Sir if that is the case then no personal laws should exist and parliament should not legislate on matters such as marriage, divorce, inheritance etc. The issue brought forward is actually a thought provoking one. If all benefits goes to wife who is young and can remarried which she should for she has a life ahead what about the parents who brought up the concerned officer and made him what he was before he got married? Demand here is a thorough relook into NoK norms for it doesnt look fair and just.
@@letsthink1991 That is the Army's job to decide. What I am bothered about is the social media trial of the widow. To answer your point, the family did receive 50-60 lakhs as parents. Coming back to the widow, maybe she has grievances she does not want to make public. Maybe she remembers the times the parents might have opposed their love marriage. OTOH, Maybe she has decided to take the money and leave and even remarry. She is still not breaking any laws or morals. Her husband was a grown and responsible adult, serving in our Armed forces. He decided to give all his belongings to her. It was his free choice, because it was his property. And now that he has died, it is the property of his widow as per his will. For the parents to say "what did we get" implies that they want money, for the sacrifice of their son. This reduces the events to a transaction. The father even said that the widow should marry her dead husband's brother to keep the honour in the family. How can you not find that offensive? Widhwa bhabhi bane biwi? Once again, we should learn to accept that all this is her luck, both the loss of her love and the gain of the compensation. Just leave it at that. If she is unlucky, it's her misfortune. If she is lucky it is her fortune. Who are we to stand in the way?
@@tiwarisnt8374 He also said she can live as Anshuman's widow or she can marry someone else unrelated to Anshuman or she can live with her parents or with her in laws and that it was up to her and her choice. Not mentiioning the whole truth is a LIE.
@@nomadicmritunjaya774in social media this video is well circulated where her FATHER IN LAW is saying he wants her D. in law to get married with their younger son.
The most problematic aspect is that women are being blamed for the deaths of their partners and are forced to live like a widow for 'his' soul. As a guy, it saddens me that no women speak up for Smriti Singh.
@@fine2502 exactly it's strange all comments are speaking the same rote learned story and making her victim and giving analogy sati live whole life as widow etc.seems paid story to comments .
She is grief stricken, and in India we still have to learn how to let people, especially women, grieve in private. Wonderful thoughts and well put, thank you.
@@Gamer_Boyz_007 has it ever occurred to you that she is in so much of grief that she wants to be around her loved one, her parents? And its not just a marriage of 5 months but a relationship of 8.5 years, why is this fact ignored?
@@dr.anantdeepgrewal3599 Have you ever heard words like DECENCY and MORALITY. she left the house within 13 days and changed the permanent address. She should have at least waited for 1 year till all rituals are completed. Who is more in grief, a mother who lost his son or a 5 months old wife who left without taking his husband's belongings. 8 months old relationship finished in just 13 days.
@@yograjkamathi9535obviously everything goes both ways except this video and most of the comments here are highly one sided and saying patriarchy blah blah
In case of love marriages like this, daughter in law do not have respect for the parents of the husband. However that is not so in case of conventional marriage (arranged marriage)
@@parveshsinghbisht7421acha joke hai ek joh tumhe by birth pala rha hai qoh suddenly ek stranger ko aapna children maan lenga kya? Yeh aise na hota hai aur na kabhi hoga.
My respect of Smriti Singh is immense. Your husband may have died but you have earned thousands of brothers. Don't feel down. I apologize for our society. You live your life. I support your choice.
i dont know hat kind of brother she have earned who only demean her existance since the parents decide to expose their family problems and shame their daughter in law, would they have done the same if its their daugher? hell no
Thanks you for this video. The very fact that she chose to speak silent in face of public criticism from her in-laws told me all I needed to know. Smriti is an example for someone like me who feels the need to retaliate. Her stoicism is a lost virtue.
Liked your comment. Yes Smiriti's silence speaks volumes but is completely lost on the Indian psyche. You, like me always retaliate which is not a bad thing as challenging every situation helps improve the lives of others in this case especially women. So well done be yourself.
How shameful that u chose beauty over common sense. Selfish people like you continue to raid out others in life without feeling guilty. Shameful. I would understand when you get old and your children spouse treats u like this.
What rubbish! As a feminist, I'm telling you to see the facts. She's silent because she's guilty of keeping medal (not compensation) that belongs to martyr's parents who would build foundation in the Shaheed 's name, while this young lady needs to move on with her life. All kinds of lies are being spread about the martyr' s parents, that's the real orthodoxy. People like you are responsible for provoking misogyny in Indian society because you make a heroine out of fake feminist women, and neglect cases of real injustice, and that enables misogynysts. What can Smriti say when there is a whole history of her and her family sidelining martyr's biological parents before and after award ceremony, trying to steal limelight, she'll regret what she has done especially when she tries to remarry (which is her choice) and can't or is asked to return the CHAKRA to its rightful custodians. Why can't she give the parents a clean break, no one is asking for her money, but the chakra does NOT belong to her. She is free to move on with the money but she has no right to keep parents hostage to chakra if she's not staying with them.
@@NidzShah-ps6krIf she thinks that way at least let her share the money with her father in law because she can have another husband but these old people have nothing to take care of them neither can they produce another son at this age. But that she won't do because she is selfish and irresponsible.
@@sonjoybhattacharji5706they have another son plus the father in law was a gov employee too I believe so he gets pension too. So she owes them nothing…. They r just a creepy family
@@prashanthsubburam1605wow so according to you they have no right to the kirti chakra,pension etc of the son who they brought up for more than 20 years.And the girl who was his wife for less than a year can enjoy all the benefits of THEIR martyed son whom they gave birth,gave him good schooling spent a good chunk of their earnings to make him capable enough to become army officer and that too a brave one.
Women especially daughter- in-laws are an easy and soft target to vilify or troll for any failure, mishap and distraction from real or deep rooted problems in one's family.
Her father in law literally asked her to marry her husband's brother !!! I mean wtf !! And still he wonders why she left them . How come this guy is playing victim card🤣 !! Somehow hardly any media is talking on this !!
@@DevanshiAdhikari-lc5udit's more gross that you believed in someone's comment and that's very very gross that he/she have not gone through her parents others interview in which they clarified distorted version
@@DevanshiAdhikari-lc5ud yes it's gross. That way his father in law would be able to keep the entire compensation to him😀 and this man playing victim card on camera😂
I am a woman..and i support smriti singh ...she has the right to choose about her life ...she has the right to move on May both the parents and the wife get all the strength to move on in there life .. without blaming each other ..some things should remain in private
Yah absolutely. As a woman, I also support her decision (whatever it will be). However,atleast Kirti chakra belongs to Anshuman Singh's family and she has no right to snatch it away from his parents. His parents only want that kirti chakra as their son's memory because they have no choice to have another son (moreover she can marry again).
We can't accept any good thing from 'The print '.#wahiyatKhabar And yah please let Anshuman Singh's family resolve it by themselves. The print you are no one to interfere, just act like media (rubbish) that's it. They don't want any news especially from you.Because we know what sort of platform you are 😑🤪😬
You don't need to specify that since you are a woman you support this woman. As a human being (does not matter whether you are a woman or a man or do not like to be associated with any of these identities) you should support the rightful allocation of benefits as per the law of the land.
Life apna hesab se jini ha to jiya koi dikkat nahi lekin fhir kirti chakra ma bhi un kaa adikaar nahi Assa hona glt ha ki pti ke Diya blidaan ka pura sam maan bhi chahiye or unke he maa baap ko dukaar do
"Just five months of marriage" undermines the validity of their long-standing relationship and society's refusal to accept and honour any commitment other than marriage. Even if so, this was a distasteful remark for sure! How can she marry the younger son! Oh my god, the patriarchy never ends. Let the woman live on her own terms. She has had enough grief already!
@@amruthagirish1532 madam. Even if the father of the officer is speaking his mind, he is older generation. Ofcourse she should not marry the brother in law. But speaking up an opinion is no crime. She can say a clear No to any proposal if it's indecent. Nevertheless, There is no reason anyone can justify the actions of keeping the Kirti chakra away from the parents. At least ek photo hi click karwa deti with the honour bestowed. Parents are no saint but neither is the lady
In case of love marriages like this, daughter in law do not have respect for the parents of the husband. However that is not so in case of conventional marriage (arranged marriage). Arranged marriage is having benefits in comparison with the love marriage. That’s the moral of the story
@@amruthagirish1532 also as you wrote, "she has had enough grief already", but ofcourse, the parents must not be grieving. Only wife can grief. Parents were not part of the family now that their son was married to a girl of his own choice. They have no claim upon his legacy. Kudos to Hypocrisy
My father was an ex-serviceman, He died when I was 15 because of high bp while being on duty... After death a certain amount is given to the family for funeral rites. And I remember very clearly how members of my father's family wanted to get that money ... They even asked my mother to pay for the rental vehicle in which they came to the hospital... I have seen how things go in joint families and if one member is in the army then the entire family depends financially on that one person.... I hate my father's side of the family because of their selfishness.... All they wanted was to get their hands on the sum that is given to the defence personnel's family... They never comforted us in our grieving time. Only created more problems.
Trust me it is same in case of other govt employee too😂 My father was a govt employee and he died young from a sudden heart attack His family ran to our home (we used to live near my father's office),didn't even complete his last rites and started asking about the insurance money,my father's savings and his pension Same story everywhere And let me tell you my parent's marriage wasn't a love marriage It was an arranged marriage but still These greedy families of husband's side never accept the wife and if something happens to the husband,his wife's life is doomed😂
@@random_person_on_internet very true... And the irony is here the husband himself kept his wife as the nominee. Why?? Because he wanted to. He didn't want his parents to be the nominee as simple as that
@@meghanarora4136 they are just money obsessed people No matter how much money you give them they will still ask for more Even if they don't need them😂
@@meghanarora4136 btw wrong info,he made his parents nominee too The insurance money got divided among parents and wife in 50:50 ratio which media is hiding
@@CinnamonStickkif so then that law need to be changed. And yes it will be applicable to a widower of female army officer if he re marries again. There I said it so that you can't complain about chauvinism. 😅
I tried to explain this to other women employees at my workplace however I was criticised because she didn’t want to stay with them. As a man, I felt ashamed of this society and what we make women endure coz of their gender
@@binakhimji6509 targeted education definitely helps, not just math science and never underestimate women's ability to comprehend something specially social issues regarding there own suppression.
Her father in law explicitly said in the interview in Hindi that We are happy with whatever our daughter in law and her parents want to do whether that be remarriage with someone outside the family or if she wants to remain a widow or stay with us or stay with her parents. Whatever she wants is up to her. Her father in law said this in response to her father saying she's only 26. If you or the creators of this video haven't seen that interview or can't understand Hindi or purposely distort and defame the father in law you have a defamation suit waiting for you!
EXACTLY. IN INDIA ONLY WOMEN ARE BLAMED FOR EVERYTHING. HIS IN LAWS INTERVIEW SHOWED HOW THEY NEVER KEPT HER AS A DAUGHTER. THEY ARE SO MONEY MINDED THAT THEY FORGET THAT SHE HAS HER WHOLE LIFE AHEAD AND NOT HER PUPPET TO BE TOLD WHAT TO DO.
@dilpreet63 what connection does it have with this topic, here the women is innocent. People like you only try to find ways how and where to hate women. Here her inlaws are playing victim card and not her.
@@priya9836 why don't she refuses monthly pension of five month old husband without child. Can't she earn on her own where does feminism dies which says a woman donot need a man's money
@@dilpreet63 yes, women should be independent and I support that ideology. But you also can't deny that still many woman sacrifice their career for their husband and kids. And then they become dependent on their husband but people like you have problem with everything a women does. Also, her in laws has received money so why they need her money. It's her money and he was her husband. So, you don't have any right to judge her.
@@priya9836 her money how she got it pathetic woman like you don't deserve education give it to woman who don't want to misuse laws and loot money at 26 yr without kids
Parents totally shifted focus on this shameful drama rather than their sons brave sacrifice...he was a hero ..he should be remembered as that but they ruined it ...
It works the other way too. The girl's parents also often interfere with her married life. In short, Indian parents don't let children live their married lives independently.
@@anandsharma7430 thanks for at least saying that it goes both ways. Also, around me only girls are suffering bcz of in laws. Husbands are cool with their parents torturing wives. No men are treated the same way.
Smriti Singh doesn't deserve to smile anymore, she shouldn't marry anyone as she has taken compensation. she should always be just sad and thats what we Indians want, we simply can't see anyone overcoming their trauma and living a better life, we just can't digest it. All she can do is leave this country full of patriots to another nation and have a peaceful life, but that too very private bcz if we we get to know it, its again an issue. I know im gonna get so much hate for this now, it is so incredible to know the cause of death of such an intelligent mind within our our country limits and home unit as army never lets anything actually come out.
Well commented. Hate/greed and other emotions are the ugly side of all humanity. Be yourself and do not be drawn into this cess pit as long as your honesty/integrity are intact.
Wow that's a befitting reply to the pseudo ethical people who are setting rules on somebody's private life. You sarcastically defined it well how hypocritical this society is. Smriti Singh had 8 long years of relationship with the martyred soldier and then she got married to him and she has to go through the tragedy of losing the person who she made the biggest part of her life, now she has to also answer everyone why she can't marry his brother
MIL accompanying the wife of late capt to receive kirti chakra in itself was a sign of a typical MIL "pehle vo mera beta hai phir tmhra pati". I felt it that day itself.
Such parents get abandoned but their own children and will criticise the DIL. Often it is the doing of such parents. They themselves draw their children away from them. Some people are so blinded by their parents presence in life that they disrespect their wives. Such parents deliberately try to destroy their own children’s lives. But karma is seeing everything. God is not blind to his devotee’s sufferings and such is the fate of such parents.
Really sad to know that the father hid the fact that he received 65Lakhs. Also very shocking to hear that the father asked his daughter-in-law to marry his younger son. Looks like the father cares more about keeping the compensation amount in his family rather than caring about the well-being of his dead son's wife.😢 I wonder what Anshuman's father would have done if his own daughter were in such a situation 🤔. Thank you for this eye-opening report Karanjeet Kaur. Since Smriti never spoke clearly or responded to in-laws' allegations, many have believed the in-laws' version of Smriti's supposedly "uncaring attitude". It is important for women to speak up.
