My DEADLY Dating Mistakes (So You Can Avoid Them)
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
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“You’re dating the girl who is only attracted to you when you are distant from her.” Is a hall of fame quote.
Man This Comment Is The Epitome Of A Hamza Fan
@@Prodbykayyso i dont even know if the above comment is actually d riding or if its true gratitude
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@@navbhatthal Fr bro 🤣🤣
@@Prodbykayyso half of these jeffries will comment crap like "omg hamza changed my life" while they sit there looking at page 39 on phub or while they scroll tiktok/insta
it just dosent work that way lol
Common sense just use your brain bit more
Takeaways:
27:27 don't dumb yourself down to be cool. Be authentic. If you're into personal development and meditate and do gratitude journalling, do not hide it.
31:31 Chose a woman who choses you. If she's not super into you, Let. Her. Go. You are disrespecting yourself everytime you decide to choose someone who isn't super into you.
34:02 If it's not SUPER CLEAR that she's not SUPER INTO YOU then 99% of the time she's just not.
54:00 women really thrive on micromoments of joy and love. They want a constant feeling and reminder of love, security, and joy.
56:00 Your woman shouldn't be the #1 priority in your life. It should be your purpose, because if you rely on her for your happiness she'll feel smothered by your neediness and clinginess
@@I-dont-have-name dedicate half hour or an hour for her.But for that time give her your fullest undivided attention.Then spend the rest of the day progressing through your goals.
Thanks for the summary
my takeaway is why are his girlfriends eyes red and teary? Not what I think?!!
@@I-dont-have-nameu can dedicate a week to your wife if u want. The main point is to have something important to u that isn’t another person and focus on it
Thank you 🙏 ❤
I was always insecure about the fact that I don't want to sleep with everyone I meet. My "friends" were always like "bro what are you doing with your life, why didn't you smash this one she was really into you." and I'm in my mind like "am I stupid?". Obviously the answer is no. This video helped me a lot. Stay true to yourself kings. You'll win everytime!
thats the difference between us and the masturbators. We think of women as normal humans, while they see every girl as a thing to fuck. It's really sad and disgusting. The only woman you should fuck is your own wife.
Just because the flower is pretty, doesn't mean we need to pluck them
Bro you are wasting yourself. Hanging around degenerates because you are probably too scared to be alone.
I am a 24 year old woman. I enjoy watching your videos even though it is more aimed at men. I get a lot out of it.
It’s hard to find a man with the same mindset.
The men around me here don’t want a traditional woman.
I always felt depressed at first that i don’t feel at home in this society. But now I see it as an opportunity to work on myself and hopefully meet the right one.
Like attracts like.
You’ll find the right guy.
😊
It’s funny that you said this, because I feel the exact same way but with most of the girls that I encounter.
Come to Eastern Europe, all we seek is traditional women.
Its funny cuz I cant find the girl with the same mindset as me either. I am someone who is probably an 8/10? I am tall, have a really good physique, and good face, so looks aren't an issue for me. I get a lot of attraction in the gym, but the thing is, most of them that approached me just want to sleep with me. I literally talked to one a month ago, and although she was pretty, when I asked her out, she hesitated and said I seemed a bit too serious. She was the one who approached me, btw. Anyway, I wasnt looking to pipe her overused hole. So once she hesitated, I straight up said, "nevermind". She then came back to me and tried to explain that she said that, cuz she was going through something with her ex. My answer was that I dont care and she went away.
Literally, 2 red flags straight away in her behavior and that's without considering her appearance. Yes, she is hot, but way too exposed and wears a nose piercing. You may find the nose piercing thing to be stupid to point out, but hell, each time I dated a girl with a nose piercing, they were looking to just sleep around. It might just be a coincidence, but in my experience, it's something I am staying aware of now lmao Two months prior to that, I dated probably a 9/10 and we kissed at the first date, etc. Her face was really nice, but once again, she was telling me stuff like, ''I want you to ruin my life'' and similar. Red flags one after another, and although I was lying to myself that I could probably make this work, we ended up not going for a second date.
Anyway, I am looking for a girl that is attractive as well as having the right mindset. I am 28 and constantly improve myself in all areas of life, but the quality girls are really hard to find. I am someone who is looking to build a future with a girl, be loyal to her, and focus on my goals with her support. Likewise, I will support her in her goals and do my best to keep her happy and loved. For me, it's important for her to know her role in a relationship and bring her feminine side to it. I can't stress enough how attractive feminine girls are. By feminine, I mean the way they behave, act, dress, etc. It's probably not the most detailed way to describe it, but most guys will know what I mean.
