HOW TO SHUT DOWN MEAN GIRLS (& BULLIES)!

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  • @ladymusiclover
    @ladymusiclover 8 років тому +1587

    You can be the nicest person but people just love to put you down.

    • @lightlamp9957
      @lightlamp9957 6 років тому +75

      ladymusiclover I found that out the hard way

    • @littleblacklawyergermanbla2008
      @littleblacklawyergermanbla2008 5 років тому +121

      Being nice is a felony. Just be neutral and confident.

    • @laurenmar93
      @laurenmar93 5 років тому +2

      But why?

    • @mandywatson2084
      @mandywatson2084 5 років тому +2

      Lauren Martínez why r u here ur like 50 just wondering not being mean...

    • @laurenmar93
      @laurenmar93 5 років тому +17

      @@mandywatson2084 actually not 50, show some respect, at least ask for the age first 😡

  • @dustydarrius5318
    @dustydarrius5318 5 років тому +859

    I work with women in their late 50s and 60s who still act like mean girl pre-teens... it's embarrassing.

    • @lalouloune6156
      @lalouloune6156 5 років тому +57

      Lol. There is no age actually. It's a question of confidence and maturity.

    • @TheAvprobeauty
      @TheAvprobeauty 5 років тому +11

      Yup it's crazy

    • @badbitchonly
      @badbitchonly 5 років тому +54

      Yessss they be old as hell trying to beef with girls in their 20s. Like bitch if you don’t sit down some where 😂

    • @VioletRaya
      @VioletRaya 4 роки тому +3

      Lol 😂

    • @danielagreen1799
      @danielagreen1799 4 роки тому +7

      You are right Dusty Darrius.This is my opinion and my opinion only.these Real housewives,love and hip-hop and Basketball wives dont make it any better.Grown folks bullying.

  • @lalaforeal5005
    @lalaforeal5005 8 років тому +749

    Mean girls are usually just jealous of the next person.

    • @HeyZuriHall
      @HeyZuriHall  8 років тому +58

      +Lala Foreal yep, usually!

    • @veronica-je6hq
      @veronica-je6hq 5 років тому +53

      Hazel Potato yes, mainly because of beauty, or more things they don’t have. You are beautiful. Don’t listen to them.

  • @Tatianarain
    @Tatianarain 4 роки тому +412

    Be careful of the ones that pretend to be your friends but try to sabotage you, expose your secrets or make backhanded compliments when they see you're levelling up

    • @NiaMSnow
      @NiaMSnow 3 роки тому +23

      THIS! THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED TO ME RECENTLY!

    • @gelastan518
      @gelastan518 3 роки тому +27

      I wouldn't encourage friendship. I have tried my whole life to be that one forgiving person and l usually end up still being targeted. There are very few women who care for a genuine connection in the workplace. It's just like finding the right man, you are lucky if you find them.

    • @Julia-um4rv
      @Julia-um4rv 2 роки тому +7

      At my work the mean girls would befriend coworkers that I was friends with and suddenly they weren't my friends anymore.

    • @yunashin325
      @yunashin325 2 роки тому +3

      @@gelastan518 i concur with your statement....I just try to keep to myself in the workplace. I have been burned too many times trying to friend most women at work. Throughout my career I have only met one person I can genuinely say is a friend.

    • @geewiz8253
      @geewiz8253 2 роки тому +7

      @@Julia-um4rv that’s because there were manipulative and insecure. Be thankful that you’re strong enough not to be manipulated or insecure enough to try make people feel like crap. Good on you. Keep being your internally secure and kind self 👍

  • @vivendi0
    @vivendi0 6 років тому +408

    Mean girls/bullies: you think you're the prettiest but you're not!
    Me: im sorry that you're jealous at me.

    • @badbitchonly
      @badbitchonly 5 років тому +12

      EmmyX Gachaz sorry not sorry 😌

    • @itshk9427
      @itshk9427 4 роки тому +13

      My friend said that to her bully who used to be friends with us

    • @tinacarlton9949
      @tinacarlton9949 3 роки тому +1

      What are you sorry for they are the sorry ones

    • @sam1bamslayer73
      @sam1bamslayer73 3 роки тому

      Why do women always say that it's so cringe like no

    • @ToothpasteKisses6345
      @ToothpasteKisses6345 3 роки тому +8

      @@sam1bamslayer73 if someone keeps coming for you unprovoked, at some point you have to assume why are they so preoccupied with you. If they weren't then they would just leave you alone.

  • @aleeeieabwawa4025
    @aleeeieabwawa4025 5 років тому +65

    They're either jealous or scared of you

  • @user_8983
    @user_8983 4 роки тому +44

    Sometimes people hate you because of the way that other people love you.