@@RashmiKumari-qo3ot whether the Kirti Chakra is with parents or the wife, ultimately Kirti Chakra represents Anshuman. The medal signifies that a soldier like Anshuman may have sacrificed his body but he is still AMAR. Neither the parents nor the spouse of any soldier should treat the medal like a "property". Every soldier who sacrifices his life for the country, whether he gets a medal or not, is like a Dhruva Nakshatra.
And this is when Smriti is an Engineer and these are the parents of an Army doctor graduated from AFMC. Imagine what it is like for less educated families 😢
Family lost a son!!! Wife lost a husband which she can have again it's her right and choice and move on with her life. She would find another love again..... Family can't have another son again so they brought it into media for a genuine reason.
My salute to you madam for so clearly bringing out the victimization of the young lady by a misogynistic family and society. Ms Smriti Singh is very composed and continues to be a veer nari and she stands strong. May she go from strength to strength.
what arrogance from the leftist lobby to say that she ows nothing to the in laws.Why does she not give away the money if shes such strong independent woman ,what is the guarentee she wont marry again. The soldiers mother was saying that she left , didnt keep contact . The martyr's parents could not even see the award given to their son. Dont they have some right over it. Bloody hell. Just take the advantages of being a bechari woman and show arrogance by calling yourself a feminist. She's just an opportunist who will reap the benefits of her husband's death and live off his money and fame and will be in search of companionship soon.
Oh really 😂 She was with him from some months The parents were their with him from 26 years Captain Anshuman always used to do whatever her mother has told his irrespective of the fact that he liked it or not He would not have married that bit*h if he knew she would behave like this
What does she do to become a 'veer'? Simply a marriage!!? What nonsense. She took the medal & money of Anshuman, not living vid her in-laws, not even talking to them. & u r calling her veer. Let it happen vid u.
@@indubagga9589She got the money by law. I am sure that you didn't read the full story. Her parents got half of insurance money. Still such shameful people that instead of grieving their son's death they also said that they can get her married to their younger son, whose daughter in law will stay in such a toxic environment. She lost her life partner, the pain you will never understand.
Did u even put effort in considering in who's possession the medal is in ? If u support the women let it be but it's completely clear the anshuman Singh's mom didn't get the proper opportunity to atleast touch the medal during the ceremony 🤌🏼
Thank you for writing and speaking on this "great india misogyny", and thanks for giving words to the emotions that i felt after those incidents including online and in-laws comments which were absolutely disgusting. Myself being from a rural background understand the in-laws' misogyny.
It's never the saas man, it's the sasur. It's always the sasur. He tortures his wife and children. Doesn't love anyone. The wife is left only with her kids to love so she gets too invested in their lives, esp. sons. And then cannot accept that her son loves a woman. So she torments the woman her son loves. And it seems the saas is the problem. The problem is bad marriages which are lauded in our society. Men aren't allowed to love their wives or they're "zoru ka gulam" other women hate the woman who's loved because they're unloved in their own marriage. It's the whole society. It's super sad.
What sacrifice? Earlier rajput women used to sacrifice themselves on their husband's funeral pyre! Now look how they have fallen from grace and become self serving gold miners
@@Masterofmultiversepeople like you are the reason of orthodox mindset being carried over. I hope you would do the same with your daughter when she becomes a widow. ❤
Get your facts right please... She changed the address/ hometown of her husband in army records..... Parents ka koi rishta nai hota kya bete se after marriage!!! Had hogai nakli feminists ki
What brave women... nonsense.... what sacrifice she had did.... she's going to marry someone else in future with ex husband's money going to enjoy.....
These men ill eye on a beautiful women.... and the girl has done absolute right by constructing right boundaries. Indian society is not a place to live for a single woman.... these uncles and aunties are really brutal and torturous with their daughter in law even when the son is alive.... let alone he is no longer there.I really honour the step of the girl she has taken for herself to lead a honourable and respectful life.
what arrogance from the leftist lobby to say that she ows nothing to the in laws.Why does she not give away the money if shes such strong independent woman ,what is the guarentee she wont marry again. The soldiers mother was saying that she left , didnt keep contact . The martyr's parents could not even see the award given to their son. Dont they have some right over it. Bloody hell. Just take the advantages of being a bechari woman and show arrogance by calling yourself a feminist. She's just an opportunist who will reap the benefits of her husband's death and live off his money and fame and will be in search of companionship soon.
The parents were more concerned about getting all the 'gold' and to punish the woman who snatched away their elder son by committing 'love marriage '. Calling a marriage just 'five months old' is setting such a low bar. How many of men hating on this woman would like their wives to get married to their brothers right after their death? That's absolutely disgusting if your brothers are secretly thirsting for your wives. Why should any woman stay for even a single day with such a family with such strange beliefs where two brothers can share a wife and there seems to be no grief for the dead brother. All the parents did was to play on mass sympathy. Was their son just a source of money for them, one wonders!
Well articulated. Women are still looked upon to be manipulated even though they are adults and are legally entitled to make choices for her best interests. Scoffing at the singhs may attract ire of a patriarchal mindset. Thank you for putting this out there for everybody to think about and rationalise.
@@epshitachatterjee3185 where is patriarchy in this? Must be fancy word for you to use. Issue is of handling of Kirti chakra by the spouse, not sharing it's due with the parents even for a minute. Changing the deceased soldier's home address in documents, taking away all his personal stuff with no access to even a remaining thread to the parents, leaving the house even before culmination of rites and rituals of death and some more like this.
@@ninjatango5508 Controlling the woman is the foundation of Patriarchy. Google and learn about it. And who the F is the father to give her three choices? She knows how to choose what is best for her.
@@nchl5340 you lost the battle when you yourself used "choices" instead of decisions. Of course those were few choices not the ultimatum or decision by the "patriarchal mindset" Father may be old fashioned. Simply say No to his choices. Why to make this an issue. Moreover if you had gone through the interview of the Father, there is one sensible "choice" amongst those three. At least one of those is sensible. Invariably she would be choosing one in future. Also, using "who the F is Father" in your statement describes that you have truly broken this so called patriarchal society norms. You are right, great choice of words. Congrats. Try using full form of F next time to teach those patriarchal Fathers the real meaning of Patriarchy. Those old school "fathers" should be named and shamed. P.S.- Someone taught u Patriarchy concept. You got fixated upon it. The matter was not only this issue. Infact this was not an issue. Some Hypocrites chose to modify the narratives. Look at the Bigger picture
@@epshitachatterjee3185 Ask specific Questions to the Spouse or her family Q1. Did she or her family met the officer's family during last 1 year? Q2. Did she allowed atleast a photo of Kirti chakra to officer's father? Q3. Did they meet cordially during the Award Ceremony in Delhi or she flung away with her parents in hurry to avoid them? Q4. Why was changing address of the deceased officer necessary? Couldn't it have been managed without it? As such pension will come to her account irrespective of the address. Q5. If she is willing to get married in future, (which she should), where would she be comfortable in keeping the Kirti Chakra? In her new home with new husband? With her parents? With her old in laws? Parents may be wrong completely but the lady is not the ideal either. She is young. Her decisions must be influenced by her own parents. Hence the real question must be thrown at them.
@@nchl5340 Ask specific Questions to the Spouse or her family Q1. Did she or her family met the officer's family during last 1 year? Q2. Did she allowed atleast a photo of Kirti chakra to officer's father? Q3. Did they meet cordially during the Award Ceremony in Delhi or she flung away with her parents in hurry to avoid them? Q4. Why was changing address of the deceased officer necessary? Couldn't it have been managed without it? As such pension will come to her account irrespective of the address. Q5. If she is willing to get married in future, (which she should), where would she be comfortable in keeping the Kirti Chakra? In her new home with new husband? With her parents? With her old in laws? Parents may be wrong completely but the lady is not the ideal either. She is young. Her decisions must be influenced by her own parents. Hence the real question must be thrown at them.
@@beebee753 ya she deserves to run away with the money quickly. The parents can just produce one more son, like it's nothing. But ohhh what a terrible hardship the wife faced lol 😆
@@beebee753 If I have a son however, I'll never send him to fight for country 😊 Never ever! Let country be destroyed. My daughter deserves to run away with money and my son deserves to stay alive and earn for himself.
Exactly 💯 Every Serving Personnel during enrolment or commissioning decides the percentage of Insurance, PF amount etc to be disbursed to the Beneficiary the Serving personnel decides. The Beneficiary can be Parents or Spouse or both as per the Soldier's discretion. In Capt Anshuman's case the Officer himself had declared his Wife as the Beneficiary. Case Closed. The parents are maligning the poor widows character and name and also Capt Anshuman's Legacy by engaging in unnecessary Mudslinging.
Spot on thanks. The army has just been dragged into the mud by this greedy couple/hope they find happiness with this toxic mindset. Education as the Indians suggest = good human beings. Wrong. But education is about an open mind challenging dogmas doctrines for the betterment of society.
In case of love marriages like this, daughter in law do not have respect for the parents of the husband. However that is not so in case of conventional marriage (arranged marriage). Arranged marriages is best from the perspective of the parents
@@inbarasansamidurai7974 it's not about the money. It's about Honour of the deceased. Changing Home address of the soldier on official documents, not giving due share of time with the Kirti Chakra to the parents are few reasons. Parents got the money they deserved.
@@sreenathgopinathan4002 you are spamming this same reply under every comment. And to question your thinking. Why does only the daughter in law have to respect the husband's parents? Don't the parents have to respect the daughter in law too and also the same for the husband towards her parents? The latter hardly ever happens be it arranged or love marriage.
Mrs. Smriti Singh is young and has a long life ahead. She has all the right to move ahead by God's grace. Me as a part of the Armed Forces, if at all I die in the line of duty, I will never want my wife to cry on my photo throughout her life. I would always want my wife to move ahead with her future. Indian society should stand by the Veer Naaris and not scavenge on them as Gold Diggers. Have some shame, she has lost her husband. Please be sensible enough.
Turns out the in-laws are gold digging more concerned about "next-of-kin" money and saying they did not receive anything even with the 65L compensation and aid by Yogi Adityanath.
As a guy, I feel sad for her. I have seen Mother/father in-laws throwing their Daughter in law out of their home after the death of their son. If girls parent would not have accepted her, she would have been homeless. Since I have seen this as a first hand experience so I can know what she may be going through. As a Man, i would wish my wife to be happy after my death also at all costs. It's her decision to marry someone of her choice or not to marry.
Man i have seen many family do that because they don't want to give inheritance. and when wife die most of the men leave their children at in-laws place and remarry. Children has to stay at in-laws place till they pass away. Only 45% of women remarry .Men who are complaining of not getting bride wouldn't even think of marrying widows. But men who remarry always search for women who is never married. Now matter how much our society change some things wouldn't change
So glad you said it and rather beautifully! It brutally shows the hypocrisy of the society taking issue with a woman daring to make her own choices in life..
@@Sandwich-h1e if the martyred soldier wanted he could wrote a letter and made parents his nok(next of kin) and so they would have received the medal but he didn't want to do so, his wife got it how the hell are the family members getting disrespected like the man had just said about "not receiving dowry" and asked his own daughter in law who had just been widowed to marry his younger son like wtf
@@lipikasarmah4708 His wife left his family.......Fine,at least she should let themat least touch it....If she remarry,she should give Kirti Chakra to his family...
@@lipikasarmah4708 Captain Anshuman Singh was Rajput......Rajputana regiment is around 250 years old....There was British era law in which wife of martyred has to marry husband's family member in order to receive compensation.......It was repealed and got void by Modi govt in 2017.... This was the norm before,maybe thats why his father asked her this..
I think the anchor is one sided. I think the Parents main grief is that Parents were not honoured equally. Govt should give replica of Kirti Chakra . It’s good that govt shared money . Parents deserve to be equally and rightfully claimant of honour . A jawan joins army because of parents support and blessing not because of wife. Paresh must be fully honoured and equitably compensated
She is right but at the same time there is no equality in this society in the first place, which will keep creating more problems in the future. Don't understand why a wife has to sacrifice her dreams/career if her husband is in army! We are here to live as an individual , earn our own bread ,live our own experiences.
Because army personal constantly move from one place to another. Don't marry an army personal if you want to do a job. Oh but the benefits provided by army are hard to ignore, so why do a job
@@parveshsinghbisht7421 thats ur idea when a male officer does that, u want a wife not to do job but a when an female officer does that i see no male suggesting it
@@parveshsinghbisht7421 nah I have many examples where both partners are earning.. husband is in army and wife is working too ...my cousin is in navy his wife is in police...they are doing fine ...
Don't you think you are being too generous to her inlaws. Their sole motive was money and it's quite obvious. The custom of "chader odona" is also practiced for that.
Kya Joshi ji, aap toh aisi baat na kariye! Devar ke saath niyog karna kya hamari Manusmriti mein nahin likha hai? Arya Samaj ke founder Maharishi Pandit Dayanand Saraswati Ji ne toh devar ki nirukta dvara paribhasha hi dusra var batayi hai. Aap hindu traditions, hindu law se hi gaddari karenge toh hindu rashtra kaise banega?
@@anushkaupadhyay6004 - What mistreatment from centuries? Women in our hindu religion are always treated like goddesses. But now, in kalyug, you yourself have become poisonous trying to hopelessly copy western women. You are only a victim in your own mindset. So grow up.
@@anushkaupadhyay6004 Are you madWhy do you always cry victim for no reason! In our hindu religion women are always treat like goddesses. You are the problem.
I am happy that the print created a video on this sensitive topic and the anchor narrated it in a balaced way. More Power to the right journalism to create a better society for tomorrow.
As an Indian in his 20s- I should point that our previous generations are setting a poor example of conduct for us. What a pitiful show of a glaring lack of empathy. They are taking the focus away from their son’s brave sacrifice for our country.
Life’s lesson’s are also imbibed as influences by the society around us. Some of us might be lucky to have good influences around us but not all. We don’t get to choose our family until it was too late, as was demonstrated by Late Capt. Anshuman Singh in the selection of his life partner and next of kin. The least we can do is honor the dead man’s wishes.
@@vikramheble9972 thank you for missing the point entirely. I might be fortunate enough to see this from afar- but there are a lot of young impressionable boys and girls who will look at this behaviour as acceptable and pass it on to another generation. One or two people having a perspective is seldom enough to make a difference- and frankly; for the age that these people are, they really should know better.
