I Was Bullied At Work For Years My Story Of Hope
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- Опубліковано 21 тра 2019
- This was made with the intent to bring hope to those who have or are currently experiencing bullying as an adult, whether in the work place or in personal life. You're not alone, and life does get so much better!
The anti-bullying/social-emotional curriculum that I get to help create is here: www.championeers.com
They always pick on sweet people
i have same experience now .. so true
I got bullied all my whole life. People would always intimidate me including my bosses when I refused to be used or overworked. Threatened to be fired, people threw me under the bus. One lady wanted to get me fired at my job because she insisted that I wasn’t greeting her and respecting her as an elder. People encouraged me to apologize to her because she has the power to get me fired! Sorry but I left the job. I’m afraid to work now and I’m in school.
I know and that sucks because the only people that worths it are the ones that leave.
This happens specially in healthcare and among nurses.
Unfortunately you are right, dealing with that at work now and I'm in the process of getting a new job. 🙏
@@dentfortune7271 so sorry to hear that God i really hate bullies
Ive noticed its usually the attractive women that get bullied a lot at work
You is right
Shes a bit above average looking
@Lynda Cooke you can’t win in this world. They hate you for being pretty or they hate you for being ugly.
@VondaHondaCivic I'm going to bully u for driving a Honda Civic, Vonda!!! I'm gonna getcha boo!
Yup
Experiencing bullying or being targeted at work or anywhere is a traumatic experience. The bullying has nothing to do with you personally -- it is a mechanism for them to deflect their emptiness and self-hatred. However, the pain of social isolation when others listen to the lies, and do not reject the lies, is very real. In this way bystanders participate in the bullying/mobbing.
It’s hurtful how people who barely know me just instantly believe the lies and don’t even try to hear my side of the story.
One woman was soooo nice to me previously randomly starting avoiding me and treating me like I klled her dog or something after she was told lies and malicious gossip by my primary bully.
What must she say about me to make people react so negatively? It must be horrible. And I’ve heard the awful way she talks about past employees too
Never thought of it this way although been dealing with bullies for a long time.
I was bullied today . I just want to work and make my money not put up with peoples drama and bullying
Good perspective
It seems like people get offended when you are just there to work and get money. They want you to get caught up in the bs.
@@DiAshlie their intentions are evil in the 1st place. We have nothing in common with them
I know what you mean. I had to leave a great paying job because passive agressive and emotionally unstable people make work a prison sentence.
That's why I can't wait to start up my homemade bussiness. So sick of working with people. Just so much drama for no reason. On top of that you have supervisors who are on a power trip always
They bullied Jesus and talked bad about him too. You see he still prevailed and stood strong. Thank you for being strong and sharing your story Brittney. I am experiencing bullying myself now at the workplace. I am planning my exit to leave.
Great reminder, thank you.
Thank you. I'm leaving too.
Yes they bullied God's son but Jesus went through that for us to be strong he could of easily fixed it but his sacrifice is a reminder of us overcoming tremendous odds
people who seem sweet and like good and simple ones always become a target, they can never try to even think of hurting an evil person as the damage that comes back is way beyond their own giving, however one can be both good and strong and i learnt this thing from my mother basically she is ethical and extremely strong no on dares to harm her way, so yeah basically be mentally and spirutally strong too apart from physical
Jesus loves you. Keep praying to Him.
No amount of money is worth me being humiliated. Forget that tiny paycheck, my mental health is priceless. The bullies are miserable people with sad boring lives.
That’s easy to say when you have other options financially. I’m sure many of us would like to walk away, but we can’t because we have families that depend on our salaries.
@Lyric-sd5tb Preach it. You are right. You do better when you can but That doesn't mean you have to lose everything and end up sleeping under a bridge....with your dignity.
I have been called weak plenty of times because I kept my job until I could get another one. That made me strong. I did see a former co worker at Walmart and I ignored her. I was contacted later by another coworker for this and I simply replied "no one is paying me to talk to her".
Then they tried to bully me more by saying that I was talking about a gay coworker....but it was the bullies that did it. They outted him and found his lovers Facebook. They showed everyone! When I told them that this situation made me sick, they told the guy that I said that "he" made me sick.
He didn't talk to me for a year! But because God is good, the bullies slipped up and told on themselves. The guy retired and I found another job. I found a bigger bully at the new job so, I moved to a new town.
The guy is my friend now and I told him everything.
He needed to know. I have known him for almost 30 years and I can tell him anything to his face, not behind his back.
I feel like I can relate to you so much. I’m naturally shy and sweet and feel like I’m always the target of bullies
God I thought I was the only one. 🤷♀️ I would say I’m an overall nice person until I’m apparently “not with the program” and everyone gives me passive aggressive looks it pisses me off and I sit there and hold back instead of saying something. It really upsets me. I want to get mad and go crazy.
@@annmarie6870 oh my gosh that’s exactly like I feel. Like it’s only a matter of time before people think I’m “un-engaged” or not speaking with enough confidence and they start putting me down
@ Corrine
If that’s the reason you’re being bullied, it’s probably jealousy!!
Everyone likes and admires your sweet, kind, and carefree nature and they couldn’t get that admiration to save their lives.
Corrine I can relate to you. I attract bullies in the workplace and I don't know why. I am a nice person, hard worker, team player and quiet. From my experience, the bullies always win and are the favorites. I'm ready to look for remote work.
I suppose we are easy targets.. I have had to 'be more assertive'
Because your very pretty, and they are jealous!
Exactly right.
Fat people hire fat people at work, Pretty people hire pretty people at work
You're***
Dont show anyone at work that u r kind, answer people and answer without reaction, show no reaction! and dont show them who you are! Im working at this so much, im a target for this people at every place i work, they come at me from all directions! So now i will be cold at them i dont care i had enough now im sick of it! And they target only sweet and amazing people, bc they are scared and jelous and assholes that dont like themself!
And they dont want you to be yourself bc they hate when people are happy and amazing bc they know inside they r themself disgusting! They manipulate and fake who they are to get what they want! Acting is their life! If they are themself infront of everyone then everyone will hate them and run away directly! And they would never get a job or anything 😂😂😂😂
Ur soo sweet! 🥰😍💖💖💖💖💖🎆 a rare person i can tell 🥰 everyone have a purpose in life, and yours is the best!
That sounds easy but it's not that easy to do when you're a teacher, a waitress, etc. If you're being yourself to the students, the parents, customers, etc...the other employees will see you be sweet and hate it. I've been through this many times. Every situation is different. You have to take into account all the details and whatever decisions you make..just know it's not your fault. And focusing on Christ is the most helpful too!
