How do you get people to look past the A word (Autism)? Even if it is high functioning? I have been wanting to give the whole dating thing a try but even with a few women who I thought things were going well with, they always backed out before there was ever any face to face meeting? It doesn't matter if I am being simple or deep, I have tried so many things. I feel that I have decent enough looks, intellect, likeability factors and more than enough good stuff to offer. I have tried pouring out who I am, and I consider myself to be quite deep when I get to know enough about someone. So if there is any advice you can give me with this, I am all ears, cause I would love to find her someday, someone who is also deep and just real/true to themselves, o if there is a way to present this better or just whatever, please, please, please let me know: "When I look at/experience stuff, like say, rocks, wind, touch, facial expressions, vocals/tones, emotion...everything, they/life are all like living/emotional objects to me, absolutely everything is, and in that way everything is the same thing/countless emotions/senses/etc forever changing, like that of constantly changing/moving water/ripples/vibrations/etc where me and everything else is just that, so the concept of anything being separate from one another took me quite some time to grasp :) When I was on pills, I understood measurement/perspective, things being separate, nothingness, emptiness, boredom, vastly dulled emotions, death, time, and the world felt and even look like it had a lot less colourations/shades/depth, like it was a lot more 2 dimensional looking compared to my normal self and I felt much like an actual/literal zombie (Again, compared to my normal self) and all of this bought forth what to me was a new kind of fear, the fear of being alone, of death, of nothingness T_T I then needed to find stuff to try to fill in this new concept of emptiness, of a kind of darkness/loss that I had never known before, of creating+faking emotions to try and fill the void and “time” seemed to move much faster as so much amazing+intense stuff was missing. I must keep emphasizing that without the pills, everything (Yes, emotions/sounds/etc too...everything) is like an ever changing bombardment of ripples, waves, vibrations and tones where emotions are everywhere and everything T_T All too often, due to many Autistics physical/verbal/emotional/etc reactions this easily makes it look like a fair number of people on the spectrum don’t have much in the ways of emotion/etc, that we don’t really care about how others feel, that we shut ourselves off from emotions and so on, but I say that the problems are in the fact that too many of these “expert” researchers are comparing us to the average persons, and I see that as being a truly massive mistake on their part… I live as emotion with forever changing emotion all around, and it is a super intense lifestyle, but when I was on the pills, they opened my eyes to another way of living/looking at/experiencing things/life and for me the way I naturally live (Without the pills) is the way I want to live even though for most others, it would probably send them into madness, just as the pills introduced me to a way of looking at/experiencing things that to me was it’s own world of madness… This has all combined together to give me some very interesting perspectives/understandings, like a bridge between the 2 worlds, and I think that I have turned out very well as a result of it all, and I have even spoken in a couple of events before too, and being on the pills made colours and so much other stuff really dulled down, almost like being shut in a dark cold room, torn away from life’ love/a mother torn away from her child. Without pills, everything is much brighter and sharper in an intensity soothing (non blinding with the right environments/etc) kind of way (Like floating+melting, as if being filled with water in a very cooling/cleansing way, as if I am about to enter heavens cool yet warming light), being able to see countless more shades/etc then I otherwise would due to things being so much more detailed, like looking at/feeling never ending/forever changing tapestries of bright liquid crystal silver light :) Here is one of the pieces of poetry that I typed a while back that I think would go pretty well with this: May your souls of ghostly liquid light spread their cleansing chills to hauntingly beautiful tones and vibrations in the never ending melodies of mysterious holy darkness in life’s eerily eternal song of infinitely awe inspiring complexities, turning fear into enhanced awareness & illuminating the way for others through the experiences of angels through us T_T" I have also given Women a glimpse into other experiences that are important to me, and on top of all that I have asked questions with giving my own answers to them so that me and her can really get to know about our favourite hobbies, shows, foods and so on.
Being a married Entrepreneur myself, the best best thing I can advise to people on here is to make sure you have someone who believes in you and supports you! My wife is my Cheerleader and all the other "benefits" of marriage are just that... benefits.
I’m a 25 year old Christian entrepreneur and one of my biggest dreams is to get married and have a big family. This is the exact kind of content I was looking for.. Thanks Patrick👊🏽❤️🔥
I was super lucky. Found a woman who thinks very similar to me. She supports me in the hobbies I have. She makes me my favorite Mexican food. God is good.
8:10: 4 9:55: 5 What do People Marry For? 14:33: 6 Who you Decide to Marry! 14:50: Have 3 non negotiables 15:45: You can't force somebody to love you or force urself to love somebody. 16:50 : book suggestion, 101 questions 17:15: Know what you can't work with! 20:10: 21:21: 22:33: Alignment in beliefs is important 27:20: introduced girl to ppl he trusted, for feedback. We all gave blind spots 28:20: Inversion! Valuable wisdom in how not to do it. 32:24: Question. What do we do when we go through Financial difficulties 33:20: If your daughter Question 35:40: Transparency 38:50: Be OVERLY prepared!
I'm a single guy in his early 20s and I'm really damn tired of hearing MGTOW people telling me to "abandon ye hope all who enter here" and never get married. So thank you for this video. I want to take my time but at the same time, I would like to get married or at least in the process of marriage before I hit 30. Modern feminism today scares the hell out of me but I still do want to raise a family and have kids. I believe I'll be a good father. Thank you for the video :)
Good for you! I’ve only been married two years, but it’s great and my husband would agree! I showed up to our first date (met online) with a list of pre-marital counseling questions. We made a game out of discussing a few questions each date. We matched up on all of the major questions about religion, political persuasion, and life goals. Everything else was easy to keep an open mind about because it wasn’t important to either of us. Almost 3 years, a wedding, and one child later, I have no regrets. He is now my best friend. Marriage to the right person for the right reasons is a blessing, not a curse. I highly recommend it!