The point is, don't give up just because you haven't met them, but at the same time don't lower your value by settling for someone who will drag you down or off the path you want to be on. I made this mistake in the past, but never again. What you are as a person is what you will attract. I am sure there are plenty of girls out there who want to have a relationship like the one I am looking for, but we just haven't met yet. Focus on yourself and the right person will come accross. The only thing that is important when you happen to meet that person, communicate your intentions with them and don't regret it if they say no. I've sometimes took a long time to ask out girls that I liked, but the lesson is that I did it anyway. I now have now regrets for the rejections and failurs, because I know that I took action. Always take action for the things you want in your life :)
Me too girl, same age and I really enjoy watching his videos, I hope more guys would follow him
This is probably the truest advice you will hear on dating, ever. The second you have to act to attract someone, it's bound to fail.
Yep another one is having no shared interests or values. That relationship is dead in the water from start. I got into a few different women that as soon as I hung out with them for long enough, I realized they were not for me. Maybe some other guy, definetly not me
Hamza I've said it multiple times, but again, thank you for your work. I just recently got both my parents onto self improvement. DO YOU KNOW HOW FUCKING AWESOME THIS IS? My dad got a new job, my parents are reading "How to win Friends and influence people" taking notes too.
Our family life got so much better. Finding your channel had such a big impact on my life...
From the core of my heart,
Thank you
Yo bro, I know this sounds a bit weird, but have you got any advice? Because my parents hate the part of me that begun his self improvement journey, my dad works with the news and my stepmother with the police. Basically Jeffery and Jessica, although I don't like talking about them in that way. But anyway, I have made far less progress because of it. I would like it if they joined, so I'm asking you, what did you do to get them onto self improvement?
@@joostz1359don't make them join, you join them that's how parents understand that "ya okay he's been interested in me let's show interest to him" ask them about the deep details about their work or their interests even better share your progress with them especially academics or sports parents love academics or sports, don't talk then about your buisness because they will tell you to focus on studies do talk then about your business when you make a huge breakthrough.
@@joostz1359 I gave my dad a gym membership for his birthday, now he goes to the gym every other day.
My dad also works in a trade job and the selling coaches are very self improvement oriented people. His coach is a 25 y/o who earns 1mio/year so he has a lot of great tips as well, he told my dad about How To win Friends and influence people. I then told my dad how important that book is and that I read it too. We then both told my mom about the book, and now I plan on telling them about all the other important Self-improvement books.
So TLDR: gift them important books or something Self-improvement oriented for their birthday or any other reason.
Oh and another important tip, keep the principals learned in "How To win Friends and influence people" in mind, NEVER CRITICIZE THEM, tell them why its in their interest to start the new habit
That is amazing!!!
such an awesome book
Foolish men repeat their mistakes, intelligent men learn from their mistakes, wise men learn from other's mistakes.
Underrated comment
and vegetables dont make mistakes because they never try
I love how the new Jeffrey and Adonis intro is, really reflects on what the self improvement community should be all about, helping those who need help instead of comparing one another
HAMAZ SAAR ANY DATING ADVICE FOR A PAJEETH HINDU KURYCELS LIKE ME WHO HAS NO CHANCES IN THE DATING MARKET? YOU'RE A SCAMMER LOL. A SHORT 5'2 BROWN HINDUS ISN'T GOING TO GET WOMEN. SO WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE FOR ME AND THE MAJORITY OF COPING KURRYCELS WHO HAVE NO JAWLINE, HIGHCHEEKBONES, HALLOW CHEEKS, LIGHT EYES, LIGHT SKIN, RED LIPS HUNTER EYES, HEIGHT ETC?
Exactly, its like big guys at the gym, because Adonis and the huge guy at the gym sympathise with Jeffrey and a gym new guy, both because they both have been in the same beginner position as the other, and so naturally help eachother.
If I help him to be as good as me so I wouldn't be as great as I would be
@@romany177 absolutely bollocks
@@KotteKumar wtf pajeeth. You're pajeeth not Adonis
Honestly, the world needs more people like Hamza.
Rather let's become the best version of ourselves like Hamza did. He wasn't born this way he made it himself and now we have him who gives us a literal roadmap to become the best version of ourselves.
@@atharvabhosale3529 so basically like Hamza?
@@anonymous98237 nope if everyone becomes Hamza there won't be anything unique about you, become the best VERSION of YOURSELF not Hamza.
@@atharvabhosale3529 I agree with what you said.
i agree
"Choosing a woman that doesn't choose you." The numberless times I have made this mistake. Until I watched this video I didn't understand why I worked so hard to get this girl to like me when she was wasn't even interested. Hamza you have truely changed my life I am so happy I found your account a year ago and have been watching since. Every video has been helping me remember thoughts and mistakes I've made. Thank you so much hamza you have made my life better by teaching me to do the hard things especially when I don't feel like it.
Hamza is slowly becoming a great future father and husband mashallah! ❤
I hope he just stop this meditation thing because it doesn't have any thing related to Islam...he just need to pray that's it
@@red_analog_productions lmao
@@red_analog_productionsjust because something isn't related to your religion doesn't make it meaningless. If he's a Muslim, why can't he pray and meditate both.