  • @Bigsunni
    @Bigsunni 8 років тому +534

    I actually just dealt with being bullied at my work place, but yesterday I finally spoke up and verbally fought back in a very classy way. Fast forward to today and none of the 4 females looked my way more than twice 😌

    • @divayanche1
      @divayanche1 6 років тому +41

      Smiley Sunni how did you respond....would like to get tips lol...have something similar at my workplace

    • @bellalu6483
      @bellalu6483 6 років тому +8

      yasss girl! classy is best:))

    • @VioletRaya
      @VioletRaya 4 роки тому +3

      Story time!! Spill the deets plz ❤️

    • @itsyaboyskinnypenis8953
      @itsyaboyskinnypenis8953 4 роки тому

      period queen

    • @TherealEricaEarl
      @TherealEricaEarl 4 роки тому

      Amen

  • @rose9470
    @rose9470 4 роки тому +168

    They're just jealous losers that want your life to be as miserable as theirs. Like who still does drama after highschool.

    • @mandia469
      @mandia469 2 роки тому +9

      Your right. Alot of mean girls/bullies do end up being losers in the end. At my job, ive un watched the fall and misfortune of alot of people who were very nasty to me and other people.

    • @cheyennenguyen2532
      @cheyennenguyen2532 2 роки тому +2

      Sadly alot of people

    • @Kerrviii
      @Kerrviii 2 роки тому +2

      Yes. I was somehow part of mean girl groups til junior year hs then in college. I knew when things werent right. I see these women & they are just trying to fit a mold or feel important. Not for me.

  • @user-cg3yw9tl1n
    @user-cg3yw9tl1n 7 років тому +226

    2 Timothy 1:7 For God did not give us the spirit of fear, but of power, love, self discipline.

  • @la6136
    @la6136 Рік тому +15

    As a woman, I have actually experienced this with MEN too! No one talks about how catty and jealous men can be towards women too. It is the most bizarre thing because people always try to say mostly women are catty but there are so many men who are just as bad.

  • @misstiataylor_
    @misstiataylor_ 8 років тому +631

    Everything you said was the truth! When I started college I thought that I had left the mean girls in high school... unfortunately not but happy that I learned how to deal with them better. Success is the greatest revenge, so keep shining :)

    • @HeyZuriHall
      @HeyZuriHall  8 років тому +24

      +Tia Taylor ya, it's a sad reality check but as we grow up at least we learn how to handle it. Thank you!

    • @visserchloe
      @visserchloe 7 років тому

      Tia Taylor
      What? This is not a Caleb video?

    • @ariesworld6286
      @ariesworld6286 6 років тому +1

      Chloe V hey outta here

    • @lotusgrl444
      @lotusgrl444 6 років тому +4

      Tia Taylor happens in the workplace for sure...and yes probably thats how they were in h.s those traits stick

    • @loganbeagy3708
      @loganbeagy3708 5 років тому

      Thank u so much this helps so much thank u ☺☺☺👏👋🤙🤜🤛

  • @Amorantasia1
    @Amorantasia1 8 років тому +333

    Has anyone ever told you look like Regina Hall! You're gorgeous!

  • @gypsyjane6352
    @gypsyjane6352 8 років тому +432

    At my new job, its very cliquish and the girls tend to get in their witch circles and stare out the ladies who aren't in their clique. I used to be bothered by stuff like that but who wants to be friends with ppl like that anyways??

    • @samiramonteiro3874
      @samiramonteiro3874 5 років тому +44

      Lowkey Jane yass! I refuse to dumb down to be friends with a catty female. I hate that personality trait & don’t like the “can’t beat em’, join em” mentality. Keep the negativity far away from me. To me it’s not my job to figure out why you are the way you are. Only do that with my real friends. We all have insecurities but when you treat other like shit you will reap what to sow.

    • @TheSmack2007
      @TheSmack2007 5 років тому +19

      This describes my new work place 100%! Never thought I’d have to deal with this shit in my 40’s.

    • @Anony584
      @Anony584 5 років тому +5

      Kris D I just got a new job and in two weeks, the HR/Trainer managed to get two cronies to team up on me with her.

    • @TheAvprobeauty
      @TheAvprobeauty 5 років тому +10

      Yup. I'll take hanging out with managers and IT geeks or flying solo over hanging out with a bunch of insecure b*tches

    • @lovelysosweet8386
      @lovelysosweet8386 5 років тому +1

      This is so true

  • @trezur8693
    @trezur8693 4 роки тому +117

    Great video but I do disagree with befriending them. Girls have literally lost their lives over frenemies. You can’t be friends with someone who’s jealous of you. PERIDOT. Just smile and keep it moving

    • @Nikki-ks6wi
      @Nikki-ks6wi Рік тому +5

      Yup move on and when they try next time say “(name) you could be a little nicer”

    • @Abstractthoughts007
      @Abstractthoughts007 Рік тому +14

      This is wisdom. An envious soul is incapable of being your friend. You'd be a fool to trust them.

    • @wisearts1724
      @wisearts1724 Рік тому +2

      Absolutely agree with this.

    • @annamillan2903
      @annamillan2903 10 місяців тому +1

      True.

    • @sigmasiren777
      @sigmasiren777 Місяць тому +1

      Totally agree.

  • @sally9805
    @sally9805 2 роки тому +7

    1. Take it as a compliment
    2. Confront
    3. Ignore
    4. Do not dim your light
    Thank you 😊 💓

  • @mildredfranklin7537
    @mildredfranklin7537 2 роки тому +6

    Insecurities are loud and confidence is quiet

  • @sarahkrsna6558
    @sarahkrsna6558 2 роки тому +19

    You shouldn’t try to be friends w people who hate, bully and mistreat you tho….