This podcast is making it seem okay to ignore the son's parents and take everything for yourself, just because it's legal. After hearing what the news anchor said, I won't be so sure that someone who loves me will automatically love my parents too.
Parents have absolutely NO right to claim which is rightfully due to the widow of Captain Singh. She ought to move on with her life now and claim full compensation due to her by Ministry of Defence.
Her in laws are absolutely right. Anshuman pe parents ka haq v banta h,ye to shaadi kr ke dosara pati pa legi aur idhar ka v benefit uthae what about the parents?
Martyr Anshuman's parents have clearly said they didn't want the money ....the issue arised because they were not allowed to even touch the kirti chakra properly and there were other conflicts like changing of the permanent address from Lucknow to Gurdaspur by Smriti ji. Other than money every thing was taken away from the parents...she took away all the memories of their son.
Totally agree. The In laws are controlling and by airing their laundry in public is quite disgusting. It’s no surprise she wants nothing to do with them.
what arrogance from the leftist lobby to say that she ows nothing to the in laws.Why does she not give away the money if shes such strong independent woman ,what is the guarentee she wont marry again. The soldiers mother was saying that she left , didnt keep contact . The martyr's parents could not even see the award given to their son. Dont they have some right over it. Bloody hell. Just take the advantages of being a bechari woman and show arrogance by calling yourself a feminist. She's just an opportunist who will reap the benefits of her husband's death and live off his money and fame and will be in search of companionship soon.
If you look at the situation without being biased, i feel both parents and the wife are at fault. The parents shouldn't have made such a chaos in public and smriti also shouldn't have kept the kirti chakra all by herself.
It is a piece of metal. No grave stones are marked with Dr. Scientist IT Specialist or any titles but a good mother father daughter son. Titles do not define anyone in times of Death. As Brad Pitt mentioned No one on their death bed thinks/cares about all the acting awards I won its all about humanity.
@agnescraig2912 True, it is just a piece of metal, but it does signify a person's great sacrifice and if we keep ourselves in the place of the parents we would all want our sons last medal to remain with us.
@@artsycraftsy8138 well she is the nok so why shouldn't she like her husband wanted to if he didn't then he would have wrote a letter and made his parents the nok which he didn't so it clearly indicated what he desired
See the father's interview who himself has served in the army, they could not even touch the kirti chakra, they dont want any money infact they will donate all that money to a cause as per them and even add the same amount to it in donation from their own' property. She has been completely ignorant of her in laws not even uttering a single word to them since she left, she has all power to live her life the way she wants and her sacrifice is irredeemable but the presenter of the news is either blatantly and knowingly ignoring the facts presented by the father or has not even heard his side, she completely mispresented his words specially in case of marriage with the captain's younger sibling, the father explicitely told that whatsoever is the choice of smriti would be done, he was suggesting all possible paths which included he would marry her by her choice to anyone smriti wants just like his daughter too, yes smriti is free to do what she wants even if that includes cutting off all ties with the inlaws but not attending the rites of his husband at his home in february and not even letting them have the kirti chakra for the rites and a statue ceremony in his hometown is not at all justified, it is not that the parents said it in first go to media but the cascading traumas of blatant ignorance and vilification of rights of the parents from august last year led to them being open about it in the public. SHAME ON YOU MISS PRESENTER.
Agreed... Well said. Parents ka b right hai to have that Kirti Chakra once in their hands. Main b kisi ki daughter in law hoon and ek bete ki mother b, I can understand the pain of parents.
@@MOTIVATION-gz7oq What would you do when your inlaws ask you to marry your husbands brother immediately after your husband dies? Would you maintain relationship with your inlaws? Make you son/daughter call your brother-in-law as father. Those parents are disgusting. They dont deserve the Kirti Chakra
@@veda_ravi her own father talked about her second marriage in those 13/14 days. A father who just lost his son can't even think about this. It's ok if she is not interested to live with them, she can break her ties with them, it's her wish but she can clearly tell them that I don't want to be in touch with you, that's it. She chose to ignore. Parents have full right on his Kirti chakra, no one can stop them. Agar itni insaniyat hoti to President se lete time b bolti ki aap b hath lgao. Usko apni life mein jo karna hai kare, no one is stopping her but not by hurting others
Very well articulated It takes a lot to stay silent than to retort Inspite of going through social media trial. Smriti did a great job for such young age. She did her part in respecting her husband’s sacrifice by remaining silent.
The question is if she could have let the captains parents take pictures with kirti chakra or even have it for a while…I think she could have cooperated more and communicated more..
Blaming an old laws are easy for today’s modern women. They think they married to self built 25 years old well qualified man. .. what his wife did to make a new born to well qualified 25 years old man. Would any of you like to answer this question
You are forgetting the wife plays crucial role for the next 25 years . Newly married couple makes their own little family in future . Parents and spouses have importance in life however spouses gets the priority .
@@THETEXANSit is important to avoid or distance oneself from toxic people, even if it's parents. We all have just one life and it should be filled with love and harmony and NOT with people who are greedy and materialistic.
The parents had already received a compensation of 65 lakhs, what more do they want? It seems more like they were trying to use their dead son as a means of hogging money. Moreover, they wanted to keep Smriti to themselves to point where they wanted her to marry their younger son?? It's beyond disgusting. They did that just so they could have feed on her share of money as well. And you seem to forget that they may have been married for 5 months, they were in a relationship for 8 years, despite the long distance. Respecting parents doesn't mean allowing them to disrespect your spouse. if parents give you life, then your spouse spends the rest of it with you.
Thanks a ton for bringing out the truth. I have been tirelessly trying to persuade everyone, discussing her gold digger act, that the parents have been duly compensated by Army....a fact very cleverly sealed by Singhs from public. Smriti left Singhs' household for obvious reasons which is evident from their bashing interviews. She made the right choice
She has lost her husband and in 2 to 3 years time she will move on and marry someone of her liking. Parents will live with the memories of their dead son and Kirti chakra will gather dust in Smriti’s wardrobe.
This RP Singh, parents of anshuman and his troll vahini should be punished by law. They have harassed a grieving wife in public, bullied and tried to control her life. His suggestions/offers may send chills through the spine of any woman, such people in control of someones life can be horrific. He is a pensioner drawing fat income every month still eyes on sons widows pension/money/efforts, so army should punish him for his reckless greed and high handed attitude towards others. The golden silence of the brother in law (the proposed groom for smriti) also raises eyebrows. Her harassment should be investigated for all aspects. This case should safeguard all other widows and women in our country from greedy family heads like this case. In indian law this concept of HUF also should be abolished, because of this backward provision women are blackmailed daily in hindu households.
I am impressed with your judgement,wow That Person should be punished for grooming his son to be a national hero,Shame on you, Think about a parent whose son laid his life for sale of his motherland,His wife now or after few year may choose to get marry and busy with another family,but can those parents got their son back, The parents may be from lower economic strata, it doesn't mean that so call scholars have all rights to demonise them , think what happened to anyone who lost their yong son,be passionate...
@@indianhindurajput9891 He laid his life for others, I give full credit to him and NOT to his parents who cannot accept 'another woman taking away few lacs more' and out to destroy her life. What they have done to her in private is a valid question that ThePrint asked. In India many families harass widows and married women and that should be stopped. Smriti can marry (this is the biggest point of jealousy of patriarchial society), but not done it yet, and none of us know she will do it or not. Similarly these parents have two more well-established doctor children (alternatives!!) and a whole government to depend on as pensioners. Do they or did they share their benefits with their parents? Will they give smriti her inheritance? THEY ARE NOT FROM LOW INCOME STRATA, very likely that financially more secure and well off than Smriti. A JCO like him gets about 60000 rupees pension +benefits, and they got 65 lacs from smritis LEGAL entitlements. Note that she did not complain about it. 'We got nothing' is a plain lie and sorry I dont respect liers. Its sickening to see people try to rob others money, their freedom and choices and worse, try to marry them to brother in law, adopt his child etc. to control her pension!!! Raising children is not same as raising cashcows, its not a business. Parenthood should be unconditional, but these are too much for your understanding!
My salute to Smriti. So cute girl has faced criticism from in-laws, which is too pathetic. God will give courage to overcome all this odds and show path to move ahead.
Well first of all no one said anything about burying her, I know it's a metaphor but seems little extreme, from what I understood of the interview there were not giving her some three conditions from which she had to choose one, there were merely stating that they are ready if she wants to marry someone else and they are willing to marry her off as a daughter of their house and another "option" you didn't talk about was if she wanted to not marry anyone else and just wants to stay as soldier's widow she can stay at their home as "badi bahu" of house. I know they said that stuff about marrying her to the younger son but again it was not as some "condition" or "option", I know there is lot of trolling of smritiji and offcourse someone has to also put her point of view but you could have done that without making the parents villain. And about that NOK thing, father was trying to address a general problem. I just hope both smritiji and the parents find strength to move past this phase.
Who are they to give her any option? Please dont even try to defend such vile suggestion of marrying the younger brother. If my Father-in-law "suggested" that I would slap him. Disgstng
but they are also potraying smriti as villain here, when a wife does no body compensates her parents, in fact whatever she brought to her husband's home will remain at his home only jewellary or money etc. i never saw a girls parents ask that even if they are dependant on her money or not why its only for son's parents then?
I think they are also hurt that someone who became an important part of the family as their DIL now completely ignores them and does not consider them her family because she wants to move on. I mean she has every right to move on but nobody leaves his /her own parents behind to move on but she did stop talking to them maybe because she considered them her family until captain Singh was still alive. She might be thinking that she would not be able to move on by staying close to her in laws but if she is mourning so is the mother. And the move you make that hurts other people who are also grieving the same loss cannot be justified by saying "I was sad wanted to move on " I mean do it but just accept you did it. Also is that true that she did not even let the family see the chakra or they are just making things up. Because if that is true then I must say she is wrong. I am a woman too and so are they. The mother had equal right to atleast see and keep the chakra.
ALL LIES AND PROPAGANDA. NOBODY ASKED FOR MORE MONEY FROM HER. She needs to move on in her life, she 's young so might get remarried, SHE AND HER FAMILY WANT A CLEAN BREAK, SO RETURN THE CHAKRA AND GO. The chakra belongs to those who can preserve the legacy of the Martyr's sacrifices and how will an estranged DIL on such horrible terms with her late husband's family and likely to remarry do that Get your facts straight This woman and her own family exploited the attention and fame brought by Martyr's sacrifice and fleeced his biological parents And I'm a feminist
@@ritikadobhal4072Yes, she didn't let the Martyr's parents see the chakra or get photographed with it AND PULLED HER OWN FATHER ONTO THE FRAME, 😂 A MAN WHO HAD 0 TO DO WITH SHAHEED'S LIFE OR INFLUENCES Smriti is a horrible entitled person and woman I'm ashamed to be an Indian woman like her, but I'm proud to be Indian like the Martyr and his parents My god, how the world spreads fake news about innocent parents only because they spoke up for their rights Here this woman is supported by fake feminists while countless women and girls suffering in India are neglected abd shamed 😅
Didn't they also lose their Son ... Are they not worthy atleast to hold the Chakra in their hands ... Why you have completely neglected their right as parents. However, the rest of the things related to Patriarchy or Social absurdities need not be supported and She is already doing what is good for her and nobody should hold her back.
Behavior of the parents is pathetic to say the least. Instead of supporting the wife, widowed at such young age, they are criticizing her. And, the retired father has his own pension.
The behavior of the wife is pathetic to say the least. Instead of supporting her grieving in laws who lost their son. She left the house immediately and changed the permanent address.
Ask specific Questions to the Spouse or her family Q1. Did she or her family met the officer's family during last 1 year? Q2. Did she allowed atleast a photo of Kirti chakra to officer's father? Q3. Did they meet cordially during the Award Ceremony in Delhi or she flung away with her parents in hurry to avoid them? Q4. Why was changing address of the deceased officer necessary? Couldn't it have been managed without it? As such pension will come to her account irrespective of the address. Q5. If she is willing to get married in future, (which she should), where would she be comfortable in keeping the Kirti Chakra? In her new home with new husband? With her parents? With her old in laws? Parents may be wrong completely but the lady is not the ideal either. She is young. Her decisions must be influenced by her own parents. Hence the real question must be thrown at them.
In case of love marriages like this, daughter in law do not have respect for the parents of the husband. However that is not so in case of conventional marriage (arranged marriage). Arranged marriage is better
Q1. Did she or her family met the officer's family during last 1 year? > Why would she have meet when they are disgustingly asking her to marry their younger son for retirement money?' Q2. Did she allowed atleast a photo of Kirti chakra to officer's father? > His mother also was there when recieving the award. Stop creating false narratives Q3. Did they meet cordially during the Award Ceremony in Delhi or she flung away with her parents in hurry to avoid them? >. Again, Why is she obligated to keep a relation with them when they are asking her for money, which is rightfully hers and calling her gold digger. Q4. Why was changing address of the deceased officer necessary? Couldn't it have been managed without it? As such pension will come to her account irrespective of the address. >. To maintain other communications if needed, Correct address is required, as she is the point of contact. Q5. If she is willing to get married in future, (which she should), where would she be comfortable in keeping the Kirti Chakra? In her new home with new husband? With her parents? With her old in laws? >. Why she has to give up Kirti Chakra, if married again. She can keep the memory of her husband. Would you expect a widow to give up her life and do sati ? What kind of questions are these. People like you are so disgusting and why India will always be a third world shithole country.
Thanks for this ...this was needed because media is going crazy the young girl is already in shock and hypocrite society is behind her....God bless you for keeping her point.
Explicit wishes of husband , Mam there are certain restrictions which don’t allow soldier to proportionate as he wishes, which is what these NOK rules are about
I WISH this was In hindi so that most of the ''trollers'' could understand the real picture of what was actually going on instead of just jumping to the conclusion and destroying the image of someone whose Husband martyred protecting the Nation . If we can't help anyone with anything Atleast let's not become the cause of pain for anyone. We consider the doctors as god (as we should) because they save many lives, But the soldiers of our Indian army let their lives in risk and protect us. So DON'T LOSE YOUR INTEGRITY. THEY DESERVE THE RESPECT FOR WHAT THEY ARE DOING. LET'S NOT HURT THE ONE WHO LEFT HIS EVERYTHING WHILE PROTECTING US❤.
