It may be but for people like me who are scared to death of being disliked its amazing to be able to have techniques to make it more likely that people will at least like you on a surface level
Here's a quick recap to copy and save! (But still watch the video for details!) 1. Compliment people on what they achieved, instead of what they were born with! 2. Get people to share with you what they love, and you'll forge a deeper connection. 3. Be totally honest with people about what's in their best interest (not yours). Even if it means losing their business, you'll win their respect. 4. Use open body language. For example: hands out and relaxed, but respectful. 5. Exceed expectations without asking! Surprise people by being extra thoughtful. 6. Be the first person to joke or put people at ease! This makes people respect you even more for helping them relax and enjoy themselves.
9:23 I used to have a classmate who's father had terminal cancer. We became friends during that time, in part because he said I was one of the only people able to make him laugh due to his saddening home situation. When I was talking to him at his dad's funeral, I could see that the loss was crushing him, but I managed to make him smile a couple of times. He hasn't been in my class for 3 years now, but we still hang out once in a while because we grew so close during what was such a hard time for him.So although I agree that it is generally not a great idea to be cracking jokes at a funeral, if done correctly it can be an incredibly powerful way of lifting the spirits of those affected.
It's crazy how you guys make these videos without any cuts, you just talk the whole time. I feel like this is very rare on YT (also why I stick to animation) What is your routine before getting in your "Charisma state" Do you work out? Meditate?
I mostly just mess the intro up 10 times haha. Once I get that part, I am in the zone and I can usually roll straight through. I think that speaks to the power of making yourself talk to people before the big moment (getting on stage, an interview, whatever)
Yeah well said, you definitly seem "In State" If you are ever interested in creating another animation video, I would be happy to do it for you for free. Love your work!
Notes: 1. Compliment people for what they've earned (not what they have) 2. Ask people: > How do you like that? If not good, move on. If good, follow up with: > Tell me what you like about it! (Active Listening, ask people to expound) 3. Be honest with what you think is in people's best interests 4. Open body language 5. Be thoughtful and do a favor for people without them knowing (for people you know) > i.e. getting a drink for your friend 6. Be the first person to joke
I can't stress enough how we are first humans and then a job description or position. When people finally digest that reality, they start connecting with others much more easily. Great content! (as usual)
1. Specific compliment to things they've worked to gain. 2. Find out what people like then get them to tell you about it or their love for it. 3. Display your honesty without pretending to be honest. 4. Open body language. 5. Spoil people with your service. 6. Be the first to joke or be funny.
My fiancée and I have been working out everyday since October and my family needed help carrying a couch downstairs. I ended up on the bottom end of the couch and was able to carry it relatively easily and my step-dad said “wow, someone has been working out!” It made me feel awesome!!
Video idea: How to respond to people’s jokes? I find myself forcefully laughing at other people’s jokes because I’m worried I may make them feel bad if they think I don’t find it funny. Your videos are a great help by the way. I’ve implemented much of these lessons and have found myself enjoying social interactions more than I already did. Thanks!
Elijah Cedeno Be quick and and respond to the joke in a kind manner, it doesn’t have to be a laugh. Someone makes a joke(let’s say) about the professor’s tie or school in general. Just joke back, like “yeah he’s not lookin too hot today” or “yeah this course is boring as hell” Then follow these responses up with a question, like “what are you majoring in anyway?” So it rebounds back and becomes a genuine conversation. An awkward silence or fake response is what kills someone’s confidence and the conversation itself.
I do a lot of research about this and have tried many of these tactics, with great success I evolved form semi awkward teenager into a social butterfly. Thank you for this content, and I hope the viewers take these tips as seriously as I do.
7:02 that is so true. a few days ago at school i was talking to my friend and i mentioned that i woke up late and haven't had time to drink coffee. duiring the next break a guy that i have barely talked to comes up to me, gives me a cup of coffee and says that he had overheard our conversation so he decided to bring me some since he was already going to get smth for himself. it made me feel so great and i've been talking to him everyday since that day
I really Love number 3: Putting Honesty as a Principle above your interests. It's difficult to do for sure and it hurts sometimes, but I'm confident that it'll pay off in the end.