Work & create value on yourself, & when you’re ready usually by late 20s early 30s you’ll be ready & find some1 about 5-10yrs younger than you that you both can build together
@philspaghet I TOTALLY understand your viewpoint. I felt like you when I was young. However MGTOW guys have it right. Life will teach you the hard way or you can follow wise advice. Your Purpose as a MAN does NOT involve wife and family. Furthermore, getting married and having children in USA puts you on a path of being betrayed by wife and children and destroyed by govt if done in the West. My success story is ever greater that DBP's. His story doesn't hold a candle to mine and what I have avcomplished and overcone so he cannot dismiss me as an irrelevant loser. I will say that if you genuinely want to have a family, wait until you have secured lifetime financial security in your 40s 50s or even 60s and can move to Phillipines, Thailand, Eastern Europe, etc where marriage and family is not under assault by Gov't and society.
@andre1987eph bro I want my wife to find me attractive, I'm not going to wait till my 40s. Also, statistics are easily manipulated. I'm a devout Christian man, by that alone my chances of finding a traditional woman go up from maybe 5-10% if you're a secular person to well over 60% when I couple that with the fact that I'm a pretty good judge of Christian character since I've been in ministry for so long since middle school. As for lifetime security, I'm an engineer, I'll be making over 6 figures by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine when it comes to that. I don't want to marry a chick who would be my theoretical daughter's age lmao.
@@philspaghet you're right Phil. I hate feminism and I pray to God to see more happy families. Because a happy family it comes from a happy marriage between them both
Interesting, I preached the same advice to my single friends! I'm always checking out girls for my husband😂😂 NUMBER 1 RULE I gave my husband when I met him. We DON'T FIGHT ABOUT MONEY! We talk and find a solution. Marriage is like a business, you invest on eachother, you strategize solutions, etc. If your investment is not helping you grow or bringing the business(family) down then time to reinvest or find a new business. Sharing this video with my single sons!
I am 65 years young. Single. Made my mistakes. I totally agree on the things he said to discuss and reflect on. I diffidently will revisit these questions for sure. I still believe I can make a better choice even at my age. Never lose hope. 🙏😊🥰
21:10 (we are Muslims). Economic alignment is VERY important. I remember asking my wife (then girlfriend in college) what does she propose I do with $1,000 between taking a vacation or reinvest it and she gave me an idea which made us money to buy our first property (land). I was merely testing her with the vacation question, I was very happy she chose reinvesting the money
I have to say this: Your marriage advice that you give people here is one of the best I've heard! I know you are not a marriage expert, but I think every married person can give at least a little helpful advice about marriage. I also want to say that I love your videos, they are full of important information for entrepreneurs. I like people like you who get to the point fast without fluff and a lot of self promotion. And I love your honesty! As far as marriage and entrepreneurs I also have a little advice as an ex-married person: if you are single and an entrepreneur or are considering having your own business, make sure your partner is going to be at least opened to the idea (if not entrepreneur herself or himself). You cannot imagine the struggle you'll have with people who do not trust in your abilities that you can do this and constantly tell you to give up and get a job because is the "safest" and "best" way to live. Particularly when you start your own business is going to be a lot of work to build it and it's going to take a while to make a constant stream of income, and if your partner does not support you in this, it's not impossible to be successful (there are lots of people who've done it), but it's going to be a constant struggle. Anyway, thanks for the video, and keep them coming!
I'm not married yet but it's good to know that I'm not the only person who thinks it would be best to reduce the likelihood of the marriage ending. Divorce is an expensive roadblock to success.
You are a great man Pat, not only because you lead a company but because your words are loaded with timeless truths and they are applicable for everyone even with the least of opportunity. Thanks a lot...
I am not yet married but I wish I met you long ago through my teens because you give a wholistic perspective to life and i think people like you is what we all need.
Know your why for marriage, be clear on the type of person you're looking for, who you choose is the most important decision you'll make, be upfront about your non-negotiables, you can't force someone to like you, make sure your beliefs are aligned, take advice from people you respect, be upfront about everything your past your expectations and your vision for the future
if your not sharing Patrick's videos, your not grateful for the value he has provided to you! come on guys lets help him get to a million subcribers before the end of the year! Pat is the only one that teaches like your dump he repeats and makes himself clear all the time, I love his content. do share!
I'm really glad I saw this in my feed; this is gold! I'm a middle aged bachelor and an aspiring freelancer. I am wrestling with the question of getting married or not one day; currently unfortunately I have no gf or any prospects - the pandemic isn't helping now in finding compatible ladies ha ha. This has to be one of your best episodes on your channel. Good marriages have been proven (based on stats; and yes, not every good marriage produces the following) to bring guys elevated levels of positive perspective, ambition, job promotion, earnings and health. I found that question one would pose regarding a hypothetical daughter to be great, and as for me (which is a bit brutally awkward to accept, but accept I will) the answer would sadly be a clear no. Man, I have so much to work on. Thanks once again for this covering this topic. I wish you and the Mrs. many years of happiness!
Same on my question I’m still single since my fiancé cheated on me . It always be a question right now if I will get married someday or not .Maybe when I find the loyal one
I'm 21 and a college senior studying business. I saw this video while scrolling through your channel. Thanks for the awesome video, it was very thought provoking! I will keep this information tucked away as I begin to enter my post-college years.
Patrick you are awesome! I was a little bit skeptical about listening to your channel initially. But you provide the best content on UA-cam by far. I really hope every aspiring entrepreneur could watch all your videos. You have helped me in my personal, business and spiritual life. I watch and re-watch your videos everyday!
Patrick, I love your page and love your content... I want to encourage you to wear your wedding band 100% of the time. It’s a reminder that you were born to be a good man for your wife and family even when those weak moments present themselves.....I have learned from experience what it is to miss the mark here. I appreciate your life message more then you know!
If you look for red flags, scan guys like a detective, leave after they shout at you, show signs of controlling, jealous behaviour, choose a kind hearted person that tries to give you everything, time, alone time, support - financial, emotional etc. - you will not fail. Many settle or choose a person because of looks, sex, etc. so their marriage fails.
Patrick you are like the dad I never had.. In every video I feel like Im having a man to man talk with a dad that cares about me and my goals. Thank you.. I never had that..
