my Darling husband seems to be progressing so quickly...he is nearly non verbal except for a sentence or two and short sentences. seeing his beautiful smile and him crying are lesser and lesser...we listen to his favourite songs and he used to cry and now, his eyes just seems empty of emotions but I know, he is listening...I tell him...how much I love him and I would never leave him...that was his fear when he was still more lucid...he would say...to never leave him and I assured him...I never will...I am with him daily at the Care center daily...travelling 3 bus rides each way...I love him soooo much and pray that he would not suffer in the end...looking back over the 15 yrs...he has had the symptoms and this last 4 yrs....I knew something was not right...but he refused to see a Specialist until the day, he had to be rushed to emergency...I pray for all patients suffering with this illness as well as their loved ones grieving the loss of a beautiful mind and soul....Thank you for this video.
Thanks for your simple and clear explanation of the 7 steps of Dementia. I now realise my wife is late 6 to early 7 and this is most helpful. Am still able to look after her but am acutely aware that help will be needed soon or within the next 6 months to a year. Keep up the good work.
I have watched my Mother slide back and forth between stages. She lost the ability to take care of herself, but still remained articulate and could pass the cognitive exam easily. However, she had lost the ability to pay her bills, manage her money, and make decisions about important matters. I realized later this is why she'd insist she had done something because she thought about something. She also became very critical of everyone and everything to the point no one wanted to spend time with her. She's in a nursing home now and just lost the ability to swallow easily, has a Foley catheter because she went from 100% incontinence to not being able to go at all. She sleeps most of the day only waking up for meals, changes, showers, and medication.
I know this video is old but I have just found you. I've already learned so much from you. My brother has dementia & I've been devouring info & videos. Thank you so very much for your expertise & great info.
Well, I make list. I have my whole life so I guess I’m in stage three …I’ve never heard of such a thing being a thing… I’ve made a list my entire life.
Is my mom between phase 5 and six? She's confused where she is (nursing home). She still seems to have good memory, but can't do things for herself any more. She just sits there all the time. She is very demanding, calls and messages several times a day. Constantly has demands about seeing doctors, needing medicines, certain foods, this goes on all the time. We are far from her and busy with our lives and cannot cater to her every whim. She on and off forgets to use her phone, will then swear at me, not realizing I can hear her, even when she can't hear me. I'm having a tough time. We were never close. I was physically abused by her my entire childhood.
This was very helpful as my husband has gone from Stage 3 to 5 in less than a year and sleep especially has increased. He also has Parkinson's which exacerbates all the symptoms. The VA has given me 40 hours/week or home assistance which has been invaluable. When a memory care facility is required, he will be going to the Delaware Veteran's Home because at only 75 currently the civilian facilities are generally women in the 80s and 90s. Thanks for your informative video and God bless your work.
Linda, could you please advise my of how to get the home assistance from VA? My hubby just started getting a pension from VA and did you get on a waiting list for the VA home? I think my hubby is in stage 5 and thinking I will need more help soon. We have an appt. with a neurologist in October and hope for a specific diagnosis. I am thinking Alz with Lewy Bodies.
Nana is currently stage 6. She does have some “spark💥” moments when she’s able to tell stories and talk to you functionally in great detail or sing, and other days she can’t talk in complete sentences or even eat properly/use bathroom without help.
Vicky, these videos are priceless. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and your thoughts! Listening to you is like listening to a trusted friend! Thank you!🥰
Subscribed and I want to tell you that I enjoyed hearing your explanations of the stages. I have a friend who has been diagnosed I don’t remember what stage it’s early but knowing all this makes it easier for the caregiver I think to know what’s coming and how to prepare for it. I myself about lol maybe a year year and a half ago. I started noticing things about myself and so I’m not in denial. I know things are coming. Probably that I don’t want to have happen But. i’m eating years old now and I’m going to try to hang on as long as I can keep my mind safe. But I know life takes its toll but thank you so much for making these videos. They’re very informative and helpful. Thank you again.
Thank you for the videos, my MIL is at the end of stage six and enterig stage 7 and unfortunately she has vascular dementia and as you know that is very aggressive, her doctor said she probably only has a year left.
I’m glad it helps you! Come over to the group and find loads of support from me and everyone else!! Link in video description!! Hang in there!! I’m rooting for you!! ❤️❤️❤️ Vicky
This video helped me understand better what my aunt is going through. She stopped eating a few days ago and is no longer alert or speaking. 😢💔 Thank you for sharing the info on the different stages.
I am going crazy!! from the time I moved in with my mom her disease has progressed, she becomes so mean and hurtful she had me in tears a few times. i don't know what to do anymore, I am desperate in need of help. she does not trust me and makes up all these lies hides her bank cards, she doesn't understand that she has medical bills that need to be paid and for her personal use. she hides everything and doesn't know where she put it.
