from fathers

  • @BABYDOLL87LOVELY
    @BABYDOLL87LOVELY 5 місяців тому +9

    SAW THE FIRST 2 STORIES YESTERDAY & CRIED. MY HEART GOES OUT TO THESE WOMEN. SHAME ON THEIR SO CALLED MOTHER'S. I SAY WHAT I SAY ABOUT MY OWN EVIL ASS MOMMA #KarmaWillReturn #GodSawWhatHappened YOUR PARENTS ARE SUPPOSED TO LOVE & PROTECT YOU. SOME PEOPLE NEVER DESERVED CHILDREN!!!

  • @biblethumper8088
    @biblethumper8088 5 місяців тому +9

    My heart goes out to these women. I really feel that women who have been SA should stay away from men. I say this because I've heard too many stories where they grow up and allow the same thing to happen to their daughters. Plus, why on earth would you ever want a man touching you again after that.

  • @keniasharpe1610
    @keniasharpe1610 5 місяців тому +3

    This is so sad I hope they find r Heavenly Father and get the healing they deserve

  • @rosiecheeks.k
    @rosiecheeks.k 5 місяців тому +4

    Ooof that was verrrry heavy to watch!😭😭 I wasn't ready! But it is important to spesk out if it helps the healing process! All my love is with those women ❤
    Sidenote: Destiny edit your description box or pin a trigger warning in the comments because this really really is heavy!!

    • @DestinyUteh
      @DestinyUteh  5 місяців тому

      I will. Thank you 🙏🏾 🫶🫶🫶

  • @naturallytajy973
    @naturallytajy973 5 місяців тому +3

    It hurts my heart what these young ladies experienced, especially the 2nd one was able to speak about her experience. I felt for her. I appreciate them speaking up about it, I actually wish they could press charges. I know it won’t do anything for their healing but at least they were able to speak up. I wish these ladies the best and hope they are able to heal their souls.

  • @JukuduB
    @JukuduB 5 місяців тому +3

    The first 2 stories were horrible. The 3rd girl needs a hand clap. Im so glad she was able to keep her female friends away so that her step dad would not harm them. Im so sorry she even had to think in such an advanced way. She was just a child herself! 😢

  • @anitra_g_fit5601
    @anitra_g_fit5601 5 місяців тому +8

    My God 😢

  • @TinkOutLoud
    @TinkOutLoud 5 місяців тому +1

    “Hold you and protect you!” 🤯🤯🤯🤯

  • @moniquebrown4485
    @moniquebrown4485 5 місяців тому +5

    As a single mother, I choose to stay single for this very reason. I am not pressed for companionship or a stepfather that I'd go and date any ol' man. I don't play that.

  • @SimplyHealthyWomb
    @SimplyHealthyWomb 5 місяців тому +12

    Does anyone remember that Oprah show with the one lady who’d sleep outside her kids door after choosing a child toucher cause she just couldn’t be alone?
    And Oprah asked her if she thought SA of her children could only happen at night? What about the other times she was at work, he didn’t have a job cause he was a felon. He picked cause she had not children and that was his thing. 🤷🏾‍♀️ 🤦🏾‍♀️
    Idk why this happens to children.
    It should be noted young boys are SA’d at a higher rate than young girls except of the girls are black.
    Children should bear the weight of being a grown up, I felt for these children. The girl in the middle - 8!
    I choose the best cause the Bible says so
    It is better to meet a bear with her cubs than a fool - prov.17:20 I believe.
    Bear, bear, bear!
    It’s not always about being a pick me, some women hate their girl children, punishing them for who knows what!

  • @victordavidson871
    @victordavidson871 5 місяців тому +5

    So my mom would make me and my sister stay the weekend with my uncle because we were close in age with them. My male cousin use to make me do unthinkable things to him in a closet in his room. This went on for 2 years until one day he started acting differently. I remember asking my uncle why my cousin was being mean to me and my uncle tells me that it was because my cousin has a girlfriend that's why he was acting differently. Made me feel like my uncle knew the entire time.