@@red_analog_productionsnot every type of mediation is haram.
@@red_analog_productionsh anyway if ur muslim you are against God . Muslims are the enemies of Allah and they are all paying the price in hell but once ʿĪsā returns every muslim will eventually repent . It’s only a matter of time
"There's no one that can compete with you"
I can't imagine the feeling of listening those words from your own woman.
The first half of the video I can heavily relate. I’m in high school and there was a period of time where I put TONS and TONS of time into chasing this women even though I saw massive red flags but i was desperate enough to pursue them, and I got with this one girl and ended up getting friendzoned. But as of recently I went to a camp and found this one woman who I can only describe as the woman of my dreams; feminine, not much social media, church person, active, etc. It made me realized so much more that the people who are the highest quality aren’t plastering themselves everywhere but waiting for someone to come to them.
I ended a 4 year relationship with the person I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with, And honestly 5 months later I was considering trying out just hook up culture because I didn’t want to give anyone the chance to hurt me again but after seeing this video you have changed my mind and made me realize it’s not worth it. Thanks hamza
How do you know your story will turn out like Hamza. Plenty of ppl have had good hook up experiences that led to better things. I say if you want to try it, try it. Just because someone on the internet told you their experience doesn’t mean you’ll experience the same thing. Life is a mystery, no two lives r the same
@@MonkeyDBunmi That's like saying, "oh well you should definitely try out drugs even though you know its not good for you. Don't listen to the thousands of studies on drugs or the thousands of people who have gotten a drug addiction."
Hook up culture is bad for you. Having sex with random strangers is bad for you. There are studies out there that have showed this. Its instant gratification. Its instant happiness. That is bad for you.
How tf is a dumbass like you watching hamza's content like where are your braincells.
Dont listen to the guy below u, hamzas advice will make you happier
Hookup Culture ain't worth it anyways.
I suggest you also look up the story of a guy named 'Neil Strauss' after you listen to 'Hard Times Create Strong Men' and you'll quickly realize what hookup culture does. Sex isn't something to be trifled with, period. It's an exchange of energy, and of a part of your being/soul. Why spoil the fruit for everyone whilst not even fully enjoying it yourself? It's the same thing like drugs, alcohol, excessive junkfood eating etc. Once it passes a certain threshold it obliterates your dopamine receptors and dooms you to depression. Do you actually feel you deserve the attention and sexual intercourse of a bunch of women in the first place? Just because it's available/might be available doesn't mean you should take it. The modern world is full of illusions. The universe will make sure to let you know don't you worry. However if you wanna go through the same mistakes Hamza and countless others did go ahead.
This has to be the best dating advice video ever. I also have come to the same conclusion as you. Be yourself, don’t pretend to be something you’re not if you want a real connection.
I’m actually in a 1 year old relationship and I started crying when I realized how valuable my girl is. She’s religious and also virgin, so far in our relationship we only kissed and hugged and I’m like actually really in love with her. We have a lot of trust in each other and idk how I’m so lucky as a man to haver her on my side. Don’t give up brothers, I thought I was lonely but good habits brought me to the place I am rn. I’m really grateful for you Hamza and also to my family and my girl.
She’s still a virgin bc she’s fifteen (16 soon) and she wants to wait until being 18 to lose it. I’m seventeen and although I’m not a virgin I’m perfectly fine with waiting a couple of years to…. well, fuck her.
Great for you man, congrats. But don't slack off, now that you realized how great she is, work so that you can be a great man for her.
@@Lifting1337 yes, that’s what I’m trying to do. We seem really passionate still after 1 year I'd like if it stayed that way. So imma keep self improving for her
@@marioroulett keep it up man, you got this.
dont trust.....
As a 15 yo boy starting my self improvement journey you are a big inspiration next to iman and other good influencers on the media
watch out for Iman man
💯
I wouldn't take iman as inspiration
@@jacksmith2504wdym?
damn im 17 here and trying not to become a degenerate. my life is kind of sorted i'd say (in terms of like success or being on track and stuff), but i guess my lifestyle needs serious changes. good luck to u.
This video made me realize, i'm in a very good relationship.
I always thought i might be doing something wrong by being authentic to my women but no I'm just being me and trying to grow and make us grow both in the process, good stuff hamza much love
W brother
You’re literally the only channel I watch anymore. I feel the sincerity within your content and your message.
Literally feel like everyone half asses their content and fakes their content and aren’t sincere at all.
"No one can compete with you". That stuck with me man. It would be a hell of a life goal and test boost to have a girl say that to you.
It's so amazing when you see a guy like Hamza being successful and touching all of his goals one by one WITHOUT even knowing what's behind all this success. Imagine how many mornings, plans, thoughts, stress went behind all of this. We just see the finished product and it looks amazing, but the process is obviously hard and 100% against modern world perception.