Lorraine Siri come on over to the Facebook Group!!!!!! So much help over there. Hundred of ACTIVE caregivers to help in real time! Link in video description! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
You are wonderful. We are in the process of getting my little momma in a nursing home. I think it's topped as one of the worse things I've experienced, along with the loss of my Dad last year. My mom it's in stage 5/ showing signs of stage 6. Keep your videos coming they help
You are so welcome! I have been having some health problems, too, so hopefully I am on he road to recovery and will be back at video making soon! Come join the group! I'm inside there every day! Link in comments! Vicky
Thank you for taking the time to make these videos. My mom was just diagnosed but is obviously in stage 6. She is having tons of hallucinations & paranoia. I am trying to gain strength for the future by arming myself with information.
Connie Pavey I’m glad you found these!! Come on over to FB and join the Support Group. It’s a great group of people who offer help to each other! Link is in every video description. ~Vicky
Thank you very informative. Can you please talk about the different types to understand more about these. My mum has a rare type which I don't know much about posterior cortical atrophy. Feel free to tag me into anything to help. Thanks Michelle ❤
My loved one started to hide 'valuable' things about nine-ten years ago. She didn't put them in a lockbox--she hid them. I put it down to her usual paranoia, but now I'm wondering if it was a sign... especially since she would forget where she hid them sometimes.
I just found your channel and appreciate you so much. My husband has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease and I didn’t know anything. His symptoms are all over the board but I believe that he is in early to mid stage. His neurologist is not very encouraging at all so I am looking for support from others. I am not on Facebook so not able to join your support group. I really appreciate all you’re doing and will follow you on UA-cam. I live in Alabama so I instantly connected with you. Thanks again
The Grace videos are GREAT WONDERFUL HELPFUL 😮AND HARD😢.THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH FOR LETTING US KNOW EVERYTHING THAT WE NEED TO TO KNOW GOD IS USEING YOU IN GREAT WAY.😊
Thank you so much. I learned so much. I needed to find support as I'm pretty alone in this situation.My Dad is in stage 6. I was able to get him in memory care. I'm so very thankful I found your videos. ❤💙
I can relate to your situation.I was able to have my daddy live in a mobile home on our property for the last 7 yrs and we enjoyed many good times together .We both love gardening,vegetables and flowers,we played board games as long as his mind allowed him to,we watched travelogues of places in Wyoming where he worked on ranches as a 13 yr old. Unfortunately my daddy’s mixed dementia escalated quite rapidly after he had an ischemic stroke in 2020 and he demanded more of my time than I could physically and mentally give him.(I also have my 74 yr old husband that has disabilities himself and my 88 yr old momma that lives near me too( parents divorced 27 yrs ago). Daddy got pneumonia aug 12 and after just 1 week of hospitalization his dementia escalated to the point that he needed 24/7 care. Daddy was extremely lonely and told me “ I don’t want to live alone w just my dog anymore,I wish I had died before it came to this😢” So he is now living in an Alzheimer’s unit at a nursing home 5 minutes from me and he is much happier being w the 16 other residents just like himself. It is hard on me , I miss seeing him around my house, but I take solace in the fact that he is happy and feels secure there. I am able to take time now to build my health back up after feeling so exhausted from my caregiver role most of my adult life. Wish you the best w your dad🙂❤️ 9:35
Hello and thank you for providing this awareness 🙏 my sister seems to think we need to place our sister in some sort of memory care. What is Memory Care? What does this consist of?❤
Hello Grace. I appreciate your videos very much. My wife and I are currently going through these processes with my Mother in Law. Although she has not been officially diagnosed by a doctor, we are relatively certain that my wife's mom is in stage 5-6. We see overlapping of the stages as she displays behaviors of both 5 and 6 tbh. She is currently 95 years old. I just subscribed to your channel. :)
Thank you for this. I feel like my mom is in mixed stages. Short term is most clearly impacted. But sporadically she loses the sequence of things that happened in the past. Or she will be confused if I have siblings (I have 3 older sisters, she is our step mom but helped raise us for 40 years). The concept of what is safe and isn't is clearly not there! But I can still see some of her actual personality come out still.
New subscriber. My mummy would be stage 6-7. She’s just been put into hospital level care today here in New Zealand. My dad looked after right up until he physically couldn’t. So he’s dealing with losing his best friend of 70 years 😢. It’s a struggle. Losing my mum piece by piece. Thankyou for your informative video x
Thank you. I love the way you explain things. I believe my momma is in stage 6 although she is having trouble finishing her sentences and gets choked 3 or 4 times a month.
Thanks for the info. I believe my friend is bridging 5&6. He can still eat, he is hanging in to dressing himself. He’ll put different shoe on but will put them on the right feet. He get aggressive at times. Hates and I mean hates bathing, love to play with the toilet love to see the water go down. He’ll throw thing it to watch them disappear 😂. Live in his youth. We tell him his age and he say there is no way he is that age. He says he is 30. He recognizes himself when he was in his early twenties but not anymore. He remembers my friend but not anyone’s else. He feeds himself and dresses himself and will straighten out/ make his bed. He is always saying he is going home referring to his home when he was a kid. He is always looking for his parents. It’s absolutely 💔!!!. But he is with friends and we give him 24/7 care. He is with use because his family didn’t want the responsibility of caring for him. But he is safe and healthy!! Oh and he love to dine out everyday. He always has. That’s one thing he hasn’t forgotten eating out
My father is probably at stage 4-5 and his doctor will not help us. He does not believe it is as bad as it is. My father is denying everything and will not cooperate. If we get an attorney, my father will not agree to anything and his doctor will not help us. What do we do if nobody will cooperate and my father's life is falling apart? I've tried calling the Veteran's Administration and they will not call us back. I'm at a loss of what to do other than let him get in a bad situation where he sees that something is majorly wrong.