Pat, you are 100% right. Common beliefs are everything, BUT you first have to be able to define those beliefs outside of what your family, and culture at large, is telling you who you are. This is the work most of us don't want to do. It's uncomfortable. So we choose to settle with the familiar and thus, end up in a disastrous marriage.🤔 btw you're hilarious 😂
You know... I really like you and your way of thinking. I sent this video to my sons (who are currently 28 and 32). I believe they will get a lot out of it and lead to more discussions about where they want to go and what they want to do in life. Mostly though, I like the great example of you, your family values - and business. Keep it coming.
I'm married (for 13 yrs now) with kids, and my wife makes it next to impossible for me to invest and pursue my dreams of starting a business. She wants to have a house and be wealthy and live the lifestyle ... BUT she doesn't want to put in the work...she wants to get the results without putting in the work. Once we have some money saved up she wants vacations, she wants to spend her money on eBay and shopping and eating out, and car parts (not to fix but to making it look custom)...and it's driving me crazy. When I'm trying to invest in stocks... she complains but when she wants this new car parts, shes first to go for it without asking me and the crap is worth more than what I want to start investing with. Needless to say we argue about finances all the time. I want to take her to finance meetings but she declines... Sorry for ranting...but I don't know what else to do.
Omg this is my second video of you and I'm loving every bit of the content here. And your mode of delivery is entertaining. You're funny and I truly enjoy this.
Patrick the first time that I saw this video was about four years ago when I was just getting out of the IDF. While I was in the military I was building a business on the side. Borrowed money and have built a business that I still have. Once I got out of the military I began building a second business, and although I was fortunate to have the second business be a success within an year. I lived like I was still in the military meaning a one bedroom apartment and an average car. I planned to get married and I was planning to be more financially solid then at that time. She felt differently about it and instead of leaving she stepped out. I have since then bought two other companies and real estate properties. I should have mentioned that the apartment I was living in was being owned by me. Now I'm where I want to be financially and I love my life. I'm not excessively promiscuous I enjoy reading a lot and continue practicing martial arts. My family and the Rabbi at the Synagogue thinks that I should get married but I'm not sure I want to do that. I am not into the club scenes, bars, or any of that other stuff. I don't drink a lot maybe some scotch on Thursday or Friday. Other than that I lead a clean life in the sense of a clear mind, life, and body. I think I have watched this video one hundred times. (P.S. I have read every book I have seen your recommend on here from the videos I watched. Built quite a library that way.) All of this being said I'm not sure I want a family, or children, or the things that most of my parents do. You have provided a lot of clarity here. Thanks
Good Video, Sad Nobody told me this 30 years before! After 2 marriages finally I know the one real reason a marriage can work: all the things that you said plus the one and only is that both has to be in love! without love there will be no motivation to do any efforts on building a good relation.
Another Great Video! Deep down I believe marriage is teamwork. Partnership, like in business you look for the heart and character of an individual that shares the same ambitions & standards to achieve and continue growing together for a greater cause. Blessings to you Patrick!
If I want to have long term commitment Id listen to people who've been there is still growing together like you. Singleness becomes boring when you are wired to be in a partnership and build a family.
The first person I seriously wanted to marry was my best friends' mom... Yo her eyes are insane I stared into her eyes the first I saw them, then she was so competitive that was my whole criteria. I was 13 at the time I eventually got over it
Never have I been more inspired and motivated from someone than Patricks videos. For Life and business. He has got really asking myself things I never have before. Thank you. Keep up the fabulous wotk.
We answered your 50 Questions together when we first started dating. The questions were difficult, but we were both serious about finding the right person. We've been together for a year now and talking about getting married. Thank you for providing the questions, Pat
I got married when I was 21 and have been married for three years, the main thing I've learn't is the art of negotiation. My wife can be a mental terrorist at times and you never know when I'll need to calm her down before she sets off the detonator! Great job Patrick, keep up the great content.
Patrick and his wife Jennifer Bet- David are pure examples of healthy preservation of the roles in a relationship. Thank you for sharing your views with us. This information is very well presented, and all his materials reflect his class, balanced mindset, asertiveness, and emotional health. I am working on becoming a better version of me, and this content helps a lot.
I think marrying early in adulthood is big for your growth as a man but it scares the heck out of me getting married before having a strong financial base. Having a strong financial base is also very important for me as I saw how much finances could effect a family and I don’t want to repeat that for myself.
This is such a special video because many of us entrepreneurs want to design our lives and romantic relationship(s) are part of the journey for some of us. Thank you
You sir are a role model. This is the best video on this topic I've ever watched. It's very to the point, as oppose to vague and woo-woo advice that other people give.
I mean...I spent a lot of time thinking if I'm going to be able to balance family and work since becoming an entrepreneur means a LOT of work after watching your video about working 80 hours a week, and today I found you've done this amazing video :') I feel so optimistic about this now, thank you, you are amazing :)) And where can I get that shirt? xD
Gotta get married when my business takes off. I'm on a quest to make children, alot of them lol i need to make me an army of grandchildren and have them all being raised to be entrepreneurs to make my family name great.
@@703c You can start by moving your precious self to Mars if the world is so overpopulated... Instead of telling people not to have as many kids as they can afford.
I'm 6 years late but I'm ever so glad I stumbled upon this video... pertinent information shared that will help me when making that decision in the near future. Thank you so much.
Thank you Pat, to you and your excellent team. Your videos are a must for entrepreneurs. Pretty sure you'll be back bigger and better in good time. I wish you and the team every success.
I literally laughed as pat said your 32 years old and not married and you need some kids! While thinking of proposing to my girl! I’m 32 no kids and not married yet! That’s alignment!
Patrick, this knowledge that you’re dropping (which is quite evidently based around your own ample personal experiences in life) is so deeply insightful and rich in pragmatism. Kudos! And, thank you!! 🏆
Great thanks, Patrick. I share your video with some singles including my daughter - and they are all ministry persons (",). God bless you and your family, Bro! Never thought of this I found after watching as usual your enterpreneur video.