She owes nothing to nobody but the Kirti Chakra medal she took with her is owed to her in-laws who birthed and nurtured their Son and sacrificed their beloved son for Maa Bharti's cause.
Yeah this woman will only talk about patriarchy😂😂😂 when woman get no topics then its just misogyny😂😂😂😂 pls we man need to neutralize this female oriented laws period
Smriti's silence spoke a thousand words and brought out the real face of patriarchy in our Indian society. Feels like more than being sad for losing their son they are not able to digest losing monetary benefits.
1. Letting the daugher-in-law marry the bother of there lost son is quite common in Bihar , UP or Haryana ... as here the family of the son is bit concered about wheathe here next husband would take care of her and the produced child from the previous husband (if any). so mostly they marry the woman to the bother of her late husband only ... there are many such cases around me . and the couple are happly living . Her father-in-low is from UP so he had the same mind set . It would have actually been a problem if the would have forced her to do so but he is taking responsiblity to make her marry the man of her choise . whatt is wrong in this ? 2. His main concern is that smriti didnt cared about anushman's belongings , she packed his cloths in a bag (Jhola ) and left , she did not even care what belonging came form his last unit , but she took away the kirti chakra and did not even gave a chance to his parents to even have a look on it . i know that its her RIGHT but there exists a word called MORALITY and ETHICS . 3. I myself belong from Military background , and have seen many such cases where the parents who sold there land to pay there sons school ,college fees . but unfortunatly there son dies in war . later the wife gots married to the next . and recieves the monthly salary of her previous husband , and the parents who payed for everything are driving AUTO RIKHAS . I know lost of a husband and a son is bizar , but in the end everybody has to move on but this is a sever problem somebody had to speak on this . The old father of capt Anshuman singh did not had any bad intension eventually he is behaving in a way nother indian culture is . he is not forcing her, he is giving her all the choises possible , now it was her who had to decide.
1. Just because a practice is common in a certain geographical region doesn't mean it is universally acceptable. The problem is that the Singh's mentioned that they don't even expect the dil to pay dowry for marrying the second son. They made this offer in public in front of the media, which should have been a private family discussion. All these actions are so wrong at so many levels. 2. The grieving widow organized her husband's belongings in the best way she could. Who can even imagine her agonizing mental state. Instead of publicly shaming her for not organizing their son's belongings up to their standards, the Singhs could have shown an ounce of empathy and dignity. The keerti chakra belongs to the entire nation. Legally if it doesn't belong to smriti the Singhs can take a legal route for justice no need to publicly shame smriti. Morals and ethics is a two way street. 3. You are talking as if kids are some kind of retirement scheme with guaranteed EMI payments in old age if parents have invested in their education. If you have to sell your land and retirement funds to pay for kids education, you have an option not to have kids and keep the retirement funds intact. The kids never asked to be born. Smriti has taken a decision which doesn't align with what the Singhs want. Now they should make peace with that. Live and let live.
Now they are having issue with her moving abroad...she is going there for her career ,why is that bothering her inlaws .She has the right to choose what she wants next in her life . Plus the money provided there son made the choice of stating her name in NOK. These parents have gone so far to disrespect her daughter in law shows their class and mindset
In a nutshell, parents in Asia need to revisit their approach of raising children. The old system won't work anymore. If children have adopted western system parents should also do the same. Only support their children until 16 to 18, children should take bank loans to pursue their studies and parents should spend their money and time on themselves, simpleeeeeeeeeeee.
Just two sentences for the parents in the entire video! You were as one sided as the people who are on the other side. Please put forward points equally from Parents end also. She has all the right to move on but also ethical obligation for equal distribution of wealth from Anshuman demise. Nothing wrong in it. Anshuman, like all armymen, would have imagined that whatever pension army would give, would serve a a source for his entire family not just for her or only his parents. She is doing the right thing by moving on but the money was always meant for the "family". If she no longer wants to be the part of the family and move on, why not have the feminist courage to be financially independent and move on to Australia and start her own life and letting parents get the pension henceforth? Why were you only critical of RPSingh's statement? She would seek sympathy by saying that Anshuman cared more about india, more than he loved her...but no hesitation in taking money from India's tax payer? Really?.. both parties are at equal fault here. Media is just reying to prolong the issue for eyeballs. No one cares about the outcome. If smriti has no obligation to be model daughter in law, why will the parents behave like model In laws? You are actually comparing Rhea with Smriti was another blow to your hidden agenda..both are apple and orange case. Dont serve us the mix fruit please.
The parents did get part of the proceeds if not half 'as told in the video time slot 3.30' one half of insurance money and one third of UP govt offered money..the fact that the parents offered to take her as the wife of their other son speaks volumes as to their intention and how they treat a woman as a chattel..if that is not considered misogyny what is?..by the way what is a model daughter in law? one who commits sati?
The official authorities involved have clarified that: parents received about 75 lakhs compensation, about 1 crore further financial help. Somehow still the daughter in law has to 'equally divide' what she has received? The way you divide her from the 'family' goes to show that you clearly don't see her as a part of the family. She was a the wife- clearly very well the late captains family and thus, has rightful claim over the financial compensation she receives. Get over the mentality that the son's only permanent family is the father and mother. She isn't taking tax payers money, she is taking what is lawfully and rightfully hers. Don't define feminism in your own cherry picked terms, what you like is feminism, what you don't like is pseudo feminism? Define what a model daughter in law is? One who serves her in laws for the rest of her life? That way these ideals should apply to a model son in law too right? Your comment reeks of a closed mentality wherein you have decided what you believe and won't change it. You are the one who is one sided and kudos to you for that because that doesn't seem like it'll change
4:34- i don't think that is the point of the argument. Lets not digress from the issue and make it about what and how the public has reacted and made it to be. I think here as well, the same is happening. Also, do not make stupid assumptions on ifs and but and or's. Keeping the complaint or issue by the parents on her going bk to her parents, the actual issue is something else which they spoke about. Now because people are shaming the girl, doesn't mean you'll make it about the girl or the parents. Journalism at its impeccable stupidity rn.
The parents-in-law have belittled themselves by exposing their dirty linen in public. They could maintain their dignity by keeping quiet. Instead of making Smriti feel more comfortable in her own home they have alienated themselves
His parents wants award sharing not money.... Which should be shared between parents and wife ... Parents have raised their son to be such officer and they even where not allowed to have his momento of death which is given to wife for such a brief marriage if she want share of his son glory she should also share the responsibility of his husband towards his parents....
You have so eloquently talked about everything except what the matter of contention is, which is the award in itself, which the martrys Dad did not have the opportunity to hold. Also, the father-in-law is talking about how Smriti just cut the Mom off from the joint account she had with her deceased son and Smriti, also disconnected the joint cell phone service the family had with their son. While he mentioned his concerns to the media and media posted it, people with different perspectives of their own made their own interpretations and conclusions. Does that mean, Smriti's in-laws made those statements or had the intentions of shaming their daughter-in-law. Again, it's about your perspective and how you want to project your video.
First of all, We are judging here without hearing stories from both sides. Daughter in law didn't express her version anywhere... Second, I don't see anyone forcing on her anything. She could have been little inclusive of their inlaws with respect to Kirthi Chakra...
You should clearly state in the headline that this is an opinion piece/rant similar to the uncles and aunties being talked about by the journalist. Her analysis could be true but it is clearly biased.
what arrogance from the leftist lobby to say that she ows nothing to the in laws.Why does she not give away the money if shes such strong independent woman ,what is the guarentee she wont marry again. The soldiers mother was saying that she left , didnt keep contact . The martyr's parents could not even see the award given to their son. Dont they have some right over it. Bloody hell. Just take the advantages of being a bechari woman and show arrogance by calling yourself a feminist. She's just an opportunist who will reap the benefits of her husband's death and live off his money and fame and will be in search of companionship soon.
By seeing the worst disgusting attitude of parents-in-law of Smriti, we felt very bad and defended her whenever such messages I happened to read from social media. I did it since I felt many didn’t support her. All woman should come forward to silence these greedy parents-in -law. Justifying them cannot be tolerated in silence. What Smriti underwent, let no one else suffer.
She owes nothing to anybody, quite right. But at least she has some moral duty towards her in laws who have lost their son. That is were a thin line divides between moral duty and business type of approach. Of course,she is free to go anywhere but had she stayed back for least a year till mourning period is over her father in law said he will settle her in life. Whereas the petty mindedness of Smriti ' s family was exposed. Not even allowing the in laws to touch the bravery medal is definitely an unpardonable crime committed by Smriti and her family
the father in law has no right to get her settled in life. she has her own parents. when a man and woman get married, they marry each other. and not the entire family, indians really need to get this in their thick skull
Victim card, women and women. Women who lost a son what about her. Can she take entire existence of anshuman and vanish. Is it not her responsibility to take care of anshumans parents too. Afterall he was son first husband later. These days media outlests qrite their story from chatgpt and just read things. Think of a mother, her pain, fathers pain, smriti too. Why cant it be both. Sad journalism in india.
We should put "I will mind my own business and not poke my nose into others' private lives" into the national pledge.
The best comment I have ever seen on social media. ❤❤❤❤❤
Sir if that is the case then no personal laws should exist and parliament should not legislate on matters such as marriage, divorce, inheritance etc.
The issue brought forward is actually a thought provoking one. If all benefits goes to wife who is young and can remarried which she should for she has a life ahead what about the parents who brought up the concerned officer and made him what he was before he got married?
Demand here is a thorough relook into NoK norms for it doesnt look fair and just.
@@letsthink1991 That is the Army's job to decide. What I am bothered about is the social media trial of the widow. To answer your point, the family did receive 50-60 lakhs as parents. Coming back to the widow, maybe she has grievances she does not want to make public. Maybe she remembers the times the parents might have opposed their love marriage. OTOH, Maybe she has decided to take the money and leave and even remarry. She is still not breaking any laws or morals. Her husband was a grown and responsible adult, serving in our Armed forces. He decided to give all his belongings to her. It was his free choice, because it was his property. And now that he has died, it is the property of his widow as per his will. For the parents to say "what did we get" implies that they want money, for the sacrifice of their son. This reduces the events to a transaction. The father even said that the widow should marry her dead husband's brother to keep the honour in the family. How can you not find that offensive? Widhwa bhabhi bane biwi? Once again, we should learn to accept that all this is her luck, both the loss of her love and the gain of the compensation. Just leave it at that. If she is unlucky, it's her misfortune. If she is lucky it is her fortune. Who are we to stand in the way?
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I am soo happy someone finally took that woman’s side. It saddened me tons that we are still here even in 2024.
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Smriti did super acting. She is just a fakuuu
@@ZZZZ_RENJITH what acting you are talking about. She's silent though her character has been defined by her in-laws
She did not attended his husband pooja even she does not deserved that.
Most outrageous was offer to marry younger son and that too without dowry... Oh what a considerate offer it was.
Were you there when she was offered to marry younger son ??
Defamation and a lie.
No he was offered to marry younger son...I also heard that interview, Anshuman Sir's father was saying so..
@@tiwarisnt8374 He also said she can live as Anshuman's widow or she can marry someone else unrelated to Anshuman or she can live with her parents or with her in laws and that it was up to her and her choice. Not mentiioning the whole truth is a LIE.
@@nomadicmritunjaya774in social media this video is well circulated where her FATHER IN LAW is saying he wants her D. in law to get married with their younger son.
The most problematic aspect is that women are being blamed for the deaths of their partners and are forced to live like a widow for 'his' soul. As a guy, it saddens me that no women speak up for Smriti Singh.
Thank you for your comment. You are a new age Male like my 3 sons and your fan club should be in the millions.
Nobody asked her to live as widow
@@fine2502 exactly it's strange all comments are speaking the same rote learned story and making her victim and giving analogy sati live whole life as widow etc.seems paid story to comments
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Well said
NOK laws are biased against husband's parents....nobody is blaming woman for husband's death.....NoK laws are abused by widows...
She is grief stricken, and in India we still have to learn how to let people, especially women, grieve in private. Wonderful thoughts and well put, thank you.
She left the house after tehrvi to grieve taking all the compensation
Imagine her in laws not allowing her to grieve in peace @@Gamer_Boyz_007
@@Gamer_Boyz_007 has it ever occurred to you that she is in so much of grief that she wants to be around her loved one, her parents? And its not just a marriage of 5 months but a relationship of 8.5 years, why is this fact ignored?
@@dr.anantdeepgrewal3599 Have you ever heard words like DECENCY and MORALITY. she left the house within 13 days and changed the permanent address. She should have at least waited for 1 year till all rituals are completed. Who is more in grief, a mother who lost his son or a 5 months old wife who left without taking his husband's belongings. 8 months old relationship finished in just 13 days.
@@dr.anantdeepgrewal3599 who is more in grief, a mother who lost her son or a 5 month old wife?
If the in laws are so nasty in public, imagine how would they behave in private.
well one need to also imagine how she behaved in private with them...
Exactly. The male mindset of this father-in-law's ownership of Smriti is shocking. But this is true of most men apart from Bollywood.
@@yograjkamathi9535 bullcrap. What did she do to them? Not marry their younger son so that they can continue to exploit her like a slave ?
What crap is this from where you got that in laws forcing her to marry younger son??@@maitreyakadkol7793
@@yograjkamathi9535obviously everything goes both ways except this video and most of the comments here are highly one sided and saying patriarchy blah blah
Appears to me that her inlaws, never saw/accepted her, as their daughter, but just considered her, as their son's wife.
She is Sandeshkhali silence gang member
Because daughter in laws themselves don't want to have any relations with their in laws but expect their husband to have relations with her parents
In case of love marriages like this, daughter in law do not have respect for the parents of the husband. However that is not so in case of conventional marriage (arranged marriage)
Nobody see there DIL as there daughter yeh majak hai aur majak hi rahega.
@@parveshsinghbisht7421acha joke hai ek joh tumhe by birth pala rha hai qoh suddenly ek stranger ko aapna children maan lenga kya? Yeh aise na hota hai aur na kabhi hoga.
My respect of Smriti Singh is immense. Your husband may have died but you have earned thousands of brothers. Don't feel down. I apologize for our society. You live your life. I support your choice.
Fantastic.
I also admire her patience and no reaction towards in lows who tried to make her bad bahu. She is real hero and great person
Tell your sister to give the award and compensation to the parents.
i dont know hat kind of brother she have earned who only demean her existance since the parents decide to expose their family problems and shame their daughter in law, would they have done the same if its their daugher? hell no
The fact that she chose to remain silent is what I admire most about this lady.....
