I went on my first date widowed after 40 years and he was a widow too. I drove to his house and he drove to dinner. It must have gone great we are 8 years married now.
These are great outfits for date nights with your husband too! I met my husband 10 years ago (I was 50) and we’ve been inseparable since! I love dressing sexy (but tasteful) for him, and for myself. Fun fact: A colleague told me after my previous divorce that I was too old to find a man, that men in their 50s want younger women. I cried and cried, then a few weeks later met the man I’m currently married to:) NEVER let anybody play mind games with you!!
Oh I love this story and it’s so true! I had a friend of mine tell me the same thing and the last 2 guys I’ve dated were 51 and happy to date a 50 year old because they said they had nothing in common with the younger ones. ❤️❤️
Heather, all the outfits look fantastic on you. I know that you’re a stylist though and I’d love to see you style some women - maybe your friends? - who don’t have your perfect figure or ability to wear heels. I love when you say “the fit is impeccable” because it would not be impeccable on me! And I’m not overweight or ugly - I just don’t have your thin hourglass body. Some of us have different body types and still like to look fashionable!!
You've truly been leveling up your videos regarding variety of content. You seem revived and so fresh. I think you're on the other side, Heather. You're doing just great❤
omgi LOVE your dating stories and that you show outfits you actually wore on dates!!! no one does that!!! you look gorg. tysm. im in my 30s and learning a lot! dating for. marriage and kids its tough out here. love all the looks. oxox
Oh so Heather - I am so LOVING these!! Please keep them coming ❤ “of course he likes me, I am amazing!” Your outfits all look so stunning on you! Everything looks awesome on you cause you take such good care of your body. 💪🏼
Your favorite question- about a person’s last relationship and what it was like or how did it end-- my now husband basically refused the r was uncomfortable talking about any of his past relationships with me until several years into our relationship- in which then he opened up completely. I asked why he wouldn’t talk about the subject early on and his answer was - our relationship had nothing to do with past relationships and he also respected prior relationships as to not talk about private relationships. I totally respect him for that and so should the women who previously had a relationship with this utmost standing respectful man.
As women we have great intuition and we must learn to always follow it. I like you tip on how does this person make you feel? There should an ease and calm.
I am so thankful I never had to “date” - my relationships typically were always friendships where we did things together that were so natural and organic and the “relationship” part grew out of the friendship and fun we had together - which were never “dates.” I have no idea how this happens with me - so naturally- but I am extremely grateful it’s been totally organic and natural within my life and therefore, I never had to “date” a man!
Thanks for the video...Great tips although I differ from your opinion on wide leg jeans on a 1st, 2nd or any time...I think with most things even skinny leg jeans which are not trending as much today...It really depends more on your shape and some shapes will look better in a skinny leg jean as some might look better in a wide leg jean...My favorite jeans are wide leg which have been altered and they are very flattering on me and on trend if you follow trends...I'm 57 and have gotten so many compliments because I believe they compliment my shape nicely and especially in heels. I think people just need to know what looks good on them and that means experimenting sometimes...You're tall, thin and fabulous...but we don't all have you stature or figure. lol IJS...Thank you for your video.
@@monicalong1371 just being slim doesn’t make you look tall, lol. I know plenty of slim women who do not dress as fabulously as Heather…why do you think we all tune in here? Her great fashion sense and her ability to maximize her strengths. Even though I am not thin, I have learned a lot from her, and I use the same ideas she teaches to make myself look taller (I’m 5’2”).
I love the jeans w the Michael Stars grey t shirt The brown long dress! I loved every look actually. The tip about the anxiety feeling is spot on. Thank u Heather. Jana - Texas
Asking deep questions was my favorite tip, but all of your tips are good. As for first dates, I can't imagine going on multiple first dates. I'm a boomer married 55 years, but even when I was young, my dating life was very spare. As for total strangers, that alone would be a red flag.
I love the Jean dress! ❤ I just turned 50 and have been off and on the dating apps. I can’t do them anymore. Trying to meet someone organically. I just need cute outfits to go out in;)
You look great in everything. I live in a beach town in Florida. I’d be way overdressed if I wore any of your outfits. I don’t date so I guess it’s irrelevant. 😂 Glad you’re having fun.