No epic music
No transition
No movie clip
No cutscenes
No clickbait content
No bullshit
And still one of the most valuable video on youtube
Hamza has become successful from speaking words that are valuable. No pyramid scheme, no low quality pay class, no clickbait, not spending thousands of dolllars to get views, not trying to get viral, but instead naturally letting it happen.
These are horrible truths. I think the biggest turning point I had in dating was understanding that women love you opportunistically. Hate it or love it but you can choose to play the game or be left out. It's completely up to you.
wdym exactly by opportunistically
@@GamerKidPlaysGames When the opportunity presents itself people tend to take advantage.
@@tomasguilherme263 Yes tomas
@@tomasguilherme263not to be disrespectful. But I'll be honest these unicorns don't exist.
@@tomasguilherme263 exactly
"The Chad Grandpa" is the wisest and most disciplined man. I knew a man who was like this, and I have the fondest memories of him being something akeen to a mentor to me, even tho we werent relatives or anything, and I still thank him to this day, because thanks to him i managed to grasp many important life lessons at such a young age. Thank you, Mpampis.
Thank you Hamza for everything you did!
You helped a lot of young people (maybe even older ones?) in the recent years, giving them inspiration to change their lives completely!
I started self improvement 5-6 or so years ago with David Goggins and Jocko Willinks (Heavily recommend them), and about 2 years ago your Channel gave the extra push that was needed!
Thank you again!
bro why does it say ur comment was from 1 hour ago when the vid came out 48 minutes ago
You’ve been doing this for 5-6 years and you’re still watching these videos???
@@MonkeyDBunmi Of course, man can always learn new things! Especially in dating I am very new, since I focused solely on myself in the first 5 years not on dating
Dude hamza is a fucking guru. Trying to sell shit like ,,Adonis school” to lost men in todays society. He is no role model. For me David Goggins is the opposite. Does one podcast in 4 years and tries to provide as much value as possible while hamza addicts you to his content which you learn nothing from.
I’m so grateful for the person that you’ve become. Thank you for giving based non-degenerate advice and helping us not trip like you did. Amen Brother. 🙏 In Jesus Name
"Just be yourself" a simple advice yet helps you to manifest good things to come in life. Being lazy, procrastinating won't do you any good if you want to unlock your true purpose and potential. Stay hard homies ❤👊
love how hes changed from telling you the personality and how you should act with women to really just saying you should self improve and be yourself and youll naturally attract the women you want. ive never been the “super masculine” type of person but then when i put on the persona hamza used to give us all the advice to be i attracted low quality women, now being my true self but also still doing self improvement ive attracted the girl of my dreams
Great for you man, just praise her, kiss her, enjoy with your girl.
I lost my girl due to the redpill advice of being an alpha when you are not, showing no emotion when you want to.
Just enjoy your life man.
Dear Hamza,
You spoke to my soul. I'm in the exact same position and my relationship has been going from bad to worse over the past few months to the point that we've taken a 2 week break from contact. I knew from the start that she was the kind of girl you described. I did everything to please her and neglected my goals for our relationship. Now I used the time for myself and finally recognized myself and my own goals again. I have taken notes from this video because I have never been able to see or put into words our situation so clearly before, and I am going to write her a letter telling her everything that I think about now, openly and honestly. I can't break up with her because I know for a fact that part of her wants a fulfilling life and a beautiful relationship too. If she doesn't understand me and it doesn't work out with her, I'll break up.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video.
bro i know u don't read comments but u changed my life u made me a better person with a diff mindset right now i am better in everything i got a loyal gf i got more friends and a network i look better its all because of you wish u all the best
I like watching a Hamza video every now and then. Every time I watch a video now it’s almost like I already know almost all that he’s talking about, through the growth and self discovery that I’ve gone through. I wouldn’t have been able to become the person I am now without people like Hamza. Thank you
This man is a sorcerer. There is no way he uploads this personal level videos just after i lived through them.
Every upload is gold. It has been a long time since a video has made me smile and laugh out loud out of pure joy. This is what content you consume should leave you with: a big smile on your face and actual gain of knowledge
Still watching but wow this hits home straight away...
Hey Hamza. Thank you for everything man. You and a few others made me realize it was me listening and giving into the bullshit force fed down our throats. Because of you and them, I feel better than ever. Still working it, losing weight, lifting weights, getting my behavior and personality in check and many more.
Sometimes you need some hard advice to really change and I'll be forever grateful for men like you.
The fact these videos have no editing is amazing, i really admire the time you have put in to become more articulate with your words. Keep it up brother.
Almost at 800 life-changing videos. Keep up the good work!
I'm only 5 min in and im feeling a sense of relief. This is exactly what I needed. Im 27 and I feel like you are about to crack my brain open at the opritune moment of my life.