I clicked on the video with the purpose of looking for a summary in the comment section but I ended up watching the whole video because you seem like such a nice person
Clarity is king. It's so easy to get overwhmeled when you're trying to learn and implement something new. That's why I just have to say thank you tor teaching me your framework for how to connect and making a good first impression - 1. Fun; 2. Trust; 3. Respect 4. Show interest. It has given me a simple model to think about and not get too up in my head when talking to new people. "First we have fun Alex!" Have an awesome day:) /Alex
My teacher told me to read a poem from a book we were reading in class and a friend of mine complimented my way of reading poems. I never thought anything special about literature, but the compliment made me feel great. The rest of the class also acknowledged it which made me feel even better. That compliment was a million times better than any girl saying I was cute.
Once I had to give money as a gift since I didn't know almost anything about a person. So I looked up how to fold the bill into an origami shape of a bird. The last time I was at her house she still had it sitting on top of her piggy bank.
I watched this right before an interview to stay on my major and tip number three worked great! The interviewer said she appreciated my honesty and self awareness. It was like magic.
The book is ‘how to win friends and influence people’. I guess you weren’t talking about that, but that book is one of the most influential books ever written.
can you do a video about Aubrey Plaza? she's so awkward and wouldn't seem like she'd be charismatic and yet everyone loves her. i'd love to see an analysis there
@@turnleftaticeland There's a certain kind of attractiveness that makes awkwardness moot. People do not like her because she's charismatic. If anyone else that is less attractive acted like her they wouldn't be perceived in the same way.
Hey charlie, just want to say i started watching your videos 1 and a half years ago and recently joined CU on trial basis and I have to quit cos i am a student and I don't have the money to pay that much. I have come a long way to improve and change the most important thing according to me that is mindset, I'm not there yet but going strong and patting myself after every attempt doesn't matter if it leads to success or not. So I thank you for that. You are the same hero to me as Tim Ferris was to you. It's 4 am in Melbourne I always stay awake to just comment on your video and get that first hour interaction. Saw your FB live and know that you travel places so if you ever find yourself in Melbourne just make an announcement or mail. Know that I WILL FIND YOU AND I WILL HUG YOU!
I've met many people complimenting like this, but a smart person can notice when it's fake. It's not about what comes out of your mouth, but what you feel in your heart; you can feel what there is honesty, not just a template.
Your tips are always sooooo to the point!! I think that’s what makes your videos stand out so much! I could tell from the beginning that it would be worth the time!
I love this channel, but I've always been thinking...that a lot of these videos are for *self*-improvement in order to appear more socially acceptable for *other people*. So it gets me thinking, are we just defined by society? It's something that has always been on my mind, and something I've accepted since I was a kid...but it makes you wonder why other people's opinions matter so much. Also... ...the quality of this channel has always been great in the beginning, but now it's almost as if you are trying to tell people to be someone they're not (kind of like those guys who make videos on how to pick up women) in order to gain tacit approval from others. I just hope that you guys in Charisma on Command be sure to stay in touch with the roots of your philosophy.
i think that's true because I've noticed that too. Like, it just doesn't sound right when you see the video saying something like ' why everyone likes her' (don't know if that is a video, but it's something along the lines of that. To me, it's as if we're trying to change ourselves in order for people to like us. But i don't know, it's just my opinion, and I still like the videos they put out, because some of it can be useful. But yh..
If someone tries to improve their charisma, they are objectively trying to influence how they are perceived. That is not debatable. They're the same thing.
I agree that the videos try to make people more socially acceptable. But I don't think that is betraying your core or your values. It's just smoothing social interactions to help you show who you are.
I do that with my husband, and he with me, buying little treats for each other when we are at the store. It's one of those small things that add up to make a great relationship.
The thing where you said about if you're getting groceries and you see something that somebody would like, I can say that I have done that before and people really appreciate that. It's one thing if you get something because they ask for it, but if you get it without them mentioning it, it shows them that you think about them even when they aren't around.
You're a very inspiring young man, I wish I had your knowledge when I was younger, life would have been different. 'Youth is wasted on the young' , but not in your case. 😘
Great tips! I especially agree with the ‘joke first’ tip.. every time I do that, I see people instantly relax and warm up to me. Another thing I’ve found that helps is, mention something in conversation that you remember from the last time you spoke to them. Most people don’t remember details about other people, so when you show that you do remember details about the person, it really blows their mind that you care. 😊
This chanel in not only good for social skills but also for creating characters. This is a gold mine for artist/ilustrators/animators! There are so many ways of making the charecter sumpathetic through little things, without directly saying how good and awesome the character is (Sorry for my english)
A Compliment about something earned What do you like about it (their loved things) Be honest and share about your situation Opened body language A present beyond expectation Be the first one to joke, nice and smooth joke, there are videos in charisma on command channel about joking I really appreciate your work you are iincredible
I was visiting Chicago a month ago and ran into a Tesla store. I was talking to this here and I said that I was in the US to visit some college campuses and we talked about college and everything. Eventually he asked me where I wanted to go in Chicago and I said that I had already filled my applications and was deciding where to go, and that I was herehere just because I was waitlisted at UChicago. He immediately said "Damn, you must be pretty smart". I was a short sentence and it didn't go deep, but it was really powerful to me. My has been all about getting to college for the last year and a half, and getting this short recognition from a stranger felt incredible. I think this is going to be one of those snapshot memories you just can't forget now.