Jen C...having same problems with my husband. Three years ago I phoned 2 of his doctors to express my concerns. Doctors offices called my husband to tell him I called them and wanted permission. Past Sept husband hospitalized for 3 weeks severe kidney issues, before they released did testing etc told me he had moderate Vascular. Husband denies it, tells everyone he passed cognitive testing with flying colors. He also has white matter on brain. I hate all this.
Unfortunately, that is usually what happens. Something major (hopefully not tragic) happens and it wakes people up to the truth. I would suggest calling your local Area Agency of Aging and asking for help in your area. N4a.org
With my mother I would put her at stage 6 or 7 but quite good physically. 92 but nobody can believe it because she has got such good skin and still good muscle. Its vascular dementia and thinks she is back at school age 6 or 7. Not able to communicate very well any more and most of the other signs of someone at the late stages but every 2 weeks she will have 2 consequtive days where she is in great form where she'll walk off down to the sitting room herself and a little bit more responsive than usual..... this has been happening for the last 4 to 5 months
Can you help tell me your guess of what stage my mom is in? She must be helped from bed into a chair or toilet seat but a few times she's been able to walk to the restroom which is a few feet from her bed! She has hallucinations and babble talks at times but sometimes she can carry on short conversations with me. She sees people who have been dead and speaks with them. Sometimes she knows me (her only daughter) and sometimes she doesnt. She must be fed pureed food. She has a very good appetite. When in her wheelchair she feels the need to use her legs and feet to pull herself around the whole locked unit at her nursing home. I have to hold her still to get her to stop and sit and talk with me. She falls alot. She isn't aware of what she's wearing or how she looks at all. (she was a very vain and beautiful woman and cared how she looked before) She isn't able to do puzzles or any activity that requires thinking. Her caregivers at the nursing home tell me they think she is in end stage dementia. Her neurologist diagnosed her with Alzheimers. I just dont know what stage she is in and how long this will last! She cries almost all the time and seems so afraid. It's all heartbreaking. Can you help?
My dad was diagnosed as stage 5-6 vascular dementia 4 months ago following an MRI. He has lived with me for 12 years and I can now connect the dots as to why he has had certain behaviours over the years. I don’t know how long it will be before he needs full time care. Does anyone have an idea how long this could be? He is still very verbal and can cook, tidy up etc but has recently stopped showering and changing clothes as regularly as he was two months ago. Any help is appreciated xx
DONT WORRY!!! Your life requires lists!!! As most of our lives do. This is outside the usuals. For instance, I have temporal lobe epilepsy and have short term memory loss. When I start a load of laundry I set an alarm to move the clothes from wash to dry, then set another alarm to remind myself to get out of dryer. Now any of us might forget we started a load of clothes, etc. and need a cue. But if *I* don’t set those alarms, I LOSE the load. Does that make sense?? Its lists at a whole other level!! Don’t despair!!!
I am housekeeping for a man..I thought he was narcissist but after listening to this I think maybe he has dementia....how can I tell difference?. He's alone in the world...me too...how can I help him?😢
Very True the 3rd stage very true.i never realized I just thought it was Mom getting older Mom would even tell me that. My Mom calls the residents at nursing home Sisters. Mom calls me.Ur my husband.
There is a person here trying to market a video that says that Dementia can be identified early through certain speech patterns that are manifest as early as 3 years prior to an official diagnosis. He specifically states that the over usage of 3 words by the individual in particular will point out the key to knowing that a dementia diagnosis is inevitable. Of course you watch the video and you never hear what the words are, you need to pay money to get that information. Just wondering if you have ever heard of anything like this in terms of early detection for Dementia??
George Klassen thanks for the question! There seem to be some indicators, that if you KNEW what to watch for, in restrospect , would have clued you into a problem earlier. However, there is not consensus. I don’t know of any “three words”. One of the things that people talk about the most is the “clock test”, and there are researchers that believe if we started that simple test early, we would see some interesting changes early on. Unfortunately, there are people who take advantage of desperate families trying to find a “cure” or something to help. Thanks again for the question!
My mom is 89 and has dementia. When she was about 60 she constantly repeated the same five stories over and over again but otherwise functioned normally and was still working, etc. She still does this of course. I wonder if this is a precursor.
Thanks for the question. It is very individual. The generally reported guidelines are from 2-4 years, but the MOST ACCURATE predictor of how fast each stage will move , is how fast each stage HAS moved. Hope that make sense!
My daddy is just entering stage 5 and the progression of his Alzheimer’s seems to be speeding up . His hearing aid “dr” says due to the fact that my dad has severe hearing loss and doesn’t wear his hearing aids as much as he should, that that is speeding up his mental decline too. So I think his Alzheimer’s will progress faster than usual.