It would be so nice to be able to just be you at work!! Not having to play a game or fake who you naturally are…
where is human resources?
Unfortunately bullies will never change they will 100% move onto the next victim
not if they brake down the person they see as a threat
I think the people are jealous of her, and being a Christian can make life hard, it's not easy.
The other options are abysmal. I became an alcoholic due to bullying by other alcoholics like my dad and grandpa. They were high functioning autistics who covered it with booze like I did. Plus, I was born crippled, which is another reason why I was constantly bullied. I've always loved Jesus, however, and not so surprisingly they thought Christians were hypocrites and jerks too. Bullies are tools of Satan. Look at the Nazis or the USSR or China or WW2 Japan. They loved beating and torturing and killing people who believed in God as well.
The saddest part is that some persons professing to be Christians are the ones doing the bullying. Being strong as you're targeted exposes the fake, false or weak Christians who chime in instead of supporting you.
@@dia5715 👍
@@dia5715True!
I developed social anxiety as a result of my workplace bullying. When public speaking I now shake uncontrollably and it’s incredibly embarrassing as I speak in connection with my job.
It has affected my trust and confidence, but I will stand up to it now, even it means I am a lone soul doing so
Hey have you heard of Toastmaster clubs ? It a good way to practice public speaking in a safe environment
That how I'm now from working at my job I have social anxiety , I feel like my cowers will focus me into talking to them when I don't feel like talking .
They were jeaulous of you, now the question is how to react to jeaulous people and quietly escort them out of the building.
Be encouraged. I am cheering for you!
I'm crying in the bathtub listening to you. I'm going through a more insidious version of this at work. I can relate so much to you. Thank you for giving me hope.
it is because you are pretty xx we need to stick together xx
Find the book.titled:
MOBBING
The workplace is full of these people and they constantly test those around them.
Are you doing better now?! I’ve dealt with work place bullying my whole life. Usually trash people who got lucky with the job and are intimidated by anybody else that looks like they can do better than they can. Bullying somebody at work says a lot about who you are as a person. The thing about workplace bullies is most of them you can find in the same exact position 10 years later while you’re moving on and up with your life. God blesses us with progress! We are the real winners💕
Hi Eliise, that’s so kind of you to ask, I am much better now thank you so much. I think you’re right, it usually does say more about them and often comes from their own insecurities than about anyone else.
@@brittney3128 yes that is so true. A teacher said to me once that they act out of their own fear insecurity and pain they cant stand that. So I learned that when we are able to acknowledge that in ourselves I mean really feel that (its not about us its their stuff) something happens inside ourselves we feel better. Because energetically they are not able to pull us in anymore. Thats when we feel better.
@@brittney3128 and please excuse me for butting in so much sorry but just wanted to Help. Theres one more thing that I have learned over the last few years that has meant more to me than anything else. Well there is a saying here that I love. "Search within for the Kingdom of God" I can't quite exactly remember how it goes but it was something like that. What does that mean?. Brittney its this. Everything that you was always looking for is within you because I have that that in me too. What I have learned is when we look inward something extraordinary happens. We sense God within we sense our own uniqueness and ever inner quality that we have. Britney when you sense that connection in you you will feel truly anchored from within in peace and love and wisdom that fills that space. Then you will not need to look outside of yourself for the answers and nothing will affect you anymore because you have found an inner strength that means to you so much more than and challenges or struggles in this world. That to me is kind of what it means for me to find the kingdom of God within. Keep looking within Britney 💓
Hi David, I think you and I have some fundamental differences in where we’ve found our peace. I keep my eyes on God, not self, and in fact the opposite of looking inward is what really brought me true peace. I wish you well.
@@brittney3128 hi I understand. I wish you well to. :)
I was severely bullied by a group of people and manager at a company I worked for, Custom Ink. It got so bad I started getting sick and I wanted to kill myself. I did not understand what and why it was happening as I was doing a great job. I then realized that I was hated out of jealousy for being happy, healthy, smart and honest and independent thinker. Usually those are the qualities that people value. I should have left when management changed, as I had a gut feeling, an intuition about a new manager who was a prick to me. But I did not. That experience broke me. and it led me to feeling like there was something wrong with me.
jeez
I have to learn about narcisssm, in order to understand the psychology of these types of people. They prey on vulnerable people.
This is crazy that this is occurring. there are people who did not learn teamwork, A class, please. This Ai fake shit is not helping either
@@beaulieuc8910 They prey on people opposite of them - people who are NOT petty, vindictive, egotistical, cruel and insecure. Not vulnerable.
Most healthy people would never bully. Anyone around them would not feel vulnerable.
It’s because you have to much going for you and your light is shining to much in their F****** ugly faces!! I’ve been there too
I was in a very toxic office environment. I'd be humiliated in earshot of everyone regularly for little errors, have members of the team go behind my back to try and get me in trouble with the boss for even the smallest of mistakes, get told off for things that weren't even my responsibility or fault, get spoken to like a badly behaved child, and rarely, if ever, receive any positive feedback despite all the hard work I did. It got to a point where I just hit a wall, because no matter how hard I tried, those fucks never appreciated what I did.
Of course I ended up leaving, and now I've gone into teacher training. The work is so much more intense and challenging than that job, but the staff I'm around are so much more helpful and supportive and empathetic, and any criticism of me is completely constructive and I know it's said with the best of intention, as it will serve to help me improve. It's like night and day. I hope those horrible fucks are struggling without me.
I hope they are struggling too! but don't focus on them, forget those hoes.
When they top bully starts and they have influence..or are feared.. then the cowards /sychophants /flying monkies follow the UNSAID ..." Let's attack her"....often they fear being the next target.
Matthew 5:11-12
Don't feel bad, I was bullied at work ,but I wasn't scared ...she knew it so she just lied until boss fired me. But do t feel bad ... Karma and God will get her.
Blessings and good luck for you
If your bullied at work just think the bully is putting a lot of effort into you. Best to completely ignore them with utter indifference. Don't waste any time thinking about it. Act as if your life is great when your around them because it probably is. Then find another job with out giving notice. Make their job harder for a while. Lastly your not at work to make friends keep it professional.
Ignoring Them Won't Help, But Learning How To Stand Up For Yourself Will 👏👏👏😘😘😘
@Mojo Jeinxs
If you’re being bullied at work, you have nothing to be ashamed of. You’re not the one acting like a middle school kids making fun of people when you’re in your 20s and 30s. You’re not the one who needs to grow up and stop acting childish.