This made me think of the time I had a nice date with a girl, and I didn’t contact her until she did because that was an “alpha tactic”. It’s also really important for you and the girl to be compatible indeed. I’m trying to be more mindful of these things now as I’m taking dating more seriously
I'm 26 now. For a decade I've been collecting adventures and misadventures and the fact that I'm still alive surprises some friends still. After some harsh wake up calls I left the party life.
You hear quotes that keep showing up. "Don't sleep with anyone you wouldn't marry." (Haha, you just lost 99% of the chicks you look at), "Don't sleep with anyone who doesn't have books on their shelf.", etc.
There are three truths I can tell you are absolutely fucking real, and apply to all of us. The purity in us wishes they weren't, but they are.
1) Hot girls aren't going anywhere, but your time is. There will always be an attractive woman whether you're 16 or 36. Build yourself then worry about that shit, in fact it'll be there WHILE you build yourself.
To enjoy your present you must sacrifice your past, but to enjoy your future you must sacrifice your present. A man who chases women runs out of money, a man who chases money never runs out of women.
2) When you're living, I mean REALLY living, you'll get trauma and wisdom in equal measures, from there whichever one you keep and whichever one you discard is up to you. If you haven't had a rough ride yet, look out. It'll come at one point or another, it just comes with the natural state of life. Pain is a teacher, and gives you experience. I can tell you "Don't touch the stove!" til next week, but until you burn your hand you never learn.
3) Don't argue, split. She's yelling? Split. She hits you? Split. She's threatening to cheat? Fuck yeah baby you're gonna r*pe yourself to spite me? Split.
Always split. Don't sit there, don't bargain, don't argue. Split. A lack of a response is much louder and more brutal than any reaction you could give. It's your God-given right as a man, the right to fucking split.
The last part, "making her the priority" I wish someone had thought me few months before. Infact she tried to teach me not make her priority, she asked me to prioritise my sleep, my free time doing something I would need to do, but I never listened to her😁. I'll keep this in mind from now on.
Hamza's videos do be popping up exactly when I need them the most.
I'm a muslim. I know this. I never until now ever had a girl friend. I only pray to god every day to get a woman in which both of us are compatible. I'm 25. But i also made a mistake to have a low social life circle. I did grow my circle at age 24. Just simply talking to all and both genders. But it truly doesn't matter. I tried to pretend before. And yeah i hated it supremely fast and stopped. I just want to wor, learn, develop, i'm getting my master degree in mechanical research this year, same for a mechatronik engineer degree next year and a software certificate. I also have a master degree in sport science. I also try to learn so many things. Lately i'm investing my time learning trading. I just am sad because i'm limited i can't be currently fully independent from my family since education. But i'm using all my time educating myself. I got sick from how currently my life is. I also have learned freelancing and am freelancing. I built my own brand too. But I'm extremely tired. I just want to move to next stage of my life. Even thought i built all of this i still don't feel like i achieved a thing.
Bro be grateful you have a family, stay with them as long as you can, unless you get married, I would stay as long as you could with your family if they let you, family can support you financially emotionally etc
@@JohnSmith-qf9cx yeah. But i must become financially independent supremely fast. The next 10 years are going to be crazy it's like a boom Extremely rich or not. I've studied all these things and know exactly what would happen when: ai, vr, augmented reality, crypto, robots... All blend together in the next 10 years. Dude it's going to be crazy world to make money. contact lenses, brain chips... They have already been built. I want to be ready to invest. This is literally a blue market that no one knows about
May Allah send you a righetous spouse when the time is right. Ameen
Hey bro may God guide you. Also can you please tell me where you learned freelancing? Can't find any good sources on the internet. I myself am pursuing a bachelor's degree right now but I want to be able to pay my own costs and not be a burden on my family so I wanna learn freelancing and earn
@@athletetichow do you know it's going to happen in the next 10 years?
Bro im 2 mins in and you've already hit the nail on the head 🔨
Hamza just defined ! the phrase "Just be yourself"!
marvelous eloquency and superior level of speech. Props & keep it up
"Just be urself" with that advice most guys gonna keep simping and all that bs what the modern world has made us
We aren't in 1950 where u can be urself and be attractive most guys are invisible they have no idea how to be attractive cause they have no fathers that taught them how to be a man. If u would be attractive just by being urself then where are the girls why do u watch this video u have to change urself to not think like a simp anymore and u need experience or u gonna fk up.
Big W
As someone else stated, you should be the best version of yourself.
This is the most important video in this channel plus probably the best about relationship in youtube
New Hamza is genuinely refreshing to watch
Its weird how you are making that much success day by day and you are still improving yourself on different areas it is mindblowing.
Good tips, but to add something I think if u still chase the girl even you know she doesn’t like you, you’re doing that ‘cause you think that girl gives you self-worth. You don’t respect yourself enough, so somebody needs to give that validation. In short You make your self-esteem dependent on the validation of others. Figure out why u do this. Start off by respecting yourself more (by doing self improvements. Especially reprogramming your beliefs about yourself) and then you’re going to be more authentic which leads to attracting the girls who fits u the best.