And...what are you supposed to do with them when THEY expect you to do everything? I am a single childfree lady and I am NOT a caretaker. Mom was always a narcissistic mother diagnosed. The other siblings went no contact bc of her abuse and neglect over the years. I am working 3 jobs, she refuses to let me get her a helper yet expects me to do everything. News flash...I CANT.
Bless your heart. I see your other comment too. Dementia is a cruel, catastrophic disease and it lands in a family like a bomb. It leaves no one untouched. I’m sorry the onus fell on you to care for her. I have a couple of other videos that I will post here. One on narcissists and one on caring for someone who you don’t “love”…other people label folks as your “loved one” with dementia. I know that’s not true in all cases. That’s why I use the term “person with dementia”. I will post those other videos. Below. Take care of yourself!
@Dementia With Grace thank you for being g so understanding. Many say "but THATS your mother." Well they need to see the real person behind that front door. I now video the bratty behavior. A man at senior services told me to "Document EVERYTHING, COVER YOUR A$$"...(his words, not mine). I am videoing everything
The brain seeks patterns . For ex: when we look at clouds, the brain may see a teddy bear. Intact brains, and mid dementia brains. So her brain is trying to make sense of her environment. She may see something she has recognized before, and apply it to her current environment. It’s fascinating really. Sad, yes. But also a peek into the brain. All my love as you navigate the journey. Vicky
My grandma had dementia not because she was old because she had to wear a mask when she was sleeping dont know what its called she was close to 75 when she got dementia.
Yes, if they are suffering with delusions AND dementia. Come join the group and ask questions there! More people than me can answer!! Link in description
I caregive for my mom. She is 89. Every morning she thinks she has a job to go to. She’s thrown a bar of soap at me, attacked me with a wrench and a stick. I feel like she’s pulling me into a grave with her. Two years ago she blurted out that she put a baby girl up for adoption. Something she’s kept from us. Turns out it’s true and wish she kept it to herself. My sister lives two hours away. She calls her to tell her I’m “incarcerating” her.
Some of these things happen to people when they’re teenagers. A lot of organized people or people with OCD make lists, it does not mean they’re in any stage of dementia. I could go on and on. This list I don’t know where it came from but my God don’t ever put your family member in that hospital. Wow
Jeff Shipp thanks for the comment! Have you watched some of my newer videos? I THINK I am getting better. 🥰 Done is better than perfect!! Be well! Love and Joy! Vicky
Jeff, check out this one. Less um’s! ua-cam.com/video/hkRXHYekkLc/v-deo.html How did you find me? Do you have a connection with dementia? I just do my best to get the info out there!!!
Hi Grace. You are blessed to take criticism well. I am impressed. I will watch your next video for sure. I am suffering a good deal and doctors are trying to figure it out. I hate comparing symptoms on the internet to self diagnose but there is something cathartic about. You were a top result from searching early signs of dementia.
my Darling husband seems to be progressing so quickly...he is nearly non verbal except for a sentence or two and short sentences. seeing his beautiful smile and him crying are lesser and lesser...we listen to his favourite songs and he used to cry and now, his eyes just seems empty of emotions but I know, he is listening...I tell him...how much I love him and I would never leave him...that was his fear when he was still more lucid...he would say...to never leave him and I assured him...I never will...I am with him daily at the Care center daily...travelling 3 bus rides each way...I love him soooo much and pray that he would not suffer in the end...looking back over the 15 yrs...he has had the symptoms and this last 4 yrs....I knew something was not right...but he refused to see a Specialist until the day, he had to be rushed to emergency...I pray for all patients suffering with this illness as well as their loved ones grieving the loss of a beautiful mind and soul....Thank you for this video.
I've always been a list maker. If I have a lot of boring, mundane things to do at least I feel I've achieved something at the end of the day!!
Absolutely! Me too
Thanks for your simple and clear explanation of the 7 steps of Dementia. I now realise my wife is late 6 to early 7 and this is most helpful. Am still able to look after her but am acutely aware that help will be needed soon or within the next 6 months to a year. Keep up the good work.
Knowledge is power. This is so helpful.
I have watched my Mother slide back and forth between stages. She lost the ability to take care of herself, but still remained articulate and could pass the cognitive exam easily. However, she had lost the ability to pay her bills, manage her money, and make decisions about important matters. I realized later this is why she'd insist she had done something because she thought about something. She also became very critical of everyone and everything to the point no one wanted to spend time with her. She's in a nursing home now and just lost the ability to swallow easily, has a Foley catheter because she went from 100% incontinence to not being able to go at all. She sleeps most of the day only waking up for meals, changes, showers, and medication.
I know this video is old but I have just found you. I've already learned so much from you. My brother has dementia & I've been devouring info & videos. Thank you so very much for your expertise & great info.
Good, clear description of the various stages.
Very helpful, thank you
i have also notice that the person is sleeping longer hours
Thank you for your vlog. I like that you talk in every day terms. Not medical jargon. I look forward to more info. My husband is in between 2-3.
Well, I make list. I have my whole life so I guess I’m in stage three …I’ve never heard of such a thing being a thing… I’ve made a list my entire life.