  • @maryoom3473
    @maryoom3473 7 років тому +364

    But when I ignore them they keep on talking shit 😔😔

    • @fenawilliams4792
      @fenawilliams4792 6 років тому +38

      Maryoom I no right because they do it more and more

    • @mariahg4561
      @mariahg4561 6 років тому +168

      Mean girls feed off of your ignoring them. Confronting works best.
      Although it sounds scary, it isn’t. You have to show them that you are not the one to be messed with! They prey on weakness/silence.

    • @happycloud9848
      @happycloud9848 6 років тому +16

      Maryoom
      Just say to them "maybe you should shut up because everybody knows your a douchebag!"

    • @samyraalexander1710
      @samyraalexander1710 5 років тому +71

      Unfortunately, many see ignoring as sign of a perfect target.

    • @ydjdrbyoc1165
      @ydjdrbyoc1165 5 років тому +1

      Same

  • @jasminyalcin6017
    @jasminyalcin6017 5 років тому +89

    A girl from my school (a popular girl) put on her Instagram story that she felt left out. I messaged her saying 'are you okay' and she just said 'piss off you're irrelevant'. Like, I just asked her whats wrong.

    • @jackiedikeman7947
      @jackiedikeman7947 3 роки тому +42

      The fact that you reached out like that shows a compassionate good person

    • @mml4781
      @mml4781 2 роки тому +18

      like what is wrong with some people

    • @francislouis766
      @francislouis766 2 роки тому +23

      If I where you I would post a screenshot of that and show ppl who she really is

    • @stephaniestone4737
      @stephaniestone4737 2 роки тому +4

      @@francislouis766 right, that’s how it’s done 😂👍

    • @hallie1030
      @hallie1030 Рік тому +3

      How obnoxious she is.
      Obnoxious people should be irrelevant.😄

  • @goinggaga4ladygaga
    @goinggaga4ladygaga 11 місяців тому +6

    My issue is that, I wasn’t the main target of abuse but had to stand up to protect others who had no voice and now I fear that abuse will be solely focused on me.
    I can’t stand seeing bullying and abuse. I tend to be a chicken when it comes to standing up for myself but a lion when defending others.
    I’m really dreading facing them tomorrow. I’m going to have to fake being brave and just act like it doesn’t bother me.
    Wish me luck 🙏

    • @tdesq.2463
      @tdesq.2463 8 місяців тому

      For whatever it's worth, that particular behavior of Yours is about as respectable as it gets. And the jerks do respect the Hell outta that kind of character and poise. They won't confess to it. But rest assured ... they most certainly do. They have to. They can't not.
      Very Commendable.
      Very Commendable.
      ~TD, Boston

  • @zxulou
    @zxulou 6 років тому +173

    Thank you so much for this. I literally went through depression my whole life because my cousins, sisters and other girls around me wanted my blood no matter what I did. They copied what I did and how I dressed behind doors but spit in my face. I tried to be nice to people around me and I dimmed my light so much so girls would like me but it never worked. I had no one to help me fight these demons until I realized I was probably stronger than all of them and that’s why they always ganged up on me to gossip about me and i always felt like it was jealousy. Lately I’ve been able to block them out and it feels so good bc most of them want that power and attention and now I know that. I really wish I had this advice earlier in my life my it’s never too late!

    • @blackbecky2283
      @blackbecky2283 5 років тому +8

      Evabelle15 I’m praying for you sis. I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL! Peace and blessings love!

    • @badbitchonly
      @badbitchonly 5 років тому +5

      I’m happy you learned though I know how you feel as well. Let’s lift other girls/ women we feel may need the advice we now know.

    • @biancabee11
      @biancabee11 4 роки тому +3

      This story is so inspiring. I'm a booking producer for a new talk show. I would love to hear more of your story. Message me on Instagram @itsbiancabee

    • @ItsleeBerry
      @ItsleeBerry 4 роки тому +1

      Me tooo

    • @dilan8589
      @dilan8589 3 роки тому +6

      SAME COUSINS ARE THE WORST

  • @traceymarshall3390
    @traceymarshall3390 6 років тому +131

    Yeah. I tried the bonding thing. Nope. Besides I can't deal with a 44 year old toddler. So I just don't be bothered with her.

    • @HMJM777
      @HMJM777 5 років тому +8

      Tracey Marshall, totally my coworker smh. I tried and they use that opportunity just to dig their nails again

    • @raggb.5239
      @raggb.5239 5 років тому

      Look up NPD, lots on youtube

    • @AnaRose13206
      @AnaRose13206 5 років тому +11

      Idky older women still act like that, when are they gonna grow the fuck up? Probably never

    • @TheAvprobeauty
      @TheAvprobeauty 5 років тому +1

      Yup same crazy doesn't get "nice" or "compassion"

    • @ci.ci.1998
      @ci.ci.1998 4 роки тому +2

      Tracey Marshall Me too I tried it too but they biotches kept being messy and petty and I couldn’t just deal I said I’m out!