Great vid . It changed my view on the whole dating topic
Good Advices but one thing is missing. He is currently clearly in a honeymoon phase. Wait until this shifts than you will see your mistakes
I'm new to his channel and I'm surprised that more people haven't thought about this, or they just went with the flow and didn't realize how drastically the pathway changed. I binge-watched his videos and can tell what he's preaching here is clearly not what he used to say even 6 months ago. I think the kind of exposure he gave to sm affected and gonna affect his relationships cause girls gonna break his game down so easily (which the current one is doing so clearly).
@@yoyojuana2054 correctly. And he misses also one thing. He built up that red pill self for years so it's still there. Maybe he don't think about it but he will still act like it even he is not trying to. Girls are so easy to handle if they are fully in love, espacially the first years. They will do everything just to bound you and that is what she is doing.
I really like your long format videos they are so valuable!
Thank you for clearing my mind, its always felt wrong to keep texting someone who doesnt seem that interested and I have recently started feeling more choosey rather than settling for less or shitty behaviour however I always get that doubt in my head, like a voice that tells me ill be alone forever and "what if I'm supposed to stop acting like the goofy, caring person that I am, the guy who grinds to do UA-cam and makes music rather than settling for a 9-5, and I should just be more accepting of partying and drugs, maybe I should cut em some slack and just pretend I dont care that much about something real" but truthfully I know thats not me and that's NOT what I want. This video just reinforced my motivation to keep grinding and being me and to wait for the women who want me, to come TO ME.
2:17. I have been that jeffry. Took me long to realise, it was painful but amgrowing now. Feels good
Hi hamza just wanted to say i am a huge fan. You have guided me through some tough times. I just wanted to say thank you and keep posting these amazing videos and changing more lives. Much love.
I just wanted to say thank you again Hamza, one more time I feel like you're the older brother I never had. Keep on motivating more and more Jeffreys to be better just as I am. Thanks a lot.
thank you hamza for this, i just had a breakup and this will help, i made a ton of mistakes in that relationship(thanks hamza i am extremely grateful to you)
im only 15, and I think this is the first video in months, maybe even years that I have really, and I mean really found a desire to pay attention, and take notes. I only take notes on this channel, and seeing these videos makes me feel so much more experienced. I feel like I gained years of experience in just an hour. Thanks hamza!
45:00 even Tate says that the difference between a g and a simp is a g walks away when she doesn't adheres to his interest , he loves her with his full heart . but a simp will continue giving attention even tho she doesn't respect him . a queen can have a slave and a king at the same time . choose who you will be
I see a major problem when everyone asking me if I have a girlfriend, suggesting get laid anyhow, it's up to you, you are a no one if you can't, and then people are faking it, like Hamza said in the video.
Become who you want to attract. Like attracts like. You date at your level of self esteem.
I don’t know what it is, but hamza always posts the right video at the time. ❤😅
Yeah
This is crazy, it all comes full circle, in a beautiful way. It’s the true passage, mature and right, enlightenment after years of experience and teaching
Perfect timing, nice advice for what i'm going through right now. Coming in real handy.
Coming from a woman’s perspective, how is the woman supposed to chase the man? How is that rooted in her biology? Isn’t she the one to be receiving graciously the man? Isn’t the man supposed to pursue and court her? Aren’t men hunters by nature to do that?
If a woman isn’t a playful challenge to a man, how will he remain interested since she is always chasing him and does the “hunting” for him?
I disagree with the fact of putting a woman over a man’s purpose. Because without purpose he is not a man. But he chases his purpose so he can become fruitful and when the time is right, to provide the fruits of his labor to his loving wife and children.
In my opinion, only men with feminine energy want a woman to chase them or men with narcissistic traits who need an ego boost.
I understand all of this. But how do you be your authentic self with girls. Do you act with her how you do with your guy friends. Or do you mean that you don't pretend to be someone else and not lying to yourself or your partner. How do you know what your authentic self is, and what if you want to change that. If your authentic self is a guy who let's his emotions out, does that mean he should? Or should he work on controlling his emotions, even if it's not his authentic self. Would be great to get a reply. Thank you
Thank You Brother, You're A Great Friend Thank You For All Your Help ♥️♥️
What about standards when looking for a girl? I feel like most of the girls aren't the type of girl I want. I want someone who is almost exactly like me but obviously that is not realistic really. Should a factor like she likes dogs and I don't be a deal-breaker or is that an acceptable difference. Like I don't want to waste my time with someone who isn't the right one.
try to think more about your core values / non negotiables for your standards. So if you really really really hate dogs then you are probably not going to compatable living with someone who owns 5 dogs. an acceptable difference is more like a preference, i’ll use myself as an example: I would prefer if their hobbies are the same as mine, but it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker if they are interested in something else
@@alexia964 okay, yeah that makes sense. Thank you for your reply, I really appreciate it!