Heather, you absolutely rocked every single one of those outfits. They are all classy and tastefully sexy without being too revealing. I think all your dating tips are spot on, and I'm also very happy not to have to navigate the dating scene at my age (happily married for 27 years). Your experience with that situationship happend to me too at age 22. It was exactly as you described, and tore me apart emotionally, but it was a learning experience also for me to trust my instincts. So many people play games, but it sounds like you might have found a good one. Glad you're having fun.
Hey Lady, long time sub here....your sound would be much better if you had a rug in that filming space or if you were in a smaller room. Just trying to be helpful!🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
Always love your outfits 😍 just darling ❤ Could you please show us how to tie your silver belt that you always like to wear and also what width and length of belt we need to pull this off? Thanks 😊
Thank you for the tips I like that you're sharing your new path that I am also on. I like, trust your instinct and how you feel? Being now almost 2 years into the relationship, just had one experience that I did not like the way I felt. In the quandary now, knowing nothings perfect, but at the same time is this how the not so perfect times will be? I am taking a few steps back and giving myself time to think, feel and watch. Thank you!! Sound is loud and a bit echoie :)
Ok I’m new to your channel and I really like it so far but I’ve noticed the prices on the outfits your showing which are totally out of my price range can you do a video on outfits similar to what your showing but at a lower price point please that would be great I’m not dating I’m married but I always like to look my best suggestion for you why don’t you try an updo like Kim K did it would look great with the outfits your showing thank Heather ❤
Since the data says 1 in 6 people is narcissistic, it is important to weed them out. One early test you can do is to tell them “no” with a smile to a request they make. Observe how they react…a narcissist will have a hard time dealing with a no. Since we are more agreeable in the beginning of relationships, we get lured in by the narcissist easily, and then it is harder to get away. Saying no immediately may alert you to a potential problem so you can cut your losses sooner. I wish I knew this when I was dating, lol.
Hi heather. When dating. Do not start asking the guy questions questions don’t get personal ! Don’t talk about anything g personal either. Just go out and have fun Don’t talk so much either. No wonder you didn’t get a second date Pls. Just go out and have good time. Keep it light
Why can’t you also ask: are you looking for a committed relationship? Would you marry? If he answers No that can save you wasting your time if you are looking for a committed relationship.
Hi oh dear. Your wearing leather !? Never. Stay classy feminine No. Black leather. Oh my !? Your giving advice. True never start cooking for the guy either or hang out at your house. Have them take you out
There is no echo. Hi Heather my name is Mary I’m in my late 40s. Glad to have found your channel. I live in the DFW area as well. Divorced end of 2021 started dating about April 2022. Went through FB dating and Bumble was amazed at the crazy and not very good experiences I was having burnt out by July. I met someone I have fallen deeply in love with September 2022 on eharmony. He is from Austin as well. I found a few similarities with your life journey and felt like reaching out to you. Would love for you to put out more life lessons videos. It’s hard dating at this age and there are all kinds of people out there. These videos will definitely help women out there who may feel defeated and lost and feel like something is wrong with them. Thank you
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I went on my first date widowed after 40 years and he was a widow too. I drove to his house and he drove to dinner. It must have gone great we are 8 years married now.
These are great outfits for date nights with your husband too! I met my husband 10 years ago (I was 50) and we’ve been inseparable since! I love dressing sexy (but tasteful) for him, and for myself.
Fun fact: A colleague told me after my previous divorce that I was too old to find a man, that men in their 50s want younger women. I cried and cried, then a few weeks later met the man I’m currently married to:) NEVER let anybody play mind games with you!!
Oh I love this story and it’s so true! I had a friend of mine tell me the same thing and the last 2 guys I’ve dated were 51 and happy to date a 50 year old because they said they had nothing in common with the younger ones. ❤️❤️
Heather, all the outfits look fantastic on you. I know that you’re a stylist though and I’d love to see you style some women - maybe your friends? - who don’t have your perfect figure or ability to wear heels. I love when you say “the fit is impeccable” because it would not be impeccable on me! And I’m not overweight or ugly - I just don’t have your thin hourglass body. Some of us have different body types and still like to look fashionable!!
Great idea!!!
You've truly been leveling up your videos regarding variety of content. You seem revived and so fresh. I think you're on the other side, Heather. You're doing just great❤
Thank you so much ❤❤
omgi LOVE your dating stories and that you show outfits you actually wore on dates!!! no one does that!!! you look gorg. tysm. im in my 30s and learning a lot! dating for. marriage and kids its tough out here. love all the looks. oxox
The sound is the best I have ever heard online. It is so clear. I love it.