  • @ellieevans1603
    @ellieevans1603 4 роки тому +12

    Be careful tho because sometimes they’ll try to physically fight u for no reason

  • @GilgameshD20
    @GilgameshD20 7 років тому +121

    Goku once said to Frieza "I don't know why you call people such mindless names it just shows how weak you are because it seems that's your only form of attacking people!!!"

    • @rainshino2241
      @rainshino2241 4 роки тому +6

      *claps* preecher

    • @nobody-iw1fb
      @nobody-iw1fb 4 роки тому +6

      Tell me why I read this comment in gokus voice lol

  • @HeavenlyLights
    @HeavenlyLights 3 роки тому +11

    There comes a point where ignoring is NOT a good tactic which ultimately taught me SHUT IT DOWN RIGHT AWAY👊🏻👊🏻

  • @jxnuary81
    @jxnuary81 2 роки тому +15

    Basically: ignore them and don’t make yourself look like a fool because you stooped to their level. If it seriously bothers you, then have a conversation in private to talk about your feelings to see if maybe there was a misunderstanding.

  • @BrenaeMcFarland
    @BrenaeMcFarland 8 років тому +46

    This some great advice and it's so true, everything is done for a reason. The bully may be jealous...

    • @kabirrubaiyat
      @kabirrubaiyat 4 роки тому +11

      99.99% of the time, it is because they're jealous or feel threatened by you. But that's really their problem, not ours. Keep shining.

  • @toriajenkins3369
    @toriajenkins3369 2 роки тому +18

    I've dealt with the mean girl bully type before, and I feel they feel they look better than you, but if they really feel they are beautiful, why do they try to make other women feel less than, they must really not feel too good about themselves inside, plus alot of women are like really miserable these days, crazy but true

  • @newchannellookforlissaelle8507
    @newchannellookforlissaelle8507 8 років тому +135

    Wish I saw this when I was 11...might've actually enjoyed my teenage years! Something that doesn't go away either when you grow up. I hope more young people see this and take note, very helpful xx

    • @hanna_swede
      @hanna_swede 6 років тому +4

      My thoughts exactly!

    • @lalouloune6156
      @lalouloune6156 5 років тому

      Sorry that happened to you young. It can be harder for confidence. Hugs.

    • @Mimi-co8rd
      @Mimi-co8rd 3 роки тому

      Hello comment from 5 years ago

    • @sam1bamslayer73
      @sam1bamslayer73 3 роки тому

      You turn into a teen when your 13 it even says it in the name

  • @singingwaters
    @singingwaters 6 років тому +38

    I liked the poem. I was bullied today and I felt sick. I came home wanting to overcome this fear from abusive words. I started singing a song with the theme about words of anger and hate are only water on a duck's back to me. Singing it high gives the feeling of power and also claiming the oil of joy and gladness from the Holy Spirit to make my feathers water proof.

  • @patches0121
    @patches0121 5 років тому +62

    hahaha no way would I become friends with my mean girls click, I can't stand that type

    • @ci.ci.1998
      @ci.ci.1998 4 роки тому +9

      meryl hickman Right! Because they all gone turn the hell on each other anyways!

  • @Simplyjessxo
    @Simplyjessxo 8 років тому +112

    It's so true that you have to establish the respect factor as soon as possible or people WILL walk over you. Great video girl, don't dim your liiiight :)

  • @chinag3846
    @chinag3846 8 років тому +58

    Been going through a lot with girls trying disgust themselves as friends and etc. Thanks for reminding me to never shrink myself. I truly truly needed this. I'm going to listen daily until I build the strength to make your words action. Thank you!

  • @4gma59
    @4gma59 5 років тому +11

    I'm almost 60, and I have to say that the experience with mean girls from grade school and high school, and some of college has been like PTSD. I still avoid them to this day. My mother told me it was all in my head, that I was overly sensitive, that I was imagining things. I didn't know it was jealousy and insecurity on their part until I saw the segment "Odd Girl Out." I was 40. My husband and I were watching it, and suddenly it just hit me and I burst out sobbing. I never knew! It all fit together. I cannot begin to tell you how it was to be all alone during that time of life. All because of one pretty little girl who saw me as a threat, and her minions followed, doing any of her bidding. I often look back and wonder how I could have handled the situation better. I dumbed down, I didn't dress well, I didn't wear makeup -- all in the hopes of not causing any competition. I couldn't even get a new pair of shoes without her ''punishing'' me by making sure I was excluded. Sound crazy? I know. But it's true. I can tell you that completely ignoring is the key. When they know you've been annoyed, that's when they know they've got you. But when you're young and don't have a mother who will guide you, sometimes you don't have the mental strength to keep going in that vein. It does work. NEVER let them see they've made an impact. NEVER. I had to learn it's okay to be alone and go your own way. Wish I'd had someone like Z.H. to tell me this when I was young. Thanks for a good video and good advice to these young ladies.

