It has been 6 months since I confronted my husband… he still denies everything. Married 28 years- actually spoke to the person- the woman and he says she is lying.. I work on myself everyday because all I can control is me. I love him with my whole heart, but my despair is great. I don’t feel I can heal without us going through this process together… he will admit to nothing. It’s a tough place to be in. I appreciate your videos Samuel. I try to remain hopeful and pray everyday that God will convict his heart so we can both work on freeing ourselves from this 🙏
When you lose everything and hit Rock Bottom! Life is just draining ... you question your purpose ... you feel betrayed 💔it's even worse when you feel like no one will help you and you cant get any help 😰
i hope you're doing OK my friend. we can help at affairrecovery.com. you're not alone and you're not without hope and help. i get how awful it can feel. you can do this. keep going and refuse to quit on you.
Yes! I remember feeling the overwhelming desparation! Like needling a hotline to talk thru my intense pain and suffering. Now that I’ve done the healing work (thanks to this channel and therapy) I feel the need to be there for those who are in that moment of desperation, that I remember all so well. A time when you have friends and family around you, but you do not want to talk to them about what’s happening because they know your spouse. They know the betrayer and you are embarrassed and ashamed by what has happened. Or you are protecting them.
I am living a nightmare. So betrayed. No empathy. No sympathy. Just a protective order against me.. against every single thing i loved and knew. I reacted poorly to the discovery of adultry. I have to own and face the repercussions for my reactions. i carry a life sentence of the betrayed now😢. Never saw this coming. Now bieng railroaded and lied about because i found out about it. Im so lost
Mate, you're saving alot of lives!! 😇 This information is saving people from great depression, suicide from the worst trauma one could experience!! 😱😰 Without your vidz, I probably wouldve broke!!
Needed this video… feels like I’m living in a nightmare I can’t wake up from. All I have to live for is my teenage daughter she’s my rock, even when she’s hurting too
Thank you Samuel for this!! I've really needed this video!! I've been going through this extremely hard lately and needed some light to be shined on me so thank you so much!
That's what I needed to hear. So caught up in my mind, only listen to the part of you that wants healing. Do, avoid negative impulse and things that won't make you feel any better.
Thank you and the team. I have been watching and learning for years. From the initial betrayel, through the chaos of mental issues on both sides, to drawing lines in the sand, to eventually moving into a new home years later and suffering the lose a second time, to becoming friends, to helping each other recover and motivate our futures and accepting where we are today. Thank you and the team.
Thank you so much Samuel and others for these videos and content. I have received great help from you in the worst crisis of my life and the enormous sadness I am dealing with. Thank you and God's blessing to you from Finland.
I am so broken sam.. she has destroyed every aspect of my life we had built over the last ten years. I am grasping at straws just to keep my head above water for my kids.. i dont want sympathy. Just someone to understand how betrayed i feel as a man. Husband. Provider. A Father...so lost
I want to thank you for your compassion and great insight. I’ve listened to you Sam for many months. I am sure you have helped so many, including me. Life is so difficult with so much painful trauma. Trying to get into the mind of the unfaithful is difficult. I wish that ALL unfaithful’s could find courage to acknowledge their fears and embrace a new marriage and could wrap their arms around change and become a warrior. Not only for themself’s but got their children … and me. Avoiding pain and not leaning in to love and acceptance of
Great video. The way you described how your grievieng experience with your departing son brings everything back in a redemptive way was, to say the least, very pure, human and inspiring.
Every morning I wake up and feel rage towards the woman who calculatedly pursued my husband for thrill of the conquest. Every day I am in disbelief that she can cause such destruction to my family and receive no punishment. How does she get to just go on with her life while mine is in tatters.
How do you know she isn’t traumatized too? What did he tell her? What if she believed him and actually fell in love, and now she’s cut off like a piece of trash? What if she’s gutted too? HE DID THIS TO YOU, NOT HER! He is the homewrecker! Your rage is totally misplaced. Put it on him where it belongs and make him face you. Make him see your pain! Your despair! Your rage! Don’t let him put one bit of his responsibility off on her. He has to do the work!!! God bless you sister…..You shouldn’t have to be in this situation at all, but may God bless you to go through the stages this requires. Stay strong, but be gentle and kind to yourself.