Nothing worse that a bully whose a grown adult.
That is some good advice 👌 I have been bullied on every job I have been on, it stresses me out and causes me a lot of anxiety, I'm being bullied now, not sure why but here I am again 😢 on a job that checks pretty much all the boxes for me, I might have to leave because they are recruiting more and more people to harass me, the sad thing is I have not done anything to anyone 😢 I would love to stay and work, I been thinking I should just stay until I'm fired, but I don't want to be fired from this place it is huge cooperation with a lot of job opportunities 😢 don't understand why this always happens to me
I told my bully that i hope she dies and she stopped bullying me lol sometimes it better to talk back
@@datnohi8612 If you have the strength, the PTO, the sick time, or even just a smidge of love....for yourself........at least begin...to look for another job. , just so you can see what's available on the job market....and who's biting.
It'll make you feel better to be proactive, gather your confidence, and give you the strength to go forward. If.... you can tough it out....under unfavorable circumstances.....of course.....stay until you are let go. Not for sissies...I can assure you.
At that point....you can collect unemployment, although it won't be the equivalent of your full and former paycheck
. I honestly wish temp agencies and jobs...that are temp to hire.... were in abundance. That would give those of us...who are not masochists....a fair chance to try out various workplaces to see if 'we' feel....we are a good fit....among the personalities.
Pronounced bad behavior seems to rear its ugly head ...approximately 2 months into a job. It's a shame that it even exists...but it does. As I've said before...the workplace...is not for the faint-hearted.
I have met a few nasties in my time. It's a shame...because it impedes learning and excelling..... as we're forced to deal with the shenanigans....rather than....the tasks at hand. I wish you the best of luck navigating the murky waters.
May we all seek until we find our closest professional fit.
I tried to tough it out hoping that the bullying would stop, but I ended up developing panic attack. The best advice is to leave or better still, find another job. No one deserves to go through such pain.
I was not allowed to show my skills. I was suppressed and not given any decent responsibility. I was micromanaged. They listened to my classroom without my permission. No employee was treated with disrespect like me.
I'm on my way home from work sobbing on the train because I resonate with this so much. I feel so defeated and don't even want to exist. Today was SO bad at work. It's getting to the point where I don't trust myself to not walk out without another job lined up. I need to look into getting some legal help.
Thank you for posting this. It's nice to know none of us are alone in this toxic bullshit.
You are such a beautiful, sweet soul. It's crazy what jealousy does to people. Turns them into monsters. I never ever thought I would be crying in public at age 41 over being mentally and emotionally abused at work. I just can't do this anymore.
Please be encouraged and reach out when you need to.
You’re not alone! Many of us are going through this with you ❤️
Meant that!
Never Give Up! You deserved to be in this world just as much as anybody. Fight for your life and never give up. Don't let jerks win. If you have to try and try and try 50 times, you keep going. You will find light at the end of the tunnel.
Hi Jaime. I’m hear to support you! On Facebook I’m apart of a bullying group if you’re interested. Let me know! It’s a great group of people.
I’ve been through workplace bullying myself. It happened to me at two different workplaces! Talk about bad luck. But I’m now in a much better job and much happier. The reason you were a target dear is because they were jealous of you. Your a beautiful person inside and out. You keep shinning your light and helping others who have gone through the same thing. ❤️
Honestly, anyone who acts like a bully at a workplace should be ashamed. These are grown adults who are acting immature.
It’s bad enough when kids in school do it, but geez. Adults at work need to grow up.
How old are you?
@@amylee8969 Should be fired and arrested
Yes, they are jealous of who you are. I am a straight woman , hence sleazy lesbians harass me all day long. I am very classy and intelligent, hence the guys that do not fit that description harass me all day long.
They forcefully act out scenarios in front of me that suggest I know people and they act out dufus acts that would support that I am a total loser that gets constantly dumped and that I am a lesbian, hurl, hurl, and that I am not a woman but a man, hurl, hurl, yeah it is that bad.
This is so true.Most bullies are insecures,empty shells with nothing in their heart but hatred it spills all over.
This happened to me. I sent a letter to HR describing the incidents. It blew up and was brutal for a while. I prayed one morning for a mental health day because I was having trouble getting time off approved. The Lord cut off the electrical power to the whole building that morning so I didn't have to work. They sent all the employees home. That's when I was certain that God was with me in the battle. It did have an effect on my health that I still deal with years later. I developed a cancer in my throat which was ironic because of the communication issues I felt being silenced about the problem by the bullies. I recently re-read the letter I sent and all the feelings are still there though I am free of it. I honestly don't know how anyone could endure it without God because it was intense negativity and darkness in the workplace that you need him.
A whole office bullied me out a year ago and Im still traumatized... I quit just two weeks of work because this boss accused me of countless lies that I denied. But she continued to shout at me one on one. After that, she'd order me to do weird things like clean the sink or vacuum the floor... and the girls in the office felt like they hit a switch and turned a 180. They were incredibly rude and alienated me. I remember I broke down once I got home. And that was it. I got out because it wasn't worth the fight.
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God wants you to talk to him about the things that concern you.
To me you won. I’m so proud of you. Their are many hired help at Disneyland who treat people bad also. It’s just shocking it really is.
Bullying at work is where I draw the line
It was a satanic attack ..God will deal with them. Love you sister
You got bullied because, without knowing it, you broke the very first law of power : "never outshine your master".
Those 💩 bags, saw that you were better skilled than them and this is why they had to project their insicurities on you.
On the plus side, now you know that you are a good teacher, if by any chance you're an english teacher, feel free to corretc my grammar, since english isn't my first language.
Have a nice day, god bless you. 🌞👍
AS TEACHERS with children who get bullied HOW can they be in this profession? Insane.
HppyPanda x oh trust me, I work in the mental health field where people are supposed to be compassionate and some of them are open mental health advocates, yet these same people bully at the workplace.
@@boopieboop3832 I hate to say it but I work with dogs and not only are ppl mean to eachother one was mean to dogs and everyone wouldn't do anything, except me. Sometimes we have to take the challenge to do the right thing..even when it's hard
Great encouragement, doing the right thing even when it’s hard-so good!
Boopie Boop Same. I’ve worked in both a care home with the elderly and vulnerable and in a nursery with small children and trust me, the things I’ve seen...It was a definite shock when I first started. I think people are quite naive to things at first but people need to wake up and remember that this is the reality of life. People are absolutely horrible and bullying happens in every profession. Its insane
I'm in the same profession and unfortunately it does happen because its happening to me right now by a fellow teacher 😥 (i'm a teaching assistant)
You’re beautiful! They’re jealous sweetheart, has been happening my entire life. You just encouraged me to tell my story!
