5 Nice Things Guys Say That Girls Hate
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There are no classes in school that teach you how to flirt, and unfortunately what that means is that when you go out into the world to do it, sometimes some weird things can escape your mouth.
Which is why in this video, I will be giving you five things that you should NEVER say when flirting, as well as some things that you can say instead.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:16 - Phrase #1: “That person is…”
1:19 - Phrase #2: “That’s amazing!”
2:41 - Phrase #3: “Do you want to go out sometime?”
3:37 - Phrase #4: “Can I get your number?”
4:34 - Phrase #5: “You would look better if you…”
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I don't flirt at all so I've never made these mistakes.
Damn it!!! How blind have I been? The answer was right in front of me: just don't flirt.
When failure is a guarantee, i know longer feel the pressures of trying to succeed.
Flirting is a good skill not only for picking up woman but for life
I only flirt by mistake with people i don't like
They read thinly veiled contempt as flirting
Fascinating
Carefully, he’s a hero
I know I'm guilty of using the "S word"
I have no regrets, I will keep calling other women Shrek.
That comment is so good, and your pic makes it 10 times better
If you date a women that kinda shaves her armpits , dont expect things to be neat down there.
The horror...
Nihilistic Onion seriously though what is the S word?
@@MrLondonGo shrek
Ham Almo thank you for this
When my girlfriend/wife made comments about how handsome another man was, I’d say, “I might dump you for him!”
Everybody laughs. Situation diffused
I do the same thing lol
😂😂
All the time;)
I say "man, I'd love to get a taste of that meat-spear"
I am typically more vulgar, but yes, a good goto approach
Crush: I need the toilet.
Me: That's amazing!
Oh, I guess you need a billion dollars too?
That's so cool
Oh shoot, Can I bring you there?
Me: hold on wait a second let me guess. You also volunteer with orphanages on the weekends, and probably practice rocket science in your free time.
Actually, I'll use that next time I hear a woman say that. Then ask if she also volunteers with disabled orphans and helped Elon create Space X.
Cause that is my humor. And if she says yes to both the follow up questions, I'll then ask if she will marry me:)
*”I’m a meme page admin”*
*Pewdiepie has entered the chat*
I agree, definitely do not tell anyone that ever.
My skirt for a little bit wet
That's like a nuclear weapon, never fails
*cumming profusely*
This guy smiles just like Cameron Diaz
Now that you mention it YESSS 🤣 what has been seen cannot be unseen!
His entire lower face looks like Cameron Diaz
Can't unsee it now.
Without the creepy cat eyes
Its the BJs
TRANSLATION OF THE VIDEO:
1. Don't gossip
2. Don't be fake
3. Be a bit balsy.
4. The goal is the girl, not the number
5. Don't force someone into what you want. Be subtle, smooth, sophisticated.
You're welcome ;)
1. be honest
2. ???
3. profit, if not repeat with someone else
Good summaries 👍 Video offers more specific scenarios though 😊
“The goal is the girl, not the number”
Thanks I need to focus on that one. I kinda lose focus after I get the number so it always falls through
Thank you!
1. Be taller, look better
2. Win
I always ask for thier fax number
Damn, you are truly epic gamer!
This would work for me.
Get with the times!!...Start asking for her pager number
Aye girl, drop that beeper line
That is a hilarious setup and would work in lots of situations. Good banter idea lol
It's crazy how almost all self help comes to three factors: be confident, be funny, be honest
I only ever mange to be two of those things at a time. Confident and funny, but not honest. Confident and honest, but not funny. Funny and honest, but not confident.
@@NDakota79 Dude you struck me... I was not aware of this, but when I look at past situations its true for me as well.
These are too broad. It's like saying: I'm flying to Eurasia or Africa. Sure, I get where you are going but there are 10 000 ways to get there and hundreds of thousands of cities. The trick is to control the context of the conversation so that the way you want people to perceive you is felt in the atmosphere alone.
@@NDakota79 I'm the 3rd one 😬
Just stagger up to a couple, while they're holding hands... Blink each eye in turns a few times as if you're struggling to figure out which one works or not... Don't forget to wobble dangerously without falling right over... Then look up and down the person who matches your gender, and say, "Nice shoes, you wanna f***?"... PUKE all over the ground splattering as far and wide as possible and then fall (or dive) into the middle of it and pretend to go to sleep.
