LIVING WITH BPD - attachments + favourite person / THE REALITY OF BPD

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  • having a 'fp'/favourite person and dealing with attachments when you're diagnosed with BPD is so difficult. I hope that you feel less alone with having to deal with these situations. I just want you to know that it's nothing to be ashamed of.. you can live a 'normal life' with BPD! lots of love, marie xxxx
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 302

  • @Flo-cy4xc
    @Flo-cy4xc 3 роки тому +126

    I am not diagnosed with bpd, however I fully understand that favorite person thing. I had one in high school, my physics teacheer, and as you say, my whole day was about where to meet her, when to meet her, how to meet her, what to say... Almost like being in love, but without any physical attraction.

    • @daisywhite9768
      @daisywhite9768 3 роки тому +4

      I literally had the same with teachers at school! It’s so hard to explain how you feel about them but I totally get you. I had it with about 4 teachers throughout secondary school and found it so hard to just get on with things!

    • @ellajmarshall
      @ellajmarshall 3 роки тому +1

      I fully relate to this🥺

    • @sianextfriday
      @sianextfriday 3 роки тому +16

      I’ve had the same thing with a teacher of mine. You said it so well with the “almost like being in love” thing. I would literally think 24/7 about her make up conversations in my mind and I was so desperate for her attention it’s embarrassing but I couldn’t help it.

    • @fernandabrown2595
      @fernandabrown2595 3 роки тому +2

      same, but with my therapist ffs

    • @vinnie1180
      @vinnie1180 Рік тому +1

      i experienced it with my english teacher last year. he recommended me a ton of books and movies and we honestly had a really nice relationship. my entire day ended up revolving around him, he was all i thought about. i thought i was just a weirdo who had a crush on her teacher but i felt absolutely no romantic attraction, almost like an infatuation/obsession. when he left the school, it ruined me beyond words. i digress, thanks for sharing this. it made me feel a lot less alone.

  • @mmamallama1827
    @mmamallama1827 3 роки тому +40

    When you feel desperate, you naturally attach to someone that knows how and does help you. They’re like saviors. *Mind you this puts you in a vulnerable position and you can really be taken advantage of. I was taken advantage of 😢

  • @josiemarie3828
    @josiemarie3828 3 роки тому +68

    THE MUSIC OMG😭😭😭 nostalgiaaaaaa

  • @kellyrose2978
    @kellyrose2978 3 роки тому +43

    it's so so crazy hearing you talk about attachments because no one ever talks about it and i cant even imagine explaining it to any of my friends and them actually understanding😭 not because they're judgmental just because they wouldn't get the difference between like having a "favorite person" vs like having a crush on them or being obsessed in a different way. and it's so insanely hard to get over an attachment too and you cant tell anyone about it

  • @joellebouwman5566
    @joellebouwman5566 3 роки тому +83

    oooh yes I love this topic. What I've found to be the most difficult in dealing with these feelings, is the awareness that it is inappropriate, or like, unhealthy. I would constantly judge myself and think I was disgusting or perverted in a way, I'd call myself a psycho stalker, like a constant bullying in my head. If I ever were to get this type of attachment again, I would consciously try to be so much more empathetic with myself. And like you said, it's not a choice. But I don't think I realized that at the time. I felt like I was guilty for having these 'wrong' feelings. We're not guilty.. we're just traumatized. The part that gets attached to a fp is most likely a child part of our consciousness, and we're judging that part with adult conceptions of what is deemed appropriate. But would you call a little kid perverted because they just want their parent, they want that one person that makes them feel safe? No, because that doesn't make sense, a kid is not guilty of having those feelings and neither is our inner child.

    • @joellebouwman5566
      @joellebouwman5566 3 роки тому +10

      especially because people whose attachment is disturbed in this way are so often called toxic! Ugh, it grinds my gears how much 'toxic' has become a buzzword but a lot of the time 'toxic behavior' is trauma behavior. Not that it should be excused, but people are not even making an effort to understand. Maybe you could do a video on that someday, Marie? I'd love to hear your thoughts!

    • @marieroseeee
      @marieroseeee  3 роки тому +6

      !!!!!! hit the nail on the head 🙋🏻‍♀️

    • @pandemicneetbux2110
      @pandemicneetbux2110 Рік тому

      Yeah...but that psycho stalker thing can be pretty charming if you're a guy who's usually jaded and numb.