It happened to me also. To this day, I am angry at myself for allowing it to continue.
Give yourself tons of grace, it’s hard to know how to act in the middle of an unfortunate situation. So sorry to hear it happened to you too.
I was bullied too when I was 19. I was working at a remote camp and my coworkers were all in their mid to late twenties. I didn't drink or smoke and I'm very shy and quiet and my coworkers took joy in bullying and isolating me. There was no escape since it was remote camp and i had to eat and sleep there. I spent all my spare time in my room watching movies and reading books. They would talk outside my door loudly about how I was a loser and saying other mean things. I'm 20 almost 21 now and I'm still scarred by the memories. I felt so lonely and wondered too if I was the only one experiencing it.
I experienced this too deena and the ppl who did it were in their 40s..
Jesus wants you to talk to him about the things that concern you.
I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start mobbing me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Never let these low life lazy bums win ever win.k
Same thing happened to me. I was ridiculed for not swearing and not drinking and being “boring”. And I was in my early 20s…and my bullies were all like 10-20 years older than me. I would leave work crying some days. It was genuinely sick behavior. They also accused me of being anorexic and threw away my personal stationery. I was called “weird” to my face as well. And one of my bullies was literally twice my age. Sinful people dislike us because we make them feel judged and inferior. That’s why they try to pull us down to their level
@@nicoleraheem1195 Wow, they were in their forties. What scum.
I was bullied a lot when I was between the age of 13 and 17. I was publicly humiliated. So I know how the women in the video feel. Because of this bullying experience I have ocd, epilepsy and ptsd. When I was 18 years and afterwards I was never bullied anymore but I still haven't completely got rid of the trauma of bullying. I'm 40 years old now, I remain a person that's distrust people and anxious. The good news is thank god, things are gradually improving through the years . You should never give up. God will help you and open the doors for you to heal. We just have to do our efforts to better ourselves. God bless
Cuz ur pretty and you seem very sweet
Having been through this myself I truly believe that these people are genuinely evil.
The worst thing is that it's always the best and hardest workers that get targeted.
One day I was called fat and skinny and it was then that I just gave up caring, there was no logic behind the abuse and I looked to move jobs.
It's the trying to prove yourself that's the worst you want to fight it and understand why it's happening.
As I said I feel these people are truly evil, demonic even. Empty vessels possessed by bad spirits.
I think you should expose them tbh, try writing a factual review of the company on glassdoor.
They are agents of Satan. The issue is when the entire department is evil.
I wish I had found this support before I was bullied for a year. I finally was forced to quit, but not without it ruining my health, confidence, and leading to a very destructive procedure that took away everything I was bullied for - beauty, health, joy. I can't forgive considering what I lost because of evil jealousy.
@@mariashumyatsky264 That's what it is, jealousy but it's hard to see it for what it is. As a good person you self relfect and wonder what you did wrong. You didn't do anything wrong.
They're just assholes.
@@oldskoolordie I know I did not. I know it now. But I have been broken and beaten down by them. I have left, moved, but the harm it caused, and knowing that they "won" makes me sick. I can not forgive or forget, since it caused a lot of physical damage.
@@mariashumyatsky264 my advice to you is to find a good therapist that will help you to deal with the trauma. Whatever you do, don't ever blame yourself for being bullied, forgive yourself and love yourself. God never puts burdens on us more than we can we handle. Don't ever forget that 😉.
These "things", both individual and collective, who feel they can destroy the lives, livelihoods and reputations of good hardworking people need to be dealt with, once and for all.
I’ve dealt with it for years. Did everything to protect myself. I went to HR, went to my supervisor and I documented everything. I have copies of all the emails texts addressing my concerns.Nothing was done to protect me. It was one particular individual, but of course she would reign in her mob to attack me. It’s caused me such emotional and physical anguish. At some point, I thought about ending my life because of it. It took one more thing to transpire, and I had to leave my job. She has gotten away with pushing people out of the workplace or quitting with no cause it all. Yet she gets to keep her job.
Thank you for sharing with us how you were able to overcome this. I needed to hear those words of encouragement.
I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start mobbing me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Never let these low life lazy bums win ever win.6
Inscurity jelaousy sarcastic people creates dirty working environments.
They are called work place physcopaths..
Dont come under such nasty peoples..
Keep good work doing
Felt this when I was a waitress. No wonder bullying is so prominent in public schools when “adults” are also bullies themselves.
This happened at my last job but I had one friend who was also a target. I was lucky to not be alone. Now that I think about it actually, I was targeted for befriending that person that they were already bullying 😒
That’s what happening to me at my job now 🥲
Me three . Smh
I have been harassed 3 times in three different jobs. I’m a shy person and I pick up very fast. People got jealous. The job I’m in now I am being harass but I try my best to ignore it.
I have reported all my harassers but these people have been there longer than me and they know people.
I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start mobbing me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Never let these low life lazy bums win ever win.r
Tears streaming down my face listening to this. Body aches kicking in, family is mean too. I am wiped out, completely. I started a new job, and in my training class I am the butt of all the jokes. HR basically said that they have never had complaints about the person I was concerned about. How the hell is that relevant?! They have a high turnover, so investigate it.
Learn to not believe them at all, be strong and confident, love yourself as God loves you
that person was gaslighting
I was bullied really bad at my old workplace also! I was harrassed constantly and lied on also! I believed I was picked on and bullied due to my disabilities
This story touched me! I was bullied at work. I have learned that have spiritual friends and have emergency fund.
I was bullied at a psychologist's office! The psychologists were okay, but the office manager was absolutely awful. Worst case of bullying at work ever. And you start to think, "what's wrong with me?", "Am I dumb?", " Am I not likable?". Etc. My manager put me down, mocked me, tried to make me feel dumb and crazy all the time. And again, I worked at a place where mental health was what we did. It's crazy. I don't know if the mental health counselors knew that she was like that, or if they just didn't care. But the manager did this not only to me but a co worker,but I was basically forced to quit. It was either stay, and keep tolerating it until my sense of self worth was damaged really bad, or quit. I did not want to quit, but it was so bad, I made the decision to leave. I have a two year old daughter that I have to support too, so, it really sucked. But I know where this stuff leads, so, I just got the courage somehow to resign. But it's sad that people like that are allowed to be managers, because people suffer when they shouldn't have to. Thanks for your video : )
That is so horrible. Maybe they picked the office manager because she 'was good at getting things done' etc. People skills are not wanted. That woman sounds narcissistic. I have had to study narcs in order to see the red flags and react accordingly
Is best to be your own boss. Don’t stay in a work place that making feel uncomfortable or harassment. Life is too short. If the harassment gets worse call the police.