Is my mom between phase 5 and six? She's confused where she is (nursing home). She still seems to have good memory, but can't do things for herself any more. She just sits there all the time. She is very demanding, calls and messages several times a day. Constantly has demands about seeing doctors, needing medicines, certain foods, this goes on all the time. We are far from her and busy with our lives and cannot cater to her every whim. She on and off forgets to use her phone, will then swear at me, not realizing I can hear her, even when she can't hear me. I'm having a tough time. We were never close. I was physically abused by her my entire childhood.
I hope you're not taking it out on her. Dementia is a horrible disease.
This was very helpful as my husband has gone from Stage 3 to 5 in less than a year and sleep especially has increased. He also has Parkinson's which exacerbates all the symptoms. The VA has given me 40 hours/week or home assistance which has been invaluable. When a memory care facility is required, he will be going to the Delaware Veteran's Home because at only 75 currently the civilian facilities are generally women in the 80s and 90s. Thanks for your informative video and God bless your work.
Linda, could you please advise my of how to get the home assistance from VA? My hubby just started getting a pension from VA and did you get on a waiting list for the VA home? I think my hubby is in stage 5 and thinking I will need more help soon. We have an appt. with a neurologist in October and hope for a specific diagnosis. I am thinking Alz with Lewy Bodies.
Nana is currently stage 6. She does have some “spark💥” moments when she’s able to tell stories and talk to you functionally in great detail or sing, and other days she can’t talk in complete sentences or even eat properly/use bathroom without help.
Vicky, these videos are priceless. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and your thoughts! Listening to you is like listening to a trusted friend! Thank you!🥰
Subscribed and I want to tell you that I enjoyed hearing your explanations of the stages. I have a friend who has been diagnosed I don’t remember what stage it’s early but knowing all this makes it easier for the caregiver I think to know what’s coming and how to prepare for it. I myself about lol maybe a year year and a half ago. I started noticing things about myself and so I’m not in denial. I know things are coming. Probably that I don’t want to have happen But. i’m eating years old now and I’m going to try to hang on as long as I can keep my mind safe. But I know life takes its toll but thank you so much for making these videos. They’re very informative and helpful. Thank you again.
Your video at tonight was very helpful. I’m here taking care of my mom now & Trying to understand her changes.
Let me know if I can help any further. ❤️ Vicky
Thank you so much for your videos...they are so helpful to me.
Thank you for the videos, my MIL is at the end of stage six and enterig stage 7 and unfortunately she has vascular dementia and as you know that is very aggressive, her doctor said she probably only has a year left.
I'm sorry for your journey. Consider joining the group...link in description...so much support and advice there...Vicky
Thank you for your videos, they are so helpful.
This really helped me understand the stages so much better.
Very helpful.I love your attitude . Thanks for sharing your knowledge it helps me stay sane when dealing with my mother
I’m glad it helps you! Come over to the group and find loads of support from me and everyone else!! Link in video description!! Hang in there!! I’m rooting for you!! ❤️❤️❤️ Vicky
This video helped me understand better what my aunt is going through. She stopped eating a few days ago and is no longer alert or speaking. 😢💔 Thank you for sharing the info on the different stages.
You are saving my life. Thank you very much.
Beautiful job again; love you Vicki!
Thank you great education and needed
Glad it was helpful! ❤️❤️❤️
I am going crazy!! from the time I moved in with my mom her disease has progressed, she becomes so mean and hurtful she had me in tears a few times. i don't know what to do anymore, I am desperate in need of help. she does not trust me and makes up all these lies hides her bank cards, she doesn't understand that she has medical bills that need to be paid and for her personal use. she hides everything and doesn't know where she put it.
Lorraine Siri come on over to the Facebook Group!!!!!! So much help over there. Hundred of ACTIVE caregivers to help in real time! Link in video description! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
@@DementiaWithGrace how do i link in video
@@DementiaWithGrace Do you mean click on your videos
Your examples are so spot on!😅
You are wonderful. We are in the process of getting my little momma in a nursing home. I think it's topped as one of the worse things I've experienced, along with the loss of my Dad last year. My mom it's in stage 5/ showing signs of stage 6. Keep your videos coming they help
You are so welcome! I have been having some health problems, too, so hopefully I am on he road to recovery and will be back at video making soon! Come join the group! I'm inside there every day! Link in comments! Vicky
Thank you for taking the time to make these videos. My mom was just diagnosed but is obviously in stage 6. She is having tons of hallucinations & paranoia. I am trying to gain strength for the future by arming myself with information.
Connie Pavey I’m glad you found these!! Come on over to FB and join the Support Group. It’s a great group of people who offer help to each other! Link is in every video description. ~Vicky
You aren't alone. It's hard. ❤
Thank you very informative. Can you please talk about the different types to understand more about these. My mum has a rare type which I don't know much about posterior cortical atrophy. Feel free to tag me into anything to help. Thanks Michelle ❤
My loved one started to hide 'valuable' things about nine-ten years ago. She didn't put them in a lockbox--she hid them. I put it down to her usual paranoia, but now I'm wondering if it was a sign... especially since she would forget where she hid them sometimes.
I just found your channel and appreciate you so much. My husband has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease and I didn’t know anything. His symptoms are all over the board but I believe that he is in early to mid stage. His neurologist is not very encouraging at all so I am looking for support from others. I am not on Facebook so not able to join your support group.