  • @Gee-dq7pn
    @Gee-dq7pn 3 роки тому +36

    I don't feel alone anymore. Thank you. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

    • @marieroseeee
      @marieroseeee  3 роки тому +5

      i’m sending such big hugs to you 💕

  • @annmarie9163
    @annmarie9163 3 роки тому +33

    Great open discussion Marie.. my BPD, gives me intense sadness, anxiety when people seem to have dissapeard from me. They may be busy, but I take it as rejection. ......

  • @sheenie14
    @sheenie14 3 роки тому +37

    Marie, for me, this is the most helpful video you have ever made. Hearing that someone else feels the same things as me as a borderline is so comforting. Please keep making videos about BPD and how you deal with and experience symptoms.

  • @SofiHowie
    @SofiHowie 3 роки тому +25

    I don't have a diagnosis of BPD but this literally describes my whole life!! Mine tends to be people who are 'looking after me' too. Maybe it can be a trait in other conditions which I do have?
    I research their interests and things they have and sometimes buy the same things as them just to have the same stuff as them... even if I don't really like it myself!! It is embarrassing and I don't talk about it much. Thank you Marie!!!!

  • @ramisarahman485
    @ramisarahman485 2 роки тому +3

    FPs are like parents in my pov. They are people you long for to take care of you in any shape or form.

  • @sakuram4908
    @sakuram4908 3 роки тому +39

    interesting to hear this because I’ve been someone’s bpd favourite person and I think sometimes it can be just as hard to know that someone depends on you that much! interesting to hear this from your point of view xx

  • @weronika7158
    @weronika7158 3 роки тому +68

    can’t wait for more bpd videos! could you talk about derealization/depersonalization as well? xx love you!!

    • @sbjade9812
      @sbjade9812 3 роки тому +7

      I struggle with dissociation as well! sending you love 🥺💗

    • @weronika7158
      @weronika7158 3 роки тому

      @@sbjade9812 i’m sorry🥺 we can get through it💗💗

    • @germ6469
      @germ6469 3 роки тому

      yesyesyes pls

  • @lornatw
    @lornatw 3 роки тому +22

    I just want to point out to people you can have an attachment struggle similar to Marie's and not have BPD. For example if you are adopted age 3 and older (as attachment style stabalises around age 3) or you have a big separation in young *childhood* then you may develop/have attachment issues *without* BPD. 😊❤️ Same with identity issues/crisis. Remember, disorders are complex and it is important to understand where how why or when certain issues occur and make that clear to doctors as unfortunately so many will diagnose or treat you with barely any true info. ❤️

  • @curtisbemis6640
    @curtisbemis6640 7 місяців тому +4

    I'm looking back on Marie's videos. This will be my first Christmas without marie ,it's beyond heart breaking 💔 😢 Christmas is the first time I met marie and albie . My soul is still crushed . She is an angel that had a purpose , and I was so blessed to have her to call when I was in a bad place through anorexia, self harm, mental trauma. , she was there and understood what you were going through and had a loving vibe. She always called you babe when she talked. Texted you . Thats one thing only people who really knew her would know. Her sense of humor.

  • @gracefullam8557
    @gracefullam8557 9 місяців тому +11

    i’m so upset you weren’t able to fight bpd any longer. i hope you’re looking over your family and all your followers who still need your presence to push through. love you lots, rest easy princess ❤

    • @MyAngelAlfie
      @MyAngelAlfie 2 місяці тому

      What happened? ❤

    • @chxrlii167
      @chxrlii167 2 місяці тому

      ​@@MyAngelAlfie I heard that she took her life

    • @MyAngelAlfie
      @MyAngelAlfie 2 місяці тому

      @@chxrlii167 thankyou for the reply. That is very very sad 😔

    • @chxrlii167
      @chxrlii167 2 місяці тому

      @@MyAngelAlfie yeah... you're welcome

  • @contrapasso
    @contrapasso 3 роки тому +12

    I’ve had multiple Favorite People in my life. I call them Blue People, because I have synesthesia and I associate people with colors (you’re purple, btw!) and blue is my favorite color.
    You’re so right about how much it consumes you. It’s physically painful how much you NEED them. And when they leave or you can’t see them anymore-it is the worst pain I’ve ever felt. And like you said, my best friend is my soulmate, but she’s never been a Favorite Person to me. All of my FPs have been people I wasn’t able to date or didn’t want to date. I can’t imagine how intense it would be to KISS your FP?? To have sex with them??? To hear them say they love you in a romantic way! God I think I would die then and there lol for real
    Thank you for this!!