This video should have the most views of any video on this channel as its one of, if not the most valuable Pat's made. Yet its one of the least viewed. And we wonder why so many relationships are screwed up.
Glib conversationalist! Great content. I also find the book “101 Question... and Five Love Languages” quite interesting and on point. Thanks for sharing your views on this topic. Great stuff! Happy days😇
Hi Patrick, I’ve watched most of your videos twice and currently I’m going through your interview videos. Incredible contents and I’m a big fan! As a person who’s going to start a business and get married, I was wondering if you’d be able to provide your audience with some contents and detailed explanations on prenup, maybe as a separate video? Thanks so much for all the values you’ve added to so many people’s lives so far!
Thank you for shedding some light into this topic.d I could find everything about the entrepreneurial life but nothing regarding how important the marriage role can play in an entrepreneurs life. Will go through the questionnaire w my gf.
I'm finally content with who I am as I've overcome many insecurities and faults, became more centred and well-rounded and courageous; though still have things to work on like I want to take up boxing or a martial art, and attend improvised comedy classes. But I don't feel I'm ready for dating let alone marriage, mainly for my lack of time and money at the moment, being a uni student and raising an infant by myself. Stoic philosophers and having a men's coach as a mentor certainly helped me on a path to maturity and self-awareness. Used to hate the mirror but after years of work, I'm genuinely proud of myself.
The most important decision you ever make is whom you marry. This is your "other half," the mother or father of your children, the person who decides much of the spending, her/his impressions on others will reflect on you too, her/his family becomes your family. The right partner will make your success exponential, but the wrong person will ruin your life even long after the divorce. Many people will pretend to be someone they are not, until it is too late, so get to really know them. People can 'say' anything, but not follow through. Imagine what that person will be like going through a divorce; are they vengeful, bad-tempered? On the other hand, early marriage can be extremely healthy physically and emotionally and help you financially. The stability and support a good marriage offers is substantial. Consider a very cheap wedding and save for more important investments or travel. Weddings do not need to be expensive to be fun and memorable.
Funny you reference; Notebook. That is a story of my hubby and I. 36 and going. It's been SO HARD, but truly the most UNCONDITIONAL LOVE I have ever witnessed. BTW; My hubby loves your work, Patrick.
Get the PDF here: valuetainment.com/who-to-marry-how-to-marry/
It said to fill out the form to get the 50 questions to ask but there was no form. Help?! 😥
I can not access it how come
Where can I get the PDF, not on the website anymore
How do you get people to look past the A word (Autism)? Even if it is high functioning? I have been wanting to give the whole dating thing a try but even with a few women who I thought things were going well with, they always backed out before there was ever any face to face meeting? It doesn't matter if I am being simple or deep, I have tried so many things. I feel that I have decent enough looks, intellect, likeability factors and more than enough good stuff to offer. I have tried pouring out who I am, and I consider myself to be quite deep when I get to know enough about someone. So if there is any advice you can give me with this, I am all ears, cause I would love to find her someday, someone who is also deep and just real/true to themselves, o if there is a way to present this better or just whatever, please, please, please let me know:
"When I look at/experience stuff, like say, rocks, wind, touch, facial expressions, vocals/tones, emotion...everything, they/life are all like living/emotional objects to me, absolutely everything is, and in that way everything is the same thing/countless emotions/senses/etc forever changing, like that of constantly changing/moving water/ripples/vibrations/etc where me and everything else is just that, so the concept of anything being separate from one another took me quite some time to grasp :)
When I was on pills, I understood measurement/perspective, things being separate, nothingness, emptiness, boredom, vastly dulled emotions, death, time, and the world felt and even look like it had a lot less colourations/shades/depth, like it was a lot more 2 dimensional looking compared to my normal self and I felt much like an actual/literal zombie (Again, compared to my normal self) and all of this bought forth what to me was a new kind of fear, the fear of being alone, of death, of nothingness T_T
I then needed to find stuff to try to fill in this new concept of emptiness, of a kind of darkness/loss that I had never known before, of creating+faking emotions to try and fill the void and “time” seemed to move much faster as so much amazing+intense stuff was missing. I must keep emphasizing that without the pills, everything (Yes, emotions/sounds/etc too...everything) is like an ever changing bombardment of ripples, waves, vibrations and tones where emotions are everywhere and everything T_T
All too often, due to many Autistics physical/verbal/emotional/etc reactions this easily makes it look like a fair number of people on the spectrum don’t have much in the ways of emotion/etc, that we don’t really care about how others feel, that we shut ourselves off from emotions and so on, but I say that the problems are in the fact that too many of these “expert” researchers are comparing us to the average persons, and I see that as being a truly massive mistake on their part…
I live as emotion with forever changing emotion all around, and it is a super intense lifestyle, but when I was on the pills, they opened my eyes to another way of living/looking at/experiencing things/life and for me the way I naturally live (Without the pills) is the way I want to live even though for most others, it would probably send them into madness, just as the pills introduced me to a way of looking at/experiencing things that to me was it’s own world of madness…
This has all combined together to give me some very interesting perspectives/understandings, like a bridge between the 2 worlds, and I think that I have turned out very well as a result of it all, and I have even spoken in a couple of events before too, and being on the pills made colours and so much other stuff really dulled down, almost like being shut in a dark cold room, torn away from life’ love/a mother torn away from her child.
Without pills, everything is much brighter and sharper in an intensity soothing (non blinding with the right environments/etc) kind of way (Like floating+melting, as if being filled with water in a very cooling/cleansing way, as if I am about to enter heavens cool yet warming light), being able to see countless more shades/etc then I otherwise would due to things being so much more detailed, like looking at/feeling never ending/forever changing tapestries of bright liquid crystal silver light :)
Here is one of the pieces of poetry that I typed a while back that I think would go pretty well with this:
May your souls of ghostly liquid light spread their cleansing chills to hauntingly beautiful tones and vibrations in the never ending melodies of mysterious holy darkness in life’s eerily eternal song of infinitely awe inspiring complexities, turning fear into enhanced awareness & illuminating the way for others through the experiences of angels through us T_T"
I have also given Women a glimpse into other experiences that are important to me, and on top of all that I have asked questions with giving my own answers to them so that me and her can really get to know about our favourite hobbies, shows, foods and so on.