Works every time. ;o)
"Let's go out sometime"
And we never actually go out.
This has happened far too many times.
Onny Farizyandi close the deal bro. Make it specific not ‘sometime’
Onny Farizyandi Not here in Germany. If you say this, you mean it
@@Fuzti13 yeah, Germany, always meant it .no jokes.
Tell them that you'll meet them at the place at a certain time like a bar close to your home at 8
A specific plan works better! But not on the initial ask but in the same conversation. This guy did it kn another video and it was perfect. Like:
You: Do you like BBQ?
Woman: Yum! I love it.
You: I know of this great place. Would you like to go sometime?
Woman: Yes, loved to.
You: Great! How about this Wednesday at 7pm?
Woman: Where do you want me to meet you?
Do NOT get their Instagram. It's game over at that point and you'll be their follower and never hear from them again.
Not true Instagram is a better dating app than tinder imo
Gotta do snapchat! But DO NOT snapchat them first! Lol they’ll eventually send you a snap 👍🏼
Worked for me in the past.
Got to slid into their DM's somehow and Instagram is the way to it
@@Hotsauceonmy well anyhing is better than tinder
I agree with " that's amazing" but for a different reason. To me repeating " that's amazing" sounds like the person really isn't paying attention. Even if they mean it, it comes off like yeah okay.
Yeah it comes off as a bit dismissive.
Instructions unclear, I made her want me to join her on a conquest of Rome please send help.
I don't see the problem here. It sounds like you're in, bro!
Take up your sword and shield, deus vult
Ave Caesar, barbarian. Rome will tolerate no pretensions to conquest. UMU!
You have procured an excellent bride brother
what is this a reference to?
2:20
I'd be careful with playful sarcasm. That can also come across as insecure but in a more passive-agressive way.
Simon Keyes I agree with that one the one thing you should be very careful with using playful sarcasm is tone and facial expression if you usually have a blank facial expression and tone it'll probably come off as a form of passive aggression but if your body language facial features and tone of voice reveal that it's sarcasm then it can be very effective
Simon Keyes
Oh yeah. I have definitely stepped on people’s toes with that one. 😆
@@themanicman8458 very true. Especially over text messages etc. when there's no body language to give the obvious sign that it is playful sarcasm
I totally agree with that. There is a very thin line between playful sarcasm and negative sarcasm and especially when you are a bit nervous and maybe don't know the other person that well, you might say something meant to be playful sarcasm, but the other person might feel a bit offended cause she felt it to be negative sarcasm.
@@Edward-W Why apropriate emojis come into play.. 😃
Who the hell would ever say "you'd look better if...." To anyone? Even if not flirting, it's so rude.
Men do this and it's unbelievably rude. My friend's husband told her "You look so beautiful....since you've lost the weight." Really! Stop while you are ahead guys! Stop at beautiful. Period.
I used to do it to my ex without me actually realizing it. I big screwed up
@Júlia Valença Schoen You would look better with me on your arm. Okay that was horrible.
It sounds like a man who thinks a woman's sole purpose in life is to be pleasing to him. When you look at it that way, of course she ought to appreciate being told how to do her job better. (eyeroll)
Somtimes these can be fixed just with the word even. "You are even more beautiful since you've lost weight."
“Are you a single mother?”
“No”
“Do you wanna be?” 😏
That's positive but.... she would kill you after
After this you should prepare a good lawyer.
**slap**
@@SerginhoSM9151 Rule No.1 : always use a fake name when dating.
PIMPIN
“Can I record our interaction so you can’t accuse me of a crime in the future?”
Is that fine?
Hahahahahahahaha. GOTTEM
Are you happy? Are you truly happy you made that comment?
I laugh very hard, but I guess the answer is no :/
Tora Chan Just move to a single party recording state. It's legal as long as you know about the recording.
TastiestDuck12 Yes, I am. Have a problem?
I'm actually really looking forward to the cringe compilation video
Which we will not have because he. Doesn’t have any 😂💔
dude im so excited for this
omg you beat me to it lol
This isn't it?
"Hey, you're pretty. I'm cute, together we could be pretty cute."
That was good!
As a girl I actually agree, especially w the last one. "You'll look so much prettier if you smiled sweetie come on smile" - so creepy
Come on, smile, come on, just a little.
Ignore those bastards. I know you'll look much better crying and fearing for your life.
Much better, don't you think?