  • @varshaniejaimotie3967
    @varshaniejaimotie3967 6 років тому +4

    Mean girls are just jealous of you because you are better them so ignore them

  • @myrahouse2368
    @myrahouse2368 2 роки тому +7

    I’ve come to the conclusion they have low self esteem… end off.
    Ignore them… just cast your care regarding them.
    True your a threat.
    They are negative they rarely see anything positive… I can’t be bothered with them.
    I had one girl be vile she included flying monkeys to join in the Bulling I literally completely ignored them.
    When I was told all the nasty gossip I never gave anything back, nada zilch
    It had no where to go … it stopped.

  • @joeyjackson5905
    @joeyjackson5905 8 років тому +39

    I have been through this for so long.. I felt I was ugly because all the kids at school said it but my family and friends always said I am good looking and that made me feel good.. once I turned 8 years old I got sick of being bullied, so I learned how to do Kung Fu.. when that happens now I smile and say god bless you and sometimes I laugh a long with them.. I'm a silly person but I'm quite as well.. when I listening to music sometimes I close my eyes and I use my mind to get away from the world or from bad people.. last time I close my eyes and listened to music, made up a world of my own my head..its nice

    • @abbibrownlove4747
      @abbibrownlove4747 8 років тому +1

      Your cute 😍😍

    • @joeyjackson5905
      @joeyjackson5905 8 років тому

      +Abbi Brownlove thank u.. it makes me feel good that someone thinks I'm cute..

    • @lolbolos5926
      @lolbolos5926 6 років тому +2

      -_-....who cares if you look ugly? it's the personality that matters.

    • @harleyanne3720
      @harleyanne3720 6 років тому +1

      Joey Jackson I was ugly to. But honey wait til I bloomed! You will too. Trust me.

  • @cbelle3168
    @cbelle3168 6 років тому +22

    Thank you for these great tips. Some great, empowering quotes as well. When I am feeling the pressure from mean girls or adult bullies, I like to think of the quote "Great minds talk about ideas, average minds talk about events, and small minds talk about other people." Not sure who said it, but it reminds me to keep calm.

  • @kerrib1000
    @kerrib1000 2 роки тому +5

    If you’re attractive and carry yourself well, get ready!!!!

    • @nscholar8851
      @nscholar8851 2 роки тому +1

      Yes this is true. Never dim your light. You attract the best when you strive to be the best version of yourself.

  • @GabeBabeTV
    @GabeBabeTV 8 років тому +111

    Love this video!! Excellent advice 😀

    • @HeyZuriHall
      @HeyZuriHall  8 років тому +2

      +GabeBabeTV thanks, glad you enjoyed!

    • @MiyahSundermeyer
      @MiyahSundermeyer 8 років тому +2

      Oh I do too. I like her responses to bullying

  • @1finnigin
    @1finnigin 5 років тому +21

    stay far away from the dental industry!!! its damn loaded with mean girls! i mean they should stress this more than anything else in dental assisting school! I left dental because of this. I mean 2 years of school and 40k of student loans. gone because I got so tired of being treated like crap and attacked by other girls that were so darn insecure about themselves, they would constantly pick on me or try to boss me around ( and they aint my boss) lol. Im in a better place now, but i can warn anyone to stay away from dental

    • @MC-rw2bk
      @MC-rw2bk Рік тому +3

      I’ve heard the same things about nurses.

  • @NiaMSnow
    @NiaMSnow 3 роки тому +20

    I left my second job for mean girls. It was so overwhelming and lonely. I truly couldn't work in an environment like that and how cliquey it was. It happened at a University, I was working at during c19 smh

  • @sassyslayj6726
    @sassyslayj6726 4 роки тому +12

    Its sad but especially in the black community we r so quick to put each other down....Roast each other or just simply hate on the next person for literally NO REASON!!! I've experienced this over and over this includes strangers that don't even know u. Ive learned ppl just feel like putting others down somehow makes them feel better....So i just ignore it but if they approach me threathening I'll take legal action

  • @edwardgaines6561
    @edwardgaines6561 5 років тому +33

    People only talk about you when you're jealous.

  • @mildredfranklin7537
    @mildredfranklin7537 2 роки тому +3

    They screaming out I want you to feel insecure about yourself so I bully you because I admire you

  • @1SongBirdspeaks
    @1SongBirdspeaks 2 роки тому +5

    Amen, sister!! Thank you so much for sharing!!! I have learned that: mean girls will diminish in the brightness of you shining!

  • @nataliem3635
    @nataliem3635 5 років тому +11

    These girls that I know are so mean and I cry after school when they do certain things and it really sucks I try to ignore them but it just seems like they are always there 😭

    • @nejray7420
      @nejray7420 2 роки тому +1

      They can suck it up I’m just like you I sometimes care but it’s just better to say something.

  • @faybury4428
    @faybury4428 7 місяців тому +3

    I've learned to just ignore them and keep my distance. I no longer tolerate mean girls or envious behavior directed towards me. The moment I discern nasty or fake behavior from others especially women, I remove myself or the Lord removes them.