    • @jiyojiy6202
      @jiyojiy6202 Рік тому +1

      Omg, I didn’t know associating people with colour is an actual thing that others experience too

  • @Raisingapokemon
    @Raisingapokemon 3 роки тому +2

    I think you described this perfectly! Especially how you don’t choose your favorite person. It’s almost like you’ve found a soul mate but in a platonic way that isn’t reciprocated.

  • @mentalcat9529
    @mentalcat9529 3 роки тому +18

    My fp are usually people older than me, like teachers ( i had two in high school), therapists, psychiatrists...not really my friends or boyfriends

    • @ohio7738
      @ohio7738 11 місяців тому

      Same!😂

  • @nicoleramsay8531
    @nicoleramsay8531 3 роки тому +6

    I’m not diagnosed with BPD, I’m ADHD but I feel this attachment thing on another level. It actually hurts. A lot. Idk how to explain it and I definitely have a person that I feel physical pain over when I think of losing them. Like can’t breathe. This video was so validating 😭

  • @Max-uu6rv
    @Max-uu6rv 3 роки тому +15

    I’m only diagnosed with depression and don’t know what the symptoms for bpd but i do have a favourite person!

  • @domy6827
    @domy6827 3 роки тому +2

    I learned so much, thank you. I'm so glad you're sharing and showing people that BPD attachments are nothing to be ashamed about.

  • @graveyard2507
    @graveyard2507 3 роки тому +3

    this is so comforting because i relate to absolutely everything you’ve said. my fp ended up being a support worker from my camhs ip unit, the dependency i had on her (and in a way still do) became so intense so quickly, and even when she left at the end of her shift it would send me spiralling into feeling suicidal and acting on those thoughts. i always feel so embarrassed about it because i know i shouldn’t feel that much about someone in my care team but nothing i did would change it. she felt like safety and security to me and it really did destroy me when i turned 18 and was sent to an adult unit. fp’s can make you euphoric to suicidal and back again and it’s so scary. it ruined me and even a year later she’s still all i think about. i also wish there was somewhere i could’ve gone to get help with it because as soon as i mention it it’d cause arguements and no one understood it. it’s so hard. but thank you for this💜

  • @surfdemon4775
    @surfdemon4775 3 роки тому

    wow, thank you marie❤i didn't even know that a favorite person like that is a thing and i finally feel like i know what was going on with me a few years ago, thanks to you i appreciate this SO much❤sending love to everyone

  • @iella234
    @iella234 3 роки тому +2

    Loved hearing your experience with a favourite person. Mine was a teacher at school, she supported me a lot during my struggles + I felt understood by her which developed into my strong attachment. I would purposely walk past her class to catch her attention and if she wasn’t there or she was busy so couldn’t speak, it would really affect my mood for the rest of the day😬 really nice to see people talking about having a favourite person because I’ve felt so alone + ashamed for years xx

  • @vanillalatteicecream
    @vanillalatteicecream 3 роки тому

    It is such a relief to hear someone talk about this and hearing you speak about it makes me feel so much less alone

  • @curtisbemis6640
    @curtisbemis6640 7 місяців тому +2

    Some of the most hilarious moments I've experienced marie was the one that made me laugh. When i lost my best friend of 20 years. In 2018 she held me together. 😢😢

  • @rosalietimmerz3686
    @rosalietimmerz3686 3 роки тому +2

    Yess please make it a serie. I loved hearing your story. I totally have had the same experience and i have never heard anyone talk about it. I loved it and it really maked me more understand. Thank youuu

  • @zombiemama9648
    @zombiemama9648 3 роки тому +1

    You are so strong for doing this video! This was well done! I have been curious about bpd for a while. It has been very common in my family, but I haven't been diagnosed. So these videos are very helpful in having a better understanding of what it is. Love your videos! ❤ You are such an inspiration!!

  • @eriii7251
    @eriii7251 3 роки тому +2

    THE ACCURACY!!!!! i feel so validated from this, thank you so so so much!!!!

  • @Tamsin_bear
    @Tamsin_bear 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this! Don’t be embarrassed, we don’t choose this and like you said it’s how you respond to it that’s important. I’ve had various favourite people over the years, a few teachers when I was younger, therapists, and friends (usually male friends). It’s often people who are showing me care or providing some kind of emotional support to me. It’s not easy to deal with, I get really scared they are going to leave and if I feel like they are ignoring me, I can split on them and suddenly I’m really mad at them. I will never stay mad at them, like when they do text me or call me I’ll stop being mad. It’s a rollercoaster, like you said.

