Been separated almost a year from my wife. I was the one that broke the camel's back to make her leave, but she has managed to do her major love busters while we have been apart. We are talking about her moving back, but we are both scared to death about living together again. Distance has been safety to some extent.
I think it normal to have concerns about moving back together, but I think what would help is for you and your partner to sit down and have some serious and candid conversations on what your fears are and also talk on things that initiated the separation so as not to make the same mistakes again. If need be, you could go see a Christian marriage counselor together to hasten the process
once you understands what limerence is and the chemicals in the body how they work you can understand her more .empathy. a good spouse who made a mistake is worth saving. marriage helper is forever keep learning in good and bad times it will help y'all avoid and detect anything that is harmful for you and the marriage.
We both did things to each other but he won’t reconcile because of trust so shouldn’t we work on trust before reconciling??? Everything you said he cheated and i opened my mouth before finding you guys so how do I work on the trust??? I’m working on myself but how do I earn trust???
Then why did you get married in the first place and why would you want to stay married? Once you answer those questions, you'll have your answer. There are a lot of different types of marriages. Not all of them are based on love and they can still be succesful. It's up to you to decide what that looks like.
I'm 42, a christian who reads my bible, love women, not married, but have many trust issues from life in general. My qyestion as a single man who is looking for a right relatiinship in this terrible culture, is, if I did get married to a good woman, whi did make a terrible mistake and cheat, why SHOULD I reconcile. I'm really struggling with this idea. Thank you.
You don't have to take her back life shouldn't be lived with people you don't trust. It's too much stress. I say make sue you have all your assets in your moms name or a trust that she can't touch before marriage at lest you will know she can't get them if she becomes disloyal and untrustworthy that you have to go the divorce route
True indeed. We just have to vert our partners thoroughly especially if its someone for marriage. Always have true intentions on your part but be extremely observant. Time reveals all 🙏🏾
Been separated almost a year from my wife. I was the one that broke the camel's back to make her leave, but she has managed to do her major love busters while we have been apart. We are talking about her moving back, but we are both scared to death about living together again. Distance has been safety to some extent.
I think it normal to have concerns about moving back together, but I think what would help is for you and your partner to sit down and have some serious and candid conversations on what your fears are and also talk on things that initiated the separation so as not to make the same mistakes again. If need be, you could go see a Christian marriage counselor together to hasten the process
Dr. Henry Clouds newer book “Trust” is a must!
once you understands what limerence is and the chemicals in the body how they work you can understand her more .empathy. a good spouse who made a mistake is worth saving. marriage helper is forever keep learning in good and bad times it will help y'all avoid and detect anything that is harmful for you and the marriage.
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We both did things to each other but he won’t reconcile because of trust so shouldn’t we work on trust before reconciling??? Everything you said he cheated and i opened my mouth before finding you guys so how do I work on the trust??? I’m working on myself but how do I earn trust???
What tis stabilisation
What if you never loved them or built that trust with your spouse?
Then why did you get married in the first place and why would you want to stay married? Once you answer those questions, you'll have your answer. There are a lot of different types of marriages. Not all of them are based on love and they can still be succesful. It's up to you to decide what that looks like.
I'm 42, a christian who reads my bible, love women, not married, but have many trust issues from life in general. My qyestion as a single man who is looking for a right relatiinship in this terrible culture, is, if I did get married to a good woman, whi did make a terrible mistake and cheat, why SHOULD I reconcile. I'm really struggling with this idea. Thank you.
You don't have to take her back life shouldn't be lived with people you don't trust. It's too much stress. I say make sue you have all your assets in your moms name or a trust that she can't touch before marriage at lest you will know she can't get them if she becomes disloyal and untrustworthy that you have to go the divorce route
@@chronic808 What a tough thing this life is. Some of us can't seem to win either way we go. Thank God He is always true..
True indeed. We just have to vert our partners thoroughly especially if its someone for marriage. Always have true intentions on your part but be extremely observant. Time reveals all 🙏🏾
@@chronic808 Boom.
It depends on how much u value the marriage unfortunately almost all marriage suffer someone cheating. Even in christen marriage.