Amazing thank you so much!! 😊
I loved the olive outfit and the best advice was to pay attention to how we feel during the date.
Oh so Heather - I am so LOVING these!! Please keep them coming ❤ “of course he likes me, I am amazing!” Your outfits all look so stunning on you! Everything looks awesome on you cause you take such good care of your body. 💪🏼
Thank you so much!! 😊
The dark denim tube dress looked amazing on you.
Thank you so much!! 😊
Your favorite question- about a person’s last relationship and what it was like or how did it end-- my now husband basically refused the r was uncomfortable talking about any of his past relationships with me until several years into our relationship- in which then he opened up completely. I asked why he wouldn’t talk about the subject early on and his answer was - our relationship had nothing to do with past relationships and he also respected prior relationships as to not talk about private relationships. I totally respect him for that and so should the women who previously had a relationship with this utmost standing respectful man.
He was also uninterested in knowing or talking about any of my past relationships, too.
Heather, I’m so happy for you! You deserve to be happy and I pray that you find the love of your life. I really believe that you’re a lovely person.
As women we have great intuition and we must learn to always follow it. I like you tip on how does this person make you feel? There should an ease and calm.
I am so thankful I never had to “date” - my relationships typically were always friendships where we did things together that were so natural and organic and the “relationship” part grew out of the friendship and fun we had together - which were never “dates.” I have no idea how this happens with me - so naturally- but I am extremely grateful it’s been totally organic and natural within my life and therefore, I never had to “date” a man!
Your commentary is spot on! More power to you, Heather!
Thanks for the video...Great tips although I differ from your opinion on wide leg jeans on a 1st, 2nd or any time...I think with most things even skinny leg jeans which are not trending as much today...It really depends more on your shape and some shapes will look better in a skinny leg jean as some might look better in a wide leg jean...My favorite jeans are wide leg which have been altered and they are very flattering on me and on trend if you follow trends...I'm 57 and have gotten so many compliments because I believe they compliment my shape nicely and especially in heels. I think people just need to know what looks good on them and that means experimenting sometimes...You're tall, thin and fabulous...but we don't all have you stature or figure. lol IJS...Thank you for your video.
I always thought Heather was tall too, but I believe she is petite, about 5’4”…she just knows how to dress to look her best!
@@Katrn30 She looks taller because she is so slim.
@@monicalong1371 just being slim doesn’t make you look tall, lol. I know plenty of slim women who do not dress as fabulously as Heather…why do you think we all tune in here? Her great fashion sense and her ability to maximize her strengths. Even though I am not thin, I have learned a lot from her, and I use the same ideas she teaches to make myself look taller (I’m 5’2”).
That denim jumpsuit is amazing . Recently purchased one to wear for a concert.
I love all tips. I love the olive green outfit, the long camel maxi dress. All of your outfits are amazing !!❤
I love the jeans w the Michael Stars grey t shirt The brown long dress! I loved every look actually. The tip about the anxiety feeling is spot on. Thank u Heather. Jana - Texas
Asking deep questions was my favorite tip, but all of your tips are good. As for first dates, I can't imagine going on multiple first dates. I'm a boomer married 55 years, but even when I was young, my dating life was very spare. As for total strangers, that alone would be a red flag.
Your fashion taste is amazing❤❤❤
I love the Jean dress! ❤ I just turned 50 and have been off and on the dating apps. I can’t do them anymore. Trying to meet someone organically. I just need cute outfits to go out in;)
Thank you so much 😊
Beautiful outfits thank you so much, I love the tip follow your intuition always!
Hi Heather! I loved how you tucked your white button-down shirt. I am only 5 feet tall, and leaving it untucked doesn't do anything for me. Thanks!❤
Love all the Outfits and advice 🌸
They are all beautiful. You look gorgeous 😊
you are such an inspiration. Wishing you continued success and happiness!
You look great in everything. I live in a beach town in Florida. I’d be way overdressed if I wore any of your outfits. I don’t date so I guess it’s irrelevant. 😂 Glad you’re having fun.