I'm bullied at work bc im "Slow" , Customers nod their head at me, and some of my employees are tired of helping me. It like they get aggravated by me needing help. But, its okay, boo bc we reap what we sow. May God help them with THEIR bitterness.
I was bullied and ignored at work because of my facial scars 🥺
So sorry to hear that. Sorry new friend! I wrestle with adult acne myself. My husband always reminds me that it’s a reflection of those who are unkind, and not of the person receiving unfair treatment. Hope work has gotten better!
@@brittney3128 Thanks
Some people have no soul they are poison
@@kiwi0019 Yes, unfortunately I couldn't take the negative reinforcement anymore, so I just quit.
@TheSoulsEnd Find a job where you can work by yourself, we are all trying to survive out here.
It’s crazy that adults can be like this, they say kids are mean, but I’ve never been bullied as a kid but have been sometimes at workplaces. Sometimes by people much older. When I heard you say you were a teacher, I know how teachers can be and know others who work with teachers that have been bullied by them. that must have been pretty harsh.
Brittney, you are a gem of a human being. From my own experience, being bullied is certainly one the most painful emotions I have had. It comes in so many forms and shapes and intensifies when gaslighting is applied to the victim by the people who could do something about the bullying. Praise God for rescuing you from this tormenting situation. I am so happy that your current coworkers behave like adults.
I worked at a medical warehouse where I was bullied the whole six months I was there. The more I went to HR and upper management, the worse it got. As someone who was bullied as a kid in school, being bullied at work is even worse. I'm sorry you had to go through this.
Was dealing with this at work. It took a backseat to my adult child. Had to walk away from her. Now my great manager left and the nasty striver in my office immediately set me up with the new person I’m working with. So many “mean girls” in my office now and I’m mentally and physically struggling. I just want to work and get through the next 4 years before I can retire. So much drama and crap. People don’t seem to grow up.
Healthcare is rife with bullying as well. Employment legislation is needed now to stop this as it's becoming more and more common.
I had a friend who was a nurse..she told me that Nurses bully each other.
@@cynthiabiel7714 they sure do they are worse and the interesting thing is they are supposed to be caring. I saw it when I worked on the hospital floor, majority of the nurses are mean spirited
I WAS BULLIED FOR FOUR YEARS ON THE JOB BY A NASTY SUPERVISOR WHOM OTHER PEOPLE TOOK TO COURT AND SUED FOR HER BULLYING. WHO THE HELL DO PEOPLE THINK THEY ARE TREATING PEOPLE SO BADLY. I GUESS THEY THINK THE ARE GOD WELL GUESS WHAT THEY ARE NOTHING BUT GARBAGE. BAD KARMA COMES TO BAD PEOPLE. THATS ALL I HAVE TO SAY.
Teacher of the year! Congrats!!!! They saw it in you!!!
I was bullied during my teaching placements. Schools are toxic environments with poisonous snakes working there. I have since decided to do another job.
Sorry to hear your story. I would’ve definitely stood by you and stuck up for you. I know how it feels, workplace bullying is something that has to become illegal In my opinion.
I always stick up for people being bullied at work sadly im the one who then gets punished
@@leebassett9623SAME
I went through the same story last year. I feel that these people intimidated to a point where l am scared of speaking at work. Every time l spoke these group of people would humiliate me or make fun of me. I keep of thinking of everything l went through and it all plays like a horror movie in my head. It has been a year since l left and the pain hasn’t gone away. This is not alike me. I was always so strong and l feel guilty l don’t feel strong anymore. I never thought l would be in this situation ever. I am struggling processing all of this. Thank you for sharing your story. I am not alone. ❤️
So sorry to hear you experienced this.
So sorry to hear you experienced this.
I hope you are doing better. ❤️
Much better, thank you so much!
Don't internalize their lies. Weak people gang up on strong people when they're insecure. My guess is that they were intimidated by your light so they sought to harm you. I went through a similar thing.
Hey Brittney sorry to hear what happened to you. I am an employment lawyer. You don't have to put up with workplace harrassment. There are laws against workplace harrassment. Next time what you do is you email the person in charge of your workplace. You tell them your being bullied, and you want them to investigate and put an end to your bullying. Legally they have to take action, and put an end to the bullying. If they do nothing then you get a lawyer involved. The lawyer will be able to get you out of there with compensation. Hope that helps.
I did that. I was ignored and bullied by manager. I told HR and they did their "investigation", When you are the person the group blacklists, they don't act like that to anyone else. You are the target. I was the one who was "threatening" because I was a good employee, and attractive (which I did not realize that I could be bullied for that).... I was finally forced to quit, they gave me a petty severance, a promise of unemployment which was never paid and I'm still deeply traumatized by that. It ruined my life.
@@mariashumyatsky264 I'm so sorry to hear that and you are beautiful just shows how scumbag people can be.
I’ve been bullied around when I have autism and around when I was in public schools. I don’t wanna go through that tough experience 🙅🏾♂️
God bless you Brittney. And thank you for mentioning Jesus. He is the way, truth and life.
Yes He is! :)
I am so glad you are able to escape from such toxicity, I am still in it and trying to find a way out, without me two departments can not be run and upper management would have difficulty taking leave, but I am still the subordinate, I am aiming to get myself out of this workplace this year, I hope the best for you.