  • @abigailr.7487
    @abigailr.7487 8 років тому +17

    Early for once!!! I've been dealing with bullies since 3rd grade

  • @belladonnagamble1768
    @belladonnagamble1768 8 років тому +13

    Thank you so much for this! I have recently been diagnosed with anxiety and depression, because of problems at school. I appreciate this so much, this video was some well-needed therapy. 😘❤

    • @debbie3173
      @debbie3173 2 роки тому +3

      Don't let them bother you I'm glad you getting therapy

  • @7373mish
    @7373mish 3 роки тому +8

    Can we talk about how when you try to talk to those mean girls to understand why they’ve been behaving like that with you they blame you for starting drama and they also never give you proper explanation?

    • @samanthachildress1091
      @samanthachildress1091 7 місяців тому +1

      Gaslighting. I say it’s pretty much pointless to try and have a mature respectful conversation with people like this. Better if pouring that energy into yourself!

  • @izzylooks4078
    @izzylooks4078 5 років тому +7

    Thank you for this! Currently dealing with adult bullies in my life, and it has really been taking a toll. This video helps!

  • @blackbecky2283
    @blackbecky2283 5 років тому +4

    Been suicidal over mean girls snd bullying for years. This video helped. Thank you! ❤️

  • @kali-rayskinner1612
    @kali-rayskinner1612 5 років тому +8

    This was so good! Dealing with this at work now. SHINE BRIGHT!

  • @shiftyeyes1
    @shiftyeyes1 8 років тому +14

    Wow! Thank you for this video, I have 2 daughters and they don't want to hear thi from me, I'm going to show this video and start the conversation now! Thank you for making this video!😘

  • @laurynsummer9424
    @laurynsummer9424 8 років тому +7

    I loved this video! It made me feel so much better and like I wasn't alone😊 it's good to know beautiful successful people like u go thru it too but there's always a way to get thru it! 👌🏽😌 great video!

  • @finchcarvingadiamond
    @finchcarvingadiamond 2 роки тому +2

    Man I remember watching this 4 years ago to deal with a traumatic bullying situation in high school. Thanks for helping so many of us in that time of need!

  • @RaraSansangnim
    @RaraSansangnim 5 років тому +3

    Girl this was so beautiful, you, your message, the quotes, you inspire me so much, watching this was like going to church! Thank you so much, this is EXACTLY what I needed in my life! Goddess bless you!

  • @sarannak
    @sarannak 2 роки тому +3

    Love, love, love your vibe and what you had to share in this video. Insecurity or malice fueled mean girl behavior has been something Ive experienced since early college and I could never wrap my brain around it. And sadly, I hate to say that it's been something Ive experienced most with other black women. It sincerely confuses and also hurts. Im about sharing a great vibe and learning about people. Women that are claws and teeth before they even know your name are so off putting. I love how you presented some strategies and also so inspo. Thanks chica!

  • @Closet514
    @Closet514 8 років тому +7

    @zurihall you my dear need to do more of that. I woke up with anxiety this morning and your vlog changed my energy to positive . Your tips were what I needed this morning. I am so thankful to follow you!!!!!!!! Thank you and God bless you girl all the way from Montreal !!! Xo ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @HeyZuriHall
      @HeyZuriHall  8 років тому +1

      +Marjorie Joasil aww, I'm so glad it helped start your day on a positive note!! God bless! xoxo

  • @Nocturnal0wls
    @Nocturnal0wls 8 років тому +1

    Thank you so much for this video!! I have never been bullied before until very recently, and so I wasn't sure how to identify it until I saw this video. Thank you for sharing tips on how to deal with things, bc the bullies have been making it difficult for me to learn or even go to school. Your confidence and infectiously high energy makes me feel empowered to face the people who have been putting me down:)

  • @shahleenahmed389
    @shahleenahmed389 5 років тому +2

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video. I've watched it more than once, and each time, it just lifts me up to keep on going. Please keep sharing! Your content is a gift 💖

  • @CiecieNewson
    @CiecieNewson 8 років тому +3

    What a fun way to shed light on a dark topic. I love your humor, (vacuum joke) throughout. Smile!

  • @indigobynum
    @indigobynum 5 років тому +6

    Thank you. This video made me cry because it was extremely helpful. It helped me and made me feel soooooooo much better.

  • @GailFuhlman
    @GailFuhlman 8 років тому +1

    I love the quotes, and such excellent advice. I have share this with others, and I want to thank you for doing this video. There are so many people who need this message.

  • @kbar6644
    @kbar6644 5 років тому +2

    This us a great message! Thank you! I love the most is the tip to not dim your light, something that i normally feel as if i need to do to make way for others to not feel bad

  • @Shanadriab
    @Shanadriab 8 років тому +4

    aww...you totally blessed the world with this video!! love it. thankyou for sharing Zuri!!

    • @HeyZuriHall
      @HeyZuriHall  8 років тому +1

      +Shanadriab you're welcome, thanks for watching!