@@dyowzhars9400 lol
It only makes me angry. A genuine smile is shown when I am having fun or when I am happy. Take the hint if you don’t get one. Asking for a smile is asking me to lie to my emotions.
Go away. Shoo.
Yessss! It can be creepy, or just annoying..usually it's coming from a good place I feel; but chill, dude, I am allowed to have a neutral expression on my face lol
"Can i have your number? Can i have it? My little croissant"
MAD TV
Ugh I know a douchebag who uses "Hi my little croissant" as an opening line when he msgs random girls (future victims?) on Facebook. If a wanker called Lachlan from Sydney Australia msgs you, tell him to f*ck off!! 🙄
Queen Bee Ok my little croissant
Oh you like Mike n Ikes?!
Darrell!!!!!
"Did you know cats reach a terminal velocity of around 77 feet?"
"At"
@@howiedick6857 Now you see what a great conversation starter that was!
My experimental analysis confirms this to be true
"Did you know terminal velocity isnt measured in feet?"
@@bobsonbobbybobson6888 did you know I don't care and I just looked this up on Google?
I never know when someone’s flirting with me or just being friendly
I never know if someone is playing hard to get or really isn't interested
Same
Sometimes I don’t know if she’s playing me or I’m playing her.
Sometimes I don’t know what to do when I’m on the toilet and there’s no tp left
that should be a vid
I almost cheered over the "you should smile" part, but honestly, most of the time, it doesn’t cause self-consciousness, it pisses women off.
YES, I was looking for this comment. I feel like Charlie usually hits the nail on the head with his breakdowns words/actions, so I was very surprised about his explanation on this one.
The whole phrase gives off this feeling that the woman is somehow not living up to [your] expectations. You're kind of implying that she's *supposed* to be smiling, and that she's *supposed* to be trying to be prettier.
If she's already having a bad time, you're not making it any better by coming along and imposing these uninvited expectations on her. I could see *some* women reacting to this by feeling self-conscious, but only if they care a lot about what you think (e.g. if they already have a crush on you) or if they're just naturally prone to feeling self-conscious. The same way that if someone walked up to you and said, "you're kind of ugly, have you ever considered wearing a paper bag over your face?" -- sure, you might feel self-conscious, but more likely you'll direct your negative feelings outward toward the jerk who said that to you. Obviously this is different, but there's still the aspect of one person telling the other person that the way they look isn't adequate, and implying that they should be doing something about it. If you're some rando dude in a bar, her thoughts will probably be more along the lines of, "oh yeah, well who the f*** are you?"
Also, I'd like to point out that she may be having a perfectly good time already. In which case you asking her to smile will probably be MORE annoying, if anything. Some women just don't smile as much, whether for cultural reasons or just because of their own idiosyncrasies, and it doesn't have to mean they're unhappy. So your intended message of "I'm trying to cheer you up" can be more lost in this case and become even more of a "hey gurl you should be acting more pretty."
I am one of those women. Often I'll be sitting there, perfectly happy and enjoying myself, and people who don't know me very well will come up and ask me if I'm okay, or ask what's got me down. Which is totally fine -- I'll just tell them I'm fine and crack some joke about how that's just my resting sad face (except I guess it's not really a joke?). But when someone comes up and says, "you'd be prettier if you smiled", I just can't help but feel annoyed and even mildly disgusted. EVEN if I'm already acquainted with the guy (and it's always a guy who says that) and I know he means well, somehow it just feels super annoying and I just want to walk away from him. Wasn't sure how much of this was just me, which is why I appreciated the comment.
I'm kind of a quiet person, and nothing pisses me off as much as when people say, So you talk? Say something!
I actually smiled at that, but everyone tells me that and it does get me mad. Like seriously?
Omg this
And when they say “I have standards, sorry” when i see a boy tryin to flirt with a girl :/
When you have a proper conversation with a girl most of these phrases never pop up.
Just my experience, but most of the improper conversations don't seem to have any of these phrases either. ;o)
This. Well said, Brice.
To anyone reading this, I wish you MAJOR success this year ❤️
-Josh Otusanya
Best of luck to you! :)
unlikely
Thanks Josh!
Thank you- likewise
You're a nice dude, Josh! 😊
My pick up line is: "Ah, I am not interesting at all, the stuff I do is incredibly boring"....then they want to know what you do. I try these sorts of pick up lines on my imaginary crushes and it works all the time.