I was emotionally abused for 3 years by my ex manager while working in the fast food chain Subway, she finally quit and I got a better manager but there is new girl that got hired that used to be a manager at a different Subway and is trying to use her Management on me even though she isn't a manager. She would literally make me feel like crap throughout the day and get snippy with me and I'm starting to get that same horrible distress feeling that I had with my ex manager. I am so scared of losing this job or having a quit and start all over again it was so hard for me to start to begin with because I have learning disorder and my ex manager was extremely discriminating towards me and I don't want to go through that with a different job again it's been a struggle throughout my life of jobs and being an easy target ☹️ 💔
This makes me sad. How another human being can strip another of their self assurance and self worth. I pray you find comfort amd support outside of work and that you keep hope that something better is waiting round the corner for you. Keep strong
I am so sorry that you have to deal with the cruelty and stupidity of others' insecurities. May I suggest that you look for your closest Department of Vocational Rehabilitation... if you are in the U.S, you will, I believe, find offices in every state, and often in every region.. They exist under the auspice of the U.S. Dept. of Education, and they offer assistance with all kinds of work issues.. particularly when a worker has any kind of disability. Learning disabilities can be frustrating, and too often those with them are bullies (I have one, and I was pretty severely bullied through a good part of my elementary and high school years.. and this continued in college and at many of the plethora of jobs I have held. Please, check this place out.. they may be able to help with defining/addressing your LD, and then, can help with jobs. Once you are working with this dept, they oversee and can possibly protect you from some of the issues you are facing. Also,, or alternatively, seek out your local mental health center. Often, they too have separate organizations they can connect you with to help. I wish you so much good support. xo NR
@@TheNovemberRose unfortunately the manager sided with her and I am now working else where
Jessica Macleod I hope you are happier. Sometimes our only choice is to leave. I was chronically bullied and belittled at work so I know how you feel
I have a learning disorder too, due to my head injury as a baby :( my co- workers get tired of helping me , bc im slow....and i don't catch on to things fast like them....so they look like they don't like me bc of that. It's hard having a disorder and being slow in a workplace bc ppl are just bullies.
I'm learning the best way to deal with a bully (aka: assholes) is to tell them "FU" and never show any fear around these assholes and dish back what they give you.. Thank you for sharing your story
It's because of your looks, beauty, you are a very beautiful woman, it's because of your healthy hair, because of your confidence, elegance, fashion taste, kindness, purity, intelligence, it can be anything that makes them jealous and envious. They want to be you, have what you have but they don't. It's their own insecurities, they see you better and hate it because they are not, they see you as a threat because your light is so strong. Ignore them! It's not that hard, don't let them bother you or disturb your peace, rise above it all, you can do it with God's help! Why let their insecurities and hate affect you? They are not your friends, true friends don't belittle others. Don't care anymore about what they think about you,focus on you instead, and do small things that make you happy. They only showed you who they are. You are very sensitive and care too much about what the mean people say. Those people are not worth your time nor your tears. I know what I am talking about because I went through it and still am every day at work. They are truly mean and very evil. Its jealousy and envy. Distance yourself from such people, and if you must work with them just be very professional and show no emotion because that's what they want to see, that what they do or say affects you and then they win. God will send you a true friend, you can trust. ❤
Thank you for your kind encouragement! I’m so sorry to hear that you can relate all too well.
@@brittney3128 As time allows, please listen to Cassandra Mack videos here on UA-cam, her videos helped me a lot! She is very intelligent and it's a pleasure listening to her and learning from her experiences. May the rich blessings of God continue to be upon you and your family! (I wish I could share my stories, it's not easy but with God we can overcome Anything! I am European, my husband is American and I've been at my job for 5 years already and didn't quit yet,(unless God tells me I need to do something new), I love my job and I'm not going to let those insecure people destroy my life. There is a power in us from God that helps us be kind plus full of love towards them, but set good boundaries at the same time in order to protect our peace!)
@@i.believe Cassandra Mack is amazing, thanks for mentioning her because she truly has some of the best advice videos and she’s positive and uplifting. Her videos have changed my life for the better! ❤️
@@tanafaithrenay1111 Nino Brown is amazing too!! 😊 Did you ever listen to him?? He is crazy, but good crazy🤣🤣🤣 I've learned so much from his videos, I love him! He has a UA-cam channel Nino Brown. Let me know what you think. (He curses a lot, but other than that, he's "awake" and very wise!)
@@i.believe thank you, I will subscribe to him and let you know what I think.
Sister in Christ! I soooo needed this!
I am currently in the same place right now. One year later. I lost my self-confidence and self worth. I once was an over achiever, now I can barely do the simple stuff and unable to perform like I used to.
Now I may have a job opportunity in a couple of days which I am so excited about! New job helping people, new city, new people, new everything! I will keep you updated but thank you for sharing your story!
So sorry to hear what’s happened. Yay, praying for a wonderful new season for you! God bless!
Thats exactly how it affected me, have now been slipping back in my career over past 10 years after a decade of making good progress. At this rate I will be right back where i started in no time. Sad to take some comfort that i am not the only one.
Good morning and Happy Sunday,
Here’s an update: I’ve been on my new job for almost 3 months, and it is everything that I was missing for a year. I was in charge of a Christmas project. Great teammates. Great boss lady. Super smart lead worker. Excelling at every new thing that i am learning through training!
The people at my old job are curious as to how I’m doing, and I will NOT give them the time of day.
To JJ, hold on just a little while longer, and please keep praying and believing. It will get better!
@@mimiwilliams8918 Well done! Good to hear!
You are such a kind, strong and beautiful person. I am dealing with a bully at work also. This person actually treats me like I am odd because I am so nice to everyone but this is the way God made me and I will not change that for anyone. They act like it's a problem for them that I am kind to everyone. Every other person at work treats me so nice. It's just that one person that has an issue with me. She is my boss, she yelled at me yesterday as soon as we where alone together, it was over side notes. I'm a reasonable person, if there's an issue, she could have discussed it with me and I would have fixed it. It's clear to me that she doesn't respect me at all. I see now it's something that she's dealing with, within herself and she's taking it out on me. I will not be a punching bag, this morning I will let her know how this has bothered me.
Your such a kind hearted person God bless you
Thank you for this. I’m being bullied now, it’s been months, It’s so hard to handle. It has affected me in so many ways, I lost my confidence and so much more. In this case, my boss is my bully and people seem to team up with her because it’s convenient for them. It’s horrible. Adults should speak about this more often and something should be done about this. It’s so harmful
Me and some coworkers were bullied for years. I was the youngest one and was afraid to speak out because this manager was protected. I finally had enough and spoke to the vice president about it. Being in my local health and safety committee, they gave a good word about me and they believed me. After speaking out, the rest of my coworkers followed. I ended up getting a promotion being now in charge of health and safety. I was in a very dark place for years and finally see the light.
It's crazy how as adults we can still get bullied. I get bullied or lefted out of everything at work and I don't know why when I try and be nice to everyone.
Was actually relieved to find your story. I am going through this. Everything, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I’ve got my daily Bible verse that pops up every morning at 8 to help me get through the day. Thank you for sharing.
It did happen to me a lot, too. Ever since I was a small child, until just weeks ago. I know it is hard for an honest person who refuses to follow their rules and join their nasty club.
Very true. I have had similar. We can 'fight back' but because its not in our own nature its very mentally draining to do so. Bullies are often very conscious of what they are doing and in my experience are socially skilled, confident and quite deliberate.