I really appreciate all you’re doing and will follow you on UA-cam. I live in Alabama so I instantly connected with you. Thanks again
The Grace videos are GREAT WONDERFUL HELPFUL 😮AND HARD😢.THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH FOR LETTING US KNOW EVERYTHING THAT WE NEED TO TO KNOW GOD IS USEING YOU IN GREAT WAY.😊
Thank you
Thank you so much. I learned so much. I needed to find support as I'm pretty alone in this situation.My Dad is in stage 6. I was able to get him in memory care. I'm so very thankful I found your videos. ❤💙
Big love! ❤️
I can relate to your situation.I was able to have my daddy live in a mobile home on our property for the last 7 yrs and we enjoyed many good times together .We both love gardening,vegetables and flowers,we played board games as long as his mind allowed him to,we watched travelogues of places in Wyoming where he worked on ranches as a 13 yr old.
Unfortunately my daddy’s mixed dementia escalated quite rapidly after he had an ischemic stroke in 2020 and he demanded more of my time than I could physically and mentally give him.(I also have my 74 yr old husband that has disabilities himself and my 88 yr old momma that lives near me too( parents divorced 27 yrs ago).
Daddy got pneumonia aug 12 and after just 1 week of hospitalization his dementia escalated to the point that he needed 24/7 care.
Daddy was extremely lonely and told me “ I don’t want to live alone w just my dog anymore,I wish I had died before it came to this😢”
So he is now living in an Alzheimer’s unit at a nursing home 5 minutes from me and he is much happier being w the 16 other residents just like himself.
It is hard on me , I miss seeing him around my house, but I take solace in the fact that he is happy and feels secure there.
I am able to take time now to build my health back up after feeling so exhausted from my caregiver role most of my adult life.
Wish you the best w your dad🙂❤️ 9:35
Thank You so much! What 'stage' is Paranoid? They accuse you of stealing when they actually misplace. Accuse everyone of stealing.
Susan, it can be in for but more commonly in five. I have a video here in the channel about false accusations. Maybe look for that one for help
Thank you!
Hi Vicky, Patty Ahalt suggested I look at your video on youtube.. thank you, as always, for all you do for caregivers.
Hello and thank you for providing this awareness 🙏 my sister seems to think we need to place our sister in some sort of memory care. What is Memory Care? What does this consist of?❤
And this bring her back to her normal self
Thank you for your video I can learn what stage my husband now he is dementia
You are welcome! Prayers for you and your husband…
Thank you for a description of the stages Dementia x
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Hello Grace. I appreciate your videos very much. My wife and I are currently going through these processes with my Mother in Law. Although she has not been officially diagnosed by a doctor, we are relatively certain that my wife's mom is in stage 5-6. We see overlapping of the stages as she displays behaviors of both 5 and 6 tbh. She is currently 95 years old. I just subscribed to your channel. :)
Wonderful!
Very informative video, thank you so much for the info. 😊
Thank you so much for taking the time to help those of us who are caregivers
You were brilliant
Wonderful, thank you!
Thank you for this. I feel like my mom is in mixed stages. Short term is most clearly impacted. But sporadically she loses the sequence of things that happened in the past. Or she will be confused if I have siblings (I have 3 older sisters, she is our step mom but helped raise us for 40 years). The concept of what is safe and isn't is clearly not there! But I can still see some of her actual personality come out still.
I so appreciate your videos
New subscriber. My mummy would be stage 6-7. She’s just been put into hospital level care today here in New Zealand. My dad looked after right up until he physically couldn’t. So he’s dealing with losing his best friend of 70 years 😢. It’s a struggle. Losing my mum piece by piece. Thankyou for your informative video x
Super helpful! Thank you.
Excellent video
Thank you. I love the way you explain things. I believe my momma is in stage 6 although she is having trouble finishing her sentences and gets choked 3 or 4 times a month.
Thank you for this video.
Can you speak to those with vascular dementia? Thank you.
Hi Grace..Great Job
Thanks for the info. I believe my friend is bridging 5&6. He can still eat, he is hanging in to dressing himself. He’ll put different shoe on but will put them on the right feet. He get aggressive at times. Hates and I mean hates bathing, love to play with the toilet love to see the water go down. He’ll throw thing it to watch them disappear 😂. Live in his youth. We tell him his age and he say there is no way he is that age. He says he is 30. He recognizes himself when he was in his early twenties but not anymore. He remembers my friend but not anyone’s else. He feeds himself and dresses himself and will straighten out/ make his bed. He is always saying he is going home referring to his home when he was a kid. He is always looking for his parents.
It’s absolutely 💔!!!. But he is with friends and we give him 24/7 care. He is with use because his family didn’t want the responsibility of caring for him. But he is safe and healthy!! Oh and he love to dine out everyday. He always has. That’s one thing he hasn’t forgotten eating out
Where can I find a website to find these stages? I was a dementia care nurse and never heard of stages. Thank you.
I have mci, but it is progressing in my opinion. I have a lost day in August of last year. I have hallucinations. Going to Dr in May for testing.