  • @mollie5630
    @mollie5630 3 роки тому +7

    oh my god!!!! I was exactly the same with my old cpn, literally down to a t!!!! thank god I actually thought I was the only one. the fear of her leaving actually took over my life to the point where I actually had to leave. its only been a month and I miss her soooo bloody much and I don't think that will ever go away but it gets so much easier doesn't it, the fact that she saved my life on so many occasions without probably even knowing and ill carry that gratitude for the rest of my life! x

    • @marieroseeee
      @marieroseeee  3 роки тому +1

      it can be so so difficult. i’m sending you so so much loveeeee 💜💜

  • @leriaselina4091
    @leriaselina4091 3 роки тому +3

    Every time I’d lost a favorite person it felt like my whole world was ending. I felt like I was literally dying for weeks or months or even years in severe cases and I would hurt myself in order to cope with these extreme emotions related to the “loss” of my favorite person and I always kind of knew that this wasn’t ‘normal’ but couldn’t do anything about it. Since I know about my bpd (was diagnosed about 3 years ago), I try my hardest to avoid these kind of relationships/attachments and keep some emotional distance to the people in my life since it’s literally life threatening for me to get too attached / have a favorite person.
    Great video Marie! 💕 Thank you for talking about the different aspects and symptoms of something as complex as BPD from an inside perspective. It’s not easy to talk about, so thank you very much for opening up about your experiences 🙏🏻💕

  • @hopebashford2645
    @hopebashford2645 3 роки тому +3

    You did really well filming this video considering it must of been really hard for you :) this video really helped me so thank you so much 💗 love you girllll x
    And that music is iconic to your channel, I love it ❤️

  • @daisywebber5513
    @daisywebber5513 3 роки тому

    This video genuinely could not have come at a better time, thank you so much Marie♥️xx

  • @tasham4485
    @tasham4485 3 роки тому +1

    Also although I don’t personally have bpd I really respect how open and strong you are to talk about this to your audience this has educated me a lot, thank you :) hope your doing okay 💕

  • @sophiac5354
    @sophiac5354 3 роки тому

    yesssss marie!!! thank you for this!! these videos always make me look forward to monday’s!!! 💗💗

  • @lilren8825
    @lilren8825 3 роки тому +4

    ive decided you are my fav online person, ty for your genuinely awesome content

  • @evebloom9196
    @evebloom9196 3 роки тому

    Thank you !! Please please keep making these videos, this is so important and you are so brave and such an inspiration ❤️

  • @charlottetaylor6595
    @charlottetaylor6595 3 роки тому +3

    i’ve always had strong attachments to certain people in my life even from a v v young age and never really thought i could have bpd until a friend suggested i look into it, i really appreciate you talking about fp cuz it’s something i struggle with rly bad i love ur videos on bpd ❤️❤️

  • @sianextfriday
    @sianextfriday 3 роки тому +1

    I’m so glad you filmed this. I never really realised but looking back I’ve def had a favourite person in my teacher. I would base my whole day off my interaction with her. I would not act normal around here I would be super careful when I knew that she could see me or was walking by and I would always tjhink about how to get her attention. I was in a super bad place I was very suicidal at that time and I really wanted her to care for me or kinda save me. I was always trying to meet her on accident and I would talk a LOT about her. It was like an obsession. She would take up my mind 24/7 like being in love but it was so weird and I knew that it’s not normal but I just couldn’t help it. I’m glad u talked about this.

  • @Freegreenwanderer
    @Freegreenwanderer 3 роки тому

    bpd is not something I struggle with I dont think however I relate strongly to this video but I just wanted to say that I find you very comforting to watch, you have this hopeful, inviting vibe about you. It helps that you seem raw and real and talk about things so openly so thanks 💚

  • @isabellss294
    @isabellss294 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much Marie. I now understand more about this, and I understand that it isn’t just me that is dealing with this. I’m so telling my therapist now that I finally know how to explain it❤️❤️❤️

  • @emilydallas03
    @emilydallas03 3 роки тому +2

    yesssss the old intro music :))) love this video and i think u hit the nail on the head when u described it as always idolising that person!! take care of yourself xxx

  • @kirstymcrobbie4425
    @kirstymcrobbie4425 3 роки тому

    Yes please continue with a series on this if you're comfortable. I have BPD so that would be so helpful. Fab video as always xo

  • @jemimacarr8240
    @jemimacarr8240 3 роки тому

    thank you so much for making this ive always felt like i didnt fit in but now i know others feel the same way so thank you xxx

  • @china9699
    @china9699 3 роки тому +1

    making a video about BPD attachments the same day I faced apologising to my FP of 3 years... legendary luv thank you

  • @jkally1
    @jkally1 3 роки тому +16

    Oo loving the intro and looking forward to the content in this video!