I am currently being bullied at work and 2 co-workers are making up lies about me and trying to get me in trouble. Good news is the owner and office manager do not believe them. I no longer feel safe and it's a toxic and unhealthy environment
I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start mobbing me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Never let these low life lazy bums win ever win.ll
I found a lot of solace in this video. I dealt with a lot of bullying where I work. It used to torment me for years. But then I took notice the patterns of the bullying taking place in my workplace. Like the bullying would be more passive aggressive and would usually happen in the context of a group. But if it's me and a single bully, nothing happens. The bully would act all professional to your face but would spread rumors, falsely accused, and make backhanded comments in the presence of other people. This goes to show that bullies are cowards. The bully would not do anything face to face but would use the power of numbers against you. Just observing the patterns of this behavior gives me clarity. I'm appalled at this behavior. I think if there's more awareness of this bullying then I hope that more people would be bold and courageous enough to do their part to stand up to stop the cycle instead of taking the path of least resistance.
Never let anybody bully you I would rather make a mess on my job or quit my job to show them message.
I worked at a high school for only 3 weeks. Some teachers came full force after me during my first few weeks. They showed up at a meeting I had planned with students to laugh at me in front of the students. I resigned the next day. I told the principal what I had experienced in my first 3 weeks. I left so disappointed to see that teachers were bullies and toxic. During staff meetings no one wanted to sit next to me. Everyone would sit in the opposite side of the room. When I tried sitting next to someone, they would move to a different seat. It was awful and I had done anything to deserve that treatment. They didn't even know me. Forgot to mentioned that HR reached out to me a week after a quit to asked what happened. When I told the HR person, she confided in me that she used to be teacher but was bullied out of that job so the school district offered her a position in HR because they knew she was a good employee. I felt validated.
I can feel you are a genuine person nice to see in these times.. :)
5yrs later and this made me just as emotional as you felt talking about it.
Everybody has their trial and error stage true enough, but the gossip and slander can play on your mental health and question your ability to perform your job...
I found myself the target of bullies a lot throughout my life, at school growing up and workplaces. It wasn’t until middle age when I realized I was carrying around a lot of core wounds from my childhood. I worked hard on facing myself and healing. After some time the bullying stopped. I don’t believe that’s a coincidence. Toxic people are often predatory and target the “weak” and wounded.
Yes I went through the same thing. The question I have now is how you can make friends with people knowing they’ll take advantage of someone in need or be part of the majority that will turn a blind eye to it. How can you have compassion on them?
I am a manager and being bullied by the employees because I’m new, and they’ve been there for years. Sometimes, we fear responding in an assertive manner. I got tired of it, stopped playing their game, and learned quickly how to give it back. F!ck that. Now, all of a sudden, they’re changing their tune. Sometimes, you gotta be a bit of a bitch to get respect.
I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start mobbing me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Never let these low life lazy bums win ever win. m
That’s unfortunate. I won’t compromise my morals or become a meaner person to get respect from horrible people
@@0_Katt_0 i think she mean't just been assertive which has also helped me make the bully's back off because they thought been sweet and nice was a weakness until u set boundaries sometimes then they back off sometimes. That has worked for me
I too am conquering bullying. Thank you so much for sharing your story. What the Devil has meant for our destruction; God can turn it into good. He will never never give us more than we can handle. Sometimes we don't even know what strength we have until we go through the fire of life. You have overcome and now can be a source of encouragement, healing and guidance to many persons especially students who get bullied on a daily basis where no one seems to care or understand. God has placed this ministry in your heart and I pray His strength, love, protection and faithfulness over your life and over this work that He has equipped you for. I applaud you. I stand firm in not following the evil gossips and antics in the workplace. I instead choose love and positivity and good work ethics. God is the head of my life and I guess all of that has made me a target of bullying. They hate, plot evil against me, try to overwork me and tell lies while God's strength helps me to love them in return and rely on the Great Redeemer to fight this battle for me. It hasn't always been easy but I too have turned to loving family members to remember who I am, read God's word, became a strong prayer warrior, inspirational sermons online and at church, and talked with the Holy Spirit. My testimony of bullying will be my ministry on the job to show God's love. That even though they slay me, I am serious about my commitment to God and I rebuke the Devil. My joy, peace and love for God will not be stolen by the Devil to be replaced with bitterness and revenge for those who make me their enemy. I will not be distracted and will continue my ministry in song and encouragement to others and whatever else he has in store for my hands to do. I will not be moved out of a job I love and that pays well to provide for my family until the Lord says it's time to move. I am in a season of spiritual warfare and my armor has been activated. God will get the glory and the Devil will lose again!!! The best way to deal with bullies is to love them, pray for them, serve God, and let Him deal with them. Don't let them intimidate you or see you cry. Grow closer to Christ Jesus and let Him guide you through it. It takes a real messed up person to deliberately hurt another emotionally and be a bully. And as children of God we have to pray healing over them and that they can rebuke the Devil and not allow him to continue to use them. God loves them and wants them in His kingdom. I.e. Saul and Matthew in the Bible. And they need God's love too. #Be Blessed Brittany #Stay Strong Followers of Christ #The Lord Loves You Bullies #Come to know Christ Jesus. He is there for all.
Sweetheart you're a great person. Don't let them mess with your integrity.
Society loves to label those who are bullied as highly sensitive people when, in fact, they are just decent human beings reacting NORMALLY to indecent behavior. It is a form of gaslighting and I am not buying that hogwash.
Tip: I was able to stop a couple of bullies in their tracks at one place I worked. The basic premise: Pick out imperfections (even bullies have them), and amplify them. For example, one had a slight lisp and so I would repeat what they said only I would make the lisp more pronounced and add a little developmental delay into the mix. It was always done under my breath so only they could hear. The other one had a strange laugh so I mimicked that laugh but sounded like I was drooling at the same time. The beautiful part of all this is they were unable to report me, incredulous I was actually making fun of them to the point they would become self-conscious. It worked out so well I even got a Christmas gift from one of them that year as we had become friends (sort of). Moral of the story: You have to fight under the radar and mess with their heads just as they do but get creative and turn it up a notch. I have a current situation where I have a competitive coworker bully who wears her hair in two side buns ala Princess Leia. I was thinking about wearing my hair in three buns just to mess with her. I may have an addiction because I find myself spending my waking hours coming up with ways to drive bullies completely insane.