Thanks you for this video. The very fact that she chose to speak silent in face of public criticism from her in-laws told me all I needed to know. Smriti is an example for someone like me who feels the need to retaliate. Her stoicism is a lost virtue.
Liked your comment. Yes Smiriti's silence speaks volumes but is completely lost on the Indian psyche. You, like me always retaliate which is not a bad thing as challenging every situation helps improve the lives of others in this case especially women. So well done be yourself.
How shameful that u chose beauty over common sense. Selfish people like you continue to raid out others in life without feeling guilty. Shameful. I would understand when you get old and your children spouse treats u like this.
@@agnescraig2912she gets full salary and a lump sum. She doesn't need to reply to anyone not even you an ass wiper
What rubbish! As a feminist, I'm telling you to see the facts. She's silent because she's guilty of keeping medal (not compensation) that belongs to martyr's parents who would build foundation in the Shaheed 's name, while this young lady needs to move on with her life. All kinds of lies are being spread about the martyr' s parents, that's the real orthodoxy. People like you are responsible for provoking misogyny in Indian society because you make a heroine out of fake feminist women, and neglect cases of real injustice, and that enables misogynysts.
What can Smriti say when there is a whole history of her and her family sidelining martyr's biological parents before and after award ceremony, trying to steal limelight, she'll regret what she has done especially when she tries to remarry (which is her choice) and can't or is asked to return the CHAKRA to its rightful custodians.
Why can't she give the parents a clean break, no one is asking for her money, but the chakra does NOT belong to her. She is free to move on with the money but she has no right to keep parents hostage to chakra if she's not staying with them.
You think news channel shows true and captain parents are wrong in saying they have no share of money ....?
She made the right choice by moving out.
Exactly she doesn't owe them anything at this point. It's absurd they would expect her to stay and take care of them, that's pretty entitled.
@@NidzShah-ps6krIf she thinks that way at least let her share the money with her father in law because she can have another husband but these old people have nothing to take care of them neither can they produce another son at this age. But that she won't do because she is selfish and irresponsible.
@@sonjoybhattacharji5706they have another son plus the father in law was a gov employee too I believe so he gets pension too. So she owes them nothing…. They r just a creepy family
@@keya-m1wn yes along with the money, jewelry and the medal.
@@prashanthsubburam1605wow so according to you they have no right to the kirti chakra,pension etc of the son who they brought up for more than 20 years.And the girl who was his wife for less than a year can enjoy all the benefits of THEIR martyed son whom they gave birth,gave him good schooling spent a good chunk of their earnings to make him capable enough to become army officer and that too a brave one.
Women especially daughter- in-laws are an easy and soft target to vilify or troll for any failure, mishap and distraction from real or deep rooted problems in one's family.
True...
Brilliantly articulated. Her dignified silence has spoken more than her in-laws rantings.
Her father in law literally asked her to marry her husband's brother !!! I mean wtf !! And still he wonders why she left them . How come this guy is playing victim card🤣 !! Somehow hardly any media is talking on this !!
The brazen audacity of that male and his wife condones this so do his so-called "educated" children. Have they all lost their minds?
Ewwwww that's sooo gross, how can someone say that to a lady 😬😬😬😬
@@DevanshiAdhikari-lc5udit's more gross that you believed in someone's comment and that's very very gross that he/she have not gone through her parents others interview in which they clarified distorted version
@@soorajmaurya3516 really 🤣🤣 then can u tell us what his father in law exactly told her with source ?😀
@@DevanshiAdhikari-lc5ud yes it's gross. That way his father in law would be able to keep the entire compensation to him😀 and this man playing victim card on camera😂
I am a woman..and i support smriti singh ...she has the right to choose about her life ...she has the right to move on
May both the parents and the wife get all the strength to move on in there life .. without blaming each other ..some things should remain in private
Yah absolutely.
As a woman, I also support her decision (whatever it will be). However,atleast Kirti chakra belongs to Anshuman Singh's family and she has no right to snatch it away from his parents. His parents only want that kirti chakra as their son's memory because they have no choice to have another son (moreover she can marry again).
We can't accept any good thing from 'The print '.#wahiyatKhabar
And yah please let Anshuman Singh's family resolve it by themselves.
The print you are no one to interfere, just act like media (rubbish) that's it. They don't want any news especially from you.Because we know what sort of platform you are 😑🤪😬
You don't need to specify that since you are a woman you support this woman. As a human being (does not matter whether you are a woman or a man or do not like to be associated with any of these identities) you should support the rightful allocation of benefits as per the law of the land.
Life apna hesab se jini ha to jiya koi dikkat nahi lekin fhir kirti chakra ma bhi un kaa adikaar nahi
Assa hona glt ha ki pti ke Diya blidaan ka pura sam maan bhi chahiye or unke he maa baap ko dukaar do
Would u also support if the genders were reversed?
"Just five months of marriage" undermines the validity of their long-standing relationship and society's refusal to accept and honour any commitment other than marriage. Even if so, this was a distasteful remark for sure! How can she marry the younger son! Oh my god, the patriarchy never ends. Let the woman live on her own terms. She has had enough grief already!
@@amruthagirish1532 madam. Even if the father of the officer is speaking his mind, he is older generation. Ofcourse she should not marry the brother in law. But speaking up an opinion is no crime. She can say a clear No to any proposal if it's indecent. Nevertheless, There is no reason anyone can justify the actions of keeping the Kirti chakra away from the parents. At least ek photo hi click karwa deti with the honour bestowed.
Parents are no saint but neither is the lady
In case of love marriages like this, daughter in law do not have respect for the parents of the husband. However that is not so in case of conventional marriage (arranged marriage).
Arranged marriage is having benefits in comparison with the love marriage. That’s the moral of the story
@@amruthagirish1532 also as you wrote, "she has had enough grief already", but ofcourse, the parents must not be grieving. Only wife can grief. Parents were not part of the family now that their son was married to a girl of his own choice. They have no claim upon his legacy. Kudos to Hypocrisy
@@ninjatango5508no one stopped the parents frm grievance. .they themselves decided to parade themselves infront of the news channels
@@ninjatango5508 Is that an opinion? He deserves to be slapped for such a vile "opinion."
My father was an ex-serviceman, He died when I was 15 because of high bp while being on duty... After death a certain amount is given to the family for funeral rites. And I remember very clearly how members of my father's family wanted to get that money ... They even asked my mother to pay for the rental vehicle in which they came to the hospital... I have seen how things go in joint families and if one member is in the army then the entire family depends financially on that one person.... I hate my father's side of the family because of their selfishness.... All they wanted was to get their hands on the sum that is given to the defence personnel's family... They never comforted us in our grieving time. Only created more problems.
Trust me it is same in case of other govt employee too😂
My father was a govt employee and he died young from a sudden heart attack
His family ran to our home (we used to live near my father's office),didn't even complete his last rites and started asking about the insurance money,my father's savings and his pension
Same story everywhere
And let me tell you my parent's marriage wasn't a love marriage
It was an arranged marriage but still
These greedy families of husband's side never accept the wife and if something happens to the husband,his wife's life is doomed😂
@@random_person_on_internet very true... And the irony is here the husband himself kept his wife as the nominee. Why?? Because he wanted to. He didn't want his parents to be the nominee as simple as that
@@meghanarora4136 they are just money obsessed people
No matter how much money you give them they will still ask for more
Even if they don't need them😂
@@meghanarora4136 btw wrong info,he made his parents nominee too
The insurance money got divided among parents and wife in 50:50 ratio which media is hiding
She deserves every right to find her happiness again.
This woman is Sandeshkhali silence gang member
Yes , but not pension and kirti chakra , it belongs to parents .
Ok so you got insider info that her in laws stopping her to do that??
@@fine2502not according to the law
@@CinnamonStickkif so then that law need to be changed. And yes it will be applicable to a widower of female army officer if he re marries again. There I said it so that you can't complain about chauvinism. 😅
The parents are Digging for Gold , and loosing respect in the process.
Parents never wanted money. They want kirti chakra to be handed over to them
@@Gamer_Boyz_007 oh yes they did by putting NOK LAW
Soo true, indeed they are loosing respect
@@Gamer_Boyz_007 if you see their initial interviews, you yourself would know it's about money or medal.
parents are digging for gold?? they lost their son....she is young..she can get married again
I tried to explain this to other women employees at my workplace however I was criticised because she didn’t want to stay with them. As a man, I felt ashamed of this society and what we make women endure coz of their gender
Patriarchal psychological Conditioning
Women never support. Education doesn't help either.
@@binakhimji6509 targeted education definitely helps, not just math science and never underestimate women's ability to comprehend something specially social issues regarding there own suppression.
Her behaviour reminds one of Amber Heard.
Her father in law explicitly said in the interview in Hindi that We are happy with whatever our daughter in law and her parents want to do whether that be remarriage with someone outside the family or if she wants to remain a widow or stay with us or stay with her parents. Whatever she wants is up to her.
Her father in law said this in response to her father saying she's only 26. If you or the creators of this video haven't seen that interview or can't understand Hindi or purposely distort and defame the father in law you have a defamation suit waiting for you!
EXACTLY. IN INDIA ONLY WOMEN ARE BLAMED FOR EVERYTHING. HIS IN LAWS INTERVIEW SHOWED HOW THEY NEVER KEPT HER AS A DAUGHTER. THEY ARE SO MONEY MINDED THAT THEY FORGET THAT SHE HAS HER WHOLE LIFE AHEAD AND NOT HER PUPPET TO BE TOLD WHAT TO DO.
So true👏👍
Not the whole India, it seems generally the northern and some part of southern India, extremely rare in eastern and north eastern region.
99% of Indian folks insulted this women.
Shame on all these people
@@sakshiverma908 shame on all gold diggers who loot husband's and in laws and money but never loot her own father or brother
@dilpreet63 what connection does it have with this topic, here the women is innocent. People like you only try to find ways how and where to hate women. Here her inlaws are playing victim card and not her.
@@priya9836 why don't she refuses monthly pension of five month old husband without child. Can't she earn on her own where does feminism dies which says a woman donot need a man's money
@@dilpreet63 yes, women should be independent and I support that ideology. But you also can't deny that still many woman sacrifice their career for their husband and kids. And then they become dependent on their husband but people like you have problem with everything a women does. Also, her in laws has received money so why they need her money. It's her money and he was her husband. So, you don't have any right to judge her.
@@priya9836 her money how she got it pathetic woman like you don't deserve education give it to woman who don't want to misuse laws and loot money at 26 yr without kids
Parents totally shifted focus on this shameful drama rather than their sons brave sacrifice...he was a hero ..he should be remembered as that but they ruined it ...
@@iampigoinkoink5185 Well said … Quite agree 👍
In laws can ruin dil’s lives. Patriarchy is deadly.
well said, I see a lot of disgusting idiots even in this comment section.
Yeah I hate patriarchy too
It works the other way too. The girl's parents also often interfere with her married life. In short, Indian parents don't let children live their married lives independently.
@@anandsharma7430 thanks for at least saying that it goes both ways.
Also, around me only girls are suffering bcz of in laws. Husbands are cool with their parents torturing wives. No men are treated the same way.
@@anandsharma7430 not in this case.
FIL openly saying " this time we won't even ask for dowry" is SUCH a self report.
Smriti Singh doesn't deserve to smile anymore, she shouldn't marry anyone as she has taken compensation. she should always be just sad and thats what we Indians want, we simply can't see anyone overcoming their trauma and living a better life, we just can't digest it. All she can do is leave this country full of patriots to another nation and have a peaceful life, but that too very private bcz if we we get to know it, its again an issue. I know im gonna get so much hate for this now, it is so incredible to know the cause of death of such an intelligent mind within our our country limits and home unit as army never lets anything actually come out.
Well commented. Hate/greed and other emotions are the ugly side of all humanity. Be yourself and do not be drawn into this cess pit as long as your honesty/integrity are intact.
If women have choice to stay alone like Vikram batra's fiancee...then women should also have a choice to remarry....it's basic common sense ..
@@Jyotigautam52870 affirmative
Wow that's a befitting reply to the pseudo ethical people who are setting rules on somebody's private life. You sarcastically defined it well how hypocritical this society is. Smriti Singh had 8 long years of relationship with the martyred soldier and then she got married to him and she has to go through the tragedy of losing the person who she made the biggest part of her life, now she has to also answer everyone why she can't marry his brother
Why take money from husband where is feminism earn your own money and stop looting husband's and in laws
MIL accompanying the wife of late capt to receive kirti chakra in itself was a sign of a typical MIL "pehle vo mera beta hai phir tmhra pati". I felt it that day itself.
Such parents get abandoned but their own children and will criticise the DIL. Often it is the doing of such parents. They themselves draw their children away from them. Some people are so blinded by their parents presence in life that they disrespect their wives. Such parents deliberately try to destroy their own children’s lives. But karma is seeing everything. God is not blind to his devotee’s sufferings and such is the fate of such parents.
I thought it was the norm. I didn't knew it wasn't what ordinarily happened
@@nondescript4311usually and mostly only wife goes to receive gallantry awards.
Maybe you should watch some other videos too.
Both mother and wife are supposed to receive the award as per the military protocols.
Exactly. I was confused af. I still thought maybe that's how it's done.
Really sad to know that the father hid the fact that he received 65Lakhs. Also very shocking to hear that the father asked his daughter-in-law to marry his younger son. Looks like the father cares more about keeping the compensation amount in his family rather than caring about the well-being of his dead son's wife.😢 I wonder what Anshuman's father would have done if his own daughter were in such a situation 🤔.
Thank you for this eye-opening report Karanjeet Kaur. Since Smriti never spoke clearly or responded to in-laws' allegations, many have believed the in-laws' version of Smriti's supposedly "uncaring attitude". It is important for women to speak up.
i agree
He accepted getting money long back in an interview. He was asking for the medal for a day for some ceremony.
WHAT ABT THE MEDAL HIS SON RECIEVED AND WHAT ABT HIS SONS BELONGINGS WTF THAT WOMAN TOOK IT ALL L LAW IN INDIA
@@RashmiKumari-qo3ot whether the Kirti Chakra is with parents or the wife, ultimately Kirti Chakra represents Anshuman. The medal signifies that a soldier like Anshuman may have sacrificed his body but he is still AMAR. Neither the parents nor the spouse of any soldier should treat the medal like a "property". Every soldier who sacrifices his life for the country, whether he gets a medal or not, is like a Dhruva Nakshatra.