  • @montsergirl
    @montsergirl 5 років тому +8

    Seriously amazing girl! I wish I actually was someone that could shine but I’m not. With that said this was very helpful! I have been bullied my entire life from school to work and family. Time to cut them loose and listen to your videos lol 💜

    • @maryanne190
      @maryanne190 5 років тому +2

      Montsergirl my daughter is experiencing bullying as well. Hopefully things can get better x

  • @ninahudsen8150
    @ninahudsen8150 5 років тому +2

    Thank you so much for making this video. I was dealing with mean girls and it was a tough phase for me and their negativity was getting into me. This video has really helped me to process things and overcone tough situations. After watching this video I felt so good about myself. Thank you so much dear❤

  • @martamccurdy1379
    @martamccurdy1379 5 років тому

    That was soooooo ON point!! Man or woman, you said it.. all I needed to hear. Very grateful that you made time to share your life experiences and what the taught you!! It really reminded me of my inner peace. Thank you. God bless your soul.

  • @andaleikuca
    @andaleikuca 6 років тому +10

    So basically there are 2 mean girls. Meangirl1 is friends with me and talks trash about meangirl2 when meangirl2 is sick. When meangirl2 is at school then meangirl1 goes to her and they bully me. Sometimes meangirl2 comes to me and were friends but then meangirl1 bullys me anyways. She said that im sassy(in a bad way) because i have an iphone (even though its one of the old ones) and because im wearing a choker. And once she said that i have to go to tiger and buy myself a brain (theres a shop flying tiger and they sell squishy brains)

  • @alanimami1868
    @alanimami1868 5 років тому +3

    I love this video I just watched, i just posted it on my Facebook page as well , I just transferred job depts. and dealing with mean females in my new dept . This video you made really helps me look at the brighter side of things 😉💕

  • @peacelove2299
    @peacelove2299 8 років тому +2

    Hi, Zuri! I just wanted to let you know how much this video means to me. I dm'd you a few months ago in a time where I was really struggling with people like this and allowed mean girls to chip away at my self esteem. Not only did you respond with a really encouraging message but you made a video and it's so so so inspiring to see all that you've done. So, TYSM I hope things continue to go up for you :) x

  • @JESmitty
    @JESmitty 6 років тому +1

    Wow, this is the best video on how to deal with bullies. You'd be surprised at how the so-called bully really likes you but doesn't know how to convey the message. Sometimes it's just a breach or break down in communication. Like always Zuri Hall this was awesome, great job!

  • @JennyAmponsah
    @JennyAmponsah 8 років тому +3

    Thank you so much for doing this video!! I so need this right now!! I'm going through the exact same thing at work, there are these two women, grown-ass women I should add, who I do not get on with at all!! They are really bitchy, snobby and stuck up and I can't stand them!!! I get no support from my boss, who used to stick up for me, and now he's taking their side!!!! I've decided to look for another job as I cannot stand working there anymore, and have recently started a new course so now I'm focused on that!!!

  • @MakumbhaShanti
    @MakumbhaShanti 5 років тому +3

    I love the see it as a compliment. This is how I actually did see, before I caved into my insecurities. Now that I am feeling stronger. I see what you mean.

  • @Kataleena22
    @Kataleena22 5 років тому +1

    Ohh girl I loved this video! Thank you for shining your light!

  • @passengerprincesspodcast
    @passengerprincesspodcast 8 років тому +1

    Love that you read those great poem! Your light shines bright!

  • @bailey1361
    @bailey1361 6 років тому +25

    I tried the befriend one and it ended up with her in tears 😭 ummmm (she is the bully I promise 😂)

    • @nejray7420
      @nejray7420 2 роки тому +1

      It’s better to have no friends than fake friends.

    • @margaretdoliet1630
      @margaretdoliet1630 Рік тому +1

      @@nejray7420 Amen to that 🙏 🙌

  • @beepotter227
    @beepotter227 6 років тому +4

    Im the best student in class and i get alot of bullies Thank you so much beacuse u help me alot.

  • @renetmyburgh240
    @renetmyburgh240 2 роки тому +2

    WOnderful quotations and words! Thank You Zuri! And many blessings ahead!

  • @zhaystyle
    @zhaystyle 8 років тому +2

    YASSS Zuri!!!!!!!! Preach! Love the Cicely Tyson/ Maya Angelou/Marianne Williamson Quotes. Love your positive message!!!!!

  • @AmenaTeferi
    @AmenaTeferi 8 років тому +26

    You are so pretty! Your videos always give me life. Thank you :-)

    • @HeyZuriHall
      @HeyZuriHall  8 років тому +2

      +Amena Yaman aww so glad you enjoy them, thanks!

  • @indiehipstervibe
    @indiehipstervibe 7 років тому +12

    Thank you so much for this video. I've been getting bullied at my school for about 3 years now. But meh I just don't care anymore. I start school in 2 days and meh I'm just going to ignore everyone and focus on school and my friends.

  • @7Beauty41
    @7Beauty41 7 років тому +1

    Thank you so much Zuri, this truly ministered to me...was greatly needed. Thanks again hon and enjoy your blessings!☺

  • @harrietfeldman5312
    @harrietfeldman5312 7 років тому

    this has given me a whole new mindset, thank you so much. just the video i was looking for. your so inspiring you good vibes rubs off on me. thank you

  • @222Julchen222
    @222Julchen222 6 років тому +5

    the quotes at the end made me cry ;-;

  • @monicastylemuse
    @monicastylemuse 8 років тому +4

    Love this video boo!! ❤️❤️

  • @ameliaohm570
    @ameliaohm570 5 років тому

    Thank you so much for these tips! I really NEEDED to hear these words. You are such a radiant beautiful person! Thank you for spreading this message.