    • @lornatw
      @lornatw 3 роки тому +1

      Same, I always let out a sigh and sort of relax at each intro 😊

  • @hayleymarie8004
    @hayleymarie8004 3 роки тому

    You are literally amazing, Marie. Thank you so, so much for making this video. I admire you so much! 💟
    You're my all time fav UA-camr ❤
    Your future children are so lucky. You're so understanding and genuinely so lovely.
    Sending you soooooooo much love.
    💖💖💖💖 xxxxxxx

  • @ellajmarshall
    @ellajmarshall 3 роки тому

    Omg I’ve never understood why I had this feeling and how to explain it. Thank you so much for talking about this Marie🥺❤️

  • @gabriedl3187
    @gabriedl3187 3 роки тому +1

    Hiiii Marie 👼 I have quiet bpd/extreme anxiety/ed/depression/ADD and addictions. Rn I’m in a pretty bad depression episode and at times I feel so lost and crazy cuz nobody seems to understand how i feel what I’m going through and it makes me feel so alone😓 but when i listen to your videos, it gives me the strenght to keep going through my days and hope❤️ this is like a relief everytime I look at your videos and see that I’m not alone!! you are making me feel better THANK YOU SO MUCH 🥺✨ sorry for that big emotional comment I really felt the URGE to tell you all this right HERE RN ahaha

  • @angelazaballosmelgar5176
    @angelazaballosmelgar5176 3 роки тому

    I can relate so much with this! I've always struggled with relationships because of this, sometimes you love your favourite person, sometimes you hate her... I'm so gratefull that you talked about it because noone talks about it and I felt so understood listening to you. Thank you so much for your MH videos, they are really helpfull.

  • @tessward2221
    @tessward2221 3 роки тому +5

    You are so motherly, really you have grown so so much since I started watching you a few years ago. Xx

  • @lakentullis1614
    @lakentullis1614 3 роки тому

    This is so vulnerable, I’m so happy to have come across this video and found your platforms. This is very relatable and I find myself thinking a lot lately about my own favorite person and how I’ve treated him through the years. As you said it’s not my fault how it happened , it just occurs. He came into my life when I was grieving and in he was just always caring for me in every way I could ever need. He never asked for anything in return. He’s been a constant in my life as reflect on that now, always there in times I need him. However, I think he’s always been there and seen the worst of my many faces of manipulation. Has anyone else experienced this with their favorite person ? I feel like I would hate myself if I ever lost him but he seems to be the person I take advantage of the most and the phrase “hurt people hurt people” comes to mind , I feel like I’m constantly hurting him when all he ever does is comfort and nurture and care. I love him and want him in my life and it would hurt me so much to see him truly truly gone .. he’s in the background and lives in a different state our relationship is kinda complicated but why do I tend to treat him so painfully?

  • @sophiaf430
    @sophiaf430 3 роки тому

    Thank you sooo much for this video😍😍 I hoped you would do videos on bpd 🙈
    I’m in hospital right now, and with this video you made my day!! I hope you enjoyed filming it as much as I did watching 🤗
    I’d loooove more bpd videos! ❤️
    Wish u all the best😘

  • @Emi_72
    @Emi_72 3 роки тому +1

    I got attached to older women (psychologist, teachers) who were role models to me. I admired them and had so much respect for them. They were strong, independent women, they seemed to have their shit together. I was obsessed with them and I think it was a kind of love.
    But one day, someone younger got attached to me exactly that way and I felt strange and I was really touched at the same time. We talked about it and she said it was the first time someone didn’t freak out when she opened up to them.

  • @lanesraverity1344
    @lanesraverity1344 3 роки тому +2

    my counsellor was one of my favourite people too. she would send me Christmas cards every year, until she didn’t. I miss her and am soo thankful to her. I have tried reaching out to let her know my appreciation but haven’t had anything back. It’s been 10 years since I last spoke to her. I’m alive because of her🥺

  • @beckyhyams8314
    @beckyhyams8314 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing. I had this for years with my school key worker, who I had due to having a vision impairment, so her job was making sure all resources were made accessible to me and just meeting with me weekly to check in to see how I was doing with everything. She was there fore me through year 7 to 13, and she was honestly my fav big about school, as I didn't have great friends during that time. I relate with the idealisation of them, and fixation on interactions with them. If I said something that I wish I hadn't had said, I just thought over it all the time. I was so worried about her leaving the job before I did, but luckily she didn't.