  • @Sanderson5CLC
    @Sanderson5CLC 3 місяці тому +1

    My mother was like that. She allowed her sons from her first marriage to sa me. She blamed and hated me so much. I asked her two years before she died, " Why do you hate me so much"? Silence. And that told me everything I needed to know about her.

    • @Sanderson5CLC
      @Sanderson5CLC 3 місяці тому +1

      Needless to say I didn't cry at her funeral either.

    • @jlovesj3335
      @jlovesj3335 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@@Sanderson5CLCI'm sorry. You deserve better

  • @BigCrossVita
    @BigCrossVita 5 місяців тому +8

    Destiny!! U look flawless Baby 😍☺️♥️

    • @DestinyUteh
      @DestinyUteh  5 місяців тому +1

      Thank you!!🙏🏾 ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @dont_harsh_my_mellow
    @dont_harsh_my_mellow 5 місяців тому

    In the vast majority of cases of abusers taking advantage of vulnerable people, their families defend them and try figuring out ways to shift blame to the victim. It’s disgusting. Wow.

  • @staciquinton2794
    @staciquinton2794 5 місяців тому +2

    This is why some women choose the bear over the man in the woods. That's a damn shame. 6-4-2024(Tues)

  • @nadinetchaho2618
    @nadinetchaho2618 5 місяців тому +8

    Psalms 106:37-38
    They sacrificed their sons and their daughters to false gods. They shed innocent blood, the blood of their sons and daughters, whom they sacrificed to the idols of Canaan, and the land was desecrated by their blood.

  • @relanaallen5513
    @relanaallen5513 5 місяців тому +5

    Wow!

  • @NatashaLettner
    @NatashaLettner 5 місяців тому

    What is so sad is how often this happens.
    So many of us have experienced this growing up in homes with women with such low self-esteem. And it is ALWAYS the children's fault.
    This is why I do not trust any and everyone around our son.
    It causes PTSD.

  • @staciquinton2794
    @staciquinton2794 5 місяців тому +2

    Her mother had low Self-esteem and she projected that on to her daughter. I hate that her mother didn't believe or fight for her. 6-4-2024(Tues)

  • @sj5218
    @sj5218 5 місяців тому

    All of these stories are so sad and sick to hear. The perpetrator is disgusting but those who stand by and watch and let these things happen are just as disgusting. That last story was a mess, as a child you shouldn’t have to be the one protecting your friends from a predator, the adults that are around should protect the children but half of these people are just as sick minded as the predators- they just aren’t as bold to try things. Smh. 🤦🏾‍♀️ As an SA survivor who was also blamed for my assault cause I was being “too fast” at 5 YEARS OLD; my heart cries for the boys and girls who have to go through these things, it is truly heartbreaking and an everlasting trauma that the one inflicting doesn’t recognize or care about 💔

  • @nassiac.300
    @nassiac.300 5 місяців тому +5

    😢

  • @irianaav.6120
    @irianaav.6120 5 місяців тому +1

    My god this was so hard for me to watch. 😢

  • @TinkOutLoud
    @TinkOutLoud 5 місяців тому +4

    ⚠️This video may need a trigger warning. ⚠️

  • @biblethumper8088
    @biblethumper8088 5 місяців тому +7

    This is what happens when people tell single mothers that they are accountable for the child and that they must provide for their child. She can't be a protector, provider, nurturer and be there for her child 100% of the time. These mothers are looking for a man to help them lighten the load, and instead of help, they hurt children.
    So if you support your son, brothers, uncle's , father, boyfriends, spouse or any man not providing the full cost for the mother to stay at home with her children, then you most definitely support child m'lestors.

  • @lolo_z
    @lolo_z 5 місяців тому +1

    Triggering

  • @DaphneValentinexoxo03
    @DaphneValentinexoxo03 5 місяців тому +1

    So I'm guessing the whole "Mamma Bear" thing and "girl mom" thing really isn't true?

  • @SteganDaMallion
    @SteganDaMallion 5 місяців тому +5

    I can’t even watch the rest of this. It re-triggering for me, and puts me in dark place. ❤️‍🩹

  • @Dottiebonds
    @Dottiebonds 5 місяців тому +4

    Reasons why not everyone is MoTherhood worthy 😫🥹love and healing to them