This guy builds so much trust with his fans and subscribers, that he could have a title as clickbaitey as this one, and have it still have a lot to with the subject, great work man.
4:30 I probably wouldn't call it honesty but rather objectivity because in reality, if we're being really honest here, sometimes our truth isn't _wanting_ to engage in the other person's interest but if we're trying to be good, likeable people, we should be able to see past that and act _objectively_ and _empathically._ (I hope i was able to bring my point across properly.)
Wow, I've been following your content for a little while, but this one really struck a chord! The first 3, 1) Compliment people on what they've earned 2) Get them to talk about what they love 3) Share a truth that is to your detriment really resonated so hard with me as my profession is Closing deals for entrepreneurs over the phone. Without a physical presence, all I have to rely on is my research on the prospect and the conversation I have in the 30-45 minute window with the prospect. The 3 really summarized how I manage to connect and engage deeply with the other party! Thanks for putting this video together and delivering the message in such a concise and illustrative way!
I have laughed at every funeral I have ever been to, including the very close, see every day family members. It helps tremendously to remember they would want us to laugh too.
point 1. you got to know your coworkers well enough to compliment them on something that you KNOW they are working on. I don't know my co workers well enough. they seem to be friendly with others ...not with me. one even looked at me like I was crazy the other Day
I have been using these videos as a teacher and I can't tell you how great they make me feel and look! My students and I genuinely like each other and have a real connection, I've been called funny more times this year than I ever have in my whole life. I have been an avid student of these videos and it's paying off! Thanks guys!
Can you make a video on how to tease people in a good nature way, instead of coming off as mean? I notice it's a common trait charismatic people in my life have
On closed body language part of this video. The sings you have described are self soothing sings and are typical in nature when someone gets nervous and not a display of closeness or openness. This is old school which was debunked a while ago. Easiest way of getting through with them is to grind the experience so you don't feel nervous, but accustomed to situation you are in. Also improve self confidence by other means. This will channel into your overall confidence. The more you think about the signs themselves the more nervous you are going to be. Just understand you are nervous and you are right to be nervous because the experience is new. It will go away naturally
Hello Charlie, love your videos 😘 first time managing to catch the video in the first hour it is out! Thank you for the fantastic content as always 😍😍😍
This being the first time I've ever seen this, I've noticed I'm a bloody good salesperson for a reason. This whole video is a compliment, So cheers mate.
I dont know if u have watched HIMYM but after seeing your analysis about the rock etc. I think u should do a Barney Stinson analysis because I think he is really great on many levels his charisma and so on
I get compliments on how i work all the time i don't bat an eye but a compliment on my physical attractiveness (im pretty average looking) really makes me smile
Random Person: Hey, you have a nice smile! Charisma on Command: Oh, yeah, thanks, I guess. Other Random Person: Hey, you have a good singing voice! Charism on Command: Oh, thanks!!! Me on the other side of the screen: Oh, wow. That works? Cool, I guess
The compliment on an earned trait, that must have been why my current crush really appreciated that I liked her hair. She had a great style that looked like a hat visor and I complimented her uniqueness
Thank you Charlie, this was a great video and very Interesting but mostly informative. Ps. How can I deal with people who are taking charg of my life and bossing me around and telling me what to do/ making desitions for me.😒 Is this something you can make a video about?
All these I use in my business! (As a dig trainer that focuses on dog behaviour modification) Seriously, all these were and are used in my communications with my clients/potential clients, and are absolutely miraculous in making people trust you and like you. It's a huge difference from what I used to be a few years ago, clammed up, social anxiety, terrible verbal skills, etc etc
Please talk about David Goggins on why he is effecting and changing so many people. Do an interview with him and ask him the questions no one else is asking. I like your channel but Goggins ripped me apart and made me face my flaws.