  • @itssassysarah
    @itssassysarah 3 роки тому

    This absolutely needs to be a series

  • @hannahmiall
    @hannahmiall 3 роки тому

    I'm not diagnosed with BPD but honestly, these videos help me understand it more and low key watched this and was like I IDENTIFY with this so bad so am gonna speak to my therapist because now I've looked into BPD and damn!! Thanks for sharing stuff like this Marie it is so educating and refreshing! much love xxx

  • @MarzipanBoi
    @MarzipanBoi 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much.
    Right now I'm trying to have a better and healthy relationship with my favourite person, and I'm trying to not talk to him that much, but I have to try so hard in order to not come off as clingy or needy.
    I was having a hard time when your video popped up. I always thought it was weird feeling like this and I felt so embarrased and scared of pushing people away from me. But you really made me feel safe. I don't feel alone anymore. I know I can do it better.
    So, yeah, thank you, and I really mean it; thank you so much,

  • @lilyrose7114
    @lilyrose7114 3 роки тому

    thank you for talking about this!! talking to my friends or relatives about bpd is really difficult and this made me feel so validated! :)

  • @clarabarra2231
    @clarabarra2231 3 роки тому

    please do more BPD vids! I've been struggling to make my friends and fam understand and seriously I can't find anything online... love you & admire you loads Marie!

  • @annasaunders2357
    @annasaunders2357 3 роки тому

    i attached to my teacher in my teens and i always felt so embarrassed about it so thank you for talking about this so openly, i feel a lot less alone

  • @jasminemoukachar6677
    @jasminemoukachar6677 3 роки тому +2

    I feel so heard! I call my favourite person my “obsession”. I’ve had so many “obsessions” in my life, and I ALWAYS have one. One usually gets replaced by a new one. It’s always someone who is kind to me and helps me in some way. I’m a high functioning BPD, but my “obsessions” are one of my worst symptoms and sometimes interfere with life as I think about them 24/7 (fantasise about different scenarios) and try to be near them as much as possible or impress them 🤦‍♀️

  • @halseyxiii
    @halseyxiii 11 місяців тому +1

    Im not diagnosed with bpd but i struggle with attachments and fps so bad. I felt every word you said especially when it comes to openly talking ab it to others; trying to explain this "obsessive dependency" genuinely makes me feel awful bc like, it sounds so weird. i dont know how to explain this insatiable desire to always be around them and plan everything around them; the way they can make our days immediately better just by talking to us, etc.
    I genuinely appreciate you sharing and putting into words what i sometimes cant, and validating how i, and many others feel

  • @saffronb5221
    @saffronb5221 3 роки тому +3

    Lovin the intro Marie and I love ur videos and ur soooo amazing 😊🤗 I would also love a video about ur opinion on meds for mental illnesses. ❤️

  • @Amber-iq3jp
    @Amber-iq3jp 3 роки тому

    marie, i can completely relate with a care worker i had.... i didn’t know if anyone else had the same experience so this video makes me feel so much less alone

  • @christina7182
    @christina7182 3 роки тому

    tbh watching this video was a bit hard for me because i also had an attachment to my old english teacher at college. she turned into my role model and i'm still in contact with her today but i can relate to everything you say so much. whenever i think back on how obsessed i used to be with her always trying to get her attention and my whole mood shifting when she does something i feel embarrassed. as you said its normal to feel this way and there is nothing bad to it. i mean we always were nice to the people we obsess with and dont mean no harm but i do understand how uncomfortable it makes us feel for the fact we can't really control it. i think this will always be a thing that makes me very uncomfortable and embarrassed but i'm so proud of you for talking about it so i dont feel so alone with it. love you so much marie. you have no idea how much your videos help me.

  • @brookstanbery8717
    @brookstanbery8717 Рік тому

    I am SO thankful you shared this! I understand completely and this was so clarifying!