Instructions unclear my imaginary crush is now dueling with me via bladed weapon
I have definitely been guilty of saying the "you would look better if.." ... thank you for the suggestion. I'm going to cut that out of my vocabulary 💜
Why in the world would a guy think a woman would be attracted to someone that starts off by telling her what she needs to change in order to suit him better? For those guys that are unaware, that's exactly how that comes across.
@@snowangelnc women do it all the time.
It’s something both genders do
@@snowangelnc women have done this to me too, its just something people do.
what if i went up to a girl at a party that looked upset and said, “You look like your not having fun, care to dance?”
I've tried "You would look better if you lost 50 pounds." For some reason, they don't like that.
Thanks for the time stamps in the description! It helps a ton when reviewing everything.
“This is isolated enough”
Works every time
Savage xD
“Ya like Jazz” hasn’t failed me yet. That’s the one that works every time.
me: hey
boy: i have a girlfriend
me: haha me too we have so much in common.
**dies**
wow ur so quirky and unique
Martyrdom: drop a live grenade when killed
Haha! I'm so quirky!
Lol😂
I actually did that in person
Instead of “You would look better if you smiled” I’ll usually say “You have such a beautiful smile. I love seeing it on you.”
DirtyDevil37 yes, this one is much better 👍
Dont mention that. You can just say you have a pretty smile but passive aggressively telling women to smile pisses them off.
Honestly, this is a much nicer way of whats intended behind "you should smile more" I bet that works
@@pikalily5220 no it's awful dont say it
@@Domtronic, depending on when you say it, it could just be a compliment to sort of encourage someone :) sometimes when I'm laughing my boyfriend tells me he loves my smile, it makes me happy
“Whatever you want.” Women want you to be decisive and lead a lot of the time. If you’re always asking her what she wants to do, what she wants for dinner, or what she wants to watch - it’ll eventually turn her off. -Nick
They also test your confidence, self esteem, sense of security and strength by challenging it in ways that will make you angry. I notice this all the time.
Right but then eventually its "why do you always pick the places we go out?? You're so controlling"
Sometimes you just can't win
I like this "talking head" videos way more, than animated ones you've been doing recently. Feels way more genuine!
"The back of yo' head is ridiculous!"
Where does it come from? MxR said that exact same line in a video a week ago. I think it's awfully bad lol
@@orti1283 madtv 'can i get your number' skit
Oh my god thank you for bringing up the smile thing. Nothing puts me off a person quicker. I think "you'd look better if" comes from the 'negging' mentality and the guy wants to be just a little bit intimidating because someone told him that this makes him more appealing, maybe he's also been told that women don't like dishonest compliments, but there are so many better ways to word them than "You'd look better without so much makeup" etc. Being told to smile just takes me right back to being a shy 6 year old again. Not a flirty dynamic at all.
Thank you so much for the "that's amazing" tip! It's always awkward running into interesting people who are doing tons of awesome things & not knowing how to react.
"When you look at someone through rose coloured glasses, all the red flags just look like flags" - keep this in mind
nice saying. Literal and metaphorical.
@@BlackDiamond2718 that phrase is from BoJack Horseman
@@vietnguyenhoang1762 cool
Well if you are looking through rose coloured/tinted glasses, then all the flags should look like red flags!
@@RuddsReels deep
If you figure out how to truly be secure in yourself, love yourself (while recognizing your weaknesses and how to improve), and finally figuring out what confidence really is, then you can say whatever the hell you want. And certain phrases will never cross your mind, like 3 & 4.
Never say “what’s your number?”
Say “let me slide up in yo DMs”
Works every time.
Or just say "Hey I phone died and I need to make a urgent call...Can I use your phone?"
And Call yourself from her number. There you got her number!
@@xkall That sounds more like a cheesy/creepy stalker-like approach to me. I mean, what´s next? Are you going to pick her lock and go through her computer to find out what her Facebook profile is?
Jirka Zalabák how can you not tell they're being sarcastic?
@@Soul_Alpha Because it´s the Internet? There is no smiley-face behind his comment, so I can´t tell. Many people actually use some pretty creepy flirting techniques, so you can never be sure.
Also, I have spent more time on YT that I would like to admit, arguing with religious people. You (literally)wouldn´t believe the crap that comes out of their mouths sometimes. Therefore, when someone says something that sounds creepy, but farily feasible, I have to assume they´re being serious.