@@kvishnup but see the fate of parents they can't even touch it what's say?
And this is when Smriti is an Engineer and these are the parents of an Army doctor graduated from AFMC. Imagine what it is like for less educated families 😢
It was wrong on the family's part to bring this issue in full media glare. She needs to move on immediately and has every right to do so.
So according to you this is how normal human beings act??
@@soorajmaurya3516 yes
@@soorajmaurya3516none of your or anyone's business . Her life her choice
@@soorajmaurya3516none of your business. It's her business
Family lost a son!!! Wife lost a husband which she can have again it's her right and choice and move on with her life. She would find another love again..... Family can't have another son again so they brought it into media for a genuine reason.
My salute to you madam for so clearly bringing out the victimization of the young lady by a misogynistic family and society. Ms Smriti Singh is very composed and continues to be a veer nari and she stands strong. May she go from strength to strength.
what arrogance from the leftist lobby to say that she ows nothing to the in laws.Why does she not give away the money if shes such strong independent woman ,what is the guarentee she wont marry again.
The soldiers mother was saying that she left , didnt keep contact . The martyr's parents could not even see the award given to their son. Dont they have some right over it. Bloody hell. Just take the advantages of being a bechari woman and show arrogance by calling yourself a feminist. She's just an opportunist who will reap the benefits of her husband's death and live off his money and fame and will be in search of companionship soon.
Oh really 😂
She was with him from some months
The parents were their with him from 26 years
Captain Anshuman always used to do whatever her mother has told his irrespective of the fact that he liked it or not
He would not have married that bit*h if he knew she would behave like this
What does she do to become a 'veer'? Simply a marriage!!? What nonsense.
She took the medal & money of Anshuman, not living vid her in-laws, not even talking to them. & u r calling her veer. Let it happen vid u.
@@indubagga9589She got the money by law. I am sure that you didn't read the full story. Her parents got half of insurance money. Still such shameful people that instead of grieving their son's death they also said that they can get her married to their younger son, whose daughter in law will stay in such a toxic environment. She lost her life partner, the pain you will never understand.
Did u even put effort in considering in who's possession the medal is in ? If u support the women let it be but it's completely clear the anshuman Singh's mom didn't get the proper opportunity to atleast touch the medal during the ceremony 🤌🏼
Thank you for writing and speaking on this "great india misogyny", and thanks for giving words to the emotions that i felt after those incidents including online and in-laws comments which were absolutely disgusting. Myself being from a rural background understand the in-laws' misogyny.
I completely agree with smriti singh…if all the bahus are schemers then mind it all the mother in law are the same. In fact saas bhi kabhi bahu thi.
It's never the saas man, it's the sasur. It's always the sasur. He tortures his wife and children. Doesn't love anyone. The wife is left only with her kids to love so she gets too invested in their lives, esp. sons. And then cannot accept that her son loves a woman. So she torments the woman her son loves. And it seems the saas is the problem. The problem is bad marriages which are lauded in our society. Men aren't allowed to love their wives or they're "zoru ka gulam" other women hate the woman who's loved because they're unloved in their own marriage. It's the whole society. It's super sad.
@@nondescript4311 I completely agree with you.
So so true completely agree👍👍👏👏
Now that's how the society & family treats an educated woman, the wife of a hero, with this much sacrifice, ......have shame.
What sacrifice? Earlier rajput women used to sacrifice themselves on their husband's funeral pyre!
Now look how they have fallen from grace and become self serving gold miners
I could laugh at your comments @@Masterofmultiverse
@@Masterofmultiversepeople like you are the reason of orthodox mindset being carried over. I hope you would do the same with your daughter when she becomes a widow. ❤
Can't even imagine how horrible the life of women in your home be.
Do you want her to die too??
Would you hope the same for your sister and daughter??
She's brave women... Shameless family who accuse the widow
Get your facts right please... She changed the address/ hometown of her husband in army records..... Parents ka koi rishta nai hota kya bete se after marriage!!! Had hogai nakli feminists ki
What about dowerry then@@vaishalikhattar9188
I checked your claims and found nothing. Stop lying you filthy b!cch.
What brave women... nonsense.... what sacrifice she had did.... she's going to marry someone else in future with ex husband's money going to enjoy.....
@@MadhukumarDhanapalmisogynist alter!!!
These men ill eye on a beautiful women.... and the girl has done absolute right by constructing right boundaries. Indian society is not a place to live for a single woman.... these uncles and aunties are really brutal and torturous with their daughter in law even when the son is alive.... let alone he is no longer there.I really honour the step of the girl she has taken for herself to lead a honourable and respectful life.
She should give Kirti Chakra to his parents....though...
@@Sandwich-h1ehis parents are laalchi bandar. They don't deserve that award anymore
@@Sandwich-h1enever marry your son if not ready to share your son because we respect women dignity
Go to hell with kirti chakra
@@JanviSharma-d1k Stay in limit......That is Kirti Chakra....Only those who die for our nation get it...
She shouldn't @@Sandwich-h1e
Thanks, Print, for covering this topic. Very well articulated. Hope Smriti finds some relief amidst this double crisis in her young life.
what arrogance from the leftist lobby to say that she ows nothing to the in laws.Why does she not give away the money if shes such strong independent woman ,what is the guarentee she wont marry again.
The soldiers mother was saying that she left , didnt keep contact . The martyr's parents could not even see the award given to their son. Dont they have some right over it. Bloody hell. Just take the advantages of being a bechari woman and show arrogance by calling yourself a feminist. She's just an opportunist who will reap the benefits of her husband's death and live off his money and fame and will be in search of companionship soon.
Well articulated and flawlessly spoken.
The parents were more concerned about getting all the 'gold' and to punish the woman who snatched away their elder son by committing 'love marriage '. Calling a marriage just 'five months old' is setting such a low bar. How many of men hating on this woman would like their wives to get married to their brothers right after their death? That's absolutely disgusting if your brothers are secretly thirsting for your wives. Why should any woman stay for even a single day with such a family with such strange beliefs where two brothers can share a wife and there seems to be no grief for the dead brother. All the parents did was to play on mass sympathy. Was their son just a source of money for them, one wonders!
Absolutely right 👍🏾
Amen.
making her marry the younger brother when she had a love marriage is horrible. she was not even a month into grieving her hero husband.
Well articulated. Women are still looked upon to be manipulated even though they are adults and are legally entitled to make choices for her best interests. Scoffing at the singhs may attract ire of a patriarchal mindset. Thank you for putting this out there for everybody to think about and rationalise.
@@epshitachatterjee3185 where is patriarchy in this? Must be fancy word for you to use.
Issue is of handling of Kirti chakra by the spouse, not sharing it's due with the parents even for a minute. Changing the deceased soldier's home address in documents, taking away all his personal stuff with no access to even a remaining thread to the parents, leaving the house even before culmination of rites and rituals of death and some more like this.
@@ninjatango5508 Controlling the woman is the foundation of Patriarchy. Google and learn about it. And who the F is the father to give her three choices? She knows how to choose what is best for her.
@@nchl5340 you lost the battle when you yourself used "choices" instead of decisions.
Of course those were few choices not the ultimatum or decision by the "patriarchal mindset"
Father may be old fashioned. Simply say No to his choices. Why to make this an issue.
Moreover if you had gone through the interview of the Father, there is one sensible "choice" amongst those three. At least one of those is sensible. Invariably she would be choosing one in future.
Also, using "who the F is Father" in your statement describes that you have truly broken this so called patriarchal society norms. You are right, great choice of words. Congrats. Try using full form of F next time to teach those patriarchal Fathers the real meaning of Patriarchy. Those old school "fathers" should be named and shamed.
P.S.- Someone taught u Patriarchy concept. You got fixated upon it. The matter was not only this issue. Infact this was not an issue. Some Hypocrites chose to modify the narratives. Look at the Bigger picture
@@epshitachatterjee3185
Ask specific Questions to the Spouse or her family
Q1. Did she or her family met the officer's family during last 1 year?
Q2. Did she allowed atleast a photo of Kirti chakra to officer's father?
Q3. Did they meet cordially during the Award Ceremony in Delhi or she flung away with her parents in hurry to avoid them?
Q4. Why was changing address of the deceased officer necessary? Couldn't it have been managed without it? As such pension will come to her account irrespective of the address.
Q5. If she is willing to get married in future, (which she should), where would she be comfortable in keeping the Kirti Chakra? In her new home with new husband? With her parents? With her old in laws?
Parents may be wrong completely but the lady is not the ideal either.
She is young. Her decisions must be influenced by her own parents. Hence the real question must be thrown at them.
@@nchl5340 Ask specific Questions to the Spouse or her family
Q1. Did she or her family met the officer's family during last 1 year?
Q2. Did she allowed atleast a photo of Kirti chakra to officer's father?
Q3. Did they meet cordially during the Award Ceremony in Delhi or she flung away with her parents in hurry to avoid them?
Q4. Why was changing address of the deceased officer necessary? Couldn't it have been managed without it? As such pension will come to her account irrespective of the address.
Q5. If she is willing to get married in future, (which she should), where would she be comfortable in keeping the Kirti Chakra? In her new home with new husband? With her parents? With her old in laws?
Parents may be wrong completely but the lady is not the ideal either.
She is young. Her decisions must be influenced by her own parents. Hence the real question must be thrown at them.
Smriti should take legal action against her rotten minded in laws.
They want her to marry their younger son to get the money back.
@@beebee753 ya she deserves to run away with the money quickly. The parents can just produce one more son, like it's nothing. But ohhh what a terrible hardship the wife faced lol 😆
@@beebee753 you are part of the problem
@@lonelyboy4033 what would you want for your sister and daughter ?
@@beebee753 Same as this one of course. That's where all the profit is lol 😂
@@beebee753 If I have a son however, I'll never send him to fight for country 😊 Never ever! Let country be destroyed. My daughter deserves to run away with money and my son deserves to stay alive and earn for himself.
Thank you so much M’am for coming forward and speaking for the little girl who is being bashed by media unnecessarily.
Its so gross that they offered she marry their younger son. Yuck 🤮
Exactly 💯
Every Serving Personnel during enrolment or commissioning decides the percentage of Insurance, PF amount etc to be disbursed to the Beneficiary the Serving personnel decides. The Beneficiary can be Parents or Spouse or both as per the Soldier's discretion. In Capt Anshuman's case the Officer himself had declared his Wife as the Beneficiary. Case Closed. The parents are maligning the poor widows character and name and also Capt Anshuman's Legacy by engaging in unnecessary Mudslinging.
Spot on thanks. The army has just been dragged into the mud by this greedy couple/hope they find happiness with this toxic mindset. Education as the Indians suggest = good human beings. Wrong. But education is about an open mind challenging dogmas doctrines for the betterment of society.
Pension goes to wife only after marriage. Parents can claim some part of it by Unit if they are dependent on their Son.
In case of love marriages like this, daughter in law do not have respect for the parents of the husband. However that is not so in case of conventional marriage (arranged marriage).
Arranged marriages is best from the perspective of the parents
@@inbarasansamidurai7974 it's not about the money. It's about Honour of the deceased. Changing Home address of the soldier on official documents, not giving due share of time with the Kirti Chakra to the parents are few reasons.
Parents got the money they deserved.
@@sreenathgopinathan4002 you are spamming this same reply under every comment.
And to question your thinking. Why does only the daughter in law have to respect the husband's parents? Don't the parents have to respect the daughter in law too and also the same for the husband towards her parents? The latter hardly ever happens be it arranged or love marriage.
How well articulated. Brilliant narrative. Still can't believe the society had the audacity to talk about a Martyrs wife let alone anyone else.
Patriarchy aah gayaaa
Mrs. Smriti Singh is young and has a long life ahead. She has all the right to move ahead by God's grace. Me as a part of the Armed Forces, if at all I die in the line of duty, I will never want my wife to cry on my photo throughout her life. I would always want my wife to move ahead with her future. Indian society should stand by the Veer Naaris and not scavenge on them as Gold Diggers. Have some shame, she has lost her husband. Please be sensible enough.
Turns out the in-laws are gold digging more concerned about "next-of-kin" money and saying they did not receive anything even with the 65L compensation and aid by Yogi Adityanath.
As a guy, I feel sad for her. I have seen Mother/father in-laws throwing their Daughter in law out of their home after the death of their son. If girls parent would not have accepted her, she would have been homeless. Since I have seen this as a first hand experience so I can know what she may be going through. As a Man, i would wish my wife to be happy after my death also at all costs. It's her decision to marry someone of her choice or not to marry.
sir not every male is like u not every female is like ur wife
My cousin lost her husband at 23 and she was kicked out by MIL within 3 months and they kept her toddler son as she wanted her son's heir.
Man i have seen many family do that because they don't want to give inheritance. and when wife die most of the men leave their children at in-laws place and remarry. Children has to stay at in-laws place till they pass away. Only 45% of women remarry .Men who are complaining of not getting bride wouldn't even think of marrying widows. But men who remarry always search for women who is never married. Now matter how much our society change some things wouldn't change
@@deepalil1085 Plz tell her to get back her son if she wants. it is as per law if any of parents dies, the child will go to the another parent's take.
So glad you said it and rather beautifully! It brutally shows the hypocrisy of the society taking issue with a woman daring to make her own choices in life..
Martyred ke family member ke disrespect kar rhe hai yeh
@@Sandwich-h1e It's not true
@@Sandwich-h1e if the martyred soldier wanted he could wrote a letter and made parents his nok(next of kin) and so they would have received the medal but he didn't want to do so, his wife got it how the hell are the family members getting disrespected like the man had just said about "not receiving dowry" and asked his own daughter in law who had just been widowed to marry his younger son like wtf
@@lipikasarmah4708 His wife left his family.......Fine,at least she should let themat least touch it....If she remarry,she should give Kirti Chakra to his family...
@@lipikasarmah4708 Captain Anshuman Singh was Rajput......Rajputana regiment is around 250 years old....There was British era law in which wife of martyred has to marry husband's family member in order to receive compensation.......It was repealed and got void by Modi govt in 2017....