I loved the denim dress
Heather, you absolutely rocked every single one of those outfits. They are all classy and tastefully sexy without being too revealing. I think all your dating tips are spot on, and I'm also very happy not to have to navigate the dating scene at my age (happily married for 27 years). Your experience with that situationship happend to me too at age 22. It was exactly as you described, and tore me apart emotionally, but it was a learning experience also for me to trust my instincts. So many people play games, but it sounds like you might have found a good one. Glad you're having fun.
Appreciate your channel! 🫶
Thank you I loved your advice ❤️
Heather, you look like you’re about ready to burst open with joy. You have done a lot of healthy inner work.
Thank you Amy! That means a lot ❤️❤️
Hey Lady, long time sub here....your sound would be much better if you had a rug in that filming space or if you were in a smaller room. Just trying to be helpful!🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
Yes I put blankets down for Thi recording. Does it still sound echoey?
8:56 LOVE this outfit!
Always love your outfits 😍 just darling ❤
Could you please show us how to tie your silver belt that you always like to wear and also what width and length of belt we need to pull this off? Thanks 😊
Yes sure great idea!! ❤️❤️
Thank you for the tips I like that you're sharing your new path that I am also on. I like, trust your instinct and how you feel? Being now almost 2 years into the relationship, just had one experience that I did not like the way I felt. In the quandary now, knowing nothings perfect, but at the same time is this how the not so perfect times will be? I am taking a few steps back and giving myself time to think, feel and watch. Thank you!!
Sound is loud and a bit echoie :)
You’re such a beautiful person
Ok I’m new to your channel and I really like it so far but I’ve noticed the prices on the outfits your showing which are totally out of my price range can you do a video on outfits similar to what your showing but at a lower price point please that would be great I’m not dating I’m married but I always like to look my best suggestion for you why don’t you try an updo like Kim K did it would look great with the outfits your showing thank Heather ❤
It might take a bit of time, but similar styles for less can usually be found on Amazon.
I do try and link similar options for less when I can in every video. ❤️❤️
Since the data says 1 in 6 people is narcissistic, it is important to weed them out. One early test you can do is to tell them “no” with a smile to a request they make. Observe how they react…a narcissist will have a hard time dealing with a no. Since we are more agreeable in the beginning of relationships, we get lured in by the narcissist easily, and then it is harder to get away. Saying no immediately may alert you to a potential problem so you can cut your losses sooner. I wish I knew this when I was dating, lol.
Oh that is a great tip!!!!! I will add that one to my list ❤️
I, personally, would not go out with anyone that has been in rehabilitation.
Hi heather. When dating. Do not start asking the guy questions questions don’t get personal ! Don’t talk about anything g personal either. Just go out and have fun Don’t talk so much either. No wonder you didn’t get a second date Pls. Just go out and have good time. Keep it light
Yes don’t let him in. Your house
The sound is extremely echoing!
❤
I never kiss on the first date even if i want to
I like to take it S-L-O-W.....chuckle
Why can’t you also ask: are you looking for a committed relationship? Would you marry? If he answers No that can save you wasting your time if you are looking for a committed relationship.
Yeah that all looks good on a thin woman. What about a plus size woman
Hi oh dear. Your wearing leather !? Never. Stay classy feminine No. Black leather. Oh my !? Your giving advice. True never start cooking for the guy either or hang out at your house. Have them take you out
Why do you feel the need to look sexy on your dates, in particular first dates, surely this gives the wrong signal to the man
No, it doesn't. She looks tasteful and classy rather than too exposed.
@@monicalong1371 thank you!! 😊
Tastefully sexy is the key 😊
There is no echo. Hi Heather my name is Mary I’m in my late 40s. Glad to have found your channel. I live in the DFW area as well. Divorced end of 2021 started dating about April 2022. Went through FB dating and Bumble was amazed at the crazy and not very good experiences I was having burnt out by July. I met someone I have fallen deeply in love with September 2022 on eharmony. He is from Austin as well. I found a few similarities with your life journey and felt like reaching out to you. Would love for you to put out more life lessons videos. It’s hard dating at this age and there are all kinds of people out there. These videos will definitely help women out there who may feel defeated and lost and feel like something is wrong with them. Thank you
Hi Mary - thank you so much for your kind words! I’m so happy you finally met someone! I will for sure keep doing these videos!
And feel free to reach out to me. My email is heather@soheather.com 😊
@@HeatherAndersonFashionOver40 thank you so much Heather. Will do 😊