Jirka Zalabák You're tryng too hard bro, relax.
Love the little pop-up text for each of the points - great job man!
"Assist me in chemistry because later we both gonna do experiments in Biology"
*Blocked*
Great video, thank you! Been subscribed for several years now and new uploads still always manage to put me in a better mood/clearer state of mind. Appreciate that!
The first one caught my eye. It's not the exact scenario though. I have seen guys who have been `friendzoned` go on a campaign to bash or discredit any guy she's into as not good enough in the vain hope that one day she'll see how wonderful they are and get themselves out of the friendzone. Not only is it cowardly and pathetic, but it *never* works. All it does is either leave the guy in a perpetual state of vain hope at best or more likely, ends up alienating the girl and in some cases ends in a good butt whooping.
If I had a dollar for every women who found me unattractive I would be attractive.
You look like the actor for Henry Cavil's mouth.
Lmfao
Lmao you win
lol, not even close
kek
I think the main reasons "You'd look prettier if you smiled" is bad is that you're 1. telling them what to do, essentially ordering them around, 2. disregarding their feelings, (maybe they aren't smiling because they don't feel like it.), and 3. acting as if they should seek to "look prettier" for you, to please you. It is just all-around bad. Instead, hopefully you can do something that would make them *want* to smile.
Your content is pretty good, solid tips on social interactions
I do a lot of cold approaching in my fear facing videos. The benefit of that is that I get the opportunity to re-listen to what I said when flirting! Although it sometimes a real pain in the A** to listen to myself, it's also such a self-awareness practice. It has helped me erase some common things I used to say that did no good. One thing I still mess up is my overuse of "excuse me" and "sorry" - be proud and don't excuse your presence! ...I keep telling myself;).
Thanks for another great video!
/Alex
Great video. Looking forward to Thursdays content!
I’ve been having a lot of trouble with myself and I think this is personally the most beneficial CoC video I’ve ever watched. You’re changing my life for the better yo!
I really appreciate that you have the phrases time stamped in the description it helps 💪🏾
Me: how much does a polar bear weigh?
Her: I don’t know how much?
Me: enough to break the ice
Date- "680 pounds and they eat seals and penguins"
You- enough to break the ice...
@@monks311 that's just female, a male polar bear is at least 800 pounds, and the polar ice is more than thick enough to support its weight...- wait, where you going please come back
@@rateater1857 hahahaha
@@monks311 then you can tell them they don't eat penguins and boom - you've got a conversation!
Tried it once, reaction was: “no, it’s not correct, they live on the ice, walk on it and don’t fall into water all the time” -.-
Your videos are great man! Super useful tips and this video couldn’t have came at a more perfect time
This channel is changing my life for the better. I appreciate what you guys do very much.
simple habits it’s awesome i’ve had it for a while and they always remind me to meditate. life changing
i think i’m in love with his smile its one of the best smiles i have ever seen
Hey, Charlie! There's a topic I've wanted to see a video from you about for a while now. You've told your story in the past about going to Costa Rica and Brazil and teaching yourself Spanish and Portuguese. I (and I'm sure many more of your viewers) have always been super interested in learning a second language and in living places that speak foreign languages. While there already are plenty of great resources for learning new languages, I'd love to hear about your personal experience and maybe a look through the charisma lens on how to develop strong social and professional relationships with people not speaking your first language.
I must tell you-
I'm grateful channels like your's exist.
Thanks for what your doing bro and keep it coming. 👍
I actually like when guys say "we should go out sometime," because of the ambiguity;I feel like it puts the ball in my court. If I genuinely want to see that person, I will make a point to do so.
I guess if you're one of those liberal women it works for you.
Fact: It’s a lot more easier to flirt with girls you’re not attracted to vs the girls you actually like. When I talk with girls I’m more comfortable with, flirting comes much more naturally since I’m not nervous or tense.
I feel like most of your tips from any video could be simplified with "be honest and respectful" and it makes a lot of sense.
BTW, i'm also looking forward to the cringe compilation video, having someone who understands social interactions talking about it, that would be cool :B
Thing is while to you prefer ir simplified everyone learns differently. For me having the technical detail / break down has helped me understand more clearly what over gurus describe in the vague way you prefer
Me: "you got a real bounce to your chest"
Her: "uhh thanks?"
Me: I like your nails color
Her: its fungus
Let's get to bashing butts!