  • @jasmeenarechiga9449
    @jasmeenarechiga9449 7 років тому +2

    Wish I would of seen this when I was in middle school, I would of been more confident but I definitely will take this advice with me into the real world and anything I do. Loved the advice Zuri!!!

  • @kkmoore2607
    @kkmoore2607 6 років тому +3

    Thank u soooo mutch u don't know how much this helped me!!!! 😋😗😗😗🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸

  • @itshk9427
    @itshk9427 4 роки тому +4

    So me and my friends have this huge group and we hang out a lot. We call ourselves "The Squad". There was this one girl in our group who always tries to act tough and is a huge wannabe. She's been picking on my bff at school and outside of school. A few years back in December, my friend called everyone but that one girl and invited us to her b-day party that night. It was a late invite but we all still went. One of our other friends asked "hey....where's Jacqueline? Did you invite her too?" I'm like "guys let's just go..." My bff said "I don't want her to come. Let's just go inside" but my friend insisted and went all the way up the hill to go get her. Me, my bff, and my cousin were like "ugh omg your joking" when she came down the hill. Ofc we played pretend and acted all nice to her. We went inside her house and sat at her table while my bff's older sister started taking photos of us and stuff. She wanted to do a dance competition and she said whoever has the best dance gets to be on her IG. Ofc I flat-out refused and so did my cousin. After, SHE started to take over the competition and started shaking her hips and stuff while my bff's sister joined her and was like "woo let's go Jacqueline!" The rest of us were just looking at each other like "wtf..." and we just watched her with attitude bc she looked dumb asf. My bff started groaning and I'm like to everyone "ok next year we ain't invitin that bitch" and we all just started laughing and after, SHE had the nerve to make fun of my friend bc she didn't wanna dance. My friend was like "look, it's my birthday party, not yours ok? I never invited you. STOP CRASHING EVERYONE'S FUN-" and I stood in between them and I was like "ok ok shush" while everyone else was like "ooooooh...." SHE looked like she wanted to jump her so I'm like "just leave her alone. Nobody wants you here anyways" and SHE'S like "umm excuse me?! Nobody wants you here!" I clapped back and was like "at least I was actually INVITED" and everyone was like "OOOOOOOHHHH SHIIIIIIT". SHE'S such a bitch and we all think so

    • @Kamone111
      @Kamone111 2 роки тому

      The “squad”sounds like bullies hun

  • @pumilnovavaros4770
    @pumilnovavaros4770 5 років тому +1

    Some of my teammates from a skiing team bully me like...call me a pig,hit me and call me all kinds of different names...they always do that when our couch(es) arent there,i told my mom but she only said to "show my fangs" when they dont stop when i tell them to...she didnt do anything else,thats why i watched this video...to be completely honest this really made my day and i think ill try to use this awesome advice you've told me! Thanks a lot!❤

  • @samanthabraun217
    @samanthabraun217 5 років тому

    Thank you

  • @candyproductions6140
    @candyproductions6140 5 років тому +12

    My best friend well my ex best friend turned out to be a mean girl and a bully.

  • @aliyafichtner8843
    @aliyafichtner8843 6 років тому +60

    This is meant for teens. Not grown up women like me. Grown up women got no time to engage in fights confronting women who dont know how to behave classy. IGNORE has done for me over the years. Focus on better things!

    • @ahhwe-any7434
      @ahhwe-any7434 5 років тому +5

      Going through the comments before I read yours, you should rethink that. Older ppl get passes only bc they're more fragile. Well, some actually act like it and have actual wisdom to share. As far as you? You still seem healthy go back to my first sentence. Then proceed. Younger folks wanna learn ish not feel belittled. But yeah, I'm not that mean girl... So there's that. Maybe older ppl have their/ our... Different situations to priortize more but you know life never stops throwing u curveballs...

  • @BonTheMae
    @BonTheMae 4 роки тому +1

    This is awesome! So incredibly helpful and I love the quotes. Thank you!

  • @MellowSerenitycatdogcpbclo0x
    @MellowSerenitycatdogcpbclo0x 4 роки тому

    Sister , this was absolutely amazing and absolutely what I needed to hear! Your encouragement and advice was spot-on for me and what I'm struggling with right now. Thank you so much for taking the time to share this.God bless you for a million years!❤!❤!

  • @racheljames4776
    @racheljames4776 8 років тому +12

    Needed this thanks 😊😊

    • @HeyZuriHall
      @HeyZuriHall  8 років тому +5

      +rachel james xoxo :)

    • @MissOyin
      @MissOyin 8 років тому +3

      +HEY ZURI HALL! I've been dealing with quite a bit of judgement brought about by my cervical cancer and the resulting hair loss.
      I'm blessed to be in remission :) but I've been diagnosed with alopecia areata. This was a great boost to my self-esteem. Thanks!
      P.S. Do you think you could tell me where you got your curly hair? I know that may be a rude question but it looks so much like what I lost...