This was the norm before,maybe thats why his father asked her this..
I think the anchor is one sided. I think the Parents main grief is that Parents were not honoured equally. Govt should give replica of Kirti Chakra . It’s good that govt shared money . Parents deserve to be equally and rightfully claimant of honour . A jawan joins army because of parents support and blessing not because of wife. Paresh must be fully honoured and equitably compensated
We Indians are still living 100 years behind time!😢
That's so regressive. They should atleast think of their son's soul. How much he is in grief because of all this chaos ! Shamefull.
She is right but at the same time there is no equality in this society in the first place, which will keep creating more problems in the future. Don't understand why a wife has to sacrifice her dreams/career if her husband is in army! We are here to live as an individual , earn our own bread ,live our own experiences.
Because army personal constantly move from one place to another. Don't marry an army personal if you want to do a job. Oh but the benefits provided by army are hard to ignore, so why do a job
@@parveshsinghbisht7421 thats ur idea when a male officer does that, u want a wife not to do job but a when an female officer does that i see no male suggesting it
is it a man or a woman speaking?
@@parveshsinghbisht7421 nah I have many examples where both partners are earning.. husband is in army and wife is working too ...my cousin is in navy his wife is in police...they are doing fine ...
@@parveshsinghbisht7421 misogyny at its peak. No wonder you're a male.
Don't you think you are being too generous to her inlaws. Their sole motive was money and it's quite obvious. The custom of "chader odona" is also practiced for that.
Even in UA-cam comments are full of misogyny.
Kya Joshi ji, aap toh aisi baat na kariye! Devar ke saath niyog karna kya hamari Manusmriti mein nahin likha hai?
Arya Samaj ke founder Maharishi Pandit Dayanand Saraswati Ji ne toh devar ki nirukta dvara paribhasha hi dusra var batayi hai.
Aap hindu traditions, hindu law se hi gaddari karenge toh hindu rashtra kaise banega?
@@Masterofmultiverse Go see a psychiatrist. Duniya tumhare pagal pan ko support nahi kar sakti.
I think it's better, women's are done by the mistreatment they have endured from centuries
It's good to be selfish then to be treated like puppet
@@anushkaupadhyay6004 - What mistreatment from centuries? Women in our hindu religion are always treated like goddesses. But now, in kalyug, you yourself have become poisonous trying to hopelessly copy western women. You are only a victim in your own mindset. So grow up.
@@anushkaupadhyay6004 Are you madWhy do you always cry victim for no reason!
In our hindu religion women are always treat like goddesses. You are the problem.
I am happy that the print created a video on this sensitive topic and the anchor narrated it in a balaced way. More Power to the right journalism to create a better society for tomorrow.
Liked your comment re better society for tomorrow. Time to change.
The audacity of the parents to offer a marriage proposal in this era!!!!
It's a lie and amounts to defamation. News Channels can bear the cost of defamation suits but individuals cannot. Watch the entire interview.
As an Indian in his 20s- I should point that our previous generations are setting a poor example of conduct for us.
What a pitiful show of a glaring lack of empathy.
They are taking the focus away from their son’s brave sacrifice for our country.
Life's lessons are picked up as desires as one goes through life. Are you a child who picks up on poor examples?
Life’s lesson’s are also imbibed as influences by the society around us. Some of us might be lucky to have good influences around us but not all. We don’t get to choose our family until it was too late, as was demonstrated by Late Capt. Anshuman Singh in the selection of his life partner and next of kin. The least we can do is honor the dead man’s wishes.
@@vikramheble9972 thank you for missing the point entirely.
I might be fortunate enough to see this from afar- but there are a lot of young impressionable boys and girls who will look at this behaviour as acceptable and pass it on to another generation.
One or two people having a perspective is seldom enough to make a difference- and frankly; for the age that these people are, they really should know better.
This podcast is making it seem okay to ignore the son's parents and take everything for yourself, just because it's legal.
After hearing what the news anchor said, I won't be so sure that someone who loves me will automatically love my parents too.
@@hemantachandra6962 The parents got the money. They lied saying they only got his photo on wall. Stop saying she took everything.
Indian in-laws and their never ending entitlement to their sons.
I knew since the first article that the parents are sus when the dad said "We didn't GET anything after the death of our son" so greedy for money.
Excellent view brought forward...God bless Smriti...
Parents have absolutely NO right to claim which is rightfully due to the widow of Captain Singh.
She ought to move on with her life now and claim full compensation due to her by Ministry of Defence.
Her in laws are absolutely right. Anshuman pe parents ka haq v banta h,ye to shaadi kr ke dosara pati pa legi aur idhar ka v benefit uthae what about the parents?
Martyr Anshuman's parents have clearly said they didn't want the money ....the issue arised because they were not allowed to even touch the kirti chakra properly and there were other conflicts like changing of the permanent address from Lucknow to Gurdaspur by Smriti ji. Other than money every thing was taken away from the parents...she took away all the memories of their son.
Totally agree. The In laws are controlling and by airing their laundry in public is quite disgusting. It’s no surprise she wants nothing to do with them.
what arrogance from the leftist lobby to say that she ows nothing to the in laws.Why does she not give away the money if shes such strong independent woman ,what is the guarentee she wont marry again.
The soldiers mother was saying that she left , didnt keep contact . The martyr's parents could not even see the award given to their son. Dont they have some right over it. Bloody hell. Just take the advantages of being a bechari woman and show arrogance by calling yourself a feminist. She's just an opportunist who will reap the benefits of her husband's death and live off his money and fame and will be in search of companionship soon.
If you look at the situation without being biased, i feel both parents and the wife are at fault. The parents shouldn't have made such a chaos in public and smriti also shouldn't have kept the kirti chakra all by herself.
It is a piece of metal. No grave stones are marked with Dr. Scientist IT Specialist or any titles but a good mother father daughter son. Titles do not define anyone in times of Death. As Brad Pitt mentioned No one on their death bed thinks/cares about all the acting awards I won its all about humanity.
@agnescraig2912 True, it is just a piece of metal, but it does signify a person's great sacrifice and if we keep ourselves in the place of the parents we would all want our sons last medal to remain with us.
@@artsycraftsy8138 well she is the nok so why shouldn't she like her husband wanted to if he didn't then he would have wrote a letter and made his parents the nok which he didn't so it clearly indicated what he desired
See the father's interview who himself has served in the army, they could not even touch the kirti chakra, they dont want any money infact they will donate all that money to a cause as per them and even add the same amount to it in donation from their own' property. She has been completely ignorant of her in laws not even uttering a single word to them since she left, she has all power to live her life the way she wants and her sacrifice is irredeemable but the presenter of the news is either blatantly and knowingly ignoring the facts presented by the father or has not even heard his side, she completely mispresented his words specially in case of marriage with the captain's younger sibling, the father explicitely told that whatsoever is the choice of smriti would be done, he was suggesting all possible paths which included he would marry her by her choice to anyone smriti wants just like his daughter too, yes smriti is free to do what she wants even if that includes cutting off all ties with the inlaws but not attending the rites of his husband at his home in february and not even letting them have the kirti chakra for the rites and a statue ceremony in his hometown is not at all justified, it is not that the parents said it in first go to media but the cascading traumas of blatant ignorance and vilification of rights of the parents from august last year led to them being open about it in the public. SHAME ON YOU MISS PRESENTER.
Show me you’re kind of misogynistic without saying it as such ^
Well said ...people r driven by emotions ...they r not neutral in this case .
Agreed... Well said. Parents ka b right hai to have that Kirti Chakra once in their hands. Main b kisi ki daughter in law hoon and ek bete ki mother b, I can understand the pain of parents.
@@MOTIVATION-gz7oq What would you do when your inlaws ask you to marry your husbands brother immediately after your husband dies? Would you maintain relationship with your inlaws? Make you son/daughter call your brother-in-law as father. Those parents are disgusting. They dont deserve the Kirti Chakra
@@veda_ravi her own father talked about her second marriage in those 13/14 days. A father who just lost his son can't even think about this. It's ok if she is not interested to live with them, she can break her ties with them, it's her wish but she can clearly tell them that I don't want to be in touch with you, that's it. She chose to ignore. Parents have full right on his Kirti chakra, no one can stop them. Agar itni insaniyat hoti to President se lete time b bolti ki aap b hath lgao. Usko apni life mein jo karna hai kare, no one is stopping her but not by hurting others
Very well articulated
It takes a lot to stay silent than to retort Inspite of going through social media trial. Smriti did a great job for such young age. She did her part in respecting her husband’s sacrifice by remaining silent.
The question is if she could have let the captains parents take pictures with kirti chakra or even have it for a while…I think she could have cooperated more and communicated more..
Blaming an old laws are easy for today’s modern women. They think they married to self built 25 years old well qualified man. .. what his wife did to make a new born to well qualified 25 years old man.
Would any of you like to answer this question
You are forgetting the wife plays crucial role for the next 25 years . Newly married couple makes their own little family in future . Parents and spouses have importance in life however spouses gets the priority .
@@Mira-pm3ni so is it important to avoid parents after getting married !??
@@THETEXANSit is important to avoid or distance oneself from toxic people, even if it's parents. We all have just one life and it should be filled with love and harmony and NOT with people who are greedy and materialistic.
The parents had already received a compensation of 65 lakhs, what more do they want? It seems more like they were trying to use their dead son as a means of hogging money. Moreover, they wanted to keep Smriti to themselves to point where they wanted her to marry their younger son?? It's beyond disgusting. They did that just so they could have feed on her share of money as well. And you seem to forget that they may have been married for 5 months, they were in a relationship for 8 years, despite the long distance. Respecting parents doesn't mean allowing them to disrespect your spouse. if parents give you life, then your spouse spends the rest of it with you.
Thanks a ton for bringing out the truth. I have been tirelessly trying to persuade everyone, discussing her gold digger act, that the parents have been duly compensated by Army....a fact very cleverly sealed by Singhs from public. Smriti left Singhs' household for obvious reasons which is evident from their bashing interviews. She made the right choice
She has lost her husband and in 2 to 3 years time she will move on and marry someone of her liking.
Parents will live with the memories of their dead son and Kirti chakra will gather dust in Smriti’s wardrobe.
This RP Singh, parents of anshuman and his troll vahini should be punished by law. They have harassed a grieving wife in public, bullied and tried to control her life. His suggestions/offers may send chills through the spine of any woman, such people in control of someones life can be horrific. He is a pensioner drawing fat income every month still eyes on sons widows pension/money/efforts, so army should punish him for his reckless greed and high handed attitude towards others. The golden silence of the brother in law (the proposed groom for smriti) also raises eyebrows. Her harassment should be investigated for all aspects. This case should safeguard all other widows and women in our country from greedy family heads like this case. In indian law this concept of HUF also should be abolished, because of this backward provision women are blackmailed daily in hindu households.
I am impressed with your judgement,wow That Person should be punished for grooming his son to be a national hero,Shame on you, Think about a parent whose son laid his life for sale of his motherland,His wife now or after few year may choose to get marry and busy with another family,but can those parents got their son back, The parents may be from lower economic strata, it doesn't mean that so call scholars have all rights to demonise them , think what happened to anyone who lost their yong son,be passionate...
Are you living in some communist utopia that people are not allowed to sir their opinion. Isn't this fascism one to one?
@@indianhindurajput9891 He laid his life for others, I give full credit to him and NOT to his parents who cannot accept 'another woman taking away few lacs more' and out to destroy her life. What they have done to her in private is a valid question that ThePrint asked. In India many families harass widows and married women and that should be stopped. Smriti can marry (this is the biggest point of jealousy of patriarchial society), but not done it yet, and none of us know she will do it or not. Similarly these parents have two more well-established doctor children (alternatives!!) and a whole government to depend on as pensioners. Do they or did they share their benefits with their parents? Will they give smriti her inheritance? THEY ARE NOT FROM LOW INCOME STRATA, very likely that financially more secure and well off than Smriti. A JCO like him gets about 60000 rupees pension +benefits, and they got 65 lacs from smritis LEGAL entitlements. Note that she did not complain about it. 'We got nothing' is a plain lie and sorry I dont respect liers. Its sickening to see people try to rob others money, their freedom and choices and worse, try to marry them to brother in law, adopt his child etc. to control her pension!!! Raising children is not same as raising cashcows, its not a business. Parenthood should be unconditional, but these are too much for your understanding!
My salute to Smriti. So cute girl has faced criticism from in-laws, which is too pathetic. God will give courage to overcome all this odds and show path to move ahead.
She left the house immediately. She should have at least waited for one year till barsi and she didn't allow her in laws to touch kirti chakra
@@Gamer_Boyz_007barsi tak wait karti toh uss ghar se uski laash aati bahar
Well first of all no one said anything about burying her, I know it's a metaphor but seems little extreme, from what I understood of the interview there were not giving her some three conditions from which she had to choose one, there were merely stating that they are ready if she wants to marry someone else and they are willing to marry her off as a daughter of their house and another "option" you didn't talk about was if she wanted to not marry anyone else and just wants to stay as soldier's widow she can stay at their home as "badi bahu" of house. I know they said that stuff about marrying her to the younger son but again it was not as some "condition" or "option",
I know there is lot of trolling of smritiji and offcourse someone has to also put her point of view but you could have done that without making the parents villain.
And about that NOK thing, father was trying to address a general problem.
I just hope both smritiji and the parents find strength to move past this phase.
Who are they to give her any option? Please dont even try to defend such vile suggestion of marrying the younger brother. If my Father-in-law "suggested" that I would slap him. Disgstng
but they are also potraying smriti as villain here, when a wife does no body compensates her parents, in fact whatever she brought to her husband's home will remain at his home only jewellary or money etc. i never saw a girls parents ask that even if they are dependant on her money or not why its only for son's parents then?
I think they are also hurt that someone who became an important part of the family as their DIL now completely ignores them and does not consider them her family because she wants to move on.
I mean she has every right to move on but nobody leaves his /her own parents behind to move on but she did stop talking to them maybe because she considered them her family until captain Singh was still alive. She might be thinking that she would not be able to move on by staying close to her in laws but if she is mourning so is the mother.
And the move you make that hurts other people who are also grieving the same loss cannot be justified by saying "I was sad wanted to move on " I mean do it but just accept you did it.
Also is that true that she did not even let the family see the chakra or they are just making things up.