Jaci Rogers all my love, Jaci Rogers. ♥️♥️♥️ How brave you must be. If I can help in ANY way, say the word.
Prayers for you!
Excellent
Thank you so much 😀
My father is probably at stage 4-5 and his doctor will not help us. He does not believe it is as bad as it is. My father is denying everything and will not cooperate. If we get an attorney, my father will not agree to anything and his doctor will not help us. What do we do if nobody will cooperate and my father's life is falling apart? I've tried calling the Veteran's Administration and they will not call us back. I'm at a loss of what to do other than let him get in a bad situation where he sees that something is majorly wrong.
Jen C...having same problems with my husband. Three years ago I phoned 2 of his doctors to express my concerns. Doctors offices called my husband to tell him I called them and wanted permission. Past Sept husband hospitalized for 3 weeks severe kidney issues, before they released did testing etc told me he had moderate Vascular. Husband denies it, tells everyone he passed cognitive testing with flying colors.
He also has white matter on brain.
I hate all this.
Unfortunately, that is usually what happens. Something major (hopefully not tragic) happens and it wakes people up to the truth. I would suggest calling your local Area Agency of Aging and asking for help in your area. N4a.org
Whats the time lune once in stage 7
With my mother I would put her at stage 6 or 7 but quite good physically. 92 but nobody can believe it because she has got such good skin and still good muscle. Its vascular dementia and thinks she is back at school age 6 or 7. Not able to communicate very well any more and most of the other signs of someone at the late stages but every 2 weeks she will have 2 consequtive days where she is in great form where she'll walk off down to the sitting room herself and a little bit more responsive than usual..... this has been happening for the last 4 to 5 months
Can you help tell me your guess of what stage my mom is in? She must be helped from bed into a chair or toilet seat but a few times she's been able to walk to the restroom which is a few feet from her bed! She has hallucinations and babble talks at times but sometimes she can carry on short conversations with me. She sees people who have been dead and speaks with them. Sometimes she knows me (her only daughter) and sometimes she doesnt. She must be fed pureed food. She has a very good appetite. When in her wheelchair she feels the need to use her legs and feet to pull herself around the whole locked unit at her nursing home. I have to hold her still to get her to stop and sit and talk with me. She falls alot. She isn't aware of what she's wearing or how she looks at all. (she was a very vain and beautiful woman and cared how she looked before) She isn't able to do puzzles or any activity that requires thinking. Her caregivers at the nursing home tell me they think she is in end stage dementia. Her neurologist diagnosed her with Alzheimers. I just dont know what stage she is in and how long this will last! She cries almost all the time and seems so afraid. It's all heartbreaking. Can you help?
Thank you, like your videos
i love your videos please give me some advice!
You are the very BEST ❤
Thank you for this great dementia video!
I kept waiting to see the 7 stages. Took at least five minutes to even get to stage 1. Should have shown it up front.
This was one of my early videos. Please look at the other stages video on the playlist. I have a video just on 6/7. Thanks for the feedback.
My dad was diagnosed as stage 5-6 vascular dementia 4 months ago following an MRI. He has lived with me for 12 years and I can now connect the dots as to why he has had certain behaviours over the years.
I don’t know how long it will be before he needs full time care. Does anyone have an idea how long this could be? He is still very verbal and can cook, tidy up etc but has recently stopped showering and changing clothes as regularly as he was two months ago. Any help is appreciated xx
Hey! Thanks for the question…the ballpark is 2 years, but everyone is different. I hope that helps
@@DementiaWithGrace thank you for your reply
I make lists every day as I am a teacher with 5 preps and live by myself. Lists = stage 3? I'm screwed 😢.
DONT WORRY!!! Your life requires lists!!! As most of our lives do. This is outside the usuals. For instance, I have temporal lobe epilepsy and have short term memory loss. When I start a load of laundry I set an alarm to move the clothes from wash to dry, then set another alarm to remind myself to get out of dryer. Now any of us might forget we started a load of clothes, etc. and need a cue. But if *I* don’t set those alarms, I LOSE the load. Does that make sense?? Its lists at a whole other level!! Don’t despair!!!
I am housekeeping for a man..I thought he was narcissist but after listening to this I think maybe he has dementia....how can I tell difference?.
He's alone in the world...me too...how can I help him?😢
Stage 5 or 6, but husband can shower but makes a list, I keep his medication and times are off.
do you know anything about Posterior cortical atrophy. my wife was 54 when she found out and now she 58 and I think she is in stage 6
my mom recognizes me but everything thing else is stage 6 :(
You missed passwords!
Very True the 3rd stage very true.i never realized I just thought it was Mom getting older Mom would even tell me that.
My Mom calls the residents at nursing home Sisters.
Mom calls me.Ur my husband.
After my mom cannot swallow anymore how would I feed her ?
There is a person here trying to market a video that says that Dementia can be identified early through certain speech patterns that are manifest as early as 3 years prior to an official diagnosis. He specifically states that the over usage of 3 words by the individual in particular will point out the key to knowing that a dementia diagnosis is inevitable. Of course you watch the video and you never hear what the words are, you need to pay money to get that information. Just wondering if you have ever heard of anything like this in terms of early detection for Dementia??