Hi Brittney, thank you for sharing your story. I understand Bullying very well. I experienced it also at a job for 9 years. I finally left that job and when I did, I literally stood up to the bullies and told them off, because i had had enough! I found another job, which turned out to be the Best Job I've ever had in my life. A lot of times you have to leave a job to stop it, because these people are relentless and they won't let up. Bullying is Insidious and I believe that it is downright Evil.
You're way much stronger than the bustards who mistreated you mercilessly, you've won as a human against them I swear
Brittney, no one can take you - your inherent value - from you. They tried to do that, by projecting all their unmetabolized pain onto you, but you radiate too much light for that. Thank you for sharing this. You are helping many by sharing your truth. ❤
Why are humans so cruel to good people ?
Those are demons using human people such as your own family and co workers or even complete strangers. That's why the word of GOD speak about the battle is not against flesh & blood but against Principalities, power, rulers, of the darkness of the world.
I think it’s because everyone turns a blind eye to it. The good person they are targeting may be the only one that wouldn’t turn a blind eye to it so they are targeted.
Thanks for this, I'm currently being bullied at a school nursery. The first question I was asked was if my daughter had a Dad, and it just got worse from then on. I'm really struggling and trying to hold on, but I'm constantly being put down and sabotaged. I don't understand why they hired me.
I can relate to you so much! Don’t forget who you are! And remember that they attack because they’re jealous and close to Jesus and they HATE that! Sending love and strength and faith x
This happens so often in education . People have no idea. Im trying to hold on until 2026 to retire but it is not getting easier... it's getting harder each year. I resigned from a job that I loved 5 years ago due to the, what I know now is, PTSD my boss put me through. I had things said about me that she knew that I knew she had fabricated. The harrassment went on for 4 months until I resigned. I then found a job I love that I am still at now. However, I am experiencing similar things but through my TA's. The day I came back from my Mom's funeral... it all started. A false grievance was filed. I was too emotionally overwhelmed to fight back and honestly still don't know why it happened but think it was a way to Get me on an improvement plan in order to control me or something. Im not giving up. I love my kids and my teaching wad never an issue. It was that I need to learn to manage people better. Ok. ? Yes it differs cause health issues. Big time
Wow. Hope you are doing better now. The managers tried to push me off of the job after I was granted FMLA to take care of a parent. They were EXTREMELY nasty to me After parent died it GOT worse.
I am so sorry what happened to you.
Anyone in this situation should immediately quit.
it is not worth it to sacrifice your peace of mind for narcissists.
Thank you so much. I just resigned from my 12 year job because of bullying! I am so resentful because the aggressor said she was feeling happy the day she found out I had resigned. That tells me how AWAFUL people can be. And Yes it was 2 girls!!!
I have come out with my story of workplace bullying. It's a long, but I've been quiet for too long and I'm ashamed that it has all resulted in a mental breakdown and physical threats against me.
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Unfortunately, this is too common. I had a situation with bullying as an adult for a time. Unlike yours, it wasn't a group, just a married couple in leadership positions. There were others that they bullied during the years we worked together, so I knew it wasn't just me. That didn't make it easy, but at least it helped me see that it was a pattern with them. Like you, I had a good support system, and people who would speak truth to me throughout the situation. I learned to find my identity in God, not in what other people thought of me or said about me. Eventually, I had to realize that things weren't going to improve, and I had to move on. I agree with you about forgiveness. It's the only way to heal. Now I am much more thankful for the good, mature coworkers that I have. I wouldn't have been so appreciative of them if I didn't have the negative experiences first. And I can be grateful for the experience in some ways, because it forced me to grow and mature as a person.
Hi Anna, so well said! I’m so sorry that you experienced what you did. I’m also so encouraged to hear that you found your identity in Jesus, and that you’ve had freedom through forgiveness. Way to set an incredible example!!!! I completely agree, I also now am so grateful for the wonderful people in my life, and might not have realized what a treasure they are otherwise. Thanks so much for sharing your great story of victory! :)
Girl i probably would have Lost My Job laying everything and everyone out! I would have definitely had your back girl! ❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing your story! I believe this happens more often than we may be aware. I, too, just shared part 2 of my story today. Being bullying in the workplace is not for the faint of heart. One really finds out what they are made of. I am glad you are in a much better place. If anything, I believe coming out on the other side makes one stronger and more sensitive to know when it's happening to others.❤ Blessings to you!✨️
Brittney, I know how you feel dealing with workplace bullies, I too was bullied. These people are pure evil, and they are not rare. Personally, I have had to deal with it in 3 different companies. First, I had a boss who threatened physical violence against me on two occasions. He also put me into a situation where I very easily could have been killed by electrocution (which he thought was funny and told me I was wining when I spoke up). Any chance he got he would belittle me. Second, I had boss who told me I was worthless (among other things), and would give me assignments that were setup for failure. Third, I was told by a co-worker I was "too stupid to be alive." Thankfully, I was able to stop that one quickly by saying "yeah! I am probably too stupid to be alive. But, I am able to make phone calls very well... the boss... HR... it it continues an attorney". In that case, the bullying stopped immediately. The other two I had to find another job. In closing, I just want you to know you are not alone.
Thank you, Robert.
Wow that is so sick and vile and it breaks my heart that men are expected to take this abuse and suck it up. I'm so glad you learned to speak up for yourself.
Brittany, I don’t want to sound redundant or Hello Captain Obvious! here. But I’ve worked with women my entire life and I find that they’re threatened by a young and beautiful and talented/smart new girl and the cattiness and drama begins. Because of the pandemic, I can now work from home, which is a blessing! Good luck to you.
This helps me tremendously. Thank you for having the bravery to share. I have been there too, and years later it still effects me. Also, the fact that it was happening in my forties was even more surreal. I left the job a few years ago, after a decade there, with no reference because I don’t trust anyone there enough to ask. I worked very hard for my bullies benefit and received increasingly worse outcomes over the years, and I still have nightmares about them. God bless you.
This is why I can't keep a job thank u for talking about this.
Brittney, I had a woman in my past who was triggered over how I chose to eat and would tell people I was a weight shamer. I would hear her. I believe in never assuming a person is doing something. Even if a person seems like the most likely suspect, I believe in never assuming or accusing but I actually heard this person. I told her off one day. I didn't care what her and her friends thought but having half the people around thinking you are weight shaming when you are not. I stayed strong and let people know they are being fed a line of bull by this woman. Yes, Jesus was falsely accused. I feel for you. Yes, jealous people will start rumors. You might benefit from what woman said about how not to let rumors get to you. Not caring too much about what people think helps. You are pretty and they probably were jealous.