The thing is you DO have a nice smile and great personality! I’m not even here because I think people don’t like me I’m here because it’s interesting and educative to learn about how people think and act! Love these videos
I learned a lot from this video. You should upload a video about Joe Rogan's ability to come up with interesting topics for a conversation with his podcast guests. I want to hear how you analyze Joe Rogan's techniques for conversing with different people even when many of them disagree with some of his own opinions. Would you consider uploading that video in the future?
This entire channel is a psychopath's goldmine.
LMAO :D
Is that a bad thing?
Your Lie in Kentucky Yes very bad 😂😂
It may be but for people like me who are scared to death of being disliked its amazing to be able to have techniques to make it more likely that people will at least like you on a surface level
Murdrocks yes it's very useful. Social rules can be hard to figure out to make it work for you.
This can't continue, I'm seeing you more than I see my boyfriend.
Ok
Ok
Ok
Ok
He deserves better
Here's a quick recap to copy and save! (But still watch the video for details!)
1. Compliment people on what they achieved, instead of what they were born with!
2. Get people to share with you what they love, and you'll forge a deeper connection.
3. Be totally honest with people about what's in their best interest (not yours). Even if it means losing their business, you'll win their respect.
4. Use open body language. For example: hands out and relaxed, but respectful.
5. Exceed expectations without asking! Surprise people by being extra thoughtful.
6. Be the first person to joke or put people at ease! This makes people respect you even more for helping them relax and enjoy themselves.
Thanks for the effort, gonna screenshot that
wow your a great organizer and care about saving time for those in a hurry great job
Thanks for exceeding expectations without asking permission 👌🏽
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@ Reuben: Haha! I didn't even think of myself doing that, but thanks!
Bet that person who complimented your singing voice added: “Oh and also, you have an awesome smile”
Haha
haha well yeah he does :)
Lol
HE HAS SUCH A BEAUTIFUL SMILE. THIS IS TRUE!
@@mark_mathers his bone structure is easy to compliment as well
Whoever subscribed to this channel, know that you are upgrading and improving yourself and that is the best thing you can be doing right now
That's super kind of you!
well, kindness provided by this channel should be rewarded with more kindness.
Ur Mans As long as you arent a lonewolf.
Who's mans is this?
Yes im 20 in college and my 2019 year plan is to improve myself in all ways.. this channel is just God sent ❤️
9:23 I used to have a classmate who's father had terminal cancer. We became friends during that time, in part because he said I was one of the only people able to make him laugh due to his saddening home situation. When I was talking to him at his dad's funeral, I could see that the loss was crushing him, but I managed to make him smile a couple of times. He hasn't been in my class for 3 years now, but we still hang out once in a while because we grew so close during what was such a hard time for him.So although I agree that it is generally not a great idea to be cracking jokes at a funeral, if done correctly it can be an incredibly powerful way of lifting the spirits of those affected.
It's crazy how you guys make these videos without any cuts, you just talk the whole time. I feel like this is very rare on YT (also why I stick to animation)
What is your routine before getting in your "Charisma state" Do you work out? Meditate?
I mostly just mess the intro up 10 times haha. Once I get that part, I am in the zone and I can usually roll straight through. I think that speaks to the power of making yourself talk to people before the big moment (getting on stage, an interview, whatever)
Yeah well said, you definitly seem "In State"
If you are ever interested in creating another animation video, I would be happy to do it for you for free.
Love your work!
If you think that's good, watch ReportOfTheWeek's review on Great Value Spring Water and Filtered Water.
Masculine Man what software do you use for animations ?
Masculine Man soilluminati does it too. It means they are not acting
Notes:
1. Compliment people for what they've earned (not what they have)
2. Ask people:
> How do you like that?
If not good, move on. If good, follow up with:
> Tell me what you like about it!
(Active Listening, ask people to expound)
3. Be honest with what you think is in people's best interests
4. Open body language
5. Be thoughtful and do a favor for people without them knowing (for people you know)
> i.e. getting a drink for your friend
6. Be the first person to joke
I can't stress enough how we are first humans and then a job description or position. When people finally digest that reality, they start connecting with others much more easily. Great content! (as usual)
Yup, definitely one of the most important mindsets I could hope to impart :-)
Truth!
Hey, you comment stealer
Well said!
I was awkward as hell before i found this channel.
Now im awkward with style.
yessirrr 😎
Ah yes the kind of awkward that everyone likes bc you're funny abt it- same bestie
That's the best kind of awkward, and people love you more for it than if you were truly comfortable.
Could you cover the charisma of Jack Sparrow?
Drink excessive amounts of rum.
The secret? ZFG
Omg yes
YES!