  • @mayamahmoud199
    @mayamahmoud199 3 роки тому +2

    omg i’m so grateful for this video, thank you 😊🥰🥰🥰

  • @natr5774
    @natr5774 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so so so much for this, I really relate! I used to attach to some of my teachers as my FPs and I just thought I was so weird but I feel less alone now💗💗

  • @elenabuono6311
    @elenabuono6311 3 роки тому

    thank you for making this video, its so helpful to know im not alone in feeling this way

  • @lucybuchanan9734
    @lucybuchanan9734 3 роки тому +4

    the acoustic music makes me feel so safe i miss it :)

  • @skyeyoung5692
    @skyeyoung5692 3 роки тому

    I'm diagnosed with BPD and would personally LOVE to hear you talk about BPD traits and your personal experience. I can never find people to really relate to in that aspect. Thank you so much for making this video : )) xx

  • @Echo-yk1id
    @Echo-yk1id 3 роки тому

    I've always wanted you to post this sort of content (symptoms), please continue. I don't seem to ever form a close relationship without it being an FP situation and it makes me afraid to form them at all, I don't currently have an FP, because even though I can recognise and manage the symptoms to an extent, I'm never perfect at it & it leads to the other person resenting the pedastool I've placed them on (understandable) and me feeling a lot of really shit feelings like insecurity, disappointment, etc, it just causes too much emotional instability. I'm in a weird time in my life where I almost don't feel attached to anyone, but I think it's just that no one's my FP and I don't feel like I can't tolerate separation from anyone, I almost feel inclined to say I'd end a relationship with someone if they became my FP in future because it's so unhealthy for me. I'd love to hear more about how your r/ship with Dylan used to be and how it is now, coz it seems like you changed your relationship out of an FP dynamic.

  • @bethevans3300
    @bethevans3300 2 роки тому

    OMG Marie, thankyou so much for talking about this so openly! I feel a lot of shame and embarrassment around this topic but the way you talk about it helped so much!! Oop, I know this is an old video but I'm just catching up :)

  • @CalliopeFlowerFarm
    @CalliopeFlowerFarm 2 роки тому

    I'm in the thick of this right now and it's so so so helpful to have this video. Thank you.

  • @hollyhigbee4378
    @hollyhigbee4378 3 роки тому +1

    You did absolutely great with this video, thank you for sharing and teaching us. Have a great week xx

  • @bollyRAINBOW14
    @bollyRAINBOW14 3 роки тому +1

    I find this so interesting. I’ve struggled with mental health on and off for 16 years and there was a point that I was meeting criteria for bpd and I had a favourite person and I completely get what you mean. It’s so weird and hard to talk about because it does feel embarrassing but I’m not really sure why?! Thank you for talking about it I think it’s so important.

  • @daniwilsonluv
    @daniwilsonluv 3 роки тому +3

    Pls make more bpd videos because this one made me feel so understood bc I felt like my attachments were so bad and weird and no one else did that

  • @chlohealey
    @chlohealey 3 роки тому +3

    Fully relate thank you SO much for verbalising this...I felt awful when I had a favourite person like I felt like a stalker and obsessive and it was HORRIBLE. X

  • @kyliemccomas8339
    @kyliemccomas8339 3 роки тому +1

    This is very well explained I think! I’m not diagnosed the bpd but with other mental illnesses and I have had experiences like this.

  • @e11esounds
    @e11esounds Рік тому

    Massive respect for your honesty.

  • @sophiaw.6589
    @sophiaw.6589 3 роки тому

    This actually made me cry because I relate so much to what you're describing. My fp's have always been therapists, nurses or teachers

  • @amyw9665
    @amyw9665 3 роки тому +2

    I just adore your personality 💕

  • @cloud.observations
    @cloud.observations 3 роки тому +1

    I have DID and was previously diagnosed with BPD. I defo have this same trait with favourite people! Maybe its coping mechanism from having trauma? Thanks for speaking about this! We still miss some of our favourite people today xxx

  • @rorydoyle7636
    @rorydoyle7636 Рік тому +1

    I developed my first favorite person when i was 13 years old, and i haven’t seen this person in going on four years and i think about them multiple times every singe day. It’s absolute hell. and i can feel myself developing another attachment to my current best friend, or more realizing that i am entirely dependent on her and maybe have been for some time, and i am terrified of ruining our relationship. Because it’s ruined relationships before. and god it fucking sucks. i know it’s terrible to be someone’s favorite person. but experiencing it from the inside is hell on earth

  • @anonymousneko2550
    @anonymousneko2550 Рік тому +1

    My favorite person left me 5 months ago, (3 years of relationship) I hurt him big time by constantly mistrusting him, blocking, unfollowing, ignoring his messages, text and calls. I pushed him too far that he decided to leave me permanently. I don't want to get into any relationship or get so Dependent and attached to the point that i became obsessed with someone, knowing that i probably have BPD (tho i'm not getting any diagnosis yet) I don't want to get hurt and hurt someone again unitentionally.