I made the horrible decision to cheat on my wonderful wife of 15 years. We have a 7 year old and my wife is talking divorce. I don't want to tell my little girl her mommy and daddy are splitting. I am taking 110% responsibiloty for my actions. I made a conscious decision to do this at risk of losing my family. I am in desperate need of advice on what to do. I can't lose my family I just can't. My wife is drowning in hurt and I am sick to my stomach over this. Please help me.
I’m sorry for your suffering, but you chose this, man. You chose this. Now you want help to do anything and everything to fix your marriage, but you weren’t willing to do anything and everything to fix it BEFORE you chose to cheat. I can forgive such a horrendous choice, but I could not live with someone who kissed, touched, and orgasmed with someone else. I’d be tortured trying to live with you. I’d never be able to trust you 100% again, and I’d be gutted every time in the coming years that I was triggered by images of you and her. Wouldn’t you be if she did this to you? Let her go. Let her move on to a healthier person she won’t be tortured to live with. Divorce kindly and generously. Be the best dad. And go to extended counseling to heal what’s screwed up in you that you’d do something so horrendous to those you love. You’ll be a much better man and can eventually be a much better husband for someone someday. Wishing you the very best for all three of you.
Dear Vanessa A, I know from experience what pain you are going through. I'm so sorry you are going through this, but hate for him or her will only make you bitter, depressed and stuck. I'm sending you love and praying you will find a way to heal from this horrible pain. Hugs.
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It has been 6 months since I confronted my husband… he still denies everything. Married 28 years- actually spoke to the person- the woman and he says she is lying.. I work on myself everyday because all I can control is me. I love him with my whole heart, but my despair is great. I don’t feel I can heal without us going through this process together… he will admit to nothing. It’s a tough place to be in.
I appreciate your videos Samuel. I try to remain hopeful and pray everyday that God will convict his heart so we can both work on freeing ourselves from this 🙏
i'm proud of you. stay brave. one day at a time.
When you lose everything and hit Rock Bottom! Life is just draining ... you question your purpose ... you feel betrayed 💔it's even worse when you feel like no one will help you and you cant get any help 😰
i hope you're doing OK my friend. we can help at affairrecovery.com. you're not alone and you're not without hope and help. i get how awful it can feel. you can do this. keep going and refuse to quit on you.
Yes! I remember feeling the overwhelming desparation! Like needling a hotline to talk thru my intense pain and suffering. Now that I’ve done the healing work (thanks to this channel and therapy) I feel the need to be there for those who are in that moment of desperation, that I remember all so well. A time when you have friends and family around you, but you do not want to talk to them about what’s happening because they know your spouse. They know the betrayer and you are embarrassed and ashamed by what has happened. Or you are protecting them.
I am living a nightmare. So betrayed. No empathy. No sympathy. Just a protective order against me.. against every single thing i loved and knew. I reacted poorly to the discovery of adultry. I have to own and face the repercussions for my reactions. i carry a life sentence of the betrayed now😢. Never saw this coming. Now bieng railroaded and lied about because i found out about it. Im so lost
Mate, you're saving alot of lives!! 😇 This information is saving people from great depression, suicide from the worst trauma one could experience!! 😱😰 Without your vidz, I probably wouldve broke!!
That's one of the reasons I make them my friend. It means more than you know to hear that. Thank you so much for the kind words.
@@samshealingpodcast thank you 🙏🏻
Needed this video… feels like I’m living in a nightmare I can’t wake up from. All I have to live for is my teenage daughter she’s my rock, even when she’s hurting too
Our kids save us more than they probably ever will know. This hurt is beyond deep and life altering. But it does get better little by little
Hi Aaron, it's been a year. Did the nightmare end? How are you doing?
Thank you Samuel for this!! I've really needed this video!! I've been going through this extremely hard lately and needed some light to be shined on me so thank you so much!
honored it helped. thank you for the encouragement.
That's what I needed to hear. So caught up in my mind, only listen to the part of you that wants healing. Do, avoid negative impulse and things that won't make you feel any better.