@@jordanphilipperrissee 😢really 13:33 😅😅months we were😅
I met my wife through the comments section under a youtube video haha!
D Bulsa wow that's nice:)
are you the wife
Are you serious? Hahaha! When was that? Did she just happen to live in the same country/area as you?
3 years ago. no. she lived in California and moved to south Carolina. passed now.
yep! 6 years ago. she lived in north Carolina, me in south Carolina.
Being a married Entrepreneur myself, the best best thing I can advise to people on here is to make sure you have someone who believes in you and supports you! My wife is my Cheerleader and all the other "benefits" of marriage are just that... benefits.
If someone has a busy lifestyle, the most important thing for me is a soft place to crash at night. totally agree
You work hard, for:
her, to get YOUR Hard earned earning's?? -Seems a fair enough -
deal, to me!!-
L.O.L.
Facts
Believe in yourself above all else. This type of mentality creates dependency
@@Danny_SelamMaybe both? 🧡
A good marriage is part of being wealthy.
my 3 non negotiable :
- no addictions whatsoever
- dedicated to family
-having the same vision of the future
constanzelabest YES this is crucial
what about dopamine addiction? People can be addicted to sugar, people can be addicted to self defeating behavior even, something to think about
@@candybandteam4083 those non negotiables look very non specific lol
would you marry me?
Hows that working out for you?
I’m a 25 year old Christian entrepreneur and one of my biggest dreams is to get married and have a big family. This is the exact kind of content I was looking for.. Thanks Patrick👊🏽❤️🔥
How many kids do you want?
I am the same. I want at least 3 kids
I was super lucky. Found a woman who thinks very similar to me. She supports me in the hobbies I have. She makes me my favorite Mexican food. God is good.
👍
Blessings bro
Aww that is very nice.
So true, marriage is like a business and you HAVE to have a good business partner.
Does it exist
8:10: 4
9:55: 5 What do People Marry For?
14:33: 6 Who you Decide to Marry!
14:50: Have 3 non negotiables
15:45: You can't force somebody to love you or force urself to love somebody.
16:50 : book suggestion, 101 questions
17:15: Know what you can't work with!
20:10:
21:21:
22:33: Alignment in beliefs is important
27:20: introduced girl to ppl he trusted, for feedback. We all gave blind spots
28:20: Inversion! Valuable wisdom in how not to do it.
32:24: Question. What do we do when we go through Financial difficulties
33:20: If your daughter Question
35:40: Transparency
38:50: Be OVERLY prepared!
It was quite dramatic before 14:50
Good looking out 😎 thank you!!!!
Thank you !
I'm a single guy in his early 20s and I'm really damn tired of hearing MGTOW people telling me to "abandon ye hope all who enter here" and never get married. So thank you for this video. I want to take my time but at the same time, I would like to get married or at least in the process of marriage before I hit 30. Modern feminism today scares the hell out of me but I still do want to raise a family and have kids. I believe I'll be a good father. Thank you for the video :)
Good for you! I’ve only been married two years, but it’s great and my husband would agree!
I showed up to our first date (met online) with a list of pre-marital counseling questions. We made a game out of discussing a few questions each date. We matched up on all of the major questions about religion, political persuasion, and life goals. Everything else was easy to keep an open mind about because it wasn’t important to either of us.
Almost 3 years, a wedding, and one child later, I have no regrets. He is now my best friend. Marriage to the right person for the right reasons is a blessing, not a curse. I highly recommend it!
Work & create value on yourself,
& when you’re ready usually by late 20s early 30s you’ll be ready & find some1 about 5-10yrs younger than you that you both can build together
@philspaghet I TOTALLY understand your viewpoint. I felt like you when I was young. However MGTOW guys have it right. Life will teach you the hard way or you can follow wise advice. Your Purpose as a MAN does NOT involve wife and family. Furthermore, getting married and having children in USA puts you on a path of being betrayed by wife and children and destroyed by govt if done in the West. My success story is ever greater that DBP's. His story doesn't hold a candle to mine and what I have avcomplished and overcone so he cannot dismiss me as an irrelevant loser. I will say that if you genuinely want to have a family, wait until you have secured lifetime financial security in your 40s 50s or even 60s and can move to Phillipines, Thailand, Eastern Europe, etc where marriage and family is not under assault by Gov't and society.
@andre1987eph bro I want my wife to find me attractive, I'm not going to wait till my 40s. Also, statistics are easily manipulated. I'm a devout Christian man, by that alone my chances of finding a traditional woman go up from maybe 5-10% if you're a secular person to well over 60% when I couple that with the fact that I'm a pretty good judge of Christian character since I've been in ministry for so long since middle school.
As for lifetime security, I'm an engineer, I'll be making over 6 figures by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine when it comes to that. I don't want to marry a chick who would be my theoretical daughter's age lmao.
@@philspaghet you're right Phil. I hate feminism and I pray to God to see more happy families. Because a happy family it comes from a happy marriage between them both
Watched every second of it. not married but will definitely use your advice when I decide to do so! Thank you Pat for the great content!
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Amirnezam Samadabadi
You're married now?
My 3 non negotiables:
1. Values service, growth, gratitude
2. Willing to put herself out there and take risk.
3. Offers charity when not needed to
literally felt like I was having a meaninful conversation with a mentor... Incredible, thanks Pat!
+joshuaogaldez I'm glad. Thats the idea.....
I'm becoming obsess with your advices and videos. You talk about the real stuff and you never sugarcoat anything which I like. Thanks !
That’s the idea Mary Ann! Much love to you!
Interesting, I preached the same advice to my single friends! I'm always checking out girls for my husband😂😂 NUMBER 1 RULE I gave my husband when I met him. We DON'T FIGHT ABOUT MONEY! We talk and find a solution. Marriage is like a business, you invest on eachother, you strategize solutions, etc. If your investment is not helping you grow or bringing the business(family) down then time to reinvest or find a new business. Sharing this video with my single sons!