  • @she.inbloom
    @she.inbloom 3 роки тому

    This has been really helpful to listen to, thank you so much! ✨🌸🌿

  • @CC-lk7mc
    @CC-lk7mc 3 роки тому

    As someone diagnosed with ‘BPD traits’ this definitely resinates with me. I developed a huge attachment to my old therapist as she was the ‘safest’ person in my life at the time. And the loss when I got discharged from that service was huge...

  • @sparkeli4513
    @sparkeli4513 3 роки тому

    This is the first video that I have watched from you and I found myself relating to a lot of what you say. You're hilarious btw.. Your honesty and how open you are- even though you know some people may judge is actually refreshing. As a person with BPD to see someone talk openly about the part/trait of BPD, which must of us cringe about, really made me feel like. actually.. f*ck anyone who wants to judge.
    The way you describe a favourite person as not being a best friend is something that is 100% bang on with my experience of having a FP. I'm in a few BPD groups on Facebook and so many people in the groups talk about their partner being their FP and I have never had this happen. Whenever I have an FP it's usually someone that has been in a caring position so it could be a teacher or someone who has helped with my mental health. I am surprised that you also didn't have that instant FP vibe with your old CPN. My current FP is someone that I really didn't expect to become my FP. If anything I actually didn't think much of her but over time she slowly became my FP. It's something I'm trying to work on but it is really difficult. Thanks for your video :)

  • @sigitadombrovska6596
    @sigitadombrovska6596 3 роки тому +1

    The best video everrrrrr that’s made the start to new fresh start of the week the beat girl everrrr ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😀

  • @ValeryPereiraa
    @ValeryPereiraa 3 роки тому +1

    I would love more videos like these as I got diagnosed back in feb during an admission but I'm still trying to understand it myself

  • @lucyc746
    @lucyc746 3 роки тому +1

    Really needed video. Thank you, loads of love x

  • @malissatatro102
    @malissatatro102 3 роки тому +1

    I’m coming out of an all time low in my depression(and much more) and your videos have helped me so much. I’d love any tips you may have to get and stay out of this awful time.

  • @fayegilroy9060
    @fayegilroy9060 3 роки тому +1

    This is so relatable. My favourite person is my best mate, I’ve known her for 3 years and I’m deeply in love with her (which she knows). But she’s found someone else cause she doesn’t want to be with me in a relationship and it’s just a nightmare the utter heartbreak this attachment is bringing me and has been bringing me for the past 3 years is so intense x

  • @adelaopletalova6897
    @adelaopletalova6897 3 роки тому

    I am here for your opinions 🙋‍♀️ i love your explanation "style"! There are many doctors on youtube, but only one Marieeeeee 💖
    Oh, and that music 😍 it brought me back in time, when i was bingewatching your videos and they were like a foot kicking my ass into starting recovery... 🙃😆

  • @sarawatkins1086
    @sarawatkins1086 3 роки тому +1

    Loved this Marie and thanks for talking about it. In my experience my attachments have changed throughout my life. When I was younger it used to be friends then in my teens it became boyfriends. I can safely say now at age 32 I don’t feel I do this anymore since having DBT. Still really interesting though isn’t it. Also really interesting to think of why it happens.
    Would definitely like sone more BPD videos. Big hugs ❤️

    • @marieroseeee
      @marieroseeee  3 роки тому +1

      i would also love to know why!!! but i suppose sometimes, even if we don’t know why, we have to deal with the situation. i’m hoping revisiting my DBT skills will help me back on track! sending love, thankyou for the suppoty xxxx

  • @FWilliams156
    @FWilliams156 3 роки тому +1

    I completely relate to this. when I first started experiencing Fps I was in school and I had no idea what it was but it genuinely made me think that I was madly in love with my teacher and if they perhaps didn't see me so didn't smile at me I thought that I had done something to upset them and it completely destroyed me. it is almost like an intense infatuation. I would also get so paranoid that other people would think that I was in love with my teacher. even though I knew on many levels that I was not in fact feeling love and that it was something different, I just didn't know what

  • @saegemehlfee
    @saegemehlfee Рік тому

    Thank u for making this, I had this trait for 10 years before i found out there were other people who did this too and thats hard man