YES
I'm sitting here listening to every word but also thinking "I wonder what tricks he's using to capture my attention, and why do I suddenly love him?".
1. Specific compliment to things they've worked to gain.
2. Find out what people like then get them to tell you about it or their love for it.
3. Display your honesty without pretending to be honest.
4. Open body language.
5. Spoil people with your service.
6. Be the first to joke or be funny.
Thanks for the summary!
Time saving :D
My fiancée and I have been working out everyday since October and my family needed help carrying a couch downstairs. I ended up on the bottom end of the couch and was able to carry it relatively easily and my step-dad said “wow, someone has been working out!” It made me feel awesome!!
Video idea: How to respond to people’s jokes?
I find myself forcefully laughing at other people’s jokes because I’m worried I may make them feel bad if they think I don’t find it funny. Your videos are a great help by the way. I’ve implemented much of these lessons and have found myself enjoying social interactions more than I already did. Thanks!
Elijah Cedeno I have that same problem with responding to people's jokes. Charisma on Command please upload this video idea.
I don't know if this is big enough a topic for it's own video, but I'll keep it in mind as an element of a future video
Charisma on Command that's fine, thanks.
Elijah Cedeno Be quick and and respond to the joke in a kind manner, it doesn’t have to be a laugh. Someone makes a joke(let’s say) about the professor’s tie or school in general. Just joke back, like “yeah he’s not lookin too hot today” or “yeah this course is boring as hell”
Then follow these responses up with a question, like “what are you majoring in anyway?” So it rebounds back and becomes a genuine conversation. An awkward silence or fake response is what kills someone’s confidence and the conversation itself.
Soooo true! Another great idea!
Dude, I'm a business major and the tip you said about honesty is BIG. It's a great marketing skill. Thanks for the information.
I do a lot of research about this and have tried many of these tactics, with great success
I evolved form semi awkward teenager into a social butterfly. Thank you for this content, and I hope the viewers take these tips as seriously as I do.
Congratulations! :)
Please can you give me some advice😞🙏
Bruh sammmmme. Even my friends have noticed and they’re all like “wtf happened to you”
Congrats!
7:02 that is so true. a few days ago at school i was talking to my friend and i mentioned that i woke up late and haven't had time to drink coffee. duiring the next break a guy that i have barely talked to comes up to me, gives me a cup of coffee and says that he had overheard our conversation so he decided to bring me some since he was already going to get smth for himself. it made me feel so great and i've been talking to him everyday since that day
I really Love number 3: Putting Honesty as a Principle above your interests. It's difficult to do for sure and it hurts sometimes, but I'm confident that it'll pay off in the end.
I love asking people if they liked something and if yes, why they liked it. Their answers always give me an insight into who they are.
How is your smile so large? Example: 4:13
Someone Joker got nothing on Charlie
Someone He has a big mouth if you know what I mean
Someone cameron diaz
Seriously. If I could act, it'd be the perfect casting
His mouth is super large... and the distance of his eyes and his brows is too short.
I clicked on the video with the purpose of looking for a summary in the comment section but I ended up watching the whole video because you seem like such a nice person
Clarity is king. It's so easy to get overwhmeled when you're trying to learn and implement something new. That's why I just have to say thank you tor teaching me your framework for how to connect and making a good first impression - 1. Fun; 2. Trust; 3. Respect 4. Show interest. It has given me a simple model to think about and not get too up in my head when talking to new people.
"First we have fun Alex!"
Have an awesome day:)
/Alex
Glad you're liking the structure!
My teacher told me to read a poem from a book we were reading in class and a friend of mine complimented my way of reading poems. I never thought anything special about literature, but the compliment made me feel great. The rest of the class also acknowledged it which made me feel even better. That compliment was a million times better than any girl saying I was cute.
I just hand out hundred dollar bills and blow every time I’m in a social situation. Works like a charm.
Once I had to give money as a gift since I didn't know almost anything about a person. So I looked up how to fold the bill into an origami shape of a bird. The last time I was at her house she still had it sitting on top of her piggy bank.
Alorand That’s really cool man, shows how they valued the act of the gift more than they valued the bill itself to open it and spend it. Great idea!
Blow what
Pr0l0gue Blow the noun DA
I'd like to hang out with you often...js
I watched this right before an interview to stay on my major and tip number three worked great! The interviewer said she appreciated my honesty and self awareness. It was like magic.
I do all of this. People like me but don’t particularly respect me. So now I’m trying not to please people as much
I'm in 8th grade and basically have a beard and moustache, people respect you so much more lol.