I am 65 years young. Single. Made my mistakes. I totally agree on the things he said to discuss and reflect on. I diffidently will revisit these questions for sure. I still believe I can make a better choice even at my age. Never lose hope. 🙏😊🥰
21:10 (we are Muslims).
Economic alignment is VERY important.
I remember asking my wife (then girlfriend in college) what does she propose I do with $1,000 between taking a vacation or reinvest it and she gave me an idea which made us money to buy our first property (land).
I was merely testing her with the vacation question, I was very happy she chose reinvesting the money
Amazing
Pat make a video on marriage and finances. it's the leading cause of divorce
I have to say this: Your marriage advice that you give people here is one of the best I've heard! I know you are not a marriage expert, but I think every married person can give at least a little helpful advice about marriage. I also want to say that I love your videos, they are full of important information for entrepreneurs. I like people like you who get to the point fast without fluff and a lot of self promotion. And I love your honesty!
As far as marriage and entrepreneurs I also have a little advice as an ex-married person: if you are single and an entrepreneur or are considering having your own business, make sure your partner is going to be at least opened to the idea (if not entrepreneur herself or himself). You cannot imagine the struggle you'll have with people who do not trust in your abilities that you can do this and constantly tell you to give up and get a job because is the "safest" and "best" way to live. Particularly when you start your own business is going to be a lot of work to build it and it's going to take a while to make a constant stream of income, and if your partner does not support you in this, it's not impossible to be successful (there are lots of people who've done it), but it's going to be a constant struggle.
Anyway, thanks for the video, and keep them coming!
I'm not married yet but it's good to know that I'm not the only person who thinks it would be best to reduce the likelihood of the marriage ending. Divorce is an expensive roadblock to success.
I can see the importance of marrying the right person. It really pays off to marry the person or else you could end up with a miserable life
Patrick, everyone in my family is average, you are really helping me to be the game changer thank you
Thanks for the advice. I'm 27 and still haven't reached my business goals so I will focus on those for now.
patrick bet-david no one has inspired me as much as you in a long while,thank you so much for this.
Not finished watching yet, but I LOVE the fact that you and your (then) girlfriend read "101 Questions..." and discussed. Such a great idea!
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You are a great man Pat, not only because you lead a company but because your words are loaded with timeless truths and they are applicable for everyone even with the least of opportunity. Thanks a lot...
you really hit the mark with me, when you mentioned 'self inflicted wounds'. six years later, I'm still cleaning up the mess.
"The sex was amazing! ..... The car alarms went off" 😂😂😆😆
I am not yet married but I wish I met you long ago through my teens because you give a wholistic perspective to life and i think people like you is what we all need.
Know your why for marriage, be clear on the type of person you're looking for, who you choose is the most important decision you'll make, be upfront about your non-negotiables, you can't force someone to like you, make sure your beliefs are aligned, take advice from people you respect, be upfront about everything your past your expectations and your vision for the future
What do you think about religion ? Lol
Deciding to get married takes intelligence and wisdom, background checks, and looking past the person's looks and money.
And checking their debt and liabilities, credit report
Dude, I'm 17 I can't believe I watched the whole video and the value on this video will definitely help me in the long run,
Thanks Pat.
Tough marriage market right now.
I bought the book "101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged" but did not read yet.
Thanks for the wisdom.
Let me know once you do. Be sure to also get the 50 questions on the site for Entrepreneurs. www.patrickbetdavid.com/how-to-marry-and-who-to-marry/
Never have I had such laugh's while soaking up wisdom at the same time haha. Thanks for the work you do Patrick :)
if your not sharing Patrick's videos, your not grateful for the value he has provided to you! come on guys lets help him get to a million subcribers before the end of the year! Pat is the only one that teaches like your dump he repeats and makes himself clear all the time, I love his content. do share!
I'm really glad I saw this in my feed; this is gold! I'm a middle aged bachelor and an aspiring freelancer. I am wrestling with the question of getting married or not one day; currently unfortunately I have no gf or any prospects - the pandemic isn't helping now in finding compatible ladies ha ha. This has to be one of your best episodes on your channel. Good marriages have been proven (based on stats; and yes, not every good marriage produces the following) to bring guys elevated levels of positive perspective, ambition, job promotion, earnings and health. I found that question one would pose regarding a hypothetical daughter to be great, and as for me (which is a bit brutally awkward to accept, but accept I will) the answer would sadly be a clear no. Man, I have so much to work on. Thanks once again for this covering this topic. I wish you and the Mrs. many years of happiness!
Same on my question I’m still single since my fiancé cheated on me . It always be a question right now if I will get married someday or not .Maybe when I find the loyal one
"Women can fake orgasms, men can fake love." - Bo Burnham.
No, they can't. We women know.
Women fake love.
Here's the link to the 50 questions to ask before you get engaged. (Entrepreneur Version)
www.patrickbetdavid.com/how-to-marry-and-who-to-marry/
page not found. please fix
+Yoshi Mario I just tried it and it worked.
***** Now it works. It was probably something with my computer. Thanks and great video. Love your channel.
I have subscribed but I did not get the 50 question's PDF file in my email :)
VALUETAINMENT I subscribed but no pdf file was sent to me
I'm 21 and a college senior studying business. I saw this video while scrolling through your channel. Thanks for the awesome video, it was very thought provoking! I will keep this information tucked away as I begin to enter my post-college years.
one take, real talk. impressive.
GREAT old school advice my persian friend!
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Patrick you are awesome! I was a little bit skeptical about listening to your channel initially. But you provide the best content on UA-cam by far. I really hope every aspiring entrepreneur could watch all your videos. You have helped me in my personal, business and spiritual life. I watch and re-watch your videos everyday!