George Klassen thanks for the question! There seem to be some indicators, that if you KNEW what to watch for, in restrospect , would have clued you into a problem earlier. However, there is not consensus. I don’t know of any “three words”. One of the things that people talk about the most is the “clock test”, and there are researchers that believe if we started that simple test early, we would see some interesting changes early on. Unfortunately, there are people who take advantage of desperate families trying to find a “cure” or something to help. Thanks again for the question!
My mom is 89 and has dementia. When she was about 60 she constantly repeated the same five stories over and over again but otherwise functioned normally and was still working, etc. She still does this of course. I wonder if this is a precursor.
i think i am change 2
How much time passes between each stage usually?
Thanks for the question. It is very individual. The generally reported guidelines are from 2-4 years, but the MOST ACCURATE predictor of how fast each stage will move , is how fast each stage HAS moved. Hope that make sense!
My daddy is just entering stage 5 and the progression of his Alzheimer’s seems to be speeding up .
His hearing aid “dr” says due to the fact that my dad has severe hearing loss and doesn’t wear his hearing aids as much as he should, that that is speeding up his mental decline too.
So I think his Alzheimer’s will progress faster than usual.
And...what are you supposed to do with them when THEY expect you to do everything? I am a single childfree lady and I am NOT a caretaker. Mom was always a narcissistic mother diagnosed. The other siblings went no contact bc of her abuse and neglect over the years. I am working 3 jobs, she refuses to let me get her a helper yet expects me to do everything.
News flash...I CANT.
Bless your heart. I see your other comment too. Dementia is a cruel, catastrophic disease and it lands in a family like a bomb. It leaves no one untouched. I’m sorry the onus fell on you to care for her. I have a couple of other videos that I will post here. One on narcissists and one on caring for someone who you don’t “love”…other people label folks as your “loved one” with dementia. I know that’s not true in all cases. That’s why I use the term “person with dementia”. I will post those other videos. Below. Take care of yourself!
ua-cam.com/video/AqsBfDdeF8c/v-deo.html
@Dementia With Grace thank you for being g so understanding. Many say "but THATS your mother." Well they need to see the real person behind that front door. I now video the bratty behavior. A man at senior services told me to "Document EVERYTHING, COVER YOUR A$$"...(his words, not mine). I am videoing everything
My Mother is in a home, but she's in a hospital, a motel, or an apartment...
The brain seeks patterns . For ex: when we look at clouds, the brain may see a teddy bear. Intact brains, and mid dementia brains. So her brain is trying to make sense of her environment. She may see something she has recognized before, and apply it to her current environment. It’s fascinating really. Sad, yes. But also a peek into the brain. All my love as you navigate the journey. Vicky
My grandma had dementia not because she was old because she had to wear a mask when she was sleeping dont know what its called she was close to 75 when she got dementia.
Ghosthunter775 thanks for your comment!
The mask was called a cpap I know what its called
I wear a c-pap. I’ve never heard that it causes dementia.
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Jeez according to this I am in at least stage 3 or 4 😂🙈
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could they also be able to bathe themself use a bank card but dont know that they are living in their own home
Yes, if they are suffering with delusions AND dementia. Come join the group and ask questions there! More people than me can answer!! Link in description
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All my love, Cindy
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She always yells, shouts, flips me off when I leave...cause she's 86 and says she wants a job. Omfg. She's mad that I have a job and she doesnt. Wth.
Here’s the other video. I shared one under your other comment too! ua-cam.com/video/AoGYMHBHCEY/v-deo.html
I caregive for my mom. She is 89. Every morning she thinks she has a job to go to. She’s thrown a bar of soap at me, attacked me with a wrench and a stick. I feel like she’s pulling me into a grave with her. Two years ago she blurted out that she put a baby girl up for adoption. Something she’s kept from us. Turns out it’s true and wish she kept it to herself. My sister lives two hours away. She calls her to tell her I’m “incarcerating” her.
Some of these things happen to people when they’re teenagers. A lot of organized people or people with OCD make lists, it does not mean they’re in any stage of dementia. I could go on and on. This list I don’t know where it came from but my God don’t ever put your family member in that hospital. Wow
Of course you consider these things in context! If I can answer anything more specific, I would be happy to help!
I watched this to learn more about Joe Biden.
Work on saying um less
Jeff Shipp thanks for the comment! Have you watched some of my newer videos? I THINK I am getting better. 🥰 Done is better than perfect!! Be well! Love and Joy! Vicky
Jeff, check out this one. Less um’s! ua-cam.com/video/hkRXHYekkLc/v-deo.html How did you find me? Do you have a connection with dementia? I just do my best to get the info out there!!!
Hi Grace. You are blessed to take criticism well. I am impressed. I will watch your next video for sure.
I am suffering a good deal and doctors are trying to figure it out. I hate comparing symptoms on the internet to self diagnose but there is something cathartic about.
You were a top result from searching early signs of dementia.
Jeff Shipp Bless you. Watch this one. It is about my journey with my chronic illness, and why I do what I do and how! I will link it. Hold on!
ua-cam.com/video/hkRXHYekkLc/v-deo.html love and joy! Vicky
Thank you for sharing
My pleasure!
Thank you for the info.