Thank you and the team. I have been watching and learning for years. From the initial betrayel, through the chaos of mental issues on both sides, to drawing lines in the sand, to eventually moving into a new home years later and suffering the lose a second time, to becoming friends, to helping each other recover and motivate our futures and accepting where we are today. Thank you and the team.
Thank you so much Samuel and others for these videos and content. I have received great help from you in the worst crisis of my life and the enormous sadness I am dealing with. Thank you and God's blessing to you from Finland.
hello finland!!!! so awesome to have you hear. thank you for the kind words and for reaching out.
I am so broken sam.. she has destroyed every aspect of my life we had built over the last ten years. I am grasping at straws just to keep my head above water for my kids.. i dont want sympathy. Just someone to understand how betrayed i feel as a man. Husband. Provider. A Father...so lost
I want to thank you for your compassion and great insight. I’ve listened to you Sam for many months. I am sure you have helped so many, including me. Life is so difficult with so much painful trauma. Trying to get into the mind of the unfaithful is difficult. I wish that ALL unfaithful’s could find courage to acknowledge their fears and embrace a new marriage and could wrap their arms around change and become a warrior. Not only for themself’s but got their children … and me. Avoiding pain and not leaning in to love and acceptance of
I’m on edge my friend. This video really helped me. Thabnbyou
Really needed to hear this today. Thanks Samuel And team
honored to help. thank you for leaving a comment.
A great video and message as usual..thank you !
so kind. thank you so much.
Great video. The way you described how your grievieng experience with your departing son brings everything back in a redemptive way was, to say the least, very pure, human and inspiring.
thank you for that my friend. means a ton.
Thank you! Greetings from Poland
what is up Poland!!!! so awesome to hear from you. thank you for leaving a comment.
Every morning I wake up and feel rage towards the woman who calculatedly pursued my husband for thrill of the conquest.
Every day I am in disbelief that she can cause such destruction to my family and receive no punishment. How does she get to just go on with her life while mine is in tatters.
How do you know she isn’t traumatized too? What did he tell her? What if she believed him and actually fell in love, and now she’s cut off like a piece of trash? What if she’s gutted too? HE DID THIS TO YOU, NOT HER! He is the homewrecker! Your rage is totally misplaced. Put it on him where it belongs and make him face you. Make him see your pain! Your despair! Your rage! Don’t let him put one bit of his responsibility off on her. He has to do the work!!! God bless you sister…..You shouldn’t have to be in this situation at all, but may God bless you to go through the stages this requires. Stay strong, but be gentle and kind to yourself.
I made the horrible decision to cheat on my wonderful wife of 15 years. We have a 7 year old and my wife is talking divorce. I don't want to tell my little girl her mommy and daddy are splitting.
I am taking 110% responsibiloty for my actions. I made a conscious decision to do this at risk of losing my family.
I am in desperate need of advice on what to do. I can't lose my family I just can't. My wife is drowning in hurt and I am sick to my stomach over this. Please help me.
I’m sorry for your suffering, but you chose this, man. You chose this. Now you want help to do anything and everything to fix your marriage, but you weren’t willing to do anything and everything to fix it BEFORE you chose to cheat. I can forgive such a horrendous choice, but I could not live with someone who kissed, touched, and orgasmed with someone else. I’d be tortured trying to live with you. I’d never be able to trust you 100% again, and I’d be gutted every time in the coming years that I was triggered by images of you and her. Wouldn’t you be if she did this to you? Let her go. Let her move on to a healthier person she won’t be tortured to live with. Divorce kindly and generously. Be the best dad. And go to extended counseling to heal what’s screwed up in you that you’d do something so horrendous to those you love. You’ll be a much better man and can eventually be a much better husband for someone someday. Wishing you the very best for all three of you.
I need help idk what to do. Please help me
I don’t want to heal, I want to hate him and her forever
I did to. But I love my husband through it and it changed. But it takes both. Keeping that feeling I learned was only hurting me more.
Dear Vanessa A, I know from experience what pain you are going through. I'm so sorry you are going through this, but hate for him or her will only make you bitter, depressed and stuck. I'm sending you love and praying you will find a way to heal from this horrible pain. Hugs.