@petermattsson3934 no problem, good luck!
bro hamza how are these videos coming out at the exact time im going through these exact things. this is why hes the goat i say
It’s going to take a while de-wiring myself from all the toxic alpha videos that I’ve watched for years. I’ve been unnecessarily acting rude to women and now fee extremely guilty. I made a coworker feel like she didn’t exist and now she seems to not want to speak to me when I now say hi to her. It says in the Quran, that wicked men are for wicked women, and good men being for good women. I’ve never been in a relationship or been in love at 23, so I need to change my ways. I think I’ve fumbled many different good girls for my stupid acting of a nonchalant person that wasn’t me.
I love you so much bro, you are so genuine, you are my role model ❤❤❤❤
Stop looking at the comments
Bro the youtube general
The old hamza videos before the hyper-editated phase were better than the current videos. Idk why. I don't watch you anymore but glad your videos are still helping people out there.
HAMZA THANK YOU! I dont know if you will see this message but **i told my crush we are not compatible because she takes too long to reply and i am not alright with what she was doing** THANK YOU for giving me some confidence with this clip to do this!
bro tell me what happened next
What happened next?
She wrote me ‘you too, hope the best’, now i am alright with the choice.
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59:38 That's what loser would say. Theirs priority is to get a girl because it's the way to cope with not willing to put in the work and do actual hard work towards achieving something grater in life than just "pass on the genes because it's human instinct and your reason your born here etc. " Evolution bs. Getting a girl doesn't make u an ultimate winner because you suck in other aspects of life espesially if you slack off all day doing Jeffrey shit. There's more to life than this primitive outlook on life. Your girl should never be your priority, your only happiness because ultimately it will leave you miserable because you're dependent on this person. Imagine her ceasing making you happy or not acting in a way you expect her just because it seems like she no longer gives you such happiness as she did before. Now what ? She will sense that neediness and think of you as less value because you made her priority. Deep down she knows she's attracted to a guy who's driven to achieve his goals and she is more than happy to know that she can stand by you, support you and go along and enjoy the journey with you. You shouldn't ignore her but you gotta let her know your values and priorities which you stand by and don't let her deviate you from those. If you keep that in mind then she can be a great addition to your life for sure. It applies to relationships as well. No matter how bonded you are with a friend or how much you went through know that they can leave you in no time
Thank you Hamza Ahmed for making these videos, Im a young man who have been through a lot of pain and trauma and the content you create has and still dose help me work on being a goo man and fur-filling my purpose.❤
36:03
I've been watching this video over and over again and this has made me realise that even though I'm a skinny broke loser, my authenticity is what can make girls attracted to me. I'm super self critical of myself and constantly analysing what I'm doing wrong. I've just straight up refused to put myself out there because I want to get big first, working my dream job and rich etc but I might have been putting myself off the market for no reason.
This hits so deeply because recently i went to a wedding and there is this girl at my church who I kinda grew up with who i haven't seen in years, she is so beautiful. She's shy but has always been very sweet and I have a deep desire to get to know her and connect with her. On that I day I was just begging for some time of confidence, charisma or masculinity to suddenly manifest because I wanted to approach her so bad bro but I felt 0 confidence. like I can't even explain it. But I was still in the thinking that I need to become someone who I'm not in order to get her.
I don't need to be a stud, I just need to be authentic. What i truly want is to have a wife, a family, a home, money and my dream job of driving highspeed trains.
I literally thought I had to be absolutely perfect to meet my future wife, but that day when I'm perfect will never come, so just be authentic about what you really want
It’s amazing that I watch these videos and my actual name is Jeffrey
You attract a mirror of who you are as a person. If you’re the type of guy on his purpose, taking his health, fitness, career etc seriously you will attract a similar relationship into your life. At least this is what experience has taught me anyway.
Bruh the way this man talks just makes my day its like a want a brother like him he is the best person who is genuinely real in this fake UA-cam community ❤❤
HAMAZ SAAR ANY DATING ADVICE FOR A PAJEETH HINDU KURYCELS LIKE ME WHO HAS NO CHANCES IN THE DATING MARKET? YOU'RE A SCAMMER LOL. A SHORT 5'2 BROWN HINDUS ISN'T GOING TO GET WOMEN. SO WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE FOR ME AND THE MAJORITY OF COPING KURRYCELS WHO HAVE NO JAWLINE, HIGHCHEEKBONES, HALLOW CHEEKS, LIGHT EYES, LIGHT SKIN, RED LIPS HUNTER EYES, HEIGHT ETC?
So your dream girl came to you after one date, and as soon as you told her about 100k per month 😂
Lol, lmao even
What do you mean?