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@SirFaceFone As Well as these nuts
Tf are these comments im exploding rn 😂
As always, wonderful video!
I'm looking forward to your upcoming video!
I really like how you do body language when you talk. Im really looking forward to learn body language like that.
For 3#: A and B choices for the other, he/she can choose A or B or can propose a number C. You can use this for everything, making an appointment, planning a date and so on. It's a little bit aggressive, but 9/10 gets the job done.
Thank you Charlie! You seem to be the type of guy who learns from other peoples mistakes.
There is only one thing that I can say and that is I love you Charlie. You help me change my mindset and life around.
Actually RSD Max said “let’s exchange numbers.” That way it’s equal not lemme get your number. Then tease her by asking her your name and make sure you admit if you forget.
Yeah, just be yourself.
*makes hundreds of videos what not to be*
"Just be yourself" if the worst advice ever, IMHO
It's not just about being yourself. It's about being the best damn version of yourself possible.
People coming here are mostly seeking advices because being themselves isn’t working
🤣
How can I be myself when I don't even know myself?
i love your videos :) the way you explain and put them together makes me bingewatch them all, haha.
Confidence, even confidently acknowledging a mistake, can win over anyone pretty much. Funny makes people relaxed around you, especially when u can make fun of yourself, and I think something important about "being honest" is yes be honest, but show you can be honest respectfully, and sensitively if the info pertaining to the topic calls for it. It shows you have the capability to be compassionate and empathetic, but especially, RESPECTFUL. You can be honest without being an egomaniac and making it about yourself and the way you WANT to be honest rather than what's actually helpful to the person you're being honest too.
Great video! Got me thinking about a couple of your points. One thing I do wish you'd said about "you'd look better if you smiled," is it's objectifying. Hearing this immediately makes me feel like I'm a prop in this person's world and I'm not positioned to their liking. Not to mention maybe I'm having a bad day and that really doesn't help? Idk. Just my experience with that particular "compliment."
Woman here too: Yeah, that is also the first thing that I think when I hear things like that too! (Although I have never experienced this particular negging phrase first-hand, even though my public RBF game is super strong.)
Just take it as an awkward compliment and move on. Give the other person the benefit of the doubt.
honestly tho you'd look better if you were slenderman ngl
Cheese pick up lines are fun BUTT, there's always a guy who uses em seriously 😅😅
Agree. Using them in an obvious sarcastic or ironic way can be charming. But using them seriously just looks lame and creepy.
The best thing to do is just be kind and be yourself. If you like someone, just do that, and try to spend more time with them. If they feel the same, it’ll happen. Simple. Definitely has worked for me, either it’s reciprocated or not 🤷♀️
Awesome advice. Love the content of this channel.
“I don’t know how to interact with people so I’ll study how real people act towards each other and I’ll deduce how they establish relationships”
This, but unironically
The curse of over thinking everything haha End up feeling like an alien tryna figure out how to be human lol
Honestly me growing up undiagnosed autistic.
5. Instead, find something you DO like and give a genuine compliment
The energy in your hands is unmatched.
Oh my God! Can't wait for the Thursday video!!
Of all of my infinite lack of expertise, I actually have something I'm weirdly good at in relation to this video. If you find yourself getting into a "That's Amazing!" loop, instead start asking questions that work to elaborate the story. I've found that this is so effective at keeping a conversation going I've accidentally gotten into conversations with people at drive throughs just off of a passing compliment.
Ironically, I had to perpetuate the "That's amazing!" trope just to get the hell out of there...
Rather than needy, I find people who say that's amazing to everything I say to be disingenuous. I feel that they're not really listening and are just faking enthusiasm because they want to get into my pants.
That’s amazing
Yeah, I have that same problem with the women...by the dozen.
A+ video charlie keep up the good work!
Just 2 months in this "GAME improvement" videos and I've messed up so many chances with #3 and #4. You're exactly right, why did I see this just now. OMFG
As much as I like the song I was just listening to, this video happened
*Chrisma breakdown on ThatWasEpic* 😎 plzz
Yes, that'd be great!
Omg YES
Sir, I throughly enjoy your content and believe that you have put a good deal of effort into your videos. My one piece of advice would be to put more attention to the way you use eye contact paired with gesticulation, as that can seem somewhat forced for most people. Keep up the good work.
I'm looking forward to the new style of videos! hopefully, it's fun!