This channel… I need more.
"How to make friends and influence people"
Lucas Guimaraes lol
Great book.
The book is ‘how to win friends and influence people’. I guess you weren’t talking about that, but that book is one of the most influential books ever written.
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Pretty much a naive and unrealistic.
can you do a video about Aubrey Plaza? she's so awkward and wouldn't seem like she'd be charismatic and yet everyone loves her. i'd love to see an analysis there
step one: be really attractive
I never noticed she was good looking until you now mentioned it.
there’s a certain kind of awkwardness that can be charismatic
@@turnleftaticeland There's a certain kind of attractiveness that makes awkwardness moot. People do not like her because she's charismatic. If anyone else that is less attractive acted like her they wouldn't be perceived in the same way.
@@lj-wp3sf Nah, it's way more nuanced than that. There's a video on this channel about her now, and it breaks it down really well
Hey charlie, just want to say i started watching your videos 1 and a half years ago and recently joined CU on trial basis and I have to quit cos i am a student and I don't have the money to pay that much. I have come a long way to improve and change the most important thing according to me that is mindset, I'm not there yet but going strong and patting myself after every attempt doesn't matter if it leads to success or not. So I thank you for that. You are the same hero to me as Tim Ferris was to you. It's 4 am in Melbourne I always stay awake to just comment on your video and get that first hour interaction. Saw your FB live and know that you travel places so if you ever find yourself in Melbourne just make an announcement or mail. Know that I WILL FIND YOU AND I WILL HUG YOU!
Haha I can't wait!
I've met many people complimenting like this, but a smart person can notice when it's fake. It's not about what comes out of your mouth, but what you feel in your heart; you can feel what there is honesty, not just a template.
It all comes down to adding value - whether it be making their lives easier or adding positive emotions. Great video !
Your tips are always sooooo to the point!! I think that’s what makes your videos stand out so much! I could tell from the beginning that it would be worth the time!
I love this channel, but I've always been thinking...that a lot of these videos are for *self*-improvement in order to appear more socially acceptable for *other people*. So it gets me thinking, are we just defined by society? It's something that has always been on my mind, and something I've accepted since I was a kid...but it makes you wonder why other people's opinions matter so much. Also...
...the quality of this channel has always been great in the beginning, but now it's almost as if you are trying to tell people to be someone they're not (kind of like those guys who make videos on how to pick up women) in order to gain tacit approval from others. I just hope that you guys in Charisma on Command be sure to stay in touch with the roots of your philosophy.
i think that's true because I've noticed that too. Like, it just doesn't sound right when you see the video saying something like ' why everyone likes her' (don't know if that is a video, but it's something along the lines of that. To me, it's as if we're trying to change ourselves in order for people to like us. But i don't know, it's just my opinion, and I still like the videos they put out, because some of it can be useful. But yh..
incogito well yeah you can always improve yourself to be a better you. You can’t change the world but you can change yourself.
If someone tries to improve their charisma, they are objectively trying to influence how they are perceived. That is not debatable. They're the same thing.
I agree that the videos try to make people more socially acceptable. But I don't think that is betraying your core or your values. It's just smoothing social interactions to help you show who you are.
Great thinking men. Thanks.
It seems like good conversational skills are hard to come by today. Hopefully many people learn from this! Thanks for sharing these tips with us bud!
It does seem to be that way. Especially online.
It's a good thing though because when you do it, you become rare person in their lives and anything that is rare is more valuable than anything else.
Very true. :/
That is some deep stuff right there! Let's make sure we continue to strive to be more valuable than anything else and be a great example for others!
Just subbed my dude !
Could you do a video on where to put your hands when talking to people and what body gestures to do so that it doesn’t look awkward
Watch literally any of his vids
Greg Myers okay so where do you put them then?
I do that with my husband, and he with me, buying little treats for each other when we are at the store. It's one of those small things that add up to make a great relationship.
I've been basically binging on these videos, they're really interesting!
~ Thanks Diana! That binge watching keeps us in business ;-)
The thing where you said about if you're getting groceries and you see something that somebody would like, I can say that I have done that before and people really appreciate that. It's one thing if you get something because they ask for it, but if you get it without them mentioning it, it shows them that you think about them even when they aren't around.
Killin' it Charlie :)
Epic Gardening!!!