Because if that is true then I must say she is wrong. I am a woman too and so are they. The mother had equal right to atleast see and keep the chakra.
ALL LIES AND PROPAGANDA. NOBODY ASKED FOR MORE MONEY FROM HER. She needs to move on in her life, she 's young so might get remarried, SHE AND HER FAMILY WANT A CLEAN BREAK, SO RETURN THE CHAKRA AND GO. The chakra belongs to those who can preserve the legacy of the Martyr's sacrifices and how will an estranged DIL on such horrible terms with her late husband's family and likely to remarry do that
Get your facts straight
This woman and her own family exploited the attention and fame brought by Martyr's sacrifice and fleeced his biological parents
And I'm a feminist
@@ritikadobhal4072Yes, she didn't let the Martyr's parents see the chakra or get photographed with it AND PULLED HER OWN FATHER ONTO THE FRAME, 😂 A MAN WHO HAD 0 TO DO WITH SHAHEED'S LIFE OR INFLUENCES
Smriti is a horrible entitled person and woman
I'm ashamed to be an Indian woman like her, but I'm proud to be Indian like the Martyr and his parents
My god, how the world spreads fake news about innocent parents only because they spoke up for their rights
Here this woman is supported by fake feminists while countless women and girls suffering in India are neglected abd shamed 😅
Average parents from UP. They're literally asking her to marry her brother in law. Also deepika bharadwaj...
Didn't they also lose their Son ... Are they not worthy atleast to hold the Chakra in their hands ... Why you have completely neglected their right as parents. However, the rest of the things related to Patriarchy or Social absurdities need not be supported and She is already doing what is good for her and nobody should hold her back.
Behavior of the parents is pathetic to say the least. Instead of supporting the wife, widowed at such young age, they are criticizing her. And, the retired father has his own pension.
The behavior of the wife is pathetic to say the least. Instead of supporting her grieving in laws who lost their son. She left the house immediately and changed the permanent address.
@@Gamer_Boyz_007what support?
Those parents who are behaving like this after taking dowerry, what she must have suffered when she was married
@@Gamer_Boyz_007I can’t expect her to get along with such regressive in laws.
Ask specific Questions to the Spouse or her family
Q1. Did she or her family met the officer's family during last 1 year?
Q2. Did she allowed atleast a photo of Kirti chakra to officer's father?
Q3. Did they meet cordially during the Award Ceremony in Delhi or she flung away with her parents in hurry to avoid them?
Q4. Why was changing address of the deceased officer necessary? Couldn't it have been managed without it? As such pension will come to her account irrespective of the address.
Q5. If she is willing to get married in future, (which she should), where would she be comfortable in keeping the Kirti Chakra? In her new home with new husband? With her parents? With her old in laws?
Parents may be wrong completely but the lady is not the ideal either.
She is young. Her decisions must be influenced by her own parents. Hence the real question must be thrown at them.
The only sensible comment in this maddening thread of applause!
You are absolutely right.
This questions are needed to be answered.
In case of love marriages like this, daughter in law do not have respect for the parents of the husband. However that is not so in case of conventional marriage (arranged marriage).
Arranged marriage is better
Q1. Did she or her family met the officer's family during last 1 year?
> Why would she have meet when they are disgustingly asking her to marry their younger son for retirement money?'
Q2. Did she allowed atleast a photo of Kirti chakra to officer's father?
> His mother also was there when recieving the award. Stop creating false narratives
Q3. Did they meet cordially during the Award Ceremony in Delhi or she flung away with her parents in hurry to avoid them?
>. Again, Why is she obligated to keep a relation with them when they are asking her for money, which is rightfully hers and calling her gold digger.
Q4. Why was changing address of the deceased officer necessary? Couldn't it have been managed without it? As such pension will come to her account irrespective of the address.
>. To maintain other communications if needed, Correct address is required, as she is the point of contact.
Q5. If she is willing to get married in future, (which she should), where would she be comfortable in keeping the Kirti Chakra? In her new home with new husband? With her parents? With her old in laws?
>. Why she has to give up Kirti Chakra, if married again. She can keep the memory of her husband. Would you expect a widow to give up her life and do sati ? What kind of questions are these. People like you are so disgusting and why India will always be a third world shithole country.
Thanks for this ...this was needed because media is going crazy the young girl is already in shock and hypocrite society is behind her....God bless you for keeping her point.
Explicit wishes of husband ,
Mam there are certain restrictions which don’t allow soldier to proportionate as he wishes, which is what these NOK rules are about
I WISH this was In hindi so that most of the ''trollers'' could understand the real picture of what was actually going on instead of just jumping to the conclusion and destroying the image of someone whose Husband martyred protecting the Nation . If we can't help anyone with anything Atleast let's not become the cause of pain for anyone. We consider the doctors as god (as we should) because they save many lives, But the soldiers of our Indian army let their lives in risk and protect us. So DON'T LOSE YOUR INTEGRITY. THEY DESERVE THE RESPECT FOR WHAT THEY ARE DOING. LET'S NOT HURT THE ONE WHO LEFT HIS EVERYTHING WHILE PROTECTING US❤.
She owes nothing to nobody but the Kirti Chakra medal she took with her is owed to her in-laws who birthed and nurtured their Son and sacrificed their beloved son for Maa Bharti's cause.
Yeah this woman will only talk about patriarchy😂😂😂 when woman get no topics then its just misogyny😂😂😂😂 pls we man need to neutralize this female oriented laws period
Smriti's silence spoke a thousand words and brought out the real face of patriarchy in our Indian society. Feels like more than being sad for losing their son they are not able to digest losing monetary benefits.
1. Letting the daugher-in-law marry the bother of there lost son is quite common in Bihar , UP or Haryana ... as here the family of the son is bit concered about wheathe here next husband would take care of her and the produced child from the previous husband (if any).
so mostly they marry the woman to the bother of her late husband only ... there are many such cases around me . and the couple are happly living .
Her father-in-low is from UP so he had the same mind set . It would have actually been a problem if the would have forced her to do so but he is taking responsiblity to make her marry the man of her choise . whatt is wrong in this ?
2. His main concern is that smriti didnt cared about anushman's belongings , she packed his cloths in a bag (Jhola ) and left , she did not even care what belonging came form his last unit , but she took away the kirti chakra and did not even gave a chance to his parents to even have a look on it .
i know that its her RIGHT but there exists a word called MORALITY and ETHICS .
3. I myself belong from Military background , and have seen many such cases where the parents who sold there land to pay there sons school ,college fees . but unfortunatly there son dies in war . later the wife gots married to the next . and recieves the monthly salary of her previous husband , and the parents who payed for everything are driving AUTO RIKHAS .
I know lost of a husband and a son is bizar , but in the end everybody has to move on but this is a sever problem somebody had to speak on this . The old father of capt Anshuman singh did not had any bad intension eventually he is behaving in a way nother indian culture is . he is not forcing her, he is giving her all the choises possible , now it was her who had to decide.
1. Just because a practice is common in a certain geographical region doesn't mean it is universally acceptable. The problem is that the Singh's mentioned that they don't even expect the dil to pay dowry for marrying the second son. They made this offer in public in front of the media, which should have been a private family discussion. All these actions are so wrong at so many levels.
2. The grieving widow organized her husband's belongings in the best way she could. Who can even imagine her agonizing mental state. Instead of publicly shaming her for not organizing their son's belongings up to their standards, the Singhs could have shown an ounce of empathy and dignity. The keerti chakra belongs to the entire nation. Legally if it doesn't belong to smriti the Singhs can take a legal route for justice no need to publicly shame smriti. Morals and ethics is a two way street.
3. You are talking as if kids are some kind of retirement scheme with guaranteed EMI payments in old age if parents have invested in their education. If you have to sell your land and retirement funds to pay for kids education, you have an option not to have kids and keep the retirement funds intact. The kids never asked to be born.
Smriti has taken a decision which doesn't align with what the Singhs want. Now they should make peace with that. Live and let live.
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Now they are having issue with her moving abroad...she is going there for her career ,why is that bothering her inlaws .She has the right to choose what she wants next in her life . Plus the money provided there son made the choice of stating her name in NOK. These parents have gone so far to disrespect her daughter in law shows their class and mindset
In a nutshell, parents in Asia need to revisit their approach of raising children. The old system won't work anymore. If children have adopted western system parents should also do the same. Only support their children until 16 to 18, children should take bank loans to pursue their studies and parents should spend their money and time on themselves, simpleeeeeeeeeeee.
Thank you for bringing this out in such a manner. So correct!
Just two sentences for the parents in the entire video! You were as one sided as the people who are on the other side. Please put forward points equally from Parents end also. She has all the right to move on but also ethical obligation for equal distribution of wealth from Anshuman demise. Nothing wrong in it. Anshuman, like all armymen, would have imagined that whatever pension army would give, would serve a a source for his entire family not just for her or only his parents. She is doing the right thing by moving on but the money was always meant for the "family". If she no longer wants to be the part of the family and move on, why not have the feminist courage to be financially independent and move on to Australia and start her own life and letting parents get the pension henceforth? Why were you only critical of RPSingh's statement? She would seek sympathy by saying that Anshuman cared more about india, more than he loved her...but no hesitation in taking money from India's tax payer? Really?.. both parties are at equal fault here. Media is just reying to prolong the issue for eyeballs. No one cares about the outcome. If smriti has no obligation to be model daughter in law, why will the parents behave like model In laws?
You are actually comparing Rhea with Smriti was another blow to your hidden agenda..both are apple and orange case. Dont serve us the mix fruit please.
The parents did get part of the proceeds if not half 'as told in the video time slot 3.30' one half of insurance money and one third of UP govt offered money..the fact that the parents offered to take her as the wife of their other son speaks volumes as to their intention and how they treat a woman as a chattel..if that is not considered misogyny what is?..by the way what is a model daughter in law? one who commits sati?
The official authorities involved have clarified that: parents received about 75 lakhs compensation, about 1 crore further financial help. Somehow still the daughter in law has to 'equally divide' what she has received?
The way you divide her from the 'family' goes to show that you clearly don't see her as a part of the family. She was a the wife- clearly very well the late captains family and thus, has rightful claim over the financial compensation she receives. Get over the mentality that the son's only permanent family is the father and mother.
She isn't taking tax payers money, she is taking what is lawfully and rightfully hers. Don't define feminism in your own cherry picked terms, what you like is feminism, what you don't like is pseudo feminism?
Define what a model daughter in law is? One who serves her in laws for the rest of her life? That way these ideals should apply to a model son in law too right? Your comment reeks of a closed mentality wherein you have decided what you believe and won't change it. You are the one who is one sided and kudos to you for that because that doesn't seem like it'll change
Wtf why should she give away all the money to the family. Isn’t the wife also family
her husband made her the NOK ... how is that her fault? y'all are crazy
4:34- i don't think that is the point of the argument. Lets not digress from the issue and make it about what and how the public has reacted and made it to be. I think here as well, the same is happening.
Also, do not make stupid assumptions on ifs and but and or's.
Keeping the complaint or issue by the parents on her going bk to her parents, the actual issue is something else which they spoke about. Now because people are shaming the girl, doesn't mean you'll make it about the girl or the parents. Journalism at its impeccable stupidity rn.
Bihari lol
The parents-in-law have belittled themselves by exposing their dirty linen in public. They could maintain their dignity by keeping quiet. Instead of making Smriti feel more comfortable in her own home they have alienated themselves
His parents wants award sharing not money.... Which should be shared between parents and wife ... Parents have raised their son to be such officer and they even where not allowed to have his momento of death which is given to wife for such a brief marriage if she want share of his son glory she should also share the responsibility of his husband towards his parents....
We are sooo glad she moved out of that house!!! justice for smriti❤
You have so eloquently talked about everything except what the matter of contention is, which is the award in itself, which the martrys Dad did not have the opportunity to hold. Also, the father-in-law is talking about how Smriti just cut the Mom off from the joint account she had with her deceased son and Smriti, also disconnected the joint cell phone service the family had with their son. While he mentioned his concerns to the media and media posted it, people with different perspectives of their own made their own interpretations and conclusions. Does that mean, Smriti's in-laws made those statements or had the intentions of shaming their daughter-in-law. Again, it's about your perspective and how you want to project your video.
And this shows the status of women in this country.
First of all, We are judging here without hearing stories from both sides. Daughter in law didn't express her version anywhere...
Second, I don't see anyone forcing on her anything.
She could have been little inclusive of their inlaws with respect to Kirthi Chakra...
You should clearly state in the headline that this is an opinion piece/rant similar to the uncles and aunties being talked about by the journalist. Her analysis could be true but it is clearly biased.
Its her opinion. Someone should stand up for Smriti Singh ji.
Absolutely
what arrogance from the leftist lobby to say that she ows nothing to the in laws.Why does she not give away the money if shes such strong independent woman ,what is the guarentee she wont marry again.
The soldiers mother was saying that she left , didnt keep contact . The martyr's parents could not even see the award given to their son. Dont they have some right over it. Bloody hell. Just take the advantages of being a bechari woman and show arrogance by calling yourself a feminist. She's just an opportunist who will reap the benefits of her husband's death and live off his money and fame and will be in search of companionship soon.
By seeing the worst disgusting attitude of parents-in-law of Smriti, we felt very bad and defended her whenever such messages I happened to read from social media. I did it since I felt many didn’t support her. All woman should come forward to silence these greedy parents-in -law. Justifying them cannot be tolerated in silence. What Smriti underwent, let no one else suffer.
She owes nothing to anybody, quite right. But at least she has some moral duty towards her in laws who have lost their son. That is were a thin line divides between moral duty and business type of approach. Of course,she is free to go anywhere but had she stayed back for least a year till mourning period is over her father in law said he will settle her in life. Whereas the petty mindedness of Smriti ' s family was exposed. Not even allowing the in laws to touch the bravery medal is definitely an unpardonable crime committed by Smriti and her family
the father in law has no right to get her settled in life. she has her own parents.
when a man and woman get married, they marry each other. and not the entire family, indians really need to get this in their thick skull
Victim card, women and women. Women who lost a son what about her. Can she take entire existence of anshuman and vanish.
Is it not her responsibility to take care of anshumans parents too. Afterall he was son first husband later.
These days media outlests qrite their story from chatgpt and just read things. Think of a mother, her pain, fathers pain, smriti too. Why cant it be both. Sad journalism in india.