Just sayin, I have actually had a couple of positive interactions based loosely around the smile comment at the end.
I would never use the "you'd look cuter/better" part because that's just ignorant and insensitive, but while running a drive-thru I have told women who came with an unhappy/cold/standoffish look about them that "you have to smile to get your order though," and the few and only times I've done this they've always cracked a big genuine grin, as if they were just _trying_ not to smile when they reached my window.
It's really all about your execution and choice of words. If I had said something like "hey I bet you're prettier when you smile" these interactions would almost certainly have been negative. Instead, I presented it in a way that is both slightly funny and more focused solely on trying to cheer them up, rather than pointing out a flaw and making them self-conscious.
Also, not for nothing, it was probably also just lucky that the times I did this, they were willing to have their mood changed, or simply weren't actually in as bad a mood as they appeared. If I were to go around doing this frequently to every random stranger whom wasn't visibly happy, I would surely encounter some that were genuinely very upset and wouldn't respond positively.
about #5: in the 1st year i was with my gf, she asked me "what do you think would look better about my body if it were different?"
So i thought long and hard to come up with something i cared absolutely nothing about.
However she did cry a lot after hearing i didn't like the way her labia stuck out of her outer lips. Despite talking about it and working it out, even used it as one of her arguments why we shouldnt be together anymore 5 years later. People really do keep their emotional associations once they're set, guys!
That’s honestly hilarious dude. Sorry to laugh at your ineptitude but I have been just as inapt before. That was a trap. I’m sure she didn’t mean for it to be a trap but the situation she just always turn into traps. Really bothers me to think this, but I’ve had a lot of instances where true honesty from both parties ended up hurting me because the woman hold it over my head later. It’s sad but you cannot be totally open with a woman you care about.
@@docd2295 its ok to laugh. I put the story on display. About her holding things over your head: a high quality woman wouldn't do that. Maybe she doesn't realize she's making a power play. Find someone who respects your honesty. If she makes a bad move, maybe she can learn to be better
@@mortophobegaming6454 oh she definitely didn’t mean to I don’t think. But it happens. A good woman will try to meet you halfway and sort of “I’ll be honest with you and you be honest with me” and it sounds great….but they just are way more sensitive and never forget.
My latest situation was I had JUST started dating a girl and then she had this bachelorette weekend this time go to and she asked me about what the boundaries should be. I didn’t feel like taking on the boundaries of a relationship yet so I gave her a hall pass to have fun and then we can have this conversation later when she gets back. Well basically, I started to get in my own head about what she was doing snd so I went and hung out a girl I knew and made out with her, sort of to protect my own dignity. Later on I felt bad about it because my gf had done nothing with any guys on her trip so I told her about kissing that girl. She understand it wasn’t outside the rules and respected I told her. But a few weeks later when she broke up with me for other reasons, she brought that up I had kissed that other girl. She hadn’t let it go. All the bad things you do add up in women’s minds.
Can't wait to watch your new video Thursday!
thanks boss always learn something new from your video
I think the key to problems with dating is that you treat it like dating and not like a regular conversation. People can hang out and act normally. It reveals who people are and provides transparency. Dating should not be a challenge. Add more to refine what I said or fix it.
Yes it shouldnt be a challenge
Chicks like making it fkn near impossible
The playful sarcasm kinda came across as "I dont believe you".
I think a good idea for videos would be a Q and A every once in a while or maybe even on a consistent basis. I’d recommend highlighting a certain part of the video you think is most interesting in the title but with other things that people can listen to in the video. This would allow interaction with your audience and I’m sure we’d love to give you ideas on what to talk about through our wide network of people with unique situations. This would also birth new ideas and ares you could expand on (possibly even in another video)
Hope you see this,
James :)
i love this channel. Will implement these tips when flirting in the future
How does it went comrade?
the only thing i do among these 5 is
no.2. i say "wow amazing" way too many times.. 😂😂 i have to stop.. lolol 😂😂
Wow! Amazing!
Substitute "like, you know, sorta cool". That will impress him. Maybe not favorably so, but it will nonetheless.
That’s amazing!
Please do the video talking about Fab 5 (Queer Eye) and what makes them so likable charming! 🙏🏻❤
2nd is so true. I met a guy who was so cute and had an awesome personality but man, he thought everything about me was “perfect and amazing” like all the time, I could do no wrong. It was very exhausting, it felt un-genuine and it turned me off.