I love how your videos are not edited. Like straight 10 minutes kf talking about multiple critical points. Awesome channel
You're a very inspiring young man, I wish I had your knowledge when I was younger, life would have been different. 'Youth is wasted on the young' , but not in your case. 😘
You can still get people to like you and make friends when you're older!
the guy is like 30
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If i’m gonna be honest, not even kidding, you literally have a big smile throughout the video. Have a nice day.
Great tips! I especially agree with the ‘joke first’ tip.. every time I do that, I see people instantly relax and warm up to me.
Another thing I’ve found that helps is, mention something in conversation that you remember from the last time you spoke to them. Most people don’t remember details about other people, so when you show that you do remember details about the person, it really blows their mind that you care. 😊
i like the point you made about bringing up something from the last time ya''ll spoke.
This chanel in not only good for social skills but also for creating characters. This is a gold mine for artist/ilustrators/animators!
There are so many ways of making the charecter sumpathetic through little things, without directly saying how good and awesome the character is
(Sorry for my english)
"Attack!" Haha I laughed out loud, thanks for the video!
A Compliment about something earned
What do you like about it (their loved things)
Be honest and share about your situation
Opened body language
A present beyond expectation
Be the first one to joke, nice and smooth joke, there are videos in charisma on command channel about joking
I really appreciate your work
you are iincredible
I really want to be your friend. You seem like a wonderful person brother! Love your work and personality!
I love your channel how it isn't PUA and seduction based. I love how this is charisma for life. Awesome.
Good advise for people pleaser.
So humble in your speech,love what you are doing out here mate !
I'm not very good at making jokes. Step 6 is a problem
You got the honesty perfect
Learn it? 🤔
I was visiting Chicago a month ago and ran into a Tesla store. I was talking to this here and I said that I was in the US to visit some college campuses and we talked about college and everything. Eventually he asked me where I wanted to go in Chicago and I said that I had already filled my applications and was deciding where to go, and that I was herehere just because I was waitlisted at UChicago.
He immediately said "Damn, you must be pretty smart". I was a short sentence and it didn't go deep, but it was really powerful to me. My has been all about getting to college for the last year and a half, and getting this short recognition from a stranger felt incredible. I think this is going to be one of those snapshot memories you just can't forget now.
Me: *has nobody that likes them*
Me:*sees title of this video*
Me: “Oh yaaaaaaa!”
This guy builds so much trust with his fans and subscribers, that he could have a title as clickbaitey as this one, and have it still have a lot to with the subject, great work man.
Damn... I dont know how to joke
Abigail Lee me neither 😂
4:30 I probably wouldn't call it honesty but rather objectivity because in reality, if we're being really honest here, sometimes our truth isn't _wanting_ to engage in the other person's interest but if we're trying to be good, likeable people, we should be able to see past that and act _objectively_ and _empathically._ (I hope i was able to bring my point across properly.)
At a moment I realized that I kept smiling the whole time for seeing his smile
Wow, I've been following your content for a little while, but this one really struck a chord!
The first 3,
1) Compliment people on what they've earned
2) Get them to talk about what they love
3) Share a truth that is to your detriment
really resonated so hard with me as my profession is Closing deals for entrepreneurs over the phone. Without a physical presence, all I have to rely on is my research on the prospect and the conversation I have in the 30-45 minute window with the prospect.
The 3 really summarized how I manage to connect and engage deeply with the other party!
Thanks for putting this video together and delivering the message in such a concise and illustrative way!
Your smile is huge... That's really cool... You radiate happiness :)
This guy is absolutely great and that more people should watch him because this is all true.
Actually you are showing how to be a better human... I really like your channel! 🤗🌷
I have laughed at every funeral I have ever been to, including the very close, see every day family members. It helps tremendously to remember they would want us to laugh too.
I love this channel.
point 1.
you got to know your coworkers well enough to compliment them on something that you KNOW they are working on.
I don't know my co workers well enough.
they seem to be friendly with others ...not with me.
one even looked at me like I was crazy the other Day
His tips work cause when he mentioned liking Avengers I knew I had to subscribe
I have been using these videos as a teacher and I can't tell you how great they make me feel and look! My students and I genuinely like each other and have a real connection, I've been called funny more times this year than I ever have in my whole life. I have been an avid student of these videos and it's paying off! Thanks guys!
That's so amazing! I love hearing stories like this :-)
Charlie, are you holding Ben hostage in the freezer in your basement??
Still a recovering awkward introvert. These videos are so helpful to me.
Can you make a video on how to tease people in a good nature way, instead of coming off as mean? I notice it's a common trait charismatic people in my life have
The thing i like about you guys is that you are real !
I feel like a sociopath looking g for ideas watching this.