Patrick, I love your page and love your content... I want to encourage you to wear your wedding band 100% of the time. It’s a reminder that you were born to be a good man for your wife and family even when those weak moments present themselves.....I have learned from experience what it is to miss the mark here. I appreciate your life message more then you know!
If you look for red flags, scan guys like a detective, leave after they shout at you, show signs of controlling, jealous behaviour, choose a kind hearted person that tries to give you everything, time, alone time, support - financial, emotional etc. - you will not fail. Many settle or choose a person because of looks, sex, etc. so their marriage fails.
Patrick you are like the dad I never had..
In every video I feel like Im having a man to man talk with a dad that cares about me and my goals.
Thank you.. I never had that..
'Having right woman in your life is like printing your own money''
Thank you for sharing this video with us
Pat, you are 100% right. Common beliefs are everything, BUT you first have to be able to define those beliefs outside of what your family, and culture at large, is telling you who you are. This is the work most of us don't want to do. It's uncomfortable. So we choose to settle with the familiar and thus, end up in a disastrous marriage.🤔 btw you're hilarious 😂
You know... I really like you and your way of thinking. I sent this video to my sons (who are currently 28 and 32). I believe they will get a lot out of it and lead to more discussions about where they want to go and what they want to do in life. Mostly though, I like the great example of you, your family values - and business. Keep it coming.
I'm married (for 13 yrs now) with kids, and my wife makes it next to impossible for me to invest and pursue my dreams of starting a business. She wants to have a house and be wealthy and live the lifestyle ...
BUT she doesn't want to put in the work...she wants to get the results without putting in the work. Once we have some money saved up she wants vacations, she wants to spend her money on eBay and shopping and eating out, and car parts (not to fix but to making it look custom)...and it's driving me crazy.
When I'm trying to invest in stocks... she complains but when she wants this new car parts, shes first to go for it without asking me and the crap is worth more than what I want to start investing with.
Needless to say we argue about finances all the time. I want to take her to finance meetings but she declines... Sorry for ranting...but I don't know what else to do.
I feel for you buddy. 😔
Put your foot down. Take away some benefits. Get counseling. Stay faithful as you transition through this phase.
I think this has just changed the trajectory of the rest of my life. Thank you, sir.
Much love from Kenya, Africa 👊🏾
Omg this is my second video of you and I'm loving every bit of the content here. And your mode of delivery is entertaining. You're funny and I truly enjoy this.
It's good to have you finally join us. We've been waiting for quite some time.
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Oh I am very glad I am finally here ;) And thank you.
The hearts falling at 11:00 made me LOL, nice execution!
PAT, you really drop some knowledge in this video, man!!!! Hats off to you!!!
+Jon Jaxxson 👍
Jon Jaxxson agreed..
Patrick the first time that I saw this video was about four years ago when I was just getting out of the IDF. While I was in the military I was building a business on the side. Borrowed money and have built a business that I still have. Once I got out of the military I began building a second business, and although I was fortunate to have the second business be a success within an year. I lived like I was still in the military meaning a one bedroom apartment and an average car. I planned to get married and I was planning to be more financially solid then at that time. She felt differently about it and instead of leaving she stepped out. I have since then bought two other companies and real estate properties. I should have mentioned that the apartment I was living in was being owned by me. Now I'm where I want to be financially and I love my life. I'm not excessively promiscuous I enjoy reading a lot and continue practicing martial arts. My family and the Rabbi at the Synagogue thinks that I should get married but I'm not sure I want to do that. I am not into the club scenes, bars, or any of that other stuff. I don't drink a lot maybe some scotch on Thursday or Friday. Other than that I lead a clean life in the sense of a clear mind, life, and body. I think I have watched this video one hundred times. (P.S. I have read every book I have seen your recommend on here from the videos I watched. Built quite a library that way.) All of this being said I'm not sure I want a family, or children, or the things that most of my parents do. You have provided a lot of clarity here. Thanks
Good Video, Sad Nobody told me this 30 years before! After 2 marriages finally I know the one real reason a marriage can work: all the things that you said plus the one and only is that both has to be in love! without love there will be no motivation to do any efforts on building a good relation.
+jessicaweymann I agree. Marriage is one of the most confusing decision people make.
Valuetainment what is your religion?
@@moniquederisma7167 He is Christian
"A flower called ginger..and its from South Africa." 😂😢😂😂... I cannot.
I have a feeling Patrick loves our Country...👌😊❤🌷
lol.. flower called “imbali” 🤣
Another Great Video! Deep down I believe marriage is teamwork. Partnership, like in business you look for the heart and character of an individual that shares the same ambitions & standards to achieve and continue growing together for a greater cause. Blessings to you Patrick!
Thanks, Alicia. 👍👊😎
If I want to have long term commitment Id listen to people who've been there is still growing together like you. Singleness becomes boring when you are wired to be in a partnership and build a family.
The first person I seriously wanted to marry was my best friends' mom... Yo her eyes are insane I stared into her eyes the first I saw them, then she was so competitive that was my whole criteria.
I was 13 at the time I eventually got over it
What a great great public service taking the time to provide clarity to such an emotionally loaded issue.
Never have I been more inspired and motivated from someone than Patricks videos. For Life and business. He has got really asking myself things I never have before. Thank you. Keep up the fabulous wotk.
this is more than a mentorship. its 2023 and am 22 years old and this is hiting right at the point
big up mentor
We answered your 50 Questions together when we first started dating. The questions were difficult, but we were both serious about finding the right person. We've been together for a year now and talking about getting married. Thank you for providing the questions, Pat
I got married when I was 21 and have been married for three years, the main thing I've learn't is the art of negotiation. My wife can be a mental terrorist at times and you never know when I'll need to calm her down before she sets off the detonator! Great job Patrick, keep up the great content.
lol. I've never heard that phrase before.
That's because my Wife is unique!
@@FMWonderkidlive have fun with her.... sounds like she is a real catch......
@@crazyfrogracer2pro848 she sounds like the bomb ! 😉
5 years out, you still letting yourself be terrorized at home?
pat you could off being a real stand up comedian, love the humour with the message, couldn't ask for more.