Bro Hamza, idk if you’ve ever seen any of my comments, I’ve been a fan for a long time. But your my best friend yo, I wish u told me to just be my self a long time ago❤
The problem is Hamza, you aren’t showing examples of guys who tried “your way” and focused on work succeeding. It’s very common for guys who don’t bother with women because they want the “special someone” to end up single and way too boring and nerdy to attract anyone, or they end up marrying the party girl who is now older and looking to settle down and she ends up nagging him, then later divorcing him because she never liked him as he’s not as cool as the fun guys she partied with in her youth.
Just find a religious girl 😂
@@thqi_gz1739 1) very rare now a days
2) just because she’s religious doesn’t mean she’s much different, a ton hooked up and partied like all the others then just turned to religion as they got older, it’s common for women to remain virgins but still do an*l and give bjs while partying like everyone else.
3) just because she’s a religious girl doesn’t mean she wants a boring nerd who has no experience with women either. I’ve literally never seen a woman who said she was waiting until marriage say she required her husband also be a virgin, to be fair they say they don’t want a man304, but they still expect the man to be confident with women and know what he’s doing.
Yeah this comment thread is pretty accurate… Plus, I feel like there are some skills you learn that work on degenerate girls which also transfer over to working on quality women. Like, learning to flirt, learning to sexualize, and learning to be somewhat dominant all have their place no matter the type of girl.
Maybe I’ll drop the especially toxic techniques when I meet the woman I want to make my wife, but the confidence I’ll have acquired by then by dating a lot of women will surely only make me more attractive.
@@billusher2265 You are insecure. Hamza, the people who you think are weak but are in stable and long lasting relationships would agree with me. I mean who writes stuff like you do? People who are single, lonely and degenerate losers. Though ymay not be any of those things , I just said that to help you look at yourself and give to you an opportunity to ponder: "Am I really another blackpilled youtube commenter?".
Also anyone who wants a special someone fails. It's about working together anyways.
This came out in my recommended at the right time.
I met a girl, we were great for each other. She was wife material and everything i wanted. She felt the same way and admired my genuinity, ambition, and connection to god.
Despite this, she didnt want to commit to the relationship, she didn't fully choose me, and didnt put effort as I did.
Point is hamza hit some of these points and helped me remember to be selfish for certain things and to make sure my partner and i are on the same page
Hamza, i just want to let you know that i'm an 11 years old kid and your videos helped me so much with my life, thanks ❤
That is a god age to start self improvement and if you are eleven you better grammar than me
thank you hamza I just had gotten in my first breakup thank you for helping me realise that she choose the college lifestyle over me and our relationship
Tbh I was authentic with a woman and I told her what I value I saw some red flags but I decided to let it go because she was interested in the way i think. she would listen to me but she had friends who kept telling her to follow their degenerate ideas, we dated for 2 and half mouths and unfortunately 4 days after I saw her for her birthday she cheated.
Man... Your videos are always what I need at the moment... When I didn't need any destractions from my studies you stopped uploading to go train fighting... And now I have a crush on a girl I wanna ask her out... That's the perfect time for me🔥🔥
I needed this not for dating but for youtube and twitch. I don't want to pretend to hate Andrew Tate in feat of losing clicks
Guys, our eternal life matters the most. Let's seek after Christ and accept Him into our lives that we may be saved. Jesus is the only way to Heaven. God bless you🤍
I like your authentic behaviour, this is very important for helping fellas in this channel. Thank you!
Rest in Peace Joesthetics !~
I’m 4 minutes in but I just wanna say you should practice being yourself not someone else. It’s so much more fun. The more you pretend to be someone you’re not the harder then it is to just be yourself.
Who else noticed 'dumbness' written in caption when he said Adonis. 2:34
I see this all over my friends. I focused on finding a woman I love. I have been with her since 19... I'm 32.
My friends think finding a woman to like you means you found it. It's almost as if she isn't a part of the equation.
I agree, but rn I haven't built confidence and when I try to be myself others perceive me as a feminine guy (maybe because I've been raised by a single mother) and I'm unable to attract girls that I'm attracted to (or at least I attract them physically but my personality sucks so they lose interest). I don't have any idea on what to do to become more masculine and stoic. Do you guys have any suggestions?
I to have been raised by a single mother and have gained lots of confidence with girls and they have physical attraction to me, but I simply Haven’t had the masculine role model to look up to as the behaviour of how you would flirt with a woman so I never knew how to flirt with girls and this is why I find it difficult but the more I go on my journey the more I improve
@@runwaytapes thanx bro
i don't know how old you are, but maybe you could try joining a sport or even better, some kind of martial art such as a boxing or muay thai gym. this will build your confidence greatly, as well as break you down in many ways (it will hurt but it's needed to become a man) so that you can be built back up stronger.
My top goal is strengthening my friendships and do things normal people normally don’t