On closed body language part of this video. The sings you have described are self soothing sings and are typical in nature when someone gets nervous and not a display of closeness or openness. This is old school which was debunked a while ago. Easiest way of getting through with them is to grind the experience so you don't feel nervous, but accustomed to situation you are in. Also improve self confidence by other means. This will channel into your overall confidence. The more you think about the signs themselves the more nervous you are going to be. Just understand you are nervous and you are right to be nervous because the experience is new. It will go away naturally
Hello Charlie, love your videos 😘 first time managing to catch the video in the first hour it is out! Thank you for the fantastic content as always 😍😍😍
Woot! Welcome to the first hour club ;-)
This being the first time I've ever seen this, I've noticed I'm a bloody good salesperson for a reason.
This whole video is a compliment, So cheers mate.
I dont know if u have watched HIMYM but after seeing your analysis about the rock etc. I think u should do a Barney Stinson analysis because I think he is really great on many levels his charisma and so on
Your smile is extremely bright, makes me feel happy.
It feels amazing when someone compliments you.
yeah
My burning self-hatred is held back by that one time a girl said my hair was smooth 4 years ago
I get compliments on how i work all the time i don't bat an eye but a compliment on my physical attractiveness (im pretty average looking) really makes me smile
Random Person: Hey, you have a nice smile!
Charisma on Command: Oh, yeah, thanks, I guess.
Other Random Person: Hey, you have a good singing voice!
Charism on Command: Oh, thanks!!!
Me on the other side of the screen: Oh, wow. That works? Cool, I guess
The compliment on an earned trait, that must have been why my current crush really appreciated that I liked her hair. She had a great style that looked like a hat visor and I complimented her uniqueness
Thank you Charlie, this was a great video and very Interesting but mostly informative.
Ps. How can I deal with people who are taking charg of my life and bossing me around and telling me what to do/ making desitions for me.😒
Is this something you can make a video about?
Sarah A. Work on your confidence, quit seeking people's validation and don't be afraid to voice your opinion like they do theirs.
This guy is pretty sharp on emotional intelligence. Gen X respect to ya
I could see him playing Spider-Man
All these I use in my business!
(As a dig trainer that focuses on dog behaviour modification)
Seriously, all these were and are used in my communications with my clients/potential clients, and are absolutely miraculous in making people trust you and like you.
It's a huge difference from what I used to be a few years ago, clammed up, social anxiety, terrible verbal skills, etc etc
Please talk about David Goggins on why he is effecting and changing so many people. Do an interview with him and ask him the questions no one else is asking. I like your channel but Goggins ripped me apart and made me face my flaws.
The thing is you DO have a nice smile and great personality! I’m not even here because I think people don’t like me I’m here because it’s interesting and educative to learn about how people think and act! Love these videos
"Go above and beyond, PLUS ULTRA!"
Honestly, your smile makes me smile
What a great video
I like the way you tell stories of how you reached the point. It helps to remember...
Here's a tricky one to do -- I think: How beard affects people's perception of you.
Oooh, never thought about that - I'll dig into it for my own education!
That’s a great idea, because a *lot* of people don’t realise that some have very definite opinions about facial hair.
Charisma on Command Can't wait to see you with a beard
I always think of men with beards as much softer (in a good way), more family orientated, and more genuine.
I'm in 8th grade and basically have a beard and moustache, people respect you so much more lol.
I think i need to stop binge watching your videos man and start applying these information before they gone in my head for good.
I learned a lot from this video. You should upload a video about Joe Rogan's ability to come up with interesting topics for a conversation with his podcast guests. I want to hear how you analyze Joe Rogan's techniques for conversing with different people even when many of them disagree with some of his own opinions. Would you consider uploading that video in the future?
Mastermind123 You gotta say “yeeeeeeah” and “that’s crazy” a lot
for me:
1. compliment people on things they work hard for
2. open body language
Finally a decent thumbnail😂
Yeah, I'm pretty bad at these. But credit to Andre, our editor, for making it work
Charisma on Command Also Charlie can you do a video how to be cocky cool/charming without coming off as arrogant?
Yes! 💖 If all people were this cool and thoughtful our world would be the best place.
Peter McKinnon is about to hit 2 MILLION subs! You could do a special on him for it! Just sayin' 🤷♂️
That's a good call!
This!!! Peter's personality is so infectious
Brandon Sallinger cool idea
Love this idea!!! And this supportive community. What the heck, go team internet!
A genuine smile amd a firm handshake always gets my attention (for men of course)