+Paw Waw 😂 thanks.
Complications just made simple.
Awesome marriage here I come at 28 years old(1 year from now)
Valuetainment has valuable content. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience :)
+Lakhbir Singh 👊🏼
Patrick and his wife Jennifer Bet- David are pure examples of healthy preservation of the roles in a relationship.
Thank you for sharing your views with us.
This information is very well presented, and all his materials reflect his class, balanced mindset, asertiveness, and emotional health.
I am working on becoming a better version of me, and this content helps a lot.
Watching his videos for a while now, I can say that I just found my next long-distance mentor!!
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This is the closest closest sense I heard about marriage!! Omg I can’t believe this! THIS is the the rational way to do it. I am impressed!
I think marrying early in adulthood is big for your growth as a man but it scares the heck out of me getting married before having a strong financial base. Having a strong financial base is also very important for me as I saw how much finances could effect a family and I don’t want to repeat that for myself.
Oh my! Starting @10:00 was super funny and i'm at a coffee shop. Hahaha! You the best Pat!
This is such a special video because many of us entrepreneurs want to design our lives and romantic relationship(s) are part of the journey for some of us. Thank you
You sir are a role model. This is the best video on this topic I've ever watched. It's very to the point, as oppose to vague and woo-woo advice that other people give.
We can apply this wisdom to a marriage relationship.
I mean...I spent a lot of time thinking if I'm going to be able to balance family and work since becoming an entrepreneur means a LOT of work after watching your video about working 80 hours a week, and today I found you've done this amazing video :')
I feel so optimistic about this now, thank you, you are amazing :))
And where can I get that shirt? xD
There you go.
I bought the shirt from a Ferrari store.
Gotta get married when my business takes off. I'm on a quest to make children, alot of them lol i need to make me an army of grandchildren and have them all being raised to be entrepreneurs to make my family name great.
Well then you have a lot of reproductive work to put in then. Good luck with that.
This world is already over populated please dont make more than 2 kids please on the behalf of the earth
The Great Cowhide
Quality over Quantity.
@@703c You can start by moving your precious self to Mars if the world is so overpopulated... Instead of telling people not to have as many kids as they can afford.
I'm 6 years late but I'm ever so glad I stumbled upon this video... pertinent information shared that will help me when making that decision in the near future. Thank you so much.
10:18 Loooooooool!!!! Valuetainement is living up to its name! Dishing out entertainment and value at the same time.
Thank you Pat, to you and your excellent team. Your videos are a must for entrepreneurs. Pretty sure you'll be back bigger and better in good time. I wish you and the team every success.
David habibi this topic has been seriously aching my heart thank you for making this video
I have been a bit down this week, but listening to this makes me laugh so hard
Very wise,I'm learning a lot from this channel
I literally laughed as pat said your 32 years old and not married and you need some kids! While thinking of proposing to my girl! I’m 32 no kids and not married yet! That’s alignment!
Patrick, this knowledge that you’re dropping (which is quite evidently based around your own ample personal experiences in life) is so deeply insightful and rich in pragmatism. Kudos! And, thank you!! 🏆
Love this guy,,he has worked hard to get where he is at,,,,Great person
Great thanks, Patrick. I share your video with some singles including my daughter - and they are all ministry persons (",). God bless you and your family, Bro! Never thought of this I found after watching as usual your enterpreneur video.
I have to admit I laughed way too hard at 9:58. Man that was just amazing. My liver hurt because of laughing 😂😂😂
This man is wise beyond his years
I Love this vid! Thank you! Marriages are failing because of lack of knowledge not lack of Love.
I can't believe I didn't like this video... Amazing advice... I'm carrying this with me Pat
This video should have the most views of any video on this channel as its one of, if not the most valuable Pat's made. Yet its one of the least viewed. And we wonder why so many relationships are screwed up.
Glib conversationalist! Great content. I also find the book “101 Question... and Five Love Languages” quite interesting and on point. Thanks for sharing your views on this topic. Great stuff! Happy days😇
Hi Patrick, I’ve watched most of your videos twice and currently I’m going through your interview videos. Incredible contents and I’m a big fan! As a person who’s going to start a business and get married, I was wondering if you’d be able to provide your audience with some contents and detailed explanations on prenup, maybe as a separate video? Thanks so much for all the values you’ve added to so many people’s lives so far!
Thank you for shedding some light into this topic.d I could find everything about the entrepreneurial life but nothing regarding how important the marriage role can play in an entrepreneurs life. Will go through the questionnaire w my gf.
I'm finally content with who I am as I've overcome many insecurities and faults, became more centred and well-rounded and courageous; though still have things to work on like I want to take up boxing or a martial art, and attend improvised comedy classes. But I don't feel I'm ready for dating let alone marriage, mainly for my lack of time and money at the moment, being a uni student and raising an infant by myself. Stoic philosophers and having a men's coach as a mentor certainly helped me on a path to maturity and self-awareness. Used to hate the mirror but after years of work, I'm genuinely proud of myself.
The most important decision you ever make is whom you marry. This is your "other half," the mother or father of your children, the person who decides much of the spending, her/his impressions on others will reflect on you too, her/his family becomes your family. The right partner will make your success exponential, but the wrong person will ruin your life even long after the divorce. Many people will pretend to be someone they are not, until it is too late, so get to really know them. People can 'say' anything, but not follow through. Imagine what that person will be like going through a divorce; are they vengeful, bad-tempered? On the other hand, early marriage can be extremely healthy physically and emotionally and help you financially. The stability and support a good marriage offers is substantial. Consider a very cheap wedding and save for more important investments or travel. Weddings do not need to be expensive to be fun and memorable.
10:58 I like Pat being dramatic lol. I laughed so hard man hhhhhhh.
The supporting them to stay married is THE most beautiful thing I’ve ever heard
Funny you reference; Notebook. That is a story of my hubby and I. 36 and going. It's been SO HARD, but truly the most UNCONDITIONAL LOVE I have ever witnessed. BTW; My hubby loves your work, Patrick.
Congratulations on the new baby!